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Disapproval: The Fear of Rejection

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September 9, 2019
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Turning Point with Dr. David Jeremiah

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Disapproval: The Fear of Rejection

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  • Fear: Why do you always come back to this place?
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  • Landon: Great memories here, I guess.
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  • Fear: Yes, life was good to you as a young boy.
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  • You liked this room, didn't you?
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  • Landon: I did.
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  • Fear: But then?
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  • Landon: But then everyone left me,
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  • except to you.
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  • Fear: I've always been like a father to you, haven't I ?
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  • Landon: I suppose, if fear can be a father?
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  • Fear: I'm only in your life because of them.
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  • What was it your dad called you?
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  • Landon: Freak.
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  • Fear: And that was just the beginning, wasn't it?
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  • Landon: Yes.
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  • That's when it all started.
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  • That's when I became a freak.
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  • Fear: Go on.
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  • I'll help you remember everything.
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  • Your parents abandoned you when you were but eight years old.
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  • Landon: They rejected me.
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  • Fear: Yes, orphaned.
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  • Landon: They didn't love me.
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  • Fear: You are difficult to love,
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  • Landon, and not very talented either.
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  • Remember how embarrassed you were when you were cut from
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  • the high school basketball team?
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  • Landon: I wanted to try it again the next year, but--
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  • Fear: But I told you, "Why bother?
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  • You'll just get cut again."
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  • Landon: Yes, you did.
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  • Fear: I was just trying to protect you.
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  • Landon: I know, that's why I was afraid to make new friends,
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  • to try our for a college scholarship, or to--
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  • Fear: get a girlfriend.
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  • Landon: Yes, I didn't want to be--
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  • Fear: turned down. Landon: Yes.
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  • Fear: And when you ignored my advice,
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  • you did get turned down, didn't you?
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  • Your bride left you standing alone at the altar.
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  • Landon: Yes.
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  • Fear: This is what happens when you don't listen to me.
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  • And while I applaud your efforts at the jobs in which
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  • you've been applying, you probably won't get them.
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  • You will be rejected.
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  • Landon: Not so fast.
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  • Don't get me wrong, this is a very special place,
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  • but I don't think I want to come back here.
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  • Fear: Why?
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  • Landon: Because you always meet me here,
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  • and I don't want you in my life anymore.
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  • Fear: What's this?
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  • Landon: It's your final notice.
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  • You're no longer welcome to come into my life and fill me with
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  • the fear of being rejected.
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  • Fear: Why?
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  • Landon: It's over.
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  • Fear: But I thought I was like a father to you.
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  • Landon: I have a new father now, a heavenly Father,
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  • and he doesn't disapprove of me.
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  • In fact, he totally accepts me.
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  • -Fear: I know who he is, and no matter what he tells you,
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  • you still are what you are, a big nothing, a zero, a freak.
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  • Landon: Correction,
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  • I'm a Jesus freak.
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  • Now, out.
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  • Dr. David Jeremiah: From being the last one picked
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  • for a team on the playground, to being overlooked
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  • for a promotion, everybody has experienced
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  • rejection to some degree and it's never any fun.
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  • You see, rejection can make us feel unworthy, even unlovable.
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  • Ironically, it's one of the most loved figures in Scripture that
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  • can help us put rejection into perspective, the Apostle Peter.
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  • Now, wasn't Peter the rowdy, rugged fisherman who himself
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  • rejected Jesus denying that he knew him?
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  • Certainly, but today we'll see that behind Peter's bluster
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  • and bravado was a man crippled by fear.
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  • If you've ever tried to mask your fear, you need to see how
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  • God can replace and reverse it as we look at Disapproval:
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  • The Fear of Rejection, and it's next as we continue the series,
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  • What Are You Afraid Of?
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  • Facing Down Your Fears With Faith coming up
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  • on "Turning Point."
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  • male announcer: Living in today's world can be perilous.
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  • Worry, anxiety, and fear seem to be a part of daily life.
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  • From who or what are we really safe?
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  • Ever feel that way?
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  • Satan wants to hold you captive to your fears.
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  • However, God has not given us the spirit of fear,
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  • but of power, and of love, and of a sound mind.
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  • That's why "New York Times" bestselling-author
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  • David Jeremiah
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  • is challenging you to face down your fears with faith.
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  • Available now, order, "What Are You Afraid Of?
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  • Also available, Dr Jeremiah's ultimate study collection,
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  • "Turning Point" today.
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  • Dr. Jeremiah: Humans have a built-in longing
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  • for approval.
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  • It originates probably in the human psyche where we have
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  • embedded the knowledge that we're not what we were created
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  • to be, that Romans 3:23 is accurate, that we have all
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  • sinned and fallen short of the glory of God.
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  • Believing that we have lost God's stamp of approval,
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  • we search everywhere for some affirmation.
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  • And the longing for approval is so strong that we spend our
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  • lives chasing after it often sacrificing our values and
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  • priorities in order to get it.
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  • It happens usually, for the first time around, as teens we
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  • encounter peer pressure.
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  • Then as young adults, it's people pleasing, and we've even
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  • invented a new term called co-dependency.
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  • But it's all roughly the same thing.
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  • In every age group people live in self-imposed slavery to
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  • others and their opinions of us.
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  • But the Bible has a name for this, the Bible calls it the
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  • fear of man, the fear of man.
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  • King Solomon put it very well in a proverb that he wrote.
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  • He said in Proverbs 29:25, "The fear of man brings a snare,
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  • but whoever trust in the Lord shall be safe."
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  • In this message today, I want to share with you a biblical
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  • character who shows us the danger of fearing
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  • man's disapproval.
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  • And the person I want to talk with you about is
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  • the Apostle Peter.
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  • The story of Peter disowning Jesus three times is one of
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  • the best known in the Bible, and even is recorded
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  • as one of the best-known stories in world literature.
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  • By way of summary, here's how it all happened.
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  • At Jesus's last supper with his disciples, he predicted that
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  • Peter would deny him three times before the rooster crowed.
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  • And shortly afterward, a band of soldiers and Jewish officials
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  • arrested Jesus in the Garden of Gethsemane and took him
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  • to the high priest.
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  • Peter, and some of the other disciples, wanted to see
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  • what happened and they followed it at a distance.
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  • And he and another disciple were allowed into the high priests'
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  • courtyard to await the outcome of Jesus before the high priest.
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  • While they waited, three different people asked Peter if
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  • he was one of Jesus's disciples and each time, he denied it.
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  • After Peter's third denial, a rooster began to crow just
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  • as Jesus had predicted and Peter knew that he had
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  • done just exactly what Jesus said he would do.
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  • Now, Peter's fear you see was rooted in the Jewish leaders'
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  • disapproval of Jesus and his followers.
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  • He feared that their disapproval could easily result in his own
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  • arrest, so he lied and he denied knowing his leader.
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  • And the crow of the rooster brought home to Peter what he
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  • had done in the Bible says he went out and he wept bitterly.
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  • The reality of the fear of disapproval is on the night
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  • Jesus was arrested, Peter encountered people
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  • representing three different dynamics.
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  • Let's look at how he responded to all of them.
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  • These are all very interesting.
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  • They're unique and yet Peter shows us what happens when
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  • we fear disapproval in every situation.
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  • It begins with what we might call an unexpected fear,
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  • and John 18:17 has the story.
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  • The first person that Peter encountered was a servant
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  • girl at the high priest's house who was assigned
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  • the task of keeping the door.
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  • And she brought Peter into the courtyard and she asked him,
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  • "You are not also one of this man's disciples, are you?"
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  • And caught off guard Peter just mumbled the first thing that
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  • came to his mind he said, "I am not, I am not."
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  • Peter's unexpected fear is a warning.
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  • Decide in advance what you believe.
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  • Decide in advance who you are loyal to so that when you are
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  • under pressure, you don't have to stop and consider what to do,
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  • you already know what to do.
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  • It's embedded in your soul.
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  • It was kind of an unexpected fear.
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  • And then the next one is sort of an understandable fear.
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  • Again, in the 18th chapter of John we're told the story.
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  • After leaving the servant girl, Peter moved quickly to disappear
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  • into a group of servants and officers who had made
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  • a fire of coals in the high priests' courtyard.
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  • John 18:18, "And Peter stood with them and warmed himself."
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  • This group was already in place when Peter showed up.
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  • He didn't know any of these people, obviously.
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  • He had no relationships with any of them, he just sort of
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  • nonchalantly and unobtrusively stood around the fire sort of to
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  • disappear among the group, but he hadn't been there
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  • for but a moment.
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  • And verse 25 tells us that someone said,
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  • "You are not also one of his disciples, are you?"
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  • And fear came over Peter, and he lied a sec at time denying
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  • his association with Jesus.
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  • Peter was caught in the classic peer pressure of one person
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  • being intimidated by a group.
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  • That person said, "You are not also one of his, are you?"
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  • And I see Peter looking around at all the eyes that are staring
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  • at him, not one of them friendly toward him, and he said,
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  • "I am not."
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  • Flashback to your junior high school days.
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  • You're in a social setting with kids from your school, and
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  • they offer you a cigarette, or some alcohol, or even a pill.
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  • And you hesitate and then the pressure starts,
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  • "What are you afraid?
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  • Hey, look, it's mama's boy, Mr. Goody Two Shoes.
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  • It's probably past your bedtime, kid.
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  • Maybe you should call your mommy to come and get you."
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  • And so it goes, on that moment hangs everything you've wanted
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  • since you were in the second grade, respect, inclusion,
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  • acceptance, and status.
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  • If you say yes, you're in.
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  • And if you say no, there will be no more invitations to any
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  • parties to come your way.
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  • And all of us are kind of shaking our heads up and down
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  • because we remember that.
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  • We know what that was like.
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  • Now, the third time is the one that makes the most sense
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  • in many respects, but for you to understand this,
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  • I have to give you a little background to it.
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  • This is what we'll call an unsurprising fear.
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  • Once again, it's also in John chapter 18,
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  • but let me set the stage for what happened.
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  • The third accusation against Peter seems to have been
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  • the most threatening and the least surprising.
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  • It gives us another window into the nature of fear.
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  • Now, if you remember, when the Jewish leaders came
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  • to Gethsemane to arrest Jesus, they came with soldiers,
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  • and Peter wasn't afraid then.
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  • He took out his sword and he cut off the right ear of one of
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  • the servants.
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  • The man's name was Malchus,
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  • servant of the Jewish high priest.
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  • And he rebuked Peter and he told Peter to put his sword away,
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  • and then Jesus reached out and healed Malchus's ear.
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  • Now, back to the courtyard of the high priest where Peter's
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  • warming himself at the fire and he just become the center of
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  • attention when someone suggested
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  • that he was one of Jesus's disciples.
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  • And for the second time he had said no, but suddenly another
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  • high priest's servant became very interested.
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  • If you have your Bibles open, this is in verse 26,
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  • "One of the servants of the high priest,
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  • a relative of him whose ear Peter cut off, said,
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  • 'Did I not see you in the garden with Him?'"
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  • Now, Peter knows he is in real trouble.
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  • This isn't just an incidental, this isn't some servant girl or
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  • a bunch of strangers.
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  • Here's a relative, a kinsman of the person who Peter cut the
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  • guy's ear off.
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  • But once again, Peter had to stick to his lie, and he denied
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  • again that he knew Jesus.
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  • And verse 27 says, "And immediately, a rooster crowed."
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  • And Peter remembered what Jesus had said.
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  • He had so buried himself in his lies about Jesus
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  • that he couldn't change it.
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  • How many of you know that when you tell one lie, you often have
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  • to tell another to cover up the first one and before you know
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  • it, you're just telling the same thing over and over again,
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  • at least trying to be consistent in your lying?
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  • And that was Peter succumbing to the disapproval of men.
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  • Now, you all know that story, and I've just kind of given you
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  • a refresher on it.
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  • But let me go back now and let's take this apart and see if we
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  • can discover the reasons why Peter failed and why
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  • he succumbed to the fear of disapproval.
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  • First thing we notice is that Peter was filled with himself.
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  • When we fear others, it's usually because we're too
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  • enamored with ourselves.
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  • Here's another interesting thing that comes out of the greater
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  • context, he failed to pray.
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  • It's interesting that people who depend on themselves usually
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  • don't pray because, what is prayer?
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  • Prayer is our declaration of dependence.
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  • When we pray, what we're saying is, "Lord, I haven't got this
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  • all sorted out yet, and I really need you."
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  • If we think we've got it all sorted out, we're not very prone
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  • to pray. I mean, why would we pray?
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  • We don't need God. We got it all together.
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  • When we find ourselves fearful of others' disapproval, it may
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  • be because we haven't spent enough time in prayer reminding
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  • ourselves of our dependence on Christ.
  • 00:16:55.180 --> 00:16:59.090
  • Here's the third reason, we function in the energy
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  • of the flesh.
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  • In Matthew's account of what happened in Gethsemane, we know
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  • that Peter was walking in the energy of the flesh because,
  • 00:17:09.100 --> 00:17:13.050
  • most obviously, it was demonstrated by his attack on
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  • the high priest's servant.
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  • Peter wasn't in the spirit when he did that?
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  • You say, "Well, didn't God tell Peter to do it?"
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  • Absolutely not.
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  • No one in the high priest's party had attacked Jesus.
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  • Peter went on the offensive on his own, making an unprovoked
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  • attack with a sword.
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  • What was he thinking?
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  • You see how absurd this is.
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  • When Jesus responds, listen, "All who take the sword will
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  • perish by the sword.
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  • Or do you think that I cannot now pray to My Father, and
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  • He will provide Me with more than twelve legions of angels,"
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  • thousands of angels.
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  • If I had been Peter, I would have turned beet red
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  • with embarrassment.
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  • Here I am a lowly fisherman wielding a seldom-used sword
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  • trying to defend someone who had legions of angels waiting at his
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  • command to strike.
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  • Give me a break.
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  • Why didn't Jesus call his angels?
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  • He didn't call his angels because John 18:36,
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  • "My kingdom is not of this world.
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  • If my kingdom were of this world, my servants would fight
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  • so that I should not be delivered to the Jews."
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  • Here's what Peter was doing, and we do it too.
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  • Peter was trying to help God out.
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  • He was saying in essence, "I don't think the Father in heaven
  • 00:18:35.130 --> 00:18:38.050
  • can take care of the Son on earth so I'm gonna have to
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  • intervene and help God."
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  • Isn't that what we do sometimes?
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  • We see something and we go off half cocked in our own energy,
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  • in our own flesh, and we think we're gonna fix it.
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  • We don't pray so if we don't pray, we don't have any Word
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  • from God so we get in a situation where we could be
  • 00:18:53.070 --> 00:18:56.010
  • under pressure, and we just go bull, bull ahead
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  • and we get in trouble.
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  • That's Peter. That's classic Peter.
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  • Here's the fourth thing, we follow Jesus from afar.
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  • This is one of the most interesting parts of the story
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  • in my estimation.
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  • Luke 22:54 says, "Having arrested Jesus, they led him and
  • 00:19:13.180 --> 00:19:17.260
  • brought him into the high priest's house, but Peter
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  • followed at a distance."
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  • Now, what's going on here, class, is this, Peter was
  • 00:19:25.050 --> 00:19:27.260
  • following afar.
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  • He was a follower of Jesus, but not really, not really, let's
  • 00:19:29.130 --> 00:19:33.100
  • don't go too far with this.
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  • If we're not careful, we follow Jesus afar off, and then number
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  • five, we find our fellowship in the wrong place.
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  • He had, in so many ways, switched sides.
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  • Because of his fear of what they might do to him, because of what
  • 00:19:48.190 --> 00:19:52.200
  • they had done to Jesus, he's over here on their side trying
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  • to make peace with them so that the same thing that's going to
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  • happen to Jesus doesn't happen to him.
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  • And so, it's a reminder to us that who we hang out with
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  • usually has something to do with how we function.
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  • If you can hang out with people that don't know the Lord and be
  • 00:20:10.240 --> 00:20:13.060
  • called and strong in your testimony so that they know who
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  • you are from the outset, then you have a chance.
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  • But if you don't allow that to happen, you will be victimized.
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  • Those are the realities of the fear of disapproval and some of
  • 00:20:23.180 --> 00:20:26.020
  • the reasons for it.
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  • I want to finish up with some resolutions to help us get on
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  • the other side of it.
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  • And there's an act three to all of this.
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  • The Bible tells us in John 21 that Jesus went after Peter, and
  • 00:20:34.110 --> 00:20:39.040
  • he met him and the other disciples on the shore of the
  • 00:20:39.050 --> 00:20:41.170
  • Sea of Galilee.
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  • And it was there that Peter discovered this good news,
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  • that even though he had miserably failed the Lord in
  • 00:20:46.020 --> 00:20:49.000
  • the test of loyalty, it was possible to be restored.
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  • And here's what Jesus did for Peter and what he can do for us,
  • 00:20:53.040 --> 00:20:57.210
  • replace our fear of others with his approval of us.
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  • I want you to know all of us, who at one time or another have
  • 00:21:02.210 --> 00:21:06.060
  • been afraid of disapproval and have, in our own way, denied
  • 00:21:06.070 --> 00:21:10.070
  • the Lord, all we have to do is come back and ask
  • 00:21:10.080 --> 00:21:13.140
  • for forgiveness and the Lord will forgive us.
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  • And as we're going to see, he can do more than forgive us,
  • 00:21:15.080 --> 00:21:17.240
  • he can change us.
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  • The next thing I noticed that we can do is to replace our fear of
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  • others with our love for him.
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  • As you read John chapter 21, you read about this interchange
  • 00:21:25.120 --> 00:21:28.140
  • between Jesus and Peter and three times in three verses
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  • Jesus asked Peter the same question.
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  • He says, "Peter, do you love me?
  • 00:21:34.180 --> 00:21:36.230
  • Do you love me? Do you love me?"
  • 00:21:36.240 --> 00:21:39.080
  • And you can almost sense in Peter's responses,
  • 00:21:39.090 --> 00:21:40.260
  • he's a little annoyed by it.
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  • "Jesus, you know that I love you."
  • 00:21:42.170 --> 00:21:45.160
  • Three times he solicited a response from Peter to solidify
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  • the relationship that he had with him in love.
  • 00:21:48.060 --> 00:21:54.050
  • Thirdly, replace our fear of others with love for others.
  • 00:21:54.060 --> 00:21:59.130
  • When Peter answered the question that he loved to the Lord and he
  • 00:21:59.140 --> 00:22:02.190
  • said, "Lord, you know that I love you," Jesus told him to do
  • 00:22:02.200 --> 00:22:05.140
  • something again three times.
  • 00:22:05.150 --> 00:22:07.260
  • In a little different wording he said, "Tend my sheep, feed my
  • 00:22:07.270 --> 00:22:11.280
  • sheep, take care of my sheep."
  • 00:22:11.290 --> 00:22:14.150
  • You say, what is that all about?
  • 00:22:14.160 --> 00:22:15.290
  • Well, Jesus is saying to Peter, "Now that you've got it
  • 00:22:16.000 --> 00:22:18.180
  • straight, now that you know where your loyalty lies, live
  • 00:22:18.190 --> 00:22:21.170
  • out your life for others.
  • 00:22:21.180 --> 00:22:23.020
  • And when you're so involved in serving God in the lives of
  • 00:22:23.030 --> 00:22:25.260
  • other people, you don't have time to be afraid
  • 00:22:25.270 --> 00:22:28.030
  • of what they say."
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  • Number four, we can replace our fear of others with faith
  • 00:22:29.270 --> 00:22:33.020
  • in him.
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  • Jesus now gives Peter a little forecast of his life.
  • 00:22:34.240 --> 00:22:37.110
  • The Lord Jesus said, "Peter, I want you to know this, now that
  • 00:22:37.120 --> 00:22:40.030
  • you've come through this test, I want you to know life is not
  • 00:22:40.040 --> 00:22:43.070
  • gonna be easy for you."
  • 00:22:43.080 --> 00:22:45.070
  • He said to him in John 21:18 to 19, "'But Peter, when you are
  • 00:22:45.080 --> 00:22:48.190
  • old, you will stretch out your hands, and another will gird you
  • 00:22:48.200 --> 00:22:52.110
  • and carry you where you do not wish--' This Jesus spoke,
  • 00:22:52.120 --> 00:22:57.020
  • signifying by what death Peter would glorify God."
  • 00:22:57.030 --> 00:23:01.090
  • And if you know the story, the secular historians tell us
  • 00:23:01.100 --> 00:23:03.290
  • how it happened.
  • 00:23:04.000 --> 00:23:05.090
  • Peter was arrested, and they crucified him but before he was
  • 00:23:05.100 --> 00:23:08.250
  • crucified, he requested that he be hung upside down because
  • 00:23:08.260 --> 00:23:13.180
  • he did not believe that he was worthy to be crucified in
  • 00:23:13.190 --> 00:23:16.110
  • the same way that Jesus was.
  • 00:23:16.120 --> 00:23:19.110
  • He faced a lot of other tests.
  • 00:23:19.120 --> 00:23:21.230
  • The Lord Jesus said to Peter,
  • 00:23:21.240 --> 00:23:23.040
  • "You're gonna face some challenges."
  • 00:23:23.050 --> 00:23:24.230
  • In essence, "In the world, you will have tribulation, but the
  • 00:23:24.240 --> 00:23:28.280
  • rest of that is, Be of good cheer,
  • 00:23:28.290 --> 00:23:31.000
  • I have overcome the world."
  • 00:23:31.010 --> 00:23:33.220
  • After Peter was restored by the Lord and took a new look
  • 00:23:33.230 --> 00:23:38.050
  • at what God had called him to do, he was a changed person.
  • 00:23:38.060 --> 00:23:41.180
  • With the other disciples, he preached a powerful sermon to
  • 00:23:41.190 --> 00:23:44.270
  • the massive crowds in Jerusalem who were gathered on
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  • the day of Pentecost.
  • 00:23:47.090 --> 00:23:48.200
  • And when he got done, he gave this conclusion to his sermon.
  • 00:23:48.210 --> 00:23:52.260
  • See if this sounds like Peter before or Peter after?
  • 00:23:52.270 --> 00:23:57.130
  • Here's what he said, "Therefore let all the house of Israel know
  • 00:23:57.140 --> 00:24:01.270
  • assuredly that God has made this Jesus, whom you crucified,
  • 00:24:01.280 --> 00:24:07.060
  • both Lord and Christ."
  • 00:24:07.070 --> 00:24:10.240
  • And the Bible says the sermon was so powerful that people came
  • 00:24:10.250 --> 00:24:15.260
  • from everywhere, and 3.000 souls were converted on that day.
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  • Here's Peter failing because of his fear.
  • 00:24:21.040 --> 00:24:25.050
  • And here's Peter excelling because of his faith.
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  • And we have to live our lives out in one of the two ways,
  • 00:24:28.240 --> 00:24:33.120
  • don't we?
  • 00:24:33.130 --> 00:24:34.220
  • We either live in fear, or we live in faith.
  • 00:24:34.230 --> 00:24:38.000
  • Here's how it works, if you are in the right fear relationship
  • 00:24:38.010 --> 00:24:42.040
  • with God, you need fear no man.
  • 00:24:42.050 --> 00:24:45.270
  • If you know who God is and you understand how important he is,
  • 00:24:45.280 --> 00:24:51.090
  • and if God has approved you, you don't need anybody
  • 00:24:51.100 --> 00:24:54.070
  • else's approval.
  • 00:24:54.080 --> 00:24:55.170
  • If God is for us, who can be against us?
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  • announcer: Dr. Jeremiah will return to close today's program
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  • announcer: And now, with one last Word for today's program,
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  • here is Dr. Jeremiah.
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  • Dr. Jeremiah: If God is for us, who can be against us?
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  • That's one of the great comforts found in the Bible.
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  • It is God's remedy for the fear of rejection for those of us who
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  • have placed our faith in him.
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  • And I pray that you've done that, that you're living boldly
  • 00:26:12.280 --> 00:26:16.140
  • for God and that you're assured of his approval.
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  • Regardless of any disapproval you might face in this life, no
  • 00:26:19.250 --> 00:26:24.220
  • earthly rejection can compare with God's rock-solid approval,
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  • the only approval that really matters.
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  • announcer: Next time on "Turning Point."
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  • Dr. Jeremiah: He's in your boat and he's there.
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  • He's willing to wrap his arms around you, and help you,
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  • and strengthen you.
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  • He won't always make the storm go away immediately, but he will
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  • add to you the strength that you need so that you can get through
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  • it, not somehow, but with your hands up high.
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  • announcer: Thank you for being with us today.
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  • Join us next time for Dr. Jeremiah's message,
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  • Danger: The Fear of Sudden Trouble
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  • here on "Turning Point."
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