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November 9, 2019
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Turning Point with Dr. David Jeremiah

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  • but is it taking you where you
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  • but is it taking you where you want to
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  • but is it taking you where you want to go
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  • but is it taking you where you want to go?
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  • You can spend years searching for something you do not have,
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  • only to end up where you don't want to be.
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  • Exploring what the world has to offer we often find nothing.
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  • However, your journey through the twists and turns
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  • of this world doesn't have to put you
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  • on the path of discouragement and despair.
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  • Let me tell you how to take the journey of your lifetime.
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  • It's an adventure with God as your guide,
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  • where you'll discover the peace, the purpose,
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  • and the power you've been seeking.
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  • It's a journey of unimaginable blessing
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  • and here is the amazing part:
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  • with God you already have everything you need
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  • for life's journey, not half of what you need
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  • or a whole lot of what you need.
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  • God has given you everything you need.
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  • God never intended for you to stumble your way
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  • through the course of each day
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  • and certainly not journey unprepared into your future.
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  • So where do you wanna go?
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  • It's time to unpack all that God has given you.
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  • Discover how you have been equipped for this journey
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  • and can live with confidence
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  • because you, my friend, have everything you need.
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  • Dr. Jeremiah: There is nothing quite like the thrill
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  • of setting out on an adventure to discover new experiences.
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  • Do you know what makes that experience
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  • all the more meaningful?
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  • Being able to share that journey with someone else.
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  • Life is a bit like that.
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  • I mean, it's easy to live life according to you,
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  • but often living life according to us is all the better.
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  • What does it take to live a life that is concerned
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  • about the wellbeing and happiness of others?
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  • It takes radical kindness, kindness that transforms
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  • the lives of others and yourself.
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  • Hello, I'm David Jeremiah, and today we'll look
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  • at seven ways to take your journey
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  • from a solitary one to a fulfilling adventure
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  • with other people.
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  • Discover how in my message, "Radical Kindness",
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  • on this edition of, "Turning Point."
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  • So, travel with me across the United States
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  • and join me in New York City, high above Central Park,
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  • in the Appel Room at Jazz, at Lincoln Center,
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  • for my series, "Everything You Need."
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  • announcer: In Dr. Jeremiah's new book,
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  • "Everything You Need," he invites you to consider
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  • how would your life change if you had the energy
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  • to diligently fulfill God's purpose for you,
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  • or the confidence to always do what pleases God,
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  • or had an intimate knowledge of his Word.
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  • What would your faith be like if you replaced a harmful habit
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  • with a positive one, or developed a determination
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  • that could carry you through any difficulty?
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  • Do you wanna see yourself becoming more like Christ,
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  • sharing his kindness and love to those around you?
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  • It may surprise you to know that God has already given you
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  • everything you need to do all this and more.
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  • In "Everything You Need," learn practical ways to unleash
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  • the power of God in your life and cultivate a faith
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  • that will change you and everyone around you.
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  • female announcer: Thank you for watching,
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  • "Everything You Need" here on "Turning Point."
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  • In appreciation of your viewership,
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  • Contact Turning Point today.
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  • And now, here is Dr. Jeremiah with his message,
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  • "Radical Kindness."
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  • Dr. Jeremiah: Peter believed the church should be a place
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  • filled with the attitude of brotherly kindness,
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  • and so he adds that to his list of characteristics
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  • that we're to develop in our lives.
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  • He says we're to add to our godliness brotherly kindness.
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  • The word Peter uses in the original language
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  • of the Greek for brotherly kindness--
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  • are you ready for this?
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  • It's the word, "philadelphia."
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  • Philadelphia is the translation of the words,
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  • "brotherly kindness."
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  • As followers of Christ, we are to live up to that name.
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  • We're to be philadelphian Christians.
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  • The commentary on the word "philadelphia" is found
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  • in Ephesians 4:25 and following.
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  • This passage of Scripture describes what it means
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  • to live the philadelphian Christian life.
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  • Here we go.
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  • "Therefore, put away lying,
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  • 'Let each of you speak truth with his neighbor,'
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  • for we are members of one another.
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  • 'Be angry, and do not sin': do not let the sun go down
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  • on your wrath.
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  • Don't give place to the devil.
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  • Let him who stole steal no longer,
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  • but rather let him labor, working with his hands
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  • what is good, that he may have something
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  • to give him who has need.
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  • Let no corrupt word come out of your mouth,
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  • but what is good for necessary edification,
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  • that it may impart grace to those who hear it.
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  • And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God,
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  • by whom you were sealed for the day of redemption.
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  • Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor
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  • and evil speaking be put away from you, with all malice.
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  • And be kind one to another, tenderhearted,
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  • forgiving one another,
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  • even as God in Christ forgave you."
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  • This passage of Scripture in Ephesians is
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  • a come-back-to-often passage, because it's Paul's
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  • seven bullet points about being kind.
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  • Each is like a special delivery from the divine postal carrier
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  • to your heart.
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  • The Bible tells us to forge our friendships with trust,
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  • free our relationships from anger,
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  • feed those who are hungry, fortify others by our words,
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  • flash bitterness out of our spirit,
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  • find ways of practicing kindness,
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  • and forgive others as Christ forgave you.
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  • Man, if you start working on that,
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  • it will change everything.
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  • Can you imagine a better definition
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  • of what it means to be a philadelphian Christian?
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  • So, let's take 'em one at a time.
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  • Here is the first one:
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  • Forge your friendships with trust.
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  • Paul begins by saying, "Put away lying,
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  • the Lord tells us, and speak the truth to your neighbor.
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  • We're members one of another."
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  • That's what it says.
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  • Trust is essential to healthy relationships.
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  • I remember reading about, "Fixer Upper" stars,
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  • Chip and Joanna Gaines,
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  • who recently celebrated their 16th anniversary,
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  • and Joanna wrote a note to their fans saying,
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  • "Sixteen years, and it feels like
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  • we're just getting started."
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  • Years ago, the two met at a Firestone store
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  • where Joanna was working, and they hit it off immediately,
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  • and Joanna said, "At first I couldn't believe
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  • how kind Chip was.
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  • He had kind eyes, and he made me laugh a lot.
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  • I knew he was the one because I could trust him."
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  • Do people know they can trust you?
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  • Brotherly kindness begins with a trustworthy spirit,
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  • with a willingness to be honest and kind.
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  • Listen to me.
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  • Speaking honestly one to another doesn't mean
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  • speaking bluntly or brutally.
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  • Stormie Omartian wrote,
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  • "I've known people who use the excuse of just being honest
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  • to devastate other people with their words."
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  • Have you ever known anybody like that?
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  • "Now, I'm just gonna tell you the truth this time.
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  • As your brother, as your sister, I feel obligated to tell you
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  • the truth," and then, they just bury you.
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  • Being honest doesn't mean you have to be completely frank.
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  • You don't have to go past the point of hurting people.
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  • It takes wisdom to know how to balance all of that,
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  • honesty and kindness.
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  • It takes wisdom to know when and where to trust another person,
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  • but growing in brotherly kindness means growing
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  • in our ability to trust and be trusted,
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  • and you can't trust everybody in the world.
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  • You know, one of the things I learned when I was sick is,
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  • I learned who I could trust.
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  • Illness or serious issues in your life will sort out
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  • your friends, help you to see who the real friends are
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  • and who the others are.
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  • I know we can't trust everybody in this world,
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  • but you should be trustworthy.
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  • Your spouse should be able to trust you.
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  • Your neighbors should be able to trust you.
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  • The people you work with should be able to trust you.
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  • Brotherly kindness begins when we put off falsehood,
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  • and we stop lying to one another,
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  • and we're honest, kind people.
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  • Forge your friendships with trust.
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  • Here is the second one:
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  • Free your relationships from anger.
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  • Our attitude of brotherly kindness has a way
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  • of shoving aside angry tempers that plague us.
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  • Here is what Paul said, "'Be angry, and do not sin':
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  • do not let the sun go down on your wrath,
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  • nor give place to the devil."
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  • Paul wasn't talking here about getting angry
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  • at things like traffic.
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  • He's talking about getting mad with your neighbor.
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  • When you're most tempted to lose your temper,
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  • it's often because someone else, perhaps someone you love
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  • very much, has done something to irritate you.
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  • The Bible doesn't tell us never to be angry.
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  • Anger is a natural human response,
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  • but it must be governed.
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  • It's a dangerous emotion that must be controlled,
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  • as volatile as nitroglycerin, and that's why Paul quoted
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  • Psalm 4:4 when he said, "Be angry, and do not sin."
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  • Brotherly kindness is the biblical corrective
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  • for an angry spirit.
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  • Someone said, "The more you grow up,
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  • the less you blow up."
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  • Maturity involves learning to control how and when you express
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  • your anger, and I always love this little catchphrase
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  • that says, "don't let the sun go down on your anger,"
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  • and I've been in marriage conferences
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  • where people have said that's a good thing.
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  • If you're having a spat with your wife or your husband,
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  • just make sure you settle it before you go to bed.
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  • It's not God's will for us to live with an angry spirit.
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  • You can't be kind and angry at the same time.
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  • Forge your friendships with trust.
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  • Free your relationships from anger.
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  • Then it says, feed somebody who's hungry.
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  • Here is another secret to brotherly kindness.
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  • He says, "Let him who stole steal no longer,
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  • but rather let him labor, working with his hands
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  • what is good,
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  • that he may have something to give him who has need."
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  • Now, you have to understand when this was written,
  • 00:11:22.190 --> 00:11:24.230
  • when Paul wrote these words, Christians who first read
  • 00:11:24.240 --> 00:11:28.060
  • this letter, they'd come to Christ
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  • out of a background of thievery.
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  • Many of them were shoplifters and cheaters, even burglars,
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  • and Paul is saying that, if they stop stealing
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  • and instead go to work with their hands,
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  • they could earn a livelihood, and then they'd have something
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  • of their own to share with other people,
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  • and that would give them the transformation
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  • in their life which we call brotherly kindness.
  • 00:11:49.070 --> 00:11:54.060
  • What a reversal.
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  • Instead of stealing from others, based on this verse,
  • 00:11:55.250 --> 00:11:59.240
  • "I advise you," says Paul, "to work hard so that
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  • you won't steal from them, but you can give to them."
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  • The Bible says, "He who has pity on the poor lends to the Lord,
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  • and he will pay him back what he has given."
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  • When that kind of generosity becomes a constant lifestyle,
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  • you're starting to live Ephesians chapter 4.
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  • I remember one time Donna and I were talking about this.
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  • She told me this story.
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  • She was at a 7-Eleven store not far from where we live,
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  • and in this particular situation there was a mother there
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  • with two little children,
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  • and she had a little sign saying,
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  • "Help me feed my children."
  • 00:12:37.060 --> 00:12:39.220
  • So, Donna got her stuff, and she left,
  • 00:12:39.230 --> 00:12:41.220
  • and she was on her way home, when God spoke to her heart,
  • 00:12:41.230 --> 00:12:43.250
  • and she turned around.
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  • And instead of going back to 7-Eleven she went
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  • to the pizza store, and she bought
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  • a couple of pizzas for those kids,
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  • and she went back, and she gave the mom some money,
  • 00:12:51.240 --> 00:12:55.250
  • and she gave those two little girls a pizza.
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  • And Donna said, she said,
  • 00:12:57.240 --> 00:12:59.100
  • "David, I have never seen two little children as hungry
  • 00:12:59.110 --> 00:13:03.150
  • as those girls were."
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  • And she said, "When I stood there
  • 00:13:05.110 --> 00:13:07.050
  • and just watched them start on those pizzas,
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  • it just broke my heart."
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  • Those are the stories that happen
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  • when you open your heart to kindness.
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  • And so, here is what some people will say,
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  • "Well, I can't take care of all of 'em,
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  • so I'm not gonna worry about it."
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  • No, if everybody does that, nobody ever gets any care.
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  • Just ask the Lord to give you a sensitivity
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  • to the people you meet during the day.
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  • If he says, "Help that person," help 'em, and then leave it
  • 00:13:27.270 --> 00:13:30.160
  • up to God for what he wants to do in their lives.
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  • The best thing that will happen if you do that is you'll protect
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  • your heart from getting cold and indifferent to the needs
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  • of people we have everywhere.
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  • Little Gisele only weighed 1 pound and 14 ounces
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  • when she was born, a consequence
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  • of her pregnant mother's drug abuse.
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  • She spent three months in the NICU, on ventilator support.
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  • Her parents were battling addictions
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  • and unable to tend to her.
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  • She was transferred to Franciscan Children's Hospital
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  • tiny and alone.
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  • No one ever came to see her, but there was a nurse named,
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  • Liz Smith, who noticed her and felt incredible compassion
  • 00:14:10.020 --> 00:14:13.290
  • for her, and she began visiting her regularly.
  • 00:14:14.000 --> 00:14:17.090
  • She said, "Since the moment I met her,
  • 00:14:17.100 --> 00:14:19.120
  • there was something behind her striking blue eyes
  • 00:14:19.130 --> 00:14:21.270
  • that captured my attention.
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  • I felt that I needed to love this child and keep her safe."
  • 00:14:24.040 --> 00:14:27.290
  • Liz became a foster mother to Gisele,
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  • with the view forward that would hopefully reunite her
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  • with her birth parents.
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  • And when that plan fell through, guess what she did?
  • 00:14:35.250 --> 00:14:39.190
  • She volunteered to adopt her, and when Liz and her family
  • 00:14:39.200 --> 00:14:43.150
  • and Gisele appeared before the judge
  • 00:14:43.160 --> 00:14:46.020
  • to finalize the adoption, he stood up and said,
  • 00:14:46.030 --> 00:14:49.280
  • "When a judge walks into the room,
  • 00:14:49.290 --> 00:14:51.230
  • everyone stands up out of respect,
  • 00:14:51.240 --> 00:14:54.090
  • but today I stand in respect for you, Liz,
  • 00:14:54.100 --> 00:14:57.200
  • because you deserve the respect from this room.
  • 00:14:57.210 --> 00:15:00.170
  • A birthing day is a miracle, but adopting a child
  • 00:15:00.180 --> 00:15:03.190
  • from miles away, that's destiny."
  • 00:15:03.200 --> 00:15:06.060
  • And even as Liz adapts to the pressures of being
  • 00:15:06.070 --> 00:15:09.050
  • a single mother, Gisele has made tremendous medical strides.
  • 00:15:09.060 --> 00:15:13.060
  • She still receives most of her nutrition from a feeding tube
  • 00:15:13.070 --> 00:15:15.280
  • and most of her nutrition is hard for Liz to manage,
  • 00:15:15.290 --> 00:15:20.030
  • but she started taking some simple bits of food.
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  • Liz is doing what the Scripture talks about when it says,
  • 00:15:23.140 --> 00:15:27.050
  • "and add to your godliness brotherly kindness,"
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  • Christ-like kindness, radical kindness.
  • 00:15:31.200 --> 00:15:36.090
  • That's radical.
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  • She didn't know this child, but God birthed in her heart
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  • a love for this child, and she followed through.
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  • You know, God does that if we open ourselves up to it,
  • 00:15:43.200 --> 00:15:46.210
  • if we just say, "Lord, if there is somebody I should help today,
  • 00:15:46.220 --> 00:15:49.010
  • somebody that I should minister today,
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  • show me who that is.
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  • I stand ready to do it to the best of my ability."
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  • So, forge your friendships with trust.
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  • Don't lie to each other.
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  • Free your relationships with anger.
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  • Don't be angry one with another.
  • 00:16:01.180 --> 00:16:04.040
  • Feed somebody who's hungry, and then fortify other people
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  • with your words.
  • 00:16:08.170 --> 00:16:10.040
  • Here is what it says, "Let no corrupt word proceed
  • 00:16:10.050 --> 00:16:13.170
  • out of your mouth, but what is good for necessary edification,
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  • that it may impart grace to the hearers."
  • 00:16:18.260 --> 00:16:22.180
  • The Bible is full of verses about how we speak the words
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  • we say, about the tones that we employ,
  • 00:16:26.120 --> 00:16:30.190
  • but this is among the most practical and helpful Scripture
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  • when it comes to the subject of our tongues.
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  • Nothing we say with our mouth should be unwholesome,
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  • that means unholy.
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  • We don't use words that are vulgar and that are cuss words.
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  • Nothing we say should be unwholesome, unholy.
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  • Nothing should be unhealthy.
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  • Nothing should be destructive.
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  • Nothing should be detrimental, instead the words
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  • of a brotherly kindness Christian should always build
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  • somebody up, and benefit them, and encourage them.
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  • To practice brotherly kindness with your words,
  • 00:17:05.190 --> 00:17:08.050
  • make a habit of complimenting at least one person every day.
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  • "Who can I compliment today?"
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  • You'd be amazed at the gratitude that flows your way
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  • and fills your heart over time when you say thank you.
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  • Do you know that Abraham Lincoln wore a Brooks Brothers overcoat
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  • when he and his wife, Mary, attended a performance
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  • at Ford's Theatre on April 14, 1865?
  • 00:17:30.280 --> 00:17:36.000
  • Shortly after 10 p.m., John Wilkes Booth
  • 00:17:36.010 --> 00:17:39.140
  • crept behind him and fired a fatal shot into his head.
  • 00:17:39.150 --> 00:17:43.170
  • After he was shot, Lincoln was carried across the street
  • 00:17:43.180 --> 00:17:46.190
  • to a boarding house where he died,
  • 00:17:46.200 --> 00:17:49.060
  • and the personal belongings in his coat pocket
  • 00:17:49.070 --> 00:17:51.240
  • were collected and given to his son.
  • 00:17:51.250 --> 00:17:54.250
  • Robert Todd Lincoln put them in a box.
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  • They were later passed down to Robert's daughter, Mary,
  • 00:17:58.170 --> 00:18:01.290
  • who donated them to the Library of Congress in 1937,
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  • and the box was never opened until 1976.
  • 00:18:06.190 --> 00:18:11.210
  • Do you know what was in the box?
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  • What Lincoln carried with him that fatal night
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  • in his Brooks Brothers coat,
  • 00:18:17.000 --> 00:18:19.290
  • he had a couple of pairs of eyeglasses,
  • 00:18:20.000 --> 00:18:22.140
  • a pocket knife, a gold watch fob,
  • 00:18:22.150 --> 00:18:26.020
  • a white handkerchief, a cuff link,
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  • a confederate $5 bill, a brown leather wallet--
  • 00:18:28.090 --> 00:18:32.140
  • and listen to this--and several newspaper clippings.
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  • One of them extolled his accomplishments
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  • and began with the words, "Abraham Lincoln is
  • 00:18:38.220 --> 00:18:41.100
  • one of the greatest statesmen of all time."
  • 00:18:41.110 --> 00:18:44.220
  • Though he was one of the greatest statesmen of all time,
  • 00:18:44.230 --> 00:18:48.070
  • Abraham Lincoln had borne unceasing criticism.
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  • He needed encouragement and affirmation,
  • 00:18:51.280 --> 00:18:54.040
  • as most of us do, and what he found was
  • 00:18:54.050 --> 00:18:57.270
  • an article that said something good about him,
  • 00:18:57.280 --> 00:19:00.100
  • and he folded it up and put it in his pocket
  • 00:19:00.110 --> 00:19:02.290
  • and carried it with him through his death experience.
  • 00:19:03.000 --> 00:19:07.270
  • And isn't that a tremendous reminder to us that,
  • 00:19:07.280 --> 00:19:10.080
  • no matter who we are, we all need encouragement?
  • 00:19:10.090 --> 00:19:14.240
  • We all need to know that somebody cares about
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  • what we're doing and that's why we should never waste
  • 00:19:16.220 --> 00:19:19.070
  • any of our words being critical of other people.
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  • You know what?
  • 00:19:22.140 --> 00:19:23.230
  • As Christians we don't have to do that,
  • 00:19:23.240 --> 00:19:25.030
  • 'cause there's a lotta people who've taken that
  • 00:19:25.040 --> 00:19:26.190
  • whole thing over, and they do it all the time.
  • 00:19:26.200 --> 00:19:29.080
  • Why would we join them?
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  • Let's be different.
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  • Let's be people who have philadelphian tongues,
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  • philadelphian words, brotherly kindness words.
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  • We need to quit being mean as snakes and start being
  • 00:19:38.160 --> 00:19:40.260
  • as kind as the Scripture encourages us to be.
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  • Amen.
  • 00:19:47.020 --> 00:19:50.160
  • Forge your friendships with trust,
  • 00:19:50.170 --> 00:19:52.180
  • free your relationships from anger,
  • 00:19:52.190 --> 00:19:56.080
  • feed somebody who's hungry, fortify others with your words,
  • 00:19:56.090 --> 00:20:00.200
  • and then, number five,
  • 00:20:00.210 --> 00:20:02.200
  • flush bitterness out of your spirit.
  • 00:20:02.210 --> 00:20:05.020
  • Here is what verses 30 and 31 say,
  • 00:20:05.030 --> 00:20:07.170
  • "And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God,
  • 00:20:07.180 --> 00:20:10.230
  • by whom you were sealed for the day of redemption.
  • 00:20:10.240 --> 00:20:14.120
  • Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor
  • 00:20:14.130 --> 00:20:18.050
  • and evil speaking be put away from you, with all malice."
  • 00:20:18.060 --> 00:20:22.230
  • I don't know if you've noticed, but in verses 26 and 27
  • 00:20:22.240 --> 00:20:27.110
  • Paul says that when we stay angry over a period of time,
  • 00:20:27.120 --> 00:20:31.170
  • we give the devil a foothold.
  • 00:20:31.180 --> 00:20:34.080
  • And then, in verse 30 he says that,
  • 00:20:34.090 --> 00:20:36.100
  • when we let bitterness grow in our hearts,
  • 00:20:36.110 --> 00:20:38.210
  • we grieve the Holy Spirit.
  • 00:20:38.220 --> 00:20:41.130
  • So, if we don't do right by our words and by our heart,
  • 00:20:41.140 --> 00:20:44.150
  • we give the devil a foothold in our life,
  • 00:20:44.160 --> 00:20:46.220
  • and we grieve the Holy Spirit who lives within us.
  • 00:20:46.230 --> 00:20:50.180
  • A bitter spirit does two things at once.
  • 00:20:50.190 --> 00:20:52.190
  • It grieves the Holy Spirit, and it delights the devil.
  • 00:20:52.200 --> 00:20:58.000
  • To excel in brotherly kindness you have to work
  • 00:20:58.010 --> 00:21:00.190
  • to resolve your personal issues.
  • 00:21:00.200 --> 00:21:04.030
  • This is no easy task.
  • 00:21:04.040 --> 00:21:05.280
  • Today there are many ways to seek help
  • 00:21:05.290 --> 00:21:07.180
  • in freeing yourself from bitterness.
  • 00:21:07.190 --> 00:21:10.070
  • With guidance, the Holy Spirit, do what you need to get rid
  • 00:21:10.080 --> 00:21:12.240
  • of the bitterness in your heart.
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  • If you find yourself, when you're alone,
  • 00:21:15.060 --> 00:21:18.180
  • creating speeches you wanna give to somebody,
  • 00:21:18.190 --> 00:21:20.290
  • or thinking thoughts that are evil and angry toward--
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  • Don't look at me like you don't know what I'm talking about.
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  • I've actually done it.
  • 00:21:28.170 --> 00:21:29.260
  • I've actually done it in my car.
  • 00:21:29.270 --> 00:21:32.040
  • And I've been in a meeting where somebody did something
  • 00:21:32.050 --> 00:21:33.140
  • really nasty to me, and I'm-- in my car I'm practicing
  • 00:21:33.150 --> 00:21:36.200
  • the speech I would give if I ever saw this guy again.
  • 00:21:36.210 --> 00:21:39.220
  • I'm doing it out loud, and people are looking at me.
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  • I could tell it was wrong.
  • 00:21:42.010 --> 00:21:44.220
  • Many years ago, a student named Autherine Lucy Foster enrolled
  • 00:21:44.230 --> 00:21:49.240
  • at the University of Alabama.
  • 00:21:49.250 --> 00:21:52.120
  • 1956 the school was an all-white institution,
  • 00:21:52.130 --> 00:21:56.060
  • and Foster was African American.
  • 00:21:56.070 --> 00:21:59.030
  • The hatred hit her like rolling waves,
  • 00:21:59.040 --> 00:22:01.180
  • and she was expelled within three days after her presence
  • 00:22:01.190 --> 00:22:04.130
  • brought protests and threats against her life.
  • 00:22:04.140 --> 00:22:09.010
  • In May 2019, 63 years later, Autherine returned
  • 00:22:09.020 --> 00:22:14.040
  • to the University of Alabama to receive an honorary degree.
  • 00:22:14.050 --> 00:22:18.180
  • She was 89 years old, and this time her presence
  • 00:22:18.190 --> 00:22:21.290
  • brought a standing ovation from the crowd.
  • 00:22:22.000 --> 00:22:25.110
  • She told them, "I sat down last night,
  • 00:22:25.120 --> 00:22:28.050
  • and when I thought about it, I was crying.
  • 00:22:28.060 --> 00:22:30.140
  • The tears were just rolling down my eyes
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  • because it is so different and so unique for me
  • 00:22:32.180 --> 00:22:35.200
  • to be able to come to such a university as this.
  • 00:22:35.210 --> 00:22:38.170
  • That is a wonderful campus out there."
  • 00:22:38.180 --> 00:22:40.290
  • Listen to this.
  • 00:22:41.000 --> 00:22:42.090
  • Foster said, "The difference is the crowds are here,
  • 00:22:42.100 --> 00:22:46.030
  • but I see laughing faces instead of people frowning
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  • and displeased at me being here."
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  • There is a lot that concerns me about our society today.
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  • I'm sure you're concerned as I am,
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  • but when I hear stories like this one,
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  • it reminds me, we have made some progress,
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  • and what Foster said is symbolic of what Christ wants to do
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  • in our hearts.
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  • As we grow in him, our angry and disapproving faces
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  • are transformed into loving expressions,
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  • and the Bible says those who look to him are radiant.
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  • Their faces are never covered with shame.
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  • Let us always be people who are known for our kindness,
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  • who stand up against the ugliness and evil that's
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  • so much a part of our discourse today and our evil today.
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  • I don't have to agree with you.
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  • I don't have to believe anything you believe,
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  • but I do have to treat you with dignity and kindness
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  • and listen to you as I expect you to listen to me.
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  • [audience applauding]
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  • Forge your friendship with trust,
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  • free your relationship from anger,
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  • feed somebody who's hungry, fortify others with your words,
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  • flush bitterness out of your spirit,
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  • and find new ways to practice kindness.
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  • That leads us to the last verse of the chapter, Ephesians 4:32,
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  • which really brings the idea of brotherly kindness to fruition.
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  • Ephesians 4:32 says, "Be kind to one another,
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  • tenderhearted."
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  • Oh, I love that.
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  • I remember as a little child I had to learn that verse.
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  • Did you?
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  • Growing up in Sunday school, that was one of the key verses.
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  • Kindness always creates a chain reaction.
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  • Have you noticed that?
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  • The Bible says, "A soft answer turns away wrath."
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  • I'm just trying to help you understand that kindness
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  • is not a doctrine.
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  • Kindness is not some word in the Bible.
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  • Kindness is a word that has action attached to it.
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  • "Be ye kind."
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  • When you're kind to somebody,
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  • that means you do something for them.
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  • It's not a warm feeling about your heart.
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  • It's not a good enough thing just to have a kind attitude.
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  • Kind attitudes are good, but they don't do any good.
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  • Kind actions are what do good.
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  • Just pray the prayer, "Lord, help me today to see somebody
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  • that I can be kind to, who needs a Word from you."
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  • If you ask him that, he will do it.
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  • If you ask him that, you better mean it,
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  • 'cause if you don't, he'll do it.
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  • Then you're gonna be upset if you don't know what to do.
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  • So, you ask him, and he'll do it.
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  • He'll help you.
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  • He'll give you a sensitive heart.
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  • There is somebody you should help.
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  • Be kind one to another, tenderhearted.
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  • And then, it says, "Forgiving them,
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  • even as God for Christ's sake has forgiven you."
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  • And you know what?
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  • There is tremendous truth in that little section
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  • of Scripture.
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  • How many of you know forgiveness is hard?
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  • Oh, man, depending on what's happened.
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  • Sometimes something happens to you that's so awful,
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  • you cannot--
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  • "And you want me to forgive him for that?"
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  • "You want me to forgive her for that?"
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  • No, I don't, but God does, and God says this.
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  • If you come to grips with what it meant for him to forgive you
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  • out of the reservoir of God's forgiveness for you,
  • 00:25:58.240 --> 00:26:01.280
  • you will find the forgiveness you need to forgive
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  • somebody else.
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  • If you try to do it in your own strength, you won't,
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  • but just every time you get to the place where you say,
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  • "I cannot forgive that person," just remember the Bible says
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  • when we were without strength,
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  • when we had nothing to offer to God,
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  • when we didn't bring anything to the table,
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  • God sent his own Son into this world
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  • to die for our sin and forgive us.
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  • And because he has forgiven me,
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  • out of the forgiveness I got from him,
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  • I can find what it takes to forgive someone else.
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  • For Christ's sake, for God's sake, be forgiving.
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  • Dr. Jeremiah: What an adventure it is
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  • to commit yourself to kindness.
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  • Can you imagine the impact we would have in this world
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  • if every follower of Christ practiced radical kindness?
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  • One day, we won't have to imagine it,
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  • for that will be our experience in our heavenly home.
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  • through your faith in him, but if you want to know more
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  • Dr. Jeremiah: If we try to do the work of God
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  • without a relationship with God, it will fall flat on its face.
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  • But when you love God and you let the love of God
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  • that's been shed abroad in your hearts
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  • motivate you to serve God, it's a thing of beauty.
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  • It's a wonderful thing to watch.
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  • female announcer: Join us next time
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  • here on "Turning Point."
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  • Dr. David Jeremiah: Life moves so fast,
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  • You can spend years searching for something you do not have,
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  • only to end up where you don't want to be.
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  • Exploring what the world has to offer we often find nothing.
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  • However, your journey through the twists and turns
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  • of this world doesn't have to put you
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  • on the path of discouragement and despair.
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  • Let me tell you how to take the journey of your lifetime.
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  • It's an adventure with God as your guide,
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  • where you'll discover the peace, the purpose,
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  • and the power you've been seeking.
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  • It's a journey of unimaginable blessing
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  • and here is the amazing part:
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  • with God you already have everything you need
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  • for life's journey, not half of what you need
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  • or a whole lot of what you need.
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  • God has given you everything you need.
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  • God never intended for you to stumble your way
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  • through the course of each day
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  • and certainly not journey unprepared into your future.
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  • So where do you wanna go?
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  • It's time to unpack all that God has given you.
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  • Discover how you have been equipped for this journey
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  • and can live with confidence
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  • because you, my friend, have everything you need.
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  • Dr. Jeremiah: There is nothing quite like the thrill
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  • of setting out on an adventure to discover new experiences.
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  • Do you know what makes that experience
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  • all the more meaningful?
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  • Being able to share that journey with someone else.
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  • Life is a bit like that.
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  • I mean, it's easy to live life according to you,
  • 00:31:46.130 --> 00:31:49.080
  • but often living life according to us is all the better.
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  • What does it take to live a life that is concerned
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  • about the wellbeing and happiness of others?
  • 00:31:57.170 --> 00:32:01.100
  • It takes radical kindness, kindness that transforms
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  • the lives of others and yourself.
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  • Hello, I'm David Jeremiah, and today we'll look
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  • at seven ways to take your journey
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  • from a solitary one to a fulfilling adventure
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  • with other people.
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  • Discover how in my message, "Radical Kindness",
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  • on this edition of, "Turning Point."
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  • So, travel with me across the United States
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  • and join me in New York City, high above Central Park,
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  • for my series, "Everything You Need."
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  • announcer: In Dr. Jeremiah's new book,
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  • "Everything You Need," he invites you to consider
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  • how would your life change if you had the energy
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  • to diligently fulfill God's purpose for you,
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  • or the confidence to always do what pleases God,
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  • or had an intimate knowledge of his Word.
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  • What would your faith be like if you replaced a harmful habit
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  • with a positive one, or developed a determination
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  • that could carry you through any difficulty?
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  • Do you wanna see yourself becoming more like Christ,
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  • sharing his kindness and love to those around you?
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  • And now, here is Dr. Jeremiah with his message,
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  • "Radical Kindness."
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  • Dr. Jeremiah: Peter believed the church should be a place
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  • filled with the attitude of brotherly kindness,
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  • and so he adds that to his list of characteristics
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  • that we're to develop in our lives.
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  • He says we're to add to our godliness brotherly kindness.
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  • The word Peter uses in the original language
  • 00:34:34.230 --> 00:34:37.050
  • of the Greek for brotherly kindness--
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  • are you ready for this?
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  • It's the word, "philadelphia."
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  • Philadelphia is the translation of the words,
  • 00:34:44.200 --> 00:34:47.220
  • "brotherly kindness."
  • 00:34:47.230 --> 00:34:49.130
  • That city was called Philadelphia
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  • because William Penn, the founder of Pennsylvania,
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  • wanted to establish a city that was characterized
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  • by this particular biblical trait.
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  • So, he chose this name right out of the Bible
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  • to call the city Philadelphia, which translated means,
  • 00:35:02.020 --> 00:35:06.010
  • "The city of brotherly love."
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  • Whether or not it lives up to that name,
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  • you can figure that out.
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  • As followers of Christ, we are to live up to that name.
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  • We're to be philadelphian Christians.
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  • The commentary on the word "philadelphia" is found
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  • in Ephesians 4:25 and following.
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  • This passage of Scripture describes what it means
  • 00:35:27.070 --> 00:35:30.110
  • to live the philadelphian Christian life.
  • 00:35:30.120 --> 00:35:34.030
  • Here we go.
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  • "Therefore, put away lying,
  • 00:35:35.230 --> 00:35:38.130
  • 'Let each of you speak truth with his neighbor,'
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  • for we are members of one another.
  • 00:35:41.250 --> 00:35:44.180
  • 'Be angry, and do not sin': do not let the sun go down
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  • on your wrath.
  • 00:35:48.240 --> 00:35:50.090
  • Don't give place to the devil.
  • 00:35:50.100 --> 00:35:52.240
  • Let him who stole steal no longer,
  • 00:35:52.250 --> 00:35:56.080
  • but rather let him labor, working with his hands
  • 00:35:56.090 --> 00:35:58.170
  • what is good, that he may have something
  • 00:35:58.180 --> 00:36:00.280
  • to give him who has need.
  • 00:36:00.290 --> 00:36:03.050
  • Let no corrupt word come out of your mouth,
  • 00:36:03.060 --> 00:36:05.290
  • but what is good for necessary edification,
  • 00:36:06.000 --> 00:36:08.200
  • that it may impart grace to those who hear it.
  • 00:36:08.210 --> 00:36:11.280
  • And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God,
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  • by whom you were sealed for the day of redemption.
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  • Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor
  • 00:36:17.280 --> 00:36:21.280
  • and evil speaking be put away from you, with all malice.
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  • And be kind one to another, tenderhearted,
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  • forgiving one another,
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  • even as God in Christ forgave you."
  • 00:36:33.130 --> 00:36:37.170
  • This passage of Scripture in Ephesians is
  • 00:36:37.180 --> 00:36:39.260
  • a come-back-to-often passage, because it's Paul's
  • 00:36:39.270 --> 00:36:43.150
  • seven bullet points about being kind.
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  • Each is like a special delivery from the divine postal carrier
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  • to your heart.
  • 00:36:51.040 --> 00:36:52.230
  • The Bible tells us to forge our friendships with trust,
  • 00:36:52.240 --> 00:36:56.070
  • free our relationships from anger,
  • 00:36:56.080 --> 00:36:58.230
  • feed those who are hungry, fortify others by our words,
  • 00:36:58.240 --> 00:37:02.180
  • flash bitterness out of our spirit,
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  • find ways of practicing kindness,
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  • and forgive others as Christ forgave you.
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  • Man, if you start working on that,
  • 00:37:09.260 --> 00:37:12.000
  • it will change everything.
  • 00:37:12.010 --> 00:37:13.120
  • Can you imagine a better definition
  • 00:37:13.130 --> 00:37:15.160
  • of what it means to be a philadelphian Christian?
  • 00:37:15.170 --> 00:37:19.190
  • So, let's take 'em one at a time.
  • 00:37:19.200 --> 00:37:20.290
  • Here is the first one:
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  • Forge your friendships with trust.
  • 00:37:22.100 --> 00:37:25.090
  • Paul begins by saying, "Put away lying,
  • 00:37:25.100 --> 00:37:28.090
  • the Lord tells us, and speak the truth to your neighbor.
  • 00:37:28.100 --> 00:37:33.200
  • We're members one of another."
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  • That's what it says.
  • 00:37:35.150 --> 00:37:38.000
  • Trust is essential to healthy relationships.
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  • Do people know they can trust you?
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  • Brotherly kindness begins with a trustworthy spirit,
  • 00:37:45.060 --> 00:37:48.260
  • with a willingness to be honest and kind.
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  • Listen to me.
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  • Speaking honestly one to another doesn't mean
  • 00:37:53.000 --> 00:37:54.170
  • speaking bluntly or brutally.
  • 00:37:54.180 --> 00:37:57.170
  • Stormie Omartian wrote,
  • 00:37:57.180 --> 00:37:58.290
  • "I've known people who use the excuse of just being honest
  • 00:37:59.000 --> 00:38:01.100
  • to devastate other people with their words."
  • 00:38:01.110 --> 00:38:03.270
  • Have you ever known anybody like that?
  • 00:38:03.280 --> 00:38:05.130
  • "Now, I'm just gonna tell you the truth this time.
  • 00:38:05.140 --> 00:38:08.130
  • As your brother, as your sister, I feel obligated to tell you
  • 00:38:08.140 --> 00:38:11.220
  • the truth," and then, they just bury you.
  • 00:38:11.230 --> 00:38:16.110
  • Being honest doesn't mean you have to be completely frank.
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  • You don't have to go past the point of hurting people.
  • 00:38:19.110 --> 00:38:23.070
  • It takes wisdom to know how to balance all of that,
  • 00:38:23.080 --> 00:38:25.180
  • honesty and kindness.
  • 00:38:25.190 --> 00:38:27.050
  • It takes wisdom to know when and where to trust another person,
  • 00:38:27.060 --> 00:38:29.240
  • but growing in brotherly kindness means growing
  • 00:38:29.250 --> 00:38:32.030
  • in our ability to trust and be trusted,
  • 00:38:32.040 --> 00:38:35.050
  • and you can't trust everybody in the world.
  • 00:38:35.060 --> 00:38:36.170
  • You know, one of the things I learned when I was sick is,
  • 00:38:36.180 --> 00:38:39.050
  • I learned who I could trust.
  • 00:38:39.060 --> 00:38:42.160
  • Illness or serious issues in your life will sort out
  • 00:38:42.170 --> 00:38:45.190
  • your friends, help you to see who the real friends are
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  • and who the others are.
  • 00:38:49.030 --> 00:38:51.000
  • I know we can't trust everybody in this world,
  • 00:38:51.010 --> 00:38:54.010
  • but you should be trustworthy.
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  • Your spouse should be able to trust you.
  • 00:38:56.120 --> 00:38:58.070
  • Your neighbors should be able to trust you.
  • 00:38:58.080 --> 00:39:00.070
  • The people you work with should be able to trust you.
  • 00:39:00.080 --> 00:39:03.080
  • Brotherly kindness begins when we put off falsehood,
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  • and we stop lying to one another,
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  • and we're honest, kind people.
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  • Forge your friendships with trust.
  • 00:39:13.030 --> 00:39:16.100
  • Here is the second one:
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  • Free your relationships from anger.
  • 00:39:18.050 --> 00:39:22.100
  • Our attitude of brotherly kindness has a way
  • 00:39:22.110 --> 00:39:25.020
  • of shoving aside angry tempers that plague us.
  • 00:39:25.030 --> 00:39:28.220
  • Here is what Paul said, "'Be angry, and do not sin':
  • 00:39:28.230 --> 00:39:33.210
  • do not let the sun go down on your wrath,
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  • nor give place to the devil."
  • 00:39:36.250 --> 00:39:40.040
  • Paul wasn't talking here about getting angry
  • 00:39:40.050 --> 00:39:42.100
  • at things like traffic.
  • 00:39:42.110 --> 00:39:43.280
  • He's talking about getting mad with your neighbor.
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  • When you're most tempted to lose your temper,
  • 00:39:47.230 --> 00:39:50.020
  • it's often because someone else, perhaps someone you love
  • 00:39:50.030 --> 00:39:53.040
  • very much, has done something to irritate you.
  • 00:39:53.050 --> 00:39:57.150
  • The Bible doesn't tell us never to be angry.
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  • Anger is a natural human response,
  • 00:40:00.010 --> 00:40:02.060
  • but it must be governed.
  • 00:40:02.070 --> 00:40:04.000
  • It's a dangerous emotion that must be controlled,
  • 00:40:04.010 --> 00:40:06.230
  • as volatile as nitroglycerin, and that's why Paul quoted
  • 00:40:06.240 --> 00:40:10.080
  • Psalm 4:4 when he said, "Be angry, and do not sin."
  • 00:40:10.090 --> 00:40:14.160
  • Brotherly kindness is the biblical corrective
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  • for an angry spirit.
  • 00:40:16.150 --> 00:40:17.250
  • Someone said, "The more you grow up,
  • 00:40:17.260 --> 00:40:20.110
  • the less you blow up."
  • 00:40:20.120 --> 00:40:23.000
  • Maturity involves learning to control how and when you express
  • 00:40:23.010 --> 00:40:27.070
  • your anger, and I always love this little catchphrase
  • 00:40:27.080 --> 00:40:29.260
  • that says, "don't let the sun go down on your anger,"
  • 00:40:29.270 --> 00:40:33.160
  • and I've been in marriage conferences
  • 00:40:33.170 --> 00:40:35.080
  • where people have said that's a good thing.
  • 00:40:35.090 --> 00:40:37.150
  • If you're having a spat with your wife or your husband,
  • 00:40:37.160 --> 00:40:41.060
  • just make sure you settle it before you go to bed.
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  • It's not God's will for us to live with an angry spirit.
  • 00:40:44.100 --> 00:40:48.050
  • You can't be kind and angry at the same time.
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  • Forge your friendships with trust.
  • 00:40:52.140 --> 00:40:55.020
  • Free your relationships from anger.
  • 00:40:55.030 --> 00:40:58.210
  • Then it says, feed somebody who's hungry.
  • 00:40:58.220 --> 00:41:01.170
  • Here is another secret to brotherly kindness.
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  • He says, "Let him who stole steal no longer,
  • 00:41:03.050 --> 00:41:07.040
  • but rather let him labor, working with his hands
  • 00:41:07.050 --> 00:41:09.210
  • what is good,
  • 00:41:09.220 --> 00:41:11.080
  • that he may have something to give him who has need."
  • 00:41:11.090 --> 00:41:14.230
  • Now, you have to understand when this was written,
  • 00:41:14.240 --> 00:41:16.280
  • when Paul wrote these words, Christians who first read
  • 00:41:16.290 --> 00:41:20.110
  • this letter, they'd come to Christ
  • 00:41:20.120 --> 00:41:22.090
  • out of a background of thievery.
  • 00:41:22.100 --> 00:41:24.100
  • Many of them were shoplifters and cheaters, even burglars,
  • 00:41:24.110 --> 00:41:29.080
  • and Paul is saying that, if they stop stealing
  • 00:41:29.090 --> 00:41:30.260
  • and instead go to work with their hands,
  • 00:41:30.270 --> 00:41:33.250
  • they could earn a livelihood, and then they'd have something
  • 00:41:33.260 --> 00:41:36.190
  • of their own to share with other people,
  • 00:41:36.200 --> 00:41:39.160
  • and that would give them the transformation
  • 00:41:39.170 --> 00:41:41.110
  • in their life which we call brotherly kindness.
  • 00:41:41.120 --> 00:41:46.110
  • What a reversal.
  • 00:41:46.120 --> 00:41:47.290
  • Instead of stealing from others, based on this verse,
  • 00:41:48.000 --> 00:41:51.290
  • "I advise you," says Paul, "to work hard so that
  • 00:41:52.000 --> 00:41:54.140
  • you won't steal from them, but you can give to them."
  • 00:41:54.150 --> 00:41:57.200
  • The Bible says, "He who has pity on the poor lends to the Lord,
  • 00:41:58.200 --> 00:42:03.120
  • and he will pay him back what he has given."
  • 00:42:03.130 --> 00:42:06.090
  • When that kind of generosity becomes a constant lifestyle,
  • 00:42:06.100 --> 00:42:09.040
  • you're starting to live Ephesians chapter 4.
  • 00:42:09.050 --> 00:42:12.070
  • I remember one time Donna and I were talking about this.
  • 00:42:12.080 --> 00:42:15.020
  • She told me this story.
  • 00:42:15.030 --> 00:42:17.070
  • She was at a 7-Eleven store not far from where we live,
  • 00:42:17.080 --> 00:42:20.190
  • and in this particular situation there was a mother there
  • 00:42:20.200 --> 00:42:23.220
  • with two little children,
  • 00:42:23.230 --> 00:42:26.290
  • and she had a little sign saying,
  • 00:42:27.000 --> 00:42:29.100
  • "Help me feed my children."
  • 00:42:29.110 --> 00:42:31.270
  • So, Donna got her stuff, and she left,
  • 00:42:31.280 --> 00:42:33.270
  • and she was on her way home, when God spoke to her heart,
  • 00:42:33.280 --> 00:42:36.000
  • and she turned around.
  • 00:42:36.010 --> 00:42:37.200
  • And instead of going back to 7-Eleven she went
  • 00:42:37.210 --> 00:42:39.130
  • to the pizza store, and she bought
  • 00:42:39.140 --> 00:42:41.170
  • a couple of pizzas for those kids,
  • 00:42:41.180 --> 00:42:43.280
  • and she went back, and she gave the mom some money,
  • 00:42:43.290 --> 00:42:48.000
  • and she gave those two little girls a pizza.
  • 00:42:48.010 --> 00:42:49.280
  • And Donna said, she said,
  • 00:42:49.290 --> 00:42:51.150
  • "David, I have never seen two little children as hungry
  • 00:42:51.160 --> 00:42:55.180
  • as those girls were."
  • 00:42:55.190 --> 00:42:57.130
  • And she said, "When I stood there
  • 00:42:57.140 --> 00:42:59.080
  • and just watched them start on those pizzas,
  • 00:42:59.090 --> 00:43:01.050
  • it just broke my heart."
  • 00:43:01.060 --> 00:43:03.070
  • Those are the stories that happen
  • 00:43:03.080 --> 00:43:04.270
  • when you open your heart to kindness.
  • 00:43:04.280 --> 00:43:06.230
  • And so, here is what some people will say,
  • 00:43:06.240 --> 00:43:09.060
  • "Well, I can't take care of all of 'em,
  • 00:43:09.070 --> 00:43:10.200
  • so I'm not gonna worry about it."
  • 00:43:10.210 --> 00:43:12.000
  • No, if everybody does that, nobody ever gets any care.
  • 00:43:12.010 --> 00:43:15.170
  • Just ask the Lord to give you a sensitivity
  • 00:43:15.180 --> 00:43:17.280
  • to the people you meet during the day.
  • 00:43:17.290 --> 00:43:20.010
  • If he says, "Help that person," help 'em, and then leave it
  • 00:43:20.020 --> 00:43:22.210
  • up to God for what he wants to do in their lives.
  • 00:43:22.220 --> 00:43:26.060
  • The best thing that will happen if you do that is you'll protect
  • 00:43:26.070 --> 00:43:28.100
  • your heart from getting cold and indifferent to the needs
  • 00:43:28.110 --> 00:43:32.130
  • of people we have everywhere.
  • 00:43:32.140 --> 00:43:35.010
  • Little Gisele only weighed 1 pound and 14 ounces
  • 00:43:35.020 --> 00:43:38.260
  • when she was born, a consequence
  • 00:43:38.270 --> 00:43:41.150
  • of her pregnant mother's drug abuse.
  • 00:43:41.160 --> 00:43:44.080
  • She spent three months in the NICU, on ventilator support.
  • 00:43:44.090 --> 00:43:49.150
  • Her parents were battling addictions
  • 00:43:49.160 --> 00:43:51.060
  • and unable to tend to her.
  • 00:43:51.070 --> 00:43:53.010
  • She was transferred to Franciscan Children's Hospital
  • 00:43:53.020 --> 00:43:56.030
  • tiny and alone.
  • 00:43:56.040 --> 00:43:57.200
  • No one ever came to see her, but there was a nurse named,
  • 00:43:57.210 --> 00:44:02.060
  • Liz Smith, who noticed her and felt incredible compassion
  • 00:44:02.070 --> 00:44:06.040
  • for her, and she began visiting her regularly.
  • 00:44:06.050 --> 00:44:09.140
  • She said, "Since the moment I met her,
  • 00:44:09.150 --> 00:44:11.170
  • there was something behind her striking blue eyes
  • 00:44:11.180 --> 00:44:14.020
  • that captured my attention.
  • 00:44:14.030 --> 00:44:16.080
  • I felt that I needed to love this child and keep her safe."
  • 00:44:16.090 --> 00:44:20.040
  • Liz became a foster mother to Gisele,
  • 00:44:20.050 --> 00:44:22.240
  • with the view forward that would hopefully reunite her
  • 00:44:22.250 --> 00:44:26.070
  • with her birth parents.
  • 00:44:26.080 --> 00:44:27.290
  • And when that plan fell through, guess what she did?
  • 00:44:28.000 --> 00:44:31.240
  • She volunteered to adopt her, and when Liz and her family
  • 00:44:31.250 --> 00:44:35.200
  • and Gisele appeared before the judge
  • 00:44:35.210 --> 00:44:38.070
  • to finalize the adoption, he stood up and said,
  • 00:44:38.080 --> 00:44:42.030
  • "When a judge walks into the room,
  • 00:44:42.040 --> 00:44:43.280
  • everyone stands up out of respect,
  • 00:44:43.290 --> 00:44:46.140
  • but today I stand in respect for you, Liz,
  • 00:44:46.150 --> 00:44:49.250
  • because you deserve the respect from this room.
  • 00:44:49.260 --> 00:44:52.200
  • A birthing day is a miracle, but adopting a child
  • 00:44:52.210 --> 00:44:55.220
  • from miles away, that's destiny."
  • 00:44:55.230 --> 00:44:58.090
  • And even as Liz adapts to the pressures of being
  • 00:44:58.100 --> 00:45:01.100
  • a single mother, Gisele has made tremendous medical strides.
  • 00:45:01.110 --> 00:45:05.110
  • She still receives most of her nutrition from a feeding tube
  • 00:45:05.120 --> 00:45:08.030
  • and most of her nutrition is hard for Liz to manage,
  • 00:45:08.040 --> 00:45:12.080
  • but she started taking some simple bits of food.
  • 00:45:12.090 --> 00:45:15.180
  • Liz is doing what the Scripture talks about when it says,
  • 00:45:15.190 --> 00:45:19.100
  • "and add to your godliness brotherly kindness,"
  • 00:45:19.110 --> 00:45:23.240
  • Christ-like kindness, radical kindness.
  • 00:45:23.250 --> 00:45:28.140
  • That's radical.
  • 00:45:28.150 --> 00:45:29.240
  • She didn't know this child, but God birthed in her heart
  • 00:45:29.250 --> 00:45:32.190
  • a love for this child, and she followed through.
  • 00:45:32.200 --> 00:45:35.240
  • You know, God does that if we open ourselves up to it,
  • 00:45:35.250 --> 00:45:38.260
  • if we just say, "Lord, if there is somebody I should help today,
  • 00:45:38.270 --> 00:45:41.060
  • somebody that I should minister today,
  • 00:45:41.070 --> 00:45:42.240
  • show me who that is.
  • 00:45:42.250 --> 00:45:44.040
  • I stand ready to do it to the best of my ability."
  • 00:45:44.050 --> 00:45:46.270
  • So, forge your friendships with trust.
  • 00:45:46.280 --> 00:45:49.210
  • Don't lie to each other.
  • 00:45:49.220 --> 00:45:51.200
  • Free your relationships with anger.
  • 00:45:51.210 --> 00:45:53.200
  • Don't be angry one with another.
  • 00:45:53.210 --> 00:45:56.070
  • Feed somebody who's hungry, and then fortify other people
  • 00:45:56.080 --> 00:46:00.210
  • with your words.
  • 00:46:00.220 --> 00:46:02.090
  • Here is what it says, "Let no corrupt word proceed
  • 00:46:02.100 --> 00:46:05.220
  • out of your mouth, but what is good for necessary edification,
  • 00:46:05.230 --> 00:46:11.000
  • that it may impart grace to the hearers."
  • 00:46:11.010 --> 00:46:14.230
  • The Bible is full of verses about how we speak the words
  • 00:46:14.240 --> 00:46:18.160
  • we say, about the tones that we employ,
  • 00:46:18.170 --> 00:46:22.240
  • but this is among the most practical and helpful Scripture
  • 00:46:22.250 --> 00:46:25.260
  • when it comes to the subject of our tongues.
  • 00:46:25.270 --> 00:46:28.180
  • Nothing we say with our mouth should be unwholesome,
  • 00:46:28.190 --> 00:46:32.220
  • that means unholy.
  • 00:46:32.230 --> 00:46:34.190
  • We don't use words that are vulgar and that are cuss words.
  • 00:46:34.200 --> 00:46:39.040
  • Nothing we say should be unwholesome, unholy.
  • 00:46:39.050 --> 00:46:42.070
  • Nothing should be unhealthy.
  • 00:46:42.080 --> 00:46:44.240
  • Nothing should be destructive.
  • 00:46:44.250 --> 00:46:46.230
  • Nothing should be detrimental, instead the words
  • 00:46:46.240 --> 00:46:49.170
  • of a brotherly kindness Christian should always build
  • 00:46:49.180 --> 00:46:53.080
  • somebody up, and benefit them, and encourage them.
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  • To practice brotherly kindness with your words,
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  • make a habit of complimenting at least one person every day.
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  • "Who can I compliment today?"
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  • You'd be amazed at the gratitude that flows your way
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  • and fills your heart over time when you say thank you.
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  • Do you know that Abraham Lincoln wore a Brooks Brothers overcoat
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  • when he and his wife, Mary, attended a performance
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  • at Ford's Theatre on April 14, 1865?
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  • Shortly after 10 p.m., John Wilkes Booth
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  • crept behind him and fired a fatal shot into his head.
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  • After he was shot, Lincoln was carried across the street
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  • to a boarding house where he died,
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  • and the personal belongings in his coat pocket
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  • were collected and given to his son.
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  • Robert Todd Lincoln put them in a box.
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  • They were later passed down to Robert's daughter, Mary,
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  • who donated them to the Library of Congress in 1937,
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  • and the box was never opened until 1976.
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  • Do you know what was in the box?
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  • What Lincoln carried with him that fatal night
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  • in his Brooks Brothers coat,
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  • he had a couple of pairs of eyeglasses,
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  • a pocket knife, a gold watch fob,
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  • a white handkerchief, a cuff link,
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  • a confederate $5 bill, a brown leather wallet--
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  • and listen to this--and several newspaper clippings.
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  • One of them extolled his accomplishments
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  • and began with the words, "Abraham Lincoln is
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  • one of the greatest statesmen of all time."
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  • Though he was one of the greatest statesmen of all time,
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  • Abraham Lincoln had borne unceasing criticism.
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  • He needed encouragement and affirmation,
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  • as most of us do, and what he found was
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  • an article that said something good about him,
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  • and he folded it up and put it in his pocket
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  • and carried it with him through his death experience.
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  • And isn't that a tremendous reminder to us that,
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  • no matter who we are, we all need encouragement?
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  • We all need to know that somebody cares about
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  • what we're doing and that's why we should never waste
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  • any of our words being critical of other people.
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  • You know what?
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  • As Christians we don't have to do that,
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  • 'cause there's a lotta people who've taken that
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  • whole thing over, and they do it all the time.
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  • Why would we join them?
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  • Let's be different.
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  • Let's be people who have philadelphian tongues,
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  • philadelphian words, brotherly kindness words.
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  • We need to quit being mean as snakes and start being
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  • as kind as the Scripture encourages us to be.
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  • Amen.
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  • Forge your friendships with trust,
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  • free your relationships from anger,
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  • feed somebody who's hungry, fortify others with your words,
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  • and then, number five,
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  • flush bitterness out of your spirit.
  • 00:49:54.260 --> 00:49:57.070
  • Here is what verses 30 and 31 say,
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  • "And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of God,
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  • by whom you were sealed for the day of redemption.
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  • Let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor
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  • and evil speaking be put away from you, with all malice."
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  • I don't know if you've noticed, but in verses 26 and 27
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  • Paul says that when we stay angry over a period of time,
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  • we give the devil a foothold.
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  • And then, in verse 30 he says that,
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  • when we let bitterness grow in our hearts,
  • 00:50:28.160 --> 00:50:30.260
  • we grieve the Holy Spirit.
  • 00:50:30.270 --> 00:50:33.180
  • So, if we don't do right by our words and by our heart,
  • 00:50:33.190 --> 00:50:36.200
  • we give the devil a foothold in our life,
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  • and we grieve the Holy Spirit who lives within us.
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  • A bitter spirit does two things at once.
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  • It grieves the Holy Spirit, and it delights the devil.
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  • To excel in brotherly kindness you have to work
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  • to resolve your personal issues.
  • 00:50:52.230 --> 00:50:56.060
  • This is no easy task.
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  • Today there are many ways to seek help
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  • in freeing yourself from bitterness.
  • 00:50:59.220 --> 00:51:02.120
  • With guidance, the Holy Spirit, do what you need to get rid
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  • of the bitterness in your heart.
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  • As we grow in him, our angry and disapproving faces
  • 00:51:07.020 --> 00:51:11.090
  • are transformed into loving expressions,
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  • and the Bible says those who look to him are radiant.
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  • Their faces are never covered with shame.
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  • Let us always be people who are known for our kindness,
  • 00:51:20.070 --> 00:51:24.250
  • who stand up against the ugliness and evil that's
  • 00:51:24.260 --> 00:51:27.140
  • so much a part of our discourse today and our evil today.
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  • I don't have to agree with you.
  • 00:51:31.000 --> 00:51:33.050
  • I don't have to believe anything you believe,
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  • but I do have to treat you with dignity and kindness
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  • and listen to you as I expect you to listen to me.
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  • [audience applauding]
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  • Forge your friendship with trust,
  • 00:51:47.000 --> 00:51:48.170
  • free your relationship from anger,
  • 00:51:48.180 --> 00:51:50.210
  • feed somebody who's hungry, fortify others with your words,
  • 00:51:50.220 --> 00:51:54.210
  • flush bitterness out of your spirit,
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  • and find new ways to practice kindness.
  • 00:51:57.090 --> 00:52:00.050
  • That leads us to the last verse of the chapter, Ephesians 4:32,
  • 00:52:00.060 --> 00:52:04.010
  • which really brings the idea of brotherly kindness to fruition.
  • 00:52:04.020 --> 00:52:07.170
  • Ephesians 4:32 says, "Be kind to one another,
  • 00:52:08.150 --> 00:52:14.030
  • tenderhearted."
  • 00:52:14.040 --> 00:52:15.240
  • Oh, I love that.
  • 00:52:15.250 --> 00:52:17.040
  • I remember as a little child I had to learn that verse.
  • 00:52:17.050 --> 00:52:19.090
  • Did you?
  • 00:52:19.100 --> 00:52:20.190
  • Growing up in Sunday school, that was one of the key verses.
  • 00:52:20.200 --> 00:52:23.070
  • Kindness always creates a chain reaction.
  • 00:52:23.080 --> 00:52:25.240
  • Have you noticed that?
  • 00:52:25.250 --> 00:52:27.040
  • The Bible says, "A soft answer turns away wrath."
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  • I'm just trying to help you understand that kindness
  • 00:52:31.200 --> 00:52:33.240
  • is not a doctrine.
  • 00:52:33.250 --> 00:52:35.280
  • Kindness is not some word in the Bible.
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  • Kindness is a word that has action attached to it.
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  • "Be ye kind."
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  • When you're kind to somebody,
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  • that means you do something for them.
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  • It's not a warm feeling about your heart.
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  • It's not a good enough thing just to have a kind attitude.
  • 00:52:50.020 --> 00:52:52.270
  • Kind attitudes are good, but they don't do any good.
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  • Kind actions are what do good.
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  • Just pray the prayer, "Lord, help me today to see somebody
  • 00:52:59.020 --> 00:53:03.170
  • that I can be kind to, who needs a Word from you."
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  • If you ask him that, he will do it.
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  • If you ask him that, you better mean it,
  • 00:53:10.080 --> 00:53:12.260
  • 'cause if you don't, he'll do it.
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  • Then you're gonna be upset if you don't know what to do.
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  • So, you ask him, and he'll do it.
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  • He'll help you.
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  • He'll give you a sensitive heart.
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  • There is somebody you should help.
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  • Be kind one to another, tenderhearted.
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  • And then, it says, "Forgiving them,
  • 00:53:26.200 --> 00:53:29.140
  • even as God for Christ's sake has forgiven you."
  • 00:53:29.150 --> 00:53:32.140
  • And you know what?
  • 00:53:32.150 --> 00:53:33.240
  • There is tremendous truth in that little section
  • 00:53:33.250 --> 00:53:36.040
  • of Scripture.
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  • How many of you know forgiveness is hard?
  • 00:53:37.150 --> 00:53:39.150
  • Oh, man, depending on what's happened.
  • 00:53:39.160 --> 00:53:41.010
  • Sometimes something happens to you that's so awful,
  • 00:53:41.020 --> 00:53:43.190
  • you cannot--
  • 00:53:43.200 --> 00:53:44.290
  • "And you want me to forgive him for that?"
  • 00:53:45.000 --> 00:53:46.110
  • "You want me to forgive her for that?"
  • 00:53:46.120 --> 00:53:47.260
  • No, I don't, but God does, and God says this.
  • 00:53:47.270 --> 00:53:52.030
  • If you come to grips with what it meant for him to forgive you
  • 00:53:52.040 --> 00:53:56.130
  • out of the reservoir of God's forgiveness for you,
  • 00:53:56.140 --> 00:53:59.160
  • you will find the forgiveness you need to forgive
  • 00:53:59.170 --> 00:54:02.130
  • somebody else.
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  • If you try to do it in your own strength, you won't,
  • 00:54:03.270 --> 00:54:06.050
  • but just every time you get to the place where you say,
  • 00:54:06.060 --> 00:54:08.220
  • "I cannot forgive that person," just remember the Bible says
  • 00:54:08.230 --> 00:54:12.050
  • when we were without strength,
  • 00:54:12.060 --> 00:54:14.090
  • when we had nothing to offer to God,
  • 00:54:14.100 --> 00:54:16.140
  • when we didn't bring anything to the table,
  • 00:54:16.150 --> 00:54:18.210
  • God sent his own Son into this world
  • 00:54:18.220 --> 00:54:20.260
  • to die for our sin and forgive us.
  • 00:54:20.270 --> 00:54:23.190
  • And because he has forgiven me,
  • 00:54:23.200 --> 00:54:25.210
  • out of the forgiveness I got from him,
  • 00:54:25.220 --> 00:54:28.290
  • I can find what it takes to forgive someone else.
  • 00:54:29.000 --> 00:54:31.290
  • For Christ's sake, for God's sake, be forgiving.
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  • Dr. Jeremiah: What an adventure it is
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