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It Is Good For A Man Not To Have Sexual Relations With A Woman Part 2

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February 15, 2021
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It Is Good For A Man Not To Have Sexual Relations With A Woman Part 2

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  • - ANNOUNCER: If you're looking
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  • this is a great place to start.
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  • But this is more than just
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  • a TV episode,
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  • it's an opportunity to connect
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  • with a growing community
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  • of believers all over the world.
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  • It's as simple as joining us
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  • worship experiences,
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  • hear incredible preaching,
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  • in the community of people
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  • tuning in,
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  • just like yourself.
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  • Join us online this weekend at
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  • - I want to talk for a second
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  • - I want to talk for a secondabout suggestions and standards.
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  • about suggestions and standards.Suggestions and standards.
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  • Suggestions and standards.Paul says, "In the church
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  • Paul says, "In the churchthere is sexual immorality
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  • there is sexual immoralitythat is occurring."
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  • that is occurring."That means there's
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  • That means there'sstill a standard.
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  • still a standard.If there's such a thing
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  • If there's such a thingas sexual immorality,
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  • as sexual immorality,there's such a thing
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  • there's such a thingas sexual morality.
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  • as sexual morality.That means there's still
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  • That means there's stilla right way to do sexuality.
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  • a right way to do sexuality.And here it is.
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  • And here it is.He defines it.
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  • He defines it.We don't have to make this stuff
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  • We don't have to make this stuffup because the bible gives
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  • up because the bible givesit to us straight.
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  • it to us straight.Here is God's sexual standard.
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  • Here is God's sexual standard.It's so clear.
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  • It's so clear.Verse two.
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  • Verse two.People ask us all the time,
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  • People ask us all the time,"What is the church's
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  • "What is the church'sposition on this....?"
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  • position on this....?"They say that all the time.
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  • They say that all the time.That's exactly how they say it.
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  • That's exactly how they say it.[Mumbles]
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  • [Mumbles]And so we say this.
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  • And so we say this.We say, "Okay.
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  • We say, "Okay.1 Corinthians 7:2."
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  • 1 Corinthians 7:2."I'm not making something up.
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  • I'm not making something up.Each man should have
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  • Each man should havesexual relations
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  • sexual relationswith his own wife
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  • with his own wifeand each woman with her
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  • and each woman with herown husband.
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  • own husband.That's like what we believe.
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  • That's like what we believe.Let's read it again.
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  • Let's read it again.Out loud together as a class.
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  • Out loud together as a class.Each man should have
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  • Each man should havesexual relations
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  • sexual relationswith his own wife
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  • with his own wifeand each woman with her
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  • and each woman with herown husband.
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  • own husband."But I don't have a husband."
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  • "But I don't have a husband."Then you don't get
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  • Then you don't getto have sex yet.
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  • to have sex yet."I don't have a wife."
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  • "I don't have a wife."Then you don't get
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  • Then you don't getto have sex yet.
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  • to have sex yet.There's still a standard.
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  • There's still a standard.This is not a suggestion
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  • This is not a suggestionand God does not impose
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  • and God does not imposestandards on you to make
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  • standards on you to makeyour life more miserable.
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  • your life more miserable.You know what fascinated me?
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  • You know what fascinated me?A friend of mine told me
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  • A friend of mine told methis the other day.
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  • this the other day.I never saw it before.
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  • I never saw it before.He said, "Did you notice what
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  • He said, "Did you notice whatGod did in the garden to
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  • God did in the garden toAdam before He gave him Eve?"
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  • Adam before He gave him Eve?"I said, "No, I never thought
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  • I said, "No, I never thoughtabout it."
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  • about it."Well in Genesis 2:18,
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  • Well in Genesis 2:18,it says it's not good for man
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  • it says it's not good for manto be alone.
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  • to be alone.But in Genesis 2:17,
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  • But in Genesis 2:17,God shows the man the tree
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  • God shows the man the treein the garden
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  • in the gardenthat he is not to touch,
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  • that he is not to touch,and he says,
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  • and he says,"You can eat of any tree
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  • "You can eat of any treeexcept this one,
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  • except this one,for when you touch this one,
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  • for when you touch this one,you will surely die."
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  • you will surely die."And then in verse 18,
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  • And then in verse 18,He gives him Eve.
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  • He gives him Eve.So watch this.
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  • So watch this.God sets the boundaries before
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  • God sets the boundaries beforeHe gives Adam the blessing.
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  • He gives Adam the blessing.Because He knows if He gives you
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  • Because He knows if He gives youa blessing and doesn't give you
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  • a blessing and doesn't give youany boundaries,
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  • any boundaries,it won't be a blessing anymore.
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  • it won't be a blessing anymore.And none of us in this church
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  • And none of us in this churchreally believe that there should
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  • really believe that there shouldbe no sexual standards.
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  • be no sexual standards.And all of us in this church
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  • And all of us in this churchhave known someone who has been
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  • have known someone who has beenthe victim of someone whose
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  • the victim of someone whosesexual passion created in
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  • sexual passion created ina way a type of sick obsession.
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  • a way a type of sick obsession.We've all known somebody who was
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  • We've all known somebody who wastouched inappropriately,
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  • touched inappropriately,violated inappropriately.
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  • violated inappropriately.It's not that anybody
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  • It's not that anybodyin the church thinks there
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  • in the church thinks thereshouldn't be any
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  • shouldn't be anysexual standards.
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  • sexual standards.We just all want to define
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  • We just all want to definewhat they are.
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  • what they are.There's a real problem
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  • There's a real problemwith that.
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  • with that.And so there is a standard.
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  • And so there is a standard.There is a standard.
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  • There is a standard.There's still a standard.
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  • There's still a standard.Each man should have
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  • Each man should havesexual relations
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  • sexual relationswith his own wife.
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  • with his own wife.If she's your girlfriend,
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  • If she's your girlfriend,she's not your wife.
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  • she's not your wife.And each woman
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  • And each womanwith her own husband.
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  • with her own husband.Okay.
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  • Okay.I had my first person walk out.
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  • I had my first person walk out.So I'm doing good now.
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  • So I'm doing good now.I'm doing good.
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  • I'm doing good.Have a good trip home.
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  • Have a good trip home.Amen.
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  • Amen.And I'm not ashamed to talk
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  • And I'm not ashamed to talkabout these standards.
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  • about these standards.Because when you go against
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  • Because when you go againstGod's standards,
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  • God's standards,you don't break the standard.
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  • you don't break the standard.The standard breaks you.
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  • The standard breaks you.And so we need
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  • And so we needto raise a standard.
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  • to raise a standard.We're going to do that
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  • We're going to do thatin this series.
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  • in this series.There's still a standard.
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  • There's still a standard.The next two words we'll talk
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  • The next two words we'll talkabout -- I only have four
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  • about -- I only have fourof these, so we're over
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  • of these, so we're overhalfway done with this
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  • halfway done with thisuncomfortable sermon.
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  • uncomfortable sermon.Which is the least uncomfortable
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  • Which is the least uncomfortableof all in
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  • of all inthe five-sermon series.
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  • the five-sermon series.See you next week.
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  • See you next week.I'll talk about
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  • I'll talk aboutdesire and duty.
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  • desire and duty.Desire and duty.
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  • Desire and duty.Desire and duty.
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  • Desire and duty.Look at verse three.
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  • Look at verse three.Is it all right if I just teach
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  • Is it all right if I just teachyou verse by verse like this?
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  • you verse by verse like this?- CONGREGATION: Yes.
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  • - CONGREGATION: Yes.Okay.
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  • Okay.He says, "The husband
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  • He says, "The husbandshould fulfill his marital duty
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  • should fulfill his marital dutyto his wife."
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  • to his wife."He's talking in the context
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  • He's talking in the contextof sexuality.
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  • of sexuality.And he says, "Hey dude,
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  • And he says, "Hey dude,you got a job to do at home."
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  • you got a job to do at home."Now I know this isn't
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  • Now I know this isn'tthe romantic language
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  • the romantic languagein the world.
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  • in the world.How many of you women,
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  • How many of you women,when you used to fantasize
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  • when you used to fantasizeabout the man you would
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  • about the man you wouldmeet one day, you prayed that
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  • meet one day, you prayed thathe would see you as his duty?
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  • he would see you as his duty?Raise your hands please.
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  • Raise your hands please."I just want a man that puts me
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  • "I just want a man that puts meon the same list as taking out
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  • on the same list as taking outthe trash and washing dishes
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  • the trash and washing dishesand paying bills."
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  • and paying bills."But he says here, "The husband
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  • But he says here, "The husbandshould fulfill his marital,"
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  • should fulfill his marital,"let's say the word, "Duty."
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  • let's say the word, "Duty."He doesn't say anything about
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  • He doesn't say anything aboutthe husband fulfilling
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  • the husband fulfillinghis sexual desire.
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  • his sexual desire.Why?
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  • Why?Because desire is meant to be
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  • Because desire is meant to bea byproduct in relationship,
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  • a byproduct in relationship,not a goal.
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  • not a goal.He said, "The husband
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  • He said, "The husbandshould fulfill his marital duty
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  • should fulfill his marital dutyto his wife."
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  • to his wife."This includes sexuality.
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  • This includes sexuality.This includes emotions.
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  • This includes emotions.This includes
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  • This includesphysical provision.
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  • physical provision."And likewise the wife to
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  • "And likewise the wife toher husband."
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  • her husband."Look at verse four.
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  • Look at verse four."The wife does not have
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  • "The wife does not haveauthority over her own body
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  • authority over her own bodybut yields it to her husband."
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  • but yields it to her husband."I just saw a lot of
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  • I just saw a lot ofcrossed female arms.
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  • crossed female arms.But before all of you men
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  • But before all of you mengo home and make magnets
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  • go home and make magnetsfor your refrigerator
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  • for your refrigeratorwith 1 Corinthians 7:4,
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  • with 1 Corinthians 7:4,like, "That's my verse yo!
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  • like, "That's my verse yo!Now you're preaching."
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  • Now you're preaching."Before you do it -- because in
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  • Before you do it -- because ina misogynistic society
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  • a misogynistic societywhere men often saw women
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  • where men often saw womenas their property,
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  • as their property,all the men in
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  • all the men inthe Corinthian church
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  • the Corinthian churchwere saying amen right here.
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  • were saying amen right here.But then Paul flips it and says
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  • But then Paul flips it and sayssomething that would've been
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  • something that would've beenvery controversial
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  • very controversialand uncommon in the day.
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  • and uncommon in the day.He introduces a concept
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  • He introduces a conceptcalled mutual submission.
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  • called mutual submission.Watch this.
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  • Watch this."In the same way, the husband
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  • "In the same way, the husbanddoes not have authority over
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  • does not have authority overhis own body but yields it
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  • his own body but yields itto his wife."
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  • to his wife."And so if I could break it down
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  • And so if I could break it downin a contemporary version
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  • in a contemporary versionof what I think Paul is trying
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  • of what I think Paul is tryingto say, it's not about you, boo.
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  • to say, it's not about you, boo.Inform the person next to you.
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  • Inform the person next to you.It's not about you, boo, boo.
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  • It's not about you, boo, boo.It's just not
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  • It's just notin a biblical context.
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  • in a biblical context.Like if you want to do what
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  • Like if you want to do whatthe world does, it's all going
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  • the world does, it's all goingto be led by desire.
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  • to be led by desire.So whatever you feel like,
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  • So whatever you feel like,whatever you want,
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  • whatever you want,you're going to take it.
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  • you're going to take it.And then you're going to take it
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  • And then you're going to take itand then you're going to
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  • and then you're going toconsume it.
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  • consume it.And then it's going to end up
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  • And then it's going to end upcreating reactions in your life
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  • creating reactions in your lifeand habits and addictions
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  • and habits and addictionsin your life because you're led
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  • in your life because you're ledby your desire.
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  • by your desire.But Paul doesn't talk about
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  • But Paul doesn't talk aboutdesire here.
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  • desire here.Like desire is a good thing.
  • 00:07:03.241 --> 00:07:04.643
  • Like desire is a good thing.We all have desire.
  • 00:07:04.643 --> 00:07:06.044
  • We all have desire.Desire can light a fire
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  • Desire can light a firebut only duty can
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  • but only duty cankeep it burning.
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  • keep it burning.Now I'm a fan of marriage.
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  • Now I'm a fan of marriage.It is never a job to be
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  • It is never a job to bemarried to Holly, ever.
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  • married to Holly, ever.Ever.
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  • Ever.and she would say
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  • and she would saythe same about me.
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  • the same about me.But assuming I could relate
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  • But assuming I could relateto this verse,
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  • to this verse,I'm trying to scare
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  • I'm trying to scaresome of you off from
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  • some of you off fromyour ideal of marriage.
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  • your ideal of marriage.The other day we were looking
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  • The other day we were lookingat some really cute pictures
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  • at some really cute picturesof the kids and they were being
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  • of the kids and they were beingobnoxious in the house
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  • obnoxious in the houseand I had this thought.
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  • and I had this thought.Sometimes I like looking
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  • Sometimes I like lookingat pictures of them better than
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  • at pictures of them better thanactually being with them.
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  • actually being with them.You can pose them like
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  • You can pose them likeyou want to and go through
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  • you want to and go throughthe good ones and filter it.
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  • the good ones and filter it.A lot of you are in love
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  • A lot of you are in lovewith the picture of marriage,
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  • with the picture of marriage,the picture of relationships.
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  • the picture of relationships.But then we introduce
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  • But then we introducea word like duty.
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  • a word like duty.That word doesn't even sound --
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  • That word doesn't even sound --that's like the most unromantic
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  • that's like the most unromanticsounding word
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  • sounding wordand it's the one Paul uses.
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  • and it's the one Paul uses.He said it's a duty sometimes.
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  • He said it's a duty sometimes.And we got all these people
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  • And we got all these peoplegoing into marriages based
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  • going into marriages basedout of desire and not knowing
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  • out of desire and not knowingabout the duty.
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  • about the duty.Like if you're going to
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  • Like if you're going toget married, you better be ready
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  • get married, you better be readyto go to work some days.
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  • to go to work some days.Not just go to work.
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  • Not just go to work.You're going to go to work
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  • You're going to go to workand do a job, then you're going
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  • and do a job, then you're goingto come home and do another job.
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  • to come home and do another job.Because it takes work
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  • Because it takes workto make this thing work.
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  • to make this thing work."My marriage isn't working."
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  • "My marriage isn't working."Because you're not.
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  • Because you're not.If you went to your job
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  • If you went to your joblike you came home,
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  • like you came home,you wouldn't have a job.
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  • you wouldn't have a job.Is this okay?
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  • Is this okay?- CONGREGATION: Yes.
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  • - CONGREGATION: Yes.- We'll have plenty of
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  • - We'll have plenty ofempty seats next week if you
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  • empty seats next week if youwant to bring a
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  • want to bring afirst-time guest.
  • 00:09:05.430 --> 00:09:06.364
  • first-time guest.I know some of y'all are in
  • 00:09:06.364 --> 00:09:07.332
  • I know some of y'all are inoverflow today but we'll be able
  • 00:09:07.332 --> 00:09:08.433
  • overflow today but we'll be ableto accommodate your friends
  • 00:09:08.433 --> 00:09:10.168
  • to accommodate your friendsand family members next week.
  • 00:09:10.168 --> 00:09:10.802
  • and family members next week.I have a feeling
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  • I have a feelingthis is a space-maker.
  • 00:09:16.241 --> 00:09:19.744
  • this is a space-maker.But somebody needs to say this.
  • 00:09:19.744 --> 00:09:21.246
  • But somebody needs to say this.Somebody needs to tell you.
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  • Somebody needs to tell you.And sometimes you come home
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  • And sometimes you come homeand you have to do a drive by
  • 00:09:25.483 --> 00:09:27.552
  • and you have to do a drive bybefore you pull in your driveway
  • 00:09:27.552 --> 00:09:29.387
  • before you pull in your drivewayand just do a couple laps
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  • and just do a couple lapsbefore you can go inside
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  • before you can go insideand face what's going on inside
  • 00:09:33.491 --> 00:09:34.359
  • and face what's going on insidebecause sometimes
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  • because sometimesit's not pretty like a picture.
  • 00:09:40.498 --> 00:09:45.236
  • it's not pretty like a picture.Sometimes it's challenging.
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  • Sometimes it's challenging.Yeah, sometimes it's difficult
  • 00:09:47.539 --> 00:09:48.640
  • Yeah, sometimes it's difficultto go through different seasons
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  • to go through different seasonsand you change and they change
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  • and you change and they changeand maybe they change in a way
  • 00:09:50.909 --> 00:09:51.743
  • and maybe they change in a waythat you don't change,
  • 00:09:51.743 --> 00:09:52.577
  • that you don't change,and you've got to accommodate
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  • and you've got to accommodateeach other.
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  • each other.and where are you now?
  • 00:09:53.912 --> 00:09:55.113
  • and where are you now?And I got to overlook offense.
  • 00:09:55.113 --> 00:09:56.081
  • And I got to overlook offense.I know what you look like
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  • I know what you look likewhen you first wake up
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  • when you first wake upand you know what I look like
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  • and you know what I look likeat the end of a hard day.
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  • at the end of a hard day.And we're not fooling each other
  • 00:10:00.485 --> 00:10:01.286
  • And we're not fooling each otheranymore because we had
  • 00:10:01.286 --> 00:10:02.520
  • anymore because we hada whole lot of pre-memorize,
  • 00:10:02.520 --> 00:10:03.488
  • a whole lot of pre-memorize,pre-programmed stuff that we did
  • 00:10:03.488 --> 00:10:04.589
  • pre-programmed stuff that we didfor each other during dating.
  • 00:10:04.589 --> 00:10:05.857
  • for each other during dating.and all that crap's out
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  • and all that crap's outthe window now because it
  • 00:10:06.725 --> 00:10:08.326
  • the window now because itjust got real.
  • 00:10:08.326 --> 00:10:09.294
  • just got real.And without a sense
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  • And without a senseof commitment,
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  • of commitment,if you come in here
  • 00:10:11.162 --> 00:10:12.197
  • if you come in hereto this marriage thing,
  • 00:10:12.197 --> 00:10:13.632
  • to this marriage thing,this relationship thing,
  • 00:10:13.632 --> 00:10:14.633
  • this relationship thing,this life thing, with
  • 00:10:14.633 --> 00:10:16.735
  • this life thing, with"What can I get out of it?"
  • 00:10:16.735 --> 00:10:18.637
  • "What can I get out of it?"You've missed the point,
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  • You've missed the point,Paul says.
  • 00:10:20.839 --> 00:10:22.273
  • Paul says.He says come to it, whether
  • 00:10:22.273 --> 00:10:24.809
  • He says come to it, whetherit's sexually, emotionally,
  • 00:10:24.809 --> 00:10:26.544
  • it's sexually, emotionally,relationally, come to it not for
  • 00:10:26.544 --> 00:10:27.679
  • relationally, come to it not forwhat you can get
  • 00:10:27.679 --> 00:10:31.049
  • what you can getbut what you can give.
  • 00:10:31.049 --> 00:10:35.553
  • but what you can give.You are giving yourself away.
  • 00:10:35.553 --> 00:10:36.855
  • You are giving yourself away.And I think a whole lot of us
  • 00:10:36.855 --> 00:10:39.524
  • And I think a whole lot of uswant the gift of a relationship
  • 00:10:39.524 --> 00:10:40.825
  • want the gift of a relationshipwithout the giving of ourselves
  • 00:10:40.825 --> 00:10:44.596
  • without the giving of ourselvesin a relationship.
  • 00:10:44.596 --> 00:10:45.730
  • in a relationship.I think a whole lot of us
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  • I think a whole lot of usare messed up about this.
  • 00:10:48.400 --> 00:10:50.335
  • are messed up about this.Marriage is the best thing
  • 00:10:50.335 --> 00:10:52.804
  • Marriage is the best thingbut it's not the easiest thing.
  • 00:10:52.804 --> 00:10:54.305
  • but it's not the easiest thing.And if you go in knowing that,
  • 00:10:54.305 --> 00:10:55.206
  • And if you go in knowing that,you'll probably have
  • 00:10:55.206 --> 00:10:56.341
  • you'll probably havea blessed marriage.
  • 00:10:56.341 --> 00:10:56.908
  • a blessed marriage.If you don't,
  • 00:10:56.908 --> 00:10:57.942
  • If you don't,here's what'll happen.
  • 00:10:57.942 --> 00:10:59.344
  • here's what'll happen.You'll go in with expectations
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  • You'll go in with expectationsof romance and then you'll meet
  • 00:11:01.112 --> 00:11:05.150
  • of romance and then you'll meeta friend called reality.
  • 00:11:05.150 --> 00:11:08.153
  • a friend called reality.Romance and reality
  • 00:11:08.153 --> 00:11:12.057
  • Romance and realitydon't always get along.
  • 00:11:12.057 --> 00:11:13.425
  • don't always get along.And then romance and reality,
  • 00:11:13.425 --> 00:11:16.828
  • And then romance and reality,they get together and they have
  • 00:11:16.828 --> 00:11:19.831
  • they get together and they havea baby and the baby is called
  • 00:11:19.831 --> 00:11:24.069
  • a baby and the baby is called-- romance, reality --
  • 00:11:24.069 --> 00:11:26.071
  • -- romance, reality --then it's probably going to be
  • 00:11:26.071 --> 00:11:29.307
  • then it's probably going to beresentment, which is
  • 00:11:29.307 --> 00:11:32.644
  • resentment, which isgoing to create rebellion
  • 00:11:32.644 --> 00:11:33.912
  • going to create rebellionif you go into it looking for
  • 00:11:33.912 --> 00:11:35.980
  • if you go into it looking forwhat you can get.
  • 00:11:35.980 --> 00:11:36.815
  • what you can get.Now I'm not just talking about
  • 00:11:36.815 --> 00:11:38.083
  • Now I'm not just talking aboutmarriage anymore either.
  • 00:11:38.083 --> 00:11:39.050
  • marriage anymore either.This is why some of you
  • 00:11:39.050 --> 00:11:39.517
  • This is why some of youdon't have any
  • 00:11:39.517 --> 00:11:40.552
  • don't have anydeep relationships
  • 00:11:40.552 --> 00:11:42.787
  • deep relationshipsin your life, because you go
  • 00:11:42.787 --> 00:11:45.957
  • in your life, because you gointo relationships so needy.
  • 00:11:45.957 --> 00:11:50.962
  • into relationships so needy.You're a taker, not a giver.
  • 00:11:50.962 --> 00:11:51.863
  • You're a taker, not a giver.Paul says you got to
  • 00:11:51.863 --> 00:11:52.931
  • Paul says you got toget past this.
  • 00:11:52.931 --> 00:11:54.165
  • get past this.A mature view of marriage,
  • 00:11:54.165 --> 00:11:55.834
  • A mature view of marriage,a mature view of relationship,
  • 00:11:55.834 --> 00:11:56.568
  • a mature view of relationship,a mature view
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  • a mature viewof Christian living,
  • 00:11:57.836 --> 00:11:58.636
  • of Christian living,being a follower of Christ,
  • 00:11:58.636 --> 00:11:59.437
  • being a follower of Christ,looks like this.
  • 00:11:59.437 --> 00:12:00.905
  • looks like this.Look at verse five.
  • 00:12:00.905 --> 00:12:01.506
  • Look at verse five.He says,
  • 00:12:01.506 --> 00:12:03.341
  • He says,"Don't deprive each other."
  • 00:12:03.341 --> 00:12:04.876
  • "Don't deprive each other."Don't deprive each other.
  • 00:12:04.876 --> 00:12:05.810
  • Don't deprive each other.See, because when you go into
  • 00:12:05.810 --> 00:12:07.579
  • See, because when you go intorelationships led by desire
  • 00:12:07.579 --> 00:12:08.780
  • relationships led by desireand you end up disappointed,
  • 00:12:08.780 --> 00:12:11.683
  • and you end up disappointed,the next step is depravation.
  • 00:12:11.683 --> 00:12:12.751
  • the next step is depravation.Now because you didn't give me
  • 00:12:12.751 --> 00:12:13.785
  • Now because you didn't give mewhat I expected, I'm going to
  • 00:12:13.785 --> 00:12:15.553
  • what I expected, I'm going towithhold from you what you need.
  • 00:12:15.553 --> 00:12:16.454
  • withhold from you what you need.and it happens in marriages
  • 00:12:16.454 --> 00:12:19.624
  • and it happens in marriagesall the time.
  • 00:12:19.624 --> 00:12:21.459
  • all the time.Sexual depravation,
  • 00:12:21.459 --> 00:12:23.194
  • Sexual depravation,emotional depravation.
  • 00:12:23.194 --> 00:12:24.729
  • emotional depravation.He said stop depriving
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  • He said stop deprivingeach other.
  • 00:12:26.231 --> 00:12:27.499
  • each other.He said there's an exception.
  • 00:12:27.499 --> 00:12:30.068
  • He said there's an exception.he's speaking here specifically
  • 00:12:30.068 --> 00:12:31.269
  • he's speaking here specificallyabout sex but he says,
  • 00:12:31.269 --> 00:12:33.872
  • about sex but he says,"If you want to agree together
  • 00:12:33.872 --> 00:12:35.373
  • "If you want to agree togetherfor a time and devote yourselves
  • 00:12:35.373 --> 00:12:36.040
  • for a time and devote yourselvesto prayer,"
  • 00:12:36.040 --> 00:12:37.408
  • to prayer,"look at verse five,
  • 00:12:37.408 --> 00:12:38.576
  • look at verse five,"then you can do it,
  • 00:12:38.576 --> 00:12:39.811
  • "then you can do it,but make sure you come together
  • 00:12:39.811 --> 00:12:40.879
  • but make sure you come togetheragain so that Satan will not
  • 00:12:40.879 --> 00:12:42.347
  • again so that Satan will nottempt you because of your lack
  • 00:12:42.347 --> 00:12:43.448
  • tempt you because of your lackof self control."
  • 00:12:43.448 --> 00:12:44.582
  • of self control."Verse six, he said,
  • 00:12:44.582 --> 00:12:46.084
  • Verse six, he said,"I say this as a concession,
  • 00:12:46.084 --> 00:12:46.518
  • "I say this as a concession,not a command."
  • 00:12:46.518 --> 00:12:48.319
  • not a command."His expectation is in
  • 00:12:48.319 --> 00:12:49.788
  • His expectation is ina marriage, that if you're
  • 00:12:49.788 --> 00:12:50.522
  • a marriage, that if you'recoming to it for what you
  • 00:12:50.522 --> 00:12:51.389
  • coming to it for what youcan give, not what you can get,
  • 00:12:51.389 --> 00:12:53.191
  • can give, not what you can get,and it's functioning in this way
  • 00:12:53.191 --> 00:12:54.125
  • and it's functioning in this waywhere you're not going in
  • 00:12:54.125 --> 00:12:55.627
  • where you're not going inwith a self-satisfying view
  • 00:12:55.627 --> 00:12:57.996
  • with a self-satisfying viewof sexuality and relationships,
  • 00:12:57.996 --> 00:12:58.830
  • of sexuality and relationships,if you're going into
  • 00:12:58.830 --> 00:12:59.531
  • if you're going intoit this way,
  • 00:12:59.531 --> 00:13:00.265
  • it this way,he said there's going to be
  • 00:13:00.265 --> 00:13:02.200
  • he said there's going to bea continual passion.
  • 00:13:02.200 --> 00:13:03.668
  • a continual passion.And he said it'll be so strong
  • 00:13:03.668 --> 00:13:05.603
  • And he said it'll be so strongthat if you do take time off,
  • 00:13:05.603 --> 00:13:06.471
  • that if you do take time off,you'll have to agree together
  • 00:13:06.471 --> 00:13:07.939
  • you'll have to agree togetherto do it.
  • 00:13:07.939 --> 00:13:10.041
  • to do it.And he said it doesn't even have
  • 00:13:10.041 --> 00:13:10.842
  • And he said it doesn't even haveto last that long.
  • 00:13:10.842 --> 00:13:12.510
  • to last that long.You can get right back to it.
  • 00:13:12.510 --> 00:13:13.478
  • You can get right back to it.He says you can take
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  • He says you can takea little prayer break if you
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  • a little prayer break if youneed to and get some Gatorade.
  • 00:13:16.748 --> 00:13:17.649
  • need to and get some Gatorade.Now listen, I know this sounds
  • 00:13:17.649 --> 00:13:19.150
  • Now listen, I know this soundsway far off from the way a lot
  • 00:13:19.150 --> 00:13:20.819
  • way far off from the way a lotof you see your marriage
  • 00:13:20.819 --> 00:13:24.756
  • of you see your marriagebut you'd be amazed what happens
  • 00:13:24.756 --> 00:13:25.690
  • but you'd be amazed what happenswhen you stop seeking
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  • when you stop seekingto satisfy yourself.
  • 00:13:28.760 --> 00:13:30.862
  • to satisfy yourself.the ways that God can bless you,
  • 00:13:30.862 --> 00:13:31.696
  • the ways that God can bless you,Paul says
  • 00:13:31.696 --> 00:13:33.364
  • Paul saysit's a beautiful thing.
  • 00:13:33.364 --> 00:13:34.165
  • it's a beautiful thing.And we'll talk about it
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  • And we'll talk about itin the weeks to come.
  • 00:13:34.966 --> 00:13:36.734
  • in the weeks to come.But I got to stop for today.
  • 00:13:36.734 --> 00:13:37.502
  • But I got to stop for today.I want to show you
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  • I want to show youone more thing.
  • 00:13:38.837 --> 00:13:39.971
  • one more thing.And I hope this'll speak to
  • 00:13:39.971 --> 00:13:41.072
  • And I hope this'll speak tothe heart of this series
  • 00:13:41.072 --> 00:13:42.440
  • the heart of this seriesand God's intention for you.
  • 00:13:42.440 --> 00:13:44.008
  • and God's intention for you.I want to close talking about
  • 00:13:44.008 --> 00:13:45.944
  • I want to close talking aboutgifts and grace.
  • 00:13:45.944 --> 00:13:49.848
  • gifts and grace.Gifts and grace.
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  • Gifts and grace.It's very interesting how Paul
  • 00:13:52.517 --> 00:13:54.285
  • It's very interesting how Paulcloses this particular section.
  • 00:13:54.285 --> 00:13:55.453
  • closes this particular section.he answers their first question.
  • 00:13:55.453 --> 00:13:57.088
  • he answers their first question.He says, "Hey, if you're single,
  • 00:13:57.088 --> 00:13:57.922
  • He says, "Hey, if you're single,it's good.
  • 00:13:57.922 --> 00:14:00.124
  • it's good.If you're married it's good.
  • 00:14:00.124 --> 00:14:02.627
  • If you're married it's good.It's how you approach either one
  • 00:14:02.627 --> 00:14:03.862
  • It's how you approach either onethat determines what it'll be
  • 00:14:03.862 --> 00:14:04.696
  • that determines what it'll bein your life."
  • 00:14:04.696 --> 00:14:05.296
  • in your life."Look, verse seven,
  • 00:14:05.296 --> 00:14:08.733
  • Look, verse seven,he says, "Now I wish that all
  • 00:14:08.733 --> 00:14:10.535
  • he says, "Now I wish that allof you were as I am."
  • 00:14:10.535 --> 00:14:14.939
  • of you were as I am."Who says that?
  • 00:14:14.939 --> 00:14:17.508
  • Who says that?Paul does.
  • 00:14:17.508 --> 00:14:18.543
  • Paul does.And I find that striking
  • 00:14:18.543 --> 00:14:19.510
  • And I find that strikingin a culture where everybody
  • 00:14:19.510 --> 00:14:20.745
  • in a culture where everybodyis all about getting married
  • 00:14:20.745 --> 00:14:21.746
  • is all about getting marriedand finding the one.
  • 00:14:21.746 --> 00:14:22.747
  • and finding the one.Paul's like, "Hey look, it'd be
  • 00:14:22.747 --> 00:14:24.749
  • Paul's like, "Hey look, it'd begreat if you were all content
  • 00:14:24.749 --> 00:14:26.251
  • great if you were all contentenough in Christ that you didn't
  • 00:14:26.251 --> 00:14:29.520
  • enough in Christ that you didn'thave to get married, like me.
  • 00:14:29.520 --> 00:14:30.622
  • have to get married, like me.It'd be great if you were
  • 00:14:30.622 --> 00:14:34.926
  • It'd be great if you wereall awesome like me."
  • 00:14:34.926 --> 00:14:36.160
  • all awesome like me.""I wish you were all like
  • 00:14:36.160 --> 00:14:37.762
  • "I wish you were all likeI am," because there is a way
  • 00:14:37.762 --> 00:14:39.063
  • I am," because there is a wayin which he says,
  • 00:14:39.063 --> 00:14:39.898
  • in which he says,"My singleness gives a focus
  • 00:14:39.898 --> 00:14:41.532
  • "My singleness gives a focusto my life,"
  • 00:14:41.532 --> 00:14:43.268
  • to my life,"and it's very complicated
  • 00:14:43.268 --> 00:14:44.302
  • and it's very complicatedto be in a relationship
  • 00:14:44.302 --> 00:14:45.470
  • to be in a relationshipwith another human being
  • 00:14:45.470 --> 00:14:46.571
  • with another human beingand become one.
  • 00:14:46.571 --> 00:14:47.472
  • and become one.He says -- now this is
  • 00:14:47.472 --> 00:14:50.408
  • He says -- now this ispowerful -- he says, "But each
  • 00:14:50.408 --> 00:14:51.342
  • powerful -- he says, "But eachof you has your own gift
  • 00:14:51.342 --> 00:14:52.343
  • of you has your own giftfrom God."
  • 00:14:52.343 --> 00:14:54.345
  • from God."Stop envying somebody
  • 00:14:54.345 --> 00:14:56.581
  • Stop envying somebodyelse's situation.
  • 00:14:56.581 --> 00:14:58.616
  • else's situation.Each of you has your own gift
  • 00:14:58.616 --> 00:14:59.317
  • Each of you has your own giftfrom God.
  • 00:14:59.317 --> 00:15:01.419
  • from God.One has this gift.
  • 00:15:01.419 --> 00:15:03.688
  • One has this gift.Another has that.
  • 00:15:03.688 --> 00:15:04.555
  • Another has that.Usually when we talk about
  • 00:15:04.555 --> 00:15:06.524
  • Usually when we talk aboutspiritual gifts in the church,
  • 00:15:06.524 --> 00:15:07.425
  • spiritual gifts in the church,we talk about preaching
  • 00:15:07.425 --> 00:15:09.160
  • we talk about preachingand singing and serving
  • 00:15:09.160 --> 00:15:10.929
  • and singing and servingand that's what we talk about
  • 00:15:10.929 --> 00:15:12.897
  • and that's what we talk aboutwhen we say spiritual gifts.
  • 00:15:12.897 --> 00:15:14.565
  • when we say spiritual gifts.But Paul says,
  • 00:15:14.565 --> 00:15:15.466
  • But Paul says,"Look, if you're going to
  • 00:15:15.466 --> 00:15:16.267
  • "Look, if you're going tobe married, you need to
  • 00:15:16.267 --> 00:15:18.169
  • be married, you need tohave a gift.
  • 00:15:18.169 --> 00:15:19.203
  • have a gift.If you're going to be single,
  • 00:15:19.203 --> 00:15:20.371
  • If you're going to be single,you're going to need to have
  • 00:15:20.371 --> 00:15:21.606
  • you're going to need to havea gift."
  • 00:15:21.606 --> 00:15:22.740
  • a gift."And some of you in this
  • 00:15:22.740 --> 00:15:24.676
  • And some of you in thisseason of your life,
  • 00:15:24.676 --> 00:15:25.376
  • season of your life,you've been given
  • 00:15:25.376 --> 00:15:26.344
  • you've been giventhe gift of singleness.
  • 00:15:26.344 --> 00:15:27.111
  • the gift of singleness.I know, I know,
  • 00:15:27.111 --> 00:15:29.814
  • I know, I know,it wasn't on your registry.
  • 00:15:29.814 --> 00:15:30.581
  • it wasn't on your registry.It's like, "God, can I please
  • 00:15:30.581 --> 00:15:31.349
  • It's like, "God, can I pleaseexchange this gift
  • 00:15:31.349 --> 00:15:32.383
  • exchange this giftof singleness?
  • 00:15:32.383 --> 00:15:33.985
  • of singleness?This is not what I asked for
  • 00:15:33.985 --> 00:15:35.820
  • This is not what I asked forfor Christmas."
  • 00:15:35.820 --> 00:15:36.587
  • for Christmas."Some of you have
  • 00:15:36.587 --> 00:15:39.023
  • Some of you havethe gift of marriage.
  • 00:15:39.023 --> 00:15:39.590
  • the gift of marriage.I know, I know.
  • 00:15:39.590 --> 00:15:40.525
  • I know, I know.Some of you, when you opened up
  • 00:15:40.525 --> 00:15:41.793
  • Some of you, when you opened upthe package it didn't look like
  • 00:15:41.793 --> 00:15:42.760
  • the package it didn't look likeyou thought it looked when
  • 00:15:42.760 --> 00:15:44.262
  • you thought it looked whenyou were looking at it when you
  • 00:15:44.262 --> 00:15:49.300
  • you were looking at it when youordered it on Amazon.com.
  • 00:15:49.300 --> 00:15:50.234
  • ordered it on Amazon.com.But he says it's a gift.
  • 00:15:50.234 --> 00:15:51.669
  • But he says it's a gift.Now watch this, it's deep.
  • 00:15:51.669 --> 00:15:53.638
  • Now watch this, it's deep.The word gift in this passage
  • 00:15:53.638 --> 00:15:54.639
  • The word gift in this passageis a Greek word.
  • 00:15:54.639 --> 00:15:57.375
  • is a Greek word.The Greek word is charisma.
  • 00:15:57.375 --> 00:15:58.910
  • The Greek word is charisma.Charisma in this sense does not
  • 00:15:58.910 --> 00:16:00.645
  • Charisma in this sense does notmean a personality type.
  • 00:16:00.645 --> 00:16:03.214
  • mean a personality type.Charisma literally means
  • 00:16:03.214 --> 00:16:06.784
  • Charisma literally meansgift of grace.
  • 00:16:06.784 --> 00:16:09.587
  • gift of grace.Gift of grace.
  • 00:16:09.587 --> 00:16:10.421
  • Gift of grace.He says, "Look.
  • 00:16:10.421 --> 00:16:11.255
  • He says, "Look.There are some of you in
  • 00:16:11.255 --> 00:16:12.323
  • There are some of you inthe church and you're married
  • 00:16:12.323 --> 00:16:15.360
  • the church and you're marriedright now, and that's a gift."
  • 00:16:15.360 --> 00:16:16.661
  • right now, and that's a gift."That's a gift.
  • 00:16:16.661 --> 00:16:18.129
  • That's a gift.He who finds a wife
  • 00:16:18.129 --> 00:16:18.930
  • He who finds a wifefinds a good thing.
  • 00:16:18.930 --> 00:16:20.331
  • finds a good thing.It's a gift.
  • 00:16:20.331 --> 00:16:21.933
  • It's a gift.He says, "Some of you are single
  • 00:16:21.933 --> 00:16:23.701
  • He says, "Some of you are singleright now and that is also
  • 00:16:23.701 --> 00:16:25.136
  • right now and that is alsoa gift."
  • 00:16:25.136 --> 00:16:26.270
  • a gift."May not feel always like
  • 00:16:26.270 --> 00:16:28.806
  • May not feel always likea gift but it is a gift.
  • 00:16:28.806 --> 00:16:31.209
  • a gift but it is a gift.It's a gift.
  • 00:16:31.209 --> 00:16:33.544
  • It's a gift.But this is what blew my mind.
  • 00:16:33.544 --> 00:16:34.145
  • But this is what blew my mind.He said,
  • 00:16:34.145 --> 00:16:35.613
  • He said,"Whether you're married
  • 00:16:35.613 --> 00:16:39.384
  • "Whether you're marriedor single, the real gift is not
  • 00:16:39.384 --> 00:16:41.619
  • or single, the real gift is notthe marriage or the singleness.
  • 00:16:41.619 --> 00:16:43.454
  • the marriage or the singleness.That is a gift.
  • 00:16:43.454 --> 00:16:45.990
  • That is a gift.But it's not the greatest gift.
  • 00:16:45.990 --> 00:16:49.861
  • But it's not the greatest gift.The greatest gift that God gives
  • 00:16:49.861 --> 00:16:53.364
  • The greatest gift that God givesis called grace."
  • 00:16:53.364 --> 00:16:54.265
  • is called grace."He says, "One person
  • 00:16:54.265 --> 00:16:56.667
  • He says, "One personhas one gift, one has another.
  • 00:16:56.667 --> 00:16:57.869
  • has one gift, one has another.But no matter which gift
  • 00:16:57.869 --> 00:16:58.569
  • But no matter which giftyou have,
  • 00:16:58.569 --> 00:16:59.470
  • you have,here's what you really need.
  • 00:16:59.470 --> 00:17:01.506
  • here's what you really need.You're going to need grace
  • 00:17:01.506 --> 00:17:04.642
  • You're going to need graceto do this right."
  • 00:17:04.642 --> 00:17:05.877
  • to do this right."If you're going to be married,
  • 00:17:05.877 --> 00:17:09.013
  • If you're going to be married,it's going to take grace.
  • 00:17:09.013 --> 00:17:09.881
  • it's going to take grace.If you're going to come home
  • 00:17:09.881 --> 00:17:11.749
  • If you're going to come hometo the same person night
  • 00:17:11.749 --> 00:17:13.384
  • to the same person nightafter night and year after year
  • 00:17:13.384 --> 00:17:15.420
  • after night and year after yearand good times and bad times
  • 00:17:15.420 --> 00:17:17.555
  • and good times and bad timesand lean times and fat times,
  • 00:17:17.555 --> 00:17:20.191
  • and lean times and fat times,it's going to take grace.
  • 00:17:20.191 --> 00:17:20.992
  • it's going to take grace.Come on.
  • 00:17:20.992 --> 00:17:22.193
  • Come on.There are marriages
  • 00:17:22.193 --> 00:17:23.461
  • There are marriagesin our church today that need
  • 00:17:23.461 --> 00:17:26.597
  • in our church today that needgrace if they're going to work.
  • 00:17:26.597 --> 00:17:28.866
  • grace if they're going to work.We need grace to do this right.
  • 00:17:28.866 --> 00:17:30.234
  • We need grace to do this right.It is not easy
  • 00:17:30.234 --> 00:17:31.235
  • It is not easyto stay committed.
  • 00:17:31.235 --> 00:17:33.304
  • to stay committed.It is not easy to be faithful.
  • 00:17:33.304 --> 00:17:35.673
  • It is not easy to be faithful.It is not easy to be selfless.
  • 00:17:35.673 --> 00:17:42.647
  • It is not easy to be selfless.We need some grace.
  • 00:17:42.647 --> 00:17:43.514
  • We need some grace.And if you're single,
  • 00:17:43.514 --> 00:17:45.083
  • And if you're single,I know there are some times
  • 00:17:45.083 --> 00:17:47.251
  • I know there are some timeswhere you're crying at night
  • 00:17:47.251 --> 00:17:48.419
  • where you're crying at nightbecause there's nobody for you
  • 00:17:48.419 --> 00:17:51.289
  • because there's nobody for youto watch Netflix with right now.
  • 00:17:51.289 --> 00:17:52.457
  • to watch Netflix with right now.I'm not trivializing it.
  • 00:17:52.457 --> 00:17:53.357
  • I'm not trivializing it.I'm just trying to bring it to
  • 00:17:53.357 --> 00:17:55.293
  • I'm just trying to bring it toa practical level.
  • 00:17:55.293 --> 00:17:56.327
  • a practical level.It's not all the time some
  • 00:17:56.327 --> 00:17:57.261
  • It's not all the time somedeep thing is just like,
  • 00:17:57.261 --> 00:17:58.663
  • deep thing is just like,"Man, I'd like somebody to do
  • 00:17:58.663 --> 00:18:01.466
  • "Man, I'd like somebody to dosomething with on a Saturday."
  • 00:18:01.466 --> 00:18:03.134
  • something with on a Saturday."But did you know that the same
  • 00:18:03.134 --> 00:18:06.637
  • But did you know that the samegrace that God gives to somebody
  • 00:18:06.637 --> 00:18:09.273
  • grace that God gives to somebodyfor marriage is the same grace
  • 00:18:09.273 --> 00:18:10.808
  • for marriage is the same gracethat He will give you as a gift
  • 00:18:10.808 --> 00:18:12.610
  • that He will give you as a giftin your singleness,
  • 00:18:12.610 --> 00:18:14.745
  • in your singleness,in your times of loneliness,
  • 00:18:14.745 --> 00:18:15.947
  • in your times of loneliness,in your times of feeling like
  • 00:18:15.947 --> 00:18:16.814
  • in your times of feeling likeyou're never going to
  • 00:18:16.814 --> 00:18:17.582
  • you're never going tohave somebody?
  • 00:18:17.582 --> 00:18:23.488
  • have somebody?It's the same grace.
  • 00:18:23.488 --> 00:18:24.255
  • It's the same grace.So watch this.
  • 00:18:24.255 --> 00:18:26.691
  • So watch this.God told me to tell you
  • 00:18:26.691 --> 00:18:28.793
  • God told me to tell youthat the real gift is grace.
  • 00:18:28.793 --> 00:18:30.061
  • that the real gift is grace.some of you are so focused on
  • 00:18:30.061 --> 00:18:32.497
  • some of you are so focused onthe gift that you want from God
  • 00:18:32.497 --> 00:18:33.865
  • the gift that you want from Godyou're missing the grace
  • 00:18:33.865 --> 00:18:43.608
  • you're missing the gracethat He's already given you.
  • 00:18:43.608 --> 00:18:44.675
  • that He's already given you.I know some of you want a man,
  • 00:18:44.675 --> 00:18:45.476
  • I know some of you want a man,some of you want a woman.
  • 00:18:45.476 --> 00:18:46.244
  • some of you want a woman.That's awesome.
  • 00:18:46.244 --> 00:18:48.279
  • That's awesome.It's good, it's good, it's good.
  • 00:18:48.279 --> 00:18:49.714
  • It's good, it's good, it's good.But don't miss the grace
  • 00:18:49.714 --> 00:18:51.115
  • But don't miss the gracebecause you're so focused on
  • 00:18:51.115 --> 00:18:54.152
  • because you're so focused onthe gift you think you want.
  • 00:18:54.152 --> 00:18:54.886
  • the gift you think you want.I know some of you have
  • 00:18:54.886 --> 00:18:55.786
  • I know some of you havesome things in your marriage
  • 00:18:55.786 --> 00:18:58.356
  • some things in your marriageright now, some real issues.
  • 00:18:58.356 --> 00:19:00.324
  • right now, some real issues.But the real gift isn't that God
  • 00:19:00.324 --> 00:19:01.592
  • But the real gift isn't that Godwould fix all the issues
  • 00:19:01.592 --> 00:19:02.994
  • would fix all the issuesabout your spouse.
  • 00:19:02.994 --> 00:19:03.928
  • about your spouse.The real gift is that God
  • 00:19:03.928 --> 00:19:05.329
  • The real gift is that Godwould give you the grace
  • 00:19:05.329 --> 00:19:06.597
  • would give you the gracein the midst of the issues
  • 00:19:06.597 --> 00:19:08.900
  • in the midst of the issuesto trust Him and be faithful.
  • 00:19:08.900 --> 00:19:12.069
  • to trust Him and be faithful.The gift is grace.
  • 00:19:12.069 --> 00:19:13.137
  • The gift is grace.And I don't think there's
  • 00:19:13.137 --> 00:19:15.006
  • And I don't think there'sanybody in the room today
  • 00:19:15.006 --> 00:19:17.241
  • anybody in the room todaywho wouldn't say before
  • 00:19:17.241 --> 00:19:20.545
  • who wouldn't say beforethe Lord, "I need
  • 00:19:20.545 --> 00:19:22.780
  • the Lord, "I needthis gift of grace."
  • 00:19:22.780 --> 00:19:24.382
  • this gift of grace."If we're going to do it right,
  • 00:19:24.382 --> 00:19:25.149
  • If we're going to do it right,if we're going to do
  • 00:19:25.149 --> 00:19:25.983
  • if we're going to doit God's way,
  • 00:19:25.983 --> 00:19:27.018
  • it God's way,it's going to take grace.
  • 00:19:27.018 --> 00:19:27.885
  • it's going to take grace.Anybody in this place who
  • 00:19:27.885 --> 00:19:29.153
  • Anybody in this place whoneeds the grace of God
  • 00:19:29.153 --> 00:19:30.688
  • needs the grace of Godfor the season and situation
  • 00:19:30.688 --> 00:19:31.122
  • for the season and situationyou're in today,
  • 00:19:31.122 --> 00:19:32.089
  • you're in today,I want you to stand on your feet
  • 00:19:32.089 --> 00:19:32.924
  • I want you to stand on your feetright now at all of
  • 00:19:32.924 --> 00:19:33.658
  • right now at all ofour locations.
  • 00:19:33.658 --> 00:19:35.293
  • our locations.If you need grace.
  • 00:19:35.293 --> 00:19:37.028
  • If you need grace.If you don't need any grace,
  • 00:19:37.028 --> 00:19:37.962
  • If you don't need any grace,if you got it covered,
  • 00:19:37.962 --> 00:19:39.730
  • if you got it covered,if you're good --
  • 00:19:39.730 --> 00:19:40.464
  • if you're good --but if you need grace,
  • 00:19:40.464 --> 00:19:44.769
  • but if you need grace,stand on your feet today.
  • 00:19:44.769 --> 00:19:45.536
  • stand on your feet today.Come on.
  • 00:19:45.536 --> 00:19:47.004
  • Come on.Grace for the temptations
  • 00:19:47.004 --> 00:19:48.439
  • Grace for the temptationsthat you're facing.
  • 00:19:48.439 --> 00:19:49.941
  • that you're facing.Grace for the parts of your past
  • 00:19:49.941 --> 00:19:51.075
  • Grace for the parts of your pastthat keep catching back up
  • 00:19:51.075 --> 00:19:51.976
  • that keep catching back upwith you again.
  • 00:19:51.976 --> 00:19:53.744
  • with you again.Grace.
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  • Grace.Grace.
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  • Grace.God's great grace
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  • God's great graceis available today to everyone
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  • is available today to everyonewho will receive it.
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  • who will receive it.Grace.
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  • Grace.Grace.
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  • Grace.I know we talked about standards
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  • I know we talked about standardsbut you need grace for the times
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  • but you need grace for the timesthat you fall short of
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  • that you fall short ofthe standard,
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  • the standard,for all have sinned
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  • for all have sinnedand fallen short of the glory
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  • and fallen short of the gloryof God.
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  • of God.So the real gift is grace.
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  • So the real gift is grace.Grace.
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  • Grace.Grace.
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  • Grace.You're waiting on something to
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  • You're waiting on something tochange in your life right now,
  • 00:20:24.575 --> 00:20:26.077
  • change in your life right now,to change in your home.
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  • to change in your home.But in the mean time,
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  • But in the mean time,there's a gift called grace.
  • 00:20:30.014 --> 00:20:32.383
  • there's a gift called grace.It's available to you.
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  • It's available to you.It's available.
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  • It's available.It's yours for the taking.
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  • It's yours for the taking.Right now.
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  • Right now.Right here.
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  • Right here.You don't have to wait till
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  • You don't have to wait tillyou have a relationship with
  • 00:20:40.191 --> 00:20:41.692
  • you have a relationship withanother person to have grace.
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  • another person to have grace.His grace is sufficient.
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  • His grace is sufficient.One time Paul had an issue
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  • One time Paul had an issuethat he was praying about.
  • 00:20:46.397 --> 00:20:47.098
  • that he was praying about.And he prayed about it
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  • And he prayed about itthree different times.
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  • three different times.He didn't even say what
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  • He didn't even say whatthe issue was.
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  • the issue was.He simply calls it the thorn
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  • He simply calls it the thornin his flesh.
  • 00:20:56.107 --> 00:20:56.974
  • in his flesh.I wonder if he didn't name it
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  • I wonder if he didn't name itbecause it was so humiliating
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  • because it was so humiliatingto him that he didn't want to
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  • to him that he didn't want tospecifically say what it was.
  • 00:21:01.345 --> 00:21:03.214
  • specifically say what it was.I don't know.
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  • I don't know.But whatever it was,
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  • But whatever it was,he asked God to take it away.
  • 00:21:06.217 --> 00:21:07.151
  • he asked God to take it away.In other words, he asked God
  • 00:21:07.151 --> 00:21:08.986
  • In other words, he asked Godto fix the situation,
  • 00:21:08.986 --> 00:21:09.987
  • to fix the situation,and that's where we start.
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  • and that's where we start.Fix the situation, God.
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  • Fix the situation, God.Fix the situation.
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  • Fix the situation.And three times God said no.
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  • And three times God said no.Nope.
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  • Nope.I'm gon' give you a gift
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  • I'm gon' give you a giftbut not the one you're asking
  • 00:21:20.564 --> 00:21:22.199
  • but not the one you're askingfor right now.
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  • for right now.Because sometimes you don't know
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  • Because sometimes you don't knowwhat you need.
  • 00:21:25.236 --> 00:21:27.405
  • what you need.So I'm gon' give you a gift
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  • So I'm gon' give you a giftand the gift is called grace.
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  • and the gift is called grace.He said, "My grace is sufficient
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  • He said, "My grace is sufficientfor you, and my strength is made
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  • for you, and my strength is madeperfect in your weakness."
  • 00:21:36.747 --> 00:21:38.015
  • perfect in your weakness."So I came today not to offer you
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  • So I came today not to offer youin this series a lot of
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  • in this series a lot ofeasy solutions.
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  • easy solutions.I don't know
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  • I don't knowhow to lose a guy in ten days
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  • how to lose a guy in ten daysor how to get a guy in ten days.
  • 00:21:45.089 --> 00:21:46.691
  • or how to get a guy in ten days.I don't know.
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  • I don't know.I don't know.
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  • I don't know.Seven easy steps to fix
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  • Seven easy steps to fixyour marriage by Monday.
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  • your marriage by Monday.I don't know.
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  • I don't know.Read the magazine.
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  • Read the magazine.I don't do that.
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  • I don't do that.I came today to offer you
  • 00:21:57.335 --> 00:21:58.436
  • I came today to offer youthe inexhaustible supply of
  • 00:21:58.436 --> 00:22:00.905
  • the inexhaustible supply ofGod's grace for whatever season
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  • God's grace for whatever seasonand whatever struggle
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  • and whatever struggleyou're facing.
  • 00:22:03.074 --> 00:22:04.408
  • you're facing.If you want that grace,
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  • If you want that grace,would you slip your hands
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  • would you slip your handsin the air right now
  • 00:22:07.011 --> 00:22:10.114
  • in the air right nowif you want that grace?
  • 00:22:10.114 --> 00:22:11.449
  • if you want that grace?And would you just say out loud
  • 00:22:11.449 --> 00:22:13.551
  • And would you just say out loudin this moment of ministry,
  • 00:22:13.551 --> 00:22:14.852
  • in this moment of ministry,"I need your grace Lord."
  • 00:22:14.852 --> 00:22:15.686
  • "I need your grace Lord."- CONGREGATION: I need your
  • 00:22:15.686 --> 00:22:16.554
  • - CONGREGATION: I need yourgrace Lord.
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  • grace Lord.- Say it again.
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  • - Say it again.I need your grace Lord.
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  • I need your grace Lord.- CONGREGATION: I need your
  • 00:22:19.090 --> 00:22:19.890
  • - CONGREGATION: I need yourgrace Lord.
  • 00:22:19.890 --> 00:22:20.891
  • grace Lord.- I need your grace Lord.
  • 00:22:20.891 --> 00:22:21.659
  • - I need your grace Lord.- CONGREGATION: I need your
  • 00:22:21.659 --> 00:22:22.460
  • - CONGREGATION: I need yourgrace Lord.
  • 00:22:22.460 --> 00:22:23.227
  • grace Lord.- With your hands still lifted
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  • - With your hands still liftedhigh, now say, "I receive
  • 00:22:23.961 --> 00:22:24.762
  • high, now say, "I receiveyour grace Lord."
  • 00:22:24.762 --> 00:22:25.563
  • your grace Lord."- CONGREGATION: I receive your
  • 00:22:25.563 --> 00:22:26.397
  • - CONGREGATION: I receive yourgrace Lord.
  • 00:22:26.397 --> 00:22:27.398
  • grace Lord.- I receive your grace.
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  • - I receive your grace.- CONGREGATION: I receive
  • 00:22:28.132 --> 00:22:28.933
  • - CONGREGATION: I receiveyour grace.
  • 00:22:28.933 --> 00:22:29.800
  • your grace.- I receive your grace.
  • 00:22:29.800 --> 00:22:30.401
  • - I receive your grace.- CONGREGATION: I receive
  • 00:22:30.401 --> 00:22:31.102
  • - CONGREGATION: I receiveyour grace.
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  • your grace.- In Jesus' name.
  • 00:22:31.969 --> 00:22:32.870
  • - In Jesus' name.- CONGREGATION: In Jesus' name.
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  • - CONGREGATION: In Jesus' name.- Now God, we thank you
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  • - Now God, we thank youfor great grace.
  • 00:22:35.206 --> 00:22:36.140
  • for great grace.We thank you for the great grace
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  • We thank you for the great gracethat breaks chains of addiction.
  • 00:22:38.709 --> 00:22:39.744
  • that breaks chains of addiction.We thank you that nobody in here
  • 00:22:39.744 --> 00:22:41.345
  • We thank you that nobody in heretoday is dealing with a sexual
  • 00:22:41.345 --> 00:22:42.480
  • today is dealing with a sexualdysfunction or a relational
  • 00:22:42.480 --> 00:22:43.681
  • dysfunction or a relationalfailure that is greater
  • 00:22:43.681 --> 00:22:44.648
  • failure that is greaterthan your grace.
  • 00:22:44.648 --> 00:22:46.517
  • than your grace.We declare you grace is greater.
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  • We declare you grace is greater.Your grace is greater.
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  • Your grace is greater.Your grace is greater.
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  • Your grace is greater.The blood is stronger.
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  • The blood is stronger.The blood is stronger.
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  • The blood is stronger.Your name is higher.
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  • Your name is higher.Your name is higher.
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  • - Alright, let's interact
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  • - Alright, let's interactfor a moment.
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  • for a moment.Just pretend like
  • 00:23:04.602 --> 00:23:05.436
  • Just pretend likeI'm there with you.
  • 00:23:05.436 --> 00:23:07.438
  • I'm there with you.Have you ever experienced
  • 00:23:07.438 --> 00:23:09.573
  • Have you ever experienceda challenging relationship?
  • 00:23:09.573 --> 00:23:11.742
  • a challenging relationship?Holly, do this, do this.
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  • Holly, do this, do this.Okay, be careful how you respond
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  • Okay, be careful how you respondif you're sitting
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  • if you're sittingin your living room
  • 00:23:14.378 --> 00:23:16.080
  • in your living roomwatching this with your spouse
  • 00:23:16.080 --> 00:23:18.048
  • watching this with your spouseor someone that you love.
  • 00:23:18.048 --> 00:23:19.884
  • or someone that you love.the truth is relationships
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  • the truth is relationshipsare challenging by design.
  • 00:23:22.019 --> 00:23:23.587
  • are challenging by design.It's how God grows us,
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  • It's how God grows us,but it's He's intention for you
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  • but it's He's intention for youto do more than just survive
  • 00:23:27.024 --> 00:23:28.559
  • to do more than just surviveyour relationships.
  • 00:23:28.559 --> 00:23:29.727
  • your relationships.I believe He wants you
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  • I believe He wants youto thrive in them,
  • 00:23:30.594 --> 00:23:31.228
  • to thrive in them,and He's Word
  • 00:23:31.228 --> 00:23:31.996
  • and He's Wordgives us the tools
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  • gives us the toolsto make that possible.
  • 00:23:33.397 --> 00:23:35.399
  • to make that possible.So, today, I have special
  • 00:23:35.399 --> 00:23:37.368
  • So, today, I have specialmost requested resource
  • 00:23:37.368 --> 00:23:38.536
  • most requested resourcethat I want to send to you.
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  • that I want to send to you.It's called, "Meant to Be."
  • 00:23:40.404 --> 00:23:41.105
  • It's called, "Meant to Be."It will show you
  • 00:23:41.105 --> 00:23:41.972
  • It will show yousome of the Bible's
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  • some of the Bible'sbest kept secrets
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  • best kept secretsabout sex, shh,
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  • about sex, shh,marriage, and being single.
  • 00:23:48.879 --> 00:23:49.847
  • marriage, and being single.- It's so good,
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  • - It's so good,and it's really not
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  • and it's really notjust a relationship series.
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  • just a relationship series.This resource truly
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  • This resource trulyhas the power
  • 00:23:55.219 --> 00:23:56.220
  • has the powerto impact your life.
  • 00:23:56.220 --> 00:23:57.922
  • to impact your life.We've heard stories of marriages
  • 00:23:57.922 --> 00:23:59.223
  • We've heard stories of marriagesthat were restored,
  • 00:23:59.223 --> 00:24:00.758
  • that were restored,and single people that learned
  • 00:24:00.758 --> 00:24:01.892
  • and single people that learnedto embrace the season
  • 00:24:01.892 --> 00:24:02.993
  • to embrace the seasonthat they're in instead
  • 00:24:02.993 --> 00:24:04.462
  • that they're in insteadof focusing on the relationships
  • 00:24:04.462 --> 00:24:05.830
  • of focusing on the relationshipsthat they don't have.
  • 00:24:05.830 --> 00:24:07.164
  • that they don't have.I know that this series
  • 00:24:07.164 --> 00:24:08.532
  • I know that this seriesis going to help you
  • 00:24:08.532 --> 00:24:10.601
  • is going to help youlike it has so many already.
  • 00:24:10.601 --> 00:24:11.602
  • like it has so many already.- And we want to help you,
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  • - And we want to help you,we're here to help to you.
  • 00:24:12.470 --> 00:24:13.404
  • we're here to help to you.so, I'm going to send you
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  • so, I'm going to send youthis resource "Meant to be"
  • 00:24:15.139 --> 00:24:16.474
  • this resource "Meant to be"with your gift of any amount
  • 00:24:16.474 --> 00:24:18.442
  • with your gift of any amountto the ministry today.
  • 00:24:18.442 --> 00:24:20.010
  • to the ministry today.Just go online right now
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  • Just go online right nowor call the number
  • 00:24:21.245 --> 00:24:23.180
  • or call the numberon the screen right now,
  • 00:24:23.180 --> 00:24:24.248
  • on the screen right now,and request your copy
  • 00:24:24.248 --> 00:24:25.583
  • and request your copyof "Meant to Be".
  • 00:24:25.583 --> 00:24:26.550
  • of "Meant to Be".Say, "I want it,"
  • 00:24:26.550 --> 00:24:27.451
  • Say, "I want it,"and we'll get it out
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  • and we'll get it outto you right away.
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  • to you right away.Here's some more info as well as
  • 00:24:30.087 --> 00:24:31.222
  • Here's some more info as well assome additional resources
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  • - When it comes
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  • to seeking advice
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  • about relationships, marriage,
  • 00:24:36.260 --> 00:24:37.695
  • and sex, we tend to look
  • 00:24:37.695 --> 00:24:39.697
  • in all the wrong places.
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  • The world claims
  • 00:24:40.231 --> 00:24:41.332
  • to have the answers,
  • 00:24:41.332 --> 00:24:42.366
  • but maybe we've been focusing
  • 00:24:42.366 --> 00:24:44.835
  • on the wrong problem all along.
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  • In our series, "Meant to Be",
  • 00:24:46.537 --> 00:24:47.605
  • Pastor Steven Furtick
  • 00:24:47.605 --> 00:24:49.173
  • has open conversations
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  • to help us uncover
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  • the Bible's best kept secrets
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  • about sex, marriage,
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  • - Most of the emphasis,
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  • - Most of the emphasis,when you talk about dating,
  • 00:24:57.214 --> 00:24:58.582
  • when you talk about dating,and marriage, and singleness,
  • 00:24:58.582 --> 00:24:59.650
  • and marriage, and singleness,in culture seems to be
  • 00:24:59.650 --> 00:25:01.785
  • in culture seems to beon finding the right one.
  • 00:25:01.785 --> 00:25:03.187
  • on finding the right one.Most of the emphasis,
  • 00:25:03.187 --> 00:25:04.488
  • Most of the emphasis,when you come to the scripture,
  • 00:25:04.488 --> 00:25:06.190
  • when you come to the scripture,tends to be on being
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  • - For your gift of any amount
  • 00:25:08.692 --> 00:25:09.326
  • we'll send you
  • 00:25:09.326 --> 00:25:09.927
  • the five-part
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  • Meant To Be series,
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  • which includes a message
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  • with Pastor Steven
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  • and his wife Holly,
  • 00:25:14.431 --> 00:25:15.099
  • where they share
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  • personal examples
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  • and scriptural insight on how
  • 00:25:17.835 --> 00:25:18.936
  • we can invite God to work
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  • in our everyday
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  • relationship challenges.
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  • Pastor Steven also explains
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  • the unnecessary complications
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  • that sidetrack us
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  • in relationships,
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  • and he shows us
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  • what is truly meant to be
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  • in our lives
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  • when we have Jesus
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  • - I've been told all my life
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  • - I've been told all my lifeto put Jesus first,
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  • to put Jesus first,but that doesn't work,
  • 00:25:36.954 --> 00:25:37.955
  • but that doesn't work,because that separates him out
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  • because that separates him outfrom everything else.
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  • from everything else.Live as if Jesus
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  • Live as if Jesuswas not first on your list,
  • 00:25:44.461 --> 00:25:45.229
  • was not first on your list,but that He was
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  • - Visit us online
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  • at stevenfurtick.com,
  • 00:25:50.167 --> 00:25:51.101
  • or call us at the number
  • 00:25:51.101 --> 00:25:51.936
  • on your screen
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  • to get your copy
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  • - E-fam is our online family
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  • at Elevation Church.
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  • It doesn't matter
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  • where you call home,
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  • becoming part of our E-fam
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  • is as simple as joining us
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  • Each weekend we broadcast
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  • our worship experiences
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  • to thousands of people
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  • around the world.
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  • It's so simple for you to join
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  • the huge move of God
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  • that is happening
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  • through our E-fam,
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  • by tuning into experiences
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  • on the weekend or on demand,
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  • When you participate,
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  • you'll experience
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  • awesome worship music,
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  • preaching, and community
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  • with people tuning in,
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  • just like yourself.
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  • You can have a deeper connection
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  • by joining an E-Group
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  • and an E-Team,
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  • giving online and connecting
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  • with other E-fam near you
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  • though watch parties.
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  • Wherever you find
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  • yourself in life,
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  • we wanna be a place
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  • you can depend on
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  • for receiving inspiration,
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  • encouragement and support.
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  • Grow your faith,
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  • - ♪ What would you do ♪
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  • - ♪ What would you do ♪♪ If He walked into the room ♪
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  • ♪ If He walked into the room ♪♪ What would you say ♪
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  • ♪ What would you say ♪♪ If He walked into the room ♪
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  • ♪ If He walked into the room ♪♪ How would you praise ♪
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  • ♪ How would you praise ♪♪ If He walked into the room ♪
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  • ♪ If He walked into the room ♪♪ How would you shout ♪
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