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Marry or Burn Part 2

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September 3, 2019
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Steven Furtick

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Marry or Burn Part 2

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  • - The enemy wants
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  • to burn you out,
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  • but God wants to set passion
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  • on fire in your life,
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  • and put it in a place
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  • where it will burn,
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  • but not burn out.
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  • Relationships that
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  • don't burn out
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  • but grow brighter and brighter
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  • as the seasons go by?
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  • God's desire for you isn't
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  • just that you would have
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  • the passing pleasure
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  • of sin for a season,
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  • but that you would know
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  • the pleasure of passion
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  • that comes from His purpose.
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  • That it would burn from within,
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  • - I thought about Moses, who --
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  • Moses was certainly
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  • very passionate,
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  • and God used him to fulfill
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  • a great purpose.
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  • In fact, God showed up
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  • in a burning bush in Exodus 3.
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  • But 40 years before
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  • that burning bush,
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  • which is where many people
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  • think the story of Moses' life
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  • began, when God called him
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  • to be a deliverer
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  • of the Israelites
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  • out of Egyptian slavery --
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  • 40 years before this,
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  • Moses had an incident
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  • that was the result
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  • of mismanaged passion.
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  • Exodus 2:11.
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  • It says one day,
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  • after Moses had grown up,
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  • he went out to where
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  • his own people were
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  • and watched them
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  • at their hard labor.
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  • Now Moses was conflicted
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  • because he grew up as a Hebrew,
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  • but he grew up
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  • being raised as Egyptians.
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  • He was from the Hebrew people,
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  • but he was raised
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  • in an Egyptian society,
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  • so he was torn.
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  • He was conflicted by this.
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  • And one day, he goes out,
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  • and he's grown up
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  • a little bit now,
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  • and he sees something.
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  • He sees an Egyptian beating
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  • a Hebrew, one of his own people,
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  • and it stirs up
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  • a passion in him.
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  • And it says that
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  • he looked this way,
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  • and that way,
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  • and it looked like
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  • the coast was clear.
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  • So he didn't see anybody,
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  • and he killed the Egyptian,
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  • and hid him in the sand.
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  • Well, the next day he went out
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  • and saw two Hebrews fighting,
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  • and he asked the one
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  • in the wrong -- hey, man,
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  • why are you hitting
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  • your fellow Hebrew?
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  • And the man said
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  • who made you ruler
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  • and judge over us?
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  • Are you thinking of killing me
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  • as you killed the Egyptian?
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  • Uh oh.
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  • Just because you hide something
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  • in the sand doesn't mean
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  • it went away.
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  • I'll stand here for a moment.
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  • [applause]
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  • It bears repeating.
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  • Just because you covered
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  • something up in the sand
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  • doesn't mean
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  • it won't come back up.
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  • Because the thing
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  • that Moses did --
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  • nobody else saw it,
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  • so he thought,
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  • but then his past catches up
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  • with him rather quickly.
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  • And it says that
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  • when he heard this,
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  • Moses was afraid and he thought,
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  • what I did must have
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  • become known.
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  • Now he's exposed.
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  • And so Pharaoh hears of this,
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  • and he tries to kill Moses.
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  • But Moses fled from Pharaoh
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  • and went to live in Midian,
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  • where he sat down by a well.
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  • And he ends up on the run
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  • for 40 years because
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  • of a mismanaged passion.
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  • You see, what Moses felt --
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  • follow me -- was a good passion.
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  • He saw one of his people
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  • being taken advantage of,
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  • and God had put
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  • a passion in Moses.
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  • Moses was called to deliver
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  • the Hebrew people
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  • out of Egyptian slavery.
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  • So he sees this going down,
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  • and he thinks this isn't right,
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  • and it lights
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  • a fire inside of him.
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  • And so Moses just goes off.
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  • But it's one thing to have
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  • the right passion.
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  • It's another thing to act
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  • on it in the right way.
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  • Did you know you can have
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  • the right passion
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  • but have the wrong expression
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  • of the right passion,
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  • and it'll create
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  • a terrible result in your life?
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  • I can't get any help
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  • in this sermon, man.
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  • Let me ask it another way.
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  • Did you know that the thing
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  • that God put inside of you
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  • that can make you really great
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  • and can lead you
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  • into your purpose can also bring
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  • you great pain
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  • if it's not managed correctly?
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  • I'm teaching this
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  • to our oldest son right now.
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  • He has a gift
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  • for being argumentative.
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  • And it's a gift.
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  • Never seen
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  • anything quite like it.
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  • I'm told that he got it
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  • from somewhere.
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  • [laughter]
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  • And he will
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  • verbally assassinate you.
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  • He will take you apart
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  • And I'm teaching him
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  • this could be
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  • your greatest asset
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  • because, boy, I could see
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  • you one day on stage preaching
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  • to people, and God's gonna
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  • take this gift that you have
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  • to kind of go through stuff
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  • and just take it apart.
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  • And you can take it apart,
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  • and I see how
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  • God could really use that.
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  • You might be three times,
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  • ten times, a hundred times
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  • the preacher that I ever am.
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  • But if you don't learn
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  • and you think that that gift is
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  • given to you so that you can
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  • argue with your mom
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  • about the cleanliness
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  • of your room,
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  • you're not going to live
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  • long enough to see
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  • whether or not --
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  • You know,
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  • God could really use this.
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  • This is a good thing.
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  • I see it in you, boy.
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  • I think it's awesome.
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  • I think it's amazing.
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  • But you better learn
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  • when to use it and how to use it
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  • 'cause you can win the argument
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  • and still lose
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  • your video game time
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  • for the next month
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  • if you don't shut
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  • your mouth right now.
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  • It's a good thing
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  • that you can do this,
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  • but you better learn to do it.
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  • You can do a good thing
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  • in the wrong way,
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  • and it becomes a bad thing.
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  • Sex is a good thing.
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  • Sex is a good thing.
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  • Sex is a good thing.
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  • [applause]
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  • You'd think if I could
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  • ever get an amen,
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  • that'd get an amen.
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  • Sex is a good thing.
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  • - CONGREGATION: Amen.
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  • - But we don't teach
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  • that in the church.
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  • We teach, you know,
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  • sex is dirty.
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  • Sex is gross.
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  • Sex is disgusting,
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  • so save it for your husband.
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  • [laughter]
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  • But the passion is pure.
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  • However, the passion
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  • needs parameters
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  • if it is to serve
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  • the correct purpose.
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  • And what's gotten
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  • a lot of us in trouble
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  • in our lives is
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  • we had a good passion,
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  • but no parameters.
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  • So rather than building purpose,
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  • it destroyed purpose.
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  • what happened to Moses.
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  • He had the right passion,
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  • but he put it in the wrong place
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  • and acted on it
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  • in the wrong way.
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  • Right passion,
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  • wrong expression.
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  • Look -- bring me
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  • my sermon illustration.
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  • So like I was just
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  • that I could show you this.
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  • A simple way to show you this.
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  • And it's like imagine right now
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  • that at this point
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  • in my sermon --
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  • I know this is simple.
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  • Just go with me.
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  • I'm like hey, I got an idea.
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  • Let's build a fire
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  • on the stage.
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  • I just think it'd be cool
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  • to build a fire on the stage.
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  • I'm stacking wood to build
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  • a fire on the stage.
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  • I actually thought about
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  • how far should I take
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  • this sermon illustration?
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  • And I thought about gasoline,
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  • and I thought I would see
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  • how far I could go before
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  • people started leaving.
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  • Exiting the building.
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  • [laughter]
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  • But I think it --
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  • suffice it just to say that,
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  • you know, everybody
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  • in the room understands
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  • the problem
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  • with this proposition.
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  • And the problem is
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  • that building a fire --
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  • the problem is building
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  • a fire in a place
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  • where there's nothing
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  • to contain the fire.
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  • It's fine if you wanna build
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  • a fire, but building a fire
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  • without any parameters
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  • would be to unleash --
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  • see the same substance
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  • that warms your home
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  • when it's in a fireplace
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  • is the same substance
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  • that burns a forest in Colorado
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  • in the summer.
  • 00:07:48.160 --> 00:07:50.240
  • The difference is
  • 00:07:50.240 --> 00:07:51.180
  • whether it's contained.
  • 00:07:51.180 --> 00:07:54.040
  • And when you release passions
  • 00:07:54.040 --> 00:07:56.160
  • that were intended for marriage
  • 00:07:56.160 --> 00:07:58.060
  • outside of marriage,
  • 00:07:58.060 --> 00:07:59.150
  • you're building a fire
  • 00:07:59.150 --> 00:08:01.130
  • with nothing to contain it.
  • 00:08:01.130 --> 00:08:04.100
  • And God says
  • 00:08:04.100 --> 00:08:05.010
  • the fire's a good thing.
  • 00:08:05.010 --> 00:08:06.090
  • Fire purifies.
  • 00:08:06.090 --> 00:08:07.150
  • Fire brings warmth.
  • 00:08:07.150 --> 00:08:08.200
  • Fire is the source of life.
  • 00:08:08.200 --> 00:08:10.080
  • There's nothing wrong with fire.
  • 00:08:10.080 --> 00:08:12.180
  • But if you build the fire
  • 00:08:12.180 --> 00:08:14.220
  • in the wrong place,
  • 00:08:14.220 --> 00:08:15.240
  • if you put the passion
  • 00:08:15.240 --> 00:08:17.060
  • in the wrong place,
  • 00:08:17.060 --> 00:08:18.240
  • it will burn your home
  • 00:08:18.240 --> 00:08:21.220
  • to the ground.
  • 00:08:21.220 --> 00:08:24.180
  • It's a misplaced passion.
  • 00:08:24.230 --> 00:08:27.230
  • It's a good thing
  • 00:08:27.230 --> 00:08:29.280
  • in a bad place.
  • 00:08:29.280 --> 00:08:32.000
  • And I wonder how many of you
  • 00:08:32.000 --> 00:08:34.030
  • would have avoided
  • 00:08:34.030 --> 00:08:34.290
  • some serious pain in your life
  • 00:08:34.290 --> 00:08:37.020
  • if somebody would have
  • 00:08:37.020 --> 00:08:38.040
  • showed you --
  • 00:08:38.040 --> 00:08:38.270
  • before you build a fire,
  • 00:08:38.270 --> 00:08:40.130
  • you need somewhere to put it?
  • 00:08:40.130 --> 00:08:42.030
  • [applause]
  • 00:08:42.110 --> 00:08:45.110
  • And the only human relationship
  • 00:08:45.110 --> 00:08:47.140
  • that can sustain this force
  • 00:08:47.140 --> 00:08:49.280
  • of passion is a covenant
  • 00:08:49.280 --> 00:08:51.130
  • relationship called marriage.
  • 00:08:51.200 --> 00:08:54.200
  • in other relationships
  • 00:08:55.160 --> 00:08:56.190
  • that aren't built to contain
  • 00:08:56.190 --> 00:08:57.200
  • the power of passion,
  • 00:08:57.200 --> 00:08:59.210
  • it's gonna spread to places
  • 00:08:59.210 --> 00:09:01.260
  • you don't intend
  • 00:09:01.260 --> 00:09:02.190
  • for it to spread,
  • 00:09:02.190 --> 00:09:03.150
  • and it's gonna destroy things
  • 00:09:03.150 --> 00:09:05.080
  • that God gave you as a gift.
  • 00:09:05.080 --> 00:09:06.220
  • And so Paul is not saying
  • 00:09:06.220 --> 00:09:08.060
  • put the fire out.
  • 00:09:08.060 --> 00:09:09.200
  • He's saying find the right place
  • 00:09:09.200 --> 00:09:11.220
  • to build the fire.
  • 00:09:11.220 --> 00:09:13.090
  • Make sure you have
  • 00:09:13.090 --> 00:09:14.060
  • the right place for the passion
  • 00:09:14.060 --> 00:09:16.050
  • or you'll get burned.
  • 00:09:20.100 --> 00:09:21.040
  • And I'm seeing so many people
  • 00:09:21.040 --> 00:09:22.290
  • and so many families get burned
  • 00:09:22.290 --> 00:09:25.130
  • because they were
  • 00:09:25.130 --> 00:09:25.280
  • trying to get warm.
  • 00:09:26.080 --> 00:09:29.080
  • Because it's cold out there,
  • 00:09:29.080 --> 00:09:30.140
  • and because I need relationship,
  • 00:09:30.140 --> 00:09:32.140
  • and because I need somebody,
  • 00:09:32.140 --> 00:09:34.030
  • so I think I'll stand up
  • 00:09:34.030 --> 00:09:35.030
  • next to this fire.
  • 00:09:35.030 --> 00:09:36.120
  • I did a word study this week.
  • 00:09:36.120 --> 00:09:37.220
  • I studied the word intimacy,
  • 00:09:37.220 --> 00:09:40.130
  • all truly longing for.
  • 00:09:41.010 --> 00:09:43.120
  • It's really what we all want.
  • 00:09:43.120 --> 00:09:44.200
  • That's what all
  • 00:09:44.200 --> 00:09:45.190
  • of our sexual expression,
  • 00:09:45.190 --> 00:09:46.210
  • emotional expression is about.
  • 00:09:46.210 --> 00:09:47.230
  • We want intimacy.
  • 00:09:47.230 --> 00:09:49.100
  • That's what we want.
  • 00:09:49.100 --> 00:09:49.270
  • That's what we desire
  • 00:09:49.270 --> 00:09:50.150
  • from God and from others.
  • 00:09:50.150 --> 00:09:51.220
  • We wanna be known.
  • 00:09:51.220 --> 00:09:52.210
  • We wanna be accepted.
  • 00:09:52.210 --> 00:09:53.180
  • We want intimacy.
  • 00:09:53.180 --> 00:09:56.140
  • But then I studied
  • 00:09:56.140 --> 00:09:57.050
  • the word infatuation.
  • 00:09:57.050 --> 00:09:59.200
  • to find out that in Latin --
  • 00:10:01.050 --> 00:10:03.170
  • this'll make you sound
  • 00:10:03.170 --> 00:10:04.070
  • so smart at lunch this week.
  • 00:10:04.070 --> 00:10:07.010
  • In Latin, infatuation
  • 00:10:07.010 --> 00:10:08.110
  • literally means false fire.
  • 00:10:09.190 --> 00:10:12.190
  • Looks like fire,
  • 00:10:12.190 --> 00:10:14.110
  • but really can't warm you.
  • 00:10:14.110 --> 00:10:16.110
  • Looks like fire,
  • 00:10:16.110 --> 00:10:18.000
  • but really can't empower you.
  • 00:10:18.000 --> 00:10:19.280
  • Looks like fire.
  • 00:10:19.280 --> 00:10:21.000
  • And that's
  • 00:10:21.000 --> 00:10:22.000
  • what the world offers
  • 00:10:22.000 --> 00:10:22.220
  • is an infatuation
  • 00:10:22.220 --> 00:10:23.270
  • with images of sexuality.
  • 00:10:23.270 --> 00:10:25.220
  • But it won't really warm you.
  • 00:10:25.220 --> 00:10:27.230
  • In fact, it can actually run
  • 00:10:27.230 --> 00:10:29.170
  • away from you and burn
  • 00:10:29.170 --> 00:10:30.240
  • your house down.
  • 00:10:30.240 --> 00:10:31.270
  • And some preacher needs
  • 00:10:31.270 --> 00:10:34.040
  • to get up in front of you,
  • 00:10:34.040 --> 00:10:35.200
  • and just have the guts
  • 00:10:35.200 --> 00:10:36.200
  • to care two cents worth
  • 00:10:36.200 --> 00:10:38.080
  • of nothing what you think
  • 00:10:38.080 --> 00:10:39.090
  • about it,
  • 00:10:39.090 --> 00:10:40.050
  • and say if you're building
  • 00:10:40.050 --> 00:10:41.070
  • these fires in the wrong place,
  • 00:10:41.280 --> 00:10:44.280
  • it's gonna burn you.
  • 00:10:44.280 --> 00:10:47.210
  • It's gonna burn you.
  • 00:10:47.210 --> 00:10:49.230
  • [applause]
  • 00:10:53.050 --> 00:10:56.050
  • So it's mismanaged passions.
  • 00:10:56.210 --> 00:10:59.210
  • Passion is pure.
  • 00:10:59.210 --> 00:11:01.210
  • The enemy wants to pervert it
  • 00:11:01.210 --> 00:11:03.280
  • and use what God wanted to use
  • 00:11:03.280 --> 00:11:05.160
  • to develop intimacy in your life
  • 00:11:05.160 --> 00:11:07.050
  • to destroy your capacity
  • 00:11:07.050 --> 00:11:08.110
  • for intimacy.
  • 00:11:08.110 --> 00:11:09.120
  • So that he gets a boy looking
  • 00:11:09.120 --> 00:11:10.160
  • at pornography at age 10
  • 00:11:10.160 --> 00:11:12.100
  • so he can begin to rewire
  • 00:11:12.100 --> 00:11:13.030
  • his brain and his standard
  • 00:11:13.030 --> 00:11:14.140
  • of beauty so that
  • 00:11:14.140 --> 00:11:15.190
  • when he's having sex
  • 00:11:15.190 --> 00:11:16.060
  • with his wife one day,
  • 00:11:16.060 --> 00:11:16.270
  • he won't be able to do it
  • 00:11:16.270 --> 00:11:17.240
  • without conjuring up images
  • 00:11:17.240 --> 00:11:19.110
  • that he saw before he even knew
  • 00:11:19.110 --> 00:11:20.200
  • what was developing in his life
  • 00:11:20.200 --> 00:11:22.050
  • and in his heart --
  • 00:11:22.050 --> 00:11:23.210
  • 'cause a fire got built,
  • 00:11:23.210 --> 00:11:24.120
  • but there was nothing
  • 00:11:24.120 --> 00:11:25.000
  • to contain it.
  • 00:11:25.000 --> 00:11:26.290
  • [applause]
  • 00:11:29.130 --> 00:11:32.130
  • I say this not to condemn you.
  • 00:11:32.160 --> 00:11:35.160
  • I say this not to bring
  • 00:11:35.160 --> 00:11:37.120
  • all your mistakes up before you.
  • 00:11:37.120 --> 00:11:39.220
  • But there are some of you
  • 00:11:39.220 --> 00:11:40.180
  • that are building fires
  • 00:11:40.180 --> 00:11:41.130
  • in bad places right now.
  • 00:11:41.130 --> 00:11:44.060
  • Sending text messages
  • 00:11:44.060 --> 00:11:44.280
  • to the wrong person right now.
  • 00:11:45.090 --> 00:11:48.090
  • Visiting some
  • 00:11:48.090 --> 00:11:48.230
  • of the wrong sites right now.
  • 00:11:48.230 --> 00:11:51.060
  • Filling your minds with
  • 00:11:51.060 --> 00:11:52.020
  • the wrong kinds of images.
  • 00:11:52.020 --> 00:11:53.290
  • Indulging in
  • 00:11:53.290 --> 00:11:54.160
  • the wrong conversations.
  • 00:11:54.160 --> 00:11:56.200
  • There's nothing wrong
  • 00:11:56.200 --> 00:11:57.120
  • with the fire.
  • 00:11:57.120 --> 00:11:59.140
  • It's just where you put it.
  • 00:12:02.140 --> 00:12:05.140
  • And let's close talking
  • 00:12:05.140 --> 00:12:06.070
  • about something positive.
  • 00:12:06.070 --> 00:12:08.280
  • Let's talk about
  • 00:12:08.280 --> 00:12:09.150
  • shameless solutions.
  • 00:12:09.150 --> 00:12:11.220
  • Shameless solutions.
  • 00:12:15.220 --> 00:12:18.220
  • So when me and Holly were
  • 00:12:18.220 --> 00:12:19.150
  • building our home last year --
  • 00:12:19.150 --> 00:12:22.020
  • by the way, Holly
  • 00:12:22.020 --> 00:12:22.180
  • and I built a house last year.
  • 00:12:22.180 --> 00:12:24.100
  • [laughter]
  • 00:12:24.100 --> 00:12:25.060
  • I'm gonna share that with you.
  • 00:12:27.280 --> 00:12:30.280
  • There were all these selections
  • 00:12:30.280 --> 00:12:32.010
  • that you have to make,
  • 00:12:32.010 --> 00:12:33.110
  • and for the most part,
  • 00:12:33.110 --> 00:12:34.060
  • I never got involved.
  • 00:12:34.060 --> 00:12:36.080
  • But she would bring
  • 00:12:36.080 --> 00:12:37.260
  • certain things to me
  • 00:12:37.260 --> 00:12:38.130
  • that she thought I might wanna
  • 00:12:38.130 --> 00:12:39.120
  • what kind of fireplace
  • 00:12:42.200 --> 00:12:43.070
  • we would have in the house.
  • 00:12:43.070 --> 00:12:45.060
  • I love sitting by a fireplace.
  • 00:12:45.060 --> 00:12:47.020
  • I don't know why.
  • 00:12:47.020 --> 00:12:48.250
  • But I like the gas log fireplace
  • 00:12:48.250 --> 00:12:51.020
  • 'cause this is about
  • 00:12:51.020 --> 00:12:51.210
  • as much work as I wanna do
  • 00:12:51.210 --> 00:12:54.010
  • to start the fire.
  • 00:12:54.010 --> 00:12:55.040
  • Like to me, that's my version
  • 00:12:55.140 --> 00:12:58.140
  • of roughing it.
  • 00:12:58.140 --> 00:13:00.110
  • right there.
  • 00:13:02.060 --> 00:13:03.120
  • Just flip that little switch,
  • 00:13:03.120 --> 00:13:04.170
  • and a fire comes on.
  • 00:13:04.170 --> 00:13:05.070
  • She said no, no.
  • 00:13:05.070 --> 00:13:05.230
  • For this house, we need to have
  • 00:13:05.230 --> 00:13:06.190
  • a real fireplace with
  • 00:13:06.190 --> 00:13:07.050
  • like real logs and stuff.
  • 00:13:07.050 --> 00:13:08.200
  • And I'm like oh God, no.
  • 00:13:08.200 --> 00:13:10.020
  • I mean, I'm gonna have to go
  • 00:13:10.020 --> 00:13:11.000
  • chop wood, and I'm gonna have
  • 00:13:11.000 --> 00:13:13.040
  • to go buy a flannel shirt
  • 00:13:13.040 --> 00:13:14.160
  • from Old Navy and have
  • 00:13:14.160 --> 00:13:15.190
  • one in the closet.
  • 00:13:15.190 --> 00:13:16.280
  • And she's like no,
  • 00:13:16.280 --> 00:13:18.210
  • it'll be great.
  • 00:13:18.210 --> 00:13:19.190
  • It'll be a gas-start fireplace,
  • 00:13:19.190 --> 00:13:21.260
  • but it'll have real wood.
  • 00:13:21.260 --> 00:13:24.030
  • you know, I trust you.
  • 00:13:25.080 --> 00:13:26.270
  • Whatever.
  • 00:13:26.270 --> 00:13:27.190
  • And she said trust me,
  • 00:13:27.190 --> 00:13:29.020
  • you'll love it.
  • 00:13:29.020 --> 00:13:29.230
  • I said go ahead.
  • 00:13:29.230 --> 00:13:30.090
  • We can do it.
  • 00:13:30.090 --> 00:13:32.180
  • But nobody showed me
  • 00:13:32.180 --> 00:13:33.070
  • how to use it.
  • 00:13:33.070 --> 00:13:33.260
  • So the first time I went
  • 00:13:33.260 --> 00:13:34.180
  • to go build a fire
  • 00:13:34.180 --> 00:13:36.010
  • in the gas-start fireplace,
  • 00:13:36.010 --> 00:13:37.270
  • which -- let me see.
  • 00:13:37.270 --> 00:13:38.270
  • I'm gonna give you
  • 00:13:38.270 --> 00:13:39.200
  • the technical explanation
  • 00:13:39.200 --> 00:13:40.160
  • for this.
  • 00:13:40.160 --> 00:13:41.170
  • There's a little thingy
  • 00:13:41.170 --> 00:13:42.260
  • there's a thing
  • 00:13:45.270 --> 00:13:46.220
  • on the side of the fireplace,
  • 00:13:46.220 --> 00:13:47.220
  • and you turn that on,
  • 00:13:47.220 --> 00:13:48.170
  • and then it opens
  • 00:13:48.170 --> 00:13:49.220
  • the gas valves,
  • 00:13:49.220 --> 00:13:50.200
  • and so then you can light
  • 00:13:50.200 --> 00:13:52.000
  • the fire.
  • 00:13:52.000 --> 00:13:52.120
  • At least that's what I thought
  • 00:13:52.120 --> 00:13:53.050
  • you were supposed to do is
  • 00:13:53.050 --> 00:13:54.020
  • turn on the gas,
  • 00:13:54.020 --> 00:13:55.060
  • and then light the fire
  • 00:13:55.060 --> 00:13:56.240
  • in the fireplace.
  • 00:13:56.240 --> 00:13:58.060
  • So I was so excited to have
  • 00:13:58.060 --> 00:14:00.040
  • our first fire
  • 00:14:00.040 --> 00:14:01.090
  • of the year last year,
  • 00:14:01.090 --> 00:14:02.260
  • and so I turned on the gas
  • 00:14:02.260 --> 00:14:04.160
  • to give it plenty of time.
  • 00:14:04.160 --> 00:14:06.030
  • Like, you know,
  • 00:14:06.030 --> 00:14:06.200
  • if you're turning on your car
  • 00:14:06.200 --> 00:14:07.130
  • in the cold?
  • 00:14:07.130 --> 00:14:08.120
  • So give it sometime
  • 00:14:08.120 --> 00:14:09.050
  • to warm up, right?
  • 00:14:09.050 --> 00:14:11.070
  • And so I went to go get my kids
  • 00:14:11.070 --> 00:14:12.250
  • 'cause I wanted them
  • 00:14:12.250 --> 00:14:13.110
  • to see the first fire.
  • 00:14:13.110 --> 00:14:14.230
  • [laughter]
  • 00:14:14.230 --> 00:14:15.120
  • And I bring 'em in
  • 00:14:15.120 --> 00:14:16.020
  • because it's like getting
  • 00:14:16.020 --> 00:14:16.240
  • close to Christmas time,
  • 00:14:16.240 --> 00:14:17.130
  • and there are stockings up,
  • 00:14:17.130 --> 00:14:18.070
  • and I thought this was gonna be
  • 00:14:18.070 --> 00:14:19.030
  • a picture-perfect scene.
  • 00:14:19.030 --> 00:14:20.290
  • And so I went --
  • 00:14:20.290 --> 00:14:21.190
  • I go and get a drink,
  • 00:14:21.190 --> 00:14:22.200
  • and get the kids,
  • 00:14:22.200 --> 00:14:23.090
  • and I gather them around.
  • 00:14:23.090 --> 00:14:24.040
  • And I went and got the wood.
  • 00:14:24.040 --> 00:14:25.030
  • Not the wood that I chopped,
  • 00:14:25.030 --> 00:14:26.000
  • but the wood that the man
  • 00:14:26.000 --> 00:14:27.080
  • who sold the wood to me
  • 00:14:27.080 --> 00:14:28.220
  • on the side of the road
  • 00:14:28.220 --> 00:14:29.140
  • chopped at some point.
  • 00:14:29.140 --> 00:14:30.200
  • And I took that wood,
  • 00:14:30.200 --> 00:14:31.280
  • and I stacked it up high because
  • 00:14:31.280 --> 00:14:32.240
  • I wanted it to be a good fire.
  • 00:14:32.240 --> 00:14:34.110
  • I wanted to make sure
  • 00:14:34.110 --> 00:14:35.020
  • our first fire was a good fire.
  • 00:14:35.020 --> 00:14:36.240
  • And now I figure
  • 00:14:36.240 --> 00:14:37.090
  • we're warmed up.
  • 00:14:37.090 --> 00:14:38.080
  • And so what happened
  • 00:14:38.080 --> 00:14:39.220
  • when I put the match --
  • 00:14:39.220 --> 00:14:41.040
  • and so like now when I give
  • 00:14:41.040 --> 00:14:43.210
  • an invitation
  • 00:14:43.210 --> 00:14:44.080
  • for people to receive Christ,
  • 00:14:44.080 --> 00:14:46.030
  • I give it with
  • 00:14:46.030 --> 00:14:46.270
  • so much more passion because
  • 00:14:46.270 --> 00:14:47.230
  • I feel like I have seen
  • 00:14:47.230 --> 00:14:49.180
  • what Hell is going to be like.
  • 00:14:49.180 --> 00:14:51.140
  • [laughter]
  • 00:14:51.140 --> 00:14:52.170
  • Because when the flames
  • 00:14:52.170 --> 00:14:53.210
  • came out, it was traumatic.
  • 00:14:53.210 --> 00:14:56.140
  • It was traumatic for Graham.
  • 00:14:56.140 --> 00:14:57.230
  • Graham was crying.
  • 00:14:57.230 --> 00:14:59.070
  • I was calling on Jesus Christ.
  • 00:14:59.130 --> 00:15:02.150
  • I was calling on
  • 00:15:02.150 --> 00:15:03.090
  • Smokey the Bear.
  • 00:15:03.090 --> 00:15:04.100
  • I was stopping,
  • 00:15:04.100 --> 00:15:05.050
  • and dropping, and rolling.
  • 00:15:05.050 --> 00:15:06.140
  • It was everything.
  • 00:15:06.140 --> 00:15:07.140
  • I was checking
  • 00:15:07.140 --> 00:15:08.010
  • for eyebrows in the mirror.
  • 00:15:08.010 --> 00:15:09.140
  • [laughter]
  • 00:15:11.080 --> 00:15:14.080
  • Lesson learned.
  • 00:15:14.290 --> 00:15:17.290
  • Start the fire in the fireplace,
  • 00:15:17.290 --> 00:15:20.280
  • and then turn on the gas.
  • 00:15:20.280 --> 00:15:23.130
  • Not the other way around.
  • 00:15:23.130 --> 00:15:25.290
  • The difference between a fire
  • 00:15:25.290 --> 00:15:28.080
  • that will warm your house
  • 00:15:28.080 --> 00:15:30.160
  • and a fire that will
  • 00:15:30.160 --> 00:15:32.180
  • burn off your face
  • 00:15:33.100 --> 00:15:36.100
  • has to do with the order
  • 00:15:36.100 --> 00:15:37.240
  • in which you turn on the gas
  • 00:15:38.050 --> 00:15:41.050
  • and light the flame.
  • 00:15:41.050 --> 00:15:43.090
  • And that's what Paul is
  • 00:15:43.090 --> 00:15:44.120
  • saying, church.
  • 00:15:44.120 --> 00:15:46.040
  • And that's what God is saying.
  • 00:15:46.040 --> 00:15:48.060
  • He's saying some of you are
  • 00:15:48.060 --> 00:15:49.280
  • running the gas valve wide
  • 00:15:49.280 --> 00:15:52.020
  • open in your thought life.
  • 00:15:52.020 --> 00:15:54.130
  • And you're running
  • 00:15:54.130 --> 00:15:55.220
  • the gas valve wide open
  • 00:15:55.220 --> 00:15:57.030
  • in your conversations.
  • 00:15:57.030 --> 00:15:58.280
  • And you're running
  • 00:15:58.280 --> 00:15:59.230
  • the gas valve wide open,
  • 00:15:59.230 --> 00:16:01.210
  • and so you're getting hit
  • 00:16:01.210 --> 00:16:03.030
  • by all these flames
  • 00:16:03.030 --> 00:16:04.290
  • that are consuming you
  • 00:16:04.290 --> 00:16:05.290
  • and burning you alive.
  • 00:16:05.290 --> 00:16:07.050
  • What do you expect
  • 00:16:07.050 --> 00:16:09.280
  • when you turn the gas on,
  • 00:16:09.280 --> 00:16:11.160
  • and leave it on,
  • 00:16:11.160 --> 00:16:12.220
  • and let it build up,
  • 00:16:12.220 --> 00:16:13.130
  • and just think what you want,
  • 00:16:13.130 --> 00:16:14.130
  • and say what you want,
  • 00:16:14.130 --> 00:16:15.190
  • and you don't control
  • 00:16:15.190 --> 00:16:16.180
  • any of this?
  • 00:16:16.180 --> 00:16:17.290
  • Like how did you think
  • 00:16:17.290 --> 00:16:19.010
  • this was gonna end?
  • 00:16:19.020 --> 00:16:22.020
  • When you let the gas build up,
  • 00:16:22.020 --> 00:16:23.260
  • and you never got any help
  • 00:16:23.260 --> 00:16:25.100
  • with those issues,
  • 00:16:25.100 --> 00:16:26.130
  • and you never found
  • 00:16:26.130 --> 00:16:27.160
  • any place to discuss 'em,
  • 00:16:27.160 --> 00:16:28.150
  • and then you --
  • 00:16:28.150 --> 00:16:29.080
  • well, where did you think
  • 00:16:29.080 --> 00:16:29.290
  • this was gonna end?
  • 00:16:29.290 --> 00:16:32.190
  • He said first marriage,
  • 00:16:33.240 --> 00:16:36.240
  • then fire.
  • 00:16:36.240 --> 00:16:39.090
  • Context is everything.
  • 00:16:40.030 --> 00:16:43.030
  • And some of you --
  • 00:16:43.030 --> 00:16:44.180
  • I'm not trying to be hateful.
  • 00:16:44.180 --> 00:16:46.030
  • I'm just trying to be helpful.
  • 00:16:46.030 --> 00:16:48.100
  • You're sitting here feeding
  • 00:16:48.100 --> 00:16:49.250
  • the fire of lust
  • 00:16:51.080 --> 00:16:54.080
  • and discontentment,
  • 00:16:54.080 --> 00:16:55.270
  • and wondering why the flames
  • 00:16:55.270 --> 00:16:56.290
  • are burning so high.
  • 00:16:56.290 --> 00:16:59.210
  • You say well,
  • 00:16:59.210 --> 00:17:00.040
  • I just can't control myself.
  • 00:17:00.040 --> 00:17:01.080
  • You know, that's kind of
  • 00:17:01.080 --> 00:17:01.280
  • what Paul says in the passage.
  • 00:17:01.280 --> 00:17:02.290
  • He says for those
  • 00:17:02.290 --> 00:17:03.240
  • who can't control themselves,
  • 00:17:03.240 --> 00:17:05.000
  • you should get married.
  • 00:17:05.000 --> 00:17:05.220
  • You know, that's actually
  • 00:17:05.220 --> 00:17:06.110
  • a poor interpretation
  • 00:17:06.110 --> 00:17:07.150
  • of the original language
  • 00:17:07.150 --> 00:17:08.220
  • in Greek.
  • 00:17:08.220 --> 00:17:09.010
  • He didn't actually say for those
  • 00:17:09.010 --> 00:17:10.160
  • who can't control themselves.
  • 00:17:10.160 --> 00:17:11.220
  • He said for those who are
  • 00:17:11.220 --> 00:17:12.220
  • not controlling themselves.
  • 00:17:13.020 --> 00:17:16.020
  • See because he said
  • 00:17:16.020 --> 00:17:16.220
  • that the fruit of the spirit is
  • 00:17:16.220 --> 00:17:17.260
  • love, joy, peace, patience,
  • 00:17:17.260 --> 00:17:18.210
  • kindness, goodness,
  • 00:17:18.210 --> 00:17:19.100
  • faithfulness, gentleness,
  • 00:17:19.100 --> 00:17:19.280
  • and self-control.
  • 00:17:19.280 --> 00:17:22.070
  • So you have self-control,
  • 00:17:22.070 --> 00:17:23.290
  • the wrong fires all the time --
  • 00:17:25.020 --> 00:17:26.210
  • like some of you are just
  • 00:17:26.210 --> 00:17:28.110
  • throwing logs
  • 00:17:28.110 --> 00:17:28.250
  • on the fire all the time.
  • 00:17:28.250 --> 00:17:31.100
  • And you're miserable
  • 00:17:31.100 --> 00:17:33.260
  • because you're watching
  • 00:17:33.260 --> 00:17:34.160
  • "The Bachelor."
  • 00:17:34.160 --> 00:17:35.230
  • [laughter]
  • 00:17:37.040 --> 00:17:40.040
  • No man will ever be able
  • 00:17:40.040 --> 00:17:42.130
  • to live up to your standard
  • 00:17:42.130 --> 00:17:43.290
  • because you're watching
  • 00:17:43.290 --> 00:17:45.120
  • on a network budget.
  • 00:17:47.040 --> 00:17:50.040
  • Your man might drive a Hyundai.
  • 00:17:50.040 --> 00:17:53.000
  • And it may be a good car,
  • 00:17:53.000 --> 00:17:55.110
  • but you're feeding
  • 00:17:55.110 --> 00:17:56.050
  • the fire of all of these ideals.
  • 00:17:56.050 --> 00:17:58.060
  • Some of you men have gotten
  • 00:17:58.060 --> 00:17:59.280
  • your standard of beauty
  • 00:17:59.280 --> 00:18:01.040
  • from people who are airbrushed.
  • 00:18:01.040 --> 00:18:02.270
  • No wonder your wife
  • 00:18:02.270 --> 00:18:03.260
  • can't satisfy you.
  • 00:18:03.260 --> 00:18:05.020
  • You're feeding the wrong fire.
  • 00:18:05.020 --> 00:18:06.160
  • [applause]
  • 00:18:06.160 --> 00:18:09.120
  • It's flaming up, and blazing up,
  • 00:18:09.120 --> 00:18:10.280
  • and you're running the gas,
  • 00:18:10.280 --> 00:18:12.000
  • and you talk how you wanna talk,
  • 00:18:12.000 --> 00:18:13.150
  • and do what you wanna do,
  • 00:18:13.150 --> 00:18:14.200
  • and say what you wanna say,
  • 00:18:14.200 --> 00:18:15.260
  • and now you're wondering,
  • 00:18:15.260 --> 00:18:16.220
  • why can't I control this?
  • 00:18:17.020 --> 00:18:20.020
  • Because you didn't control it.
  • 00:18:23.230 --> 00:18:26.230
  • So what do we need?
  • 00:18:26.230 --> 00:18:27.220
  • We need a big ol' ice bucket.
  • 00:18:31.030 --> 00:18:34.030
  • I thought about calling
  • 00:18:34.030 --> 00:18:34.220
  • a single person up here
  • 00:18:35.160 --> 00:18:38.160
  • and having our own little ice
  • 00:18:38.160 --> 00:18:39.200
  • bucket challenge.
  • 00:18:39.200 --> 00:18:41.070
  • [laughter]
  • 00:18:41.070 --> 00:18:43.280
  • You know, what the church does
  • 00:18:43.280 --> 00:18:45.100
  • and what I used to do
  • 00:18:45.100 --> 00:18:46.100
  • a lot of times
  • 00:18:46.100 --> 00:18:46.260
  • when I would preach about
  • 00:18:46.260 --> 00:18:47.170
  • these topics --
  • 00:18:47.170 --> 00:18:49.010
  • I would think that the solution
  • 00:18:49.010 --> 00:18:50.020
  • for sexual sin is
  • 00:18:50.020 --> 00:18:51.160
  • a big ol' bucket of shame,
  • 00:18:51.260 --> 00:18:54.260
  • you know?
  • 00:18:54.260 --> 00:18:55.290
  • So we'd just,
  • 00:18:55.290 --> 00:18:56.220
  • [hail sound]
  • 00:18:56.220 --> 00:18:58.110
  • you know -- something like that.
  • 00:18:58.170 --> 00:19:01.190
  • And all the sermons are
  • 00:19:01.190 --> 00:19:02.200
  • based around shame.
  • 00:19:02.200 --> 00:19:03.160
  • It's like... [hail sound]
  • 00:19:03.160 --> 00:19:05.210
  • And that's effective
  • 00:19:05.210 --> 00:19:07.240
  • for like three days.
  • 00:19:08.090 --> 00:19:11.090
  • But then it flares
  • 00:19:11.090 --> 00:19:12.200
  • right back up.
  • 00:19:12.250 --> 00:19:15.250
  • Most of the time
  • 00:19:15.250 --> 00:19:16.240
  • in our sexuality,
  • 00:19:16.240 --> 00:19:17.210
  • shame is the source
  • 00:19:17.210 --> 00:19:18.060
  • of our problem,
  • 00:19:18.060 --> 00:19:19.230
  • so it can't be our solution.
  • 00:19:19.230 --> 00:19:21.050
  • [applause]
  • 00:19:27.110 --> 00:19:30.110
  • Paul doesn't shame
  • 00:19:30.110 --> 00:19:31.020
  • He doesn't shame --
  • 00:19:32.140 --> 00:19:33.180
  • God doesn't shame you
  • 00:19:33.180 --> 00:19:34.150
  • for your struggles.
  • 00:19:34.150 --> 00:19:37.080
  • For your passions.
  • 00:19:37.080 --> 00:19:39.230
  • He simply wants you to get 'em
  • 00:19:39.230 --> 00:19:40.260
  • in the right place.
  • 00:19:42.150 --> 00:19:45.150
  • And see, we talked about Moses.
  • 00:19:45.150 --> 00:19:47.060
  • How he misplaced
  • 00:19:47.060 --> 00:19:47.280
  • but check this out.
  • 00:19:50.190 --> 00:19:52.030
  • Forty years later, Exodus 3:1.
  • 00:19:52.060 --> 00:19:55.060
  • It says that one day Moses was
  • 00:19:55.060 --> 00:19:56.220
  • tending the flock of Jethro,
  • 00:19:56.220 --> 00:19:58.210
  • his father-in-law,
  • 00:19:58.210 --> 00:20:00.160
  • the priest of Midian.
  • 00:20:00.160 --> 00:20:02.160
  • So he was just doing
  • 00:20:02.160 --> 00:20:03.060
  • his basic responsibility.
  • 00:20:03.060 --> 00:20:05.250
  • He had gone on about his life.
  • 00:20:05.250 --> 00:20:07.150
  • And he led the flock
  • 00:20:07.150 --> 00:20:09.090
  • to the far side
  • 00:20:09.090 --> 00:20:10.030
  • of the wilderness
  • 00:20:10.030 --> 00:20:11.070
  • and came to Horeb,
  • 00:20:11.070 --> 00:20:12.020
  • the mountain of God.
  • 00:20:12.020 --> 00:20:13.020
  • So he was out
  • 00:20:13.020 --> 00:20:13.210
  • in a lonely place.
  • 00:20:13.210 --> 00:20:15.210
  • And God shows up
  • 00:20:15.210 --> 00:20:17.020
  • and appears to Moses,
  • 00:20:17.020 --> 00:20:18.220
  • but He did it in a lonely place
  • 00:20:18.220 --> 00:20:20.000
  • while Moses was simply
  • 00:20:20.000 --> 00:20:20.190
  • doing his job.
  • 00:20:20.190 --> 00:20:21.230
  • Would that not be a good word
  • 00:20:21.230 --> 00:20:24.160
  • for a single person
  • 00:20:24.160 --> 00:20:26.070
  • in this church today?
  • 00:20:26.070 --> 00:20:28.280
  • You tend the flock
  • 00:20:28.280 --> 00:20:29.170
  • that God has given you?
  • 00:20:29.170 --> 00:20:31.140
  • Be faithful in the place
  • 00:20:31.140 --> 00:20:32.090
  • where He's positioned you?
  • 00:20:32.090 --> 00:20:33.220
  • And watch what God did.
  • 00:20:33.220 --> 00:20:35.010
  • It said then the angel
  • 00:20:35.010 --> 00:20:36.000
  • of the Lord appeared to him
  • 00:20:36.000 --> 00:20:38.230
  • in flames of fire
  • 00:20:38.230 --> 00:20:41.020
  • from within a bush.
  • 00:20:41.020 --> 00:20:43.140
  • So Moses saw -- remember
  • 00:20:43.140 --> 00:20:46.020
  • when he looked the first time
  • 00:20:46.020 --> 00:20:47.040
  • after he'd killed the Egyptian,
  • 00:20:47.040 --> 00:20:48.170
  • and he looked, and he saw,
  • 00:20:48.170 --> 00:20:49.090
  • and nobody was there?
  • 00:20:49.090 --> 00:20:50.040
  • And so he thought
  • 00:20:50.040 --> 00:20:50.200
  • he got away with it,
  • 00:20:50.200 --> 00:20:51.090
  • but he really didn't
  • 00:20:51.090 --> 00:20:52.080
  • 'cause he tried to fulfill
  • 00:20:52.080 --> 00:20:52.280
  • the right passion
  • 00:20:52.280 --> 00:20:53.170
  • in the wrong way?
  • 00:20:53.170 --> 00:20:54.080
  • But watch this.
  • 00:20:54.080 --> 00:20:55.080
  • This time he saw
  • 00:20:55.080 --> 00:20:56.200
  • that though the bush was
  • 00:20:56.200 --> 00:20:57.150
  • on fire, it did not burn up.
  • 00:20:59.190 --> 00:21:02.210
  • And so he thought, I'll go over
  • 00:21:02.210 --> 00:21:04.140
  • and see this strange sight --
  • 00:21:04.140 --> 00:21:06.200
  • why the bush does not burn up.
  • 00:21:07.200 --> 00:21:10.200
  • And when the Lord saw
  • 00:21:10.200 --> 00:21:11.100
  • he had gone over to look,
  • 00:21:11.100 --> 00:21:12.190
  • God called to him
  • 00:21:12.190 --> 00:21:13.200
  • from within the bush:
  • 00:21:13.200 --> 00:21:14.060
  • Moses, Moses!
  • 00:21:14.060 --> 00:21:15.030
  • And Moses said, here I am.
  • 00:21:16.000 --> 00:21:19.000
  • Now here's what
  • 00:21:19.000 --> 00:21:19.110
  • the Lord spoke to me.
  • 00:21:19.110 --> 00:21:21.080
  • He said when I am the center
  • 00:21:21.080 --> 00:21:23.100
  • of your passion,
  • 00:21:23.100 --> 00:21:26.020
  • your life will burn,
  • 00:21:26.020 --> 00:21:28.100
  • but it won't burn up.
  • 00:21:29.130 --> 00:21:32.130
  • When I am the center
  • 00:21:32.130 --> 00:21:33.130
  • of a relationship, it'll burn,
  • 00:21:34.010 --> 00:21:37.010
  • but it won't burn up.
  • 00:21:37.010 --> 00:21:39.170
  • See, lust can set you on fire,
  • 00:21:39.170 --> 00:21:42.100
  • but only God can set you on fire
  • 00:21:42.120 --> 00:21:45.120
  • and keep you on fire.
  • 00:21:45.120 --> 00:21:46.160
  • [applause]
  • 00:21:49.070 --> 00:21:52.070
  • Anybody can light
  • 00:21:52.070 --> 00:21:53.180
  • a bush on fire, but only God
  • 00:21:53.180 --> 00:21:56.130
  • can get in the middle of a bush,
  • 00:21:56.130 --> 00:21:58.090
  • and light it on fire,
  • 00:21:58.090 --> 00:22:00.090
  • but although it's on fire --
  • 00:22:00.090 --> 00:22:01.200
  • and what we want in this church,
  • 00:22:01.200 --> 00:22:03.240
  • and what God wants
  • 00:22:03.240 --> 00:22:04.190
  • for your life is a passion
  • 00:22:04.190 --> 00:22:06.140
  • that stays on fire.
  • 00:22:06.140 --> 00:22:08.230
  • Not this little cheap,
  • 00:22:08.230 --> 00:22:09.200
  • imitation infatuation,
  • 00:22:09.200 --> 00:22:12.130
  • false flame garbage
  • 00:22:12.130 --> 00:22:14.120
  • that burns you out,
  • 00:22:14.120 --> 00:22:16.130
  • and creates new patterns
  • 00:22:16.130 --> 00:22:18.200
  • of processing information
  • 00:22:18.200 --> 00:22:20.030
  • in your brain that
  • 00:22:20.030 --> 00:22:20.260
  • will cause you trouble
  • 00:22:20.260 --> 00:22:21.260
  • for the rest of your life.
  • 00:22:21.260 --> 00:22:23.050
  • The enemy wants to burn you out,
  • 00:22:23.050 --> 00:22:26.010
  • but God wants to set passion
  • 00:22:26.010 --> 00:22:27.220
  • on fire in your life,
  • 00:22:27.220 --> 00:22:29.030
  • and put it in a place
  • 00:22:29.030 --> 00:22:31.000
  • where it will burn,
  • 00:22:31.000 --> 00:22:33.020
  • but not burn out.
  • 00:22:33.020 --> 00:22:35.090
  • How many of you want
  • 00:22:35.090 --> 00:22:36.130
  • a holy passion
  • 00:22:36.130 --> 00:22:37.270
  • that doesn't burn out?
  • 00:22:37.270 --> 00:22:38.290
  • [applause]
  • 00:22:38.290 --> 00:22:41.080
  • Relationships that
  • 00:22:41.080 --> 00:22:42.180
  • don't burn out?
  • 00:22:42.180 --> 00:22:44.190
  • Fires and pursuits
  • 00:22:44.190 --> 00:22:46.160
  • that don't burn out?
  • 00:22:46.160 --> 00:22:48.040
  • That burn up --
  • 00:22:48.040 --> 00:22:49.110
  • that are alive and lighting,
  • 00:22:49.110 --> 00:22:50.230
  • but grow brighter and brighter
  • 00:22:50.230 --> 00:22:52.180
  • as the seasons go by?
  • 00:22:52.180 --> 00:22:54.120
  • God's desire for you isn't
  • 00:22:54.120 --> 00:22:55.220
  • just that you would have
  • 00:22:55.220 --> 00:22:56.250
  • the passing pleasure of sin
  • 00:22:56.250 --> 00:22:58.280
  • for a season, but that you would
  • 00:22:58.280 --> 00:23:00.080
  • know the pleasure of passion
  • 00:23:00.080 --> 00:23:01.260
  • that comes from His purpose.
  • 00:23:01.260 --> 00:23:03.210
  • That it would burn from within,
  • 00:23:03.210 --> 00:23:05.110
  • and not burn out.
  • 00:23:05.110 --> 00:23:06.170
  • [applause]
  • 00:23:10.240 --> 00:23:13.240
  • Some of you been feeding
  • 00:23:13.240 --> 00:23:14.230
  • the wrong fires, see?
  • 00:23:15.090 --> 00:23:18.090
  • And yet it's not enough
  • 00:23:18.090 --> 00:23:19.220
  • just to starve the wrong fires,
  • 00:23:20.130 --> 00:23:23.130
  • but God told me --
  • 00:23:23.130 --> 00:23:24.270
  • I said God, well, if shame
  • 00:23:24.270 --> 00:23:26.060
  • isn't the solution to this,
  • 00:23:26.060 --> 00:23:27.140
  • then what is?
  • 00:23:27.140 --> 00:23:29.190
  • And He said I want you
  • 00:23:29.190 --> 00:23:30.120
  • to tell everybody
  • 00:23:30.120 --> 00:23:31.070
  • who's struggling
  • 00:23:31.070 --> 00:23:31.230
  • with their desires
  • 00:23:31.230 --> 00:23:32.280
  • that are burning a hole inside
  • 00:23:32.280 --> 00:23:33.230
  • of them today --
  • 00:23:33.230 --> 00:23:34.270
  • I want you to tell 'em
  • 00:23:34.270 --> 00:23:36.170
  • that they need
  • 00:23:36.170 --> 00:23:37.070
  • to fight fire with fire.
  • 00:23:38.280 --> 00:23:41.280
  • Fight fire with fire.
  • 00:23:43.060 --> 00:23:46.060
  • Not with shame.
  • 00:23:46.060 --> 00:23:47.180
  • Shame isn't gonna help this.
  • 00:23:47.180 --> 00:23:49.060
  • You've tried that.
  • 00:23:49.060 --> 00:23:49.230
  • Shame doesn't
  • 00:23:49.230 --> 00:23:50.130
  • make you any better.
  • 00:23:50.130 --> 00:23:51.050
  • It just drives you deeper
  • 00:23:51.050 --> 00:23:51.270
  • into your own dysfunction
  • 00:23:51.270 --> 00:23:54.120
  • and isolates you
  • 00:23:54.120 --> 00:23:55.060
  • from people who could help you.
  • 00:23:55.260 --> 00:23:58.260
  • But the scripture says --
  • 00:23:58.260 --> 00:24:00.210
  • watch this.
  • 00:24:00.210 --> 00:24:01.100
  • Our God is a consuming fire.
  • 00:24:04.020 --> 00:24:07.020
  • So what do you do
  • 00:24:07.020 --> 00:24:07.210
  • if you're consumed
  • 00:24:07.210 --> 00:24:08.110
  • with the wrong passions?
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  • Here's an idea.
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  • Get more consumed
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  • - I hear a phrase sometimes,
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  • the phrase is "meant to be."
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  • You know, I just know
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  • me and Holly were meant to be.
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  • - Or it wasn't
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  • just meant to be.
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  • - Yea.
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  • "Was it meant to be,"
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  • "God is this meant to be?
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  • Let him call me
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  • if it's meant to be."
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  • Are you meant to be single?
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  • Is there really only one person
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  • out there who is meant for you,
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  • the right one?
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  • Well, a lot of people
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  • have a lot of opinions
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  • on this topic,
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  • but the Bible
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  • has scriptural truths
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  • on the matter as well.
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  • - Which is why we have
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  • a special series
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  • for you today called,
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  • "Meant to Be",
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  • that will show you
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  • what the Bible says
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  • about experiencing
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  • healthy relationships.
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  • That's right, you don't have
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  • to turn to articles in magazines
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  • to find tips
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  • and secrets to success
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  • in your sex life, your marriage,
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  • or your singleness.
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  • God has a lot to say
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  • on the topic.
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  • is a five part series
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  • that includes sermons like
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  • "How to Save Your Husband",
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  • or "Marry or Burn,"
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  • and you'll discover
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  • how to navigate the conflict
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  • and the conflicts of interest.
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  • These are part
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  • of all relationships,
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  • and marriage or a relationship
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  • So, if you or someone
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  • about relationships, marriage,
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  • and sex, we tend to look
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  • in all the wrong places.
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  • The world claims
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  • to have the answers,
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  • but maybe we've been focusing
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  • on the wrong problem all along.
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  • In our series, "Meant to Be",
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  • Pastor Steven Furtick
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  • has open conversations
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  • to help us uncover
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  • the Bible's best kept secrets
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  • about sex, marriage,
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  • and being single.
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  • - Most of the emphasis,
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  • when you talk about dating,
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  • and marriage, and singleness,
  • 00:26:22.130 --> 00:26:23.240
  • in culture seems to be
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  • on finding the right one.
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  • Most of the emphasis,
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  • when you come to the scripture,
  • 00:26:28.120 --> 00:26:29.210
  • tends to be on being
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  • the right one.
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  • - For your gift of any amount
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  • Meant To Be series,
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  • which includes a message
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  • with Pastor Steven
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  • and his wife Holly,
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  • where they share
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  • personal examples
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  • and scriptural insight on how
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  • we can invite God to work
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  • in our everyday
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  • relationship challenges.
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  • Pastor Steven also explains
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  • the unnecessary complications
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  • that sidetrack us
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  • in relationships,
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  • and he shows us
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  • what is truly meant to be
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  • in our lives
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  • when we have Jesus
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  • as our foundation.
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  • - I've been told all my life
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  • to put Jesus first,
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  • but that doesn't work,
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  • because that separates him out
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  • from everything else.
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  • Live as if Jesus
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  • was not first on your list,
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  • but that He was
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  • the center of your world.
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  • at stevenfurtick.com,
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