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March 26, 2018
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Strengths Based Marriage with Jimmy Evans & Allan Kelsey
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- - Since the beginning of time
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- marriage has been the foundation of society
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- and one of the secrets of success in marriage is
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- you don't have to marry the perfect person
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- who's just like you.
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- - Yeah, you see
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- God has created each of us
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- with a unique set of strengths
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- that when celebrated,
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- rather than stifled,
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- can unlock the true potential of your marriage.
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- In strengths Based Marriage
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- we've drawn from more than 50 years of research
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- from the Gallup Institute
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- combined with over 35 years of experience
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- in marriage counseling,
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- to develop an incredibly exciting resource
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- that can literally revolutionize your relationship
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- and prepare you for a lifetime of passion and intimacy
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- and we can't wait to share it with you.
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- - That's right.
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- When you learn to recognize and focus on
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- the strengths of your spouse
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- you'll be able to celebrate what's right about them
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- and value their God-given differences
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- not resent them.
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- So join us on this journey
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- to explore how implementing a Strengths Based Marriage
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- can bring you closer together than ever before
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- with your spouse.
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- - [Narrator] Dr. Donald O. Clifton
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- was a forerunner in positive psychology.
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- Through his research,
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- he identified 34 universal strengths
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- that exist within each individual.
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- Working with Gallup,
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- he developed the strengths finder assessment
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- which reveals how our unique order of strengths
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- affect the way we engage with the world around us
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- influencing our thoughts, feelings, and behavior.
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- Thousands of businesses, teams, and churches
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- have harnessed this strengths based approach
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- to interacting,
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- resulting in stronger relationships and greater performance.
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- So what happens when you apply these same ideas
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- to your own personal relationships.
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- Or even your marriage?
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- On this journey,
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- you will discover how to thrive in your strengths,
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- recognize the positive traits in your partner,
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- and develop your own strengths based marriage.
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- (uplifting music)
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- - Jimmy mentioned earlier that
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- one of his number one strengths is achiever.
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- I have achiever at number one also.
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- And what that means is
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- I just love to get stuff done.
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- I am a list person, okay?
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- I like to make lists.
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- I kinda sometimes make lists of my lists.
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- So you know who you are,
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- you know you're out there.
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- And the best part of my day is when those little boxes
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- next to all my lists
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- and I can just put all those check marks in there.
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- Yeah baby!
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- That's a good day.
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- You can just buy me a ball cap that says
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- "Git 'er done" right here
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- and you've got me summed up.
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- Like I love to get stuff done.
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- And it has been this way
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- since as young as I can remember.
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- In fact,
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- what science tells me
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- is that God began forming me this way
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- from the time that I was in the womb.
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- The Bible says that we are formed in the womb
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- but science tells me that day 45 after conception
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- already the brain is being constructed
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- and the lines that make up my thinking this way
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- are already being connected.
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- It's ridiculous.
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- I love seeing how God manufactures us
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- in this wonderful way.
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- So what that means is,
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- my strength of achiever has been with me since day one.
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- And it feels incredibly normal to me.
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- This is how I think.
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- So when I run off to go get something accomplished
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- it feels like,
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- shouldn't everybody be doing this?
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- Like this is how normal people function.
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- And when people don't function that way like me,
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- I begin to wonder like
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- "Uh, are the completely normal?
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- "I'm not sure, you know."
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- I kinda judge them a little bit
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- because they're strengths don't look like mine.
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- We gotta quit doin' that.
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- We gotta quit lookin' at each other
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- and thinkin' they gotta be like me in order to be normal.
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- No, everybody's got their own strengths.
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- And they make them unbelievably unique.
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- And these strengths aren't just how you think.
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- It's really who you are.
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- So if I have this ability,
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- this strength of achiever,
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- it goes with me everywhere I go.
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- So if I go to play some golf
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- with Jimmy,
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- not as well as he does, mind you, but
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- nonetheless,
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- then my strength of achiever goes with me
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- and it affects the way that I swing.
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- If I'm at work,
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- typing on the computer,
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- my strength of achiever is right there
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- and it influences the way I type on the computer.
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- If I'm at home interacting with my daughters or my wife,
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- loving on them,
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- hanging out,
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- spending time together.
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- It affects the kinds of things that I like to do.
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- Listen, when I'm telling you this
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- your strengths affect everything about you.
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- They're not just what you do,
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- they're really who you are.
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- So it affects vacations.
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- It affects the way you like to rest.
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- It affects the kind of books you like to read.
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- It affects what kind of entertainment you love.
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- It even affects what happens in the bedroom.
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- Now we're gonna get to that in a second.
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- But so let's start with some of the others.
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- Okay, vacation, right?
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- So for me,
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- a fantastic vacation is us going to the beach,
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- we get up early because I wanna go fishing
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- and then we wanna go swim in the ocean
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- then we wanna ride on the horses on the beach front
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- before lunch.
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- Then we're gonna catch lunch,
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- maybe do a movie after that,
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- come back to the beach.
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- Are you hearing what I'm saying?
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- Like we are gonna check all these boxes
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- and get all this fun stuff done
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- and tomorrow,
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- we're gonna do it again!
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- Because this we wanna just suck the marrow
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- out of this vacation
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- and enjoy every element of it.
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- My wife,
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- entirely different expectations for rest.
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- Entirely different.
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- What she wants to do,
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- is lay down in the sand,
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- let the shiny ball in the sky
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- do crazy things to her skin all day,
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- and tomorrow is do the exact same thing again.
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- We are at odds with each other
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- over the way we have vacation.
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- Because what feels right to me
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- and what feels right to her
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- are entirely different.
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- These things are motivated by your strengths.
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- They affect the way you think about how you rest.
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- By the way,
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- rest for me is not a passive thing.
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- It's an active thing.
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- I actually like to do,
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- and it's how I recover.
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- Stephanie on the other hand likes not to do,
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- and that's very recovering for her.
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- So our strengths influence the way we rest.
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- We were in Barnes and Noble the other day
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- looking for books.
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- And I happened to walk past the section
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- that's got all these business books in them.
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- And there's the strategic category,
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- and I walked over there and picked up this book
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- and it says,
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- "First things First" on the front,
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- and I'm like, "Yeah!
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- "That makes perfect sense to me."
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- And inside it talks about
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- how you begin with the end in mind.
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- Being a strategic thinker,
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- I'm thinkin'
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- "This guy is a genius!"
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- So I walked this book over to Stephanie
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- to show her this phenomenal find
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- that I've just picked up,
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- and she looks at it,
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- reads the stuff I've read and goes
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- (yawns) "Do you have something else?"
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- Totally not interested at all in what I have to offer.
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- On the other hand,
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- I see she has a book in her hand.
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- I said, "What is that?"
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- she said, "Well look, it's all about women and relationships
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- and how they fight."
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- I'm like "Huh, are you kidding me?
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- "That looks like torture!
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- "I don't wanna read that!"
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- Why?
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- Because her strengths are all relational
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- and mine have to do with executing and strategic thinking.
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- And so that brings me to this final topic.
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- All 34 of our strengths,
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- all 34.
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- They can be bundled into kind of four categories
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- that really start to make grouped sense
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- about these strengths that we have.
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- So the first one is an executing category.
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- Now I don't mean killin' people,
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- I mean gettin' stuff done.
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- So there's six or seven or eight strengths in this grouping
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- that all motivate us to just kinda get things done.
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- The second category,
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- is a strategic thinking category.
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- And this is a group of strengths
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- that lend themselves to the individual,
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- helping them to think strategically.
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- It's just pretty obvious.
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- The third one is an influencing category.
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- And these strengths all are interested
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- in the kinds of ways that they can influence other people.
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- It's sort of the overriding banner that covers
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- those six or seven strengths.
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- And then the final,
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- on the list of 34,
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- are your relationship building strengths.
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- All these strengths lend to an individual
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- to be phenomenal in the way that they build relationships.
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- And almost all of my wife's strengths
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- are in that category.
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- At least her top five or six strengths.
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- So she is an amazing person at building relationships.
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- But what I had not been prepared for
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- was how those four categories
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- and the way we're built,
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- influences what happens between the sheets.
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- Listen I'm telling you I didn't know it could be possible
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- but it's true.
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- So without gettin' too weird,
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- I just wanna talk about this for a second
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- and let's see where this goes.
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- So, let's take the first category executing.
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- In this group are six or eight strengths
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- whose primary objective is gettin' somethin' done.
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- If you move that idea
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- into the bedroom
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- I might be interested in gettin' some things done.
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- I'm just gonna let you decide what that means,
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- but I'm very goal oriented.
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- This is about gettin' stuff done.
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- I've got a list.
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- I'm gonna check some things off.
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- I have an objective.
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- I'm gonna push for that objective.
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- If I became too obsessed
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- with a particular goal I'd set in mind.
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- It might become not so enjoyable for certain parties
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- during that window of time.
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- I'm just sayin'.
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- Executing is about gettin' things done.
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- And you can't check the box until what?
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- Until it's finished.
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- So,
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- it's just a motivation that shows up in the bedroom
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- that's very oriented a particular way
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- if the majority of your strengths
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- happen to fall into that executing category.
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- But what if the majority of your strengths
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- are strategic thinking categories.
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- Then what?
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- Well then you probably like variety.
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- You like to begin with the end in mind
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- and you have a very set plan on how you intend to get there.
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- There's no time for deviations.
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- We have got to stick with the plan here.
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- So you might also be quite goal-oriented
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- and have a pattern
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- or a method that you like to use
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- that gets you there.
- 00:09:45.170 --> 00:09:46.250
- So changes from those patterns
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- might be hard to adapt to
- 00:09:48.040 --> 00:09:49.230
- and you might find yourself struggling with that.
- 00:09:49.230 --> 00:09:52.070
- But your spouse might be able to help you.
- 00:09:52.070 --> 00:09:54.120
- I do know that if you're a strategic thinker,
- 00:09:54.120 --> 00:09:56.290
- you like variety, so
- 00:09:56.290 --> 00:09:58.190
- I'm just gonna let you decide how you feel about that.
- 00:10:00.190 --> 00:10:03.060
- The next category is influencing.
- 00:10:03.060 --> 00:10:05.000
- Listen people who love influencing others
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- have all of these strengths that make them feel strongest
- 00:10:07.120 --> 00:10:10.130
- when they're able to influence the ones around them.
- 00:10:10.130 --> 00:10:12.220
- They have a strong sense of confidence.
- 00:10:12.220 --> 00:10:14.190
- And they love to exert their influence
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- over the people around them.
- 00:10:17.000 --> 00:10:18.080
- You put that between the sheets
- 00:10:18.080 --> 00:10:19.260
- and you've got an individual
- 00:10:19.260 --> 00:10:21.070
- who probably likes the lights to be on.
- 00:10:21.070 --> 00:10:23.180
- Because this person likes to know what's going on.
- 00:10:23.180 --> 00:10:25.260
- Am I influencing this person?
- 00:10:25.260 --> 00:10:27.260
- Can I see that happening?
- 00:10:27.260 --> 00:10:29.050
- I gotta see that to let me know
- 00:10:29.050 --> 00:10:30.230
- that this is actually working.
- 00:10:30.230 --> 00:10:32.120
- So the influencing category brings a whole new dimension
- 00:10:32.120 --> 00:10:36.000
- into what expectations are in the bedroom
- 00:10:36.000 --> 00:10:38.150
- and what kinds of performances are in the bedroom.
- 00:10:38.150 --> 00:10:41.250
- There's probably a good need for variety there too.
- 00:10:41.250 --> 00:10:44.270
- And then the final category
- 00:10:44.270 --> 00:10:46.100
- is the relationship building category.
- 00:10:46.100 --> 00:10:48.110
- And this category is very interested
- 00:10:48.110 --> 00:10:51.060
- in the relational connection
- 00:10:51.060 --> 00:10:52.250
- that is present in the bedroom.
- 00:10:52.250 --> 00:10:55.200
- And so I asked Stephanie about this
- 00:10:55.200 --> 00:10:57.020
- as I was writing the chapter
- 00:10:57.020 --> 00:10:58.090
- and there's a lot more detail
- 00:10:58.090 --> 00:10:59.160
- in the last chapter in the book.
- 00:10:59.160 --> 00:11:01.040
- But I said "How did you start an amorous conversation
- 00:11:01.040 --> 00:11:04.270
- "with me thinking that it would lead to the bedroom?"
- 00:11:04.270 --> 00:11:07.290
- She said "Oh that's easy.
- 00:11:07.290 --> 00:11:09.060
- "I would just start a conversation."
- 00:11:09.060 --> 00:11:10.250
- and I thought to myself,
- 00:11:10.250 --> 00:11:12.080
- "Are you kidding me?
- 00:11:12.080 --> 00:11:13.210
- "How many times did you shoot one over the bow for me
- 00:11:13.210 --> 00:11:17.050
- "and I didn't pick up on your cue?"
- 00:11:17.050 --> 00:11:19.000
- She said, "Oh you have no idea.
- 00:11:19.000 --> 00:11:20.210
- "You have no idea how many times I did that."
- 00:11:20.210 --> 00:11:22.180
- And I'm thinking to myself,
- 00:11:22.180 --> 00:11:23.230
- "Duh! All the missed opportunities
- 00:11:23.230 --> 00:11:26.010
- that might have been heavenly,
- 00:11:26.010 --> 00:11:28.220
- if I'd a known what kind of cues I should be looking for."
- 00:11:28.220 --> 00:11:31.240
- Just didn't know.
- 00:11:31.240 --> 00:11:33.000
- My strengths didn't set me up to know that.
- 00:11:33.000 --> 00:11:35.090
- If I'd a known hers,
- 00:11:35.090 --> 00:11:37.020
- I would've known she was giving me some cues
- 00:11:37.020 --> 00:11:39.080
- and we could've been able to execute against those cues.
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- Look, I think the point I'm trying to make is,
- 00:11:44.250 --> 00:11:47.040
- these strengths are more than just the way you think.
- 00:11:47.040 --> 00:11:49.230
- They genuinely affect just about every element of your life.
- 00:11:49.230 --> 00:11:53.280
- And if you're not aware that that's the case,
- 00:11:55.030 --> 00:11:56.080
- you will live blind,
- 00:11:56.080 --> 00:11:58.020
- not just to the influence of them,
- 00:11:58.020 --> 00:12:00.120
- but to the truly majestic power that they can contribute
- 00:12:00.120 --> 00:12:03.240
- in your life and in the lives around you.
- 00:12:03.240 --> 00:12:05.290
- And oh not to mention,
- 00:12:05.290 --> 00:12:07.080
- the joy that you feel.
- 00:12:07.080 --> 00:12:08.250
- You know that endorphin rush that we talked about earlier,
- 00:12:08.250 --> 00:12:10.250
- that makes you feel so fantastic when it's playing out.
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- All of that is available.
- 00:12:13.220 --> 00:12:15.180
- It's all available in your life,
- 00:12:15.180 --> 00:12:17.080
- in your marriage,
- 00:12:17.080 --> 00:12:18.130
- and the only way you're gonna get there
- 00:12:18.130 --> 00:12:20.050
- is if you find some mechanism to pull these strengths
- 00:12:20.050 --> 00:12:23.160
- into your daily language and your daily activities.
- 00:12:23.160 --> 00:12:26.160
- And honor each other as a married couple in that way.
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- - If you're just tuning in
- 00:13:03.060 --> 00:13:04.130
- welcome to Strengths Based Marriage.
- 00:13:04.130 --> 00:13:06.130
- We have a guest couple with us today.
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- Let's have a look at how their strengths
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- influence their marriage.
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- - [Narrator] Today's couple
- 00:13:12.260 --> 00:13:14.070
- is Libni and Abrahanny Rodriguez from Southlake, Texas.
- 00:13:14.070 --> 00:13:17.130
- Libni's top five strengths are
- 00:13:17.130 --> 00:13:18.250
- developer, restorative, analytical, input, and empathy.
- 00:13:18.250 --> 00:13:22.240
- Abrahanny's top five strengths
- 00:13:23.200 --> 00:13:25.050
- are responsibility, belief, connectedness, communication,
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- and developer.
- 00:13:28.160 --> 00:13:29.210
- - So great to have you back,
- 00:13:30.250 --> 00:13:31.290
- I've been eagerly anticipating
- 00:13:31.290 --> 00:13:33.110
- spending some time with this couple
- 00:13:33.110 --> 00:13:34.280
- and so I wanna introduce them to you.
- 00:13:34.280 --> 00:13:36.160
- This is Libni and Anny.
- 00:13:36.160 --> 00:13:38.210
- Thank you so much for taking some time
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- to come and spend it with us.
- 00:13:40.040 --> 00:13:41.210
- Can you start just by telling us a little bit about
- 00:13:41.210 --> 00:13:44.060
- who you are, your family, what you do?
- 00:13:44.060 --> 00:13:46.050
- Just start with that.
- 00:13:46.050 --> 00:13:47.130
- - Sure, definitely.
- 00:13:47.130 --> 00:13:48.200
- Actually I will let my wife speak to that
- 00:13:48.200 --> 00:13:49.250
- if you don't mind, yeah? - Good call Libni
- 00:13:49.250 --> 00:13:51.110
- - Come on Anny give it to us.
- 00:13:51.110 --> 00:13:52.160
- - Okay, So I'm Anny
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- and this is my husband Libni.
- 00:13:53.140 --> 00:13:55.020
- We have two amazing boys
- 00:13:55.020 --> 00:13:56.120
- ages ten and seven.
- 00:13:56.120 --> 00:13:58.090
- So it's a fun interesting age.
- 00:13:58.090 --> 00:14:00.260
- - And what do you do for a living?
- 00:14:00.260 --> 00:14:02.020
- I'm a photographer so I stay quite busy.
- 00:14:02.020 --> 00:14:04.020
- - Yes you do.
- 00:14:04.020 --> 00:14:05.000
- Weren't you just traveling?
- 00:14:05.000 --> 00:14:06.020
- - I was.
- 00:14:06.020 --> 00:14:07.220
- Which is very interesting.
- 00:14:07.220 --> 00:14:09.280
- - Okay, Good Yep
- 00:14:09.280 --> 00:14:11.050
- - Libni how about you?
- 00:14:11.050 --> 00:14:12.130
- - So I'm a project manager actually,
- 00:14:12.130 --> 00:14:14.110
- for Gateway church.
- 00:14:14.110 --> 00:14:15.270
- And I support the Business and Accounting Department.
- 00:14:15.270 --> 00:14:18.020
- - Awesome, and so you have two younger boys?
- 00:14:18.020 --> 00:14:19.250
- How long have you been married?
- 00:14:19.250 --> 00:14:21.020
- - We've been married for 11 years now.
- 00:14:21.020 --> 00:14:23.220
- - 11 years.
- 00:14:23.220 --> 00:14:24.170
- - And the big question.
- 00:14:24.170 --> 00:14:25.270
- How long have you known your strengths
- 00:14:25.270 --> 00:14:27.240
- or each other's strengths?
- 00:14:27.240 --> 00:14:29.200
- - That's an interesting fact
- 00:14:29.200 --> 00:14:31.050
- that's actually interesting question.
- 00:14:31.050 --> 00:14:33.100
- We feel that,
- 00:14:33.100 --> 00:14:35.050
- we kinda know certain aspects of it
- 00:14:35.050 --> 00:14:37.260
- for a while now,
- 00:14:37.260 --> 00:14:39.100
- so we try to understand one another.
- 00:14:39.100 --> 00:14:41.070
- But it's good to us,
- 00:14:41.070 --> 00:14:42.270
- when the book came out and some of that
- 00:14:42.270 --> 00:14:46.200
- strength actually came out,
- 00:14:46.200 --> 00:14:48.020
- we were able to go back and review them
- 00:14:48.020 --> 00:14:50.000
- and really confirm what we believe
- 00:14:50.000 --> 00:14:53.110
- were our strength in essence.
- 00:14:53.110 --> 00:14:55.120
- - Oh, so you saw the strengths in each other
- 00:14:55.120 --> 00:14:57.100
- you just didn't have a language
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- to be able to communicate it effectively to each other.
- 00:14:58.250 --> 00:15:01.160
- - Correct.
- 00:15:01.160 --> 00:15:02.160
- - Did that make a difference
- 00:15:02.160 --> 00:15:03.230
- in the quality of your communication then?
- 00:15:03.230 --> 00:15:06.070
- - I felt like it felt like
- 00:15:06.070 --> 00:15:08.070
- a light bulb.
- 00:15:08.070 --> 00:15:09.070
- The "Ah ha!" of
- 00:15:09.070 --> 00:15:10.140
- "Oh this is why."
- 00:15:10.140 --> 00:15:12.030
- It gave us a little bit more of insight.
- 00:15:12.030 --> 00:15:14.080
- - Yeah more insight,
- 00:15:14.080 --> 00:15:15.050
- more understanding
- 00:15:15.050 --> 00:15:16.150
- about how each other works. - That's right.
- 00:15:16.150 --> 00:15:17.120
- - Yeah
- 00:15:17.120 --> 00:15:18.260
- So Anny you've got this interesting mix of strengths
- 00:15:18.260 --> 00:15:22.050
- and so that our viewing audience
- 00:15:22.050 --> 00:15:23.210
- knows who you are from a strengths perspective,
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- I just wanna talk about your strengths for a second.
- 00:15:25.160 --> 00:15:27.240
- So - Okay.
- 00:15:27.240 --> 00:15:28.280
- - You have responsibility.
- 00:15:28.280 --> 00:15:29.230
- So you are so reliable.
- 00:15:29.230 --> 00:15:31.090
- Utterly responsible for everything that you say yes to.
- 00:15:31.090 --> 00:15:33.290
- Followed by belief which means
- 00:15:33.290 --> 00:15:36.120
- that you have these core values
- 00:15:36.120 --> 00:15:37.220
- that are very moral and ethically based
- 00:15:37.220 --> 00:15:40.040
- and they guide all of your decisions.
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- Connectedness which means
- 00:15:42.010 --> 00:15:44.020
- that you can weave a story out of all these random facts
- 00:15:44.020 --> 00:15:47.000
- and everything kind of links together
- 00:15:47.000 --> 00:15:48.280
- and it all makes sense for you.
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- You have communication which means
- 00:15:50.080 --> 00:15:52.130
- you are very good at conveying ideas.
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- Which I think is why
- 00:15:56.040 --> 00:15:57.120
- it makes you a phenomenal photographer
- 00:15:57.120 --> 00:15:59.030
- because a photograph is telling a story
- 00:15:59.030 --> 00:16:02.180
- and you frame it in such a way as to tell that idea.
- 00:16:02.180 --> 00:16:05.070
- So it's your communication being used there.
- 00:16:05.070 --> 00:16:07.230
- And then the final one is developer.
- 00:16:07.230 --> 00:16:09.270
- Just the idea that you love to incrementally
- 00:16:09.270 --> 00:16:12.150
- bring other people along
- 00:16:12.150 --> 00:16:13.240
- and make them better than they were,
- 00:16:13.240 --> 00:16:15.040
- you know, yesterday.
- 00:16:15.040 --> 00:16:16.230
- - That's great.
- 00:16:16.230 --> 00:16:18.050
- - Libni, so is there anything about Anny's discovery
- 00:16:18.050 --> 00:16:20.050
- of her strengths that stands out to you?
- 00:16:20.050 --> 00:16:22.070
- Something that was revelatory for you
- 00:16:22.070 --> 00:16:23.280
- when you saw it.
- 00:16:23.280 --> 00:16:24.290
- - Yes, definitely.
- 00:16:24.290 --> 00:16:26.200
- And I think one of the main point was
- 00:16:26.200 --> 00:16:28.290
- her way of communicating and
- 00:16:28.290 --> 00:16:31.110
- being over communicative.
- 00:16:31.110 --> 00:16:33.030
- And not necessarily in a
- 00:16:33.030 --> 00:16:35.030
- female way
- 00:16:36.120 --> 00:16:38.070
- where they talk a lot,
- 00:16:38.290 --> 00:16:39.270
- but more of really kind of
- 00:16:39.270 --> 00:16:41.040
- wanna portray this is what I wanna do.
- 00:16:41.040 --> 00:16:42.240
- This is what I envision myself in X more years.
- 00:16:42.240 --> 00:16:46.290
- These are some of my goals.
- 00:16:47.250 --> 00:16:49.000
- And really being comprehensive about it
- 00:16:49.000 --> 00:16:50.210
- and specific.
- 00:16:50.210 --> 00:16:51.280
- Saying "This is where we wanna be
- 00:16:51.280 --> 00:16:53.100
- "at X stage of our lives."
- 00:16:53.100 --> 00:16:55.200
- So it really kind of outlined that communication aspect.
- 00:16:55.200 --> 00:16:59.100
- - So it kind of took you by surprise it sounds like.
- 00:16:59.100 --> 00:17:01.290
- That she had so much to say
- 00:17:01.290 --> 00:17:04.070
- and that it was so articulate.
- 00:17:04.070 --> 00:17:05.150
- - Yes, correct. yeah
- 00:17:05.150 --> 00:17:06.270
- - Huh, good.
- 00:17:06.270 --> 00:17:07.250
- Alright well let's jump to you.
- 00:17:07.250 --> 00:17:09.020
- We'll talk about your strengths for a second.
- 00:17:09.020 --> 00:17:10.190
- Libni your strengths start off with developer.
- 00:17:10.190 --> 00:17:14.130
- Just also,
- 00:17:14.130 --> 00:17:15.120
- like your lovely bride,
- 00:17:15.120 --> 00:17:16.250
- loves to bring people along incrementally.
- 00:17:16.250 --> 00:17:19.120
- You have restorative which means
- 00:17:19.120 --> 00:17:21.250
- that you see what might be missing
- 00:17:21.250 --> 00:17:23.160
- in a situation if it's absent.
- 00:17:23.160 --> 00:17:25.240
- And you have a desire to bring it back
- 00:17:25.240 --> 00:17:27.220
- to its original glory or its original form.
- 00:17:27.220 --> 00:17:30.040
- You have analytical which means
- 00:17:30.040 --> 00:17:32.090
- you just need a little bit of time
- 00:17:32.090 --> 00:17:33.210
- just to think some things through
- 00:17:33.210 --> 00:17:35.270
- and to process all of the pieces
- 00:17:35.270 --> 00:17:38.120
- that are a part of the conversation.
- 00:17:38.120 --> 00:17:41.010
- You have input which means you love to learn.
- 00:17:41.010 --> 00:17:43.020
- And you have an interest in gathering new data
- 00:17:43.020 --> 00:17:46.070
- and new facts.
- 00:17:46.070 --> 00:17:47.200
- And then lastly you have empathy
- 00:17:47.200 --> 00:17:49.050
- which really just enables you to emotionally feel
- 00:17:49.050 --> 00:17:51.110
- how other people are feeling.
- 00:17:51.110 --> 00:17:53.270
- And so is there anything about Libni then,
- 00:17:53.270 --> 00:17:56.120
- and his strengths,
- 00:17:56.120 --> 00:17:57.190
- that really stood out to you Anny,
- 00:17:57.190 --> 00:17:59.030
- or that you were really attracted to when you first met?
- 00:17:59.030 --> 00:18:01.180
- - I think his ability to love on people
- 00:18:01.180 --> 00:18:04.170
- and serve people so well.
- 00:18:04.170 --> 00:18:06.140
- And he's just seeing the best in them
- 00:18:06.140 --> 00:18:09.050
- and bringing them out into the light.
- 00:18:09.050 --> 00:18:11.210
- I love seeing that and I felt like
- 00:18:11.210 --> 00:18:13.110
- I was connected to that,
- 00:18:13.110 --> 00:18:14.210
- 'cause I love communicating with people
- 00:18:14.210 --> 00:18:16.040
- and just building people up.
- 00:18:16.040 --> 00:18:17.260
- And so to see that it was like
- 00:18:17.260 --> 00:18:19.220
- "Oh this is someone I'm interested in
- 00:18:19.220 --> 00:18:22.200
- and finding out a little bit more about."
- 00:18:22.200 --> 00:18:24.170
- - Alright so when I think about
- 00:18:24.170 --> 00:18:26.080
- how your strengths group together,
- 00:18:26.080 --> 00:18:27.280
- you know,
- 00:18:27.280 --> 00:18:29.030
- you both have an interesting mix where
- 00:18:29.030 --> 00:18:30.220
- you've got 40% of your strengths
- 00:18:30.220 --> 00:18:33.210
- are relationship-building strengths.
- 00:18:33.210 --> 00:18:36.060
- And you both have that.
- 00:18:36.060 --> 00:18:37.130
- But then it gets different because
- 00:18:37.130 --> 00:18:39.090
- Anny yours are then have an additional 40%
- 00:18:39.090 --> 00:18:42.030
- that are executing.
- 00:18:42.030 --> 00:18:43.120
- Like you like to kinda get stuff done.
- 00:18:43.120 --> 00:18:45.000
- Whereas your 40% Libni,
- 00:18:45.000 --> 00:18:47.010
- is more of a strategic thinking kind of thing.
- 00:18:47.010 --> 00:18:49.070
- So you have some elements that tie you together
- 00:18:49.070 --> 00:18:52.090
- and then you have some elements that bring
- 00:18:52.090 --> 00:18:54.030
- distinction or
- 00:18:54.030 --> 00:18:55.170
- kind of color
- 00:18:55.170 --> 00:18:56.280
- to your relationship.
- 00:18:56.280 --> 00:18:58.120
- Has that similarity or difference
- 00:18:58.120 --> 00:19:01.000
- ever created friction for you at all?
- 00:19:01.000 --> 00:19:04.140
- - It has!
- 00:19:04.140 --> 00:19:05.090
- And so I feel like when I wanna execute and get things done,
- 00:19:06.280 --> 00:19:10.220
- he wants to pause and he wants to think about the what-ifs
- 00:19:10.220 --> 00:19:14.090
- and he's going around it.
- 00:19:14.090 --> 00:19:15.190
- And I'm about to execute.
- 00:19:15.190 --> 00:19:16.250
- I'm about to make this decision.
- 00:19:16.250 --> 00:19:18.190
- And I'm waiting on him and so that's always,
- 00:19:18.190 --> 00:19:21.150
- there's always an interesting time
- 00:19:21.150 --> 00:19:23.160
- because I have to get going.
- 00:19:23.160 --> 00:19:25.010
- I wanna move on.
- 00:19:25.010 --> 00:19:26.070
- And he's like "We have to take our time.
- 00:19:26.070 --> 00:19:28.150
- "I still need to do my research on that."
- 00:19:28.150 --> 00:19:30.200
- and I'm like, you know.
- 00:19:30.200 --> 00:19:32.040
- And so that's really interesting I think.
- 00:19:32.040 --> 00:19:34.130
- I'm very stretched in that way.
- 00:19:34.130 --> 00:19:36.020
- - Well these strengths are so influential on our lives.
- 00:19:36.020 --> 00:19:38.100
- They cause us to be interested in different kinds of books
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- and different kinds of entertainment.
- 00:19:42.010 --> 00:19:43.190
- Different kinds of friends.
- 00:19:43.190 --> 00:19:45.210
- But this is episode seven
- 00:19:45.210 --> 00:19:47.290
- and this week we're talking about
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- how your strengths really affect
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- what happens in the bedroom also.
- 00:19:52.270 --> 00:19:54.260
- And so I'm fascinated to see
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- who starts the communication
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- about what happens in the bedroom
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- and how you do that?
- 00:20:01.050 --> 00:20:02.250
- - Okay.
- 00:20:04.150 --> 00:20:05.100
- - Who wants to answer?
- 00:20:05.100 --> 00:20:06.090
- - I'll let my wife go first.
- 00:20:06.090 --> 00:20:07.240
- (laughing)
- 00:20:07.240 --> 00:20:09.040
- Let the ladies go first.
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- - Come on Anny what are you thinking about?
- 00:20:10.180 --> 00:20:11.270
- - Oh that's so funny.
- 00:20:11.270 --> 00:20:13.130
- Okay so I feel like I'm the first to start communicating
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- and I start talking about our day
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- of what I've done-- - So that's how you do it.
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- You start starting talking about your day?
- 00:20:18.280 --> 00:20:20.280
- - Yeah, well I talk a lot
- 00:20:20.280 --> 00:20:22.100
- and so I feel like I start about my day
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- because I want him to lean in and tell me about his.
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- And early on,
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- we have 11 years married,
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- so we've learned what not to do I think early on,
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- based on what our sort of aggravation
- 00:20:31.260 --> 00:20:34.090
- getting things started
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- and so we've communicated.
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- And you can,
- 00:20:37.180 --> 00:20:38.180
- you were resourceful
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- in saying
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- how 'bout we pick a word
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- that when you wanna move forward with this then
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- - Ah ha
- 00:20:46.210 --> 00:20:47.280
- - and so I want him to explain that part.
- 00:20:47.280 --> 00:20:49.170
- - So when there's a communication that you are thinking
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- is gonna become more amorous
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- and you're hoping that that's the case,
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- this word is the word that confirms
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- that that's the intention
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- that's in place? - That that's the intention.
- 00:20:57.260 --> 00:20:59.120
- - This is fascinating!
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- Okay so you've gotta - So you need to understand.
- 00:21:00.270 --> 00:21:02.130
- We have two kids.
- 00:21:02.130 --> 00:21:03.200
- We have a seven and a ten year old.
- 00:21:03.200 --> 00:21:05.000
- And they're very,
- 00:21:05.000 --> 00:21:05.290
- they pick up on everything.
- 00:21:05.290 --> 00:21:07.070
- And we're always having to kind of find a way
- 00:21:07.070 --> 00:21:09.170
- how to say "Hey, we're gonna do something tonight."
- 00:21:09.170 --> 00:21:13.030
- so one of those words
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- or one of those key points we found is
- 00:21:14.190 --> 00:21:16.040
- We're gonna do exercise, right?
- 00:21:16.040 --> 00:21:18.160
- So I think they're very involved in sports
- 00:21:18.160 --> 00:21:21.010
- and they're very active
- 00:21:21.010 --> 00:21:22.070
- and so I think that kind of bring the whole
- 00:21:22.070 --> 00:21:23.250
- picture together
- 00:21:23.250 --> 00:21:25.060
- and there's no miscues or no
- 00:21:25.060 --> 00:21:27.160
- wanna say it's safe on the house,
- 00:21:29.040 --> 00:21:31.060
- just to say "Hey we're gonna have something
- 00:21:31.060 --> 00:21:32.220
- "we're gonna exercise tonight."
- 00:21:32.220 --> 00:21:33.280
- so that's kind of one of the key phrases
- 00:21:33.280 --> 00:21:35.150
- that we've come to use and I kind of,
- 00:21:35.150 --> 00:21:38.120
- me as an analytical,
- 00:21:38.120 --> 00:21:39.190
- helps me really to catch on
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- when I'm not getting her cues as a communicator.
- 00:21:41.220 --> 00:21:44.060
- - Ah, so you have an ability to move a little faster
- 00:21:44.060 --> 00:21:46.270
- and he needs a little help sometimes
- 00:21:46.270 --> 00:21:48.130
- catching up on what's happening?
- 00:21:48.130 --> 00:21:49.270
- - Absolutely.
- 00:21:49.270 --> 00:21:51.080
- - Okay, so you've developed some relationship
- 00:21:51.080 --> 00:21:53.040
- and communication that makes that a possibility.
- 00:21:53.040 --> 00:21:55.060
- - That's right.
- 00:21:55.060 --> 00:21:56.010
- - That's wonderful.
- 00:21:56.010 --> 00:21:57.050
- So from a strengths perspective
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- I'm seeing how your interest in relationship
- 00:21:58.120 --> 00:22:01.160
- is where all of this begins.
- 00:22:01.160 --> 00:22:04.030
- Communication around relationship is where it begins.
- 00:22:04.030 --> 00:22:06.090
- Obviously communication for you
- 00:22:06.090 --> 00:22:07.240
- because you have communication
- 00:22:07.240 --> 00:22:09.140
- as one of your top strengths.
- 00:22:09.140 --> 00:22:10.200
- So you use your strength
- 00:22:10.200 --> 00:22:12.180
- to send a flag that says
- 00:22:12.180 --> 00:22:14.120
- "Hey I'm open for business today."
- 00:22:14.120 --> 00:22:15.260
- - Yeah, absolutely.
- 00:22:15.260 --> 00:22:17.140
- - That's fascinating
- 00:22:17.140 --> 00:22:18.220
- So,
- 00:22:19.260 --> 00:22:20.290
- one of you,
- 00:22:21.170 --> 00:22:22.240
- because of the mix of strengths that you have,
- 00:22:22.240 --> 00:22:24.010
- is more interested in variety than the other.
- 00:22:24.010 --> 00:22:26.010
- And I'm wondering if that has an effect
- 00:22:26.010 --> 00:22:28.050
- in your bedroom activities
- 00:22:28.050 --> 00:22:30.170
- and why that is.
- 00:22:30.170 --> 00:22:33.070
- - Um, I don't know why that is,
- 00:22:34.040 --> 00:22:36.090
- but I think--
- 00:22:36.090 --> 00:22:37.070
- (everyone laughing)
- 00:22:37.070 --> 00:22:38.190
- - I'm saying this because of your strengths
- 00:22:38.190 --> 00:22:39.210
- is really what I'm saying.
- 00:22:39.210 --> 00:22:41.010
- - But it's really interesting
- 00:22:41.010 --> 00:22:42.160
- I feel like
- 00:22:42.160 --> 00:22:44.070
- I feel like we've grown to try different things
- 00:22:44.070 --> 00:22:47.040
- but in a safe environment.
- 00:22:47.040 --> 00:22:49.270
- - Well you know kind of us in the early stages,
- 00:22:49.270 --> 00:22:52.260
- we come from a pastoral family or background,
- 00:22:52.260 --> 00:22:56.210
- and one of the things is always
- 00:22:56.210 --> 00:22:58.100
- we're wanting to safeguard our relationship,
- 00:22:58.100 --> 00:23:01.090
- our entity as a family.
- 00:23:01.090 --> 00:23:03.230
- And in the sexual aspect.
- 00:23:03.230 --> 00:23:05.080
- So we try to kind of keep it safe.
- 00:23:05.080 --> 00:23:08.220
- I wanna say updated,
- 00:23:09.280 --> 00:23:11.140
- young,
- 00:23:11.140 --> 00:23:12.100
- active.
- 00:23:12.100 --> 00:23:13.160
- And we try to keep it open and exciting.
- 00:23:13.160 --> 00:23:16.170
- But you know in essence kind of also
- 00:23:17.280 --> 00:23:21.200
- more on maybe her kind of leading on to say
- 00:23:21.200 --> 00:23:25.020
- well this is what we might do
- 00:23:25.020 --> 00:23:27.000
- or we might want to explore.
- 00:23:27.000 --> 00:23:29.140
- - Yeah
- 00:23:29.140 --> 00:23:30.090
- - So in that sense
- 00:23:30.090 --> 00:23:31.170
- and I'm not sure if I'm putting it out there but
- 00:23:31.170 --> 00:23:32.240
- in essence kind of we try to safeguard
- 00:23:32.240 --> 00:23:35.290
- just because we wanna keep
- 00:23:35.290 --> 00:23:37.080
- the entity safe.
- 00:23:37.080 --> 00:23:39.150
- And not lead to allow other options
- 00:23:39.150 --> 00:23:41.210
- to get into our marriage.
- 00:23:41.210 --> 00:23:43.060
- - Yeah, well I think the surprising thing for this
- 00:23:43.060 --> 00:23:45.190
- is knowing that
- 00:23:45.190 --> 00:23:46.270
- that your strengths could have any kind of influence
- 00:23:48.200 --> 00:23:51.080
- in this particular element of your lives.
- 00:23:51.080 --> 00:23:53.050
- And it really does.
- 00:23:53.050 --> 00:23:54.120
- And so as we're closing today's conversation,
- 00:23:54.120 --> 00:23:57.080
- I'd like to leave you with these thoughts.
- 00:23:57.080 --> 00:23:59.060
- In regard to this kind of amorous activity, right?
- 00:23:59.060 --> 00:24:02.290
- Just some ways to bring your strengths into the bedroom.
- 00:24:02.290 --> 00:24:06.170
- I think if you guys
- 00:24:06.170 --> 00:24:07.240
- took separate sheets of paper.
- 00:24:07.240 --> 00:24:09.250
- Wrote each of your strengths
- 00:24:09.250 --> 00:24:11.190
- separately on a piece of paper
- 00:24:11.190 --> 00:24:13.260
- and then just wrote some of the
- 00:24:13.260 --> 00:24:16.200
- kind of between the sheets activity
- 00:24:16.200 --> 00:24:18.270
- that would speak to that strength for you.
- 00:24:18.270 --> 00:24:21.090
- It would bring more interest and color into the bedroom
- 00:24:21.090 --> 00:24:25.130
- and the net effect of it all is
- 00:24:25.130 --> 00:24:28.140
- it's clearer communication.
- 00:24:28.140 --> 00:24:30.110
- Right?
- 00:24:30.110 --> 00:24:31.160
- You both know what's going on and
- 00:24:31.160 --> 00:24:33.020
- there's a cleaner expectation about where we're going
- 00:24:33.020 --> 00:24:35.150
- and what's happening.
- 00:24:35.150 --> 00:24:36.250
- But it's also,
- 00:24:36.250 --> 00:24:37.290
- and very powerfully,
- 00:24:37.290 --> 00:24:39.020
- a way to say,
- 00:24:39.020 --> 00:24:40.090
- I see you.
- 00:24:40.090 --> 00:24:41.140
- I see what you need and I love you
- 00:24:41.140 --> 00:24:43.260
- and I want to serve you in every way that I can.
- 00:24:43.260 --> 00:24:46.020
- And so then there's no unmet expectations.
- 00:24:46.020 --> 00:24:49.130
- You know? - That's right.
- 00:24:49.130 --> 00:24:50.210
- - So I'll leave you with that one.
- 00:24:50.210 --> 00:24:51.290
- Thank you so much for being here.
- 00:24:51.290 --> 00:24:53.120
- - Thank you.
- 00:24:53.120 --> 00:24:54.180
- - Well thank you for having us here.
- 00:24:54.180 --> 00:24:56.000
- - It was really a joy spending time with you today.
- 00:24:56.000 --> 00:24:57.190
- - It's our pleasure.
- 00:24:57.190 --> 00:24:58.140
- - Thank you.
- 00:24:58.140 --> 00:24:59.140
- - I love to see stories like that.
- 00:25:00.210 --> 00:25:02.040
- That's why we do what we do
- 00:25:02.040 --> 00:25:03.130
- and an example of the impact
- 00:25:03.130 --> 00:25:05.220
- these powerful resources can have on your marriage.
- 00:25:05.220 --> 00:25:09.030
- - Yeah for example,
- 00:25:09.030 --> 00:25:10.100
- maybe your number one strength is empathy.
- 00:25:10.100 --> 00:25:12.090
- and your spouses strength is to be restorative.
- 00:25:12.090 --> 00:25:15.150
- Being aware of that is so important
- 00:25:15.150 --> 00:25:17.140
- because it will help you to understand
- 00:25:17.140 --> 00:25:19.030
- how each of you think.
- 00:25:19.030 --> 00:25:20.130
- Because while someone who is empathetic
- 00:25:20.130 --> 00:25:22.040
- will feel what others are feeling,
- 00:25:22.040 --> 00:25:24.160
- a restorative spouse will see a problem
- 00:25:24.160 --> 00:25:26.230
- and try to fix it.
- 00:25:26.230 --> 00:25:28.060
- They both want there to be resolution
- 00:25:28.060 --> 00:25:30.110
- and understanding,
- 00:25:30.110 --> 00:25:31.120
- peace and growth.
- 00:25:31.120 --> 00:25:32.270
- But their perspectives are completely opposite and
- 00:25:32.270 --> 00:25:35.270
- if misunderstood by each other,
- 00:25:35.270 --> 00:25:37.210
- can be cause for some really heated discussion.
- 00:25:37.210 --> 00:25:40.140
- - But trust me,
- 00:25:40.140 --> 00:25:41.190
- no matter what situation you're in,
- 00:25:41.190 --> 00:25:43.110
- your marriage can thrive in every area,
- 00:25:43.110 --> 00:25:46.180
- emotionally, physically, and spiritually.
- 00:25:46.180 --> 00:25:48.250
- And we wanna help you experience that today.
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- 00:25:55.230 --> 00:25:58.050
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- 00:25:59.050 --> 00:26:00.230
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- can positively affect the intimacy in your marriage.
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- Teamwork isn't just practical,
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- it can be pleasurable too.
- 00:26:44.290 --> 00:26:46.240
- And God wants couples to serve and complement each other
- 00:26:46.240 --> 00:26:49.230
- and that includes
- 00:26:49.230 --> 00:26:51.010
- what happens in the bedroom.
- 00:26:51.010 --> 00:26:52.140
- After all, sex was God's idea.
- 00:26:52.140 --> 00:26:55.050
- Next time on Strengths Base Marriage,
- 00:26:55.050 --> 00:26:56.290
- we'll look at another idea that's good
- 00:26:56.290 --> 00:26:58.280
- for both husbands and wives.
- 00:26:58.280 --> 00:27:00.270
- It's the concept of shared control.
- 00:27:00.270 --> 00:27:03.070
- And how traditional roles might play out
- 00:27:03.070 --> 00:27:05.120
- in the face of our shifting culture's concept
- 00:27:05.120 --> 00:27:08.040
- of how men and women should treat each other.
- 00:27:08.040 --> 00:27:10.180
- It's sure to stir up some lively conversation.
- 00:27:10.180 --> 00:27:12.200
- And I hope you'll join us to see
- 00:27:12.200 --> 00:27:14.090
- what God has to say
- 00:27:14.090 --> 00:27:15.200
- about His brilliant design for marriage
- 00:27:15.200 --> 00:27:17.240
- on the next insightful episode
- 00:27:17.240 --> 00:27:20.000
- of Strengths Based Marriage.
- 00:27:20.000 --> 00:27:21.220
- And we'll see you then.
- 00:27:21.220 --> 00:27:23.190