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  • [music]
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  • - female: Thank you for joining
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  • us.
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  • I pray that today's message will
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  • empower you to use your voice,
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  • help change the way you think
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  • and energize your faith.
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  • Pastor Duane is taking a close
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  • look at the head of the
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  • household today and the
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  • - Duane Vander Klok: The
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  • Genesis 18, but really, to get
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  • to Genesis 18, we've got to go
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  • to Genesis 3.
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  • God gives Adam and Eve dominion.
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  • The Bible says God put all
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  • things under their feet.
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  • He gave them dominion.
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  • They bowed their knee to God's
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  • enemy, we could say, Satan, and
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  • what happened was Satan used
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  • that as entry into the world and
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  • literally took their authority.
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  • And God was looking at the world
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  • from the outside, looking in.
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  • And he came and he found a man
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  • by the name of Abram and made a
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  • covenant with him that he would
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  • bless him, that he'd make him
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  • great, that he'd make him a
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  • great nation, and that in him
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  • all the families of the earth
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  • would be blessed.
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  • In other words, the Messiah was
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  • gonna come through his seed.
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  • And God is later talking to
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  • Abraham in Genesis 18 and, by
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  • the way, that is the reason that
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  • the Bible is really--it is the
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  • story of redemption but it's the
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  • story of how God made a covenant
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  • with a man named Abraham and how
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  • That's why the Bible doesn't
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  • talk about Dutch people or
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  • Japanese people, all right?
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  • Because God didn't make a
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  • covenant with a Dutch man or a
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  • Japanese man.
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  • He made a covenant with a man
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  • named Abraham who fathered a
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  • nation that is the Jewish
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  • nation, right?
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  • And so the Bible is playing this
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  • story out, showing us what
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  • happens and, by the way, in him
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  • all the families, the Dutch, the
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  • Africans, the Japanese, the
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  • Chinese, all the families of the
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  • earth are affected.
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  • They're all blessed.
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  • But God said in Genesis 18:19:
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  • "For I know him, in order that
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  • he will command his children and
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  • his household after him, that
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  • they may keep the way of the
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  • Lord, to do righteousness and
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  • justice, that the Lord may bring
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  • to Abraham what he has spoken to
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  • him."
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  • In other words, the things that
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  • God had spoken to Abraham, they
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  • were dependent on what Abraham
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  • did.
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  • And he said, "So that I can
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  • bring to Abraham what I've
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  • spoken to him."
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  • God wanted to do things but
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  • Abraham needed to do some things
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  • so that God could do some
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  • things.
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  • He said that he's gonna command
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  • his children and his household
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  • after him.
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  • Now, notice the "after him"
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  • part.
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  • In other words, he's saying
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  • Abraham is gonna be an example
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  • to his family, Abraham is going
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  • to live the way that he needs to
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  • live.
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  • In fact, in Deuteronomy 6 where
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  • God talks about passing your
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  • faith to your children and, by
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  • purpose of parenthood is to pass
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  • your faith to your children,
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  • right?
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  • And when God talks about it, the
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  • first thing he says: "The things
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  • I command you today must be in
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  • your heart and then you'll teach
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  • them to your children."
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  • Where do they start?
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  • They start in you.
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  • So he's gonna command his
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  • household after him to keep the
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  • way of the Lord.
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  • That was his priority.
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  • Now, biblically, the father is
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  • the head of the home.
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  • The father is the head of the
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  • home.
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  • Now, listen, you can be a male
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  • but not be a man, you can be
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  • married but not be a husband.
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  • You can be a breeder and not a
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  • father.
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  • Hey, lust shows up with a condom
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  • and love shows up with a ring,
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  • right?
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  • You know, the man's
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  • responsibility is to love and to
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  • lead.
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  • Forty percent of children born
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  • today in this nation are born to
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  • a single mother.
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  • Father's not there.
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  • He's not loving, he's not
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  • leading, which are the number
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  • one responsibilities for a man.
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  • You know, Paul said this in 1
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  • Corinthians 4.
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  • He says: "Though you might have
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  • 10.000 instructors in Christ,
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  • you don't have many fathers,"
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  • you know?
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  • There is such a spiritual attack
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  • on fatherhood today in our
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  • nation.
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  • You know, a father needs to be
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  • present, he needs to provide, he
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  • needs to lead, and he needs to
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  • guide.
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  • literally we are taking the
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  • responsibility that God has
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  • given us as fathers to our
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  • children, to our family, and
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  • we're abandoning it.
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  • In 1 Timothy 5 and 8 it says:
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  • "If anyone doesn't provide for
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  • his own, especially those of his
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  • own household, he's denied the
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  • faith and he's worse than an
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  • infidel."
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  • You know, when you don't
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  • provide, when you don't guide,
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  • when you don't lead, when you're
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  • not present, you're denying the
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  • faith.
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  • The number one thing that a
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  • father is supposed to do is to
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  • have faith on the inside that
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  • they pass on to their children
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  • and if you're not doing it,
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  • literally you might think that
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  • you're in good shape
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  • spiritually, but your spiritual
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  • life is warped, right?
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  • Listen, spirituality begins at
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  • home.
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  • Man, this is the quietest
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  • Presbyterian church I think I've
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  • ever preached in.
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  • Listen to Exodus chapter 4.
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  • Now God has sent Moses to
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  • deliver the people of Israel.
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  • Now listen to this: "And it came
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  • to pass on the way, at the
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  • encampment, that the Lord met
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  • Did you know that was in the
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  • Bible?
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  • He's on his way to Egypt to
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  • deliver the Israelites, and God
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  • met him at the camp and sought
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  • to kill him.
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  • And you say, "Why?"
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  • Well then it says, "And
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  • Zipporah," which is his wife,
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  • "took a sharp stone and cut the
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  • foreskins of her son and cast
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  • them at Moses's feet, and said,
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  • 'Surely, you're a husband of
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  • blood to me.' So he," God, "let
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  • him go."
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  • Now here's what Moses is doing.
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  • He's going to deliver God's
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  • covenant people but he hasn't
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  • brought his own family into the
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  • covenant.
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  • The mark of the covenant was
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  • circumcision.
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  • And God said, "You go deliver my
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  • covenant people," and he's going
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  • but it's not working at home.
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  • He's gotta get it right at home
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  • first.
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  • In Psalms 101 it says this: "I
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  • will try to walk a blameless
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  • path, but how I need your help,
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  • especially in my own home, where
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  • I long to act as I should."
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  • How many men will say, "I need
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  • God's help"?
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  • I'll put both hands up.
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  • Keep going.
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  • I need God's--I need God's help.
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  • See, we can think that
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  • spirituality is something that
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  • happens outside of the home but
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  • it needs to start in the home.
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  • That's where the foundation is,
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  • right?
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  • And I want to just take a moment
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  • and I know there are so many
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  • single mothers and this is in no
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  • way to say to you that there is
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  • no hope for you, right?
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  • In 2 Timothy 1:5, Paul has taken
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  • Timothy when he's just a young
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  • guy, probably 16 years old, 15,
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  • and he's traveled with
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  • Timothy--Timothy has traveled
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  • with Paul, and now Paul has left
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  • him and he's pastoring a church
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  • in Ephesus and Paul writes him
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  • back and says, "When I call to
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  • remembrance the genuine faith
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  • that's in you, which first dwelt
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  • in your grandmother Lois and in
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  • your mother Eunice and I am
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  • persuaded is in you also."
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  • Now, in Timothy's life the
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  • father figure that should have
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  • been there was not there.
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  • And Paul stepped in and moved
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  • into that position and had the
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  • male influence in his life.
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  • But notice that he said, "The
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  • faith that's in you was first in
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  • your grandmother Lois and then
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  • in your mother Eunice, and now I
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  • am persuaded is also in you."
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  • So if you're a single mother, I
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  • just want you to know you can
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  • pass your faith on to your
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  • children.
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  • And they can do great things in
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  • the Lord.
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  • But a father needs to influence
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  • in the right way.
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  • It said God said about Abraham
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  • that he'll command his household
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  • after him to keep the way of the
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  • Lord.
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  • I like sports as much as
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  • anybody, all right?
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  • I love to hunt, I love to fish,
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  • and I know some of you guys,
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  • you're into golf and basketball
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  • and baseball and all of that
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  • stuff.
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  • That is great, all right?
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  • And it's great that you do those
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  • things, all right?
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  • But the number one thing that
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  • you need to do is you need to
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  • influence your family in the way
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  • of the Lord.
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  • That's the number one thing.
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  • You need to seek first the
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  • kingdom of God and his
  • 00:10:13.170 --> 00:10:15.060
  • righteousness, all right?
  • 00:10:15.060 --> 00:10:17.190
  • And what you're teaching your
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  • children, if you put those
  • 00:10:19.210 --> 00:10:22.020
  • things above God, right, what
  • 00:10:22.020 --> 00:10:24.180
  • you're teaching your children is
  • 00:10:24.180 --> 00:10:26.050
  • that is more important than the
  • 00:10:26.050 --> 00:10:27.170
  • kingdom of God.
  • 00:10:27.170 --> 00:10:29.100
  • That's more important than
  • 00:10:29.100 --> 00:10:30.100
  • worshiping God.
  • 00:10:30.100 --> 00:10:31.290
  • That's more important than
  • 00:10:31.290 --> 00:10:32.260
  • putting God first, right?
  • 00:10:32.260 --> 00:10:35.180
  • And what--as my wife has said so
  • 00:10:35.200 --> 00:10:38.200
  • many times, she says, "Your
  • 00:10:38.200 --> 00:10:40.100
  • compromises become your
  • 00:10:40.100 --> 00:10:41.210
  • "Your compromises become your
  • 00:10:44.270 --> 00:10:46.120
  • children's norms," right?
  • 00:10:46.120 --> 00:10:48.130
  • And every home needs a father to
  • 00:10:48.130 --> 00:10:50.260
  • be a spirit--to be spiritual, to
  • 00:10:50.260 --> 00:10:52.150
  • be a protector, right, one that
  • 00:10:52.150 --> 00:10:54.110
  • prays, one that reads their
  • 00:10:54.110 --> 00:10:55.290
  • Bible, one that puts God first,
  • 00:10:55.290 --> 00:10:58.070
  • one that worships, one that's
  • 00:10:58.070 --> 00:11:00.050
  • blessing their family.
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  • I love what it says about King
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  • David.
  • 00:11:03.160 --> 00:11:04.160
  • He had worshiped and they
  • 00:11:04.160 --> 00:11:05.120
  • brought the ark of the Lord to
  • 00:11:05.120 --> 00:11:07.230
  • Jerusalem and David had set up a
  • 00:11:07.230 --> 00:11:09.220
  • tent and they put it in the
  • 00:11:09.220 --> 00:11:11.030
  • tent.
  • 00:11:11.030 --> 00:11:12.020
  • And all the Levites were there.
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  • In fact, it was the one place
  • 00:11:14.020 --> 00:11:16.000
  • where anyone could walk into the
  • 00:11:16.000 --> 00:11:17.270
  • presence of God.
  • 00:11:17.270 --> 00:11:19.190
  • And after David did that, he
  • 00:11:19.190 --> 00:11:21.080
  • worshiped and then it says he
  • 00:11:21.080 --> 00:11:22.280
  • went home to bless his house,
  • 00:11:22.280 --> 00:11:24.220
  • right?
  • 00:11:24.220 --> 00:11:26.280
  • What did he do?
  • 00:11:26.280 --> 00:11:27.180
  • He worshiped and then he went
  • 00:11:27.180 --> 00:11:29.140
  • home to bless his house.
  • 00:11:29.140 --> 00:11:31.150
  • Night he went golfing, and went
  • 00:11:31.150 --> 00:11:32.270
  • Night he went hunting and went
  • 00:11:35.250 --> 00:11:36.270
  • home to bless his house, right?
  • 00:11:36.290 --> 00:11:39.290
  • He connected with God, he put
  • 00:11:39.290 --> 00:11:41.250
  • God's way first, then he went
  • 00:11:41.250 --> 00:11:43.240
  • home to bless his house, right?
  • 00:11:43.240 --> 00:11:46.090
  • And as a father, please speak
  • 00:11:46.140 --> 00:11:49.140
  • positive future-oriented words
  • 00:11:50.100 --> 00:11:53.100
  • over your children.
  • 00:11:53.100 --> 00:11:55.060
  • Tell 'em, "You're gonna be
  • 00:11:55.060 --> 00:11:56.000
  • great.
  • 00:11:56.000 --> 00:11:57.060
  • You're an overcomer," right?
  • 00:11:57.060 --> 00:11:59.110
  • "You've got a great heart.
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  • You know, God has gifted you."
  • 00:12:01.080 --> 00:12:02.270
  • You know, the Bible says: "Train
  • 00:12:02.270 --> 00:12:04.130
  • up a child in the way he should
  • 00:12:04.130 --> 00:12:05.200
  • go," and the Amplified says: "In
  • 00:12:05.200 --> 00:12:07.120
  • keeping with their individual
  • 00:12:07.120 --> 00:12:08.180
  • gift or bent," all right?
  • 00:12:08.260 --> 00:12:11.260
  • "And then when they're old they
  • 00:12:11.260 --> 00:12:13.090
  • won't depart from it.
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  • But how many of you realize
  • 00:12:14.240 --> 00:12:15.210
  • every one of your children is
  • 00:12:15.210 --> 00:12:16.180
  • different, right?
  • 00:12:16.180 --> 00:12:18.260
  • Each one has a different gift or
  • 00:12:18.260 --> 00:12:20.180
  • a different bent and, as
  • 00:12:20.180 --> 00:12:22.050
  • parents, we're supposed to
  • 00:12:22.050 --> 00:12:23.150
  • discern what that is and then
  • 00:12:23.150 --> 00:12:25.240
  • we're supposed to help them move
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  • in that direction.
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  • That's why you love every child
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  • the same but you treat every
  • 00:12:30.180 --> 00:12:31.220
  • You can't do the same thing with
  • 00:12:34.170 --> 00:12:36.040
  • every child because their bent,
  • 00:12:36.040 --> 00:12:38.110
  • their interest, their gifts, are
  • 00:12:38.110 --> 00:12:40.220
  • different, right?
  • 00:12:40.220 --> 00:12:42.220
  • When Jesus was baptized in the
  • 00:12:42.220 --> 00:12:45.020
  • Jordan River, as he comes up out
  • 00:12:45.020 --> 00:12:46.190
  • of the water, the Bible says:
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  • "And suddenly a voice came from
  • 00:12:48.110 --> 00:12:50.210
  • heaven saying, 'This is my
  • 00:12:50.210 --> 00:12:53.180
  • beloved Son in whom I am well
  • 00:12:54.070 --> 00:12:57.070
  • pleased.'"
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  • "This is my beloved
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  • Son in whom I am well pleased."
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  • There's three things right there
  • 00:13:03.010 --> 00:13:05.080
  • that every child needs from
  • 00:13:05.080 --> 00:13:07.000
  • their parent, from their father,
  • 00:13:07.000 --> 00:13:09.010
  • particularly.
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  • It says: "My."
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  • They need relationship.
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  • They need relationship with you.
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  • "Beloved," they need your love,
  • 00:13:17.130 --> 00:13:20.090
  • they need your affection.
  • 00:13:20.090 --> 00:13:23.000
  • And then it says: "In whom I am
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  • well pleased."
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  • And they need your affirmation.
  • 00:13:25.260 --> 00:13:28.260
  • They need relationship, they
  • 00:13:28.260 --> 00:13:31.070
  • need your love and affection,
  • 00:13:31.070 --> 00:13:33.260
  • and they need your affirmation.
  • 00:13:33.260 --> 00:13:36.200
  • Dr. Dobson said this: "For every
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  • statement of correction that we
  • 00:13:40.260 --> 00:13:43.260
  • make to our children, or
  • 00:13:43.260 --> 00:13:45.260
  • negative statement," he said,
  • 00:13:45.260 --> 00:13:47.170
  • "We need to have seven positive
  • 00:13:47.170 --> 00:13:49.050
  • ones.
  • 00:13:49.050 --> 00:13:50.090
  • Seven positive statements for
  • 00:13:50.090 --> 00:13:52.190
  • every negative statement, all
  • 00:13:52.190 --> 00:13:55.150
  • right?
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  • The things they should never
  • 00:13:56.060 --> 00:13:56.260
  • hear are, you know, "You can't
  • 00:13:56.260 --> 00:13:57.170
  • do anything right.
  • 00:13:57.170 --> 00:13:58.110
  • You know, one day you are gonna
  • 00:13:58.110 --> 00:14:00.230
  • end up in prison.
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  • You are such a jerk."
  • 00:14:03.030 --> 00:14:03.270
  • You know, I read a while back
  • 00:14:03.270 --> 00:14:05.270
  • that 90% of people in prison
  • 00:14:06.150 --> 00:14:09.150
  • were told by their parents they
  • 00:14:09.150 --> 00:14:10.140
  • were gonna end up there.
  • 00:14:10.140 --> 00:14:11.040
  • I mean, it just shook me to my
  • 00:14:12.050 --> 00:14:15.050
  • core.
  • 00:14:15.050 --> 00:14:15.250
  • You know, your words have a
  • 00:14:15.250 --> 00:14:18.150
  • tremendous amount of power.
  • 00:14:18.150 --> 00:14:21.050
  • Instead, you should be saying,
  • 00:14:21.050 --> 00:14:22.050
  • "You know, God has great plans
  • 00:14:22.050 --> 00:14:23.240
  • for you, you know?
  • 00:14:23.240 --> 00:14:25.160
  • I think you're great.
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  • I really appreciate the way that
  • 00:14:27.210 --> 00:14:29.170
  • you do this.
  • 00:14:29.170 --> 00:14:30.070
  • And I'm so proud of the effort
  • 00:14:30.070 --> 00:14:31.280
  • that you put into something, you
  • 00:14:31.280 --> 00:14:33.280
  • know?
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  • You need to, you know,
  • 00:14:34.180 --> 00:14:36.060
  • literally, you're speaking
  • 00:14:36.060 --> 00:14:37.130
  • positive words and you're
  • 00:14:37.130 --> 00:14:38.130
  • blessing them, it builds their
  • 00:14:38.130 --> 00:14:40.050
  • self-esteem.
  • 00:14:40.050 --> 00:14:41.200
  • You know, in Ephesians 4 and 6,
  • 00:14:41.200 --> 00:14:44.020
  • it says: "You fathers, don't
  • 00:14:44.020 --> 00:14:45.100
  • provoke your children to wrath,
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  • but bring them up in the
  • 00:14:47.210 --> 00:14:48.260
  • training and admonition of the
  • 00:14:48.260 --> 00:14:51.240
  • Lord."
  • 00:14:51.240 --> 00:14:52.260
  • It says: "Don't provoke them to
  • 00:14:52.260 --> 00:14:54.140
  • wrath," right?
  • 00:14:54.140 --> 00:14:56.080
  • Literally, what happens is that
  • 00:14:56.080 --> 00:14:58.050
  • you provoke 'em to wrath and it
  • 00:14:58.050 --> 00:14:59.250
  • equals rebellion.
  • 00:14:59.250 --> 00:15:01.240
  • That's what's happening.
  • 00:15:01.240 --> 00:15:02.230
  • They begin to rebel.
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  • And it says: "Don't do it," and
  • 00:15:03.240 --> 00:15:05.100
  • there's really four main areas
  • 00:15:05.130 --> 00:15:08.130
  • where we, as parents, tend to
  • 00:15:08.130 --> 00:15:09.290
  • fail when it comes to this.
  • 00:15:09.290 --> 00:15:12.090
  • The first one is simply
  • 00:15:12.090 --> 00:15:13.090
  • punishing in anger.
  • 00:15:13.090 --> 00:15:15.180
  • Punishing in anger.
  • 00:15:15.180 --> 00:15:17.060
  • You know, you don't wanna punish
  • 00:15:17.060 --> 00:15:18.170
  • your children, you wanna correct
  • 00:15:18.170 --> 00:15:19.270
  • them.
  • 00:15:19.270 --> 00:15:20.270
  • In fact, the word that the Bible
  • 00:15:20.270 --> 00:15:22.150
  • used is discipline, right?
  • 00:15:22.150 --> 00:15:25.000
  • You're discipling them.
  • 00:15:25.000 --> 00:15:27.050
  • It's not because you're mad,
  • 00:15:27.050 --> 00:15:29.000
  • it's because you want to correct
  • 00:15:29.000 --> 00:15:30.290
  • them and you want to disciple
  • 00:15:31.010 --> 00:15:34.010
  • them in the way that they should
  • 00:15:34.010 --> 00:15:35.200
  • go.
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  • You should never, never strike a
  • 00:15:36.150 --> 00:15:39.150
  • child in anger, ever.
  • 00:15:40.010 --> 00:15:43.010
  • Second thing is we don't release
  • 00:15:43.010 --> 00:15:44.200
  • our children.
  • 00:15:44.200 --> 00:15:46.110
  • We have a 16-year-old that we're
  • 00:15:46.110 --> 00:15:48.000
  • treating like an 8-year-old.
  • 00:15:48.000 --> 00:15:49.030
  • And we don't give them the
  • 00:15:49.030 --> 00:15:51.010
  • responsibility that they need.
  • 00:15:51.010 --> 00:15:53.210
  • See, ideally, listen, listen.
  • 00:15:53.210 --> 00:15:55.200
  • You parents, listen to me.
  • 00:15:55.200 --> 00:15:56.270
  • Ideally, your kids are gonna
  • 00:15:56.270 --> 00:15:58.230
  • grow up and they're gonna leave.
  • 00:15:58.230 --> 00:16:00.160
  • Whoa!
  • 00:16:02.070 --> 00:16:05.070
  • They're gonna grow up and
  • 00:16:09.240 --> 00:16:10.210
  • they're gonna leave.
  • 00:16:10.210 --> 00:16:11.110
  • But for that to happen, they
  • 00:16:11.110 --> 00:16:13.070
  • need to have more and more
  • 00:16:13.070 --> 00:16:14.170
  • responsibility as they grow up.
  • 00:16:14.170 --> 00:16:17.030
  • And some parents, they're like
  • 00:16:17.030 --> 00:16:18.150
  • helicopter parents, they call
  • 00:16:18.150 --> 00:16:19.240
  • 'em, you know, they're just
  • 00:16:19.240 --> 00:16:21.010
  • hovering over everything that
  • 00:16:21.010 --> 00:16:22.190
  • their children are doing and
  • 00:16:22.190 --> 00:16:24.020
  • they're not releasing them,
  • 00:16:24.030 --> 00:16:27.030
  • giving them more and more trust
  • 00:16:27.030 --> 00:16:29.050
  • and more and more
  • 00:16:29.050 --> 00:16:29.260
  • responsibility.
  • 00:16:29.260 --> 00:16:31.220
  • The third thing is comparison.
  • 00:16:31.220 --> 00:16:34.050
  • "Boy, I sure wish you were more
  • 00:16:34.050 --> 00:16:35.000
  • like your sister.
  • 00:16:35.000 --> 00:16:36.140
  • Can't you be more like him?
  • 00:16:36.140 --> 00:16:37.150
  • Can't you be more like her,"
  • 00:16:37.150 --> 00:16:40.060
  • right?
  • 00:16:40.060 --> 00:16:40.260
  • No, there should never be
  • 00:16:40.260 --> 00:16:42.010
  • comparison in that way, right?
  • 00:16:42.020 --> 00:16:45.020
  • And then fourthly, is being a
  • 00:16:45.020 --> 00:16:46.070
  • hypocrite, saying one thing but
  • 00:16:46.070 --> 00:16:48.110
  • not doing it.
  • 00:16:48.110 --> 00:16:49.260
  • Saying one thing and doing
  • 00:16:49.260 --> 00:16:50.290
  • something else.
  • 00:16:50.290 --> 00:16:51.280
  • Those are the things that
  • 00:16:51.280 --> 00:16:52.240
  • literally provoke a child and
  • 00:16:52.240 --> 00:16:55.000
  • cause rebellion in a child's
  • 00:16:55.000 --> 00:16:57.140
  • heart.
  • 00:16:57.140 --> 00:16:58.040
  • And again, in Deuteronomy 6 as
  • 00:16:58.040 --> 00:16:59.260
  • God is talking to parents.
  • 00:16:59.260 --> 00:17:01.290
  • He says: "The words that I
  • 00:17:01.290 --> 00:17:02.280
  • command you today shall be in
  • 00:17:02.280 --> 00:17:04.160
  • your heart, and you shall teach
  • 00:17:04.160 --> 00:17:06.090
  • them diligently to your
  • 00:17:06.090 --> 00:17:07.200
  • children," right?
  • 00:17:07.200 --> 00:17:09.010
  • "And you shall talk of them when
  • 00:17:09.010 --> 00:17:10.150
  • you sit in your house, when you
  • 00:17:10.150 --> 00:17:12.100
  • walk by the way, when you lie
  • 00:17:12.100 --> 00:17:13.140
  • down, when you rise up.
  • 00:17:13.140 --> 00:17:14.290
  • You shall bind them as a sign on
  • 00:17:14.290 --> 00:17:17.040
  • your hand, they shall be
  • 00:17:17.040 --> 00:17:18.000
  • frontlets before your eyes and
  • 00:17:18.000 --> 00:17:19.100
  • you'll write them," on your
  • 00:17:19.100 --> 00:17:20.050
  • refrigerator and the mirror in
  • 00:17:20.050 --> 00:17:21.140
  • the bathroom.
  • 00:17:21.140 --> 00:17:22.040
  • Oh, "doorposts and gates of your
  • 00:17:22.040 --> 00:17:24.190
  • house."
  • 00:17:24.190 --> 00:17:25.220
  • At our house, that's the mirror,
  • 00:17:25.220 --> 00:17:27.080
  • that's the refrigerator, that's
  • 00:17:27.080 --> 00:17:28.170
  • every place that we look, right?
  • 00:17:28.170 --> 00:17:31.140
  • So as a parent, right, it's
  • 00:17:31.140 --> 00:17:33.130
  • gotta be in your heart and you
  • 00:17:33.130 --> 00:17:34.200
  • teach them diligently.
  • 00:17:34.200 --> 00:17:36.120
  • Now, one of the mistakes
  • 00:17:36.120 --> 00:17:38.290
  • particularly today that we see
  • 00:17:39.130 --> 00:17:42.130
  • is that what parents often want
  • 00:17:42.130 --> 00:17:44.010
  • to do is they want to be a
  • 00:17:44.010 --> 00:17:46.070
  • friend to their kids, right?
  • 00:17:47.060 --> 00:17:50.060
  • And not a father or a mother and
  • 00:17:50.060 --> 00:17:52.090
  • not a parent, right?
  • 00:17:52.090 --> 00:17:54.150
  • Now if you will parent them
  • 00:17:54.150 --> 00:17:56.120
  • properly, when they get older
  • 00:17:56.120 --> 00:17:58.250
  • they'll be your friends.
  • 00:17:58.250 --> 00:18:01.050
  • But when they're 13, they don't
  • 00:18:01.050 --> 00:18:02.200
  • need you to be their friend,
  • 00:18:02.200 --> 00:18:03.220
  • they need you to be their
  • 00:18:03.220 --> 00:18:04.140
  • parent.
  • 00:18:04.140 --> 00:18:06.040
  • They need you to make some
  • 00:18:06.040 --> 00:18:06.280
  • decisions, they need you to lay
  • 00:18:06.280 --> 00:18:08.270
  • down, like it said--God said
  • 00:18:08.270 --> 00:18:10.190
  • about Abraham that he commands
  • 00:18:10.190 --> 00:18:13.110
  • his children and his household
  • 00:18:13.110 --> 00:18:15.270
  • after him, right?
  • 00:18:15.270 --> 00:18:17.290
  • There is a time when they're
  • 00:18:17.290 --> 00:18:19.180
  • older, they will be your
  • 00:18:19.180 --> 00:18:20.250
  • friends.
  • 00:18:20.250 --> 00:18:22.020
  • But as they're growing up, you
  • 00:18:22.020 --> 00:18:24.040
  • need to be their parent and you
  • 00:18:24.040 --> 00:18:26.190
  • need to have God's Word in your
  • 00:18:26.190 --> 00:18:27.250
  • heart.
  • 00:18:27.250 --> 00:18:28.150
  • You need to teach it diligently
  • 00:18:28.150 --> 00:18:29.220
  • to them.
  • 00:18:29.220 --> 00:18:30.130
  • You need to be an example and
  • 00:18:30.130 --> 00:18:32.030
  • you need to set--give them
  • 00:18:32.030 --> 00:18:33.260
  • morals and give them spiritual
  • 00:18:33.260 --> 00:18:36.000
  • boundaries, all right?
  • 00:18:36.000 --> 00:18:38.230
  • That is so necessary, right?
  • 00:18:38.230 --> 00:18:41.040
  • And then don't nag over minor
  • 00:18:41.040 --> 00:18:42.180
  • issues, right?
  • 00:18:42.180 --> 00:18:44.290
  • And as I mentioned before, don't
  • 00:18:44.290 --> 00:18:46.090
  • put anything else before the
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  • kingdom of God.
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  • "But seek first the kingdom of
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  • God and his righteousness."
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  • And like David, he worshiped and
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  • then he went to bless his house,
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  • right?
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  • And we need God's blessing.
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  • We need God's blessing in our
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  • families, we need it in our
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  • jobs, we need it in our
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  • relationship, we need it at
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  • school, we need it at work, we
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  • need it facing obstacles and
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  • problems.
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  • We need the blessing of God,
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  • right?
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  • And we need to acknowledge it.
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  • Now, when Joshua was 110 years
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  • old, he followed Moses to become
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  • the leader of Israel and it says
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  • when he was 110 years old, this
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  • is what he said.
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  • He said, "As for me and my
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  • house, we will serve the Lord."
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  • He said now, what culture's
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  • doing may be something
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  • different, what your friends are
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  • doing may be something
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  • different, what the neighbors
  • 00:19:45.110 --> 00:19:46.210
  • are doing may be something
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  • different, but he said, "As for
  • 00:19:47.250 --> 00:19:49.120
  • me and my house, we're gonna
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  • serve the Lord."
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  • And listen, you and I, we are in
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  • a spiritual battle and we need
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  • to fight for our family.
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  • And we need to do what's right.
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  • We need to put God first, put
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  • the kingdom first, and have that
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  • in our heart and model it, all
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  • right?
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  • Be a good role model putting God
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  • first in every area of your
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  • life.
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  • Love your children, love your
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  • family, enjoy them, but put God
  • 00:20:15.070 --> 00:20:18.070
  • first, right?
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  • God first.
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  • As the spiritual head in your
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  • home, men, you have a tremendous
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  • amount of authority that you
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  • probably don't even realize.
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  • In Mark chapter 9, Jesus is
  • 00:20:32.090 --> 00:20:34.060
  • coming down from the Mount of
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  • Transfiguration.
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  • Three of his disciples are with
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  • him, and he's left nine
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  • disciples behind.
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  • And there is a man who brings
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  • his son to Jesus's disciples
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  • that are left behind.
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  • And they were unable to bring a
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  • healing or a cure in that young
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  • man's life.
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  • And then the man sees Jesus as
  • 00:20:52.140 --> 00:20:54.200
  • he comes and he says, "Jesus, I
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  • brought my son to your disciples
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  • and they couldn't help him."
  • 00:20:59.290 --> 00:21:01.220
  • And Jesus asked the man, "Well,
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  • what's the problem?
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  • " And he says, "How long has
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  • this been going on?"
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  • Well, he says he "often throws
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  • him both in the fire and the
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  • water to destroy him.
  • 00:21:12.200 --> 00:21:14.010
  • But if you can do anything, have
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  • compassion on us."
  • 00:21:16.100 --> 00:21:18.000
  • And Jesus said, "If you can
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  • believe, all things are possible
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  • to him who believes."
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  • What Jesus said to this father
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  • was, "Look, you have spiritual
  • 00:21:28.030 --> 00:21:29.160
  • authority in your home.
  • 00:21:29.160 --> 00:21:32.040
  • You've got authority in your
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  • home."
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  • We call it relational authority.
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  • You know, the closer that person
  • 00:21:36.140 --> 00:21:37.250
  • is to you, the more spiritual
  • 00:21:37.250 --> 00:21:40.050
  • authority that you have, all
  • 00:21:40.050 --> 00:21:42.060
  • right?
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  • It'd be one thing with my wife
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  • and my children, it would be
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  • something else with my sister
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  • and then another level with a
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  • niece or a nephew, right?
  • 00:21:48.290 --> 00:21:51.110
  • But the closer you are, the more
  • 00:21:51.110 --> 00:21:53.130
  • And our culture has such a
  • 00:21:58.000 --> 00:22:00.140
  • strange picture of what a real
  • 00:22:00.140 --> 00:22:03.110
  • man is.
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  • Let me just tell you, Jesus was
  • 00:22:04.230 --> 00:22:06.270
  • a real man.
  • 00:22:06.270 --> 00:22:09.060
  • He was not a John Wayne, macho,
  • 00:22:10.080 --> 00:22:13.080
  • don't need any help, won't ask
  • 00:22:13.080 --> 00:22:14.290
  • anything.
  • 00:22:14.290 --> 00:22:15.190
  • Now he--that was not the type of
  • 00:22:15.240 --> 00:22:18.240
  • man that he was.
  • 00:22:18.240 --> 00:22:20.210
  • But, you know, he had compassion
  • 00:22:20.210 --> 00:22:22.230
  • on the sick, empathy for the
  • 00:22:22.230 --> 00:22:24.190
  • hungry, right?
  • 00:22:24.190 --> 00:22:26.230
  • When Lazarus was dead and he saw
  • 00:22:26.230 --> 00:22:29.140
  • the sorrow, the Bible says he
  • 00:22:29.140 --> 00:22:30.220
  • cried.
  • 00:22:30.220 --> 00:22:32.260
  • He was not what we would call a
  • 00:22:32.260 --> 00:22:34.070
  • John Wayne macho guy but he was
  • 00:22:34.070 --> 00:22:36.240
  • a real man.
  • 00:22:36.240 --> 00:22:39.050
  • Every one of us have great days,
  • 00:22:39.050 --> 00:22:41.030
  • right?
  • 00:22:41.030 --> 00:22:43.190
  • And every one of us have
  • 00:22:43.190 --> 00:22:44.170
  • strengths and we've got times
  • 00:22:44.170 --> 00:22:46.080
  • when we can handle what's ever
  • 00:22:46.080 --> 00:22:47.080
  • coming, right?
  • 00:22:47.080 --> 00:22:49.070
  • But there's times when you
  • 00:22:49.070 --> 00:22:50.290
  • simply need help.
  • 00:22:50.290 --> 00:22:51.220
  • How many* remember David, that
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  • Anybody?
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  • Wave at me if you remember that
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  • story, all right, okay.
  • 00:23:00.040 --> 00:23:02.210
  • Now, how many of you remember
  • 00:23:02.210 --> 00:23:04.280
  • the giant that David could not
  • 00:23:04.280 --> 00:23:07.240
  • kill?
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  • Four.
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  • Listen to this.
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  • "Then Ishbi-Benob, who was one
  • 00:23:23.000 --> 00:23:25.220
  • of the sons of the giant, the
  • 00:23:25.220 --> 00:23:27.100
  • weight of whose bronze spear was
  • 00:23:27.190 --> 00:23:30.190
  • 300 shekels, who was bearing a
  • 00:23:30.190 --> 00:23:32.190
  • new sword, thought he could kill
  • 00:23:32.190 --> 00:23:34.180
  • David.
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  • But Abishai the son of Zeruiah
  • 00:23:35.260 --> 00:23:38.030
  • came to his aid, and struck the
  • 00:23:38.040 --> 00:23:41.040
  • Philistine and killed him.
  • 00:23:41.040 --> 00:23:42.100
  • And then David's men swore to
  • 00:23:42.100 --> 00:23:45.020
  • him, saying, 'You'll not go out
  • 00:23:45.020 --> 00:23:46.200
  • to battle with us anymore.'" The
  • 00:23:46.200 --> 00:23:48.110
  • other place where this same
  • 00:23:48.110 --> 00:23:49.190
  • story is told, it says: "And
  • 00:23:49.190 --> 00:23:50.240
  • David became weary."
  • 00:23:50.240 --> 00:23:53.080
  • "David became weary, and the
  • 00:23:53.080 --> 00:23:54.270
  • giant would have killed him but
  • 00:23:54.270 --> 00:23:57.100
  • Abishai came and helped him."
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  • You know, you need to have some
  • 00:23:59.080 --> 00:24:01.210
  • good faith friends.
  • 00:24:01.210 --> 00:24:04.070
  • You need to have some people
  • 00:24:04.070 --> 00:24:05.120
  • that you can pray with.
  • 00:24:05.120 --> 00:24:06.170
  • You need to have some people
  • 00:24:06.170 --> 00:24:07.230
  • that you can talk to.
  • 00:24:07.230 --> 00:24:09.080
  • And don't think being a macho
  • 00:24:09.080 --> 00:24:10.200
  • man means you're gonna go it all
  • 00:24:10.200 --> 00:24:12.010
  • alone because there's gonna be
  • 00:24:12.010 --> 00:24:13.110
  • days you can kill Goliath but
  • 00:24:13.110 --> 00:24:14.270
  • there's gonna be an Ishbi-Benob
  • 00:24:14.270 --> 00:24:16.050
  • that shows up.
  • 00:24:16.050 --> 00:24:18.030
  • And every one of us needs some
  • 00:24:18.030 --> 00:24:20.020
  • good friends.
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  • - Duane: So if you've been
  • 00:24:22.020 --> 00:24:22.260
  • watching and you know in your
  • 00:24:22.260 --> 00:24:24.240
  • heart that you're not right with
  • 00:24:24.240 --> 00:24:26.040
  • God, you feel this distance, you
  • 00:24:26.040 --> 00:24:27.270
  • don't know you're forgiven,
  • 00:24:27.270 --> 00:24:29.120
  • would you please pray this
  • 00:24:29.120 --> 00:24:30.170
  • prayer with me, if you say you
  • 00:24:30.170 --> 00:24:31.240
  • wanna get right with God.
  • 00:24:31.240 --> 00:24:32.290
  • Just bow your head and pray this
  • 00:24:32.290 --> 00:24:35.020
  • out loud.
  • 00:24:35.020 --> 00:24:35.220
  • Make these words your own.
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  • Just say, "O God, I believe
  • 00:24:36.120 --> 00:24:38.290
  • Jesus died on the cross.
  • 00:24:38.290 --> 00:24:40.080
  • I believe his blood paid for my
  • 00:24:40.080 --> 00:24:40.290
  • sins.
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  • I believe he rose again and,
  • 00:24:44.250 --> 00:24:46.280
  • right now, I receive him as my
  • 00:24:46.280 --> 00:24:49.060
  • Lord and Savior.
  • 00:24:49.060 --> 00:24:50.190
  • I'm gonna live for him every day
  • 00:24:50.190 --> 00:24:52.020
  • and I thank you you've heard my
  • 00:24:52.020 --> 00:24:54.040
  • prayer, that my past is gone,
  • 00:24:54.040 --> 00:24:57.040
  • that I'm forgiven, that I'm a
  • 00:24:57.040 --> 00:24:58.240
  • part of your family, today and
  • 00:24:58.240 --> 00:25:01.220
  • forever in Jesus's name, amen."
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  • If you prayed that simple
  • 00:25:05.160 --> 00:25:06.280
  • prayer, God heard your prayer
  • 00:25:06.280 --> 00:25:08.150
  • and you're right with God.
  • 00:25:08.150 --> 00:25:09.130
  • You've taken your first step
  • 00:25:09.130 --> 00:25:11.130
  • into the kingdom of God.
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  • spiritually and I actually wrote
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