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Leave it in the Garage

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June 15, 2019
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Fully Alive with Daniel Floyd

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  • - HI, WELCOME TO FULLY ALIVE.
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  • IT'S OUR HOPE THAT
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  • THROUGH TODAY'S PROGRAM,
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  • YOU'LL FIND THE TOOLS
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  • THAT WILL HELP YOU
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  • BUILD YOUR FAITH,
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  • BUILD YOUR LIFE,
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  • AND WE PRAY
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  • THAT YOU MAY FIND THE HOPE
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  • AND THE HEALING THAT YOU NEED.
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  • CHECK OUT THIS CLIP
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  • - BOUNDARIES ALLOW US TO KNOW
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  • THIS IS WHAT
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  • I WILL LET IN TO MY LIFE,
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  • AND THIS IS WHAT
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  • I WON'T LET IN TO MY LIFE.
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  • IT'S NOT ABOUT REJECTING PEOPLE,
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  • BUT IT'S ABOUT SAYING,
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  • YOUR BEHAVIOR --
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  • YOU CAN COME,
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  • YOU CAN COME IN;
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  • THE BEHAVIOR
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  • CAN'T COME WITH YOU.
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  • YOU CAN COME,
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  • BUT THE UNDERHANDED COMMENTS
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  • IF I NEVER SET BOUNDARIES
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  • IN MY LIFE THAT COULD
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  • CAUSE HURT TO SOMEBODY ELSE --
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  • YES, THEY MAY,
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  • BUT THAT HURT MAY BE
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  • THE VERY THING THAT HELPS THEM
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  • TO GET TO A PLACE OF
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  • HEALING IN THEIR LIFE.
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  • AND WHILE YOU ARE IN THE EARTH,
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  • YOU HAVE A STEWARDSHIP
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  • RESPONSIBILITY
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  • TO STEWARD YOUR LIFE
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  • IN A WAY SO THAT YOU CAN BE
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  • A HEALTHY 'ME' IN THE 'WE'
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  • OF THE RELATIONSHIPS,
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  • - WE BELIEVE
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  • THAT AS YOU INVEST
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  • THE NEXT FEW MOMENTS
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  • IN LISTENING TO TODAY'S SERMON,
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  • THAT YOUR LIFE
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  • WILL BE CHANGED FOREVER.
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  • SO LET'S LEAN IN TOGETHER,
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  • AND HEAR ALL THAT GOD
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  • - WE HAVE BOUNDARIES
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  • IN ALL KINDS OF
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  • AREAS IN OUR LIFE.
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  • IF YOU THINK ABOUT IT,
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  • A BUDGET IS A BOUNDARY,
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  • A HOME BUDGET
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  • SETS A BOUNDARY
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  • AND TELLS YOU
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  • WHAT YOU WILL SPEND,
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  • WHAT YOU WON'T SPEND,
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  • KINDA TELLS YOU
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  • THE HALLWAY
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  • OR THE LANE THAT
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  • YOU'LL RIDE IN
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  • IN THAT AREA,
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  • A SCHEDULE, THEORETICALLY,
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  • IF YOU FOLLOW YOUR SCHEDULE,
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  • A SCHEDULE IS A BOUNDARY.
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  • IT KINDA TELLS YOU
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  • HOW YOU'RE GONNA
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  • SPEND YOUR TIME,
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  • WHAT EXTENT YOU WILL GO,
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  • WHAT YOU WON'T GO,
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  • IT CREATES SOME GUARDRAILS
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  • AROUND YOUR LIFE, RIGHT?
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  • AND, SO, WE PUT BOUNDARIES
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  • IN ALL KINDS OF AREAS
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  • OF OUR LIFE
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  • BUT I THINK THE ONE AREA
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  • WE FAIL TO PUT BOUNDARIES IN,
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  • OFTEN IS IN THE AREA
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  • OF OUR RELATIONSHIPS.
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  • IN THE AREA OF
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  • OUR RELATIONSHIPS.
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  • WE DON'T SET UP
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  • HEALTHY BOUNDARIES
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  • AND I WANNA GIVE US
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  • A WORKING DEFINITION TODAY
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  • AND IT'S GONNA BE --
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  • I'MMA TRY TO PUT A WHOLE LOT,
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  • IN A FEW MINUTES,
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  • 'CAUSE I THINK THIS WILL
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  • REALLY, REALLY HELP YOU.
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  • SO, I WANNA GIVE YOU
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  • A WORKING DEFINITION,
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  • AND IF YOU'RE A NOTE-TAKER,
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  • WRITE IT DOWN, IF YOU'RE NOT,
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  • START TODAY, AND WRITE THIS DOWN
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  • 'CAUSE THIS COULD
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  • HELP YOU A LOT.
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  • IF YOU'RE WITH ME, SAY, "AMEN."
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  • ALRIGHT.
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  • LET ME GIVE YOU A DEFINITION
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  • OF 'BOUNDARIES' IS THIS,
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  • A BOUNDARY DEFINES OWNERSHIP.
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  • SOMEBODY SHOUT, "OWNERSHIP."
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  • IT SHOWS ME WHERE I END,
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  • AND WHERE YOU BEGIN.
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  • IT SHOWS ME WHERE I END,
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  • AND WHERE YOU BEGIN.
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  • SO, ONCE I KNOW WHERE I END,
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  • THEN I KNOW WHERE
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  • MY OWNERSHIP IS
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  • AND WHAT I'M RESPONSIBLE FOR.
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  • AND SO, WHEN WE DON'T SET
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  • HEALTHY BOUNDARIES,
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  • WE SAID, LAST WEEK, THAT
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  • THERE CAN'T BE A HEALTHY
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  • 'WE' IN A RELATIONSHIP,
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  • UNLESS THERE'S A HEALTHY 'ME',
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  • RIGHT?
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  • AND SO, I'VE GOT TO KNOW
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  • WHERE I END
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  • AND WHERE YOU BEGIN.
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  • SEE, THE PROBLEM IN SOME
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  • OF OUR RELATIONSHIPS IS THIS,
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  • IS OTHER PEOPLE ARE TRYING
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  • TO OWN OUR PROPERTY
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  • AND WE'RE BUSY TRYING
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  • TO OWN OTHER PEOPLE'S PROPERTY.
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  • WE'RE TRYING TO
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  • OWN THEIR MISTAKES.
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  • SOME OF YOU ARE GUILT-RIDDEN
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  • ABOUT OTHER PEOPLE'S DECISION.
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  • YOU'RE OWNING PROPERTY
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  • THAT DOESN'T BELONG TO YOU.
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  • AND, SO, WE SET UP
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  • HEALTHY BOUNDARIES.
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  • WE SAY BOUNDARIES
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  • ALLOW US TO KNOW
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  • THIS IS WHAT I WILL
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  • LET IN TO MY LIFE
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  • AND THIS IS WHAT
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  • I WON'T LET IN TO MY LIFE.
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  • NOT EVERYBODY --
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  • AND SOME OF YOU --
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  • LEMME GIVE A TIME OUT,
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  • REAL QUICK --
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  • SOME OF YOU, WHEN YOU HEAR
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  • THE WORD 'BOUNDARIES'
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  • OR EVEN AS I'M TALKING
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  • ABOUT IT TO YOU NOW,
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  • YOU THINK, "OH, WELL,
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  • THIS ISN'T CHRISTIAN,
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  • THIS ISN'T GODLY."
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  • WELL, TIME OUT FOR A MINUTE,
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  • JESUS HAD SOME BOUNDARIES
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  • IN HIS LIFE, RIGHT?
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  • JESUS HAD 72 DISCIPLES.
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  • SOME OF Y'ALL I JUST
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  • BLEW YOUR MIND,
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  • 'CAUSE YOU'RE LIKE,
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  • "NO, HE HAD 12;
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  • I'VE SEEN THEM IN THE PAINTING."
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  • [LAUGHTER]
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  • READ YOUR NEW TESTAMENT.
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  • HE HAD 72 DISCIPLES,
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  • BUT HE HAD 12 --
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  • HE HAD A LINE DRAWN
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  • WHERE 12 COULD COME IN CLOSE
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  • AND THEN EVEN OF THOSE 12
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  • HE HAD THREE MORE;
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  • PETER, JAMES, AND JOHN
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  • THAT KINDA GOT
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  • THE ALL ACCESS TOUR
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  • ON THE THREE YEARS THAT
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  • JESUS WAS ON THE [INDISCERNIBLE]
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  • 72 DISCIPLES,
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  • 12 MADE INSTAGRAM,
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  • DOES THAT HELP YOU?
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  • ARE YOU FOLLOWING ME?
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  • LIKE THAT'S HOW IT ROLLED.
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  • HE HAD LIKE THE 12 AND THEN
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  • HE HAD PETER, JAMES, AND JOHN
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  • AND PETER, JAMES, AND JOHN
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  • HE WOULD GO DO SOMETHING COOL
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  • AND BE LIKE, HEY,
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  • Y'ALL STAY HERE,
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  • PETER, JAMES, AND JOHN,
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  • COME WITH ME.
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  • ARE Y'ALL FOLLOWING ME?
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  • HE WOULD TEACH THE MASSES
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  • OF PEOPLE THOUSANDS OF PEOPLE
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  • THAT HE WOULD TEACH
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  • AND THEN HE WOULD PULL
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  • THE 12 ASIDE AND GO,
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  • THEY'RE PROBABLY NOT
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  • GONNA UNDERSTAND IT,
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  • LET ME BREAK IT DOWN FOR YOU.
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  • SO, HE HAD LEVELS OF ACCESS
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  • THAT HE ALLOWED INTO HIS LIFE.
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  • NOT EVERYBODY IN YOUR LIFE
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  • DESERVES AN ALL BACKSTAGE PASS.
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  • THERE'S SOME PEOPLE THAT NEED
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  • LIKE ONLY A PARKING PASS.
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  • THEY DON'T EVEN NEED A TICKET
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  • INTO THE BUILDING OF YOUR LIFE,
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  • Y'ALL WITH ME?
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  • SOME PEOPLE NEED
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  • A LITTLE CLOSER --
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  • SOME PEOPLE CAN HAVE
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  • ALL ACCESS INTO YOUR LIFE,
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  • BUT YOU HAVE TO KNOW
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  • WHERE YOU END,
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  • AND WHERE OTHERS BEGIN.
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  • LET ME SAY TO YOU LIKE THIS.
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  • IN PROVERBS IT SAYS THIS,
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  • "ABOVE ALL ELSE..."
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  • IN OTHER WORDS,
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  • THE TOP THING IN YOUR LIFE,
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  • "GUARD YOUR HEART."
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  • LOOK AT YOUR NEIGHBOR AND SAY,
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  • GUARD YOUR HEART.
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  • LOOK AT YOUR SECOND CHOICE SAY,
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  • GUARD YOUR HEART.
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  • GUARD YOUR HEART, WHY?
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  • "FOR IT IS
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  • THE WELLSPRING OF LIFE."
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  • IT'S THE WELLSPRING OF LIFE.
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  • GUARD YOUR HEART, WHY?
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  • BECAUSE WHAT YOU LET INTO
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  • YOUR HEART WILL EVENTUALLY
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  • COME BACK OUT IN YOUR LIFE.
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  • SO, IF YOU LET PRIDEFUL PEOPLE
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  • CONTINUE TO SPEAK INTO YOUR LIFE
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  • EVENTUALLY AT SOME POINT
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  • PRIDE HAS GOT TO BEGIN
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  • COMING OUT OF YOUR LIFE.
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  • LEMME BREAK IT DOWN
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  • FOR YOU, REAL LOW,
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  • LIKE MY MOM USED TO SAY,
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  • "DANIEL, IF YOU GET
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  • WITH THE PIGS,
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  • YOU'RE GONNA GET MUDDY."
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  • ARE YOU WITH ME?
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  • YOU'VE GOT TO SET SOME
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  • KINDA BOUNDARY IN YOUR LIFE.
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  • AND NOW FOR SOME OF YOU
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  • YOU'RE LIKE, NO, NO,
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  • THIS SOUNDS SO SELFISH.
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  • AND LAST WEEK YOU SAID
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  • THAT WE'RE NOT
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  • GONNA BE SELFISH.
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  • NO, LISTEN TO ME.
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  • THIS IS IMPORTANT,
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  • WRITE THIS DOWN.
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  • THERE IS A DIFFERENCE
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  • BETWEEN SELFISHNESS
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  • AND STEWARDSHIP.
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  • WHILE YOU ARE IN THE EARTH
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  • YOU HAVE A STEWARDSHIP
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  • RESPONSIBILITY TO STEWARD
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  • YOUR LIFE IN A WAY SO THAT
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  • YOU CAN BE HEALTHY ME
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  • IN THE WE OF THE RELATIONSHIPS
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  • IN YOUR LIFE.
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  • AND, SO, BOUNDARIES IN OUR LIFE
  • 00:06:14.190 --> 00:06:16.120
  • ARE NOT SO WE CAN REJECT PEOPLE,
  • 00:06:16.120 --> 00:06:18.220
  • IT'S THAT WE REJECT BEHAVIOR.
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  • LET ME GIVE YOU AN EXAMPLE,
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  • ARE Y'ALL STILL WITH ME?
  • 00:06:23.130 --> 00:06:24.020
  • SAY AMEN.
  • 00:06:24.020 --> 00:06:24.270
  • IF MY KIDS WERE TO COME
  • 00:06:24.270 --> 00:06:26.040
  • INTO THE HOUSE,
  • 00:06:26.040 --> 00:06:26.270
  • SAY OWEN WAS OUT IN THE WOODS
  • 00:06:26.270 --> 00:06:27.290
  • PARENTHETICALLY
  • 00:06:27.290 --> 00:06:28.260
  • WITH HIS BB GUN LOOKING
  • 00:06:28.260 --> 00:06:29.260
  • FOR SQUIRRELS THE OTHER DAY,
  • 00:06:29.260 --> 00:06:31.110
  • JUST HYPOTHETICALLY LET'S SAY
  • 00:06:31.110 --> 00:06:32.140
  • THIS WAS HAPPENING,
  • 00:06:33.050 --> 00:06:36.050
  • AND HE COMES IN BECAUSE MAYBE
  • 00:06:36.050 --> 00:06:38.060
  • IT'S BEEN RAINING
  • 00:06:38.060 --> 00:06:39.030
  • AND HE COMES IN WITH MUD
  • 00:06:39.030 --> 00:06:40.070
  • ALL OVER HIMSELF,
  • 00:06:40.070 --> 00:06:41.150
  • I IMMEDIATELY WOULD GO,
  • 00:06:41.150 --> 00:06:43.160
  • "GET BACK IN THE GARAGE,"
  • 00:06:43.160 --> 00:06:45.230
  • BECAUSE I'M A LITTLE OCD,
  • 00:06:45.230 --> 00:06:46.290
  • I DON'T BELIEVE THE MUD ROOM
  • 00:06:46.290 --> 00:06:48.120
  • REALLY MEANS THAT.
  • 00:06:48.120 --> 00:06:51.100
  • I WANNA RENAME IT
  • 00:06:51.100 --> 00:06:52.000
  • THE CLEAN ROOM,
  • 00:06:52.000 --> 00:06:53.090
  • THE PRE-MUD ROOM,
  • 00:06:53.090 --> 00:06:55.010
  • THE GET OUT OF THE HOUSE
  • 00:06:55.010 --> 00:06:55.260
  • IF YOU'RE DIRTY ROOM,
  • 00:06:55.260 --> 00:06:57.060
  • IT WAS MY OPPORTUNITY
  • 00:06:57.060 --> 00:06:58.120
  • TO CATCH YOU BEFORE YOU GOT MUD
  • 00:06:58.120 --> 00:07:00.050
  • IN THE REST OF THE HOUSE ROOM,
  • 00:07:00.050 --> 00:07:01.230
  • ARE Y'ALL FOLLOWING ME?
  • 00:07:01.230 --> 00:07:02.220
  • COME ON, SOMEBODY, ANY PARENT?
  • 00:07:02.220 --> 00:07:04.250
  • SO, I WAS LIKE,
  • 00:07:04.250 --> 00:07:05.270
  • "GET BACK OUT IN THE GARAGE."
  • 00:07:05.270 --> 00:07:07.190
  • AND SO, I DIDN'T REJECT MY SON,
  • 00:07:07.190 --> 00:07:10.140
  • I WAS REJECTING
  • 00:07:10.140 --> 00:07:11.050
  • WHAT WAS ON HIM.
  • 00:07:11.050 --> 00:07:13.190
  • AS A MATTER OF FACT,
  • 00:07:13.190 --> 00:07:14.220
  • I WILL GO OUT IN THE GARAGE
  • 00:07:14.220 --> 00:07:16.050
  • AND HELP GET IT OFF HIM
  • 00:07:16.050 --> 00:07:18.000
  • BECAUSE I SO WANT HIM
  • 00:07:18.000 --> 00:07:19.080
  • TO COME BACK INTO THE HOUSE.
  • 00:07:19.080 --> 00:07:21.090
  • A BOUNDARY SAYS THIS,
  • 00:07:21.090 --> 00:07:22.230
  • "I'M NOT REJECTING YOU,
  • 00:07:22.230 --> 00:07:24.170
  • BUT I WILL REJECT
  • 00:07:24.170 --> 00:07:25.210
  • WHAT IS ON YOU
  • 00:07:25.210 --> 00:07:26.280
  • OR THE BEHAVIOR ON YOU,
  • 00:07:26.280 --> 00:07:28.080
  • BUT MATTER OF FACT,
  • 00:07:28.080 --> 00:07:28.260
  • I WILL GET OUT IN THE GARAGE
  • 00:07:28.260 --> 00:07:30.080
  • WITH YOU AND SERVE YOU
  • 00:07:30.080 --> 00:07:32.060
  • AND HELP GET IT OFF OF YOU
  • 00:07:32.060 --> 00:07:33.170
  • SO THAT I CAN BRING YOU
  • 00:07:33.170 --> 00:07:34.210
  • INTO THE HOUSE."
  • 00:07:34.210 --> 00:07:36.160
  • IT'S NOT ABOUT REJECTING PEOPLE,
  • 00:07:36.160 --> 00:07:37.200
  • BUT IT'S ABOUT SAYING,
  • 00:07:37.200 --> 00:07:38.270
  • YOUR BEHAVIOR --
  • 00:07:38.270 --> 00:07:39.250
  • YOU CAN COME,
  • 00:07:39.250 --> 00:07:41.190
  • YOU CAN COME IN,
  • 00:07:41.190 --> 00:07:43.070
  • THE BEHAVIOR
  • 00:07:43.070 --> 00:07:43.180
  • CAN'T COME WITH YOU.
  • 00:07:43.180 --> 00:07:46.170
  • YOU CAN COME,
  • 00:07:46.170 --> 00:07:47.210
  • BUT THE ARROGANCE
  • 00:07:47.210 --> 00:07:48.080
  • CAN'T COME WITH YOU.
  • 00:07:48.080 --> 00:07:49.140
  • YOU CAN COME,
  • 00:07:49.140 --> 00:07:50.200
  • BUT THE UNDERHANDED COMMENTS
  • 00:07:50.200 --> 00:07:52.020
  • TOLD YOU I'M GONNA GET UP
  • 00:07:59.140 --> 00:08:00.090
  • IN YOUR HOUSE TODAY.
  • 00:08:02.180 --> 00:08:05.180
  • SO, WE HAVE TO BE ABLE
  • 00:08:05.180 --> 00:08:06.100
  • TO SET HEALTHY BOUNDARIES.
  • 00:08:06.100 --> 00:08:08.060
  • AND SO I WANNA GIVE YOU
  • 00:08:08.060 --> 00:08:08.280
  • WHAT I THINK ARE THREE REASONS
  • 00:08:08.280 --> 00:08:10.020
  • WHY WE DON'T SET BOUNDARIES
  • 00:08:10.020 --> 00:08:11.160
  • IN OUR LIFE AND THEN
  • 00:08:11.160 --> 00:08:13.060
  • I WANNA GIVE YOU
  • 00:08:13.060 --> 00:08:13.210
  • THREE BOUNDARIES
  • 00:08:13.210 --> 00:08:14.210
  • I THINK ARE A STARTING POINT,
  • 00:08:14.210 --> 00:08:16.050
  • THEY'RE NOT EXHAUSTIVE,
  • 00:08:16.050 --> 00:08:17.040
  • THEY'RE NOT EVERYTHING,
  • 00:08:17.040 --> 00:08:18.080
  • I THINK THEY'RE KINDA
  • 00:08:18.080 --> 00:08:18.280
  • A STARTING POINT
  • 00:08:18.280 --> 00:08:19.110
  • TO KINDA PRIME THE PUMP,
  • 00:08:19.110 --> 00:08:20.290
  • IF Y'ALL DON'T KNOW WHAT
  • 00:08:20.290 --> 00:08:21.250
  • THAT MEANS, MY CITY FOLK,
  • 00:08:21.250 --> 00:08:23.020
  • WHEN YOU PRIME THE PUMP,
  • 00:08:23.020 --> 00:08:24.050
  • ANYWAYS, Y'ALL
  • 00:08:24.050 --> 00:08:26.170
  • AIN'T HELPING ME TODAY.
  • 00:08:26.170 --> 00:08:28.280
  • NUMBER ONE IS
  • 00:08:28.280 --> 00:08:29.160
  • THE RESCUE SYNDROME.
  • 00:08:29.160 --> 00:08:31.240
  • THE RESCUE SYNDROME,
  • 00:08:31.240 --> 00:08:33.040
  • LET ME SHOW YOU WHAT
  • 00:08:33.040 --> 00:08:33.230
  • THE SCRIPTURE SAYS.
  • 00:08:33.230 --> 00:08:35.110
  • IT SAYS, "DON'T BE DECEIVED:
  • 00:08:35.110 --> 00:08:37.000
  • GOD CANNOT BE MOCKED.
  • 00:08:37.000 --> 00:08:39.190
  • A MAN REAPS WHAT HE SOWS."
  • 00:08:39.190 --> 00:08:42.180
  • "DON'T BE DECEIVED:
  • 00:08:42.180 --> 00:08:43.020
  • GOD CANNOT BE MOCKED.
  • 00:08:43.020 --> 00:08:43.220
  • A MAN REAPS WHAT HE SOWS."
  • 00:08:44.110 --> 00:08:47.110
  • YOU KNOW, THERE ARE NATURAL LAWS
  • 00:08:47.110 --> 00:08:49.140
  • THAT ARE IN EXISTENCE THAT
  • 00:08:49.140 --> 00:08:51.040
  • YOU CAN DO NOTHING ABOUT.
  • 00:08:51.040 --> 00:08:52.150
  • YOU CAN NOT LIKE THEM,
  • 00:08:52.150 --> 00:08:53.160
  • YOU CAN REJECT THEM,
  • 00:08:53.160 --> 00:08:55.090
  • YOU CAN NOT WANNA FOLLOW THEM,
  • 00:08:55.090 --> 00:08:56.090
  • BUT IT DOESN'T MATTER,
  • 00:08:56.090 --> 00:08:56.290
  • THEY'RE GONNA EXIST, ANYWAYS.
  • 00:08:56.290 --> 00:08:58.160
  • KINDA LIKE THE LAW --
  • 00:08:58.160 --> 00:08:59.040
  • LET'S GIVE ONE --
  • 00:08:59.040 --> 00:08:59.220
  • THE LAW OF GRAVITY, RIGHT?
  • 00:08:59.220 --> 00:09:02.100
  • YOU CAN NOT LIKE IT,
  • 00:09:02.100 --> 00:09:03.130
  • YOU CAN SAY,
  • 00:09:03.130 --> 00:09:04.200
  • "I JUST DON'T THINK IT'S THERE,"
  • 00:09:04.200 --> 00:09:06.080
  • YOU CAN GO JUMP OFF A BUILDING
  • 00:09:06.080 --> 00:09:07.110
  • AND FIND OUT IT'S THERE,
  • 00:09:07.110 --> 00:09:08.150
  • IT DOESN'T MATTER
  • 00:09:08.150 --> 00:09:08.280
  • WHAT YOU THINK ABOUT IT,
  • 00:09:08.280 --> 00:09:10.050
  • IT'S THERE, IT WILL HAPPEN,
  • 00:09:10.050 --> 00:09:12.000
  • EVERY TIME.
  • 00:09:12.000 --> 00:09:12.260
  • ARE YOU WITH ME?
  • 00:09:12.260 --> 00:09:13.180
  • THE SAME WAY
  • 00:09:13.180 --> 00:09:14.020
  • THERE'RE NATURAL LAWS,
  • 00:09:14.020 --> 00:09:15.020
  • THERE ARE SPIRITUAL LAWS.
  • 00:09:15.020 --> 00:09:16.150
  • DOESN'T MATTER
  • 00:09:16.150 --> 00:09:16.250
  • IF YOU BELIEVE IT,
  • 00:09:16.250 --> 00:09:17.120
  • DOESN'T MATTER
  • 00:09:17.120 --> 00:09:17.250
  • IF YOU DON'T BELIEVE IT,
  • 00:09:17.250 --> 00:09:18.190
  • IT DOESN'T MATTER
  • 00:09:18.190 --> 00:09:19.030
  • IF YOU LIKE IT,
  • 00:09:19.030 --> 00:09:19.190
  • DOESN'T MATTER
  • 00:09:19.190 --> 00:09:20.030
  • IF YOU DON'T LIKE IT,
  • 00:09:20.030 --> 00:09:20.290
  • THEY ARE IN OPERATION,
  • 00:09:20.290 --> 00:09:22.220
  • GOD SET THEM IN MOTION
  • 00:09:22.220 --> 00:09:24.100
  • AND EVERY TIME
  • 00:09:24.100 --> 00:09:25.020
  • YOU CAN TAKE IT TO THE BANK,
  • 00:09:25.020 --> 00:09:26.170
  • THEY WILL ALWAYS BE TRUE.
  • 00:09:26.170 --> 00:09:27.290
  • AND ONE OF THOSE IS THIS,
  • 00:09:27.290 --> 00:09:29.040
  • THAT AS LONG AS TIME REMAINS,
  • 00:09:29.040 --> 00:09:30.180
  • THERE WILL BE SEED,
  • 00:09:30.180 --> 00:09:31.140
  • THERE WILL BE TIME,
  • 00:09:31.140 --> 00:09:32.200
  • AND THERE WILL BE HARVEST.
  • 00:09:32.200 --> 00:09:34.020
  • AND WHATEVER YOU SOW, THAT --
  • 00:09:34.020 --> 00:09:36.030
  • I GREW UP ON KING JAMES --
  • 00:09:36.030 --> 00:09:37.030
  • THAT SHALL YOU ALSO REAP.
  • 00:09:37.290 --> 00:09:40.290
  • IT JUST PREACHES BETTER.
  • 00:09:40.290 --> 00:09:42.170
  • I MEAN, IT FEELS BETTER THAN,
  • 00:09:42.170 --> 00:09:43.240
  • "A MAN REAPS WHAT HE SOWS."
  • 00:09:43.240 --> 00:09:45.290
  • NO, THIS FEELS BETTER.
  • 00:09:45.290 --> 00:09:46.250
  • WHATEVER YOU SOW,
  • 00:09:46.250 --> 00:09:48.290
  • THAT SHALL YOU ALSO REAP.
  • 00:09:52.010 --> 00:09:55.010
  • IT JUST FEELS BETTER, ANYWAYS.
  • 00:09:55.010 --> 00:09:56.160
  • NO, DON'T DO THAT,
  • 00:09:56.160 --> 00:09:57.070
  • DON'T ENCOURAGE THAT BEHAVIOR.
  • 00:09:59.100 --> 00:10:02.100
  • AND SO, IT'S A NATURAL LAW
  • 00:10:02.100 --> 00:10:05.030
  • THAT YOU KNOW LIKE
  • 00:10:05.030 --> 00:10:06.010
  • IF YOU EVER PLANTED ANYTHING
  • 00:10:06.010 --> 00:10:07.080
  • THAT IF YOU SOW SOMETHING
  • 00:10:07.080 --> 00:10:08.120
  • THAT'S WHAT YOU ARE GONNA GET.
  • 00:10:08.120 --> 00:10:09.080
  • IF YOU SOW FOR OKRA,
  • 00:10:09.080 --> 00:10:10.050
  • YOU'RE GONNA GET OKRA,
  • 00:10:10.050 --> 00:10:11.020
  • COME ON SOMEBODY,
  • 00:10:11.020 --> 00:10:12.080
  • I DON'T LIKE THE SLIMY STUFF.
  • 00:10:12.080 --> 00:10:13.110
  • IF YOU SOW COLLARD GREENS,
  • 00:10:13.110 --> 00:10:14.160
  • YOU'RE GONNA GET COLLARD GREENS.
  • 00:10:14.160 --> 00:10:15.170
  • LIKE WHATEVER YOU SO --
  • 00:10:15.170 --> 00:10:16.210
  • YOU DON'T WAKE UP
  • 00:10:16.210 --> 00:10:17.080
  • ONE MORNING AND GO,
  • 00:10:17.080 --> 00:10:18.100
  • "OH MY GOODNESS I SOWED OKRA,
  • 00:10:18.100 --> 00:10:19.220
  • BUT I EXPECTED CORN,"
  • 00:10:19.220 --> 00:10:21.230
  • NOBODY DOES THAT
  • 00:10:21.230 --> 00:10:23.060
  • BECAUSE YOU UNDERSTAND
  • 00:10:23.060 --> 00:10:23.290
  • THE NATURAL LAW
  • 00:10:23.290 --> 00:10:24.220
  • AND THE SAME IS TRUE
  • 00:10:24.220 --> 00:10:25.240
  • IN THE SPIRIT.
  • 00:10:25.240 --> 00:10:26.140
  • THE BIBLE SAYS,
  • 00:10:26.140 --> 00:10:27.030
  • "IF YOU REAP," --
  • 00:10:27.030 --> 00:10:27.290
  • "IF YOU SOW TO THE REN
  • 00:10:27.290 --> 00:10:29.020
  • YOU REAP A WHIRLWIND,
  • 00:10:29.030 --> 00:10:32.030
  • BUT IF YOU SOW TO THE SPIRIT
  • 00:10:32.030 --> 00:10:33.020
  • YOU REAP LIFE."
  • 00:10:33.020 --> 00:10:35.140
  • AND, SO, IT'S NOT THAT
  • 00:10:35.140 --> 00:10:36.030
  • GOD IS OUT TO GET YOU
  • 00:10:36.030 --> 00:10:37.020
  • OR GOD'S AGAINST YOU,
  • 00:10:37.020 --> 00:10:38.040
  • YOU'RE JUST EXPERIENCING
  • 00:10:38.040 --> 00:10:39.200
  • THE SPIRITUAL LAW
  • 00:10:39.200 --> 00:10:40.250
  • OF SOWING AND REAPING.
  • 00:10:40.250 --> 00:10:42.170
  • AND, SO, SOME OF US
  • 00:10:42.170 --> 00:10:43.100
  • NEVER SET BOUNDARIES
  • 00:10:43.100 --> 00:10:44.110
  • IN OUR LIFE,
  • 00:10:44.110 --> 00:10:45.010
  • HOLD THE THOUGHT
  • 00:10:45.010 --> 00:10:45.270
  • FOR A MINUTE,
  • 00:10:45.270 --> 00:10:46.160
  • SOME OF US NEVER SET
  • 00:10:46.160 --> 00:10:47.110
  • HEALTHY BOUNDARIES IN OUR LIFE
  • 00:10:47.110 --> 00:10:48.270
  • BECAUSE WE WANNA SWOOP IN
  • 00:10:48.270 --> 00:10:50.150
  • AND RESCUE PEOPLE
  • 00:10:50.150 --> 00:10:51.160
  • FROM REAPING WHAT THEY SOW.
  • 00:10:52.020 --> 00:10:55.020
  • NOW, AS A CHILD,
  • 00:10:55.020 --> 00:10:56.090
  • A LITTLE CHILD,
  • 00:10:56.090 --> 00:10:57.020
  • THAT IS UNDERSTANDABLE,
  • 00:10:57.020 --> 00:10:58.000
  • AS A PARENT TO WANNA --
  • 00:10:58.000 --> 00:11:00.050
  • IF THEIR CHILD IS ABOUT
  • 00:11:00.050 --> 00:11:01.240
  • TO HIT OR IF THEY KNOCK OVER
  • 00:11:01.240 --> 00:11:02.270
  • SOMETHING THAT'S HOT,
  • 00:11:02.270 --> 00:11:03.210
  • WE WANNA RESCUE THEM OUT OF THAT
  • 00:11:03.210 --> 00:11:05.160
  • SO THAT THE HOT WATER
  • 00:11:05.160 --> 00:11:06.110
  • DOESN'T HIT THEM AND BURN
  • 00:11:06.110 --> 00:11:07.290
  • BECAUSE WE UNDERSTAND THAT
  • 00:11:07.290 --> 00:11:09.080
  • THEY DON'T UNDERSTAND
  • 00:11:09.080 --> 00:11:10.020
  • WHAT THEY WERE SOWING,
  • 00:11:10.020 --> 00:11:11.070
  • THEY DON'T UNDERSTAND
  • 00:11:11.070 --> 00:11:11.280
  • THE CONSEQUENCES
  • 00:11:11.280 --> 00:11:12.120
  • OF THEIR DECISIONS,
  • 00:11:12.120 --> 00:11:13.200
  • AND SO WE DO SWOOP IN
  • 00:11:13.200 --> 00:11:14.190
  • AND RESCUE THEM,
  • 00:11:14.190 --> 00:11:15.110
  • ARE YOU FOLLOWING ME SO FAR?
  • 00:11:15.110 --> 00:11:16.260
  • HOWEVER, WHEN THEY ARE
  • 00:11:16.260 --> 00:11:17.250
  • 30 YEARS OLD, I TOLD YOU,
  • 00:11:19.080 --> 00:11:22.080
  • I'M COMING INTO YOUR HOUSE NOW,
  • 00:11:22.080 --> 00:11:24.130
  • IF WE ARE STILL SWOOPING IN
  • 00:11:24.130 --> 00:11:26.090
  • AND RESCUING THEM
  • 00:11:26.090 --> 00:11:27.140
  • FROM THE DECISIONS THEY MADE,
  • 00:11:27.140 --> 00:11:28.290
  • FROM THE THINGS THEY ARE SOWING,
  • 00:11:28.290 --> 00:11:30.110
  • INSTEAD OF SETTING
  • 00:11:30.110 --> 00:11:31.000
  • A BOUNDARY AND SAYING,
  • 00:11:31.000 --> 00:11:32.070
  • I DON'T OWN
  • 00:11:32.070 --> 00:11:32.270
  • YOUR LIFE ANY LONGER,
  • 00:11:32.270 --> 00:11:34.180
  • I HAVE NOW RELEASED YOU,
  • 00:11:34.180 --> 00:11:36.100
  • I KNOW WHERE I END
  • 00:11:36.100 --> 00:11:37.240
  • AND WHERE YOU BEGIN
  • 00:11:37.240 --> 00:11:39.080
  • THEN I WILL NO LONGER
  • 00:11:39.080 --> 00:11:40.090
  • SWOOP IN AND RESCUE
  • 00:11:40.090 --> 00:11:42.120
  • FROM WHAT YOU HAVE SOWED.
  • 00:11:42.120 --> 00:11:44.130
  • BECAUSE HERE'S THE DEAL,
  • 00:11:44.130 --> 00:11:45.150
  • HERE'S HOW IT INJURES THEM,
  • 00:11:45.150 --> 00:11:47.090
  • WHEN WE SWOOP IN
  • 00:11:47.090 --> 00:11:48.090
  • AND RESCUE PEOPLE
  • 00:11:48.090 --> 00:11:49.070
  • FROM WHAT THEY HAVE SOWED
  • 00:11:49.070 --> 00:11:50.210
  • WE HAVE NEVER ALLOWED THEM
  • 00:11:50.210 --> 00:11:51.260
  • TO LEARN THE LESSON OF REAPING
  • 00:11:51.260 --> 00:11:53.280
  • FROM THE DECISION THEY MADE,
  • 00:11:53.280 --> 00:11:55.100
  • THEREFORE WE WONDER
  • 00:11:55.100 --> 00:11:56.210
  • WHY DO THEY KEEP
  • 00:11:56.210 --> 00:11:57.130
  • MAKING THE SAME DECISION
  • 00:11:57.130 --> 00:11:58.240
  • OVER AND OVER AND OVER?
  • 00:11:58.240 --> 00:11:59.260
  • BECAUSE THEY HAVE NEVER FELT
  • 00:11:59.260 --> 00:12:01.140
  • THE STING OF REAPING
  • 00:12:04.210 --> 00:12:07.210
  • FROM THE DECISION
  • 00:12:07.210 --> 00:12:08.070
  • THEY MADE THEY SOWED.
  • 00:12:08.070 --> 00:12:10.180
  • ARE YOU WITH ME?
  • 00:12:11.090 --> 00:12:14.090
  • "BUT THAT'S MY BABY BOY."
  • 00:12:14.170 --> 00:12:17.170
  • WELL, MOM, HOW ABOUT
  • 00:12:17.170 --> 00:12:18.180
  • HELP HIM BECOME A MAN?
  • 00:12:18.180 --> 00:12:20.220
  • STOP KEEP RELOADING
  • 00:12:20.220 --> 00:12:22.150
  • I GOT NOTHING AGAINST XBOX,
  • 00:12:32.140 --> 00:12:33.230
  • MY 12-YEAR-OLD HAS ONE,
  • 00:12:33.230 --> 00:12:34.260
  • I'LL KEEP GOING.
  • 00:12:40.080 --> 00:12:43.080
  • NUMBER TWO,
  • 00:12:46.220 --> 00:12:49.220
  • WE DON'T SET HEALTHY BOUNDARIES
  • 00:12:49.220 --> 00:12:50.260
  • BECAUSE OF THE WHAT-IF QUESTION.
  • 00:12:50.260 --> 00:12:53.100
  • WELL, WHAT IF THEY REJECT ME?
  • 00:12:53.100 --> 00:12:56.010
  • WHAT IF THEY'RE MAD AT ME?
  • 00:12:56.010 --> 00:12:58.030
  • WHAT IF I HAVE THAT
  • 00:12:58.030 --> 00:12:58.220
  • CONVERSATION AND SAY,
  • 00:12:58.220 --> 00:13:00.060
  • HEY, I DON'T EVEN KNOW
  • 00:13:00.060 --> 00:13:01.050
  • IF YOU KNOW THIS,
  • 00:13:01.050 --> 00:13:02.150
  • BUT THAT BEHAVIOR AND I JUST -
  • 00:13:02.150 --> 00:13:05.020
  • I WANT YOU,
  • 00:13:05.020 --> 00:13:05.220
  • BUT THAT BEHAVIOR'S GOTTA
  • 00:13:05.220 --> 00:13:06.200
  • STAY IN THE GARAGE BECAUSE
  • 00:13:06.270 --> 00:13:09.270
  • I DON'T LET THAT --
  • 00:13:09.270 --> 00:13:10.220
  • WHAT IF THEY GET UPSET,
  • 00:13:10.220 --> 00:13:12.140
  • WHAT IF WHAT IF?
  • 00:13:12.140 --> 00:13:14.070
  • HERE'S WHAT THE BIBLE SAYS
  • 00:13:14.070 --> 00:13:15.250
  • IN PROVERBS IT SAYS,
  • 00:13:15.250 --> 00:13:16.230
  • "THE FEAR OF MAN
  • 00:13:16.230 --> 00:13:18.100
  • WILL PROVE TO BE A SNARE,
  • 00:13:18.100 --> 00:13:20.100
  • BUT WHOEVER TRUSTS
  • 00:13:20.100 --> 00:13:21.030
  • IN THE LORD IS KEPT SAFE."
  • 00:13:21.030 --> 00:13:22.180
  • FOR SOME OF US,
  • 00:13:22.180 --> 00:13:23.050
  • WE DON'T SET
  • 00:13:23.050 --> 00:13:23.190
  • HEALTHY BOUNDARIES
  • 00:13:23.190 --> 00:13:24.050
  • BECAUSE WE HAVE A FEAR OF MAN.
  • 00:13:24.050 --> 00:13:26.200
  • NOT A FEAR OF MAN LIKE
  • 00:13:26.200 --> 00:13:28.080
  • I'M AFRAID OF HIM, YOU KNOW,
  • 00:13:28.080 --> 00:13:29.180
  • BECAUSE SOME PEOPLE, MAYBE GUYS,
  • 00:13:29.180 --> 00:13:31.230
  • WE WOULD BE MORE PRONE
  • 00:13:31.230 --> 00:13:32.240
  • TO BE LIKE,
  • 00:13:32.240 --> 00:13:33.070
  • I AIN'T AFRAID OF NO MAN,
  • 00:13:33.070 --> 00:13:35.270
  • BUT I WOULD CHALLENGE YOU
  • 00:13:35.270 --> 00:13:36.180
  • ON THIS THOUGHT BECAUSE
  • 00:13:36.180 --> 00:13:37.090
  • SOME OF YOU HAVE PEOPLE
  • 00:13:37.090 --> 00:13:38.110
  • IN YOUR LIFE THAT
  • 00:13:38.110 --> 00:13:39.010
  • WHEN THE CALLER ID
  • 00:13:39.010 --> 00:13:39.240
  • POPS UP WITH THEIR NAME,
  • 00:13:39.240 --> 00:13:41.040
  • YOU DON'T WANT TO ANSWER IT,
  • 00:13:41.040 --> 00:13:42.030
  • BUT YOU ANSWER IT ANYWAY
  • 00:13:42.030 --> 00:13:43.050
  • BECAUSE YOU'RE AFRAID
  • 00:13:43.050 --> 00:13:43.200
  • OF WHAT YOU'LL GET AFTERWARDS.
  • 00:13:43.200 --> 00:13:45.210
  • YOU'RE AFRAID OF
  • 00:13:45.210 --> 00:13:46.090
  • THE EMOTIONAL MANIPULATION
  • 00:13:46.090 --> 00:13:47.240
  • THAT WILL COME ABOUT AFTERWARDS.
  • 00:13:47.240 --> 00:13:49.170
  • YOU'RE AFRAID OF --
  • 00:13:49.170 --> 00:13:51.050
  • ARE YOU FOLLOWING ME?
  • 00:13:51.050 --> 00:13:53.030
  • YOU'RE AFRAID OF
  • 00:13:53.030 --> 00:13:53.200
  • THE EMOTIONAL ONSLAUGHT
  • 00:13:53.200 --> 00:13:56.060
  • OR YOU'RE AFRAID OF
  • 00:13:56.060 --> 00:13:57.200
  • THE EMOTIONAL MANIPULATION
  • 00:13:57.200 --> 00:13:59.140
  • THAT WILL COME AS A RESULT
  • 00:13:59.140 --> 00:14:00.250
  • OF YOU NOT DOING IT.
  • 00:14:00.250 --> 00:14:01.240
  • AND, SO, IT'S FEAR OF MAN,
  • 00:14:02.240 --> 00:14:05.240
  • IT'S FEAR OF MAN.
  • 00:14:05.240 --> 00:14:06.150
  • IT'S WHEN YOU HAVE
  • 00:14:06.150 --> 00:14:08.000
  • SOMEONE IN YOUR LIFE
  • 00:14:08.000 --> 00:14:08.260
  • YOU CAN'T SAY NO TO.
  • 00:14:12.050 --> 00:14:15.050
  • IT'S ALRIGHT,
  • 00:14:15.050 --> 00:14:15.180
  • Y'ALL DON'T HAVE TO AMEN,
  • 00:14:15.180 --> 00:14:17.070
  • I'M HELPING YOU.
  • 00:14:17.070 --> 00:14:18.290
  • AND SO, WE LIVE WITH THIS
  • 00:14:18.290 --> 00:14:19.230
  • WHAT IF INSTEAD OF GOING,
  • 00:14:19.230 --> 00:14:22.040
  • NO, HEY, I LOVE YOU,
  • 00:14:22.040 --> 00:14:24.240
  • BUT I KNOW WHERE I END
  • 00:14:24.240 --> 00:14:26.180
  • AND WHERE YOU BEGIN
  • 00:14:26.180 --> 00:14:28.090
  • AND IF YOU WANNA COME IN
  • 00:14:28.090 --> 00:14:29.060
  • TO MY PROPERTY,
  • 00:14:29.060 --> 00:14:31.190
  • YOU'RE NOT BRINGING
  • 00:14:31.190 --> 00:14:32.260
  • THOSE OUTBURSTS OF ANGER
  • 00:14:32.260 --> 00:14:33.280
  • AROUND MY KIDS.
  • 00:14:35.250 --> 00:14:38.250
  • ARE Y'ALL WITH ME?
  • 00:14:40.140 --> 00:14:43.140
  • I'M NOT REJECTING YOU,
  • 00:14:43.140 --> 00:14:45.020
  • JUST THAT BEHAVIOR
  • 00:14:45.020 --> 00:14:46.250
  • DOESN'T PLAY WELL
  • 00:14:46.250 --> 00:14:47.210
  • IN MY PLAYGROUND.
  • 00:14:47.210 --> 00:14:49.230
  • ARE Y'ALL WITH ME?
  • 00:14:49.230 --> 00:14:51.170
  • BECAUSE I'VE GOTTA
  • 00:14:51.170 --> 00:14:52.020
  • STAY HEALTHY, WHY?
  • 00:14:52.020 --> 00:14:53.160
  • NOT BECAUSE LIFE
  • 00:14:53.160 --> 00:14:54.040
  • IS ABOUT ME,
  • 00:14:54.040 --> 00:14:55.110
  • BUT BECAUSE I WANNA BE
  • 00:14:55.110 --> 00:14:57.070
  • A HEALTHY ME
  • 00:14:57.070 --> 00:14:58.040
  • AND ALL THE RELATIONSHIPS
  • 00:14:58.040 --> 00:14:59.130
  • SURROUNDING ME.
  • 00:14:59.130 --> 00:15:00.290
  • I WANNA BRING A HEALTHY ME
  • 00:15:00.290 --> 00:15:02.050
  • TO SERVE YOU.
  • 00:15:02.050 --> 00:15:03.040
  • I WANNA BRING A HEALTHY ME
  • 00:15:03.040 --> 00:15:04.140
  • TO MY WIFE,
  • 00:15:04.140 --> 00:15:05.040
  • I WANNA BRING A HEALTHY ME
  • 00:15:05.040 --> 00:15:06.070
  • TO MY PARENTING,
  • 00:15:06.070 --> 00:15:08.270
  • AND I'VE GOTTA GUARD MY HEART
  • 00:15:09.110 --> 00:15:12.110
  • BECAUSE IF I LEFT THAT IN
  • 00:15:12.110 --> 00:15:13.230
  • EVENTUALLY THAT WILL BEGIN
  • 00:15:13.230 --> 00:15:14.280
  • TO COME OUT OF ME
  • 00:15:14.280 --> 00:15:17.000
  • AND I CAN'T LET THAT HAPPEN.
  • 00:15:17.000 --> 00:15:18.020
  • ARE Y'ALL WITH ME SO FAR?
  • 00:15:18.020 --> 00:15:18.280
  • SAY AMEN.
  • 00:15:18.280 --> 00:15:19.210
  • ALRIGHT, NUMBER THREE IS
  • 00:15:19.210 --> 00:15:21.290
  • A MISUNDERSTANDING OF THIS,
  • 00:15:21.290 --> 00:15:23.040
  • OF HURT VERSUS HARM,
  • 00:15:23.040 --> 00:15:25.020
  • OF HURT VERSUS HARM.
  • 00:15:25.020 --> 00:15:26.040
  • LOOK AT WHAT THE SCRIPTURE SAYS.
  • 00:15:26.040 --> 00:15:27.180
  • IT SAYS, "THE WOUNDS
  • 00:15:27.180 --> 00:15:28.160
  • FROM A FRIEND CAN BE TRUSTED,
  • 00:15:28.160 --> 00:15:30.220
  • BUT AN ENEMY MULTIPLIES KISSES."
  • 00:15:30.220 --> 00:15:33.150
  • IN OTHER WORDS,
  • 00:15:33.150 --> 00:15:34.070
  • SOLOMON IS SAYING,
  • 00:15:34.070 --> 00:15:34.280
  • BE CAREFUL OF THE PEOPLE
  • 00:15:34.280 --> 00:15:36.000
  • WHO ALL THEY DO IS FLATTER YOU.
  • 00:15:36.230 --> 00:15:39.230
  • BE CAREFUL OF THAT,
  • 00:15:39.230 --> 00:15:41.170
  • BE CAREFUL OF THE PEOPLE
  • 00:15:41.170 --> 00:15:42.080
  • THAT ALL THEY EVER DO
  • 00:15:42.080 --> 00:15:43.060
  • IS PAT YOU ON THE BACK.
  • 00:15:43.060 --> 00:15:44.090
  • THEY ARE NOT FOR YOU;
  • 00:15:44.090 --> 00:15:46.180
  • THEY ARE NOT FOR YOU.
  • 00:15:46.180 --> 00:15:48.070
  • THE WOUNDS OF A FRIEND.
  • 00:15:48.070 --> 00:15:49.270
  • SO, THE INSINUATION SOLOMON
  • 00:15:49.270 --> 00:15:51.060
  • IS MAKING HERE IS THAT
  • 00:15:51.060 --> 00:15:52.180
  • AT SOME POINT IN YOUR LIFE
  • 00:15:52.180 --> 00:15:53.270
  • A FRIEND, IF THEY'RE
  • 00:15:53.270 --> 00:15:54.210
  • REALLY A FRIEND,
  • 00:15:54.210 --> 00:15:55.270
  • WILL WOUND YOU.
  • 00:15:55.270 --> 00:15:58.170
  • AND SOME OF YOU ARE THINKING
  • 00:15:58.170 --> 00:15:59.090
  • THIS SOUNDS COUNTERINTUITIVE
  • 00:15:59.090 --> 00:16:00.200
  • BECAUSE I JUST WANT FRIENDS
  • 00:16:00.200 --> 00:16:01.270
  • THAT LOVE ME, ENCOURAGES ME,
  • 00:16:01.270 --> 00:16:03.280
  • SUPPORTS ME.
  • 00:16:03.280 --> 00:16:05.030
  • YEAH, BUT IF YOU HAVE
  • 00:16:05.030 --> 00:16:05.210
  • A REAL FRIEND AT SOME POINT
  • 00:16:05.210 --> 00:16:07.100
  • THEY'RE GONNA LOVE YOU
  • 00:16:07.100 --> 00:16:08.000
  • ENOUGH TO GO,
  • 00:16:08.000 --> 00:16:10.040
  • I DON'T KNOW
  • 00:16:10.040 --> 00:16:10.150
  • IF YOU KNOW YOU DO THIS,
  • 00:16:10.150 --> 00:16:12.130
  • I DON'T KNOW
  • 00:16:12.130 --> 00:16:12.260
  • IF YOU SEE THIS
  • 00:16:12.260 --> 00:16:13.190
  • IN YOUR LIFE,
  • 00:16:13.190 --> 00:16:15.080
  • BECAUSE A REAL FRIEND
  • 00:16:15.080 --> 00:16:16.030
  • WILL GO,
  • 00:16:16.030 --> 00:16:17.020
  • THAT ARROGANCE IN YOUR LIFE
  • 00:16:17.020 --> 00:16:18.180
  • COULD COST YOU YOUR JOB
  • 00:16:18.180 --> 00:16:21.110
  • AND I WON'T LET
  • 00:16:21.110 --> 00:16:21.270
  • THAT HAPPEN TO YOU.
  • 00:16:21.270 --> 00:16:24.160
  • A REAL FRIEND WILL GO,
  • 00:16:24.160 --> 00:16:26.030
  • THAT FLIRTATIOUS SPIRIT YOU HAVE
  • 00:16:26.030 --> 00:16:28.100
  • COULD HURT YOUR MARRIAGE
  • 00:16:28.100 --> 00:16:30.060
  • AND I WON'T LET YOU TO THAT.
  • 00:16:30.060 --> 00:16:32.270
  • A REAL FRIEND,
  • 00:16:32.270 --> 00:16:34.260
  • A REAL FRIEND WILL GO,
  • 00:16:34.260 --> 00:16:35.240
  • THAT ADDICTION THAT YOU HAVE
  • 00:16:35.240 --> 00:16:37.260
  • IS GONNA DESTROY YOUR LIFE
  • 00:16:37.260 --> 00:16:40.210
  • AND I'M GONNA COME
  • 00:16:40.210 --> 00:16:41.150
  • HELL OR HIGH WATER
  • 00:16:41.150 --> 00:16:42.270
  • HELP YOU GET OVER THAT THING,
  • 00:16:42.270 --> 00:16:44.250
  • IT MAY HURT FOR A MINUTE,
  • 00:16:44.250 --> 00:16:46.150
  • BUT THE WOUND OF A FRIEND
  • 00:16:46.150 --> 00:16:48.070
  • CAN BE TRUSTED.
  • 00:16:48.070 --> 00:16:49.230
  • ARE YOU WITH ME?
  • 00:16:49.230 --> 00:16:50.130
  • BUT WE HAVE A MISUNDERSTANDING
  • 00:16:50.130 --> 00:16:51.280
  • BETWEEN HURT AND HARM.
  • 00:16:51.280 --> 00:16:53.190
  • NOW, WHEN I GO TO THE DENTIST,
  • 00:16:53.190 --> 00:16:56.000
  • I'LL BE CAREFUL
  • 00:16:56.000 --> 00:16:56.130
  • WITH THIS ILLUSTRATION,
  • 00:16:56.130 --> 00:16:57.010
  • MY DENTIST GOES TO
  • 00:16:57.010 --> 00:16:57.160
  • THE CHURCH, WHOM I LOVE,
  • 00:16:59.130 --> 00:17:02.150
  • WHEN I GO TO THE DENTIST
  • 00:17:02.150 --> 00:17:03.160
  • SOMETIMES WHAT THEY'RE DOING
  • 00:17:03.160 --> 00:17:05.050
  • ON MY MOUTH
  • 00:17:05.050 --> 00:17:06.110
  • IS A BIT UNCOMFORTABLE.
  • 00:17:06.110 --> 00:17:08.100
  • WE CAN EVEN SAY IT HURTS,
  • 00:17:08.100 --> 00:17:10.160
  • ARE YOU WITH ME?
  • 00:17:10.160 --> 00:17:12.200
  • HOWEVER, IF I WASN'T
  • 00:17:12.200 --> 00:17:14.130
  • WILLING TO GO IN,
  • 00:17:14.130 --> 00:17:15.120
  • IF I LIVE, LET ME SAY THIS,
  • 00:17:15.120 --> 00:17:16.230
  • IF I LIVED IN A PLACE
  • 00:17:16.230 --> 00:17:17.200
  • OF SUPERFICIAL
  • 00:17:17.200 --> 00:17:18.260
  • OR ARTIFICIAL HARMONY
  • 00:17:19.060 --> 00:17:22.060
  • WHERE EVERYTHING IS FINE,
  • 00:17:22.060 --> 00:17:23.100
  • NO, EVERYTHING'S GOOD,
  • 00:17:23.100 --> 00:17:24.100
  • MY MOUTH IS GOOD,
  • 00:17:24.100 --> 00:17:25.000
  • MY TEETH GOOD, I MEAN,
  • 00:17:25.000 --> 00:17:25.290
  • THEY'RE TURNING BLACK,
  • 00:17:25.290 --> 00:17:26.190
  • BUT EVERYTHING'S GREAT.
  • 00:17:27.100 --> 00:17:30.100
  • LET'S SAY I WERE
  • 00:17:30.100 --> 00:17:30.270
  • TO LIVE THAT WAY
  • 00:17:30.270 --> 00:17:32.030
  • AND I WERE UNWILLING
  • 00:17:32.030 --> 00:17:32.290
  • TO GO THROUGH THE PAIN
  • 00:17:32.290 --> 00:17:34.020
  • OR THE DISCOMFORT OF
  • 00:17:34.020 --> 00:17:35.030
  • SEEING THE DENTIST ABOUT IT,
  • 00:17:35.030 --> 00:17:37.080
  • THEN I WOULD NEVER GET
  • 00:17:37.080 --> 00:17:38.090
  • TO A PLACE OF HEALING.
  • 00:17:38.090 --> 00:17:40.200
  • SO, IT'S ACTUALLY THE HURT
  • 00:17:40.200 --> 00:17:43.180
  • THAT IS HELPFUL
  • 00:17:43.180 --> 00:17:45.070
  • IN THE PROCESS OF HEALING.
  • 00:17:45.070 --> 00:17:47.170
  • BUT IF I REJECT THE HURT,
  • 00:17:47.170 --> 00:17:49.190
  • I NEVER GET HEALING.
  • 00:17:49.190 --> 00:17:51.050
  • SO, IF I NEVER SET
  • 00:17:51.050 --> 00:17:51.270
  • BOUNDARIES IN MY LIFE
  • 00:17:51.270 --> 00:17:53.130
  • THAT COULD CAUSE HURT
  • 00:17:53.130 --> 00:17:54.210
  • TO SOMEBODY ELSE,
  • 00:17:54.210 --> 00:17:55.180
  • YES, THEY MAY,
  • 00:17:55.180 --> 00:17:56.210
  • BUT THAT HURT MAY BE
  • 00:17:56.210 --> 00:17:58.070
  • THE VERY THING
  • 00:17:58.070 --> 00:17:59.010
  • THAT HELPS THEM
  • 00:17:59.010 --> 00:18:00.090
  • TO GET TO A PLACE OF
  • 00:18:00.090 --> 00:18:01.120
  • HEALING IN THEIR LIFE.
  • 00:18:01.120 --> 00:18:02.280
  • ARE YOU FOLLOWING ME?
  • 00:18:02.280 --> 00:18:04.160
  • THIS IS WHY I SAY
  • 00:18:04.160 --> 00:18:05.040
  • THERE'S A DIFFERENCE
  • 00:18:05.040 --> 00:18:05.220
  • BETWEEN HARM AND HURT.
  • 00:18:05.220 --> 00:18:08.080
  • HARM I HAVE NEVER EXPERIENCED
  • 00:18:08.080 --> 00:18:10.040
  • AT THE DENTIST.
  • 00:18:10.040 --> 00:18:12.020
  • THEY HAVE NEVER HARMED ME
  • 00:18:12.020 --> 00:18:13.120
  • ALTHOUGH I HAVE FELT
  • 00:18:13.120 --> 00:18:14.170
  • DISCOMFORT THERE.
  • 00:18:14.170 --> 00:18:16.090
  • ARE YOU FOLLOWING ME?
  • 00:18:16.090 --> 00:18:17.170
  • I HAVE FELT DISCOMFORT
  • 00:18:17.170 --> 00:18:18.280
  • IN DIFFERENT AREA, OTHER PLACES,
  • 00:18:18.280 --> 00:18:20.270
  • BUT THE DOCTORS
  • 00:18:20.270 --> 00:18:21.240
  • HAVE NEVER HARMED ME,
  • 00:18:21.240 --> 00:18:23.140
  • THE LITTLE BIT OF HURT
  • 00:18:23.140 --> 00:18:24.130
  • I WENT THROUGH WAS
  • 00:18:24.130 --> 00:18:25.050
  • FOR A MOMENTARY MOMENT
  • 00:18:25.050 --> 00:18:26.250
  • SO THAT I COULD GET TO A PLACE
  • 00:18:26.250 --> 00:18:28.070
  • OF HEALING IN MY LIFE.
  • 00:18:28.070 --> 00:18:29.210
  • AND SOME OF US
  • 00:18:29.210 --> 00:18:30.100
  • ARE AFRAID TO SET BOUNDARIES
  • 00:18:30.100 --> 00:18:31.100
  • BECAUSE WE'RE LIKE,
  • 00:18:31.100 --> 00:18:31.250
  • OH, WE DON'T WANNA HURT THEM,
  • 00:18:31.250 --> 00:18:32.290
  • BUT THE HURT MAY BE
  • 00:18:32.290 --> 00:18:34.020
  • THE VERY THING
  • 00:18:34.020 --> 00:18:35.010
  • THAT PRODUCES HEALING
  • 00:18:35.050 --> 00:18:38.050
  • AND THERE'S A DIFFERENCE
  • 00:18:38.050 --> 00:18:38.210
  • BETWEEN THAT AND HARMING THEM.
  • 00:18:38.210 --> 00:18:40.110
  • YOU'RE NOT HARM ANYBODY,
  • 00:18:40.110 --> 00:18:42.090
  • ARE YOU WITH ME?
  • 00:18:42.090 --> 00:18:44.150
  • CAN I TELL YOU AS ONE
  • 00:18:44.150 --> 00:18:46.290
  • WHO HAS SAT ON THE SIDE --
  • 00:18:46.290 --> 00:18:48.010
  • OTHER SIDE OF THE TABLE
  • 00:18:48.010 --> 00:18:49.090
  • WHERE SOMEONE HAS SAT DOWN
  • 00:18:49.090 --> 00:18:50.060
  • WITH ME IN COLLEGE,
  • 00:18:50.060 --> 00:18:51.010
  • A PROFESSOR WHO LOVED ME ENOUGH,
  • 00:18:51.010 --> 00:18:53.100
  • THE WOUND OF A FRIEND
  • 00:18:53.100 --> 00:18:54.260
  • AND SAID, "DANIEL,
  • 00:18:54.260 --> 00:18:55.190
  • GOD'S CALL IS ON YOUR LIFE,
  • 00:18:55.190 --> 00:18:56.260
  • THE HAND OF GOD
  • 00:18:56.260 --> 00:18:57.140
  • IS ON YOUR LIFE,
  • 00:18:57.140 --> 00:18:58.040
  • HE'S GONNA DO GREAT
  • 00:18:58.040 --> 00:18:58.210
  • THINGS IN YOUR LIFE,
  • 00:18:58.210 --> 00:18:59.230
  • BUT THERE IS ONE THING THAT
  • 00:18:59.230 --> 00:19:00.230
  • WILL KEEP THAT FROM HAPPENING
  • 00:19:00.230 --> 00:19:01.270
  • AND IT'S THAT
  • 00:19:01.270 --> 00:19:02.170
  • YOU ARE SO ARROGANT."
  • 00:19:02.240 --> 00:19:05.240
  • DO YOU THINK
  • 00:19:05.240 --> 00:19:06.070
  • THAT FELT WONDERFUL?
  • 00:19:06.070 --> 00:19:07.170
  • DO YOU THINK I WAS LIKE,
  • 00:19:07.170 --> 00:19:08.170
  • WELL, THANK YOU,
  • 00:19:08.170 --> 00:19:11.040
  • THAT FELT AMAZING?
  • 00:19:11.040 --> 00:19:13.060
  • IF HE DIDN'T CARE ABOUT ME
  • 00:19:13.060 --> 00:19:13.290
  • ENOUGH IN THAT MOMENT
  • 00:19:13.290 --> 00:19:15.040
  • TO HURT ME A LITTLE
  • 00:19:15.040 --> 00:19:17.110
  • SO THAT I COULD
  • 00:19:17.110 --> 00:19:17.260
  • GET TO HEALING A LOT
  • 00:19:17.260 --> 00:19:19.220
  • FOR THE REST OF MY LIFE
  • 00:19:19.220 --> 00:19:20.270
  • I WOULDN'T BE DOING
  • 00:19:20.270 --> 00:19:21.260
  • WHAT I'M DOING NOW
  • 00:19:21.260 --> 00:19:23.040
  • BECAUSE NO ONE WANTS
  • 00:19:23.040 --> 00:19:24.040
  • AN ARROGANT PASTOR,
  • 00:19:25.050 --> 00:19:28.050
  • ARE YOU WITH ME?
  • 00:19:28.110 --> 00:19:31.110
  • AND SO, DON'T LET
  • 00:19:31.110 --> 00:19:32.010
  • THE THOUGHT THAT
  • 00:19:32.010 --> 00:19:32.190
  • YOU MAY HURT THEM,
  • 00:19:32.190 --> 00:19:33.110
  • KEEP YOU FROM
  • 00:19:33.110 --> 00:19:33.260
  • SETTING BOUNDARIES.
  • 00:19:33.260 --> 00:19:34.180
  • THAT HURT MIGHT BE
  • 00:19:34.180 --> 00:19:35.080
  • THE VERY THING
  • 00:19:35.080 --> 00:19:35.290
  • THAT LEADS THEM TO HEALING.
  • 00:19:35.290 --> 00:19:38.100
  • WILL IT BE HARD?
  • 00:19:38.100 --> 00:19:39.070
  • SURE, IT WILL BE HARD,
  • 00:19:39.070 --> 00:19:40.090
  • WILL IT BE HARD
  • 00:19:40.090 --> 00:19:40.250
  • FOR THEM TO HEAR IT?
  • 00:19:40.250 --> 00:19:41.140
  • SURE, IT'LL BE HARD
  • 00:19:41.140 --> 00:19:42.030
  • FOR THEM TO HEAR.
  • 00:19:42.030 --> 00:19:44.230
  • BUT YOU MAY HOLD
  • 00:19:44.230 --> 00:19:45.140
  • THE KEY TO THEIR HEALING,
  • 00:19:45.140 --> 00:19:48.030
  • YOU MAY HOLD THE KEY
  • 00:19:48.030 --> 00:19:48.230
  • TO THEIR HEALING
  • 00:19:48.230 --> 00:19:49.230
  • AND GOD MAY HAVE PUT YOU
  • 00:19:49.230 --> 00:19:50.150
  • IN THEIR LIFE TO BE THE ONE
  • 00:19:50.150 --> 00:19:51.290
  • THAT WOULD FINALLY HAVE
  • 00:19:51.290 --> 00:19:52.180
  • THE CONVERSATION TO SAY,
  • 00:19:52.180 --> 00:19:54.050
  • THIS IS GONNA LEAD
  • 00:19:54.050 --> 00:19:54.260
  • YOU DOWN A BAD PATH
  • 00:19:54.260 --> 00:19:56.020
  • AND BECAUSE I LOVE HIM ENOUGH
  • 00:19:56.020 --> 00:19:57.060
  • I'M WILLING TO SAY
  • 00:19:57.060 --> 00:19:58.030
  • I'LL GET IN THE GARAGE WITH YOU
  • 00:19:58.030 --> 00:19:59.090
  • AND CLEAN IT OFF OF YOU
  • 00:19:59.090 --> 00:20:00.210
  • AND HELP YOU IN ANY WAY WE CAN,
  • 00:20:00.210 --> 00:20:02.000
  • BUT YOU'RE NOT BRINGING THAT
  • 00:20:02.000 --> 00:20:03.010
  • INTO MY HOUSE.
  • 00:20:03.210 --> 00:20:06.210
  • ARE YOU WITH ME?
  • 00:20:06.210 --> 00:20:07.210
  • AMEN?
  • 00:20:07.210 --> 00:20:08.220
  • ALRIGHT.
  • 00:20:08.220 --> 00:20:11.150
  • NUMBER ONE,
  • 00:20:11.150 --> 00:20:12.210
  • SOME BOUNDARIES I THINK
  • 00:20:12.210 --> 00:20:13.130
  • Y'ALL JUST SAID
  • 00:20:13.130 --> 00:20:14.000
  • IS THE BOUNDARY OF CONTROL,
  • 00:20:15.250 --> 00:20:18.250
  • LET ME GIVE YOU THE CLIFF NOTES.
  • 00:20:18.250 --> 00:20:21.000
  • CONTROL COMES IN
  • 00:20:21.000 --> 00:20:21.250
  • TWO DIFFERENT WAYS;
  • 00:20:21.250 --> 00:20:22.290
  • CONTROL COMES OVERTLY
  • 00:20:22.290 --> 00:20:24.070
  • AND IT COMES COVERTLY.
  • 00:20:24.070 --> 00:20:26.070
  • CONTROL COMES
  • 00:20:26.070 --> 00:20:26.230
  • IN THE FORM COVERTLY
  • 00:20:26.230 --> 00:20:28.090
  • OF UNDERHANDED COMMENTS,
  • 00:20:28.090 --> 00:20:29.280
  • PASSIVE AGGRESSIVE,
  • 00:20:29.280 --> 00:20:31.040
  • TRYING TO MAKE YOU FEEL GUILTY,
  • 00:20:31.040 --> 00:20:33.090
  • "OH, YOU'RE NOT COMING OVER
  • 00:20:33.090 --> 00:20:34.080
  • FOR THANKSGIVING, THAT'S FINE.
  • 00:20:37.090 --> 00:20:40.090
  • THAT'S COVERT MANIPULATION.
  • 00:20:51.110 --> 00:20:54.110
  • WHY DON'T YOU JUST SAY
  • 00:20:54.110 --> 00:20:54.290
  • WHAT'S ON YOUR MIND?
  • 00:20:54.290 --> 00:20:55.160
  • WHY DON'T YOU JUST SAY
  • 00:20:55.160 --> 00:20:56.040
  • YOU'RE DISAPPOINTED
  • 00:20:56.040 --> 00:20:56.190
  • THAT I'M NOT COMING
  • 00:20:56.190 --> 00:20:57.060
  • AND I'LL SAY WELL,
  • 00:20:57.060 --> 00:20:57.240
  • I'M SORRY YOU'RE DISAPPOINTED,
  • 00:20:57.240 --> 00:20:58.140
  • BUT I'M STILL NOT COMING.
  • 00:20:58.290 --> 00:21:02.010
  • BECAUSE I DON'T WANT
  • 00:21:02.010 --> 00:21:02.160
  • CONTROL IN MY PLAYGROUND.
  • 00:21:02.160 --> 00:21:04.220
  • ARE YOU FOLLOWING ME?
  • 00:21:04.220 --> 00:21:06.060
  • ANOTHER WAY CONTROL COMES
  • 00:21:06.060 --> 00:21:07.020
  • IS OVERTLY THROUGH WORDS.
  • 00:21:07.160 --> 00:21:10.160
  • SOMETIMES THROUGH
  • 00:21:10.160 --> 00:21:12.000
  • PHYSICAL ACTIONS
  • 00:21:12.000 --> 00:21:12.290
  • WHICH I WOULD JUST
  • 00:21:12.290 --> 00:21:13.160
  • SAY TO ANYONE TODAY
  • 00:21:13.160 --> 00:21:14.190
  • IF YOU FIND YOURSELF
  • 00:21:14.190 --> 00:21:15.060
  • IN THE PLACE,
  • 00:21:15.060 --> 00:21:16.000
  • THAT'S NOT OKAY,
  • 00:21:16.000 --> 00:21:16.250
  • IT'S NOT NORMAL,
  • 00:21:16.250 --> 00:21:17.260
  • AND IT'S NOT THE WAY
  • 00:21:17.260 --> 00:21:18.150
  • THINGS SHOULD BE.
  • 00:21:22.090 --> 00:21:25.090
  • THERE'S TWO WAYS OF CONTROL
  • 00:21:25.140 --> 00:21:28.140
  • AND SO YOU GOT TO BE
  • 00:21:28.140 --> 00:21:29.060
  • WILLING TO SAY, NO,
  • 00:21:29.060 --> 00:21:29.260
  • AND SETTING THAT BOUNDARY.
  • 00:21:29.260 --> 00:21:31.110
  • HEY, I LOVE YOU,
  • 00:21:31.110 --> 00:21:32.040
  • BUT I JUST WANT YOU TO KNOW
  • 00:21:32.040 --> 00:21:33.000
  • YOU WON'T CONTROL ME.
  • 00:21:33.010 --> 00:21:36.010
  • THIS IS THE CONVERSATION
  • 00:21:36.010 --> 00:21:36.280
  • THAT SOME OF YOU HAVE HAD,
  • 00:21:36.280 --> 00:21:38.030
  • YOU'RE NEWLY MARRIED
  • 00:21:38.030 --> 00:21:39.080
  • AND YOUR WIFE GOES,
  • 00:21:39.080 --> 00:21:40.030
  • "WILL YOU PLEASE
  • 00:21:40.030 --> 00:21:40.190
  • TALK TO YOUR MOM?"
  • 00:21:40.190 --> 00:21:42.250
  • WHAT SHE IS SAYING TO YOU, SIR,
  • 00:21:42.250 --> 00:21:45.150
  • IS, WILL YOU PLEASE
  • 00:21:45.150 --> 00:21:46.130
  • SET A BOUNDARY WITH YOUR MOM
  • 00:21:46.130 --> 00:21:48.270
  • BECAUSE HER NOSE
  • 00:21:48.270 --> 00:21:49.190
  • IS TOO MUCH
  • 00:21:49.190 --> 00:21:50.070
  • IN OUR MARRIAGE, RIGHT NOW.
  • 00:21:50.190 --> 00:21:53.190
  • ARE YOU WITH ME?
  • 00:21:54.250 --> 00:21:57.250
  • AND MAMA, CAN I SAY,
  • 00:21:57.250 --> 00:21:59.030
  • I KNOW YOU LOVE HIM
  • 00:21:59.030 --> 00:21:59.250
  • AND HE'S YOUR BABY BOY,
  • 00:22:01.100 --> 00:22:04.100
  • BUT I'VE SEEN SOME MARRIAGES
  • 00:22:04.100 --> 00:22:05.170
  • THAT WOULD HAVE MADE IT
  • 00:22:05.170 --> 00:22:08.130
  • IF SOME FAMILY MEMBERS
  • 00:22:08.130 --> 00:22:09.080
  • WOULD'VE KEPT
  • 00:22:09.080 --> 00:22:09.230
  • THEIR NOSE OUT OF IT.
  • 00:22:09.230 --> 00:22:12.070
  • ARE YOU WITH ME?
  • 00:22:12.070 --> 00:22:14.070
  • ALRIGHT.
  • 00:22:14.070 --> 00:22:15.190
  • SO, WE DON'T WANT CONTROL,
  • 00:22:15.190 --> 00:22:16.230
  • WE WANT EMPOWERMENT,
  • 00:22:16.230 --> 00:22:18.090
  • PHILIPPIANS 4:13 SAYS,
  • 00:22:18.090 --> 00:22:19.080
  • "I CAN DO ALL THINGS
  • 00:22:19.080 --> 00:22:20.000
  • THROUGH CHRIST."
  • 00:22:20.000 --> 00:22:20.260
  • YOU WANT THE KINDA PEOPLE
  • 00:22:20.260 --> 00:22:21.140
  • AND VOICES IN YOUR LIFE
  • 00:22:21.140 --> 00:22:23.000
  • THAT ARE EMPOWERING ARE YOU
  • 00:22:23.000 --> 00:22:24.140
  • TO BETTER AND BETTER THINGS
  • 00:22:24.140 --> 00:22:25.180
  • IN YOUR LIFE,
  • 00:22:25.180 --> 00:22:26.060
  • NOT JUST YES PEOPLE,
  • 00:22:26.060 --> 00:22:27.090
  • BUT PEOPLE THAT BELIEVE IN YOU,
  • 00:22:27.090 --> 00:22:28.130
  • THAT BELIEVE
  • 00:22:28.130 --> 00:22:28.250
  • GOD'S BEST FOR YOU,
  • 00:22:28.250 --> 00:22:30.010
  • THAT DON'T WANNA CONTROL YOU
  • 00:22:30.010 --> 00:22:31.070
  • AND LIMIT YOU,
  • 00:22:31.070 --> 00:22:31.280
  • BUT WANT TO ELEVATE YOU
  • 00:22:31.280 --> 00:22:32.240
  • AND ACCELERATE YOU.
  • 00:22:32.240 --> 00:22:34.040
  • ARE YOU WITH ME?
  • 00:22:34.040 --> 00:22:34.270
  • IT'S THE KINDA VOICES
  • 00:22:34.270 --> 00:22:35.150
  • YOU WANT IN YOUR LIFE.
  • 00:22:35.150 --> 00:22:36.090
  • NUMBER TWO,
  • 00:22:36.090 --> 00:22:36.230
  • I'M GONNA GET THROUGH THESE,
  • 00:22:36.230 --> 00:22:38.050
  • NEGATIVITY,
  • 00:22:38.050 --> 00:22:38.240
  • I CAN'T HAVE AROUND ME THE --
  • 00:22:38.240 --> 00:22:40.130
  • EVERY SENTENCE IS LIKE,
  • 00:22:40.130 --> 00:22:41.120
  • "WELL, THE PROBLEM
  • 00:22:41.120 --> 00:22:42.090
  • WITH DOING THAT IS,"
  • 00:22:42.090 --> 00:22:43.060
  • I KNOW ALL THE PROBLEMS,
  • 00:22:43.060 --> 00:22:44.060
  • COME ON,
  • 00:22:44.060 --> 00:22:44.190
  • I NEED SOME SOLUTIONS,
  • 00:22:44.190 --> 00:22:45.170
  • I NEED SOME POSITIVITY.
  • 00:22:45.170 --> 00:22:46.260
  • I NEED, WE CAN DO THIS,
  • 00:22:46.260 --> 00:22:47.290
  • ARE YOU FOLLOWING ME?
  • 00:22:47.290 --> 00:22:49.090
  • HERE'S THE PROBLEM,
  • 00:22:49.090 --> 00:22:50.160
  • SOME PEOPLE IN YOUR LIFE
  • 00:22:50.160 --> 00:22:51.260
  • ARE EXPECTING YOU
  • 00:22:51.260 --> 00:22:52.130
  • TO STILL BE THE 2010 YOU
  • 00:22:52.130 --> 00:22:55.110
  • AND SO THEY WANNA COME IN
  • 00:22:55.110 --> 00:22:56.030
  • WITH NEGATIVITY
  • 00:22:56.030 --> 00:22:56.180
  • TO PULL YOU BACK
  • 00:22:56.180 --> 00:22:57.060
  • TO WHO YOU WERE
  • 00:22:57.060 --> 00:22:58.060
  • AND NOT TO WHO
  • 00:22:58.060 --> 00:22:58.230
  • GOD'S MAKING YOU TO BE.
  • 00:22:58.230 --> 00:23:00.110
  • YOU CAN'T BEAT --
  • 00:23:00.110 --> 00:23:00.280
  • I CAN'T BE THE 2018 ME.
  • 00:23:00.280 --> 00:23:02.170
  • GODS TAKEN ME TO GREATER
  • 00:23:02.170 --> 00:23:03.080
  • AND GREATER THINGS,
  • 00:23:03.080 --> 00:23:04.180
  • TO HIGHER AND HIGHER
  • 00:23:04.180 --> 00:23:05.120
  • HEIGHTS AND I'VE GOT TO MOVE ON.
  • 00:23:05.120 --> 00:23:07.100
  • ARE YOU WITH ME?
  • 00:23:07.100 --> 00:23:08.230
  • YOU'VE GOT TO
  • 00:23:08.230 --> 00:23:09.040
  • KEEP MOVING FORWARD.
  • 00:23:09.040 --> 00:23:09.280
  • AND SO, WHAT DO WE WANT?
  • 00:23:09.280 --> 00:23:12.100
  • WE WANT PEOPLE IN OUR LIVES
  • 00:23:12.100 --> 00:23:13.120
  • THAT WON'T LET
  • 00:23:13.120 --> 00:23:13.280
  • ANY UNWHOLESOME TALK
  • 00:23:13.280 --> 00:23:14.230
  • COME OUT OF THEIR MOUTHS,
  • 00:23:14.230 --> 00:23:15.270
  • BUT BE HELPFUL FOR BUILDING
  • 00:23:15.270 --> 00:23:17.230
  • OTHERS UP ACCORDING
  • 00:23:17.230 --> 00:23:18.180
  • TO THEIR NEEDS AND THIS MEANS
  • 00:23:18.180 --> 00:23:20.190
  • YOU HAVE TO BE IN
  • 00:23:20.190 --> 00:23:21.110
  • RELATIONSHIP WITH PEOPLE.
  • 00:23:21.110 --> 00:23:23.030
  • YOU'VE GOT TO BE IN
  • 00:23:23.030 --> 00:23:23.230
  • RELATIONSHIP WITH PEOPLE
  • 00:23:23.230 --> 00:23:24.280
  • TO KNOW THEIR NEEDS.
  • 00:23:24.280 --> 00:23:26.070
  • I CAN'T BUILD UP OWEN
  • 00:23:26.070 --> 00:23:27.240
  • THE SAME WAY I BUILD UP FAITH,
  • 00:23:27.240 --> 00:23:29.120
  • THEY ARE TWO DIFFERENT KIDS,
  • 00:23:29.120 --> 00:23:30.210
  • TWO DIFFERENT PERSONALITIES,
  • 00:23:30.210 --> 00:23:31.260
  • ARE YOU WITH ME?
  • 00:23:31.260 --> 00:23:33.020
  • AND SO, YOU GOT TO
  • 00:23:33.020 --> 00:23:33.210
  • KNOW THEIR NEEDS
  • 00:23:33.210 --> 00:23:34.100
  • AND WHY DO WE DO THIS?
  • 00:23:34.100 --> 00:23:35.020
  • BECAUSE IT WILL BENEFIT
  • 00:23:35.020 --> 00:23:36.020
  • THOSE WHO ARE LISTENING.
  • 00:23:36.020 --> 00:23:37.260
  • SO, AS PEOPLE HEAR YOU
  • 00:23:37.260 --> 00:23:39.040
  • BUILDING PEOPLE UP
  • 00:23:39.040 --> 00:23:40.040
  • IT'S GONNA BENEFIT PEOPLE
  • 00:23:40.040 --> 00:23:41.070
  • EVEN OUTSIDE OF THOSE
  • 00:23:41.070 --> 00:23:43.070
  • WHO ARE DIRECTLY LISTENING.
  • 00:23:43.070 --> 00:23:44.040
  • ARE YOU WITH ME, SAY AMEN?
  • 00:23:44.040 --> 00:23:45.140
  • ALRIGHT.
  • 00:23:45.140 --> 00:23:46.060
  • FINALLY, IS FEAR.
  • 00:23:46.060 --> 00:23:49.050
  • OBVIOUSLY THIS IS
  • 00:23:49.050 --> 00:23:49.180
  • AN EXHAUSTIVE LIST,
  • 00:23:49.180 --> 00:23:50.250
  • THIS ISN'T THE END ALL BE ALL,
  • 00:23:50.250 --> 00:23:52.000
  • I JUST WANTED
  • 00:23:52.000 --> 00:23:52.110
  • TO GET YOU STARTED,
  • 00:23:52.110 --> 00:23:54.200
  • THAT FEAR, FEAR,
  • 00:23:54.200 --> 00:23:57.030
  • YOU'VE MET THOSE PEOPLE
  • 00:23:57.030 --> 00:23:58.280
  • THAT MAYBE YOU LET
  • 00:23:58.280 --> 00:24:00.030
  • A LITTLE TOO MUCH
  • 00:24:00.030 --> 00:24:00.240
  • INTO YOUR LIFE BECAUSE
  • 00:24:00.240 --> 00:24:01.200
  • IF YOU LET THEM IN,
  • 00:24:01.200 --> 00:24:02.110
  • THEN YOU DON'T GUARD YOUR HEART
  • 00:24:02.110 --> 00:24:03.230
  • AND FROM THE WELLSPRING
  • 00:24:03.230 --> 00:24:04.110
  • OF YOUR LIFE
  • 00:24:04.110 --> 00:24:04.250
  • BEGINS TO COME OUT
  • 00:24:04.250 --> 00:24:05.110
  • OF YOUR HEART.
  • 00:24:05.110 --> 00:24:06.200
  • YOU CAN TELL THEM
  • 00:24:06.200 --> 00:24:07.060
  • YOU'RE GOING ON VACATION
  • 00:24:07.060 --> 00:24:08.020
  • AND THEY'LL LET YOU KNOW
  • 00:24:08.020 --> 00:24:08.200
  • EVERYTHING THAT
  • 00:24:08.200 --> 00:24:09.050
  • COULD GO WRONG, ALRIGHT?
  • 00:24:10.050 --> 00:24:13.050
  • "HEY, WE'RE GOING
  • 00:24:13.050 --> 00:24:13.170
  • TO THE CARIBBEAN."
  • 00:24:13.170 --> 00:24:14.030
  • "YOU FLYING?"
  • 00:24:14.030 --> 00:24:14.200
  • "YEAH, WE'RE FLYING."
  • 00:24:14.200 --> 00:24:15.130
  • "YOU KNOW IT CAN CRASH."
  • 00:24:15.190 --> 00:24:18.190
  • I WANNA CALL IT LIKE
  • 00:24:18.190 --> 00:24:19.090
  • THE BIBLE CALLS IT,
  • 00:24:19.090 --> 00:24:21.270
  • IT'S A SPIRIT OF FEAR,
  • 00:24:21.270 --> 00:24:24.230
  • SPIRIT OF FEAR
  • 00:24:24.230 --> 00:24:26.140
  • THAT ATTACHES ITSELF
  • 00:24:26.140 --> 00:24:27.090
  • AND IF YOU LET THAT IN
  • 00:24:27.090 --> 00:24:29.020
  • THEN THAT BECOMES
  • 00:24:29.020 --> 00:24:31.150
  • THE FILTER THROUGH WHICH
  • 00:24:31.150 --> 00:24:32.220
  • YOU BEGIN TO SEE THINGS
  • 00:24:32.220 --> 00:24:34.250
  • IF YOU DON'T GUARD YOUR HEART.
  • 00:24:34.250 --> 00:24:36.010
  • IF I'M NOT GONNA LET FEAR IT,
  • 00:24:36.010 --> 00:24:37.000
  • I'M GONNA LET FAITH IN.
  • 00:24:37.000 --> 00:24:38.240
  • PEOPLE THAT'LL SPEAK LIFE,
  • 00:24:38.240 --> 00:24:40.070
  • THAT'LL BELIEVE GREAT THINGS
  • 00:24:40.070 --> 00:24:41.080
  • BECAUSE I WOULD SAY
  • 00:24:41.080 --> 00:24:42.200
  • FOR YOU YOU'VE GOT TOO MUCH
  • 00:24:42.200 --> 00:24:43.170
  • GOING ON IN YOUR LIFE
  • 00:24:43.170 --> 00:24:44.160
  • TO LIVE IN FEAR,
  • 00:24:44.160 --> 00:24:45.250
  • YOU GOT TOO MANY
  • 00:24:45.250 --> 00:24:46.100
  • RESPONSIBILITIES,
  • 00:24:46.100 --> 00:24:48.140
  • YOU GOT THE PRESSURE
  • 00:24:48.140 --> 00:24:49.000
  • OF TOO MANY THINGS
  • 00:24:49.000 --> 00:24:49.180
  • IN YOUR LIFE,
  • 00:24:49.180 --> 00:24:50.040
  • AND YOU HAVE
  • 00:24:50.040 --> 00:24:50.250
  • TOO GREAT A DESTINY.
  • 00:24:50.250 --> 00:24:52.230
  • GOD'S GOT TOO MUCH FOR YOU
  • 00:24:52.230 --> 00:24:53.280
  • IN YOUR LIFE TO LIVE IN FEAR.
  • 00:24:53.280 --> 00:24:55.160
  • I WANT SOME PEOPLE AROUND ME
  • 00:24:55.160 --> 00:24:56.220
  • LIKE THIS THAT WHEN I CALL
  • 00:24:56.220 --> 00:24:58.250
  • OR WHEN THEY CALL ME
  • 00:24:58.250 --> 00:25:00.050
  • AND I'M NEEDING SOME FEAR,
  • 00:25:00.050 --> 00:25:02.050
  • SOME FEAR TO BE DRIVEN OUT,
  • 00:25:02.050 --> 00:25:03.140
  • AND SOME FAITH TO BE
  • 00:25:03.140 --> 00:25:04.050
  • BUILT UP WILL BE LIKE,
  • 00:25:04.050 --> 00:25:05.110
  • BE STRONG AND COURAGEOUS,
  • 00:25:05.110 --> 00:25:07.010
  • DON'T BE AFRAID OR TERRIFIED,
  • 00:25:07.010 --> 00:25:08.280
  • THE LORD IS WITH YOU,
  • 00:25:08.280 --> 00:25:10.130
  • HE'LL NEVER LEAVE YOU.
  • 00:25:10.130 --> 00:25:12.080
  • I WANT SOME PEOPLE
  • 00:25:12.080 --> 00:25:12.230
  • LIKE THIS THAT'LL SAY,
  • 00:25:12.230 --> 00:25:13.210
  • HEY, NO WEAPON FORMED
  • 00:25:13.210 --> 00:25:14.090
  • AGAINST YOU WILL PROSPER.
  • 00:25:14.090 --> 00:25:16.270
  • YOU KNOW, YOU'LL REFUTE
  • 00:25:16.270 --> 00:25:17.190
  • EVERY TONGUE THAT ACCUSES YOU.
  • 00:25:17.190 --> 00:25:19.030
  • THIS IS THE HERITAGE
  • 00:25:19.030 --> 00:25:19.260
  • OF THE LORD.
  • 00:25:19.260 --> 00:25:20.160
  • I WANT SOME FAITH PEOPLE
  • 00:25:20.160 --> 00:25:21.230
  • IN MY LIFE
  • 00:25:21.230 --> 00:25:23.210
  • THAT WILL BUILD ME UP.
  • 00:25:23.210 --> 00:25:24.230
  • I'M NOT REJECTING PEOPLE;
  • 00:25:24.290 --> 00:25:27.290
  • I'M JUST DRAWING
  • 00:25:27.290 --> 00:25:28.170
  • THE LINE ON BEHAVIOR.
  • 00:25:28.200 --> 00:25:31.200
  • YOU CAN COME IN THE HOUSE,
  • 00:25:31.200 --> 00:25:33.290
  • BUT LET'S GO OUT IN THE GARAGE
  • 00:25:33.290 --> 00:25:35.070
  • AND I'VE GOT TO GET SOME THINGS
  • 00:25:35.070 --> 00:25:37.270
  • CLEANED OFF OF YOU,
  • 00:25:37.270 --> 00:25:38.160
  • ARE YOU WITH ME?
  • 00:25:38.160 --> 00:25:39.180
  • THERE ARE SOME CONVERSATIONS
  • 00:25:39.180 --> 00:25:40.190
  • YOU KNOW RIGHT NOW
  • 00:25:40.190 --> 00:25:41.120
  • AS I'M TALKING,
  • 00:25:41.120 --> 00:25:42.020
  • YOU'RE LIKE I NEED TO
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  • HAVE THE CONVERSATION
  • 00:25:43.190 --> 00:25:45.240
  • AND THAT CONVERSATION
  • 00:25:45.240 --> 00:25:46.230
  • COULD BE TRANSFORMATIONAL
  • 00:25:46.230 --> 00:25:48.050
  • FOR YOU AND THE OTHER PERSON.
  • 00:25:48.050 --> 00:25:50.040
  • YOU NEED TO GET AROUND
  • 00:25:50.040 --> 00:25:50.230
  • SOME GODLY PEOPLE
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  • IN YOUR LIFE, LET THEM IN,
  • 00:25:51.150 --> 00:25:53.060
  • LET THEM SPEAK LIFE INTO YOU,
  • 00:25:53.060 --> 00:25:54.220
  • - THANKS SO MUCH
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  • FOR JOINING US TODAY.
  • 00:26:01.210 --> 00:26:02.200
  • I HOPE TODAY'S MESSAGE
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  • WAS HELPFUL,
  • 00:26:03.100 --> 00:26:04.160
  • ENCOURAGING IN YOUR LIFE.
  • 00:26:04.160 --> 00:26:05.230
  • YOU KNOW, WE ALL NEED BOUNDARIES
  • 00:26:05.230 --> 00:26:07.240
  • IN OUR RELATIONSHIPS.
  • 00:26:07.240 --> 00:26:09.070
  • WE NEED TO HAVE A LINE
  • 00:26:09.070 --> 00:26:10.060
  • WHERE WE SAY
  • 00:26:10.060 --> 00:26:10.220
  • THIS IS WHAT CAN ENTER
  • 00:26:10.220 --> 00:26:12.060
  • AND THIS IS WHAT CANNOT ENTER.
  • 00:26:12.060 --> 00:26:13.270
  • YOU KNOW, WITH MY SON
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  • I WASN'T GOING TO LEAVE HIM
  • 00:26:15.030 --> 00:26:15.250
  • OUT IN THE GARAGE,
  • 00:26:15.250 --> 00:26:16.210
  • BUT I DEFINITELY WAS
  • 00:26:16.210 --> 00:26:17.180
  • GOING TO LEAVE
  • 00:26:17.180 --> 00:26:18.130
  • ALL THE MUD AND MESS
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  • THAT WAS ON HIM IN THE GARAGE.
  • 00:26:19.190 --> 00:26:21.090
  • I DIDN'T WANT THAT IN THE HOUSE.
  • 00:26:21.090 --> 00:26:22.230
  • I DIDN'T WANT THAT
  • 00:26:22.230 --> 00:26:23.140
  • DIRT TRACKING INTO THE HOUSE
  • 00:26:23.140 --> 00:26:25.020
  • AND HERE'S THE DEAL,
  • 00:26:25.020 --> 00:26:26.030
  • SOME OF THE RELATIONSHIPS
  • 00:26:26.030 --> 00:26:26.290
  • IN OUR LIFE WE HAVEN'T
  • 00:26:26.290 --> 00:26:27.270
  • SET HEALTHY BOUNDARIES.
  • 00:26:27.270 --> 00:26:29.080
  • DOESN'T MEAN THAT
  • 00:26:29.080 --> 00:26:29.250
  • WE DON'T LOVE PEOPLE,
  • 00:26:29.250 --> 00:26:30.200
  • IT DOESN'T MEAN THAT
  • 00:26:30.200 --> 00:26:31.100
  • WE DON'T EMBRACE AND COURAGE
  • 00:26:31.100 --> 00:26:33.190
  • THAT WE'RE NOT THERE FOR PEOPLE,
  • 00:26:33.190 --> 00:26:34.170
  • IT JUST MEANS THAT WE PUT
  • 00:26:34.170 --> 00:26:36.050
  • SOME HEALTHY BOUNDARIES TO SAY
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  • YOU CAN COME,
  • 00:26:37.130 --> 00:26:38.130
  • BUT I'M NOT LETTING FEAR COME.
  • 00:26:38.130 --> 00:26:39.240
  • YOU CAN COME,
  • 00:26:39.240 --> 00:26:40.190
  • BUT I'M NOT LETTING PAIN COME,
  • 00:26:40.190 --> 00:26:42.030
  • YOU CAN COME,
  • 00:26:42.030 --> 00:26:42.220
  • I'M NOT LETTING DOUBT COME,
  • 00:26:42.220 --> 00:26:43.210
  • BUT HERE'S WHAT YOU DO NEED
  • 00:26:43.210 --> 00:26:44.140
  • TO LET INTO YOUR LIFE IS FAITH.
  • 00:26:44.140 --> 00:26:46.180
  • THE REASON YOU NEED TO
  • 00:26:46.180 --> 00:26:47.100
  • LET FAITH INTO YOUR LIFE,
  • 00:26:47.100 --> 00:26:48.200
  • YOU NEED TO HAVE PEOPLE THAT
  • 00:26:48.200 --> 00:26:49.190
  • SPEAK LIFE AND SPEAK HOPE
  • 00:26:49.190 --> 00:26:51.040
  • AND SPEAK ENCOURAGEMENT
  • 00:26:51.040 --> 00:26:52.150
  • INTO YOUR LIFE
  • 00:26:52.150 --> 00:26:53.060
  • BECAUSE GOD HAS TOO MUCH
  • 00:26:53.060 --> 00:26:55.120
  • IN STORE FOR YOUR LIFE,
  • 00:26:55.120 --> 00:26:56.210
  • HAS A PURPOSE FOR YOU,
  • 00:26:56.210 --> 00:26:57.220
  • HAS A PLAN FOR YOU,
  • 00:26:57.220 --> 00:26:58.260
  • HAS SOMETHING INCREDIBLE
  • 00:26:58.260 --> 00:27:00.140
  • FOR YOU TO ACCOMPLISH
  • 00:27:00.140 --> 00:27:01.160
  • SO YOU NEED TO KNOW
  • 00:27:01.160 --> 00:27:02.190
  • WHAT AM I GONNA ALLOW IN
  • 00:27:02.190 --> 00:27:04.050
  • AND WHAT AM I NOT
  • 00:27:04.050 --> 00:27:04.230
  • GONNA ALLOW IN.
  • 00:27:04.230 --> 00:27:05.270
  • SO, I PRAY THIS WEEK
  • 00:27:05.270 --> 00:27:06.240
  • THAT YOU TAKE SOME TIME
  • 00:27:06.240 --> 00:27:08.070
  • TO EVALUATE
  • 00:27:08.070 --> 00:27:09.080
  • HOW ARE MY BOUNDARIES?
  • 00:27:09.080 --> 00:27:10.210
  • IF THEY'RE NOT GOOD
  • 00:27:10.210 --> 00:27:11.120
  • SET SOME HEALTHY BOUNDARIES
  • 00:27:11.120 --> 00:27:13.080
  • IN YOUR LIFE
  • 00:27:13.080 --> 00:27:14.060
  • SO THAT YOU CAN BECOME,
  • 00:27:14.060 --> 00:27:15.140
  • AND YOUR RELATIONSHIPS
  • 00:27:15.140 --> 00:27:16.150
  • CAN BECOME EVERYTHING
  • 00:27:16.150 --> 00:27:18.010
  • THAT GOD INTENDED THEM TO BE.
  • 00:27:18.010 --> 00:27:19.170
  • THANKS AGAIN FOR JOINING US,
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  • I HOPE TO SEE YOU
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