How To Save Your Husband Part 1
February 17, 2021
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Discover how to experience sex; marriage; and relationships God's way.
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How To Save Your Husband Part 1
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- - ANNOUNCER: If you're looking
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- to grow your faith
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- and hear biblical teaching
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- to encourage and inspire you,
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- this is a great place to start,
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- but this is more than
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- just a TV episode,
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- it's an opportunity
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- to connect with a growing
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- community of believers,
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- all over the world.
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- It's as simple as joining us
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- the live broadcast of
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- our worship experiences,
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- where you'll get to worship,
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- hear incredible preaching,
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- and get to participate
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- in the community of
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- people tuning in,
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- just like yourself.
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- Join us online this weekend
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- - I've entitled this message:
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- - I've entitled this message:"How to Save Your Husband"
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- "How to Save Your Husband"somewhat playfully,
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- somewhat playfully,but I want to speak
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- but I want to speakvery seriously about these
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- very seriously about thesesubjects in the few moments
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- subjects in the few momentswe have remaining.
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- we have remaining.How to save your husband.
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- How to save your husband.How did the two become one,
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- How did the two become one,and then the one become two?
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- who was going through a divorce
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- who was going through a divorcea couple of years ago.
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- a couple of years ago.He said, "I'm so ashamed.
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- He said, "I'm so ashamed.I never thought I'd be having
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- I never thought I'd be havingthis conversation.
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- this conversation.I counsel other people
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- and I always, in my heart,
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- and I always, in my heart,wondered how it could come
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- wondered how it could cometo this.
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- to this.I never thought I'd be on
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- I never thought I'd be onthis side of the conversation."
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- this side of the conversation."And it is baffling
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- And it is bafflingto think about how we go from
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- to think about how we go fromin a relationship,
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- in a relationship,having the kind of passion
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- having the kind of passionthat would cause two people
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- that would cause two peopleto want to merge
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- to want to mergetheir identities, and often
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- their identities, and oftenthat same relationship,
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- that same relationship,that same couple will end up
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- that same couple will end uponly speaking through attorneys.
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- only speaking through attorneys.How does that happen?
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- How does that happen?You know, it says
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- You know, it saysit's a profound mystery
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- it's a profound mysteryhow two become one.
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- how two become one.I think it's an equally
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- I think it's an equallyprofound mystery how the one
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- profound mystery how the onecan become two.
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- can become two.How can you go from using
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- How can you go from usingyour entire data plan
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- your entire data planand all your minutes
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- and all your minutesjust to hear
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- just to hearthe other person breathe?
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- the other person breathe?You're not even saying anything
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- You're not even saying anythingduring the dating phase.
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- during the dating phase.I just want to hear your breath
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- I just want to hear your breathand we just sit with one another
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- and we just sit with one anotherand wake up at all kinds of
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- and wake up at all kinds ofhours during the night
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- hours during the nightto call one another,
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- to call one another,if necessary, during that stage
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- if necessary, during that stageof the relationship
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- of the relationshipto we can't even sit down
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- to we can't even sit downin a room and work out
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- in a room and work outthe division of our assets
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- the division of our assetstogether or decide on
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- together or decide onthe future of our kids.
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- the future of our kids.How does this happen?
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- How does this happen?Now, I want to say a few things
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- Now, I want to say a few thingsbefore I give you these points,
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- before I give you these points,and we won't be here long.
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- and we won't be here long.I mean, I'm going to be
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- I mean, I'm going to berespectful of your time,
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- respectful of your time,but I need to be careful
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- but I need to be carefulbecause I take my job seriously,
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- because I take my job seriously,and I don't want to say stuff up
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- and I don't want to say stuff uphere and send you
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- here and send youin the wrong direction where
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- in the wrong direction wheresomething that I say would cause
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- something that I say would causeyou more pain or confusion.
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- you more pain or confusion.So when I preach on this thing
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- So when I preach on this thingright here that I'm going to
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- right here that I'm going toget into today,
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- get into today,and it's going to be old-school.
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- and it's going to be old-school.It's going to be old-school
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- It's going to be old-schoolbecause I think this is
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- because I think this isa passage about
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- a passage aboutunconditional commitment.
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- unconditional commitment.But when I say it, I want you --
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- But when I say it, I want you --three little caveats.
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- three little caveats.One, I'm talking about marriage,
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- One, I'm talking about marriage,not dating.
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- not dating.Because somebody might hear this
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- Because somebody might hear thisand be like, "Oh, so I need
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- and be like, "Oh, so I needto go get back with
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- to go get back withTimmy again."
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- Timmy again."No.
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- No.No.
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- No.See, in marriage,
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- See, in marriage,it's till death do us part.
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- it's till death do us part.In marriage.
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- In marriage.But in dating,
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- But in dating,you have another option,
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- you have another option,and that option is
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- and that option iscalled scroll, select, delete.
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- called scroll, select, delete.And so if you're not married
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- And so if you're not marriedto them yet and they're showing
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- to them yet and they're showingsigns of not being
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- signs of not beingthe right one,
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- the right one,because I believe over half
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- because I believe over halfthe work is done in a marriage
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- the work is done in a marriagein the selection process,
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- in the selection process,just making sure that
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- just making sure thatyou're both on the right page.
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- you're both on the right page.But if Timmy has an attitude
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- But if Timmy has an attitudewith his mom,
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- with his mom,if Timmy doesn't have
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- if Timmy doesn't havea good work ethic
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- a good work ethicand Timmy doesn't have
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- and Timmy doesn't havea relationship with God,
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- a relationship with God,here's your move:
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- here's your move:Scroll, select, delete.
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- Scroll, select, delete.Let's practice it together,
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- Let's practice it together,come on, for the sake of
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- come on, for the sake ofsomebody next to you
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- somebody next to youwho's dating a loser
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- who's dating a loserand they might need
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- and they might needsome encouragement
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- some encouragementjust to break it off.
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- just to break it off.Let's do it.
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- Let's do it.Come on, scroll, select, delete.
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- Come on, scroll, select, delete.Again, scroll, select, delete.
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- Again, scroll, select, delete.Watch this, iPhone,
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- Watch this, iPhone,scroll, select, delete.
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- scroll, select, delete.To the side, watch it,
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- To the side, watch it,scroll, select, delete.
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- scroll, select, delete.That's all you need to do.
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- That's all you need to do.Some of y'all need to walk out
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- Some of y'all need to walk outright now, put the message
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- right now, put the messageinto practice.
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- into practice.You're welcome.
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- You're welcome.You got the word
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- You got the wordyou needed today.
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- Because after marriage
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- Because after marriageyou don't have that option,
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- you don't have that option,if the Bible is right.
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- if the Bible is right.If culture is right,
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- If culture is right,you can do whatever you want.
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- you can do whatever you want.But if we're trying to do this
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- But if we're trying to do thisGod's way, which I think
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- God's way, which I thinkwould be a good idea,
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- would be a good idea,the one who
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- the one whocreated relationship.
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- created relationship.So I'm not talking about
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- So I'm not talking aboutdating here, okay?
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- dating here, okay?I'm talking about marriage.
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- I'm talking about marriage.The second thing is,
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- The second thing is,I'm not talking about your past.
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- I'm not talking about your past.I'm talking about your present.
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- I'm talking about your present.And I think a good phrase
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- And I think a good phrasefor us would be:
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- for us would be:"From this day forward."
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- "From this day forward."There's not one of us
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- There's not one of usin the room who hasn't been
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- in the room who hasn't beentouched by divorce.
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- touched by divorce.And so when you say the word
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- And so when you say the wordor you talk about separation,
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- or you talk about separation,immediately certain people
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- immediately certain peopleshut down the factory
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- shut down the factoryand they won't hear another word
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- and they won't hear another wordI have to say today
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- I have to say todaybecause you think I'm here
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- because you think I'm hereto judge you or condemn you.
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- to judge you or condemn you.I need you to understand that
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- I need you to understand thatthe Lord put a word in me
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- the Lord put a word in methat I believe could save
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- that I believe could savesomebody that's sitting
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- somebody that's sittingaround you or maybe save you
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- around you or maybe save younext time around from
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- next time around fromexperiencing some of the pain
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- experiencing some of the painthat you experienced,
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- that you experienced,and maybe instead of
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- and maybe instead ofgetting defensive
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- getting defensiveand thinking that this message
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- and thinking that this messageis about your mistakes,
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- is about your mistakes,you could believe with me
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- you could believe with mewhile I'm preaching
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- while I'm preachingfor a miracle in somebody else's
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- for a miracle in somebody else'slife so they won't
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- life so they won'thave to endure the kind of pain
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- have to endure the kind of painthat this kind
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- that this kindof separation creates.
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- of separation creates.My dad was divorced twice
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- My dad was divorced twicebefore he married my mom.
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- before he married my mom.I wouldn't even be here if
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- I wouldn't even be here ifhe hadn't gone through those
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- he hadn't gone through thosemarriages and ended up
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- marriages and ended upwith my mom.
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- with my mom.So I believe God works in
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- So I believe God works inall things.
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- all things.I wouldn't even be here.
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- I wouldn't even be here.I don't know how God
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- I don't know how Godtakes mistakes and turns them
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- takes mistakes and turns theminto miracles, but He does.
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- into miracles, but He does.So we want to focus on present,
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- So we want to focus on present,not past.
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- not past.And then I'll just say this:
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- And then I'll just say this:We want to remember that
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- We want to remember thatwe're not encouraging people
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- we're not encouraging peopleto stay in situations
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- to stay in situationsthat are abusive.
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- that are abusive.Okay?
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- Okay?Don't call on Jesus
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- Don't call on Jesusif he's hitting you.
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- if he's hitting you.Call on the police officer
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- Call on the police officernearest you and let's get
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- nearest you and let's getyou protected.
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- you protected.That said, I think there are
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- That said, I think there arefour things -- we'll do them
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- four things -- we'll do themas quickly as we can --
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- as quickly as we can --that happen that cause passion
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- that happen that cause passionto go out.
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- to go out.How does this happen:
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- How does this happen:Two become one, one become two?
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- Two become one, one become two?How does something that promises
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- How does something that promisesto bring so much intimacy
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- to bring so much intimacyend in isolation?
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- end in isolation?How does something that promises
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- How does something that promisesto bring so much pleasure end up
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- to bring so much pleasure end upproducing so much pain?
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- producing so much pain?A few observations
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- A few observationsfrom the passage.
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- from the passage.One, celebration
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- One, celebrationbecomes frustration.
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- becomes frustration.Celebration becomes frustration.
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- Celebration becomes frustration.When you start in a relationship
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- When you start in a relationshipwith a person, especially
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- with a person, especiallya romantic relationship,
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- a romantic relationship,you celebrate everything
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- you celebrate everythingabout them.
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- about them.And you celebrate everything
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- And you celebrate everythingabout them that's different
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- about them that's differentthan you, and it's attractive.
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- than you, and it's attractive.That's where the saying came
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- That's where the saying camefrom, "opposites attract."
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- from, "opposites attract."How many know that in marriage
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- How many know that in marriagesometimes the same opposites
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- sometimes the same oppositesthat attract, then the opposites
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- that attract, then the oppositesstart to attack?
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- start to attack?Amen, amen.
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- Amen, amen.Because what you celebrated
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- Because what you celebratedin one stage ends up being
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- in one stage ends up beingthe very thing that
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- the very thing thatfrustrates you in
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- frustrates you inthe lifelong stage.
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- the lifelong stage."Oh, he's just so funny.
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- "Oh, he's just so funny.I just like him
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- I just like himbecause he's funny.
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- because he's funny.He's just like hilarious.
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- He's just like hilarious.He's always funny."
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- He's always funny."Three years in:
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- Three years in:"Why can't you ever be serious
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- "Why can't you ever be seriousabout anything?"
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- about anything?"Celebration, frustration.
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- Celebration, frustration.The whole wedding ceremony
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- The whole wedding ceremonyis a celebration.
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- is a celebration.You force your friends to buy
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- You force your friends to buyall the same-colored clothes
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- all the same-colored clothesand come support you
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- and come support youand stand around you.
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- and stand around you.There's a big celebration,
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- There's a big celebration,and people go along with it
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- and people go along with itand they do it.
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- and they do it.They come out for you,
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- They come out for you,and they do the whole thing.
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- and they do the whole thing.People get up
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- People get upand say nice things
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- and say nice thingsand all of this.
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- and all of this.Celebration.
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- Celebration.I should have put
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- I should have puta different stage in there.
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- a different stage in there.This isn't exactly true.
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- This isn't exactly true.It goes not just celebration
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- It goes not just celebrationto frustration.
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- to frustration.It goes celebration,
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- It goes celebration,then for a little while
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- then for a little whileit's toleration.
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- it's toleration.But if you tolerate what God
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- But if you tolerate what Godhas called you to celebrate,
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- has called you to celebrate,it will eventually frustrate
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- it will eventually frustratethe relationship.
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- the relationship.Celebration becomes frustration.
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- Celebration becomes frustration.Here's where it's going to get
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- Here's where it's going to geta little tense in the room.
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- a little tense in the room.Passion dies out
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- Passion dies outwhen "we" becomes "me."
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- when "we" becomes "me."Hello.
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- Hello.Hello.
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- Hello.The two become one.
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- The two become one.If you're married,
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- If you're married,you are not a "me" anymore.
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- you are not a "me" anymore.And if you're not ready
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- And if you're not readyto not be a "me" anymore --
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- to not be a "me" anymore --"I just feel like
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- "I just feel likeI lost myself."
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- I lost myself."Yeah, I hear you.
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- Yeah, I hear you.You kind of did.
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- You kind of did.You kind of decided to do that.
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- You kind of decided to do that.The two become one.
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- The two become one.I taught our staff --
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- I taught our staff --I do a summer teaching
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- I do a summer teachingevery summer for our staff.
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- every summer for our staff.This year our theme
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- This year our themewas stretch marks.
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- was stretch marks.It was cool.
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- It was cool.Come on, touch somebody
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- Come on, touch somebodynext to you, say,
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- next to you, say,"I got stretch marks."
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- "I got stretch marks."The year before we -- oh.
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- The year before we -- oh.The year before we did,
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- The year before we did,I called it "The Art of Me-We,"
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- I called it "The Art of Me-We,"the art of me-we.
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- the art of me-we.I said churches get in trouble
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- I said churches get in troublewhen we get flipped upside down
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- when we get flipped upside downand "we" becomes "me."
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- and "we" becomes "me."Flip it upside down,
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- Flip it upside down,the "W," we and me.
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- the "W," we and me.Marriages get in trouble
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- Marriages get in troublewhen "we" becomes "me."
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- when "we" becomes "me."And we live in
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- And we live inthe most self-centered --
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- the most self-centered --I don't think it was always this
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- I don't think it was always thisself-centered
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- self-centeredas it is right now.
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- as it is right now.I don't.
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- I don't.I'm a young man, but just like
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- I'm a young man, but just likefrom what I could remember
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- from what I could rememberof my grandparents' relationship
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- of my grandparents' relationshipand different people
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- and different peoplethat I've seen who are
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- that I've seen who arefrom a different generation,
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- from a different generation,they understood something
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- they understood somethingabout when you get married,
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- about when you get married,you don't get to use
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- you don't get to usefirst-person singular anymore
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- first-person singular anymoreabout your life decisions.
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- about your life decisions.You can scratch it out
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- You can scratch it outof your vocabulary book.
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- of your vocabulary book.You can flip all the Ms
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- You can flip all the Msupside now because you're
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- upside now because you'rea "we" now.
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- a "we" now.And in fact, that's what Paul
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- And in fact, that's what Paulis pointing to in the passage.
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- is pointing to in the passage.He says if you have children,
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- He says if you have children,it even becomes more of this,
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- it even becomes more of this,like that is
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- like that isthe ultimate decision.
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- the ultimate decision.And if you're not ready to go
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- And if you're not ready to gofrom "me" to "we"
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- from "me" to "we"in every decision, not just,
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- in every decision, not just,"Well, I want to get married,
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- "Well, I want to get married,but I still, you know,
- 00:10:16.979 --> 00:10:18.714
- but I still, you know,I got my own life, too."
- 00:10:18.714 --> 00:10:21.417
- I got my own life, too."No, you don't.
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- No, you don't.And if that's what you want,
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- And if that's what you want,you don't need a marriage.
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- you don't need a marriage.You need to just keep going
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- You need to just keep goingto Starbucks and hold hands
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- to Starbucks and hold handsand have good friends,
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- and have good friends,but you don't need
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- but you don't needto get married.
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- to get married.I'll bring you
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- I'll bring youa New Testament example.
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- a New Testament example.I know you're craving
- 00:10:35.164 --> 00:10:36.832
- I know you're cravingan example of this.
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- an example of this.How about those men who had
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- How about those men who hada friend who was paralyzed
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- a friend who was paralyzedand they wanted
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- and they wantedto get him to Jesus?
- 00:10:42.104 --> 00:10:43.606
- to get him to Jesus?And they wanted to get him
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- And they wanted to get himto Jesus because they thought
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- to Jesus because they thoughtmaybe Jesus could make him walk,
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- maybe Jesus could make him walk,but when they got to the place,
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- but when they got to the place,they carry his mat,
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- they carry his mat,who knows how far
- 00:10:48.711 --> 00:10:49.545
- who knows how farthey had to walk, who knows
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- they had to walk, who knowshow strenuous the journey.
- 00:10:51.480 --> 00:10:52.448
- how strenuous the journey.Some of us wouldn't even pick up
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- Some of us wouldn't even pick upa friend to church
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- a friend to churchin a minivan.
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- in a minivan.And these men carry
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- And these men carrytheir friend on a mat.
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- their friend on a mat.And then when they get there,
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- And then when they get there,they find out that the overflow
- 00:11:09.899 --> 00:11:12.334
- they find out that the overflowis already full.
- 00:11:12.334 --> 00:11:12.968
- is already full.And so you can watch
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- And so you can watchthe archive online.
- 00:11:14.370 --> 00:11:16.205
- the archive online.Jesus is healing people
- 00:11:16.205 --> 00:11:17.139
- Jesus is healing peoplein the house,
- 00:11:17.139 --> 00:11:17.940
- in the house,but you can watch it online,
- 00:11:17.940 --> 00:11:18.574
- but you can watch it online,you can download the podcast.
- 00:11:18.574 --> 00:11:20.543
- you can download the podcast.They said, "Okay, cool.
- 00:11:20.543 --> 00:11:22.244
- They said, "Okay, cool.Yeah, we ain't doing that,
- 00:11:22.244 --> 00:11:23.679
- Yeah, we ain't doing that,because we got a friend
- 00:11:23.679 --> 00:11:25.214
- because we got a friendwho we cared enough
- 00:11:25.214 --> 00:11:27.216
- who we cared enoughto carry this far,
- 00:11:27.216 --> 00:11:28.884
- to carry this far,and so we're not going to stop
- 00:11:28.884 --> 00:11:31.554
- and so we're not going to stopat the first closed door."
- 00:11:31.554 --> 00:11:32.455
- at the first closed door."Who do you care enough
- 00:11:32.455 --> 00:11:36.125
- Who do you care enoughto carry sometimes?
- 00:11:36.125 --> 00:11:37.693
- to carry sometimes?Do you care enough about
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- Do you care enough aboutthe person that you said
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- the person that you said"I do" to,
- 00:11:39.595 --> 00:11:41.197
- "I do" to,to carry them sometimes?
- 00:11:41.197 --> 00:11:41.931
- to carry them sometimes?Because sometimes they won't
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- Because sometimes they won'thave their own ability to walk.
- 00:11:45.101 --> 00:11:46.402
- have their own ability to walk.Sometimes life is going to
- 00:11:46.402 --> 00:11:48.938
- Sometimes life is going tohit them so hard.
- 00:11:48.938 --> 00:11:50.139
- hit them so hard.Their past is going to catch up.
- 00:11:50.139 --> 00:11:51.874
- Their past is going to catch up.Do you care enough to carry?
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- Do you care enough to carry?They not only carried him
- 00:11:53.342 --> 00:11:54.577
- They not only carried himto the door,
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- to the door,but when they were
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- but when they weresent away by the ushers,
- 00:11:56.212 --> 00:11:58.781
- sent away by the ushers,they went up on the roof
- 00:11:58.781 --> 00:12:00.049
- they went up on the roofand they started tearing
- 00:12:00.049 --> 00:12:02.051
- and they started tearingthe roof apart.
- 00:12:02.051 --> 00:12:03.119
- the roof apart.And the deacons were throwing
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- And the deacons were throwinga fit about it, too.
- 00:12:05.154 --> 00:12:07.556
- a fit about it, too.We did not vote on this.
- 00:12:07.556 --> 00:12:08.591
- We did not vote on this.This was not in the budget,
- 00:12:08.591 --> 00:12:09.558
- This was not in the budget,Jesus.
- 00:12:09.558 --> 00:12:10.126
- Jesus.But Jesus said,
- 00:12:10.126 --> 00:12:12.128
- But Jesus said,"Oh, I like their faith."
- 00:12:12.128 --> 00:12:12.762
- "Oh, I like their faith."Now, here's the interesting
- 00:12:12.762 --> 00:12:13.395
- Now, here's the interestingthing about the passage.
- 00:12:13.395 --> 00:12:14.096
- thing about the passage.You can look it up
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- You can look it upin Mark chapter 2
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- in Mark chapter 2for your personal Bible study
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- for your personal Bible studyand edification this week.
- 00:12:16.265 --> 00:12:17.166
- and edification this week.In Mark chapter 2 it says,
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- In Mark chapter 2 it says,"When Jesus saw their faith,
- 00:12:21.003 --> 00:12:22.671
- "When Jesus saw their faith,He said to the man,
- 00:12:22.671 --> 00:12:26.008
- He said to the man,'Your sins are forgiven.'"
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- 'Your sins are forgiven.'"No, no, because I expected it
- 00:12:27.076 --> 00:12:29.678
- No, no, because I expected itto say, "When Jesus saw
- 00:12:29.678 --> 00:12:31.347
- to say, "When Jesus sawthe man's faith,
- 00:12:31.347 --> 00:12:32.014
- the man's faith,He said to the man,
- 00:12:32.014 --> 00:12:33.449
- He said to the man,'Your sins are forgiven.'"
- 00:12:33.449 --> 00:12:34.216
- 'Your sins are forgiven.'"The man might not even have
- 00:12:34.216 --> 00:12:35.117
- The man might not even havehis own faith,
- 00:12:35.117 --> 00:12:37.653
- his own faith,but he has some friends
- 00:12:37.653 --> 00:12:39.221
- but he has some friendswho said, "Until you get
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- who said, "Until you getyour own faith,
- 00:12:40.022 --> 00:12:41.824
- your own faith,you can have some of ours,
- 00:12:41.824 --> 00:12:43.292
- you can have some of ours,and we care enough
- 00:12:43.292 --> 00:12:44.527
- and we care enoughto carry you,
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- to carry you,and we won't take no
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- and we won't take nofor an answer."
- 00:12:46.896 --> 00:12:48.164
- for an answer."And Paul says marriage
- 00:12:48.164 --> 00:12:50.266
- And Paul says marriagehas to be like that sometimes.
- 00:12:50.266 --> 00:12:51.033
- has to be like that sometimes.Sometimes I need you
- 00:12:51.033 --> 00:12:52.067
- Sometimes I need youto cover me.
- 00:12:52.067 --> 00:12:52.802
- to cover me.Sometimes I need you
- 00:12:52.802 --> 00:12:53.803
- Sometimes I need youto carry me.
- 00:12:53.803 --> 00:12:54.503
- to carry me.Sometimes I need you
- 00:12:54.503 --> 00:12:56.038
- Sometimes I need youto put up with me.
- 00:12:56.038 --> 00:12:56.939
- to put up with me.Sometimes I need you to give me
- 00:12:56.939 --> 00:12:58.908
- Sometimes I need you to give mea little extra grace.
- 00:12:58.908 --> 00:12:59.608
- a little extra grace.Sometimes I need you
- 00:12:59.608 --> 00:13:00.810
- Sometimes I need youto believe the best about me.
- 00:13:00.810 --> 00:13:01.510
- to believe the best about me.Sometimes I need you
- 00:13:01.510 --> 00:13:03.045
- Sometimes I need youto be patient with me.
- 00:13:03.045 --> 00:13:03.846
- to be patient with me.Sometimes I need you
- 00:13:03.846 --> 00:13:05.514
- Sometimes I need youto speak something over me
- 00:13:05.514 --> 00:13:06.615
- to speak something over methat I don't even believe
- 00:13:06.615 --> 00:13:07.783
- that I don't even believeabout myself.
- 00:13:07.783 --> 00:13:11.353
- If it's going to work, "me"
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- If it's going to work, "me"has to become "we."
- 00:13:19.562 --> 00:13:20.996
- has to become "we."Tell somebody next to you,
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- Tell somebody next to you,"God is saving a marriage
- 00:13:21.997 --> 00:13:24.800
- "God is saving a marriageright now."
- 00:13:24.800 --> 00:13:25.768
- right now."Because some of y'all, y'all
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- Because some of y'all, y'allgot tired carrying somebody.
- 00:13:29.305 --> 00:13:30.673
- got tired carrying somebody.Carrying, carrying, feel like
- 00:13:30.673 --> 00:13:31.574
- Carrying, carrying, feel likeyou're just carrying this
- 00:13:31.574 --> 00:13:33.209
- you're just carrying thisthing right now.
- 00:13:33.209 --> 00:13:33.776
- thing right now.Just carrying
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- Just carryingthis thing right now.
- 00:13:35.778 --> 00:13:36.879
- this thing right now.And I will say that you
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- And I will say that youcan't carry somebody forever,
- 00:13:38.848 --> 00:13:40.950
- can't carry somebody forever,but I will say that if God
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- but I will say that if Godhad dropped you when you
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- had dropped you when yougot hard to carry --
- 00:13:46.622 --> 00:13:47.623
- got hard to carry --yes, I'll say more about that.
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- yes, I'll say more about that.I sure will.
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- I sure will.Absolutely I will.
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- Absolutely I will.You got it.
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- You got it.No extra charge.
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- No extra charge.Watch, watch.
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- Watch, watch.This is dangerous.
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- This is dangerous.Passion dies when debtors
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- Passion dies when debtorsbecome collectors.
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- become collectors.Let's look at it.
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- Let's look at it.Debtors become collectors.
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- Debtors become collectors.One of the most bizarre parables
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- One of the most bizarre parablesJesus ever told of stories
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- Jesus ever told of storiesHe would tell that had
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- He would tell that hada deeper meaning,
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- a deeper meaning,one of the most bizarre ones
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- one of the most bizarre onesto me is this one.
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- to me is this one.In Matthew chapter 18, verse 21,
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- In Matthew chapter 18, verse 21,Peter comes up to Jesus,
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- Peter comes up to Jesus,he goes,
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- he goes,"Lord, you've been preaching
- 00:14:31.100 --> 00:14:32.534
- "Lord, you've been preachingabout forgiveness
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- about forgivenessand grace and mercy.
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- and grace and mercy.That's great.
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- That's great.How many times shall
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- How many times shallI forgive my brother or sister
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- I forgive my brother or sisterwho sins against me?"
- 00:14:38.774 --> 00:14:39.508
- who sins against me?"Now, what we're about to read,
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- Now, what we're about to read,I think it can come on
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- I think it can come onthe screen maybe.
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- the screen maybe.Yeah, there it is.
- 00:14:44.747 --> 00:14:46.582
- Yeah, there it is.And so he says,
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- And so he says,"How many times shall I forgive
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- "How many times shall I forgivea brother or sister?"
- 00:14:48.651 --> 00:14:50.486
- a brother or sister?"Now, what Jesus is about to do,
- 00:14:50.486 --> 00:14:52.488
- Now, what Jesus is about to do,He's about to take the limit
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- He's about to take the limitand the lid off of the amount
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- and the lid off of the amountof grace and mercy
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- of grace and mercythat we would offer
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- that we would offerto another human being.
- 00:14:57.626 --> 00:14:59.194
- to another human being.Because Peter's like trying
- 00:14:59.194 --> 00:14:59.895
- Because Peter's like tryingto show off.
- 00:14:59.895 --> 00:15:00.930
- to show off.He's like, "Should I do it
- 00:15:00.930 --> 00:15:03.799
- He's like, "Should I do itlike up to seven times?
- 00:15:03.799 --> 00:15:06.936
- like up to seven times?Wouldn't that be impressive?"
- 00:15:06.936 --> 00:15:09.038
- Wouldn't that be impressive?"And Jesus is like, "Nope.
- 00:15:09.038 --> 00:15:10.039
- And Jesus is like, "Nope.I tell you not 7 times,
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- I tell you not 7 times,but 77 times."
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- but 77 times."A better translation
- 00:15:12.007 --> 00:15:14.443
- A better translationis "70 times 7."
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- is "70 times 7."And He's not saying,
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- And He's not saying,"On time 491,
- 00:15:17.179 --> 00:15:18.347
- "On time 491,you can slit their throat."
- 00:15:18.347 --> 00:15:21.116
- you can slit their throat."He's saying 7 is the number
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- He's saying 7 is the numberof completion and perfection,
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- of completion and perfection,so it's perfection
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- so it's perfectiontimes perfection,
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- times perfection,completion times completion."
- 00:15:25.621 --> 00:15:26.855
- completion times completion."Like, as many times as it takes.
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- Like, as many times as it takes.Doesn't mean you allow people
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- Doesn't mean you allow peopleto continue to abuse you.
- 00:15:29.358 --> 00:15:30.159
- to continue to abuse you.Doesn't mean you
- 00:15:30.159 --> 00:15:30.960
- Doesn't mean youdon't put distance in
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- don't put distance inrelationships sometimes.
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- relationships sometimes.That's not what He's saying.
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- That's not what He's saying.He's saying in your heart
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- He's saying in your heartyou got to forgive them
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- you got to forgive themas many time as it takes
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- as many time as it takesfor you to stay free.
- 00:15:37.900 --> 00:15:38.767
- for you to stay free.Watch this.
- 00:15:38.767 --> 00:15:39.501
- Watch this.This is where it all comes
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- This is where it all comestogether for me.
- 00:15:40.502 --> 00:15:41.470
- together for me.He said, "All right" --
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- He said, "All right" --and apparently Peter
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- and apparently Peterdoesn't quite get it.
- 00:15:44.206 --> 00:15:45.274
- doesn't quite get it.Peter's like, "All right, 77,
- 00:15:45.274 --> 00:15:48.243
- Peter's like, "All right, 77,so on 78, I can choke them out."
- 00:15:48.243 --> 00:15:50.312
- so on 78, I can choke them out."And so Jesus is like,
- 00:15:50.312 --> 00:15:51.347
- And so Jesus is like,"All right, let me give you
- 00:15:51.347 --> 00:15:52.448
- "All right, let me give youthe story.
- 00:15:52.448 --> 00:15:53.215
- the story.The kingdom of heaven is like
- 00:15:53.215 --> 00:15:53.949
- The kingdom of heaven is likea king who wanted to settle
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- a king who wanted to settleaccounts with his servants.
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- accounts with his servants.Next verse, please.
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- Next verse, please.As he began the settlement,
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- As he began the settlement,a man who owed him 10.000 bags
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- a man who owed him 10.000 bagsof gold, that's a lot,
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- of gold, that's a lot,a man who owed him 10.000 bags
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- a man who owed him 10.000 bagsof gold was brought to him.
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- of gold was brought to him.Since he was not able to pay,
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- Since he was not able to pay,the master ordered that
- 00:16:08.230 --> 00:16:10.399
- the master ordered thathe and his wife and his children
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- he and his wife and his childrenand all that he had be sold
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- and all that he had be soldto repay the debt.
- 00:16:13.635 --> 00:16:14.303
- to repay the debt.At this, the servant
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- At this, the servantfell on his knees before him.
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- fell on his knees before him."Be patient with me," he begged,
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- "Be patient with me," he begged,"and I will pay
- 00:16:19.575 --> 00:16:20.709
- "and I will payback everything."
- 00:16:20.709 --> 00:16:21.577
- back everything."This is a picture of religion,
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- This is a picture of religion,by the way,
- 00:16:22.311 --> 00:16:24.013
- by the way,"God, I'll pay you back."
- 00:16:24.013 --> 00:16:24.980
- "God, I'll pay you back."The master does not accept
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- The master does not accepthis offer.
- 00:16:26.415 --> 00:16:28.851
- his offer.He knows this is impossible.
- 00:16:28.851 --> 00:16:29.518
- He knows this is impossible."Look, you ain't
- 00:16:29.518 --> 00:16:30.753
- "Look, you ain'tpaying me back."
- 00:16:30.753 --> 00:16:34.523
- paying me back."But, look, he takes pity on him.
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- But, look, he takes pity on him.Takes pity on him.
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- Takes pity on him.And that's what God did
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- And that's what God didfor you in Christ.
- 00:16:38.527 --> 00:16:39.328
- for you in Christ.You didn't, like,
- 00:16:39.328 --> 00:16:40.162
- You didn't, like,pay God back.
- 00:16:40.162 --> 00:16:40.963
- pay God back.You didn't all of a sudden
- 00:16:40.963 --> 00:16:43.098
- You didn't all of a suddenstack up enough good works
- 00:16:43.098 --> 00:16:44.099
- stack up enough good workswhere God's like, "You know,
- 00:16:44.099 --> 00:16:45.601
- where God's like, "You know,that's bag number 10.000.
- 00:16:45.601 --> 00:16:46.335
- that's bag number 10.000.You're clear now.
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- You're clear now.You may go."
- 00:16:48.871 --> 00:16:49.872
- You may go."This is not what happened.
- 00:16:49.872 --> 00:16:52.141
- This is not what happened.He took pity on him,
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- He took pity on him,canceled the debt,
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- canceled the debt,didn't give them more time,
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- didn't give them more time,just tore
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- just torethe thing up altogether.
- 00:16:59.381 --> 00:17:00.582
- the thing up altogether.He asked him for more time.
- 00:17:00.582 --> 00:17:01.316
- He asked him for more time.He said, "No, how about
- 00:17:01.316 --> 00:17:04.520
- He said, "No, how aboutwe just cancel this?"
- 00:17:04.520 --> 00:17:07.056
- we just cancel this?"And he let him go.
- 00:17:07.056 --> 00:17:07.756
- And he let him go.What does he do with
- 00:17:07.756 --> 00:17:09.324
- What does he do withhis newfound freedom?
- 00:17:09.324 --> 00:17:11.727
- his newfound freedom?Well, when he went out,
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- Well, when he went out,Jesus said,
- 00:17:12.361 --> 00:17:14.430
- Jesus said,"About when he went out."
- 00:17:14.430 --> 00:17:15.230
- "About when he went out."You expected him to pay
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- You expected him to payit forward, right?
- 00:17:16.632 --> 00:17:18.400
- it forward, right?Because once you have
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- Because once you havea payback mentality,
- 00:17:19.635 --> 00:17:22.638
- a payback mentality,it is very hard to break out of.
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- it is very hard to break out of.And if your relationship
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- And if your relationshipwith God you think
- 00:17:24.540 --> 00:17:25.374
- with God you thinkis about payback, you're going
- 00:17:25.374 --> 00:17:26.408
- is about payback, you're goingto have a very difficult time
- 00:17:26.408 --> 00:17:27.376
- to have a very difficult timegiving grace because you don't
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- giving grace because you don'tknow how to receive it.
- 00:17:28.944 --> 00:17:31.413
- know how to receive it.So he goes out, and he's had
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- So he goes out, and he's hadhis debt forgiven,
- 00:17:32.314 --> 00:17:33.182
- his debt forgiven,but he hasn't had his
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- but he hasn't had hismindset changed yet.
- 00:17:34.950 --> 00:17:35.551
- mindset changed yet.That's where a lot
- 00:17:35.551 --> 00:17:36.952
- That's where a lotof Christians are.
- 00:17:36.952 --> 00:17:37.686
- of Christians are.That's where a lot of
- 00:17:37.686 --> 00:17:39.054
- That's where a lot ofmarriages are.
- 00:17:39.054 --> 00:17:40.422
- marriages are.You've had your sins forgiven,
- 00:17:40.422 --> 00:17:41.356
- You've had your sins forgiven,but you're still operating
- 00:17:41.356 --> 00:17:43.492
- but you're still operatingby a ledger system.
- 00:17:43.492 --> 00:17:45.427
- by a ledger system.And so he goes out, he finds
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- And so he goes out, he findsone of his fellow servants.
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- one of his fellow servants.Let's say this represents
- 00:17:48.263 --> 00:17:49.331
- Let's say this representsyour husband or wife.
- 00:17:49.331 --> 00:17:50.165
- your husband or wife.I know this is not commonly
- 00:17:50.165 --> 00:17:51.200
- I know this is not commonlya marriage text, but I think
- 00:17:51.200 --> 00:17:53.535
- a marriage text, but I thinkit's an excellent one.
- 00:17:53.535 --> 00:17:56.738
- it's an excellent one.Who owed him 100 silver coins.
- 00:17:56.738 --> 00:18:00.109
- Who owed him 100 silver coins.This dude got forgiven
- 00:18:00.109 --> 00:18:02.578
- This dude got forgivenfor 10.000 bags,
- 00:18:02.578 --> 00:18:03.879
- for 10.000 bags,and now he finds somebody
- 00:18:03.879 --> 00:18:05.647
- and now he finds somebodywho owes him chump change --
- 00:18:05.647 --> 00:18:07.950
- who owes him chump change --everybody say "chump change."
- 00:18:07.950 --> 00:18:09.451
- everybody say "chump change."And I don't care how anybody
- 00:18:09.451 --> 00:18:10.719
- And I don't care how anybodyhas ever offended you
- 00:18:10.719 --> 00:18:11.687
- has ever offended youin your life,
- 00:18:11.687 --> 00:18:12.955
- in your life,it is chump change
- 00:18:12.955 --> 00:18:13.789
- it is chump changecompared to how our sins
- 00:18:13.789 --> 00:18:15.791
- compared to how our sinsoffended a holy God.
- 00:18:15.791 --> 00:18:17.693
- offended a holy God.Chump change.
- 00:18:17.693 --> 00:18:20.262
- Chump change.And so look what he does.
- 00:18:20.262 --> 00:18:22.698
- And so look what he does.He grabbed him.
- 00:18:22.698 --> 00:18:25.100
- He grabbed him.You expect him to hug this dude.
- 00:18:25.100 --> 00:18:25.934
- You expect him to hug this dude."Hey, man, I just got some
- 00:18:25.934 --> 00:18:26.735
- "Hey, man, I just got somegood news.
- 00:18:26.735 --> 00:18:27.503
- good news.I want to give you some
- 00:18:27.503 --> 00:18:28.637
- I want to give you somegood news, too.
- 00:18:28.637 --> 00:18:29.838
- good news, too.I don't have to pay
- 00:18:29.838 --> 00:18:30.405
- I don't have to paythe master anymore,
- 00:18:30.405 --> 00:18:31.640
- the master anymore,so you don't have to pay me.
- 00:18:31.640 --> 00:18:33.509
- so you don't have to pay me.Now go and do likewise."
- 00:18:33.509 --> 00:18:35.344
- Now go and do likewise."But he comes at the guy
- 00:18:35.344 --> 00:18:37.646
- But he comes at the guyand he grabs him and he begins
- 00:18:37.646 --> 00:18:38.780
- and he grabs him and he beginsto choke him, and he said,
- 00:18:38.780 --> 00:18:41.550
- to choke him, and he said,"Pay back what you owe me."
- 00:18:41.550 --> 00:18:46.054
- "Pay back what you owe me."He demanded.
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- He demanded.From debtor to collector
- 00:18:49.825 --> 00:18:51.460
- From debtor to collectorin a moment.
- 00:18:51.460 --> 00:18:52.594
- in a moment.And his fellow servant --
- 00:18:52.594 --> 00:18:53.362
- And his fellow servant --now, we've seen this scene
- 00:18:53.362 --> 00:18:54.930
- now, we've seen this scenebefore -- fell to his knees
- 00:18:54.930 --> 00:18:57.499
- before -- fell to his kneesand begged him, "Be patient
- 00:18:57.499 --> 00:19:00.202
- and begged him, "Be patientwith me and I will pay it back."
- 00:19:00.202 --> 00:19:01.036
- with me and I will pay it back."In other words, he just needs
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- In other words, he just needssome of the same grace
- 00:19:02.004 --> 00:19:04.773
- some of the same gracethat this guy just got.
- 00:19:04.773 --> 00:19:05.741
- that this guy just got.But the man won't give it.
- 00:19:05.741 --> 00:19:06.875
- But the man won't give it.And I wondered in my mind,
- 00:19:06.875 --> 00:19:08.243
- And I wondered in my mind,studying this text this week,
- 00:19:08.243 --> 00:19:09.278
- studying this text this week,you know, I've always said
- 00:19:09.278 --> 00:19:10.712
- you know, I've always saidthat the man had a bad heart.
- 00:19:10.712 --> 00:19:11.647
- that the man had a bad heart.Maybe it wasn't that his
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- Maybe it wasn't that hisheart was bad.
- 00:19:12.314 --> 00:19:14.683
- heart was bad.Just thinking.
- 00:19:14.683 --> 00:19:16.151
- Just thinking.Maybe he still intended
- 00:19:16.151 --> 00:19:17.586
- Maybe he still intendedto pay the master back,
- 00:19:17.586 --> 00:19:18.787
- to pay the master back,so he sets out to collect
- 00:19:18.787 --> 00:19:20.189
- so he sets out to collectbecause he still can't believe
- 00:19:20.189 --> 00:19:22.758
- because he still can't believethat his debt was canceled.
- 00:19:22.758 --> 00:19:24.626
- that his debt was canceled.Maybe he's still so stuck
- 00:19:24.626 --> 00:19:26.295
- Maybe he's still so stuckin this mindset,
- 00:19:26.295 --> 00:19:27.829
- in this mindset,this religious mindset,
- 00:19:27.829 --> 00:19:29.231
- this religious mindset,that he's going after this guy
- 00:19:29.231 --> 00:19:31.500
- that he's going after this guyand he refuses --
- 00:19:31.500 --> 00:19:33.402
- and he refuses --I don't think he really got it.
- 00:19:33.402 --> 00:19:34.303
- I don't think he really got it.If he had really got it,
- 00:19:34.303 --> 00:19:36.238
- If he had really got it,he would have given it.
- 00:19:36.238 --> 00:19:36.905
- he would have given it.Don't you think if you
- 00:19:36.905 --> 00:19:37.539
- Don't you think if youreally give grace
- 00:19:37.539 --> 00:19:38.440
- really give graceyou'll give grace?
- 00:19:38.440 --> 00:19:40.008
- you'll give grace?Once your sins are forgiven,
- 00:19:40.008 --> 00:19:41.710
- Once your sins are forgiven,he who forgives much loves much,
- 00:19:41.710 --> 00:19:44.246
- he who forgives much loves much,don't you think?
- 00:19:44.246 --> 00:19:44.947
- don't you think?But he refused.
- 00:19:44.947 --> 00:19:46.715
- But he refused.He said, "No, man."
- 00:19:46.715 --> 00:19:47.349
- He said, "No, man."And he had the man
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- And he had the manthrown in prison.
- 00:19:48.483 --> 00:19:49.184
- thrown in prison.We do this to people
- 00:19:49.184 --> 00:19:49.918
- We do this to peopleall the time.
- 00:19:49.918 --> 00:19:50.752
- all the time.We imprison them,
- 00:19:50.752 --> 00:19:52.821
- We imprison them,awaiting payback.
- 00:19:52.821 --> 00:19:53.922
- awaiting payback.Some of you have imprisoned
- 00:19:53.922 --> 00:19:56.091
- Some of you have imprisoneda spouse emotionally
- 00:19:56.091 --> 00:19:56.758
- a spouse emotionallybecause of something
- 00:19:56.758 --> 00:20:03.966
- because of somethingthey did 36 months ago.
- 00:20:03.966 --> 00:20:05.067
- they did 36 months ago.Some of you have imprisoned
- 00:20:05.067 --> 00:20:05.968
- Some of you have imprisoneda spouse emotionally
- 00:20:05.968 --> 00:20:06.902
- a spouse emotionallybecause of something somebody
- 00:20:06.902 --> 00:20:07.636
- because of something somebodyelse did to you that
- 00:20:07.636 --> 00:20:08.470
- else did to you thatyou're taking out on somebody
- 00:20:08.470 --> 00:20:14.543
- you're taking out on somebodywho didn't even do it.
- 00:20:14.543 --> 00:20:15.777
- who didn't even do it.But when the other servant saw
- 00:20:15.777 --> 00:20:16.511
- But when the other servant saw-- and here's the thing
- 00:20:16.511 --> 00:20:20.315
- -- and here's the thingabout payback: If you insist
- 00:20:20.315 --> 00:20:23.085
- about payback: If you insiston living by the system
- 00:20:23.085 --> 00:20:25.187
- on living by the systemof payback, you'll always be
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- of payback, you'll always bethe one punished.
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- the one punished.You'll always be
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- You'll always bethe one who ends up choked.
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- the one who ends up choked.Watch.
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- Watch.When the other servant saw
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- When the other servant sawwhat had happened,
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- what had happened,they were outraged,
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- they were outraged,and they went and told
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- and they went and toldtheir master everything
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- their master everythingthat had happened.
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- that had happened.And then the master called
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- And then the master calledthe servant in.
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- the servant in.He said, "You wicked servant.
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- He said, "You wicked servant.I canceled all that debt of
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- I canceled all that debt ofyours because you begged me to.
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- yours because you begged me to.Like, you got in and you got
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- Like, you got in and you gotset free by grace,
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- set free by grace,but now you want to demand
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- but now you want to demandwhat the law requires
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- what the law requiresof somebody else.
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- of somebody else.Shouldn't you have had mercy
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- Shouldn't you have had mercyon your fellow servant just
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- on your fellow servant justas I had mercy on you?"
- 00:20:57.452 --> 00:20:58.553
- as I had mercy on you?"Now I hear it.
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- Now I hear it.Our Father who art in heaven,
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- Our Father who art in heaven,hallowed be your name.
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- hallowed be your name.Your kingdom come,
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- Your kingdom come,your will be done
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- your will be doneon earth as it is in heaven.
- 00:21:04.293 --> 00:21:05.060
- on earth as it is in heaven.And give us this day
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- And give us this dayour daily bread
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- our daily breadand forgive us our debts
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- and forgive us our debtsas we forgive our debtors.
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- as we forgive our debtors.How dare you choke somebody else
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- How dare you choke somebody elsewhen God had mercy on you.
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- when God had mercy on you.How dare you ask God
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- How dare you ask Godfor patience
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- for patienceand you demand payback.
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- and you demand payback.How dare you bow your knee
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- How dare you bow your kneeto God and then stand over
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- to God and then stand overyour brother, your sister,
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- your brother, your sister,your husband, your wife,
- 00:21:35.724 --> 00:21:36.525
- your husband, your wife,choking, saying,
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- choking, saying,"Pay me what you owe me."
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- "Pay me what you owe me."So I don't know about you,
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- So I don't know about you,but I want to give a lot
- 00:21:42.698 --> 00:21:43.632
- but I want to give a lotof grace because I think
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- of grace because I thinkI'm going to need a lot to make
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- I'm going to need a lot to makeit to heaven and make it
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- it to heaven and make itthrough this life.
- 00:21:50.038 --> 00:21:51.406
- through this life.I can't choke you
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- I can't choke youbecause I know that I'm the one
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- because I know that I'm the onewho should have been choked.
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- who should have been choked.I know that usually whatever
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- I know that usually whateverI see in you is a reflection
- 00:21:58.113 --> 00:21:58.880
- I see in you is a reflectionof something that
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- of something thatI know is in me.
- 00:22:02.451 --> 00:22:05.053
- I know is in me.And so his master, in anger,
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- And so his master, in anger,handed him over to the jailers
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- handed him over to the jailersto be tortured.
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- to be tortured.Doesn't say
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- Doesn't saythe master tortured him.
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- the master tortured him.He handed him over
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- He handed him overto be tortured.
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- to be tortured.See, that's what happens
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- See, that's what happensin a marriage when
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- in a marriage whenyou're so quick to bring up all
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- you're so quick to bring up allthese offenses, and you're
- 00:22:17.799 --> 00:22:18.633
- these offenses, and you'reso quick, and you keep
- 00:22:18.633 --> 00:22:20.302
- so quick, and you keepa five-year history of things
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- a five-year history of thingsthat she said or things
- 00:22:21.136 --> 00:22:22.704
- that she said or thingsthat he did, and you'll pull it
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- that he did, and you'll pull itup on command.
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- up on command.It's amazing.
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- It's amazing.You just got it on speed dial.
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- You just got it on speed dial.You just [indicating], like,
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- You just [indicating], like,whoa.
- 00:22:29.611 --> 00:22:30.746
- whoa.You're a collector.
- 00:22:30.746 --> 00:22:31.380
- You're a collector.You think you're
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- You think you'reGod's bounty hunter.
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- God's bounty hunter.And when you live that way,
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- And when you live that way,God says,
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- God says,"I got to hand you over."
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- "I got to hand you over."Watch this, Romans 13:8.
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- Watch this, Romans 13:8.Romans 13:8 it says, listen,
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- Romans 13:8 it says, listen,"Let no debt," Romans 13:8,
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- "Let no debt," Romans 13:8,"Let no debt remain outstanding,
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- "Let no debt remain outstanding,debt remain outstanding,
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- debt remain outstanding,except the continuing debt
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- except the continuing debtto love one another,
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- to love one another,for whoever loves,"
- 00:23:00.375 --> 00:23:01.476
- for whoever loves,"see, you came into
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- see, you came intoyour relationship with
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- your relationship withGod as a debtor.
- 00:23:04.246 --> 00:23:06.314
- God as a debtor.God had mercy on me, a sinner.
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- God had mercy on me, a sinner.If you're saved,
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- If you're saved,if you're set free,
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- if you're set free,if you're filled with God,
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- if you're filled with God,if you have forgiveness,
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- if you have forgiveness,if you have remission of sins,
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- if you have remission of sins,if you've been cleansed,
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- if you've been cleansed,it wasn't because you paid
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- it wasn't because you paidGod back.
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- God back.It's because you bowed down
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- It's because you bowed downon your knees and He took pity
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- on your knees and He took pityon you and He had mercy on you.
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- on you and He had mercy on you.Now, don't you get up off
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- Now, don't you get up offyour knees and start grabbing
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- your knees and start grabbingpeople by their throat.
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- people by their throat.Don't you get up off your knees
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- Don't you get up off your kneesand start putting your hand
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- and start putting your handon your hip and waiting for them
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- on your hip and waiting for themat the door every time
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- at the door every timethey mess up.
- 00:23:32.874 --> 00:23:33.675
- they mess up.Sometimes you better get
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- Sometimes you better getyour hand off your hip
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- your hand off your hipand uncross your arms
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- and uncross your armsand throw your arms
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- and throw your armsaround somebody and say,
- 00:23:39.414 --> 00:23:40.315
- around somebody and say,"I forgive you
- 00:23:40.315 --> 00:23:41.917
- "I forgive youlike He forgave me.
- 00:23:41.917 --> 00:23:42.884
- like He forgave me.I give grace
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- I give gracelike I was given grace."
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- - Alright, let's interact
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- - Alright, let's interactfor a moment.
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- for a moment.Just pretend like
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- Just pretend likeI'm there with you.
- 00:23:51.493 --> 00:23:53.495
- I'm there with you.Have you ever experienced
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- Have you ever experienceda challenging relationship?
- 00:23:55.630 --> 00:23:57.799
- a challenging relationship?Holly, do this, do this.
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- Holly, do this, do this.Okay, be careful how you respond
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- Okay, be careful how you respondif you're sitting
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- if you're sittingin your living room
- 00:24:00.435 --> 00:24:02.137
- in your living roomwatching this with your spouse
- 00:24:02.137 --> 00:24:04.105
- watching this with your spouseor someone that you love.
- 00:24:04.105 --> 00:24:05.941
- or someone that you love.the truth is relationships
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- the truth is relationshipsare challenging by design.
- 00:24:08.076 --> 00:24:09.644
- are challenging by design.It's how God grows us,
- 00:24:09.644 --> 00:24:11.847
- It's how God grows us,but it's He's intention for you
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- but it's He's intention for youto do more than just survive
- 00:24:13.081 --> 00:24:14.616
- to do more than just surviveyour relationships.
- 00:24:14.616 --> 00:24:15.784
- your relationships.I believe He wants you
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- I believe He wants youto thrive in them,
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- to thrive in them,and He's Word
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- and He's Wordgives us the tools
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- gives us the toolsto make that possible.
- 00:24:19.454 --> 00:24:21.456
- to make that possible.So, today, I have special
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- So, today, I have specialmost requested resource
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- most requested resourcethat I want to send to you.
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- that I want to send to you.It's called, "Meant to Be."
- 00:24:26.461 --> 00:24:27.162
- It's called, "Meant to Be."It will show you
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- It will show yousome of the Bible's
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- some of the Bible'sbest kept secrets
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- best kept secretsabout sex, shh,
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- about sex, shh,marriage, and being single.
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- marriage, and being single.- It's so good,
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- and it's really notjust a relationship series.
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- just a relationship series.This resource truly
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- This resource trulyhas the power
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- has the powerto impact your life.
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- to impact your life.We've heard stories of marriages
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- We've heard stories of marriagesthat were restored,
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- that were restored,and single people that learned
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- and single people that learnedto embrace the season
- 00:24:47.949 --> 00:24:49.050
- to embrace the seasonthat they're in instead
- 00:24:49.050 --> 00:24:50.519
- that they're in insteadof focusing on the relationships
- 00:24:50.519 --> 00:24:51.887
- of focusing on the relationshipsthat they don't have.
- 00:24:51.887 --> 00:24:53.221
- that they don't have.I know that this series
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- I know that this seriesis going to help you
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- is going to help youlike it has so many already.
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- like it has so many already.- And we want to help you,
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- - And we want to help you,we're here to help to you.
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- we're here to help to you.so, I'm going to send you
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- so, I'm going to send youthis resource "Meant to be"
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- this resource "Meant to be"with your gift of any amount
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- to you right away.Here's some more info as well as
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- Here's some more info as well assome additional resources
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- - When it comes
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- to seeking advice
- 00:25:21.483 --> 00:25:22.317
- about relationships, marriage,
- 00:25:22.317 --> 00:25:23.752
- and sex, we tend to look
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- in all the wrong places.
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- The world claims
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- to have the answers,
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- but maybe we've been focusing
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- on the wrong problem all along.
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- In our series, "Meant to Be",
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- Pastor Steven Furtick
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- has open conversations
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- to help us uncover
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- the Bible's best kept secrets
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- about sex, marriage,
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- - Most of the emphasis,
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- - Most of the emphasis,when you talk about dating,
- 00:25:43.271 --> 00:25:44.639
- when you talk about dating,and marriage, and singleness,
- 00:25:44.639 --> 00:25:45.707
- and marriage, and singleness,in culture seems to be
- 00:25:45.707 --> 00:25:47.842
- in culture seems to beon finding the right one.
- 00:25:47.842 --> 00:25:49.244
- on finding the right one.Most of the emphasis,
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- Most of the emphasis,when you come to the scripture,
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- when you come to the scripture,tends to be on being
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- - For your gift of any amount
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- the five-part
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- Meant To Be series,
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- which includes a message
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- with Pastor Steven
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- and his wife Holly,
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- where they share
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- personal examples
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- and scriptural insight on how
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- we can invite God to work
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- in our everyday
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- relationship challenges.
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- Pastor Steven also explains
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- the unnecessary complications
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- that sidetrack us
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- in relationships,
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- and he shows us
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- what is truly meant to be
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- in our lives
- 00:26:16.972 --> 00:26:17.739
- when we have Jesus
- 00:26:17.739 --> 00:26:19.174
- - I've been told all my life
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- - I've been told all my lifeto put Jesus first,
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- to put Jesus first,but that doesn't work,
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- but that doesn't work,because that separates him out
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- because that separates him outfrom everything else.
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- from everything else.Live as if Jesus
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- Live as if Jesuswas not first on your list,
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- was not first on your list,but that He was
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- - Visit us online
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- at stevenfurtick.com,
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- or call us at the number
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- - ♪ Before Your throne ♪
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- - ♪ Before Your throne ♪♪ In the mystery ♪
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- ♪ In the mystery ♪♪ That can't be known ♪
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- ♪ That can't be known ♪♪ Lives the majesty ♪
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- ♪ Lives the majesty ♪♪ That's Yours alone ♪
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- ♪ That's Yours alone ♪♪ How glorious You are ♪
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- ♪ How glorious You are ♪♪ You are the one ♪
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- ♪ You are the one ♪♪ Who redeems the wrongs ♪
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- ♪ Who redeems the wrongs ♪♪ That I have done ♪
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- ♪ That I have done ♪♪ Reigning over ♪
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- ♪ Reigning over ♪♪ All the days to come ♪
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- ♪ All the days to come ♪♪ How glorious You are ♪
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