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Battle For Marriage

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November 8, 2020
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The Winning Walk is the international teaching ministry of Dr. Ed Young.

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Battle For Marriage

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  • Ed Young: In mythology, there'sa story entitled, "When the
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  • Mouse Ate the Cookie."
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  • A mouse knocked on the door of ahome, a boy looked out and said,
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  • "What do you want?"
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  • And the mouse said, "All I wantis a cookie."
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  • And in this mythological story,the mouse came in, the boy gave
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  • him a cookie and he said, "Doyou have some milk?"
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  • He went and poured him somemilk, he said, "Do you have
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  • a straw?"
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  • He went and got him with strawand the mouse said, "I would
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  • also like to have a napkin," andhe went and got him a napkin.
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  • And as a story in mythologygoes, finally, the mouse had
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  • eaten everything in the houseand had eaten the house itself
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  • and the boy was in the cold andfroze to death.
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  • When we become post-ChristianAmerica and we're about that far
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  • away from it, post-ChristianAmerica will not be enough.
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  • All of a sudden they will haveto be an anti-Christian America
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  • because the mice are everywhereand they're seeking to redefine
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  • every thing in our culture.
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  • If you will think and look atthe major questions we're facing
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  • in the moral realm it all dealswith sexuality and how we handle
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  • this basic drive that's in everyperson, sexuality.
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  • And in the battle of sexuality,we have pulled out the very
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  • front line of that battle andit's the battle for marriage.
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  • Marriage, ladies and gentlemen,marriage is the foundation upon
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  • which all of civilization rests,let me say that again.
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  • Marriage is the basic foundationupon which all
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  • civilization rests.
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  • Genesis 2, verse 22, Eve wascreated from the rib of Adam,
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  • and that little verse says, thatGod took Eve to Adam.
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  • Marriage, first institution,first word, the bottom line, the
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  • foundational rock upon whicheverything else is built.
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  • From marriage comes family,comes life, life worth living.
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  • Now let me go back and reviewmarriage, we've already looked
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  • at Genesis, God says we're tocleave, become one flesh
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  • with no shame, right?
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  • Naked with no shame.
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  • By the way, that naked with noshame, most of us, well, that
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  • means that the nakedness thereisn't just a physical negative,
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  • that's a little bitty thing, thenakedness there
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  • is vulnerability.
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  • When you get married, when I getmarried, we are vulnerable to
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  • the person to whom we'remarried, male or female, and in
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  • marriage you have the besttraining for selfless love
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  • you'll ever get.
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  • Marriage trains us for selflesslove and that's important, it is
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  • in that environment by the waythat we really see all of
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  • our sin.
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  • I can explain away my sin, I canrationalize, I can play the
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  • game, I can be a phony and wecan go through life
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  • semi-hypocritical to people whoknow us, but in marriage we see
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  • ourselves, and those who do notsee themselves and their
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  • shortcomings in marriage, that'swhat it means to be transparent,
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  • to be open.
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  • "Marriage is a mystery," Paulsaid, it is training in selfless
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  • love and it's understanding theproblems, the inequities, the
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  • hypocrisy in your life and mylife, it will be exposed, that's
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  • what it means to be open andnaked with your mate.
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  • Now Jesus talks about marriage,he expounds on the Genesis
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  • passage, look at it in Markchapter number 10, beginning
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  • with verse 6, "From thebeginning of creation God made
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  • them male and female," God gaveus gender.
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  • "For this reason a man shallleave his father and his
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  • mother," God gave us marriage,"And the two shall become one
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  • flesh," God gave us sex.
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  • And says, "So they are no longertwo, but one flesh," God gave us
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  • a new identity.
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  • "What therefore God has joinedtogether, let no man put
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  • asunder," God has given usexclusivity.
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  • This is all involved in thebeautiful, glorious mystery of
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  • marriage, look what God hasgiven us, it is a wonderful
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  • thing and it's a sacred thing,but what happened to so
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  • many marriages?
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  • Sometime it's infidelity, it'sadultery destroys so many
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  • marriages, you say, "What's theleading problem of the
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  • destruction of marriage todaythat leads to that deadly thing
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  • called divorce?"
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  • By the way, divorce is suicide,do you know that?
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  • It's suicide, because when twobecome one flesh, okay, there's
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  • a new person and when that newperson dies through divorce that
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  • is suicide.
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  • Let me say, there are groundsfor divorce, make no mistake
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  • about it, biblical grounds fordivorce, and where there are
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  • grounds for divorce in the Biblethere's always grounds for
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  • remarriage when they're biblicalgrounds.
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  • But let me say that divorcecomes because sometime of money,
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  • sometimes of immorality, let metell you something
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  • about divorce.
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  • We've heard for a long time welldivorces are 50:50 in divorces.
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  • The truth is, today, fewerpeople are getting married.
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  • In 1960, 70.2% of the people whowere of a marriageable age got
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  • married, 1960, 72%+ got married.
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  • Today, and the past five or sixyears, about 51% of those who
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  • are in marriageable age getmarried, isn't that interesting?
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  • Wonder why that is.
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  • So much people are livingtogether and are not married,
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  • they're cohabitating togetherand they're not married.
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  • In fact, more children arebrought up in homes where the
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  • man and the woman are notmarried than in homes where
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  • there is a divorce.
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  • The cohabitation has doubledsince the turn of the century,
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  • doubled since the turn of thecentury, and therefore we look
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  • at divorce, it's no longer 50%.
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  • Divorce from those who aremarried from 2000 following is
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  • about two-thirds remain married,one-third getting a divorce,
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  • isn't that interesting?
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  • And that one-third to get adivorce, we seen in some polls,
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  • well 50% of them are Christians.
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  • But the name Christian, thetitle Christian, and recently I
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  • don't know whether it was PewResearch or Barna who said it,
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  • they said let's look at thatlittle error, how many divorces
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  • take place where the couple'sworship together?
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  • Worship together, not just thegeneral, broad title, "I've been
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  • baptized, I'm a member there."
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  • Oh no, not just in general, howmany divorces take place out of
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  • that one-third that getsdivorced today that they
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  • worshiped together, and this newsurvey said 3%,
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  • did you hear that?
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  • 3%, because if we worshipcorporally on the weekend that
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  • leads us to believe there'sworship privately together,
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  • sometimes the rest of the week.
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  • It is a beautiful word aboutwhat it means to worship God
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  • regularly and faithfully in hishouse and in our homes,
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  • so interesting.
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  • But on the other side of thecoin, there's a bill before the
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  • legislature in Mexico and thereare some in our government now,
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  • who're proposing that ifmarriage is simply a contract,
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  • let's start off with a minimumof two years.
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  • You know, let's write a contractand it'll be a contract of two
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  • years, you could have a fiveyear contract, it could have
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  • provisions for renewal.
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  • If it's simply a civic matter,let's just sign up for a certain
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  • time and see if we want torenew.
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  • Some people think, "Boy, thatwould be a great idea."
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  • So we have a whole new world ofmarriage but marriage is a gift
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  • of God, it is a sacred thing.
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  • And I'll tell you somethingladies and gentlemen, when we
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  • work at it and we grow and wegive the highest priority to the
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  • happiness of our mate and ourmate gives the highest priority
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  • to us, you have a marriage thatsings, that works, that is
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  • alive, that is holy.
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  • Life is sacred, we know that,we're made in the image of God
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  • and the sexual part of life issacred, we've talked about that.
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  • And marriage is the holy partthat God has given us, as a
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  • provision for procreation, aprovision for pleasure and a
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  • symbol of the relationshipbetween the Christian and the
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  • bridegroom, which is the LordJesus Christ.
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  • Powerful, powerful basic entity,but marriage is under attack
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  • today, it has been redefined.
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  • Let me begin by saying, 2013,the all-wise Supreme Court found
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  • in the 14th Amendment somethingthat you have to be a legal
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  • gymnast to figure out, but whenyou can read something and you
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  • can make it mean anything youwant it to mean, in postmodern
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  • understanding they found theprovision for gay marriage,
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  • amazing, amazing, astounding.
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  • And let me say up front, thereis no such thing as gay
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  • marriage, it doesn't exist, gayis not a modifier of marriage.
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  • You see, marriage is a thing, itexists, it has been defined,
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  • it is something.
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  • You know more can say, "Well,I'm gonna make a circle into a
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  • square," try that one out.
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  • A whole new world of geometry,here is a circle but it's now a
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  • square and you say, "Well thisis a new form of marriage," it
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  • is not, it is impossible becausemarriage has been defined.
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  • Let me rush and say once again,as I've already stated, we in
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  • the body of Christ acceptanybody and everybody.
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  • We have adulterers, we havefornicators, we have liars, we
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  • have murderers, we have thosewho are engaged in every kind of
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  • immorality in the body ofChrist, they are here.
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  • All are welcome, we acceptanybody and everybody but
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  • acceptance does not meanaffirmation, and we do not
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  • applaud, we accept, we seek thelove and care and listen to
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  • every one of us, and we are awhole bunch of people of messed
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  • up lives; every single one of ushere, with no exceptions.
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  • But we have acceptance and thenwe see, what kind of acceptance
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  • is it?
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  • There is a social acceptance, weaccept people socially, the
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  • Bible teaches this.
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  • In biblical days, when you sitdown to eat with someone, you
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  • were associating with them,Peter was accused of this, Paul
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  • got in trouble with this, yousit down, there is social
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  • acceptance and there is legalacceptance.
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  • Certainly, legally, we would notsay, "Boy, put this person in
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  • jail," we have legal acceptanceof all people in the body
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  • of Christ.
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  • But then there's intellectualacceptance, that's a different
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  • thing, that's a different thing.
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  • So we look and see we cannotintellectually and biblically,
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  • because of what the Bibleteaches about this lifestyle,
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  • there'll be an accommodationthere but there'll be no
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  • applause and no affirmation,why?
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  • Intellectually, we know what Godhas said, have you noticed
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  • something folks?
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  • Just for a way of illustration,have you ever seen any body
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  • seeking to live inspired by theSpirit, by Biblical principles,
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  • as a single or as a marriedperson, by biblical principals
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  • and their life is all messed up,have you ever heard of that?
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  • No, you never will, God's wayfor marriage and life and
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  • sexuality is a way that really,genuinely, always works, always
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  • functions properly andbeautifully.
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  • So then you have intellectualacceptance, no, social
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  • acceptance, yes, legalacceptance, certainly,
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  • intellectual acceptance, no,because we have principles by
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  • which we go.
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  • For example, let's say that youcame to me and said, your
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  • friend, "I accept you legally,accept you socially," and you
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  • say, "You know, if you put sandin your gas tank, it will really
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  • help your car to run, it will bea super thing."
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  • Now intellectually, I don'tthink this would work,
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  • "No-no-no," I say, "You know,I'm not gonna do that."
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  • "Well, it's a wonderful thing.
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  • I put a little sand in my gastank, my car's running better
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  • than it ever has before."
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  • I'd say, "No, intellectually, Ican't agree with that, I can't
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  • accept that intellectually," andthen you'd say, "Well, you know,
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  • you're welcome to do that,that's your choice, you put sand
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  • in your tank if you want to,that's fine, but I have reason
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  • to think if you keep on puttingsand in the gas tank, you know
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  • what'll happen?
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  • That filter will gradually getclogged, little filter that
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  • protects the rest of the motorand that filter is clogged.
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  • As it's getting clogged your gasper miles will begin to slow
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  • down and your motor will not befunctioning, but when it's
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  • totally clogged, bang, that carwill stop."
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  • This is the way it is we wouldsay to those who are engaging in
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  • a lifestyle that's contrary tothe principles of God, whatever
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  • that lifestyle may be, whateverform of immorality it would be.
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  • You're putting sand in the gastank of your life, immorality in
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  • the gas tank of your life.
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  • It may seem good, it may feelgood, it may look good but
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  • eventually your life will beclogged up and you will not
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  • function as God Almighty hasdesigned you to function.
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  • So this is the way that we haveto live, acceptance but not
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  • affirmation, love and then weseparate the lifestyle from
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  • the life.
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  • In other words, we love thesinner but hate the sin, but in
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  • the LBGT lifestyle, they definethemselves by what they do, and
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  • we would say to anyone in thislifestyle, "You're more than
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  • that, you're you're bigger thanthat.
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  • We love you as a person but wedo not approve your lifestyle,
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  • it's like putting sand in thegas tank, in a period of time it
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  • will destroy your health, it'lldestroy your mentality, it'll
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  • destroy your acceptance andyou'll be in big trouble in this
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  • life and even, of course, withGod."
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  • I would say that to anadulterer, I'd say that to a
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  • liar, I'd say that to anybodyand I would say that we don't
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  • need to be identified by what wedo, God loves us and we're to
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  • love one another as to theperson that we are, and that's
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  • so important we make thatparticular distinction.
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  • Now, it's difficult;
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  • for all of us, we're allsinners and by the
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  • way, these new sins are no worsethan my sins or your sins.
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  • If my sin is sin of anger it maybe just a deadly in God's sight
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  • or more so than the sins of theflesh.
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  • The difference of sexual sins,they take place inside your
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  • body, the Bible says, it isinside kinda, whereas other sins
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  • are out here, that's the problemwith sexual sin whatever form it
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  • may take.
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  • Remember, we've alreadyestablished, let me say it
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  • again, that in marriage there'sfreedom, there is celebration,
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  • and every other kind of sexualrelationship is porneia and
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  • forbidden by God, every otherkind of sexual relationship.
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  • Marriage, celebration, freedom,every other sexual relationship
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  • is porneia, forbidden by God,but let me tell you something.
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  • Don't, in the process of allthis battle in which we're in,
  • 00:19:33.762 --> 00:19:37.733
  • it's a battle for marriage, thegoal is to eliminate marriage
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  • altogether, make no mistakeabout it.
  • 00:19:42.204 --> 00:19:45.841
  • It's like the mouse who ate thecookie, keep on going, keep on
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  • going, til the whole moralclimate is totally changed and
  • 00:19:54.516 --> 00:20:00.022
  • we know longer have aJudeo-Christian country.
  • 00:20:00.055 --> 00:20:03.859
  • We have a country that isgodless, that is nothing but
  • 00:20:03.892 --> 00:20:08.430
  • humanism and another thing, ifit feels good it must be all
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  • right mentality, but that's nothow marriage is meant to be.
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  • This week, a friend I've knownfor a long time from South
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  • Carolina called me and hebrought me up to date.
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  • Man, he's 91 years old, he wasmarried for 65 years, his wife
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  • died a few years back, he wastelling me about all of his
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  • children whom I knew and whothey'd married and their
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  • children and our greatgrandchildren and
  • 00:20:42.230 --> 00:20:44.733
  • great-great grandchildren.
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  • He had almost 40 in that number,and it is beautiful to hear just
  • 00:20:46.101 --> 00:20:50.439
  • almost every one of them arewalking with God in Jesus
  • 00:20:50.472 --> 00:20:53.508
  • Christ, I said, "What a legacyyou have, Russell."
  • 00:20:53.542 --> 00:20:56.478
  • And he told me about his wifeand said, "She died a few years
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  • ago the day after our 65thwedding anniversary."
  • 00:21:03.585 --> 00:21:08.223
  • Said, "She was in the hospitaland said every year we were
  • 00:21:08.256 --> 00:21:10.525
  • married I took her a long stemred rose," he said, "I took 65
  • 00:21:10.559 --> 00:21:17.032
  • long stem red roses in a vase upto her hospital," he said,
  • 00:21:17.065 --> 00:21:20.869
  • "Almost killed me carrying itup."
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  • He said, "I gave it to her andshe smiled, and said, 'You know,
  • 00:21:24.106 --> 00:21:28.710
  • Russell, I'm just ready to gohome,'" he said, "Honey, if
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  • you're ready to go home, gohome."
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  • Next day, she graduated.
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  • That reminded me of a classicstory along the same line, I put
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  • it in my book on the 10Commandments of Marriage and
  • 00:21:48.330 --> 00:21:51.533
  • it's a wonderful story aboutanother couple.
  • 00:21:51.566 --> 00:21:55.170
  • They were friends all the waythrough school and high school,
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  • they became boyfriend andgirlfriend and he wanted to
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  • marry her, and her dad said,"Not until she graduates from
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  • high school."
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  • So she graduated at 10 o'clockin the morning, they got married
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  • at seven o'clock that night, andit was the kinda couple when
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  • you'd see one you'd see theother.
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  • They played together, theylaughed together, they travelled
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  • together, they were in businesstogether in the car business,
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  • and they just did everything,they were inseparable, they were
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  • like the dynamic duo.
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  • And they lived in Arizona andthey had a magnificent life, a
  • 00:22:28.870 --> 00:22:35.677
  • magnificent family and they werejust in harmony, they were a
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  • team, totally one, a team.
  • 00:22:40.382 --> 00:22:43.785
  • But they'd been married for 72years and they were in a
  • 00:22:43.819 --> 00:22:49.157
  • catastrophic automobileaccident, both of them crushed,
  • 00:22:49.191 --> 00:22:54.830
  • critical condition.
  • 00:22:54.863 --> 00:22:56.531
  • They were in the hospital andthe nurses and doctors would go
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  • see her and she'd say, "Well howis he doing?
  • 00:22:59.935 --> 00:23:02.537
  • Go see him, I'm going to be allright," they'd go see him, he'd
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  • say, "No-no, get out of here, gosee her, how's she doing?"
  • 00:23:05.740 --> 00:23:09.678
  • And when they realized that bothof them were on the very edge of
  • 00:23:09.711 --> 00:23:14.049
  • death, they put them in the sameroom side by side in a bed.
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  • And these are two that hadcheered for the University of
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  • Arizona, they'd been born there,they were just a team, and
  • 00:23:22.357 --> 00:23:25.427
  • immediately got side by side,bang, they started holding
  • 00:23:25.460 --> 00:23:28.763
  • hands, holding hands.
  • 00:23:28.797 --> 00:23:32.467
  • He died first, the families theysaid, "Your dad is gone," and
  • 00:23:32.501 --> 00:23:38.373
  • the son said, "Oh no, no-no-no,look-look, his heart monitor is
  • 00:23:38.406 --> 00:23:42.477
  • still beating, he's alive."
  • 00:23:42.511 --> 00:23:45.380
  • Nurse said, "No, they're holdinghands so tightly, so tightly
  • 00:23:45.413 --> 00:23:50.619
  • that her heartbeat is going allthe way into his heart and
  • 00:23:50.652 --> 00:23:55.724
  • that's the reason his monitor isstill beating."
  • 00:23:55.757 --> 00:23:59.794
  • An hour later, an hour later shedied.
  • 00:23:59.828 --> 00:24:05.567
  • And the son said at theirmemorial service a beautiful
  • 00:24:05.600 --> 00:24:10.105
  • thing, he said, "You know, mydad always said, 'A good woman
  • 00:24:10.138 --> 00:24:15.677
  • is worth waiting for.'"
  • 00:24:15.710 --> 00:24:19.648
  • And he said, "God took him homefirst and he waited right
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  • outside of heaven until my momgot there and they went in
  • 00:24:25.320 --> 00:24:32.761
  • together and met Jesus."
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  • Ed Young: That is God's designfor marriage.
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  • Ed Young: Ladies and gentlemen,we are in a war.
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  • The church, marriage, truth andlife itself are all under attack
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  • by those who wish to remove Godfrom our world.
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  • Ed Young: They're seeking toredefine everything in
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  • our culture.
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  • Ed Young: We're in a war, we allknow that, in the culture in
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  • which we live.
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  • We've already talked about a warfor the Bible, which really was
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  • only a part of the war, it was abattle.
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  • There's a battle for the Bible,there's a battle for life, and
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  • there is a battle for marriage,marriage is under siege today.
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  • We try to juxtapose two thingsas we've talked about it,
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  • traditional marriage and gaymarriage, and the bottom line is
  • 00:26:17.699 --> 00:26:21.403
  • there's no such thing as gaymarriage and there's no such
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  • thing as traditional marriage.
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  • You don't say, "I have atraditional elbow."
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  • Marriage, as we have stated, isclearly defined, you can't say,
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  • "A triangle is a circle," nomatter how many times you try.
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  • Marriage is a man and a woman.
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  • Therefore, it's important thatwe, in our culture, understand
  • 00:26:40.989 --> 00:26:44.693
  • there is a war going on for theintegrity of marriage between a
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  • man and a woman; not a contractbut a covenant with God right in
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  • the middle of it.
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