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How To Save Your Husband Part 1

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February 17, 2021
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  • - ANNOUNCER: If you're looking
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  • just like yourself.
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  • Join us online this weekend
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  • - I've entitled this message:
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  • - I've entitled this message:"How to Save Your Husband"
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  • "How to Save Your Husband"somewhat playfully,
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  • somewhat playfully,but I want to speak
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  • but I want to speakvery seriously about these
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  • very seriously about thesesubjects in the few moments
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  • subjects in the few momentswe have remaining.
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  • we have remaining.How to save your husband.
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  • How to save your husband.How did the two become one,
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  • How did the two become one,and then the one become two?
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  • who was going through a divorce
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  • who was going through a divorcea couple of years ago.
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  • a couple of years ago.He said, "I'm so ashamed.
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  • He said, "I'm so ashamed.I never thought I'd be having
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  • I never thought I'd be havingthis conversation.
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  • this conversation.I counsel other people
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  • and I always, in my heart,
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  • and I always, in my heart,wondered how it could come
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  • wondered how it could cometo this.
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  • to this.I never thought I'd be on
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  • I never thought I'd be onthis side of the conversation."
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  • this side of the conversation."And it is baffling
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  • And it is bafflingto think about how we go from
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  • to think about how we go fromin a relationship,
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  • in a relationship,having the kind of passion
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  • having the kind of passionthat would cause two people
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  • that would cause two peopleto want to merge
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  • to want to mergetheir identities, and often
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  • their identities, and oftenthat same relationship,
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  • that same relationship,that same couple will end up
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  • that same couple will end uponly speaking through attorneys.
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  • only speaking through attorneys.How does that happen?
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  • How does that happen?You know, it says
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  • You know, it saysit's a profound mystery
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  • it's a profound mysteryhow two become one.
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  • how two become one.I think it's an equally
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  • I think it's an equallyprofound mystery how the one
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  • profound mystery how the onecan become two.
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  • can become two.How can you go from using
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  • How can you go from usingyour entire data plan
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  • your entire data planand all your minutes
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  • and all your minutesjust to hear
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  • just to hearthe other person breathe?
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  • the other person breathe?You're not even saying anything
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  • You're not even saying anythingduring the dating phase.
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  • during the dating phase.I just want to hear your breath
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  • I just want to hear your breathand we just sit with one another
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  • and we just sit with one anotherand wake up at all kinds of
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  • and wake up at all kinds ofhours during the night
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  • hours during the nightto call one another,
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  • to call one another,if necessary, during that stage
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  • if necessary, during that stageof the relationship
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  • of the relationshipto we can't even sit down
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  • to we can't even sit downin a room and work out
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  • in a room and work outthe division of our assets
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  • the division of our assetstogether or decide on
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  • together or decide onthe future of our kids.
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  • the future of our kids.How does this happen?
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  • How does this happen?Now, I want to say a few things
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  • Now, I want to say a few thingsbefore I give you these points,
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  • before I give you these points,and we won't be here long.
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  • and we won't be here long.I mean, I'm going to be
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  • I mean, I'm going to berespectful of your time,
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  • respectful of your time,but I need to be careful
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  • but I need to be carefulbecause I take my job seriously,
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  • because I take my job seriously,and I don't want to say stuff up
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  • and I don't want to say stuff uphere and send you
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  • here and send youin the wrong direction where
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  • in the wrong direction wheresomething that I say would cause
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  • something that I say would causeyou more pain or confusion.
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  • you more pain or confusion.So when I preach on this thing
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  • So when I preach on this thingright here that I'm going to
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  • right here that I'm going toget into today,
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  • get into today,and it's going to be old-school.
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  • and it's going to be old-school.It's going to be old-school
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  • It's going to be old-schoolbecause I think this is
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  • because I think this isa passage about
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  • a passage aboutunconditional commitment.
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  • unconditional commitment.But when I say it, I want you --
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  • But when I say it, I want you --three little caveats.
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  • three little caveats.One, I'm talking about marriage,
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  • One, I'm talking about marriage,not dating.
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  • not dating.Because somebody might hear this
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  • Because somebody might hear thisand be like, "Oh, so I need
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  • and be like, "Oh, so I needto go get back with
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  • to go get back withTimmy again."
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  • Timmy again."No.
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  • No.No.
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  • No.See, in marriage,
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  • See, in marriage,it's till death do us part.
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  • it's till death do us part.In marriage.
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  • In marriage.But in dating,
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  • But in dating,you have another option,
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  • you have another option,and that option is
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  • and that option iscalled scroll, select, delete.
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  • called scroll, select, delete.And so if you're not married
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  • And so if you're not marriedto them yet and they're showing
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  • to them yet and they're showingsigns of not being
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  • signs of not beingthe right one,
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  • the right one,because I believe over half
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  • because I believe over halfthe work is done in a marriage
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  • the work is done in a marriagein the selection process,
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  • in the selection process,just making sure that
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  • just making sure thatyou're both on the right page.
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  • you're both on the right page.But if Timmy has an attitude
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  • But if Timmy has an attitudewith his mom,
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  • with his mom,if Timmy doesn't have
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  • if Timmy doesn't havea good work ethic
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  • a good work ethicand Timmy doesn't have
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  • and Timmy doesn't havea relationship with God,
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  • a relationship with God,here's your move:
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  • here's your move:Scroll, select, delete.
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  • Scroll, select, delete.Let's practice it together,
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  • Let's practice it together,come on, for the sake of
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  • come on, for the sake ofsomebody next to you
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  • somebody next to youwho's dating a loser
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  • who's dating a loserand they might need
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  • and they might needsome encouragement
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  • some encouragementjust to break it off.
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  • just to break it off.Let's do it.
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  • Let's do it.Come on, scroll, select, delete.
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  • Come on, scroll, select, delete.Again, scroll, select, delete.
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  • Again, scroll, select, delete.Watch this, iPhone,
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  • Watch this, iPhone,scroll, select, delete.
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  • scroll, select, delete.To the side, watch it,
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  • To the side, watch it,scroll, select, delete.
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  • scroll, select, delete.That's all you need to do.
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  • That's all you need to do.Some of y'all need to walk out
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  • Some of y'all need to walk outright now, put the message
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  • right now, put the messageinto practice.
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  • into practice.You're welcome.
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  • You're welcome.You got the word
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  • You got the wordyou needed today.
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  • Because after marriage
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  • Because after marriageyou don't have that option,
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  • you don't have that option,if the Bible is right.
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  • if the Bible is right.If culture is right,
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  • If culture is right,you can do whatever you want.
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  • you can do whatever you want.But if we're trying to do this
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  • But if we're trying to do thisGod's way, which I think
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  • God's way, which I thinkwould be a good idea,
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  • would be a good idea,the one who
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  • the one whocreated relationship.
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  • created relationship.So I'm not talking about
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  • So I'm not talking aboutdating here, okay?
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  • dating here, okay?I'm talking about marriage.
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  • I'm talking about marriage.The second thing is,
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  • The second thing is,I'm not talking about your past.
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  • I'm not talking about your past.I'm talking about your present.
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  • I'm talking about your present.And I think a good phrase
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  • And I think a good phrasefor us would be:
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  • for us would be:"From this day forward."
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  • "From this day forward."There's not one of us
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  • There's not one of usin the room who hasn't been
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  • in the room who hasn't beentouched by divorce.
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  • touched by divorce.And so when you say the word
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  • And so when you say the wordor you talk about separation,
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  • or you talk about separation,immediately certain people
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  • immediately certain peopleshut down the factory
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  • shut down the factoryand they won't hear another word
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  • and they won't hear another wordI have to say today
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  • I have to say todaybecause you think I'm here
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  • because you think I'm hereto judge you or condemn you.
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  • to judge you or condemn you.I need you to understand that
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  • I need you to understand thatthe Lord put a word in me
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  • the Lord put a word in methat I believe could save
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  • that I believe could savesomebody that's sitting
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  • somebody that's sittingaround you or maybe save you
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  • around you or maybe save younext time around from
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  • next time around fromexperiencing some of the pain
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  • experiencing some of the painthat you experienced,
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  • that you experienced,and maybe instead of
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  • and maybe instead ofgetting defensive
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  • getting defensiveand thinking that this message
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  • and thinking that this messageis about your mistakes,
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  • is about your mistakes,you could believe with me
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  • you could believe with mewhile I'm preaching
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  • while I'm preachingfor a miracle in somebody else's
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  • for a miracle in somebody else'slife so they won't
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  • life so they won'thave to endure the kind of pain
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  • have to endure the kind of painthat this kind
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  • that this kindof separation creates.
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  • of separation creates.My dad was divorced twice
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  • My dad was divorced twicebefore he married my mom.
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  • before he married my mom.I wouldn't even be here if
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  • I wouldn't even be here ifhe hadn't gone through those
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  • he hadn't gone through thosemarriages and ended up
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  • marriages and ended upwith my mom.
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  • with my mom.So I believe God works in
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  • So I believe God works inall things.
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  • all things.I wouldn't even be here.
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  • I wouldn't even be here.I don't know how God
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  • I don't know how Godtakes mistakes and turns them
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  • takes mistakes and turns theminto miracles, but He does.
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  • into miracles, but He does.So we want to focus on present,
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  • So we want to focus on present,not past.
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  • not past.And then I'll just say this:
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  • And then I'll just say this:We want to remember that
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  • We want to remember thatwe're not encouraging people
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  • we're not encouraging peopleto stay in situations
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  • to stay in situationsthat are abusive.
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  • that are abusive.Okay?
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  • Okay?Don't call on Jesus
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  • Don't call on Jesusif he's hitting you.
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  • if he's hitting you.Call on the police officer
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  • Call on the police officernearest you and let's get
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  • nearest you and let's getyou protected.
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  • you protected.That said, I think there are
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  • That said, I think there arefour things -- we'll do them
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  • four things -- we'll do themas quickly as we can --
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  • as quickly as we can --that happen that cause passion
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  • that happen that cause passionto go out.
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  • to go out.How does this happen:
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  • How does this happen:Two become one, one become two?
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  • Two become one, one become two?How does something that promises
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  • How does something that promisesto bring so much intimacy
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  • to bring so much intimacyend in isolation?
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  • end in isolation?How does something that promises
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  • How does something that promisesto bring so much pleasure end up
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  • to bring so much pleasure end upproducing so much pain?
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  • producing so much pain?A few observations
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  • A few observationsfrom the passage.
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  • from the passage.One, celebration
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  • One, celebrationbecomes frustration.
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  • becomes frustration.Celebration becomes frustration.
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  • Celebration becomes frustration.When you start in a relationship
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  • When you start in a relationshipwith a person, especially
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  • with a person, especiallya romantic relationship,
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  • a romantic relationship,you celebrate everything
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  • you celebrate everythingabout them.
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  • about them.And you celebrate everything
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  • And you celebrate everythingabout them that's different
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  • about them that's differentthan you, and it's attractive.
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  • than you, and it's attractive.That's where the saying came
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  • That's where the saying camefrom, "opposites attract."
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  • from, "opposites attract."How many know that in marriage
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  • How many know that in marriagesometimes the same opposites
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  • sometimes the same oppositesthat attract, then the opposites
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  • that attract, then the oppositesstart to attack?
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  • start to attack?Amen, amen.
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  • Amen, amen.Because what you celebrated
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  • Because what you celebratedin one stage ends up being
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  • in one stage ends up beingthe very thing that
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  • the very thing thatfrustrates you in
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  • frustrates you inthe lifelong stage.
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  • the lifelong stage."Oh, he's just so funny.
  • 00:07:20.837 --> 00:07:21.571
  • "Oh, he's just so funny.I just like him
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  • I just like himbecause he's funny.
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  • because he's funny.He's just like hilarious.
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  • He's just like hilarious.He's always funny."
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  • He's always funny."Three years in:
  • 00:07:25.775 --> 00:07:26.876
  • Three years in:"Why can't you ever be serious
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  • "Why can't you ever be seriousabout anything?"
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  • about anything?"Celebration, frustration.
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  • Celebration, frustration.The whole wedding ceremony
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  • The whole wedding ceremonyis a celebration.
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  • is a celebration.You force your friends to buy
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  • You force your friends to buyall the same-colored clothes
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  • all the same-colored clothesand come support you
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  • and come support youand stand around you.
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  • and stand around you.There's a big celebration,
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  • There's a big celebration,and people go along with it
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  • and people go along with itand they do it.
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  • and they do it.They come out for you,
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  • They come out for you,and they do the whole thing.
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  • and they do the whole thing.People get up
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  • People get upand say nice things
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  • and say nice thingsand all of this.
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  • and all of this.Celebration.
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  • Celebration.I should have put
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  • I should have puta different stage in there.
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  • a different stage in there.This isn't exactly true.
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  • This isn't exactly true.It goes not just celebration
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  • It goes not just celebrationto frustration.
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  • to frustration.It goes celebration,
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  • It goes celebration,then for a little while
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  • then for a little whileit's toleration.
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  • it's toleration.But if you tolerate what God
  • 00:08:03.646 --> 00:08:04.881
  • But if you tolerate what Godhas called you to celebrate,
  • 00:08:04.881 --> 00:08:05.781
  • has called you to celebrate,it will eventually frustrate
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  • it will eventually frustratethe relationship.
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  • the relationship.Celebration becomes frustration.
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  • Celebration becomes frustration.Here's where it's going to get
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  • Here's where it's going to geta little tense in the room.
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  • a little tense in the room.Passion dies out
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  • Passion dies outwhen "we" becomes "me."
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  • when "we" becomes "me."Hello.
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  • Hello.Hello.
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  • Hello.The two become one.
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  • The two become one.If you're married,
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  • If you're married,you are not a "me" anymore.
  • 00:08:32.675 --> 00:08:33.509
  • you are not a "me" anymore.And if you're not ready
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  • And if you're not readyto not be a "me" anymore --
  • 00:08:34.443 --> 00:08:35.278
  • to not be a "me" anymore --"I just feel like
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  • "I just feel likeI lost myself."
  • 00:08:36.712 --> 00:08:38.514
  • I lost myself."Yeah, I hear you.
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  • Yeah, I hear you.You kind of did.
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  • You kind of did.You kind of decided to do that.
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  • You kind of decided to do that.The two become one.
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  • The two become one.I taught our staff --
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  • I taught our staff --I do a summer teaching
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  • I do a summer teachingevery summer for our staff.
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  • every summer for our staff.This year our theme
  • 00:08:52.895 --> 00:08:54.897
  • This year our themewas stretch marks.
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  • was stretch marks.It was cool.
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  • It was cool.Come on, touch somebody
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  • Come on, touch somebodynext to you, say,
  • 00:08:59.969 --> 00:09:02.838
  • next to you, say,"I got stretch marks."
  • 00:09:02.838 --> 00:09:07.610
  • "I got stretch marks."The year before we -- oh.
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  • The year before we -- oh.The year before we did,
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  • The year before we did,I called it "The Art of Me-We,"
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  • I called it "The Art of Me-We,"the art of me-we.
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  • the art of me-we.I said churches get in trouble
  • 00:09:12.214 --> 00:09:13.149
  • I said churches get in troublewhen we get flipped upside down
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  • when we get flipped upside downand "we" becomes "me."
  • 00:09:16.285 --> 00:09:17.954
  • and "we" becomes "me."Flip it upside down,
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  • Flip it upside down,the "W," we and me.
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  • the "W," we and me.Marriages get in trouble
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  • Marriages get in troublewhen "we" becomes "me."
  • 00:09:26.062 --> 00:09:26.862
  • when "we" becomes "me."And we live in
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  • And we live inthe most self-centered --
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  • the most self-centered --I don't think it was always this
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  • I don't think it was always thisself-centered
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  • self-centeredas it is right now.
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  • as it is right now.I don't.
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  • I don't.I'm a young man, but just like
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  • I'm a young man, but just likefrom what I could remember
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  • from what I could rememberof my grandparents' relationship
  • 00:09:36.872 --> 00:09:37.873
  • of my grandparents' relationshipand different people
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  • and different peoplethat I've seen who are
  • 00:09:38.608 --> 00:09:39.842
  • that I've seen who arefrom a different generation,
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  • from a different generation,they understood something
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  • they understood somethingabout when you get married,
  • 00:09:42.745 --> 00:09:44.180
  • about when you get married,you don't get to use
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  • you don't get to usefirst-person singular anymore
  • 00:09:45.481 --> 00:09:48.017
  • first-person singular anymoreabout your life decisions.
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  • about your life decisions.You can scratch it out
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  • You can scratch it outof your vocabulary book.
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  • of your vocabulary book.You can flip all the Ms
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  • You can flip all the Msupside now because you're
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  • upside now because you'rea "we" now.
  • 00:09:55.725 --> 00:09:56.692
  • a "we" now.And in fact, that's what Paul
  • 00:09:56.692 --> 00:09:58.194
  • And in fact, that's what Paulis pointing to in the passage.
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  • is pointing to in the passage.He says if you have children,
  • 00:10:01.864 --> 00:10:05.234
  • He says if you have children,it even becomes more of this,
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  • it even becomes more of this,like that is
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  • like that isthe ultimate decision.
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  • the ultimate decision.And if you're not ready to go
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  • And if you're not ready to gofrom "me" to "we"
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  • from "me" to "we"in every decision, not just,
  • 00:10:14.710 --> 00:10:15.511
  • in every decision, not just,"Well, I want to get married,
  • 00:10:15.511 --> 00:10:16.979
  • "Well, I want to get married,but I still, you know,
  • 00:10:16.979 --> 00:10:18.714
  • but I still, you know,I got my own life, too."
  • 00:10:18.714 --> 00:10:21.417
  • I got my own life, too."No, you don't.
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  • No, you don't.And if that's what you want,
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  • And if that's what you want,you don't need a marriage.
  • 00:10:25.788 --> 00:10:26.689
  • you don't need a marriage.You need to just keep going
  • 00:10:26.689 --> 00:10:28.357
  • You need to just keep goingto Starbucks and hold hands
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  • to Starbucks and hold handsand have good friends,
  • 00:10:29.892 --> 00:10:30.526
  • and have good friends,but you don't need
  • 00:10:30.526 --> 00:10:32.762
  • but you don't needto get married.
  • 00:10:32.762 --> 00:10:33.396
  • to get married.I'll bring you
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  • I'll bring youa New Testament example.
  • 00:10:34.530 --> 00:10:35.164
  • a New Testament example.I know you're craving
  • 00:10:35.164 --> 00:10:36.832
  • I know you're cravingan example of this.
  • 00:10:36.832 --> 00:10:38.334
  • an example of this.How about those men who had
  • 00:10:38.334 --> 00:10:39.635
  • How about those men who hada friend who was paralyzed
  • 00:10:39.635 --> 00:10:40.469
  • a friend who was paralyzedand they wanted
  • 00:10:40.469 --> 00:10:42.104
  • and they wantedto get him to Jesus?
  • 00:10:42.104 --> 00:10:43.606
  • to get him to Jesus?And they wanted to get him
  • 00:10:43.606 --> 00:10:44.573
  • And they wanted to get himto Jesus because they thought
  • 00:10:44.573 --> 00:10:46.142
  • to Jesus because they thoughtmaybe Jesus could make him walk,
  • 00:10:46.142 --> 00:10:47.076
  • maybe Jesus could make him walk,but when they got to the place,
  • 00:10:47.076 --> 00:10:47.910
  • but when they got to the place,they carry his mat,
  • 00:10:47.910 --> 00:10:48.711
  • they carry his mat,who knows how far
  • 00:10:48.711 --> 00:10:49.545
  • who knows how farthey had to walk, who knows
  • 00:10:49.545 --> 00:10:51.480
  • they had to walk, who knowshow strenuous the journey.
  • 00:10:51.480 --> 00:10:52.448
  • how strenuous the journey.Some of us wouldn't even pick up
  • 00:10:52.448 --> 00:10:53.349
  • Some of us wouldn't even pick upa friend to church
  • 00:10:53.349 --> 00:11:01.657
  • a friend to churchin a minivan.
  • 00:11:01.657 --> 00:11:03.259
  • in a minivan.And these men carry
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  • And these men carrytheir friend on a mat.
  • 00:11:06.896 --> 00:11:07.963
  • their friend on a mat.And then when they get there,
  • 00:11:07.963 --> 00:11:09.899
  • And then when they get there,they find out that the overflow
  • 00:11:09.899 --> 00:11:12.334
  • they find out that the overflowis already full.
  • 00:11:12.334 --> 00:11:12.968
  • is already full.And so you can watch
  • 00:11:12.968 --> 00:11:14.370
  • And so you can watchthe archive online.
  • 00:11:14.370 --> 00:11:16.205
  • the archive online.Jesus is healing people
  • 00:11:16.205 --> 00:11:17.139
  • Jesus is healing peoplein the house,
  • 00:11:17.139 --> 00:11:17.940
  • in the house,but you can watch it online,
  • 00:11:17.940 --> 00:11:18.574
  • but you can watch it online,you can download the podcast.
  • 00:11:18.574 --> 00:11:20.543
  • you can download the podcast.They said, "Okay, cool.
  • 00:11:20.543 --> 00:11:22.244
  • They said, "Okay, cool.Yeah, we ain't doing that,
  • 00:11:22.244 --> 00:11:23.679
  • Yeah, we ain't doing that,because we got a friend
  • 00:11:23.679 --> 00:11:25.214
  • because we got a friendwho we cared enough
  • 00:11:25.214 --> 00:11:27.216
  • who we cared enoughto carry this far,
  • 00:11:27.216 --> 00:11:28.884
  • to carry this far,and so we're not going to stop
  • 00:11:28.884 --> 00:11:31.554
  • and so we're not going to stopat the first closed door."
  • 00:11:31.554 --> 00:11:32.455
  • at the first closed door."Who do you care enough
  • 00:11:32.455 --> 00:11:36.125
  • Who do you care enoughto carry sometimes?
  • 00:11:36.125 --> 00:11:37.693
  • to carry sometimes?Do you care enough about
  • 00:11:37.693 --> 00:11:38.961
  • Do you care enough aboutthe person that you said
  • 00:11:38.961 --> 00:11:39.595
  • the person that you said"I do" to,
  • 00:11:39.595 --> 00:11:41.197
  • "I do" to,to carry them sometimes?
  • 00:11:41.197 --> 00:11:41.931
  • to carry them sometimes?Because sometimes they won't
  • 00:11:41.931 --> 00:11:45.101
  • Because sometimes they won'thave their own ability to walk.
  • 00:11:45.101 --> 00:11:46.402
  • have their own ability to walk.Sometimes life is going to
  • 00:11:46.402 --> 00:11:48.938
  • Sometimes life is going tohit them so hard.
  • 00:11:48.938 --> 00:11:50.139
  • hit them so hard.Their past is going to catch up.
  • 00:11:50.139 --> 00:11:51.874
  • Their past is going to catch up.Do you care enough to carry?
  • 00:11:51.874 --> 00:11:53.342
  • Do you care enough to carry?They not only carried him
  • 00:11:53.342 --> 00:11:54.577
  • They not only carried himto the door,
  • 00:11:54.577 --> 00:11:55.277
  • to the door,but when they were
  • 00:11:55.277 --> 00:11:56.212
  • but when they weresent away by the ushers,
  • 00:11:56.212 --> 00:11:58.781
  • sent away by the ushers,they went up on the roof
  • 00:11:58.781 --> 00:12:00.049
  • they went up on the roofand they started tearing
  • 00:12:00.049 --> 00:12:02.051
  • and they started tearingthe roof apart.
  • 00:12:02.051 --> 00:12:03.119
  • the roof apart.And the deacons were throwing
  • 00:12:03.119 --> 00:12:05.154
  • And the deacons were throwinga fit about it, too.
  • 00:12:05.154 --> 00:12:07.556
  • a fit about it, too.We did not vote on this.
  • 00:12:07.556 --> 00:12:08.591
  • We did not vote on this.This was not in the budget,
  • 00:12:08.591 --> 00:12:09.558
  • This was not in the budget,Jesus.
  • 00:12:09.558 --> 00:12:10.126
  • Jesus.But Jesus said,
  • 00:12:10.126 --> 00:12:12.128
  • But Jesus said,"Oh, I like their faith."
  • 00:12:12.128 --> 00:12:12.762
  • "Oh, I like their faith."Now, here's the interesting
  • 00:12:12.762 --> 00:12:13.395
  • Now, here's the interestingthing about the passage.
  • 00:12:13.395 --> 00:12:14.096
  • thing about the passage.You can look it up
  • 00:12:14.096 --> 00:12:14.797
  • You can look it upin Mark chapter 2
  • 00:12:14.797 --> 00:12:15.564
  • in Mark chapter 2for your personal Bible study
  • 00:12:15.564 --> 00:12:16.265
  • for your personal Bible studyand edification this week.
  • 00:12:16.265 --> 00:12:17.166
  • and edification this week.In Mark chapter 2 it says,
  • 00:12:17.166 --> 00:12:21.003
  • In Mark chapter 2 it says,"When Jesus saw their faith,
  • 00:12:21.003 --> 00:12:22.671
  • "When Jesus saw their faith,He said to the man,
  • 00:12:22.671 --> 00:12:26.008
  • He said to the man,'Your sins are forgiven.'"
  • 00:12:26.008 --> 00:12:27.076
  • 'Your sins are forgiven.'"No, no, because I expected it
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  • No, no, because I expected itto say, "When Jesus saw
  • 00:12:29.678 --> 00:12:31.347
  • to say, "When Jesus sawthe man's faith,
  • 00:12:31.347 --> 00:12:32.014
  • the man's faith,He said to the man,
  • 00:12:32.014 --> 00:12:33.449
  • He said to the man,'Your sins are forgiven.'"
  • 00:12:33.449 --> 00:12:34.216
  • 'Your sins are forgiven.'"The man might not even have
  • 00:12:34.216 --> 00:12:35.117
  • The man might not even havehis own faith,
  • 00:12:35.117 --> 00:12:37.653
  • his own faith,but he has some friends
  • 00:12:37.653 --> 00:12:39.221
  • but he has some friendswho said, "Until you get
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  • who said, "Until you getyour own faith,
  • 00:12:40.022 --> 00:12:41.824
  • your own faith,you can have some of ours,
  • 00:12:41.824 --> 00:12:43.292
  • you can have some of ours,and we care enough
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  • and we care enoughto carry you,
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  • to carry you,and we won't take no
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  • and we won't take nofor an answer."
  • 00:12:46.896 --> 00:12:48.164
  • for an answer."And Paul says marriage
  • 00:12:48.164 --> 00:12:50.266
  • And Paul says marriagehas to be like that sometimes.
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  • has to be like that sometimes.Sometimes I need you
  • 00:12:51.033 --> 00:12:52.067
  • Sometimes I need youto cover me.
  • 00:12:52.067 --> 00:12:52.802
  • to cover me.Sometimes I need you
  • 00:12:52.802 --> 00:12:53.803
  • Sometimes I need youto carry me.
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  • to carry me.Sometimes I need you
  • 00:12:54.503 --> 00:12:56.038
  • Sometimes I need youto put up with me.
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  • to put up with me.Sometimes I need you to give me
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  • Sometimes I need you to give mea little extra grace.
  • 00:12:58.908 --> 00:12:59.608
  • a little extra grace.Sometimes I need you
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  • Sometimes I need youto believe the best about me.
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  • to believe the best about me.Sometimes I need you
  • 00:13:01.510 --> 00:13:03.045
  • Sometimes I need youto be patient with me.
  • 00:13:03.045 --> 00:13:03.846
  • to be patient with me.Sometimes I need you
  • 00:13:03.846 --> 00:13:05.514
  • Sometimes I need youto speak something over me
  • 00:13:05.514 --> 00:13:06.615
  • to speak something over methat I don't even believe
  • 00:13:06.615 --> 00:13:07.783
  • that I don't even believeabout myself.
  • 00:13:07.783 --> 00:13:11.353
  • If it's going to work, "me"
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  • If it's going to work, "me"has to become "we."
  • 00:13:19.562 --> 00:13:20.996
  • has to become "we."Tell somebody next to you,
  • 00:13:20.996 --> 00:13:21.997
  • Tell somebody next to you,"God is saving a marriage
  • 00:13:21.997 --> 00:13:24.800
  • "God is saving a marriageright now."
  • 00:13:24.800 --> 00:13:25.768
  • right now."Because some of y'all, y'all
  • 00:13:25.768 --> 00:13:29.305
  • Because some of y'all, y'allgot tired carrying somebody.
  • 00:13:29.305 --> 00:13:30.673
  • got tired carrying somebody.Carrying, carrying, feel like
  • 00:13:30.673 --> 00:13:31.574
  • Carrying, carrying, feel likeyou're just carrying this
  • 00:13:31.574 --> 00:13:33.209
  • you're just carrying thisthing right now.
  • 00:13:33.209 --> 00:13:33.776
  • thing right now.Just carrying
  • 00:13:33.776 --> 00:13:35.778
  • Just carryingthis thing right now.
  • 00:13:35.778 --> 00:13:36.879
  • this thing right now.And I will say that you
  • 00:13:36.879 --> 00:13:38.848
  • And I will say that youcan't carry somebody forever,
  • 00:13:38.848 --> 00:13:40.950
  • can't carry somebody forever,but I will say that if God
  • 00:13:40.950 --> 00:13:44.153
  • but I will say that if Godhad dropped you when you
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  • had dropped you when yougot hard to carry --
  • 00:13:46.622 --> 00:13:47.623
  • got hard to carry --yes, I'll say more about that.
  • 00:13:47.623 --> 00:13:48.090
  • yes, I'll say more about that.I sure will.
  • 00:13:48.090 --> 00:13:49.725
  • I sure will.Absolutely I will.
  • 00:13:49.725 --> 00:13:50.659
  • Absolutely I will.You got it.
  • 00:13:50.659 --> 00:13:56.866
  • You got it.No extra charge.
  • 00:13:56.866 --> 00:13:59.068
  • No extra charge.Watch, watch.
  • 00:13:59.068 --> 00:14:01.003
  • Watch, watch.This is dangerous.
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  • This is dangerous.Passion dies when debtors
  • 00:14:02.137 --> 00:14:05.574
  • Passion dies when debtorsbecome collectors.
  • 00:14:05.574 --> 00:14:06.876
  • become collectors.Let's look at it.
  • 00:14:06.876 --> 00:14:13.249
  • Let's look at it.Debtors become collectors.
  • 00:14:13.249 --> 00:14:14.416
  • Debtors become collectors.One of the most bizarre parables
  • 00:14:14.416 --> 00:14:16.285
  • One of the most bizarre parablesJesus ever told of stories
  • 00:14:16.285 --> 00:14:17.219
  • Jesus ever told of storiesHe would tell that had
  • 00:14:17.219 --> 00:14:18.821
  • He would tell that hada deeper meaning,
  • 00:14:18.821 --> 00:14:19.755
  • a deeper meaning,one of the most bizarre ones
  • 00:14:19.755 --> 00:14:22.958
  • one of the most bizarre onesto me is this one.
  • 00:14:22.958 --> 00:14:27.162
  • to me is this one.In Matthew chapter 18, verse 21,
  • 00:14:27.162 --> 00:14:28.364
  • In Matthew chapter 18, verse 21,Peter comes up to Jesus,
  • 00:14:28.364 --> 00:14:30.065
  • Peter comes up to Jesus,he goes,
  • 00:14:30.065 --> 00:14:31.100
  • he goes,"Lord, you've been preaching
  • 00:14:31.100 --> 00:14:32.534
  • "Lord, you've been preachingabout forgiveness
  • 00:14:32.534 --> 00:14:33.302
  • about forgivenessand grace and mercy.
  • 00:14:33.302 --> 00:14:34.603
  • and grace and mercy.That's great.
  • 00:14:34.603 --> 00:14:35.337
  • That's great.How many times shall
  • 00:14:35.337 --> 00:14:36.238
  • How many times shallI forgive my brother or sister
  • 00:14:36.238 --> 00:14:38.774
  • I forgive my brother or sisterwho sins against me?"
  • 00:14:38.774 --> 00:14:39.508
  • who sins against me?"Now, what we're about to read,
  • 00:14:39.508 --> 00:14:40.276
  • Now, what we're about to read,I think it can come on
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  • I think it can come onthe screen maybe.
  • 00:14:41.143 --> 00:14:44.747
  • the screen maybe.Yeah, there it is.
  • 00:14:44.747 --> 00:14:46.582
  • Yeah, there it is.And so he says,
  • 00:14:46.582 --> 00:14:47.416
  • And so he says,"How many times shall I forgive
  • 00:14:47.416 --> 00:14:48.651
  • "How many times shall I forgivea brother or sister?"
  • 00:14:48.651 --> 00:14:50.486
  • a brother or sister?"Now, what Jesus is about to do,
  • 00:14:50.486 --> 00:14:52.488
  • Now, what Jesus is about to do,He's about to take the limit
  • 00:14:52.488 --> 00:14:54.290
  • He's about to take the limitand the lid off of the amount
  • 00:14:54.290 --> 00:14:55.991
  • and the lid off of the amountof grace and mercy
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  • of grace and mercythat we would offer
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  • that we would offerto another human being.
  • 00:14:57.626 --> 00:14:59.194
  • to another human being.Because Peter's like trying
  • 00:14:59.194 --> 00:14:59.895
  • Because Peter's like tryingto show off.
  • 00:14:59.895 --> 00:15:00.930
  • to show off.He's like, "Should I do it
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  • He's like, "Should I do itlike up to seven times?
  • 00:15:03.799 --> 00:15:06.936
  • like up to seven times?Wouldn't that be impressive?"
  • 00:15:06.936 --> 00:15:09.038
  • Wouldn't that be impressive?"And Jesus is like, "Nope.
  • 00:15:09.038 --> 00:15:10.039
  • And Jesus is like, "Nope.I tell you not 7 times,
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  • I tell you not 7 times,but 77 times."
  • 00:15:11.407 --> 00:15:12.007
  • but 77 times."A better translation
  • 00:15:12.007 --> 00:15:14.443
  • A better translationis "70 times 7."
  • 00:15:14.443 --> 00:15:15.544
  • is "70 times 7."And He's not saying,
  • 00:15:15.544 --> 00:15:17.179
  • And He's not saying,"On time 491,
  • 00:15:17.179 --> 00:15:18.347
  • "On time 491,you can slit their throat."
  • 00:15:18.347 --> 00:15:21.116
  • you can slit their throat."He's saying 7 is the number
  • 00:15:21.116 --> 00:15:22.318
  • He's saying 7 is the numberof completion and perfection,
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  • of completion and perfection,so it's perfection
  • 00:15:22.985 --> 00:15:23.752
  • so it's perfectiontimes perfection,
  • 00:15:23.752 --> 00:15:25.621
  • times perfection,completion times completion."
  • 00:15:25.621 --> 00:15:26.855
  • completion times completion."Like, as many times as it takes.
  • 00:15:26.855 --> 00:15:27.890
  • Like, as many times as it takes.Doesn't mean you allow people
  • 00:15:27.890 --> 00:15:29.358
  • Doesn't mean you allow peopleto continue to abuse you.
  • 00:15:29.358 --> 00:15:30.159
  • to continue to abuse you.Doesn't mean you
  • 00:15:30.159 --> 00:15:30.960
  • Doesn't mean youdon't put distance in
  • 00:15:30.960 --> 00:15:31.894
  • don't put distance inrelationships sometimes.
  • 00:15:31.894 --> 00:15:32.995
  • relationships sometimes.That's not what He's saying.
  • 00:15:32.995 --> 00:15:33.963
  • That's not what He's saying.He's saying in your heart
  • 00:15:33.963 --> 00:15:34.596
  • He's saying in your heartyou got to forgive them
  • 00:15:34.596 --> 00:15:35.764
  • you got to forgive themas many time as it takes
  • 00:15:35.764 --> 00:15:37.900
  • as many time as it takesfor you to stay free.
  • 00:15:37.900 --> 00:15:38.767
  • for you to stay free.Watch this.
  • 00:15:38.767 --> 00:15:39.501
  • Watch this.This is where it all comes
  • 00:15:39.501 --> 00:15:40.502
  • This is where it all comestogether for me.
  • 00:15:40.502 --> 00:15:41.470
  • together for me.He said, "All right" --
  • 00:15:41.470 --> 00:15:42.671
  • He said, "All right" --and apparently Peter
  • 00:15:42.671 --> 00:15:44.206
  • and apparently Peterdoesn't quite get it.
  • 00:15:44.206 --> 00:15:45.274
  • doesn't quite get it.Peter's like, "All right, 77,
  • 00:15:45.274 --> 00:15:48.243
  • Peter's like, "All right, 77,so on 78, I can choke them out."
  • 00:15:48.243 --> 00:15:50.312
  • so on 78, I can choke them out."And so Jesus is like,
  • 00:15:50.312 --> 00:15:51.347
  • And so Jesus is like,"All right, let me give you
  • 00:15:51.347 --> 00:15:52.448
  • "All right, let me give youthe story.
  • 00:15:52.448 --> 00:15:53.215
  • the story.The kingdom of heaven is like
  • 00:15:53.215 --> 00:15:53.949
  • The kingdom of heaven is likea king who wanted to settle
  • 00:15:53.949 --> 00:15:55.451
  • a king who wanted to settleaccounts with his servants.
  • 00:15:55.451 --> 00:15:56.185
  • accounts with his servants.Next verse, please.
  • 00:15:56.185 --> 00:15:57.853
  • Next verse, please.As he began the settlement,
  • 00:15:57.853 --> 00:15:59.288
  • As he began the settlement,a man who owed him 10.000 bags
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  • a man who owed him 10.000 bagsof gold, that's a lot,
  • 00:16:02.758 --> 00:16:03.892
  • of gold, that's a lot,a man who owed him 10.000 bags
  • 00:16:03.892 --> 00:16:06.462
  • a man who owed him 10.000 bagsof gold was brought to him.
  • 00:16:06.462 --> 00:16:07.329
  • of gold was brought to him.Since he was not able to pay,
  • 00:16:07.329 --> 00:16:08.230
  • Since he was not able to pay,the master ordered that
  • 00:16:08.230 --> 00:16:10.399
  • the master ordered thathe and his wife and his children
  • 00:16:10.399 --> 00:16:11.734
  • he and his wife and his childrenand all that he had be sold
  • 00:16:11.734 --> 00:16:13.635
  • and all that he had be soldto repay the debt.
  • 00:16:13.635 --> 00:16:14.303
  • to repay the debt.At this, the servant
  • 00:16:14.303 --> 00:16:17.373
  • At this, the servantfell on his knees before him.
  • 00:16:17.373 --> 00:16:18.707
  • fell on his knees before him."Be patient with me," he begged,
  • 00:16:18.707 --> 00:16:19.575
  • "Be patient with me," he begged,"and I will pay
  • 00:16:19.575 --> 00:16:20.709
  • "and I will payback everything."
  • 00:16:20.709 --> 00:16:21.577
  • back everything."This is a picture of religion,
  • 00:16:21.577 --> 00:16:22.311
  • This is a picture of religion,by the way,
  • 00:16:22.311 --> 00:16:24.013
  • by the way,"God, I'll pay you back."
  • 00:16:24.013 --> 00:16:24.980
  • "God, I'll pay you back."The master does not accept
  • 00:16:24.980 --> 00:16:26.415
  • The master does not accepthis offer.
  • 00:16:26.415 --> 00:16:28.851
  • his offer.He knows this is impossible.
  • 00:16:28.851 --> 00:16:29.518
  • He knows this is impossible."Look, you ain't
  • 00:16:29.518 --> 00:16:30.753
  • "Look, you ain'tpaying me back."
  • 00:16:30.753 --> 00:16:34.523
  • paying me back."But, look, he takes pity on him.
  • 00:16:34.523 --> 00:16:35.257
  • But, look, he takes pity on him.Takes pity on him.
  • 00:16:35.257 --> 00:16:36.191
  • Takes pity on him.And that's what God did
  • 00:16:36.191 --> 00:16:38.527
  • And that's what God didfor you in Christ.
  • 00:16:38.527 --> 00:16:39.328
  • for you in Christ.You didn't, like,
  • 00:16:39.328 --> 00:16:40.162
  • You didn't, like,pay God back.
  • 00:16:40.162 --> 00:16:40.963
  • pay God back.You didn't all of a sudden
  • 00:16:40.963 --> 00:16:43.098
  • You didn't all of a suddenstack up enough good works
  • 00:16:43.098 --> 00:16:44.099
  • stack up enough good workswhere God's like, "You know,
  • 00:16:44.099 --> 00:16:45.601
  • where God's like, "You know,that's bag number 10.000.
  • 00:16:45.601 --> 00:16:46.335
  • that's bag number 10.000.You're clear now.
  • 00:16:46.335 --> 00:16:48.871
  • You're clear now.You may go."
  • 00:16:48.871 --> 00:16:49.872
  • You may go."This is not what happened.
  • 00:16:49.872 --> 00:16:52.141
  • This is not what happened.He took pity on him,
  • 00:16:52.141 --> 00:16:54.610
  • He took pity on him,canceled the debt,
  • 00:16:54.610 --> 00:16:56.678
  • canceled the debt,didn't give them more time,
  • 00:16:56.678 --> 00:16:57.346
  • didn't give them more time,just tore
  • 00:16:57.346 --> 00:16:59.381
  • just torethe thing up altogether.
  • 00:16:59.381 --> 00:17:00.582
  • the thing up altogether.He asked him for more time.
  • 00:17:00.582 --> 00:17:01.316
  • He asked him for more time.He said, "No, how about
  • 00:17:01.316 --> 00:17:04.520
  • He said, "No, how aboutwe just cancel this?"
  • 00:17:04.520 --> 00:17:07.056
  • we just cancel this?"And he let him go.
  • 00:17:07.056 --> 00:17:07.756
  • And he let him go.What does he do with
  • 00:17:07.756 --> 00:17:09.324
  • What does he do withhis newfound freedom?
  • 00:17:09.324 --> 00:17:11.727
  • his newfound freedom?Well, when he went out,
  • 00:17:11.727 --> 00:17:12.361
  • Well, when he went out,Jesus said,
  • 00:17:12.361 --> 00:17:14.430
  • Jesus said,"About when he went out."
  • 00:17:14.430 --> 00:17:15.230
  • "About when he went out."You expected him to pay
  • 00:17:15.230 --> 00:17:16.632
  • You expected him to payit forward, right?
  • 00:17:16.632 --> 00:17:18.400
  • it forward, right?Because once you have
  • 00:17:18.400 --> 00:17:19.635
  • Because once you havea payback mentality,
  • 00:17:19.635 --> 00:17:22.638
  • a payback mentality,it is very hard to break out of.
  • 00:17:22.638 --> 00:17:23.572
  • it is very hard to break out of.And if your relationship
  • 00:17:23.572 --> 00:17:24.540
  • And if your relationshipwith God you think
  • 00:17:24.540 --> 00:17:25.374
  • with God you thinkis about payback, you're going
  • 00:17:25.374 --> 00:17:26.408
  • is about payback, you're goingto have a very difficult time
  • 00:17:26.408 --> 00:17:27.376
  • to have a very difficult timegiving grace because you don't
  • 00:17:27.376 --> 00:17:28.944
  • giving grace because you don'tknow how to receive it.
  • 00:17:28.944 --> 00:17:31.413
  • know how to receive it.So he goes out, and he's had
  • 00:17:31.413 --> 00:17:32.314
  • So he goes out, and he's hadhis debt forgiven,
  • 00:17:32.314 --> 00:17:33.182
  • his debt forgiven,but he hasn't had his
  • 00:17:33.182 --> 00:17:34.950
  • but he hasn't had hismindset changed yet.
  • 00:17:34.950 --> 00:17:35.551
  • mindset changed yet.That's where a lot
  • 00:17:35.551 --> 00:17:36.952
  • That's where a lotof Christians are.
  • 00:17:36.952 --> 00:17:37.686
  • of Christians are.That's where a lot of
  • 00:17:37.686 --> 00:17:39.054
  • That's where a lot ofmarriages are.
  • 00:17:39.054 --> 00:17:40.422
  • marriages are.You've had your sins forgiven,
  • 00:17:40.422 --> 00:17:41.356
  • You've had your sins forgiven,but you're still operating
  • 00:17:41.356 --> 00:17:43.492
  • but you're still operatingby a ledger system.
  • 00:17:43.492 --> 00:17:45.427
  • by a ledger system.And so he goes out, he finds
  • 00:17:45.427 --> 00:17:47.463
  • And so he goes out, he findsone of his fellow servants.
  • 00:17:47.463 --> 00:17:48.263
  • one of his fellow servants.Let's say this represents
  • 00:17:48.263 --> 00:17:49.331
  • Let's say this representsyour husband or wife.
  • 00:17:49.331 --> 00:17:50.165
  • your husband or wife.I know this is not commonly
  • 00:17:50.165 --> 00:17:51.200
  • I know this is not commonlya marriage text, but I think
  • 00:17:51.200 --> 00:17:53.535
  • a marriage text, but I thinkit's an excellent one.
  • 00:17:53.535 --> 00:17:56.738
  • it's an excellent one.Who owed him 100 silver coins.
  • 00:17:56.738 --> 00:18:00.109
  • Who owed him 100 silver coins.This dude got forgiven
  • 00:18:00.109 --> 00:18:02.578
  • This dude got forgivenfor 10.000 bags,
  • 00:18:02.578 --> 00:18:03.879
  • for 10.000 bags,and now he finds somebody
  • 00:18:03.879 --> 00:18:05.647
  • and now he finds somebodywho owes him chump change --
  • 00:18:05.647 --> 00:18:07.950
  • who owes him chump change --everybody say "chump change."
  • 00:18:07.950 --> 00:18:09.451
  • everybody say "chump change."And I don't care how anybody
  • 00:18:09.451 --> 00:18:10.719
  • And I don't care how anybodyhas ever offended you
  • 00:18:10.719 --> 00:18:11.687
  • has ever offended youin your life,
  • 00:18:11.687 --> 00:18:12.955
  • in your life,it is chump change
  • 00:18:12.955 --> 00:18:13.789
  • it is chump changecompared to how our sins
  • 00:18:13.789 --> 00:18:15.791
  • compared to how our sinsoffended a holy God.
  • 00:18:15.791 --> 00:18:17.693
  • offended a holy God.Chump change.
  • 00:18:17.693 --> 00:18:20.262
  • Chump change.And so look what he does.
  • 00:18:20.262 --> 00:18:22.698
  • And so look what he does.He grabbed him.
  • 00:18:22.698 --> 00:18:25.100
  • He grabbed him.You expect him to hug this dude.
  • 00:18:25.100 --> 00:18:25.934
  • You expect him to hug this dude."Hey, man, I just got some
  • 00:18:25.934 --> 00:18:26.735
  • "Hey, man, I just got somegood news.
  • 00:18:26.735 --> 00:18:27.503
  • good news.I want to give you some
  • 00:18:27.503 --> 00:18:28.637
  • I want to give you somegood news, too.
  • 00:18:28.637 --> 00:18:29.838
  • good news, too.I don't have to pay
  • 00:18:29.838 --> 00:18:30.405
  • I don't have to paythe master anymore,
  • 00:18:30.405 --> 00:18:31.640
  • the master anymore,so you don't have to pay me.
  • 00:18:31.640 --> 00:18:33.509
  • so you don't have to pay me.Now go and do likewise."
  • 00:18:33.509 --> 00:18:35.344
  • Now go and do likewise."But he comes at the guy
  • 00:18:35.344 --> 00:18:37.646
  • But he comes at the guyand he grabs him and he begins
  • 00:18:37.646 --> 00:18:38.780
  • and he grabs him and he beginsto choke him, and he said,
  • 00:18:38.780 --> 00:18:41.550
  • to choke him, and he said,"Pay back what you owe me."
  • 00:18:41.550 --> 00:18:46.054
  • "Pay back what you owe me."He demanded.
  • 00:18:46.054 --> 00:18:49.825
  • He demanded.From debtor to collector
  • 00:18:49.825 --> 00:18:51.460
  • From debtor to collectorin a moment.
  • 00:18:51.460 --> 00:18:52.594
  • in a moment.And his fellow servant --
  • 00:18:52.594 --> 00:18:53.362
  • And his fellow servant --now, we've seen this scene
  • 00:18:53.362 --> 00:18:54.930
  • now, we've seen this scenebefore -- fell to his knees
  • 00:18:54.930 --> 00:18:57.499
  • before -- fell to his kneesand begged him, "Be patient
  • 00:18:57.499 --> 00:19:00.202
  • and begged him, "Be patientwith me and I will pay it back."
  • 00:19:00.202 --> 00:19:01.036
  • with me and I will pay it back."In other words, he just needs
  • 00:19:01.036 --> 00:19:02.004
  • In other words, he just needssome of the same grace
  • 00:19:02.004 --> 00:19:04.773
  • some of the same gracethat this guy just got.
  • 00:19:04.773 --> 00:19:05.741
  • that this guy just got.But the man won't give it.
  • 00:19:05.741 --> 00:19:06.875
  • But the man won't give it.And I wondered in my mind,
  • 00:19:06.875 --> 00:19:08.243
  • And I wondered in my mind,studying this text this week,
  • 00:19:08.243 --> 00:19:09.278
  • studying this text this week,you know, I've always said
  • 00:19:09.278 --> 00:19:10.712
  • you know, I've always saidthat the man had a bad heart.
  • 00:19:10.712 --> 00:19:11.647
  • that the man had a bad heart.Maybe it wasn't that his
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  • Maybe it wasn't that hisheart was bad.
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  • heart was bad.Just thinking.
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  • Just thinking.Maybe he still intended
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  • Maybe he still intendedto pay the master back,
  • 00:19:17.586 --> 00:19:18.787
  • to pay the master back,so he sets out to collect
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  • so he sets out to collectbecause he still can't believe
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  • because he still can't believethat his debt was canceled.
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  • that his debt was canceled.Maybe he's still so stuck
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  • Maybe he's still so stuckin this mindset,
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  • in this mindset,this religious mindset,
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  • this religious mindset,that he's going after this guy
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  • that he's going after this guyand he refuses --
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  • and he refuses --I don't think he really got it.
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  • I don't think he really got it.If he had really got it,
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  • If he had really got it,he would have given it.
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  • he would have given it.Don't you think if you
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  • Don't you think if youreally give grace
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  • really give graceyou'll give grace?
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  • you'll give grace?Once your sins are forgiven,
  • 00:19:40.008 --> 00:19:41.710
  • Once your sins are forgiven,he who forgives much loves much,
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  • he who forgives much loves much,don't you think?
  • 00:19:44.246 --> 00:19:44.947
  • don't you think?But he refused.
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  • But he refused.He said, "No, man."
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  • He said, "No, man."And he had the man
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  • And he had the manthrown in prison.
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  • thrown in prison.We do this to people
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  • We do this to peopleall the time.
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  • all the time.We imprison them,
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  • We imprison them,awaiting payback.
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  • awaiting payback.Some of you have imprisoned
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  • Some of you have imprisoneda spouse emotionally
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  • a spouse emotionallybecause of something
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  • because of somethingthey did 36 months ago.
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  • they did 36 months ago.Some of you have imprisoned
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  • Some of you have imprisoneda spouse emotionally
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  • a spouse emotionallybecause of something somebody
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  • because of something somebodyelse did to you that
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  • else did to you thatyou're taking out on somebody
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  • you're taking out on somebodywho didn't even do it.
  • 00:20:14.543 --> 00:20:15.777
  • who didn't even do it.But when the other servant saw
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  • But when the other servant saw-- and here's the thing
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  • -- and here's the thingabout payback: If you insist
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  • about payback: If you insiston living by the system
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  • on living by the systemof payback, you'll always be
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  • of payback, you'll always bethe one punished.
  • 00:20:29.124 --> 00:20:31.360
  • the one punished.You'll always be
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  • You'll always bethe one who ends up choked.
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  • the one who ends up choked.Watch.
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  • Watch.When the other servant saw
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  • When the other servant sawwhat had happened,
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  • what had happened,they were outraged,
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  • they were outraged,and they went and told
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  • and they went and toldtheir master everything
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  • their master everythingthat had happened.
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  • that had happened.And then the master called
  • 00:20:38.900 --> 00:20:39.668
  • And then the master calledthe servant in.
  • 00:20:39.668 --> 00:20:40.569
  • the servant in.He said, "You wicked servant.
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  • He said, "You wicked servant.I canceled all that debt of
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  • I canceled all that debt ofyours because you begged me to.
  • 00:20:43.272 --> 00:20:45.140
  • yours because you begged me to.Like, you got in and you got
  • 00:20:45.140 --> 00:20:46.441
  • Like, you got in and you gotset free by grace,
  • 00:20:46.441 --> 00:20:47.776
  • set free by grace,but now you want to demand
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  • but now you want to demandwhat the law requires
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  • what the law requiresof somebody else.
  • 00:20:51.179 --> 00:20:52.247
  • of somebody else.Shouldn't you have had mercy
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  • Shouldn't you have had mercyon your fellow servant just
  • 00:20:53.849 --> 00:20:57.452
  • on your fellow servant justas I had mercy on you?"
  • 00:20:57.452 --> 00:20:58.553
  • as I had mercy on you?"Now I hear it.
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  • Now I hear it.Our Father who art in heaven,
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  • Our Father who art in heaven,hallowed be your name.
  • 00:21:00.889 --> 00:21:01.923
  • hallowed be your name.Your kingdom come,
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  • Your kingdom come,your will be done
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  • your will be doneon earth as it is in heaven.
  • 00:21:04.293 --> 00:21:05.060
  • on earth as it is in heaven.And give us this day
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  • And give us this dayour daily bread
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  • our daily breadand forgive us our debts
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  • and forgive us our debtsas we forgive our debtors.
  • 00:21:17.539 --> 00:21:21.376
  • as we forgive our debtors.How dare you choke somebody else
  • 00:21:21.376 --> 00:21:23.478
  • How dare you choke somebody elsewhen God had mercy on you.
  • 00:21:23.478 --> 00:21:25.347
  • when God had mercy on you.How dare you ask God
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  • How dare you ask Godfor patience
  • 00:21:27.049 --> 00:21:29.017
  • for patienceand you demand payback.
  • 00:21:29.017 --> 00:21:31.086
  • and you demand payback.How dare you bow your knee
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  • How dare you bow your kneeto God and then stand over
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  • to God and then stand overyour brother, your sister,
  • 00:21:34.389 --> 00:21:35.724
  • your brother, your sister,your husband, your wife,
  • 00:21:35.724 --> 00:21:36.525
  • your husband, your wife,choking, saying,
  • 00:21:36.525 --> 00:21:39.194
  • choking, saying,"Pay me what you owe me."
  • 00:21:39.194 --> 00:21:41.330
  • "Pay me what you owe me."So I don't know about you,
  • 00:21:41.330 --> 00:21:42.698
  • So I don't know about you,but I want to give a lot
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  • but I want to give a lotof grace because I think
  • 00:21:43.632 --> 00:21:44.633
  • of grace because I thinkI'm going to need a lot to make
  • 00:21:44.633 --> 00:21:45.801
  • I'm going to need a lot to makeit to heaven and make it
  • 00:21:45.801 --> 00:21:50.038
  • it to heaven and make itthrough this life.
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  • through this life.I can't choke you
  • 00:21:51.406 --> 00:21:52.941
  • I can't choke youbecause I know that I'm the one
  • 00:21:52.941 --> 00:21:55.610
  • because I know that I'm the onewho should have been choked.
  • 00:21:55.610 --> 00:21:56.745
  • who should have been choked.I know that usually whatever
  • 00:21:56.745 --> 00:21:58.113
  • I know that usually whateverI see in you is a reflection
  • 00:21:58.113 --> 00:21:58.880
  • I see in you is a reflectionof something that
  • 00:21:58.880 --> 00:22:02.451
  • of something thatI know is in me.
  • 00:22:02.451 --> 00:22:05.053
  • I know is in me.And so his master, in anger,
  • 00:22:05.053 --> 00:22:06.321
  • And so his master, in anger,handed him over to the jailers
  • 00:22:06.321 --> 00:22:08.523
  • handed him over to the jailersto be tortured.
  • 00:22:08.523 --> 00:22:09.157
  • to be tortured.Doesn't say
  • 00:22:09.157 --> 00:22:10.759
  • Doesn't saythe master tortured him.
  • 00:22:10.759 --> 00:22:11.426
  • the master tortured him.He handed him over
  • 00:22:11.426 --> 00:22:13.195
  • He handed him overto be tortured.
  • 00:22:13.195 --> 00:22:14.763
  • to be tortured.See, that's what happens
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  • See, that's what happensin a marriage when
  • 00:22:15.597 --> 00:22:16.898
  • in a marriage whenyou're so quick to bring up all
  • 00:22:16.898 --> 00:22:17.799
  • you're so quick to bring up allthese offenses, and you're
  • 00:22:17.799 --> 00:22:18.633
  • these offenses, and you'reso quick, and you keep
  • 00:22:18.633 --> 00:22:20.302
  • so quick, and you keepa five-year history of things
  • 00:22:20.302 --> 00:22:21.136
  • a five-year history of thingsthat she said or things
  • 00:22:21.136 --> 00:22:22.704
  • that she said or thingsthat he did, and you'll pull it
  • 00:22:22.704 --> 00:22:23.538
  • that he did, and you'll pull itup on command.
  • 00:22:23.538 --> 00:22:24.373
  • up on command.It's amazing.
  • 00:22:24.373 --> 00:22:25.674
  • It's amazing.You just got it on speed dial.
  • 00:22:25.674 --> 00:22:27.142
  • You just got it on speed dial.You just [indicating], like,
  • 00:22:27.142 --> 00:22:29.611
  • You just [indicating], like,whoa.
  • 00:22:29.611 --> 00:22:30.746
  • whoa.You're a collector.
  • 00:22:30.746 --> 00:22:31.380
  • You're a collector.You think you're
  • 00:22:31.380 --> 00:22:35.317
  • You think you'reGod's bounty hunter.
  • 00:22:35.317 --> 00:22:36.251
  • God's bounty hunter.And when you live that way,
  • 00:22:36.251 --> 00:22:36.885
  • And when you live that way,God says,
  • 00:22:36.885 --> 00:22:37.652
  • God says,"I got to hand you over."
  • 00:22:37.652 --> 00:22:39.087
  • "I got to hand you over."Watch this, Romans 13:8.
  • 00:22:39.087 --> 00:22:42.791
  • Watch this, Romans 13:8.Romans 13:8 it says, listen,
  • 00:22:42.791 --> 00:22:47.729
  • Romans 13:8 it says, listen,"Let no debt," Romans 13:8,
  • 00:22:47.729 --> 00:22:51.066
  • "Let no debt," Romans 13:8,"Let no debt remain outstanding,
  • 00:22:51.066 --> 00:22:52.334
  • "Let no debt remain outstanding,debt remain outstanding,
  • 00:22:52.334 --> 00:22:55.670
  • debt remain outstanding,except the continuing debt
  • 00:22:55.670 --> 00:22:59.040
  • except the continuing debtto love one another,
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  • to love one another,for whoever loves,"
  • 00:23:00.375 --> 00:23:01.476
  • for whoever loves,"see, you came into
  • 00:23:01.476 --> 00:23:02.511
  • see, you came intoyour relationship with
  • 00:23:02.511 --> 00:23:04.246
  • your relationship withGod as a debtor.
  • 00:23:04.246 --> 00:23:06.314
  • God as a debtor.God had mercy on me, a sinner.
  • 00:23:06.314 --> 00:23:07.349
  • God had mercy on me, a sinner.If you're saved,
  • 00:23:07.349 --> 00:23:08.984
  • If you're saved,if you're set free,
  • 00:23:08.984 --> 00:23:09.885
  • if you're set free,if you're filled with God,
  • 00:23:09.885 --> 00:23:11.186
  • if you're filled with God,if you have forgiveness,
  • 00:23:11.186 --> 00:23:12.687
  • if you have forgiveness,if you have remission of sins,
  • 00:23:12.687 --> 00:23:14.856
  • if you have remission of sins,if you've been cleansed,
  • 00:23:14.856 --> 00:23:15.557
  • if you've been cleansed,it wasn't because you paid
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  • it wasn't because you paidGod back.
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  • God back.It's because you bowed down
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  • It's because you bowed downon your knees and He took pity
  • 00:23:19.327 --> 00:23:21.630
  • on your knees and He took pityon you and He had mercy on you.
  • 00:23:21.630 --> 00:23:23.064
  • on you and He had mercy on you.Now, don't you get up off
  • 00:23:23.064 --> 00:23:24.232
  • Now, don't you get up offyour knees and start grabbing
  • 00:23:24.232 --> 00:23:26.067
  • your knees and start grabbingpeople by their throat.
  • 00:23:26.067 --> 00:23:27.502
  • people by their throat.Don't you get up off your knees
  • 00:23:27.502 --> 00:23:28.870
  • Don't you get up off your kneesand start putting your hand
  • 00:23:28.870 --> 00:23:30.405
  • and start putting your handon your hip and waiting for them
  • 00:23:30.405 --> 00:23:31.506
  • on your hip and waiting for themat the door every time
  • 00:23:31.506 --> 00:23:32.874
  • at the door every timethey mess up.
  • 00:23:32.874 --> 00:23:33.675
  • they mess up.Sometimes you better get
  • 00:23:33.675 --> 00:23:35.210
  • Sometimes you better getyour hand off your hip
  • 00:23:35.210 --> 00:23:36.511
  • your hand off your hipand uncross your arms
  • 00:23:36.511 --> 00:23:38.780
  • and uncross your armsand throw your arms
  • 00:23:38.780 --> 00:23:39.414
  • and throw your armsaround somebody and say,
  • 00:23:39.414 --> 00:23:40.315
  • around somebody and say,"I forgive you
  • 00:23:40.315 --> 00:23:41.917
  • "I forgive youlike He forgave me.
  • 00:23:41.917 --> 00:23:42.884
  • like He forgave me.I give grace
  • 00:23:42.884 --> 00:23:44.586
  • I give gracelike I was given grace."
  • 00:23:44.586 --> 00:23:47.088
  • - Alright, let's interact
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  • - Alright, let's interactfor a moment.
  • 00:23:50.158 --> 00:23:50.659
  • for a moment.Just pretend like
  • 00:23:50.659 --> 00:23:51.493
  • Just pretend likeI'm there with you.
  • 00:23:51.493 --> 00:23:53.495
  • I'm there with you.Have you ever experienced
  • 00:23:53.495 --> 00:23:55.630
  • Have you ever experienceda challenging relationship?
  • 00:23:55.630 --> 00:23:57.799
  • a challenging relationship?Holly, do this, do this.
  • 00:23:57.799 --> 00:23:59.434
  • Holly, do this, do this.Okay, be careful how you respond
  • 00:23:59.434 --> 00:23:59.901
  • Okay, be careful how you respondif you're sitting
  • 00:23:59.901 --> 00:24:00.435
  • if you're sittingin your living room
  • 00:24:00.435 --> 00:24:02.137
  • in your living roomwatching this with your spouse
  • 00:24:02.137 --> 00:24:04.105
  • watching this with your spouseor someone that you love.
  • 00:24:04.105 --> 00:24:05.941
  • or someone that you love.the truth is relationships
  • 00:24:05.941 --> 00:24:08.076
  • the truth is relationshipsare challenging by design.
  • 00:24:08.076 --> 00:24:09.644
  • are challenging by design.It's how God grows us,
  • 00:24:09.644 --> 00:24:11.847
  • It's how God grows us,but it's He's intention for you
  • 00:24:11.847 --> 00:24:13.081
  • but it's He's intention for youto do more than just survive
  • 00:24:13.081 --> 00:24:14.616
  • to do more than just surviveyour relationships.
  • 00:24:14.616 --> 00:24:15.784
  • your relationships.I believe He wants you
  • 00:24:15.784 --> 00:24:16.651
  • I believe He wants youto thrive in them,
  • 00:24:16.651 --> 00:24:17.285
  • to thrive in them,and He's Word
  • 00:24:17.285 --> 00:24:18.053
  • and He's Wordgives us the tools
  • 00:24:18.053 --> 00:24:19.454
  • gives us the toolsto make that possible.
  • 00:24:19.454 --> 00:24:21.456
  • to make that possible.So, today, I have special
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  • So, today, I have specialmost requested resource
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  • most requested resourcethat I want to send to you.
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  • that I want to send to you.It's called, "Meant to Be."
  • 00:24:26.461 --> 00:24:27.162
  • It's called, "Meant to Be."It will show you
  • 00:24:27.162 --> 00:24:28.029
  • It will show yousome of the Bible's
  • 00:24:28.029 --> 00:24:30.665
  • some of the Bible'sbest kept secrets
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  • best kept secretsabout sex, shh,
  • 00:24:32.868 --> 00:24:34.936
  • about sex, shh,marriage, and being single.
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  • marriage, and being single.- It's so good,
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  • - It's so good,and it's really not
  • 00:24:36.905 --> 00:24:39.040
  • and it's really notjust a relationship series.
  • 00:24:39.040 --> 00:24:40.609
  • just a relationship series.This resource truly
  • 00:24:40.609 --> 00:24:41.276
  • This resource trulyhas the power
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  • has the powerto impact your life.
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  • to impact your life.We've heard stories of marriages
  • 00:24:43.979 --> 00:24:45.280
  • We've heard stories of marriagesthat were restored,
  • 00:24:45.280 --> 00:24:46.815
  • that were restored,and single people that learned
  • 00:24:46.815 --> 00:24:47.949
  • and single people that learnedto embrace the season
  • 00:24:47.949 --> 00:24:49.050
  • to embrace the seasonthat they're in instead
  • 00:24:49.050 --> 00:24:50.519
  • that they're in insteadof focusing on the relationships
  • 00:24:50.519 --> 00:24:51.887
  • of focusing on the relationshipsthat they don't have.
  • 00:24:51.887 --> 00:24:53.221
  • that they don't have.I know that this series
  • 00:24:53.221 --> 00:24:54.589
  • I know that this seriesis going to help you
  • 00:24:54.589 --> 00:24:56.658
  • is going to help youlike it has so many already.
  • 00:24:56.658 --> 00:24:57.659
  • like it has so many already.- And we want to help you,
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  • - And we want to help you,we're here to help to you.
  • 00:24:58.527 --> 00:24:59.461
  • we're here to help to you.so, I'm going to send you
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  • so, I'm going to send youthis resource "Meant to be"
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  • this resource "Meant to be"with your gift of any amount
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  • with your gift of any amountto the ministry today.
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  • to the ministry today.Just go online right now
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  • Just go online right nowor call the number
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  • or call the numberon the screen right now,
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  • on the screen right now,and request your copy
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  • and request your copyof "Meant to Be".
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  • of "Meant to Be".Say, "I want it,"
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  • Say, "I want it,"and we'll get it out
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  • and we'll get it outto you right away.
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  • to you right away.Here's some more info as well as
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  • Here's some more info as well assome additional resources
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  • - When it comes
  • 00:25:19.881 --> 00:25:21.483
  • to seeking advice
  • 00:25:21.483 --> 00:25:22.317
  • about relationships, marriage,
  • 00:25:22.317 --> 00:25:23.752
  • and sex, we tend to look
  • 00:25:23.752 --> 00:25:25.754
  • in all the wrong places.
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  • The world claims
  • 00:25:26.288 --> 00:25:27.389
  • to have the answers,
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  • but maybe we've been focusing
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  • on the wrong problem all along.
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  • In our series, "Meant to Be",
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  • Pastor Steven Furtick
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  • has open conversations
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  • to help us uncover
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  • the Bible's best kept secrets
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  • about sex, marriage,
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  • - Most of the emphasis,
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  • - Most of the emphasis,when you talk about dating,
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  • when you talk about dating,and marriage, and singleness,
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  • and marriage, and singleness,in culture seems to be
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  • in culture seems to beon finding the right one.
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  • on finding the right one.Most of the emphasis,
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  • Most of the emphasis,when you come to the scripture,
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  • when you come to the scripture,tends to be on being
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  • - For your gift of any amount
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  • we'll send you
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  • the five-part
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  • Meant To Be series,
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  • which includes a message
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  • with Pastor Steven
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  • and his wife Holly,
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  • where they share
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  • personal examples
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  • and scriptural insight on how
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  • we can invite God to work
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  • in our everyday
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  • relationship challenges.
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  • Pastor Steven also explains
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  • the unnecessary complications
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  • that sidetrack us
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  • in relationships,
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  • and he shows us
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  • what is truly meant to be
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  • in our lives
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  • when we have Jesus
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  • - I've been told all my life
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  • - I've been told all my lifeto put Jesus first,
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  • to put Jesus first,but that doesn't work,
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  • but that doesn't work,because that separates him out
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  • because that separates him outfrom everything else.
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  • from everything else.Live as if Jesus
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  • Live as if Jesuswas not first on your list,
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  • was not first on your list,but that He was
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  • - Visit us online
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  • at stevenfurtick.com,
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  • or call us at the number
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  • on your screen
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  • to get your copy
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  • - ♪ Before Your throne ♪
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  • - ♪ Before Your throne ♪♪ In the mystery ♪
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  • ♪ In the mystery ♪♪ That can't be known ♪
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  • ♪ That can't be known ♪♪ Lives the majesty ♪
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  • ♪ Lives the majesty ♪♪ That's Yours alone ♪
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  • ♪ That's Yours alone ♪♪ How glorious You are ♪
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  • ♪ How glorious You are ♪♪ You are the one ♪
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  • ♪ You are the one ♪♪ Who redeems the wrongs ♪
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  • ♪ Who redeems the wrongs ♪♪ That I have done ♪
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  • ♪ That I have done ♪♪ Reigning over ♪
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  • ♪ Reigning over ♪♪ All the days to come ♪
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  • ♪ All the days to come ♪♪ How glorious You are ♪
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