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May 1, 2019
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  • - WHEN I FOUND OUT I WAS PREGNANT, IT WAS REALLY
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  • HARD TO TELL MY FAMILY, AND I FIRST TOLD MY MOM.
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  • AND MY MOM TOLD MY DAD, AND THEN MY DAD DIDN'T
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  • REALLY WANT ANYTHING TO DO WITH ME FOR A LONG
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  • TIME, SO THAT WAS REALLY HARD ON ME.
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  • - SOCIETY HAS ALWAYS TOLD THESE TEENS THAT IF
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  • YOU GET PREGNANT, YOUR LIFE IS OVER.
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  • YOU'RE GOING TO HAVE TO DROP OUT OF SCHOOL.
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  • YOU'RE GOING TO LIVE ON WELFARE FOR THE REST OF
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  • YOUR LIFE.
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  • YOU CAN'T DO ANYTHING POSITIVE.
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  • YOU MIGHT AS WELL JUST CONTINUE HAVING BABIES
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  • BECAUSE THAT'S ALL YOU'RE EVER GOING TO BE GOOD FOR.
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  • - IT'S LIKE YOU ARE THE GATE KEEPER OF WHAT
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  • YOUR SUCCESS WILL LOOK LIKE, AND ONE OF THE
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  • THINGS I SAY TO EVERY PARENT AND STUDENT I MEET
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  • WITH, IT'S NOT ABOUT YOU ANYMORE.
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  • IT'S ABOUT YOU TO THE EXTENT THAT IT AFFECTS
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  • THE CHILD.
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  • AND STUDENTS SIT UP WITH THAT BECAUSE THEY'RE LIKE
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  • WOW, YOU'RE TALKING ABOUT MY BABY. YES.
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  • BECAUSE IF I CAN GET YOU TO DO WHAT YOU NEED TO DO
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  • TO MAKE YOURSELF SUCCESSFUL, THAT BABY IS
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  • JUST GOING TO FLOURISH, AND THAT'S IMPORTANT TO US.
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  • - I REMEMBER ONE PERSON IN PARTICULAR TELLING ME
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  • THAT I WOULD END UP ON GOVERNMENT ASSISTANCE AND
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  • I WOULD LIVE IN PUBLIC HOUSING FOREVER AND I
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  • WOULD NEVER GRADUATE HIGH SCHOOL, AND I WOULD HAVE
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  • THREE MORE CHILDREN BY THE TIME THAT I WAS 18.
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  • AND PERHAPS THAT'S THE STEREOTYPE ASSOCIATED
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  • WITH TEENAGE PREGNANCY, BUT THOSE ARE THE THINGS
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  • THAT PEOPLE WERE SPEAKING INTO MY LIFE.
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  • [MUSIC]
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  • TAKING CARE OF BUSINESS ...
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  • TAKING CARE OF BUSINESS ...
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  • - KELLY WRIGHT: FOR DECADES HERE IN THE UNITED STATES,
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  • PARENTS, SCHOOLS AND GOVERNMENT INSTITUTIONS
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  • HAVE BEEN WAGING WAR AGAINST THE CRISIS OF
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  • TEEN PREGNANCY.
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  • AND THE GOOD NEWS IS THAT THE TIDE HAS
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  • DEFINITELY TURNED.
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  • THE TEEN BIRTHRATE HAS BEEN IN STEEP DECLINE
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  • SINCE THE EARLY 1990'S, AND THE RATE OF UNPLANNED
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  • TEEN PREGNANCY IS AT ITS LOWEST RATE IN HISTORY.
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  • BUT STILL 3 IN 10 TEENAGE AMERICAN GIRLS WILL GET
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  • PREGNANT AT LEAST ONCE BEFORE THE AGE OF 20.
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  • NOW, THAT'S NEARLY 750.000 TEENAGE
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  • PREGNANCIES EVERY YEAR, AND WHAT HAPPENS TO THEM?
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  • WELL, MORE THAN 50% OF TEEN MOTHERS NEVER
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  • GRADUATE FROM HIGH SCHOOL, AND LESS THAN 2%
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  • OF TEEN MOMS EARN A COLLEGE DEGREE BY AGE 30.
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  • WITHOUT QUESTION, THE RATES OF UNPLANNED
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  • TEENAGE PREGNANCY MUST BE FURTHER REDUCED, BUT JUST
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  • AS IMPORTANTLY WHAT HAPPENS TO THOSE YOUNG
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  • WOMEN WHO FIND THEMSELVES ON THE WRONG SIDE OF
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  • THOSE STATISTICS?
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  • - YEARS AGO IT WAS TO HIDE IT.
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  • NOBODY NEEDS TO KNOW ABOUT YOU BEING A TEEN MOM.
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  • AT THE SAME TIME, STUDENTS FELT LIKE I
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  • GUESS MY LIFE'S OVER, AND I FEEL LIKE AS A SOCIETY
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  • THERE ARE STILL PEOPLE THAT FEEL THAT WHEN YOU
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  • BECOME A TEEN MOM, LIKE YOUR LIFE ENDS.
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  • I STILL THINK THAT EXISTS, BUT I THINK MORE
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  • AND MORE PEOPLE ARE COMING AROUND TO
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  • IT HAPPENS.
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  • OF COURSE, NOBODY -- I DON'T THINK ANY GIRL SETS
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  • OUT TO SAY I WANT TO BE A TEEN MOM BECAUSE THEY
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  • DON'T EVEN KNOW WHAT THAT LOOKS LIKE AS FAR AS WHAT
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  • THE WORKLOAD LOOKS LIKE UNTIL THEY ACTUALLY GIVE
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  • BIRTH TO THAT CHILD, RIGHT.
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  • BUT I THINK IT'S BECOMING MORE OF A CONVERSATION
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  • WHERE PEOPLE DON'T LOOK DOWN ON THEM.
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  • IT'S BECOMING MORE OF HOW CAN WE HELP SUPPORT THAT
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  • BECAUSE IT'S HAPPENED.
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  • - SOCIETY HAS ALWAYS TOLD THESE TEENS THAT IF
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  • YOU GET PREGNANT, YOUR LIFE IS OVER.
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  • YOU'RE GOING TO HAVE TO DROP OUT OF SCHOOL.
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  • YOU'RE GOING TO LIVE ON WELFARE FOR THE REST OF
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  • YOUR LIFE, YOU CAN'T DO ANYTHING POSITIVE.
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  • YOU MIGHT AS WELL JUST CONTINUE HAVING BABIES
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  • BECAUSE THAT'S ALL YOU'RE EVER GOING TO BE GOOD FOR.
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  • SOCIETY HAS NOT BEEN SO KIND TO THESE FAMILIES.
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  • - THE FIRST PERSON THAT I TOLD I WAS PREGNANT WAS
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  • MY BEST FRIEND AMSEY.
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  • AND SHE WAS REALLY SCARED FOR ME, AND SHE WAS
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  • ASKING LIKE OH MY GOSH, WHEN ARE YOU GOING TO
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  • TELL EVERYONE?
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  • WHAT'S YOUR PLANS?
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  • HOW ARE YOU GOING TO DEAL WITH THIS?
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  • AND I KNEW I WANTED TO KEEP SERENITY, AND I KNEW
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  • THAT I HAD TO DO WELL IN SCHOOL BECAUSE I HAD TO
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  • MAKE A GOOD LIFE FOR HER EVEN THOUGH SHE WASN'T
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  • HERE YET.
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  • I JUST KNEW THAT EVERYTHING THAT I WAS
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  • DOING WOULD LEAD UP TO HOW HER LIFE WOULD GO.
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  • - FOR ME, I KIND OF HAD A NEGATIVE REACTION GOING
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  • TO A SCHOOL WHERE I'M PREGNANT AND EVERYBODY
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  • ELSE IS JUST NORMAL TEENAGERS.
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  • IT WAS KIND OF HARD FOR ME TO SHOW MYSELF AS I
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  • DID BEFORE.
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  • I HAD TO KIND OF HIDE THE FACT THAT I WAS PREGNANT
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  • BECAUSE OF ALL THE DRAMA AND THE REGULAR TEEN
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  • STUFF THAT WAS GOING ON.
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  • I DIDN'T WANT TO LET MYSELF, YOU KNOW, ENTER
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  • ALL THAT NEGATIVITY.
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  • - WHEN I STARTED RECEIVING REACTIONS FROM
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  • FAMILY MEMBERS PARTICULARLY ABOUT THE
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  • PREGNANCY, MOST OF THE RESPONSES WERE
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  • NOT POSITIVE.
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  • IN FACT, I CAN'T REMEMBER ANY RESPONSES THAT
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  • WERE POSITIVE.
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  • I REMEMBER ONE PERSON IN PARTICULAR TELLING ME
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  • THAT I WOULD END UP ON GOVERNMENT ASSISTANCE,
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  • AND I WOULD LIVE IN PUBLIC HOUSING FOREVER,
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  • AND I WOULD NEVER GRADUATE HIGH SCHOOL, AND
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  • I WOULD HAVE THREE MORE CHILDREN BY THE TIME THAT
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  • I WAS 18.
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  • AND PERHAPS THAT'S THE STEREOTYPE ASSOCIATED
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  • WITH TEENAGE PREGNANCY, BUT THOSE ARE THE THINGS
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  • THAT PEOPLE WERE SPEAKING INTO MY LIFE.
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  • - PROBABLY THE WORST EXPERIENCE I HAD LIKE
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  • DURING MY PREGNANCY WAS JUST LIKE WOW, YOU LOOK
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  • SO YOUNG, LIKE YOU'RE PREGNANT, AND HOW OLD
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  • ARE YOU?
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  • AND JUST THINGS LIKE THAT.
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  • THAT WAS KIND OF -- IT WAS KIND OF EMBARRASSING, SO
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  • I KIND OF TRIED TO HIDE MY PREGNANCY AS MUCH AS I
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  • COULD, BUT NOW EVERYBODY KNOWS I HAVE A CHILD.
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  • - THE NEED FOR THIS POPULATION IS TO BE
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  • SURROUNDED BY AN AREA OF POSITIVITY.
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  • OUR SOCIETY STILL HAS A SITUATION OF SHAMING THIS
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  • POPULATION WHEN THEY FIND OUT THEY ARE PREGNANT.
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  • MANY OF THESE TEENS ARE ISOLATED AND SHAMED FOR
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  • THE SITUATION THAT THEY ARE IN.
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  • - BEING A PARENT IS HARD BECAUSE IT TAKES A LOT OF
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  • TIME AND EFFORT.
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  • IT CHANGES THE WAY PEOPLE SEE YOU LIKE THEY MIGHT
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  • NOT HANG OUT WITH YOU BECAUSE YOU HAVE A KID OR
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  • THEY MIGHT NOT HANG OUT WITH YOU BECAUSE YOU
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  • DON'T HAVE TIME TO HANG OUT WITH THEM BECAUSE YOU
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  • HAVE A KID, AND IT'S MORE OF JUST BEING POSITIVE,
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  • SO THAT'S ALL IT TAKES, POSITIVITY.
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  • [MUSIC]
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  • - TEEN PREGNANCY MAY BE A SOCIETAL PROBLEM, BUT
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  • THE STORIES ARE INDIVIDUAL.
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  • YOU SEE, EACH TEEN PREGNANCY REPRESENTS A
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  • SPECIFIC YOUNG WOMAN WITH HER OWN HOPES AND DREAMS.
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  • EACH PREGNANCY PRESENTS ITS OWN COMPLICATED SET
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  • OF CHALLENGES TO EVERY YOUNG MOTHER, AND EVERY
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  • TEEN PREGNANCY AFFECTS A SPECIFIC FAMILY CAUSING A
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  • DRAMATIC IMPACT ON THEIR LIVES, BUT HIDING BEHIND
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  • THE ALARMING STATISTICS ARE THE STORIES OF
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  • COUNTLESS UNIQUE YOUNG WOMEN, AND WHEN TAKE THE
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  • TIME TO LISTEN VERY CLOSELY TO THEIR STORIES
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  • OF ADVERSITY, WE MIGHT RECOGNIZE IN THEM THE
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  • ASTOUNDING SPIRIT THAT WE ALL NEED TO OVERCOME
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  • CHALLENGES AND ACHIEVE OUR PERSONAL BEST.
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  • - I GREW UP IN EAST CHATTANOOGA, AND MY
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  • PARENTS WERE MARRIED.
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  • THEY GOT MARRIED WHEN I WAS AROUND THREE YEARS OLD.
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  • IT WAS A VERY VERY ABUSIVE ENVIRONMENT
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  • PRIMARILY FOR MY MOTHER.
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  • IT WAS BOTH PHYSICALLY ABUSIVE,
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  • EMOTIONALLY, MENTALLY.
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  • YOU NAME IT, SHE WAS EXPERIENCING IT.
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  • BY THE TIME MY MOTHER FINALLY GOT THE COURAGE
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  • TO WALK AWAY FROM HIM, SHE WAS SEVERELY
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  • DEPRESSED TO SAY THE LEAST, AND SHE WASN'T
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  • REALLY CAPABLE OF FOCUSING ON ME AND
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  • SUDDENLY SHE WAS A SINGLE MOTHER WITH ONE INCOME,
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  • AND IT WASN'T ENOUGH TO MAKE ENDS MEET, SO MOST
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  • OF THE TIME SHE WAS WORKING TWO JOBS AND
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  • TRYING TO FINISH HER EDUCATION AND MAKE A NEW
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  • WAY OF LIFE FOR US, BUT IT WAS ALL VERY
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  • OVERWHELMING FOR HER.
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  • AROUND THE AGE OF 14 I FOUND MYSELF PREGNANT NOT
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  • INTENTIONALLY, BUT IT WAS SOMETHING THAT HAPPENED.
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  • I WAS A FRESHMAN IN HIGH SCHOOL.
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  • HE WAS A SENIOR, AND I WAS 14.
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  • HE WAS 18.
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  • AND HE SHOWED ME THE ATTENTION THAT NO ONE
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  • ELSE DID.
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  • - IT WAS REALLY HARD TO TELL MY FAMILY.
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  • I ACTUALLY WAITED A WHILE, NOT TOO LONG BUT
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  • LIKE A MONTH OR SO, AND I FIRST TOLD MY MOM.
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  • MY MOM TOLD MY DAD, AND THEN MY DAD DIDN'T REALLY
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  • WANT ANYTHING TO DO WITH ME FOR A LONG TIME, SO
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  • THAT WAS REALLY HARD ON ME.
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  • - I DIDN'T REALLY TELL ANYBODY BESIDES MY
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  • CHILD'S FATHER, BUT MY MOM AND GRANDMA KIND OF
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  • FIGURED IT OUT BECAUSE WHENEVER I WENT TO THEIR
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  • HOUSE I ALWAYS ASKED THEM FOR A CERTAIN THING, AND
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  • THEY'D BE LIKE, ARE YOU PREGNANT?
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  • AND I DIDN'T LIKE ACTUALLY TELL THEM.
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  • THEY JUST FIGURED IT OUT.
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  • WHEN I REALIZED THAT I WAS PREGNANT, THE FIRST
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  • THING THAT I DID WAS TELL MY MOTHER AND ALSO THE
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  • OTHER GRANDMOTHER, THE MOTHER OF MY CHILD'S
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  • FATHER, AND IT WAS SHOCKING TO SAY THE LEAST.
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  • IN MY FAMILY NO ONE HAS BABIES AS TEENAGERS.
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  • ON EITHER SIDE, ON MY MOTHER'S OR FATHER'S SIDE
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  • I WAS THE FIRST TO GET PREGNANT AS A TEENAGER
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  • AND HAVE A CHILD THIS YOUNG.
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  • AND INITIALLY IT SEEMED AS EVERYONE WAS IN
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  • DENIAL, AND THEN AROUND SIX OR SEVEN MONTHS I
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  • STARTED SHOWING, AND THAT'S WHEN IT BECAME
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  • REAL TO EVERYONE, PROBABLY MYSELF INCLUDED.
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  • - WHEN I TOLD SERENITY'S FATHER, HE WAS KIND OF
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  • MIND BLOWN AND WHAT ARE WE GOING TO DO?
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  • HOW ARE WE GOING TO TELL OUR FAMILY?
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  • BUT HE WAS SUPPORTIVE.
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  • HE'S BEEN FROM EVER SINCE HE FOUND OUT AND HE'S
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  • STILL IN OUR LIVES SO THAT'S GOOD.
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  • - WE GOT ENGAGED FIRST, AND THEN I
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  • BECAME PREGNANT.
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  • IN MY CULTURE, IF YOU ARE PREGNANT IN THE RIGHT
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  • WAY, LIKE YOU CAN GET ENGAGED OR MARRIED OF
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  • COURSE EVERYBODY IS GOING TO BE HAPPY FOR YOU.
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  • MY PARENTS, MY GRANDMA, MY DAD THEY WERE ALL
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  • EXCITED FOR ME.
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  • I WAS EXCITED FOR MYSELF, TOO.
  • 00:11:54.180 --> 00:11:56.170
  • - I DID HAVE A REALLY LOW POINT ABOUT TEN DAYS
  • 00:11:56.190 --> 00:12:00.060
  • AFTER MY CHILD WAS BORN.
  • 00:12:00.080 --> 00:12:03.010
  • MY LABOR WAS INDUCED ON FATHER'S DAY IN 2001,
  • 00:12:03.030 --> 00:12:07.060
  • AND HIS FATHER OPTED NOT TO TAKE OFF OF WORK TO
  • 00:12:07.080 --> 00:12:10.210
  • COME TO THE HOSPITAL.
  • 00:12:10.230 --> 00:12:16.020
  • AND HE JUST SO HAPPENED TO MAKE IT ABOUT 30
  • 00:12:16.040 --> 00:12:19.050
  • MINUTES BEFORE I GAVE BIRTH.
  • 00:12:19.070 --> 00:12:22.090
  • AFTER HE LEFT THAT DAY THAT I GAVE BIRTH, I
  • 00:12:22.110 --> 00:12:26.200
  • DIDN'T HEAR FROM HIM FOR TEN DAYS.
  • 00:12:26.220 --> 00:12:30.100
  • AND THEN WHEN I HEARD FROM HIM AGAIN IT WAS HIM
  • 00:12:30.120 --> 00:12:33.270
  • TELLING ME THAT HAVING A BABY HE WAS WRONG.
  • 00:12:33.290 --> 00:12:41.010
  • THAT WAS NOT WHAT HE WANTED.
  • 00:12:41.030 --> 00:12:43.010
  • HEARING FROM HIM THAT HE MADE A MISTAKE AND THAT
  • 00:12:43.030 --> 00:12:45.240
  • HE DID NOT ACTUALLY WANT A CHILD AFTER ALL WAS
  • 00:12:45.260 --> 00:12:48.290
  • DEVASTATING, BUT I HAD THIS BEAUTIFUL LIVING
  • 00:12:49.010 --> 00:12:55.140
  • CREATURE THAT NEEDED ME FOR ABSOLUTELY
  • 00:12:55.160 --> 00:12:58.210
  • EVERYTHING, AND SO IT WAS A LOW POINT FOR ME, BUT I
  • 00:12:58.230 --> 00:13:02.100
  • COULD ONLY ALLOW IT TO GET ME DOWN FOR SO LONG.
  • 00:13:02.120 --> 00:13:05.060
  • - BEFORE I GOT PREGNANT I WASN'T REALLY AS
  • 00:13:05.080 --> 00:13:08.180
  • FOCUSED IN SCHOOL.
  • 00:13:08.200 --> 00:13:10.170
  • IT WAS JUST KIND OF LIKE I'M HERE BECAUSE I HAVE
  • 00:13:10.190 --> 00:13:13.140
  • TO BE HERE AND I DON'T KNOW WHEN I'M EVER GOING
  • 00:13:13.160 --> 00:13:16.160
  • TO USE THESE THINGS THAT I'M LEARNING, BUT I
  • 00:13:16.180 --> 00:13:19.290
  • DIDN'T REALLY HAVE A VERY STRONG MOTIVATION
  • 00:13:20.010 --> 00:13:22.090
  • IN SCHOOL.
  • 00:13:22.110 --> 00:13:23.210
  • AND THEN AS SOON AS I FOUND OUT I WAS PREGNANT
  • 00:13:23.230 --> 00:13:26.290
  • SOMETHING JUST HIT ME, LIKE OKAY, I HAVE TO BE
  • 00:13:27.010 --> 00:13:29.090
  • THE BEST I CAN BE.
  • 00:13:29.110 --> 00:13:31.030
  • AND I PRETTY MUCH HAVE BEEN DOING REALLY GOOD IN
  • 00:13:31.050 --> 00:13:33.210
  • SCHOOL EVER SINCE BECAUSE I CARE ABOUT IT NOW.
  • 00:13:33.230 --> 00:13:36.200
  • I HAVE A REASON TO CARE ABOUT IT, AND I HAVE A
  • 00:13:36.220 --> 00:13:39.190
  • REASON TO KEEP GOING EVERYDAY I WAKE UP WITH A
  • 00:13:39.210 --> 00:13:43.060
  • BEAUTIFUL LITTLE GIRL, AND SHE'S MY MOTIVATION
  • 00:13:43.080 --> 00:13:46.180
  • TO KEEP GOING.
  • 00:13:46.200 --> 00:13:48.030
  • - BEFORE I GOT PREGNANT, I DIDN'T--
  • 00:13:48.050 --> 00:13:50.030
  • I WASN'T MYSELF.
  • 00:13:50.050 --> 00:13:51.130
  • I WAS JUST ON A JOURNEY TO SEARCH FOR MYSELF.
  • 00:13:51.150 --> 00:13:54.070
  • I DIDN'T DO THINGS THE WAY THAT MY PARENTS WANTED.
  • 00:13:54.090 --> 00:14:00.060
  • I DIDN'T WANT TO ATTEND SCHOOL OR DO ANYTHING
  • 00:14:00.080 --> 00:14:03.280
  • THAT HELPED ME BECOME SUCCESSFUL IN LIFE.
  • 00:14:04.000 --> 00:14:07.190
  • - IF I NEVER WANTED ANYTHING FROM MYSELF
  • 00:14:07.210 --> 00:14:09.240
  • BEFORE, I ABSOLUTELY DID AT THAT POINT AND MORE
  • 00:14:09.260 --> 00:14:13.190
  • IMPORTANTLY, EVEN THOUGH I WAS 14, I RECOGNIZED
  • 00:14:13.210 --> 00:14:17.160
  • THAT THE CHILD, THE LIFE THAT I WAS GROWING INSIDE
  • 00:14:17.180 --> 00:14:21.040
  • OF ME DESERVED MUCH MORE.
  • 00:14:21.060 --> 00:14:24.030
  • I IMMEDIATELY STOPPED ALL OF THE NEGATIVE BEHAVIORS
  • 00:14:24.050 --> 00:14:27.140
  • THAT I WAS DOING AT THE TIME.
  • 00:14:27.160 --> 00:14:29.200
  • I STARTED-- I STOPPED HANGING OUT WITH THE
  • 00:14:29.220 --> 00:14:32.200
  • WRONG PEOPLE AND DOING THE WRONG THINGS, AND I
  • 00:14:32.220 --> 00:14:36.150
  • STARTED RESEARCHING WHAT DID I NEED TO EAT NOW
  • 00:14:36.170 --> 00:14:40.050
  • THAT I WAS PREGNANT?
  • 00:14:40.070 --> 00:14:41.290
  • I DIDN'T REALLY KNOW THE ANSWER TO THAT, SO I
  • 00:14:42.010 --> 00:14:44.100
  • STARTED EATING BAKED POTATOES AND SALADS
  • 00:14:44.120 --> 00:14:47.010
  • RELIGIOUSLY BECAUSE THAT SEEMED LIKE THE
  • 00:14:47.030 --> 00:14:48.260
  • RIGHT THING TO DO.
  • 00:14:48.280 --> 00:14:52.080
  • - AS BEING A MOTHER, I LEARNED THAT I HAVE MORE
  • 00:14:52.100 --> 00:14:54.050
  • RESPONSIBILITIES THAN JUST TAKING CARE OF
  • 00:14:54.070 --> 00:14:56.180
  • THINGS FOR MYSELF.
  • 00:14:56.200 --> 00:14:57.250
  • I HAVE THE RESPONSIBILITY, I HAVE A
  • 00:14:57.270 --> 00:14:59.240
  • WHOLE CHILD THAT I NEED TO TAKE CARE OF, AND I
  • 00:14:59.260 --> 00:15:01.280
  • HAVE TO SET A GOOD EXAMPLE FOR HIM, SO I
  • 00:15:02.000 --> 00:15:05.290
  • HAVE TO FOCUS ON SCHOOL, FINISH SCHOOL, HAVE A
  • 00:15:06.010 --> 00:15:08.080
  • CAREER PLAN, AND JUST MAKE LIFE EASIER FOR HIM
  • 00:15:08.100 --> 00:15:11.140
  • AND HE CAN JUST LOOK UP AND SAY MY MOM DID THIS,
  • 00:15:11.160 --> 00:15:14.130
  • AND I CAN JUST BE LIKE I DID THIS FOR YOU AND
  • 00:15:14.150 --> 00:15:16.210
  • FOR US, AND AS A FAMILY, YOU KNOW?
  • 00:15:16.230 --> 00:15:20.180
  • - AS A SOCIETY, WE NEED TO LOOK BEHIND THE
  • 00:15:20.200 --> 00:15:23.030
  • STATISTICS OF TEEN PREGNANCY.
  • 00:15:23.050 --> 00:15:24.270
  • WE NEED TO COME FACE-TO-FACE WITH THE
  • 00:15:24.290 --> 00:15:26.230
  • YOUNG WOMEN WHO ARE STRUGGLING AGAINST THE
  • 00:15:26.250 --> 00:15:29.040
  • DAUNTING CHALLENGES BUT ARE STILL CAPABLE OF
  • 00:15:29.060 --> 00:15:32.010
  • ACHIEVING HAPPY AND PRODUCTIVE LIVES FOR
  • 00:15:32.030 --> 00:15:34.280
  • THEMSELVES AND THEIR CHILDREN.
  • 00:15:35.000 --> 00:15:37.060
  • AND WHEN WE DO, WE HAVE NO CHOICE BUT TO ASK WHAT
  • 00:15:37.080 --> 00:15:40.260
  • CAN WE DO TO HELP?
  • 00:15:40.280 --> 00:15:43.240
  • - TAPP MEANS TEENAGE PARENT PROGRAMS, JUST AN
  • 00:15:43.260 --> 00:15:46.040
  • ACRONYM FOR TEENAGE PARENT PROGRAMS.
  • 00:15:46.060 --> 00:15:48.240
  • TAPP IS BUILT TO LET STUDENTS KNOW THAT TEEN
  • 00:15:48.260 --> 00:15:52.000
  • PREGNANCY HAPPENS SOMETIMES, RIGHT?
  • 00:15:52.020 --> 00:15:54.050
  • IT'S ALL ACROSS THE COUNTRY.
  • 00:15:54.070 --> 00:15:55.200
  • BUT THERE'S NOTHING TO BE ASHAMED OF, AND YOU CAN
  • 00:15:55.220 --> 00:15:58.210
  • STILL BE WITHIN THE JEFFERSON COUNTY PUBLIC
  • 00:15:58.230 --> 00:16:00.090
  • SCHOOL AND HAVE SOMEWHERE WHERE YOU HAVE, IT'S JUST
  • 00:16:00.110 --> 00:16:03.270
  • THE RESOURCES ARE JUST CRAZY, AND YOU CAN BE
  • 00:16:03.290 --> 00:16:07.290
  • SUCCESSFUL, AND YOU'VE GOT TO HAVE THAT DESIRE,
  • 00:16:08.010 --> 00:16:10.240
  • AND IF YOU DON'T WE TRY TO HELP YOU UNDERSTAND
  • 00:16:10.260 --> 00:16:13.090
  • WHY IT'S SO IMPORTANT.
  • 00:16:13.110 --> 00:16:14.170
  • SO EXAMPLE, I HAVE SOCIAL WORKERS THAT WORK IN THIS
  • 00:16:14.190 --> 00:16:17.260
  • BUILDING, AND WE CALL THEM STUDENT ADVOCATES,
  • 00:16:17.280 --> 00:16:20.090
  • AND THEY'RE HERE TO HELP, SUPPORT, REMOVE BARRIERS
  • 00:16:20.110 --> 00:16:22.130
  • FROM STUDENTS BECAUSE THERE'S A LOT OF THINGS
  • 00:16:22.150 --> 00:16:24.190
  • THAT HAPPEN OUTSIDE OF SCHOOL THAT THEY MIGHT
  • 00:16:24.210 --> 00:16:27.150
  • NOT KNOW HOW TO NAVIGATE BECAUSE THEY'RE YOUNG
  • 00:16:27.170 --> 00:16:29.160
  • AND NOW THEY'RE MOMS.
  • 00:16:29.180 --> 00:16:31.150
  • IN ADDITION TO THAT, WE HAVE A CHILDCARE CENTER HERE.
  • 00:16:31.170 --> 00:16:34.080
  • EVERY STUDENT'S CHILD GOES TO OUR CHILDCARE CENTER.
  • 00:16:34.100 --> 00:16:36.250
  • SO THEY'RE RIGHT DOWN THE HALLWAY.
  • 00:16:36.270 --> 00:16:39.110
  • YOU THINK ABOUT MOMS THAT BREAST-FEED.
  • 00:16:39.130 --> 00:16:41.250
  • THEY COME FROM CLASS, THEY COME DOWN AND
  • 00:16:41.270 --> 00:16:43.290
  • BREAST-FEED, THEY GO BACK TO LEARN.
  • 00:16:44.010 --> 00:16:45.120
  • THEY KNOW THEY'RE RIGHT THERE.
  • 00:16:45.140 --> 00:16:47.100
  • IT'S A 30 SECOND MOVE TO GET TO YOUR CHILD.
  • 00:16:47.120 --> 00:16:50.030
  • IN ADDITION WE HAVE A CLINIC.
  • 00:16:50.050 --> 00:16:52.010
  • WE DO PEDIATRICS, WE DO PRE AND POST-PARTUM, AND
  • 00:16:52.030 --> 00:16:56.030
  • WE ALSO HAVE A WIC PROGRAM WHICH HELPS
  • 00:16:56.050 --> 00:16:58.220
  • SUPPORT STUDENTS WITH GETTING SERVICES FOR MILK
  • 00:16:58.240 --> 00:17:01.200
  • AND OTHER THINGS THAT THEY MIGHT NEED TO HELP
  • 00:17:01.220 --> 00:17:04.050
  • SUPPORT TAKING CARE OF THEIR CHILD.
  • 00:17:04.070 --> 00:17:05.280
  • - I'M WITH THE FAMILY MEDICINE DEPARTMENT,
  • 00:17:06.000 --> 00:17:07.120
  • UNIVERSITY OF LOUISVILLE.
  • 00:17:07.140 --> 00:17:09.080
  • WE PARTNER WITH TAPP TO PROVIDE MEDICAL SERVICES
  • 00:17:09.100 --> 00:17:13.180
  • TO THE GIRLS AND TO THEIR BABIES.
  • 00:17:13.200 --> 00:17:16.180
  • IF A GIRL IN JEFFERSON COUNTY PUBLIC SCHOOLS
  • 00:17:16.200 --> 00:17:19.120
  • GETS PREGNANT, WE WISH IT DIDN'T HAPPEN BUT IT
  • 00:17:19.140 --> 00:17:22.240
  • DOES, SHE CAN EITHER STAY IN HER HOME SCHOOL AND
  • 00:17:22.260 --> 00:17:25.200
  • KEEP GOING, OR SHE CAN TRANSFER TO A TAPP SCHOOL.
  • 00:17:25.220 --> 00:17:30.040
  • THE REASON GIRLS TRANSFER HERE IS THERE ARE MORE
  • 00:17:30.060 --> 00:17:33.290
  • RESOURCES TO HELP THEM WITH WHAT IS ALWAYS AN
  • 00:17:34.010 --> 00:17:37.000
  • UNINTENDED PREGNANCY, AND THOSE RESOURCES ARE EFFECTIVE.
  • 00:17:37.020 --> 00:17:41.160
  • - TEENAGE PARENT PREGNANCY SERVICES WAS
  • 00:17:41.180 --> 00:17:43.230
  • STARTED IN JULY OF 2000 IN TUSCAN, ARIZONA
  • 00:17:43.250 --> 00:17:47.150
  • SPECIFICALLY TO IMPROVE PREGNANCY AND BIRTH
  • 00:17:47.170 --> 00:17:50.130
  • OUTCOMES FOR TEEN MOMS.
  • 00:17:50.150 --> 00:17:53.060
  • THERE WAS A CATALYST SITUATION THAT OCCURRED
  • 00:17:53.080 --> 00:17:58.190
  • THAT REALLY PUSHED ME TOWARDS STARTING TEEN
  • 00:17:58.210 --> 00:18:01.180
  • OUTREACH PREGNANCY SERVICES, AND THAT WAS A
  • 00:18:01.200 --> 00:18:03.230
  • YOUNG LADY WHO HAD BEEN PREGNANT AND HID HER
  • 00:18:03.250 --> 00:18:09.040
  • PREGNANCY FROM HER FRIENDS AND FAMILY
  • 00:18:09.060 --> 00:18:11.090
  • BECAUSE SHE WAS SO FRIGHTENED, AND SHE
  • 00:18:11.110 --> 00:18:13.200
  • DIDN'T KNOW WHERE TO TURN OR WHERE TO GO.
  • 00:18:13.220 --> 00:18:16.060
  • SHE ENDED UP GOING INTO LABOR AND DELIVERING THE
  • 00:18:16.080 --> 00:18:19.180
  • BABY AT HOME BY HERSELF, AND THE BABY PASSED AWAY
  • 00:18:19.200 --> 00:18:24.040
  • AFTER DELIVERY, AND THE BABY ENDED UP
  • 00:18:24.060 --> 00:18:26.070
  • IN THE TRASH CAN.
  • 00:18:26.090 --> 00:18:28.200
  • AND WHEN THAT HIT THE NEWS, IT WAS DEVASTATING
  • 00:18:28.220 --> 00:18:32.040
  • FOR ALL OF THOSE OF US WHO WORK IN THIS INDUSTRY
  • 00:18:32.060 --> 00:18:34.130
  • AND WORK WITH MOMS AND BABIES.
  • 00:18:34.150 --> 00:18:36.110
  • IT REALLY PUSHED ME TO DO SOMETHING.
  • 00:18:36.130 --> 00:18:42.180
  • I WASN'T QUITE SURE WHAT THAT SOMETHING WAS GOING
  • 00:18:42.200 --> 00:18:44.170
  • TO BE. I JUST KNEW THAT I COULDN'T WAIT FOR ANOTHER
  • 00:18:44.190 --> 00:18:47.260
  • TEEN TO GO THROUGH AN EXPERIENCE LIKE THAT OR
  • 00:18:47.280 --> 00:18:52.010
  • FOR ANOTHER BABY TO NOT GET A CHANCE TO LIVE.
  • 00:18:52.030 --> 00:18:55.110
  • - I HAVE A LOT OF GOOD SUPPORT SYSTEMS NOW.
  • 00:18:55.130 --> 00:18:59.240
  • MY GRANDPARENTS HAVE DEFINITELY BEEN A REALLY
  • 00:18:59.260 --> 00:19:01.150
  • GOOD SUPPORT SYSTEM.
  • 00:19:01.170 --> 00:19:03.120
  • NO MATTER WHAT, THEY'RE ALWAYS STILL THERE FOR
  • 00:19:03.140 --> 00:19:05.200
  • ME, AND THEY'RE ALWAYS ENCOURAGING ME TO
  • 00:19:05.220 --> 00:19:07.290
  • DO THE RIGHT THING.
  • 00:19:08.010 --> 00:19:10.020
  • AND EVERY MORNING I GET UP, MY GRANDMA IS LIKE
  • 00:19:10.040 --> 00:19:12.050
  • "HAVE A GREAT DAY AT SCHOOL, LEARN SOMETHING TODAY."
  • 00:19:12.070 --> 00:19:15.210
  • AND WHEN I COME HOME FROM SCHOOL MY GRANDPA IS LIKE
  • 00:19:15.230 --> 00:19:18.000
  • "SO WHAT DID YOU LEARN AT SCHOOL TODAY?"
  • 00:19:18.020 --> 00:19:20.080
  • THEY'RE JUST HAPPY FOR ME THAT I'M DOING EVERYTHING
  • 00:19:20.100 --> 00:19:24.170
  • I NEED TO DO TO GRADUATE AND FURTHER MY CAREER.
  • 00:19:24.190 --> 00:19:30.270
  • - WE'RE REAL BIG ON NOT DOING IT FOR THEM BECAUSE
  • 00:19:30.290 --> 00:19:34.170
  • THE ONLY WAY THEY CAN REALLY MOVE FORWARD INTO
  • 00:19:34.190 --> 00:19:36.100
  • ADULTHOOD IS TO LEARN HOW TO DO IT THEMSELVES.
  • 00:19:36.120 --> 00:19:39.270
  • AND SOMETIMES IT'S HARD BECAUSE IT WOULD BE
  • 00:19:39.290 --> 00:19:43.030
  • EASIER SOMETIMES TO JUST DO IT FOR THEM, BUT FOR
  • 00:19:43.050 --> 00:19:50.280
  • THE LONG RANGE GOAL FOR THESE TEEN FAMILIES IS
  • 00:19:51.000 --> 00:19:55.060
  • FOR THEM TO LEARN HOW TO NAVIGATE THE HEALTH CARE
  • 00:19:55.080 --> 00:19:57.270
  • SYSTEM, THE EDUCATION SYSTEM, LEARN HOW TO DO
  • 00:19:57.290 --> 00:20:01.140
  • BASIC LIFE SKILLS, LEARN HOW TO MANAGE A BUDGET
  • 00:20:01.160 --> 00:20:05.220
  • AND HOW TO FILL OUT YOUR TAX FORMS.
  • 00:20:05.240 --> 00:20:08.010
  • SIMPLE THINGS LIKE THAT THAT YOU WOULD HOPE THAT
  • 00:20:08.030 --> 00:20:10.200
  • SCHOOLS ARE TEACHING AND UNFORTUNATELY MAYBE THE
  • 00:20:10.220 --> 00:20:13.120
  • SCHOOLS ARE NOT TEACHING BASIC LIFE SKILLS ANYMORE.
  • 00:20:13.140 --> 00:20:16.130
  • SO THERE'S A WHOLE PLETHORA OF THINGS THAT
  • 00:20:16.150 --> 00:20:19.160
  • WE CAN DO TO HELP THESE TEENS SUCCEED AND BECOME
  • 00:20:19.180 --> 00:20:22.000
  • AWESOME PARENTS.
  • 00:20:22.020 --> 00:20:24.210
  • - WHILE I WAS PREGNANT AND AFTER I GAVE BIRTH
  • 00:20:24.230 --> 00:20:26.210
  • WITH MY CHILD, IT WAS REALLY HARD BEING AWAY
  • 00:20:26.230 --> 00:20:30.110
  • FROM HIM THE NUMBER OF HOURS EACH DAY THAT I
  • 00:20:30.130 --> 00:20:33.130
  • WAS, WHETHER I WAS AT SCHOOL OR AT WORK, BUT I
  • 00:20:33.150 --> 00:20:36.140
  • WANTED TO MAKE THOSE HOURS COUNT.
  • 00:20:36.160 --> 00:20:39.000
  • IF I WAS GOING TO BE AWAY FROM MY CHILD TO GO TO
  • 00:20:39.020 --> 00:20:41.250
  • SCHOOL, THEN I WAS GOING TO BE THE BEST AT SCHOOL.
  • 00:20:41.270 --> 00:20:44.150
  • AND IF I WAS GOING TO BE AWAY FROM HIM TO GO TO
  • 00:20:44.170 --> 00:20:46.250
  • WORK, THEN I WAS GOING TO GIVE MY ALL THERE ALSO.
  • 00:20:46.270 --> 00:20:50.290
  • AND SO WHEN I GRADUATED FROM HIGH SCHOOL IN MAY
  • 00:20:51.010 --> 00:20:55.120
  • 2003, I GRADUATED AS VALEDICTORIAN.
  • 00:20:55.140 --> 00:21:01.020
  • - YOU ARE THE GATEKEEPER OF WHAT YOUR SUCCESS
  • 00:21:01.040 --> 00:21:03.240
  • WILL LOOK LIKE.
  • 00:21:03.260 --> 00:21:05.060
  • AND ONE OF THE THINGS I SAY TO EVERY PARENT AND STUDENT
  • 00:21:05.080 --> 00:21:07.010
  • THAT I MEET WITH, IT'S NOT ABOUT YOU ANYMORE.
  • 00:21:07.030 --> 00:21:10.230
  • IT'S ABOUT YOU TO THE EXTENT THAT
  • 00:21:10.250 --> 00:21:12.280
  • IT AFFECTS THE CHILD.
  • 00:21:13.000 --> 00:21:14.220
  • AND STUDENTS SIT UP WITH THAT BECAUSE THEY'RE LIKE
  • 00:21:14.240 --> 00:21:16.270
  • WOW, YOU'RE TALKING ABOUT MY BABY.
  • 00:21:16.290 --> 00:21:19.000
  • YES, BECAUSE IF I CAN GET YOU TO DO WHAT YOU NEED
  • 00:21:19.020 --> 00:21:21.170
  • TO DO TO MAKE YOURSELF SUCCESSFUL, THAT BABY IS
  • 00:21:21.190 --> 00:21:24.210
  • GONNA JUST FLOURISH, AND THAT'S IMPORTANT TO US.
  • 00:21:24.230 --> 00:21:27.220
  • SO THAT ASSUMPTION COMES IN AT THE POINT OF YOU
  • 00:21:27.240 --> 00:21:32.000
  • CAN DO IT, YOU CAN MAKE IT.
  • 00:21:32.020 --> 00:21:33.200
  • I DON'T WANT TO HEAR THE EXCUSES.
  • 00:21:33.220 --> 00:21:35.250
  • IT DOESN'T MATTER WHAT HAPPENED, DOESN'T MATTER
  • 00:21:35.270 --> 00:21:38.230
  • HOW YOU GOT HERE; YOU'RE HERE.
  • 00:21:38.250 --> 00:21:41.240
  • LET US HELP YOU NAVIGATE BECAUSE YOU CAN BE SUCCESSFUL.
  • 00:21:41.260 --> 00:21:45.040
  • - I GRADUATED LAW SCHOOL ON MOTHER'S DAY IN 2010,
  • 00:21:45.060 --> 00:21:50.120
  • AND SO I WAS REALLY FORTUNATE TO BE ABLE TO
  • 00:21:50.140 --> 00:21:53.240
  • GRADUATE AND MOVE BACK HOME TO CHATTANOOGA AND
  • 00:21:53.260 --> 00:21:57.010
  • START PRACTICING IN ONE OF THE LARGER FIRMS THERE.
  • 00:21:57.030 --> 00:22:01.020
  • I CONTINUED TO WORK AT THE BIG LAW FIRM FOR
  • 00:22:01.040 --> 00:22:03.260
  • ABOUT FIVE YEARS.
  • 00:22:03.280 --> 00:22:05.290
  • AFTER THAT, I HUNG MY OWN SHINGLE.
  • 00:22:06.010 --> 00:22:09.030
  • I STARTED MY OWN PRACTICE ABOUT THREE YEARS AGO,
  • 00:22:09.050 --> 00:22:12.180
  • AND AT THE TIME I HAD A ONE YEAR OLD, A THREE
  • 00:22:12.200 --> 00:22:14.280
  • YEAR OLD AND A 14 YEAR OLD, AND I WAS MARRIED TO
  • 00:22:15.000 --> 00:22:19.000
  • A CAPTAIN IN THE ARMY WHO EVERY TIME I BLINKED, HE
  • 00:22:19.020 --> 00:22:21.260
  • WAS AWAY FOR ONE REASON OR ANOTHER, AND IT WAS
  • 00:22:21.280 --> 00:22:25.260
  • ONE OF THE HARDER THINGS IN LIFE, BUT IT HAS BEEN
  • 00:22:25.280 --> 00:22:30.030
  • WORTH IT WITHOUT QUESTION.
  • 00:22:30.050 --> 00:22:32.210
  • - TEEN PREGNANCY HAS FAR REACHING CONSEQUENCES,
  • 00:22:35.000 --> 00:22:37.290
  • AND UNPLANNED PREGNANCY FOR A YOUNG TEENAGER CAN
  • 00:22:38.010 --> 00:22:40.210
  • BRING FEELINGS OF SHOCK, FEAR AND CONFUSION.
  • 00:22:40.230 --> 00:22:43.260
  • IT IS IMPORTANT TO PROVIDE SUPPORT FOR
  • 00:22:43.280 --> 00:22:45.220
  • PREGNANT AND PARENTING TEENS TO HELP THEM
  • 00:22:45.240 --> 00:22:47.290
  • RECEIVE ADEQUATE SOCIAL AND EMOTIONAL CARE AS
  • 00:22:48.010 --> 00:22:51.030
  • WELL AS MEDICAL AND ACADEMIC AID.
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  • THERE ARE A VARIETY OF RESOURCES INCLUDING
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  • ABSTINENCE EDUCATION AND CLINIC BASED PROGRAMS
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  • DESIGNED FOR DIVERSE POPULATIONS THAT CAN HELP
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  • EDUCATE STUDENTS OF THE RISKS OF TEENAGE PREGNANCY.
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  • IN ADDITION TO THESE PROGRAMS, TEENS NEED
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  • SUPPORT FROM PARENTS AND OTHER TRUSTED ADULTS WHO
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  • CAN PLAY AN IMPORTANT ROLE IN HELPING THEM
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  • MAKE WISE CHOICES.
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  • FOR OVER A DECADE, ASCEND HAS HELPED THOUSANDS OF
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  • AMERICA'S YOUTH MAKE SMART FORWARD-THINKING
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  • CHOICES ABOUT THEIR RELATIONSHIPS.
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  • IF YOU WANT MORE INFORMATION ABOUT
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  • PROGRAMS THAT TEACH STUDENTS THE BENEFITS OF
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  • PRACTICING ABSTINENCE, PLEASE CALL.
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  • - YOU KNOW, NO ONE WOULD ARGUE THAT THE BEST TIME
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  • TO CHOOSE TO BECOME A PARENT IS WHEN YOU'RE IN
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  • A POSITION OF EMOTIONAL, RELATIONAL AND FINANCIAL
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  • STABILITY, READY TO DEVOTE YOUR LIFE TO THE
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  • SUPPORT OF ANOTHER HUMAN BEING.
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  • BUT AS A SOCIETY, WE HAVE HISTORICALLY BEEN TOO
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  • QUICK TO TURN OUR BACKS ON THOSE WHO HAVE FOR
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  • WHATEVER REASON FOUND THEMSELVES HAVING A CHILD
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  • AT AN EARLY AGE.
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  • WITHOUT SUBSTANTIAL SUPPORT, THE FUTURE
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  • PROSPECT FOR THOSE YOUNG PARENTS ARE INDEED VERY GRIM.
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  • BUT AS YOU HAVE SEEN BOTH STATISTICS AND INDIVIDUAL
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  • STORIES HAVE POWERFULLY DEMONSTRATED THAT WHEN
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  • FAMILIES, COMMUNITIES AND GOVERNMENTAL PROGRAMS
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  • ACTUALLY COME TOGETHER TO PROVIDE A NETWORK OF
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  • LOVING AND STRUCTURED ASSISTANTS, WELL THESE
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  • YOUNG PARENTS CAN RISE ABOVE THE CHALLENGES OF
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  • TEEN PARENTHOOD AND IN FACT ENJOY A PRODUCTIVE
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  • FUTURE FOR THEMSELVES AND MOST IMPORTANTLY
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  • FOR THEIR CHILDREN.
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  • - THE ONE THING THAT TEENS WHO MAY BE FACING A
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  • PREGNANCY COULD DO TO POSSIBLY HAVE SOME OF
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  • THESE AMAZING OUTCOMES THAT WE'RE TALKING ABOUT
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  • OUR TEENS IN ARIZONA HAVE HAD IS FIRST AND FOREMOST
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  • YOU'VE GOT TO TALK TO YOUR FAMILY.
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  • THE SOONER YOU TALK TO YOUR FAMILY, THE BETTER
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  • EVERYONE'S GOING TO BE.
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  • THE PREGNANCY IS GOING TO BECOME NOTICEABLE, AND
  • 00:24:55.200 --> 00:24:58.150
  • HIDING IT IS NOT GONNA BE GOOD FOR YOU,
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  • YOUR BODY OR THE BABY.
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  • SO THE FIRST AND FOREMOST, IF YOU FIND
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  • YOURSELF IN A PLANNED OR UNPLANNED PREGNANCY,
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  • TALK TO YOUR FAMILY. GET SOME SUPPORT.
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  • - PART OF ME COMING HERE AS PRINCIPAL, THERE WAS A
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  • QUOTE THAT I ACTUALLY PUT ON MY EMAIL BECAUSE I
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  • THOUGHT IT WAS POWERFUL, AND I'M NOT REALLY SURE
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  • IF MY PREDECESSOR ACTUALLY CREATED THE
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  • QUOTE OR IF IT JUST EXISTED AMONG THE SCHOOL,
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  • IF THEY CAME UP WITH IT AS A GROUP, AND IT SAYS
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  • "TEENAGE PREGNANCY IS NOT A REASON TO FAIL,
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  • IT'S A REASON WHY YOU MUST SUCCEED".
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  • AND I THINK THAT'S BECOME THE NORM.
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  • NOW, I'M NOT SAYING THAT TEEN PREGNANCY, LIKE
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  • WE'RE GLORIFYING TEEN PREGNANCY.
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  • THAT IS NOT WHAT I'M SAYING.
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  • BUT I'M SAYING ONCE IT HAPPENS AND THAT STUDENT
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  • DECIDES TO KEEP THEIR CHILD, WE HAVE TO BE
  • 00:25:43.160 --> 00:25:46.110
  • SUPPORTIVE OF THAT.
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  • WE HAVE TO SHOW THEM THAT IT'S NOT THE END OF THE
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  • WORLD AND GIVE THEM HOPE FOR THEM AND THEIR CHILD.
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  • - I'VE LEARNED NOT TO GIVE UP ON YOURSELF
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  • BECAUSE ONLY YOU CAN DECIDE WHERE YOUR LIFE
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  • GOES, AND YOU HAVE TO PUSH THROUGH ALL THE
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  • STRUGGLES AND ALL OF THE BARRIERS THAT
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  • HANG OVER YOUR SHOULDER.
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  • YOU HAVE TO BE STRONG FOR YOURSELF BECAUSE YOU'RE
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  • THE ONLY ONE THAT CAN GET YOU THROUGH THOSE
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  • CHALLENGES AND BARRIERS.
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  • AND I FEEL THAT NOW I AM A CONFIDENT PERSON.
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  • - I HAVE BIG PLANS RIGHT NOW.
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  • I REALLY WANT TO GO TO COLLEGE AND MAKE IT BIG.
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  • I WANT TO SHOW MY PARENTS THE SUCCESS THAT I HAVE
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  • ACCOMPLISHED. I JUST--
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  • I WANT, I WANT MY FAMILY TO JUST RECOGNIZE
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  • ACCOMPLISHMENTS THAT I HAVE MADE AND HOW
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  • I HAVE CHANGED.
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  • - NOW MY KIDS ARE FOUR, SIX AND 17, AND IT'S
  • 00:26:40.280 --> 00:26:46.100
  • REALLY CRAZY BUT IT'S CRAZY ON MY TERMS.
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  • IT'S CRAZY WHEN I ALLOW IT TO BE CRAZY.
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  • I WORK LATE WHEN I CHOOSE TO WORK LATE, NOT BECAUSE
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  • I'M BEING MADE TO DO SO.
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  • AND I'M PRESENT FOR ABSOLUTELY EVERYTHING,
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  • AND IT'S AMAZING.
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  • IT'S NOT EASY BY ANY CHANCE, BUT IT'S AMAZING,
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  • AND I'M THANKFUL.
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