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February 16, 2021
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  • just like yourself.
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  • - I thought about Moses, who --
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  • - I thought about Moses, who --Moses was certainly
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  • Moses was certainlyvery passionate,
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  • very passionate,and God used him to fulfill
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  • and God used him to fulfilla great purpose.
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  • a great purpose.In fact, God showed up
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  • in a burning bush in Exodus 3.
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  • in a burning bush in Exodus 3.But 40 years before
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  • But 40 years beforethat burning bush,
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  • that burning bush,which is where many people
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  • which is where many peoplethink the story of Moses' life
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  • think the story of Moses' lifebegan, when God called him
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  • began, when God called himto be a deliverer
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  • to be a delivererof the Israelites
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  • of the Israelitesout of Egyptian slavery --
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  • out of Egyptian slavery --40 years before this,
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  • 40 years before this,Moses had an incident
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  • Moses had an incidentthat was the result
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  • that was the resultof mismanaged passion.
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  • Exodus 2:11.
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  • Exodus 2:11.It says one day,
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  • It says one day,after Moses had grown up,
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  • after Moses had grown up,he went out to where
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  • he went out to wherehis own people were
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  • his own people wereand watched them
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  • and watched themat their hard labor.
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  • at their hard labor.Now Moses was conflicted
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  • Now Moses was conflictedbecause he grew up as a Hebrew,
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  • because he grew up as a Hebrew,but he grew up
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  • but he grew upbeing raised as Egyptians.
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  • being raised as Egyptians.He was from the Hebrew people,
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  • He was from the Hebrew people,but he was raised
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  • but he was raisedin an Egyptian society,
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  • in an Egyptian society,so he was torn.
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  • so he was torn.He was conflicted by this.
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  • He was conflicted by this.And one day, he goes out,
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  • And one day, he goes out,and he's grown up
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  • and he's grown upa little bit now,
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  • a little bit now,and he sees something.
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  • and he sees something.He sees an Egyptian beating
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  • He sees an Egyptian beatinga Hebrew, one of his own people,
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  • a Hebrew, one of his own people,and it stirs up
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  • and it stirs upa passion in him.
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  • a passion in him.And it says that
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  • And it says thathe looked this way,
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  • he looked this way,and that way,
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  • and that way,and it looked like
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  • and it looked likethe coast was clear.
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  • the coast was clear.So he didn't see anybody,
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  • So he didn't see anybody,and he killed the Egyptian,
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  • and he killed the Egyptian,and hid him in the sand.
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  • and hid him in the sand.Well, the next day he went out
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  • Well, the next day he went outand saw two Hebrews fighting,
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  • and saw two Hebrews fighting,and he asked the one
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  • and he asked the onein the wrong -- hey, man,
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  • in the wrong -- hey, man,why are you hitting
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  • why are you hittingyour fellow Hebrew?
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  • your fellow Hebrew?And the man said
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  • And the man saidwho made you ruler
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  • who made you rulerand judge over us?
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  • and judge over us?Are you thinking of killing me
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  • Are you thinking of killing meas you killed the Egyptian?
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  • as you killed the Egyptian?Uh oh.
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  • Uh oh.Just because you hide something
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  • Just because you hide somethingin the sand doesn't mean
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  • in the sand doesn't meanit went away.
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  • it went away.I'll stand here for a moment.
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  • I'll stand here for a moment.[applause]
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  • [applause]It bears repeating.
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  • It bears repeating.Just because you covered
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  • Just because you coveredsomething up in the sand
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  • something up in the sanddoesn't mean
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  • doesn't meanit won't come back up.
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  • it won't come back up.Because the thing
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  • Because the thingthat Moses did --
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  • that Moses did --nobody else saw it,
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  • nobody else saw it,so he thought,
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  • so he thought,but then his past catches up
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  • but then his past catches upwith him rather quickly.
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  • with him rather quickly.And it says that
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  • And it says thatwhen he heard this,
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  • when he heard this,Moses was afraid and he thought,
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  • Moses was afraid and he thought,what I did must have
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  • what I did must havebecome known.
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  • become known.Now he's exposed.
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  • Now he's exposed.And so Pharaoh hears of this,
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  • And so Pharaoh hears of this,and he tries to kill Moses.
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  • and he tries to kill Moses.But Moses fled from Pharaoh
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  • But Moses fled from Pharaohand went to live in Midian,
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  • and went to live in Midian,where he sat down by a well.
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  • where he sat down by a well.And he ends up on the run
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  • And he ends up on the runfor 40 years because
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  • for 40 years becauseof a mismanaged passion.
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  • of a mismanaged passion.You see, what Moses felt --
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  • You see, what Moses felt --follow me -- was a good passion.
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  • follow me -- was a good passion.He saw one of his people
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  • He saw one of his peoplebeing taken advantage of,
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  • being taken advantage of,and God had put
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  • and God had puta passion in Moses.
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  • a passion in Moses.Moses was called to deliver
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  • Moses was called to deliverthe Hebrew people
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  • the Hebrew peopleout of Egyptian slavery.
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  • out of Egyptian slavery.So he sees this going down,
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  • So he sees this going down,and he thinks this isn't right,
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  • and he thinks this isn't right,and it lights
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  • and it lightsa fire inside of him.
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  • a fire inside of him.And so Moses just goes off.
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  • And so Moses just goes off.But it's one thing to have
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  • But it's one thing to havethe right passion.
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  • the right passion.It's another thing to act
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  • It's another thing to acton it in the right way.
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  • on it in the right way.Did you know you can have
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  • Did you know you can havethe right passion
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  • the right passionbut have the wrong expression
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  • but have the wrong expressionof the right passion,
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  • of the right passion,and it'll create
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  • and it'll createa terrible result in your life?
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  • a terrible result in your life?I can't get any help
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  • I can't get any helpin this sermon, man.
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  • in this sermon, man.Let me ask it another way.
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  • Let me ask it another way.Did you know that the thing
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  • Did you know that the thingthat God put inside of you
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  • that God put inside of youthat can make you really great
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  • that can make you really greatand can lead you
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  • and can lead youinto your purpose can also bring
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  • into your purpose can also bringyou great pain
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  • you great painif it's not managed correctly?
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  • if it's not managed correctly?I'm teaching this
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  • I'm teaching thisto our oldest son right now.
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  • to our oldest son right now.He has a gift
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  • He has a giftfor being argumentative.
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  • for being argumentative.And it's a gift.
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  • And it's a gift.Never seen
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  • Never seenanything quite like it.
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  • anything quite like it.I'm told that he got it
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  • I'm told that he got itfrom somewhere.
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  • from somewhere.[laughter]
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  • [laughter]And he will
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  • And he willverbally assassinate you.
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  • verbally assassinate you.He will take you apart
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  • And I'm teaching him
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  • And I'm teaching himthis could be
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  • this could beyour greatest asset
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  • your greatest assetbecause, boy, I could see
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  • because, boy, I could seeyou one day on stage preaching
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  • you one day on stage preachingto people, and God's gonna
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  • to people, and God's gonnatake this gift that you have
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  • take this gift that you haveto kind of go through stuff
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  • to kind of go through stuffand just take it apart.
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  • and just take it apart.And you can take it apart,
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  • And you can take it apart,and I see how
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  • and I see howGod could really use that.
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  • God could really use that.You might be three times,
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  • You might be three times,ten times, a hundred times
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  • ten times, a hundred timesthe preacher that I ever am.
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  • the preacher that I ever am.But if you don't learn
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  • and you think that that gift is
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  • and you think that that gift isgiven to you so that you can
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  • given to you so that you canargue with your mom
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  • argue with your momabout the cleanliness
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  • about the cleanlinessof your room,
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  • of your room,you're not going to live
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  • you're not going to livelong enough to see
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  • long enough to seewhether or not --
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  • whether or not --You know,
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  • You know,God could really use this.
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  • God could really use this.This is a good thing.
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  • This is a good thing.I see it in you, boy.
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  • I see it in you, boy.I think it's awesome.
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  • I think it's awesome.I think it's amazing.
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  • I think it's amazing.But you better learn
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  • But you better learnwhen to use it and how to use it
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  • when to use it and how to use it'cause you can win the argument
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  • 'cause you can win the argumentand still lose
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  • and still loseyour video game time
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  • your video game timefor the next month
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  • for the next monthif you don't shut
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  • if you don't shutyour mouth right now.
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  • your mouth right now.It's a good thing
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  • It's a good thingthat you can do this,
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  • that you can do this,but you better learn to do it.
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  • but you better learn to do it.You can do a good thing
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  • You can do a good thingin the wrong way,
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  • in the wrong way,and it becomes a bad thing.
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  • and it becomes a bad thing.Sex is a good thing.
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  • Sex is a good thing.Sex is a good thing.
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  • Sex is a good thing.[applause]
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  • [applause]You'd think if I could
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  • You'd think if I couldever get an amen,
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  • ever get an amen,that'd get an amen.
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  • that'd get an amen.Sex is a good thing.
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  • Sex is a good thing.- CONGREGATION: Amen.
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  • - CONGREGATION: Amen.- But we don't teach
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  • - But we don't teachthat in the church.
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  • that in the church.We teach, you know,
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  • We teach, you know,sex is dirty.
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  • sex is dirty.Sex is gross.
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  • Sex is gross.Sex is disgusting,
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  • Sex is disgusting,so save it for your husband.
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  • so save it for your husband.[laughter]
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  • [laughter]But the passion is pure.
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  • But the passion is pure.However, the passion
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  • However, the passionneeds parameters
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  • needs parametersif it is to serve
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  • if it is to servethe correct purpose.
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  • the correct purpose.And what's gotten
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  • And what's gottena lot of us in trouble
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  • a lot of us in troublein our lives is
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  • in our lives iswe had a good passion,
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  • we had a good passion,but no parameters.
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  • but no parameters.So rather than building purpose,
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  • So rather than building purpose,it destroyed purpose.
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  • what happened to Moses.
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  • what happened to Moses.He had the right passion,
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  • He had the right passion,but he put it in the wrong place
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  • but he put it in the wrong placeand acted on it
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  • and acted on itin the wrong way.
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  • in the wrong way.Right passion,
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  • Right passion,wrong expression.
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  • wrong expression.Look -- bring me
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  • Look -- bring memy sermon illustration.
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  • my sermon illustration.So like I was just
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  • that I could show you this.
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  • that I could show you this.A simple way to show you this.
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  • A simple way to show you this.And it's like imagine right now
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  • And it's like imagine right nowthat at this point
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  • that at this pointin my sermon --
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  • in my sermon --I know this is simple.
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  • I know this is simple.Just go with me.
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  • Just go with me.I'm like hey, I got an idea.
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  • I'm like hey, I got an idea.Let's build a fire
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  • Let's build a fireon the stage.
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  • on the stage.I just think it'd be cool
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  • I just think it'd be coolto build a fire on the stage.
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  • to build a fire on the stage.I'm stacking wood to build
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  • I'm stacking wood to builda fire on the stage.
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  • a fire on the stage.I actually thought about
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  • I actually thought abouthow far should I take
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  • how far should I takethis sermon illustration?
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  • this sermon illustration?And I thought about gasoline,
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  • And I thought about gasoline,and I thought I would see
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  • and I thought I would seehow far I could go before
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  • how far I could go beforepeople started leaving.
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  • people started leaving.Exiting the building.
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  • Exiting the building.[laughter]
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  • [laughter]But I think it --
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  • But I think it --suffice it just to say that,
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  • suffice it just to say that,you know, everybody
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  • you know, everybodyin the room understands
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  • in the room understandsthe problem
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  • the problemwith this proposition.
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  • with this proposition.And the problem is
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  • And the problem isthat building a fire --
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  • that building a fire --the problem is building
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  • the problem is buildinga fire in a place
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  • a fire in a placewhere there's nothing
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  • where there's nothingto contain the fire.
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  • to contain the fire.It's fine if you wanna build
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  • It's fine if you wanna builda fire, but building a fire
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  • a fire, but building a firewithout any parameters
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  • without any parameterswould be to unleash --
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  • would be to unleash --see the same substance
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  • see the same substancethat warms your home
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  • that warms your homewhen it's in a fireplace
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  • when it's in a fireplaceis the same substance
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  • is the same substancethat burns a forest in Colorado
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  • that burns a forest in Coloradoin the summer.
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  • in the summer.The difference is
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  • The difference iswhether it's contained.
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  • whether it's contained.And when you release passions
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  • And when you release passionsthat were intended for marriage
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  • that were intended for marriageoutside of marriage,
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  • outside of marriage,you're building a fire
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  • you're building a firewith nothing to contain it.
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  • with nothing to contain it.And God says
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  • And God saysthe fire's a good thing.
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  • the fire's a good thing.Fire purifies.
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  • Fire purifies.Fire brings warmth.
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  • Fire brings warmth.Fire is the source of life.
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  • Fire is the source of life.There's nothing wrong with fire.
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  • There's nothing wrong with fire.But if you build the fire
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  • But if you build the firein the wrong place,
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  • in the wrong place,if you put the passion
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  • if you put the passionin the wrong place,
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  • in the wrong place,it will burn your home
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  • it will burn your hometo the ground.
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  • to the ground.It's a misplaced passion.
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  • It's a misplaced passion.It's a good thing
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  • It's a good thingin a bad place.
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  • in a bad place.And I wonder how many of you
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  • And I wonder how many of youwould have avoided
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  • would have avoidedsome serious pain in your life
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  • some serious pain in your lifeif somebody would have
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  • if somebody would haveshowed you --
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  • showed you --before you build a fire,
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  • before you build a fire,you need somewhere to put it?
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  • you need somewhere to put it?[applause]
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  • [applause]And the only human relationship
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  • And the only human relationshipthat can sustain this force
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  • that can sustain this forceof passion is a covenant
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  • of passion is a covenantrelationship called marriage.
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  • in other relationships
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  • in other relationshipsthat aren't built to contain
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  • that aren't built to containthe power of passion,
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  • the power of passion,it's gonna spread to places
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  • it's gonna spread to placesyou don't intend
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  • you don't intendfor it to spread,
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  • for it to spread,and it's gonna destroy things
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  • and it's gonna destroy thingsthat God gave you as a gift.
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  • that God gave you as a gift.And so Paul is not saying
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  • And so Paul is not sayingput the fire out.
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  • put the fire out.He's saying find the right place
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  • He's saying find the right placeto build the fire.
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  • to build the fire.Make sure you have
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  • Make sure you havethe right place for the passion
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  • or you'll get burned.
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  • or you'll get burned.And I'm seeing so many people
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  • And I'm seeing so many peopleand so many families get burned
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  • and so many families get burnedbecause they were
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  • because they weretrying to get warm.
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  • trying to get warm.Because it's cold out there,
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  • Because it's cold out there,and because I need relationship,
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  • and because I need relationship,and because I need somebody,
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  • and because I need somebody,so I think I'll stand up
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  • so I think I'll stand upnext to this fire.
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  • next to this fire.I did a word study this week.
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  • I did a word study this week.I studied the word intimacy,
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  • all truly longing for.
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  • all truly longing for.It's really what we all want.
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  • It's really what we all want.That's what all
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  • That's what allof our sexual expression,
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  • of our sexual expression,emotional expression is about.
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  • emotional expression is about.We want intimacy.
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  • We want intimacy.That's what we want.
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  • That's what we want.That's what we desire
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  • That's what we desirefrom God and from others.
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  • from God and from others.We wanna be known.
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  • We wanna be known.We wanna be accepted.
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  • We wanna be accepted.We want intimacy.
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  • We want intimacy.But then I studied
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  • But then I studiedthe word infatuation.
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  • to find out that in Latin --
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  • to find out that in Latin --this'll make you sound
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  • this'll make you soundso smart at lunch this week.
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  • so smart at lunch this week.In Latin, infatuation
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  • In Latin, infatuationliterally means false fire.
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  • literally means false fire.Looks like fire,
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  • Looks like fire,but really can't warm you.
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  • but really can't warm you.Looks like fire,
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  • Looks like fire,but really can't empower you.
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  • but really can't empower you.Looks like fire.
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  • Looks like fire.And that's
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  • And that'swhat the world offers
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  • what the world offersis an infatuation
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  • is an infatuationwith images of sexuality.
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  • with images of sexuality.But it won't really warm you.
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  • But it won't really warm you.In fact, it can actually run
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  • In fact, it can actually runaway from you and burn
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  • away from you and burnyour house down.
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  • your house down.And some preacher needs
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  • And some preacher needsto get up in front of you,
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  • to get up in front of you,and just have the guts
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  • and just have the gutsto care two cents worth
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  • to care two cents worthof nothing what you think
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  • of nothing what you thinkabout it,
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  • about it,and say if you're building
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  • and say if you're buildingthese fires in the wrong place,
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  • these fires in the wrong place,it's gonna burn you.
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  • it's gonna burn you.It's gonna burn you.
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  • It's gonna burn you.[applause]
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  • [applause]So it's mismanaged passions.
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  • So it's mismanaged passions.Passion is pure.
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  • Passion is pure.The enemy wants to pervert it
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  • The enemy wants to pervert itand use what God wanted to use
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  • and use what God wanted to useto develop intimacy in your life
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  • to develop intimacy in your lifeto destroy your capacity
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  • to destroy your capacityfor intimacy.
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  • for intimacy.So that he gets a boy looking
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  • So that he gets a boy lookingat pornography at age 10
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  • at pornography at age 10so he can begin to rewire
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  • so he can begin to rewirehis brain and his standard
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  • his brain and his standardof beauty so that
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  • of beauty so thatwhen he's having sex
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  • when he's having sexwith his wife one day,
  • 00:11:15.627 --> 00:11:16.528
  • with his wife one day,he won't be able to do it
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  • he won't be able to do itwithout conjuring up images
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  • without conjuring up imagesthat he saw before he even knew
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  • that he saw before he even knewwhat was developing in his life
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  • what was developing in his lifeand in his heart --
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  • and in his heart --'cause a fire got built,
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  • 'cause a fire got built,but there was nothing
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  • but there was nothingto contain it.
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  • to contain it.[applause]
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  • [applause]I say this not to condemn you.
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  • I say this not to condemn you.I say this not to bring
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  • I say this not to bringall your mistakes up before you.
  • 00:11:38.483 --> 00:11:39.350
  • all your mistakes up before you.But there are some of you
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  • But there are some of youthat are building fires
  • 00:11:40.185 --> 00:11:42.954
  • that are building firesin bad places right now.
  • 00:11:42.954 --> 00:11:43.688
  • in bad places right now.Sending text messages
  • 00:11:43.688 --> 00:11:47.058
  • Sending text messagesto the wrong person right now.
  • 00:11:47.058 --> 00:11:47.525
  • to the wrong person right now.Visiting some
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  • Visiting someof the wrong sites right now.
  • 00:11:49.961 --> 00:11:50.829
  • of the wrong sites right now.Filling your minds with
  • 00:11:50.829 --> 00:11:52.731
  • Filling your minds withthe wrong kinds of images.
  • 00:11:52.731 --> 00:11:53.298
  • the wrong kinds of images.Indulging in
  • 00:11:53.298 --> 00:11:55.433
  • Indulging inthe wrong conversations.
  • 00:11:55.433 --> 00:11:56.167
  • the wrong conversations.There's nothing wrong
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  • There's nothing wrongwith the fire.
  • 00:11:58.236 --> 00:12:04.175
  • with the fire.It's just where you put it.
  • 00:12:04.175 --> 00:12:04.943
  • It's just where you put it.And let's close talking
  • 00:12:04.943 --> 00:12:07.645
  • And let's close talkingabout something positive.
  • 00:12:07.645 --> 00:12:08.213
  • about something positive.Let's talk about
  • 00:12:08.213 --> 00:12:10.448
  • Let's talk aboutshameless solutions.
  • 00:12:10.448 --> 00:12:17.455
  • shameless solutions.Shameless solutions.
  • 00:12:17.455 --> 00:12:18.223
  • Shameless solutions.So when me and Holly were
  • 00:12:18.223 --> 00:12:20.792
  • So when me and Holly werebuilding our home last year --
  • 00:12:20.792 --> 00:12:21.326
  • building our home last year --by the way, Holly
  • 00:12:21.326 --> 00:12:23.061
  • by the way, Hollyand I built a house last year.
  • 00:12:23.061 --> 00:12:23.928
  • and I built a house last year.[laughter]
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  • [laughter]I'm gonna share that with you.
  • 00:12:29.667 --> 00:12:30.769
  • I'm gonna share that with you.There were all these selections
  • 00:12:30.769 --> 00:12:32.103
  • There were all these selectionsthat you have to make,
  • 00:12:32.103 --> 00:12:32.937
  • that you have to make,and for the most part,
  • 00:12:32.937 --> 00:12:35.006
  • and for the most part,I never got involved.
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  • I never got involved.But she would bring
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  • But she would bringcertain things to me
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  • certain things to methat she thought I might wanna
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  • what kind of fireplace
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  • what kind of fireplacewe would have in the house.
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  • we would have in the house.I love sitting by a fireplace.
  • 00:12:45.817 --> 00:12:47.585
  • I love sitting by a fireplace.I don't know why.
  • 00:12:47.585 --> 00:12:49.821
  • I don't know why.But I like the gas log fireplace
  • 00:12:49.821 --> 00:12:50.455
  • But I like the gas log fireplace'cause this is about
  • 00:12:50.455 --> 00:12:52.791
  • 'cause this is aboutas much work as I wanna do
  • 00:12:52.791 --> 00:12:53.892
  • as much work as I wanna doto start the fire.
  • 00:12:53.892 --> 00:12:57.228
  • to start the fire.Like to me, that's my version
  • 00:12:57.228 --> 00:12:59.063
  • Like to me, that's my versionof roughing it.
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  • right there.
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  • right there.Just flip that little switch,
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  • Just flip that little switch,and a fire comes on.
  • 00:13:03.935 --> 00:13:04.469
  • and a fire comes on.She said no, no.
  • 00:13:04.469 --> 00:13:05.336
  • She said no, no.For this house, we need to have
  • 00:13:05.336 --> 00:13:05.870
  • For this house, we need to havea real fireplace with
  • 00:13:05.870 --> 00:13:07.372
  • a real fireplace withlike real logs and stuff.
  • 00:13:07.372 --> 00:13:08.773
  • like real logs and stuff.And I'm like oh God, no.
  • 00:13:08.773 --> 00:13:09.707
  • And I'm like oh God, no.I mean, I'm gonna have to go
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  • I mean, I'm gonna have to gochop wood, and I'm gonna have
  • 00:13:11.843 --> 00:13:13.244
  • chop wood, and I'm gonna haveto go buy a flannel shirt
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  • to go buy a flannel shirtfrom Old Navy and have
  • 00:13:14.345 --> 00:13:15.647
  • from Old Navy and haveone in the closet.
  • 00:13:15.647 --> 00:13:17.415
  • one in the closet.And she's like no,
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  • And she's like no,it'll be great.
  • 00:13:18.349 --> 00:13:20.585
  • it'll be great.It'll be a gas-start fireplace,
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  • It'll be a gas-start fireplace,but it'll have real wood.
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  • you know, I trust you.
  • 00:13:25.623 --> 00:13:26.357
  • you know, I trust you.Whatever.
  • 00:13:26.357 --> 00:13:27.792
  • Whatever.And she said trust me,
  • 00:13:27.792 --> 00:13:28.493
  • And she said trust me,you'll love it.
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  • you'll love it.I said go ahead.
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  • I said go ahead.We can do it.
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  • We can do it.But nobody showed me
  • 00:13:31.963 --> 00:13:32.597
  • But nobody showed mehow to use it.
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  • how to use it.So the first time I went
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  • So the first time I wentto go build a fire
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  • to go build a firein the gas-start fireplace,
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  • in the gas-start fireplace,which -- let me see.
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  • which -- let me see.I'm gonna give you
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  • I'm gonna give youthe technical explanation
  • 00:13:39.270 --> 00:13:40.305
  • the technical explanationfor this.
  • 00:13:40.305 --> 00:13:41.606
  • for this.There's a little thingy
  • 00:13:41.606 --> 00:13:44.609
  • there's a thing
  • 00:13:45.476 --> 00:13:46.477
  • there's a thingon the side of the fireplace,
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  • on the side of the fireplace,and you turn that on,
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  • and you turn that on,and then it opens
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  • and then it opensthe gas valves,
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  • the gas valves,and so then you can light
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  • and so then you can lightthe fire.
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  • the fire.At least that's what I thought
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  • At least that's what I thoughtyou were supposed to do is
  • 00:13:52.817 --> 00:13:53.952
  • you were supposed to do isturn on the gas,
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  • turn on the gas,and then light the fire
  • 00:13:55.553 --> 00:13:56.955
  • and then light the firein the fireplace.
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  • in the fireplace.So I was so excited to have
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  • So I was so excited to haveour first fire
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  • our first fireof the year last year,
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  • of the year last year,and so I turned on the gas
  • 00:14:03.228 --> 00:14:04.796
  • and so I turned on the gasto give it plenty of time.
  • 00:14:04.796 --> 00:14:05.363
  • to give it plenty of time.Like, you know,
  • 00:14:05.363 --> 00:14:06.130
  • Like, you know,if you're turning on your car
  • 00:14:06.130 --> 00:14:07.098
  • if you're turning on your carin the cold?
  • 00:14:07.098 --> 00:14:07.866
  • in the cold?So give it sometime
  • 00:14:07.866 --> 00:14:09.934
  • So give it sometimeto warm up, right?
  • 00:14:09.934 --> 00:14:11.536
  • to warm up, right?And so I went to go get my kids
  • 00:14:11.536 --> 00:14:12.070
  • And so I went to go get my kids'cause I wanted them
  • 00:14:12.070 --> 00:14:13.471
  • 'cause I wanted themto see the first fire.
  • 00:14:13.471 --> 00:14:14.105
  • to see the first fire.[laughter]
  • 00:14:14.105 --> 00:14:14.772
  • [laughter]And I bring 'em in
  • 00:14:14.772 --> 00:14:15.506
  • And I bring 'em inbecause it's like getting
  • 00:14:15.506 --> 00:14:16.140
  • because it's like gettingclose to Christmas time,
  • 00:14:16.140 --> 00:14:16.941
  • close to Christmas time,and there are stockings up,
  • 00:14:16.941 --> 00:14:17.809
  • and there are stockings up,and I thought this was gonna be
  • 00:14:17.809 --> 00:14:19.677
  • and I thought this was gonna bea picture-perfect scene.
  • 00:14:19.677 --> 00:14:20.345
  • a picture-perfect scene.And so I went --
  • 00:14:20.345 --> 00:14:21.379
  • And so I went --I go and get a drink,
  • 00:14:21.379 --> 00:14:22.013
  • I go and get a drink,and get the kids,
  • 00:14:22.013 --> 00:14:22.847
  • and get the kids,and I gather them around.
  • 00:14:22.847 --> 00:14:23.815
  • and I gather them around.And I went and got the wood.
  • 00:14:23.815 --> 00:14:24.716
  • And I went and got the wood.Not the wood that I chopped,
  • 00:14:24.716 --> 00:14:25.984
  • Not the wood that I chopped,but the wood that the man
  • 00:14:25.984 --> 00:14:27.452
  • but the wood that the manwho sold the wood to me
  • 00:14:27.452 --> 00:14:28.186
  • who sold the wood to meon the side of the road
  • 00:14:28.186 --> 00:14:29.387
  • on the side of the roadchopped at some point.
  • 00:14:29.387 --> 00:14:30.655
  • chopped at some point.And I took that wood,
  • 00:14:30.655 --> 00:14:31.522
  • And I took that wood,and I stacked it up high because
  • 00:14:31.522 --> 00:14:33.091
  • and I stacked it up high becauseI wanted it to be a good fire.
  • 00:14:33.091 --> 00:14:33.791
  • I wanted it to be a good fire.I wanted to make sure
  • 00:14:33.791 --> 00:14:35.526
  • I wanted to make sureour first fire was a good fire.
  • 00:14:35.526 --> 00:14:36.027
  • our first fire was a good fire.And now I figure
  • 00:14:36.027 --> 00:14:36.995
  • And now I figurewe're warmed up.
  • 00:14:36.995 --> 00:14:38.463
  • we're warmed up.And so what happened
  • 00:14:38.463 --> 00:14:39.864
  • And so what happenedwhen I put the match --
  • 00:14:39.864 --> 00:14:42.433
  • when I put the match --and so like now when I give
  • 00:14:42.433 --> 00:14:43.001
  • and so like now when I givean invitation
  • 00:14:43.001 --> 00:14:44.836
  • an invitationfor people to receive Christ,
  • 00:14:44.836 --> 00:14:45.637
  • for people to receive Christ,I give it with
  • 00:14:45.637 --> 00:14:46.504
  • I give it withso much more passion because
  • 00:14:46.504 --> 00:14:48.339
  • so much more passion becauseI feel like I have seen
  • 00:14:48.339 --> 00:14:50.208
  • I feel like I have seenwhat Hell is going to be like.
  • 00:14:50.208 --> 00:14:51.309
  • what Hell is going to be like.[laughter]
  • 00:14:51.309 --> 00:14:52.443
  • [laughter]Because when the flames
  • 00:14:52.443 --> 00:14:55.213
  • Because when the flamescame out, it was traumatic.
  • 00:14:55.213 --> 00:14:56.514
  • came out, it was traumatic.It was traumatic for Graham.
  • 00:14:56.514 --> 00:14:57.982
  • It was traumatic for Graham.Graham was crying.
  • 00:14:57.982 --> 00:15:01.185
  • Graham was crying.I was calling on Jesus Christ.
  • 00:15:01.185 --> 00:15:01.986
  • I was calling on Jesus Christ.I was calling on
  • 00:15:01.986 --> 00:15:03.021
  • I was calling onSmokey the Bear.
  • 00:15:03.021 --> 00:15:03.855
  • Smokey the Bear.I was stopping,
  • 00:15:03.855 --> 00:15:05.156
  • I was stopping,and dropping, and rolling.
  • 00:15:05.156 --> 00:15:06.157
  • and dropping, and rolling.It was everything.
  • 00:15:06.157 --> 00:15:06.724
  • It was everything.I was checking
  • 00:15:06.724 --> 00:15:08.159
  • I was checkingfor eyebrows in the mirror.
  • 00:15:08.159 --> 00:15:12.964
  • for eyebrows in the mirror.[laughter]
  • 00:15:12.964 --> 00:15:16.668
  • [laughter]Lesson learned.
  • 00:15:16.668 --> 00:15:19.637
  • Lesson learned.Start the fire in the fireplace,
  • 00:15:19.637 --> 00:15:22.140
  • Start the fire in the fireplace,and then turn on the gas.
  • 00:15:22.140 --> 00:15:24.676
  • and then turn on the gas.Not the other way around.
  • 00:15:24.676 --> 00:15:26.978
  • Not the other way around.The difference between a fire
  • 00:15:26.978 --> 00:15:29.247
  • The difference between a firethat will warm your house
  • 00:15:29.247 --> 00:15:31.316
  • that will warm your houseand a fire that will
  • 00:15:31.316 --> 00:15:35.053
  • and a fire that willburn off your face
  • 00:15:35.053 --> 00:15:36.521
  • burn off your facehas to do with the order
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  • has to do with the orderin which you turn on the gas
  • 00:15:39.891 --> 00:15:42.026
  • in which you turn on the gasand light the flame.
  • 00:15:42.026 --> 00:15:43.127
  • and light the flame.And that's what Paul is
  • 00:15:43.127 --> 00:15:44.862
  • And that's what Paul issaying, church.
  • 00:15:44.862 --> 00:15:46.931
  • saying, church.And that's what God is saying.
  • 00:15:46.931 --> 00:15:48.666
  • And that's what God is saying.He's saying some of you are
  • 00:15:48.666 --> 00:15:50.802
  • He's saying some of you arerunning the gas valve wide
  • 00:15:50.802 --> 00:15:53.171
  • running the gas valve wideopen in your thought life.
  • 00:15:53.171 --> 00:15:54.472
  • open in your thought life.And you're running
  • 00:15:54.472 --> 00:15:55.840
  • And you're runningthe gas valve wide open
  • 00:15:55.840 --> 00:15:57.675
  • the gas valve wide openin your conversations.
  • 00:15:57.675 --> 00:15:58.509
  • in your conversations.And you're running
  • 00:15:58.509 --> 00:16:00.378
  • And you're runningthe gas valve wide open,
  • 00:16:00.378 --> 00:16:01.779
  • the gas valve wide open,and so you're getting hit
  • 00:16:01.779 --> 00:16:03.648
  • and so you're getting hitby all these flames
  • 00:16:03.648 --> 00:16:04.649
  • by all these flamesthat are consuming you
  • 00:16:04.649 --> 00:16:05.850
  • that are consuming youand burning you alive.
  • 00:16:05.850 --> 00:16:08.619
  • and burning you alive.What do you expect
  • 00:16:08.619 --> 00:16:10.221
  • What do you expectwhen you turn the gas on,
  • 00:16:10.221 --> 00:16:11.422
  • when you turn the gas on,and leave it on,
  • 00:16:11.422 --> 00:16:12.123
  • and leave it on,and let it build up,
  • 00:16:12.123 --> 00:16:13.124
  • and let it build up,and just think what you want,
  • 00:16:13.124 --> 00:16:14.325
  • and just think what you want,and say what you want,
  • 00:16:14.325 --> 00:16:15.293
  • and say what you want,and you don't control
  • 00:16:15.293 --> 00:16:16.661
  • and you don't controlany of this?
  • 00:16:16.661 --> 00:16:17.729
  • any of this?Like how did you think
  • 00:16:17.729 --> 00:16:20.765
  • Like how did you thinkthis was gonna end?
  • 00:16:20.765 --> 00:16:22.567
  • this was gonna end?When you let the gas build up,
  • 00:16:22.567 --> 00:16:24.035
  • When you let the gas build up,and you never got any help
  • 00:16:24.035 --> 00:16:25.136
  • and you never got any helpwith those issues,
  • 00:16:25.136 --> 00:16:26.237
  • with those issues,and you never found
  • 00:16:26.237 --> 00:16:27.205
  • and you never foundany place to discuss 'em,
  • 00:16:27.205 --> 00:16:27.972
  • any place to discuss 'em,and then you --
  • 00:16:27.972 --> 00:16:28.673
  • and then you --well, where did you think
  • 00:16:28.673 --> 00:16:31.342
  • well, where did you thinkthis was gonna end?
  • 00:16:31.342 --> 00:16:35.513
  • this was gonna end?He said first marriage,
  • 00:16:35.513 --> 00:16:38.016
  • He said first marriage,then fire.
  • 00:16:38.016 --> 00:16:41.819
  • then fire.Context is everything.
  • 00:16:41.819 --> 00:16:43.321
  • Context is everything.And some of you --
  • 00:16:43.321 --> 00:16:44.822
  • And some of you --I'm not trying to be hateful.
  • 00:16:44.822 --> 00:16:47.058
  • I'm not trying to be hateful.I'm just trying to be helpful.
  • 00:16:47.058 --> 00:16:48.559
  • I'm just trying to be helpful.You're sitting here feeding
  • 00:16:48.559 --> 00:16:52.997
  • You're sitting here feedingthe fire of lust
  • 00:16:52.997 --> 00:16:54.632
  • the fire of lustand discontentment,
  • 00:16:54.632 --> 00:16:55.700
  • and discontentment,and wondering why the flames
  • 00:16:55.700 --> 00:16:58.436
  • and wondering why the flamesare burning so high.
  • 00:16:58.436 --> 00:16:58.803
  • are burning so high.You say well,
  • 00:16:58.803 --> 00:16:59.937
  • You say well,I just can't control myself.
  • 00:16:59.937 --> 00:17:00.605
  • I just can't control myself.You know, that's kind of
  • 00:17:00.605 --> 00:17:01.639
  • You know, that's kind ofwhat Paul says in the passage.
  • 00:17:01.639 --> 00:17:02.473
  • what Paul says in the passage.He says for those
  • 00:17:02.473 --> 00:17:03.674
  • He says for thosewho can't control themselves,
  • 00:17:03.674 --> 00:17:04.409
  • who can't control themselves,you should get married.
  • 00:17:04.409 --> 00:17:05.043
  • you should get married.You know, that's actually
  • 00:17:05.043 --> 00:17:06.177
  • You know, that's actuallya poor interpretation
  • 00:17:06.177 --> 00:17:07.412
  • a poor interpretationof the original language
  • 00:17:07.412 --> 00:17:07.712
  • of the original languagein Greek.
  • 00:17:07.712 --> 00:17:09.213
  • in Greek.He didn't actually say for those
  • 00:17:09.213 --> 00:17:10.415
  • He didn't actually say for thosewho can't control themselves.
  • 00:17:10.415 --> 00:17:11.416
  • who can't control themselves.He said for those who are
  • 00:17:11.416 --> 00:17:14.752
  • He said for those who arenot controlling themselves.
  • 00:17:14.752 --> 00:17:15.420
  • not controlling themselves.See because he said
  • 00:17:15.420 --> 00:17:16.554
  • See because he saidthat the fruit of the spirit is
  • 00:17:16.554 --> 00:17:17.388
  • that the fruit of the spirit islove, joy, peace, patience,
  • 00:17:17.388 --> 00:17:18.022
  • love, joy, peace, patience,kindness, goodness,
  • 00:17:18.022 --> 00:17:18.623
  • kindness, goodness,faithfulness, gentleness,
  • 00:17:18.623 --> 00:17:20.925
  • faithfulness, gentleness,and self-control.
  • 00:17:20.925 --> 00:17:22.660
  • and self-control.So you have self-control,
  • 00:17:22.660 --> 00:17:23.728
  • the wrong fires all the time --
  • 00:17:25.396 --> 00:17:27.065
  • the wrong fires all the time --like some of you are just
  • 00:17:27.065 --> 00:17:27.532
  • like some of you are justthrowing logs
  • 00:17:27.532 --> 00:17:30.034
  • throwing logson the fire all the time.
  • 00:17:30.034 --> 00:17:32.570
  • on the fire all the time.And you're miserable
  • 00:17:32.570 --> 00:17:33.237
  • And you're miserablebecause you're watching
  • 00:17:33.237 --> 00:17:34.472
  • because you're watching"The Bachelor."
  • 00:17:34.472 --> 00:17:38.843
  • "The Bachelor."[laughter]
  • 00:17:38.843 --> 00:17:41.145
  • [laughter]No man will ever be able
  • 00:17:41.145 --> 00:17:42.680
  • No man will ever be ableto live up to your standard
  • 00:17:42.680 --> 00:17:44.115
  • to live up to your standardbecause you're watching
  • 00:17:44.115 --> 00:17:45.616
  • on a network budget.
  • 00:17:48.853 --> 00:17:51.722
  • on a network budget.Your man might drive a Hyundai.
  • 00:17:51.722 --> 00:17:54.092
  • Your man might drive a Hyundai.And it may be a good car,
  • 00:17:54.092 --> 00:17:54.892
  • And it may be a good car,but you're feeding
  • 00:17:54.892 --> 00:17:56.928
  • but you're feedingthe fire of all of these ideals.
  • 00:17:56.928 --> 00:17:58.663
  • the fire of all of these ideals.Some of you men have gotten
  • 00:17:58.663 --> 00:17:59.797
  • Some of you men have gottenyour standard of beauty
  • 00:17:59.797 --> 00:18:01.566
  • your standard of beautyfrom people who are airbrushed.
  • 00:18:01.566 --> 00:18:02.533
  • from people who are airbrushed.No wonder your wife
  • 00:18:02.533 --> 00:18:03.734
  • No wonder your wifecan't satisfy you.
  • 00:18:03.734 --> 00:18:05.203
  • can't satisfy you.You're feeding the wrong fire.
  • 00:18:05.203 --> 00:18:08.072
  • You're feeding the wrong fire.[applause]
  • 00:18:08.072 --> 00:18:09.607
  • [applause]It's flaming up, and blazing up,
  • 00:18:09.607 --> 00:18:10.675
  • It's flaming up, and blazing up,and you're running the gas,
  • 00:18:10.675 --> 00:18:12.176
  • and you're running the gas,and you talk how you wanna talk,
  • 00:18:12.176 --> 00:18:13.344
  • and you talk how you wanna talk,and do what you wanna do,
  • 00:18:13.344 --> 00:18:14.545
  • and do what you wanna do,and say what you wanna say,
  • 00:18:14.545 --> 00:18:15.413
  • and say what you wanna say,and now you're wondering,
  • 00:18:15.413 --> 00:18:18.749
  • and now you're wondering,why can't I control this?
  • 00:18:18.749 --> 00:18:25.456
  • why can't I control this?Because you didn't control it.
  • 00:18:25.456 --> 00:18:26.424
  • Because you didn't control it.So what do we need?
  • 00:18:26.424 --> 00:18:32.797
  • So what do we need?We need a big ol' ice bucket.
  • 00:18:32.797 --> 00:18:33.431
  • We need a big ol' ice bucket.I thought about calling
  • 00:18:33.431 --> 00:18:37.235
  • I thought about callinga single person up here
  • 00:18:37.235 --> 00:18:38.369
  • a single person up hereand having our own little ice
  • 00:18:38.369 --> 00:18:39.937
  • and having our own little icebucket challenge.
  • 00:18:39.937 --> 00:18:42.640
  • bucket challenge.[laughter]
  • 00:18:42.640 --> 00:18:44.041
  • [laughter]You know, what the church does
  • 00:18:44.041 --> 00:18:45.042
  • You know, what the church doesand what I used to do
  • 00:18:45.042 --> 00:18:45.576
  • and what I used to doa lot of times
  • 00:18:45.576 --> 00:18:46.277
  • a lot of timeswhen I would preach about
  • 00:18:46.277 --> 00:18:47.745
  • when I would preach aboutthese topics --
  • 00:18:47.745 --> 00:18:48.779
  • these topics --I would think that the solution
  • 00:18:48.779 --> 00:18:50.248
  • I would think that the solutionfor sexual sin is
  • 00:18:50.248 --> 00:18:53.584
  • for sexual sin isa big ol' bucket of shame,
  • 00:18:53.584 --> 00:18:54.685
  • a big ol' bucket of shame,you know?
  • 00:18:54.685 --> 00:18:55.453
  • you know?So we'd just,
  • 00:18:55.453 --> 00:18:57.088
  • So we'd just,[hail sound]
  • 00:18:57.088 --> 00:19:00.291
  • [hail sound]you know -- something like that.
  • 00:19:00.291 --> 00:19:01.325
  • you know -- something like that.And all the sermons are
  • 00:19:01.325 --> 00:19:02.193
  • And all the sermons arebased around shame.
  • 00:19:02.193 --> 00:19:04.362
  • based around shame.It's like... [hail sound]
  • 00:19:04.362 --> 00:19:06.464
  • It's like... [hail sound]And that's effective
  • 00:19:06.464 --> 00:19:09.967
  • And that's effectivefor like three days.
  • 00:19:09.967 --> 00:19:11.335
  • for like three days.But then it flares
  • 00:19:11.335 --> 00:19:14.505
  • But then it flaresright back up.
  • 00:19:14.505 --> 00:19:15.473
  • right back up.Most of the time
  • 00:19:15.473 --> 00:19:16.374
  • Most of the timein our sexuality,
  • 00:19:16.374 --> 00:19:16.874
  • in our sexuality,shame is the source
  • 00:19:16.874 --> 00:19:18.442
  • shame is the sourceof our problem,
  • 00:19:18.442 --> 00:19:19.844
  • of our problem,so it can't be our solution.
  • 00:19:19.844 --> 00:19:29.053
  • so it can't be our solution.[applause]
  • 00:19:29.053 --> 00:19:29.754
  • [applause]Paul doesn't shame
  • 00:19:29.754 --> 00:19:31.122
  • He doesn't shame --
  • 00:19:32.290 --> 00:19:33.191
  • He doesn't shame --God doesn't shame you
  • 00:19:33.191 --> 00:19:35.960
  • God doesn't shame youfor your struggles.
  • 00:19:35.960 --> 00:19:38.462
  • for your struggles.For your passions.
  • 00:19:38.462 --> 00:19:39.564
  • For your passions.He simply wants you to get 'em
  • 00:19:39.564 --> 00:19:44.202
  • He simply wants you to get 'emin the right place.
  • 00:19:44.202 --> 00:19:45.903
  • in the right place.And see, we talked about Moses.
  • 00:19:45.903 --> 00:19:46.637
  • And see, we talked about Moses.How he misplaced
  • 00:19:46.637 --> 00:19:49.307
  • but check this out.
  • 00:19:50.808 --> 00:19:53.911
  • but check this out.Forty years later, Exodus 3:1.
  • 00:19:53.911 --> 00:19:55.446
  • Forty years later, Exodus 3:1.It says that one day Moses was
  • 00:19:55.446 --> 00:19:57.415
  • It says that one day Moses wastending the flock of Jethro,
  • 00:19:57.415 --> 00:19:59.250
  • tending the flock of Jethro,his father-in-law,
  • 00:19:59.250 --> 00:20:01.252
  • his father-in-law,the priest of Midian.
  • 00:20:01.252 --> 00:20:01.919
  • the priest of Midian.So he was just doing
  • 00:20:01.919 --> 00:20:04.555
  • So he was just doinghis basic responsibility.
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  • his basic responsibility.He had gone on about his life.
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  • He had gone on about his life.And he led the flock
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  • And he led the flockto the far side
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  • to the far sideof the wilderness
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  • of the wildernessand came to Horeb,
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  • and came to Horeb,the mountain of God.
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  • the mountain of God.So he was out
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  • So he was outin a lonely place.
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  • in a lonely place.And God shows up
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  • And God shows upand appears to Moses,
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  • and appears to Moses,but He did it in a lonely place
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  • but He did it in a lonely placewhile Moses was simply
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  • while Moses was simplydoing his job.
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  • doing his job.Would that not be a good word
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  • Would that not be a good wordfor a single person
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  • for a single personin this church today?
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  • in this church today?You tend the flock
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  • You tend the flockthat God has given you?
  • 00:20:30.214 --> 00:20:31.048
  • that God has given you?Be faithful in the place
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  • Be faithful in the placewhere He's positioned you?
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  • where He's positioned you?And watch what God did.
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  • And watch what God did.It said then the angel
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  • It said then the angelof the Lord appeared to him
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  • of the Lord appeared to himin flames of fire
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  • in flames of firefrom within a bush.
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  • from within a bush.So Moses saw -- remember
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  • So Moses saw -- rememberwhen he looked the first time
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  • when he looked the first timeafter he'd killed the Egyptian,
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  • after he'd killed the Egyptian,and he looked, and he saw,
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  • and he looked, and he saw,and nobody was there?
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  • and nobody was there?And so he thought
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  • And so he thoughthe got away with it,
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  • he got away with it,but he really didn't
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  • but he really didn't'cause he tried to fulfill
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  • 'cause he tried to fulfillthe right passion
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  • the right passionin the wrong way?
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  • in the wrong way?But watch this.
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  • But watch this.This time he saw
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  • This time he sawthat though the bush was
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  • that though the bush wason fire, it did not burn up.
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  • on fire, it did not burn up.And so he thought, I'll go over
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  • And so he thought, I'll go overand see this strange sight --
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  • and see this strange sight --why the bush does not burn up.
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  • why the bush does not burn up.And when the Lord saw
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  • And when the Lord sawhe had gone over to look,
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  • he had gone over to look,God called to him
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  • God called to himfrom within the bush:
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  • from within the bush:Moses, Moses!
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  • Moses, Moses!And Moses said, here I am.
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  • And Moses said, here I am.Now here's what
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  • Now here's whatthe Lord spoke to me.
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  • the Lord spoke to me.He said when I am the center
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  • He said when I am the centerof your passion,
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  • of your passion,your life will burn,
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  • your life will burn,but it won't burn up.
  • 00:21:31.175 --> 00:21:32.176
  • but it won't burn up.When I am the center
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  • When I am the centerof a relationship, it'll burn,
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  • of a relationship, it'll burn,but it won't burn up.
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  • but it won't burn up.See, lust can set you on fire,
  • 00:21:41.085 --> 00:21:44.155
  • See, lust can set you on fire,but only God can set you on fire
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  • but only God can set you on fireand keep you on fire.
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  • and keep you on fire.[applause]
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  • [applause]Anybody can light
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  • Anybody can lighta bush on fire, but only God
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  • a bush on fire, but only Godcan get in the middle of a bush,
  • 00:21:57.068 --> 00:21:59.003
  • can get in the middle of a bush,and light it on fire,
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  • and light it on fire,but although it's on fire --
  • 00:22:00.371 --> 00:22:02.506
  • but although it's on fire --and what we want in this church,
  • 00:22:02.506 --> 00:22:03.341
  • and what we want in this church,and what God wants
  • 00:22:03.341 --> 00:22:05.176
  • and what God wantsfor your life is a passion
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  • for your life is a passionthat stays on fire.
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  • that stays on fire.Not this little cheap,
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  • Not this little cheap,imitation infatuation,
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  • imitation infatuation,false flame garbage
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  • false flame garbagethat burns you out,
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  • that burns you out,and creates new patterns
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  • and creates new patternsof processing information
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  • of processing informationin your brain that
  • 00:22:19.590 --> 00:22:20.591
  • in your brain thatwill cause you trouble
  • 00:22:20.591 --> 00:22:21.892
  • will cause you troublefor the rest of your life.
  • 00:22:21.892 --> 00:22:24.762
  • for the rest of your life.The enemy wants to burn you out,
  • 00:22:24.762 --> 00:22:26.464
  • The enemy wants to burn you out,but God wants to set passion
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  • but God wants to set passionon fire in your life,
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  • on fire in your life,and put it in a place
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  • and put it in a placewhere it will burn,
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  • where it will burn,but not burn out.
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  • but not burn out.How many of you want
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  • How many of you wanta holy passion
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  • a holy passionthat doesn't burn out?
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  • that doesn't burn out?[applause]
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  • [applause]Relationships that
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  • Relationships thatdon't burn out?
  • 00:22:43.381 --> 00:22:45.282
  • don't burn out?Fires and pursuits
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  • Fires and pursuitsthat don't burn out?
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  • that don't burn out?That burn up --
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  • That burn up --that are alive and lighting,
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  • that are alive and lighting,but grow brighter and brighter
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  • but grow brighter and brighteras the seasons go by?
  • 00:22:53.157 --> 00:22:54.492
  • as the seasons go by?God's desire for you isn't
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  • God's desire for you isn'tjust that you would have
  • 00:22:55.593 --> 00:22:57.695
  • just that you would havethe passing pleasure of sin
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  • the passing pleasure of sinfor a season, but that you would
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  • for a season, but that you wouldknow the pleasure of passion
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  • know the pleasure of passionthat comes from His purpose.
  • 00:23:02.400 --> 00:23:04.068
  • that comes from His purpose.That it would burn from within,
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  • That it would burn from within,and not burn out.
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  • and not burn out.[applause]
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  • [applause]Some of you been feeding
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  • Some of you been feedingthe wrong fires, see?
  • 00:23:17.014 --> 00:23:18.449
  • the wrong fires, see?And yet it's not enough
  • 00:23:18.449 --> 00:23:22.153
  • And yet it's not enoughjust to starve the wrong fires,
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  • just to starve the wrong fires,but God told me --
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  • but God told me --I said God, well, if shame
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  • I said God, well, if shameisn't the solution to this,
  • 00:23:26.190 --> 00:23:28.359
  • isn't the solution to this,then what is?
  • 00:23:28.359 --> 00:23:29.126
  • then what is?And He said I want you
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  • And He said I want youto tell everybody
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  • to tell everybodywho's struggling
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  • who's strugglingwith their desires
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  • with their desiresthat are burning a hole inside
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  • that are burning a hole insideof them today --
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  • of them today --I want you to tell 'em
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  • I want you to tell 'emthat they need
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  • that they needto fight fire with fire.
  • 00:23:40.671 --> 00:23:44.942
  • to fight fire with fire.Fight fire with fire.
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  • Fight fire with fire.Not with shame.
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  • Not with shame.Shame isn't gonna help this.
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  • Shame isn't gonna help this.You've tried that.
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  • You've tried that.Shame doesn't
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  • Shame doesn'tmake you any better.
  • 00:23:49.914 --> 00:23:50.648
  • make you any better.It just drives you deeper
  • 00:23:50.648 --> 00:23:53.150
  • It just drives you deeperinto your own dysfunction
  • 00:23:53.150 --> 00:23:53.951
  • into your own dysfunctionand isolates you
  • 00:23:53.951 --> 00:23:57.621
  • and isolates youfrom people who could help you.
  • 00:23:57.621 --> 00:23:59.390
  • from people who could help you.But the scripture says --
  • 00:23:59.390 --> 00:24:00.024
  • But the scripture says --watch this.
  • 00:24:00.024 --> 00:24:05.763
  • watch this.Our God is a consuming fire.
  • 00:24:05.763 --> 00:24:06.397
  • Our God is a consuming fire.So what do you do
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  • So what do you doif you're consumed
  • 00:24:07.064 --> 00:24:08.632
  • if you're consumedwith the wrong passions?
  • 00:24:08.632 --> 00:24:10.334
  • with the wrong passions?Here's an idea.
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  • Here's an idea.Get more consumed
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  • - Alright, let's interact
  • 00:24:15.573 --> 00:24:16.440
  • - Alright, let's interactfor a moment.
  • 00:24:16.440 --> 00:24:16.941
  • for a moment.Just pretend like
  • 00:24:16.941 --> 00:24:17.775
  • Just pretend likeI'm there with you.
  • 00:24:17.775 --> 00:24:19.777
  • I'm there with you.Have you ever experienced
  • 00:24:19.777 --> 00:24:21.912
  • Have you ever experienceda challenging relationship?
  • 00:24:21.912 --> 00:24:24.081
  • a challenging relationship?Holly, do this, do this.
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  • Holly, do this, do this.Okay, be careful how you respond
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  • Okay, be careful how you respondif you're sitting
  • 00:24:26.183 --> 00:24:26.717
  • if you're sittingin your living room
  • 00:24:26.717 --> 00:24:28.419
  • in your living roomwatching this with your spouse
  • 00:24:28.419 --> 00:24:30.387
  • watching this with your spouseor someone that you love.
  • 00:24:30.387 --> 00:24:32.223
  • or someone that you love.the truth is relationships
  • 00:24:32.223 --> 00:24:34.358
  • the truth is relationshipsare challenging by design.
  • 00:24:34.358 --> 00:24:35.926
  • are challenging by design.It's how God grows us,
  • 00:24:35.926 --> 00:24:38.128
  • It's how God grows us,but it's He's intention for you
  • 00:24:38.128 --> 00:24:39.363
  • but it's He's intention for youto do more than just survive
  • 00:24:39.363 --> 00:24:40.898
  • to do more than just surviveyour relationships.
  • 00:24:40.898 --> 00:24:42.066
  • your relationships.I believe He wants you
  • 00:24:42.066 --> 00:24:42.933
  • I believe He wants youto thrive in them,
  • 00:24:42.933 --> 00:24:43.567
  • to thrive in them,and He's Word
  • 00:24:43.567 --> 00:24:44.335
  • and He's Wordgives us the tools
  • 00:24:44.335 --> 00:24:45.736
  • gives us the toolsto make that possible.
  • 00:24:45.736 --> 00:24:47.738
  • to make that possible.So, today, I have special
  • 00:24:47.738 --> 00:24:49.707
  • So, today, I have specialmost requested resource
  • 00:24:49.707 --> 00:24:50.875
  • most requested resourcethat I want to send to you.
  • 00:24:50.875 --> 00:24:52.743
  • that I want to send to you.It's called, "Meant to Be."
  • 00:24:52.743 --> 00:24:53.444
  • It's called, "Meant to Be."It will show you
  • 00:24:53.444 --> 00:24:54.311
  • It will show yousome of the Bible's
  • 00:24:54.311 --> 00:24:56.947
  • some of the Bible'sbest kept secrets
  • 00:24:56.947 --> 00:24:59.149
  • best kept secretsabout sex, shh,
  • 00:24:59.149 --> 00:25:01.218
  • about sex, shh,marriage, and being single.
  • 00:25:01.218 --> 00:25:02.186
  • marriage, and being single.- It's so good,
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  • - It's so good,and it's really not
  • 00:25:03.187 --> 00:25:05.322
  • and it's really notjust a relationship series.
  • 00:25:05.322 --> 00:25:06.891
  • just a relationship series.This resource truly
  • 00:25:06.891 --> 00:25:07.558
  • This resource trulyhas the power
  • 00:25:07.558 --> 00:25:08.559
  • has the powerto impact your life.
  • 00:25:08.559 --> 00:25:10.261
  • to impact your life.We've heard stories of marriages
  • 00:25:10.261 --> 00:25:11.562
  • We've heard stories of marriagesthat were restored,
  • 00:25:11.562 --> 00:25:13.097
  • that were restored,and single people that learned
  • 00:25:13.097 --> 00:25:14.231
  • and single people that learnedto embrace the season
  • 00:25:14.231 --> 00:25:15.332
  • to embrace the seasonthat they're in instead
  • 00:25:15.332 --> 00:25:16.800
  • that they're in insteadof focusing on the relationships
  • 00:25:16.800 --> 00:25:18.168
  • of focusing on the relationshipsthat they don't have.
  • 00:25:18.168 --> 00:25:19.503
  • that they don't have.I know that this series
  • 00:25:19.503 --> 00:25:20.871
  • I know that this seriesis going to help you
  • 00:25:20.871 --> 00:25:22.940
  • is going to help youlike it has so many already.
  • 00:25:22.940 --> 00:25:23.941
  • like it has so many already.- And we want to help you,
  • 00:25:23.941 --> 00:25:24.808
  • - And we want to help you,we're here to help to you.
  • 00:25:24.808 --> 00:25:25.743
  • we're here to help to you.so, I'm going to send you
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  • so, I'm going to send youthis resource "Meant to be"
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  • this resource "Meant to be"with your gift of any amount
  • 00:25:28.812 --> 00:25:30.781
  • with your gift of any amountto the ministry today.
  • 00:25:30.781 --> 00:25:32.349
  • to the ministry today.Just go online right now
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  • Just go online right nowor call the number
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  • or call the numberon the screen right now,
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  • on the screen right now,and request your copy
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  • and request your copyof "Meant to Be".
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  • of "Meant to Be".Say, "I want it,"
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  • Say, "I want it,"and we'll get it out
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  • and we'll get it outto you right away.
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  • to you right away.Here's some more info as well as
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  • Here's some more info as well assome additional resources
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  • - When it comes
  • 00:25:46.163 --> 00:25:47.765
  • to seeking advice
  • 00:25:47.765 --> 00:25:48.599
  • about relationships, marriage,
  • 00:25:48.599 --> 00:25:50.034
  • and sex, we tend to look
  • 00:25:50.034 --> 00:25:52.036
  • in all the wrong places.
  • 00:25:52.036 --> 00:25:52.570
  • The world claims
  • 00:25:52.570 --> 00:25:53.671
  • to have the answers,
  • 00:25:53.671 --> 00:25:54.705
  • but maybe we've been focusing
  • 00:25:54.705 --> 00:25:57.174
  • on the wrong problem all along.
  • 00:25:57.174 --> 00:25:58.876
  • In our series, "Meant to Be",
  • 00:25:58.876 --> 00:25:59.944
  • Pastor Steven Furtick
  • 00:25:59.944 --> 00:26:01.512
  • has open conversations
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  • to help us uncover
  • 00:26:02.947 --> 00:26:04.315
  • the Bible's best kept secrets
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  • about sex, marriage,
  • 00:26:05.449 --> 00:26:06.817
  • - Most of the emphasis,
  • 00:26:08.218 --> 00:26:09.553
  • - Most of the emphasis,when you talk about dating,
  • 00:26:09.553 --> 00:26:10.921
  • when you talk about dating,and marriage, and singleness,
  • 00:26:10.921 --> 00:26:11.989
  • and marriage, and singleness,in culture seems to be
  • 00:26:11.989 --> 00:26:14.124
  • in culture seems to beon finding the right one.
  • 00:26:14.124 --> 00:26:15.526
  • on finding the right one.Most of the emphasis,
  • 00:26:15.526 --> 00:26:16.827
  • Most of the emphasis,when you come to the scripture,
  • 00:26:16.827 --> 00:26:18.529
  • when you come to the scripture,tends to be on being
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  • - For your gift of any amount
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  • we'll send you
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  • the five-part
  • 00:26:22.266 --> 00:26:23.434
  • Meant To Be series,
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  • which includes a message
  • 00:26:24.602 --> 00:26:25.436
  • with Pastor Steven
  • 00:26:25.436 --> 00:26:26.770
  • and his wife Holly,
  • 00:26:26.770 --> 00:26:27.438
  • where they share
  • 00:26:27.438 --> 00:26:28.272
  • personal examples
  • 00:26:28.272 --> 00:26:30.174
  • and scriptural insight on how
  • 00:26:30.174 --> 00:26:31.275
  • we can invite God to work
  • 00:26:31.275 --> 00:26:31.976
  • in our everyday
  • 00:26:31.976 --> 00:26:33.711
  • relationship challenges.
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  • Pastor Steven also explains
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  • the unnecessary complications
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  • that sidetrack us
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  • in relationships,
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  • and he shows us
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  • what is truly meant to be
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  • in our lives
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  • when we have Jesus
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  • - I've been told all my life
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  • - I've been told all my lifeto put Jesus first,
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  • to put Jesus first,but that doesn't work,
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  • but that doesn't work,because that separates him out
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  • because that separates him outfrom everything else.
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  • from everything else.Live as if Jesus
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  • Live as if Jesuswas not first on your list,
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  • was not first on your list,but that He was
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  • - Visit us online
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  • at stevenfurtick.com,
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  • or call us at the number
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  • on your screen
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  • to get your copy
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  • - You turn my mourning
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  • - ♪ You turn mourning ♪
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  • ♪ To dancing ♪
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  • ♪ You give beauty ♪
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  • ♪ You turn shame ♪
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  • ♪ You're the only ♪
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  • ♪ One who can ♪
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