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March 14, 2017
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    • discussed in this episode do not
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    • discussed in this episode do not
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    • take into account your
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    • specific situation or needs.
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    • If you or a family member
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    • If you or a family member
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    • please seek help from
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    • please seek help from
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    • - Niyah Rahmaan: Welcome to
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    • "Sex, Love & Relationships," the
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    • "Sex, Love & Relationships," the
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    • show where we discover answers
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    • show where we discover answers
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    • on choosing the right life
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    • on choosing the right life
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    • partner, navigating the surging
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    • partner, navigating the surging
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    • seas of social media, and yep,
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    • seas of social media, and yep,
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    • you guessed it, sex.
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    • you guessed it, sex.
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    • I know, I said the word "sex."
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    • I know, I said the word "sex."
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    • My name is Niyah and I'm joined
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    • My name is Niyah and I'm joined
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    • by John and Helen Burns, our
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    • by John and Helen Burns, our
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    • relationship experts all the way
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    • relationship experts all the way
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    • from Canada.
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    • from Canada.
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    • John and Helen are a wealth of
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    • John and Helen are a wealth of
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    • knowledge when it comes to
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    • knowledge when it comes to
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    • relationships.
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    • relationships.
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    • They've had their own radio and
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    • television show for years.
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    • They're authors of award-winning
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    • and best-selling relationship
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    • and best-selling relationship
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    • books, and have been helping
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    • books, and have been helping
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    • singles and couples navigate
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    • singles and couples navigate
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    • through life for over 30 years.
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    • through life for over 30 years.
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    • Today we interview a very
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    • special guest who counsels
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    • special guest who counsels
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    • people in breaking the chains of
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    • addiction, has spoken at
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    • conferences all over the world,
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    • conferences all over the world,
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    • and is a regular television
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    • and is a regular television
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    • guest.
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    • - Aaron Jayne: I think a lot of
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    • - Aaron Jayne: I think a lot of
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    • kids today, we need to speak
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    • kids today, we need to speak
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    • greatness to them.
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    • greatness to them.
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    • We gotta speak to what they can
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    • We gotta speak to what they can
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    • be and what's possible in their
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    • life because when they get a
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    • life because when they get a
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    • vision for what they can be,
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    • they have incredible discipline
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    • - Niyah: Also coming up in this
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    • show we have John and Helen
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    • show we have John and Helen
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    • taking some real-life questions
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    • taking some real-life questions
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    • - John Burns: I am gonna throw
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    • that one to you, babe.
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    • - Niyah: And we head to social
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    • - Niyah: And we head to social
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    • media to see what's
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    • - Helen Burns: Well, he used to
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    • look at me and say, "I know I've
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    • done something wrong.
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    • What have I done?"
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    • And I--
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    • - John: Yeah, "What have I done
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    • this time?"
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    • - Niyah: This show covers all
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    • - Niyah: This show covers all
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    • of the hard-hitting topics we
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    • need godly wisdom on.
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    • You're not gonna wanna miss
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    • You're not gonna wanna miss
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    • - Niyah: So the overarching
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    • topic for today is teens.
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    • topic for today is teens.
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    • John and Helen, I know you have
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    • so much insight because you
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    • so much insight because you
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    • raised three girls who once were
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    • teens.
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    • Talk to us.
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    • Talk to us.
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    • - John: I really think probably
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    • - John: I really think probably
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    • the most difficult job in the
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    • world is raising kids, and maybe
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    • the most difficult era is when
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    • they're teenagers.
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    • So today's a really important
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    • So today's a really important
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    • show.
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    • - Niyah: We are literally
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    • - Niyah: We are literally
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    • fielding questions from all over
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    • fielding questions from all over
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    • the world.
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    • And today we have a question
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    • And today we have a question
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    • from one of our Hillsong LA
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    • from one of our Hillsong LA
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    • delegates.
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    • Pastors John and Helen.
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    • Pastors John and Helen.
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    • So I've been in a relationship
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    • So I've been in a relationship
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    • before, and my question to you
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    • before, and my question to you
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    • is are lies about money just as
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    • harmful as sexual infidelity?
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    • harmful as sexual infidelity?
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    • - Niyah: Ooh, ooh, she hittin'
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    • - Niyah: Ooh, ooh, she hittin'
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    • 'em hard.
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    • Okay, this is a heavy one.
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    • Okay, this is a heavy one.
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    • I'm gonna leave this one right--
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    • I'm gonna leave this one right--
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    • - Niyah: Such wisdom, wow, I
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    • Well, after the break, we enter
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    • Yeah, that's right, I said it,
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    • Yeah, that's right, I said it,
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    • "Sex, Love & Relationships," and
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    • "Sex, Love & Relationships," and
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    • how it affects us.
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    • how it affects us.
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    • Let's see our first comment.
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    • Let's see our first comment.
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    • "Waiting for him to apologize,"
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    • "Waiting for him to apologize,"
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    • oh, dear, here we go.
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    • oh, dear, here we go.
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    • "Waiting for him to apologize
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    • "Waiting for him to apologize
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    • when he didn't know he did
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    • when he didn't know he did
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    • something wrong because you
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    • something wrong because you
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    • didn't tell him."
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    • didn't tell him."
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    • I've been there tons of times.
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    • I've been there tons of times.
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    • But he should know, that's the
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    • But he should know, that's the
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    • problem, okay?
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    • problem, okay?
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    • You should know if I'm upset,
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    • You should know if I'm upset,
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    • you know you need to apologize.
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    • you know you need to apologize.
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    • You could just see it on my
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    • You could just see it on my
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    • face, right?
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    • face, right?
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    • You should be able to see it on
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    • You should be able to see it on
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    • any woman's face, John.
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    • any woman's face, John.
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    • What's goin' on?
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    • What's goin' on?
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    • - John: You know, for years,
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    • - John: You know, for years,
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    • the first years of our marriage,
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    • the first years of our marriage,
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    • I could see it on your face, and
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    • I could see it on your face, and
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    • all it did was cause me to turn
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    • all it did was cause me to turn
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    • around and go the other way.
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    • around and go the other way.
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    • - Helen: Well, he used to look
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    • - Helen: Well, he used to look
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    • at me and say, "I know I've done
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    • at me and say, "I know I've done
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    • something wrong.
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    • something wrong.
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    • What have I done?"
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    • What have I done?"
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    • And I--
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    • - John: Yeah, "What have I done
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    • - John: Yeah, "What have I done
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    • this time?"
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    • this time?"
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    • - Helen: And you'd say, I'd
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    • - Helen: And you'd say, I'd
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    • say, "Nothing, nothing, it's
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    • nothing.
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    • nothing.
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    • I just think you should know."
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    • I just think you should know."
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    • And then he's like, "No, I know
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    • And then he's like, "No, I know
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    • I've done something wrong."
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    • I've done something wrong."
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    • And I'm like,
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    • "Well, how do you know?"
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    • "Well, how do you know?"
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    • And he said,
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    • "Your eyebrows are bright red."
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    • "Your eyebrows are bright red."
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    • I have a telltale sign
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    • I have a telltale sign
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    • if I'm mad.
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    • if I'm mad.
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    • So if you ever see me with
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    • bright red eyebrows, it's a
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    • telltale sign.
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    • But he is--I thought,
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    • But he is--I thought,
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    • "You should know I'm upset."
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    • Like, "How can you not know
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    • that what you did offended me
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    • that what you did offended me
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    • or hurt me?"
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    • or hurt me?"
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    • And he's thinking, "Man, you
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    • And he's thinking, "Man, you
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    • better tell me what I did 'cause
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    • I honestly don't know."
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    • And I believed you.
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    • Like, I think that that was
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    • valid.
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    • I think that now years later we
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    • I think that now years later we
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    • know each other that much
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    • better.
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    • But early in our marriage, there
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    • But early in our marriage, there
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    • was so many times that I would
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    • think, you know, cry myself to
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    • sleep and think, "How did he not
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    • know?"
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    • And he's like, "You've gotta
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    • - John: Yeah, and so it comes
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    • - John: Yeah, and so it comes
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    • back to this same old thing you
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    • back to this same old thing you
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    • hear over and over again,
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    • hear over and over again,
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    • communication.
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    • And it's not easy, but it's so
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    • absolutely vital that we learned
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    • absolutely vital that we learned
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    • how to have communication.
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    • When you're hurt, okay, don't
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    • stay there.
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    • You need to actually communicate
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    • disappointment doesn't go deeper
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    • disappointment doesn't go deeper
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    • what happens when you don't deal
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    • with it is it just goes down
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    • roots and it gets so strong
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    • roots and it gets so strong
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    • inside of you and it's called
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    • "bitterness."
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    • And one day, it just springs up
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    • And one day, it just springs up
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    • and you don't even know what
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    • and you don't even know what
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    • happened or why, but, "Where'd
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    • that come from?"
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    • that come from?"
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    • It started one day--
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    • It started one day--
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    • - Niyah: But now, how do you
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    • - Niyah: But now, how do you
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    • So you always need to be on the,
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    • - Helen: But not all of them
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    • - Niyah: Wow, I love this, some
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    • wise, wise words.
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    • wise, wise words.
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    • - Aaron: When you're
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    • - Niyah: Now, earlier
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    • - Niyah: Now, earlier
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    • this week, John spoke with
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    • great insight on this topic.
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    • great insight on this topic.
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    • thank you for joining us.
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    • thank you for joining us.
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    • They're not lookin' for that,
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    • - Aaron: No, no, they're hungry
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    • They want to be challenged.
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    • them and feel like--I tell youth
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    • you're gonna be more effective
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    • you're gonna be more effective
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    • with teenagers, you've lost."
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    • They need you to love them.
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    • Jesus couldn't relate to
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    • Yet, sinners loved him because
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    • he knew how to love them.
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    • enough to give me some
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    • things, like drugs, alcohol, and
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    • bad choices.
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    • - John: So, yeah, so important,
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    • I love this.
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    • We'll be back and talk more
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    • We'll be back and talk more
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    • - Niyah: Man, such great
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    • - Niyah: Man, such great
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    • insight.
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    • Now, after the break we welcome
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    • Now, after the break we welcome
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    • Aaron to the studio to continue
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    • Aaron to the studio to continue
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    • this interesting discussion.
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    • this interesting discussion.
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    • [music]
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    • - Niyah: Now, welcome back to
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    • - Niyah: Now, welcome back to
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    • "Sex, Love & Relationships."
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    • "Sex, Love & Relationships."
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    • Now, we just saw John discuss
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    • Now, we just saw John discuss
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    • who shared his story with us.
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    • And now he joins us here in the
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    • And now he joins us here in the
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    • studio.
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    • Welcome, Aaron.
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    • Welcome, Aaron.
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    • - Aaron: Thank you so much.
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    • - Aaron: Thank you so much.
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    • It's so good to be with you
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    • guys.
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    • - Niyah: I'm excited.
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    • - Niyah: I'm excited.
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    • Now, we're talkin' about teens
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    • Now, we're talkin' about teens
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    • today.
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    • today.
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    • Talk to me.
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    • It feels so long ago when I was
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    • a teenager, but I can imagine
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    • parents, you know, who are
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    • What's the biggest thing you
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    • would tell them?
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    • What's some advice you would
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    • What's some advice you would
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    • give them for the--?
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    • give them for the--?
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    • - Aaron: I'd say, you know,
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    • - Aaron: I'd say, you know,
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    • a lot of parents have discipline
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    • - John: So how important is the
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    • - Aaron: Marriage is critical.
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    • America now is too many married
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    • I didn't get to choose you.
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    • I chose her and I love her."
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    • He puffs his chest up.
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    • mom and dad are first.
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    • - Niyah: You are awesome.
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    • - Niyah: You are awesome.
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    • You are awesome.
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    • You are awesome.
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    • Thank you so, so much, Aaron,
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    • Thank you so, so much, Aaron,
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    • for sharing.
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    • for sharing.
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    • I learnt a lot today.
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    • I learnt a lot today.
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    • I'm lovin' this.
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    • I'm lovin' this.
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    • Coming up after the break:
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    • Coming up after the break:
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    • - Helen: It shouldn't be that
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    • - Helen: It shouldn't be that
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    • hard though.
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    • - John: But it was that hard.
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    • - John: But it was that hard.
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    • And I think I'm actually quite
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    • - Niyah: Welcome back to the
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    • - Niyah: Welcome back to the
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    • show, and welcome to our studio
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    • show, and welcome to our studio
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    • John and Helen, you ready?
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    • they also say, "I love you,"
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    • one to you, babe.
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    • - all: [laughing]
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    • that would have gone so well.
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    • But I think that he's a very
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    • I think God's got a real sense
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    • I think God's got a real sense
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    • But I think that if you just
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    • "Well, he's all of my emotions
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    • How do you get a guy to actually
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    • tell how I did it for you.
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    • Lord help me, that was hard
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    • Lord help me, that was hard
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    • - John: I would be the typical
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    • - John: I would be the typical
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    • You just do it.
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    • totally out of touch with my
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    • And yet, most women wanna know,
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    • "What are you feeling?"
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    • "What are you feeling?"
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    • - Helen: What are you thinking?
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    • - Helen: What are you thinking?
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    • Exactly.
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    • I'm lookin' for the door
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    • But what she helped me with, and
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    • I think this is so important, is
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    • find out what is important to
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    • And I think I'm actually quite
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    • - Helen: I think it's just--if
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    • very different usually to women
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    • feelings, but--
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    • - Helen: Yeah.
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    • - Niyah: Ooh.
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    • - Helen: Yeah, yeah.
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    • huh?
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    • - Helen: No, it wasn't
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    • No, he didn't say it on the
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    • You need to act like a
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    • Christian."
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    • - John: Okay, next question.
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    • - John: Okay, next question.
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    • - all: [laughing]
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    • - Niyah: We gettin' the real
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    • stuff now, I love it.
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    • stuff now, I love it.
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    • Our next question--
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    • - Helen: We've come a long way.
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    • - Helen: We've come a long way.
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    • - female: Okay, so I was havin'
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    • - female: Okay, so I was havin'
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    • generation of silent men, men
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    • responsibility.
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    • How do we deal with that?
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    • How do we deal with that?
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    • - Helen: Speaking of silent
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    • - Helen: Speaking of silent
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    • - John: Silence is not golden.
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    • - John: Silence is not golden.
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    • - Helen: No.
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    • - John: Silence isn't even
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    • - John: Silence isn't even
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    • silent.
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    • Guys, you need to recognize
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    • Guys, you need to recognize
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    • silence screams.
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    • silence screams.
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    • It says a lot.
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    • which both of us are to blame,
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    • And the guys sometimes think, "I
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    • naming the kids, you know?"
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    • develop a culture where we can
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    • just hang out, where having
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    • coffee is normal.
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    • I think that's the bottom line
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    • behind how guys are silent and
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    • anything.
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    • It's because it's both sides.
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    • There is a challenge out there.
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    • There is a challenge out there.
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    • - Helen: Yeah, and if I could
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    • speak to a lot of the men today,
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    • I think that there's so many
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    • they've often asked us when
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    • that there is this challenge.
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    • that there is this challenge.
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    • They're fantastic men.
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    • Our church is full of them.
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    • encourage the men to step up,
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    • encourage the men to step up,
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    • not because you, you know to
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    • shame you that you haven't been,
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    • shame you that you haven't been,
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    • but to let you know we really
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    • like you and you're awesome, so
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    • come along.
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    • Let's give this a go and see how
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    • we do.
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    • - Niyah: I love all this
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    • - Niyah: I love all this
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    • advice.
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    • You're gettin' me so excited.
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    • Now, right after the break, John
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    • and Helen outline their final
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    • and Helen outline their final
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    • messages on the topic of teens.
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    • messages on the topic of teens.
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    • - Niyah: Welcome back to the
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    • - Niyah: Welcome back to the
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    • show where we cover everything
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    • show where we cover everything
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    • surrounding sex, love,
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    • and relationships.
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    • Now, we've talked a lot about
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    • Now, we've talked a lot about
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    • love and relationships, but not
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    • too much about sex.
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    • So, but before we do that, we
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    • would reveal their own insight
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    • on sex, love, and relationships
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    • for John and Helen.
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    • for John and Helen.
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    • - male: What are your first
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    • - male: What are your first
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    • words in the morning?
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    • words in the morning?
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    • - female: Good morning, self.
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    • - female: Good morning, self.
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    • - male: Why do you think good
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    • people cheat?
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    • people cheat?
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    • - female: I don't know.
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    • - female: I don't know.
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    • - male: What do you do if you
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    • like someone?
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    • - female: I get really shy and
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    • - female: I get really shy and
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    • over-the-top nervous.
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    • - male: Do you think sexting's
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    • okay?
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    • - female: No.
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    • - female: No.
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    • - male: What's a symbol of
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    • - male: What's a symbol of
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    • being in love?
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    • - female: Listening.
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    • - female: Listening.
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    • - male: Do you think opposites
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    • can attract?
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    • can attract?
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    • - female: Yes.
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    • - female: Yes.
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    • - male: Should you text someone
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    • - male: Should you text someone
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    • right back?
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    • right back?
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    • - female: Yes.
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    • - female: Yes.
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    • - male: Do you think flirting
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    • - male: Do you think flirting
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    • is cheating?
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    • is cheating?
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    • - female: In the sense if
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    • you're single, no.
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    • you're single, no.
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    • Married, yes.
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    • Married, yes.
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    • - male: If you could ask a man
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    • - male: If you could ask a man
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    • one question, what would it be?
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    • one question, what would it be?
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    • - female: How is your walk
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    • - female: How is your walk
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    • with Jesus?
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    • with Jesus?
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    • - male: Is being friends
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    • - male: Is being friends
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    • with your ex okay?
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    • with your ex okay?
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    • - Niyah: Oh, that's some good
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    • - Niyah: Oh, that's some good
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    • ones there.
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    • ones there.
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    • - John: Yeah, a couple of
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    • - John: Yeah, a couple of
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    • interesting things.
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    • interesting things.
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    • What she does if she likes
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    • What she does if she likes
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    • someone, she gets shy and
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    • someone, she gets shy and
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    • nervous.
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    • nervous.
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    • - Niyah: She gets shy
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    • - Niyah: She gets shy
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    • 00:44:27.120 --> 00:44:27.270
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    • and nervous.
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    • and nervous.
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    • That's me, I think that's me.
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    • That's me, I think that's me.
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    • Well, other people get really
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    • kinda like giddy or this, if I
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    • kinda like giddy or this, if I
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    • like someone, I literally do the
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    • like someone, I literally do the
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    • opposite of giddy or just, you
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    • opposite of giddy or just, you
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    • 00:44:34.150 --> 00:44:36.290
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    • know, smile.
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    • know, smile.
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    • 00:44:36.290 --> 00:44:38.060
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    • I hide.
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    • I hide.
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    • 00:44:38.060 --> 00:44:39.060
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    • I run, literally run and hide.
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    • I run, literally run and hide.
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    • And it's just like, "God, Niyah,
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    • And it's just like, "God, Niyah,
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    • what are you doing?"
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    • what are you doing?"
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    • You know?
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    • You know?
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    • 00:44:43.090 --> 00:44:44.070
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    • So--
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    • So--
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    • - Helen: You're waiting for him
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    • - Helen: You're waiting for him
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    • to chase you.
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    • to chase you.
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    • - Niyah: Yes, that's it.
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    • - Niyah: Yes, that's it.
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    • It's funny.
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    • It's funny.
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    • - John: So how did--you know,
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    • - John: So how did--you know,
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    • you have a boyfriend.
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    • you have a boyfriend.
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    • How did he actually get past
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    • How did he actually get past
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    • that?
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    • that?
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    • Did he chase you?
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    • Did he chase you?
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    • - Niyah: Well, you know, ours
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    • - Niyah: Well, you know, ours
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    • came through a friendship so it
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    • came through a friendship so it
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    • was kind of a different way, you
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    • was kind of a different way, you
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    • 00:44:55.160 --> 00:44:57.020
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    • know what I'm saying?
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    • know what I'm saying?
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    • So we developed our relationship
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    • So we developed our relationship
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    • through becoming best friends.
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    • through becoming best friends.
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    • But you know, in other
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    • situations, I know in my past,
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    • situations, I know in my past,
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    • if I liked someone, I would go
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    • into hiding and then be like,
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    • into hiding and then be like,
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    • "Okay, you gotta come find me
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    • "Okay, you gotta come find me
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    • because I don't have enough
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    • nerve to kinda say, you know,
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    • pick up my eyes and even say,
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    • "Hello."
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    • "Hello."
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    • So it was kinda weird.
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    • So it was kinda weird.
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    • - Helen: Wow.
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    • - Helen: Wow.
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    • - Niyah: But I like those that
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    • - Niyah: But I like those that
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    • come from friendships because
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    • it's like you become such best
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    • it's like you become such best
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    • friends and then you enter into
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    • that place and then all of a
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    • sudden, you look at them like,
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    • sudden, you look at them like,
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    • "Hmm, I think I like you a
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    • "Hmm, I think I like you a
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    • little bit more than a friend,
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    • so."
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    • so."
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    • - Helen: That's, I think, the
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    • - Helen: That's, I think, the
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    • absolutely best way.
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    • absolutely best way.
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    • - Niyah: Yeah, and I didn't
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    • - Niyah: Yeah, and I didn't
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    • have to go into hiding then
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    • have to go into hiding then
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    • because you're so comfortable,
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    • because you're so comfortable,
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    • you know?
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    • you know?
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    • So it was kinda cool.
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    • So it was kinda cool.
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    • But--
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    • - Helen: How about, "Love looks
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    • - Helen: How about, "Love looks
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    • like listening"?
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    • like listening"?
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    • - John: I like that.
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    • - John: I like that.
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    • And now we walk into the future.
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    • I love you just the way you are.
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    • I love you just the way you are.
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    • And we're not getting married
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    • today, or we're not building our
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    • today, or we're not building our
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    • future based on my track record
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    • future based on my track record
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    • or your track record, but on
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    • or your track record, but on
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    • Jesus' track record.
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    • Jesus' track record.
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    • And he is enough to cover the
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    • past.
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    • And so knowing that's there but
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    • it's covered, now let's walk
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    • it's covered, now let's walk
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    • forward into the future."
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    • forward into the future."
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    • - John: Okay, so how do you
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    • - John: Okay, so how do you
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    • walk forward?
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    • walk forward?
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    • That was the question?
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    • That was the question?
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    • - Helen: I think you walk
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    • - Helen: I think you walk
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    • forward with a sense of
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    • forward with a sense of
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    • commitment to each other.
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    • commitment to each other.
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    • Without a sense of fear, without
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    • Without a sense of fear, without
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    • a sense of shame, without a
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    • a sense of shame, without a
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    • sense of guilt, and saying,
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    • sense of guilt, and saying,
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    • "Together, we're walking
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    • "Together, we're walking
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    • forward.
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    • forward.
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    • If you feel like you stumble,
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