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- TESTING.
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- MUSIC
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- ONE IN FOUR CHILDREN IN THE
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- UNITED STATES IS BEING RAISED BY
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- A SINGLE MOM AND IN MANY CITIES
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- THAT NUMBER IS MUCH HIGHER, 35
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- TO 40 PERCENT OF CHILDREN ARE
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- BEING RAISED BY SINGLE MOTHERS.
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- - WE HAVE A REDEFINITION OF
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- MARRIAGE IN OUR CULTURE TODAY.
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- CHILDREN BEING BORN OUT OF
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- WEDLOCK.
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- - THEY COME TO US IN CRISIS.
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- THEY COME TO US BECAUSE THEY ARE
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- VICTIMS OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE.
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- - YOU HAVE A SINGLE MOM WHO IS
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- A WIDOW.
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- YOU HAVE A SINGLE MOM WHO GOT
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- LEFT.
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- YOU HAVE A SINGLE MOM WHO LEFT.
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- SOMETIMES THEY CALL IT, I'M
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- SINGLE BY CHOICE.
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- - IF YOU ARE COMING FROM HAVING
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- TWO INCOMES AND YOU BUILT YOUR
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- LIFE AROUND HAVING TWO INCOMES,
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- IT IS A DRAMATIC SHIFT.
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- - AND IT JUST SEEMS LIKE THEY
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- ARE TANGLED UP IN THIS SPOT OF
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- UNCERTAINTY.
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- OF HEARTACHE.
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- - THERE ARE MOTHERS REALLY
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- STRUGGLING TO RAISE THEIR
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- FAMILIES ALONE.
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- - SOMETIMES THE ANSWERS OR THE
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- SOLUTIONS ARE NOT FIXING THE
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- ROOT OF THE PROBLEM.
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- MUSIC
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- TAKING CARE OF BUSINESS
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- TAKING CARE OF BUSINESS
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- MUSIC
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- - Kelly: THE UNITED STATES IS
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- IN THE MIDDLE OF A PARENTING
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- CRISIS.
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- TOO MANY CHILDREN ACROSS AMERICA
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- ARE GROWING UP WITH ONLY ONE
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- PARENT OR WITH ONE PARENT AND A
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- STRING OF TEMPORARY PARTNERS.
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- MOST SINGLE PARENTS ARE DOING
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- THEIR BEST, THERE IS NO DENYING
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- THE IMPACT SINGLE PARENTING HAS
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- ON THEIR CHILDREN, THEIR PARENTS
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- AND EVEN THE ECONOMY.
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- FIRST, SOME FACTS.
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- ACCORDING TO STATISTICS,
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- 35 PERCENT OF AMERICAN CHILDREN
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- ARE GROWING UP IN SINGLE PARENT
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- HOUSEHOLDS.
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- THIS INCLUDES 24 PERCENT OF
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- WHITE CHILDREN AND 16 PERCENT OF
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- ASIAN OR PACIFIC ISLANDER
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- CHILDREN.
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- UNFORTUNATELY FOR OTHER
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- MINORITIES, THE STATISTICS ARE
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- EVEN MORE SHOCKING.
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- THERE ARE 42 PERCENT OF HISPANIC
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- AMERICAN CHILDREN GROWING UP IN
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- SINGLE PARENT HOUSEHOLDS WHICH
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- IS THE SAME PERCENTAGE FOR
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- CHILDREN OF MIXED RACE.
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- 52 PERCENT OF NATIVE AMERICANS
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- GROW UP WITH ONLY ONE PARENT AND
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- 66 PERCENT OF AFRICAN-AMERICAN
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- CHILDREN GROW UP IN A SINGLE
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- PARENT HOUSEHOLD.
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- NOW THE PEOPLE YOU ARE ABOUT TO
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- MEET KNOW HOW IMPORTANT IT IS TO
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- HELP SINGLE MOTHERS FACING THE
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- CHALLENGES OF PARENTING ALONE.
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- AS WELL AS THE EMOTIONAL,
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- PHYSICAL AND EVEN SOCIAL
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- PRESSURES THAT COME WITH RAISING
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- CHILDREN BY THEMSELVES.
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- MUSIC
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- - I NEVER THOUGHT I WAS GOING
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- TO BE A SINGLE MOM.
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- I GOT MARRIED AT 22.
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- I HAD MY GIRLS.
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- I THOUGHT I HAD EVERYTHING
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- PLANNED OUT.
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- THAT DID NOT WORK OUT.
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- SO FOUR YEARS AGO I FOUND MYSELF
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- AS A SINGLE MOM.
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- I DIDN'T KNOW WHAT I WAS GOING
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- TO DO.
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- - PEOPLE DON'T REALLY REALIZE
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- WHAT YOU'RE GOING THROUGH.
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- I HADN'T WORKED IN FOUR YEARS.
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- I COULD NOT EVEN RENT AN
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- APARTMENT.
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- I HAD NO CLOTHING FOR MYSELF OR
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- FOR MY KIDS.
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- YOU COMPLETELY ARE STARTING YOUR
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- LIFE OVER AGAIN.
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- - YOU KNOW, YOU ARE DRIVING
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- DOWN THE STREET THINKING OF ALL
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- THESE OTHER THINGS THAT ARE
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- PULLING AT YOU.
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- YOU WANT TO DO WELL IN YOUR
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- CAREER, YOU WANT TO BE PRESENT
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- IN YOUR PROFESSIONALISM.
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- BUT YOU ARE ALSO A MOM ALL THE
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- TIME.
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- THAT NEVER GOES AWAY.
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- THAT TUG NEVER GOES AWAY.
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- - WHEN I WAS GOING THROUGH
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- EVERYTHING AND I HAD TO SEE
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- MYSELF IN A PLACE I NEVER
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- THOUGHT I SAW MYSELF WHICH WAS
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- AT THE COUNTY APPLYING FOR FOOD
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- STAMPS AND APPLYING FOR
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- INSURANCE AND HEALTH INSURANCE,
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- I REALIZED QUICKLY THAT THIS WAS
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- NOT GOOD ENOUGH.
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- - YOU PICK UP THE PHONE AND YOU
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- MIGHT CALL A FRIEND, I REMEMBER
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- CALLING A FRIEND AT SOME POINT.
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- SHE SAID CASSIE, PULL IT
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- TOGETHER LIKE THE REST OF US.
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- AND GET OUT THERE AND WORK 40
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- HOURS A WEEK AND PUT YOUR KID IN
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- DAY CARE.
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- - I KNEW IN MY GUT WHEN SHE
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- GAVE ME THAT ADVICE THAT WAS NOT
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- THE ROAD I WAS GOING TO TAKE.
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- THAT COULD NOT BE MY LIFE.
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- - THEY COME TO US IN CRISIS.
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- THEY COME TO US BECAUSE THEY ARE
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- VICTIMS OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE.
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- THE HUSBAND LEFT WITH SOMEBODY
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- YOUNGER.
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- AND SUDDENLY THEY FACE BEING
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- ALONE, THEY FACE TERRIBLE ISSUES
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- WITH SELF-ESTEEM AND A LOT OF
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- FINANCIAL STRUGGLES.
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- - THE FINANCIAL IMPACT OF
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- SINGLE PARENTHOOD IS PROBABLY
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- ONE OF THE TOUGHEST CHALLENGES.
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- IF YOU ARE COMING FROM HAVING
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- TWO INCOMES AND YOU BUILT YOUR
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- LIFE AROUND HAVING TWO INCOMES,
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- IT IS A DRAMATIC SHIFT.
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- THE AVERAGE COST OF CHILD CARE
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- IN SACRAMENTO COUNTY IS $874.
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- THE AVERAGE COST OF A TWO
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- BEDROOM APARTMENT IS $1.500.
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- SO IF I AM A SINGLE PERSON AND I
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- HAVE JUST CHILD CARE AND HOUSING
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- COSTS I'M AT ALMOST $2.500 A
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- MONTH JUST IN CHILD CARE AND
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- HOUSING.
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- WHAT IF I HAVE A CAR PAYMENT?
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- I NEED TO PAY CAR INSURANCE.
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- I STILL HAVE TO BUY GROCERIES,
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- WHEN WE ARE IN THREE TO $4.000
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- OF JUST NORMAL MONTHLY EXPENSES
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- WITH ONE INCOME.
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- A SINGLE MOTHER'S AVERAGE INCOME
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- IS $2.100 PER MONTH.
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- SO, FOR MANY OF THEM IT IS
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- ALMOST FACING DEFEAT.
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- AND HOW YOU OVERCOME THAT IS
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- EXTREMELY CHALLENGING.
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- - I KNOW WHAT IT IS LIKE TO
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- HAVE TO FIGURE OUT CHILD CARE
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- AND HAVE TO FIGURE OUT A JOB AND
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- TRANSPORTATION.
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- I'VE BEEN THERE.
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- HOW DO YOU RENT AN APARTMENT BY
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- YOURSELF?
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- HOW DO YOU DO THIS?
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- I HAD NO IDEA.
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- - THERE WAS NOT SOMEBODY WHO
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- WAS SAYING I KNOW WHAT YOU ARE
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- GOING THROUGH, WHAT IT FEELS
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- LIKE TO HAVE ABSOLUTELY NOTHING
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- AND TO HAVE TO BUILD UP FROM
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- THERE.
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- - MOMS COME IN AND 50 PERCENT
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- OF THEM HAVE EXPERIENCED
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- DOMESTIC VIOLENCE.
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- 99 PERCENT OF THEM LIVE UNDER
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- THE POVERTY LEVEL.
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- IT IS $14.000 A YEAR OR BELOW.
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- THEY'RE EXPERIENCING AN ENORMOUS
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- AMOUNT OF STRESS.
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- SO THEY COME FEELING WORTHLESS.
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- THEY COME FEELING HOPELESS.
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- AND THEY HAVE THESE LITTLE
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- PRECIOUS CHILDREN TO TAKE CARE
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- OF.
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- - A LOT OF OUR CURRENT
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- ORGANIZATIONS THAT ARE HELPING
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- FAMILIES OUT THERE ARE USUALLY
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- NOT ABLE TO HELP BECAUSE OF
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- FUNDING UNTIL THERE IS AN
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- ABSOLUTE CRISIS.
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- SO THAT MOTHER HAS TO HAVE LOST
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- EVERYTHING BEFORE THEY WILL BE
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- HELPED.
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- THEY WILL HAVE TO BE IN THEIR
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- CAR, THEY WILL HAVE TO HAVE LOST
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- THEIR HOUSING COMPLETELY, THEY
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- MAY HAVE GONE OUT TO LOOK FOR
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- HELP BEFORE THE CRISIS SET IN
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- BUT THEY WERE TURNED AWAY.
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- THEY COULD NOT BE HELPED UNTIL
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- THE ACTUAL CRISIS WAS THERE.
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- SO WHEN WE FIND OUR WOMEN AND
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- THEY ARE TRYING TO BUILD BACK
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- UP, THEY REALLY HAVE A LOT LESS
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- RESOURCES THEN THAN THEY WOULD
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- HAVE IF THEY WERE HELPED WHEN
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- THEY WERE IN THAT PLACE WHERE
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- THEY WERE KEEPING IT ALL
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- TOGETHER.
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- - WHEN I READ AN EMAIL I'M
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- EITHER GETTING I AM ANGRY AND
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- HURT AND DISAPPOINTED OR I'M
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- GETTING, I'M HURT, I'M ANGRY AND
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- DISAPPOINTED BUT I DON'T WANT TO
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- BE THERE ANYMORE.
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- IDENTIFYING IS THIS WOMAN READY
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- TO LAUNCH INTO SUCCESS?
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- IS SHE READY TO START THE
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- HEALING JOURNEY?
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- I CAN SIT THERE WITH YOU AND WE
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- CAN BE ANGRY, HURT AND
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- DISAPPOINTED AND WE CAN REVEL IN
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- IT, WHAT I REALLY LOVE IS WHEN I
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- GET THAT SINGLE MOM WHO SAYS,
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- MAN, I DON'T WANT TO BE HERE
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- ANYMORE.
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- CAN YOU WALK WITH ME AS WE WALK
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- OUT OF IT?
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- - Kelly: BEING A SINGLE PARENT
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- COMES WITH A UNIQUE SET OF
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- EMOTIONAL CHALLENGES.
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- COUNTLESS MOMS GRAPPLE WITH SELF
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- DOUBT AND ANXIETY OVER MONEY.
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- AND EXPERIENCE STRESS WHILE
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- JUGGLING ALL THE
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- RESPONSIBILITIES THAT COME WITH
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- MOTHERHOOD.
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- - THE EMOTIONAL IMPACT ON A
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- SINGLE MOTHER IS HEAVY.
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- THAT FEELING OF BEING
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- OVERWHELMED AND TIRED ALL THE
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- TIME.
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- OF NOT HAVING SPACE FOR
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- YOURSELF.
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- OF WANTING THE BEST FOR YOUR
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- CHILD AND TRYING TO FIGURE OUT
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- HOW TO CARRY THAT BURDEN.
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- - I WAS JUST TRYING TO PICK UP
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- THE PIECES IN PURE SURVIVAL
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- MODE.
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- AND IT IS HARD FOR PEOPLE WHO
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- HAVE NOT BEEN THROUGH IT TO
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- UNDERSTAND EXACTLY WHAT IT IS
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- LIKE.
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- IT WAS HARD FOR ME GOING THROUGH
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- IT BECAUSE I NEVER WANTED TO BE
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- IN A POSITION THAT I NEEDED THE
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- HELP.
- 00:08:51.220 --> 00:08:53.280
- - THEY FEEL LIKE IT IS THEIR
- 00:08:53.280 --> 00:08:56.050
- MESS AND THEY DON'T WANT TO
- 00:08:56.050 --> 00:08:57.190
- BOTHER ANYTHING WITH IT.
- 00:08:57.190 --> 00:08:59.260
- THEY DON'T WANT TO ASK ANYBODY
- 00:08:59.260 --> 00:09:01.280
- TO COME IN AND SEE THEIR MESS.
- 00:09:01.280 --> 00:09:03.100
- SO THERE IS A LOFT SHAME
- 00:09:03.100 --> 00:09:04.150
- INVOLVED AS WELL.
- 00:09:04.150 --> 00:09:06.150
- - SINGLE MOMS HAVE A VARIETY OF
- 00:09:06.150 --> 00:09:07.120
- NEEDS, THE BIGGEST ONE IS THAT
- 00:09:07.120 --> 00:09:10.070
- FEELING OF LONELINESS, THAT
- 00:09:10.070 --> 00:09:11.240
- SENSE OF BEING COMPLETELY ON
- 00:09:11.240 --> 00:09:12.240
- THEIR OWN.
- 00:09:12.240 --> 00:09:14.040
- - YOU ARE ENTERING INTO THE
- 00:09:14.040 --> 00:09:14.260
- UNKNOWN.
- 00:09:14.260 --> 00:09:16.100
- YOU DON'T HAVE A JOB.
- 00:09:16.100 --> 00:09:17.150
- YOU DON'T HAVE ANYWHERE TO GO
- 00:09:17.150 --> 00:09:19.170
- AND YOU DON'T REALLY KNOW WHO TO
- 00:09:19.170 --> 00:09:20.250
- TURN TO OR WHO YOU CAN EVEN
- 00:09:20.250 --> 00:09:21.200
- TRUST.
- 00:09:21.200 --> 00:09:24.020
- - FOR MANY YEARS I KNOW
- 00:09:24.020 --> 00:09:24.240
- PERSONALLY I FELT COMPLETELY
- 00:09:24.240 --> 00:09:26.180
- INVISIBLE.
- 00:09:26.180 --> 00:09:28.040
- I WAS GETTING UP AND DOING
- 00:09:28.040 --> 00:09:29.130
- THINGS I NEEDED TO DO AND I WAS
- 00:09:29.130 --> 00:09:31.000
- STRUGGLING TO BE EVEN MYSELF AND
- 00:09:31.000 --> 00:09:32.120
- TO FIND MYSELF.
- 00:09:32.120 --> 00:09:33.190
- - IN THE BEGINNING I WAS NOT
- 00:09:33.190 --> 00:09:35.190
- BALANCING IT.
- 00:09:35.190 --> 00:09:36.190
- THAT WAS NOT A WORD.
- 00:09:36.190 --> 00:09:39.180
- I WAS AT THE LIBRARY TO MIDNIGHT
- 00:09:39.180 --> 00:09:40.250
- ALMOST EVERY NIGHT.
- 00:09:40.250 --> 00:09:42.180
- I WAS BURNED OUT.
- 00:09:42.180 --> 00:09:43.150
- I WAS CRYING.
- 00:09:43.150 --> 00:09:44.290
- - THEIR CHILDREN ARE LOOKING AT
- 00:09:44.290 --> 00:09:46.050
- A MOM WHO IS PROBABLY PRETTY
- 00:09:46.050 --> 00:09:47.160
- FRANTIC, PROBABLY PRETTY
- 00:09:47.160 --> 00:09:49.060
- DESPERATE.
- 00:09:49.060 --> 00:09:50.280
- PRETTY LIMITED ON TIME TO SPEND
- 00:09:50.280 --> 00:09:52.210
- WITH THEIR CHILDREN
- 00:09:52.280 --> 00:09:55.280
- INTENTIONALLY AND WHAT CHILDREN
- 00:09:55.280 --> 00:09:58.010
- NEED IS THAT SENSE OF STABILITY
- 00:09:58.010 --> 00:10:00.050
- THAT THEIR MOTHER IS STABLE.
- 00:10:00.050 --> 00:10:01.250
- THAT THEIR ENVIRONMENT IS
- 00:10:01.250 --> 00:10:02.290
- STABLE.
- 00:10:02.290 --> 00:10:05.070
- - I SEE SOME OF OUR MOMS
- 00:10:05.070 --> 00:10:06.280
- SUFFERING WITH CHILD CARE,
- 00:10:06.280 --> 00:10:08.240
- SUFFERING WITH PARENTING
- 00:10:08.240 --> 00:10:10.160
- SUPPORT.
- 00:10:10.160 --> 00:10:12.000
- SUFFERING WITH HOW TO IMPLEMENT
- 00:10:12.000 --> 00:10:13.050
- RULES AT HOME.
- 00:10:13.050 --> 00:10:14.260
- SUFFERING WITH THE FACT THAT
- 00:10:14.260 --> 00:10:16.180
- MOMS HAVE TO DO TWO JOBS IN
- 00:10:16.180 --> 00:10:19.120
- ORDER TO PROVIDE FOR THE HOUSE.
- 00:10:19.120 --> 00:10:21.140
- SO SOMETIMES THE KIDS DON'T GET
- 00:10:21.140 --> 00:10:22.120
- THAT PATIENCE.
- 00:10:22.120 --> 00:10:24.160
- - THEY ARE STATISTICALLY HIGHER
- 00:10:24.160 --> 00:10:27.160
- AT RISK OF ABUSE FOR THEIR
- 00:10:27.160 --> 00:10:28.250
- CHILDREN.
- 00:10:28.250 --> 00:10:31.020
- BUT MANY OF THE WOMEN HAVE GONE
- 00:10:31.020 --> 00:10:32.220
- THROUGH ABUSE THEMSELVES.
- 00:10:32.220 --> 00:10:34.130
- - DAUGHTERS OF SINGLE MOTHERS
- 00:10:34.130 --> 00:10:35.220
- ARE MORE LIKELY TO ENGAGE IN SEX
- 00:10:35.220 --> 00:10:37.190
- AT A YOUNGER AGE.
- 00:10:37.190 --> 00:10:38.220
- THEY ARE MORE LIKELY TO GIVE
- 00:10:38.220 --> 00:10:39.190
- BIRTH OUTSIDE MARRIAGE
- 00:10:39.190 --> 00:10:40.240
- THEMSELVES.
- 00:10:40.240 --> 00:10:42.130
- AND THAT PROMISCUITY COMES FROM
- 00:10:43.020 --> 00:10:46.020
- SEEKING THE LOVE OF A MALE.
- 00:10:46.020 --> 00:10:47.220
- AND THAT'S SOMETHING THEY ARE
- 00:10:47.220 --> 00:10:48.140
- LACKING.
- 00:10:48.140 --> 00:10:49.000
- THEY ARE REACHING OUT FOR IT IN
- 00:10:49.000 --> 00:10:49.270
- WAYS THAT ARE NOT HEALTHY.
- 00:10:49.270 --> 00:10:51.050
- - I THOUGHT EVERYONE WAS GOING
- 00:10:51.050 --> 00:10:53.270
- TO JUDGE MY CHILDREN.
- 00:10:53.270 --> 00:10:55.140
- I THOUGHT THAT THEY WERE GOING
- 00:10:55.140 --> 00:10:57.080
- TO STOP BEING INVITED PLACES.
- 00:10:57.080 --> 00:10:58.250
- THAT I WAS GOING TO STOP BEING
- 00:10:58.250 --> 00:11:00.150
- INVITED PLACES BECAUSE I WAS NOT
- 00:11:00.150 --> 00:11:01.230
- GOING TO FIT IN.
- 00:11:01.230 --> 00:11:02.230
- I WAS AN OTHER.
- 00:11:02.230 --> 00:11:04.030
- I DID NOT BELONG.
- 00:11:04.030 --> 00:11:06.040
- - WHEN YOU TALK ABOUT
- 00:11:06.040 --> 00:11:07.180
- FATHERLESS KIDS RIGHT NOW IT
- 00:11:07.180 --> 00:11:09.100
- SOUNDS SO DREARY.
- 00:11:09.100 --> 00:11:11.040
- IT SOUNDS LIKE IT IS A DEATH
- 00:11:11.040 --> 00:11:11.250
- SENTENCE.
- 00:11:11.250 --> 00:11:14.070
- THERE IS NOTHING POSITIVE THAT
- 00:11:14.070 --> 00:11:15.070
- WILL HAPPEN FOR THIS CHILD.
- 00:11:15.070 --> 00:11:16.190
- AND THAT'S JUST NOT TRUE.
- 00:11:16.260 --> 00:11:19.260
- - WE SEE A LOT OF WOMEN WHO
- 00:11:21.240 --> 00:11:24.240
- MAYBE SEE THE SEASON AS
- 00:11:24.240 --> 00:11:27.140
- TEMPORARY, AND SO WHILE THEY ARE
- 00:11:27.140 --> 00:11:28.060
- IN THE STAGE THEY ARE LOOKING
- 00:11:28.060 --> 00:11:29.030
- FOR THEIR NEXT RELATIONSHIP.
- 00:11:29.030 --> 00:11:29.240
- THEY ARE TRYING TO MOVE OUT OF
- 00:11:29.240 --> 00:11:30.160
- IT AS QUICKLY AS POSSIBLE.
- 00:11:30.160 --> 00:11:32.080
- - YOU FIND YOURSELF MAKING
- 00:11:32.080 --> 00:11:34.200
- CHOICES WITH FRIENDS OR PEOPLE.
- 00:11:34.200 --> 00:11:36.280
- FOR ME I WENT STRAIGHT TO THE
- 00:11:36.280 --> 00:11:37.200
- BOTTLE.
- 00:11:37.200 --> 00:11:39.100
- OR I WOULD, DRUGS, ALCOHOL,
- 00:11:39.100 --> 00:11:41.010
- MEN,.
- 00:11:41.180 --> 00:11:44.180
- - THEY ARE SO PREOCCUPIED
- 00:11:44.180 --> 00:11:46.010
- TRYING TO MOVE OUT OF BEING A
- 00:11:46.010 --> 00:11:47.070
- SINGLE PARENT BECAUSE AFTER THAT
- 00:11:49.050 --> 00:11:52.050
- LABEL, THAT COMES WITH THAT
- 00:11:52.050 --> 00:11:53.070
- LABEL, THEY ARE JUST SO
- 00:11:53.070 --> 00:11:55.030
- DESPERATE TO GET OUT OF THAT
- 00:11:55.030 --> 00:11:56.080
- SITUATION THEY MAKE CHOICES THAT
- 00:11:56.080 --> 00:11:57.220
- ARE NOT THE HEALTHIEST FOR THEM.
- 00:11:57.260 --> 00:12:00.280
- - YOU ARE PULLING AT WHATEVER
- 00:12:00.280 --> 00:12:01.240
- IT COULD BE.
- 00:12:01.240 --> 00:12:02.100
- MAYBE IT IS JUST A BUSY
- 00:12:02.100 --> 00:12:03.000
- SCHEDULE.
- 00:12:03.000 --> 00:12:04.140
- MAYBE YOU ARE JUST STAYING BUSY
- 00:12:04.140 --> 00:12:05.070
- AND LOOKING FOR SOLUTIONS TO FIX
- 00:12:05.250 --> 00:12:08.250
- SOMETHING THAT ARE NOT REALLY
- 00:12:08.250 --> 00:12:10.250
- GETTING YOU WHERE YOU NEED TO
- 00:12:10.250 --> 00:12:12.250
- GO.
- 00:12:12.250 --> 00:12:15.150
- - SO ONE OF OUR GOALS FOR
- 00:12:15.150 --> 00:12:17.100
- THRIVE IS TO HELP WOMEN FIND
- 00:12:17.100 --> 00:12:19.070
- THEIR PURPOSE AND TO FIND THEIR
- 00:12:19.070 --> 00:12:20.270
- PURPOSE THEY HAVE TO FIND THEIR
- 00:12:20.270 --> 00:12:21.270
- VOICE.
- 00:12:21.270 --> 00:12:22.260
- IT MEANS GOING BACK TO SEEING
- 00:12:22.260 --> 00:12:25.120
- ALL THE THINGS THAT HAVE
- 00:12:25.120 --> 00:12:26.010
- HAPPENED TO YOU IN THE PAST
- 00:12:26.010 --> 00:12:27.240
- KNOWING GOD HAS GIVEN YOU THOSE
- 00:12:27.240 --> 00:12:29.090
- THINGS FOR A REASON.
- 00:12:29.090 --> 00:12:30.110
- HOW DO YOU TRANSFORM THAT PAIN
- 00:12:30.110 --> 00:12:32.030
- INTO PURPOSE?
- 00:12:35.120 --> 00:12:38.120
- - Kelly: THE MOST COMMON LIFE
- 00:12:38.120 --> 00:12:39.130
- EVENTS LEADING TO SINGLE
- 00:12:39.130 --> 00:12:40.110
- PARENTHOOD LIKE DEATH AND
- 00:12:40.110 --> 00:12:42.000
- DIVORCE UPSET MORE THAN THE
- 00:12:42.000 --> 00:12:43.220
- MARITAL STATUS.
- 00:12:43.220 --> 00:12:46.020
- THEY UPSET THE FAMILY'S
- 00:12:46.020 --> 00:12:47.010
- FINANCIAL BALANCE.
- 00:12:47.010 --> 00:12:49.010
- LEAVING ONE ADULT SHOULDERING A
- 00:12:49.010 --> 00:12:51.080
- LOAD THAT HAS BEEN TYPICALLY
- 00:12:51.100 --> 00:12:54.100
- CARRIED BY TWO PARENTS.
- 00:12:54.100 --> 00:12:56.000
- TOO OFTEN SINGLE PARENTS HANG IN
- 00:12:56.000 --> 00:12:57.020
- LIMBO WAITING FOR CHILD SUPPORT
- 00:12:57.050 --> 00:13:00.070
- THAT NEVER ARRIVES, LEAVING THEM
- 00:13:00.070 --> 00:13:01.230
- WITH LESS IN THEIR CHECKING
- 00:13:02.000 --> 00:13:05.000
- ACCOUNT THAN WHAT THEIR KIDS
- 00:13:05.000 --> 00:13:05.270
- NEED.
- 00:13:05.270 --> 00:13:07.110
- SINGLE MOMS SAY THAT SOMETIMES
- 00:13:07.110 --> 00:13:08.200
- THEY FEEL TRAPPED UNDER A
- 00:13:08.200 --> 00:13:10.290
- MOUNTAIN OF RESPONSIBILITY THAT
- 00:13:10.290 --> 00:13:13.030
- LEADS THEM INTO SOCIAL
- 00:13:13.030 --> 00:13:13.210
- ISOLATION.
- 00:13:13.210 --> 00:13:16.210
- - A SOCIAL IMPACT SINGLE MOMS
- 00:13:16.210 --> 00:13:19.160
- EXPERIENCE IS THAT FEELING OF
- 00:13:19.160 --> 00:13:21.240
- NOT FITTING IN.
- 00:13:22.160 --> 00:13:25.160
- MOST OF THE TIME THEY ARE COMING
- 00:13:25.160 --> 00:13:28.100
- FROM A SITUATION WHERE THEY WERE
- 00:13:28.100 --> 00:13:29.060
- MARRIED OR WITH THEIR PARTNER
- 00:13:29.060 --> 00:13:30.250
- AND THEIR FRIENDS ARE MARRIED OR
- 00:13:30.250 --> 00:13:32.120
- WITH THEIR PARTNERS AND UPON
- 00:13:32.120 --> 00:13:34.210
- DIVORCE OR LEAVING, WHATEVER THE
- 00:13:34.210 --> 00:13:36.020
- CASE IS, THAT BRINGS THEM INTO
- 00:13:36.020 --> 00:13:37.230
- SINGLE PARENTHOOD, THEY LOSE
- 00:13:37.230 --> 00:13:39.150
- THEIR CIRCLE OF FRIENDS, AND
- 00:13:39.150 --> 00:13:42.120
- THEY DON'T FIT IN WITH THE
- 00:13:42.120 --> 00:13:45.010
- MARRIED COUPLES ANYMORE.
- 00:13:45.010 --> 00:13:46.230
- AND NONE OF THEIR FRIENDS ARE
- 00:13:46.230 --> 00:13:47.140
- SINGLE WITH CHILDREN.
- 00:13:47.140 --> 00:13:48.210
- SO THEY HAVE SINGLE FRIENDS WHO
- 00:13:48.210 --> 00:13:49.280
- STILL WANT TO GO OUT AND HAVE A
- 00:13:49.280 --> 00:13:51.120
- GOOD TIME.
- 00:13:51.120 --> 00:13:53.160
- THEY DON'T FIT IN THAT GROUP
- 00:13:53.160 --> 00:13:54.150
- EITHER ANYMORE.
- 00:13:54.150 --> 00:13:56.240
- SO THERE IS JUST THAT FEELING OF
- 00:13:56.240 --> 00:13:58.040
- WHERE DO I FIT IN?
- 00:13:58.040 --> 00:13:59.260
- THAT IS VERY LONELY.
- 00:14:01.000 --> 00:14:04.000
- - YOU HAVE YOUR SET OF FRIENDS
- 00:14:04.000 --> 00:14:06.200
- YOU HAVE BEFORE THE DIVORCE.
- 00:14:07.120 --> 00:14:10.120
- OR EVEN THEY WERE HIGH SCHOOL
- 00:14:10.120 --> 00:14:12.010
- FRIENDS, THEY ALL GO IN THESE
- 00:14:12.010 --> 00:14:13.170
- DIFFERENT PLACES.
- 00:14:13.170 --> 00:14:15.120
- YOU FIND YOURSELF SINGLE, ALONE,
- 00:14:16.240 --> 00:14:19.240
- MESSY, AND WHO DO YOU SPEAK TO?
- 00:14:21.000 --> 00:14:24.000
- WHO DO YOU INVITE INTO THAT
- 00:14:24.000 --> 00:14:25.060
- PLACE?
- 00:14:25.060 --> 00:14:26.210
- THAT IS A VULNERABLE PLACE.
- 00:14:26.290 --> 00:14:29.290
- YOU DON'T HAVE IT ALL TOGETHER.
- 00:14:29.290 --> 00:14:31.190
- MAYBE YOU DID NOT HAVE IT
- 00:14:31.190 --> 00:14:32.110
- TOGETHER THEN.
- 00:14:32.110 --> 00:14:33.210
- I DON'T THINK THERE WAS A TIME I
- 00:14:33.210 --> 00:14:34.170
- HAD IT TOGETHER.
- 00:14:34.170 --> 00:14:36.140
- AND I'M EVEN MORE ON THE BOTTOM.
- 00:14:36.140 --> 00:14:38.210
- AND WHO DO I ALLOW, WHO DO I
- 00:14:38.210 --> 00:14:40.070
- WELCOME IN TO THAT PLACE AND
- 00:14:40.070 --> 00:14:42.000
- WALK ME THROUGH THE MESSINESS?
- 00:14:44.000 --> 00:14:47.000
- TO CRY ON, TO TALK TO, TO LISTEN
- 00:14:47.000 --> 00:14:48.190
- TO, TO TRUST?
- 00:14:49.270 --> 00:14:52.270
- THAT IS NOT AN EASY PLACE TO BE.
- 00:14:52.270 --> 00:14:55.150
- IF YOU DON'T HAVE A LOT OF
- 00:14:55.150 --> 00:14:57.090
- PEOPLE THAT CAN SPEAK THAT
- 00:14:57.090 --> 00:14:59.120
- TRUTH, THAT ARE EVEN INTUNE AND
- 00:14:59.120 --> 00:15:01.000
- THEY CAN DISCERN WHERE I'M AT
- 00:15:01.180 --> 00:15:04.180
- AND WHERE I NEED TO GO, IT IS
- 00:15:04.180 --> 00:15:05.120
- NOT EASY TO FIND THOSE PEOPLE.
- 00:15:06.260 --> 00:15:09.260
- - ONE OF THE BIGGEST DANGERS I
- 00:15:09.260 --> 00:15:10.250
- SEE IN SINGLE PARENT HOUSEHOLDS
- 00:15:10.250 --> 00:15:12.070
- AND ESPECIALLY WITH SINGLE MOMS
- 00:15:12.070 --> 00:15:14.120
- IS THE EMERGENCE OF SOCIAL MEDIA
- 00:15:14.120 --> 00:15:16.070
- AND THE RELIANCE ON SOCIAL MEDIA
- 00:15:16.070 --> 00:15:18.080
- BEING THE ONLY OUTLET FOR
- 00:15:18.080 --> 00:15:20.010
- COMMUNITY WE HAVE.
- 00:15:20.010 --> 00:15:21.090
- WE FEEL IF WE CAN HOP ON
- 00:15:21.090 --> 00:15:23.140
- FACEBOOK AT THE END OF THE NIGHT
- 00:15:23.140 --> 00:15:26.040
- AND LIKE AND COMMENT ON A FEW
- 00:15:26.040 --> 00:15:27.180
- THINGS WE FEEL LIKE WE HAVE A
- 00:15:27.180 --> 00:15:28.270
- SENSE WE CONNECTED IN SOME WAY
- 00:15:28.270 --> 00:15:30.030
- TO OTHER HUMAN BEINGS, THE TRUTH
- 00:15:30.030 --> 00:15:31.110
- IS THAT IS NOT GOING TO FILL THE
- 00:15:31.110 --> 00:15:33.100
- NEED.
- 00:15:33.100 --> 00:15:36.060
- THERE IS SO MUCH DANGEROUS
- 00:15:36.060 --> 00:15:38.040
- SOCIAL MEDIA OUT THERE
- 00:15:38.040 --> 00:15:39.160
- ESPECIALLY FOR SINGLE MOMS WHO
- 00:15:39.160 --> 00:15:41.110
- ARE SEEING SOCIAL INFLUENCERS
- 00:15:42.070 --> 00:15:45.070
- WHO HAVE MAYBE EXCESSIVE AMOUNTS
- 00:15:45.070 --> 00:15:47.140
- OF MONEY, MAKING THEIR HOUSES
- 00:15:47.140 --> 00:15:49.080
- LOOK BEAUTIFUL AND FOCUSING ON
- 00:15:49.080 --> 00:15:50.110
- ALL THAT THEY CAN DO AND WHAT
- 00:15:50.110 --> 00:15:52.050
- THEY ARE ABLE TO DO.
- 00:15:52.050 --> 00:15:54.070
- SO WHEN YOU HAVE THAT HUGE GAP
- 00:15:54.070 --> 00:15:55.280
- BETWEEN A SINGLE MOTHER WHO DOES
- 00:15:55.280 --> 00:15:58.080
- NOT HAVE THAT AND SHE IS LOOKING
- 00:15:58.080 --> 00:16:00.270
- AT THAT AS THAT IS THE NORM IT
- 00:16:00.270 --> 00:16:03.000
- MAKES DEPRESSION AND ANXIETY
- 00:16:03.000 --> 00:16:04.220
- EVEN HIGHER FOR SINGLE MOMS.
- 00:16:05.050 --> 00:16:08.050
- THERE IS THE SENSE OF, I'M JUST
- 00:16:08.050 --> 00:16:09.090
- NOT GOOD ENOUGH.
- 00:16:09.090 --> 00:16:09.270
- MY WORTH IS LOWER BECAUSE THIS
- 00:16:09.270 --> 00:16:11.190
- IS WHAT THE WORLD IS LOOKING AT
- 00:16:11.190 --> 00:16:12.150
- AS BEING TRUTH.
- 00:16:13.090 --> 00:16:16.090
- IT IS NOT TRUTH.
- 00:16:17.030 --> 00:16:20.030
- - THERE WAS A MOM THAT SHARED A
- 00:16:20.030 --> 00:16:21.170
- STORY SHE WAS STRUGGLING WITH
- 00:16:21.170 --> 00:16:24.040
- HERSELF WORTH BECAUSE THE FATHER
- 00:16:24.100 --> 00:16:27.100
- OF HER TWO CHILDREN SAID IF YOU
- 00:16:27.100 --> 00:16:28.030
- DON'T GET AN ABORTION I'M
- 00:16:28.030 --> 00:16:29.030
- LEAVING.
- 00:16:29.030 --> 00:16:29.230
- WITH HER SECOND CHILD SHE CHOSE
- 00:16:29.230 --> 00:16:31.050
- TO KEEP IT.
- 00:16:31.050 --> 00:16:33.020
- AND SHE WAS ALL BY HERSELF NOW.
- 00:16:33.020 --> 00:16:34.290
- HE LEFT HER ALONE, NO ALIMONY,
- 00:16:34.290 --> 00:16:37.030
- NO CHILD SUPPORT.
- 00:16:37.030 --> 00:16:38.210
- AND SHE CHOSE TO KEEP THE BABY
- 00:16:38.210 --> 00:16:40.240
- AND RAISE IT.
- 00:16:40.240 --> 00:16:43.060
- BUT SHE GOES TO SCHOOL.
- 00:16:43.060 --> 00:16:44.050
- SHE IS STRUGGLING.
- 00:16:44.050 --> 00:16:45.170
- IT IS SUCH A HARD ROAD.
- 00:16:48.040 --> 00:16:51.040
- - WE BELIEVE THAT REGARDLESS OF
- 00:16:51.040 --> 00:16:52.220
- THE CIRCUMSTANCES EVERYBODY IS
- 00:16:52.220 --> 00:16:55.020
- COMING FROM, EVERYBODY HAS THE
- 00:16:55.020 --> 00:16:56.200
- RIGHT TO LIVE WITH DIGNITY.
- 00:16:56.200 --> 00:16:59.050
- WE WANT THE MOMS TO FEEL WE
- 00:16:59.050 --> 00:17:02.050
- DON'T KNOW THEIR STORY.
- 00:17:02.050 --> 00:17:03.180
- WE DON'T KNOW WHAT HAPPENED.
- 00:17:03.180 --> 00:17:04.290
- AND WE ARE NOBODY TO JUDGE WHY
- 00:17:04.290 --> 00:17:05.220
- THEY CAME TO US.
- 00:17:05.220 --> 00:17:07.230
- IT IS OUR OBLIGATION TO MOVE
- 00:17:07.230 --> 00:17:09.130
- THEM FROM WHERE THEY ARE FORWARD
- 00:17:09.130 --> 00:17:10.270
- WITH DIGNITY.
- 00:17:10.270 --> 00:17:12.210
- ONE OF THE WAYS WE DO IT, WHEN
- 00:17:12.210 --> 00:17:14.200
- WE GIVE THEM RESOURCES, LIKE IN
- 00:17:14.200 --> 00:17:16.040
- THIS STORE, WHEN THEY NEED
- 00:17:16.040 --> 00:17:17.160
- CLOTHES.
- 00:17:17.160 --> 00:17:18.160
- WE WANT THEM TO COME TO THIS
- 00:17:18.160 --> 00:17:19.080
- STORE.
- 00:17:19.080 --> 00:17:21.040
- GO THROUGH THE HANGERS AND GO
- 00:17:21.040 --> 00:17:23.180
- THROUGH THE RACKS LIKE ANYBODY
- 00:17:23.180 --> 00:17:24.100
- ELSE, WITHOUT FEELING THAT THEY
- 00:17:24.100 --> 00:17:25.080
- ARE GOING THROUGH ALL USED
- 00:17:25.080 --> 00:17:27.290
- CLOTHES IN BOXES.
- 00:17:27.290 --> 00:17:30.050
- IN A WAY, MOST OF OUR MOMS ARE
- 00:17:30.050 --> 00:17:31.270
- FEELING WITH A LOT OF
- 00:17:31.270 --> 00:17:34.220
- SELF-ESTEEM ISSUES.
- 00:17:34.220 --> 00:17:35.270
- WE DON'T WANT THIS GIVING THEM
- 00:17:35.270 --> 00:17:37.180
- THINGS FOR FREE TO MAKE THEM
- 00:17:37.180 --> 00:17:38.160
- EVEN FEEL WORSE.
- 00:17:38.160 --> 00:17:41.090
- WE WANT THEM TO FEEL GOOD ABOUT
- 00:17:41.090 --> 00:17:42.040
- THEMSELVES.
- 00:17:42.040 --> 00:17:44.030
- THAT IS PART OF THE DIGNITY WE
- 00:17:44.030 --> 00:17:45.130
- WANT THEM TO EMBRACE.
- 00:17:45.240 --> 00:17:48.240
- WE NEED OUR MOMS TO FEEL THEY
- 00:17:48.240 --> 00:17:50.100
- ARE SO WORTH IT OF MAKING BETTER
- 00:17:50.100 --> 00:17:52.060
- CHOICES IN LIFE.
- 00:17:52.060 --> 00:17:53.100
- THAT THEY ARE SO WORTH IT HAVING
- 00:17:53.100 --> 00:17:55.240
- A DIFFERENT LIFE REGARDLESS OF
- 00:17:55.240 --> 00:17:56.280
- THEIR PAST STORY.
- 00:17:56.280 --> 00:17:58.030
- IT IS A WAY ALSO FOR US TO
- 00:17:58.030 --> 00:18:00.130
- EMBRACE THERE IS A WAY TO LIVE
- 00:18:02.010 --> 00:18:05.010
- WITH DIGNITY WITHOUT THEIR PAST
- 00:18:05.010 --> 00:18:05.230
- STORY.
- 00:18:06.270 --> 00:18:09.270
- - Kelly: ACCORDING TO CENSUS
- 00:18:09.270 --> 00:18:12.110
- BUREAU STATISTICS, 16.1 PERCENT
- 00:18:12.110 --> 00:18:13.210
- OF SINGLE PARENT HOUSEHOLDS
- 00:18:13.210 --> 00:18:14.200
- TODAY ARE HEADED BY FATHERS.
- 00:18:15.090 --> 00:18:18.090
- THAT IS UP FROM 12.5 PERCENT IN
- 00:18:18.090 --> 00:18:19.080
- 2007.
- 00:18:19.080 --> 00:18:21.220
- AND WHILE SOME MEN BECOME SINGLE
- 00:18:21.220 --> 00:18:23.130
- FATHERS AS A RESULT OF A
- 00:18:23.130 --> 00:18:25.080
- DIVORCE, OTHERS UNEXPECTEDLY
- 00:18:25.080 --> 00:18:28.030
- FIND THEMSELVES OF BOTH MOTHER
- 00:18:28.030 --> 00:18:30.250
- AND FATHER DUE TO THE DEATH OF A
- 00:18:30.250 --> 00:18:32.020
- PARTNER OR SPOUSE.
- 00:18:34.070 --> 00:18:37.070
- - THE FIRST TIME I REALIZED I
- 00:18:37.070 --> 00:18:38.060
- WAS A WIDOWER WHEN I FILLED OUT
- 00:18:38.060 --> 00:18:40.180
- AN APPLICATION AND THERE WAS
- 00:18:40.180 --> 00:18:41.210
- CATEGORIES, MARRIED, SINGLE,
- 00:18:41.210 --> 00:18:44.010
- WIDOW, WIDOWER.
- 00:18:44.160 --> 00:18:47.160
- AND I REALIZED MY LABEL CHANGED.
- 00:18:47.160 --> 00:18:49.220
- MY WHOLE LIFE HAD BEEN BUILT
- 00:18:49.220 --> 00:18:51.260
- WITH ANOTHER PERSON.
- 00:18:51.260 --> 00:18:54.060
- SO MY IDENTITY HAD BECOME
- 00:18:54.060 --> 00:18:56.070
- CONNECTED TO THAT PERSON.
- 00:18:56.070 --> 00:18:58.170
- SO WHEN I LOST THAT PERSON I
- 00:18:58.170 --> 00:18:59.290
- LOST A PART OF ME.
- 00:19:01.020 --> 00:19:04.020
- - YOU CAN TELL THAT HE WAS
- 00:19:04.020 --> 00:19:05.010
- STRUGGLING.
- 00:19:05.010 --> 00:19:06.160
- TRYING TO PROCESS ALL THE GRIEF
- 00:19:06.160 --> 00:19:08.270
- THAT HAS JUST HAPPENED.
- 00:19:08.270 --> 00:19:10.220
- - I HAD TO BELIEVE THAT YOU
- 00:19:10.220 --> 00:19:13.090
- KNOW WHAT?
- 00:19:13.090 --> 00:19:15.050
- I'M NOT GOING TO GET THIS
- 00:19:15.050 --> 00:19:17.040
- PARENTING THING RIGHT BUT I'M
- 00:19:17.040 --> 00:19:18.040
- GOING TO GIVE IT THE BEST I CAN.
- 00:19:18.040 --> 00:19:19.100
- BEING THERE AS A FATHER FOR THEM
- 00:19:19.180 --> 00:19:22.180
- AND BEING PRESENT WAS MY HIGHEST
- 00:19:22.180 --> 00:19:23.280
- PRIORITY.
- 00:19:23.280 --> 00:19:25.030
- MY TURNING POINT WAS MORE A
- 00:19:25.030 --> 00:19:27.240
- PROCESS THAN AN EVENT.
- 00:19:27.240 --> 00:19:30.230
- EVERYDAY I WOULD TALK TO MY
- 00:19:30.230 --> 00:19:33.110
- FIVE-YEAR-OLD SON AND TELL HIM
- 00:19:33.110 --> 00:19:35.070
- WOULD YOU LIKE TO TALK ABOUT
- 00:19:35.070 --> 00:19:36.020
- YOUR MOTHER?
- 00:19:36.020 --> 00:19:36.190
- AND WE WOULD TALK EVERY DAY FOR
- 00:19:38.010 --> 00:19:41.010
- ABOUT SIX MONTHS, SEVEN MONTHS,
- 00:19:41.010 --> 00:19:42.130
- EIGHT MONTHS, EVENTUALLY ONE DAY
- 00:19:42.130 --> 00:19:43.270
- I CAME TO HIM AND I SAID, DO YOU
- 00:19:43.270 --> 00:19:45.000
- WANT TO TALK ABOUT YOUR MOTHER?
- 00:19:45.000 --> 00:19:46.230
- HE SAID NO, I REALLY DON'T.
- 00:19:46.230 --> 00:19:48.130
- I DON'T WANT TO TALK ABOUT HER.
- 00:19:48.130 --> 00:19:50.150
- I WANT TO DO SOMETHING ELSE.
- 00:19:52.030 --> 00:19:55.030
- I REALIZED AT THAT POINT IN TIME
- 00:19:55.030 --> 00:19:57.000
- THAT THE DEATH IS NOT GOING TO
- 00:19:57.060 --> 00:20:00.060
- DEFINE US.
- 00:20:00.060 --> 00:20:02.020
- THERE WAS A LIFE AND A FUTURE
- 00:20:02.020 --> 00:20:03.080
- AHEAD OF US AND EVEN THOUGH SHE
- 00:20:03.080 --> 00:20:05.130
- PASSED AWAY, THAT WE DID NOT
- 00:20:05.130 --> 00:20:07.070
- PASS AWAY AND WE HAD TO CONTINUE
- 00:20:07.070 --> 00:20:10.010
- TO GO FORWARD AND MOVE FORWARD
- 00:20:10.010 --> 00:20:12.160
- AND I REMEMBER JUST FEELING MY
- 00:20:12.160 --> 00:20:14.260
- HEART BEATING AGAIN AND
- 00:20:14.260 --> 00:20:16.260
- BREATHING AGAIN.
- 00:20:16.260 --> 00:20:19.230
- EVEN THOUGH SHE PASSED AWAY, THE
- 00:20:19.230 --> 00:20:21.070
- LOVE THAT I HAD FOR HER DID NOT
- 00:20:22.100 --> 00:20:25.100
- DIE.
- 00:20:25.100 --> 00:20:27.020
- I BEGAN TO SAY, YOU KNOW WHAT?
- 00:20:27.020 --> 00:20:28.080
- I'M GOING TO BREATHE AGAIN, I'M
- 00:20:28.080 --> 00:20:29.230
- GOING TO LOVE AGAIN.
- 00:20:29.230 --> 00:20:30.280
- WE ARE GOING TO CONTINUE TO LIVE
- 00:20:30.280 --> 00:20:31.200
- OUR LIFE.
- 00:20:32.230 --> 00:20:35.230
- - TO OPEN UP HIS HEART AGAIN, I
- 00:20:35.280 --> 00:20:38.280
- THINK IT IS BEAUTIFUL.
- 00:20:38.280 --> 00:20:40.090
- SO PURE.
- 00:20:40.090 --> 00:20:42.050
- OUR LOVE IS PRETTY SPECIAL.
- 00:20:42.250 --> 00:20:45.250
- - THE MOST EXCITING THING IN MY
- 00:20:45.250 --> 00:20:46.240
- LIFE IS TO WRESTLE MY BOYS TO
- 00:20:46.240 --> 00:20:49.220
- THE GROUND AND TO CHASE THEM
- 00:20:49.220 --> 00:20:51.180
- AROUND AND TO HAVE FAMILY DAY
- 00:20:51.180 --> 00:20:53.280
- WHERE WE ARE JUST OUT AND ABOUT.
- 00:20:53.280 --> 00:20:55.220
- IT IS US AND NO PHONES.
- 00:20:55.220 --> 00:20:57.240
- TO KNOW THAT HEY, WE MADE IT,
- 00:20:58.110 --> 00:21:01.130
- GUYS.
- 00:21:01.130 --> 00:21:03.040
- EVERY TIME I'M TACKLING THEM I'M
- 00:21:03.040 --> 00:21:03.280
- SAYING, WE MADE IT.
- 00:21:03.280 --> 00:21:06.030
- THIS IS UNBELIEVABLE.
- 00:21:08.050 --> 00:21:11.050
- - NOT MANY PEOPLE GO THROUGH
- 00:21:11.050 --> 00:21:12.180
- BROKEN PLACES.
- 00:21:13.190 --> 00:21:16.190
- AND STILL FIND LOVE AT THE END.
- 00:21:21.090 --> 00:21:24.090
- - Kelly: UNLESS SHE HAS A
- 00:21:24.090 --> 00:21:25.050
- STRONG SUPPORT SYSTEM OF FRIENDS
- 00:21:25.050 --> 00:21:26.190
- OR FAMILY, BEING A SINGLE MOM 24
- 00:21:26.190 --> 00:21:28.270
- HOURS A DAY MEANS THERE IS NO
- 00:21:28.270 --> 00:21:30.240
- ONE TO STEP IN JUST TO GIVE HER
- 00:21:30.240 --> 00:21:32.290
- A BREAK.
- 00:21:32.290 --> 00:21:34.130
- HAVING TO MAKE GOOD PARENTING
- 00:21:34.130 --> 00:21:36.240
- DECISIONS BY HERSELF LEAVES MANY
- 00:21:36.240 --> 00:21:39.170
- MOMS FEELING THEIR CHOICES HAVE
- 00:21:39.170 --> 00:21:41.100
- FALLEN SHORT.
- 00:21:42.270 --> 00:21:45.270
- - YOU WANT TO EQUIP THAT SINGLE
- 00:21:45.270 --> 00:21:46.260
- MOM SHE IS GOING TO BE ABLE TO
- 00:21:46.260 --> 00:21:48.110
- FIND THE RESOURCES SHE NEEDS TO
- 00:21:48.150 --> 00:21:51.150
- GIVE HER STABILITY, SECURITY,.
- 00:21:56.100 --> 00:21:59.100
- - WHEN YOU ARE COACHING
- 00:21:59.100 --> 00:22:00.220
- CORRECTLY YOU ARE LEADING THE
- 00:22:00.220 --> 00:22:02.010
- PERSON TO THEIR OWN CONCLUSION.
- 00:22:02.010 --> 00:22:02.240
- NOT YOURS.
- 00:22:02.240 --> 00:22:03.240
- I'M NOT ADVISING THEM.
- 00:22:03.240 --> 00:22:04.240
- I MIGHT BE DRAWING FROM MY
- 00:22:04.240 --> 00:22:06.090
- EXPERIENCE, BUT I'M ALLOWING
- 00:22:06.090 --> 00:22:08.120
- THEM TO WORK DOWN THEIR OWN
- 00:22:08.120 --> 00:22:09.050
- PATH.
- 00:22:09.090 --> 00:22:12.090
- - WHEN SOMEBODY HAS COME TO YOU
- 00:22:12.090 --> 00:22:13.120
- AND SAID, I'VE GONE THROUGH
- 00:22:13.120 --> 00:22:14.200
- THIS, I'M STRUGGLING WITH THIS
- 00:22:14.200 --> 00:22:16.100
- AND THAT WOMAN CAN SAY, ME TOO.
- 00:22:16.100 --> 00:22:18.150
- I KNOW WHAT THAT FEELS LIKE.
- 00:22:18.150 --> 00:22:20.290
- THERE IS SUCH A HUGE RELIEF AND
- 00:22:20.290 --> 00:22:23.280
- A SENSE OF ACCEPTANCE THAT YOU
- 00:22:23.280 --> 00:22:25.160
- CAN FORM A RELATIONSHIP THAT CAN
- 00:22:25.160 --> 00:22:28.020
- MOVE FORWARD IN A HEALTHY WAY.
- 00:22:28.030 --> 00:22:31.030
- - THIS MIGHT BE A SEASON IN
- 00:22:31.030 --> 00:22:32.120
- YOUR LIFE.
- 00:22:32.120 --> 00:22:33.150
- THERE ARE RESOURCES OUT THERE.
- 00:22:33.150 --> 00:22:34.240
- THERE ARE PEOPLE THERE WILLING
- 00:22:34.240 --> 00:22:36.020
- TO HELP.
- 00:22:36.020 --> 00:22:37.240
- - I'M JUST A ONE ASSET, ONE
- 00:22:37.240 --> 00:22:40.030
- RESOURCE, ONE TOOL FOR HER.
- 00:22:40.030 --> 00:22:41.280
- IN ORDER TO HELP HER SEE ALL THE
- 00:22:42.290 --> 00:22:45.290
- RESOURCES THAT ARE AT HER
- 00:22:45.290 --> 00:22:46.260
- FINGERTIPS.
- 00:22:46.260 --> 00:22:48.190
- - TO SEE A WOMAN REALLY
- 00:22:48.190 --> 00:22:50.090
- UNDERSTAND WHO SHE IS.
- 00:22:50.090 --> 00:22:52.160
- ASIDE FROM ALL THE LABELS AND
- 00:22:52.180 --> 00:22:55.180
- THE BELIEFS SHE MAY HAVE
- 00:22:55.180 --> 00:22:56.220
- PREVIOUSLY HELD FOR HERSELF.
- 00:22:56.220 --> 00:22:57.280
- TO BREAK FREE FROM THAT IS
- 00:22:57.280 --> 00:22:59.010
- INCREDIBLE.
- 00:22:59.010 --> 00:23:02.000
- - YOUR PAST DOES NOT HAVE TO
- 00:23:02.000 --> 00:23:03.010
- DEFINE YOUR FUTURE.
- 00:23:03.010 --> 00:23:05.010
- YOUR PAST STORY DOES NOT HAVE TO
- 00:23:05.010 --> 00:23:07.160
- DETERMINE WHERE YOU ARE GOING
- 00:23:07.160 --> 00:23:09.070
- AND WHERE YOUR KIDS ARE GOING TO
- 00:23:09.070 --> 00:23:10.010
- GO.
- 00:23:10.010 --> 00:23:11.160
- - I SEE IT ON A DAILY BASIS,
- 00:23:11.160 --> 00:23:13.030
- MOMS THAT ARE WANTING TO WORK,
- 00:23:13.030 --> 00:23:14.260
- WANT TO MOVE FORWARD.
- 00:23:14.260 --> 00:23:16.030
- AND BE EMPOWERED AND THRIVE.
- 00:23:17.140 --> 00:23:20.140
- IT IS REALLY WHAT KEEPS US
- 00:23:20.140 --> 00:23:21.040
- GOING.
- 00:23:21.040 --> 00:23:23.280
- - WE HAVE TO BEGIN TO CREATE
- 00:23:24.030 --> 00:23:27.030
- NEW BEHAVIORS, AND NEW PATTERNS
- 00:23:27.030 --> 00:23:28.110
- THAT SAY THAT'S OLD AND THIS IS
- 00:23:28.110 --> 00:23:31.020
- WHAT NEW LOOKS LIKE.
- 00:23:31.020 --> 00:23:33.200
- WHAT WE NEED TO DO IS REACH OUT
- 00:23:33.200 --> 00:23:34.260
- GET TO KNOW THAT MOM.
- 00:23:34.260 --> 00:23:35.230
- CAN WE DRIVE CARPOOL?
- 00:23:35.230 --> 00:23:38.110
- CAN WE DO THINGS THAT WILL
- 00:23:38.110 --> 00:23:40.020
- ALLEVIATE SOME OF HER BURDEN?
- 00:23:40.020 --> 00:23:41.280
- AND THERE BY ALSO INCLUDE US IN
- 00:23:41.280 --> 00:23:44.120
- THE RAISING OF THAT CHILD.
- 00:23:45.000 --> 00:23:48.000
- - WOMEN ARE INCREDIBLE.
- 00:23:48.000 --> 00:23:49.090
- WOMEN ARE INCREDIBLE CREATURES.
- 00:23:51.000 --> 00:23:54.000
- AND IT HAS BEEN MY PRIVILEGE TO
- 00:23:54.000 --> 00:23:55.030
- SEE SO MANY WOMEN COME TO PEACE
- 00:23:55.030 --> 00:23:57.160
- WITH THEIR SINGLE PARENTING
- 00:23:57.160 --> 00:23:58.140
- JOURNEY.
- 00:23:58.140 --> 00:24:00.280
- - MAYBE YOU ARE WATCHING THIS
- 00:24:00.280 --> 00:24:01.230
- RIGHT NOW.
- 00:24:01.230 --> 00:24:03.000
- MAYBE YOU ARE SOMEBODY WHO IS
- 00:24:03.000 --> 00:24:03.260
- STRUGGLING WITH PAIN.
- 00:24:03.260 --> 00:24:04.270
- MAYBE YOU ARE SOMEBODY WHO LOST
- 00:24:04.270 --> 00:24:06.040
- HOPE.
- 00:24:06.040 --> 00:24:08.000
- I WANT TO TELL YOU THAT THERE IS
- 00:24:08.000 --> 00:24:09.260
- ALWAYS A NEW START.
- 00:24:09.260 --> 00:24:12.040
- THERE COULD ALWAYS BE A NEW
- 00:24:12.040 --> 00:24:13.130
- NORMAL.
- 00:24:13.130 --> 00:24:16.040
- - THAT GRIT AND DETERMINATION,
- 00:24:16.040 --> 00:24:17.090
- THAT HARD WORK AND PERSEVERANCE
- 00:24:17.090 --> 00:24:20.010
- YOU USE TO GET THROUGH EVERY
- 00:24:20.010 --> 00:24:21.080
- DAY, LET THOSE THINGS FUEL YOUR
- 00:24:21.080 --> 00:24:23.140
- FIRE.
- 00:24:23.140 --> 00:24:24.260
- LET THOSE THINGS PUSH YOU TO BE
- 00:24:24.260 --> 00:24:26.090
- EXACTLY WHO ARE YOU SUPPOSED TO
- 00:24:26.090 --> 00:24:27.090
- BE.
- 00:24:27.090 --> 00:24:29.160
- BECAUSE YOU ARE CAPABLE OF
- 00:24:29.160 --> 00:24:30.050
- ANYTHING YOU WISH.
- 00:24:30.050 --> 00:24:32.180
- I THINK WE HAVE POWERS THAT WE
- 00:24:32.180 --> 00:24:34.140
- CAN HARNESS IN THESE WOMEN.
- 00:24:34.140 --> 00:24:36.000
- I THINK BY DETERMINATION AND
- 00:24:36.000 --> 00:24:37.280
- PERSEVERANCE HAS A HUGE VALUE.
- 00:24:37.280 --> 00:24:40.030
- AND I KNOW THESE CHILDREN ARE
- 00:24:40.100 --> 00:24:43.100
- INCREDIBLE CHILDREN.
- 00:24:43.100 --> 00:24:45.030
- AND THEY DON'T HAVE TO FEEL LIKE
- 00:24:45.030 --> 00:24:46.030
- THEY ARE ANY LESS.
- 00:24:46.030 --> 00:24:48.030
- THIS CIRCUMSTANCE DOES NOT HAVE
- 00:24:48.030 --> 00:24:49.230
- TO BE A NEGATIVE FOR THEM.
- 00:24:49.230 --> 00:24:51.160
- WE JUST HAVE TO FIGURE OUT HOW
- 00:24:51.160 --> 00:24:52.200
- TO FILL THE HOLES.
- 00:24:52.200 --> 00:24:55.060
- - AND TO SEE THEM BREAK FREE
- 00:24:56.090 --> 00:24:59.090
- FROM ALL THAT OPPRESSION AND
- 00:24:59.090 --> 00:25:02.110
- THAT SENSE OF GUILT AND JUST SEE
- 00:25:02.110 --> 00:25:04.230
- THEM ON THE OTHER SIDE, THE FREE
- 00:25:04.230 --> 00:25:06.020
- SIDE, IS JUST ONE OF THE BEST
- 00:25:06.020 --> 00:25:06.280
- AND MOST REWARDING FEELINGS
- 00:25:06.280 --> 00:25:08.140
- EVER.
- 00:25:08.200 --> 00:25:11.200
- - ANYTHING YOU WANT IN THIS
- 00:25:11.200 --> 00:25:12.210
- LIFE CAN BE ACHIEVED.
- 00:25:14.190 --> 00:25:17.190
- YOUR BEING A SINGLE MOTHER OR
- 00:25:17.190 --> 00:25:19.100
- THE CHILD OF A SINGLE MOTHER
- 00:25:19.100 --> 00:25:21.110
- DOES NOT MEAN AN OUTCOME JUST
- 00:25:21.110 --> 00:25:23.110
- BECAUSE THE STATISTICS SAY SO.
- 00:25:23.290 --> 00:25:26.290
- YOU CAN HAVE AND ACHIEVE
- 00:25:26.290 --> 00:25:28.030
- ANYTHING YOU LIKE.
- 00:25:31.180 --> 00:25:34.180
- - THERE ARE APPROXIMATELY
- 00:25:34.180 --> 00:25:35.190
- 14 MILLION SINGLE PARENTS IN THE
- 00:25:35.190 --> 00:25:37.090
- UNITED STATES TODAY AND THOSE
- 00:25:37.090 --> 00:25:39.070
- PARENTS ARE RESPONSIBLE FOR
- 00:25:39.070 --> 00:25:39.270
- RAISING NEARLY 20 MILLION
- 00:25:39.270 --> 00:25:41.000
- CHILDREN.
- 00:25:41.000 --> 00:25:43.240
- BECAUSE SINGLE MOTHERS AND
- 00:25:43.240 --> 00:25:44.200
- FATHERS FACE INCREDIBLE WORK
- 00:25:44.200 --> 00:25:46.130
- LIFE BALANCE ISSUES, THEY HAVE A
- 00:25:46.130 --> 00:25:47.210
- MUCH HIGHER LIKELIHOOD OF LIVING
- 00:25:47.210 --> 00:25:49.070
- IN POVERTY, THE EMOTIONAL AND
- 00:25:49.070 --> 00:25:50.240
- FINANCIAL TOLL CAN BECOME
- 00:25:50.240 --> 00:25:51.230
- UNBEARABLE.
- 00:25:51.230 --> 00:25:53.130
- LEAVING MANY FEELING TRAPPED
- 00:25:53.130 --> 00:25:54.130
- UNDER A MOUNTAIN OF
- 00:25:54.130 --> 00:25:55.190
- RESPONSIBILITY THAT LEADS THEM
- 00:25:55.190 --> 00:25:57.160
- INTO SOCIAL ISOLATION.
- 00:25:57.160 --> 00:25:59.170
- WHILE MOST SINGLE PARENTS ARE
- 00:25:59.170 --> 00:26:01.110
- DOING THEIR BEST MANY DON'T HAVE
- 00:26:01.110 --> 00:26:02.230
- A STRONG SUPPORT SYSTEM OF
- 00:26:02.230 --> 00:26:04.020
- FRIENDS AND FAMILY, BEING A
- 00:26:04.020 --> 00:26:05.120
- SINGLE PARENT 24 HOURS A DAY
- 00:26:05.120 --> 00:26:07.050
- MEANS THERE IS NO ONE TO STEP IN
- 00:26:07.050 --> 00:26:08.020
- AND GIVE THEM A BREAK.
- 00:26:08.020 --> 00:26:10.090
- SOLO PARENT SOCIETY IS A
- 00:26:10.090 --> 00:26:11.040
- NONPROFIT ORGANIZATION THAT
- 00:26:11.040 --> 00:26:12.210
- HELPS SINGLE PARENTS AND THEIR
- 00:26:12.210 --> 00:26:14.000
- FAMILIES THRIVE THROUGH POWERFUL
- 00:26:14.000 --> 00:26:15.210
- RESOURCES, AUTHENTIC COMMUNITY
- 00:26:15.210 --> 00:26:17.140
- AND ADVOCACY TO PROVIDE RELIEF
- 00:26:17.140 --> 00:26:19.180
- AND SUPPORT, TO LEARN MORE GO TO
- 00:26:19.180 --> 00:26:21.110
- SOLO PARENTS SOCIETY.COM OR CALL
- 00:26:21.110 --> 00:26:23.270
- (888)881-7656.
- 00:26:30.030 --> 00:26:33.030
- - Kelly: IT HAS BEEN SAID IT
- 00:26:33.030 --> 00:26:33.290
- TAKES A VILLAGE TO RAISE A
- 00:26:33.290 --> 00:26:34.190
- CHILD.
- 00:26:34.190 --> 00:26:35.140
- HELPING SINGLE PARENTS FEEL PART
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- OF A CARING COMMUNITY THAT IS
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- WALKING BESIDE THEM CHANGES
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- EVERYTHING.
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- SO NOW IS THE TIME FOR LEADERS
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- AT EVERY LEVEL TO LOOK AT
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- REFORM.
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- HOW CAN WE SUPPORT THESE
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- VULNERABLE PARENTS AND CHILDREN
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- THAT NEEDS TO CHANGE.
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- WE IN THE FAITH COMMUNITY HAVE
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- AN OBLIGATION TO STEP UP AND
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- SUPPORT THESE SINGLE MOMS AND
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- SINGLE DADS.
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- FOR ALL OF US HERE, I'M KELLY
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- WRIGHT AND TOGETHER, WE ARE
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- TAKING CARE OF BUSINESS.
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- MUSIC
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- - I'M TARA TAYLOR AND I'M
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- HELPING WOMEN BECOME SINGLE MOM
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- STRONG.
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- - MY NAME IS YORLENI SAPP AND I
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- LOVE WHAT I DO.
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- - MY NAME IS T.J. ANGLIN AND I
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- WAS A SINGLE FATHER.
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- - MY NAME IS CASSIE RAGEWICH
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- AND I HELP SINGLE MOMS MASTER
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- THEIR MESS.
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- - MY NAME IS BRANDI DAILY, MY
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- MISSION IS TO HELP SINGLE MOMS
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- THRIVE.
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