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January 23, 2019
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  • TAKING CARE OF BUSINESS ...
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  • TAKING CARE OF BUSINESS ...
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  • [ MUSIC ]
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  • - KELLY WRIGHT: THE CAMERA, [PICTURES SNAPPING]
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  • ONE OF MANKIND'S INGENIOUS DEVICES HAS
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  • SPAWNED A MULTI-BILLION DOLLAR INDUSTRY
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  • THROUGHOUT THE WORLD.
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  • FOR GENERATIONS NOW, THE PHOTOGRAPH HAS BEEN USED
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  • TO CAPTURE LIFE'S EPIC EVENTS, THE MILESTONES,
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  • THE MOMENTS THAT WE TREASURE.
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  • BUT THAT SIMPLE PHOTO THAT WE CAN TAKE WITH THE
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  • USE OF A SMART PHONE NOW THAT ONCE CREATED A SENSE
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  • OF BELONGING IS NOW TAKING A MUCH DARKER TURN.
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  • MORE AND MORE, THAT FROZEN MOMENT IN TIME IS
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  • USED TO DETERMINE OUR VERY WORTH.
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  • YOU GET THE PICTURE.
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  • [ SMART PHONES BEEPING, DINGING, RINGING ]
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  • - SOCIAL MEDIA MADE ME QUESTION A LOT ABOUT MYSELF.
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  • - KIDS THAT JUST BULLY THEM.
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  • - FRESHMAN YEAR I STARTED CUTTING.
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  • - ONE OF MY BROTHER'S FRIENDS CALLED ME A FAT
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  • B, AND I WAS MAYBE TEN YEARS OLD.
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  • - 4600 KIDS TAKE THEIR LIVES IN THE UNITED
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  • STATES EVERY YEAR.
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  • - I WOULD GET MESSAGES SAYING FOR ME TO
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  • KILL MYSELF.
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  • - MY FIRST THOUGHT OF SUICIDE WAS WHEN I WAS ABOUT 9.
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  • - 157.000 HURT THEMSELVES ENOUGH THEY
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  • END UP IN THE HOSPITALS.
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  • - SOMETIMES KIDS CAN BE REALLY CRUEL.
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  • - YOU'RE GOING TO PROBABLY END UP DEAD.
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  • - THOSE STATISTICS AS HIGH AS THEY ARE, ARE REALLY ONLY
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  • REALLY THE TIP OF THE ICEBERG.
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  • [ MUSIC ]
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  • - SOCIAL MEDIA, CYBER BULLYING AND THE PRESSURE
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  • TO SUCCEED HAS CAUSED A PANDEMIC OF YOUTH SUICIDE
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  • IN THESE UNITED STATES.
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  • [ MUSIC ]
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  • - ABOUT 12 YEARS I STARTED TO SEE MAYBE A
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  • LITTLE BIT OF A PROBLEM WITH THESE LITTLE PHONES
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  • THAT WE WERE HOLDING IN OUR HANDS.
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  • FROM 1990 TO 2007 WE SAW A DECREASE IN DEPRESSION,
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  • ANXIETY, AND SELF HARM, AND SUICIDE.
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  • [ MUSIC ]
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  • - THE BIGGEST INCREASE IS TEENAGERS SKYROCKETING
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  • IN THE LAST FIVE YEARS.
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  • WE HAD A CLUSTER.
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  • WITHIN A 2 WEEK PERIOD, WE HAD 3 YOUNG TEENAGERS,
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  • 13, 14, 16 YEARS OLD TAKE THEIR LIVES.
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  • BUT WHAT WE'RE SEEING NOW IS SOMETHING NEW AND
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  • DIFFERENT, AND THAT'S KIDS WHO ARE HIGHLY
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  • SUCCESSFUL TAKING THEIR LIVES, AND I WANTED TO
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  • FIND OUT WHAT'S GOING ON THERE.
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  • - THERE WAS TWO FAMILIES IN PARTICULAR.
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  • IT WAS UNIMAGINABLE TO ME THAT A 13 YEAR OLD WOULD
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  • TAKE HER LIFE.
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  • EMMA PANGELLANAN, SOFTBALL PHNOM, THE DAY THAT SHE
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  • TOOK HER LIFE SHE HIT SEVERAL HOME RUNS THAT SUNDAY.
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  • [ BALL SNAPS, CHEERS ] AFTER SOFTBALL, SHE AND
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  • HER DAD SHE DROVE HOME SINGING THEIR REGULAR SONGS.
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  • THERE WERE NO SIGNS THAT EMMA WAS GOING TO TAKE
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  • HER LIFE, BUT THAT NIGHT EMMA SNUCK OUT OF THE
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  • HOUSE AND WENT TO A LOCAL PARK, AND ENDED HER LIFE.
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  • HER HEART STOPPED BEATING.
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  • [ MUSIC ]
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  • - THERE WAS ONE YOUNG, I WANT TO SAY MAN BUT HE
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  • WASN'T A MAN.
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  • HE WAS 16 YEARS OLD. HE WAS A BOY.
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  • PATRICK TURNER.
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  • BASEBALL, FOOTBALL PLAYER.
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  • GREAT ATHLETE.
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  • GREAT GUY.
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  • THE KIND OF GUY THAT WOULD HUG YOU IN THE
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  • HALLWAY, THE KIND OF GUY WHO HAD LOTS OF FRIENDS.
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  • PATRICK WROTE A SERIES OF LETTERS ABOUT WHAT WAS
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  • GOING ON WITH HIM.
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  • WHAT HE WAS TALKING ABOUT WAS PRESSURES OF ACADEMIC
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  • PRESSURES THAT GO ON IN SCHOOLS.
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  • - IN ADDITION TO THE INTENSE PRESSURE THAT WE
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  • ARE PUTTING ON OUR CHILDREN THESE DAYS LIKE
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  • GPA'S, GRADE POINT AVERAGES, SAT SCORES, AP
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  • CLASSES, NOT TO MENTION ALL THE PRESSURE TO
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  • PERFORM IN SPORTS AND EXTRACURRICULAR
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  • ACTIVITIES, WELL, NOW ADD A NEW DARK TWIST TO ALL
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  • OF THAT, THE EXPLOSION OF THE INTERNET AND
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  • SOCIAL MEDIA.
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  • IT IS A PERFECT STORM.
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  • - IN 2007, SMART PHONES SPREAD ACROSS
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  • THE COUNTRY.
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  • ON TOP OF THAT, WE'VE GOT SNAP CHAT AND INSTAGRAM
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  • THAT CAME IN IN 2010.
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  • - 2010 SNAP CHAT AND INSTAGRAM ARE LAUNCHED.
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  • PROBABLY A COINCIDENCE.
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  • PROBABLY A COINCIDENCE THESE KIDS ARE SUDDENLY
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  • THRUST WHERE THEY CAN COMPARE AND CONTRAST TO
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  • ALL OF THEIR PEERS ON A LEVEL LIKE WE'VE NEVER
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  • SEEN BEFORE.
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  • IT'S HARD ENOUGH TO BE A TEENAGER.
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  • IT'S HARD ENOUGH TO BE COMPARING AND CONTRASTING
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  • YOURSELF WITH SUPER MODELS AND ACTORS, BUT
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  • IMAGINE HAVING TO COMPARE YOURSELF WITH THE
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  • FILTERED PICTURES OF YOUR PEERS WHO ARE ONLY
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  • PROMOTING THEMSELVES AND PUTTING FORTH THEIR BEST
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  • ONLINE DIGITAL PRESENCE.
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  • [ BUZZING ] AND NOW WE HAVE GIVEN THEM THIS
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  • DIGITAL PLAYGROUND, AND IT CAN BE VERY, VERY,
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  • VERY MEAN.
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  • AND SOME OF THE STUFF THAT'S GOING ON WITH
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  • CYBER BULLYING WHICH IS MY RESEARCH NOW IS
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  • TERRIFYING, AND YOU WOULD NEVER BELIEVE THAT KIDS
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  • WOULD BE CAPABLE OF THIS, BUT THEY ARE.
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  • - BULLYING HAS BEEN A PROBLEM SINCE THE DAWN OF
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  • TIME, BUT WHEN THE BULLYING IS NO LONGER
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  • CONFINED TO A HANDFUL OF FRIENDS ON A SMALL
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  • PLAYGROUND OR IN A CLASSROOM, WELL, THAT
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  • KIND OF BULLYING BECOMES PUBLIC ON SOCIAL MEDIA,
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  • AND THEN IT BECOMES GLOBAL.
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  • IS THERE ANY WONDER THINGS GO REAL DARK
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  • REAL FAST?
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  • [ MUSIC ]
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  • - MY HIGH SCHOOL EXPERIENCE WAS NOT A WALK
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  • IN THE PARK.
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  • MY PARENTS GOT DIVORCED WHEN I WAS IN MIDDLE
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  • SCHOOL, AND I HAVE ADHD SO I WAS A BIG TARGET FOR
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  • KIDS MY AGE.
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  • SOCIAL MEDIA MADE ME QUESTION A LOT ABOUT
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  • MYSELF, ALL THAT TERRIBLE STUFF, AND VIEWING OTHER
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  • PEOPLE AS BEING PERFECT AND SEEING THEIR LIFE AS
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  • PERFECT DEFINITELY WARPED MYSELF ESTEEM, AND THE
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  • MESSAGES THAT WE'D GET AND HATE COMMENTS THAT
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  • PEOPLE WOULD GET INCLUDING MYSELF WERE
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  • BRUTAL AND MADE ME FEEL REALLY INSECURE ABOUT
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  • MYSELF AND HATE MYSELF, AND THAT'S WHAT LED ME TO
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  • MY DEPRESSION AND MY ANXIETY.
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  • SOME THINGS THAT GOT COMMUNICATED TO ME WAS
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  • THAT I WAS FAT.
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  • THAT WAS A BIG THING, THAT I WAS UGLY, SO THEY
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  • REALLY TRIED TO HIT AS CLOSE TO HOME
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  • AS POSSIBLE.
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  • - BECAUSE KATIE'S FRIENDS WERE SO CRUEL TO
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  • HER, SHE FOUND NEW FRIENDS, MUCH OLDER
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  • FRIENDS, AND THEY LOOKED AT KATIE AS SOMEONE THEY
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  • COULD MANIPULATE.
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  • ONE NIGHT THEY GOT KATIE DRUNK, AND A HIGH
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  • SCHOOLBOY SEXUALLY ASSAULTED HER.
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  • BY THE WAY, DID I MENTION KATIE WAS JUST 13?
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  • - I WAS INFLUENCED HEAVILY BY THEIR
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  • ACTIONS, AND I DID NOT KNOW THAT IT WASN'T
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  • NORMAL FOR THEM TO HAND ME HALF A BOTTLE OF VODKA
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  • AND THAT YOU SHOULD DRINK ALL OF IT.
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  • I HAD NO EXPERIENCE PREVIOUSLY OF DRINKING.
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  • AND THEY SAID, OH, YEAH, YOU SHOULD DRINK ALL OF IT.
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  • IT WAS PEER PRESSURE.
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  • I REALIZED THAT I WAS ONLY ONE WHO WAS DRINKING.
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  • - I DIDN'T HAVE ANY IDEA ABOUT WHAT'S HAPPENING ON
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  • SOCIAL MEDIA OR AT SCHOOL, AND IT WAS
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  • BECAUSE SHE WASN'T COMING TO ME AND TELLING ME
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  • ABOUT IT.
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  • - I WAS TAKEN ADVANTAGE OF AT A PARTY
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  • BY A LOCAL FOOTBALL PLAYER AT THE HIGH SCHOOL.
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  • AND IT WAS POSTED ON SOCIAL MEDIA.
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  • BUT I GOTTA APPROACHED BECAUSE OF THAT VIDEO
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  • BEING SPREAD BOTH RANDOM PEOPLE THAT I'VE NEVER
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  • TALKED TO BEFORE, AND THEY'RE LIKE OH, I HEAR
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  • YOU MESS WITH HIGH SCHOOL GUYS.
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  • WON'T YOU MESS WITH US?
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  • - THE DAY SHE GOT ASSAULTED SHE LIED TO ME
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  • ABOUT WHAT HAPPENED.
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  • THE KID THAT WOUND UP ASSAULTING HER ACTUALLY
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  • SHOOK MY HAND.
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  • IT WAS OUT OF THE EYE LINE OF THE PARENTS.
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  • THE PARENTS DIDN'T KNOW WHAT WAS GOING ON.
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  • - I WOULD GET DEATH THREATS.
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  • IN-PERSON I EVEN GOT A DEATH THREAT IN MY
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  • LOCKER, AND THE MESSAGES WERE JUST BRUTAL
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  • REGARDING THAT TELLING ME I SHOULD KILL MYSELF, AND
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  • IT WAS BRUTAL.
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  • YEAH, AND THAT LED ME TO A VERY DEEP DARK
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  • RABBIT HOLE.
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  • - A LOT OF THE PEOPLE WHO WERE THREATENING HER
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  • LIFE AND SAYING ALL THESE HORRIBLE THINGS TO HER
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  • WERE PEOPLE THAT HAD BEEN TO MY HOUSE, THAT HAD
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  • COME TO TO A BIRTHDAY PARTY THAT SHE CALLED HER
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  • FRIENDS, YOU KNOW.
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  • I KNEW SHE WAS DEPRESSED AND GOING
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  • THROUGH SOMETHING.
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  • I DIDN'T EVER -- IT DIDN'T EVER OCCUR TO ME THAT
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  • SELF-HARM OR SUICIDE WAS SOMETHING THAT SHE
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  • WAS CONSIDERING.
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  • SHE'S A GREAT MUSICIAN.
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  • SHE PLAYED AT CARNEGIE HALL A COUPLE OF TIMES.
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  • COMPARED TO ALL THE GREAT THINGS SHE HAD GOING ON
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  • IN HER LIFE COULD HAVE ONLY BEEN COMING FROM
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  • SOME KIND OF EXTERNAL PLACE.
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  • IT COULDN'T HAVE BEEN COMING FROM HER AND HER
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  • OWN SELF WORTH BASED ON HER OWN ABILITIES BECAUSE
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  • HER ABILITIES WERE GREAT.
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  • [ VIOLIN MUSIC ]
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  • - I FELT THAT WAS MY ONLY WAY OF ESCAPING.
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  • AT ONE POINT THIS GIRL SAW MY SCARS AND
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  • EVERYTHING, AND SHE TOLD THE SCHOOL ABOUT IT, AND
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  • THE SCHOOL MADE ME SIGN A RELEASE AND EVERYTHING
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  • NOT TO DO IT AGAIN.
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  • WHATEVER.
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  • BUT I REMEMBER WHEN I GOT HOME MY MOM WAS LIKE OH,
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  • YOU DIDN'T DO THAT, RIGHT?
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  • AND THEN YOU GUYS CHECKED MY ARMS.
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  • THEY CHECKED MY ARMS, BUT THEY DIDN'T THINK TO
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  • CHECK RIGHT HERE, SO IT DIDN'T LOOK THAT BAD.
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  • YOU GUYS SENT ME TO THERAPY AND IT DIDN'T
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  • DO ANYTHING.
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  • I WAS CONVINCED THAT THE ADULTS AROUND ME COULDN'T
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  • HELP AND THAT I NEEDED TO WORK ON IT MYSELF, SO I
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  • DIDN'T REACH OUT FOR THAT.
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  • [ VOICE BREAKING ] AND SO I LIED TO THEM AND I SAID
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  • THAT I WAS JUST DOING IT FOR ATTENTION, BUT I SAID
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  • THAT SO THAT THEY COULD SEE ME AS OH, LITTLE
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  • BLONDE GIRL WAS UPSET ABOUT LIVING IN HER
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  • LITTLE HOUSE IN THE PALISADES NOT GETTING
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  • ENOUGH ATTENTION.
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  • OH, SHE'S FINE.
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  • BUT I DID HAVE THOSE PROBLEMS, AND I WAS
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  • CONSTANTLY ANXIOUS BEING AROUND IN SCHOOL, BEING
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  • AROUND THE PEOPLE THAT PUT ME THROUGH ALL THAT,
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  • WALKING BY ANYONE WITH BLONDE HAIR AND A BEARD I
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  • WOULD FREAK OUT IN THE HALLWAY AND I WOULD HAVE
  • 00:12:09.130 --> 00:12:12.100
  • A PANIC ATTACK AND I WOULD HAVE TO RUN AWAY
  • 00:12:12.120 --> 00:12:13.240
  • AND GO TO A RANDOM BATHROOM AND CRY.
  • 00:12:13.260 --> 00:12:17.190
  • I DIDN'T FEEL SAFE IN MY SCHOOL.
  • 00:12:17.210 --> 00:12:20.180
  • I DIDN'T FEEL SAFE AROUND ANYONE.
  • 00:12:20.200 --> 00:12:23.160
  • - YOU KNOW WHAT IT REMINDS ME OF?
  • 00:12:23.180 --> 00:12:24.200
  • IT REMINDS ME OF LORD OF THE FLIES.
  • 00:12:24.220 --> 00:12:26.030
  • THE ONLINE ENVIRONMENT IS LIKE A BUNCH OF
  • 00:12:26.050 --> 00:12:28.290
  • CHILDREN THAT ARE SUDDENLY WITHOUT ADULT
  • 00:12:29.010 --> 00:12:30.280
  • SUPERVISION, AND THEY TURN TO THEIR ANIMAL
  • 00:12:31.000 --> 00:12:34.250
  • NATURE, AND THEY WIND UP TURNING INTO THESE LITTLE
  • 00:12:34.270 --> 00:12:37.140
  • BEASTS WHO RIP EACH OTHER APART.
  • 00:12:37.160 --> 00:12:39.260
  • - WE GAVE OSTENSIBLY IN MY OPINION THE MOST
  • 00:12:39.280 --> 00:12:42.200
  • POWERFUL TOOL WE COULD HAVE EVER INVENTED THUS
  • 00:12:42.220 --> 00:12:45.230
  • FAR TO KIDS.
  • 00:12:45.250 --> 00:12:48.200
  • WE DON'T GET IT.
  • 00:12:48.220 --> 00:12:50.270
  • WE DIDN'T EVEN MONITOR IT.
  • 00:12:50.290 --> 00:12:52.050
  • WE DIDN'T EVEN KNOW WHAT THEY WERE DOING, AND WE
  • 00:12:52.070 --> 00:12:53.220
  • JUST LET THEM DEVELOP AND PLAY, AND WE'RE WONDERING
  • 00:12:53.240 --> 00:12:57.240
  • WHY IT'S SUDDENLY IN SOME CASES HAVE BECOME DIGITAL
  • 00:12:57.260 --> 00:13:01.290
  • LORD OF THE FLIES?
  • 00:13:02.010 --> 00:13:05.060
  • WHY WOULD IT NOT?
  • 00:13:05.080 --> 00:13:07.130
  • WOULD YOU GIVE A SET OF POWER TOOLS TO KIDS
  • 00:13:07.150 --> 00:13:09.140
  • WITH NO DIRECTIONS?
  • 00:13:09.160 --> 00:13:10.280
  • SAY HEY, JUST PLAY WITH THESE KIDS, AND EXPECT
  • 00:13:11.000 --> 00:13:12.140
  • THAT TO BE -- THERE'S GOING TO BE BLOOD.
  • 00:13:12.160 --> 00:13:18.010
  • AND THERE'S ALWAYS GOING TO BE A RALPH, AND
  • 00:13:18.030 --> 00:13:20.230
  • THERE'S ALWAYS GOING TO BE A PIGGY, AND THERE'S
  • 00:13:20.250 --> 00:13:23.040
  • ALWAYS GOING TO BE A JACK BECAUSE THAT'S HOW
  • 00:13:23.060 --> 00:13:25.120
  • KIDS ROLL.
  • 00:13:25.140 --> 00:13:26.200
  • GO TO ANY PLAYGROUND.
  • 00:13:26.220 --> 00:13:29.180
  • - YOU KNOW, YOU'RE KIND OF HELPLESS AS A PARENT.
  • 00:13:29.200 --> 00:13:31.150
  • THAT'S WHY I THINK THERE NEEDS TO BE A PARENTS'
  • 00:13:31.170 --> 00:13:33.260
  • BILL OF RIGHTS.
  • 00:13:33.280 --> 00:13:35.170
  • I THINK FOR THESE TECHNOLOGY COMPANIES TO
  • 00:13:35.190 --> 00:13:38.000
  • THROW THESE THINGS OUT THERE THAT DON'T HAVE ANY
  • 00:13:38.020 --> 00:13:40.100
  • KIND OF LIMITS ON PEOPLE'S ABILITY.
  • 00:13:40.120 --> 00:13:45.190
  • AND I'M A BIG PROPONENT OF THE FIRST AMENDMENT,
  • 00:13:45.210 --> 00:13:49.010
  • BUT LIKE I SAID, JUST THE ABILITY FOR A PARENT TO
  • 00:13:49.030 --> 00:13:52.150
  • TURN OFF THEIR KIDS' PHONE IF THEIR KID IS
  • 00:13:52.170 --> 00:13:54.180
  • ACTING OUT OR DOING SOMETHING THAT THEY
  • 00:13:54.200 --> 00:13:57.050
  • SHOULDN'T BE DOING, THAT SHOULD BE LIKE SEAT BELTS.
  • 00:13:57.070 --> 00:14:00.090
  • THAT SHOULD BE SOMETHING THAT DOESN'T, THAT ISN'T
  • 00:14:00.110 --> 00:14:04.230
  • EVEN A CHOICE FOR THE TECHNOLOGY COMPANIES.
  • 00:14:04.250 --> 00:14:07.100
  • [VIOLIN MUSIC]
  • 00:14:07.120 --> 00:14:13.150
  • - HE TOOK ALL OF HER DEVICES AWAY FOR SIX MONTHS.
  • 00:14:13.170 --> 00:14:17.080
  • TO WEAN HER FROM THE APPROVAL AND JUDGMENT OF OTHERS.
  • 00:14:17.100 --> 00:14:21.250
  • TO HELP HER FIND HER VALUE.
  • 00:14:21.270 --> 00:14:24.090
  • RIGHT WHERE IT HAD ALWAYS BEEN.
  • 00:14:24.110 --> 00:14:27.060
  • ON THE INSIDE.
  • 00:14:27.080 --> 00:14:29.210
  • - A LOT OF PEOPLE CANNOT LAST FIVE MINUTES
  • 00:14:29.230 --> 00:14:31.240
  • WITHOUT THEIR PHONE. THEY CAN'T PUT IT DOWN.
  • 00:14:31.260 --> 00:14:34.100
  • THEY CAN'T GET ENOUGH OF IT BECAUSE THEY LIKE THAT
  • 00:14:34.120 --> 00:14:37.080
  • RUSH OF DOPAMINE EVERY TIME THEY GET A NOTIFICATION.
  • 00:14:37.100 --> 00:14:40.220
  • AND ONCE I DIDN'T HAVE THAT FOR SIX MONTHS,
  • 00:14:40.240 --> 00:14:43.290
  • IT MADE ME FOCUS ON MYSELF AND MY MUSIC AND
  • 00:14:44.010 --> 00:14:50.170
  • CREATIVITY AND HELPED ME SO MUCH.
  • 00:14:50.190 --> 00:14:54.200
  • I'M NOT CONSTANTLY LOOKING FOR THOSE LIKES,
  • 00:14:54.220 --> 00:14:58.130
  • OR THOSE COMMENTS, OR THOSE SNAP CHATS,
  • 00:14:58.150 --> 00:15:00.160
  • OR THOSE TWEETS.
  • 00:15:00.180 --> 00:15:02.120
  • I'M LOOKING FOR REAL COMMUNICATION.
  • 00:15:02.140 --> 00:15:04.220
  • I THINK THAT IN REAL LIFE YOU CAN GET THAT A LOT
  • 00:15:04.240 --> 00:15:08.200
  • BETTER THAN JUST LIKES AND COMMENTS.
  • 00:15:08.220 --> 00:15:13.140
  • [VIOLIN MUSIC]
  • 00:15:13.160 --> 00:15:19.110
  • [APPLAUSE]
  • 00:15:19.130 --> 00:15:24.220
  • - NOT ALL SUICIDAL IMPULSES ARE DRIVEN BY
  • 00:15:24.240 --> 00:15:27.090
  • BULLYING OR CYBER BULLYING.
  • 00:15:27.110 --> 00:15:29.110
  • SOME PROBLEMS ARE MORE COMPLEX.
  • 00:15:29.130 --> 00:15:32.000
  • FOR EXAMPLE, MEET JAMES, A HIGH SCHOOL ATHLETE WHO
  • 00:15:32.020 --> 00:15:34.250
  • SEEMINGLY HAD IT ALL TOGETHER UNTIL HIS LIFE
  • 00:15:34.270 --> 00:15:38.070
  • BEGAN SPIRALING OUT OF CONTROL TO THE POINT THAT
  • 00:15:38.090 --> 00:15:41.120
  • HE ACTUALLY LOST HIS OWN IDENTITY.
  • 00:15:41.140 --> 00:15:45.200
  • - JAMES: THE OLD JAMES WAS ATHLETIC.
  • 00:15:45.220 --> 00:15:48.050
  • HE WAS REALLY BIG INTO ICE HOCKEY AND SKATEBOARDING.
  • 00:15:48.070 --> 00:15:52.150
  • - HE WAS DOING REALLY WELL IN SCHOOL,
  • 00:15:52.170 --> 00:15:55.000
  • PLAYING ICE HOCKEY, DOING INCREDIBLE THINGS
  • 00:15:55.020 --> 00:15:57.280
  • AS AN ATHLETE.
  • 00:15:58.000 --> 00:15:59.280
  • HE HAD SOME UNFORTUNATE INCIDENTS HAPPEN ON ICE
  • 00:16:00.020 --> 00:16:03.060
  • AND ENDED HIS ABILITY TO PLAY ICE HOCKEY.
  • 00:16:03.080 --> 00:16:05.190
  • HE HAD SEVERAL CONCUSSIONS.
  • 00:16:05.210 --> 00:16:07.070
  • THE LAST CONCUSSION THAT HE HAD, HIS SEVENTH
  • 00:16:07.090 --> 00:16:09.080
  • CONCUSSION, THE DOCTOR SAID THAT HE COULD NEVER
  • 00:16:09.100 --> 00:16:12.110
  • PLAY AGAIN BECAUSE THERE COULD BE PERMANENT
  • 00:16:12.130 --> 00:16:15.040
  • COGNITIVE INABILITIES TO LEARN.
  • 00:16:15.060 --> 00:16:18.250
  • - DOCTORS WERE LIKE THIS IS IT.
  • 00:16:18.270 --> 00:16:21.230
  • YOU CAN'T KEEP DOING THIS TO YOURSELF.
  • 00:16:21.250 --> 00:16:24.120
  • YOU'RE GONNA PROBABLY END UP DEAD.
  • 00:16:24.140 --> 00:16:26.270
  • SO FOR A KID WHOSE WHOLE LIFE REVOLVES AROUND
  • 00:16:26.290 --> 00:16:29.200
  • THAT, FROM COMING HOME AFTER SCHOOL AND GOING TO
  • 00:16:29.220 --> 00:16:32.040
  • THE ICE RINK, TO GOING TO THE SKATE PARK, YOU KIND
  • 00:16:32.060 --> 00:16:34.150
  • OF ARE JUST LIKE ONCE YOU HEAR THAT FROM THE
  • 00:16:34.170 --> 00:16:36.060
  • DOCTORS, YOU'RE LIKE WHAT DO I DO NOW?
  • 00:16:36.080 --> 00:16:38.040
  • YOU'VE GOT TO BASICALLY REEVALUATE YOUR WHOLE LIFE.
  • 00:16:38.060 --> 00:16:40.270
  • - THAT WAS HIS IDENTITY WAS A STAR HOCKEY PLAYER.
  • 00:16:40.290 --> 00:16:43.260
  • HE FELT LOST.
  • 00:16:43.280 --> 00:16:48.280
  • HE FELT LOST.
  • 00:16:49.000 --> 00:16:52.120
  • - JAMES: FRESHMAN YEAR I STARTED CUTTING.
  • 00:16:52.140 --> 00:16:55.220
  • I GOT REALLY INTO CUTTING.
  • 00:16:55.240 --> 00:16:57.130
  • I WAS ANGRY.
  • 00:16:57.150 --> 00:16:58.260
  • I DON'T KNOW WHY BUT I WAS ANGRY AT MYSELF
  • 00:16:58.280 --> 00:17:00.080
  • FOR SOME REASON.
  • 00:17:00.100 --> 00:17:01.160
  • THEN THE SUICIDAL THOUGHTS STARTED COMING.
  • 00:17:01.180 --> 00:17:03.180
  • AND JUST CONSTANTLY HAVING THAT, I STARTED
  • 00:17:03.200 --> 00:17:05.210
  • GETTING INVOLVED IN DRUGS.
  • 00:17:05.230 --> 00:17:07.160
  • WEED, PSYCHEDELICS, LSD, MUSHROOMS.
  • 00:17:07.180 --> 00:17:11.090
  • AND THEY REALLY STARTED TO TAKE HOLD OF MY LIFE.
  • 00:17:11.110 --> 00:17:15.170
  • - ISOLATED, SEPARATED FROM THE FAMILY, EVEN
  • 00:17:15.190 --> 00:17:18.290
  • FROM PEOPLE THAT JUST REALLY LOVED HIM, FROM
  • 00:17:19.010 --> 00:17:22.230
  • FRIENDS THAT HE HAD THAT HE DIDN'T FEEL
  • 00:17:22.250 --> 00:17:25.250
  • HE HAD THINGS IN COMMON WITH ANYMORE,
  • 00:17:25.270 --> 00:17:28.010
  • HE HAD ISOLATED HIMSELF FROM.
  • 00:17:28.030 --> 00:17:29.240
  • EVERYBODY PROBABLY ON THE OUTSIDE WOULD LOOK AT US
  • 00:17:29.260 --> 00:17:32.010
  • AND SAY OH, THEY'RE SO HAPPY, THEY HAVE IT ALL
  • 00:17:32.030 --> 00:17:34.040
  • TOGETHER. ON THE OUTSIDE IT LOOKED GREAT.
  • 00:17:34.060 --> 00:17:36.170
  • ON THE INSIDE IT WAS, THERE WAS A LOT OF
  • 00:17:36.190 --> 00:17:38.290
  • BROKENNESS AND HURTING FOR JAMES.
  • 00:17:39.010 --> 00:17:41.030
  • - YOU KNOW, IT'S HEARTBREAKING BECAUSE YOU--
  • 00:17:41.050 --> 00:17:44.000
  • THIS IS YOUR SON.
  • 00:17:44.020 --> 00:17:47.080
  • THIS IS YOUR CHILD THAT YOU'VE RAISED YOUR WHOLE
  • 00:17:47.100 --> 00:17:50.240
  • LIFE, AND SEEING HIM AND THE JOY OF MOMENTS AND
  • 00:17:50.260 --> 00:17:54.000
  • SHINING STAR PLAYING ICE HOCKEY, TO THE POINT
  • 00:17:54.020 --> 00:17:57.080
  • WHERE HE'S LOST WHO HE IS, IT'S JUST SO HARD.
  • 00:17:57.100 --> 00:18:02.090
  • AND SO IT'S JUST HEARTBREAKING AS A
  • 00:18:02.110 --> 00:18:07.010
  • COUPLE, AND OUR FAITH JUST KIND OF PRESSED IN
  • 00:18:07.030 --> 00:18:10.040
  • TO PRAYER AND REALLY WANTING TO SEE A
  • 00:18:10.060 --> 00:18:14.080
  • MIRACLE HAPPEN IN OUR CHILD'S LIFE.
  • 00:18:14.100 --> 00:18:17.020
  • - JAMES: I WENT OUT ONE DAY TO SMOKE WEED AND CAME
  • 00:18:17.040 --> 00:18:21.060
  • INSIDE, GOT IN A FIGHT WITH MY BROTHER AND MY
  • 00:18:21.080 --> 00:18:23.140
  • MOM REVOLVING AROUND DRUGS AND STUFF.
  • 00:18:23.160 --> 00:18:27.030
  • - JAMES, YOU'RE NOT A DRUG DEALER!
  • 00:18:27.050 --> 00:18:28.240
  • I BELIEVE IN YOU!
  • 00:18:28.260 --> 00:18:30.120
  • - SHUT UP! YOU DON'T KNOW WHO I AM!
  • 00:18:30.140 --> 00:18:31.240
  • - THIS IS NOT WHO YOU ARE.
  • 00:18:31.260 --> 00:18:34.070
  • I BELIEVE YOUR LIFE IS BETTER THAN THIS.
  • 00:18:34.090 --> 00:18:36.100
  • TAKE THE STEPS NOW TO BETTER YOUR LIFE.
  • 00:18:36.120 --> 00:18:39.040
  • COME ON MAN. LET'S GO!
  • 00:18:39.060 --> 00:18:40.230
  • - JAMES: I THOUGHT IT WAS THE BEST WAY TO COPE.
  • 00:18:40.250 --> 00:18:43.220
  • IT'S EITHER THIS OR IT'S I'M GONNA KILL MYSELF
  • 00:18:43.240 --> 00:18:47.250
  • AND I TOOK THAT REALLY SEVERELY.
  • 00:18:47.270 --> 00:18:50.160
  • THIS FIGHT HAPPENED, I TOOK THE CAR AND I DROVE OFF.
  • 00:18:50.180 --> 00:18:54.270
  • ON THE WAY HOME, I WAS DRIVING HOME,
  • 00:18:54.290 --> 00:18:57.080
  • THE SUICIDAL THOUGHTS REALLY CAME OVER ME
  • 00:18:57.100 --> 00:18:59.200
  • LIKE VERY STRONGLY.
  • 00:18:59.220 --> 00:19:01.060
  • I WAS LIKE THIS IS IT.
  • 00:19:01.080 --> 00:19:02.200
  • I JUST KNEW THIS WAS MY TIME.
  • 00:19:02.220 --> 00:19:05.050
  • I WAS LIKE THIS WAS THE END OF THE LINE.
  • 00:19:05.070 --> 00:19:07.270
  • SO I JUST WENT STRAIGHT TO MY ROOM, I GRABBED THE
  • 00:19:07.290 --> 00:19:10.000
  • PILL BOTTLE AND JUST DUMPED WHATEVER WAS LEFT
  • 00:19:10.020 --> 00:19:13.000
  • IN THE BOTTLE AND THREW IT IN MY HAND, AND I
  • 00:19:13.020 --> 00:19:15.090
  • PASSED OUT MOMENTS LATER.
  • 00:19:15.110 --> 00:19:18.110
  • - MOM: IN MY HEART, I JUST KNEW SOMETHING WAS WRONG.
  • 00:19:18.130 --> 00:19:21.060
  • I WENT IN, KNOCKED ON THE DOOR, HE DIDN'T ANSWER.
  • 00:19:21.080 --> 00:19:25.100
  • SO I OPENED THE DOOR.
  • 00:19:25.120 --> 00:19:27.010
  • I SAW THE PILLS NEXT TO HIS BED.
  • 00:19:27.030 --> 00:19:30.160
  • AND THEN I NOTICED THE CUTS ALL OVER HIS ARMS.
  • 00:19:30.180 --> 00:19:35.020
  • HE HAD CUT HIMSELF.
  • 00:19:35.040 --> 00:19:37.260
  • LIKE JUST HIS ARMS WERE JUST BLOODY WITH CUTS.
  • 00:19:37.280 --> 00:19:44.100
  • - DAD: I GOT A CALL FROM THE EAST COAST FROM MY WIFE
  • 00:19:46.210 --> 00:19:49.270
  • JULIA AND SHE WAS JUST BROKEN UP.
  • 00:19:49.290 --> 00:19:54.260
  • SHE WAS SO WRECKED.
  • 00:19:54.280 --> 00:19:56.140
  • AND SHE SAID I FOUND JAMES IN HIS BEDROOM.
  • 00:19:56.160 --> 00:20:00.080
  • SHE SAW AN EMPTY BOTTLE OF THE MEDICATION NEXT TO
  • 00:20:00.100 --> 00:20:03.230
  • HIM, AND THAT SHE RUSHED HIM TO THE HOSPITAL,
  • 00:20:03.250 --> 00:20:06.250
  • AND THAT SHE BELIEVED THAT HE HAD TRIED
  • 00:20:06.270 --> 00:20:09.220
  • TO COMMIT SUICIDE.
  • 00:20:09.240 --> 00:20:11.290
  • - WHAT DO YOU DO AS A MOM?
  • 00:20:12.010 --> 00:20:16.230
  • I DIDN'T KNOW WHAT TO DO.
  • 00:20:20.040 --> 00:20:22.070
  • I JUST HELD HIM AND I SAID NO, JAMES.
  • 00:20:22.090 --> 00:20:27.150
  • I SAID NO.
  • 00:20:27.170 --> 00:20:30.100
  • WELL, WHEN I GOT TO THE HOSPITAL, THE POLICE WERE
  • 00:20:31.130 --> 00:20:35.050
  • THERE. IT'S KIND OF A SCARY THING.
  • 00:20:35.070 --> 00:20:38.190
  • - DAD: HE'S UNDER SECURITY, A WARD OF THE STATE
  • 00:20:38.210 --> 00:20:42.150
  • BECAUSE HE'S TRIED TO TAKE HIS OWN LIFE.
  • 00:20:42.170 --> 00:20:44.170
  • - MOM: I DID NOT LEAVE THAT ROOM FOR THREE DAYS.
  • 00:20:44.190 --> 00:20:47.090
  • I SAT IN THE CORNER OF THE ROOM JUST CRYING AND
  • 00:20:47.110 --> 00:20:51.160
  • CRYING AND CRYING, AND JUST CRYING OUT TO MY
  • 00:20:51.180 --> 00:20:56.070
  • GOD IN HEAVEN, AND JUST SAID SAVE MY SON.
  • 00:20:56.090 --> 00:21:01.080
  • LET HIM KNOW THAT HE'S LOVED.
  • 00:21:01.100 --> 00:21:04.130
  • LET HIM KNOW THAT HE'S ADORED.
  • 00:21:04.150 --> 00:21:06.160
  • LET HIM KNOW THAT HE'S A CHILD OF GOD.
  • 00:21:06.180 --> 00:21:11.180
  • - DAD: AND I WOULD SPEND HOURS LAID OUT ON A FLOOR
  • 00:21:11.200 --> 00:21:16.120
  • JUST CRYING OUT FOR HIM AND BELIEVING THAT
  • 00:21:16.140 --> 00:21:21.110
  • GOD WOULD RESCUE HIM.
  • 00:21:21.130 --> 00:21:24.180
  • AND HE DID. HE DID.
  • 00:21:28.150 --> 00:21:32.120
  • - MOM: I JUST REMEMBER THAT SEASON OF COMING OUT OF
  • 00:21:34.020 --> 00:21:36.290
  • THE SUICIDE ATTEMPT JUST REALLY FEELING IN MY
  • 00:21:37.010 --> 00:21:40.000
  • HEART THAT I JUST NEEDED TO LOVE HIM, JUST REALLY
  • 00:21:40.020 --> 00:21:43.010
  • EMBRACE HIM AS A SON, AND JUST GO UP TO HIM AND
  • 00:21:43.030 --> 00:21:47.000
  • GIVE HIM A BIG BEAR HUG.
  • 00:21:47.020 --> 00:21:49.100
  • - IT WAS A VERY LONG PROCESS RECOVERING AND
  • 00:21:49.120 --> 00:21:52.140
  • EVERYTHING, AND RECEIVED A LOT OF PRAYER, STARTED
  • 00:21:52.160 --> 00:21:55.230
  • TALKING TO MY PARENTS MORE, BEING MORE OPEN TO THEM,
  • 00:21:55.250 --> 00:21:58.150
  • LIKE WITH THE MOODS AND HOW I WAS FEELING AT THE
  • 00:21:58.170 --> 00:22:02.080
  • TIME AND JUST KEPT HAVING TRYING TO STAY STRONG AND
  • 00:22:02.100 --> 00:22:07.140
  • HAVE FAITH AND JUST BELIEVE THAT SOMETHING
  • 00:22:07.160 --> 00:22:10.290
  • BETTER IS GONNA COME.
  • 00:22:11.010 --> 00:22:12.190
  • AND IT DID.
  • 00:22:12.210 --> 00:22:14.240
  • EVENTUALLY I FOUND MY GRANDPA'S OLD DIGITAL
  • 00:22:14.260 --> 00:22:19.110
  • CAMERA AND I JUST PICKED IT UP, TOOK IT OUTSIDE,
  • 00:22:19.130 --> 00:22:22.240
  • AND I WAS TROMPING THROUGH THE WOODS TAKING
  • 00:22:22.260 --> 00:22:25.070
  • PHOTOS OF RANDOM THINGS, JUST TRYING TO JUST
  • 00:22:25.090 --> 00:22:28.150
  • PUT EVERYTHING IN MY PERSPECTIVE.
  • 00:22:28.170 --> 00:22:32.110
  • I WAS OUT THERE FOR THREE OR FOUR HOURS.
  • 00:22:32.130 --> 00:22:36.130
  • - ONE DAY I REMEMBER JAMES SAYING MOM, I KNOW
  • 00:22:36.150 --> 00:22:38.100
  • I CAN'T DO SPORTS ANYMORE, AND HE PICKED UP
  • 00:22:38.120 --> 00:22:42.190
  • A CAMERA THAT MY DAD, HIS GRANDFATHER GAVE HIM, AND
  • 00:22:42.210 --> 00:22:47.120
  • HE SAYS I'M JUST GONNA GO OUTSIDE AND EXPLORE.
  • 00:22:47.140 --> 00:22:49.190
  • HE CAME BACK ONE EVENING AND HE SHOWED US
  • 00:22:49.210 --> 00:22:53.190
  • THE MOST AMAZING PICTURES.
  • 00:22:53.210 --> 00:22:55.180
  • - I JUST CAME HOME AND I FELT LIKE HAPPY.
  • 00:22:55.200 --> 00:22:57.280
  • I HADN'T FELT THAT.
  • 00:22:58.000 --> 00:23:00.140
  • I WAS SMILING AND I WAS LOOKING BACK THROUGH THE
  • 00:23:00.160 --> 00:23:02.270
  • PHOTOS, AND I WENT ON MY COMPUTER AND UPLOADED
  • 00:23:02.290 --> 00:23:06.030
  • THEM AND EDITED THEM.
  • 00:23:06.050 --> 00:23:08.010
  • I JUST FELT LIKE I HAD SOMETHING AGAIN.
  • 00:23:08.030 --> 00:23:11.290
  • - AND HE BEGAN TO JUST FLOURISH AS A MUSICIAN,
  • 00:23:12.010 --> 00:23:16.020
  • HE BEGAN TO FLOURISH IN PHOTOGRAPHY AND TAKE ALL
  • 00:23:16.040 --> 00:23:19.060
  • KINDS OF REALLY CREATIVE STEPS IN DOING NEW
  • 00:23:19.080 --> 00:23:21.170
  • AND ADVENTUROUS THINGS.
  • 00:23:21.190 --> 00:23:23.260
  • - MOM: HE JUST STARTED BELIEVING IN HIMSELF EVEN
  • 00:23:23.280 --> 00:23:26.130
  • THOUGH HE WAS DIFFERENT, AND HE WASN'T THE
  • 00:23:26.150 --> 00:23:29.130
  • FOOTBALL PLAYER ANYMORE, THE STAR HOCKEY PLAYER.
  • 00:23:29.150 --> 00:23:32.140
  • I JUST KEPT TELLING HIM JAMES, WHEN ONE DOOR
  • 00:23:32.160 --> 00:23:36.100
  • CLOSES, ANOTHER DOOR OPENS.
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  • I KEPT TELLING HIM THAT.
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  • I SAID SOMETIMES WE DON'T WANT THIS TO, WE DIDN'T
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  • WANT THIS TO HAPPEN TO HIM, BUT I KNEW THERE WAS
  • 00:23:45.250 --> 00:23:49.120
  • A SPARK, THERE WAS A FIRE, THERE WAS IGNITING.
  • 00:23:49.140 --> 00:23:53.050
  • - THANKFULLY, KATY AND JAMES OVERCAME THEIR
  • 00:23:53.270 --> 00:23:56.000
  • PROBLEMS AND THEY ARE ALIVE TODAY
  • 00:23:56.020 --> 00:23:58.130
  • TO TELL THEIR STORY.
  • 00:23:58.150 --> 00:24:00.220
  • MANY THOUSANDS CANNOT.
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  • EVEN THOUGH THIS PROBLEM MAY SEEM INSURMOUNTABLE,
  • 00:24:03.150 --> 00:24:05.260
  • THERE REALLY IS SOMETHING WE ALL CAN DO TOGETHER.
  • 00:24:05.280 --> 00:24:10.050
  • 16 YEAR OLD PATRICK TURNER, ALONE IN HIS ROOM.
  • 00:24:11.030 --> 00:24:16.010
  • BEFORE PATRICK TOOK HIS LIFE, HE WROTE A NOTE
  • 00:24:16.030 --> 00:24:19.280
  • CLEARLY ABOUT WHAT WAS ON HIS MIND AT THAT TIME.
  • 00:24:20.000 --> 00:24:23.160
  • IT'S A NOTE THAT SPEAKS TO SOME OF THESE
  • 00:24:23.180 --> 00:24:26.170
  • PROBLEMS, BUT IT'S ALSO A NOTE THAT OFFERS SOLUTIONS.
  • 00:24:26.190 --> 00:24:31.100
  • - DEAR FAMILY AND FRIENDS AND WHOEVER READS THIS.
  • 00:24:31.120 --> 00:24:33.280
  • THERE IS A KID OUT THERE WHO IS ALONE.
  • 00:24:34.000 --> 00:24:35.200
  • IT NEVER HURTS TO SIT WITH THEM AND ASK
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  • HOW THEY'RE DOING.
  • 00:24:37.040 --> 00:24:38.230
  • NOBODY CAN UNDERSTAND WHAT PEOPLE MIGHT BE
  • 00:24:38.250 --> 00:24:40.150
  • GOING THROUGH. BE NICE TO EVERYONE.
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  • AND MOST IMPORTANTLY BE INCLUSIVE.
  • 00:24:43.180 --> 00:24:47.250
  • - AND IT'S THOSE WORDS THAT DON'T JUST CHANGE
  • 00:24:51.170 --> 00:24:55.150
  • SCHOOLS BUT THEY CAN CHANGE KIDS, THEY CAN
  • 00:24:55.170 --> 00:24:57.190
  • CHANGE FAMILIES AND THEY CAN HELP ALL OF US.
  • 00:24:57.210 --> 00:25:01.000
  • THESE PROBLEMS MAY SEEM INSURMOUNTABLE, BUT MAYBE
  • 00:25:01.020 --> 00:25:03.170
  • IT'S AS SIMPLE AS LETTING ONE CHILD KNOW THAT
  • 00:25:03.190 --> 00:25:07.080
  • THEY'RE VALUED, THAT THEY'RE LOVED, AND
  • 00:25:07.100 --> 00:25:11.070
  • PERHAPS MOST IMPORTANTLY THAT THEY'RE NOT ALONE.
  • 00:25:11.090 --> 00:25:15.150
  • - SOCIAL MEDIA, I THINK IT'S HAVING A BAD
  • 00:25:15.170 --> 00:25:18.190
  • INFLUENCE ON PEOPLE RIGHT NOW, BUT WE CAN
  • 00:25:18.210 --> 00:25:20.140
  • DEFINITELY USE IT TO TELL PEOPLE THAT YOU ARE NOT
  • 00:25:20.160 --> 00:25:23.070
  • ALONE AND THAT YOU HAVE SOMEONE ELSE.
  • 00:25:23.090 --> 00:25:26.000
  • THERE ARE LOTS OF PEOPLE LIKE YOU.
  • 00:25:26.020 --> 00:25:28.120
  • - SO HERE'S WHAT I'M GONNA SUGGEST, AND I KNOW
  • 00:25:28.140 --> 00:25:31.230
  • THIS IS GONNA SOUND CRAZY, ESPECIALLY TO THE
  • 00:25:31.250 --> 00:25:34.240
  • MILLENNIAL. YOU'RE GONNA THINK I'M NUTS.
  • 00:25:34.260 --> 00:25:37.080
  • BUT I'M GONNA SUGGEST THIS.
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  • LOOK UP.
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  • LOOK UP FROM THAT DEVICE.
  • 00:25:44.180 --> 00:25:45.250
  • LOOK UP FROM THAT TABLET.
  • 00:25:45.270 --> 00:25:48.200
  • LOOK UP FROM LOOKING DOWN.
  • 00:25:48.220 --> 00:25:50.060
  • LOOK UP. AND LOOK UP AT SOMEONE AND SMILE.
  • 00:25:50.080 --> 00:25:54.110
  • I KNOW, IT SOUNDS SO SCARY.
  • 00:25:54.130 --> 00:25:55.280
  • OH, MY GOSH, TO MAKE EYE CONTACT?
  • 00:25:56.000 --> 00:25:57.100
  • LOOK UP AND SMILE.
  • 00:25:57.120 --> 00:26:00.230
  • - JAMES: THE SCARS I HAVE ON MY ARM FROM THE CUTTING
  • 00:26:00.250 --> 00:26:02.220
  • AND THE PAST, I'VE KIND OF JUST LEARNED
  • 00:26:02.240 --> 00:26:04.160
  • TO EMBRACE THEM.
  • 00:26:04.180 --> 00:26:05.240
  • I USED TO FEEL SHAME FOR THEM AND I WOULD LOOK AT
  • 00:26:05.260 --> 00:26:08.150
  • THEM AND WANT TO HIDE THEM.
  • 00:26:08.170 --> 00:26:10.080
  • I WORE LONG SLEEVES CONSTANTLY AT SCHOOL FOR
  • 00:26:10.100 --> 00:26:12.120
  • A WHILE BECAUSE I DIDN'T WANT PEOPLE TO SEE THEM
  • 00:26:12.140 --> 00:26:14.070
  • OR ASK QUESTIONS, BUT I LEARNED TO EMBRACE THEM.
  • 00:26:14.090 --> 00:26:16.250
  • AND I GOT THIS TATTOO WHICH IT'S JOHN 16:33 AND
  • 00:26:16.270 --> 00:26:21.170
  • IT SAYS FOR I HAVE TOLD YOU THIS SO THAT IN ME
  • 00:26:21.190 --> 00:26:23.150
  • YOU MAY HAVE PEACE IN THIS WORLD, THAT THERE
  • 00:26:23.170 --> 00:26:25.230
  • WILL BE TRIALS AND SORROWS, BUT TAKE HEART,
  • 00:26:25.250 --> 00:26:27.230
  • I HAVE OVERCOME THE WORLD.
  • 00:26:27.250 --> 00:26:29.290
  • I'M GETTING ANOTHER TATTOO OF THIS
  • 00:26:30.010 --> 00:26:34.120
  • JESUS PORTRAIT JUST TO SYMBOLIZE, I'M GONNA PUT
  • 00:26:34.140 --> 00:26:37.090
  • IT RIGHT OVER ALL THESE SCARS TO SYMBOLIZE THAT
  • 00:26:37.110 --> 00:26:40.010
  • THROUGH ALL THIS, YOU'RE STILL LOVED.
  • 00:26:40.030 --> 00:26:42.240
  • I MEAN WHETHER YOU BELIEVE IN JESUS OR NOT.
  • 00:26:42.260 --> 00:26:44.270
  • YOU'RE LOVED OUT THERE.
  • 00:26:44.290 --> 00:26:47.150
  • SOMEONE LOVES YOU.
  • 00:26:47.170 --> 00:26:48.290
  • SOMEONE'S OUT THERE AND YOU MEAN THE WORLD TO THEM.
  • 00:26:49.010 --> 00:26:51.290
  • SO THERE'S NO REASON FOR YOU TO END IT BECAUSE
  • 00:26:52.010 --> 00:26:55.110
  • THEY WOULD BE, THEY WOULD BE BROKEN JUST AS
  • 00:26:55.130 --> 00:26:58.000
  • MUCH AS YOU ARE.
  • 00:26:58.020 --> 00:26:59.220
  • - JAMES IS LIVING.
  • 00:26:59.240 --> 00:27:01.230
  • IT'S NOT DOES HE WANT TO.
  • 00:27:01.250 --> 00:27:03.280
  • HE IS. HE IS.
  • 00:27:04.000 --> 00:27:05.180
  • HE'S IN THE MOMENT AND HE LOVES PEOPLE.
  • 00:27:05.200 --> 00:27:08.230
  • HE'S GOT INCREDIBLE FRIENDS.
  • 00:27:08.250 --> 00:27:11.250
  • HE'S GOT INCREDIBLE COMMUNITY AROUND HIM.
  • 00:27:11.270 --> 00:27:14.000
  • IT'S JUST BEAUTIFUL.
  • 00:27:14.020 --> 00:27:16.070
  • IT'S JUST NO LONGER AN ISOLATION,
  • 00:27:16.090 --> 00:27:18.090
  • A SELF-CENTEREDNESS.
  • 00:27:18.110 --> 00:27:19.260
  • THERE'S JUST INCREDIBLE, BEAUTIFUL, RECIPROCAL
  • 00:27:19.280 --> 00:27:22.240
  • RELATIONSHIP NOW.
  • 00:27:22.260 --> 00:27:24.210
  • - I'M JAMES ALEXANDER ANNIBALE AND I WANT TO LIVE.
  • 00:27:24.230 --> 00:27:29.110
  • - ANNOUNCER: SUICIDE IS ONE OF THE LEADING CAUSES
  • 00:27:31.130 --> 00:27:33.010
  • OF PREVENTABLE DEATH IN OUR NATION TODAY.
  • 00:27:33.030 --> 00:27:35.110
  • BY STARTING THE CONVERSATION, PROVIDING
  • 00:27:35.130 --> 00:27:38.270
  • SUPPORT AND DIRECTING HELP TO THOSE WHO NEED
  • 00:27:38.290 --> 00:27:40.280
  • IT, WE CAN PREVENT SUICIDES AND SAVE LIVES.
  • 00:27:41.000 --> 00:27:44.270
  • UNDERSTANDING THE ISSUES CONCERNING SUICIDE AND
  • 00:27:44.290 --> 00:27:47.270
  • MENTAL HEALTH IS AN IMPORTANT WAY TO TAKE
  • 00:27:47.290 --> 00:27:49.210
  • PART IN SUICIDE PREVENTION.
  • 00:27:49.230 --> 00:27:52.110
  • TO FIND IMMEDIATE HELP,
  • 00:27:52.130 --> 00:27:53.270
  • CALL THE NATIONAL SUICIDE PREVENTION LIFELINE AT:
  • 00:27:53.290 --> 00:28:02.130
  • FOR FREE AND CONFIDENTIAL SUPPORT.
  • 00:28:02.150 --> 00:28:04.230
  • FOR MORE INFORMATION GO TO:
  • 00:28:04.250 --> 00:28:09.070
  • TOGETHER WE CAN SAVE LIVES.
  • 00:28:09.090 --> 00:28:12.030