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The War On Men Part 1

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September 3, 2019
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Victory with Paul Daugherty

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The War On Men Part 1

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  • (wind whooshing)
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  • - God has a unique calling on both men and women.
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  • The expression of femininity
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  • and the expression of masculinity are both needed,
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  • they are both the imago Dei, they are both the image of God.
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  • But today, specifically for the men,
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  • there's a war going on for who God's called you to be,
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  • and what God's called you to do.
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  • (uplifting music)
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  • Hi I'm Paul, almost 10 years ago, my dad,
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  • my hero, my pastor, passed away unexpectedly.
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  • He built a big church,
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  • and left some pretty large shoes to fill.
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  • When he died, I didn't just lose my dad,
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  • I lost my faith, I lost my purpose, and my future.
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  • But God showed up and restored my faith,
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  • and he gave me a message of hope to share with you.
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  • You're here in purpose, God's not finished with you yet.
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  • Your best days are right in front of you,
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  • and you have victory in your life,
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  • because Jesus lives in you.
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  • (congregation applauding)
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  • I wanna talk to you today about the war on men,
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  • the war on men, and when I say that,
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  • I'm not saying there's not a war on women,
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  • but today I wanna speak specifically about the war on men.
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  • If you were here last week, you saw me dunk the basketball
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  • on the seven foot goal, it was amazing.
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  • I felt so awesome, and we talked about how what happens
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  • when you lower the goal.
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  • I grew up with the basketball goal,
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  • that my dad used to take me out in the front yard,
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  • play basketball with me,
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  • and I would always ask him, "Dad, can we lower the goal,
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  • "so that I can you know, come up and do stuff this like,
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  • "and dunk," and he would say, "Paul, you can lower it,
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  • "but that's not the standard
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  • "on which you were called to play it.
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  • "The standard is 10 foot, and when you lower the standard,
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  • "you're not ready for the games
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  • "when you're called to play on that higher standard."
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  • I wanted to practice on a lower standard,
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  • I wanted to play on that seven foot goal,
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  • but I had a father who continued to raise the bar.
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  • We need men who will raise the bar for the next generation,
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  • not lower the standard.
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  • (congregation applauding)
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  • If you're waiting for the message to start,
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  • it's already started.
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  • We talked about how Jude says in Jude 1:3,
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  • contend for the faith.
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  • The word contend means to compete, to combat.
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  • You see when you have a lowered goal,
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  • there's no competing, there's no combating.
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  • It's easy to make a basket, when it's right here,
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  • right in front of you.
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  • But it takes a little bit more, let's raise the standard,
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  • when you raise the standard,
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  • it's a little bit more of a struggle.
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  • How many of y'all think I can dunk it on the 10 foot goal?
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  • (congregation cheering)
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  • All right, I got a few people
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  • that are confident in my skills.
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  • Come on, Air Jordan, ha.
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  • Okay, I'll take a layup, we'll take a layup.
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  • But the point is this, it's better to struggle
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  • on the right standard,
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  • than it is to succeed on the wrong standard.
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  • It's better to struggle, to barely touch the rim
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  • when it's set at the right standard,
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  • than it is to flawlessly succeed on a seven foot goal,
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  • givin' your buddies high fives,
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  • saying you can live like this.
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  • And this is what Jude said in verse 4.
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  • He said there are people who have crept into the church,
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  • they've snuck into the church,
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  • and they've twisted the message of grace,
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  • into a license for sin.
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  • In other words, they've lowered the standard,
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  • they've said let's give each other high fives,
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  • let's lower the standard and live however we wanna live,
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  • and we'll call ourselves men of God,
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  • even though we treat women with disrespect,
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  • and we touch them whenever we want,
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  • and we do all kinds of,
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  • this is why we see so much brokenness in our society.
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  • Because men have lowered the standard, but not at Victory.
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  • We are raising the standard, we are mighty men of God.
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  • Today, we have men that have shown up to church,
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  • they're showing up to worship,
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  • they're showing up to pray.
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  • Give it up for the men that are in church today,
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  • that are leaning in, contending for the faith,
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  • competing for a higher standard on their life.
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  • (congregation applauding)
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  • And today I wanna talk to you about
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  • how do we win that war as men?
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  • How do we become valiant warriors
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  • on the battlefield of masculinity?
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  • How do we become the men that God has called us to be?
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  • And ladies, this is for you too,
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  • because ladies have a huge impact on the men.
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  • Men will try to make it look like we're not that sensitive,
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  • we don't care what you think, or don't care what you say,
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  • but your words are shaping us.
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  • And when you lower the standard
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  • for how you expect us to treat you,
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  • or you expect us to be as men,
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  • we will rise to the standard you set.
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  • When you challenge to see that there's more inside of us,
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  • when you challenge and say there's more for you,
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  • you're not called to play on that standard,
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  • you can't touch me like that, you respect your mother,
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  • you respect your sisters,
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  • you respect the women in your class,
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  • don't go in the locker room talking bad about,
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  • listen, when you raise the standard,
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  • we rise to the challenge.
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  • And there's a war going on over men.
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  • Paul the apostle said in 1 Corinthians 4:15,
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  • he said you guys have 10.000 instructors,
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  • but very few fathers.
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  • There's thousands of communicators.
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  • It's easy to preach, it takes guts to be a dad.
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  • He said you got thousands of people,
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  • like God's not looking for more flashy preachers,
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  • he's looking for faithful fathers.
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  • We don't need, a teacher says come listen to me talk,
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  • a father says come with me for the walk.
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  • I'm gonna teach you how to walk,
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  • I'm not just gonna expect you to listen to me talk.
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  • A teacher wants you to get information.
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  • A father wants you to get impartation.
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  • A father is willing to work with his kids,
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  • and walk through their mess, and not walk out,
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  • and leave and say I've had it with you students.
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  • A teacher can switch classes when she wants.
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  • A teacher can walk out, and say you know,
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  • I'm going to another school, I can't teach here anymore,
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  • the kids are crazy.
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  • A father, a real father is committed
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  • to the development and the maturity of the children,
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  • to become who God has called them to be,
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  • to play on the standard on which God has called us to live.
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  • (congregation applauding)
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  • So we've got to wage war.
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  • Nehemiah was a man of war, he was a man of God,
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  • and chapter 4 of Nehemiah, if you have your Bibles,
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  • you can turn there, if you don't,
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  • we're gonna throw it on the screen.
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  • Yeah, we get excited about the word of God.
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  • And Nehemiah was rebuilding the walls of Jerusalem.
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  • He was working on a noble cause.
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  • He was pulling together all the men
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  • to rally around rebuilding Israel.
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  • Israel had fallen, like there was gaps,
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  • there was places that were wrong,
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  • there was things, there was breaches in the wall,
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  • and so Nehemiah said we've got to get
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  • this thing back together.
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  • We've gotta restore what God's plan was
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  • for the nation of Israel.
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  • So he starts rebuilding, and in verse 7,
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  • there was some people who found out about it.
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  • And their names were Sanballat and Tobiah,
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  • and they got together with the Arabs,
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  • the Ammonites, the Ashdodites,
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  • and they heard that the work was going ahead,
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  • and that the gaps in the wall, just circle that,
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  • gaps in the wall, gaps in the wall,
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  • that the gaps in the wall of Jerusalem were being repaired.
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  • In other words, Nehemiah, he was doing the work of God.
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  • He was rebuilding the nation of Israel.
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  • And they became furious.
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  • Can I tell you, the devil gets furious when men rise up
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  • and start raising the standard,
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  • and start rebuilding the walls,
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  • and filling in the gaps, the devil gets mad.
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  • When you become a man of God,
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  • you become a target for the enemy.
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  • So if bad things are trying to come against you,
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  • if you're experiencing some setbacks,
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  • it could be because you're doing something right.
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  • It could be because you're coming to church.
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  • It could be because you're giving again.
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  • It could be because you're praying for your family.
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  • It could be because
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  • you're walking in integrity, and honesty.
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  • Bad things don't just happen
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  • to people who make bad decisions.
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  • Bad things can happen to good people
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  • who were doing the right thing, but don't grow weary,
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  • God is with you in the middle of the work,
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  • in the middle of the night,
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  • no weapon formed against you will prosper in Jesus' name.
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  • So Nehemiah, he found out the enemy was mad.
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  • And watch what they said in verse 8, they made plans
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  • to come and fight against the men of Jerusalem.
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  • They were coming against the builders, the workers,
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  • the warriors on the wall.
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  • And they said we are gonna throw these men into confusion.
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  • This is what's happening right now in society.
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  • There is a confusion that's happening among men.
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  • There's a war going on for the minds, and the hearts,
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  • and the emotions, and the identities of men.
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  • And Hollywood's trying to make it look like
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  • men are ridiculous, we're goofballs,
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  • we don't know what we're doing,
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  • there's no place of leadership authority for men,
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  • and it all needs to go to the ladies now.
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  • And listen, this is not a message of gender wars.
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  • God has a unique calling on both and women.
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  • The expression of femininity
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  • and the expression of masculinity are both needed,
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  • they are the the imago Dei,
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  • they are both the image of God.
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  • But today, specifically for the men,
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  • there's a war going on for who God's called you to be,
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  • and what God's called you to do.
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  • This is why when we look at the percentages of men
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  • that are going to prison, right now men far outrank women
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  • that are in prison, 92.9% of inmates in prison are men.
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  • Right, so 7% are ladies, 92% are men,
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  • we are overpopulating prison,
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  • so that means there's just,
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  • I mean there's just way too many people in the prison.
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  • And these are guys are going in there,
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  • and look at the age in which men are going to prison,
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  • it's happen when they're 26 years old, it starts to peak.
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  • And then 30, 36, and then by the time they're 46,
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  • they're getting out of prison.
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  • You say why does that matter?
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  • Because I became a dad when I was 28, I had my first kid.
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  • Imagine you're a 26 year old man.
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  • You have two or three kids, or one kid.
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  • And then you go to prison.
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  • And you serve 10 years, or 15 years, or 20 years,
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  • and then you get outta prison, what's happening?
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  • We're seeing kids growing up without dads in homes,
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  • and so then the cycle continues, it repeats.
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  • Where there's not a father, where there's not a leader,
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  • where there's not a man to teach a boy,
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  • and then there's men who are not teaching boys
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  • to raise the standards.
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  • They're saying you know what, we're not,
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  • we're gonna go to church, but we're not pastors or anything,
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  • so it's okay for us to talk like this to ladies.
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  • It's okay for us to sleep around,
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  • it's okay for us do these drugs.
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  • We're okay drinking, and we're okay watching this.
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  • You're okay talking back to your mom.
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  • We're gonna lower the standard in our house,
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  • we're gonna be relaxed, we're just gonna see what happens,
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  • let the wind blow where it wants to blow, work it.
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  • And when the standard is lowered, we wreck generations.
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  • And so this is a message to say
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  • we've gotta get men back in the place
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  • that God's called them to be.
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  • When you look at what's happened because of the war on men,
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  • 80% of all the suicides in the world are committed by men.
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  • Eight out of 10 suicides that happen today
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  • will happen from a man.
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  • The enemy is after men.
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  • When you look in the Bible,
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  • the only genocides that happen to genders,
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  • it's with men, it happens during Moses's time,
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  • kill all the Hebrew boys under the age of two.
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  • It happened during Jesus's time, kill all the boys,
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  • there's not a genocide against women.
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  • And I'm not saying that women don't have,
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  • there is a war on women as well, but today,
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  • let's just focus on the facts right now.
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  • Men are dying faster than women.
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  • It is a fact, scientific fact,
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  • that women will live longer than men.
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  • One out of five men will die before the age of 65.
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  • Men struggle with sickness and disease
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  • 37% more than women do.
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  • Men are more likely to battle heart disease,
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  • more likely to battle cancer.
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  • The enemy wants to take men out of society,
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  • get men out of the homes, get men in prisons,
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  • get men in their corner, shut up, don't say anything,
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  • you're ridiculous, but not in this house.
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  • As for me and my house, we will serve the Lord.
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  • We will be a mighty, mighty church of men and women.
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  • We're not gonna be an all female church.
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  • We're not gonna be an all male church.
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  • We're gonna be a multi-generational, multi-ethnic,
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  • male and female empowerment church.
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  • This is gonna be a church where men rise up to be
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  • who God's called them to be.
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  • (congregation applauding)
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  • (wind whooshing)
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  • Don't you walk away from the battle
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  • just because you beat that addiction.
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  • Go pull other boys out of that addiction.
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  • Go get other men out of that problem.
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  • Go help other men that are battling divorce.
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  • Go help other men that are in the middle of depression,
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  • suicidal thoughts, fight for your brothers he says.
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  • (gentle music)
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  • - [Announcer] Victory Christian School is pursuing families
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  • that share our vision and standard for education.
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  • Our families are here on purpose.
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  • We raise up leaders of tomorrow,
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  • by preparing the heart, mind, and body.
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  • With challenging academics, a celebration of the arts,
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  • and championship level athletics,
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  • we are reaching new heights each year.
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  • Victory Christian School is more than an education.
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  • It's preparation for a calling.
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  • - [Narrator] Now you can watch Pastor Paul's message
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  • from anywhere, at victory.com. (happy music)
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  • With hours of streaming content,
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  • Go right now to check it out.
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  • (wind whooshing)
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  • - Right now, men account for 86% of the homeless population.
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  • 86 out of 100 people on the streets,
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  • living on the streets are men.
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  • Right now, men are less likely
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  • to go on and get a college degree,
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  • less likely to pursue a higher earning career.
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  • They're being told don't try to be a doctor,
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  • don't try to be a dentist,
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  • don't try to pursue something higher,
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  • don't try to be the leader, the manager, the supervisor,
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  • that's going to the ladies,
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  • you just need to sit back, you just need,
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  • and again, I'm just saying, it's not a gender war,
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  • I'm just saying we've got to challenge men to rise up.
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  • I'm not saying you gotta go to college to succeed,
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  • but there's something off with these statistics.
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  • There's something off.
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  • Men are twice as likely
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  • to battle an addiction than women are.
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  • Men are being attacked in their mind, in their body,
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  • in their health, in their heart, their emotions.
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  • They're being told don't cry, don't show weakness,
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  • don't go down to an alter, don't ask for prayer,
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  • don't reach out to other men.
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  • Men are so much less likely to have
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  • relationships in their life than women are.
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  • We have a problem connecting with other men,
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  • and so then we isolate ourselves,
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  • and we think that's the pathway to victory
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  • is just going solo, just doing it by yourself.
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  • We've got to wage war for men.
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  • In this church, in this nation, in the world right now.
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  • So Nehemiah says we're gonna fight back
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  • against this confusion.
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  • By the way the confusion
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  • has not just attacked people's addictions,
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  • it's attacked people identities.
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  • We have boys trying to become girls now.
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  • We have boys who don't know who they are.
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  • Men who are forsaking natural affections for women
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  • and totally unaware, just thinking well, you know,
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  • I don't know who defines me anymore,
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  • I don't know if I'm a man, I don't know if I'm a woman,
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  • and we've got confusion in the minds of men.
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  • And let me just say this, MTV does not define us,
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  • CNN does not define us, Fox News does not define us.
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  • "USA Today" does not define us,
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  • "Time Magazine" doesn't define us, it is God's word,
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  • he created us male and female, in the image of God.
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  • (congregation applauding)
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  • And you are who God made you to be,
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  • and you are valuable the way he made you.
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  • You are not a mistake, you are not an accident,
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  • you are not messed up, you are not a throwaway.
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  • You have a purpose on your life, as a man of God,
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  • and we need you, men, we need you, we need you.
  • 00:15:27.000 --> 00:15:29.100
  • So Nehemiah said, but we prayed, in verse 9,
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  • we prayed to our God.
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  • The greatest place for a boy to become a man
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  • is right here, on his knees, saying Lord I need your help,
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  • I'm surrounded by confusion, I've got voices
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  • telling me I'm this, I've the media telling me I'm that.
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  • I've got pornography right in front of me,
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  • I got stuff all around me.
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  • Lord, I need your help to be the man
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  • that you've called me to be.
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  • This is the greatest place to become a man,
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  • it's on your knees, before God, and surrender in prayer.
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  • You don't become a man in the gentleman's club.
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  • You don't become a man in the bar,
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  • you don't become a man
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  • with all the buddies in the locker room,
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  • you become a man in the house of God, on your knees,
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  • saying Lord, I need you,
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  • I'm not gonna cave into the pressure to lower the standard.
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  • I waging war on who you've called me to be.
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  • (congregation applauding)
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  • We need men to fight.
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  • We need men to fight back.
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  • Don't cave under pressure, don't throw in the towel.
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  • Too many men have committed suicide.
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  • We need you, don't jump from that bridge.
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  • Women, you have the ability,
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  • you have such an amazing ability
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  • to speak the words at the right time,
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  • to talk men into who God's called them to be.
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  • Your words are more powerful than you realize.
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  • Men, we make it out to look like we're not that sensitive,
  • 00:16:40.190 --> 00:16:43.120
  • that words don't matter, we care,
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  • it goes very deep in our soul.
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  • When you tell us that we're special, we're valuable,
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  • God's got a purpose for us,
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  • I wouldn't be who I am today if it wasn't for my mom,
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  • telling me, "You got a calling on your life, Paul.
  • 00:16:53.070 --> 00:16:55.150
  • "You got a calling on your life."
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  • I wouldn't be where I am today if it wasn't for my wife,
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  • saying, "Your boys need you, I need you, honey."
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  • You women, you have a purpose to call men
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  • into the place that God's called them to be.
  • 00:17:04.260 --> 00:17:07.210
  • So Nehemiah said we prayed, and I pulled together,
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  • in verse 14 he said I pulled together the noble men.
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  • I pulled together the gentlemen.
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  • I pulled together the men who were leaders in their house.
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  • I pulled together, chivalry is still alive in this nation.
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  • It might look sparse out there, but in Tulsa, Oklahoma
  • 00:17:24.240 --> 00:17:28.060
  • at Victory Church, chivalry is still alive.
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  • How you treat others, how you treat women.
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  • He said I've pulled together the gentlemen
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  • and I said, "Men it's time we fight."
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  • Watch what he says in verse 14, he says,
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  • "Don't be afraid of the enemy."
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  • If there was ever a time to speak that right now to men,
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  • don't be afraid of what you see on the statistics
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  • about other men.
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  • Don't be afraid of what the devil's whispering in your ear.
  • 00:17:51.030 --> 00:17:53.150
  • Don't be afraid of the addictions
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  • that are staring you in your face.
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  • Don't run from it, don't cower back.
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  • You can take out this giant, you can defeat Goliah.
  • 00:17:58.250 --> 00:18:01.210
  • You can win this war,
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  • you can see the walls of Jericho come down.
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  • Don't be afraid of the enemy.
  • 00:18:05.070 --> 00:18:06.210
  • Don't be intimidated, and then he says,
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  • "Remember the Lord, remember God."
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  • In other words he says this isn't gonna happen
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  • through your masculinity.
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  • This is not gonna come from your ability,
  • 00:18:14.240 --> 00:18:16.210
  • your personality, your strength, your going to the gym,
  • 00:18:16.210 --> 00:18:20.010
  • working out, remember the God who's inside you.
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  • You're more than a conqueror,
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  • not because you went to the gym and worked out,
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  • but because you went to church,
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  • you got filled with the Holy Spirit,
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  • you got the power of God.
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  • Remember where your power comes from.
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  • Remember who your source is.
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  • Remember who tells you who you are.
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  • It is your God, he is great and glorious,
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  • and then he says fight, fight.
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  • Look what he says there, he says fight for your brothers.
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  • Fight for your brothers.
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  • This isn't just a fight for ourselves.
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  • I'm not just fighting for me when I come to church,
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  • I'm fighting for the brotherhood.
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  • I'm fighting for my brother John,
  • 00:18:53.170 --> 00:18:55.040
  • I'm fighting for my brother AJ.
  • 00:18:55.040 --> 00:18:56.190
  • I'm fighting for my brother Daniel.
  • 00:18:56.190 --> 00:18:59.060
  • I'm fighting for my brother Wayne.
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  • I'm fighting for you.
  • 00:19:00.220 --> 00:19:02.070
  • See, the enemy wants you to think this is all you,
  • 00:19:03.200 --> 00:19:05.190
  • this is you, as long as you're on the mountaintop
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  • that's all that matters.
  • 00:19:07.130 --> 00:19:08.200
  • No, no, no, you got brothers in the valley
  • 00:19:08.200 --> 00:19:09.190
  • that you're fighting for.
  • 00:19:09.190 --> 00:19:11.170
  • Don't you walk away from the battle,
  • 00:19:11.170 --> 00:19:13.070
  • just because you beat that addiction.
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  • Go pull other boys out of that addiction.
  • 00:19:15.120 --> 00:19:17.150
  • Go get other men out of that problem.
  • 00:19:17.150 --> 00:19:19.130
  • Go help other men that are battling divorce.
  • 00:19:19.130 --> 00:19:21.200
  • Go help other men that are in the middle of depression,
  • 00:19:21.200 --> 00:19:24.010
  • suicidal thoughts, fight for brothers, he says.
  • 00:19:24.010 --> 00:19:28.210
  • And then he says fight for your sons.
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  • We are in a battle for our boys right now.
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  • I just had my three sons here on stage,
  • 00:19:34.120 --> 00:19:36.130
  • and you saw it, listen, the enemy more than ever
  • 00:19:36.130 --> 00:19:39.030
  • wants to shape the next generation.
  • 00:19:39.030 --> 00:19:41.120
  • This is why we have a Christian school.
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  • This is why we do summer camps.
  • 00:19:43.060 --> 00:19:44.240
  • This is why we do youth group every Wednesday night.
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  • This is why we have children's church during every service.
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  • This is why we're building a next generation building.
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  • This is why we do what we do,
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  • because the boys need to know they can be men of God,
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  • they can grow up in a church that loves them,
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  • that sees them, that invests in them, that empowers them,
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  • that teaches them how to be a man of God.
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  • (congregation applauding)
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  • When you come to church, and when you pray,
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  • you're not just fighting for yourself,
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  • you're fighting for your boys.
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  • There was a well know, successful attorney in Chicago
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  • and he was very successful, very wealthy.
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  • And he bought a nice house
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  • right there near his business in Chicago.
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  • And he operated his business in a skyscraper building,
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  • right where all the beautiful buildings are in Chicago.
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  • And he had about a mile walk,
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  • every day he would walk to his work.
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  • And on the way to his work, he had an alcohol problem,
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  • so there was this bar that was open in the morning,
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  • the afternoon, the night, all the time.
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  • And he would walk past this bar,
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  • and he could go in and get his morning drink.
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  • Then in the afternoon he'd go and get an afternoon drink.
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  • Then on his way home, he'd get an evening drink.
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  • And he was successful, and he used alcohol
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  • to cope with the pressure, he said you know,
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  • I've got, if I'm gonna be successful,
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  • if I'm gonna be a well known attorney,
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  • I gotta have something that just helps me get through
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  • all my cases, all the pressure of this job.
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  • And so alcohol was his,
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  • was the vice that the enemy used.
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  • The enemy knows what to use against you,
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  • whether it's lust or pornography, or alcohol,
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  • or opioids, or women, whatever it is,
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  • the enemy knows, he knows, he's not stupid.
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  • During the Vietnam War there was these tunnels,
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  • they were called the Cu Chi tunnels.
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  • And the Vietnamese would come through these tunnels,
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  • underneath the soldiers,
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  • and they would ambush the American soldiers from behind.
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  • The soldier's didn't even know,
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  • they were right underneath them, they would come.
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  • This is how the enemy works.
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  • Some of you are behind enemy lines
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  • and you don't even know it.
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  • I could go through story after story
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  • that I've heard from history, World War I, World War II,
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  • Vietnam War, all of these wars, "Black Hawk Down",
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  • and it's amazing how much it translates
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  • to the spiritual life.
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  • We are in a war.
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  • I don't know if you realize this,
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  • this is not a time to kick back, and go you know,
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  • I'm just gonna coast through this Christian journey,
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  • see where my life goes,
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  • I'm gonna keep these addictions in my life,
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  • and hope my boys don't repeat the same cycles as me.
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  • Listen, we are in a war.
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  • We are in a war right now.
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  • And this man, everyday, he'd go and get his drinks,
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  • he'd get his drink on.
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  • He'd get drunk to feel good, to get the pressure off.
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  • And one morning he was walking to work,
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  • and it was snowing this morning in Chicago.
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  • And this wealthy attorney, he's walking,
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  • goes to the bar, leaves the bar after he gets done drinking,
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  • he's now walking to his office,
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  • and he hears this sound behind him,
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  • he turns around, it's his six year old boy.
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  • His six year old boy's smiling.
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  • "Daddy, I've been following your footprints."
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  • He was putting his little feet
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  • where the big feet in the snow had left a path.
  • 00:22:53.180 --> 00:22:58.050
  • He said, "I snuck out of the house, Daddy.
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  • "I wanna be just be like you, I'm following you."
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  • His dad broke down in tears, and scooped up his boy,
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  • ran home to his wife, his wife said, "I'm so sorry,
  • 00:23:08.130 --> 00:23:11.070
  • "he snuck out of the house, I was watching the other kids,
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  • "please forgive me, honey."
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  • The guy said, "No, no no, hon, I'm sorry."
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  • And he went out of the house, and with tears in his eyes,
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  • he fell on his knees, and he said, "Oh God,
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  • "please let me never, ever leave footprints
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  • "for my kids to follow into the bar.
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  • "But Lord, let me leave footprints for my kids
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  • "to follow me into church, for me to follow me
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  • "into the right places."
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  • (congregation applauding)
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  • He changed his footprints that day.
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  • Never went back to the bar.
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  • You can change, you can change.
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  • You don't have to wait for a day
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  • where your kid follows you right in there, to change.
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  • You can change today.
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  • You can change.
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  • The enemy wants us to think you'll never be able to change,
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  • your daddy was like this, your granddaddy was like this,
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  • you'll be like this.
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  • You're always gonna have this.
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  • This is a message to say no, no, no,
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  • I'm changing, I will become the man God's called me to be.
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  • Whenever you're watching this,
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  • right now is the time to change.
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  • (gentle music)
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  • We are in a war.
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  • We can see it all around us.
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  • The war against our identity, the war against masculinity.
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  • The war against femininity.
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  • Listen, there is so much confusion right now,
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  • in the world, women not sure
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  • if they're supposed to be women,
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  • men not sure if they're supposed to be men.
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  • There's confusion about who do I like,
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  • how do I live my life, what does it mean to be a real man.
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  • And we've gotta come back to our creator's definition.
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  • God's the one who made us.
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  • The Bible says that God created us in his image.
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  • We don't find the definition of manhood,
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  • or what it means to be a woman, from what the world says,
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  • what CNN, Fox News, ABC, NBC, MTV, you know,
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  • all of the different channels out there,
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  • all the news outlets, Twitter, Instagram,
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  • that's not what defines who we are.
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  • We've gotta find our definition from God.
  • 00:25:10.070 --> 00:25:12.090
  • And maybe you're watching today,
  • 00:25:12.090 --> 00:25:13.160
  • and you were feeling convicted.
  • 00:25:13.160 --> 00:25:15.010
  • Maybe God was speaking to you,
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  • specifically on how to war against those confusing thoughts,
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  • those things that are trying to distract you
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  • from being the man that God's called you to be,
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  • the woman that God's called you to be.
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  • I wanna invite you to say a prayer with me.
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  • I need this, you need this, we all need this.
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  • We need God's help in the midst of so much confusion,
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  • so much stuff out there
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  • that's trying to tell us who we are, and who we're not.
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  • We gotta come back to what does God say.
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  • So why don't we say this prayer together, say Jesus,
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  • I surrender, I'm all yours God.
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  • I need your help, Lord speak to me.
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  • How to be who you've created me to be.
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  • God I thank you Lord, that I have peace,
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  • that I have wisdom, and that I have love, and a sound mind,
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  • in Jesus name, amen.
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  • I believe God's gonna give you that,
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  • as you've prayed and asked, he's gonna answer that prayer.
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  • You are a mighty man of God, a mighty woman of God,
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  • you have what it takes, you've got this,
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  • God has so much more in front of you.
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  • Don't throw in the towel, don't be defeated.
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  • You have the victory through Jesus.
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  • Hey, if you don't have a home church,
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  • come and visit us sometime at Victory.
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  • We'll make you feel right at home.
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  • You can check out victory.com for all the messages,
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  • all the information you need about this church.
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  • Again, we love you so much, praying for you.
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  • Your best days are right in front of you.
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  • (gentle music)
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  • - [Announcer] Victory Christian School is pursuing families
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  • that share our vision and standard for education.
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  • Our families are here on purpose.
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  • We raise up leaders of tomorrow by preparing the heart,
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  • mind, and body.
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  • With challenging academics, a celebration of the arts,
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  • and championship level athletics,
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  • we are reaching new heights each year.
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  • Victory Christian School is more than an education.
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  • It's preparation for our calling.
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  • and experience Victory any time,
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  • through our mobile Victory app in the App Store.
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  • When you have the app, you can listen to Victory every day.
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  • Go online from your computer or phone,
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  • right now, to download it.
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  • Victory app is available in the App Store.
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  • by the generous donations
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  • of our television partners and friends.
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