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  • TESTING.
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  • MUSIC
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  • ONE IN FOUR CHILDREN IN THE
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  • UNITED STATES IS BEING RAISED BY
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  • A SINGLE MOM AND IN MANY CITIES
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  • THAT NUMBER IS MUCH HIGHER, 35
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  • TO 40 PERCENT OF CHILDREN ARE
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  • BEING RAISED BY SINGLE MOTHERS.
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  • - WE HAVE A REDEFINITION OF
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  • MARRIAGE IN OUR CULTURE TODAY.
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  • CHILDREN BEING BORN OUT OF
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  • WEDLOCK.
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  • - THEY COME TO US IN CRISIS.
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  • THEY COME TO US BECAUSE THEY ARE
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  • VICTIMS OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE.
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  • - YOU HAVE A SINGLE MOM WHO IS
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  • A WIDOW.
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  • YOU HAVE A SINGLE MOM WHO GOT
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  • LEFT.
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  • YOU HAVE A SINGLE MOM WHO LEFT.
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  • SOMETIMES THEY CALL IT, I'M
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  • SINGLE BY CHOICE.
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  • - IF YOU ARE COMING FROM HAVING
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  • TWO INCOMES AND YOU BUILT YOUR
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  • LIFE AROUND HAVING TWO INCOMES,
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  • IT IS A DRAMATIC SHIFT.
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  • - AND IT JUST SEEMS LIKE THEY
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  • ARE TANGLED UP IN THIS SPOT OF
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  • UNCERTAINTY.
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  • OF HEARTACHE.
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  • - THERE ARE MOTHERS REALLY
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  • STRUGGLING TO RAISE THEIR
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  • FAMILIES ALONE.
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  • - SOMETIMES THE ANSWERS OR THE
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  • SOLUTIONS ARE NOT FIXING THE
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  • ROOT OF THE PROBLEM.
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  • MUSIC
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  • TAKING CARE OF BUSINESS
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  • TAKING CARE OF BUSINESS
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  • MUSIC
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  • - Kelly: THE UNITED STATES IS
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  • IN THE MIDDLE OF A PARENTING
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  • CRISIS.
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  • TOO MANY CHILDREN ACROSS AMERICA
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  • ARE GROWING UP WITH ONLY ONE
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  • PARENT OR WITH ONE PARENT AND A
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  • STRING OF TEMPORARY PARTNERS.
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  • MOST SINGLE PARENTS ARE DOING
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  • THEIR BEST, THERE IS NO DENYING
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  • THE IMPACT SINGLE PARENTING HAS
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  • ON THEIR CHILDREN, THEIR PARENTS
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  • AND EVEN THE ECONOMY.
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  • FIRST, SOME FACTS.
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  • ACCORDING TO STATISTICS,
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  • 35 PERCENT OF AMERICAN CHILDREN
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  • ARE GROWING UP IN SINGLE PARENT
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  • HOUSEHOLDS.
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  • THIS INCLUDES 24 PERCENT OF
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  • WHITE CHILDREN AND 16 PERCENT OF
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  • ASIAN OR PACIFIC ISLANDER
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  • CHILDREN.
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  • UNFORTUNATELY FOR OTHER
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  • MINORITIES, THE STATISTICS ARE
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  • EVEN MORE SHOCKING.
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  • THERE ARE 42 PERCENT OF HISPANIC
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  • AMERICAN CHILDREN GROWING UP IN
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  • SINGLE PARENT HOUSEHOLDS WHICH
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  • IS THE SAME PERCENTAGE FOR
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  • CHILDREN OF MIXED RACE.
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  • 52 PERCENT OF NATIVE AMERICANS
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  • GROW UP WITH ONLY ONE PARENT AND
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  • 66 PERCENT OF AFRICAN-AMERICAN
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  • CHILDREN GROW UP IN A SINGLE
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  • PARENT HOUSEHOLD.
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  • NOW THE PEOPLE YOU ARE ABOUT TO
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  • MEET KNOW HOW IMPORTANT IT IS TO
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  • HELP SINGLE MOTHERS FACING THE
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  • CHALLENGES OF PARENTING ALONE.
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  • AS WELL AS THE EMOTIONAL,
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  • PHYSICAL AND EVEN SOCIAL
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  • PRESSURES THAT COME WITH RAISING
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  • CHILDREN BY THEMSELVES.
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  • MUSIC
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  • - I NEVER THOUGHT I WAS GOING
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  • TO BE A SINGLE MOM.
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  • I GOT MARRIED AT 22.
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  • I HAD MY GIRLS.
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  • I THOUGHT I HAD EVERYTHING
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  • PLANNED OUT.
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  • THAT DID NOT WORK OUT.
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  • SO FOUR YEARS AGO I FOUND MYSELF
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  • AS A SINGLE MOM.
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  • I DIDN'T KNOW WHAT I WAS GOING
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  • TO DO.
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  • - PEOPLE DON'T REALLY REALIZE
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  • WHAT YOU'RE GOING THROUGH.
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  • I HADN'T WORKED IN FOUR YEARS.
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  • I COULD NOT EVEN RENT AN
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  • APARTMENT.
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  • I HAD NO CLOTHING FOR MYSELF OR
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  • FOR MY KIDS.
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  • YOU COMPLETELY ARE STARTING YOUR
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  • LIFE OVER AGAIN.
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  • - YOU KNOW, YOU ARE DRIVING
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  • DOWN THE STREET THINKING OF ALL
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  • THESE OTHER THINGS THAT ARE
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  • PULLING AT YOU.
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  • YOU WANT TO DO WELL IN YOUR
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  • CAREER, YOU WANT TO BE PRESENT
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  • IN YOUR PROFESSIONALISM.
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  • BUT YOU ARE ALSO A MOM ALL THE
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  • TIME.
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  • THAT NEVER GOES AWAY.
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  • THAT TUG NEVER GOES AWAY.
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  • - WHEN I WAS GOING THROUGH
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  • EVERYTHING AND I HAD TO SEE
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  • MYSELF IN A PLACE I NEVER
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  • THOUGHT I SAW MYSELF WHICH WAS
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  • AT THE COUNTY APPLYING FOR FOOD
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  • STAMPS AND APPLYING FOR
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  • INSURANCE AND HEALTH INSURANCE,
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  • I REALIZED QUICKLY THAT THIS WAS
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  • NOT GOOD ENOUGH.
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  • - YOU PICK UP THE PHONE AND YOU
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  • MIGHT CALL A FRIEND, I REMEMBER
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  • CALLING A FRIEND AT SOME POINT.
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  • SHE SAID CASSIE, PULL IT
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  • TOGETHER LIKE THE REST OF US.
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  • AND GET OUT THERE AND WORK 40
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  • HOURS A WEEK AND PUT YOUR KID IN
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  • DAY CARE.
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  • - I KNEW IN MY GUT WHEN SHE
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  • GAVE ME THAT ADVICE THAT WAS NOT
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  • THE ROAD I WAS GOING TO TAKE.
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  • THAT COULD NOT BE MY LIFE.
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  • - THEY COME TO US IN CRISIS.
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  • THEY COME TO US BECAUSE THEY ARE
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  • VICTIMS OF DOMESTIC VIOLENCE.
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  • THE HUSBAND LEFT WITH SOMEBODY
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  • YOUNGER.
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  • AND SUDDENLY THEY FACE BEING
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  • ALONE, THEY FACE TERRIBLE ISSUES
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  • WITH SELF-ESTEEM AND A LOT OF
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  • FINANCIAL STRUGGLES.
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  • - THE FINANCIAL IMPACT OF
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  • SINGLE PARENTHOOD IS PROBABLY
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  • ONE OF THE TOUGHEST CHALLENGES.
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  • IF YOU ARE COMING FROM HAVING
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  • TWO INCOMES AND YOU BUILT YOUR
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  • LIFE AROUND HAVING TWO INCOMES,
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  • IT IS A DRAMATIC SHIFT.
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  • THE AVERAGE COST OF CHILD CARE
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  • IN SACRAMENTO COUNTY IS $874.
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  • THE AVERAGE COST OF A TWO
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  • BEDROOM APARTMENT IS $1.500.
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  • SO IF I AM A SINGLE PERSON AND I
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  • HAVE JUST CHILD CARE AND HOUSING
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  • COSTS I'M AT ALMOST $2.500 A
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  • MONTH JUST IN CHILD CARE AND
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  • HOUSING.
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  • WHAT IF I HAVE A CAR PAYMENT?
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  • I NEED TO PAY CAR INSURANCE.
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  • I STILL HAVE TO BUY GROCERIES,
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  • WHEN WE ARE IN THREE TO $4.000
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  • OF JUST NORMAL MONTHLY EXPENSES
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  • WITH ONE INCOME.
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  • A SINGLE MOTHER'S AVERAGE INCOME
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  • IS $2.100 PER MONTH.
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  • SO, FOR MANY OF THEM IT IS
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  • ALMOST FACING DEFEAT.
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  • AND HOW YOU OVERCOME THAT IS
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  • EXTREMELY CHALLENGING.
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  • - I KNOW WHAT IT IS LIKE TO
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  • HAVE TO FIGURE OUT CHILD CARE
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  • AND HAVE TO FIGURE OUT A JOB AND
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  • TRANSPORTATION.
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  • I'VE BEEN THERE.
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  • HOW DO YOU RENT AN APARTMENT BY
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  • YOURSELF?
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  • HOW DO YOU DO THIS?
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  • I HAD NO IDEA.
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  • - THERE WAS NOT SOMEBODY WHO
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  • WAS SAYING I KNOW WHAT YOU ARE
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  • GOING THROUGH, WHAT IT FEELS
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  • LIKE TO HAVE ABSOLUTELY NOTHING
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  • AND TO HAVE TO BUILD UP FROM
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  • THERE.
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  • - MOMS COME IN AND 50 PERCENT
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  • OF THEM HAVE EXPERIENCED
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  • DOMESTIC VIOLENCE.
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  • 99 PERCENT OF THEM LIVE UNDER
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  • THE POVERTY LEVEL.
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  • IT IS $14.000 A YEAR OR BELOW.
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  • THEY'RE EXPERIENCING AN ENORMOUS
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  • AMOUNT OF STRESS.
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  • SO THEY COME FEELING WORTHLESS.
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  • THEY COME FEELING HOPELESS.
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  • AND THEY HAVE THESE LITTLE
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  • PRECIOUS CHILDREN TO TAKE CARE
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  • OF.
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  • - A LOT OF OUR CURRENT
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  • ORGANIZATIONS THAT ARE HELPING
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  • FAMILIES OUT THERE ARE USUALLY
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  • NOT ABLE TO HELP BECAUSE OF
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  • FUNDING UNTIL THERE IS AN
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  • ABSOLUTE CRISIS.
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  • SO THAT MOTHER HAS TO HAVE LOST
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  • EVERYTHING BEFORE THEY WILL BE
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  • HELPED.
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  • THEY WILL HAVE TO BE IN THEIR
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  • CAR, THEY WILL HAVE TO HAVE LOST
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  • THEIR HOUSING COMPLETELY, THEY
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  • MAY HAVE GONE OUT TO LOOK FOR
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  • HELP BEFORE THE CRISIS SET IN
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  • BUT THEY WERE TURNED AWAY.
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  • THEY COULD NOT BE HELPED UNTIL
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  • THE ACTUAL CRISIS WAS THERE.
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  • SO WHEN WE FIND OUR WOMEN AND
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  • THEY ARE TRYING TO BUILD BACK
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  • UP, THEY REALLY HAVE A LOT LESS
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  • RESOURCES THEN THAN THEY WOULD
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  • HAVE IF THEY WERE HELPED WHEN
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  • THEY WERE IN THAT PLACE WHERE
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  • THEY WERE KEEPING IT ALL
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  • TOGETHER.
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  • - WHEN I READ AN EMAIL I'M
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  • EITHER GETTING I AM ANGRY AND
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  • HURT AND DISAPPOINTED OR I'M
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  • GETTING, I'M HURT, I'M ANGRY AND
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  • DISAPPOINTED BUT I DON'T WANT TO
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  • BE THERE ANYMORE.
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  • IDENTIFYING IS THIS WOMAN READY
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  • TO LAUNCH INTO SUCCESS?
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  • IS SHE READY TO START THE
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  • HEALING JOURNEY?
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  • I CAN SIT THERE WITH YOU AND WE
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  • CAN BE ANGRY, HURT AND
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  • DISAPPOINTED AND WE CAN REVEL IN
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  • IT, WHAT I REALLY LOVE IS WHEN I
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  • GET THAT SINGLE MOM WHO SAYS,
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  • MAN, I DON'T WANT TO BE HERE
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  • ANYMORE.
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  • CAN YOU WALK WITH ME AS WE WALK
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  • OUT OF IT?
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  • - Kelly: BEING A SINGLE PARENT
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  • COMES WITH A UNIQUE SET OF
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  • EMOTIONAL CHALLENGES.
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  • COUNTLESS MOMS GRAPPLE WITH SELF
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  • DOUBT AND ANXIETY OVER MONEY.
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  • AND EXPERIENCE STRESS WHILE
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  • JUGGLING ALL THE
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  • RESPONSIBILITIES THAT COME WITH
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  • MOTHERHOOD.
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  • - THE EMOTIONAL IMPACT ON A
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  • SINGLE MOTHER IS HEAVY.
  • 00:08:19.140 --> 00:08:22.140
  • THAT FEELING OF BEING
  • 00:08:22.140 --> 00:08:23.290
  • OVERWHELMED AND TIRED ALL THE
  • 00:08:23.290 --> 00:08:25.060
  • TIME.
  • 00:08:25.060 --> 00:08:26.100
  • OF NOT HAVING SPACE FOR
  • 00:08:26.100 --> 00:08:27.010
  • YOURSELF.
  • 00:08:27.010 --> 00:08:28.240
  • OF WANTING THE BEST FOR YOUR
  • 00:08:28.240 --> 00:08:30.210
  • CHILD AND TRYING TO FIGURE OUT
  • 00:08:30.210 --> 00:08:32.060
  • HOW TO CARRY THAT BURDEN.
  • 00:08:33.060 --> 00:08:36.060
  • - I WAS JUST TRYING TO PICK UP
  • 00:08:36.060 --> 00:08:37.100
  • THE PIECES IN PURE SURVIVAL
  • 00:08:37.100 --> 00:08:38.010
  • MODE.
  • 00:08:38.010 --> 00:08:39.050
  • AND IT IS HARD FOR PEOPLE WHO
  • 00:08:39.160 --> 00:08:42.160
  • HAVE NOT BEEN THROUGH IT TO
  • 00:08:42.160 --> 00:08:44.000
  • UNDERSTAND EXACTLY WHAT IT IS
  • 00:08:44.000 --> 00:08:45.250
  • LIKE.
  • 00:08:45.250 --> 00:08:47.170
  • IT WAS HARD FOR ME GOING THROUGH
  • 00:08:47.170 --> 00:08:48.140
  • IT BECAUSE I NEVER WANTED TO BE
  • 00:08:48.140 --> 00:08:50.220
  • IN A POSITION THAT I NEEDED THE
  • 00:08:50.220 --> 00:08:51.220
  • HELP.
  • 00:08:51.220 --> 00:08:53.280
  • - THEY FEEL LIKE IT IS THEIR
  • 00:08:53.280 --> 00:08:56.050
  • MESS AND THEY DON'T WANT TO
  • 00:08:56.050 --> 00:08:57.190
  • BOTHER ANYTHING WITH IT.
  • 00:08:57.190 --> 00:08:59.260
  • THEY DON'T WANT TO ASK ANYBODY
  • 00:08:59.260 --> 00:09:01.280
  • TO COME IN AND SEE THEIR MESS.
  • 00:09:01.280 --> 00:09:03.100
  • SO THERE IS A LOFT SHAME
  • 00:09:03.100 --> 00:09:04.150
  • INVOLVED AS WELL.
  • 00:09:04.150 --> 00:09:06.150
  • - SINGLE MOMS HAVE A VARIETY OF
  • 00:09:06.150 --> 00:09:07.120
  • NEEDS, THE BIGGEST ONE IS THAT
  • 00:09:07.120 --> 00:09:10.070
  • FEELING OF LONELINESS, THAT
  • 00:09:10.070 --> 00:09:11.240
  • SENSE OF BEING COMPLETELY ON
  • 00:09:11.240 --> 00:09:12.240
  • THEIR OWN.
  • 00:09:12.240 --> 00:09:14.040
  • - YOU ARE ENTERING INTO THE
  • 00:09:14.040 --> 00:09:14.260
  • UNKNOWN.
  • 00:09:14.260 --> 00:09:16.100
  • YOU DON'T HAVE A JOB.
  • 00:09:16.100 --> 00:09:17.150
  • YOU DON'T HAVE ANYWHERE TO GO
  • 00:09:17.150 --> 00:09:19.170
  • AND YOU DON'T REALLY KNOW WHO TO
  • 00:09:19.170 --> 00:09:20.250
  • TURN TO OR WHO YOU CAN EVEN
  • 00:09:20.250 --> 00:09:21.200
  • TRUST.
  • 00:09:21.200 --> 00:09:24.020
  • - FOR MANY YEARS I KNOW
  • 00:09:24.020 --> 00:09:24.240
  • PERSONALLY I FELT COMPLETELY
  • 00:09:24.240 --> 00:09:26.180
  • INVISIBLE.
  • 00:09:26.180 --> 00:09:28.040
  • I WAS GETTING UP AND DOING
  • 00:09:28.040 --> 00:09:29.130
  • THINGS I NEEDED TO DO AND I WAS
  • 00:09:29.130 --> 00:09:31.000
  • STRUGGLING TO BE EVEN MYSELF AND
  • 00:09:31.000 --> 00:09:32.120
  • TO FIND MYSELF.
  • 00:09:32.120 --> 00:09:33.190
  • - IN THE BEGINNING I WAS NOT
  • 00:09:33.190 --> 00:09:35.190
  • BALANCING IT.
  • 00:09:35.190 --> 00:09:36.190
  • THAT WAS NOT A WORD.
  • 00:09:36.190 --> 00:09:39.180
  • I WAS AT THE LIBRARY TO MIDNIGHT
  • 00:09:39.180 --> 00:09:40.250
  • ALMOST EVERY NIGHT.
  • 00:09:40.250 --> 00:09:42.180
  • I WAS BURNED OUT.
  • 00:09:42.180 --> 00:09:43.150
  • I WAS CRYING.
  • 00:09:43.150 --> 00:09:44.290
  • - THEIR CHILDREN ARE LOOKING AT
  • 00:09:44.290 --> 00:09:46.050
  • A MOM WHO IS PROBABLY PRETTY
  • 00:09:46.050 --> 00:09:47.160
  • FRANTIC, PROBABLY PRETTY
  • 00:09:47.160 --> 00:09:49.060
  • DESPERATE.
  • 00:09:49.060 --> 00:09:50.280
  • PRETTY LIMITED ON TIME TO SPEND
  • 00:09:50.280 --> 00:09:52.210
  • WITH THEIR CHILDREN
  • 00:09:52.280 --> 00:09:55.280
  • INTENTIONALLY AND WHAT CHILDREN
  • 00:09:55.280 --> 00:09:58.010
  • NEED IS THAT SENSE OF STABILITY
  • 00:09:58.010 --> 00:10:00.050
  • THAT THEIR MOTHER IS STABLE.
  • 00:10:00.050 --> 00:10:01.250
  • THAT THEIR ENVIRONMENT IS
  • 00:10:01.250 --> 00:10:02.290
  • STABLE.
  • 00:10:02.290 --> 00:10:05.070
  • - I SEE SOME OF OUR MOMS
  • 00:10:05.070 --> 00:10:06.280
  • SUFFERING WITH CHILD CARE,
  • 00:10:06.280 --> 00:10:08.240
  • SUFFERING WITH PARENTING
  • 00:10:08.240 --> 00:10:10.160
  • SUPPORT.
  • 00:10:10.160 --> 00:10:12.000
  • SUFFERING WITH HOW TO IMPLEMENT
  • 00:10:12.000 --> 00:10:13.050
  • RULES AT HOME.
  • 00:10:13.050 --> 00:10:14.260
  • SUFFERING WITH THE FACT THAT
  • 00:10:14.260 --> 00:10:16.180
  • MOMS HAVE TO DO TWO JOBS IN
  • 00:10:16.180 --> 00:10:19.120
  • ORDER TO PROVIDE FOR THE HOUSE.
  • 00:10:19.120 --> 00:10:21.140
  • SO SOMETIMES THE KIDS DON'T GET
  • 00:10:21.140 --> 00:10:22.120
  • THAT PATIENCE.
  • 00:10:22.120 --> 00:10:24.160
  • - THEY ARE STATISTICALLY HIGHER
  • 00:10:24.160 --> 00:10:27.160
  • AT RISK OF ABUSE FOR THEIR
  • 00:10:27.160 --> 00:10:28.250
  • CHILDREN.
  • 00:10:28.250 --> 00:10:31.020
  • BUT MANY OF THE WOMEN HAVE GONE
  • 00:10:31.020 --> 00:10:32.220
  • THROUGH ABUSE THEMSELVES.
  • 00:10:32.220 --> 00:10:34.130
  • - DAUGHTERS OF SINGLE MOTHERS
  • 00:10:34.130 --> 00:10:35.220
  • ARE MORE LIKELY TO ENGAGE IN SEX
  • 00:10:35.220 --> 00:10:37.190
  • AT A YOUNGER AGE.
  • 00:10:37.190 --> 00:10:38.220
  • THEY ARE MORE LIKELY TO GIVE
  • 00:10:38.220 --> 00:10:39.190
  • BIRTH OUTSIDE MARRIAGE
  • 00:10:39.190 --> 00:10:40.240
  • THEMSELVES.
  • 00:10:40.240 --> 00:10:42.130
  • AND THAT PROMISCUITY COMES FROM
  • 00:10:43.020 --> 00:10:46.020
  • SEEKING THE LOVE OF A MALE.
  • 00:10:46.020 --> 00:10:47.220
  • AND THAT'S SOMETHING THEY ARE
  • 00:10:47.220 --> 00:10:48.140
  • LACKING.
  • 00:10:48.140 --> 00:10:49.000
  • THEY ARE REACHING OUT FOR IT IN
  • 00:10:49.000 --> 00:10:49.270
  • WAYS THAT ARE NOT HEALTHY.
  • 00:10:49.270 --> 00:10:51.050
  • - I THOUGHT EVERYONE WAS GOING
  • 00:10:51.050 --> 00:10:53.270
  • TO JUDGE MY CHILDREN.
  • 00:10:53.270 --> 00:10:55.140
  • I THOUGHT THAT THEY WERE GOING
  • 00:10:55.140 --> 00:10:57.080
  • TO STOP BEING INVITED PLACES.
  • 00:10:57.080 --> 00:10:58.250
  • THAT I WAS GOING TO STOP BEING
  • 00:10:58.250 --> 00:11:00.150
  • INVITED PLACES BECAUSE I WAS NOT
  • 00:11:00.150 --> 00:11:01.230
  • GOING TO FIT IN.
  • 00:11:01.230 --> 00:11:02.230
  • I WAS AN OTHER.
  • 00:11:02.230 --> 00:11:04.030
  • I DID NOT BELONG.
  • 00:11:04.030 --> 00:11:06.040
  • - WHEN YOU TALK ABOUT
  • 00:11:06.040 --> 00:11:07.180
  • FATHERLESS KIDS RIGHT NOW IT
  • 00:11:07.180 --> 00:11:09.100
  • SOUNDS SO DREARY.
  • 00:11:09.100 --> 00:11:11.040
  • IT SOUNDS LIKE IT IS A DEATH
  • 00:11:11.040 --> 00:11:11.250
  • SENTENCE.
  • 00:11:11.250 --> 00:11:14.070
  • THERE IS NOTHING POSITIVE THAT
  • 00:11:14.070 --> 00:11:15.070
  • WILL HAPPEN FOR THIS CHILD.
  • 00:11:15.070 --> 00:11:16.190
  • AND THAT'S JUST NOT TRUE.
  • 00:11:16.260 --> 00:11:19.260
  • - WE SEE A LOT OF WOMEN WHO
  • 00:11:21.240 --> 00:11:24.240
  • MAYBE SEE THE SEASON AS
  • 00:11:24.240 --> 00:11:27.140
  • TEMPORARY, AND SO WHILE THEY ARE
  • 00:11:27.140 --> 00:11:28.060
  • IN THE STAGE THEY ARE LOOKING
  • 00:11:28.060 --> 00:11:29.030
  • FOR THEIR NEXT RELATIONSHIP.
  • 00:11:29.030 --> 00:11:29.240
  • THEY ARE TRYING TO MOVE OUT OF
  • 00:11:29.240 --> 00:11:30.160
  • IT AS QUICKLY AS POSSIBLE.
  • 00:11:30.160 --> 00:11:32.080
  • - YOU FIND YOURSELF MAKING
  • 00:11:32.080 --> 00:11:34.200
  • CHOICES WITH FRIENDS OR PEOPLE.
  • 00:11:34.200 --> 00:11:36.280
  • FOR ME I WENT STRAIGHT TO THE
  • 00:11:36.280 --> 00:11:37.200
  • BOTTLE.
  • 00:11:37.200 --> 00:11:39.100
  • OR I WOULD, DRUGS, ALCOHOL,
  • 00:11:39.100 --> 00:11:41.010
  • MEN,.
  • 00:11:41.180 --> 00:11:44.180
  • - THEY ARE SO PREOCCUPIED
  • 00:11:44.180 --> 00:11:46.010
  • TRYING TO MOVE OUT OF BEING A
  • 00:11:46.010 --> 00:11:47.070
  • SINGLE PARENT BECAUSE AFTER THAT
  • 00:11:49.050 --> 00:11:52.050
  • LABEL, THAT COMES WITH THAT
  • 00:11:52.050 --> 00:11:53.070
  • LABEL, THEY ARE JUST SO
  • 00:11:53.070 --> 00:11:55.030
  • DESPERATE TO GET OUT OF THAT
  • 00:11:55.030 --> 00:11:56.080
  • SITUATION THEY MAKE CHOICES THAT
  • 00:11:56.080 --> 00:11:57.220
  • ARE NOT THE HEALTHIEST FOR THEM.
  • 00:11:57.260 --> 00:12:00.280
  • - YOU ARE PULLING AT WHATEVER
  • 00:12:00.280 --> 00:12:01.240
  • IT COULD BE.
  • 00:12:01.240 --> 00:12:02.100
  • MAYBE IT IS JUST A BUSY
  • 00:12:02.100 --> 00:12:03.000
  • SCHEDULE.
  • 00:12:03.000 --> 00:12:04.140
  • MAYBE YOU ARE JUST STAYING BUSY
  • 00:12:04.140 --> 00:12:05.070
  • AND LOOKING FOR SOLUTIONS TO FIX
  • 00:12:05.250 --> 00:12:08.250
  • SOMETHING THAT ARE NOT REALLY
  • 00:12:08.250 --> 00:12:10.250
  • GETTING YOU WHERE YOU NEED TO
  • 00:12:10.250 --> 00:12:12.250
  • GO.
  • 00:12:12.250 --> 00:12:15.150
  • - SO ONE OF OUR GOALS FOR
  • 00:12:15.150 --> 00:12:17.100
  • THRIVE IS TO HELP WOMEN FIND
  • 00:12:17.100 --> 00:12:19.070
  • THEIR PURPOSE AND TO FIND THEIR
  • 00:12:19.070 --> 00:12:20.270
  • PURPOSE THEY HAVE TO FIND THEIR
  • 00:12:20.270 --> 00:12:21.270
  • VOICE.
  • 00:12:21.270 --> 00:12:22.260
  • IT MEANS GOING BACK TO SEEING
  • 00:12:22.260 --> 00:12:25.120
  • ALL THE THINGS THAT HAVE
  • 00:12:25.120 --> 00:12:26.010
  • HAPPENED TO YOU IN THE PAST
  • 00:12:26.010 --> 00:12:27.240
  • KNOWING GOD HAS GIVEN YOU THOSE
  • 00:12:27.240 --> 00:12:29.090
  • THINGS FOR A REASON.
  • 00:12:29.090 --> 00:12:30.110
  • HOW DO YOU TRANSFORM THAT PAIN
  • 00:12:30.110 --> 00:12:32.030
  • INTO PURPOSE?
  • 00:12:35.120 --> 00:12:38.120
  • - Kelly: THE MOST COMMON LIFE
  • 00:12:38.120 --> 00:12:39.130
  • EVENTS LEADING TO SINGLE
  • 00:12:39.130 --> 00:12:40.110
  • PARENTHOOD LIKE DEATH AND
  • 00:12:40.110 --> 00:12:42.000
  • DIVORCE UPSET MORE THAN THE
  • 00:12:42.000 --> 00:12:43.220
  • MARITAL STATUS.
  • 00:12:43.220 --> 00:12:46.020
  • THEY UPSET THE FAMILY'S
  • 00:12:46.020 --> 00:12:47.010
  • FINANCIAL BALANCE.
  • 00:12:47.010 --> 00:12:49.010
  • LEAVING ONE ADULT SHOULDERING A
  • 00:12:49.010 --> 00:12:51.080
  • LOAD THAT HAS BEEN TYPICALLY
  • 00:12:51.100 --> 00:12:54.100
  • CARRIED BY TWO PARENTS.
  • 00:12:54.100 --> 00:12:56.000
  • TOO OFTEN SINGLE PARENTS HANG IN
  • 00:12:56.000 --> 00:12:57.020
  • LIMBO WAITING FOR CHILD SUPPORT
  • 00:12:57.050 --> 00:13:00.070
  • THAT NEVER ARRIVES, LEAVING THEM
  • 00:13:00.070 --> 00:13:01.230
  • WITH LESS IN THEIR CHECKING
  • 00:13:02.000 --> 00:13:05.000
  • ACCOUNT THAN WHAT THEIR KIDS
  • 00:13:05.000 --> 00:13:05.270
  • NEED.
  • 00:13:05.270 --> 00:13:07.110
  • SINGLE MOMS SAY THAT SOMETIMES
  • 00:13:07.110 --> 00:13:08.200
  • THEY FEEL TRAPPED UNDER A
  • 00:13:08.200 --> 00:13:10.290
  • MOUNTAIN OF RESPONSIBILITY THAT
  • 00:13:10.290 --> 00:13:13.030
  • LEADS THEM INTO SOCIAL
  • 00:13:13.030 --> 00:13:13.210
  • ISOLATION.
  • 00:13:13.210 --> 00:13:16.210
  • - A SOCIAL IMPACT SINGLE MOMS
  • 00:13:16.210 --> 00:13:19.160
  • EXPERIENCE IS THAT FEELING OF
  • 00:13:19.160 --> 00:13:21.240
  • NOT FITTING IN.
  • 00:13:22.160 --> 00:13:25.160
  • MOST OF THE TIME THEY ARE COMING
  • 00:13:25.160 --> 00:13:28.100
  • FROM A SITUATION WHERE THEY WERE
  • 00:13:28.100 --> 00:13:29.060
  • MARRIED OR WITH THEIR PARTNER
  • 00:13:29.060 --> 00:13:30.250
  • AND THEIR FRIENDS ARE MARRIED OR
  • 00:13:30.250 --> 00:13:32.120
  • WITH THEIR PARTNERS AND UPON
  • 00:13:32.120 --> 00:13:34.210
  • DIVORCE OR LEAVING, WHATEVER THE
  • 00:13:34.210 --> 00:13:36.020
  • CASE IS, THAT BRINGS THEM INTO
  • 00:13:36.020 --> 00:13:37.230
  • SINGLE PARENTHOOD, THEY LOSE
  • 00:13:37.230 --> 00:13:39.150
  • THEIR CIRCLE OF FRIENDS, AND
  • 00:13:39.150 --> 00:13:42.120
  • THEY DON'T FIT IN WITH THE
  • 00:13:42.120 --> 00:13:45.010
  • MARRIED COUPLES ANYMORE.
  • 00:13:45.010 --> 00:13:46.230
  • AND NONE OF THEIR FRIENDS ARE
  • 00:13:46.230 --> 00:13:47.140
  • SINGLE WITH CHILDREN.
  • 00:13:47.140 --> 00:13:48.210
  • SO THEY HAVE SINGLE FRIENDS WHO
  • 00:13:48.210 --> 00:13:49.280
  • STILL WANT TO GO OUT AND HAVE A
  • 00:13:49.280 --> 00:13:51.120
  • GOOD TIME.
  • 00:13:51.120 --> 00:13:53.160
  • THEY DON'T FIT IN THAT GROUP
  • 00:13:53.160 --> 00:13:54.150
  • EITHER ANYMORE.
  • 00:13:54.150 --> 00:13:56.240
  • SO THERE IS JUST THAT FEELING OF
  • 00:13:56.240 --> 00:13:58.040
  • WHERE DO I FIT IN?
  • 00:13:58.040 --> 00:13:59.260
  • THAT IS VERY LONELY.
  • 00:14:01.000 --> 00:14:04.000
  • - YOU HAVE YOUR SET OF FRIENDS
  • 00:14:04.000 --> 00:14:06.200
  • YOU HAVE BEFORE THE DIVORCE.
  • 00:14:07.120 --> 00:14:10.120
  • OR EVEN THEY WERE HIGH SCHOOL
  • 00:14:10.120 --> 00:14:12.010
  • FRIENDS, THEY ALL GO IN THESE
  • 00:14:12.010 --> 00:14:13.170
  • DIFFERENT PLACES.
  • 00:14:13.170 --> 00:14:15.120
  • YOU FIND YOURSELF SINGLE, ALONE,
  • 00:14:16.240 --> 00:14:19.240
  • MESSY, AND WHO DO YOU SPEAK TO?
  • 00:14:21.000 --> 00:14:24.000
  • WHO DO YOU INVITE INTO THAT
  • 00:14:24.000 --> 00:14:25.060
  • PLACE?
  • 00:14:25.060 --> 00:14:26.210
  • THAT IS A VULNERABLE PLACE.
  • 00:14:26.290 --> 00:14:29.290
  • YOU DON'T HAVE IT ALL TOGETHER.
  • 00:14:29.290 --> 00:14:31.190
  • MAYBE YOU DID NOT HAVE IT
  • 00:14:31.190 --> 00:14:32.110
  • TOGETHER THEN.
  • 00:14:32.110 --> 00:14:33.210
  • I DON'T THINK THERE WAS A TIME I
  • 00:14:33.210 --> 00:14:34.170
  • HAD IT TOGETHER.
  • 00:14:34.170 --> 00:14:36.140
  • AND I'M EVEN MORE ON THE BOTTOM.
  • 00:14:36.140 --> 00:14:38.210
  • AND WHO DO I ALLOW, WHO DO I
  • 00:14:38.210 --> 00:14:40.070
  • WELCOME IN TO THAT PLACE AND
  • 00:14:40.070 --> 00:14:42.000
  • WALK ME THROUGH THE MESSINESS?
  • 00:14:44.000 --> 00:14:47.000
  • TO CRY ON, TO TALK TO, TO LISTEN
  • 00:14:47.000 --> 00:14:48.190
  • TO, TO TRUST?
  • 00:14:49.270 --> 00:14:52.270
  • THAT IS NOT AN EASY PLACE TO BE.
  • 00:14:52.270 --> 00:14:55.150
  • IF YOU DON'T HAVE A LOT OF
  • 00:14:55.150 --> 00:14:57.090
  • PEOPLE THAT CAN SPEAK THAT
  • 00:14:57.090 --> 00:14:59.120
  • TRUTH, THAT ARE EVEN INTUNE AND
  • 00:14:59.120 --> 00:15:01.000
  • THEY CAN DISCERN WHERE I'M AT
  • 00:15:01.180 --> 00:15:04.180
  • AND WHERE I NEED TO GO, IT IS
  • 00:15:04.180 --> 00:15:05.120
  • NOT EASY TO FIND THOSE PEOPLE.
  • 00:15:06.260 --> 00:15:09.260
  • - ONE OF THE BIGGEST DANGERS I
  • 00:15:09.260 --> 00:15:10.250
  • SEE IN SINGLE PARENT HOUSEHOLDS
  • 00:15:10.250 --> 00:15:12.070
  • AND ESPECIALLY WITH SINGLE MOMS
  • 00:15:12.070 --> 00:15:14.120
  • IS THE EMERGENCE OF SOCIAL MEDIA
  • 00:15:14.120 --> 00:15:16.070
  • AND THE RELIANCE ON SOCIAL MEDIA
  • 00:15:16.070 --> 00:15:18.080
  • BEING THE ONLY OUTLET FOR
  • 00:15:18.080 --> 00:15:20.010
  • COMMUNITY WE HAVE.
  • 00:15:20.010 --> 00:15:21.090
  • WE FEEL IF WE CAN HOP ON
  • 00:15:21.090 --> 00:15:23.140
  • FACEBOOK AT THE END OF THE NIGHT
  • 00:15:23.140 --> 00:15:26.040
  • AND LIKE AND COMMENT ON A FEW
  • 00:15:26.040 --> 00:15:27.180
  • THINGS WE FEEL LIKE WE HAVE A
  • 00:15:27.180 --> 00:15:28.270
  • SENSE WE CONNECTED IN SOME WAY
  • 00:15:28.270 --> 00:15:30.030
  • TO OTHER HUMAN BEINGS, THE TRUTH
  • 00:15:30.030 --> 00:15:31.110
  • IS THAT IS NOT GOING TO FILL THE
  • 00:15:31.110 --> 00:15:33.100
  • NEED.
  • 00:15:33.100 --> 00:15:36.060
  • THERE IS SO MUCH DANGEROUS
  • 00:15:36.060 --> 00:15:38.040
  • SOCIAL MEDIA OUT THERE
  • 00:15:38.040 --> 00:15:39.160
  • ESPECIALLY FOR SINGLE MOMS WHO
  • 00:15:39.160 --> 00:15:41.110
  • ARE SEEING SOCIAL INFLUENCERS
  • 00:15:42.070 --> 00:15:45.070
  • WHO HAVE MAYBE EXCESSIVE AMOUNTS
  • 00:15:45.070 --> 00:15:47.140
  • OF MONEY, MAKING THEIR HOUSES
  • 00:15:47.140 --> 00:15:49.080
  • LOOK BEAUTIFUL AND FOCUSING ON
  • 00:15:49.080 --> 00:15:50.110
  • ALL THAT THEY CAN DO AND WHAT
  • 00:15:50.110 --> 00:15:52.050
  • THEY ARE ABLE TO DO.
  • 00:15:52.050 --> 00:15:54.070
  • SO WHEN YOU HAVE THAT HUGE GAP
  • 00:15:54.070 --> 00:15:55.280
  • BETWEEN A SINGLE MOTHER WHO DOES
  • 00:15:55.280 --> 00:15:58.080
  • NOT HAVE THAT AND SHE IS LOOKING
  • 00:15:58.080 --> 00:16:00.270
  • AT THAT AS THAT IS THE NORM IT
  • 00:16:00.270 --> 00:16:03.000
  • MAKES DEPRESSION AND ANXIETY
  • 00:16:03.000 --> 00:16:04.220
  • EVEN HIGHER FOR SINGLE MOMS.
  • 00:16:05.050 --> 00:16:08.050
  • THERE IS THE SENSE OF, I'M JUST
  • 00:16:08.050 --> 00:16:09.090
  • NOT GOOD ENOUGH.
  • 00:16:09.090 --> 00:16:09.270
  • MY WORTH IS LOWER BECAUSE THIS
  • 00:16:09.270 --> 00:16:11.190
  • IS WHAT THE WORLD IS LOOKING AT
  • 00:16:11.190 --> 00:16:12.150
  • AS BEING TRUTH.
  • 00:16:13.090 --> 00:16:16.090
  • IT IS NOT TRUTH.
  • 00:16:17.030 --> 00:16:20.030
  • - THERE WAS A MOM THAT SHARED A
  • 00:16:20.030 --> 00:16:21.170
  • STORY SHE WAS STRUGGLING WITH
  • 00:16:21.170 --> 00:16:24.040
  • HERSELF WORTH BECAUSE THE FATHER
  • 00:16:24.100 --> 00:16:27.100
  • OF HER TWO CHILDREN SAID IF YOU
  • 00:16:27.100 --> 00:16:28.030
  • DON'T GET AN ABORTION I'M
  • 00:16:28.030 --> 00:16:29.030
  • LEAVING.
  • 00:16:29.030 --> 00:16:29.230
  • WITH HER SECOND CHILD SHE CHOSE
  • 00:16:29.230 --> 00:16:31.050
  • TO KEEP IT.
  • 00:16:31.050 --> 00:16:33.020
  • AND SHE WAS ALL BY HERSELF NOW.
  • 00:16:33.020 --> 00:16:34.290
  • HE LEFT HER ALONE, NO ALIMONY,
  • 00:16:34.290 --> 00:16:37.030
  • NO CHILD SUPPORT.
  • 00:16:37.030 --> 00:16:38.210
  • AND SHE CHOSE TO KEEP THE BABY
  • 00:16:38.210 --> 00:16:40.240
  • AND RAISE IT.
  • 00:16:40.240 --> 00:16:43.060
  • BUT SHE GOES TO SCHOOL.
  • 00:16:43.060 --> 00:16:44.050
  • SHE IS STRUGGLING.
  • 00:16:44.050 --> 00:16:45.170
  • IT IS SUCH A HARD ROAD.
  • 00:16:48.040 --> 00:16:51.040
  • - WE BELIEVE THAT REGARDLESS OF
  • 00:16:51.040 --> 00:16:52.220
  • THE CIRCUMSTANCES EVERYBODY IS
  • 00:16:52.220 --> 00:16:55.020
  • COMING FROM, EVERYBODY HAS THE
  • 00:16:55.020 --> 00:16:56.200
  • RIGHT TO LIVE WITH DIGNITY.
  • 00:16:56.200 --> 00:16:59.050
  • WE WANT THE MOMS TO FEEL WE
  • 00:16:59.050 --> 00:17:02.050
  • DON'T KNOW THEIR STORY.
  • 00:17:02.050 --> 00:17:03.180
  • WE DON'T KNOW WHAT HAPPENED.
  • 00:17:03.180 --> 00:17:04.290
  • AND WE ARE NOBODY TO JUDGE WHY
  • 00:17:04.290 --> 00:17:05.220
  • THEY CAME TO US.
  • 00:17:05.220 --> 00:17:07.230
  • IT IS OUR OBLIGATION TO MOVE
  • 00:17:07.230 --> 00:17:09.130
  • THEM FROM WHERE THEY ARE FORWARD
  • 00:17:09.130 --> 00:17:10.270
  • WITH DIGNITY.
  • 00:17:10.270 --> 00:17:12.210
  • ONE OF THE WAYS WE DO IT, WHEN
  • 00:17:12.210 --> 00:17:14.200
  • WE GIVE THEM RESOURCES, LIKE IN
  • 00:17:14.200 --> 00:17:16.040
  • THIS STORE, WHEN THEY NEED
  • 00:17:16.040 --> 00:17:17.160
  • CLOTHES.
  • 00:17:17.160 --> 00:17:18.160
  • WE WANT THEM TO COME TO THIS
  • 00:17:18.160 --> 00:17:19.080
  • STORE.
  • 00:17:19.080 --> 00:17:21.040
  • GO THROUGH THE HANGERS AND GO
  • 00:17:21.040 --> 00:17:23.180
  • THROUGH THE RACKS LIKE ANYBODY
  • 00:17:23.180 --> 00:17:24.100
  • ELSE, WITHOUT FEELING THAT THEY
  • 00:17:24.100 --> 00:17:25.080
  • ARE GOING THROUGH ALL USED
  • 00:17:25.080 --> 00:17:27.290
  • CLOTHES IN BOXES.
  • 00:17:27.290 --> 00:17:30.050
  • IN A WAY, MOST OF OUR MOMS ARE
  • 00:17:30.050 --> 00:17:31.270
  • FEELING WITH A LOT OF
  • 00:17:31.270 --> 00:17:34.220
  • SELF-ESTEEM ISSUES.
  • 00:17:34.220 --> 00:17:35.270
  • WE DON'T WANT THIS GIVING THEM
  • 00:17:35.270 --> 00:17:37.180
  • THINGS FOR FREE TO MAKE THEM
  • 00:17:37.180 --> 00:17:38.160
  • EVEN FEEL WORSE.
  • 00:17:38.160 --> 00:17:41.090
  • WE WANT THEM TO FEEL GOOD ABOUT
  • 00:17:41.090 --> 00:17:42.040
  • THEMSELVES.
  • 00:17:42.040 --> 00:17:44.030
  • THAT IS PART OF THE DIGNITY WE
  • 00:17:44.030 --> 00:17:45.130
  • WANT THEM TO EMBRACE.
  • 00:17:45.240 --> 00:17:48.240
  • WE NEED OUR MOMS TO FEEL THEY
  • 00:17:48.240 --> 00:17:50.100
  • ARE SO WORTH IT OF MAKING BETTER
  • 00:17:50.100 --> 00:17:52.060
  • CHOICES IN LIFE.
  • 00:17:52.060 --> 00:17:53.100
  • THAT THEY ARE SO WORTH IT HAVING
  • 00:17:53.100 --> 00:17:55.240
  • A DIFFERENT LIFE REGARDLESS OF
  • 00:17:55.240 --> 00:17:56.280
  • THEIR PAST STORY.
  • 00:17:56.280 --> 00:17:58.030
  • IT IS A WAY ALSO FOR US TO
  • 00:17:58.030 --> 00:18:00.130
  • EMBRACE THERE IS A WAY TO LIVE
  • 00:18:02.010 --> 00:18:05.010
  • WITH DIGNITY WITHOUT THEIR PAST
  • 00:18:05.010 --> 00:18:05.230
  • STORY.
  • 00:18:06.270 --> 00:18:09.270
  • - Kelly: ACCORDING TO CENSUS
  • 00:18:09.270 --> 00:18:12.110
  • BUREAU STATISTICS, 16.1 PERCENT
  • 00:18:12.110 --> 00:18:13.210
  • OF SINGLE PARENT HOUSEHOLDS
  • 00:18:13.210 --> 00:18:14.200
  • TODAY ARE HEADED BY FATHERS.
  • 00:18:15.090 --> 00:18:18.090
  • THAT IS UP FROM 12.5 PERCENT IN
  • 00:18:18.090 --> 00:18:19.080
  • 2007.
  • 00:18:19.080 --> 00:18:21.220
  • AND WHILE SOME MEN BECOME SINGLE
  • 00:18:21.220 --> 00:18:23.130
  • FATHERS AS A RESULT OF A
  • 00:18:23.130 --> 00:18:25.080
  • DIVORCE, OTHERS UNEXPECTEDLY
  • 00:18:25.080 --> 00:18:28.030
  • FIND THEMSELVES OF BOTH MOTHER
  • 00:18:28.030 --> 00:18:30.250
  • AND FATHER DUE TO THE DEATH OF A
  • 00:18:30.250 --> 00:18:32.020
  • PARTNER OR SPOUSE.
  • 00:18:34.070 --> 00:18:37.070
  • - THE FIRST TIME I REALIZED I
  • 00:18:37.070 --> 00:18:38.060
  • WAS A WIDOWER WHEN I FILLED OUT
  • 00:18:38.060 --> 00:18:40.180
  • AN APPLICATION AND THERE WAS
  • 00:18:40.180 --> 00:18:41.210
  • CATEGORIES, MARRIED, SINGLE,
  • 00:18:41.210 --> 00:18:44.010
  • WIDOW, WIDOWER.
  • 00:18:44.160 --> 00:18:47.160
  • AND I REALIZED MY LABEL CHANGED.
  • 00:18:47.160 --> 00:18:49.220
  • MY WHOLE LIFE HAD BEEN BUILT
  • 00:18:49.220 --> 00:18:51.260
  • WITH ANOTHER PERSON.
  • 00:18:51.260 --> 00:18:54.060
  • SO MY IDENTITY HAD BECOME
  • 00:18:54.060 --> 00:18:56.070
  • CONNECTED TO THAT PERSON.
  • 00:18:56.070 --> 00:18:58.170
  • SO WHEN I LOST THAT PERSON I
  • 00:18:58.170 --> 00:18:59.290
  • LOST A PART OF ME.
  • 00:19:01.020 --> 00:19:04.020
  • - YOU CAN TELL THAT HE WAS
  • 00:19:04.020 --> 00:19:05.010
  • STRUGGLING.
  • 00:19:05.010 --> 00:19:06.160
  • TRYING TO PROCESS ALL THE GRIEF
  • 00:19:06.160 --> 00:19:08.270
  • THAT HAS JUST HAPPENED.
  • 00:19:08.270 --> 00:19:10.220
  • - I HAD TO BELIEVE THAT YOU
  • 00:19:10.220 --> 00:19:13.090
  • KNOW WHAT?
  • 00:19:13.090 --> 00:19:15.050
  • I'M NOT GOING TO GET THIS
  • 00:19:15.050 --> 00:19:17.040
  • PARENTING THING RIGHT BUT I'M
  • 00:19:17.040 --> 00:19:18.040
  • GOING TO GIVE IT THE BEST I CAN.
  • 00:19:18.040 --> 00:19:19.100
  • BEING THERE AS A FATHER FOR THEM
  • 00:19:19.180 --> 00:19:22.180
  • AND BEING PRESENT WAS MY HIGHEST
  • 00:19:22.180 --> 00:19:23.280
  • PRIORITY.
  • 00:19:23.280 --> 00:19:25.030
  • MY TURNING POINT WAS MORE A
  • 00:19:25.030 --> 00:19:27.240
  • PROCESS THAN AN EVENT.
  • 00:19:27.240 --> 00:19:30.230
  • EVERYDAY I WOULD TALK TO MY
  • 00:19:30.230 --> 00:19:33.110
  • FIVE-YEAR-OLD SON AND TELL HIM
  • 00:19:33.110 --> 00:19:35.070
  • WOULD YOU LIKE TO TALK ABOUT
  • 00:19:35.070 --> 00:19:36.020
  • YOUR MOTHER?
  • 00:19:36.020 --> 00:19:36.190
  • AND WE WOULD TALK EVERY DAY FOR
  • 00:19:38.010 --> 00:19:41.010
  • ABOUT SIX MONTHS, SEVEN MONTHS,
  • 00:19:41.010 --> 00:19:42.130
  • EIGHT MONTHS, EVENTUALLY ONE DAY
  • 00:19:42.130 --> 00:19:43.270
  • I CAME TO HIM AND I SAID, DO YOU
  • 00:19:43.270 --> 00:19:45.000
  • WANT TO TALK ABOUT YOUR MOTHER?
  • 00:19:45.000 --> 00:19:46.230
  • HE SAID NO, I REALLY DON'T.
  • 00:19:46.230 --> 00:19:48.130
  • I DON'T WANT TO TALK ABOUT HER.
  • 00:19:48.130 --> 00:19:50.150
  • I WANT TO DO SOMETHING ELSE.
  • 00:19:52.030 --> 00:19:55.030
  • I REALIZED AT THAT POINT IN TIME
  • 00:19:55.030 --> 00:19:57.000
  • THAT THE DEATH IS NOT GOING TO
  • 00:19:57.060 --> 00:20:00.060
  • DEFINE US.
  • 00:20:00.060 --> 00:20:02.020
  • THERE WAS A LIFE AND A FUTURE
  • 00:20:02.020 --> 00:20:03.080
  • AHEAD OF US AND EVEN THOUGH SHE
  • 00:20:03.080 --> 00:20:05.130
  • PASSED AWAY, THAT WE DID NOT
  • 00:20:05.130 --> 00:20:07.070
  • PASS AWAY AND WE HAD TO CONTINUE
  • 00:20:07.070 --> 00:20:10.010
  • TO GO FORWARD AND MOVE FORWARD
  • 00:20:10.010 --> 00:20:12.160
  • AND I REMEMBER JUST FEELING MY
  • 00:20:12.160 --> 00:20:14.260
  • HEART BEATING AGAIN AND
  • 00:20:14.260 --> 00:20:16.260
  • BREATHING AGAIN.
  • 00:20:16.260 --> 00:20:19.230
  • EVEN THOUGH SHE PASSED AWAY, THE
  • 00:20:19.230 --> 00:20:21.070
  • LOVE THAT I HAD FOR HER DID NOT
  • 00:20:22.100 --> 00:20:25.100
  • DIE.
  • 00:20:25.100 --> 00:20:27.020
  • I BEGAN TO SAY, YOU KNOW WHAT?
  • 00:20:27.020 --> 00:20:28.080
  • I'M GOING TO BREATHE AGAIN, I'M
  • 00:20:28.080 --> 00:20:29.230
  • GOING TO LOVE AGAIN.
  • 00:20:29.230 --> 00:20:30.280
  • WE ARE GOING TO CONTINUE TO LIVE
  • 00:20:30.280 --> 00:20:31.200
  • OUR LIFE.
  • 00:20:32.230 --> 00:20:35.230
  • - TO OPEN UP HIS HEART AGAIN, I
  • 00:20:35.280 --> 00:20:38.280
  • THINK IT IS BEAUTIFUL.
  • 00:20:38.280 --> 00:20:40.090
  • SO PURE.
  • 00:20:40.090 --> 00:20:42.050
  • OUR LOVE IS PRETTY SPECIAL.
  • 00:20:42.250 --> 00:20:45.250
  • - THE MOST EXCITING THING IN MY
  • 00:20:45.250 --> 00:20:46.240
  • LIFE IS TO WRESTLE MY BOYS TO
  • 00:20:46.240 --> 00:20:49.220
  • THE GROUND AND TO CHASE THEM
  • 00:20:49.220 --> 00:20:51.180
  • AROUND AND TO HAVE FAMILY DAY
  • 00:20:51.180 --> 00:20:53.280
  • WHERE WE ARE JUST OUT AND ABOUT.
  • 00:20:53.280 --> 00:20:55.220
  • IT IS US AND NO PHONES.
  • 00:20:55.220 --> 00:20:57.240
  • TO KNOW THAT HEY, WE MADE IT,
  • 00:20:58.110 --> 00:21:01.130
  • GUYS.
  • 00:21:01.130 --> 00:21:03.040
  • EVERY TIME I'M TACKLING THEM I'M
  • 00:21:03.040 --> 00:21:03.280
  • SAYING, WE MADE IT.
  • 00:21:03.280 --> 00:21:06.030
  • THIS IS UNBELIEVABLE.
  • 00:21:08.050 --> 00:21:11.050
  • - NOT MANY PEOPLE GO THROUGH
  • 00:21:11.050 --> 00:21:12.180
  • BROKEN PLACES.
  • 00:21:13.190 --> 00:21:16.190
  • AND STILL FIND LOVE AT THE END.
  • 00:21:21.090 --> 00:21:24.090
  • - Kelly: UNLESS SHE HAS A
  • 00:21:24.090 --> 00:21:25.050
  • STRONG SUPPORT SYSTEM OF FRIENDS
  • 00:21:25.050 --> 00:21:26.190
  • OR FAMILY, BEING A SINGLE MOM 24
  • 00:21:26.190 --> 00:21:28.270
  • HOURS A DAY MEANS THERE IS NO
  • 00:21:28.270 --> 00:21:30.240
  • ONE TO STEP IN JUST TO GIVE HER
  • 00:21:30.240 --> 00:21:32.290
  • A BREAK.
  • 00:21:32.290 --> 00:21:34.130
  • HAVING TO MAKE GOOD PARENTING
  • 00:21:34.130 --> 00:21:36.240
  • DECISIONS BY HERSELF LEAVES MANY
  • 00:21:36.240 --> 00:21:39.170
  • MOMS FEELING THEIR CHOICES HAVE
  • 00:21:39.170 --> 00:21:41.100
  • FALLEN SHORT.
  • 00:21:42.270 --> 00:21:45.270
  • - YOU WANT TO EQUIP THAT SINGLE
  • 00:21:45.270 --> 00:21:46.260
  • MOM SHE IS GOING TO BE ABLE TO
  • 00:21:46.260 --> 00:21:48.110
  • FIND THE RESOURCES SHE NEEDS TO
  • 00:21:48.150 --> 00:21:51.150
  • GIVE HER STABILITY, SECURITY,.
  • 00:21:56.100 --> 00:21:59.100
  • - WHEN YOU ARE COACHING
  • 00:21:59.100 --> 00:22:00.220
  • CORRECTLY YOU ARE LEADING THE
  • 00:22:00.220 --> 00:22:02.010
  • PERSON TO THEIR OWN CONCLUSION.
  • 00:22:02.010 --> 00:22:02.240
  • NOT YOURS.
  • 00:22:02.240 --> 00:22:03.240
  • I'M NOT ADVISING THEM.
  • 00:22:03.240 --> 00:22:04.240
  • I MIGHT BE DRAWING FROM MY
  • 00:22:04.240 --> 00:22:06.090
  • EXPERIENCE, BUT I'M ALLOWING
  • 00:22:06.090 --> 00:22:08.120
  • THEM TO WORK DOWN THEIR OWN
  • 00:22:08.120 --> 00:22:09.050
  • PATH.
  • 00:22:09.090 --> 00:22:12.090
  • - WHEN SOMEBODY HAS COME TO YOU
  • 00:22:12.090 --> 00:22:13.120
  • AND SAID, I'VE GONE THROUGH
  • 00:22:13.120 --> 00:22:14.200
  • THIS, I'M STRUGGLING WITH THIS
  • 00:22:14.200 --> 00:22:16.100
  • AND THAT WOMAN CAN SAY, ME TOO.
  • 00:22:16.100 --> 00:22:18.150
  • I KNOW WHAT THAT FEELS LIKE.
  • 00:22:18.150 --> 00:22:20.290
  • THERE IS SUCH A HUGE RELIEF AND
  • 00:22:20.290 --> 00:22:23.280
  • A SENSE OF ACCEPTANCE THAT YOU
  • 00:22:23.280 --> 00:22:25.160
  • CAN FORM A RELATIONSHIP THAT CAN
  • 00:22:25.160 --> 00:22:28.020
  • MOVE FORWARD IN A HEALTHY WAY.
  • 00:22:28.030 --> 00:22:31.030
  • - THIS MIGHT BE A SEASON IN
  • 00:22:31.030 --> 00:22:32.120
  • YOUR LIFE.
  • 00:22:32.120 --> 00:22:33.150
  • THERE ARE RESOURCES OUT THERE.
  • 00:22:33.150 --> 00:22:34.240
  • THERE ARE PEOPLE THERE WILLING
  • 00:22:34.240 --> 00:22:36.020
  • TO HELP.
  • 00:22:36.020 --> 00:22:37.240
  • - I'M JUST A ONE ASSET, ONE
  • 00:22:37.240 --> 00:22:40.030
  • RESOURCE, ONE TOOL FOR HER.
  • 00:22:40.030 --> 00:22:41.280
  • IN ORDER TO HELP HER SEE ALL THE
  • 00:22:42.290 --> 00:22:45.290
  • RESOURCES THAT ARE AT HER
  • 00:22:45.290 --> 00:22:46.260
  • FINGERTIPS.
  • 00:22:46.260 --> 00:22:48.190
  • - TO SEE A WOMAN REALLY
  • 00:22:48.190 --> 00:22:50.090
  • UNDERSTAND WHO SHE IS.
  • 00:22:50.090 --> 00:22:52.160
  • ASIDE FROM ALL THE LABELS AND
  • 00:22:52.180 --> 00:22:55.180
  • THE BELIEFS SHE MAY HAVE
  • 00:22:55.180 --> 00:22:56.220
  • PREVIOUSLY HELD FOR HERSELF.
  • 00:22:56.220 --> 00:22:57.280
  • TO BREAK FREE FROM THAT IS
  • 00:22:57.280 --> 00:22:59.010
  • INCREDIBLE.
  • 00:22:59.010 --> 00:23:02.000
  • - YOUR PAST DOES NOT HAVE TO
  • 00:23:02.000 --> 00:23:03.010
  • DEFINE YOUR FUTURE.
  • 00:23:03.010 --> 00:23:05.010
  • YOUR PAST STORY DOES NOT HAVE TO
  • 00:23:05.010 --> 00:23:07.160
  • DETERMINE WHERE YOU ARE GOING
  • 00:23:07.160 --> 00:23:09.070
  • AND WHERE YOUR KIDS ARE GOING TO
  • 00:23:09.070 --> 00:23:10.010
  • GO.
  • 00:23:10.010 --> 00:23:11.160
  • - I SEE IT ON A DAILY BASIS,
  • 00:23:11.160 --> 00:23:13.030
  • MOMS THAT ARE WANTING TO WORK,
  • 00:23:13.030 --> 00:23:14.260
  • WANT TO MOVE FORWARD.
  • 00:23:14.260 --> 00:23:16.030
  • AND BE EMPOWERED AND THRIVE.
  • 00:23:17.140 --> 00:23:20.140
  • IT IS REALLY WHAT KEEPS US
  • 00:23:20.140 --> 00:23:21.040
  • GOING.
  • 00:23:21.040 --> 00:23:23.280
  • - WE HAVE TO BEGIN TO CREATE
  • 00:23:24.030 --> 00:23:27.030
  • NEW BEHAVIORS, AND NEW PATTERNS
  • 00:23:27.030 --> 00:23:28.110
  • THAT SAY THAT'S OLD AND THIS IS
  • 00:23:28.110 --> 00:23:31.020
  • WHAT NEW LOOKS LIKE.
  • 00:23:31.020 --> 00:23:33.200
  • WHAT WE NEED TO DO IS REACH OUT
  • 00:23:33.200 --> 00:23:34.260
  • GET TO KNOW THAT MOM.
  • 00:23:34.260 --> 00:23:35.230
  • CAN WE DRIVE CARPOOL?
  • 00:23:35.230 --> 00:23:38.110
  • CAN WE DO THINGS THAT WILL
  • 00:23:38.110 --> 00:23:40.020
  • ALLEVIATE SOME OF HER BURDEN?
  • 00:23:40.020 --> 00:23:41.280
  • AND THERE BY ALSO INCLUDE US IN
  • 00:23:41.280 --> 00:23:44.120
  • THE RAISING OF THAT CHILD.
  • 00:23:45.000 --> 00:23:48.000
  • - WOMEN ARE INCREDIBLE.
  • 00:23:48.000 --> 00:23:49.090
  • WOMEN ARE INCREDIBLE CREATURES.
  • 00:23:51.000 --> 00:23:54.000
  • AND IT HAS BEEN MY PRIVILEGE TO
  • 00:23:54.000 --> 00:23:55.030
  • SEE SO MANY WOMEN COME TO PEACE
  • 00:23:55.030 --> 00:23:57.160
  • WITH THEIR SINGLE PARENTING
  • 00:23:57.160 --> 00:23:58.140
  • JOURNEY.
  • 00:23:58.140 --> 00:24:00.280
  • - MAYBE YOU ARE WATCHING THIS
  • 00:24:00.280 --> 00:24:01.230
  • RIGHT NOW.
  • 00:24:01.230 --> 00:24:03.000
  • MAYBE YOU ARE SOMEBODY WHO IS
  • 00:24:03.000 --> 00:24:03.260
  • STRUGGLING WITH PAIN.
  • 00:24:03.260 --> 00:24:04.270
  • MAYBE YOU ARE SOMEBODY WHO LOST
  • 00:24:04.270 --> 00:24:06.040
  • HOPE.
  • 00:24:06.040 --> 00:24:08.000
  • I WANT TO TELL YOU THAT THERE IS
  • 00:24:08.000 --> 00:24:09.260
  • ALWAYS A NEW START.
  • 00:24:09.260 --> 00:24:12.040
  • THERE COULD ALWAYS BE A NEW
  • 00:24:12.040 --> 00:24:13.130
  • NORMAL.
  • 00:24:13.130 --> 00:24:16.040
  • - THAT GRIT AND DETERMINATION,
  • 00:24:16.040 --> 00:24:17.090
  • THAT HARD WORK AND PERSEVERANCE
  • 00:24:17.090 --> 00:24:20.010
  • YOU USE TO GET THROUGH EVERY
  • 00:24:20.010 --> 00:24:21.080
  • DAY, LET THOSE THINGS FUEL YOUR
  • 00:24:21.080 --> 00:24:23.140
  • FIRE.
  • 00:24:23.140 --> 00:24:24.260
  • LET THOSE THINGS PUSH YOU TO BE
  • 00:24:24.260 --> 00:24:26.090
  • EXACTLY WHO ARE YOU SUPPOSED TO
  • 00:24:26.090 --> 00:24:27.090
  • BE.
  • 00:24:27.090 --> 00:24:29.160
  • BECAUSE YOU ARE CAPABLE OF
  • 00:24:29.160 --> 00:24:30.050
  • ANYTHING YOU WISH.
  • 00:24:30.050 --> 00:24:32.180
  • I THINK WE HAVE POWERS THAT WE
  • 00:24:32.180 --> 00:24:34.140
  • CAN HARNESS IN THESE WOMEN.
  • 00:24:34.140 --> 00:24:36.000
  • I THINK BY DETERMINATION AND
  • 00:24:36.000 --> 00:24:37.280
  • PERSEVERANCE HAS A HUGE VALUE.
  • 00:24:37.280 --> 00:24:40.030
  • AND I KNOW THESE CHILDREN ARE
  • 00:24:40.100 --> 00:24:43.100
  • INCREDIBLE CHILDREN.
  • 00:24:43.100 --> 00:24:45.030
  • AND THEY DON'T HAVE TO FEEL LIKE
  • 00:24:45.030 --> 00:24:46.030
  • THEY ARE ANY LESS.
  • 00:24:46.030 --> 00:24:48.030
  • THIS CIRCUMSTANCE DOES NOT HAVE
  • 00:24:48.030 --> 00:24:49.230
  • TO BE A NEGATIVE FOR THEM.
  • 00:24:49.230 --> 00:24:51.160
  • WE JUST HAVE TO FIGURE OUT HOW
  • 00:24:51.160 --> 00:24:52.200
  • TO FILL THE HOLES.
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  • - AND TO SEE THEM BREAK FREE
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  • FROM ALL THAT OPPRESSION AND
  • 00:24:59.090 --> 00:25:02.110
  • THAT SENSE OF GUILT AND JUST SEE
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  • THEM ON THE OTHER SIDE, THE FREE
  • 00:25:04.230 --> 00:25:06.020
  • SIDE, IS JUST ONE OF THE BEST
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  • AND MOST REWARDING FEELINGS
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  • EVER.
  • 00:25:08.200 --> 00:25:11.200
  • - ANYTHING YOU WANT IN THIS
  • 00:25:11.200 --> 00:25:12.210
  • LIFE CAN BE ACHIEVED.
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  • YOUR BEING A SINGLE MOTHER OR
  • 00:25:17.190 --> 00:25:19.100
  • THE CHILD OF A SINGLE MOTHER
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  • DOES NOT MEAN AN OUTCOME JUST
  • 00:25:21.110 --> 00:25:23.110
  • BECAUSE THE STATISTICS SAY SO.
  • 00:25:23.290 --> 00:25:26.290
  • YOU CAN HAVE AND ACHIEVE
  • 00:25:26.290 --> 00:25:28.030
  • ANYTHING YOU LIKE.
  • 00:25:31.180 --> 00:25:34.180
  • - THERE ARE APPROXIMATELY
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  • 14 MILLION SINGLE PARENTS IN THE
  • 00:25:35.190 --> 00:25:37.090
  • UNITED STATES TODAY AND THOSE
  • 00:25:37.090 --> 00:25:39.070
  • PARENTS ARE RESPONSIBLE FOR
  • 00:25:39.070 --> 00:25:39.270
  • RAISING NEARLY 20 MILLION
  • 00:25:39.270 --> 00:25:41.000
  • CHILDREN.
  • 00:25:41.000 --> 00:25:43.240
  • BECAUSE SINGLE MOTHERS AND
  • 00:25:43.240 --> 00:25:44.200
  • FATHERS FACE INCREDIBLE WORK
  • 00:25:44.200 --> 00:25:46.130
  • LIFE BALANCE ISSUES, THEY HAVE A
  • 00:25:46.130 --> 00:25:47.210
  • MUCH HIGHER LIKELIHOOD OF LIVING
  • 00:25:47.210 --> 00:25:49.070
  • IN POVERTY, THE EMOTIONAL AND
  • 00:25:49.070 --> 00:25:50.240
  • FINANCIAL TOLL CAN BECOME
  • 00:25:50.240 --> 00:25:51.230
  • UNBEARABLE.
  • 00:25:51.230 --> 00:25:53.130
  • LEAVING MANY FEELING TRAPPED
  • 00:25:53.130 --> 00:25:54.130
  • UNDER A MOUNTAIN OF
  • 00:25:54.130 --> 00:25:55.190
  • RESPONSIBILITY THAT LEADS THEM
  • 00:25:55.190 --> 00:25:57.160
  • INTO SOCIAL ISOLATION.
  • 00:25:57.160 --> 00:25:59.170
  • WHILE MOST SINGLE PARENTS ARE
  • 00:25:59.170 --> 00:26:01.110
  • DOING THEIR BEST MANY DON'T HAVE
  • 00:26:01.110 --> 00:26:02.230
  • A STRONG SUPPORT SYSTEM OF
  • 00:26:02.230 --> 00:26:04.020
  • FRIENDS AND FAMILY, BEING A
  • 00:26:04.020 --> 00:26:05.120
  • SINGLE PARENT 24 HOURS A DAY
  • 00:26:05.120 --> 00:26:07.050
  • MEANS THERE IS NO ONE TO STEP IN
  • 00:26:07.050 --> 00:26:08.020
  • AND GIVE THEM A BREAK.
  • 00:26:08.020 --> 00:26:10.090
  • SOLO PARENT SOCIETY IS A
  • 00:26:10.090 --> 00:26:11.040
  • NONPROFIT ORGANIZATION THAT
  • 00:26:11.040 --> 00:26:12.210
  • HELPS SINGLE PARENTS AND THEIR
  • 00:26:12.210 --> 00:26:14.000
  • FAMILIES THRIVE THROUGH POWERFUL
  • 00:26:14.000 --> 00:26:15.210
  • RESOURCES, AUTHENTIC COMMUNITY
  • 00:26:15.210 --> 00:26:17.140
  • AND ADVOCACY TO PROVIDE RELIEF
  • 00:26:17.140 --> 00:26:19.180
  • AND SUPPORT, TO LEARN MORE GO TO
  • 00:26:19.180 --> 00:26:21.110
  • SOLO PARENTS SOCIETY.COM OR CALL
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  • (888)881-7656.
  • 00:26:30.030 --> 00:26:33.030
  • - Kelly: IT HAS BEEN SAID IT
  • 00:26:33.030 --> 00:26:33.290
  • TAKES A VILLAGE TO RAISE A
  • 00:26:33.290 --> 00:26:34.190
  • CHILD.
  • 00:26:34.190 --> 00:26:35.140
  • HELPING SINGLE PARENTS FEEL PART
  • 00:26:35.140 --> 00:26:37.030
  • OF A CARING COMMUNITY THAT IS
  • 00:26:37.030 --> 00:26:38.220
  • WALKING BESIDE THEM CHANGES
  • 00:26:38.220 --> 00:26:41.190
  • EVERYTHING.
  • 00:26:41.190 --> 00:26:44.150
  • SO NOW IS THE TIME FOR LEADERS
  • 00:26:44.150 --> 00:26:45.080
  • AT EVERY LEVEL TO LOOK AT
  • 00:26:45.080 --> 00:26:46.130
  • REFORM.
  • 00:26:46.130 --> 00:26:47.210
  • HOW CAN WE SUPPORT THESE
  • 00:26:47.210 --> 00:26:49.280
  • VULNERABLE PARENTS AND CHILDREN
  • 00:26:49.280 --> 00:26:51.020
  • THAT NEEDS TO CHANGE.
  • 00:26:51.080 --> 00:26:54.080
  • WE IN THE FAITH COMMUNITY HAVE
  • 00:26:54.080 --> 00:26:55.080
  • AN OBLIGATION TO STEP UP AND
  • 00:26:55.080 --> 00:26:57.000
  • SUPPORT THESE SINGLE MOMS AND
  • 00:26:57.000 --> 00:26:58.280
  • SINGLE DADS.
  • 00:26:58.280 --> 00:27:00.220
  • FOR ALL OF US HERE, I'M KELLY
  • 00:27:00.220 --> 00:27:02.140
  • WRIGHT AND TOGETHER, WE ARE
  • 00:27:02.140 --> 00:27:04.170
  • TAKING CARE OF BUSINESS.
  • 00:27:04.170 --> 00:27:07.100
  • MUSIC
  • 00:27:07.100 --> 00:27:08.080
  • - I'M TARA TAYLOR AND I'M
  • 00:27:08.080 --> 00:27:09.000
  • HELPING WOMEN BECOME SINGLE MOM
  • 00:27:09.000 --> 00:27:09.220
  • STRONG.
  • 00:27:09.220 --> 00:27:11.280
  • - MY NAME IS YORLENI SAPP AND I
  • 00:27:11.280 --> 00:27:12.290
  • LOVE WHAT I DO.
  • 00:27:12.290 --> 00:27:14.140
  • - MY NAME IS T.J. ANGLIN AND I
  • 00:27:14.140 --> 00:27:15.090
  • WAS A SINGLE FATHER.
  • 00:27:15.090 --> 00:27:17.000
  • - MY NAME IS CASSIE RAGEWICH
  • 00:27:17.000 --> 00:27:18.170
  • AND I HELP SINGLE MOMS MASTER
  • 00:27:18.170 --> 00:27:19.190
  • THEIR MESS.
  • 00:27:19.190 --> 00:27:21.000
  • - MY NAME IS BRANDI DAILY, MY
  • 00:27:21.000 --> 00:27:21.290
  • MISSION IS TO HELP SINGLE MOMS
  • 00:27:21.290 --> 00:27:23.170
  • THRIVE.
  • 00:27:23.170 --> 00:27:26.010

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