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  • Creflo Dollar: The commonthread to suicide is this:
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  • nobody cares, nobody cares.
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  • If you're watching me thismorning and that's been a
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  • reoccurring theme in yourthinking, if you're watching me
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  • this morning and that keepskinda coming up in your
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  • thinking, first of all I wantyou to know God cares, I care,
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  • and somebody does care.
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  • Creflo: If you'll just trust himand believe him, that there's a
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  • will of God for your life.
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  • "There's something I'm supposedto do, and I will not miss it
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  • Creflo: Many people deal withloneliness throughout the year,
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  • but it can seem even worseduring the holiday season.
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  • It can seem like everyone hasfriends or family to celebrate
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  • with but you.
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  • Now, don't forget that Jesusdied not only to bring you
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  • wholeness, but so that you wouldnever again live life alone.
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  • God is in the business ofrestoration; and no matter how
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  • many people are not with youthis holiday season, the promise
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  • is that God will restoreyou and lift you up again.
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  • He also promises in his Wordthat he will never leave you nor
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  • forsake you, that he is with youeven unto the ends of the earth.
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  • So this season, know that I holdyou in my heart as a part of
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  • our family.
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  • We love you, and know that youare never alone when you are
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  • in Christ.
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  • Happy holidays.
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  • ♪ This is your world, so let'svow to make it a better place ♪
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  • ♪ Oh, oh, it's timeto live a new life ♪
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  • ♪ Oh, oh, let his loveshine bright in you ♪
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  • ♪ Oh, oh, we'resaved by his grace ♪
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  • Creflo: Sometimes, if you--youknow, if you don't understand
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  • loneliness and don't deal withit and you just can't put your
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  • finger on it--that's whyI'm teaching this right now
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  • today--is you'll walk aroundlife and you'll walk around in
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  • such frustration, such sadness,such distress, maybe leading to
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  • depression because you justdon't understand that it's not
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  • just, "Well, you're selfish."
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  • It's these are basic needs.
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  • Every human end up on the planethas a need to love and to share
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  • that love with others.
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  • Every human on the planet has aneed for someone to
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  • understand them.
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  • Every human on the planet hasa need to be needed and to
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  • be wanted.
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  • And so, many people arenot having these needs met.
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  • And what happens whenthese needs are not met?
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  • Well, it produces anoverwhelming feeling
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  • of loneliness.
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  • It produces an overwhelmingfeeling--not just loneliness,
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  • but all of theattachments of loneliness.
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  • It produces an overwhelmingfeeling of loneliness, of
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  • rejection, and ofisolation--loneliness.
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  • When these three basic needs arenot met, loneliness, rejection,
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  • and isolation willbe the birth of it.
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  • It will be the result of it, andso one of the things that I want
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  • to look at before I get backin the Word here is what
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  • causes loneliness.
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  • What causes loneliness?
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  • I mean, I know that if you don'tmeet these three basic needs,
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  • then I know that it will producean overwhelming feeling
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  • of loneliness, I know that, butlet's look at some causes that
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  • you might be ableto relate with.
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  • In 2 Timothy chapter 4:6, let'ssee what Paul discovered here.
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  • The first cause of loneliness,watch this, it comes
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  • from transitions.
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  • Any kinda transition in yourlife, any new experience you
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  • have found will create or has atendency to create loneliness.
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  • Paul says here, "For I am nowready to be offered, and the
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  • time of my departureis at hand."
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  • There's transitioninggoing on in his life.
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  • He's growing older, and growingolder is a series--you know, has
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  • a series of changes, and anychange can produce loneliness.
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  • You know, moving schoolscan produce loneliness.
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  • Moving in a new home, a newcountry, having a new job, a
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  • divorce or separation.
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  • Any kinda transitionproduces loneliness.
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  • Gradually losing your sight.
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  • Gradually you losing yourhearing, your mobility.
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  • Any of those thingscan lead to loneliness.
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  • The death of a loved one, that'sa transition, it's lonely.
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  • Any new experience we have todeal with is going to create
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  • loneliness, and Paul askedTimothy to come and visit him
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  • because he knows his timeis short and he is lonely.
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  • Number two--so, the first one,the first cause, I believe, out
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  • of this is transition,loneliness that comes from
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  • transitions, any type oftransitions that take place in
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  • your life.
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  • You can move in a newneighborhood and feel a sense of
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  • loneliness that will come there.
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  • The second cause: lonelinessthat comes from separation.
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  • Loneliness that comesfrom separation.
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  • 2 Timothy chapter 4:9,look at what happened here.
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  • 2 Timothy 4:9, Lonelinessthat comes from separation.
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  • He says, "Do thy diligenceto come shortly unto me."
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  • So, you know, being separated,Paul, from his friends, you
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  • know, or family, that causedloneliness, and he was really
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  • urging Timothy to come.
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  • Paul says to Timothy, "Do yourbest to come to me quickly."
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  • Now, Paul is lonely because he'sseparated from his friends, and
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  • if you look in verse 31--excuseme, verse 13, same chapter,
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  • 2 Timothy 4, verse 13, he says,"The cloak that I left at Troas
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  • with Carpus, when thou cometh,bring with thee, and the books,
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  • but especially the parchments,"or the parchments were the piece
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  • of paper that werebeing written on.
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  • So, he was ready to impart andto share some things, but, man,
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  • he wanted to resolve.
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  • He was fighting againstthis loneliness because
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  • of separation.
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  • Loneliness from separation,separation from your friends or
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  • separation from your family,can cause loneliness.
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  • And here's the thirdcause: from opposition.
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  • Now, I know about this one.
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  • Loneliness from opposition.
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  • 2 Timothy chapter 4 and verse14, look at what he says here in
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  • verse 14, and we'lltalk about this.
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  • "Alexander the coppersmithdid me much evil," Paul said.
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  • "The Lord reward himaccording to his works."
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  • Now, I don't know if Alexanderwas saying some crazy things
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  • about him.
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  • I don't know if he was, youknow, putting out some bad
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  • words, was persecuting him.
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  • Paul, in other words, says,"Not only am I getting old and
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  • sitting here alone in prison,"he says, "but I'm also
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  • being persecuted.
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  • I'm also being persecuted."
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  • You know, it's a lonelyfeeling to be misunderstood.
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  • It's a lonely feeling tobe embarrassed and to
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  • be humiliated.
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  • It was something that I feltevery time somebody would put me
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  • on the news, or they wouldmisunderstand that, or get the
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  • wrong information about that.
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  • It's a lonely feeling.
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  • Yeah, I know what the Bible saysin Matthew chapter 5:11 and 12.
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  • I'll read it to you.
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  • "Well, Brother Dollar, itshouldn't be a lonely feeling."
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  • Here's what the Bible says.
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  • I'm very aware ofMatthew 5:11 and 12.
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  • He says, "Blessed are you,when men shall revile you, and
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  • persecute you, and shall sayall manner of evil against you
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  • falsely, for my sake."
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  • Verse 12, "Rejoice, and beexceedingly glad: for great is
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  • your reward in heaven: for sopersecuted they the prophets
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  • which were before you."
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  • I understand that, but itdoesn't necessarily take away
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  • the loneliness.
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  • I understand that, you know,that what Bible says, that I'm
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  • blessed when I'm persecuted, butit doesn't necessarily take away
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  • the loneliness.
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  • And I had to dealwith that fact.
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  • You know, I quoted thatScripture when I was going
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  • through stuff, when Iwas being persecuted.
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  • I quoted that andstood on that, okay?
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  • That probably helped me a wholelot, but it still didn't stop
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  • the loneliness from coming in.
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  • Number four, lonelinessthat comes from rejection.
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  • Now, this is the worst form,loneliness that comes
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  • from rejection.
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  • 2 Timothy 4:16, I wanna readthat one more time.
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  • 2 Timothy chapter 4:16.
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  • He says, "At my first answer noman stood with me, but all men
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  • forsook me: I pray God thatit may not be laid to
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  • their charge."
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  • Notice what he said.
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  • "No man stood with me."
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  • He said, "They all forsook me."
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  • This is the form of lonelinessthat causes us the most pain,
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  • the loneliness of rejection.
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  • What is that?
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  • It's when you feel as thoughyou've been betrayed or forsaken
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  • in your time of need by thoseclosest to you, and Paul
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  • felt forsaken.
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  • He says of his trial beforeNero, here's what he said, "At
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  • my first defense, no one cameto my support, but everyone
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  • deserted me."
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  • Now, you can almost hear thepain in Paul's voice when he
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  • talks about the loneliness thatcame as a result of rejection.
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  • Rejection is one of the mostdifficult things for us to
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  • handle, whether it is aschildren on the school
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  • playground, as a teen at agathering, or as a spouse in a
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  • marriage, and that's why divorceis so painful and why God
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  • hates it.
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  • It's an act of abandoning andan act of forsakening, and it's
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  • very, very painful.
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  • And I know some of you have beenor some of you might be there at
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  • this very moment, but Godhas created us for communion.
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  • God has createdus for fellowship.
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  • God has created us forfriendship, and that's why we
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  • need acceptance.
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  • That's why we needcommunication.
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  • That's why we need love.
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  • And some people try to dealwith loneliness by becoming
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  • workaholics, andthat's not gonna work.
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  • That eventually will take itstoll, and you won't be able to
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  • continue with that.
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  • And also, some people tryto deal with it through
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  • materialism, trying tosubstitute, you know, materials
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  • for some type of way to behealed or to feel better.
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  • So, I wanted you to have thosefour causes so as we dig deep
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  • into this message thereare some practical things.
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  • I didn't wanna get so deep withyou today that you missed the
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  • practical part.
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  • I don't want you to just puta cover over this and not see
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  • this, because it can be adreadful downfall, and Satan can
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  • continue to take advantage andopen a door that hasn't been
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  • opened in your life.
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  • Now, look at Job 17 and verse 7in the New Living Translation.
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  • As I said before, lonelinesscan cripple and disable a person
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  • emotionally and physically.
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  • Job chapter 17, verse 7 inthe New Living Translation.
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  • He says this, Job 17:7, "My eyesare swollen with weeping, and I
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  • am but a shadow ofmy former self."
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  • Look at that in The Messagetranslation as well, because,
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  • you know, I asked the Lord,"Why are his eyes swollen?"
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  • And it's 'cause hewas crying so much.
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  • Look at what he saidin verse 6 and 7.
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  • He says, "God, you've made methe talk of the town--people
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  • spit in my face; I can hardlysee from crying so much; I'm
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  • nothing but skin and bones."
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  • Look at the stress.
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  • Look at the cripplingand the disabling effect.
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  • Look at the physical effectsthat comes on a person because
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  • they have no idea how to dealwith the crippling, disabling
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  • issues of lonelinessemotionally and physically.
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  • First of all, emotionally.
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  • You know, few hurts are deeperthan loneliness, and people
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  • don't recognize that, it's like,"I'mma be all right."
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  • No, no, no, few hurtsare deeper than loneliness.
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  • Loneliness hurts, it can be sodevastating, it is a leading
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  • cause of suicide, and peoplefeel alone with nobody to
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  • turn to.
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  • You know, that challenges me asa human being to be a little bit
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  • more sensitive to peoplethat I come across.
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  • That challenges me even asa pastor of a church to be
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  • sensitive to people that maymove in our community, in our
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  • neighborhood, and they may belooking at a first stage of
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  • loneliness becauseof the transition.
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  • That loneliness comesas a result of that.
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  • It does something to me as anindividual to say, "I need to be
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  • a little bit more aware ofwhat's going on in the lives
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  • of people."
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  • And then, physically, some saythat 50% of heart patients were
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  • lonely and depressedbefore their heart attacks,
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  • that they were lonely,fifty percent, that they were
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  • lonely or depressedbefore their heart attacks.
  • 00:14:47.733 --> 00:14:51.470
  • And so, what are some commoneffects of loneliness?
  • 00:14:51.503 --> 00:14:55.374
  • Loneliness can lead toimmoral relationships.
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  • You wanna know where that comesfrom or where that starts from?
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  • People look for acceptance.
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  • People look for intimacy and arelationship to fill that empty
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  • void, but now listento me carefully.
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  • All of the physical contact inthe world cannot fill an empty,
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  • lonely heart, so be carefulnot to think that an immoral
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  • relationship is gonna be theanswer to an empty,
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  • lonely heart.
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  • I understand the desire towanna go and you're looking
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  • for acceptance, you're lookingfor intimacy, you're looking for
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  • a relationship to fill thatempty void, but physical
  • 00:15:32.911 --> 00:15:35.848
  • contact, all the physicalcontact in the world, cannot
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  • fill an emptyand a lonely heart.
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  • There is an answer.
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  • We're not there yet,but there is an answer.
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  • I'll tell you it's Jesus, amen?
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  • Here's anothereffect of loneliness.
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  • It can impact our finances.
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  • What?
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  • Yeah, loneliness canimpact our finances.
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  • How?
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  • By producing materialism.
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  • Now, materialism doesn'tmean having materials.
  • 00:16:03.876 --> 00:16:07.379
  • Materialism is when instead ofyou going to God to help you
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  • deal with your issue, youbelieve that going shopping or
  • 00:16:11.817 --> 00:16:17.122
  • getting materials can help youdeal with your issue, and now
  • 00:16:17.156 --> 00:16:21.393
  • you're putting materialsin the place of God.
  • 00:16:21.427 --> 00:16:25.030
  • You feel that "you know, I canput materials in place of God,
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  • and materials will helpme to feel better."
  • 00:16:28.901 --> 00:16:32.938
  • You see, lonely people willsometimes go on a shopping
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  • spree, thinking that purchasingcertain items will give 'em an
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  • emotional lift, and many timespeople who abuse credit cards
  • 00:16:39.511 --> 00:16:43.782
  • and end up deep indebt are lonely people.
  • 00:16:43.816 --> 00:16:49.288
  • And so, the effects ofloneliness not only will produce
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  • immoral relationships, buteffect of loneliness will also
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  • produce an impact on yourfinances, taking you to
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  • materialism, replacing God withmaterials, thinking that those
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  • materials can help you to feelbetter than what God can help
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  • you feel.
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  • Number three, here's anothereffect of loneliness.
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  • It can cause us toquestion our worth.
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  • It can cause us to question ourworth to God and our worth
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  • to others.
  • 00:17:23.021 --> 00:17:26.325
  • It causes us to question ourvalue and our worth to God and
  • 00:17:26.358 --> 00:17:29.862
  • our value and ourworth to others.
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  • We no longer see ourselvesthrough the lens of God's Word
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  • and who we are in Christ.
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  • You know what happens?
  • 00:17:38.804 --> 00:17:41.440
  • Satan loves to blind us to ourexalted position in Christ.
  • 00:17:41.473 --> 00:17:45.244
  • He does not want you to seeyour identity in Christ.
  • 00:17:45.277 --> 00:17:48.847
  • He does not want you to see yourexalted position in Christ, and
  • 00:17:48.881 --> 00:17:52.885
  • so what happens?
  • 00:17:52.918 --> 00:17:55.654
  • Through loneliness causing youto question your value and your
  • 00:17:55.687 --> 00:17:59.191
  • worth to God and your valueand your worth to other people.
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  • You see how important this is?
  • 00:18:06.565 --> 00:18:09.501
  • You know, I've even heardstories about, well, you know,
  • 00:18:09.535 --> 00:18:11.570
  • when you--when older people losea spouse and, you know, your
  • 00:18:11.603 --> 00:18:13.839
  • grandfather grieves literallyto death after the passing of a
  • 00:18:13.872 --> 00:18:20.045
  • loved one.
  • 00:18:20.078 --> 00:18:23.615
  • The common thread ofsuicide, the common thread of
  • 00:18:23.649 --> 00:18:26.151
  • suicide--listen to me carefully,and this has just been coming up
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  • a whole lot.
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  • The common thread to suicideis this: nobody cares.
  • 00:18:31.957 --> 00:18:36.862
  • Nobody cares.
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  • If you're watching me thismorning and that's been a
  • 00:18:39.932 --> 00:18:42.501
  • reoccurring theme in yourthinking, if you're watching me
  • 00:18:42.534 --> 00:18:45.837
  • this morning and that keepskinda coming up in your
  • 00:18:45.871 --> 00:18:48.207
  • thinking, I first of all wantyou to know God cares, I care,
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  • and somebody does care.
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  • But sometimes what happens is,you know, nobody really knows
  • 00:18:57.082 --> 00:19:00.219
  • what you're going through.
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  • That I pray that you can getthe courage that it takes to let
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  • somebody know whatyou're going through.
  • 00:19:06.658 --> 00:19:11.396
  • Don't allow this echo to residein your mind, "Nobody cares.
  • 00:19:11.430 --> 00:19:17.369
  • Nobody cares, nobody cares,"because that's not true.
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  • God cares, God cares, somebodycares, somebody cares.
  • 00:19:22.541 --> 00:19:27.346
  • But, man, if you can go alongand put on that good show and
  • 00:19:27.379 --> 00:19:30.148
  • perfect phoniness--andsometimes it's not nobody cares.
  • 00:19:30.182 --> 00:19:33.619
  • It's sometime nobody know,nobody knows.
  • 00:19:33.652 --> 00:19:36.388
  • "Well, they ought to know."
  • 00:19:36.421 --> 00:19:38.190
  • Well, nobody reads minds.
  • 00:19:38.223 --> 00:19:40.058
  • Nobody reads minds, and yougotta talk, you've got to open
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  • up, you've got to share,you gotta say some things.
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  • I know it's difficult.
  • 00:19:46.665 --> 00:19:48.400
  • It's difficult because it'scalled being vulnerable, and you
  • 00:19:48.433 --> 00:19:52.537
  • know that when you choose tobecome vulnerable, you know
  • 00:19:52.571 --> 00:19:56.074
  • there's a chance that somebodycould hurt you so bad.
  • 00:19:56.108 --> 00:20:00.579
  • That vulnerability can alsocause a great deal of pain, and
  • 00:20:00.612 --> 00:20:03.982
  • that's a risk, but yougotta take that risk.
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  • Someone says, "I don't feelsafe taking that risk."
  • 00:20:06.918 --> 00:20:09.254
  • I hear you loud and clear, butsomehow, someway you're gonna
  • 00:20:09.288 --> 00:20:12.090
  • have to deal with that emotion,because the enemy will take it
  • 00:20:12.124 --> 00:20:16.295
  • and he will let that echo go,"Nobody cares, nobody cares,
  • 00:20:16.328 --> 00:20:20.098
  • nobody cares," loneliness.
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  • Here's the good newsI'm getting to now.
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  • Somebody feel like, "Oh, my God,you just keep telling--"
  • 00:20:26.772 --> 00:20:28.674
  • No, the first thing I wannasay about loneliness is it is a
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  • defeated foe.
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  • Loneliness is a defeated foe.
  • 00:20:34.413 --> 00:20:37.015
  • Look at John 15,verses 15 through 17.
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  • I wanted to go that deep so youcan see how serious it is, so
  • 00:20:41.787 --> 00:20:45.123
  • you can see it'snot just isolation.
  • 00:20:45.157 --> 00:20:48.026
  • You're thinkingit's just isolation.
  • 00:20:48.060 --> 00:20:50.195
  • It's so much deeper than that.
  • 00:20:50.228 --> 00:20:52.297
  • It is something that Satan hasbeen using to wreck lives, wreck
  • 00:20:52.331 --> 00:20:55.033
  • marriages, take people out, and,you know, we hadn't heard about
  • 00:20:55.067 --> 00:20:59.871
  • it, so we didn't know how torelease faith in this area.
  • 00:20:59.905 --> 00:21:03.141
  • Hadn't heard about it, sowe're defeated in this area.
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  • It's a conquered foe.
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  • It is a conquered enemy.
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  • John 15, verse 15 through 17says, "Henceforth I call you not
  • 00:21:12.117 --> 00:21:15.320
  • servants; for the servantsknoweth not what his lord doeth:
  • 00:21:15.354 --> 00:21:19.558
  • but I have called you," what?
  • 00:21:19.591 --> 00:21:22.527
  • "Friends; for all things that Ihave heard of my Father I have
  • 00:21:22.561 --> 00:21:26.631
  • made known unto you."
  • 00:21:26.665 --> 00:21:29.401
  • "You're my friend."
  • 00:21:29.434 --> 00:21:32.070
  • "You have not chosen me," checkit out, "but I have chosen
  • 00:21:32.104 --> 00:21:34.673
  • you," man, that's a goodthing to rehearse.
  • 00:21:34.706 --> 00:21:37.609
  • "God's chosen me,God's chosen me."
  • 00:21:37.642 --> 00:21:41.113
  • "And he's ordained you, that youshould go and bring forth fruit,
  • 00:21:41.146 --> 00:21:44.750
  • and that your fruit shouldremain: that whatsoever you
  • 00:21:44.783 --> 00:21:47.753
  • shall ask of the Father in myname, he will do it, and he will
  • 00:21:47.786 --> 00:21:53.158
  • give it to you,"that's powerful.
  • 00:21:53.191 --> 00:21:55.794
  • Verse 17, same chapter, he says,"These things I command you,
  • 00:21:55.827 --> 00:22:01.366
  • that you love one another."
  • 00:22:01.400 --> 00:22:05.103
  • Now, the enemy will use theemotion of loneliness to disrupt
  • 00:22:05.137 --> 00:22:11.676
  • your focus so that you're notpaying attention to what Jesus
  • 00:22:11.710 --> 00:22:17.349
  • has promised.
  • 00:22:17.382 --> 00:22:19.918
  • He's called me friend.
  • 00:22:19.951 --> 00:22:22.454
  • He's called me friend, and hesaid, "You didn't choose me.
  • 00:22:22.487 --> 00:22:26.691
  • I chose you."
  • 00:22:26.725 --> 00:22:29.828
  • But somebody thinks, "Well,you know, that's Jesus."
  • 00:22:29.861 --> 00:22:32.564
  • Listen, honey, sometimes yougot--that's the only one you
  • 00:22:32.597 --> 00:22:36.134
  • got, sometimes, when it comes totalking to someone and talking
  • 00:22:36.168 --> 00:22:40.205
  • about something that you may betoo ashamed or too embarrassed
  • 00:22:40.238 --> 00:22:42.908
  • to talk about, sometimes Jesusis the only one you have, but I
  • 00:22:42.941 --> 00:22:46.144
  • tell you what.
  • 00:22:46.178 --> 00:22:48.146
  • He said he chose you.
  • 00:22:48.180 --> 00:22:50.215
  • He said he calls youfriend, and he's real.
  • 00:22:50.248 --> 00:22:52.250
  • He is as real as anybodyyou're seated next to.
  • 00:22:52.284 --> 00:22:54.519
  • He sent the Holy Spirit to haveintimate dwelling on the inside
  • 00:22:54.553 --> 00:22:57.122
  • of you.
  • 00:22:57.155 --> 00:22:59.858
  • There's no friend in thisphysical world that can do you
  • 00:22:59.891 --> 00:23:02.861
  • and be the kinda friend thatJesus has committed to be in
  • 00:23:02.894 --> 00:23:05.464
  • your life.
  • 00:23:05.497 --> 00:23:08.400
  • There is a seat in your heartthat only Jesus desires to
  • 00:23:08.433 --> 00:23:10.902
  • occupy, glory to God.
  • 00:23:10.936 --> 00:23:14.840
  • So, there's some truth fromGod's Word that will help us
  • 00:23:14.873 --> 00:23:17.943
  • conquer and overcome loneliness.
  • 00:23:17.976 --> 00:23:21.713
  • Now, let's get in the Word.
  • 00:23:21.746 --> 00:23:24.015
  • Let's defeat this.
  • 00:23:24.049 --> 00:23:26.685
  • Look at Colossianschapter 1 and verse 21.
  • 00:23:26.718 --> 00:23:29.321
  • Colossians chapter1 and verse 21.
  • 00:23:29.354 --> 00:23:32.123
  • He says, "And you, that weresometimes alienated and enemies
  • 00:23:32.157 --> 00:23:36.027
  • in your mind by wicked works,"he says, "yet now hath
  • 00:23:36.061 --> 00:23:40.298
  • he reconciled."
  • 00:23:40.332 --> 00:23:42.934
  • So, here's the good news: we'vebeen reconciled back to God.
  • 00:23:42.968 --> 00:23:45.303
  • We were enemies to God becauseof the sin that took place in
  • 00:23:45.337 --> 00:23:50.275
  • the Garden of Eden, and Godshowed up, through Jesus, to
  • 00:23:50.308 --> 00:23:54.412
  • restore that friendship, sobecause of Jesus my friendship
  • 00:23:54.446 --> 00:24:01.319
  • with God has been restored.
  • 00:24:01.353 --> 00:24:04.222
  • Praise God, that I've beenreconciled to God, and he is no
  • 00:24:04.256 --> 00:24:08.560
  • longer imputing sin andtrespasses upon me.
  • 00:24:08.593 --> 00:24:13.431
  • Praise God, I have a friend.
  • 00:24:13.465 --> 00:24:17.269
  • Romans chapter 8,verses 9 through 11.
  • 00:24:17.302 --> 00:24:20.305
  • Let's take a look at this.
  • 00:24:20.338 --> 00:24:23.141
  • Romans chapter 8, verse 9 and11, and I'm gonna spend the rest
  • 00:24:23.174 --> 00:24:25.877
  • of the time just feedingyou Scripture, man.
  • 00:24:25.911 --> 00:24:28.079
  • Romans 8:9-11, he says, "But youare not in the flesh, but you're
  • 00:24:28.113 --> 00:24:32.350
  • in the Spirit, if so be that theSpirit of God dwell in you.
  • 00:24:32.384 --> 00:24:36.488
  • Now if any man have not theSpirit of Christ, he is none
  • 00:24:36.521 --> 00:24:39.391
  • of his."
  • 00:24:39.424 --> 00:24:42.260
  • Verse 10, "And if Christ be inyou, the body is dead because of
  • 00:24:42.294 --> 00:24:45.730
  • sin; but the Spirit is lifebecause of righteousness."
  • 00:24:45.764 --> 00:24:49.401
  • Verse 11, "But if the Spirit ofhim that raised up Jesus from
  • 00:24:49.434 --> 00:24:53.104
  • the dead dwell in you, he thatraised up Christ from the dead
  • 00:24:53.138 --> 00:24:58.176
  • shall also quicken your mortalbodies by his Spirit that dwell
  • 00:24:58.209 --> 00:25:02.881
  • in you."
  • 00:25:02.914 --> 00:25:04.349
  • I'm telling you, you havea friend that lives in you.
  • 00:25:04.382 --> 00:25:07.252
  • He walks with you.
  • 00:25:07.285 --> 00:25:08.720
  • When you go to bed,he's there with you.
  • 00:25:08.753 --> 00:25:10.589
  • There's nowhere you'regonna go without him.
  • 00:25:10.622 --> 00:25:13.058
  • Christ in you is the reason whyyou can expect
  • 00:25:13.091 --> 00:25:16.828
  • to be deliveredfrom loneliness
  • 00:25:16.861 --> 00:25:18.697
  • and to shut downthe door that the enemy has been
  • 00:25:18.730 --> 00:25:21.199
  • coming in and reapinghavoc in your life.
  • 00:25:21.232 --> 00:25:23.735
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