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Youth Suicide

Taking Care of Business

January 23, 2019

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Taking Care of Business

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TAKING CARE OF BUSINESS ...
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TAKING CARE OF BUSINESS ...
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[ MUSIC ]
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- KELLY WRIGHT: THE CAMERA, [PICTURES SNAPPING]
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ONE OF MANKIND'S INGENIOUS DEVICES HAS
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SPAWNED A MULTI-BILLION DOLLAR INDUSTRY
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THROUGHOUT THE WORLD.
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FOR GENERATIONS NOW, THE PHOTOGRAPH HAS BEEN USED
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TO CAPTURE LIFE'S EPIC EVENTS, THE MILESTONES,
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THE MOMENTS THAT WE TREASURE.
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BUT THAT SIMPLE PHOTO THAT WE CAN TAKE WITH THE
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USE OF A SMART PHONE NOW THAT ONCE CREATED A SENSE
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OF BELONGING IS NOW TAKING A MUCH DARKER TURN.
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MORE AND MORE, THAT FROZEN MOMENT IN TIME IS
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USED TO DETERMINE OUR VERY WORTH.
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YOU GET THE PICTURE.
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[ SMART PHONES BEEPING, DINGING, RINGING ]
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- SOCIAL MEDIA MADE ME QUESTION A LOT ABOUT MYSELF.
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- KIDS THAT JUST BULLY THEM.
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- FRESHMAN YEAR I STARTED CUTTING.
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- ONE OF MY BROTHER'S FRIENDS CALLED ME A FAT
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B, AND I WAS MAYBE TEN YEARS OLD.
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- 4600 KIDS TAKE THEIR LIVES IN THE UNITED
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STATES EVERY YEAR.
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- I WOULD GET MESSAGES SAYING FOR ME TO
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KILL MYSELF.
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- MY FIRST THOUGHT OF SUICIDE WAS WHEN I WAS ABOUT 9.
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- 157.000 HURT THEMSELVES ENOUGH THEY
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END UP IN THE HOSPITALS.
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- SOMETIMES KIDS CAN BE REALLY CRUEL.
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- YOU'RE GOING TO PROBABLY END UP DEAD.
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- THOSE STATISTICS AS HIGH AS THEY ARE, ARE REALLY ONLY
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REALLY THE TIP OF THE ICEBERG.
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[ MUSIC ]
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- SOCIAL MEDIA, CYBER BULLYING AND THE PRESSURE
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TO SUCCEED HAS CAUSED A PANDEMIC OF YOUTH SUICIDE
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IN THESE UNITED STATES.
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[ MUSIC ]
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- ABOUT 12 YEARS I STARTED TO SEE MAYBE A
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LITTLE BIT OF A PROBLEM WITH THESE LITTLE PHONES
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THAT WE WERE HOLDING IN OUR HANDS.
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FROM 1990 TO 2007 WE SAW A DECREASE IN DEPRESSION,
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ANXIETY, AND SELF HARM, AND SUICIDE.
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[ MUSIC ]
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- THE BIGGEST INCREASE IS TEENAGERS SKYROCKETING
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IN THE LAST FIVE YEARS.
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WE HAD A CLUSTER.
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WITHIN A 2 WEEK PERIOD, WE HAD 3 YOUNG TEENAGERS,
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13, 14, 16 YEARS OLD TAKE THEIR LIVES.
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BUT WHAT WE'RE SEEING NOW IS SOMETHING NEW AND
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DIFFERENT, AND THAT'S KIDS WHO ARE HIGHLY
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SUCCESSFUL TAKING THEIR LIVES, AND I WANTED TO
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FIND OUT WHAT'S GOING ON THERE.
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- THERE WAS TWO FAMILIES IN PARTICULAR.
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IT WAS UNIMAGINABLE TO ME THAT A 13 YEAR OLD WOULD
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TAKE HER LIFE.
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EMMA PANGELLANAN, SOFTBALL PHNOM, THE DAY THAT SHE
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TOOK HER LIFE SHE HIT SEVERAL HOME RUNS THAT SUNDAY.
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[ BALL SNAPS, CHEERS ] AFTER SOFTBALL, SHE AND
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HER DAD SHE DROVE HOME SINGING THEIR REGULAR SONGS.
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THERE WERE NO SIGNS THAT EMMA WAS GOING TO TAKE
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HER LIFE, BUT THAT NIGHT EMMA SNUCK OUT OF THE
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HOUSE AND WENT TO A LOCAL PARK, AND ENDED HER LIFE.
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HER HEART STOPPED BEATING.
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[ MUSIC ]
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- THERE WAS ONE YOUNG, I WANT TO SAY MAN BUT HE
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WASN'T A MAN.
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HE WAS 16 YEARS OLD. HE WAS A BOY.
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PATRICK TURNER.
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BASEBALL, FOOTBALL PLAYER.
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GREAT ATHLETE.
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GREAT GUY.
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THE KIND OF GUY THAT WOULD HUG YOU IN THE
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HALLWAY, THE KIND OF GUY WHO HAD LOTS OF FRIENDS.
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PATRICK WROTE A SERIES OF LETTERS ABOUT WHAT WAS
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GOING ON WITH HIM.
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WHAT HE WAS TALKING ABOUT WAS PRESSURES OF ACADEMIC
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PRESSURES THAT GO ON IN SCHOOLS.
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- IN ADDITION TO THE INTENSE PRESSURE THAT WE
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ARE PUTTING ON OUR CHILDREN THESE DAYS LIKE
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GPA'S, GRADE POINT AVERAGES, SAT SCORES, AP
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CLASSES, NOT TO MENTION ALL THE PRESSURE TO
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PERFORM IN SPORTS AND EXTRACURRICULAR
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ACTIVITIES, WELL, NOW ADD A NEW DARK TWIST TO ALL
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OF THAT, THE EXPLOSION OF THE INTERNET AND
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SOCIAL MEDIA.
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IT IS A PERFECT STORM.
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- IN 2007, SMART PHONES SPREAD ACROSS
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THE COUNTRY.
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ON TOP OF THAT, WE'VE GOT SNAP CHAT AND INSTAGRAM
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THAT CAME IN IN 2010.
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- 2010 SNAP CHAT AND INSTAGRAM ARE LAUNCHED.
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PROBABLY A COINCIDENCE.
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PROBABLY A COINCIDENCE THESE KIDS ARE SUDDENLY
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THRUST WHERE THEY CAN COMPARE AND CONTRAST TO
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ALL OF THEIR PEERS ON A LEVEL LIKE WE'VE NEVER
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SEEN BEFORE.
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IT'S HARD ENOUGH TO BE A TEENAGER.
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IT'S HARD ENOUGH TO BE COMPARING AND CONTRASTING
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YOURSELF WITH SUPER MODELS AND ACTORS, BUT
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IMAGINE HAVING TO COMPARE YOURSELF WITH THE
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FILTERED PICTURES OF YOUR PEERS WHO ARE ONLY
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PROMOTING THEMSELVES AND PUTTING FORTH THEIR BEST
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ONLINE DIGITAL PRESENCE.
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[ BUZZING ] AND NOW WE HAVE GIVEN THEM THIS
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DIGITAL PLAYGROUND, AND IT CAN BE VERY, VERY,
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VERY MEAN.
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AND SOME OF THE STUFF THAT'S GOING ON WITH
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CYBER BULLYING WHICH IS MY RESEARCH NOW IS
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TERRIFYING, AND YOU WOULD NEVER BELIEVE THAT KIDS
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WOULD BE CAPABLE OF THIS, BUT THEY ARE.
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- BULLYING HAS BEEN A PROBLEM SINCE THE DAWN OF
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TIME, BUT WHEN THE BULLYING IS NO LONGER
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CONFINED TO A HANDFUL OF FRIENDS ON A SMALL
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PLAYGROUND OR IN A CLASSROOM, WELL, THAT
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KIND OF BULLYING BECOMES PUBLIC ON SOCIAL MEDIA,
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AND THEN IT BECOMES GLOBAL.
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IS THERE ANY WONDER THINGS GO REAL DARK
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REAL FAST?
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[ MUSIC ]
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- MY HIGH SCHOOL EXPERIENCE WAS NOT A WALK
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IN THE PARK.
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MY PARENTS GOT DIVORCED WHEN I WAS IN MIDDLE
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SCHOOL, AND I HAVE ADHD SO I WAS A BIG TARGET FOR
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KIDS MY AGE.
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SOCIAL MEDIA MADE ME QUESTION A LOT ABOUT
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MYSELF, ALL THAT TERRIBLE STUFF, AND VIEWING OTHER
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PEOPLE AS BEING PERFECT AND SEEING THEIR LIFE AS
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PERFECT DEFINITELY WARPED MYSELF ESTEEM, AND THE
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MESSAGES THAT WE'D GET AND HATE COMMENTS THAT
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PEOPLE WOULD GET INCLUDING MYSELF WERE
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BRUTAL AND MADE ME FEEL REALLY INSECURE ABOUT
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MYSELF AND HATE MYSELF, AND THAT'S WHAT LED ME TO
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MY DEPRESSION AND MY ANXIETY.
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SOME THINGS THAT GOT COMMUNICATED TO ME WAS
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THAT I WAS FAT.
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THAT WAS A BIG THING, THAT I WAS UGLY, SO THEY
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REALLY TRIED TO HIT AS CLOSE TO HOME
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AS POSSIBLE.
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- BECAUSE KATIE'S FRIENDS WERE SO CRUEL TO
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HER, SHE FOUND NEW FRIENDS, MUCH OLDER
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FRIENDS, AND THEY LOOKED AT KATIE AS SOMEONE THEY
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COULD MANIPULATE.
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ONE NIGHT THEY GOT KATIE DRUNK, AND A HIGH
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SCHOOLBOY SEXUALLY ASSAULTED HER.
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BY THE WAY, DID I MENTION KATIE WAS JUST 13?
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- I WAS INFLUENCED HEAVILY BY THEIR
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ACTIONS, AND I DID NOT KNOW THAT IT WASN'T
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NORMAL FOR THEM TO HAND ME HALF A BOTTLE OF VODKA
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AND THAT YOU SHOULD DRINK ALL OF IT.
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I HAD NO EXPERIENCE PREVIOUSLY OF DRINKING.
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AND THEY SAID, OH, YEAH, YOU SHOULD DRINK ALL OF IT.
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IT WAS PEER PRESSURE.
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I REALIZED THAT I WAS ONLY ONE WHO WAS DRINKING.
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- I DIDN'T HAVE ANY IDEA ABOUT WHAT'S HAPPENING ON
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SOCIAL MEDIA OR AT SCHOOL, AND IT WAS
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BECAUSE SHE WASN'T COMING TO ME AND TELLING ME
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ABOUT IT.
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- I WAS TAKEN ADVANTAGE OF AT A PARTY
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BY A LOCAL FOOTBALL PLAYER AT THE HIGH SCHOOL.
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AND IT WAS POSTED ON SOCIAL MEDIA.
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BUT I GOTTA APPROACHED BECAUSE OF THAT VIDEO
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BEING SPREAD BOTH RANDOM PEOPLE THAT I'VE NEVER
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TALKED TO BEFORE, AND THEY'RE LIKE OH, I HEAR
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YOU MESS WITH HIGH SCHOOL GUYS.
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WON'T YOU MESS WITH US?
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- THE DAY SHE GOT ASSAULTED SHE LIED TO ME
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ABOUT WHAT HAPPENED.
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THE KID THAT WOUND UP ASSAULTING HER ACTUALLY
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SHOOK MY HAND.
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IT WAS OUT OF THE EYE LINE OF THE PARENTS.
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THE PARENTS DIDN'T KNOW WHAT WAS GOING ON.
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- I WOULD GET DEATH THREATS.
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IN-PERSON I EVEN GOT A DEATH THREAT IN MY
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LOCKER, AND THE MESSAGES WERE JUST BRUTAL
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REGARDING THAT TELLING ME I SHOULD KILL MYSELF, AND
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IT WAS BRUTAL.
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YEAH, AND THAT LED ME TO A VERY DEEP DARK
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RABBIT HOLE.
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- A LOT OF THE PEOPLE WHO WERE THREATENING HER
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LIFE AND SAYING ALL THESE HORRIBLE THINGS TO HER
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WERE PEOPLE THAT HAD BEEN TO MY HOUSE, THAT HAD
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COME TO TO A BIRTHDAY PARTY THAT SHE CALLED HER
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FRIENDS, YOU KNOW.
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I KNEW SHE WAS DEPRESSED AND GOING
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THROUGH SOMETHING.
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I DIDN'T EVER -- IT DIDN'T EVER OCCUR TO ME THAT
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SELF-HARM OR SUICIDE WAS SOMETHING THAT SHE
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WAS CONSIDERING.
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SHE'S A GREAT MUSICIAN.
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SHE PLAYED AT CARNEGIE HALL A COUPLE OF TIMES.
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COMPARED TO ALL THE GREAT THINGS SHE HAD GOING ON
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IN HER LIFE COULD HAVE ONLY BEEN COMING FROM
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SOME KIND OF EXTERNAL PLACE.
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IT COULDN'T HAVE BEEN COMING FROM HER AND HER
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OWN SELF WORTH BASED ON HER OWN ABILITIES BECAUSE
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HER ABILITIES WERE GREAT.
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[ VIOLIN MUSIC ]
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- I FELT THAT WAS MY ONLY WAY OF ESCAPING.
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AT ONE POINT THIS GIRL SAW MY SCARS AND
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EVERYTHING, AND SHE TOLD THE SCHOOL ABOUT IT, AND
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THE SCHOOL MADE ME SIGN A RELEASE AND EVERYTHING
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NOT TO DO IT AGAIN.
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WHATEVER.
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BUT I REMEMBER WHEN I GOT HOME MY MOM WAS LIKE OH,
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YOU DIDN'T DO THAT, RIGHT?
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AND THEN YOU GUYS CHECKED MY ARMS.
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THEY CHECKED MY ARMS, BUT THEY DIDN'T THINK TO
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CHECK RIGHT HERE, SO IT DIDN'T LOOK THAT BAD.
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YOU GUYS SENT ME TO THERAPY AND IT DIDN'T
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DO ANYTHING.
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I WAS CONVINCED THAT THE ADULTS AROUND ME COULDN'T
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HELP AND THAT I NEEDED TO WORK ON IT MYSELF, SO I
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DIDN'T REACH OUT FOR THAT.
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[ VOICE BREAKING ] AND SO I LIED TO THEM AND I SAID
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THAT I WAS JUST DOING IT FOR ATTENTION, BUT I SAID
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THAT SO THAT THEY COULD SEE ME AS OH, LITTLE
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BLONDE GIRL WAS UPSET ABOUT LIVING IN HER
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LITTLE HOUSE IN THE PALISADES NOT GETTING
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ENOUGH ATTENTION.
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OH, SHE'S FINE.
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BUT I DID HAVE THOSE PROBLEMS, AND I WAS
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CONSTANTLY ANXIOUS BEING AROUND IN SCHOOL, BEING
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AROUND THE PEOPLE THAT PUT ME THROUGH ALL THAT,
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WALKING BY ANYONE WITH BLONDE HAIR AND A BEARD I
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WOULD FREAK OUT IN THE HALLWAY AND I WOULD HAVE
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A PANIC ATTACK AND I WOULD HAVE TO RUN AWAY
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AND GO TO A RANDOM BATHROOM AND CRY.
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I DIDN'T FEEL SAFE IN MY SCHOOL.
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I DIDN'T FEEL SAFE AROUND ANYONE.
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- YOU KNOW WHAT IT REMINDS ME OF?
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IT REMINDS ME OF LORD OF THE FLIES.
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THE ONLINE ENVIRONMENT IS LIKE A BUNCH OF
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CHILDREN THAT ARE SUDDENLY WITHOUT ADULT
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SUPERVISION, AND THEY TURN TO THEIR ANIMAL
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NATURE, AND THEY WIND UP TURNING INTO THESE LITTLE
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BEASTS WHO RIP EACH OTHER APART.
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- WE GAVE OSTENSIBLY IN MY OPINION THE MOST
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POWERFUL TOOL WE COULD HAVE EVER INVENTED THUS
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FAR TO KIDS.
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WE DON'T GET IT.
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WE DIDN'T EVEN MONITOR IT.
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WE DIDN'T EVEN KNOW WHAT THEY WERE DOING, AND WE
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JUST LET THEM DEVELOP AND PLAY, AND WE'RE WONDERING
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WHY IT'S SUDDENLY IN SOME CASES HAVE BECOME DIGITAL
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LORD OF THE FLIES?
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WHY WOULD IT NOT?
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WOULD YOU GIVE A SET OF POWER TOOLS TO KIDS
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WITH NO DIRECTIONS?
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SAY HEY, JUST PLAY WITH THESE KIDS, AND EXPECT
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THAT TO BE -- THERE'S GOING TO BE BLOOD.
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AND THERE'S ALWAYS GOING TO BE A RALPH, AND
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THERE'S ALWAYS GOING TO BE A PIGGY, AND THERE'S
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ALWAYS GOING TO BE A JACK BECAUSE THAT'S HOW
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KIDS ROLL.
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GO TO ANY PLAYGROUND.
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- YOU KNOW, YOU'RE KIND OF HELPLESS AS A PARENT.
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THAT'S WHY I THINK THERE NEEDS TO BE A PARENTS'
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BILL OF RIGHTS.
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I THINK FOR THESE TECHNOLOGY COMPANIES TO
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THROW THESE THINGS OUT THERE THAT DON'T HAVE ANY
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KIND OF LIMITS ON PEOPLE'S ABILITY.
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AND I'M A BIG PROPONENT OF THE FIRST AMENDMENT,
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BUT LIKE I SAID, JUST THE ABILITY FOR A PARENT TO
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TURN OFF THEIR KIDS' PHONE IF THEIR KID IS
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ACTING OUT OR DOING SOMETHING THAT THEY
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SHOULDN'T BE DOING, THAT SHOULD BE LIKE SEAT BELTS.
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THAT SHOULD BE SOMETHING THAT DOESN'T, THAT ISN'T
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EVEN A CHOICE FOR THE TECHNOLOGY COMPANIES.
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[VIOLIN MUSIC]
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- HE TOOK ALL OF HER DEVICES AWAY FOR SIX MONTHS.
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TO WEAN HER FROM THE APPROVAL AND JUDGMENT OF OTHERS.
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TO HELP HER FIND HER VALUE.
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RIGHT WHERE IT HAD ALWAYS BEEN.
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ON THE INSIDE.
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- A LOT OF PEOPLE CANNOT LAST FIVE MINUTES
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WITHOUT THEIR PHONE. THEY CAN'T PUT IT DOWN.
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THEY CAN'T GET ENOUGH OF IT BECAUSE THEY LIKE THAT
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RUSH OF DOPAMINE EVERY TIME THEY GET A NOTIFICATION.
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AND ONCE I DIDN'T HAVE THAT FOR SIX MONTHS,
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IT MADE ME FOCUS ON MYSELF AND MY MUSIC AND
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CREATIVITY AND HELPED ME SO MUCH.
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I'M NOT CONSTANTLY LOOKING FOR THOSE LIKES,
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OR THOSE COMMENTS, OR THOSE SNAP CHATS,
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OR THOSE TWEETS.
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I'M LOOKING FOR REAL COMMUNICATION.
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I THINK THAT IN REAL LIFE YOU CAN GET THAT A LOT
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BETTER THAN JUST LIKES AND COMMENTS.
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[VIOLIN MUSIC]
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[APPLAUSE]
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- NOT ALL SUICIDAL IMPULSES ARE DRIVEN BY
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BULLYING OR CYBER BULLYING.
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SOME PROBLEMS ARE MORE COMPLEX.
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FOR EXAMPLE, MEET JAMES, A HIGH SCHOOL ATHLETE WHO
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SEEMINGLY HAD IT ALL TOGETHER UNTIL HIS LIFE
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BEGAN SPIRALING OUT OF CONTROL TO THE POINT THAT
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HE ACTUALLY LOST HIS OWN IDENTITY.
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- JAMES: THE OLD JAMES WAS ATHLETIC.
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HE WAS REALLY BIG INTO ICE HOCKEY AND SKATEBOARDING.
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- HE WAS DOING REALLY WELL IN SCHOOL,
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PLAYING ICE HOCKEY, DOING INCREDIBLE THINGS
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AS AN ATHLETE.
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HE HAD SOME UNFORTUNATE INCIDENTS HAPPEN ON ICE
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AND ENDED HIS ABILITY TO PLAY ICE HOCKEY.
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HE HAD SEVERAL CONCUSSIONS.
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THE LAST CONCUSSION THAT HE HAD, HIS SEVENTH
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CONCUSSION, THE DOCTOR SAID THAT HE COULD NEVER
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PLAY AGAIN BECAUSE THERE COULD BE PERMANENT
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COGNITIVE INABILITIES TO LEARN.
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- DOCTORS WERE LIKE THIS IS IT.
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YOU CAN'T KEEP DOING THIS TO YOURSELF.
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YOU'RE GONNA PROBABLY END UP DEAD.
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SO FOR A KID WHOSE WHOLE LIFE REVOLVES AROUND
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THAT, FROM COMING HOME AFTER SCHOOL AND GOING TO
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THE ICE RINK, TO GOING TO THE SKATE PARK, YOU KIND
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OF ARE JUST LIKE ONCE YOU HEAR THAT FROM THE
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DOCTORS, YOU'RE LIKE WHAT DO I DO NOW?
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YOU'VE GOT TO BASICALLY REEVALUATE YOUR WHOLE LIFE.
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- THAT WAS HIS IDENTITY WAS A STAR HOCKEY PLAYER.
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HE FELT LOST.
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HE FELT LOST.
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- JAMES: FRESHMAN YEAR I STARTED CUTTING.
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I GOT REALLY INTO CUTTING.
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I WAS ANGRY.
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I DON'T KNOW WHY BUT I WAS ANGRY AT MYSELF
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FOR SOME REASON.
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THEN THE SUICIDAL THOUGHTS STARTED COMING.
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AND JUST CONSTANTLY HAVING THAT, I STARTED
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GETTING INVOLVED IN DRUGS.
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WEED, PSYCHEDELICS, LSD, MUSHROOMS.
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AND THEY REALLY STARTED TO TAKE HOLD OF MY LIFE.
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- ISOLATED, SEPARATED FROM THE FAMILY, EVEN
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FROM PEOPLE THAT JUST REALLY LOVED HIM, FROM
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FRIENDS THAT HE HAD THAT HE DIDN'T FEEL
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HE HAD THINGS IN COMMON WITH ANYMORE,
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HE HAD ISOLATED HIMSELF FROM.
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EVERYBODY PROBABLY ON THE OUTSIDE WOULD LOOK AT US
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AND SAY OH, THEY'RE SO HAPPY, THEY HAVE IT ALL
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TOGETHER. ON THE OUTSIDE IT LOOKED GREAT.
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ON THE INSIDE IT WAS, THERE WAS A LOT OF
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BROKENNESS AND HURTING FOR JAMES.
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- YOU KNOW, IT'S HEARTBREAKING BECAUSE YOU--
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THIS IS YOUR SON.
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THIS IS YOUR CHILD THAT YOU'VE RAISED YOUR WHOLE
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LIFE, AND SEEING HIM AND THE JOY OF MOMENTS AND
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SHINING STAR PLAYING ICE HOCKEY, TO THE POINT
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WHERE HE'S LOST WHO HE IS, IT'S JUST SO HARD.
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AND SO IT'S JUST HEARTBREAKING AS A
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COUPLE, AND OUR FAITH JUST KIND OF PRESSED IN
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TO PRAYER AND REALLY WANTING TO SEE A
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MIRACLE HAPPEN IN OUR CHILD'S LIFE.
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- JAMES: I WENT OUT ONE DAY TO SMOKE WEED AND CAME
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INSIDE, GOT IN A FIGHT WITH MY BROTHER AND MY
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MOM REVOLVING AROUND DRUGS AND STUFF.
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- JAMES, YOU'RE NOT A DRUG DEALER!
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I BELIEVE IN YOU!
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- SHUT UP! YOU DON'T KNOW WHO I AM!
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- THIS IS NOT WHO YOU ARE.
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I BELIEVE YOUR LIFE IS BETTER THAN THIS.
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TAKE THE STEPS NOW TO BETTER YOUR LIFE.
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COME ON MAN. LET'S GO!
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- JAMES: I THOUGHT IT WAS THE BEST WAY TO COPE.
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IT'S EITHER THIS OR IT'S I'M GONNA KILL MYSELF
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AND I TOOK THAT REALLY SEVERELY.
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THIS FIGHT HAPPENED, I TOOK THE CAR AND I DROVE OFF.
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ON THE WAY HOME, I WAS DRIVING HOME,
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THE SUICIDAL THOUGHTS REALLY CAME OVER ME
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LIKE VERY STRONGLY.
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I WAS LIKE THIS IS IT.
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I JUST KNEW THIS WAS MY TIME.
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I WAS LIKE THIS WAS THE END OF THE LINE.
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SO I JUST WENT STRAIGHT TO MY ROOM, I GRABBED THE
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PILL BOTTLE AND JUST DUMPED WHATEVER WAS LEFT
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IN THE BOTTLE AND THREW IT IN MY HAND, AND I
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PASSED OUT MOMENTS LATER.
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- MOM: IN MY HEART, I JUST KNEW SOMETHING WAS WRONG.
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I WENT IN, KNOCKED ON THE DOOR, HE DIDN'T ANSWER.
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SO I OPENED THE DOOR.
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I SAW THE PILLS NEXT TO HIS BED.
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AND THEN I NOTICED THE CUTS ALL OVER HIS ARMS.
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HE HAD CUT HIMSELF.
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LIKE JUST HIS ARMS WERE JUST BLOODY WITH CUTS.
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- DAD: I GOT A CALL FROM THE EAST COAST FROM MY WIFE
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JULIA AND SHE WAS JUST BROKEN UP.
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SHE WAS SO WRECKED.
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AND SHE SAID I FOUND JAMES IN HIS BEDROOM.
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SHE SAW AN EMPTY BOTTLE OF THE MEDICATION NEXT TO
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HIM, AND THAT SHE RUSHED HIM TO THE HOSPITAL,
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AND THAT SHE BELIEVED THAT HE HAD TRIED
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TO COMMIT SUICIDE.
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- WHAT DO YOU DO AS A MOM?
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I DIDN'T KNOW WHAT TO DO.
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I JUST HELD HIM AND I SAID NO, JAMES.
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I SAID NO.
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WELL, WHEN I GOT TO THE HOSPITAL, THE POLICE WERE
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THERE. IT'S KIND OF A SCARY THING.
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- DAD: HE'S UNDER SECURITY, A WARD OF THE STATE
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BECAUSE HE'S TRIED TO TAKE HIS OWN LIFE.
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- MOM: I DID NOT LEAVE THAT ROOM FOR THREE DAYS.
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I SAT IN THE CORNER OF THE ROOM JUST CRYING AND
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CRYING AND CRYING, AND JUST CRYING OUT TO MY
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GOD IN HEAVEN, AND JUST SAID SAVE MY SON.
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LET HIM KNOW THAT HE'S LOVED.
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LET HIM KNOW THAT HE'S ADORED.
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LET HIM KNOW THAT HE'S A CHILD OF GOD.
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- DAD: AND I WOULD SPEND HOURS LAID OUT ON A FLOOR
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JUST CRYING OUT FOR HIM AND BELIEVING THAT
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GOD WOULD RESCUE HIM.
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AND HE DID. HE DID.
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- MOM: I JUST REMEMBER THAT SEASON OF COMING OUT OF
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THE SUICIDE ATTEMPT JUST REALLY FEELING IN MY
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HEART THAT I JUST NEEDED TO LOVE HIM, JUST REALLY
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EMBRACE HIM AS A SON, AND JUST GO UP TO HIM AND
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GIVE HIM A BIG BEAR HUG.
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- IT WAS A VERY LONG PROCESS RECOVERING AND
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EVERYTHING, AND RECEIVED A LOT OF PRAYER, STARTED
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TALKING TO MY PARENTS MORE, BEING MORE OPEN TO THEM,
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LIKE WITH THE MOODS AND HOW I WAS FEELING AT THE
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TIME AND JUST KEPT HAVING TRYING TO STAY STRONG AND
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HAVE FAITH AND JUST BELIEVE THAT SOMETHING
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BETTER IS GONNA COME.
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AND IT DID.
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EVENTUALLY I FOUND MY GRANDPA'S OLD DIGITAL
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CAMERA AND I JUST PICKED IT UP, TOOK IT OUTSIDE,
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AND I WAS TROMPING THROUGH THE WOODS TAKING
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PHOTOS OF RANDOM THINGS, JUST TRYING TO JUST
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PUT EVERYTHING IN MY PERSPECTIVE.
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I WAS OUT THERE FOR THREE OR FOUR HOURS.
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- ONE DAY I REMEMBER JAMES SAYING MOM, I KNOW
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I CAN'T DO SPORTS ANYMORE, AND HE PICKED UP
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A CAMERA THAT MY DAD, HIS GRANDFATHER GAVE HIM, AND
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HE SAYS I'M JUST GONNA GO OUTSIDE AND EXPLORE.
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HE CAME BACK ONE EVENING AND HE SHOWED US
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THE MOST AMAZING PICTURES.
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- I JUST CAME HOME AND I FELT LIKE HAPPY.
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I HADN'T FELT THAT.
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I WAS SMILING AND I WAS LOOKING BACK THROUGH THE
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PHOTOS, AND I WENT ON MY COMPUTER AND UPLOADED
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THEM AND EDITED THEM.
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I JUST FELT LIKE I HAD SOMETHING AGAIN.
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- AND HE BEGAN TO JUST FLOURISH AS A MUSICIAN,
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HE BEGAN TO FLOURISH IN PHOTOGRAPHY AND TAKE ALL
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KINDS OF REALLY CREATIVE STEPS IN DOING NEW
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AND ADVENTUROUS THINGS.
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- MOM: HE JUST STARTED BELIEVING IN HIMSELF EVEN
00:23:23.280 --> 00:23:26.130
THOUGH HE WAS DIFFERENT, AND HE WASN'T THE
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FOOTBALL PLAYER ANYMORE, THE STAR HOCKEY PLAYER.
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I JUST KEPT TELLING HIM JAMES, WHEN ONE DOOR
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CLOSES, ANOTHER DOOR OPENS.
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I KEPT TELLING HIM THAT.
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I SAID SOMETIMES WE DON'T WANT THIS TO, WE DIDN'T
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WANT THIS TO HAPPEN TO HIM, BUT I KNEW THERE WAS
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A SPARK, THERE WAS A FIRE, THERE WAS IGNITING.
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- THANKFULLY, KATY AND JAMES OVERCAME THEIR
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PROBLEMS AND THEY ARE ALIVE TODAY
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TO TELL THEIR STORY.
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MANY THOUSANDS CANNOT.
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EVEN THOUGH THIS PROBLEM MAY SEEM INSURMOUNTABLE,
00:24:03.150 --> 00:24:05.260
THERE REALLY IS SOMETHING WE ALL CAN DO TOGETHER.
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16 YEAR OLD PATRICK TURNER, ALONE IN HIS ROOM.
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BEFORE PATRICK TOOK HIS LIFE, HE WROTE A NOTE
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CLEARLY ABOUT WHAT WAS ON HIS MIND AT THAT TIME.
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IT'S A NOTE THAT SPEAKS TO SOME OF THESE
00:24:23.180 --> 00:24:26.170
PROBLEMS, BUT IT'S ALSO A NOTE THAT OFFERS SOLUTIONS.
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- DEAR FAMILY AND FRIENDS AND WHOEVER READS THIS.
00:24:31.120 --> 00:24:33.280
THERE IS A KID OUT THERE WHO IS ALONE.
00:24:34.000 --> 00:24:35.200
IT NEVER HURTS TO SIT WITH THEM AND ASK
00:24:35.220 --> 00:24:37.020
HOW THEY'RE DOING.
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NOBODY CAN UNDERSTAND WHAT PEOPLE MIGHT BE
00:24:38.250 --> 00:24:40.150
GOING THROUGH. BE NICE TO EVERYONE.
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AND MOST IMPORTANTLY BE INCLUSIVE.
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- AND IT'S THOSE WORDS THAT DON'T JUST CHANGE
00:24:51.170 --> 00:24:55.150
SCHOOLS BUT THEY CAN CHANGE KIDS, THEY CAN
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CHANGE FAMILIES AND THEY CAN HELP ALL OF US.
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THESE PROBLEMS MAY SEEM INSURMOUNTABLE, BUT MAYBE
00:25:01.020 --> 00:25:03.170
IT'S AS SIMPLE AS LETTING ONE CHILD KNOW THAT
00:25:03.190 --> 00:25:07.080
THEY'RE VALUED, THAT THEY'RE LOVED, AND
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PERHAPS MOST IMPORTANTLY THAT THEY'RE NOT ALONE.
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- SOCIAL MEDIA, I THINK IT'S HAVING A BAD
00:25:15.170 --> 00:25:18.190
INFLUENCE ON PEOPLE RIGHT NOW, BUT WE CAN
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DEFINITELY USE IT TO TELL PEOPLE THAT YOU ARE NOT
00:25:20.160 --> 00:25:23.070
ALONE AND THAT YOU HAVE SOMEONE ELSE.
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THERE ARE LOTS OF PEOPLE LIKE YOU.
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- SO HERE'S WHAT I'M GONNA SUGGEST, AND I KNOW
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THIS IS GONNA SOUND CRAZY, ESPECIALLY TO THE
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MILLENNIAL. YOU'RE GONNA THINK I'M NUTS.
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BUT I'M GONNA SUGGEST THIS.
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LOOK UP.
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LOOK UP FROM THAT DEVICE.
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LOOK UP FROM THAT TABLET.
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LOOK UP FROM LOOKING DOWN.
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LOOK UP. AND LOOK UP AT SOMEONE AND SMILE.
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I KNOW, IT SOUNDS SO SCARY.
00:25:54.130 --> 00:25:55.280
OH, MY GOSH, TO MAKE EYE CONTACT?
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LOOK UP AND SMILE.
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- JAMES: THE SCARS I HAVE ON MY ARM FROM THE CUTTING
00:26:00.250 --> 00:26:02.220
AND THE PAST, I'VE KIND OF JUST LEARNED
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TO EMBRACE THEM.
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I USED TO FEEL SHAME FOR THEM AND I WOULD LOOK AT
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THEM AND WANT TO HIDE THEM.
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I WORE LONG SLEEVES CONSTANTLY AT SCHOOL FOR
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A WHILE BECAUSE I DIDN'T WANT PEOPLE TO SEE THEM
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OR ASK QUESTIONS, BUT I LEARNED TO EMBRACE THEM.
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AND I GOT THIS TATTOO WHICH IT'S JOHN 16:33 AND
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IT SAYS FOR I HAVE TOLD YOU THIS SO THAT IN ME
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YOU MAY HAVE PEACE IN THIS WORLD, THAT THERE
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WILL BE TRIALS AND SORROWS, BUT TAKE HEART,
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I HAVE OVERCOME THE WORLD.
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I'M GETTING ANOTHER TATTOO OF THIS
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JESUS PORTRAIT JUST TO SYMBOLIZE, I'M GONNA PUT
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IT RIGHT OVER ALL THESE SCARS TO SYMBOLIZE THAT
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THROUGH ALL THIS, YOU'RE STILL LOVED.
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I MEAN WHETHER YOU BELIEVE IN JESUS OR NOT.
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YOU'RE LOVED OUT THERE.
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SOMEONE LOVES YOU.
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SOMEONE'S OUT THERE AND YOU MEAN THE WORLD TO THEM.
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SO THERE'S NO REASON FOR YOU TO END IT BECAUSE
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THEY WOULD BE, THEY WOULD BE BROKEN JUST AS
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MUCH AS YOU ARE.
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- JAMES IS LIVING.
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IT'S NOT DOES HE WANT TO.
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HE IS. HE IS.
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HE'S IN THE MOMENT AND HE LOVES PEOPLE.
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HE'S GOT INCREDIBLE FRIENDS.
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HE'S GOT INCREDIBLE COMMUNITY AROUND HIM.
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IT'S JUST BEAUTIFUL.
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IT'S JUST NO LONGER AN ISOLATION,
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A SELF-CENTEREDNESS.
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THERE'S JUST INCREDIBLE, BEAUTIFUL, RECIPROCAL
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RELATIONSHIP NOW.
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- I'M JAMES ALEXANDER ANNIBALE AND I WANT TO LIVE.
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- ANNOUNCER: SUICIDE IS ONE OF THE LEADING CAUSES
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OF PREVENTABLE DEATH IN OUR NATION TODAY.
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BY STARTING THE CONVERSATION, PROVIDING
00:27:35.130 --> 00:27:38.270
SUPPORT AND DIRECTING HELP TO THOSE WHO NEED
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IT, WE CAN PREVENT SUICIDES AND SAVE LIVES.
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UNDERSTANDING THE ISSUES CONCERNING SUICIDE AND
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MENTAL HEALTH IS AN IMPORTANT WAY TO TAKE
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PART IN SUICIDE PREVENTION.
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TO FIND IMMEDIATE HELP,
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CALL THE NATIONAL SUICIDE PREVENTION LIFELINE AT:
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FOR FREE AND CONFIDENTIAL SUPPORT.
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FOR MORE INFORMATION GO TO:
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TOGETHER WE CAN SAVE LIVES.
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