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Steven Furtick
September 5, 2019
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  • - What if you changed
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  • your job description
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  • as a spouse today
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  • and said CEO;
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  • Chief Encouragement Officer?
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  • You think God would bless
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  • your marriage more?
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  • - When I focus on what God
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  • wants me to do
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  • then I can let God work on him.
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  • The way that I feel
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  • is setting the tone
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  • for our whole family.
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  • And when he feels like
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  • I'm unhappy then he feels
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  • like he's failing.
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  • - And we're always feel
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  • like we're failing somewhere.
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  • Paul said, he said,
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  • "In any situation,
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  • I can find
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  • - I love what Shaunti Feldhahn
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  • said in her book
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  • "For Women Only".
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  • She said she surveyed
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  • hundreds of married people
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  • and asked them "What is
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  • the one most important thing
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  • you wished your spouse
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  • understood about you but feel
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  • that he or she doesn't?"
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  • And she said the overwhelming
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  • response was "I wish she knew
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  • how much I truly love her."
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  • And if we could just go
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  • back to that,
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  • filter everything through.
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  • You did this this morning.
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  • And you might not have
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  • even known it
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  • but I was rushing to get ready,
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  • and kind of let the time
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  • get ahead of me,
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  • and rather than you go
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  • into this like
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  • "She doesn't respect my time."
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  • You were very patient.
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  • And you were like
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  • "Okay, are you ready?"
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  • - I just ate me a spoon
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  • of peanut butter
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  • and came on out.
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  • Let's go to the next point.
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  • I'm called to live
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  • with contentment.
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  • How huge is this in our world
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  • of constant comparisons today?
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  • Live with contentment.
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  • I mean I'm going to preach
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  • about this at least
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  • every other week
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  • for the next ten years,
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  • in some way or another.
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  • This thing of contentment.
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  • This thing about enjoying
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  • where you are on the way
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  • to where God is taking you.
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  • I'm going to preach on it
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  • because I need it.
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  • I'm going to preach about it
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  • because our world is
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  • antithetical to it.
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  • I'm going to preach about it
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  • because comparison
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  • kills contentment.
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  • And with no contentment
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  • there can be no joy.
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  • I don't care how much stuff
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  • you have.
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  • And so I'm called to live
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  • with contentment.
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  • Like that great Bible verse
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  • Philippians 4:13 where it says,
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  • "I can do all things through
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  • Christ who strengthens me."
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  • And we use that verse
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  • to set goals for ourselves,
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  • you know?
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  • I can do this and I can do that.
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  • But the verse right before it
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  • He says, "I've learned
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  • the secret of being content
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  • in any situation.
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  • No matter if I have little,
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  • if I have a lot,
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  • if I'm abounding,
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  • if I'm in need.
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  • I can do all things."
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  • What?
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  • I can do all things
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  • because I'm content.
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  • So in any situation
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  • I'm called to contentment.
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  • And I guess, I'm not trying
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  • to divide men and women in this
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  • because we respond
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  • in different ways but,
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  • like when I don't feel like
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  • your content I feel that
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  • that is you saying
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  • that I'm a bad provider.
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  • And I probably shouldn't feel
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  • that way, shouldn't make it
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  • about me, but I do.
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  • And then I become miserable.
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  • - Yeah.
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  • It's taken me a long time
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  • to figure this out
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  • because I understand
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  • that at his core,
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  • at a man's core,
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  • is this need to provide.
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  • To provide for his wife,
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  • to provide for his family.
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  • But I always took that to mean
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  • he just wants to make sure
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  • that our bills are paid
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  • every month.
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  • But it really goes way
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  • beyond him providing financially
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  • for us every month.
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  • I mean you have this need to,
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  • yeah I mean obviously, provide
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  • for our needs every month.
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  • But then you want to provide
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  • stability for us.
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  • You want to provide
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  • for our future.
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  • But even more than that
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  • a man feels like he wants
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  • to provide happiness
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  • for his wife,
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  • and for his family.
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  • And I think for women
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  • we really struggle with this.
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  • Because it's so easy to let
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  • one thing upset us and let it
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  • just set the trajectory
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  • of our day
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  • in a terrible direction.
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  • And I think sometimes
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  • I really fight this
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  • because it feels unfair.
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  • Because whether I like it or not
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  • as a woman I am the thermostat
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  • of my home.
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  • - True.
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  • - I set the tone.
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  • I set the mood.
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  • - It's true.
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  • - And you can either --
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  • I mean it is was it is.
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  • Is that fair?
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  • No.
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  • Why can't I be in a bad mood?
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  • Why can't I just have a bad day
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  • and everybody else just not be
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  • in a bad mood too?
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  • It's just not the way
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  • that it works.
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  • And so the way that I feel
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  • is setting the tone
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  • for our whole family.
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  • And when he feels like
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  • I'm unhappy then he feels
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  • like he's failing.
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  • And I didn't even realize this.
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  • Early on in our marriage
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  • we had a conversation
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  • that was really helpful for me.
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  • I was going through
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  • a really difficult stage
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  • of life.
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  • I was knee deep in babies.
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  • We had Elijah and Graham,
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  • are two years apart.
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  • So I spent over a year
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  • where I had two children
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  • in diapers.
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  • And so I was just knee deep
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  • in diapers and mommyness.
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  • You know?
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  • Like where these little things
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  • just control everything
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  • about your life.
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  • They tell you when you wake up.
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  • They tell you when you can go
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  • to sleep.
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  • They tell you when
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  • you can take a shower.
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  • They tell you when you can eat.
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  • And after a while it was
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  • just compounding on me.
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  • And I was just feeling
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  • disappointed with motherhood.
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  • Like "This isn't what I thought
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  • it was going to be."
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  • And I was just every day.
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  • And he would come home and
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  • I was just overwhelmed
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  • with how long the day had been
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  • and you're finally here.
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  • And he sat me down one day
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  • and he was like "I just --
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  • I feel like you're not happy.
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  • And I feel like you're not happy
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  • with me."
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  • And I -- this has nothing
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  • to do with you.
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  • But then I realized it does
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  • have everything to do with him.
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  • And because he's feeling
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  • like he needs to help me.
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  • How can I help you get happy?
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  • And I realized in that moment
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  • that I can change the way
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  • that I feel.
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  • I can -- it's all about
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  • my perspective
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  • and what I'm looking at.
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  • Philippians 4:8 says,
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  • "Finally brothers and sister
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  • whatever is true,
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  • whatever is noble,
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  • whatever is right,
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  • whatever is pure,
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  • whatever is lovely,
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  • whatever is admirable,
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  • if there's anything excellent
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  • or praiseworthy
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  • think about such things."
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  • And sometimes it just takes
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  • a few seconds to just hit
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  • the reset button and say,
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  • "Wait, wait, wait.
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  • I have two healthy kids.
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  • Well, now we have three.
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  • And I have a husband
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  • that loves me.
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  • And this is good.
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  • This is good.
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  • In this moment I'm feeling
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  • frustrated but I'm happy."
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  • And being able to communicate
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  • that to you.
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  • And just being able to say
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  • to you like, "I love our family.
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  • I love my life."
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  • And just taking a moment
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  • to express to him
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  • that I am content.
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  • - 'Cause I want to help
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  • the men out and say something
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  • to your woman.
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  • Most of us feel like
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  • we're failing most of the time.
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  • We don't show you that.
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  • But in at least one area,
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  • and maybe you can relate
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  • and maybe you can't,
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  • but we live by scorecards.
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  • And we feel like we're failing
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  • at everything if we're failing
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  • at anything.
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  • So if we're doing well at work
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  • we probably feel like
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  • we're cheating something
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  • that needs to happen at home.
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  • And if we're doing great
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  • at home, you know, we're making
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  • pancakes but we're broke.
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  • And we're always feel
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  • like we're failing somewhere.
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  • You have the power to give
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  • your man a win just by pointing
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  • out something that you like
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  • that he made possible for you.
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  • And if you want him to be
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  • a winner give him a win.
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  • If you want him to be a winner
  • 00:07:45.230 --> 00:07:47.040
  • give him a win.
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  • But the power of this is not
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  • when you, who really do love
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  • everything that's happening
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  • in your life and your content.
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  • Men and women now.
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  • It's when you do what Paul said.
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  • He said, "In any situation,
  • 00:07:57.160 --> 00:07:59.250
  • in any situation I can find
  • 00:07:59.250 --> 00:08:02.060
  • something to celebrate
  • 00:08:02.060 --> 00:08:03.180
  • in that situation."
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  • And you just -- you do
  • 00:08:05.200 --> 00:08:08.100
  • a touchdown dance you know?
  • 00:08:08.100 --> 00:08:10.100
  • Even if you're not anywhere
  • 00:08:10.100 --> 00:08:12.000
  • near the end zone.
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  • And it's amazing how that energy
  • 00:08:13.030 --> 00:08:15.090
  • just energizes that thing
  • 00:08:15.090 --> 00:08:17.050
  • of contentment.
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  • But it's hard.
  • 00:08:17.230 --> 00:08:18.230
  • I think it's hard to live
  • 00:08:18.230 --> 00:08:19.200
  • with contentment.
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  • I appreciate, though,
  • 00:08:20.220 --> 00:08:22.090
  • that you made me feel
  • 00:08:22.090 --> 00:08:23.100
  • this way every season
  • 00:08:23.100 --> 00:08:24.030
  • of our life.
  • 00:08:24.030 --> 00:08:24.250
  • Because God has blessed us
  • 00:08:24.250 --> 00:08:26.010
  • in a lot of ways now.
  • 00:08:26.010 --> 00:08:27.280
  • We pastor a church
  • 00:08:27.280 --> 00:08:28.250
  • that's growing.
  • 00:08:28.250 --> 00:08:29.140
  • A large church.
  • 00:08:29.140 --> 00:08:30.150
  • God has blessed us
  • 00:08:30.150 --> 00:08:31.290
  • in ways materially.
  • 00:08:31.290 --> 00:08:33.030
  • God has blessed us
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  • with influence.
  • 00:08:34.050 --> 00:08:35.000
  • But I felt like you've,
  • 00:08:35.000 --> 00:08:36.200
  • aside from that one six months
  • 00:08:36.200 --> 00:08:38.160
  • where you seemed very sad
  • 00:08:38.160 --> 00:08:40.280
  • and I felt bad for you,
  • 00:08:40.280 --> 00:08:43.010
  • I feel like on balance.
  • 00:08:43.010 --> 00:08:45.130
  • Not every day but you've always
  • 00:08:45.130 --> 00:08:47.020
  • made me feel when we moved
  • 00:08:47.020 --> 00:08:48.140
  • into that apartment
  • 00:08:48.140 --> 00:08:49.100
  • in Juniper Terrace,
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  • you made me feel like that
  • 00:08:50.200 --> 00:08:51.270
  • 720 square feet was a palace.
  • 00:08:52.010 --> 00:08:55.010
  • I was proud because I was
  • 00:08:55.010 --> 00:08:56.280
  • able to put down
  • 00:08:56.280 --> 00:08:57.230
  • the security deposit.
  • 00:08:57.230 --> 00:08:58.260
  • And I felt like the man.
  • 00:08:58.260 --> 00:09:00.290
  • And in that season
  • 00:09:00.290 --> 00:09:02.260
  • we got furniture
  • 00:09:02.260 --> 00:09:04.000
  • from Eric Phillips' dad,
  • 00:09:04.000 --> 00:09:06.000
  • who's gone to be with Lord,
  • 00:09:06.000 --> 00:09:07.020
  • Mr. Rob he had a mobile --
  • 00:09:07.020 --> 00:09:08.200
  • he would go repossess furniture
  • 00:09:08.200 --> 00:09:09.250
  • from mobile homes.
  • 00:09:09.250 --> 00:09:11.000
  • That's our first furniture.
  • 00:09:11.000 --> 00:09:12.110
  • That was our first bedroom.
  • 00:09:12.110 --> 00:09:13.140
  • Did I get that right?
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  • That was our first -- I was
  • 00:09:14.180 --> 00:09:15.240
  • so proud of that furniture.
  • 00:09:15.240 --> 00:09:17.020
  • 'Cause I had the hookup,
  • 00:09:17.020 --> 00:09:18.010
  • I had the street smarts to find
  • 00:09:18.010 --> 00:09:20.070
  • the man who repossesses
  • 00:09:20.070 --> 00:09:21.010
  • the furniture
  • 00:09:21.010 --> 00:09:21.290
  • from the mobile homes.
  • 00:09:21.290 --> 00:09:22.250
  • Come on.
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  • That takes skills.
  • 00:09:23.110 --> 00:09:24.270
  • That's OG.
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  • Come on.
  • 00:09:26.180 --> 00:09:29.070
  • And we were celebrating
  • 00:09:29.070 --> 00:09:30.160
  • that ugly furniture,
  • 00:09:30.160 --> 00:09:31.180
  • that nasty furniture.
  • 00:09:31.180 --> 00:09:32.230
  • And so contentment
  • 00:09:32.230 --> 00:09:34.130
  • breeds celebration
  • 00:09:34.130 --> 00:09:36.040
  • which breeds success.
  • 00:09:36.040 --> 00:09:38.070
  • And if you get happy about
  • 00:09:38.070 --> 00:09:39.290
  • what you have,
  • 00:09:39.290 --> 00:09:41.100
  • and where you are...
  • 00:09:41.100 --> 00:09:42.290
  • I'm called to live
  • 00:09:42.290 --> 00:09:43.230
  • with contentment.
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  • Next one.
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  • We gotta move because
  • 00:09:45.050 --> 00:09:46.070
  • I preached so long winded
  • 00:09:46.070 --> 00:09:47.070
  • last week all of you are going
  • 00:09:47.070 --> 00:09:48.100
  • to stop coming to church here
  • 00:09:48.100 --> 00:09:49.060
  • if I make you miss
  • 00:09:49.060 --> 00:09:49.290
  • football games.
  • 00:09:49.290 --> 00:09:50.270
  • I am called to let God be God.
  • 00:09:51.070 --> 00:09:54.070
  • Let's talk about that Holly.
  • 00:09:54.070 --> 00:09:55.160
  • Let God be God.
  • 00:09:55.160 --> 00:09:56.200
  • Tell them that story about
  • 00:09:56.200 --> 00:09:57.230
  • the mom and the pancakes.
  • 00:09:57.230 --> 00:09:59.050
  • Great story.
  • 00:09:59.050 --> 00:10:00.010
  • - Okay.
  • 00:10:00.010 --> 00:10:00.190
  • So there's this mom,
  • 00:10:00.190 --> 00:10:02.120
  • you may have heard this story
  • 00:10:02.120 --> 00:10:03.090
  • before, she was making pancakes
  • 00:10:03.090 --> 00:10:04.130
  • for her two little boys.
  • 00:10:04.130 --> 00:10:06.060
  • And they started to argue
  • 00:10:06.060 --> 00:10:07.170
  • about who would get
  • 00:10:07.170 --> 00:10:08.150
  • the first pancake.
  • 00:10:08.150 --> 00:10:09.080
  • And so the mom said to herself,
  • 00:10:09.080 --> 00:10:11.290
  • "I'm going to take this and make
  • 00:10:11.290 --> 00:10:13.080
  • this a teachable moment."
  • 00:10:13.080 --> 00:10:14.070
  • She looked at her boys
  • 00:10:14.070 --> 00:10:15.030
  • and she said, "Boys, you know,
  • 00:10:15.030 --> 00:10:16.250
  • if Jesus were here,
  • 00:10:16.250 --> 00:10:18.070
  • He would want His brother
  • 00:10:18.070 --> 00:10:19.270
  • to have the first pancake."
  • 00:10:19.270 --> 00:10:21.180
  • And the older little boy looked
  • 00:10:21.180 --> 00:10:23.000
  • at his younger brother
  • 00:10:23.000 --> 00:10:23.260
  • and said, "You be Jesus."
  • 00:10:23.260 --> 00:10:26.120
  • - Nice.
  • 00:10:26.120 --> 00:10:28.220
  • Nice.
  • 00:10:28.220 --> 00:10:30.250
  • - It's what we do in marriage
  • 00:10:30.250 --> 00:10:32.010
  • you know?
  • 00:10:32.010 --> 00:10:32.260
  • We don't want to focus
  • 00:10:32.260 --> 00:10:33.220
  • on our own calling.
  • 00:10:33.220 --> 00:10:35.020
  • We don't want to do the things
  • 00:10:35.020 --> 00:10:36.020
  • that God has called us to do.
  • 00:10:36.020 --> 00:10:37.110
  • We want to look at our spouses
  • 00:10:37.110 --> 00:10:38.140
  • and say, "You be Jesus."
  • 00:10:38.140 --> 00:10:40.000
  • You say I'm sorry.
  • 00:10:40.000 --> 00:10:42.090
  • I'm not saying I'm sorry first.
  • 00:10:42.090 --> 00:10:43.200
  • I'm going to wait this out.
  • 00:10:43.200 --> 00:10:44.220
  • You be Jesus.
  • 00:10:44.220 --> 00:10:45.150
  • But then the second part of it
  • 00:10:45.150 --> 00:10:46.110
  • is "You be Jesus."
  • 00:10:46.110 --> 00:10:48.230
  • So I'm not saying don't tell him
  • 00:10:48.230 --> 00:10:50.030
  • to be -- you,
  • 00:10:50.030 --> 00:10:50.240
  • you be Jesus to your spouse.
  • 00:10:50.240 --> 00:10:53.000
  • And then let God be God.
  • 00:10:53.000 --> 00:10:55.090
  • And I love how Philippians 2:8
  • 00:10:55.090 --> 00:10:57.220
  • says about Jesus,
  • 00:10:57.220 --> 00:10:58.270
  • "And being found
  • 00:10:58.270 --> 00:10:59.100
  • in the appearance as a man
  • 00:10:59.100 --> 00:11:00.160
  • he humbled himself
  • 00:11:00.160 --> 00:11:01.250
  • by becoming obedient to death.
  • 00:11:01.250 --> 00:11:03.210
  • Even death on a cross."
  • 00:11:03.210 --> 00:11:05.040
  • So Jesus did his part.
  • 00:11:05.040 --> 00:11:06.230
  • He was obedient.
  • 00:11:06.230 --> 00:11:07.160
  • And then God exalted him
  • 00:11:07.160 --> 00:11:09.190
  • to the highest place
  • 00:11:09.190 --> 00:11:10.280
  • and gave him to the name
  • 00:11:10.280 --> 00:11:12.020
  • that is above every name.
  • 00:11:12.020 --> 00:11:13.270
  • When I focus on what God
  • 00:11:13.270 --> 00:11:16.070
  • wants me to do
  • 00:11:16.070 --> 00:11:17.200
  • then I can let God work on him.
  • 00:11:18.120 --> 00:11:21.120
  • And I love -- my boys
  • 00:11:21.120 --> 00:11:22.290
  • always remind me of this
  • 00:11:22.290 --> 00:11:24.170
  • because inevitably this happens,
  • 00:11:24.170 --> 00:11:27.070
  • probably once a week --
  • 00:11:27.070 --> 00:11:28.010
  • - Of being like Jesus?
  • 00:11:28.010 --> 00:11:28.270
  • - No.
  • 00:11:28.270 --> 00:11:30.050
  • Letting God be God.
  • 00:11:30.050 --> 00:11:31.060
  • Inevitably in our house,
  • 00:11:31.060 --> 00:11:33.080
  • probably about once a week,
  • 00:11:33.080 --> 00:11:34.140
  • I'll say, "Boys, go clean
  • 00:11:34.140 --> 00:11:35.230
  • your room."
  • 00:11:35.230 --> 00:11:36.090
  • They share a room together.
  • 00:11:36.090 --> 00:11:37.050
  • And, you know,
  • 00:11:37.050 --> 00:11:39.030
  • they'll go upstairs, "Aww."
  • 00:11:39.030 --> 00:11:41.110
  • They do the whole thing.
  • 00:11:41.110 --> 00:11:42.070
  • They go upstairs
  • 00:11:42.070 --> 00:11:43.240
  • and a few minutes will pass by.
  • 00:11:43.240 --> 00:11:44.250
  • It will be quiet.
  • 00:11:44.250 --> 00:11:45.160
  • And then inevitably you start
  • 00:11:45.160 --> 00:11:46.290
  • to hear this fight brewing.
  • 00:11:46.290 --> 00:11:48.290
  • And you start to hear them
  • 00:11:48.290 --> 00:11:50.260
  • yelling at each other.
  • 00:11:50.260 --> 00:11:52.090
  • And then the yelling
  • 00:11:52.090 --> 00:11:53.000
  • gets louder.
  • 00:11:53.000 --> 00:11:53.230
  • And then, in our house, Graham,
  • 00:11:53.230 --> 00:11:56.000
  • who's the younger one,
  • 00:11:56.000 --> 00:11:56.180
  • he starts to cry.
  • 00:11:56.180 --> 00:11:58.030
  • And it's just this loud
  • 00:11:58.030 --> 00:11:59.110
  • like "I'm hurt" cry.
  • 00:11:59.110 --> 00:12:00.230
  • The whole drama thing.
  • 00:12:00.230 --> 00:12:02.110
  • And so I go upstairs
  • 00:12:02.110 --> 00:12:04.010
  • and the room is not clean,
  • 00:12:04.010 --> 00:12:06.070
  • it looks exactly the same
  • 00:12:06.070 --> 00:12:07.280
  • as it looked before.
  • 00:12:07.280 --> 00:12:09.050
  • Graham's on the floor
  • 00:12:09.050 --> 00:12:10.130
  • in a puddle of tears and drama.
  • 00:12:10.130 --> 00:12:12.210
  • And he's saying,
  • 00:12:12.210 --> 00:12:14.150
  • "He punched me."
  • 00:12:14.150 --> 00:12:15.190
  • And I'll look at Elijah like,
  • 00:12:15.190 --> 00:12:17.130
  • "What's going on?"
  • 00:12:17.130 --> 00:12:19.240
  • And he'll say,
  • 00:12:19.240 --> 00:12:20.250
  • "Graham wouldn't clean up."
  • 00:12:20.250 --> 00:12:21.270
  • - You look at him like what?
  • 00:12:21.270 --> 00:12:23.100
  • Say it the way
  • 00:12:23.100 --> 00:12:24.130
  • you really say it.
  • 00:12:24.130 --> 00:12:25.230
  • - "What did you do?"
  • 00:12:25.230 --> 00:12:28.070
  • - That's halfway there.
  • 00:12:29.040 --> 00:12:32.040
  • - And he'll say,
  • 00:12:32.040 --> 00:12:32.210
  • "Graham wouldn't clean up.
  • 00:12:32.210 --> 00:12:34.090
  • He wouldn't clean up."
  • 00:12:34.090 --> 00:12:35.240
  • "Well Elijah, your bed
  • 00:12:35.240 --> 00:12:37.230
  • is unmade, your drawers
  • 00:12:37.230 --> 00:12:39.100
  • are all still open.
  • 00:12:39.100 --> 00:12:40.090
  • Your towels on the floor.
  • 00:12:40.090 --> 00:12:43.080
  • You've got to let me be the mom.
  • 00:12:43.080 --> 00:12:45.260
  • You're not the mom.
  • 00:12:45.260 --> 00:12:47.040
  • I'm the mom.
  • 00:12:47.040 --> 00:12:48.060
  • You do what you need to do
  • 00:12:48.060 --> 00:12:50.070
  • and let me take care of Graham
  • 00:12:50.070 --> 00:12:52.020
  • if he's not going to clean up
  • 00:12:52.020 --> 00:12:53.120
  • his part."
  • 00:12:53.120 --> 00:12:54.150
  • And don't you feel like
  • 00:12:54.150 --> 00:12:56.160
  • that's what God is looking
  • 00:12:56.160 --> 00:12:57.190
  • down at us?
  • 00:12:57.190 --> 00:12:58.070
  • - Oh my God.
  • 00:12:58.070 --> 00:12:58.250
  • Preach.
  • 00:12:58.250 --> 00:13:00.220
  • Preach, Sister Holly.
  • 00:13:07.040 --> 00:13:10.040
  • God looks down on his children
  • 00:13:10.040 --> 00:13:11.090
  • fighting and said, "Would you
  • 00:13:11.090 --> 00:13:12.240
  • let me be the Father?
  • 00:13:12.280 --> 00:13:15.280
  • Quit trying to straighten
  • 00:13:15.280 --> 00:13:17.000
  • them out.
  • 00:13:17.000 --> 00:13:17.210
  • Maybe I'd like to straighten
  • 00:13:17.210 --> 00:13:18.160
  • you out.
  • 00:13:18.160 --> 00:13:19.170
  • Don't make me -- don't make me
  • 00:13:19.170 --> 00:13:22.020
  • come downstairs.
  • 00:13:22.020 --> 00:13:24.170
  • I'll straighten ya'll both out."
  • 00:13:24.170 --> 00:13:26.180
  • Let God be God.
  • 00:13:26.180 --> 00:13:27.200
  • We gotta go to the next one.
  • 00:13:27.200 --> 00:13:28.220
  • We could talk about that
  • 00:13:28.220 --> 00:13:29.140
  • all day.
  • 00:13:29.140 --> 00:13:30.070
  • But let God be God.
  • 00:13:30.070 --> 00:13:32.240
  • He's way better at His job
  • 00:13:32.240 --> 00:13:34.070
  • than you could ever be.
  • 00:13:34.070 --> 00:13:36.200
  • And some of us are engaging
  • 00:13:36.200 --> 00:13:37.140
  • in things of trying
  • 00:13:37.140 --> 00:13:38.080
  • to fix people and marriages
  • 00:13:38.080 --> 00:13:39.030
  • that are above our pay grade,
  • 00:13:39.030 --> 00:13:39.260
  • frankly.
  • 00:13:39.260 --> 00:13:41.080
  • And God wants His job back.
  • 00:13:41.080 --> 00:13:43.250
  • And if you be Jesus
  • 00:13:43.250 --> 00:13:44.150
  • and let God be God
  • 00:13:44.150 --> 00:13:45.100
  • then he'll take care of the --
  • 00:13:45.100 --> 00:13:47.030
  • He's way better at fixing
  • 00:13:47.030 --> 00:13:48.050
  • that person than you are.
  • 00:13:48.050 --> 00:13:49.230
  • If you'd get out of the way
  • 00:13:49.230 --> 00:13:50.260
  • He might do it.
  • 00:13:50.260 --> 00:13:52.130
  • The very thing that you're
  • 00:13:52.130 --> 00:13:53.120
  • freaking out about.
  • 00:13:53.120 --> 00:13:54.110
  • - He can whisper in a minute
  • 00:13:54.110 --> 00:13:55.130
  • the thing that it would take me
  • 00:13:55.130 --> 00:13:56.120
  • months to nag you about.
  • 00:13:56.120 --> 00:13:58.240
  • - Say it again.
  • 00:13:58.240 --> 00:14:00.120
  • And everybody in the church
  • 00:14:00.120 --> 00:14:01.140
  • tweeted at once.
  • 00:14:01.140 --> 00:14:03.030
  • He can -- say it
  • 00:14:03.030 --> 00:14:04.270
  • I don't remember.
  • 00:14:04.270 --> 00:14:05.130
  • - He can whisper in just a snap
  • 00:14:05.160 --> 00:14:08.160
  • of a finger, he can whisper
  • 00:14:08.160 --> 00:14:10.190
  • into my husband's ear,
  • 00:14:10.190 --> 00:14:11.290
  • something that I've been nagging
  • 00:14:11.290 --> 00:14:13.030
  • to him for months about.
  • 00:14:13.030 --> 00:14:15.230
  • if you would just -- if I would
  • 00:14:15.230 --> 00:14:17.140
  • just focus on me
  • 00:14:17.140 --> 00:14:19.010
  • and let God work on him.
  • 00:14:19.010 --> 00:14:21.000
  • And trust that God will work
  • 00:14:21.000 --> 00:14:22.140
  • on him.
  • 00:14:22.140 --> 00:14:23.090
  • - God could do it.
  • 00:14:23.090 --> 00:14:26.060
  • God wants to whisper what
  • 00:14:26.180 --> 00:14:29.180
  • you've been trying to shout.
  • 00:14:29.180 --> 00:14:31.140
  • If you'll shut your mouth.
  • 00:14:32.070 --> 00:14:35.070
  • This is getting good.
  • 00:14:35.070 --> 00:14:37.070
  • This is getting good.
  • 00:14:37.070 --> 00:14:38.220
  • I'm called to encourage
  • 00:14:38.220 --> 00:14:41.000
  • your strengths.
  • 00:14:41.000 --> 00:14:41.260
  • We're almost home now.
  • 00:14:41.260 --> 00:14:43.040
  • I am called to encourage
  • 00:14:43.040 --> 00:14:45.020
  • your strengths.
  • 00:14:45.020 --> 00:14:45.290
  • We need to point this out
  • 00:14:45.290 --> 00:14:48.120
  • because as we've been saying
  • 00:14:48.120 --> 00:14:49.170
  • our tendency is to feel
  • 00:14:49.170 --> 00:14:51.020
  • that I am called to fix
  • 00:14:51.020 --> 00:14:52.080
  • your weaknesses.
  • 00:14:52.080 --> 00:14:53.200
  • Or expose your weaknesses.
  • 00:14:53.200 --> 00:14:56.080
  • And there's times in marriage
  • 00:14:56.080 --> 00:14:57.260
  • to talk about things.
  • 00:14:57.260 --> 00:14:59.210
  • You know, Holly helps me
  • 00:14:59.210 --> 00:15:01.060
  • with my temper.
  • 00:15:01.060 --> 00:15:03.080
  • But not in the middle
  • 00:15:03.080 --> 00:15:04.010
  • of my temper tantrum.
  • 00:15:04.010 --> 00:15:05.070
  • As she said it's about timing.
  • 00:15:05.070 --> 00:15:07.000
  • She helps me.
  • 00:15:07.000 --> 00:15:09.080
  • And one of the greatest ways
  • 00:15:09.080 --> 00:15:10.150
  • that she helps me is not
  • 00:15:10.150 --> 00:15:12.010
  • by going straight to the C's
  • 00:15:12.010 --> 00:15:13.080
  • and D's and F's
  • 00:15:13.080 --> 00:15:14.100
  • on my report card
  • 00:15:14.100 --> 00:15:15.170
  • but talking about the A's.
  • 00:15:15.170 --> 00:15:18.100
  • We call this and I got this
  • 00:15:18.100 --> 00:15:19.200
  • from a book about changing
  • 00:15:19.200 --> 00:15:21.010
  • things when change is hard.
  • 00:15:21.010 --> 00:15:22.150
  • And the books is called "Switch"
  • 00:15:22.150 --> 00:15:24.010
  • and they talk about
  • 00:15:24.010 --> 00:15:24.200
  • bright spots.
  • 00:15:24.200 --> 00:15:26.010
  • And they talk about an epidemic.
  • 00:15:26.010 --> 00:15:28.140
  • There was a starvation epidemic.
  • 00:15:28.140 --> 00:15:30.150
  • Somebody went in to try
  • 00:15:30.150 --> 00:15:31.120
  • to fix it.
  • 00:15:31.120 --> 00:15:31.280
  • They couldn't fix it.
  • 00:15:31.280 --> 00:15:32.130
  • Somebody else came in to try
  • 00:15:32.130 --> 00:15:33.090
  • to fix it, they couldn't fix it.
  • 00:15:33.090 --> 00:15:34.080
  • Somebody else came in
  • 00:15:34.080 --> 00:15:35.040
  • and tried to fix it,
  • 00:15:35.040 --> 00:15:35.260
  • they couldn't fix it.
  • 00:15:35.260 --> 00:15:37.130
  • One person came in
  • 00:15:37.130 --> 00:15:38.110
  • and tried to fix it
  • 00:15:38.110 --> 00:15:39.090
  • and they began to fix it.
  • 00:15:39.090 --> 00:15:40.220
  • Because everybody came in
  • 00:15:40.220 --> 00:15:41.270
  • the first several times
  • 00:15:41.270 --> 00:15:43.040
  • trying to fix what was wrong.
  • 00:15:43.040 --> 00:15:45.080
  • They would find out
  • 00:15:45.080 --> 00:15:45.290
  • the problems.
  • 00:15:45.290 --> 00:15:46.160
  • Why were these people starving?
  • 00:15:46.160 --> 00:15:48.030
  • Trying to fix it.
  • 00:15:48.030 --> 00:15:49.170
  • Couldn't fix it systemically.
  • 00:15:49.170 --> 00:15:51.140
  • But then one person had
  • 00:15:51.140 --> 00:15:52.290
  • the foresight to find
  • 00:15:52.290 --> 00:15:53.250
  • one family that was
  • 00:15:53.250 --> 00:15:55.120
  • in the same situation
  • 00:15:55.120 --> 00:15:57.010
  • with limited resources
  • 00:15:57.010 --> 00:15:58.030
  • that was not starving.
  • 00:15:58.030 --> 00:16:00.060
  • And find out what they were
  • 00:16:00.060 --> 00:16:01.060
  • doing right and then teach that
  • 00:16:01.060 --> 00:16:03.040
  • to the surrounding village.
  • 00:16:03.040 --> 00:16:05.150
  • Bright spots.
  • 00:16:05.150 --> 00:16:07.020
  • If you look at the bright spots
  • 00:16:07.020 --> 00:16:08.220
  • -- like somebody said to me
  • 00:16:08.220 --> 00:16:09.190
  • the other day, "Who tells you
  • 00:16:09.190 --> 00:16:11.240
  • when your sermon isn't good?"
  • 00:16:11.240 --> 00:16:14.200
  • And I'm like, "God.
  • 00:16:14.200 --> 00:16:17.150
  • Holy Spirit."
  • 00:16:17.150 --> 00:16:18.130
  • I feel that way.
  • 00:16:18.130 --> 00:16:19.110
  • You know I did a survey
  • 00:16:19.110 --> 00:16:20.050
  • of preachers, I'm getting
  • 00:16:20.050 --> 00:16:20.210
  • way off track and we gotta close
  • 00:16:20.210 --> 00:16:21.290
  • but I did a survey of preachers,
  • 00:16:21.290 --> 00:16:23.040
  • and I was telling you this,
  • 00:16:23.040 --> 00:16:24.030
  • of some of the top preachers
  • 00:16:24.030 --> 00:16:25.070
  • that you would know their name.
  • 00:16:25.070 --> 00:16:26.120
  • And I've been asking them,
  • 00:16:26.120 --> 00:16:28.000
  • "How many times do you feel
  • 00:16:28.000 --> 00:16:29.180
  • like you preached great
  • 00:16:29.180 --> 00:16:30.160
  • when you walk off the stage?"
  • 00:16:30.160 --> 00:16:31.260
  • And the most common answer was
  • 00:16:31.260 --> 00:16:33.130
  • "One out of five at best."
  • 00:16:33.130 --> 00:16:35.200
  • Wow that's crazy.
  • 00:16:35.200 --> 00:16:36.130
  • These are the best guys
  • 00:16:36.130 --> 00:16:37.140
  • in their whole field.
  • 00:16:37.140 --> 00:16:39.070
  • And they said, "One out of five
  • 00:16:39.070 --> 00:16:40.240
  • at best."
  • 00:16:40.240 --> 00:16:41.160
  • So somebody was asking one day,
  • 00:16:41.160 --> 00:16:42.180
  • they said, "Who tells you
  • 00:16:42.180 --> 00:16:43.200
  • when your sermon wasn't great?"
  • 00:16:43.200 --> 00:16:44.220
  • "Well usually I don't think
  • 00:16:44.220 --> 00:16:46.030
  • it was anyway so nobody
  • 00:16:46.030 --> 00:16:47.090
  • has to tell me.
  • 00:16:47.090 --> 00:16:48.090
  • I'm beating up on myself way
  • 00:16:48.090 --> 00:16:49.090
  • more than anybody else could."
  • 00:16:49.090 --> 00:16:50.100
  • And they said,
  • 00:16:50.100 --> 00:16:51.150
  • "Well, I bet your wife does.
  • 00:16:51.150 --> 00:16:52.230
  • I bet you she tells you."
  • 00:16:52.230 --> 00:16:54.150
  • And I said "No.
  • 00:16:54.150 --> 00:16:55.230
  • She's my CEO.
  • 00:16:56.220 --> 00:16:59.220
  • That's stands for
  • 00:16:59.220 --> 00:17:00.090
  • Chief Encouragement Officer."
  • 00:17:00.180 --> 00:17:03.180
  • And you can do
  • 00:17:03.180 --> 00:17:04.130
  • what you want to do.
  • 00:17:04.130 --> 00:17:05.030
  • You don't have to listen to us
  • 00:17:05.030 --> 00:17:07.030
  • but there's something about
  • 00:17:07.030 --> 00:17:08.200
  • when I walk off that stage
  • 00:17:08.200 --> 00:17:10.100
  • with her and she tells me,
  • 00:17:10.100 --> 00:17:12.200
  • you know, "That was a word."
  • 00:17:12.200 --> 00:17:14.290
  • That was powerful.
  • 00:17:14.290 --> 00:17:16.110
  • You know she doesn't
  • 00:17:16.110 --> 00:17:17.150
  • just say it.
  • 00:17:17.150 --> 00:17:18.110
  • I think that would be one thing.
  • 00:17:18.110 --> 00:17:19.190
  • But she shows it.
  • 00:17:19.190 --> 00:17:21.000
  • Shows encouragement.
  • 00:17:21.000 --> 00:17:22.120
  • Encourage means put courage in.
  • 00:17:22.210 --> 00:17:25.210
  • And she puts courage in me
  • 00:17:25.210 --> 00:17:27.050
  • by her presence.
  • 00:17:27.050 --> 00:17:28.170
  • Did you know that every weekend
  • 00:17:28.170 --> 00:17:29.240
  • she sits through
  • 00:17:29.240 --> 00:17:30.290
  • all three of my sermons?
  • 00:17:30.290 --> 00:17:32.110
  • This is the same sermon
  • 00:17:32.110 --> 00:17:33.050
  • every time.
  • 00:17:33.050 --> 00:17:33.280
  • Course I change it a lot.
  • 00:17:33.280 --> 00:17:35.090
  • - It's good every time.
  • 00:17:35.090 --> 00:17:36.270
  • - But she -- And you're like,
  • 00:17:36.270 --> 00:17:37.230
  • "Oh, you're so sweet.
  • 00:17:37.230 --> 00:17:39.020
  • Yeah right."
  • 00:17:39.020 --> 00:17:40.100
  • She talks to me that way
  • 00:17:40.100 --> 00:17:41.240
  • all the time.
  • 00:17:41.240 --> 00:17:42.290
  • And you know what's weird?
  • 00:17:42.290 --> 00:17:45.240
  • You can trick a man
  • 00:17:45.240 --> 00:17:46.240
  • into believing he's brilliant.
  • 00:17:49.170 --> 00:17:52.170
  • "He doesn't have any strengths."
  • 00:17:52.170 --> 00:17:54.170
  • Make something up and he'll get
  • 00:17:54.170 --> 00:17:57.030
  • good at it with enough repeat --
  • 00:17:57.030 --> 00:17:59.030
  • It's like inception.
  • 00:17:59.030 --> 00:18:00.190
  • Women, you have power
  • 00:18:00.190 --> 00:18:01.270
  • to just plant stuff.
  • 00:18:01.270 --> 00:18:03.130
  • We will think we're good
  • 00:18:03.130 --> 00:18:04.210
  • at stuff.
  • 00:18:04.210 --> 00:18:05.050
  • "You're such a great dad."
  • 00:18:05.050 --> 00:18:06.180
  • Why?
  • 00:18:06.180 --> 00:18:07.110
  • "You came home."
  • 00:18:12.100 --> 00:18:15.100
  • - So true.
  • 00:18:15.100 --> 00:18:16.210
  • - Yeah.
  • 00:18:16.210 --> 00:18:17.120
  • Encourage.
  • 00:18:17.120 --> 00:18:17.290
  • And so what gives me a lot
  • 00:18:17.290 --> 00:18:19.250
  • of boldness a lot of times is,
  • 00:18:19.250 --> 00:18:21.210
  • you know we run around in life
  • 00:18:21.210 --> 00:18:23.170
  • looking for likes
  • 00:18:23.170 --> 00:18:25.040
  • from a bunch of people.
  • 00:18:25.040 --> 00:18:26.090
  • Social media analogy.
  • 00:18:26.090 --> 00:18:27.250
  • But if you get the right like
  • 00:18:27.250 --> 00:18:29.210
  • from the person that you love
  • 00:18:29.210 --> 00:18:30.230
  • the most?
  • 00:18:30.230 --> 00:18:32.150
  • You don't need
  • 00:18:32.150 --> 00:18:33.100
  • all the other stuff.
  • 00:18:33.100 --> 00:18:35.050
  • And you have the power,
  • 00:18:35.050 --> 00:18:37.190
  • and I have the power,
  • 00:18:37.190 --> 00:18:39.060
  • to tell her I love the way
  • 00:18:39.060 --> 00:18:41.290
  • you look.
  • 00:18:41.290 --> 00:18:43.050
  • I love the way you look.
  • 00:18:43.050 --> 00:18:44.140
  • I love the way -- no I love
  • 00:18:44.140 --> 00:18:47.140
  • the way you cook.
  • 00:18:47.140 --> 00:18:48.090
  • I love -- she does more
  • 00:18:48.090 --> 00:18:49.100
  • than just cook and look good.
  • 00:18:49.100 --> 00:18:50.180
  • I have the power.
  • 00:18:50.180 --> 00:18:51.250
  • You're doing a great job
  • 00:18:51.250 --> 00:18:53.060
  • creating the culture
  • 00:18:53.060 --> 00:18:54.120
  • of our church for staff spouses,
  • 00:18:54.120 --> 00:18:56.120
  • which is what she focuses on.
  • 00:18:56.120 --> 00:18:57.160
  • And I am called to encourage
  • 00:18:57.160 --> 00:18:59.090
  • her strengths.
  • 00:18:59.090 --> 00:19:00.030
  • What if you changed
  • 00:19:00.030 --> 00:19:02.050
  • your job description
  • 00:19:02.050 --> 00:19:02.270
  • as a spouse today and wrote
  • 00:19:02.270 --> 00:19:05.000
  • at the top of the thing,
  • 00:19:05.000 --> 00:19:06.170
  • the job description
  • 00:19:06.170 --> 00:19:07.060
  • that you're going to make,
  • 00:19:07.060 --> 00:19:08.010
  • and said CEO.
  • 00:19:08.010 --> 00:19:09.150
  • Chief Encouragement Officer.
  • 00:19:09.150 --> 00:19:11.200
  • You think God would bless
  • 00:19:11.200 --> 00:19:12.280
  • your marriage more?
  • 00:19:12.280 --> 00:19:14.190
  • You think some stuff
  • 00:19:14.190 --> 00:19:16.080
  • would come alive?
  • 00:19:16.080 --> 00:19:17.030
  • What if that was the main thing?
  • 00:19:17.030 --> 00:19:19.130
  • What if you started
  • 00:19:19.130 --> 00:19:20.210
  • with what you could?
  • 00:19:20.210 --> 00:19:22.000
  • - It means so much
  • 00:19:22.000 --> 00:19:23.090
  • when it comes from your spouse.
  • 00:19:23.090 --> 00:19:25.100
  • Because I know everything
  • 00:19:25.100 --> 00:19:27.020
  • there is to know about you.
  • 00:19:27.020 --> 00:19:28.100
  • But yet I'm telling you,
  • 00:19:28.100 --> 00:19:30.250
  • "That was a great message."
  • 00:19:30.250 --> 00:19:32.270
  • Or "You're doing a great job."
  • 00:19:32.270 --> 00:19:35.080
  • I want him to go to work
  • 00:19:35.080 --> 00:19:36.110
  • and feel like I believe in him.
  • 00:19:36.110 --> 00:19:39.110
  • I want my husband to know
  • 00:19:39.110 --> 00:19:41.040
  • that I believe in him.
  • 00:19:41.040 --> 00:19:42.240
  • But I have to tell him.
  • 00:19:42.240 --> 00:19:44.110
  • And I also have to show him
  • 00:19:44.110 --> 00:19:46.010
  • with my actions
  • 00:19:46.010 --> 00:19:46.230
  • and with my attitude.
  • 00:19:46.230 --> 00:19:48.180
  • And I can encourage him.
  • 00:19:48.180 --> 00:19:50.090
  • - Verbal.
  • 00:19:50.090 --> 00:19:51.050
  • You can do it verbally.
  • 00:19:51.050 --> 00:19:52.120
  • - Yeah.
  • 00:19:52.120 --> 00:19:52.290
  • And I can do it non-verbally
  • 00:19:52.290 --> 00:19:54.020
  • by attitude and my physically
  • 00:19:54.020 --> 00:19:57.020
  • like supporting him.
  • 00:19:57.020 --> 00:19:58.070
  • - Yes.
  • 00:19:58.070 --> 00:20:01.000
  • Yes you can.
  • 00:20:01.070 --> 00:20:04.070
  • - And you can, you know,
  • 00:20:04.070 --> 00:20:05.070
  • written.
  • 00:20:05.070 --> 00:20:05.230
  • Not just notes
  • 00:20:05.230 --> 00:20:07.120
  • but text messages.
  • 00:20:07.120 --> 00:20:08.030
  • - Put a little more time
  • 00:20:08.030 --> 00:20:08.290
  • on my clock.
  • 00:20:08.290 --> 00:20:09.190
  • Let's talk about that part.
  • 00:20:09.190 --> 00:20:12.030
  • - Talk about
  • 00:20:12.030 --> 00:20:12.250
  • physical encouragement?
  • 00:20:12.250 --> 00:20:14.050
  • - Yes.
  • 00:20:14.050 --> 00:20:15.080
  • Yes.
  • 00:20:15.080 --> 00:20:15.280
  • Let's talk about it.
  • 00:20:15.280 --> 00:20:16.230
  • It's amazing.
  • 00:20:17.180 --> 00:20:20.180
  • It really is so important.
  • 00:20:20.180 --> 00:20:22.280
  • Encourage your strengths.
  • 00:20:22.280 --> 00:20:25.090
  • You know I try to preach
  • 00:20:25.090 --> 00:20:26.170
  • in that way.
  • 00:20:26.170 --> 00:20:27.230
  • We're aware of our weaknesses.
  • 00:20:27.230 --> 00:20:28.220
  • And we gotta cover each other.
  • 00:20:28.220 --> 00:20:30.130
  • But I'm encourage --
  • 00:20:30.130 --> 00:20:31.210
  • I'm not jumping on the one thing
  • 00:20:31.210 --> 00:20:33.020
  • you did wrong.
  • 00:20:33.020 --> 00:20:34.070
  • - Yeah.
  • 00:20:34.070 --> 00:20:34.230
  • - I want to be like God
  • 00:20:34.230 --> 00:20:35.260
  • who takes us from strength
  • 00:20:35.260 --> 00:20:37.200
  • to strength.
  • 00:20:37.200 --> 00:20:38.080
  • From glory to glory.
  • 00:20:38.080 --> 00:20:40.140
  • You are not my project.
  • 00:20:40.140 --> 00:20:42.210
  • You're my partner.
  • 00:20:42.210 --> 00:20:44.120
  • - Yes.
  • 00:20:44.120 --> 00:20:46.070
  • - We're in this together.
  • 00:20:46.070 --> 00:20:47.110
  • - We're a team.
  • 00:20:47.110 --> 00:20:48.170
  • - And I want to build you up.
  • 00:20:48.170 --> 00:20:50.020
  • Not puff you up.
  • 00:20:50.020 --> 00:20:51.110
  • That's when I use flattery
  • 00:20:51.110 --> 00:20:53.030
  • to get my way.
  • 00:20:53.030 --> 00:20:54.050
  • That's when I use encouragement
  • 00:20:54.050 --> 00:20:56.010
  • as a tool to manipulate
  • 00:20:56.010 --> 00:20:56.260
  • a situation.
  • 00:20:56.260 --> 00:20:58.070
  • Not that.
  • 00:20:58.070 --> 00:20:59.080
  • But build you up with the truth
  • 00:20:59.080 --> 00:21:01.070
  • of who God says you are.
  • 00:21:01.070 --> 00:21:03.150
  • I'm called to encourage
  • 00:21:03.150 --> 00:21:05.010
  • your strength.
  • 00:21:05.010 --> 00:21:06.100
  • And finally, most important,
  • 00:21:06.100 --> 00:21:07.110
  • I'm called to do it anyway.
  • 00:21:07.110 --> 00:21:08.200
  • - Yeah.
  • 00:21:08.200 --> 00:21:09.270
  • - Because everything
  • 00:21:09.270 --> 00:21:11.000
  • I just said will not work
  • 00:21:11.000 --> 00:21:12.030
  • if you only do it
  • 00:21:12.030 --> 00:21:13.020
  • when you feel like it.
  • 00:21:13.020 --> 00:21:13.220
  • - Right.
  • 00:21:13.220 --> 00:21:14.180
  • - If you only do it
  • 00:21:14.180 --> 00:21:15.150
  • when they deserve it.
  • 00:21:15.150 --> 00:21:16.140
  • Listen to me at every location.
  • 00:21:16.140 --> 00:21:19.000
  • The success of this relationship
  • 00:21:19.000 --> 00:21:21.290
  • is built on my decision
  • 00:21:21.290 --> 00:21:24.080
  • to do it anyway.
  • 00:21:24.080 --> 00:21:25.170
  • Everybody say it out loud.
  • 00:21:25.170 --> 00:21:26.150
  • Do it anyway.
  • 00:21:26.150 --> 00:21:27.290
  • Sometimes I don't feel
  • 00:21:27.290 --> 00:21:28.260
  • like saying I'm sorry,
  • 00:21:28.260 --> 00:21:29.250
  • when I feel like I only
  • 00:21:29.250 --> 00:21:30.220
  • contributed 25% of the problem
  • 00:21:30.220 --> 00:21:31.280
  • and you were 75.
  • 00:21:31.280 --> 00:21:32.270
  • But I'm going to do it anyway.
  • 00:21:32.270 --> 00:21:34.230
  • sometimes I don't feel like
  • 00:21:34.230 --> 00:21:35.280
  • pointing out the thing
  • 00:21:35.280 --> 00:21:37.000
  • that was right because I've got
  • 00:21:37.000 --> 00:21:38.040
  • a file of 15 things
  • 00:21:38.040 --> 00:21:39.080
  • that I've been wanting
  • 00:21:39.080 --> 00:21:39.290
  • to get around to,
  • 00:21:39.290 --> 00:21:41.030
  • but I see that you're struggling
  • 00:21:41.030 --> 00:21:42.000
  • so I'm going to speak
  • 00:21:42.000 --> 00:21:42.240
  • to something that you did well.
  • 00:21:42.240 --> 00:21:43.260
  • I'm going to --
  • 00:21:43.260 --> 00:21:44.180
  • - Do it anyway.
  • 00:21:44.180 --> 00:21:45.170
  • - Touch somebody, say,
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  • "Do it anyway."
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  • - Do it anyway.
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  • - If you're going to fulfill
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  • your assignment,
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  • if you're going to do this,
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  • if this is a special assignment,
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  • if you're going to have
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  • super powers in marriage --
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  • and I believe that this union
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  • is meant to be something
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  • that we can do more together
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  • than we can apart.
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  • God put us together
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  • for a reason.
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  • I'm better because
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  • you're in my life.
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  • But if we're going to fulfill
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  • God's purpose together,
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  • it's not just going to be
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  • through the times
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  • that we feel it.
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  • We gotta fake it sometimes
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  • until we feel it.
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  • And have faith in God.
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  • Do it anyway.
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  • Do it anyway.
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  • Let's review.
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  • I am called, I am called.
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  • Everybody say, "I am called
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  • to carry your burdens,
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  • to assume the best,
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  • to live with contentment,
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  • to let God be God,
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  • to encourage your strengths,
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  • and to do it anyway."
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  • - Alright, let's interact
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  • for a moment.
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  • Just pretend like
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  • I'm there with you.
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  • Have you ever experienced
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  • a challenging relationship?
  • 00:22:45.240 --> 00:22:47.280
  • Holly, do this, do this.
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  • Okay, be careful how you respond
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  • if you're sitting
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  • in your living room
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  • watching this with your spouse
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  • or someone that you love.
  • 00:22:54.130 --> 00:22:56.120
  • the truth is relationships
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  • are challenging by design.
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  • It's how God grows us,
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  • but it's He's intention for you
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  • to do more than just survive
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  • your relationships.
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  • I believe He wants you
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  • to thrive in them,
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  • and He's Word
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  • gives us the tools
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  • to make that possible.
  • 00:23:10.120 --> 00:23:11.240
  • So, today, I have special
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  • most requested resource
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  • that I want to send to you.
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  • It's called, "Meant to Be."
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  • It will show you
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  • some of the Bible's
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  • best kept secrets
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  • about sex, shh,
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  • marriage, and being single.
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  • - It's so good,
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  • and it's really not
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  • just a relationship series.
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  • This resource truly
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  • has the power
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  • to impact your life.
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  • We've heard storied of marriages
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  • that were restored,
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  • and single people that learned
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  • to embrace the season
  • 00:23:39.040 --> 00:23:40.080
  • that they're in instead
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  • of focusing on the relationships
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  • that they don't have.
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  • I know that this series
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  • is going to help you
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  • like it has so many already.
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  • - And we want to help you,
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  • we're here to help to you.
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  • so, I'm going to send you
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  • this resource "Meant to be"
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  • with your gift of any amount
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  • to the ministry today.
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  • Just go online right now
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  • or call the number
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  • on the screen right now,
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  • Say, "I want it,"
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  • and we'll get it out
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  • to you right away.
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  • Here's some more info as well as
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  • some additional resources
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  • - ANNOUNCER: When it comes
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  • to seeking advice
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  • about relationships, marriage,
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  • and sex, we tend to look
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  • in all the wrong places.
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  • The world claims
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  • to have the answers,
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  • but maybe we've been focusing
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  • on the wrong problem all along.
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  • In our series, "Meant to Be",
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  • Pastor Steven Furtick
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  • has open conversations
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  • to help us uncover
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  • the Bible's best kept secrets
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  • about sex, marriage,
  • 00:24:30.160 --> 00:24:31.200
  • and being single.
  • 00:24:31.200 --> 00:24:33.010
  • - Most of the emphasis,
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  • when you talk about dating,
  • 00:24:34.130 --> 00:24:35.230
  • and marriage, and singleness,
  • 00:24:35.230 --> 00:24:37.040
  • in culture seems to be
  • 00:24:37.040 --> 00:24:38.060
  • on finding the right one.
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  • Most of the emphasis,
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  • when you come to the scripture,
  • 00:24:41.220 --> 00:24:43.010
  • tends to be on being
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  • the right one.
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  • - For your gift of any amount
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  • we'll send you
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  • the five-part
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  • Meant To Be series,
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  • which includes a message
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  • with Pastor Steven
  • 00:24:50.240 --> 00:24:51.190
  • and his wife Holly,
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  • where they share
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  • personal examples
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  • and scriptural insight on how
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  • we can invite God to work
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  • in our everyday
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  • relationship challenges.
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  • Pastor Steven also explains
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  • the unnecessary complications
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  • that sidetrack us
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  • in relationships,
  • 00:25:04.290 --> 00:25:06.070
  • and he shows us
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  • what is truly meant to be
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  • in our lives
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  • when we have Jesus
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  • as our foundation.
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  • - I've been told all my life
  • 00:25:11.210 --> 00:25:12.210
  • to put Jesus first,
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  • but that doesn't work,
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  • because that separates him out
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  • from everything else.
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  • Live as if Jesus
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  • was not first on your list,
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  • but that He was
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  • the center of your world.
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  • - Visit us online
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  • at stevenfurtick.com,
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  • or call us at the number
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  • on your screen
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  • to get your copy
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  • - The Father's arms
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  • are open wide
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  • Forgiveness
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  • was bought with
  • 00:25:40.120 --> 00:25:42.240
  • The precious blood
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  • Oh what a savior
  • 00:25:47.100 --> 00:25:50.100
  • Isn't He wonderful
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  • Sing hallelujah
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  • Christ is risen
  • 00:26:02.190 --> 00:26:05.190
  • Bow down before Him
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  • For He is Lord of all
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  • Sing Hallelujah
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  • Christ is risen
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  • O come to the altar
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  • The Father's arms
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  • are open wide open
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  • Forgiveness
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  • was bought with
  • 00:26:40.050 --> 00:26:42.170
  • The precious blood
  • 00:26:42.170 --> 00:26:44.270
  • of Jesus Christ
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  • O come to the altar
  • 00:26:49.100 --> 00:26:52.100
  • The Father's arms
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  • are open wide
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  • Forgiveness
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  • was bought with
  • 00:26:59.230 --> 00:27:02.050
  • The precious blood
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  • of Jesus Christ
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  • Oh
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  • Great is Your love
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