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Better Together LIVE | Episode 193

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February 10, 2021
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Better Together LIVE | Episode 193

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  • - LAURIE: MARRIAGE IS
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  • - LAURIE: MARRIAGE ISWORTH FIGHTING FOR.
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  • WORTH FIGHTING FOR.AND IF WE KEEP CHRIST AT
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  • AND IF WE KEEP CHRIST ATTHE CENTER OF IT,
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  • THE CENTER OF IT,THE COMMITMENT TO LOVE THAT WE
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  • THE COMMITMENT TO LOVE THAT WEMAKE ON OUR WEDDING DAY
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  • MAKE ON OUR WEDDING DAYCAN HOLD STRONG THROUGH
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  • CAN HOLD STRONG THROUGHALL SEASONS.
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  • ALL SEASONS.COME ON, LET'S TALK ABOUT IT.
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  • COME ON, LET'S TALK ABOUT IT.♪ MUSIC ♪
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  • ♪ MUSIC ♪♪ MUSIC ♪
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  • ♪ MUSIC ♪- HOSANNA: MY HUSBAND AND
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  • - HOSANNA: MY HUSBAND ANDI MET ABOUT NINE YEARS AGO.
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  • I MET ABOUT NINE YEARS AGO.I WAS TRAVELING,
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  • I WAS TRAVELING,MINISTERING, PERFORMING
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  • MINISTERING, PERFORMINGSPOKEN WORD POETRY AND
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  • SPOKEN WORD POETRY ANDPREACHING.
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  • PREACHING.LIVING OUT OF HOTEL ROOMS
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  • LIVING OUT OF HOTEL ROOMSAND GUEST ROOMS FOR ABOUT
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  • AND GUEST ROOMS FOR ABOUTFOUR AND A HALF YEARS.
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  • FOUR AND A HALF YEARS.SO CLEARLY, I WAS A HOT
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  • SO CLEARLY, I WAS A HOTCOMMODITY.
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  • COMMODITY.WHO DOESN'T WANT TO BE
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  • WHO DOESN'T WANT TO BEWITH THIS BARELY WASHED POET?
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  • WITH THIS BARELY WASHED POET?BUT, I WAS INVITED TO
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  • BUT, I WAS INVITED TOPERFORM AT A CHURCH AND
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  • PERFORM AT A CHURCH ANDTHERE WAS A VERY GOOD
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  • THERE WAS A VERY GOODLOOKING WORSHIP LEADER AND
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  • LOOKING WORSHIP LEADER ANDI NOTICED.
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  • I NOTICED.I MET HIM AT THIS EVENT.
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  • I MET HIM AT THIS EVENT.I RESPECTED HIM, HOW HE
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  • I RESPECTED HIM, HOW HELED HIS VOLUNTEERS, HOW HE
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  • LED HIS VOLUNTEERS, HOW HETREATED OTHER JESUS
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  • TREATED OTHER JESUSFOLLOWERS AND HOW HE
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  • FOLLOWERS AND HOW HETREATED HIS CHURCH.
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  • TREATED HIS CHURCH.I REALLY RESPECTED HIM,
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  • I REALLY RESPECTED HIM,LIKE I RESPECTED OTHER
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  • LIKE I RESPECTED OTHERRELATIONSHIPS ON THE ROAD.
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  • RELATIONSHIPS ON THE ROAD.I TOOK NOTE OF IT.
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  • I TOOK NOTE OF IT.ABOUT A YEAR LATER I WAS
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  • ABOUT A YEAR LATER I WASMINISTERING AT A NEARBY STATE.
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  • MINISTERING AT A NEARBY STATE.HE DROVE FIVE HOURS TO
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  • HE DROVE FIVE HOURS TOCOME SEE ME.
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  • COME SEE ME.AND TOOK ME OUT TO DINNER
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  • AND TOOK ME OUT TO DINNERAND SAID, EVER SINCE YOU
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  • AND SAID, EVER SINCE YOUMINISTERED AT OUR CHURCH,
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  • MINISTERED AT OUR CHURCH,I HAVE NOT GOT YOU OUT OF
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  • I HAVE NOT GOT YOU OUT OFMY HEAD.
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  • MY HEAD.I WANT YOU TO KNOW I'M
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  • I WANT YOU TO KNOW I'MATTRACTED TO YOU AND I
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  • ATTRACTED TO YOU AND IKNOW YOU TRAVEL ALL THE TIME.
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  • KNOW YOU TRAVEL ALL THE TIME.WHAT IT WOULD TAKE TO BE
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  • WHAT IT WOULD TAKE TO BEWITH YOU.
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  • WITH YOU.AND WHAT IT WOULD BE TO
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  • AND WHAT IT WOULD BE TOPARTNER WITH YOU.
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  • PARTNER WITH YOU.I JUST WANT YOU TO KNOW I
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  • I JUST WANT YOU TO KNOW ICOULD BE THAT MAN.
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  • COULD BE THAT MAN.COULD YOU BE ATTRACTED TO ME?
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  • COULD YOU BE ATTRACTED TO ME?WOO!
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  • WOO!- CECE: WOW!
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  • - CECE: WOW!HE CAME WITH IT.
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  • HE CAME WITH IT.(LAUGHTER)
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  • (LAUGHTER)- HOSANNA: HE CAME WITH IT.
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  • - HOSANNA: HE CAME WITH IT.(LAUGHTER)
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  • (LAUGHTER)- LAURIE: YOU HAD ME AT HELLO.
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  • - LAURIE: YOU HAD ME AT HELLO.(LAUGHTER)
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  • (LAUGHTER)- HOSANNA: HE HAD ME AT
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  • - HOSANNA: HE HAD ME ATHELLO, ABSOLUTELY.
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  • HELLO, ABSOLUTELY.HE HAD ME AT,
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  • HE HAD ME AT,"I'M ATTRACTED TO YOU,"
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  • "I'M ATTRACTED TO YOU,"EVEN THOUGH YOU HAVE NOT
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  • EVEN THOUGH YOU HAVE NOTSHOWERED.
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  • SHOWERED.JUST KIDDING.
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  • JUST KIDDING.I REMEMBER APPRECIATING SO
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  • I REMEMBER APPRECIATING SOMUCH HE WAS SO DIRECT.
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  • MUCH HE WAS SO DIRECT.I REMEMBER APPRECIATING SO
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  • I REMEMBER APPRECIATING SOMUCH HE WAS SO CLEAR.
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  • MUCH HE WAS SO CLEAR.BECAUSE I WAS A YOUNG
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  • BECAUSE I WAS A YOUNGWOMAN IN LOVE WITH JESUS.
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  • WOMAN IN LOVE WITH JESUS.I WASN'T SURE HOW MANY OF
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  • I WASN'T SURE HOW MANY OFTHE YOUNG MEN IN MY LIFE
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  • THE YOUNG MEN IN MY LIFEOR AROUND ME HAD A SERIOUS
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  • OR AROUND ME HAD A SERIOUSRELATIONSHIP WITH JESUS,
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  • RELATIONSHIP WITH JESUS,WHO WERE SERIOUS ABOUT
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  • WHO WERE SERIOUS ABOUTTHEIR FAITH.
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  • THEIR FAITH.SO WHEN HE SAID THAT TO ME,
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  • SO WHEN HE SAID THAT TO ME,I APPRECIATE HOW DIRECT HE WAS,
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  • I APPRECIATE HOW DIRECT HE WAS,HOW CLEAR HE WAS.
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  • HOW CLEAR HE WAS.I WAS IN A PLACE IN MY
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  • I WAS IN A PLACE IN MYLIFE WHERE I KNEW WHAT I
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  • LIFE WHERE I KNEW WHAT IWANTED TO DO, WHO I WAS
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  • WANTED TO DO, WHO I WASAND WHAT I WAS CALLED TO DO.
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  • AND WHAT I WAS CALLED TO DO.AND I KNEW THAT BECAUSE I
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  • AND I KNEW THAT BECAUSE IHAD DATED PREVIOUSLY,
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  • HAD DATED PREVIOUSLY,LIVING FOR JESUS AND NOT
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  • LIVING FOR JESUS AND NOTLIVING FOR JESUS, LOOKING
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  • LIVING FOR JESUS, LOOKINGFOR MY IDENTITY IN OTHER MEN,
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  • FOR MY IDENTITY IN OTHER MEN,LOOKING TO THE BOYS I
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  • LOOKING TO THE BOYS IDATED TO TELL ME WHO I'M
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  • DATED TO TELL ME WHO I'MCALLED TO BE AND WHAT I'M
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  • CALLED TO BE AND WHAT I'MCALLED TO DO.
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  • CALLED TO DO.AND AT THIS MOMENT I HAD
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  • AND AT THIS MOMENT I HADNOW COME TO A PLACE WHERE
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  • NOW COME TO A PLACE WHEREI KNEW WHO I WAS CREATED
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  • I KNEW WHO I WAS CREATEDFOR AND WHAT I WAS CALLED
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  • FOR AND WHAT I WAS CALLEDTO DO.
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  • TO DO.FOR THIS MAN TO BE SO
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  • FOR THIS MAN TO BE SOCLEAR WITH ME ABOUT WHAT
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  • CLEAR WITH ME ABOUT WHATHE WANTED, WHAT HE WAS
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  • HE WANTED, WHAT HE WASLOOKING FOR, I DIDN'T HAVE
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  • LOOKING FOR, I DIDN'T HAVEFEELINGS FOR HIM YET.
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  • FEELINGS FOR HIM YET.I DIDN'T KNOW HIM THAT
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  • I DIDN'T KNOW HIM THATWELL YET.
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  • WELL YET.BUT I HAD RESPECT FOR HIM.
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  • BUT I HAD RESPECT FOR HIM.I HAD WORKED WITH HIM.
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  • I HAD WORKED WITH HIM.I SAW HIM LEAD.
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  • I SAW HIM LEAD.AND I REALLY RESPECTED HIM
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  • AND I REALLY RESPECTED HIMI JUST SAID, YES, I WAS
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  • I JUST SAID, YES, I WASATTRACTED TO HIM BUT IT WAS
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  • ATTRACTED TO HIM BUT IT WASTHE FIRST MOMENT WHERE I
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  • THE FIRST MOMENT WHERE IWAS PURSUED BY A MAN THAT
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  • WAS PURSUED BY A MAN THATI DON'T HAVE FEELINGS FOR YET.
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  • I DON'T HAVE FEELINGS FOR YET.AND I SAID, I NEED YOU TO
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  • AND I SAID, I NEED YOU TORESPECT MY TIME.
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  • RESPECT MY TIME.I NEED TO THINK ABOUT THIS.
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  • I NEED TO THINK ABOUT THIS.I NEED TO PROCESS THIS.
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  • I NEED TO PROCESS THIS.I NEED TO PRAY AND FAST
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  • I NEED TO PRAY AND FASTABOUT THIS.
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  • ABOUT THIS.I NEED YOU TO RESPECT MY
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  • I NEED YOU TO RESPECT MYTIME BEFORE I GIVE YOU AN
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  • TIME BEFORE I GIVE YOU ANANSWER.
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  • ANSWER.I'LL NEVER FORGET WHAT HE
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  • I'LL NEVER FORGET WHAT HESAID.
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  • SAID.HE SAID, OKAY, GREAT.
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  • HE SAID, OKAY, GREAT.I WOULD LOVE TO RESPECT
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  • I WOULD LOVE TO RESPECTYOUR TIME.
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  • YOUR TIME.I NEED YOU TO RESPECT MINE
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  • I NEED YOU TO RESPECT MINETOO AND LET ME KNOW AS
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  • TOO AND LET ME KNOW ASSOON AS YOU'RE ABLE
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  • SOON AS YOU'RE ABLEBECAUSE I DATE VERY
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  • BECAUSE I DATE VERYSERIOUSLY.
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  • SERIOUSLY.I TAKE THIS VERY SERIOUSLY
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  • I TAKE THIS VERY SERIOUSLYAND LET ME KNOW AS SOON AS
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  • AND LET ME KNOW AS SOON ASYOU ARE ABLE.
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  • YOU ARE ABLE.FROM THAT MOMENT, I JUST
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  • FROM THAT MOMENT, I JUSTREMEMBER THIS FEELING LIKE,
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  • REMEMBER THIS FEELING LIKE,I WANTED HIM TO RESPECT ME.
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  • I WANTED HIM TO RESPECT ME.I WANTED HIM TO HAVE HIS
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  • I WANTED HIM TO HAVE HISBEST FOOT FORWARD FOR ME.
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  • BEST FOOT FORWARD FOR ME.AND HE ABSOLUTELY DID.
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  • AND HE ABSOLUTELY DID.AND HE WAS ASKING ME TO
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  • AND HE WAS ASKING ME TOTAKE A STEP FORWARD FOR
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  • TAKE A STEP FORWARD FORHIM TOO, LIKE I'M GONNA
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  • HIM TOO, LIKE I'M GONNARESPECT YOU IN YOUR TIME
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  • RESPECT YOU IN YOUR TIMEAND LET YOU PROCESS, BUT
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  • AND LET YOU PROCESS, BUTRESPECT ME, TOO.
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  • RESPECT ME, TOO.I'M A MAN OF GOD LOOKING
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  • I'M A MAN OF GOD LOOKINGFOR A WOMAN OF GOD.
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  • FOR A WOMAN OF GOD.LET ME KNOW WHEN YOU KNOW
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  • LET ME KNOW WHEN YOU KNOWIF THAT IS YOU.
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  • IF THAT IS YOU.I JUST WANT TO ENCOURAGE
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  • I JUST WANT TO ENCOURAGEANYONE THAT IS WATCHING
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  • ANYONE THAT IS WATCHINGRIGHT NOW THAT IS SINGLE,
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  • RIGHT NOW THAT IS SINGLE,THAT IS DATING, IT IS
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  • THAT IS DATING, IT ISPOSSIBLE TO KNOW WHO YOU
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  • POSSIBLE TO KNOW WHO YOUWANT TO BE BEFORE YOU KNOW
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  • WANT TO BE BEFORE YOU KNOWWHO YOU WANT TO BE WITH.
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  • WHO YOU WANT TO BE WITH.IT IS POSSIBLE.
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  • IT IS POSSIBLE.EVEN IF YOU ARE IN A
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  • EVEN IF YOU ARE IN ARELATIONSHIP AND YOU ARE
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  • RELATIONSHIP AND YOU ARENOT SURE WHO YOU WANT TO
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  • NOT SURE WHO YOU WANT TOBE, YOU CAN BE WITH
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  • BE, YOU CAN BE WITHSOMEONE WHO MAKES YOU WANT
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  • SOMEONE WHO MAKES YOU WANTTO BE THE BEST VERSION OF
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  • TO BE THE BEST VERSION OFYOURSELF.
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  • YOURSELF.THAT IS POSSIBLE.
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  • THAT IS POSSIBLE.FROM THE BEGINNING IN OUR
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  • FROM THE BEGINNING IN OURMARRIAGE IT HAS ALWAYS
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  • MARRIAGE IT HAS ALWAYSBEEN A MARRIAGE THAT WAS
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  • BEEN A MARRIAGE THAT WASBASED FIRST ON RESPECT,
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  • BASED FIRST ON RESPECT,AND, YES, THE FEELINGS
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  • AND, YES, THE FEELINGSCAME IN THE NAME OF JESUS,
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  • CAME IN THE NAME OF JESUS,THEY DID NOT TAKE THAT LONG.
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  • THEY DID NOT TAKE THAT LONG.(LAUGHTER)
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  • (LAUGHTER)THAT'S SOMETHING I LIKE TO
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  • THAT'S SOMETHING I LIKE TOENCOURAGE YOUNG PEOPLE
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  • ENCOURAGE YOUNG PEOPLETHAT ARE DATING THAT ARE
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  • THAT ARE DATING THAT ARETHINKING, WHO DO I WANT TO
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  • THINKING, WHO DO I WANT TOBE WITH?
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  • BE WITH?WHO DO I WANT TO BE WITH?
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  • WHO DO I WANT TO BE WITH?IT IS POSSIBLE TO KNOW WHO
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  • IT IS POSSIBLE TO KNOW WHOYOU WANT TO BE FIRST AND
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  • YOU WANT TO BE FIRST ANDFIND A PARTNER WHO WILL
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  • FIND A PARTNER WHO WILLHELP YOU BE THE BEST
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  • HELP YOU BE THE BESTVERSION OF YOU BUT IT'S A
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  • VERSION OF YOU BUT IT'S ATO WAY STREET.
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  • TO WAY STREET.THEY RESPECT YOU,
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  • THEY RESPECT YOU,YOU RESPECT THEM AND THERE IS
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  • YOU RESPECT THEM AND THERE ISA LITTLE BIT OF GIVE
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  • A LITTLE BIT OF GIVEAND TAKE.
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  • AND TAKE.I WANT TO ASK THE WHOLE
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  • I WANT TO ASK THE WHOLEGROUP.
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  • GROUP.HOW DO YOU MEET YOUR SPOUSE?
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  • HOW DO YOU MEET YOUR SPOUSE?AND FROM THAT MEETING,
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  • AND FROM THAT MEETING,HOW HAVE YOU-- WHAT ADVICE
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  • HOW HAVE YOU-- WHAT ADVICEWOULD YOU HAVE FOR SOMEONE
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  • WOULD YOU HAVE FOR SOMEONEDATING?
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  • DATING?WHAT IS SOMETHING YOU DID
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  • WHAT IS SOMETHING YOU DIDRIGHT?
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  • RIGHT?WHAT IS SOMETHING YOU DID
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  • WHAT IS SOMETHING YOU DIDWRONG?
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  • WRONG?THAT YOU WANT TO PASS ON
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  • THAT YOU WANT TO PASS ONTO THOSE MAYBE RIGHT NOW
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  • TO THOSE MAYBE RIGHT NOWHOW ARE DATING?
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  • HOW ARE DATING?- CECE: I ALWAYS LOOK
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  • - CECE: I ALWAYS LOOKBACK-- BECAUSE WHEN I GOT
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  • BACK-- BECAUSE WHEN I GOTMARRIED I WAS EXTREMELY
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  • MARRIED I WAS EXTREMELYYOUNG.
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  • YOUNG.DIDN'T HAVE A CLUE WHAT I
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  • DIDN'T HAVE A CLUE WHAT IWAS DOING.
  • 00:05:12.769 --> 00:05:13.669
  • WAS DOING.(LAUGHTER)
  • 00:05:13.736 --> 00:05:16.005
  • (LAUGHTER)BUT I FELL IN LOVE WITH
  • 00:05:16.072 --> 00:05:17.073
  • BUT I FELL IN LOVE WITHMR. LOVE.
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  • MR. LOVE.AND MET HIM AT CHURCH FOR
  • 00:05:21.744 --> 00:05:22.478
  • AND MET HIM AT CHURCH FORTHE FIRST TIME AND THEN
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  • THE FIRST TIME AND THENTHE-- I TAKE THAT BACK.
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  • THE-- I TAKE THAT BACK.THE FIRST TIME I MET HIM
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  • THE FIRST TIME I MET HIMWAS A YOUTH OUTING AND I
  • 00:05:27.884 --> 00:05:29.619
  • WAS A YOUTH OUTING AND IMET HIM AT A BOWLING ALLEY.
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  • MET HIM AT A BOWLING ALLEY.THAT AND DOESN'T SOUND
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  • THAT AND DOESN'T SOUNDROMANTIC AT ALL.
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  • ROMANTIC AT ALL.BUT HE SMILED.
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  • BUT HE SMILED.I WAS LIKE, HE IS SO
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  • I WAS LIKE, HE IS SOAMAZING.
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  • AMAZING.HE WAS VERY DIRECT WHEN WE
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  • HE WAS VERY DIRECT WHEN WETALKED.
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  • TALKED.BUT THE ONE THING I KNOW I
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  • BUT THE ONE THING I KNOW IDID RIGHT, AND THAT IS I
  • 00:05:44.667 --> 00:05:45.601
  • DID RIGHT, AND THAT IS ISUBMITTED TO MY LEADERS.
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  • SUBMITTED TO MY LEADERS.I CAN ALWAYS GO BACK TO
  • 00:05:47.170 --> 00:05:50.006
  • I CAN ALWAYS GO BACK TOTHAT MOMENT, LORD, I
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  • THAT MOMENT, LORD, ISUBMITTED TO MY PARENTS, I
  • 00:05:51.474 --> 00:05:52.942
  • SUBMITTED TO MY PARENTS, ISUBMITTED TO MY PASTOR, AT
  • 00:05:53.009 --> 00:05:54.143
  • SUBMITTED TO MY PASTOR, ATONE POINT OUR PASTOR WAS
  • 00:05:54.210 --> 00:05:56.779
  • ONE POINT OUR PASTOR WASLIKE, OKAY, WELL, I WANT
  • 00:05:56.846 --> 00:05:57.847
  • LIKE, OKAY, WELL, I WANTY'ALL TO SEPARATE.
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  • Y'ALL TO SEPARATE.I WANT Y'ALL TO PRAY.
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  • I WANT Y'ALL TO PRAY.I'M GONNA PRAY.
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  • I'M GONNA PRAY.BECAUSE IT IS SO CRUCIAL
  • 00:06:01.684 --> 00:06:03.719
  • BECAUSE IT IS SO CRUCIALWHO YOU MARRY.
  • 00:06:03.786 --> 00:06:04.887
  • WHO YOU MARRY.HE KNEW THE CALL I HAD ON
  • 00:06:04.954 --> 00:06:05.688
  • HE KNEW THE CALL I HAD ONMY LIFE.
  • 00:06:05.755 --> 00:06:06.522
  • MY LIFE.AND SO, I SUBMITTED.
  • 00:06:06.589 --> 00:06:10.960
  • AND SO, I SUBMITTED.AS MUCH AS I WAS IN LOVE,
  • 00:06:11.027 --> 00:06:12.995
  • AS MUCH AS I WAS IN LOVE,AS MUCH AS I KNEW THIS WAS
  • 00:06:13.062 --> 00:06:13.696
  • AS MUCH AS I KNEW THIS WASTHE ONE.
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  • THE ONE.I SAID, GOD, YOU KNOW WHAT?
  • 00:06:15.131 --> 00:06:17.600
  • I SAID, GOD, YOU KNOW WHAT?I CAN'T SEE TEN YEARS FROM
  • 00:06:17.667 --> 00:06:19.335
  • I CAN'T SEE TEN YEARS FROMNOW.
  • 00:06:19.402 --> 00:06:20.136
  • NOW.I CAN'T SEE TWENTY YEARS
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  • I CAN'T SEE TWENTY YEARSFROM NOW.
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  • FROM NOW.YOU'VE GIVEN ME A MAN OF
  • 00:06:22.538 --> 00:06:22.972
  • YOU'VE GIVEN ME A MAN OFGOD WHO HAS LOOKED OVER ME
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  • GOD WHO HAS LOOKED OVER MEAND I'M GONNA SUBMIT.
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  • AND I'M GONNA SUBMIT.IF THEY SAY NO, YOU KNOW WHAT?
  • 00:06:25.408 --> 00:06:26.676
  • IF THEY SAY NO, YOU KNOW WHAT?I'M GONNA LIVE.
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  • I'M GONNA LIVE.I WAS CRYING OUT TO THE LORD.
  • 00:06:28.778 --> 00:06:32.248
  • I WAS CRYING OUT TO THE LORD.I TELL PEOPLE ALL THE TIME.
  • 00:06:32.315 --> 00:06:34.684
  • I TELL PEOPLE ALL THE TIME.SUBMIT TO YOUR LEADERS,
  • 00:06:34.750 --> 00:06:36.185
  • SUBMIT TO YOUR LEADERS,SUBMIT TO PEOPLE GOD HAS
  • 00:06:36.252 --> 00:06:37.286
  • SUBMIT TO PEOPLE GOD HASPUT IN YOUR LIFE.
  • 00:06:37.353 --> 00:06:39.455
  • PUT IN YOUR LIFE.BECAUSE THEY CAN SEE
  • 00:06:39.522 --> 00:06:40.556
  • BECAUSE THEY CAN SEEFURTHER THAN WHAT YOU CAN SEE.
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  • FURTHER THAN WHAT YOU CAN SEE.I GOT MARRIED, I THINK I
  • 00:06:41.657 --> 00:06:42.592
  • I GOT MARRIED, I THINK IWAS ABOUT 19 YEARS OLD.
  • 00:06:42.658 --> 00:06:43.593
  • WAS ABOUT 19 YEARS OLD.I COULDN'T SEE.
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  • I COULDN'T SEE.YOU KNOW?
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  • YOU KNOW?(LAUGHTER)
  • 00:06:47.463 --> 00:06:48.531
  • (LAUGHTER)BUT I HAD PARENTS WHO LOVE GOD.
  • 00:06:48.598 --> 00:06:51.000
  • BUT I HAD PARENTS WHO LOVE GOD.AND PARENTS WHO HAVE BEEN
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  • AND PARENTS WHO HAVE BEENMARRIED AND STAYED MARRIED.
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  • MARRIED AND STAYED MARRIED.I HAD A PASTOR.
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  • I HAD A PASTOR.EVEN THOUGH IT WAS STRICT
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  • EVEN THOUGH IT WAS STRICTAND IT SEEMED UNFAIR,
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  • AND IT SEEMED UNFAIR,I WAS WILLING TO SUBMIT.
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  • I WAS WILLING TO SUBMIT.AND SO THERE'S BEEN TIMES
  • 00:07:01.644 --> 00:07:02.111
  • AND SO THERE'S BEEN TIMESTHROUGHOUT MY 36 YEARS
  • 00:07:02.178 --> 00:07:03.579
  • THROUGHOUT MY 36 YEARSWHERE I SAID, GOD,
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  • WHERE I SAID, GOD,YOU KNOW WHAT?
  • 00:07:04.514 --> 00:07:06.015
  • YOU KNOW WHAT?YOU'RE GONNA HAVE TO FIX
  • 00:07:06.082 --> 00:07:06.516
  • YOU'RE GONNA HAVE TO FIXTHIS.
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  • THIS.BECAUSE I SUBMITTED.
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  • BECAUSE I SUBMITTED.I DID WHAT YOU TOLD ME TO DO.
  • 00:07:09.685 --> 00:07:10.686
  • I DID WHAT YOU TOLD ME TO DO.SO YOU'RE GONNA HAVE TO
  • 00:07:10.753 --> 00:07:11.854
  • SO YOU'RE GONNA HAVE TOCOME THROUGH.
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  • COME THROUGH.SO THAT IS THE ONE THING I
  • 00:07:13.623 --> 00:07:14.957
  • SO THAT IS THE ONE THING IKNOW I DID RIGHT AND I'M
  • 00:07:15.024 --> 00:07:16.626
  • KNOW I DID RIGHT AND I'MTRYING TO SHARE THAT WITH
  • 00:07:16.692 --> 00:07:18.094
  • TRYING TO SHARE THAT WITHAS MANY PEOPLE WHO ARE
  • 00:07:18.160 --> 00:07:19.662
  • AS MANY PEOPLE WHO AREDATING AS POSSIBLE.
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  • DATING AS POSSIBLE.SUBMIT TO THE LEADERS OF
  • 00:07:22.732 --> 00:07:23.466
  • SUBMIT TO THE LEADERS OFYOUR HOUSE, OF THE CHURCH.
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  • YOUR HOUSE, OF THE CHURCH.- JAMIE: MY HUSBAND,
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  • - JAMIE: MY HUSBAND,AARON AND I--
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  • AARON AND I--I TOLD YOU GUYS A COUPLE
  • 00:07:26.769 --> 00:07:27.703
  • I TOLD YOU GUYS A COUPLEDAYS AGO, WE HAVE BEEN
  • 00:07:27.770 --> 00:07:28.538
  • DAYS AGO, WE HAVE BEENMARRIED ALMOST 20 YEARS
  • 00:07:28.604 --> 00:07:29.071
  • MARRIED ALMOST 20 YEARSTHIS YEAR.
  • 00:07:29.138 --> 00:07:29.705
  • THIS YEAR.SO IT FEELS LIKE A REALLY
  • 00:07:29.772 --> 00:07:30.273
  • SO IT FEELS LIKE A REALLYBIG YEAR.
  • 00:07:30.339 --> 00:07:32.108
  • BIG YEAR.BUT WE MET WHEN WE WERE
  • 00:07:32.174 --> 00:07:32.708
  • BUT WE MET WHEN WE WEREBOTH IN COLLEGE.
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  • BOTH IN COLLEGE.I HAD JUST STARTED
  • 00:07:34.110 --> 00:07:35.111
  • I HAD JUST STARTEDFOLLOWING JESUS, YOU GUYS,
  • 00:07:35.177 --> 00:07:36.078
  • FOLLOWING JESUS, YOU GUYS,I HAD BEEN A HOT MESS FOR
  • 00:07:36.145 --> 00:07:38.514
  • I HAD BEEN A HOT MESS FORTHE YEARS LEADING UP TO THIS.
  • 00:07:38.581 --> 00:07:39.949
  • THE YEARS LEADING UP TO THIS.BUT NOW I WAS FOLLOWING
  • 00:07:40.016 --> 00:07:40.750
  • BUT NOW I WAS FOLLOWINGJESUS.
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  • JESUS.I WANTED HIM TO BE MY LORD.
  • 00:07:41.717 --> 00:07:43.419
  • I WANTED HIM TO BE MY LORD.AND I MET AARON AT CHURCH,
  • 00:07:43.486 --> 00:07:45.087
  • AND I MET AARON AT CHURCH,I FEEL LIKE, WHAT A GREAT
  • 00:07:45.154 --> 00:07:47.256
  • I FEEL LIKE, WHAT A GREATPLACE TO MEET A MAN.
  • 00:07:47.323 --> 00:07:48.457
  • PLACE TO MEET A MAN.I MET HIM AT CHURCH.
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  • I MET HIM AT CHURCH.WE DATED FOR A YEAR AND A
  • 00:07:50.459 --> 00:07:52.562
  • WE DATED FOR A YEAR AND AHALF.
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  • HALF.I THINK ONE OF THE BEST
  • 00:07:53.496 --> 00:07:54.230
  • I THINK ONE OF THE BESTTHINGS ABOUT OUR DATING
  • 00:07:54.297 --> 00:07:56.699
  • THINGS ABOUT OUR DATINGRELATIONSHIP WAS, WE BUILT
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  • RELATIONSHIP WAS, WE BUILTIT ON FRIENDSHIP.
  • 00:07:57.934 --> 00:07:59.769
  • IT ON FRIENDSHIP.AND I HAD EVERY DATING
  • 00:07:59.835 --> 00:08:01.270
  • AND I HAD EVERY DATINGRELATIONSHIP I EVER HAD
  • 00:08:01.337 --> 00:08:03.873
  • RELATIONSHIP I EVER HADPREVIOUSLY BEFORE THAT WAS
  • 00:08:03.940 --> 00:08:04.407
  • PREVIOUSLY BEFORE THAT WASBASICALLY BUILT ON SEXUAL
  • 00:08:04.473 --> 00:08:06.242
  • BASICALLY BUILT ON SEXUALATTRACTION OR PHYSICALNESS
  • 00:08:06.309 --> 00:08:08.511
  • ATTRACTION OR PHYSICALNESSIN OUR RELATIONSHIP.
  • 00:08:08.578 --> 00:08:09.045
  • IN OUR RELATIONSHIP.AND NOW AS A NEW BELIEVER,
  • 00:08:09.111 --> 00:08:10.813
  • AND NOW AS A NEW BELIEVER,I CHANGED THAT PART OF MY
  • 00:08:10.880 --> 00:08:11.581
  • I CHANGED THAT PART OF MYLIFE.
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  • LIFE.I KNEW I DIDN'T WANT TO--
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  • I KNEW I DIDN'T WANT TO--I WANTED TO DO WHAT GOD
  • 00:08:14.850 --> 00:08:16.252
  • I WANTED TO DO WHAT GODWANTED BEST FOR AARON AND
  • 00:08:16.319 --> 00:08:17.720
  • WANTED BEST FOR AARON ANDI IN OUR MARRIAGE AND I
  • 00:08:17.787 --> 00:08:19.055
  • I IN OUR MARRIAGE AND IWANTED US TO WAIT UNTIL WE
  • 00:08:19.121 --> 00:08:23.025
  • WANTED US TO WAIT UNTIL WEWERE MARRIED TO HAVE SEX.
  • 00:08:23.092 --> 00:08:23.593
  • WERE MARRIED TO HAVE SEX.SO IT FORCED ME FOR THE
  • 00:08:23.659 --> 00:08:24.160
  • SO IT FORCED ME FOR THEFIRST TIME EVER IN A
  • 00:08:24.226 --> 00:08:24.927
  • FIRST TIME EVER IN ARELATIONSHIP TO BUILD IT
  • 00:08:24.994 --> 00:08:25.695
  • RELATIONSHIP TO BUILD ITON FRIENDSHIP.
  • 00:08:25.761 --> 00:08:26.629
  • ON FRIENDSHIP.I CAN SAY TWENTY YEARS
  • 00:08:26.696 --> 00:08:28.331
  • I CAN SAY TWENTY YEARSINTO MARRIAGE, I'M SO
  • 00:08:28.397 --> 00:08:29.332
  • INTO MARRIAGE, I'M SOGRATEFUL FOR THAT
  • 00:08:29.398 --> 00:08:31.534
  • GRATEFUL FOR THATFRIENDSHIP THAT WAS BUILT.
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  • FRIENDSHIP THAT WAS BUILT.BECAUSE SEX IS GREAT AND
  • 00:08:32.868 --> 00:08:35.404
  • BECAUSE SEX IS GREAT ANDAWESOME THAT IS NOT WHAT
  • 00:08:35.471 --> 00:08:36.606
  • AWESOME THAT IS NOT WHATWE ARE TALKING ABOUT
  • 00:08:36.672 --> 00:08:37.673
  • WE ARE TALKING ABOUTTODAY, BUT TWENTY YEARS
  • 00:08:37.740 --> 00:08:38.608
  • TODAY, BUT TWENTY YEARSIN, FOUR KIDS LATER,
  • 00:08:38.674 --> 00:08:39.542
  • IN, FOUR KIDS LATER,IT'S DIFFERENT THAN THE
  • 00:08:39.609 --> 00:08:40.076
  • IT'S DIFFERENT THAN THEFIRST YEAR.
  • 00:08:40.142 --> 00:08:41.344
  • FIRST YEAR.IT'S DIFFERENT THAN THE
  • 00:08:41.410 --> 00:08:42.545
  • IT'S DIFFERENT THAN THEVERY BEGINNING.
  • 00:08:42.612 --> 00:08:43.379
  • VERY BEGINNING.AND SO, I'M GRATEFUL THAT
  • 00:08:43.446 --> 00:08:46.649
  • AND SO, I'M GRATEFUL THATOUR FOUNDATION WASN'T
  • 00:08:46.716 --> 00:08:48.517
  • OUR FOUNDATION WASN'TBUILT ON SOMETHING I KNEW
  • 00:08:48.584 --> 00:08:50.419
  • BUILT ON SOMETHING I KNEWWAS GONNA CHANGE.
  • 00:08:50.486 --> 00:08:52.121
  • WAS GONNA CHANGE.BUT IT WAS BUILT ON A
  • 00:08:52.188 --> 00:08:52.622
  • BUT IT WAS BUILT ON AFRIENDSHIP.
  • 00:08:52.688 --> 00:08:54.690
  • FRIENDSHIP.OUR FRIENDSHIP TWENTY
  • 00:08:54.757 --> 00:08:56.759
  • OUR FRIENDSHIP TWENTYYEARS AGO WAS LAUGHABLE AT
  • 00:08:56.826 --> 00:08:58.260
  • YEARS AGO WAS LAUGHABLE ATHOW MUCH CLOSER WE ARE
  • 00:08:58.327 --> 00:08:58.828
  • HOW MUCH CLOSER WE ARETODAY.
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  • TODAY.BUT THEN IT WAS JUST OUR
  • 00:09:00.262 --> 00:09:00.763
  • BUT THEN IT WAS JUST OURFOUNDATION.
  • 00:09:00.830 --> 00:09:01.764
  • FOUNDATION.SO, I SAY TOO, THAT IS ONE
  • 00:09:01.831 --> 00:09:03.599
  • SO, I SAY TOO, THAT IS ONEOF THE THING WE DID WELL
  • 00:09:03.666 --> 00:09:04.133
  • OF THE THING WE DID WELLWAS BUILDING OUR DATING
  • 00:09:04.200 --> 00:09:05.768
  • WAS BUILDING OUR DATINGRELATIONSHIP AND OUR
  • 00:09:05.835 --> 00:09:07.570
  • RELATIONSHIP AND OURENGAGEMENT ON FRIENDSHIP
  • 00:09:07.637 --> 00:09:08.804
  • ENGAGEMENT ON FRIENDSHIPBECAUSE IT HAS SUSTAINED
  • 00:09:08.871 --> 00:09:10.506
  • BECAUSE IT HAS SUSTAINEDUS THROUGH SOME HARD TIMES
  • 00:09:10.573 --> 00:09:11.240
  • US THROUGH SOME HARD TIMESIN OUR MARRIAGE.
  • 00:09:11.307 --> 00:09:12.441
  • IN OUR MARRIAGE.- LESLIE: IN OUR STORY--
  • 00:09:12.508 --> 00:09:13.209
  • - LESLIE: IN OUR STORY--THAT FRIENDSHIP IS SUCH A
  • 00:09:13.275 --> 00:09:14.243
  • THAT FRIENDSHIP IS SUCH APOWERFUL BASE, LIKE YOU
  • 00:09:14.310 --> 00:09:15.778
  • POWERFUL BASE, LIKE YOUSAID, JAMIE.
  • 00:09:15.845 --> 00:09:16.445
  • SAID, JAMIE.I KNOW FOR US, WE DIDN'T
  • 00:09:16.512 --> 00:09:20.549
  • I KNOW FOR US, WE DIDN'TMEET LIKE CECE DID IN A
  • 00:09:20.616 --> 00:09:21.917
  • MEET LIKE CECE DID IN ABOWLING ALLEY.
  • 00:09:21.984 --> 00:09:22.351
  • BOWLING ALLEY.BUT IT WAS PRETTY CLOSE TO
  • 00:09:22.418 --> 00:09:23.319
  • BUT IT WAS PRETTY CLOSE TOTHAT.
  • 00:09:23.386 --> 00:09:24.820
  • THAT.WE WERE YOUNG, YOUNG, YOUNG.
  • 00:09:24.887 --> 00:09:25.655
  • WE WERE YOUNG, YOUNG, YOUNG.WE MET ON A SKI SLOPE.
  • 00:09:25.721 --> 00:09:27.223
  • WE MET ON A SKI SLOPE.AND THE QUIRKY THING ABOUT
  • 00:09:27.289 --> 00:09:30.092
  • AND THE QUIRKY THING ABOUTOUR CONNECTION IS THAT--
  • 00:09:30.159 --> 00:09:34.063
  • OUR CONNECTION IS THAT--MY NAME IS LESLEY AND MY
  • 00:09:34.130 --> 00:09:35.665
  • MY NAME IS LESLEY AND MYHUSBAND'S NAME IS LESLEY
  • 00:09:35.731 --> 00:09:36.899
  • HUSBAND'S NAME IS LESLEYWHICH IS SO WEIRD.
  • 00:09:36.966 --> 00:09:38.634
  • WHICH IS SO WEIRD.THE EVEN WEIRDER THING IS,
  • 00:09:38.701 --> 00:09:39.902
  • THE EVEN WEIRDER THING IS,HIS DAD'S NAME IS LESLEY
  • 00:09:39.969 --> 00:09:40.736
  • HIS DAD'S NAME IS LESLEYAND HIS GRANDFATHER'S NAME
  • 00:09:40.803 --> 00:09:42.038
  • AND HIS GRANDFATHER'S NAMEIS LESLEY.
  • 00:09:42.104 --> 00:09:43.005
  • IS LESLEY.SO WE GOT SOME WEIRD MOJO
  • 00:09:43.072 --> 00:09:43.973
  • SO WE GOT SOME WEIRD MOJOGOING HERE.
  • 00:09:44.040 --> 00:09:45.408
  • GOING HERE.IT'S REALLY STRANGE.
  • 00:09:45.474 --> 00:09:46.909
  • IT'S REALLY STRANGE.BUT, ACTUALLY, OUR NAMES
  • 00:09:46.976 --> 00:09:48.110
  • BUT, ACTUALLY, OUR NAMESARE HOW WE MET.
  • 00:09:48.177 --> 00:09:49.879
  • ARE HOW WE MET.BECAUSE WE WERE AT A YOUTH
  • 00:09:49.945 --> 00:09:51.480
  • BECAUSE WE WERE AT A YOUTHEVENT ON SOME SLOPES IN
  • 00:09:51.547 --> 00:09:52.481
  • EVENT ON SOME SLOPES INCOLORADO, AND WE WERE
  • 00:09:52.548 --> 00:09:54.617
  • COLORADO, AND WE WEREHEADED TO THE GONDOLA THAT
  • 00:09:54.684 --> 00:09:56.052
  • HEADED TO THE GONDOLA THATTAKES YOU UP THE SLOPE AND
  • 00:09:56.118 --> 00:09:57.086
  • TAKES YOU UP THE SLOPE ANDSOMEONE HOLLERED OUT
  • 00:09:57.153 --> 00:09:58.954
  • SOMEONE HOLLERED OUTLESLEY AND WE BOTH
  • 00:09:59.021 --> 00:10:01.290
  • LESLEY AND WE BOTHSWISHED OVER TO THE GONDOLA
  • 00:10:01.357 --> 00:10:02.291
  • SWISHED OVER TO THE GONDOLATOGETHER THINKING IT
  • 00:10:02.358 --> 00:10:02.758
  • TOGETHER THINKING ITWAS FOR US.
  • 00:10:02.825 --> 00:10:04.160
  • WAS FOR US.WE ENDED UP RIDING UP THE
  • 00:10:04.226 --> 00:10:05.494
  • WE ENDED UP RIDING UP THEHILL, TOOK THAT SKI RUN.
  • 00:10:05.561 --> 00:10:06.062
  • HILL, TOOK THAT SKI RUN.SHARED A LITTLE CUP OF
  • 00:10:06.128 --> 00:10:09.031
  • SHARED A LITTLE CUP OFHOT COCOA.
  • 00:10:09.098 --> 00:10:10.199
  • HOT COCOA.AND THERE IS THE STORY.
  • 00:10:10.266 --> 00:10:11.534
  • AND THERE IS THE STORY.SEVEN YEARS LATER WE
  • 00:10:11.600 --> 00:10:12.702
  • SEVEN YEARS LATER WEFINALLY GOT MARRIED.
  • 00:10:12.768 --> 00:10:13.669
  • FINALLY GOT MARRIED.- JAMIE: THAT'S THE BEST
  • 00:10:13.736 --> 00:10:14.236
  • - JAMIE: THAT'S THE BESTSTORY.
  • 00:10:14.303 --> 00:10:15.271
  • STORY.- LESLIE: ISN'T THAT
  • 00:10:15.337 --> 00:10:15.738
  • - LESLIE: ISN'T THATFUNNY?
  • 00:10:15.805 --> 00:10:16.906
  • FUNNY?(LAUGHTER)
  • 00:10:16.972 --> 00:10:19.241
  • (LAUGHTER)SO, THE QUIRKY NAME THING,
  • 00:10:19.308 --> 00:10:20.876
  • SO, THE QUIRKY NAME THING,WHICH IS ABSURD AND ALWAYS
  • 00:10:20.943 --> 00:10:21.877
  • WHICH IS ABSURD AND ALWAYSA HASSLE ALSO WAS THE
  • 00:10:21.944 --> 00:10:24.013
  • A HASSLE ALSO WAS THEREASON IN GOD'S PROVIDENCE.
  • 00:10:24.080 --> 00:10:26.449
  • REASON IN GOD'S PROVIDENCE.SO THAT'S SWEET.
  • 00:10:26.515 --> 00:10:27.917
  • SO THAT'S SWEET.BUT THAT FRIENDSHIP THING
  • 00:10:27.983 --> 00:10:28.484
  • BUT THAT FRIENDSHIP THINGIS EPIC.
  • 00:10:28.551 --> 00:10:29.351
  • IS EPIC.BECAUSE YOU ARE RIGHT.
  • 00:10:29.418 --> 00:10:31.687
  • BECAUSE YOU ARE RIGHT.PASSION TAKES A MILLION
  • 00:10:31.754 --> 00:10:32.922
  • PASSION TAKES A MILLIONDIFFERENT TURNS OVER THE
  • 00:10:32.988 --> 00:10:33.422
  • DIFFERENT TURNS OVER THECOURSE OF LIFE.
  • 00:10:33.489 --> 00:10:35.658
  • COURSE OF LIFE.ONE THING WE KNOW THAT WE
  • 00:10:35.725 --> 00:10:36.992
  • ONE THING WE KNOW THAT WEKNOW THAT WE KNOW IS THAT
  • 00:10:37.059 --> 00:10:38.394
  • KNOW THAT WE KNOW IS THATTHE HEALTHIER YOU ARE WHEN
  • 00:10:38.461 --> 00:10:40.029
  • THE HEALTHIER YOU ARE WHENYOU STEP INTO MARRIED
  • 00:10:40.096 --> 00:10:42.198
  • YOU STEP INTO MARRIEDLIFE, THAT IS THE BEST
  • 00:10:42.264 --> 00:10:43.065
  • LIFE, THAT IS THE BESTGIFT YOU CAN GIVE.
  • 00:10:43.132 --> 00:10:45.468
  • GIFT YOU CAN GIVE.BECAUSE WE ALWAYS LIKE TO
  • 00:10:45.534 --> 00:10:47.970
  • BECAUSE WE ALWAYS LIKE TOSAY, GET YOURSELF HEALTHY
  • 00:10:48.037 --> 00:10:49.271
  • SAY, GET YOURSELF HEALTHYBEFORE YOU GET YOURSELF
  • 00:10:49.338 --> 00:10:50.005
  • BEFORE YOU GET YOURSELFMARRIED.
  • 00:10:50.072 --> 00:10:51.373
  • MARRIED.BECAUSE THE BEST GIFT YOU
  • 00:10:51.440 --> 00:10:53.876
  • BECAUSE THE BEST GIFT YOUCOULD EVER GIVE YOUR
  • 00:10:53.943 --> 00:10:55.077
  • COULD EVER GIVE YOURMARRIAGE IS TO WORK ON WHO
  • 00:10:55.144 --> 00:10:56.345
  • MARRIAGE IS TO WORK ON WHOYOU ARE IN THE CONTEXT OF IT.
  • 00:10:56.412 --> 00:10:58.948
  • YOU ARE IN THE CONTEXT OF IT.AND WHEN YOU'RE PREPARED
  • 00:10:59.014 --> 00:11:00.783
  • AND WHEN YOU'RE PREPAREDFOR THAT, THAT IS AMAZING.
  • 00:11:00.850 --> 00:11:02.518
  • FOR THAT, THAT IS AMAZING.AND WHEN YOU'RE DATING,
  • 00:11:02.585 --> 00:11:03.719
  • AND WHEN YOU'RE DATING,THE MOST AMAZING THING IS,
  • 00:11:03.786 --> 00:11:05.988
  • THE MOST AMAZING THING IS,THE HEALTHIER YOU GET, THE
  • 00:11:06.055 --> 00:11:07.323
  • THE HEALTHIER YOU GET, THEMORE YOU DRAW HEALTHY
  • 00:11:07.389 --> 00:11:09.992
  • MORE YOU DRAW HEALTHYPEOPLE TOWARD YOU.
  • 00:11:10.059 --> 00:11:11.594
  • PEOPLE TOWARD YOU.THEY ARE DRAWN TO YOU AND
  • 00:11:11.660 --> 00:11:12.995
  • THEY ARE DRAWN TO YOU ANDATTRACTED TO YOU.
  • 00:11:13.062 --> 00:11:14.196
  • ATTRACTED TO YOU.SO, IT WORKS-- THAT IS HOW
  • 00:11:14.263 --> 00:11:16.699
  • SO, IT WORKS-- THAT IS HOWGOD'S KINGDOM WORKS.
  • 00:11:16.766 --> 00:11:17.700
  • GOD'S KINGDOM WORKS.IT IS A PRETTY AMAZING
  • 00:11:17.767 --> 00:11:19.368
  • IT IS A PRETTY AMAZINGTHING.
  • 00:11:19.435 --> 00:11:20.970
  • THING.AND IT DOESN'T HURT IF YOU
  • 00:11:21.036 --> 00:11:23.038
  • AND IT DOESN'T HURT IF YOUARE DATING AND THINKING,
  • 00:11:23.105 --> 00:11:24.507
  • ARE DATING AND THINKING,WILL LOVE EVER FIND ME?
  • 00:11:24.573 --> 00:11:25.274
  • WILL LOVE EVER FIND ME?IT DOESN'T HURT TO THINK
  • 00:11:25.341 --> 00:11:27.843
  • IT DOESN'T HURT TO THINKABOUT WHAT WE WOULD LIKE
  • 00:11:27.910 --> 00:11:29.478
  • ABOUT WHAT WE WOULD LIKETO CALL YOUR MUST HAVES
  • 00:11:29.545 --> 00:11:31.914
  • TO CALL YOUR MUST HAVESAND YOUR CAN'T STANDS IN A
  • 00:11:31.981 --> 00:11:33.349
  • AND YOUR CAN'T STANDS IN APARTNER.
  • 00:11:33.415 --> 00:11:33.916
  • PARTNER.WHEN YOU KNOW WHAT'S ON
  • 00:11:33.983 --> 00:11:34.884
  • WHEN YOU KNOW WHAT'S ONTHAT LIST, WHEN YOU MEET
  • 00:11:34.950 --> 00:11:36.652
  • THAT LIST, WHEN YOU MEETSOMEBODY, IT DRAWS YOU TO
  • 00:11:36.719 --> 00:11:38.487
  • SOMEBODY, IT DRAWS YOU TOTHEM FOR REASONS OTHER
  • 00:11:38.554 --> 00:11:40.322
  • THEM FOR REASONS OTHERTHAN, DO I LOVE THEIR
  • 00:11:40.389 --> 00:11:41.557
  • THAN, DO I LOVE THEIRBEAUTIFUL EYES?
  • 00:11:41.624 --> 00:11:42.358
  • BEAUTIFUL EYES?RIGHT?
  • 00:11:42.424 --> 00:11:43.459
  • RIGHT?OR WHATEVER IT IS.
  • 00:11:43.526 --> 00:11:44.860
  • OR WHATEVER IT IS.THAT SMILE.
  • 00:11:44.927 --> 00:11:46.262
  • THAT SMILE.AND IT IS HUGE TO KNOW.
  • 00:11:46.328 --> 00:11:48.864
  • AND IT IS HUGE TO KNOW.IT BECOMES WHAT DO YOU DO
  • 00:11:48.931 --> 00:11:50.132
  • IT BECOMES WHAT DO YOU DOWITH THE HOLY SPIRIT
  • 00:11:50.199 --> 00:11:51.433
  • WITH THE HOLY SPIRITBEFORE YOU EVEN HAVE THAT
  • 00:11:51.500 --> 00:11:53.002
  • BEFORE YOU EVEN HAVE THATFIRST HELLO THAT PREPARES
  • 00:11:53.068 --> 00:11:54.570
  • FIRST HELLO THAT PREPARESYOU TO EITHER BE OPEN OR
  • 00:11:54.637 --> 00:11:56.005
  • YOU TO EITHER BE OPEN ORTO NOT PURSUE THAT PERSON?
  • 00:11:56.071 --> 00:11:58.340
  • TO NOT PURSUE THAT PERSON?AND SO, I JUST ENCOURAGE YOU,
  • 00:11:58.407 --> 00:12:00.242
  • AND SO, I JUST ENCOURAGE YOU,IT MAY FEEL DISCOURAGING
  • 00:12:00.309 --> 00:12:03.012
  • IT MAY FEEL DISCOURAGINGTO DREAM ABOUT THAT
  • 00:12:03.078 --> 00:12:03.646
  • TO DREAM ABOUT THATPERSON, BUT DO IT.
  • 00:12:03.712 --> 00:12:05.714
  • PERSON, BUT DO IT.DREAM ABOUT, WHAT ARE MY
  • 00:12:05.781 --> 00:12:07.917
  • DREAM ABOUT, WHAT ARE MYMUST HAVES SO YOU DON'T
  • 00:12:07.983 --> 00:12:09.552
  • MUST HAVES SO YOU DON'TGET YOURSELF WALKING DOWN THE
  • 00:12:09.618 --> 00:12:10.653
  • GET YOURSELF WALKING DOWN THEWRONG PATHWAY WITH SOMEONE
  • 00:12:10.719 --> 00:12:12.087
  • WRONG PATHWAY WITH SOMEONEYOU REALLY WOULDN'T CHOOSE
  • 00:12:12.154 --> 00:12:16.892
  • YOU REALLY WOULDN'T CHOOSEAND THEN USE THIS TIME TO
  • 00:12:16.959 --> 00:12:17.459
  • AND THEN USE THIS TIME TOWORK ON WHO YOU ARE.
  • 00:12:17.526 --> 00:12:18.627
  • WORK ON WHO YOU ARE.AND EVEN AFTER WE'RE
  • 00:12:18.694 --> 00:12:19.094
  • AND EVEN AFTER WE'REMARRIED, WE CONTINUE TO
  • 00:12:19.161 --> 00:12:19.829
  • MARRIED, WE CONTINUE TOGROW.
  • 00:12:19.895 --> 00:12:20.796
  • GROW.WE DON'T EVER GET TO A
  • 00:12:20.863 --> 00:12:21.831
  • WE DON'T EVER GET TO APLACE WHERE WE THINK,
  • 00:12:21.897 --> 00:12:22.765
  • PLACE WHERE WE THINK,OKAY, I'M WHOLE, I'VE
  • 00:12:22.832 --> 00:12:23.499
  • OKAY, I'M WHOLE, I'VEARRIVED.
  • 00:12:23.566 --> 00:12:24.466
  • ARRIVED.I'M GOING TO CROSS THAT
  • 00:12:24.533 --> 00:12:25.768
  • I'M GOING TO CROSS THATOFF MY LIST NOW, BECAUSE
  • 00:12:25.835 --> 00:12:26.902
  • OFF MY LIST NOW, BECAUSEI'M HEALTHY.
  • 00:12:26.969 --> 00:12:28.037
  • I'M HEALTHY.WE'RE ALWAYS GROWING AND
  • 00:12:28.103 --> 00:12:29.205
  • WE'RE ALWAYS GROWING ANDEVERY TINY BIT, EVERY BABY
  • 00:12:29.271 --> 00:12:33.242
  • EVERY TINY BIT, EVERY BABYSTEP WE TAKE TOWARDS
  • 00:12:33.309 --> 00:12:34.643
  • STEP WE TAKE TOWARDSHEALTH IS CONTAGIOUS.
  • 00:12:34.710 --> 00:12:36.345
  • HEALTH IS CONTAGIOUS.IT DRAWS THAT OUT OF OUR
  • 00:12:36.412 --> 00:12:38.314
  • IT DRAWS THAT OUT OF OURSPOUSE TOO AND ELEVATES
  • 00:12:38.380 --> 00:12:39.748
  • SPOUSE TOO AND ELEVATESOUR RELATIONSHIP.
  • 00:12:39.815 --> 00:12:41.350
  • OUR RELATIONSHIP.THERE'S SO MUCH POWER IN
  • 00:12:41.417 --> 00:12:42.351
  • THERE'S SO MUCH POWER INJUST LISTENING TO THE
  • 00:12:42.418 --> 00:12:47.289
  • JUST LISTENING TO THEWISDOM OF THOSE WHO LOVE US.
  • 00:12:47.356 --> 00:12:47.890
  • WISDOM OF THOSE WHO LOVE US.THERE'S SO MUCH POWER IN,
  • 00:12:47.957 --> 00:12:48.791
  • THERE'S SO MUCH POWER IN,LIKE YOU SAID, SETTING THE
  • 00:12:48.858 --> 00:12:50.826
  • LIKE YOU SAID, SETTING THETONE SO IT'S NOT BASED
  • 00:12:50.893 --> 00:12:52.428
  • TONE SO IT'S NOT BASEDJUST ON PASSION, BUT IT'S
  • 00:12:52.494 --> 00:12:53.395
  • JUST ON PASSION, BUT IT'SBASED ON THAT BEAUTIFUL
  • 00:12:53.462 --> 00:12:55.097
  • BASED ON THAT BEAUTIFULFRIENDSHIP.
  • 00:12:55.164 --> 00:12:57.499
  • FRIENDSHIP.BECAUSE THAT IS WHAT HAS
  • 00:12:57.566 --> 00:12:58.000
  • BECAUSE THAT IS WHAT HASSTAY POWER THROUGH ALL THE
  • 00:12:58.067 --> 00:13:00.102
  • STAY POWER THROUGH ALL THESEASONS OF LIFE.
  • 00:13:00.169 --> 00:13:01.871
  • SEASONS OF LIFE.- CECE: SO TRUE.
  • 00:13:01.937 --> 00:13:02.872
  • - CECE: SO TRUE.- LAURIE: SO MY
  • 00:13:02.938 --> 00:13:04.106
  • - LAURIE: SO MYGRANDMOTHER, I WAS SITTING
  • 00:13:04.173 --> 00:13:05.307
  • GRANDMOTHER, I WAS SITTINGWITH MY GRANDMOTHER IN THE
  • 00:13:05.374 --> 00:13:06.876
  • WITH MY GRANDMOTHER IN THELIVING ROOM OF HER HOUSE.
  • 00:13:06.942 --> 00:13:09.245
  • LIVING ROOM OF HER HOUSE.THEY ALWAYS WATCHED
  • 00:13:09.311 --> 00:13:10.479
  • THEY ALWAYS WATCHED"PRAISE THE LORD" EVERY NIGHT.
  • 00:13:10.546 --> 00:13:11.947
  • "PRAISE THE LORD" EVERY NIGHT.WE ARE TALKING 38 YEARS AGO.
  • 00:13:12.014 --> 00:13:16.485
  • WE ARE TALKING 38 YEARS AGO.I'M SITTING IN THERE AND
  • 00:13:16.552 --> 00:13:17.419
  • I'M SITTING IN THERE ANDSHE SAYS, HONEY, SHE SAID,
  • 00:13:17.486 --> 00:13:19.421
  • SHE SAYS, HONEY, SHE SAID,I'M PRAYING-- AND SHE
  • 00:13:19.488 --> 00:13:20.656
  • I'M PRAYING-- AND SHEPOINTS TO PAUL AND JAN ON
  • 00:13:20.723 --> 00:13:21.390
  • POINTS TO PAUL AND JAN ONTHE TV.
  • 00:13:21.457 --> 00:13:21.891
  • THE TV.SHE SAID, I'M PRAYING THAT
  • 00:13:21.957 --> 00:13:23.025
  • SHE SAID, I'M PRAYING THATYOU MEET THEIR SON.
  • 00:13:23.092 --> 00:13:23.993
  • YOU MEET THEIR SON.THIS WAS MY GRANDMOTHER.
  • 00:13:24.059 --> 00:13:25.661
  • THIS WAS MY GRANDMOTHER.I JUST TURNED AND LOOKED
  • 00:13:25.728 --> 00:13:27.062
  • I JUST TURNED AND LOOKEDAT HER I THOUGHT, WELL,
  • 00:13:27.129 --> 00:13:27.796
  • AT HER I THOUGHT, WELL,THAT WAS KIND OF THE
  • 00:13:27.863 --> 00:13:29.331
  • THAT WAS KIND OF THEFUNNIEST THING YOU'VE EVER
  • 00:13:29.398 --> 00:13:29.899
  • FUNNIEST THING YOU'VE EVERSAID.
  • 00:13:29.965 --> 00:13:30.466
  • SAID.A FEW MONTHS LATER I FIND
  • 00:13:30.532 --> 00:13:31.700
  • A FEW MONTHS LATER I FINDMYSELF ON AN ELEVATOR WITH
  • 00:13:31.767 --> 00:13:34.069
  • MYSELF ON AN ELEVATOR WITHJAN CROUCH IN TULSA,
  • 00:13:34.136 --> 00:13:35.871
  • JAN CROUCH IN TULSA,OKLAHOMA AND ONE OF THE
  • 00:13:35.938 --> 00:13:37.573
  • OKLAHOMA AND ONE OF THEFIRST THINGS SHE SAID TO
  • 00:13:37.640 --> 00:13:40.109
  • FIRST THINGS SHE SAID TOME, SHE LOOKED AT ME SHE
  • 00:13:40.175 --> 00:13:41.176
  • ME, SHE LOOKED AT ME SHESAID, DO YOU MIND IF I ASK
  • 00:13:41.243 --> 00:13:43.345
  • SAID, DO YOU MIND IF I ASKHOW OLD YOU ARE?
  • 00:13:43.412 --> 00:13:43.979
  • HOW OLD YOU ARE?SHE SAID, I'D LIKE FOR YOU
  • 00:13:44.046 --> 00:13:44.914
  • SHE SAID, I'D LIKE FOR YOUTO MEET MY SON.
  • 00:13:44.980 --> 00:13:46.215
  • TO MEET MY SON.AND ALL OF A SUDDEN THAT
  • 00:13:46.282 --> 00:13:48.817
  • AND ALL OF A SUDDEN THATCLICKED INSIDE OF ME.
  • 00:13:48.884 --> 00:13:52.054
  • CLICKED INSIDE OF ME.AND IT'S A LONG STORY BUT
  • 00:13:52.121 --> 00:13:53.322
  • AND IT'S A LONG STORY BUTIT'S A GREAT STORY.
  • 00:13:53.389 --> 00:13:54.790
  • IT'S A GREAT STORY.AND MATT AND I MET THAT
  • 00:13:54.857 --> 00:13:57.826
  • AND MATT AND I MET THATNIGHT THROUGH HIS MOM.
  • 00:13:57.893 --> 00:14:00.496
  • NIGHT THROUGH HIS MOM.I'LL ALWAYS-- I'VE ALWAYS
  • 00:14:00.562 --> 00:14:03.332
  • I'LL ALWAYS-- I'VE ALWAYSLEANED INTO THAT.
  • 00:14:03.399 --> 00:14:05.200
  • LEANED INTO THAT.I'VE ALWAYS LEANED INTO
  • 00:14:05.267 --> 00:14:07.369
  • I'VE ALWAYS LEANED INTOTHE FACT THAT MY
  • 00:14:07.436 --> 00:14:08.404
  • THE FACT THAT MYGRANDMOTHER WAS PRAYING.
  • 00:14:08.470 --> 00:14:09.805
  • GRANDMOTHER WAS PRAYING.AND I CAN RECALL THAT AND
  • 00:14:09.872 --> 00:14:13.342
  • AND I CAN RECALL THAT ANDTHEN WE BROKE UP FOR A
  • 00:14:13.409 --> 00:14:15.744
  • THEN WE BROKE UP FOR AYEAR IN THE MIDDLE OF ALL
  • 00:14:15.811 --> 00:14:17.613
  • YEAR IN THE MIDDLE OF ALLTHAT, WHICH A LOT OF
  • 00:14:17.680 --> 00:14:18.580
  • THAT, WHICH A LOT OFPEOPLE DON'T KNOW.
  • 00:14:18.647 --> 00:14:19.682
  • PEOPLE DON'T KNOW.WE BROKE UP.
  • 00:14:19.748 --> 00:14:20.282
  • WE BROKE UP.AND I REMET HIM ONCE AGAIN
  • 00:14:20.349 --> 00:14:23.852
  • AND I REMET HIM ONCE AGAINBACK AT MY GRANDMOTHER'S
  • 00:14:23.919 --> 00:14:25.054
  • BACK AT MY GRANDMOTHER'SCHURCH IN PHOENIX, ARIZONA.
  • 00:14:25.120 --> 00:14:27.890
  • CHURCH IN PHOENIX, ARIZONA.AND THAT-- WHEN WE SAID
  • 00:14:27.957 --> 00:14:28.624
  • AND THAT-- WHEN WE SAIDHELLO AGAIN, IT WAS LIKE
  • 00:14:28.691 --> 00:14:31.126
  • HELLO AGAIN, IT WAS LIKETHE LORD JUST FIXED EVERYTHING,
  • 00:14:31.193 --> 00:14:33.062
  • THE LORD JUST FIXED EVERYTHING,AND WE WERE MARRIED A FEW
  • 00:14:33.128 --> 00:14:34.797
  • AND WE WERE MARRIED A FEWMONTHS LATER.
  • 00:14:34.863 --> 00:14:36.231
  • MONTHS LATER.BUT, I WISH EVERY PERSON
  • 00:14:36.298 --> 00:14:36.865
  • BUT, I WISH EVERY PERSONHAD THAT TO LEAN ON
  • 00:14:36.932 --> 00:14:39.168
  • HAD THAT TO LEAN ONBECAUSE ALL THROUGH OUR
  • 00:14:39.234 --> 00:14:41.337
  • BECAUSE ALL THROUGH OURMARRIAGE WE HAVE NEVER
  • 00:14:41.403 --> 00:14:42.671
  • MARRIAGE WE HAVE NEVERSAID THE BIG D-WORD EVER.
  • 00:14:42.738 --> 00:14:46.475
  • SAID THE BIG D-WORD EVER.THAT HAS NEVER BEEN A
  • 00:14:46.542 --> 00:14:47.376
  • THAT HAS NEVER BEEN ACHOICE.
  • 00:14:47.443 --> 00:14:47.943
  • CHOICE.THAT HAS NEVER BEEN IN OUR
  • 00:14:48.010 --> 00:14:48.510
  • THAT HAS NEVER BEEN IN OURVOCABULARY.
  • 00:14:48.577 --> 00:14:49.244
  • VOCABULARY.BUT IT'S THOSE MOMENTS OF
  • 00:14:49.311 --> 00:14:51.747
  • BUT IT'S THOSE MOMENTS OFTIMES-- AND I THINK AS
  • 00:14:51.814 --> 00:14:52.715
  • TIMES-- AND I THINK ASBELIEVERS AND FOLLOWERS OF
  • 00:14:52.781 --> 00:14:55.284
  • BELIEVERS AND FOLLOWERS OFCHRIST AND HAVING THE HOLY
  • 00:14:55.351 --> 00:14:56.618
  • CHRIST AND HAVING THE HOLYSPIRIT IN US, I THINK WE
  • 00:14:56.685 --> 00:14:57.553
  • SPIRIT IN US, I THINK WECAN TAP IN TO THAT KNOWING
  • 00:14:57.619 --> 00:14:59.188
  • CAN TAP IN TO THAT KNOWINGTHAT NOBODY'S GOING
  • 00:14:59.254 --> 00:15:00.589
  • THAT NOBODY'S GOINGANYWHERE.
  • 00:15:00.656 --> 00:15:02.191
  • ANYWHERE.AND IF YOU'RE LEAVING,
  • 00:15:02.257 --> 00:15:03.058
  • AND IF YOU'RE LEAVING,I'M GOING WITH YOU.
  • 00:15:03.125 --> 00:15:04.693
  • I'M GOING WITH YOU.AND WE KNOW YOU'LL ALWAYS
  • 00:15:04.760 --> 00:15:10.666
  • AND WE KNOW YOU'LL ALWAYSBE TOGETHER.
  • 00:15:10.733 --> 00:15:12.801
  • BE TOGETHER.SO YOU MIGHT AS WELL
  • 00:15:12.868 --> 00:15:13.235
  • SO YOU MIGHT AS WELLGET HAPPY.
  • 00:15:13.302 --> 00:15:14.703
  • GET HAPPY.IF YOU ARE IN A LITTLE
  • 00:15:14.770 --> 00:15:16.205
  • IF YOU ARE IN A LITTLEFIGHT OR A BIG FIGHT, YOU
  • 00:15:16.271 --> 00:15:17.172
  • FIGHT OR A BIG FIGHT, YOUMIGHT AS WELL GET THROUGH
  • 00:15:17.239 --> 00:15:18.674
  • MIGHT AS WELL GET THROUGHIT QUICKLY, BECAUSE YOU
  • 00:15:18.741 --> 00:15:20.309
  • IT QUICKLY, BECAUSE YOUKNOW THAT NOBODY'S GOING
  • 00:15:20.376 --> 00:15:21.977
  • KNOW THAT NOBODY'S GOINGANYWHERE AND THAT GOD WILL
  • 00:15:22.044 --> 00:15:23.946
  • ANYWHERE AND THAT GOD WILLHELP US THROUGH IT.
  • 00:15:24.013 --> 00:15:24.980
  • HELP US THROUGH IT.- JAMIE: I LOVE THE STORY
  • 00:15:25.047 --> 00:15:25.948
  • - JAMIE: I LOVE THE STORYOF YOU AND MATT SO MUCH.
  • 00:15:26.015 --> 00:15:27.316
  • OF YOU AND MATT SO MUCH.IT IS LIKE ONE OF MY
  • 00:15:27.383 --> 00:15:29.618
  • IT IS LIKE ONE OF MYFAVORITE THINGS WHEN YOU
  • 00:15:29.685 --> 00:15:31.553
  • FAVORITE THINGS WHEN YOUTOLD ME THAT FOREVER AGO
  • 00:15:31.620 --> 00:15:32.454
  • TOLD ME THAT FOREVER AGOWHEN WE SAT DOWN AND YOU
  • 00:15:32.521 --> 00:15:32.988
  • WHEN WE SAT DOWN AND YOUTOLD ME THAT.
  • 00:15:33.055 --> 00:15:33.889
  • TOLD ME THAT.I THINK THAT IS SO TRUE.
  • 00:15:33.956 --> 00:15:34.757
  • I THINK THAT IS SO TRUE.WE HAVE TO HAVE THIS
  • 00:15:34.823 --> 00:15:36.592
  • WE HAVE TO HAVE THISCOMMITMENT TO EACH OTHER.
  • 00:15:36.658 --> 00:15:37.826
  • COMMITMENT TO EACH OTHER.AND, LESLEY, YOU TALKED
  • 00:15:37.893 --> 00:15:39.595
  • AND, LESLEY, YOU TALKEDABOUT HOW WE HAVE TO GET
  • 00:15:39.661 --> 00:15:42.431
  • ABOUT HOW WE HAVE TO GETOURSELF RIGHT.
  • 00:15:42.498 --> 00:15:42.965
  • OURSELF RIGHT.WE HAVE TO WORK ON THAT.
  • 00:15:43.032 --> 00:15:43.665
  • WE HAVE TO WORK ON THAT.I DON'T KNOW ABOUT YOU
  • 00:15:43.732 --> 00:15:44.433
  • I DON'T KNOW ABOUT YOUGUYS, BUT 2020 HAS BEEN A
  • 00:15:44.500 --> 00:15:46.502
  • GUYS, BUT 2020 HAS BEEN AHARD YEAR FOR SO MANY
  • 00:15:46.568 --> 00:15:49.138
  • HARD YEAR FOR SO MANYPEOPLE ON SO MANY
  • 00:15:49.204 --> 00:15:51.340
  • PEOPLE ON SO MANYDIFFERENT LEVELS AND IN
  • 00:15:51.407 --> 00:15:52.141
  • DIFFERENT LEVELS AND INFACT AARON AND I SAY IT IS
  • 00:15:52.207 --> 00:15:53.642
  • FACT AARON AND I SAY IT ISONE OF OUR HARDEST YEARS
  • 00:15:53.709 --> 00:15:54.576
  • ONE OF OUR HARDEST YEARSOF MARRIAGE EVER.
  • 00:15:54.643 --> 00:15:55.310
  • OF MARRIAGE EVER.BECAUSE SO MUCH WAS TAKEN
  • 00:15:55.377 --> 00:15:56.879
  • BECAUSE SO MUCH WAS TAKENFROM PEOPLE AND
  • 00:15:56.945 --> 00:15:58.013
  • FROM PEOPLE ANDCIRCUMSTANCES AND ALL OF A
  • 00:15:58.080 --> 00:16:00.049
  • CIRCUMSTANCES AND ALL OF ASUDDEN I FOUND MYSELF
  • 00:16:00.115 --> 00:16:00.916
  • SUDDEN I FOUND MYSELFDEALING WITH COPING
  • 00:16:00.983 --> 00:16:02.451
  • DEALING WITH COPINGMECHANISMS THAT HAD WORKED
  • 00:16:02.518 --> 00:16:03.719
  • MECHANISMS THAT HAD WORKEDFOREVER AND NOW ALL OF A
  • 00:16:03.786 --> 00:16:05.587
  • FOREVER AND NOW ALL OF ASUDDEN THEY WEREN'T WORKING.
  • 00:16:05.654 --> 00:16:06.388
  • SUDDEN THEY WEREN'T WORKING.SO, I HAVE BEEN IN MY
  • 00:16:06.455 --> 00:16:08.090
  • SO, I HAVE BEEN IN MYCOUNSELOR'S OFFICE-- WELL,
  • 00:16:08.157 --> 00:16:09.458
  • COUNSELOR'S OFFICE-- WELL,ON ZOOM, BECAUSE I'M NOT
  • 00:16:09.525 --> 00:16:11.660
  • ON ZOOM, BECAUSE I'M NOTGOING INTO HER OFFICE.
  • 00:16:11.727 --> 00:16:12.327
  • GOING INTO HER OFFICE.BUT I HAVE MET WITH HER
  • 00:16:12.394 --> 00:16:13.095
  • BUT I HAVE MET WITH HERMORE OFTEN THIS YEAR.
  • 00:16:13.162 --> 00:16:14.196
  • MORE OFTEN THIS YEAR.IT'S BEEN ABOUT MARRIAGE
  • 00:16:14.263 --> 00:16:14.830
  • IT'S BEEN ABOUT MARRIAGESTUFF.
  • 00:16:14.897 --> 00:16:15.497
  • STUFF.I'VE HAD TO TALK THROUGH,
  • 00:16:15.564 --> 00:16:17.066
  • I'VE HAD TO TALK THROUGH,LIKE, WHY AM I FEELING
  • 00:16:17.132 --> 00:16:18.801
  • LIKE, WHY AM I FEELINGTHESE THINGS I HAVEN'T
  • 00:16:18.867 --> 00:16:19.835
  • THESE THINGS I HAVEN'TFELT IN SO LONG?
  • 00:16:19.902 --> 00:16:20.302
  • FELT IN SO LONG?I'M HAVING TO WORK ON
  • 00:16:20.369 --> 00:16:21.370
  • I'M HAVING TO WORK ONMYSELF.
  • 00:16:21.437 --> 00:16:21.970
  • MYSELF.WE WERE ACTUALLY-- MY
  • 00:16:22.037 --> 00:16:23.672
  • WE WERE ACTUALLY-- MYHUSBAND AND I HAVE A BOOK
  • 00:16:23.739 --> 00:16:26.041
  • HUSBAND AND I HAVE A BOOKABOUT MARRIAGE.
  • 00:16:26.108 --> 00:16:26.508
  • ABOUT MARRIAGE.WE WERE FINISHING IT UP
  • 00:16:26.575 --> 00:16:27.676
  • WE WERE FINISHING IT UPDURING COVID AND WE WERE
  • 00:16:27.743 --> 00:16:28.877
  • DURING COVID AND WE WEREFIGHTING.
  • 00:16:28.944 --> 00:16:29.545
  • FIGHTING.AND IS IT WAS SO HARD AND
  • 00:16:29.611 --> 00:16:31.613
  • AND IS IT WAS SO HARD ANDSO DIFFICULT, WE HAD TO
  • 00:16:31.680 --> 00:16:32.381
  • SO DIFFICULT, WE HAD TOREMEMBER, THIS IS GOOD AND
  • 00:16:32.448 --> 00:16:33.715
  • REMEMBER, THIS IS GOOD ANDTHIS COMMITMENT IS GOOD.
  • 00:16:33.782 --> 00:16:34.983
  • THIS COMMITMENT IS GOOD.BUT I WANT TO SHARE THIS
  • 00:16:35.050 --> 00:16:36.251
  • BUT I WANT TO SHARE THISONE THING WITH YOU GUYS.
  • 00:16:36.318 --> 00:16:37.086
  • ONE THING WITH YOU GUYS.IT TALKS ABOUT LOVE AND
  • 00:16:37.152 --> 00:16:38.720
  • IT TALKS ABOUT LOVE ANDCOMMITMENT.
  • 00:16:38.787 --> 00:16:39.221
  • COMMITMENT.MY HUSBAND AND I WENT TO
  • 00:16:39.288 --> 00:16:40.622
  • MY HUSBAND AND I WENT TOSOME REALLY GREAT FRIENDS
  • 00:16:40.689 --> 00:16:41.657
  • SOME REALLY GREAT FRIENDSOF OURS, THEY HAD A
  • 00:16:41.723 --> 00:16:42.658
  • OF OURS, THEY HAD ACEREMONY A COUPLE YEARS AGO.
  • 00:16:42.724 --> 00:16:44.026
  • CEREMONY A COUPLE YEARS AGO.THEY WERE DOING A
  • 00:16:44.093 --> 00:16:45.194
  • THEY WERE DOING ARECOMMITMENT CEREMONY FOR
  • 00:16:45.260 --> 00:16:46.695
  • RECOMMITMENT CEREMONY FORTHEIR 30TH ANNIVERSARY.
  • 00:16:46.762 --> 00:16:47.963
  • THEIR 30TH ANNIVERSARY.AND AS MY HUSBAND WAS
  • 00:16:48.030 --> 00:16:49.198
  • AND AS MY HUSBAND WASOFFICIATING IT,
  • 00:16:49.264 --> 00:16:50.099
  • OFFICIATING IT,THE HUSBAND, WHOSE NAME IS
  • 00:16:50.165 --> 00:16:52.634
  • THE HUSBAND, WHOSE NAME ISDEVON, LOOKED AT HIS WIFE
  • 00:16:52.701 --> 00:16:53.735
  • DEVON, LOOKED AT HIS WIFEKATHERINE AND HE SAID,
  • 00:16:53.802 --> 00:16:54.670
  • KATHERINE AND HE SAID,I RECOMMIT TO YOU THROUGH
  • 00:16:54.736 --> 00:16:56.305
  • I RECOMMIT TO YOU THROUGHTHE LENS OF EXPERIENCE.
  • 00:16:56.371 --> 00:16:58.273
  • THE LENS OF EXPERIENCE.I NEARLY ABOUT FELL OUT OF
  • 00:16:58.340 --> 00:16:59.908
  • I NEARLY ABOUT FELL OUT OFMY CHAIR.
  • 00:16:59.975 --> 00:17:00.709
  • MY CHAIR.BECAUSE I THOUGHT, THAT IS
  • 00:17:00.776 --> 00:17:01.877
  • BECAUSE I THOUGHT, THAT ISWHAT LOVE IS.
  • 00:17:01.944 --> 00:17:03.579
  • WHAT LOVE IS.IT IS A COMMITMENT.
  • 00:17:03.645 --> 00:17:05.080
  • IT IS A COMMITMENT.EVERY SINGLE DAY KNOWING I
  • 00:17:05.147 --> 00:17:06.248
  • EVERY SINGLE DAY KNOWING IKNOW WHAT WE HAVE BEEN
  • 00:17:06.315 --> 00:17:08.016
  • KNOW WHAT WE HAVE BEENTHROUGH.
  • 00:17:08.083 --> 00:17:08.617
  • THROUGH.I KNOW HOW HARD IT'S BEEN
  • 00:17:08.684 --> 00:17:10.085
  • I KNOW HOW HARD IT'S BEENAND, DEAR LORD, I KNOW HOW
  • 00:17:10.152 --> 00:17:11.353
  • AND, DEAR LORD, I KNOW HOWHARD IT MIGHT GET BUT I'M
  • 00:17:11.420 --> 00:17:12.988
  • HARD IT MIGHT GET BUT I'MGOING TO BE COMMITTED TO
  • 00:17:13.055 --> 00:17:13.589
  • GOING TO BE COMMITTED TOYOU EVEN WITH ALL THE
  • 00:17:13.655 --> 00:17:16.291
  • YOU EVEN WITH ALL THEEXPERIENCE I HAVE.
  • 00:17:16.358 --> 00:17:16.825
  • EXPERIENCE I HAVE.AND THAT'S WHAT I THINK
  • 00:17:16.892 --> 00:17:17.359
  • AND THAT'S WHAT I THINKABOUT WHEN I THINK ABOUT
  • 00:17:17.426 --> 00:17:18.494
  • ABOUT WHEN I THINK ABOUTHOW LOVE IS THIS CHOICE
  • 00:17:18.560 --> 00:17:19.328
  • HOW LOVE IS THIS CHOICEAND THIS ACTION.
  • 00:17:19.394 --> 00:17:19.828
  • AND THIS ACTION.AND WE'RE HAVING TO
  • 00:17:19.895 --> 00:17:21.763
  • AND WE'RE HAVING TOCONTINUALLY DECIDE, EVERY
  • 00:17:21.830 --> 00:17:23.065
  • CONTINUALLY DECIDE, EVERYSINGLE DAY, GUESS WHAT?
  • 00:17:23.132 --> 00:17:24.032
  • SINGLE DAY, GUESS WHAT?I'M GONNA LOVE YOU MORE
  • 00:17:24.099 --> 00:17:25.267
  • I'M GONNA LOVE YOU MORETODAY THAN I DID YESTERDAY.
  • 00:17:25.334 --> 00:17:27.069
  • TODAY THAN I DID YESTERDAY.IT MIGHT BE HARDER TODAY--
  • 00:17:27.136 --> 00:17:27.636
  • IT MIGHT BE HARDER TODAY--- LAURIE: I STILL CHOOSE YOU.
  • 00:17:27.703 --> 00:17:28.837
  • - LAURIE: I STILL CHOOSE YOU.- JAMIE: I STILL CHOOSE
  • 00:17:28.904 --> 00:17:29.404
  • - JAMIE: I STILL CHOOSEYOU, YES.
  • 00:17:29.471 --> 00:17:32.007
  • YOU, YES.GOD IS FAITHFUL.
  • 00:17:32.074 --> 00:17:33.275
  • GOD IS FAITHFUL.GOD IS GOOD AND HE
  • 00:17:33.342 --> 00:17:34.476
  • GOD IS GOOD AND HEDESIGNED THIS.
  • 00:17:34.543 --> 00:17:35.611
  • DESIGNED THIS.SO HOW DO WE LEARN TO LOVE
  • 00:17:35.677 --> 00:17:37.146
  • SO HOW DO WE LEARN TO LOVEEACH OTHER MORE IN THE
  • 00:17:37.212 --> 00:17:37.779
  • EACH OTHER MORE IN THEMIDST OF DIFFICULTNESS?
  • 00:17:37.846 --> 00:17:39.014
  • MIDST OF DIFFICULTNESS?IT WAS HARD BUT IT WAS GOOD.
  • 00:17:39.081 --> 00:17:41.650
  • IT WAS HARD BUT IT WAS GOOD.- HOSANNA: WE HAVE SAID
  • 00:17:41.717 --> 00:17:42.184
  • - HOSANNA: WE HAVE SAIDSOME THINGS THAT OUR
  • 00:17:42.251 --> 00:17:43.852
  • SOME THINGS THAT OURMARRIAGES WERE BASED ON.
  • 00:17:43.919 --> 00:17:45.053
  • MARRIAGES WERE BASED ON.CECE, YOU TALKED ABOUT
  • 00:17:45.120 --> 00:17:46.121
  • CECE, YOU TALKED ABOUTHAVING WISE COUNSEL AROUND
  • 00:17:46.188 --> 00:17:46.688
  • HAVING WISE COUNSEL AROUNDYOU AT THE BEGINNING AND,
  • 00:17:46.755 --> 00:17:48.924
  • YOU AT THE BEGINNING AND,JAMIE, YOU TALKED ABOUT
  • 00:17:48.991 --> 00:17:49.858
  • JAMIE, YOU TALKED ABOUTHAVING A FRIENDSHIP AT THE
  • 00:17:49.925 --> 00:17:50.826
  • HAVING A FRIENDSHIP AT THEBEGINNING AND I TALKED
  • 00:17:50.893 --> 00:17:51.827
  • BEGINNING AND I TALKEDABOUT HAVING RESPECT AT
  • 00:17:51.894 --> 00:17:53.228
  • ABOUT HAVING RESPECT ATTHE BEGINNING, BUT ISN'T
  • 00:17:53.295 --> 00:17:54.897
  • THE BEGINNING, BUT ISN'TIT RIGHT THAT THIS IS
  • 00:17:54.963 --> 00:17:56.265
  • IT RIGHT THAT THIS ISSOMETHING EVEN THOUGH THIS
  • 00:17:56.331 --> 00:17:57.132
  • SOMETHING EVEN THOUGH THISMIGHT HAVE BEEN THE
  • 00:17:57.199 --> 00:17:57.933
  • MIGHT HAVE BEEN THEFOUNDATION, IT IS
  • 00:17:58.000 --> 00:17:58.867
  • FOUNDATION, IT ISSOMETHING YOU STILL HAVE
  • 00:17:58.934 --> 00:17:59.401
  • SOMETHING YOU STILL HAVETO FIGHT FOR.
  • 00:17:59.468 --> 00:18:00.402
  • TO FIGHT FOR.IT IS STILL SOMETHING YOU
  • 00:18:00.469 --> 00:18:01.570
  • IT IS STILL SOMETHING YOUHAVE TO WORK FOR.
  • 00:18:01.637 --> 00:18:02.137
  • HAVE TO WORK FOR.JAMIE IS TALKING ABOUT
  • 00:18:02.204 --> 00:18:03.872
  • JAMIE IS TALKING ABOUTWHEN HER AND HER HUSBAND
  • 00:18:03.939 --> 00:18:04.406
  • WHEN HER AND HER HUSBANDWROTE THEIR NEW BOOK
  • 00:18:04.473 --> 00:18:05.407
  • WROTE THEIR NEW BOOK"COMPLEMENT," HOW THEY HAD
  • 00:18:05.474 --> 00:18:06.575
  • "COMPLEMENT," HOW THEY HADTO FIGHT FOR THEIR
  • 00:18:06.642 --> 00:18:07.376
  • TO FIGHT FOR THEIRMARRIAGE THROUGH IT.
  • 00:18:07.442 --> 00:18:08.177
  • MARRIAGE THROUGH IT.THEY HAD TO FIGHT FOR
  • 00:18:08.243 --> 00:18:08.677
  • THEY HAD TO FIGHT FORTHEIR FRIENDSHIP THROUGH IT.
  • 00:18:08.744 --> 00:18:09.878
  • THEIR FRIENDSHIP THROUGH IT.CECE, DO YOU FEEL LIKE
  • 00:18:09.945 --> 00:18:11.246
  • CECE, DO YOU FEEL LIKEYOU'VE HAD TO FIGHT TO
  • 00:18:11.313 --> 00:18:11.780
  • YOU'VE HAD TO FIGHT TOSTILL BE CONTINUOUSLY
  • 00:18:11.847 --> 00:18:13.081
  • STILL BE CONTINUOUSLYAROUND WISE COUNSEL
  • 00:18:13.148 --> 00:18:14.550
  • AROUND WISE COUNSELTHROUGHOUT YOUR MARRIAGE?
  • 00:18:14.616 --> 00:18:15.584
  • THROUGHOUT YOUR MARRIAGE?I'M FEELING LIKE, THESE
  • 00:18:15.651 --> 00:18:17.152
  • I'M FEELING LIKE, THESETHINGS MIGHT HAVE BEEN
  • 00:18:17.219 --> 00:18:18.453
  • THINGS MIGHT HAVE BEENFOUNDATIONAL AND AWESOME,
  • 00:18:18.520 --> 00:18:19.054
  • FOUNDATIONAL AND AWESOME,BUT THEY DIDN'T JUST COME
  • 00:18:19.121 --> 00:18:20.022
  • BUT THEY DIDN'T JUST COMEON AUTO PILOT THROUGHOUT
  • 00:18:20.088 --> 00:18:21.290
  • ON AUTO PILOT THROUGHOUTTHE YEARS OF OUR MARRIAGE,
  • 00:18:21.356 --> 00:18:21.857
  • THE YEARS OF OUR MARRIAGE,RIGHT?
  • 00:18:21.924 --> 00:18:22.958
  • RIGHT?DO YOU FEEL THAT?
  • 00:18:23.025 --> 00:18:24.126
  • DO YOU FEEL THAT?- CECE: YOU ARE RIGHT.
  • 00:18:24.193 --> 00:18:24.927
  • - CECE: YOU ARE RIGHT.YES, DEFINITELY.
  • 00:18:24.993 --> 00:18:25.961
  • YES, DEFINITELY.YOU HAVE TO FIGHT FOR IT.
  • 00:18:26.028 --> 00:18:26.495
  • YOU HAVE TO FIGHT FOR IT.YOU HAVE TO CHOOSE IT
  • 00:18:26.562 --> 00:18:27.329
  • YOU HAVE TO CHOOSE ITEVERY DAY.
  • 00:18:27.396 --> 00:18:29.097
  • EVERY DAY.ONE OF THE THINGS WHEN
  • 00:18:29.164 --> 00:18:30.432
  • ONE OF THE THINGS WHENJAMIE WAS TALKING SHE WAS
  • 00:18:30.499 --> 00:18:31.500
  • JAMIE WAS TALKING SHE WASTALKING WITH CONVICTION
  • 00:18:31.567 --> 00:18:33.035
  • TALKING WITH CONVICTIONAND BOLDNESS.
  • 00:18:33.101 --> 00:18:34.236
  • AND BOLDNESS.AND I THINK A LOT OF TIMES
  • 00:18:34.303 --> 00:18:37.439
  • AND I THINK A LOT OF TIMESPEOPLE WHO ARE MARRIED OR
  • 00:18:37.506 --> 00:18:38.006
  • PEOPLE WHO ARE MARRIED ORPEOPLE WHO ARE DATING,
  • 00:18:38.073 --> 00:18:38.840
  • PEOPLE WHO ARE DATING,THEY GET AFRAID.
  • 00:18:38.907 --> 00:18:40.142
  • THEY GET AFRAID.AND THE REASON WE CAN
  • 00:18:40.209 --> 00:18:41.643
  • AND THE REASON WE CANSTAND IN BOLDNESS AND BE
  • 00:18:41.710 --> 00:18:44.613
  • STAND IN BOLDNESS AND BECONFIDENT AND SAY, YOU
  • 00:18:44.680 --> 00:18:45.948
  • CONFIDENT AND SAY, YOUKNOW WHAT?
  • 00:18:46.014 --> 00:18:46.648
  • KNOW WHAT?WE'RE GONNA MAKE IT.
  • 00:18:46.715 --> 00:18:48.684
  • WE'RE GONNA MAKE IT.WE'RE GONNA HAVE A GREAT
  • 00:18:48.750 --> 00:18:49.218
  • WE'RE GONNA HAVE A GREATMARRIAGE.
  • 00:18:49.284 --> 00:18:51.019
  • MARRIAGE.OUR MARRIAGE MATTERS TO GOD.
  • 00:18:51.086 --> 00:18:52.321
  • OUR MARRIAGE MATTERS TO GOD.GOD CREATED OUR MARRIAGE
  • 00:18:52.387 --> 00:18:52.888
  • GOD CREATED OUR MARRIAGETO BE SUCCESSFUL.
  • 00:18:52.955 --> 00:18:54.623
  • TO BE SUCCESSFUL.THE REASON WHY WE CAN DO
  • 00:18:54.690 --> 00:18:55.157
  • THE REASON WHY WE CAN DOTHAT IS BECAUSE OF THE
  • 00:18:55.224 --> 00:18:56.158
  • THAT IS BECAUSE OF THEHOLY SPIRIT.
  • 00:18:56.225 --> 00:18:56.658
  • HOLY SPIRIT.IS BECAUSE OF THE GOD WE
  • 00:18:56.725 --> 00:18:58.527
  • IS BECAUSE OF THE GOD WESERVE.
  • 00:18:58.594 --> 00:18:59.995
  • SERVE.MARRIAGE WAS HIS IDEA.
  • 00:19:00.062 --> 00:19:00.495
  • MARRIAGE WAS HIS IDEA.HE CREATED MARRIAGE SO WE
  • 00:19:00.562 --> 00:19:02.464
  • HE CREATED MARRIAGE SO WECOULD SUCCEED AT IT.
  • 00:19:02.531 --> 00:19:03.932
  • COULD SUCCEED AT IT.HE DIDN'T CREATE IT SO WE
  • 00:19:03.999 --> 00:19:04.766
  • HE DIDN'T CREATE IT SO WECAN FAIL.
  • 00:19:04.833 --> 00:19:06.501
  • CAN FAIL.BUT IT IS SOMETHING HE IS
  • 00:19:06.568 --> 00:19:09.871
  • BUT IT IS SOMETHING HE ISTHERE WILLING TO DO AND TO
  • 00:19:09.938 --> 00:19:12.708
  • THERE WILLING TO DO AND TOMAKE HAPPEN, BUT HE
  • 00:19:12.774 --> 00:19:13.208
  • MAKE HAPPEN, BUT HEDOESN'T DO OUR PART.
  • 00:19:13.275 --> 00:19:15.811
  • DOESN'T DO OUR PART.WE HAVE TO DO OUR PART.
  • 00:19:15.877 --> 00:19:17.379
  • WE HAVE TO DO OUR PART.SO, HOSANNA, YES, I HAVE TO
  • 00:19:17.446 --> 00:19:18.547
  • SO, HOSANNA, YES, I HAVE TOFIGHT FOR IT DAILY.
  • 00:19:18.614 --> 00:19:19.514
  • FIGHT FOR IT DAILY.I HAVE TO DECLARE IT.
  • 00:19:19.581 --> 00:19:23.418
  • I HAVE TO DECLARE IT.WE HAVE TO BIND THE ENEMY.
  • 00:19:23.485 --> 00:19:24.553
  • WE HAVE TO BIND THE ENEMY.THE ENEMY HAS AN ATTACK.
  • 00:19:24.620 --> 00:19:25.821
  • THE ENEMY HAS AN ATTACK.HE HAS RELEASED AN ATTACK
  • 00:19:25.887 --> 00:19:27.289
  • HE HAS RELEASED AN ATTACKOVER MARRIAGES, WE ALL
  • 00:19:27.356 --> 00:19:28.056
  • OVER MARRIAGES, WE ALLKNOW THAT.
  • 00:19:28.123 --> 00:19:28.757
  • KNOW THAT.AND SO, UNDERSTANDING HE
  • 00:19:28.824 --> 00:19:31.560
  • AND SO, UNDERSTANDING HEHATES IT BECAUSE MARRIAGE
  • 00:19:31.627 --> 00:19:33.462
  • HATES IT BECAUSE MARRIAGEREFLECTS GOD'S GLORY.
  • 00:19:33.528 --> 00:19:34.896
  • REFLECTS GOD'S GLORY.IT IS NOT EVEN ABOUT YOU
  • 00:19:34.963 --> 00:19:36.565
  • IT IS NOT EVEN ABOUT YOUAND WHAT YOU FEEL,
  • 00:19:36.632 --> 00:19:38.634
  • AND WHAT YOU FEEL,SOMETIMES WE MAKE MARRIAGE
  • 00:19:38.700 --> 00:19:40.269
  • SOMETIMES WE MAKE MARRIAGESO SHALLOW.
  • 00:19:40.335 --> 00:19:41.336
  • SO SHALLOW.IT'S LIKE NO, YOUR
  • 00:19:41.403 --> 00:19:44.373
  • IT'S LIKE NO, YOURMARRIAGE MATTERS TO GOD
  • 00:19:44.439 --> 00:19:45.507
  • MARRIAGE MATTERS TO GODAND THE ENEMY DOES NOT
  • 00:19:45.574 --> 00:19:46.642
  • AND THE ENEMY DOES NOTWANT YOU-- JAMIE, HE
  • 00:19:46.708 --> 00:19:47.376
  • WANT YOU-- JAMIE, HEDIDN'T WANT YOU TO WRITE
  • 00:19:47.442 --> 00:19:48.644
  • DIDN'T WANT YOU TO WRITETHAT BOOK.
  • 00:19:48.710 --> 00:19:49.144
  • THAT BOOK.DR. LESLIE, HE DOESN'T
  • 00:19:49.211 --> 00:19:51.113
  • DR. LESLIE, HE DOESN'TWANT YOU DOING WHAT ARE
  • 00:19:51.179 --> 00:19:52.314
  • WANT YOU DOING WHAT AREYOU DOING WITH YOUR
  • 00:19:52.381 --> 00:19:52.848
  • YOU DOING WITH YOURHUSBAND.
  • 00:19:52.914 --> 00:19:53.482
  • HUSBAND.WHY?
  • 00:19:53.548 --> 00:19:53.982
  • WHY?BECAUSE THE BOND OF
  • 00:19:54.049 --> 00:19:55.984
  • BECAUSE THE BOND OFMARRIAGE IS SO BEAUTIFUL,
  • 00:19:56.051 --> 00:19:56.618
  • MARRIAGE IS SO BEAUTIFUL,IT'S SO POWERFUL, IT'S
  • 00:19:56.685 --> 00:19:57.753
  • IT'S SO POWERFUL, IT'SSUCH AN INCREDIBLE
  • 00:19:57.819 --> 00:19:58.520
  • SUCH AN INCREDIBLEMINISTRY.
  • 00:19:58.587 --> 00:20:00.188
  • MINISTRY.AND YOU DON'T HAVE TO BE
  • 00:20:00.255 --> 00:20:01.256
  • AND YOU DON'T HAVE TO BEON STAGE.
  • 00:20:01.323 --> 00:20:01.823
  • ON STAGE.IT IS A MINISTRY LIKE
  • 00:20:01.890 --> 00:20:02.858
  • IT IS A MINISTRY LIKELAURIE WAS SAYING.
  • 00:20:02.924 --> 00:20:03.959
  • LAURIE WAS SAYING.WITH YOUR CHILDREN,
  • 00:20:04.026 --> 00:20:05.260
  • WITH YOUR CHILDREN,EVERYTHING BEGINS WITH
  • 00:20:05.327 --> 00:20:07.562
  • EVERYTHING BEGINS WITHMARRIAGE.
  • 00:20:07.629 --> 00:20:09.031
  • MARRIAGE.NONE OF US WOULD BE HERE
  • 00:20:09.097 --> 00:20:10.732
  • NONE OF US WOULD BE HEREIF IT WAS NOT A
  • 00:20:10.799 --> 00:20:12.234
  • IF IT WAS NOT ARELATIONSHIP BETWEEN A MAN
  • 00:20:12.301 --> 00:20:14.503
  • RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN A MANAND A WOMAN.
  • 00:20:14.569 --> 00:20:14.970
  • AND A WOMAN.SO IT'S WORTH FIGHTING FOR.
  • 00:20:15.037 --> 00:20:17.506
  • SO IT'S WORTH FIGHTING FOR.YES, YOU HAVE TO FIGHT,
  • 00:20:17.572 --> 00:20:18.607
  • YES, YOU HAVE TO FIGHT,BUT ALL OF HEAVEN IS ON
  • 00:20:18.674 --> 00:20:20.442
  • BUT ALL OF HEAVEN IS ONYOUR SIDE WHEN YOU CHOOSE
  • 00:20:20.509 --> 00:20:21.710
  • YOUR SIDE WHEN YOU CHOOSETO LOVE GOD'S WAY.
  • 00:20:21.777 --> 00:20:24.012
  • TO LOVE GOD'S WAY.- JAMIE: TALKING ABOUT
  • 00:20:24.079 --> 00:20:24.880
  • - JAMIE: TALKING ABOUTTHAT, CECE, FIGHTING FOR
  • 00:20:24.946 --> 00:20:27.015
  • THAT, CECE, FIGHTING FORYOUR MARRIAGE, I THINK ONE
  • 00:20:27.082 --> 00:20:27.783
  • YOUR MARRIAGE, I THINK ONEOF THE THINGS THAT REALLY
  • 00:20:27.849 --> 00:20:29.518
  • OF THE THINGS THAT REALLYBECAME CLEAR FOR US THIS
  • 00:20:29.584 --> 00:20:30.352
  • BECAME CLEAR FOR US THISYEAR WHEN MARRIAGE BECAME
  • 00:20:30.419 --> 00:20:32.020
  • YEAR WHEN MARRIAGE BECAMEDIFFICULT, WE HAD TO WORK
  • 00:20:32.087 --> 00:20:32.688
  • DIFFICULT, WE HAD TO WORKHARDER AT IT.
  • 00:20:32.754 --> 00:20:34.323
  • HARDER AT IT.WE HAD TO INVEST MORE INTO
  • 00:20:34.389 --> 00:20:34.990
  • WE HAD TO INVEST MORE INTOIT, WE HAD TO REALLY SAY
  • 00:20:35.057 --> 00:20:36.625
  • IT, WE HAD TO REALLY SAYTO EACH OTHER, HEY, WE'RE
  • 00:20:36.692 --> 00:20:37.559
  • TO EACH OTHER, HEY, WE'REON THE SAME TEAM.
  • 00:20:37.626 --> 00:20:38.794
  • ON THE SAME TEAM.WE'RE NOT FIGHTING AGAINST
  • 00:20:38.860 --> 00:20:40.662
  • WE'RE NOT FIGHTING AGAINSTEACH OTHER.
  • 00:20:40.729 --> 00:20:42.164
  • EACH OTHER.WE'RE ON THE SAME TEAM.
  • 00:20:42.230 --> 00:20:43.832
  • WE'RE ON THE SAME TEAM.WE ARE TEAM IVEY.
  • 00:20:43.899 --> 00:20:46.268
  • WE ARE TEAM IVEY.THAT IS WHAT WE DO.
  • 00:20:46.335 --> 00:20:47.135
  • THAT IS WHAT WE DO.WE'RE FIGHTING FOR OUR
  • 00:20:47.202 --> 00:20:47.636
  • WE'RE FIGHTING FOR OURMARRIAGE, WE'RE FIGHTING
  • 00:20:47.703 --> 00:20:48.337
  • MARRIAGE, WE'RE FIGHTINGFOR OUR CHILDREN.
  • 00:20:48.403 --> 00:20:48.804
  • FOR OUR CHILDREN.WE'RE FIGHTING FOR OUR
  • 00:20:48.870 --> 00:20:49.604
  • WE'RE FIGHTING FOR OURCOMMUNITY AND WE'RE DOING
  • 00:20:49.671 --> 00:20:50.172
  • COMMUNITY AND WE'RE DOINGIT TOGETHER.
  • 00:20:50.238 --> 00:20:50.739
  • IT TOGETHER.FOR US, I WON'T SPEAK FOR
  • 00:20:50.806 --> 00:20:52.674
  • FOR US, I WON'T SPEAK FOREVERYONE, WHEN WE HAVE
  • 00:20:52.741 --> 00:20:54.042
  • EVERYONE, WHEN WE HAVEMOMENTS WHERE IT GETS A
  • 00:20:54.109 --> 00:20:55.310
  • MOMENTS WHERE IT GETS ALITTLE MORE FRICTION IS
  • 00:20:55.377 --> 00:20:57.045
  • LITTLE MORE FRICTION ISWHEN LITERALLY I THINK I'M
  • 00:20:57.112 --> 00:20:58.847
  • WHEN LITERALLY I THINK I'MON MY OWN TEAM AND I HAVE
  • 00:20:58.914 --> 00:20:59.648
  • ON MY OWN TEAM AND I HAVETO FIGHT FOR MYSELF.
  • 00:20:59.715 --> 00:21:00.816
  • TO FIGHT FOR MYSELF.BECAUSE I GOT TO DO WHAT I
  • 00:21:00.882 --> 00:21:02.184
  • BECAUSE I GOT TO DO WHAT INEED TO DO, INSTEAD OF
  • 00:21:02.250 --> 00:21:04.820
  • NEED TO DO, INSTEAD OFREALIZING WE'RE IN THIS
  • 00:21:04.886 --> 00:21:05.387
  • REALIZING WE'RE IN THISTOGETHER.
  • 00:21:05.454 --> 00:21:05.854
  • TOGETHER.THIS IS TEAM IVEY.
  • 00:21:05.921 --> 00:21:06.655
  • THIS IS TEAM IVEY.AND IF WE'RE GONNA
  • 00:21:06.722 --> 00:21:07.189
  • AND IF WE'RE GONNASUCCEED, WE HAVE TO BE FOR
  • 00:21:07.255 --> 00:21:08.857
  • SUCCEED, WE HAVE TO BE FOREACH OTHER WHICH MEANS WE
  • 00:21:08.924 --> 00:21:09.658
  • EACH OTHER WHICH MEANS WEHAVE TO MAKE HARD CHOICES
  • 00:21:09.725 --> 00:21:10.992
  • HAVE TO MAKE HARD CHOICESEVERY DAY THAT MIGHT FEEL
  • 00:21:11.059 --> 00:21:13.328
  • EVERY DAY THAT MIGHT FEELDIFFICULT, THAT MIGHT FEEL
  • 00:21:13.395 --> 00:21:14.229
  • DIFFICULT, THAT MIGHT FEELLIKE, THIS ISN'T FAIR, BUT
  • 00:21:14.296 --> 00:21:15.897
  • LIKE, THIS ISN'T FAIR, BUTTHE END GAME IS ALWAYS THE
  • 00:21:15.964 --> 00:21:16.732
  • THE END GAME IS ALWAYS THESAME.
  • 00:21:16.798 --> 00:21:18.567
  • SAME.THIS TEAM IVEY, WE'RE
  • 00:21:18.633 --> 00:21:20.001
  • THIS TEAM IVEY, WE'RETOGETHER AND WE'RE
  • 00:21:20.068 --> 00:21:20.902
  • TOGETHER AND WE'REFIGHTING FORT SAME THING.
  • 00:21:20.969 --> 00:21:21.870
  • FIGHTING FORT SAME THING.WE'RE FIGHTING ON THE
  • 00:21:21.937 --> 00:21:22.738
  • WE'RE FIGHTING ON THESAME TEAM.
  • 00:21:22.804 --> 00:21:24.406
  • SAME TEAM.- LESLIE: I LOVE THAT.
  • 00:21:24.473 --> 00:21:25.474
  • - LESLIE: I LOVE THAT.THERE IS THIS GREAT SENSE
  • 00:21:25.540 --> 00:21:28.143
  • THERE IS THIS GREAT SENSEOF PRIDE THAT COMES WITH
  • 00:21:28.210 --> 00:21:30.112
  • OF PRIDE THAT COMES WITHBEING A PART OF A TEAM AND
  • 00:21:30.178 --> 00:21:31.913
  • BEING A PART OF A TEAM ANDTAKING ONE FOR THE TEAM
  • 00:21:31.980 --> 00:21:33.515
  • TAKING ONE FOR THE TEAMAND DOING THE HARD THING
  • 00:21:33.582 --> 00:21:35.050
  • AND DOING THE HARD THINGFOR THE TEAM.
  • 00:21:35.117 --> 00:21:35.584
  • FOR THE TEAM.AND WHEN YOU CAN OWN THAT
  • 00:21:35.650 --> 00:21:38.019
  • AND WHEN YOU CAN OWN THATTOGETHER AS A COUPLE AND
  • 00:21:38.086 --> 00:21:39.020
  • TOGETHER AS A COUPLE ANDYOU STOP SEEING WE ARE
  • 00:21:39.087 --> 00:21:40.822
  • YOU STOP SEEING WE ARECOMPETING EACH OTHER BUT
  • 00:21:40.889 --> 00:21:41.890
  • COMPETING EACH OTHER BUTWE ARE ON THE SAME TEAM
  • 00:21:41.957 --> 00:21:42.991
  • WE ARE ON THE SAME TEAMCOMPETING AGAINST ALL THE
  • 00:21:43.058 --> 00:21:44.126
  • COMPETING AGAINST ALL THETHINGS THAT LIFE IS
  • 00:21:44.192 --> 00:21:45.427
  • THINGS THAT LIFE ISTHROWING AT US, THEN YOU
  • 00:21:45.494 --> 00:21:46.928
  • THROWING AT US, THEN YOUKIND OF GET THAT JOY THAT,
  • 00:21:46.995 --> 00:21:48.196
  • KIND OF GET THAT JOY THAT,THERE IS A BOND, AN
  • 00:21:48.263 --> 00:21:51.233
  • THERE IS A BOND, ANINTIMACY YOU GET WHEN
  • 00:21:51.299 --> 00:21:53.368
  • INTIMACY YOU GET WHENYOU'RE ON THE TEAM THAT'S
  • 00:21:53.435 --> 00:21:54.236
  • YOU'RE ON THE TEAM THAT'SPRETTY COOL.
  • 00:21:54.302 --> 00:21:56.471
  • PRETTY COOL.- HOSANNA: I LOVE THE
  • 00:21:56.538 --> 00:21:56.938
  • - HOSANNA: I LOVE THEIDEA THAT EVEN IF YOU ARE
  • 00:21:57.005 --> 00:21:58.673
  • IDEA THAT EVEN IF YOU ARESOMEONE WHO IS NOT ON A
  • 00:21:58.740 --> 00:22:01.209
  • SOMEONE WHO IS NOT ON ATEAM OR YOU ARE NOT
  • 00:22:01.276 --> 00:22:01.810
  • TEAM OR YOU ARE NOTMARRIED OR YOU ARE DATING
  • 00:22:01.877 --> 00:22:02.344
  • MARRIED OR YOU ARE DATINGAND EVEN IN YOUR
  • 00:22:02.411 --> 00:22:03.578
  • AND EVEN IN YOURFRIENDSHIPS YOU CAN
  • 00:22:03.645 --> 00:22:04.112
  • FRIENDSHIPS YOU CANPRACTICE FIGHTING FOR
  • 00:22:04.179 --> 00:22:04.613
  • PRACTICE FIGHTING FOROTHER PEOPLE.
  • 00:22:04.679 --> 00:22:05.313
  • OTHER PEOPLE.THAT IS SOMETHING YOU
  • 00:22:05.380 --> 00:22:06.481
  • THAT IS SOMETHING YOUDON'T JUST LEARN WHEN YOU
  • 00:22:06.548 --> 00:22:07.048
  • DON'T JUST LEARN WHEN YOUARE MARRIED,
  • 00:22:07.115 --> 00:22:07.883
  • ARE MARRIED,IN YOUR RELATIONSHIPS,
  • 00:22:07.949 --> 00:22:08.717
  • IN YOUR RELATIONSHIPS,IN YOUR FAMILY.
  • 00:22:08.784 --> 00:22:09.284
  • IN YOUR FAMILY.FIGHTING FOR THOSE IN YOUR
  • 00:22:09.351 --> 00:22:10.919
  • FIGHTING FOR THOSE IN YOURFAMILY, FIGHTING FOR YOUR
  • 00:22:10.986 --> 00:22:11.686
  • FAMILY, FIGHTING FOR YOURFRIENDS, THE LOYALTY AND
  • 00:22:11.753 --> 00:22:12.888
  • FRIENDS, THE LOYALTY ANDTHE IDEA OF-- I'M NOT
  • 00:22:12.954 --> 00:22:14.589
  • THE IDEA OF-- I'M NOTGONNA FIGHT AGAINST YOU
  • 00:22:14.656 --> 00:22:15.791
  • GONNA FIGHT AGAINST YOUI'M GOING TO FIGHT FOR YOU.
  • 00:22:15.857 --> 00:22:16.725
  • I'M GOING TO FIGHT FOR YOU.I'M GONNA SPEAK LIFE TO YOU.
  • 00:22:16.792 --> 00:22:18.927
  • I'M GONNA SPEAK LIFE TO YOU.I'M GONNA BRING HOPE TO YOU.
  • 00:22:18.994 --> 00:22:20.128
  • I'M GONNA BRING HOPE TO YOU.I'M GONNA FIGHT FOR YOU.
  • 00:22:20.195 --> 00:22:20.862
  • I'M GONNA FIGHT FOR YOU.I THINK THAT IS A
  • 00:22:20.929 --> 00:22:21.363
  • I THINK THAT IS ABEAUTIFUL THING THAT EVEN
  • 00:22:21.430 --> 00:22:22.531
  • BEAUTIFUL THING THAT EVENIF YOU ARE NOT MARRIED
  • 00:22:22.597 --> 00:22:23.432
  • IF YOU ARE NOT MARRIEDYET, THAT IS SOMETHING WE
  • 00:22:23.498 --> 00:22:25.100
  • YET, THAT IS SOMETHING WECAN PRACTICE IN OUR OTHER
  • 00:22:25.167 --> 00:22:26.101
  • CAN PRACTICE IN OUR OTHERRELATIONSHIPS, DON'T YOU
  • 00:22:26.168 --> 00:22:26.601
  • RELATIONSHIPS, DON'T YOUTHINK?
  • 00:22:26.668 --> 00:22:27.436
  • THINK?- CECE: AMEN.
  • 00:22:27.502 --> 00:22:28.270
  • - CECE: AMEN.FOR SURE.
  • 00:22:28.336 --> 00:22:31.339
  • FOR SURE.AND I WILL ADD, UNLIKE
  • 00:22:31.406 --> 00:22:34.409
  • AND I WILL ADD, UNLIKELAURIE, DIVORCE DID COME
  • 00:22:34.476 --> 00:22:36.011
  • LAURIE, DIVORCE DID COMEUP, CAME OUT OF MY MOUTH
  • 00:22:36.077 --> 00:22:37.379
  • UP, CAME OUT OF MY MOUTHDURING MY 36 YEARS
  • 00:22:37.446 --> 00:22:38.413
  • DURING MY 36 YEARS(LAUGHTER)
  • 00:22:38.480 --> 00:22:39.548
  • (LAUGHTER)BUT I REMEMBER-- I
  • 00:22:39.614 --> 00:22:41.450
  • BUT I REMEMBER-- IREMEMBER THAT THE HOLY
  • 00:22:41.516 --> 00:22:42.784
  • REMEMBER THAT THE HOLYSPIRIT, THOSE TIMES WHEN
  • 00:22:42.851 --> 00:22:45.587
  • SPIRIT, THOSE TIMES WHENYOU DON'T WANT TO HEAR THE
  • 00:22:45.654 --> 00:22:46.755
  • YOU DON'T WANT TO HEAR THEHOLY SPIRIT, HE WAS
  • 00:22:46.822 --> 00:22:48.590
  • HOLY SPIRIT, HE WASTALKING SO LOUD AND CLEAR.
  • 00:22:48.657 --> 00:22:49.524
  • TALKING SO LOUD AND CLEAR.BASICALLY HE SAID OKAY,
  • 00:22:49.591 --> 00:22:50.592
  • BASICALLY HE SAID OKAY,CECE, WHAT IS MOST
  • 00:22:50.659 --> 00:22:52.561
  • CECE, WHAT IS MOSTIMPORTANT, MY WILL OR YOUR
  • 00:22:52.627 --> 00:22:53.829
  • IMPORTANT, MY WILL OR YOURFEELINGS?
  • 00:22:53.895 --> 00:22:56.498
  • FEELINGS?IT WAS LIKE, MAN, OKAY.
  • 00:22:56.565 --> 00:22:58.600
  • IT WAS LIKE, MAN, OKAY.WHY DID YOU HAVE TO COME
  • 00:22:58.667 --> 00:22:59.968
  • WHY DID YOU HAVE TO COMEAT ME LIKE THAT
  • 00:23:00.035 --> 00:23:00.869
  • AT ME LIKE THATHOLY SPIRIT?
  • 00:23:00.936 --> 00:23:05.240
  • HOLY SPIRIT?I WAS LIKE, LORD, YOU KNOW
  • 00:23:05.307 --> 00:23:06.541
  • I WAS LIKE, LORD, YOU KNOWIT IS YOUR WILL.
  • 00:23:06.608 --> 00:23:07.008
  • IT IS YOUR WILL.YOUR WILL IS MORE
  • 00:23:07.075 --> 00:23:07.943
  • YOUR WILL IS MOREIMPORTANT THAN MY FEELINGS.
  • 00:23:08.009 --> 00:23:09.211
  • IMPORTANT THAN MY FEELINGS.AND IT'S BECAUSE OF THAT
  • 00:23:09.277 --> 00:23:09.778
  • AND IT'S BECAUSE OF THATCHOICE THAT MY KIDS WERE
  • 00:23:09.845 --> 00:23:11.713
  • CHOICE THAT MY KIDS WEREABLE TO GROW UP IN THE
  • 00:23:11.780 --> 00:23:13.782
  • ABLE TO GROW UP IN THEHOUSE WITH BOTH OF THEIR
  • 00:23:13.849 --> 00:23:15.116
  • HOUSE WITH BOTH OF THEIRPARENTS.
  • 00:23:15.183 --> 00:23:16.818
  • PARENTS.THE ENEMY WOULD HAVE LOVED
  • 00:23:16.885 --> 00:23:17.385
  • THE ENEMY WOULD HAVE LOVEDFOR ME TO PICK MY FEELINGS
  • 00:23:17.452 --> 00:23:18.453
  • FOR ME TO PICK MY FEELINGSOVER GOD'S WILL.
  • 00:23:18.520 --> 00:23:19.754
  • OVER GOD'S WILL.WE HAVE TO UNDERSTAND THAT
  • 00:23:19.821 --> 00:23:21.690
  • WE HAVE TO UNDERSTAND THATIT'S NOT JUST-- THE ENEMY
  • 00:23:21.756 --> 00:23:22.824
  • IT'S NOT JUST-- THE ENEMYIS ATTACKING YOUR MARRIAGE
  • 00:23:22.891 --> 00:23:24.926
  • IS ATTACKING YOUR MARRIAGESO HE CAN GET YOUR CHILDREN.
  • 00:23:24.993 --> 00:23:26.461
  • SO HE CAN GET YOUR CHILDREN.SO HE CAN GET YOUR
  • 00:23:26.528 --> 00:23:27.596
  • SO HE CAN GET YOURGRANDCHILDREN.
  • 00:23:27.662 --> 00:23:28.530
  • GRANDCHILDREN.SO HE CAN GET YOUR GREAT
  • 00:23:28.597 --> 00:23:30.031
  • SO HE CAN GET YOUR GREATGRANDCHILDREN.
  • 00:23:30.098 --> 00:23:30.632
  • GRANDCHILDREN.GOD IS A GOD OF
  • 00:23:30.699 --> 00:23:32.300
  • GOD IS A GOD OFGENERATIONS.
  • 00:23:32.367 --> 00:23:33.101
  • GENERATIONS.HE IS FAITHFUL TO GENERATIONS.
  • 00:23:33.168 --> 00:23:34.636
  • HE IS FAITHFUL TO GENERATIONS.SO UNDERSTAND THAT WHEN
  • 00:23:34.703 --> 00:23:37.472
  • SO UNDERSTAND THAT WHENYOU TAKE ONE FOR THE TEAM,
  • 00:23:37.539 --> 00:23:39.074
  • YOU TAKE ONE FOR THE TEAM,YOU ARE TAKING ONE FOR THE
  • 00:23:39.140 --> 00:23:40.275
  • YOU ARE TAKING ONE FOR THENEIGHBORHOOD, YOU ARE TAKING
  • 00:23:40.342 --> 00:23:42.277
  • NEIGHBORHOOD, YOU ARE TAKINGONE FOR THE COMMUNITY.
  • 00:23:42.344 --> 00:23:44.779
  • ONE FOR THE COMMUNITY.YOU ARE TAKING ONE FOR SO
  • 00:23:44.846 --> 00:23:45.347
  • YOU ARE TAKING ONE FOR SOMANY PEOPLE.
  • 00:23:45.413 --> 00:23:45.847
  • MANY PEOPLE.SO MANY PEOPLE AND THE
  • 00:23:45.914 --> 00:23:48.617
  • SO MANY PEOPLE AND THEHOLY SPIRIT WANTS TO USE
  • 00:23:48.683 --> 00:23:50.685
  • HOLY SPIRIT WANTS TO USEYOU IN SO MANY WAYS, DON'T
  • 00:23:50.752 --> 00:23:51.419
  • YOU IN SO MANY WAYS, DON'TLET THE ENEMY MAKE YOU
  • 00:23:51.486 --> 00:23:54.189
  • LET THE ENEMY MAKE YOUFEEL THAT YOU ARE GETTING
  • 00:23:54.256 --> 00:23:55.423
  • FEEL THAT YOU ARE GETTINGTHE LESSER PART OF THE
  • 00:23:55.490 --> 00:23:56.892
  • THE LESSER PART OF THEDEAL BECAUSE THAT IS A LIE
  • 00:23:56.958 --> 00:23:58.093
  • DEAL BECAUSE THAT IS A LIEFROM THE ENEMY.
  • 00:23:58.159 --> 00:24:00.662
  • FROM THE ENEMY.YOU ARE A WINNER.
  • 00:24:00.729 --> 00:24:01.496
  • YOU ARE A WINNER.YOU CAN DO THIS.
  • 00:24:01.563 --> 00:24:03.431
  • YOU CAN DO THIS.WHEN YOU ARE COMMITTED TO
  • 00:24:03.498 --> 00:24:05.000
  • WHEN YOU ARE COMMITTED TOLOVE, GOD IS COMMITTED TO
  • 00:24:05.066 --> 00:24:05.567
  • LOVE, GOD IS COMMITTED TOYOU.
  • 00:24:05.634 --> 00:24:06.234
  • YOU.- HOSANNA: I WANT TO ECHO
  • 00:24:06.301 --> 00:24:07.435
  • - HOSANNA: I WANT TO ECHOWHAT CECE JUST SAID BEFORE
  • 00:24:07.502 --> 00:24:09.671
  • WHAT CECE JUST SAID BEFOREWE CLOSE OUT IN PRAYER
  • 00:24:09.738 --> 00:24:10.939
  • WE CLOSE OUT IN PRAYERTHAT WE DON'T WANT THE
  • 00:24:11.006 --> 00:24:11.640
  • THAT WE DON'T WANT THEENEMY TO HAVE ANY VICTORY
  • 00:24:11.706 --> 00:24:12.607
  • ENEMY TO HAVE ANY VICTORYOVER ANY OF OUR
  • 00:24:12.674 --> 00:24:14.075
  • OVER ANY OF OURRELATIONSHIPS, OVER OUR
  • 00:24:14.142 --> 00:24:15.677
  • RELATIONSHIPS, OVER OURMARRIAGES, OVER OUR
  • 00:24:15.744 --> 00:24:17.078
  • MARRIAGES, OVER OURFAMILIES, IN OUR DATING
  • 00:24:17.145 --> 00:24:17.879
  • FAMILIES, IN OUR DATINGRELATIONSHIPS AND IN OUR
  • 00:24:17.946 --> 00:24:18.446
  • RELATIONSHIPS AND IN OURFRIENDSHIPS.
  • 00:24:18.513 --> 00:24:19.915
  • FRIENDSHIPS.WE DON'T WANT HIM TO HAVE
  • 00:24:19.981 --> 00:24:22.083
  • WE DON'T WANT HIM TO HAVEANY VICTORY OVER OUR LIVES
  • 00:24:22.150 --> 00:24:23.685
  • ANY VICTORY OVER OUR LIVESAT ANY PHASE AT ALL.
  • 00:24:23.752 --> 00:24:24.452
  • AT ANY PHASE AT ALL.SO NO MATTER WHAT PHASE
  • 00:24:24.519 --> 00:24:25.153
  • SO NO MATTER WHAT PHASEYOU ARE IN, IF YOU'RE
  • 00:24:25.220 --> 00:24:26.221
  • YOU ARE IN, IF YOU'REWATCHING RIGHT NOW, IF YOU
  • 00:24:26.288 --> 00:24:28.256
  • WATCHING RIGHT NOW, IF YOUARE SOMEONE WHO IS
  • 00:24:28.323 --> 00:24:29.090
  • ARE SOMEONE WHO ISMARRIED, OR IF YOU'RE
  • 00:24:29.157 --> 00:24:30.292
  • MARRIED, OR IF YOU'RESOMEONE WHO IS DATING, IF
  • 00:24:30.358 --> 00:24:30.926
  • SOMEONE WHO IS DATING, IFYOU'RE SOMEONE WHO IS
  • 00:24:30.992 --> 00:24:32.594
  • YOU'RE SOMEONE WHO ISSINGLE RIGHT NOW, IT IS
  • 00:24:32.661 --> 00:24:33.328
  • SINGLE RIGHT NOW, IT ISPOSSIBLE TO BE WHO GOD HAS
  • 00:24:33.395 --> 00:24:34.362
  • POSSIBLE TO BE WHO GOD HASCALLED YOU TO BE BEFORE
  • 00:24:34.429 --> 00:24:35.931
  • CALLED YOU TO BE BEFOREYOU KNOW WHO YOU ARE
  • 00:24:35.997 --> 00:24:37.232
  • YOU KNOW WHO YOU ARECALLED TO BE WITH.
  • 00:24:37.299 --> 00:24:38.133
  • CALLED TO BE WITH.IT'S POSSIBLE TO KNOW WHO
  • 00:24:38.199 --> 00:24:39.167
  • IT'S POSSIBLE TO KNOW WHOYOU HAVE BEEN CREATED TO
  • 00:24:39.234 --> 00:24:41.303
  • YOU HAVE BEEN CREATED TOBE AND CALLED TO BE BEFORE
  • 00:24:41.369 --> 00:24:42.270
  • BE AND CALLED TO BE BEFOREYOU'RE COUPLED UP.
  • 00:24:42.337 --> 00:24:43.538
  • YOU'RE COUPLED UP.AND GOD WANTS TO HAVE A
  • 00:24:43.605 --> 00:24:44.573
  • AND GOD WANTS TO HAVE ADEEPER RELATIONSHIP WITH
  • 00:24:44.639 --> 00:24:45.674
  • DEEPER RELATIONSHIP WITHYOU RIGHT NOW.
  • 00:24:45.740 --> 00:24:46.274
  • YOU RIGHT NOW.WHATEVER SEASON YOU'RE IN
  • 00:24:46.341 --> 00:24:47.475
  • WHATEVER SEASON YOU'RE INAND GOD WANTS TO HEAL YOU
  • 00:24:47.542 --> 00:24:49.210
  • AND GOD WANTS TO HEAL YOUAND MAKE YOU WHOLE NO
  • 00:24:49.277 --> 00:24:50.045
  • AND MAKE YOU WHOLE NOMATTER WHAT SEASON YOU'RE
  • 00:24:50.111 --> 00:24:51.079
  • MATTER WHAT SEASON YOU'REIN AND HE WANTS YOU TO
  • 00:24:51.146 --> 00:24:51.613
  • IN AND HE WANTS YOU TOFIGHT FOR YOUR
  • 00:24:51.680 --> 00:24:52.681
  • FIGHT FOR YOURRELATIONSHIPS AND FORGIVE
  • 00:24:52.747 --> 00:24:53.815
  • RELATIONSHIPS AND FORGIVEAND LOVE EVERYONE NO
  • 00:24:53.882 --> 00:24:55.450
  • AND LOVE EVERYONE NOMATTER WHAT SEASON YOU ARE
  • 00:24:55.517 --> 00:24:56.551
  • MATTER WHAT SEASON YOU AREIN AND ALL OF THAT WILL
  • 00:24:56.618 --> 00:24:58.353
  • IN AND ALL OF THAT WILLCARRY ON WITH YOU INTO
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  • CARRY ON WITH YOU INTOYOUR RELATIONSHIPS, INTO
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  • YOUR RELATIONSHIPS, INTOYOUR MARRIAGE.
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  • AND YOUR RELATIONSHIPSSTRONGER.
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  • AND LORD MAY WE GLORIFYYOU MORE THAN WE GLORIFY
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