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A Faith That De-Escalates Conflict

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December 16, 2020
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  • CC BY ABERDEEN CAPTIONING1-800-688-6621WWW.ABERCAP.COM
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  • Rick Warren: You know,three of the most important
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  • life skills that you haveto learn in life are how
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  • to de-escalate a conflict,how to resolve a conflict,
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  • and how to reconcile,after a conflict,
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  • a strained or a brokenrelationship.
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  • If you don't learn these threeskills, you're gonna spend
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  • a lot of your life miserable,you know why?
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  • Because we're all different,we're all--
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  • God made us all different.
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  • And that means we're boundto have conflict almost
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  • every day of our lives.
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  • These are important skillsthat you need to learn
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  • and use literally everywhere.
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  • You're gonna use them at work,you're gonna use them at home,
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  • at school.
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  • You gotta use them at church,in your community,
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  • in your small group--literally everywhere.
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  • And here's the problem: nobodytaught you these skills, nobody.
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  • You didn't learn how to defusea conflict or de-escalate one.
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  • You didn't learn howto resolve a conflict.
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  • You didn't learn how toreconcile a relationship.
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  • You certainly didn'tlearn them from your parents.
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  • In fact, they might'vebeen a terrible model of
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  • conflict-resolutionbecause nobody taught them.
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  • See, they don't haveclasses on conflict in schools.
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  • You never had a class on howto de-escalate a conflict,
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  • and yet it's one of the mostimportant skills for you
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  • to be happy in life.
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  • James 3:18: "Those who arepeacemakers will plant seeds
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  • of peace, and they will reapa harvest of goodness."
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  • He's talking about peacemakers.
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  • Now, you know, Jesus said inthe Sermon on the Mount,
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  • "Blessed are the peacemakers.
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  • They will be calledthe children of God."
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  • So the proof that you're reallya child of God, the proof that
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  • you're really born again, thatyou're on your way to heaven,
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  • that you're in the familyof God--
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  • the proof is that you area peacemaker in the world.
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  • Not a troublemaker,not a conflict-maker,
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  • but a peacemaker.
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  • Now, before we look at howdo you defuse a conflict
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  • from God's Word, let metell you a couple things
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  • that peacemaking is not, okay?
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  • You might write these down.
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  • First, peacemaking is notavoiding, and number two,
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  • peacemaking is not appeasing.
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  • It's not avoiding andit's not appeasing.
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  • Avoiding--some people think, "Ikeep the peace in my marriage
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  • by just avoiding everything.
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  • I don't rock the boat, I sweepeverything under the rug,
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  • I swallow it, I grinand I bear it,
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  • I just avoid the areasthat cause us conflict."
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  • That's not peacemaking,that's cowardice.
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  • That doesn't help at all,doesn't grow your relationship
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  • in Christ, doesn't build yourmarriage or any friendship
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  • or anything else.
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  • So peacemaking is notrunning away from the problem
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  • or avoiding the problem orheading the opposite direction
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  • of the problem,it's not avoiding.
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  • It's also not appeasing.
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  • Now, appeasing means,"I always give in,"
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  • that whoever I haveconflict with--
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  • they always get their way.
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  • Peace at any price,it's appeasement.
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  • Appeasement is not peacemaking.
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  • In fact, that'scalled codependency,
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  • when you're always givingin all the time.
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  • Jesus Christ never ranfrom a legitimate conflict.
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  • He knew how to defuse conflict,he knew how to deal with it
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  • face-on, he knew howto resolve it,
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  • and he knew how to restorea relationship.
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  • So what I wanna do this weekendis teach you what you've never
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  • been taught before in schoolor probably anywhere else,
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  • and that is the ten biblicalsteps for defusing
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  • a tense situation.
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  • And boy, does our nation andour world need this right now.
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  • All right, get out your pencil,here they are, the biblical
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  • steps for defusing a conflict.
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  • Number one: lower myvoice, lower my voice.
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  • Proverbs 15 verse 1 says,"A gentle response,"
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  • that's lowering your voice,"will calm a person's anger,
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  • but harsh words stirup intense fury."
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  • Now, you know this is true,that the louder you get,
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  • the louder the other persongets in an argument.
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  • When you start yellingor they start yelling,
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  • then you're both gonnado the same thing.
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  • And there--the reason whythe first thing you need to do
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  • in any conflict is to loweryour voice--
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  • there's a couple reasons for it.
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  • In the first place, your braindoesn't operate at the same
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  • level all the time.
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  • You have lower levels, whichare kinda more emotional and
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  • instinctual, and you'renot even thinking about it.
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  • And then you have the higherlevels, where you're thinking
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  • pretty sharp and pretty smart.
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  • At your highest level is yourcortex in your brain, and in
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  • your cortex--that's where youhave the capacity for speech,
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  • that's where you have thecapacity for strategizing,
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  • for planning, for thinking,for reasoning.
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  • When you're using yourcortex, you're thinking smart.
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  • You're much more ableto work on a problem
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  • and solve it creatively whenyou're using your cortex.
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  • But when you get fearful or whenyou get afraid or when you get
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  • angry, you drop out of yourcortex, and you're just not
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  • smart anymore, andyou do dumb things.
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  • The more angry you get,the more dumb you become.
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  • You might write this down:"The more I raise my voice,
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  • the more I lowermy intelligence."
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  • The more I raise my voice, themore I lower my intelligence,
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  • 'cause you're not--when you're yelling,
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  • you're not in the cortex partof your brain.
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  • You're not inthe smart-thinking,
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  • rational human part, you're downin the instinctual gut part.
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  • Now, not only is that one of thereasons why you need to speak
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  • quieter, lower, softer, but youalso have in your brain
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  • a thing that's calledmirror neurons.
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  • You see, years ago--thousandsof years ago, the Bible says,
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  • lower your voice, you know,it said, be quiet, but--
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  • when you speak, that a gentleanswer turns away wrath.
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  • We didn't know theneuroscience behind it.
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  • Today, we knowthat in your brain,
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  • you have what are calledmirror neurons.
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  • Mirror neurons are theability to feel what you see.
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  • Those mirror neurons in yourbrain actually simply reflect
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  • what you sow, you'regonna reap in any argument.
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  • Ecclesiastes 9verse 17 says this:
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  • "The quiet words of a wiseperson are more effective
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  • than the shoutingof a leader of fools."
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  • The quiet words of a wise personare more effective than the
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  • shouting of the leader of fools.
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  • Shouting means you've alreadymoved out of the higher level of
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  • thinking, so the starting pointin de-escalating any conflict
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  • is to lower your voice,just lower your voice.
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  • Don't get loud, go soft, ifyou want to get progress.
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  • Number two, real practical here:breathe and slow down the pace
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  • of your speaking.
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  • Just take a deep breath and slowdown the pace of your speaking.
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  • The more angry you get, thefaster you talk, and the faster
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  • you talk--it createsanger in other people.
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  • Not just the loudnessof what you say,
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  • but how fast you say it.
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  • And when you're rattling itoff like you're a machine gun,
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  • you're gonna feel--peopleare gonna feel offended,
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  • they're gonna feel defensive.
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  • And the Bible says this inProverbs 29 verse 11--
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  • I love this New American Bible--"A fool gives full vent to his
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  • anger, but by biding his time,the wise man calms it down."
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  • By biding your time,you will calm down.
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  • So you wanna lower your voiceand you wanna slow your speech
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  • when you're startingto get upset.
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  • Ecclesiastes chapter 10,verse 4,
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  • The Message, it says this:
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  • "If a ruler (or anyone elsefor that matter)
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  • loses his temper againstyou, don't panic.
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  • A calm dispositionquiets intemperate rage."
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  • Lower your voice, take abreath, and slow your speech.
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  • And he says, "That'swhat wise people do."
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  • Number three, third stepin de-escalating a conflict:
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  • listen more than I talk.
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  • Listen more than I talk.
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  • Now, we keep coming back to thisverse in James chapter 1,
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  • verse 19, 'cause it has somany applications.
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  • James 1:19 says, "Be quickto listen, slow to speak,
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  • and slow to get angry."
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  • If you do the first two,the third is automatic.
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  • Proverbs 13 verse 10: "Arrogantknow-it-alls stir up discord,
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  • but," he says, "wise menand women listen
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  • to each other's counsel."
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  • Why is it so hard to hearadvice from the person
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  • that you love the most?
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  • I don't know, but the Bibletells us that we need
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  • to put our pride aside andwe need to listen.
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  • But we need to listen forsomething very specific,
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  • and that's number four.
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  • In the fourth step of defusingconflict, listen for the hurt
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  • behind the words.
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  • Well, if you get this, you'regonna really make progress
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  • in your relationships.
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  • Stop listening to the wordsand start listening
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  • for the emotionsbehind the words.
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  • What they're saying is notnearly as important as the
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  • emotion they're communicating.
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  • Proverbs 14 verse 10 says,
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  • "Each heart knowsits own bitterness."
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  • What is that verse saying?
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  • God is saying everybody hasa hidden hurt, everybody has
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  • a hidden pain, everybodyhas a hidden wound.
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  • Listen to the painbehind the statement.
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  • female announcer:The room is quiet.
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  • You take a deep breath and beginto think about God's plan
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  • for your life and thedecisions you're facing.
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  • Life is full of decisions, andthose decisions are like doors
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  • we choose to walkthrough or walk past.
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  • And walking through thedoors God has for you starts
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  • by growing yourrelationship with him.
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  • If you make time for God,he will show you the doors
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  • to walk through, and itwill change your life.
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  • Rick: All right, now,here's what you do--
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  • while you're doing that,number five in how
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  • to defuse a conflict:pray while I'm listening.
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  • Yeah, while you're pausingand you're being quiet
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  • and you're just listening andyou're listening for the hurt,
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  • you pray whileyou are listening.
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  • I ran across a versethe other day I loved
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  • in Judges chapter 6, verse 24.
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  • It says this: "Gideon built analtar for worshiping the Lord,
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  • and he called it, 'The LordCalms Our Fears.'"
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  • You know, he is theGod who calms our fears.
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  • Psalm 65 verse 7 says this:"God stills the raging ocean,
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  • he quiets the noise of roaringwaves, and he calms
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  • the uproar of the peoples."
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  • That's the kind of verse we needtoday in all the things
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  • we're seeing and facing.
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  • So we--you pray, and yousay, "God, calm me down.
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  • Calm my fears, calm myanxieties, calm my worries,
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  • calm my frustrations,calm me down."
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  • He is the King of kings and Lordof lords who can calm the seas,
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  • and if he can calm a stormy sea,he can calm the storm
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  • in your heart.
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  • All right, number six, sixthstep on lowering the conflict
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  • and defusing a tense situation:seek to understand before
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  • seeking to be understood.
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  • Seek to understand beforeseeking to be understood.
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  • Try to figure out what they'rethinking and they're saying
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  • before you start tryingto convince them about
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  • what you want to say.
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  • Don't worry about themunderstanding you
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  • until you fully understand them.
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  • That's the loving way,that's the Christ-like way,
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  • that's the Christian way.
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  • Proverbs 18 verse 13 in ICBsays, "A person who answers
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  • without listening first isfoolish and disgraceful."
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  • So often we are so busy--disgraceful.
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  • We're so busy trying to getother people to see what we want
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  • them to see, to see it ourway, that we don't even stop,
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  • we don't even stop to evenlisten to what they say.
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  • Listen--make sure youunderstand them first.
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  • And you might evensay, "You go first."
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  • And then, when they've sharedwhat they've shared, then you
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  • say, "Now let me understand it.
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  • Did I say--did I get this right?"
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  • And you can say back to themwhat you think they said,
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  • and if you didn't say it right,let them correct it.
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  • Right along withthat is number seven.
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  • Number seven is: try tosee their perspective, okay?
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  • Listen to them, seek tounderstand before being seek--
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  • seeking to be understood,but then, while you're
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  • doing that, try to seetheir perspective.
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  • Philippians chapter 2,verse 4 and 5 says this:
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  • "Each of you should look notonly to your own interests,
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  • but also the interestsof others."
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  • You should look not onlyto your own interest,
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  • but to the interests of others.
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  • Try to understandtheir perspective.
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  • Right now, we've got people ondifferent sides of different
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  • arguments, and all theycan see is their side.
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  • And this is happeningall over America
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  • and all around the world.
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  • All they can see is their side.
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  • They can't see the fears ofother people, they can't see the
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  • hurts of other people, theycan't see the injustice of other
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  • people, they can't see thecriticism of other people, they
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  • can't see the pain of other--all they can see is themselves.
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  • He said, "Don't just lookat your own interest,
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  • but be interested in theinterests of others.
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  • And then he says it like this:"Your attitude should be the
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  • same as that of Jesus Christ."
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  • Now, I'll tell you, friends,that's not--it's not easy.
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  • It certainly isn't natural.
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  • I am by nature a self-centeredperson, and so are you.
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  • I am by nature moreinterested in me
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  • than I am interestedin anybody else.
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  • Only Jesus can change my "wantto," only Jesus can change my
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  • perspective, only Jesus can makeme as interested in what you
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  • have been through, as interestedin your background, as I am in
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  • my own, in protecting my kindof people and my background
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  • and my religion and all theseother things, my family.
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  • Only God can make that change inyou, and that's why the eighth
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  • step, number eight, is: ask Godto give me a clear picture
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  • of myself.
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  • That's one of the scariestthings to do.
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  • God, I want you to give mea clear perspective,
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  • a clear photograph, aclear portrait of me.
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  • One of the verses I memorizedin college--and I've used it
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  • literally tens of thousands oftime in my life as a prayer--
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  • is Psalm 139:23-24, and it goeslike this: "Search me, O God,
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  • and examine my heart; test meand know my nervous thoughts.
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  • Point out anything in me that iswrong, and then lead me
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  • on the path thatis always right."
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  • Psalm 139:23-24,memorize that verse.
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  • It's a good verse to have to youto pray to God when you're
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  • in the middle of aconflict, all right?
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  • And if you genuinely praythat, "Search me, O God,
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  • know my heart, try meand know my thoughts.
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  • See if there be any wickedway in me and lead me
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  • in the way everlasting."
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  • You know what?
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  • God'll show you, he's notgonna play games with you.
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  • And he'll show you, andhe'll--and how many times has
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  • God said, "Rick, here's theproblem: you're the problem
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  • in this conflict.
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  • You're the problem."
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  • Or even if I'm just partof the problem,
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  • here's your partof the problem.
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  • And when you do that, youcome to step number nine.
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  • Step number nine is: admitany part of the conflict
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  • that I caused, okay?
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  • I'm responsible for my part,you're responsible
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  • for your part.
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  • Whether you own up to your partor not is none of my business,
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  • that's your businessbetween you and God.
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  • But my business is to admitany part of the conflict that I
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  • caused because of my bias,because of my background,
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  • because of my prejudice,because of my insensitivity,
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  • because of my immaturity,because of my busyness and
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  • I didn't pay attention, or athousand other reasons
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  • that could havecaused the conflict.
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  • I need to admit any part ofthe conflict that I caused.
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  • Jesus loved to use hyperbole orexaggeration to make a point.
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  • In the Sermon on the Mount, whenhe's talking about admitting
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  • the part of the part--conflict that you're the part--
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  • you caused, he says inMatthew 7:3 and verse 5,
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  • he says, "Why do younotice the little piece of dust
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  • in your friend's eye,but you don't notice
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  • the big piece of woodin your own eye?"
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  • He says, first take the wood,the little piece--
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  • the wood out of your own eye,
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  • the big wood out of your owneye, "then you'll see clearly
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  • to take the dust outof your friend's eye."
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  • Finally, number ten--this isreally important: choose
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  • my words carefully,choose my words carefully.
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  • If you're gonna de-escalate,words have the power to set
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  • a forest on fire, have a--the power to destroy a life.
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  • We're gonna actually come backto this, I don't have to go
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  • into it because there's a majorsection in the book of James
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  • on the power of the tongue,and we're gonna
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  • cover this in detail.
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  • But when I say choose your wordscarefully, I'm thinking about
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  • Proverbs 12:18 that says this:"Reckless words pierce like
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  • a sword, but the tongue ofthe wise brings healing."
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  • The tongue of the wise bringshealing--that's what you need
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  • to pray for: God, give methe tongue of the wise.
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  • I want my tongue to bea healing source,
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  • not reckless wordsthat tear people up.
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  • You know, a lot of cold cutsand, you know, just--don't--
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  • God, put a muzzle on my mouth.
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  • Ephesians 4:29 says this:"Do not use harmful words,
  • 00:22:06.650 --> 00:22:13.190
  • but only use helpful words,the kind that build up
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  • and provide what is needed."
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  • Now, I've gone through thoseten steps pretty quickly,
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  • but I want you to take thisoutline and I want you
  • 00:22:24.602 --> 00:22:26.704
  • to review it, I wantyou to study it.
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  • If you meet with yoursmall group this week,
  • 00:22:28.739 --> 00:22:30.975
  • talk about this inyour small group.
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  • I've given you more than enoughinformation on how to be
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  • a peacemaker in these ten steps.
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  • Jesus once said, "Now that youknow these things,
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  • you will be blessedif you do them."
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  • You're not gonna be blessedfor hearing this message,
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  • you're gonna be blessedif you actually do it,
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  • if you take these ten stepsand use them in areas
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  • where you've got conflictin your life.
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  • Why do we wanna do this?
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  • Because, as Jesus saidin Matthew 5:9,
  • 00:23:00.471 --> 00:23:02.940
  • "Blessed are the peacemakers.
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  • They will be calledthe children of God."
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  • Are you a child of God?
  • 00:23:11.482 --> 00:23:13.384
  • Are you a peacemaker?
  • 00:23:13.417 --> 00:23:15.453
  • You know, every week, we--at the end of the service,
  • 00:23:15.486 --> 00:23:18.856
  • we re-commit our livesto Jesus Christ.
  • 00:23:18.889 --> 00:23:22.426
  • And I don't know about you, butI feel like I need to re-commit
  • 00:23:22.460 --> 00:23:25.062
  • my life to Jesus Christ afterjust reviewing these ten things,
  • 00:23:25.095 --> 00:23:28.566
  • 'cause there's a lot I need towork on, and my guess is
  • 00:23:28.599 --> 00:23:31.635
  • that's probably true of you too.
  • 00:23:31.669 --> 00:23:34.104
  • But maybe you've never evenmet Jesus Christ, and if not,
  • 00:23:34.138 --> 00:23:37.541
  • it would be my privilege tointroduce you to him right now.
  • 00:23:37.575 --> 00:23:40.978
  • You can open upyour life to him.
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  • I want us to bow our heads,and I'm gonna pray a prayer,
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  • and you can just kinda sayit along with me.
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  • And let me introduce you tothe God who saved you,
  • 00:23:49.053 --> 00:23:53.858
  • created you, loves you,has a plan and purpose
  • 00:23:53.891 --> 00:23:56.727
  • for your life, andwill give you the power
  • 00:23:56.760 --> 00:23:59.997
  • to do these ten thingsthat we just talked about
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  • so that you can have more peaceand less conflict in your life.
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  • Let's bow our heads.
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  • Father, I wannathank you for your Word.
  • 00:24:09.373 --> 00:24:11.242
  • It's so practical, so relevant,so needed.
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  • And Lord,we need peacemakers--
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  • of all times, we needthem right now.
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  • We need them in our schools, weneed them in our cities, we need
  • 00:24:20.150 --> 00:24:24.154
  • them in our churches, weneed them in our communities.
  • 00:24:24.188 --> 00:24:27.057
  • We need peacemakers in ourfamilies, we need peacemakers
  • 00:24:27.091 --> 00:24:30.961
  • at work, around the world.
  • 00:24:30.995 --> 00:24:34.598
  • You've told us from your Wordhow to reduce conflict,
  • 00:24:34.632 --> 00:24:39.370
  • how to defuse it, and theneven how to resolve
  • 00:24:39.403 --> 00:24:45.142
  • and restore relationships.
  • 00:24:45.175 --> 00:24:48.512
  • And I pray that this week,you'll raise up a group of
  • 00:24:48.546 --> 00:24:51.916
  • peacemakers and that you'lltell us who we need to go to
  • 00:24:51.949 --> 00:24:57.021
  • to make peace with that we'vebeen on the outs with,
  • 00:24:57.054 --> 00:25:00.424
  • that we've had a conflict with.
  • 00:25:00.457 --> 00:25:03.093
  • And Lord, where there's somuch conflict in the world,
  • 00:25:03.127 --> 00:25:05.262
  • we pray that these truths willbe shared, that there could be
  • 00:25:05.296 --> 00:25:10.901
  • peace where there is violence,where there is destruction,
  • 00:25:10.935 --> 00:25:15.940
  • where there is conflict.
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  • If you've never invitedJesus into your life, say:
  • 00:25:18.642 --> 00:25:20.344
  • Jesus Christ, come into my life.
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  • I don't understand it all,but I wanna know you.
  • 00:25:23.414 --> 00:25:27.618
  • I want you to be thePrince of Peace in my life.
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  • Fill my life with your love.
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  • Take out hatred,take out bitterness,
  • 00:25:34.325 --> 00:25:37.561
  • take out pain and hurt, and fillit with peace and purpose.
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  • I wanna get to know you, and Iwanna follow you and trust you,
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  • and I pray this humblyin your name, amen.
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  • we choose to walkthrough or walk past.
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  • by growing yourrelationship with him.
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