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Red Flags in Me Part 1

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July 30, 2019
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Victory with Paul Daugherty

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Red Flags in Me Part 1

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  • as I'm preaching this sermon,
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  • oh you're the only one struggling with that.
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  • You're the only dude that's addicted to that.
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  • You're the only girl that's ever felt like that.
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  • You're not, in fact I would say 100% of us in this room
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  • have dealt with red flags in our own lives.
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  • How many of you guys
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  • have dealt with some issues in you before?
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  • Come on, where's all the imperfect people at,
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  • yeah thank you so much.
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  • (gentle music)
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  • Hi, I'm Paul, almost 10 years ago,
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  • my dad, my hero, my pastor, passed away unexpectedly.
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  • He built a big church,
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  • and left some pretty large shoes to fill.
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  • When he died, I didn't just lose my dad, I lost my faith.
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  • I lost my purpose, and my future.
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  • But God showed up and restored my faith,
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  • and he gave me a message of hope to share with you.
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  • You're here on purpose, God's not finished with you yet.
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  • Your best days are right in front of you,
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  • and you have victory in your life,
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  • because Jesus lives in you.
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  • (congregation applauding)
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  • We're gonna talk about the red flags in ourselves.
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  • How to deal with it, how to know when something's off
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  • on the inside of you.
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  • How do you know when something's off.
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  • And let me say this, when something's off
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  • on the inside of you, it affects everything around you.
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  • Because we filter our relationships,
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  • we filter what people are saying to us,
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  • we filter any sermon that's being preached to us,
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  • through what's going on on the inside of us.
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  • Whatever's happening on the inside of you
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  • will be the filter for how you listen
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  • to what people are saying.
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  • This is what causes so many, you know, fights,
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  • and tension, it's not even what they're saying,
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  • it's what's happening on the inside of you
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  • that's filtering what they're saying, how they're saying it.
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  • And so I wanna take you to James 4.
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  • If you got your Bibles, you can turn there.
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  • (congregation cheering)
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  • Yeah, and James says this, in James 4:1,
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  • he says what causes fights and quarrels among you?
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  • And let me just ask by a show of hands,
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  • how many of you have ever gotten in a fight
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  • with someone before, verbal fight, physical fight,
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  • this applies to all of us in the room.
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  • If you have ever had tension or conflict in your life.
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  • When I was younger, my older brother John,
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  • who is amazing and we work together in the church,
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  • but John and I, we had some fights growing up.
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  • I mean we had all out, I'll never forget
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  • there was this one football game that we played in
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  • and it was like a friend football game,
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  • it was called the Turkey Bowl.
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  • And we were like 16 years old,
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  • and our youth pastors were out there,
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  • and some of the youth leaders.
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  • And John and I were lined up against each other,
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  • out on the field, do you remember this John?
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  • Yeah, (laughing) and let's just say this,
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  • I was a wide receiver, John was playing defense,
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  • and we were playing flag football, flag football.
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  • But when you're playing flag football against your brother,
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  • it automatically turns into full on contact football.
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  • There's no pulling flags, it's just punching and hitting.
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  • So John's you know, shovin' me and I got around,
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  • and I caught the ball, and I might've talked some trash,
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  • you know, I was being a little cocky kid,
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  • 16 year old kid, and saying you know,
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  • how do you like dem apples, you know.
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  • And John was like all right, we'll see what happens next.
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  • So the next play, John like pushes me down.
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  • And I got so mad, I jumped up,
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  • and I just like did something intent,
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  • I don't know what I did, oh I know what I did,
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  • I grabbed his neck, I punched him in the Adam's apple.
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  • (congregation laughing)
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  • I punched him in the Adam's apple,
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  • I went like (air blowing).
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  • I mean it was, it was bad, and John was like,
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  • "I'm going to kill you."
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  • (congregation laughing)
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  • (screaming) He was, he was literally like,
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  • he had it in his eyes, I knew.
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  • There's moments when you just see it in someone's eyes,
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  • like they're serious about this right now.
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  • So I took off running, and John was fast,
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  • he caught up with me, took me down to the ground,
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  • he starts punching me, and the youth leaders,
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  • the circle around, they're like,
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  • "Get it, get it, go, go." (congregation laughing)
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  • And I'm like, "What?"
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  • We don't have youth leaders like this today.
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  • We have very sweet, gentle youth leaders
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  • that will break up fights between brothers.
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  • But I remember John and I got in a fight,
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  • and finally, you know, the youth pastor pulls him off of me,
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  • and you know, we're mad at each other,
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  • we got blood on our face.
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  • But you know the fight wasn't just about the football game,
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  • there was something else going deep down inside
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  • of both John and I.
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  • There was things that we needed to work out,
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  • and I would say beneath every quarrel, every fight,
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  • what James says in James 4:1, he says,
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  • you wanna know why you get in fights with your brother?
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  • You wanna know why you get in fights with your husband,
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  • with your wife, with your dad?
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  • You wanna know why you get upset at your mom?
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  • Or why you get angry at your kids?
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  • He says this, he says it's coming from the battles
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  • that are happening on the inside of you.
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  • There's something deep down in your heart,
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  • there's a war within your soul.
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  • Everybody say the war within. - The war within.
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  • - In other words, he's saying there are red flags in you
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  • that are causing you to overreact in situations,
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  • causing you to filter what people are saying,
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  • causing you to get in quarrels, and strife, and fights,
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  • and assumptions, and suspicions.
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  • And he says this in verse 2, James says, you desire
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  • but you do not have, you so kill.
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  • And I would say some of us in this room,
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  • you would go, well Paul, I don't kill,
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  • I haven't killed anyone.
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  • Yeah, but maybe you killed someone with your words.
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  • You've said things that are murderous.
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  • You have assassinated someone's character.
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  • You have name called, you have put someone down,
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  • you have killed your husband with your words,
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  • you've killed your wife with your words,
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  • you have torn down someone's personality,
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  • you've made fun of them, and he says this,
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  • You covet but you cannot get what you want,
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  • so you quarrel and you fight with each other.
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  • And you do not have what you want,
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  • because you don't ask God.
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  • I would say, at the end of most of the tension
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  • and the relational problems in our life,
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  • it's not all the people out there that have the issues.
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  • There's something deep down inside.
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  • We're trying to squeeze out of a person
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  • what only God can give us.
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  • And when you're trying to squeeze out of your spouse,
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  • out of your parents, out of your kids,
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  • out of your boyfriend, your girlfriend, your friends,
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  • like you want them to fill some need in your life,
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  • emotional need, they can't satisfy
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  • the emotional tank in your life.
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  • And eventually they'll let you down,
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  • and it will cause you to either quarrel and fight,
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  • or go to God.
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  • Now James says when you come to God,
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  • when you're upset and angry,
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  • and you want God to fix all your problems, he says in this,
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  • in verse 3, he says when you ask God,
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  • you don't receive what you're asking for.
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  • Because you're asking God with the wrong motives.
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  • So James says you get in fights with your spouse,
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  • you get in fights with your parents,
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  • you get in fights with people, and then you go to God,
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  • and go God, I need you to fix him,
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  • God I need you to correct her, Lord you need to change them.
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  • And God's saying you can't come to me,
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  • and expect me to do everything for them,
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  • and not come to me with a humble heart,
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  • and start with yourself.
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  • In other words, when I go to God, I'm not going to God,
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  • I shouldn't go to God and say God, fix Ashley.
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  • Fix my kids, fix my mom, fix my brother,
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  • make them, you know, make them apologize to me.
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  • I should go to God, and say God, start with me.
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  • 'Cause something's off, there's something off in here.
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  • I don't know what it is,
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  • but something's stirring up tension in me,
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  • something's causing me to filter every conversation
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  • with insecurity, with shame, with a defensive attitude.
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  • I'm retaliating, so Lord, start with me.
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  • Let's say that together,
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  • - Say Lord start with me. - Lord, start with me.
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  • - Yeah, let's start with the red flags in us.
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  • I wanna give you today, 20 red flags
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  • that might be something's off in your heart.
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  • It might mean something's off in your mind.
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  • I remember when I was walking through my own depression,
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  • and I was really battling just feeling excited about life.
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  • I was battling feeling hopeful about the future.
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  • It was right after my father had passed.
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  • I didn't know I was depressed,
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  • until someone started walking me through the symptoms
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  • of what depression looked like.
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  • I didn't know something was off until someone said,
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  • "Paul, you're not being yourself.
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  • "There's some things here, there's some red flags
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  • "that I think you need to pay attention to."
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  • And oftentimes we don't even know what's off
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  • on the inside of us until someone sits down
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  • and says, "That's not normal."
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  • Like that's not normal for a believer,
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  • that's not normal for even someone
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  • who doesn't believe in God, that's not normal,
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  • but as a Christian, you are called,
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  • you are anointed, you are free from that.
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  • You're not supposed to be living in that.
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  • So today I'm gonna talk to you about that.
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  • But before I give you those points, let me just say this,
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  • you're not alone, turn to the person next to you
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  • and say you're not alone. - You're not alone.
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  • - So as I share these red flags,
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  • all of us in this room can relate to,
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  • at some point in our life, being in this moment.
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  • Whether you're in it right now, or you've been in it
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  • in your past, you're not alone.
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  • And the enemy would love to make you think,
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  • as I'm preaching this sermon,
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  • oh, you're the only one struggling with that.
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  • You're the only dude that's addicted to that.
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  • You're the only girl that's ever felt like that.
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  • You're not, in fact, I would say 100% of us in this room
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  • have dealt with red flags in our own lives.
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  • How many of you guys have dealt with
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  • some issues in you before, come on,
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  • where's all the imperfect people at?
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  • Yeah, thank you so much.
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  • So number one, you're not alone.
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  • Number two, your faith is not broken,
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  • your faith has not failed you.
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  • This is something I always hear from people
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  • when I start talking about issues that believers have,
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  • they go well what happened, did God's word not work?
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  • Did my faith not work, is faith broken,
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  • is faith messed up?
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  • No, no, no, it's not faith.
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  • When you get saved, you step into
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  • a continual moment of sanctification,
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  • for the rest of your life, as a believer,
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  • God's gonna continue to sanctify you,
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  • to make you more like Jesus,
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  • which means he's gonna show you some weeds
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  • that you need to pull out of the garden,
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  • so that the flowers can grow.
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  • The life of a believer is much like a gardener,
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  • you're constantly having to look in the soil,
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  • and go I think there's some bitterness there
  • 00:09:18.010 --> 00:09:19.240
  • that needs to go.
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  • It doesn't mean you need to get saved again.
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  • It just means you're being sanctified by the Holy Spirit,
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  • he's showing you some red flags,
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  • and you gotta deal with it,
  • 00:09:26.270 --> 00:09:28.120
  • because if you don't deal with those red flags,
  • 00:09:28.120 --> 00:09:30.170
  • it could lead to disastrous consequences.
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  • Right, a red flag is a warning sign.
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  • It's a warning sign that there's potential danger.
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  • When there's a red flag on a beach,
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  • it means don't get in the water right now,
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  • because there's undercurrents, wait until it's safe again.
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  • When there's a red flag in an automobile race,
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  • it means, you know, we're gonna stop the race for a moment,
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  • we'll restart it when conditions are safe again.
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  • And when there's a red flag in your heart,
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  • it doesn't mean you've lost your salvation,
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  • it doesn't mean that you need to, you know,
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  • stop going to work, or stop going to church,
  • 00:10:00.200 --> 00:10:02.180
  • it means you need to humbly come before God
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  • and say God, something's off.
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  • And I need you to help me change in this area
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  • in my heart, and in my mind.
  • 00:10:09.140 --> 00:10:10.270
  • So your faith's not broken, God's still with you,
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  • God's for you, he wants to help you,
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  • and these red flags are not just a spiritual issue.
  • 00:10:14.110 --> 00:10:17.080
  • So when someone says hey,
  • 00:10:17.080 --> 00:10:18.190
  • I think you're struggling with depression,
  • 00:10:18.190 --> 00:10:20.040
  • here's the answer, read your Bible and pray
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  • and it'll all be fixed.
  • 00:10:21.250 --> 00:10:23.060
  • It's not just a spiritual issue.
  • 00:10:23.060 --> 00:10:25.050
  • You may need to go see a counselor,
  • 00:10:25.050 --> 00:10:27.000
  • you may need to go outside on a walk.
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  • You may need to change your eating habits.
  • 00:10:28.270 --> 00:10:31.010
  • You may need to get an accountability partner,
  • 00:10:31.010 --> 00:10:33.250
  • who's checking up on you, and not just the Holy Spirit,
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  • like an actual human being that you talk to.
  • 00:10:36.100 --> 00:10:39.100
  • Like the Holy Spirit's checking on me,
  • 00:10:39.100 --> 00:10:40.180
  • no you need friends, you need community.
  • 00:10:40.180 --> 00:10:42.120
  • It's not just, you know, read your Bible and pray,
  • 00:10:42.120 --> 00:10:44.200
  • there's a whole lot of other factors.
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  • Okay, you ready for the red flags?
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  • (congregation cheering)
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  • Here we go, how do you know if something's off?
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  • Number one, when you're not being yourself.
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  • When you're acting like someone completely different
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  • than you've been your whole life.
  • 00:10:56.290 --> 00:10:59.010
  • Some people would say this is a midlife crisis.
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  • A quarter life crisis.
  • 00:11:01.270 --> 00:11:03.130
  • He's not being, you know, she's not being herself.
  • 00:11:03.130 --> 00:11:05.170
  • Something is triggering this.
  • 00:11:05.170 --> 00:11:07.020
  • It could be that you're changing for the better.
  • 00:11:07.020 --> 00:11:09.140
  • But if you're running from who God's made you to be,
  • 00:11:09.140 --> 00:11:12.250
  • that's a red flag, you need to come back to that uniqueness
  • 00:11:12.250 --> 00:11:15.200
  • that God's made you.
  • 00:11:15.200 --> 00:11:16.260
  • Number two, when you become extremely moody.
  • 00:11:16.260 --> 00:11:19.020
  • When you can't control your emotions,
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  • everyday you're having breakdowns,
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  • you're screaming, you're crying.
  • 00:11:22.200 --> 00:11:24.160
  • What's causing the tension?
  • 00:11:24.160 --> 00:11:26.010
  • It's the war within.
  • 00:11:26.010 --> 00:11:27.280
  • Number three, you feel like everyone is out to get you.
  • 00:11:27.280 --> 00:11:31.070
  • Everyone's talking bad about you.
  • 00:11:31.070 --> 00:11:33.060
  • Everyone is going to betray you.
  • 00:11:33.060 --> 00:11:34.290
  • You can't trust anyone, you're suspicious about everyone.
  • 00:11:34.290 --> 00:11:38.120
  • Right, you've got, you're like a conspiracy theorist,
  • 00:11:38.120 --> 00:11:41.040
  • and everyone is out to get you.
  • 00:11:41.040 --> 00:11:43.120
  • This is a red flag, this is not normal.
  • 00:11:43.120 --> 00:11:45.230
  • If you think that's normal, it's not.
  • 00:11:45.230 --> 00:11:47.220
  • Mentally healthy people, emotionally healthy people
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  • are able to trust other humans in their life,
  • 00:11:50.170 --> 00:11:53.200
  • even though they've been hurt and betrayed by other people.
  • 00:11:53.200 --> 00:11:56.130
  • So if you've become suspicious
  • 00:11:56.130 --> 00:11:57.290
  • about 100% of the people in your life, that's a red flag.
  • 00:11:57.290 --> 00:12:00.210
  • Let's get you back to a healthy state.
  • 00:12:00.210 --> 00:12:02.130
  • (serene music)
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  • The goal in life is not to be four different people
  • 00:12:03.290 --> 00:12:07.040
  • around different crowds.
  • 00:12:07.040 --> 00:12:08.070
  • The goal is integrity, honesty,
  • 00:12:08.070 --> 00:12:10.060
  • to be the same person you are at church
  • 00:12:10.060 --> 00:12:12.070
  • that you are on Friday nights, Monday nights,
  • 00:12:12.070 --> 00:12:14.270
  • Saturday nights, during the work,
  • 00:12:14.270 --> 00:12:16.200
  • like be honest, 'cause at the end of your life,
  • 00:12:16.200 --> 00:12:20.180
  • you're looking in the mirror and you can't fool that guy,
  • 00:12:20.180 --> 00:12:22.160
  • and you can't fool that girl.
  • 00:12:22.160 --> 00:12:24.000
  • I refuse to quit, I refuse to throw in the towel.
  • 00:12:26.090 --> 00:12:30.050
  • I choose to live.
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  • - Victory is possible.
  • 00:12:31.230 --> 00:12:33.050
  • - Giving people hope, because you and I
  • 00:12:33.050 --> 00:12:35.160
  • are to be ambassadors of hope.
  • 00:12:35.160 --> 00:12:37.070
  • - You're defined by what God already did for you.
  • 00:12:37.070 --> 00:12:40.040
  • - So you don't get the last say in what God does for me.
  • 00:12:40.040 --> 00:12:43.210
  • - There is a God in heaven who comes to you,
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  • and he calls you friend.
  • 00:12:46.180 --> 00:12:48.110
  • - He is a healer, so I'm not gonna stop bothering him
  • 00:12:48.110 --> 00:12:51.180
  • until I get what I need.
  • 00:12:51.180 --> 00:12:53.100
  • (rock music)
  • 00:12:53.100 --> 00:12:55.220
  • - Number four, when you're constantly living
  • 00:12:57.240 --> 00:12:59.250
  • your whole life waiting for the next thing
  • 00:12:59.250 --> 00:13:02.130
  • to happen in your life.
  • 00:13:02.130 --> 00:13:04.060
  • When I get this, I'll be happy.
  • 00:13:04.060 --> 00:13:05.230
  • When I get married, I'll finally feel fulfilled.
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  • I'll finally be complete.
  • 00:13:08.140 --> 00:13:10.030
  • When we have kids, we'll finally be satisfied.
  • 00:13:10.030 --> 00:13:12.230
  • When I graduate college, when I get to drive my car,
  • 00:13:12.230 --> 00:13:16.090
  • when I get my driver's license,
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  • when this happens, I'll finally be joyful.
  • 00:13:17.190 --> 00:13:20.130
  • If you are waiting on something to happen to start living,
  • 00:13:20.130 --> 00:13:23.090
  • it's time to address that red flag.
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  • Today is the day the Lord has made,
  • 00:13:25.170 --> 00:13:27.070
  • rejoice and be glad in it.
  • 00:13:27.070 --> 00:13:30.010
  • God did not create us to wait our whole lives
  • 00:13:30.010 --> 00:13:32.190
  • on events to finally feel happy.
  • 00:13:32.190 --> 00:13:35.220
  • God wants you to be joyful on a daily basis.
  • 00:13:35.220 --> 00:13:39.210
  • I'm getting some amens from my wife, thank you so much babe.
  • 00:13:39.210 --> 00:13:42.160
  • (congregation laughing)
  • 00:13:42.160 --> 00:13:44.220
  • Number five, when you become dependent on something
  • 00:13:44.220 --> 00:13:47.100
  • or someone to make you happy.
  • 00:13:47.100 --> 00:13:49.120
  • Like if you have to drink a beer every night to be happy?
  • 00:13:49.120 --> 00:13:53.010
  • If you have to smoke weed every day to be happy?
  • 00:13:53.010 --> 00:13:56.050
  • If you are relying on a vice, and you go well Paul,
  • 00:13:56.050 --> 00:13:58.290
  • where does the Bible say I can't smoke cigarettes,
  • 00:13:58.290 --> 00:14:01.200
  • and that that's gonna, you know,
  • 00:14:01.200 --> 00:14:03.030
  • take away my ticket to heaven.
  • 00:14:03.030 --> 00:14:04.190
  • Yeah, listen, you're not gonna go to hell
  • 00:14:04.190 --> 00:14:06.290
  • for smoking a cigarette,
  • 00:14:06.290 --> 00:14:08.140
  • you might smell like hell, (congregation laughing)
  • 00:14:08.140 --> 00:14:09.210
  • but you might have smoke all over you,
  • 00:14:09.210 --> 00:14:11.080
  • I'm not trying to condemn you, I love you.
  • 00:14:11.080 --> 00:14:13.030
  • Here's a big hug from me to you, I love you.
  • 00:14:13.030 --> 00:14:16.180
  • But I'm trying to help you, I'm trying to help you.
  • 00:14:16.180 --> 00:14:19.020
  • If you are relying on a vice to make you happy,
  • 00:14:19.020 --> 00:14:22.250
  • to make you feel peaceful, apart from Christ,
  • 00:14:22.250 --> 00:14:25.160
  • if it's a person, you know, if the only time you're happy
  • 00:14:25.160 --> 00:14:28.050
  • is when you're dating a guy, or dating a girl,
  • 00:14:28.050 --> 00:14:30.110
  • you need to go into a relationship complete in Christ,
  • 00:14:30.110 --> 00:14:34.090
  • not waiting for him to make you happy
  • 00:14:34.090 --> 00:14:36.190
  • and him to complete you.
  • 00:14:36.190 --> 00:14:38.020
  • (congregation applauding)
  • 00:14:38.020 --> 00:14:40.060
  • Don't shoot the messenger, okay, I'm here, I love you.
  • 00:14:40.060 --> 00:14:42.220
  • Number six, when you become constantly negative, sarcastic.
  • 00:14:42.220 --> 00:14:46.080
  • Like you're just constantly negative.
  • 00:14:46.080 --> 00:14:48.250
  • People start a conversation, you immediately,
  • 00:14:48.250 --> 00:14:50.190
  • the Debbie downer, the negative Nancy.
  • 00:14:50.190 --> 00:14:52.240
  • Just gonna bring it down, we'll did ya hear somebody die?
  • 00:14:52.240 --> 00:14:54.280
  • Did you hear the world's gonna end tomorrow?
  • 00:14:54.280 --> 00:14:56.210
  • And things are just, you know, it's constantly sarcasm
  • 00:14:56.210 --> 00:14:58.260
  • and negativity, there's no positivity overflow,
  • 00:14:58.260 --> 00:15:01.210
  • coming out of your life,
  • 00:15:01.210 --> 00:15:03.040
  • and you might say well Paul, I'm just a, you know,
  • 00:15:03.040 --> 00:15:04.270
  • I was born a negative person,
  • 00:15:04.270 --> 00:15:06.070
  • you know, God made me negative.
  • 00:15:06.070 --> 00:15:07.210
  • God made me sarcastic, that's me, you're stuck with me,
  • 00:15:07.210 --> 00:15:10.120
  • I've gotta be negative and sarcastic.
  • 00:15:10.120 --> 00:15:11.280
  • You don't have to be that.
  • 00:15:11.280 --> 00:15:13.190
  • And it's not helping you,
  • 00:15:13.190 --> 00:15:15.020
  • and it's not helping everyone else around you.
  • 00:15:15.020 --> 00:15:16.280
  • Maybe change the narrative in your life,
  • 00:15:16.280 --> 00:15:18.170
  • become a little more positive,
  • 00:15:18.170 --> 00:15:20.160
  • become a little more faith filled, hope filled.
  • 00:15:20.160 --> 00:15:22.280
  • Maybe, you know, change the atmosphere.
  • 00:15:22.280 --> 00:15:25.000
  • Number seven, when nothing is ever your fault,
  • 00:15:25.000 --> 00:15:27.160
  • when you can't admit you're wrong.
  • 00:15:27.160 --> 00:15:29.240
  • This is narcissism.
  • 00:15:29.240 --> 00:15:31.000
  • When you think you're always right,
  • 00:15:31.000 --> 00:15:32.130
  • and everyone else is always wrong.
  • 00:15:32.130 --> 00:15:34.190
  • And I know, you're 15 years old,
  • 00:15:34.190 --> 00:15:36.060
  • and you've got it all figured out.
  • 00:15:36.060 --> 00:15:37.190
  • We need to come to you, 'cause you got all the answers.
  • 00:15:37.190 --> 00:15:39.170
  • (congregation laughing) I mean, you're 15.
  • 00:15:39.170 --> 00:15:41.130
  • But possibly your dad might be right, and you're wrong.
  • 00:15:41.130 --> 00:15:44.150
  • Possibly your mom might be right.
  • 00:15:44.150 --> 00:15:46.010
  • Possibly someone else in your life is right,
  • 00:15:46.010 --> 00:15:48.130
  • and you're wrong, but that only,
  • 00:15:48.130 --> 00:15:50.050
  • that red flag will only be dealt with
  • 00:15:50.050 --> 00:15:52.130
  • when you humbly say, Lord I've become pretty cocky,
  • 00:15:52.130 --> 00:15:55.110
  • I've become pretty prideful,
  • 00:15:55.110 --> 00:15:56.150
  • I've become pretty narcissistic.
  • 00:15:56.150 --> 00:15:58.090
  • I've stopped apologizing, and I've stopped owning my faults.
  • 00:15:58.090 --> 00:16:01.170
  • I've just blamed everyone else,
  • 00:16:01.170 --> 00:16:03.050
  • or I've said everyone's wrong, and I'm right.
  • 00:16:03.050 --> 00:16:05.100
  • So you gotta deal with these red flags.
  • 00:16:05.100 --> 00:16:06.290
  • Number eight, when you're constantly afraid and worried.
  • 00:16:06.290 --> 00:16:09.240
  • Now Jesus told Martha, in Luke 11, Martha, Martha, Martha,
  • 00:16:09.240 --> 00:16:13.170
  • you are worried about so many things.
  • 00:16:13.170 --> 00:16:15.290
  • But Mary has found the one thing that matters.
  • 00:16:17.040 --> 00:16:20.070
  • If you are here right now, and you are a chronic worrier,
  • 00:16:20.070 --> 00:16:24.070
  • and you think Paul, this is just the way I am,
  • 00:16:24.070 --> 00:16:26.130
  • I worry, I stress,
  • 00:16:26.130 --> 00:16:27.260
  • I'm just constantly worrying about everything,
  • 00:16:27.260 --> 00:16:29.280
  • about the kids, about my wife, about my finances,
  • 00:16:29.280 --> 00:16:32.170
  • about the future, and it's just never gonna change.
  • 00:16:32.170 --> 00:16:35.170
  • That can change today, by the power of the Holy Spirit,
  • 00:16:35.170 --> 00:16:38.130
  • you can break free of that worry.
  • 00:16:38.130 --> 00:16:40.020
  • You don't have to live worried.
  • 00:16:40.020 --> 00:16:41.190
  • God did not send his son Jesus, in John 10:10,
  • 00:16:41.190 --> 00:16:44.230
  • he said, "I came to give you life, and life to the fullest."
  • 00:16:44.230 --> 00:16:47.150
  • That includes freedom from chronic worrying and stress.
  • 00:16:47.150 --> 00:16:51.210
  • If you are constantly stressed, and having migraines,
  • 00:16:51.210 --> 00:16:54.080
  • that is not God's will for your life.
  • 00:16:54.080 --> 00:16:55.230
  • He wants to heal you today.
  • 00:16:55.230 --> 00:16:57.140
  • Let's get rid of that red flag today.
  • 00:16:57.140 --> 00:16:59.160
  • Number 10, if you, or number nine,
  • 00:16:59.160 --> 00:17:02.090
  • if you're constantly angry, or irritated,
  • 00:17:02.090 --> 00:17:04.160
  • or offended on a regular basis.
  • 00:17:04.160 --> 00:17:06.220
  • We live in a society, a nation right now
  • 00:17:06.220 --> 00:17:09.050
  • that is so on edge, just offended over every little thing.
  • 00:17:09.050 --> 00:17:13.130
  • I'm offended, I'm offended that you're offended,
  • 00:17:13.130 --> 00:17:15.170
  • that they're offended at who they're offended at.
  • 00:17:15.170 --> 00:17:17.030
  • (congregation laughing)
  • 00:17:17.030 --> 00:17:18.180
  • We've all decided to get offended about something,
  • 00:17:18.180 --> 00:17:19.270
  • on a daily basis.
  • 00:17:19.270 --> 00:17:21.240
  • We're offended, we're offended, we're offended.
  • 00:17:21.240 --> 00:17:23.230
  • And I'm not saying that what people do, their behavior,
  • 00:17:23.230 --> 00:17:26.280
  • their mistakes, that it's okay.
  • 00:17:26.280 --> 00:17:28.290
  • But you getting offended about it all the time,
  • 00:17:28.290 --> 00:17:31.060
  • it's keeping you in captivity.
  • 00:17:31.060 --> 00:17:33.050
  • It's not like resolving anything in their life,
  • 00:17:33.050 --> 00:17:35.200
  • and their behavior.
  • 00:17:35.200 --> 00:17:37.050
  • You staying offended is actually holding you back.
  • 00:17:37.050 --> 00:17:40.070
  • So cry me a river, and build a bridge and get over it.
  • 00:17:40.070 --> 00:17:43.110
  • Let's get over it,
  • 00:17:43.110 --> 00:17:44.180
  • let's just get past what people have done,
  • 00:17:44.180 --> 00:17:46.180
  • (congregation applauding) or what they're doing,
  • 00:17:46.180 --> 00:17:48.030
  • let's stop getting easily ticked off and irritated
  • 00:17:48.030 --> 00:17:49.170
  • and offended, and if that's you, that's a red flag.
  • 00:17:49.170 --> 00:17:53.190
  • Let's change that behavior,
  • 00:17:53.190 --> 00:17:54.260
  • that's not God's will for our lives,
  • 00:17:54.260 --> 00:17:56.280
  • and by the way, the Bible is not behavior modification.
  • 00:17:56.280 --> 00:18:00.130
  • It's not behavior modification.
  • 00:18:00.130 --> 00:18:01.280
  • This is salvation, this is transformation,
  • 00:18:01.280 --> 00:18:05.000
  • this is grace in your life,
  • 00:18:05.000 --> 00:18:06.180
  • but that means it's going to change,
  • 00:18:06.180 --> 00:18:08.110
  • it should change your behavior,
  • 00:18:08.110 --> 00:18:09.280
  • it should change your life to become more like Jesus.
  • 00:18:09.280 --> 00:18:12.180
  • Like if I get saved,
  • 00:18:12.180 --> 00:18:14.050
  • and I keep having temper tantrums every day,
  • 00:18:14.050 --> 00:18:16.190
  • and punching holes through the wall,
  • 00:18:16.190 --> 00:18:18.160
  • and I'm like well, I'm saved, it's all good,
  • 00:18:18.160 --> 00:18:20.120
  • you know, I'm going to heaven,
  • 00:18:20.120 --> 00:18:21.270
  • I'm gonna just keep on living with this reckless behavior,
  • 00:18:21.270 --> 00:18:24.180
  • then something's not right,
  • 00:18:24.180 --> 00:18:26.030
  • I'm not fully surrendering to the work,
  • 00:18:26.030 --> 00:18:28.190
  • and the will, and the way of Jesus Christ
  • 00:18:28.190 --> 00:18:30.250
  • and the Holy Spirit, wanting to move,
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  • and grace is not a license to be lazy,
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  • grace is the empowerment to live out
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  • the calling of God on your life.
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  • (congregation applauding)
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  • Number 10, if you can't forgive him,
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  • if you stopped forgiving, if you said Paul,
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  • I've ran out of all my forgiveness cards.
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  • I've passed 'em all out.
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  • Jesus said 70 times seven, I've added up the multiplication,
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  • it's like 430, and I've done that, so I'm all out.
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  • And I'm not forgiving him anymore.
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  • I've stopped forgiving people.
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  • I have completely ran out of forgiveness in my life.
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  • If that's you, that's a red flag.
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  • Again, it's not even about getting offended.
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  • Now you're just holding onto grudges, resentment,
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  • bitterness, that's weeds that's choking out the flowers,
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  • the life in the garden of a believer.
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  • You've gotta pull those weeds out.
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  • You gotta deal with that bitterness, let it go.
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  • Everybody say let it go. - Let it go.
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  • - Come on, like Elsa, just let it go.
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  • Number 11, if you find yourself withdrawing
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  • from people who love you, if you are isolating yourself.
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  • Now when I was walking through a depression,
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  • this was something I did, I would come to church,
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  • and I would get just close enough to be around people,
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  • but I didn't let people get close enough
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  • to know what was going on inside my heart.
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  • I just kinda kept my distance.
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  • And I thought that that was good,
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  • I was like don't worry, I'm protecting them from what's,
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  • I need to protect me, and I need to protect them
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  • by not getting too close to people.
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  • Not really opening up to my wife when she would ask,
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  • "Are you really okay, are you sure you're okay?"
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  • "No, no, I'm totally fine, all is well."
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  • Even though I was hurting, and I was missing my dad.
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  • And I was frustrated, and I didn't have hope for the future.
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  • But I was distancing,
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  • and I thought isolation was a healthy thing,
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  • it's not, it's a setup for destruction.
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  • See the enemy wants to isolate you in your weakness,
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  • in your struggle, in you sin,
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  • and make you think you're the only one
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  • that's going through this,
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  • and no one else can know about it,
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  • and no one else should know
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  • about what's really happened in your heart,
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  • and what the enemy's trying to do
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  • is lure you away from the pack.
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  • Lure you away from your community,
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  • lure you away from relationships from the church.
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  • And when you least feel like being in relationships
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  • is when you need to be in relationships the most.
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  • So if you're isolating yourself, again this is a red flag.
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  • Number 12, when you're constantly
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  • comparing yourself to others.
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  • Comparison, if you get on social media,
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  • and you constantly start comparing yourself,
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  • then just get off social media.
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  • Like if you can't be on it to enjoy it,
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  • and be on it to celebrate it, then get off.
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  • If comparison is a daily trap for you, that's a red flag.
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  • Number 13, when you feel the need
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  • to beat everyone around you,
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  • when you're in a competition
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  • with every single person around you.
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  • You can't celebrate,
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  • you gotta have a bigger backyard then them,
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  • gotta have a nicer car, gotta have more skills,
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  • more talents, more opportunities,
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  • to make more money, have nicer clothes,
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  • you're in a competition with everyone around you,
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  • that's a red flag.
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  • When you can't be happy for people around you.
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  • Number 14, when you think you deserve things in life
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  • that you have not worked for, entitlement.
  • 00:21:24.030 --> 00:21:26.240
  • How many of y'all know entitlement today is a big red flag,
  • 00:21:26.240 --> 00:21:30.080
  • and it's happening.
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  • I am entitled to this, I'm entitled to this,
  • 00:21:31.180 --> 00:21:35.020
  • and again, by the grace of God, we have been saved
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  • from what we actually deserved.
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  • We did not earn that salvation, we are not entitled to it.
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  • We were given it as a sheer gift from God.
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  • That was his gift to us.
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  • And when we allow that grace to get inside of us,
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  • we stop walking around with an entitlement attitude.
  • 00:21:51.100 --> 00:21:54.220
  • Number 15, when my spiritual life has become separate
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  • from my daily life, when I'm living two different lives,
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  • when I'm categorizing my life.
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  • This is who I am when I'm around Pastor Paul,
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  • Pastor Sam, Pastor AJ, this is who I am around the church.
  • 00:22:03.150 --> 00:22:06.140
  • And this is who I am on Friday nights.
  • 00:22:06.140 --> 00:22:08.270
  • Now, don't get me wrong, I'm good on Sundays,
  • 00:22:08.270 --> 00:22:12.290
  • I'm good around the church people,
  • 00:22:12.290 --> 00:22:14.280
  • but when I'm with my boys at Applebee's,
  • 00:22:14.280 --> 00:22:17.150
  • come on Applebee's. (congregation laughing)
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  • When I'm with my ladies at the club,
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  • I'm gonna be, I'm a be a little bit different
  • 00:22:20.250 --> 00:22:22.250
  • because, you know, I gotta, I wanna have my fun times
  • 00:22:22.250 --> 00:22:25.080
  • on Friday nights, and don't worry,
  • 00:22:25.080 --> 00:22:26.210
  • I'm a get my Jesus praise on on Sunday.
  • 00:22:26.210 --> 00:22:28.250
  • You know, when we're categorizing our life,
  • 00:22:28.250 --> 00:22:31.100
  • if you're living two separate lives,
  • 00:22:31.100 --> 00:22:33.080
  • some of y'all are living like four separate lives.
  • 00:22:33.080 --> 00:22:35.090
  • (congregation laughing)
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  • Like you are one person in Tulsa,
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  • and then when you fly to Chicago,
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  • you're totally someone else.
  • 00:22:39.080 --> 00:22:41.010
  • And then when you go down to Dallas,
  • 00:22:41.010 --> 00:22:42.060
  • you got a whole 'nother family down there.
  • 00:22:42.060 --> 00:22:44.020
  • And then you go over to Zimbabwe,
  • 00:22:44.020 --> 00:22:46.000
  • and it's totally something else.
  • 00:22:46.000 --> 00:22:47.190
  • I'm just throwing out nations, so don't,
  • 00:22:47.190 --> 00:22:48.290
  • don't take it personal if I'm actually
  • 00:22:48.290 --> 00:22:50.250
  • calling out cities you go to.
  • 00:22:50.250 --> 00:22:52.170
  • (congregation laughing) but (laughing).
  • 00:22:52.170 --> 00:22:53.150
  • The goal in life is not to be four different people
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  • around different crowds.
  • 00:23:00.220 --> 00:23:01.240
  • The goal is integrity, honesty,
  • 00:23:01.240 --> 00:23:03.250
  • to be the same person you are at church
  • 00:23:03.250 --> 00:23:05.290
  • that you are on Friday nights, Monday nights,
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  • Saturday nights, during the work, like be honest.
  • 00:23:08.190 --> 00:23:11.180
  • (congregation applauding)
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  • 'Cause at the end of your life,
  • 00:23:12.260 --> 00:23:14.070
  • you're looking in the mirror,
  • 00:23:14.070 --> 00:23:15.220
  • and you can't fool that guy, you can't fool that girl.
  • 00:23:15.220 --> 00:23:18.070
  • And if they look back at you and go
  • 00:23:18.070 --> 00:23:20.040
  • you're not the same person around everyone,
  • 00:23:20.040 --> 00:23:22.210
  • you have all these split,
  • 00:23:22.210 --> 00:23:24.060
  • like you've categorized who you are around certain people.
  • 00:23:24.060 --> 00:23:27.180
  • Let's come back to a place of integrity, a place of honesty.
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  • (gentle music)
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  • Hey, I pray that message spoke to you, encouraged you,
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  • and just reminded you that God has a plan for your life,
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  • that God's not finished with you yet.
  • 00:23:37.110 --> 00:23:39.220
  • Maybe you're like me,
  • 00:23:39.220 --> 00:23:41.000
  • you've had some red flags in your life,
  • 00:23:41.000 --> 00:23:42.160
  • you've had some times where you weren't doing that well.
  • 00:23:42.160 --> 00:23:45.100
  • You were either struggling with past regret,
  • 00:23:45.100 --> 00:23:47.270
  • shame, mistakes, sin, you were hiding things from people.
  • 00:23:47.270 --> 00:23:51.150
  • Maybe you feel like you've messed up too bad
  • 00:23:51.150 --> 00:23:53.250
  • for God to forgive you.
  • 00:23:53.250 --> 00:23:55.080
  • Maybe you feel like you've stepped into
  • 00:23:55.080 --> 00:23:57.160
  • too much problems in your life for you to ever be lovable,
  • 00:23:57.160 --> 00:24:01.170
  • for you to ever have a healthy marriage,
  • 00:24:01.170 --> 00:24:03.090
  • a healthy relationship.
  • 00:24:03.090 --> 00:24:04.240
  • I wanna tell you today, you are never too far gone
  • 00:24:04.240 --> 00:24:07.220
  • or too far messed up for God to not heal,
  • 00:24:07.220 --> 00:24:10.200
  • to change, to renew.
  • 00:24:10.200 --> 00:24:12.070
  • I've seen God do some of his greatest work
  • 00:24:12.070 --> 00:24:14.250
  • in people who thought that they were messed up for good,
  • 00:24:14.250 --> 00:24:17.170
  • that they were damaged goods, that God could never use them,
  • 00:24:17.170 --> 00:24:20.110
  • and yet they went on to have the healthiest marriages,
  • 00:24:20.110 --> 00:24:22.220
  • the healthiest families.
  • 00:24:22.220 --> 00:24:24.050
  • They came from broken homes, generational curses,
  • 00:24:24.050 --> 00:24:26.290
  • so many addictions, people coming out of prison,
  • 00:24:26.290 --> 00:24:29.200
  • coming out of jail, with so much baggage,
  • 00:24:29.200 --> 00:24:31.220
  • and yet God has redeemed, God has restored,
  • 00:24:31.220 --> 00:24:34.190
  • God has healed.
  • 00:24:34.190 --> 00:24:35.260
  • If God did it for them, if God did it for me,
  • 00:24:35.260 --> 00:24:38.010
  • he can do it for you.
  • 00:24:38.010 --> 00:24:39.150
  • Just say this prayer with me, say Jesus, I'm all yours.
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  • Lord, I repent of my past, and I receive your forgiveness.
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  • Lord, I choose to trust in you.
  • 00:24:47.140 --> 00:24:50.000
  • God my future is in your hands.
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  • Lord, heal my heart, redeem my life, use me for your glory.
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  • In Jesus name, amen.
  • 00:24:58.080 --> 00:25:00.050
  • I believe God's gonna do that,
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  • I believe he's gonna redeem, restore, heal,
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  • and use you for his glory.
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  • Hey, we're here for ya as a church.
  • 00:25:06.030 --> 00:25:07.180
  • If there's anything we can do for you, let us know.
  • 00:25:07.180 --> 00:25:09.150
  • Call the number at the bottom of the screen,
  • 00:25:09.150 --> 00:25:11.080
  • we'll pray for you, we'll talk to ya,
  • 00:25:11.080 --> 00:25:13.090
  • also, you can email us at info@victory.com.
  • 00:25:13.090 --> 00:25:16.180
  • That's I-N-F-O @victory.com.
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  • Just tell us your prayer request, your praise report.
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  • What's going on in your life, we wanna hear from ya.
  • 00:25:21.000 --> 00:25:23.090
  • If you're ever in Tulsa, come to a live service at Victory.
  • 00:25:23.090 --> 00:25:26.110
  • I'd love to shake your hand,
  • 00:25:26.110 --> 00:25:27.270
  • we'll make you feel right at home, here at Victory.
  • 00:25:27.270 --> 00:25:30.080
  • And then you can also stream our services,
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  • live at victory.com, every single week,
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  • we're streaming our services on Sunday morning,
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  • Saturday nights, Wednesday nights,
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  • and we'd love for you to join us online,
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  • the online church community.
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  • Hey listen, we love you so much.
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  • If this ministry has impacted you in any way,
  • 00:25:43.280 --> 00:25:46.170
  • considering sowing a financial gift,
  • 00:25:46.170 --> 00:25:49.000
  • a financial donation into Victory,
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  • to help us reach more people with God's love,
  • 00:25:50.290 --> 00:25:53.100
  • to help us continue to do what we're doing on TV,
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  • and around the world,
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  • and bringing compassion and outreach to people that need it.
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  • We love you so much, never forget,
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  • your best days are right in front of you.
  • 00:26:01.210 --> 00:26:04.170
  • (rock music) I refuse to quit,
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  • I refuse to throw in the towel, I choose to live.
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  • - Victory is possible.
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  • - Giving people hope, because you and I
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  • are to be ambassadors of hope.
  • 00:26:13.240 --> 00:26:15.180
  • - You're defined by what God already did for you.
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  • - So you don't get the last say in what God does for me.
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  • - There is a God in heaven, who comes to you,
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  • and he calls you friend.
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  • - He is a healer, so I'm gon' stop bothering him,
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  • until I get what I need.
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  • (gentle music)
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  • - [Narrator] Victory Christian School
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  • is pursuing families that share our vision
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  • and standard for education.
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  • Our families are here on purpose.
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  • We raise up leaders of tomorrow
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  • by preparing the heart, mind, and body.
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  • With challenging academics, a celebration of the arts,
  • 00:26:49.180 --> 00:26:53.010
  • and championship level athletics,
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  • we are reaching new heights each year.
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  • Victory Christian School is more than an education.
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  • It's preparation for a calling.
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  • (gentle music)
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  • - [Announcer] You can listen to Pastor Paul's message,
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  • and experience Victory anytime,
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  • through our mobile Victory app, in the app store.
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  • When you have the app, you can listen to Victory everyday.
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  • Go online from your computer or phone right now
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  • to download it.
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  • Victory app is available in the app store.
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  • (gentle music)
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