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January 17, 2021
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Messages of hope and redemption from Passion City Church in Atlanta, Georgia, with Louie Giglio.

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  • - When I was dead I couldn't
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  • but I'm not dead anymore
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  • so I may.
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  • I may go to church.
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  • I may serve God.
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  • I may give generously.
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  • I may yield my life to Him.
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  • I may join the song of Heaven.
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  • I may lift up a shout of praise.
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  • I may join in His eternal
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  • purposes on planet Earth.
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  • It's a privilege of mine
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  • to enter into
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  • the things of God.
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  • Nobody's twisting my arm to put
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  • my life in the hands of God.
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  • Amen.
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  • Amen.So let's look in chapter 3,
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  • So let's look in chapter 3,in verse 1.
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  • in verse 1.And we're gonna come back
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  • And we're gonna come backand put context again over this
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  • and put context again over thissection, but let's just read
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  • section, but let's just readit together beginning
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  • it together beginningin verse 1.
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  • in verse 1.It says, "Wives, in the same
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  • It says, "Wives, in the sameway be submissive to your
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  • way be submissive to yourhusbands, so that if any of them
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  • husbands, so that if any of themdo not believe the Word,
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  • do not believe the Word,they may be won over without
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  • they may be won over withoutwords by the behavior
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  • words by the behaviorof their wives.
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  • of their wives.When they see the purity
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  • When they see the purityand the reverence of your lives.
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  • and the reverence of your lives.Your beauty should not come
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  • Your beauty should not comefrom outward adornment,
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  • from outward adornment,such as braided hair
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  • such as braided hairand the wearing of gold jewelry
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  • and the wearing of gold jewelryand fine clothes.
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  • and fine clothes.Instead, it should be that
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  • Instead, it should be thatof your inner self,
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  • of your inner self,the unfading beauty of a gentle
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  • the unfading beauty of a gentleand quiet spirit,
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  • and quiet spirit,which is of great worth
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  • which is of great worthin God's sight.
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  • in God's sight.For this is the way the holy
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  • For this is the way the holywomen used to make
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  • women used to makethemselves beautiful.
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  • themselves beautiful.They were submissive to their
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  • They were submissive to theirown husbands, like Sarah,
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  • own husbands, like Sarah,who obeyed Abraham
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  • who obeyed Abrahamand called him her master.
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  • and called him her master.You are her daughters if you do
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  • You are her daughters if you dowhat is right and do not
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  • what is right and do notgive way to fear.
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  • give way to fear.Husbands, in the same way
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  • Husbands, in the same waybe considerate as you live
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  • be considerate as you livewith your wives,
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  • with your wives,and treat them with respect
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  • and treat them with respectas the weaker partner.
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  • as the weaker partner.And as heirs with you
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  • And as heirs with youof the gracious gift of life,
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  • of the gracious gift of life,so that nothing will hinder
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  • so that nothing will hinderyour prayers."
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  • your prayers."And then down in verse 8,
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  • And then down in verse 8,"Finally, all of you,"
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  • "Finally, all of you,"So if you don't fit
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  • So if you don't fitin the category above,
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  • in the category above,now all of us are invited
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  • now all of us are invitedinto this possibility.
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  • into this possibility."Finally, all of you,
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  • "Finally, all of you,live in harmony
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  • live in harmonywith one another.
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  • with one another.Be sympathetic.
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  • Be sympathetic.Love as brothers,
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  • Love as brothers,be compassionate, and humble.
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  • be compassionate, and humble.Do not repay evil with evil,
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  • Do not repay evil with evil,or insult with insult,
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  • or insult with insult,but with blessing, because
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  • but with blessing, becauseto this you were called so that
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  • to this you were called so thatyou may inherit a blessing."
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  • you may inherit a blessing."Now this text, babe, just
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  • Now this text, babe, justreading it obviously we know
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  • reading it obviously we knowwe're in culture when we
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  • we're in culture when weread it, but man, people
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  • read it, but man, peopleare already getting nervous,
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  • are already getting nervous,like man, it says, like,
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  • like man, it says, like,the wife has to submit
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  • the wife has to submitto the husband and the wife
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  • to the husband and the wifeis the weaker vessel.
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  • is the weaker vessel.I thought, "Wow, okay.
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  • I thought, "Wow, okay.This could get really dicey."
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  • This could get really dicey."So let's back up just
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  • So let's back up justfor a moment and put the big
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  • for a moment and put the bigculture context over
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  • culture context overthis passage.
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  • this passage.The gospel's moving.
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  • The gospel's moving.Apparently some of these women
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  • Apparently some of these womenare coming to faith.
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  • are coming to faith.They're hearing the story
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  • They're hearing the storyof Jesus, they're putting their
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  • of Jesus, they're putting theirfaith in Jesus, and their lives
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  • faith in Jesus, and their livesare being completely changed,
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  • are being completely changed,but their husbands don't get it.
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  • but their husbands don't get it.And so now, in a town where
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  • And so now, in a town wherethe gospel has just arrived,
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  • the gospel has just arrived,you have a woman who is now
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  • you have a woman who is nowin the Kingdom
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  • in the Kingdomand a husband who's not.
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  • and a husband who's not.A woman who's believing
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  • A woman who's believingin Jesus, but a husband who's
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  • in Jesus, but a husband who'snot and maybe is actually
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  • not and maybe is actuallyanti-believing in Jesus.
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  • anti-believing in Jesus.And what Peter is saying is,
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  • And what Peter is saying is,you've got an opportunity
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  • you've got an opportunityto have influence and power
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  • to have influence and powerto see Jesus change your family
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  • to see Jesus change your familyand change your husband.
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  • and change your husband.So that's the specific context
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  • So that's the specific contextthat he's speaking
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  • that he's speakingto in this paragraph.
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  • to in this paragraph.And I love what he says,
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  • And I love what he says,the simple reality that you
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  • the simple reality that youand I can all take away from
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  • and I can all take away fromthis is, he's saying,
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  • this is, he's saying,"Hey, let it be the quality
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  • "Hey, let it be the qualityof your life that wins your
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  • of your life that wins yourhusband, not the quantity
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  • husband, not the quantityof your words that
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  • of your words thatwins your husband."
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  • wins your husband."And then Peter shifts into
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  • And then Peter shifts intothis next section.
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  • this next section.I think I'm gonna let you
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  • I think I'm gonna let youtake this one, babe,
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  • take this one, babe,because man it would be
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  • because man it would bea train wreck for me to get into
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  • a train wreck for me to get into"your beauty should not come
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  • "your beauty should not comefrom outward adornment."
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  • from outward adornment."And he highlights some
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  • And he highlights someof the cultural things
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  • of the cultural thingsof that day, which you can go
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  • of that day, which you can goand look into that,
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  • and look into that,but apparently a woman would
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  • but apparently a woman wouldwant to put her hair up so high
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  • want to put her hair up so highthat she couldn't even sleep
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  • that she couldn't even sleepat night and it wasn't just
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  • at night and it wasn't justabout having jewelry, but it was
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  • about having jewelry, but it wasjust, like, this overwhelming
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  • just, like, this overwhelmingabundance of jewelry.
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  • abundance of jewelry.And it wasn't that there was
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  • And it wasn't that there wasanything wrong with wearing nice
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  • anything wrong with wearing niceclothes, it's just that
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  • clothes, it's just thatthe adornment that Peter
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  • the adornment that Peteris referencing in the culture
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  • is referencing in the culturewas pretty over the top.
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  • was pretty over the top.And then he says, there's
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  • And then he says, there'san inner beauty that's more
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  • an inner beauty that's morepowerful than all of that,
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  • powerful than all of that,and I'm gonna let you talk
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  • and I'm gonna let you talkto that because you always go
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  • to that because you always goback to this phrase your
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  • back to this phrase yourgrandmother used and I think
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  • grandmother used and I thinkit's a pretty powerful phrase.
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  • it's a pretty powerful phrase.What was it that she said a lot?
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  • What was it that she said a lot?- Yeah, she used to say,
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  • - Yeah, she used to say,"Pretty is as pretty does."
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  • "Pretty is as pretty does."Have you guys heard
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  • Have you guys heardthat statement in life?
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  • that statement in life?I think it was a generational
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  • I think it was a generationalthing probably for my
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  • thing probably for mygrandmother's generation,
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  • grandmother's generation,but it's so true even today.
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  • but it's so true even today.That actually beauty isn't just
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  • That actually beauty isn't justresident on our appearance,
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  • resident on our appearance,but beauty is really found
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  • but beauty is really foundinside of our hearts.
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  • inside of our hearts.And that's what God says He's
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  • And that's what God says He'sjudging and looking at today.
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  • judging and looking at today.And I think it's important.
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  • And I think it's important.I think that as we
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  • I think that as weadorn ourselves...
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  • adorn ourselves...I have on jewelry today,
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  • I have on jewelry today,I have on earrings
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  • I have on earringsand bracelets.
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  • and bracelets.All these bracelets I collect
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  • All these bracelets I collectfrom people that give me things
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  • from people that give me thingsand I wear them
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  • and I wear themto remember those people.
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  • to remember those people.So God isn't caught up with
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  • So God isn't caught up withwhether I'm wearing bracelets.
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  • whether I'm wearing bracelets.He doesn't care that my hair
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  • He doesn't care that my hairis a little flat today.
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  • is a little flat today.He's not all that
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  • He's not all thatinterested in that.
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  • interested in that.Although it is.
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  • Although it is.What He's interested
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  • What He's interestedin is what's inside of me.
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  • in is what's inside of me.And what He's interested
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  • And what He's interestedin for you is the same.
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  • in for you is the same.And He's saying today,
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  • And He's saying today,"Hey, I have an opportunity
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  • "Hey, I have an opportunityfor you to come
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  • for you to cometo a reconciliation point
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  • to a reconciliation pointin your life over who is King.
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  • in your life over who is King.And when you reconcile that
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  • And when you reconcile thatinside of you, I can reconcile
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  • inside of you, I can reconcilethe whole word to Me
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  • the whole word to Methrough you."
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  • through you."So what a privilege we have
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  • So what a privilege we havetoday to talk about the inner
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  • today to talk about the innerbeauty that shines through our
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  • beauty that shines through oureyes, face on, and face out
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  • eyes, face on, and face outto the whole world.
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  • to the whole world.I love it so much.
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  • I love it so much.- This next little line here
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  • - This next little line herein verse 7, the roles are sort
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  • in verse 7, the roles are sortof reversed, and it says,
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  • of reversed, and it says,"Husbands in the same way
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  • "Husbands in the same waybe considerate as you live
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  • be considerate as you livewith your wives, and treat them
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  • with your wives, and treat themwith respect as the weaker
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  • with respect as the weakerpartner," babe.
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  • partner," babe.I wanted you to be here
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  • I wanted you to be herewhen we unpacked that.
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  • when we unpacked that.- Now I see why I'm here.
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  • - Now I see why I'm here.Okay, great.
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  • Okay, great.- You're like, "What
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  • - You're like, "Whatin the world is that all about?"
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  • in the world is that all about?"Well, honestly the literal
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  • Well, honestly the literalcontext of this is,
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  • context of this is,it just means that God created
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  • it just means that God createdthe frame of women weaker
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  • the frame of women weakerthan the frame of men.
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  • than the frame of men.And that's really what the text
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  • And that's really what the textis all about.
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  • is all about.In other words, if you're moving
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  • In other words, if you're movingand you hire a moving company,
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  • and you hire a moving company,you're not really hoping
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  • you're not really hopinga truck and four women show up.
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  • a truck and four women show up.That's not what you're thinking.
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  • That's not what you're thinking.You're thinking a truck and some
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  • You're thinking a truck and somedudes are gonna show up
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  • dudes are gonna show upand pack your house up
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  • and pack your house upand move it.
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  • and move it.You're like, "No.
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  • You're like, "No.I know some women who can move
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  • I know some women who can movea lot better than some
  • 00:07:00.669 --> 00:07:01.937
  • a lot better than someof the guys I know."
  • 00:07:01.937 --> 00:07:03.305
  • of the guys I know."Absolutely.
  • 00:07:03.305 --> 00:07:05.140
  • Absolutely.And that's not what the text
  • 00:07:05.140 --> 00:07:06.308
  • And that's not what the textis trying to say.
  • 00:07:06.308 --> 00:07:07.542
  • is trying to say.The text isn't saying that women
  • 00:07:07.542 --> 00:07:08.977
  • The text isn't saying that womenaren't as smart as men, they
  • 00:07:08.977 --> 00:07:11.646
  • aren't as smart as men, theydon't have the gifting as men,
  • 00:07:11.646 --> 00:07:14.249
  • don't have the gifting as men,it's saying that women's frame
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  • it's saying that women's frameis weaker by and large
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  • is weaker by and largethan a man's frame.
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  • than a man's frame.And God's created us with unique
  • 00:07:19.721 --> 00:07:20.722
  • And God's created us with uniqueroles and differences.
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  • roles and differences.God's given to man
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  • God's given to manthe stewardship to be the leader
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  • the stewardship to be the leaderof the family.
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  • of the family.That is not a knock on women
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  • That is not a knock on womenat all and even in this text,
  • 00:07:29.064 --> 00:07:29.865
  • at all and even in this text,it shows that there
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  • it shows that thereis a powerful partnership
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  • is a powerful partnershipin marriage.
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  • in marriage.And I think that's one
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  • And I think that's oneof the things Shelley and I
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  • of the things Shelley and Iwanted to unpack
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  • wanted to unpacka little bit today.
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  • a little bit today.There's a powerful possibility,
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  • There's a powerful possibility,I believe, when a man realizes
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  • I believe, when a man realizesit in marriage that partnership
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  • it in marriage that partnershipis where the power is.
  • 00:07:47.349 --> 00:07:49.084
  • is where the power is.And yes, God gives
  • 00:07:49.084 --> 00:07:49.918
  • And yes, God givesdifferent roles.
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  • different roles.And yes, God gives structure.
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  • And yes, God gives structure.But there's a partnership
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  • But there's a partnershipin every marriage, if that
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  • in every marriage, if thatmarriage is gonna really have
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  • marriage is gonna really haveit's best chance to have
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  • it's best chance to havethe biggest impact on the world.
  • 00:08:02.697 --> 00:08:04.332
  • the biggest impact on the world.We had this couple of little
  • 00:08:04.332 --> 00:08:05.700
  • We had this couple of littlepieces of pottery at our house
  • 00:08:05.700 --> 00:08:07.602
  • pieces of pottery at our housethat were given to us when we
  • 00:08:07.602 --> 00:08:08.670
  • that were given to us when wewent to Israel for the first
  • 00:08:08.670 --> 00:08:10.972
  • went to Israel for the firsttime decades ago.
  • 00:08:10.972 --> 00:08:12.974
  • time decades ago.And they're seemingly legit.
  • 00:08:12.974 --> 00:08:14.376
  • And they're seemingly legit.They've got these certificates
  • 00:08:14.376 --> 00:08:16.478
  • They've got these certificatesof authenticity and they,
  • 00:08:16.478 --> 00:08:17.879
  • of authenticity and they,like, date from what we're
  • 00:08:17.879 --> 00:08:19.014
  • like, date from what we'rereading about right here.
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  • reading about right here.One of them is a little jar
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  • One of them is a little jarabout this big and it's on this
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  • about this big and it's on thislittle stand and we don't have
  • 00:08:24.085 --> 00:08:26.121
  • little stand and we don't havekids running around the house
  • 00:08:26.121 --> 00:08:27.055
  • kids running around the houseand didn't at the time
  • 00:08:27.055 --> 00:08:27.789
  • and didn't at the timeand so we just put
  • 00:08:27.789 --> 00:08:28.890
  • and so we just putit on this table.
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  • it on this table.And one day we had a friend come
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  • And one day we had a friend comeover who had kids and he was
  • 00:08:32.260 --> 00:08:33.962
  • over who had kids and he waslike, "Is that thing real?"
  • 00:08:33.962 --> 00:08:34.930
  • like, "Is that thing real?"And I was like, "Yeah.
  • 00:08:34.930 --> 00:08:35.864
  • And I was like, "Yeah.It's, like, real,
  • 00:08:35.864 --> 00:08:37.065
  • It's, like, real,like Jesus time.
  • 00:08:37.065 --> 00:08:38.967
  • like Jesus time.Jesus may have actually touched
  • 00:08:38.967 --> 00:08:40.135
  • Jesus may have actually touchedit at some point.
  • 00:08:40.135 --> 00:08:40.835
  • it at some point.I don't know."
  • 00:08:40.835 --> 00:08:41.703
  • I don't know."And he goes, "Why do you have
  • 00:08:41.703 --> 00:08:42.671
  • And he goes, "Why do you haveit just sitting out
  • 00:08:42.671 --> 00:08:43.738
  • it just sitting outon the table like that?"
  • 00:08:43.738 --> 00:08:44.806
  • on the table like that?"And he, like, picked it up
  • 00:08:44.806 --> 00:08:45.640
  • And he, like, picked it upand he was like,
  • 00:08:45.640 --> 00:08:46.708
  • and he was like,"My kids are coming out
  • 00:08:46.708 --> 00:08:47.676
  • "My kids are coming outof the car right now.
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  • of the car right now.You don't want stuff like
  • 00:08:48.510 --> 00:08:49.711
  • You don't want stuff likethis in your house."
  • 00:08:49.711 --> 00:08:51.346
  • this in your house."And he takes it in another room
  • 00:08:51.346 --> 00:08:52.347
  • And he takes it in another roomand he puts it way up
  • 00:08:52.347 --> 00:08:53.515
  • and he puts it way upon a top shelf.
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  • on a top shelf.And I don't know why
  • 00:08:54.716 --> 00:08:55.517
  • And I don't know whybut that came back
  • 00:08:55.517 --> 00:08:56.851
  • but that came backto my mind reading this.
  • 00:08:56.851 --> 00:08:58.420
  • to my mind reading this.It's like it's a mentality
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  • It's like it's a mentalityof the husband to say,
  • 00:09:00.322 --> 00:09:01.723
  • of the husband to say,"I want to treat my wife
  • 00:09:01.723 --> 00:09:04.793
  • "I want to treat my wifewith that kind of value.
  • 00:09:04.793 --> 00:09:05.560
  • with that kind of value.I want to have that kind
  • 00:09:05.560 --> 00:09:08.997
  • I want to have that kindof consideration for her
  • 00:09:08.997 --> 00:09:12.000
  • of consideration for heras valuable in this partnership
  • 00:09:12.000 --> 00:09:12.901
  • as valuable in this partnershipthat God has allowed
  • 00:09:12.901 --> 00:09:14.936
  • that God has allowedus to be in."
  • 00:09:14.936 --> 00:09:16.137
  • us to be in."I have the spiritual gift
  • 00:09:16.137 --> 00:09:18.907
  • I have the spiritual giftof going from A to B.
  • 00:09:18.907 --> 00:09:19.874
  • of going from A to B.And some of you wives
  • 00:09:19.874 --> 00:09:20.775
  • And some of you wivescan 'amen' that.
  • 00:09:20.775 --> 00:09:21.376
  • can 'amen' that.There's a lot of tension
  • 00:09:21.376 --> 00:09:22.243
  • There's a lot of tensionin the room right now.
  • 00:09:22.243 --> 00:09:22.978
  • in the room right now.Nobody's laughing,
  • 00:09:22.978 --> 00:09:23.878
  • Nobody's laughing,nobody's breathing,
  • 00:09:23.878 --> 00:09:24.546
  • nobody's breathing,everybody's like, "Are they
  • 00:09:24.546 --> 00:09:25.480
  • everybody's like, "Are theygonna make it through this?"
  • 00:09:25.480 --> 00:09:27.916
  • gonna make it through this?"I think we are.
  • 00:09:27.916 --> 00:09:29.651
  • I think we are.But a lot of women know that
  • 00:09:29.651 --> 00:09:30.952
  • But a lot of women know thatabout your husband, right?
  • 00:09:30.952 --> 00:09:32.554
  • about your husband, right?He's got that, "I got an idea.
  • 00:09:32.554 --> 00:09:33.488
  • He's got that, "I got an idea.Let's do it."
  • 00:09:33.488 --> 00:09:34.856
  • Let's do it."And then about 20 minutes later
  • 00:09:34.856 --> 00:09:36.458
  • And then about 20 minutes laterhe's got another idea.
  • 00:09:36.458 --> 00:09:37.292
  • he's got another idea.Or maybe it's flip-flopped
  • 00:09:37.292 --> 00:09:38.493
  • Or maybe it's flip-floppedin your relationship.
  • 00:09:38.493 --> 00:09:39.761
  • in your relationship.But I'm the A to B guy
  • 00:09:39.761 --> 00:09:41.796
  • But I'm the A to B guyand Shelley's the A to Z person
  • 00:09:41.796 --> 00:09:42.998
  • and Shelley's the A to Z personin our relationship
  • 00:09:42.998 --> 00:09:47.202
  • in our relationshipand it's been the melding
  • 00:09:47.202 --> 00:09:48.837
  • and it's been the meldingtogether of those two things
  • 00:09:48.837 --> 00:09:50.071
  • together of those two thingsthat's allowed us to do
  • 00:09:50.071 --> 00:09:51.606
  • that's allowed us to doeverything we've done
  • 00:09:51.606 --> 00:09:52.374
  • everything we've donein our lives.
  • 00:09:52.374 --> 00:09:54.275
  • in our lives.And you talk about it, babe,
  • 00:09:54.275 --> 00:09:56.811
  • And you talk about it, babe,complimenting versus competing.
  • 00:09:56.811 --> 00:09:58.680
  • complimenting versus competing.And I know that you made this
  • 00:09:58.680 --> 00:10:00.148
  • And I know that you made thispost, long before we planned
  • 00:10:00.148 --> 00:10:02.584
  • post, long before we plannedon doing this series,
  • 00:10:02.584 --> 00:10:04.552
  • on doing this series,in October on your Instagram.
  • 00:10:04.552 --> 00:10:05.654
  • in October on your Instagram.And Shelley's a good follow,
  • 00:10:05.654 --> 00:10:07.789
  • And Shelley's a good follow,by the way, on Instagram.
  • 00:10:07.789 --> 00:10:08.657
  • by the way, on Instagram.There's a lot of wisdom
  • 00:10:08.657 --> 00:10:09.524
  • There's a lot of wisdomcoming out of there,
  • 00:10:09.524 --> 00:10:10.692
  • coming out of there,but I asked if we could put
  • 00:10:10.692 --> 00:10:11.526
  • but I asked if we could putthis up today.
  • 00:10:11.526 --> 00:10:12.661
  • this up today.This is us in the Valley
  • 00:10:12.661 --> 00:10:14.195
  • This is us in the Valleyof Elah.
  • 00:10:14.195 --> 00:10:15.463
  • of Elah.She says, you say--
  • 00:10:15.463 --> 00:10:16.197
  • She says, you say--I say, she says.
  • 00:10:16.197 --> 00:10:17.365
  • I say, she says.You said, "As a wife,
  • 00:10:17.365 --> 00:10:19.300
  • You said, "As a wife,I'm subject to my husband
  • 00:10:19.300 --> 00:10:21.536
  • I'm subject to my husbandand his leadership.
  • 00:10:21.536 --> 00:10:22.971
  • and his leadership.He's also my Pastor."
  • 00:10:22.971 --> 00:10:23.738
  • He's also my Pastor."And when I read that line,
  • 00:10:23.738 --> 00:10:24.606
  • And when I read that line,I was like, "Man, that
  • 00:10:24.606 --> 00:10:26.675
  • I was like, "Man, thatis a heavy load right there.
  • 00:10:26.675 --> 00:10:28.276
  • is a heavy load right there.This dude is my husband and he's
  • 00:10:28.276 --> 00:10:29.377
  • This dude is my husband and he'salso my Pastor."
  • 00:10:29.377 --> 00:10:30.111
  • also my Pastor."I had never really thought
  • 00:10:30.111 --> 00:10:32.914
  • I had never really thoughtabout that until I read that.
  • 00:10:32.914 --> 00:10:33.715
  • about that until I read that.- That's why I posted it,
  • 00:10:33.715 --> 00:10:35.817
  • - That's why I posted it,just so you could read it.
  • 00:10:35.817 --> 00:10:37.419
  • just so you could read it.- "I am the daughter of my
  • 00:10:37.419 --> 00:10:39.320
  • - "I am the daughter of myfather, both earthly
  • 00:10:39.320 --> 00:10:40.088
  • father, both earthlyand heavenly,
  • 00:10:40.088 --> 00:10:41.723
  • and heavenly,and I'm subject and determined
  • 00:10:41.723 --> 00:10:43.658
  • and I'm subject and determinedto honor them both.
  • 00:10:43.658 --> 00:10:45.627
  • to honor them both.I'm not less because I am under
  • 00:10:45.627 --> 00:10:46.695
  • I'm not less because I am undertheir leadership.
  • 00:10:46.695 --> 00:10:48.496
  • their leadership.I am more at peace because
  • 00:10:48.496 --> 00:10:50.732
  • I am more at peace becauseI choose to honor and respect.
  • 00:10:50.732 --> 00:10:52.367
  • I choose to honor and respect.The world is lying when it says
  • 00:10:52.367 --> 00:10:53.968
  • The world is lying when it saysthat to submit
  • 00:10:53.968 --> 00:10:55.270
  • that to submitis to be controlled,
  • 00:10:55.270 --> 00:10:57.205
  • is to be controlled,when in actuality appropriate
  • 00:10:57.205 --> 00:10:59.307
  • when in actuality appropriatesubmission is the dying to self
  • 00:10:59.307 --> 00:11:01.042
  • submission is the dying to selfin the story of gospel
  • 00:11:01.042 --> 00:11:03.311
  • in the story of gospelthat brings us to life, freedom,
  • 00:11:03.311 --> 00:11:05.814
  • that brings us to life, freedom,and ultimately abundance.
  • 00:11:05.814 --> 00:11:06.848
  • and ultimately abundance.Now obviously I'm not speaking
  • 00:11:06.848 --> 00:11:08.149
  • Now obviously I'm not speakingof the misuse of power,"
  • 00:11:08.149 --> 00:11:10.018
  • of the misuse of power,"and of course we're not speaking
  • 00:11:10.018 --> 00:11:12.587
  • and of course we're not speakingof that and neither is Peter."
  • 00:11:12.587 --> 00:11:13.788
  • of that and neither is Peter."We have to be wise enough
  • 00:11:13.788 --> 00:11:14.689
  • We have to be wise enoughby the Spirit to figure
  • 00:11:14.689 --> 00:11:16.157
  • by the Spirit to figureout the difference.
  • 00:11:16.157 --> 00:11:17.459
  • out the difference.The guidelines God
  • 00:11:17.459 --> 00:11:18.827
  • The guidelines Godhas encouraged us to live
  • 00:11:18.827 --> 00:11:21.129
  • has encouraged us to livewithin are in reality for our
  • 00:11:21.129 --> 00:11:23.098
  • within are in reality for ourgood and for His glory.
  • 00:11:23.098 --> 00:11:25.266
  • good and for His glory.Be free women of faith.
  • 00:11:25.266 --> 00:11:26.401
  • Be free women of faith.Rise up to your full
  • 00:11:26.401 --> 00:11:28.336
  • Rise up to your fullpotential in Jesus.
  • 00:11:28.336 --> 00:11:29.904
  • potential in Jesus.No man or woman can stop you
  • 00:11:29.904 --> 00:11:31.339
  • No man or woman can stop youfrom the destiny God purposed
  • 00:11:31.339 --> 00:11:33.174
  • from the destiny God purposedyou to and for."
  • 00:11:33.174 --> 00:11:34.375
  • you to and for."This is inspiring me.
  • 00:11:34.375 --> 00:11:35.410
  • This is inspiring me."Be wise.
  • 00:11:35.410 --> 00:11:36.478
  • "Be wise.Be honorable.
  • 00:11:36.478 --> 00:11:38.246
  • Be honorable.Serve God and people
  • 00:11:38.246 --> 00:11:40.315
  • Serve God and peoplewith humility and grace.
  • 00:11:40.315 --> 00:11:43.051
  • with humility and grace.Live in truth and abundance
  • 00:11:43.051 --> 00:11:45.320
  • Live in truth and abundancetoday and always.
  • 00:11:45.320 --> 00:11:46.154
  • today and always.Amen."
  • 00:11:46.154 --> 00:11:49.424
  • Amen."That's a very powerful post.
  • 00:11:49.424 --> 00:11:50.859
  • That's a very powerful post.[applause]
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  • [applause]- Thank you.
  • 00:11:52.026 --> 00:11:52.794
  • - Thank you.- What were you thinking when
  • 00:11:52.794 --> 00:11:54.028
  • - What were you thinking whenyou posted that.
  • 00:11:54.028 --> 00:11:55.063
  • you posted that.And you don't have to--
  • 00:11:55.063 --> 00:11:55.964
  • And you don't have to--Something probably prompted
  • 00:11:55.964 --> 00:11:58.299
  • Something probably promptedthat, but what were you thinking
  • 00:11:58.299 --> 00:11:59.634
  • that, but what were you thinkingand how can you unpack
  • 00:11:59.634 --> 00:12:01.069
  • and how can you unpackthat for us today.
  • 00:12:01.069 --> 00:12:02.103
  • that for us today.- Yeah, I mean, I think I was
  • 00:12:02.103 --> 00:12:03.271
  • - Yeah, I mean, I think I wasthinking that it just feels
  • 00:12:03.271 --> 00:12:05.273
  • thinking that it just feelslike as a woman today
  • 00:12:05.273 --> 00:12:06.508
  • like as a woman todaythat either--
  • 00:12:06.508 --> 00:12:08.042
  • that either--Either you're in a life
  • 00:12:08.042 --> 00:12:09.444
  • Either you're in a lifeof submission to a family
  • 00:12:09.444 --> 00:12:11.045
  • of submission to a familymember, to a husband,
  • 00:12:11.045 --> 00:12:14.082
  • member, to a husband,to leadership, or you're strong
  • 00:12:14.082 --> 00:12:16.050
  • to leadership, or you're strongand you rise above it all.
  • 00:12:16.050 --> 00:12:18.153
  • and you rise above it all.And I actually think you can
  • 00:12:18.153 --> 00:12:19.220
  • And I actually think you canbe within it and rise
  • 00:12:19.220 --> 00:12:20.555
  • be within it and riseabove it all.
  • 00:12:20.555 --> 00:12:23.158
  • above it all.And so I was trying to say,
  • 00:12:23.158 --> 00:12:24.692
  • And so I was trying to say,and I don't remember it really
  • 00:12:24.692 --> 00:12:25.627
  • and I don't remember it reallybeing spurred on by
  • 00:12:25.627 --> 00:12:27.762
  • being spurred on byanything except just--
  • 00:12:27.762 --> 00:12:28.830
  • anything except just--You know, I live in the culture
  • 00:12:28.830 --> 00:12:29.764
  • You know, I live in the culturewe live in.
  • 00:12:29.764 --> 00:12:31.065
  • we live in.I absorb all the things that
  • 00:12:31.065 --> 00:12:32.333
  • I absorb all the things thatpeople are talking about.
  • 00:12:32.333 --> 00:12:33.134
  • people are talking about.I'm watching the news
  • 00:12:33.134 --> 00:12:34.736
  • I'm watching the newsjust like you are.
  • 00:12:34.736 --> 00:12:35.603
  • just like you are.And I'm just--
  • 00:12:35.603 --> 00:12:38.773
  • And I'm just--I'm just, I'm trying to carry
  • 00:12:38.773 --> 00:12:39.808
  • I'm just, I'm trying to carrythe Word of God everyday
  • 00:12:39.808 --> 00:12:41.876
  • the Word of God everydayin my life.
  • 00:12:41.876 --> 00:12:43.378
  • in my life.Not just for your sake
  • 00:12:43.378 --> 00:12:45.180
  • Not just for your sakebut for my sake.
  • 00:12:45.180 --> 00:12:46.948
  • but for my sake.And I want to live with a Word
  • 00:12:46.948 --> 00:12:47.949
  • And I want to live with a Wordthat's alive and I want
  • 00:12:47.949 --> 00:12:48.683
  • that's alive and I wantit to be able to speak
  • 00:12:48.683 --> 00:12:50.485
  • it to be able to speakto me in any moment, and I want
  • 00:12:50.485 --> 00:12:53.221
  • to me in any moment, and I wantit to be able to clarify to me
  • 00:12:53.221 --> 00:12:54.556
  • it to be able to clarify to mewhat it's saying, what He's
  • 00:12:54.556 --> 00:12:56.157
  • what it's saying, what He'ssaying to me, and I want
  • 00:12:56.157 --> 00:12:59.160
  • saying to me, and I wantit to be able to refine me
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  • it to be able to refine mein what He's saying to me.
  • 00:13:01.229 --> 00:13:05.166
  • in what He's saying to me.And sometimes what I post
  • 00:13:05.166 --> 00:13:06.534
  • And sometimes what I postis shared with the world,
  • 00:13:06.534 --> 00:13:08.303
  • is shared with the world,but it quite possibly
  • 00:13:08.303 --> 00:13:10.438
  • but it quite possiblyis for myself.
  • 00:13:10.438 --> 00:13:11.506
  • is for myself.Maybe I'm the one who needed
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  • Maybe I'm the one who neededto read that.
  • 00:13:13.274 --> 00:13:15.510
  • to read that.And remember, "Hey, I'm within
  • 00:13:15.510 --> 00:13:17.545
  • And remember, "Hey, I'm withina system and an organization
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  • a system and an organizationand an authority that God
  • 00:13:19.247 --> 00:13:21.583
  • and an authority that Godhas set up.
  • 00:13:21.583 --> 00:13:23.451
  • has set up.I just didn't decide something.
  • 00:13:23.451 --> 00:13:25.987
  • I just didn't decide something.This is God's set up.
  • 00:13:25.987 --> 00:13:27.422
  • This is God's set up.And so if God set it that way,
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  • And so if God set it that way,He must've had a reason
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  • He must've had a reasonfor it, right?
  • 00:13:29.757 --> 00:13:31.125
  • for it, right?He must have purpose in the way
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  • He must have purpose in the wayHe designs things so that not
  • 00:13:33.962 --> 00:13:36.397
  • He designs things so that notthat we can be limited by them,
  • 00:13:36.397 --> 00:13:37.632
  • that we can be limited by them,but that we could flourish
  • 00:13:37.632 --> 00:13:39.200
  • but that we could flourishwithin them.
  • 00:13:39.200 --> 00:13:40.935
  • within them.And I want to flourish.
  • 00:13:40.935 --> 00:13:42.637
  • And I want to flourish.I want my life to be about
  • 00:13:42.637 --> 00:13:44.806
  • I want my life to be aboutthe things that last forever.
  • 00:13:44.806 --> 00:13:48.176
  • the things that last forever.I want my heart to feel free.
  • 00:13:48.176 --> 00:13:49.844
  • I want my heart to feel free.I want to be able to communicate
  • 00:13:49.844 --> 00:13:50.845
  • I want to be able to communicatethe way God sent me
  • 00:13:50.845 --> 00:13:52.213
  • the way God sent meto communicate and put me
  • 00:13:52.213 --> 00:13:53.548
  • to communicate and put mein life to do that
  • 00:13:53.548 --> 00:13:55.083
  • in life to do thatwith certain people.
  • 00:13:55.083 --> 00:13:56.684
  • with certain people.I don't want to feel limited by
  • 00:13:56.684 --> 00:13:58.052
  • I don't want to feel limited bywhat He's organized,
  • 00:13:58.052 --> 00:14:00.688
  • what He's organized,I want to feel free by it.
  • 00:14:00.688 --> 00:14:02.490
  • I want to feel free by it.And so do you.
  • 00:14:02.490 --> 00:14:04.058
  • And so do you.And I think sometimes we just
  • 00:14:04.058 --> 00:14:05.827
  • And I think sometimes we justneed to remind ourselves that
  • 00:14:05.827 --> 00:14:07.262
  • need to remind ourselves thatwhen God was organizing it,
  • 00:14:07.262 --> 00:14:08.796
  • when God was organizing it,He had a reason.
  • 00:14:08.796 --> 00:14:09.931
  • He had a reason.And that if we can find
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  • And that if we can findourselves in the right place
  • 00:14:12.200 --> 00:14:14.502
  • ourselves in the right placewithin the organized reason,
  • 00:14:14.502 --> 00:14:15.937
  • within the organized reason,that we can then find ourselves
  • 00:14:15.937 --> 00:14:17.472
  • that we can then find ourselvesliving with every bit
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  • living with every bitof purpose, every bit
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  • of purpose, every bitof destiny, every single thing
  • 00:14:21.643 --> 00:14:22.844
  • of destiny, every single thingGod dreamed for your life
  • 00:14:22.844 --> 00:14:25.013
  • God dreamed for your lifeis possible within
  • 00:14:25.013 --> 00:14:26.447
  • is possible withinwhat He's created.
  • 00:14:26.447 --> 00:14:28.016
  • what He's created.And I just want encourage
  • 00:14:28.016 --> 00:14:29.617
  • And I just want encouragepeople, you know, for me,
  • 00:14:29.617 --> 00:14:30.618
  • people, you know, for me,if I want to think about
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  • if I want to think aboutdeveloping my heart...
  • 00:14:33.922 --> 00:14:37.358
  • developing my heart...If Scripture is true and what
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  • If Scripture is true and whatwe look like on the outside
  • 00:14:38.660 --> 00:14:40.728
  • we look like on the outsideis a lot less important than
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  • is a lot less important thanwhat we think it is, then
  • 00:14:44.499 --> 00:14:45.967
  • what we think it is, thenhow much time do I spend on my
  • 00:14:45.967 --> 00:14:49.370
  • how much time do I spend on myoutsides versus my insides?
  • 00:14:49.370 --> 00:14:51.039
  • outsides versus my insides?- Yeah.
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  • - Yeah.- Shower everyday, do my hair,
  • 00:14:53.641 --> 00:14:55.410
  • - Shower everyday, do my hair,put on makeup, pick out
  • 00:14:55.410 --> 00:14:56.611
  • put on makeup, pick outclothing, usually the same
  • 00:14:56.611 --> 00:14:58.012
  • clothing, usually the samestuff, but shouldn't really
  • 00:14:58.012 --> 00:15:00.081
  • stuff, but shouldn't reallyhave to pick something...
  • 00:15:00.081 --> 00:15:02.350
  • have to pick something...You know, how much time is spent
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  • You know, how much time is spentdisproportionately on this when
  • 00:15:06.387 --> 00:15:08.022
  • disproportionately on this whenGod says, "I'm really looking
  • 00:15:08.022 --> 00:15:09.524
  • God says, "I'm really lookingat this."
  • 00:15:09.524 --> 00:15:10.258
  • at this."- So good.
  • 00:15:10.258 --> 00:15:13.094
  • - So good.- And how do I begin to change
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  • - And how do I begin to changeand reorient my own time
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  • and reorient my own timeinvestment so that it reflects
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  • investment so that it reflectsin the things I say
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  • in the things I saylast forever.
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  • last forever.And my heart, and the fruit
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  • And my heart, and the fruitof my heart,
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  • of my heart,is gonna last forever.
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  • is gonna last forever.And that's the only thing.
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  • And that's the only thing.My body is disappearing into
  • 00:15:29.644 --> 00:15:31.980
  • My body is disappearing intothe ground, dust to dust.
  • 00:15:31.980 --> 00:15:33.514
  • the ground, dust to dust.But my heart, and the way
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  • But my heart, and the waythat my heart is come alive,
  • 00:15:35.783 --> 00:15:36.884
  • that my heart is come alive,it says in Scripture that
  • 00:15:36.884 --> 00:15:38.653
  • it says in Scripture thatit will go on forever.
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  • it will go on forever.And so I want to spend the kind
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  • And so I want to spend the kindof time that I would spend
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  • of time that I would spendon this, on that.
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  • on this, on that.I also think it's important
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  • I also think it's importantthat we focus on what
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  • that we focus on whatwe want to become.
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  • we want to become.There's a saying that says,
  • 00:15:52.567 --> 00:15:55.403
  • There's a saying that says,"We become what we behold."
  • 00:15:55.403 --> 00:15:56.871
  • "We become what we behold."So I just ask you the question
  • 00:15:56.871 --> 00:15:58.473
  • So I just ask you the questiontoday, what are you looking at?
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  • today, what are you looking at?- Yeah.
  • 00:16:00.875 --> 00:16:02.710
  • - Yeah.- What are you moving toward?
  • 00:16:02.710 --> 00:16:03.611
  • - What are you moving toward?What do you see?
  • 00:16:03.611 --> 00:16:05.947
  • What do you see?What's in your vision?
  • 00:16:05.947 --> 00:16:08.750
  • What's in your vision?That's what you will become.
  • 00:16:08.750 --> 00:16:10.151
  • That's what you will become.So make sure that Jesus
  • 00:16:10.151 --> 00:16:12.120
  • So make sure that Jesusis front and center.
  • 00:16:12.120 --> 00:16:12.854
  • is front and center.So one of the things you
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  • So one of the things youmentioned, just in closing
  • 00:16:14.155 --> 00:16:14.989
  • mentioned, just in closing'cause I already closed,
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  • 'cause I already closed,but I'm gonna close
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  • but I'm gonna closeone more time.
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  • one more time.- But I'm gonna close
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  • - But I'm gonna closeafter you close.
  • 00:16:17.792 --> 00:16:18.993
  • after you close.- You can have the last close,
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  • - You can have the last close,that would be great.
  • 00:16:20.895 --> 00:16:22.430
  • that would be great.You mentioned comparing
  • 00:16:22.430 --> 00:16:24.732
  • You mentioned comparingversus complimenting.
  • 00:16:24.732 --> 00:16:27.301
  • versus complimenting.And I would say two things,
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  • And I would say two things,just to admit:
  • 00:16:28.036 --> 00:16:30.405
  • just to admit:A, we're both, I would say,
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  • A, we're both, I would say,A-type drivers.
  • 00:16:31.739 --> 00:16:34.409
  • A-type drivers.I don't know in what vernacular,
  • 00:16:34.409 --> 00:16:37.178
  • I don't know in what vernacular,words, Enneagram, testing,
  • 00:16:37.178 --> 00:16:38.513
  • words, Enneagram, testing,you want to put that in.
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  • you want to put that in.Louie and I are both driven.
  • 00:16:41.516 --> 00:16:43.184
  • Louie and I are both driven.It would be really easy for me,
  • 00:16:43.184 --> 00:16:45.086
  • It would be really easy for me,in life, to wake up everyday
  • 00:16:45.086 --> 00:16:47.922
  • in life, to wake up everydaywith my own agenda.
  • 00:16:47.922 --> 00:16:49.023
  • with my own agenda.I actually do wake up everyday
  • 00:16:49.023 --> 00:16:51.025
  • I actually do wake up everydaywith my own agenda, sorry.
  • 00:16:51.025 --> 00:16:51.659
  • with my own agenda, sorry.I made it sound like
  • 00:16:51.659 --> 00:16:54.495
  • I made it sound likeI wasn't doing that.
  • 00:16:54.495 --> 00:16:58.499
  • I wasn't doing that.But it would be challenging if I
  • 00:16:58.499 --> 00:16:59.600
  • But it would be challenging if Iwoke up everyday with my own
  • 00:16:59.600 --> 00:17:00.868
  • woke up everyday with my ownagenda and I was determined
  • 00:17:00.868 --> 00:17:03.304
  • agenda and I was determinedfor my agenda to win.
  • 00:17:03.304 --> 00:17:05.573
  • for my agenda to win.All of a sudden, I'm putting us
  • 00:17:05.573 --> 00:17:08.109
  • All of a sudden, I'm putting usin a competitive situation.
  • 00:17:08.109 --> 00:17:08.976
  • in a competitive situation.Are we gonna do what you want
  • 00:17:08.976 --> 00:17:09.844
  • Are we gonna do what you wanttoday or are we gonna do what
  • 00:17:09.844 --> 00:17:10.978
  • today or are we gonna do whatI want today?
  • 00:17:10.978 --> 00:17:11.846
  • I want today?Are we gonna do what you want
  • 00:17:11.846 --> 00:17:12.713
  • Are we gonna do what you wanttoday or are we gonna do what
  • 00:17:12.713 --> 00:17:13.481
  • today or are we gonna do whatI want today?
  • 00:17:13.481 --> 00:17:14.849
  • I want today?'Cause, I know this surprises
  • 00:17:14.849 --> 00:17:16.117
  • 'Cause, I know this surprisesyou, especially those of you
  • 00:17:16.117 --> 00:17:17.318
  • you, especially those of youwho are married, but we don't
  • 00:17:17.318 --> 00:17:19.487
  • who are married, but we don'talways want the same things.
  • 00:17:19.487 --> 00:17:20.822
  • always want the same things.[laughter]
  • 00:17:20.822 --> 00:17:21.689
  • [laughter]Right?
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  • Right?He's got something on his mind
  • 00:17:22.957 --> 00:17:23.858
  • He's got something on his mindhe's going for,
  • 00:17:23.858 --> 00:17:24.959
  • he's going for,and I've got something on mine
  • 00:17:24.959 --> 00:17:26.561
  • and I've got something on minethat I'm going for.
  • 00:17:26.561 --> 00:17:28.262
  • that I'm going for.So that's where the rubber
  • 00:17:28.262 --> 00:17:31.299
  • So that's where the rubbermeets the road in life.
  • 00:17:31.299 --> 00:17:33.734
  • meets the road in life.Who wins?
  • 00:17:33.734 --> 00:17:35.203
  • Who wins?The thing that has brought me
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  • The thing that has brought methe most peace, as what I would
  • 00:17:37.839 --> 00:17:40.174
  • the most peace, as what I wouldhope as a submitted wife,
  • 00:17:40.174 --> 00:17:41.042
  • hope as a submitted wife,I don't know that I do it
  • 00:17:41.042 --> 00:17:42.677
  • I don't know that I do itperfectly and neither will you
  • 00:17:42.677 --> 00:17:45.246
  • perfectly and neither will youif you're a wife, but I have
  • 00:17:45.246 --> 00:17:46.881
  • if you're a wife, but I havea desire to live in the system
  • 00:17:46.881 --> 00:17:48.082
  • a desire to live in the systemthat God created and to give
  • 00:17:48.082 --> 00:17:50.351
  • that God created and to givehim honor and glory for it.
  • 00:17:50.351 --> 00:17:52.353
  • him honor and glory for it.And I think the main thing
  • 00:17:52.353 --> 00:17:56.591
  • And I think the main thingfor me that helps me is to not
  • 00:17:56.591 --> 00:17:57.825
  • for me that helps me is to notlook at Louie everyday and try
  • 00:17:57.825 --> 00:17:59.660
  • God has already given me
  • 00:18:04.765 --> 00:18:07.268
  • God has already given mewhat I need,
  • 00:18:07.268 --> 00:18:10.171
  • what I need,and he's also given it to you.
  • 00:18:10.171 --> 00:18:14.375
  • and he's also given it to you.And so I need to quit asking
  • 00:18:14.375 --> 00:18:16.144
  • And so I need to quit askingpeople to give me what
  • 00:18:16.144 --> 00:18:19.247
  • people to give me whatonly God can give me.
  • 00:18:19.247 --> 00:18:21.382
  • only God can give me.And so do you.
  • 00:18:21.382 --> 00:18:24.952
  • And so do you.So do you.
  • 00:18:24.952 --> 00:18:26.487
  • So do you.He is a good guy.
  • 00:18:26.487 --> 00:18:27.889
  • He is a good guy.He is trying to live Scripture
  • 00:18:27.889 --> 00:18:29.056
  • He is trying to live Scripturewhere he honors and gives me
  • 00:18:29.056 --> 00:18:30.958
  • where he honors and gives mesupport the way he should
  • 00:18:30.958 --> 00:18:32.426
  • support the way he shouldas a husband.
  • 00:18:32.426 --> 00:18:33.828
  • as a husband.But he cannot give me
  • 00:18:33.828 --> 00:18:35.997
  • But he cannot give mewhat I need.
  • 00:18:35.997 --> 00:18:36.931
  • what I need.Only God can give me
  • 00:18:36.931 --> 00:18:37.965
  • Only God can give mewhat I need.
  • 00:18:37.965 --> 00:18:39.467
  • what I need.And the quicker I stop asking
  • 00:18:39.467 --> 00:18:42.570
  • And the quicker I stop askinghim to play God's role,
  • 00:18:42.570 --> 00:18:45.907
  • him to play God's role,the more complete I'm gonna be.
  • 00:18:45.907 --> 00:18:47.475
  • the more complete I'm gonna be.So if you want to be a wife that
  • 00:18:47.475 --> 00:18:49.243
  • So if you want to be a wife thatrises up and doesn't have
  • 00:18:49.243 --> 00:18:50.578
  • rises up and doesn't haveto compete with your husband
  • 00:18:50.578 --> 00:18:52.847
  • to compete with your husbandto be heard, understood, or help
  • 00:18:52.847 --> 00:18:54.615
  • to be heard, understood, or helpdetermine the way,
  • 00:18:54.615 --> 00:18:56.817
  • determine the way,then hear God said this:
  • 00:18:56.817 --> 00:19:00.821
  • I choose you, and I've chosen
  • 00:19:05.893 --> 00:19:09.096
  • I choose you, and I've chosenyou to bear fruit.
  • 00:19:09.096 --> 00:19:10.298
  • you to bear fruit.Not just any kind of fruit,
  • 00:19:10.298 --> 00:19:12.567
  • Not just any kind of fruit,the fruit the lasts forever.
  • 00:19:12.567 --> 00:19:14.335
  • the fruit the lasts forever.I picked you.
  • 00:19:14.335 --> 00:19:16.470
  • I picked you.You're already picked.
  • 00:19:16.470 --> 00:19:18.206
  • You're already picked.If you're single and you wonder
  • 00:19:18.206 --> 00:19:19.240
  • If you're single and you wonderif you'll ever be
  • 00:19:19.240 --> 00:19:20.374
  • if you'll ever bein a relationship with anybody
  • 00:19:20.374 --> 00:19:22.143
  • in a relationship with anybodythat feels this way,
  • 00:19:22.143 --> 00:19:25.313
  • that feels this way,hear God today say,
  • 00:19:25.313 --> 00:19:26.681
  • hear God today say,"I chose you.
  • 00:19:26.681 --> 00:19:28.616
  • "I chose you.I picked you to bear
  • 00:19:28.616 --> 00:19:31.485
  • I picked you to beareverlasting fruit."
  • 00:19:31.485 --> 00:19:32.787
  • everlasting fruit."You have everything that
  • 00:19:32.787 --> 00:19:34.622
  • You have everything thatyou need today.
  • 00:19:34.622 --> 00:19:36.324
  • you need today.So do not try to grab
  • 00:19:36.324 --> 00:19:38.459
  • So do not try to grabfrom people what only God
  • 00:19:38.459 --> 00:19:40.428
  • from people what only Godcan give to you.
  • 00:19:40.428 --> 00:19:42.897
  • can give to you.Be at peace.
  • 00:19:42.897 --> 00:19:44.498
  • Be at peace.You're chosen.
  • 00:19:44.498 --> 00:19:45.433
  • You're chosen.Amen.
  • 00:19:45.433 --> 00:19:47.001
  • Amen.- So great.
  • 00:19:47.001 --> 00:19:47.602
  • - So great.I love it.
  • 00:19:47.602 --> 00:19:49.237
  • I love it.It's powerful.
  • 00:19:49.237 --> 00:19:50.071
  • It's powerful.I want to just end
  • 00:19:50.071 --> 00:19:52.206
  • I want to just endon this verse 7.
  • 00:19:52.206 --> 00:19:53.341
  • on this verse 7.I want us to look at this one
  • 00:19:53.341 --> 00:19:56.310
  • I want us to look at this onephrase because it, I think,
  • 00:19:56.310 --> 00:20:00.147
  • phrase because it, I think,it minimizes the tension
  • 00:20:00.147 --> 00:20:02.583
  • it minimizes the tensionthat the world wants to put into
  • 00:20:02.583 --> 00:20:07.288
  • that the world wants to put intothis idea of God giving balance
  • 00:20:07.288 --> 00:20:09.724
  • this idea of God giving balancein relationships that he's given
  • 00:20:09.724 --> 00:20:11.292
  • in relationships that he's givenus in marriage.
  • 00:20:11.292 --> 00:20:12.426
  • us in marriage."Husbands, in the same way
  • 00:20:12.426 --> 00:20:13.728
  • "Husbands, in the same waybe considerate as you live
  • 00:20:13.728 --> 00:20:15.496
  • be considerate as you livewith your wives, treat them
  • 00:20:15.496 --> 00:20:16.764
  • with your wives, treat themwith respect."
  • 00:20:16.764 --> 00:20:17.498
  • with respect."Let's just think about that
  • 00:20:17.498 --> 00:20:19.734
  • Let's just think about thatfor a moment.
  • 00:20:19.734 --> 00:20:20.768
  • for a moment."Husbands treat them
  • 00:20:20.768 --> 00:20:23.404
  • "Husbands treat themwith respect," so that's
  • 00:20:23.404 --> 00:20:25.640
  • with respect," so that'sa whole marriage seminar
  • 00:20:25.640 --> 00:20:27.375
  • a whole marriage seminarin and of itself,
  • 00:20:27.375 --> 00:20:29.043
  • in and of itself,"As the weaker partner."
  • 00:20:29.043 --> 00:20:30.344
  • "As the weaker partner."Obviously we know and we're
  • 00:20:30.344 --> 00:20:31.312
  • Obviously we know and we'retrying to model today that
  • 00:20:31.312 --> 00:20:33.881
  • trying to model today thatdoesn't mean that she's any
  • 00:20:33.881 --> 00:20:36.651
  • doesn't mean that she's anyless of a person, has any less
  • 00:20:36.651 --> 00:20:39.153
  • less of a person, has any lesspotential, gifting, opportunity.
  • 00:20:39.153 --> 00:20:40.388
  • potential, gifting, opportunity.She might be smarter than you
  • 00:20:40.388 --> 00:20:41.756
  • She might be smarter than youfor crying out loud.
  • 00:20:41.756 --> 00:20:43.391
  • for crying out loud.She might actually have better
  • 00:20:43.391 --> 00:20:45.026
  • She might actually have betterideas than you have in some
  • 00:20:45.026 --> 00:20:46.694
  • ideas than you have in somecases and to be able
  • 00:20:46.694 --> 00:20:48.496
  • cases and to be ableto understand that.
  • 00:20:48.496 --> 00:20:50.197
  • to understand that.But look at this next phrase,
  • 00:20:50.197 --> 00:20:53.768
  • But look at this next phrase,"And as heirs with you
  • 00:20:53.768 --> 00:20:56.537
  • "And as heirs with youof the gracious gift of life."
  • 00:20:56.537 --> 00:20:58.239
  • of the gracious gift of life."In other words, the bedrock
  • 00:20:58.239 --> 00:21:00.741
  • In other words, the bedrockof our marriage is Jesus.
  • 00:21:00.741 --> 00:21:02.977
  • of our marriage is Jesus.And Jesus has made us co-heirs
  • 00:21:02.977 --> 00:21:04.879
  • And Jesus has made us co-heirstogether of the same gospel,
  • 00:21:04.879 --> 00:21:06.047
  • together of the same gospel,the same grace, the same
  • 00:21:06.047 --> 00:21:08.015
  • the same grace, the sameforgiveness, the same spirit,
  • 00:21:08.015 --> 00:21:10.618
  • forgiveness, the same spirit,the same word, the same mission.
  • 00:21:10.618 --> 00:21:13.087
  • the same word, the same mission.We're co-heirs together.
  • 00:21:13.087 --> 00:21:14.922
  • We're co-heirs together.So there's no hierarchy
  • 00:21:14.922 --> 00:21:16.023
  • So there's no hierarchyin the gospel.
  • 00:21:16.023 --> 00:21:18.192
  • in the gospel.We both came in the door,
  • 00:21:18.192 --> 00:21:20.127
  • We both came in the door,called grace, and we both
  • 00:21:20.127 --> 00:21:22.863
  • called grace, and we bothare heirs of all of the things
  • 00:21:22.863 --> 00:21:23.898
  • are heirs of all of the thingsthat are ours
  • 00:21:23.898 --> 00:21:25.299
  • that are oursbecause of grace.
  • 00:21:25.299 --> 00:21:27.368
  • because of grace.And so look what it says.
  • 00:21:27.368 --> 00:21:29.270
  • And so look what it says.So they're "a co-heir
  • 00:21:29.270 --> 00:21:30.805
  • So they're "a co-heirof the gracious gift of life.
  • 00:21:30.805 --> 00:21:32.373
  • of the gracious gift of life.So do this, husbands,
  • 00:21:32.373 --> 00:21:34.642
  • So do this, husbands,so that nothing will
  • 00:21:34.642 --> 00:21:38.512
  • so that nothing willhinder your prayers."
  • 00:21:38.512 --> 00:21:40.481
  • hinder your prayers."I take that to mean that if I
  • 00:21:40.481 --> 00:21:42.550
  • I take that to mean that if Iwant to be everything God
  • 00:21:42.550 --> 00:21:44.151
  • want to be everything Godis creating me to be,
  • 00:21:44.151 --> 00:21:47.221
  • is creating me to be,I can't do that alone.
  • 00:21:47.221 --> 00:21:48.556
  • I can't do that alone.In this relationship,
  • 00:21:48.556 --> 00:21:50.891
  • In this relationship,I need Shelley to be a part
  • 00:21:50.891 --> 00:21:53.260
  • I need Shelley to be a partof the process of God doing what
  • 00:21:53.260 --> 00:21:55.730
  • of the process of God doing whatHe wants to do in my life.
  • 00:21:55.730 --> 00:22:00.234
  • He wants to do in my life.And I believe that I can
  • 00:22:00.234 --> 00:22:02.403
  • And I believe that I canbe better if we're
  • 00:22:02.403 --> 00:22:03.871
  • be better if we'rein partnership.
  • 00:22:03.871 --> 00:22:04.572
  • in partnership.'Cause I'm gonna pray
  • 00:22:04.572 --> 00:22:07.608
  • 'Cause I'm gonna praybetter prayers.
  • 00:22:07.608 --> 00:22:08.743
  • better prayers.We are going to pray better
  • 00:22:08.743 --> 00:22:09.977
  • We are going to pray betterprayers together than
  • 00:22:09.977 --> 00:22:12.747
  • prayers together thanI'm gonna pray by myself.
  • 00:22:12.747 --> 00:22:13.914
  • I'm gonna pray by myself.I'm gonna have input
  • 00:22:13.914 --> 00:22:15.416
  • I'm gonna have inputfrom Shelley in all
  • 00:22:15.416 --> 00:22:16.984
  • from Shelley in allof the things that we do,
  • 00:22:16.984 --> 00:22:18.753
  • of the things that we do,and that's just gonna make
  • 00:22:18.753 --> 00:22:20.688
  • and that's just gonna makeevery decision we make
  • 00:22:20.688 --> 00:22:22.323
  • every decision we makea better decision.
  • 00:22:22.323 --> 00:22:25.426
  • a better decision.So the plans and the prayers
  • 00:22:25.426 --> 00:22:26.994
  • So the plans and the prayersare gonna be better plans
  • 00:22:26.994 --> 00:22:28.596
  • are gonna be better plansand better prayers because
  • 00:22:28.596 --> 00:22:31.031
  • and better prayers becausewe're in partnership together,
  • 00:22:31.031 --> 00:22:32.566
  • we're in partnership together,co-heirs together.
  • 00:22:32.566 --> 00:22:33.934
  • co-heirs together.And I'm not trying
  • 00:22:33.934 --> 00:22:35.302
  • And I'm not tryingto rule over Shelley,
  • 00:22:35.302 --> 00:22:37.538
  • to rule over Shelley,I'm trying to release Shelley.
  • 00:22:37.538 --> 00:22:39.006
  • I'm trying to release Shelley.I'm not trying to keep her down,
  • 00:22:39.006 --> 00:22:40.708
  • I'm not trying to keep her down,I'm trying to lift her up.
  • 00:22:40.708 --> 00:22:41.842
  • I'm trying to lift her up.I'm not trying to put her
  • 00:22:41.842 --> 00:22:43.811
  • I'm not trying to put herin the background, I actually
  • 00:22:43.811 --> 00:22:45.713
  • in the background, I actuallyask her to teach and speak
  • 00:22:45.713 --> 00:22:47.014
  • ask her to teach and speakand lead a lot more than
  • 00:22:47.014 --> 00:22:49.016
  • and lead a lot more thanshe says 'yes' to because
  • 00:22:49.016 --> 00:22:50.584
  • she says 'yes' to becauseI know what's in her heart
  • 00:22:50.584 --> 00:22:52.052
  • I know what's in her heartand I want the world to see
  • 00:22:52.052 --> 00:22:53.921
  • and I want the world to seeand hear what I see
  • 00:22:53.921 --> 00:22:56.123
  • and hear what I seeand hear in her.
  • 00:22:56.123 --> 00:22:58.993
  • and hear in her.And so it's that freedom
  • 00:22:58.993 --> 00:23:01.262
  • And so it's that freedomin that beautiful marriage,
  • 00:23:01.262 --> 00:23:03.431
  • in that beautiful marriage,if you will, of Shelley saying,
  • 00:23:03.431 --> 00:23:05.032
  • if you will, of Shelley saying,"I honor you and I respect you.
  • 00:23:05.032 --> 00:23:06.400
  • "I honor you and I respect you.You're my husband and God has
  • 00:23:06.400 --> 00:23:07.501
  • You're my husband and God hasput you in that position
  • 00:23:07.501 --> 00:23:08.235
  • put you in that positionin my life."
  • 00:23:08.235 --> 00:23:09.270
  • in my life."And it's me trying to say,
  • 00:23:09.270 --> 00:23:11.338
  • And it's me trying to say,"And I honor and respect you.
  • 00:23:11.338 --> 00:23:12.606
  • "And I honor and respect you.And I want to lift you up.
  • 00:23:12.606 --> 00:23:14.208
  • And I want to lift you up.And I want to put you
  • 00:23:14.208 --> 00:23:15.042
  • And I want to put youon display.
  • 00:23:15.042 --> 00:23:16.277
  • on display.And I want people to see what
  • 00:23:16.277 --> 00:23:17.178
  • And I want people to see whatGod's doing in
  • 00:23:17.178 --> 00:23:18.746
  • God's doing inand through your life.
  • 00:23:18.746 --> 00:23:19.747
  • and through your life.And I want to know how
  • 00:23:19.747 --> 00:23:20.881
  • And I want to know howyou feel about this
  • 00:23:20.881 --> 00:23:22.149
  • you feel about thisparticular situation."
  • 00:23:22.149 --> 00:23:23.117
  • particular situation."I mean, watching us lead
  • 00:23:23.117 --> 00:23:24.485
  • I mean, watching us leadtogether, you can ask the folks
  • 00:23:24.485 --> 00:23:26.387
  • together, you can ask the folkswho are on our management level
  • 00:23:26.387 --> 00:23:27.621
  • who are on our management levelwith us, who are in meetings
  • 00:23:27.621 --> 00:23:30.224
  • with us, who are in meetingswith us all day, every day,
  • 00:23:30.224 --> 00:23:31.225
  • with us all day, every day,or in lots of settings
  • 00:23:31.225 --> 00:23:32.193
  • or in lots of settingslike that with us,
  • 00:23:32.193 --> 00:23:33.894
  • like that with us,man we both have opinions
  • 00:23:33.894 --> 00:23:36.664
  • man we both have opinionsand we don't mind sharing them.
  • 00:23:36.664 --> 00:23:37.198
  • and we don't mind sharing them.And people are like,
  • 00:23:37.198 --> 00:23:37.798
  • And people are like,"Oh my gosh.
  • 00:23:37.798 --> 00:23:38.365
  • "Oh my gosh.Here comes Louie
  • 00:23:38.365 --> 00:23:39.600
  • Here comes Louieand Shelley again.
  • 00:23:39.600 --> 00:23:41.001
  • and Shelley again.And we'll see who wins."
  • 00:23:41.001 --> 00:23:42.736
  • And we'll see who wins."And Shelley's like, you know,
  • 00:23:42.736 --> 00:23:44.205
  • And Shelley's like, you know,"We don't know who's gonna win."
  • 00:23:44.205 --> 00:23:47.208
  • "We don't know who's gonna win."It's like...
  • 00:23:47.208 --> 00:23:48.742
  • It's like...[laughter]
  • 00:23:48.742 --> 00:23:51.879
  • [laughter]- That's not true.
  • 00:23:51.879 --> 00:23:54.114
  • - That's not true.- And sometimes...
  • 00:23:54.114 --> 00:23:56.417
  • - And sometimes...- Sometimes, yeah.
  • 00:23:56.417 --> 00:23:58.853
  • - Sometimes, yeah.[laughter]
  • 00:23:58.853 --> 00:23:59.954
  • [laughter]- And for me, I don't go,
  • 00:23:59.954 --> 00:24:00.955
  • - And for me, I don't go,"Wait a minute, it's always
  • 00:24:00.955 --> 00:24:02.656
  • "Wait a minute, it's alwaysgonna be my way."
  • 00:24:02.656 --> 00:24:05.326
  • gonna be my way."Because what man is going
  • 00:24:05.326 --> 00:24:08.662
  • Because what man is goingto get it right every time?
  • 00:24:08.662 --> 00:24:09.263
  • to get it right every time?Say, "You know, it's gonna
  • 00:24:09.263 --> 00:24:10.030
  • Say, "You know, it's gonnabe my way.
  • 00:24:10.030 --> 00:24:11.699
  • be my way.I'm the head of this household."
  • 00:24:11.699 --> 00:24:12.333
  • I'm the head of this household."Well, I am the head
  • 00:24:12.333 --> 00:24:13.300
  • Well, I am the headof our household but that
  • 00:24:13.300 --> 00:24:14.301
  • of our household but thatdoesn't mean that I'm right
  • 00:24:14.301 --> 00:24:16.003
  • doesn't mean that I'm rightevery single time.
  • 00:24:16.003 --> 00:24:16.904
  • every single time.And so it's the beauty
  • 00:24:16.904 --> 00:24:18.205
  • And so it's the beautyof the gospel bringing us
  • 00:24:18.205 --> 00:24:20.040
  • of the gospel bringing ustogether and allowing us to live
  • 00:24:20.040 --> 00:24:21.742
  • together and allowing us to livein harmony that's going to give
  • 00:24:21.742 --> 00:24:24.245
  • in harmony that's going to giveus the best possibility for our
  • 00:24:24.245 --> 00:24:26.080
  • us the best possibility for ourprayers to be answered,
  • 00:24:26.080 --> 00:24:27.348
  • prayers to be answered,for our lives to make
  • 00:24:27.348 --> 00:24:28.716
  • for our lives to makethe greatest impact they can
  • 00:24:28.716 --> 00:24:30.117
  • the greatest impact they canmake in the world,
  • 00:24:30.117 --> 00:24:33.454
  • make in the world,and I just pray that God will
  • 00:24:33.454 --> 00:24:36.590
  • and I just pray that God willcontinue to awaken all of us
  • 00:24:36.590 --> 00:24:39.460
  • continue to awaken all of usto that beautiful partnership
  • 00:24:39.460 --> 00:24:40.160
  • to that beautiful partnershipthat he's calling us
  • 00:24:40.160 --> 00:24:41.529
  • that he's calling usto in this text.
  • 00:24:41.529 --> 00:24:42.796
  • to in this text.And if you're, again,
  • 00:24:42.796 --> 00:24:43.797
  • And if you're, again,listening today and you're like,
  • 00:24:43.797 --> 00:24:45.466
  • listening today and you're like,"I'm not married and I don't
  • 00:24:45.466 --> 00:24:46.700
  • "I'm not married and I don'tknow if I'm going to be married.
  • 00:24:46.700 --> 00:24:48.102
  • know if I'm going to be married.And I was married
  • 00:24:48.102 --> 00:24:49.236
  • And I was marriedand I don't know that
  • 00:24:49.236 --> 00:24:50.437
  • and I don't know thatI fit into all of this."
  • 00:24:50.437 --> 00:24:51.005
  • I fit into all of this."Well, I want you
  • 00:24:51.005 --> 00:24:52.006
  • Well, I want youto be encouraged today if you
  • 00:24:52.006 --> 00:24:53.440
  • to be encouraged today if youare married, but I also want
  • 00:24:53.440 --> 00:24:54.341
  • are married, but I also wantyou just to walk away,
  • 00:24:54.341 --> 00:24:55.943
  • you just to walk away,all of us today, that this
  • 00:24:55.943 --> 00:24:58.245
  • all of us today, that thisis God's plan for all of us.
  • 00:24:58.245 --> 00:25:00.781
  • is God's plan for all of us."Finally, finally,"
  • 00:25:00.781 --> 00:25:01.615
  • "Finally, finally,"It's coming down to the end
  • 00:25:01.615 --> 00:25:02.950
  • It's coming down to the endof this whole section.
  • 00:25:02.950 --> 00:25:06.053
  • of this whole section."Finally, live in harmony
  • 00:25:06.053 --> 00:25:07.488
  • "Finally, live in harmonywith one another."
  • 00:25:07.488 --> 00:25:09.456
  • with one another."In other words, understand that
  • 00:25:09.456 --> 00:25:10.891
  • In other words, understand thatby living in harmony you're not
  • 00:25:10.891 --> 00:25:14.228
  • by living in harmony you're notgonna abandon your position
  • 00:25:14.228 --> 00:25:16.864
  • gonna abandon your positionto have powerful influence
  • 00:25:16.864 --> 00:25:19.199
  • to have powerful influencein this world.
  • 00:25:19.199 --> 00:25:21.001
  • in this world."Be sympathetic."
  • 00:25:21.001 --> 00:25:22.536
  • "Be sympathetic."By trying to bear somebody
  • 00:25:22.536 --> 00:25:23.904
  • By trying to bear somebodyelse's concern, you're not
  • 00:25:23.904 --> 00:25:25.372
  • else's concern, you're notgonna lose your opportunity
  • 00:25:25.372 --> 00:25:29.343
  • gonna lose your opportunityto be light in a dark world.
  • 00:25:29.343 --> 00:25:31.378
  • to be light in a dark world."Be brothers, be compassionate,
  • 00:25:31.378 --> 00:25:32.846
  • "Be brothers, be compassionate,and be humble.
  • 00:25:32.846 --> 00:25:34.448
  • and be humble.Don't repay evil with evil,
  • 00:25:34.448 --> 00:25:36.450
  • Don't repay evil with evil,or insult with insult,
  • 00:25:36.450 --> 00:25:37.217
  • or insult with insult,but with blessing,
  • 00:25:37.217 --> 00:25:39.119
  • but with blessing,because to this you were called
  • 00:25:39.119 --> 00:25:41.455
  • because to this you were calledso that you might inherit
  • 00:25:41.455 --> 00:25:42.523
  • so that you might inherita blessing."
  • 00:25:42.523 --> 00:25:44.258
  • a blessing."And all of this in the context
  • 00:25:44.258 --> 00:25:46.393
  • And all of this in the contextof Jesus who was under
  • 00:25:46.393 --> 00:25:48.596
  • of Jesus who was underthis Roman authority,
  • 00:25:48.596 --> 00:25:51.165
  • this Roman authority,who put himself in a submissive
  • 00:25:51.165 --> 00:25:53.801
  • who put himself in a submissiveposition, who yielded himself
  • 00:25:53.801 --> 00:25:55.269
  • position, who yielded himselffor the sins of the world,
  • 00:25:55.269 --> 00:25:57.137
  • for the sins of the world,who rode into Jerusalem
  • 00:25:57.137 --> 00:25:59.273
  • who rode into Jerusalemon a donkey, coming in low.
  • 00:25:59.273 --> 00:26:00.240
  • on a donkey, coming in low.They were trying to throw palm
  • 00:26:00.240 --> 00:26:02.209
  • They were trying to throw palmbranches out because they didn't
  • 00:26:02.209 --> 00:26:03.844
  • branches out because they didn'tunderstand that he was coming
  • 00:26:03.844 --> 00:26:06.447
  • understand that he was comingin to give His life for the sins
  • 00:26:06.447 --> 00:26:08.148
  • in to give His life for the sinsof the world, lifted up
  • 00:26:08.148 --> 00:26:10.751
  • of the world, lifted upon a Roman cross so that
  • 00:26:10.751 --> 00:26:12.052
  • on a Roman cross so thateverybody could call
  • 00:26:12.052 --> 00:26:13.988
  • everybody could callon that name and be saved.
  • 00:26:13.988 --> 00:26:16.390
  • on that name and be saved.Jesus is showing us you don't
  • 00:26:16.390 --> 00:26:18.859
  • Jesus is showing us you don'tlose your opportunity to have
  • 00:26:18.859 --> 00:26:21.328
  • lose your opportunity to havepowerful influence in the world
  • 00:26:21.328 --> 00:26:22.663
  • powerful influence in the worldby any position that
  • 00:26:22.663 --> 00:26:23.597
  • by any position thatyou're put in.
  • 00:26:23.597 --> 00:26:24.531
  • you're put in.Whether you're put in front
  • 00:26:24.531 --> 00:26:26.033
  • Whether you're put in frontof Pilot, or put up
  • 00:26:26.033 --> 00:26:27.668
  • of Pilot, or put upon a cross, as long as you
  • 00:26:27.668 --> 00:26:30.104
  • on a cross, as long as youare willing to be in the hands
  • 00:26:30.104 --> 00:26:32.139
  • are willing to be in the handsof God, God will use you,
  • 00:26:32.139 --> 00:26:33.641
  • of God, God will use you,He can use you,
  • 00:26:33.641 --> 00:26:35.109
  • He can use you,and He will bring the gospel
  • 00:26:35.109 --> 00:26:36.810
  • and He will bring the gospelforth in your life
  • 00:26:36.810 --> 00:26:39.179
  • forth in your lifeand through your situation.
  • 00:26:39.179 --> 00:26:41.582
  • and through your situation.So, babe, thank you for coming
  • 00:26:41.582 --> 00:26:43.183
  • So, babe, thank you for comingtoday and just bringing so much
  • 00:26:43.183 --> 00:26:45.953
  • today and just bringing so muchamazing goodness into this talk.
  • 00:26:45.953 --> 00:26:47.554
  • amazing goodness into this talk.I thought it was amazing.
  • 00:26:47.554 --> 00:26:49.289
  • I thought it was amazing.Do you guys feel like we should
  • 00:26:49.289 --> 00:26:50.224
  • Do you guys feel like we shoulddo more of that?
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