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August 30, 2019
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Robert Jeffress: Pathway to Victory

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  • HI, I'M ROBERT JEFFRESS AND WELCOME AGAIN
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  • TO PATHWAY TO VICTORY.
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  • IN TODAY'S CULTURE, PEOPLE FEEL ENTITLED
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  • TO EXPRESS THEIR RAGE.
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  • THEY FIRE OFF AN ANGRY EMAIL.
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  • THEY POST VENOMOUS COMMENTS ON TWITTER OR FACEBOOK.
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  • THEY EVEN PARTICIPATE IN VIOLENT PROTESTS.
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  • IF YOU KNOW SOMEONE WHO'S GOT A SHORT FUSE,
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  • YOU KNOW WHAT IT'S LIKE TO WALK IN FEAR
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  • WAITING FOR THE BOMB TO GO OFF.
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  • SO TODAY, WE'RE GOING TO STUDY SOLOMON'S WISDOM
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  • FOR CONTROLLING TEMPERS IN MY MESSAGE TITLED
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  • "KEEP YOUR COOL WHEN THINGS GET HOT"
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  • ON TODAY'S EDITION OF PATHWAY TO VICTORY!
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  • MUSIC
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  • EVERYBODY WANTS TO LIVE "THE GOOD LIFE".
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  • BUT WE'RE OFTEN FRUSTRATED BY OUR INABILITY TO EXPERIENCE IT.
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  • WHAT'S THE SECRET TO GENUINE SUCCESS?
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  • THOUSANDS OF YEARS AGO, THE WISEST, WEALTHIEST,
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  • AND MOST POWERFUL MAN OF HIS DAY WROTE A BOOK
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  • ABOUT HOW TO EXPERIENCE THE SUCCESS AND SATISFACTION
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  • WE LONG FOR.
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  • AND IN THE SOLOMON SECRETS, DR. ROBERT JEFFRESS SHARES
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  • SOLOMON'S TIMELESS WISDOM FOR SUCCESS
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  • IN TEN KEY AREAS OF LIFE.
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  • REQUEST THE SOLOMON SECRETS
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  • WHEN YOU GIVE A GENEROUS GIFT
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  • TO PATHWAY TO VICTORY!
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  • MUSIC
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  • MUSIC
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  • IS IT JUST ME OR DO YOU FIND THAT PEOPLE
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  • SEEM TO BE GETTING ANGRIER EVERY DAY?
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  • I MEAN, OPEN UP A NEWSPAPER AND YOU'RE
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  • LIKELY TO READ A STORY ABOUT AN EMPLOYEE WHO'S
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  • BEEN TERMINATED, WHO RETURNS BACK TO HIS
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  • WORKPLACE AND OPENS FIRE ON HIS FELLOW EMPLOYEES.
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  • OR A STORY ABOUT A DRIVER WHO GETS CUT OFF
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  • BY ANOTHER MOTORIST AND CATCHES UP WITH HIM AND
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  • PULLS HIM OUT OF THE CAR AND BEATS HIM SENSELESS.
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  • OR A STORY ABOUT A MOTHER TIRED OF THE INCESSANT
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  • CRYING OF HER INFANT DAUGHTER WHO DROWNS HER.
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  • NOT LONG AGO I READ IN THE NEWSPAPER A STORY,
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  • TRUE STORY ABOUT A GUY WHO WAS ORDERED BY A JUDGE TO
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  • ATTEND AN ANGER MANAGEMENT WORKSHOP
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  • FOR ASSAULTING HIS GIRLFRIEND.
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  • HE ARRIVED AT THE WORKSHOP DRUNK AND THAT SO
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  • INFURIATED THE LEADER OF THE ANGER MANAGEMENT
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  • WORKSHOP THAT THE LEADER BEGAN TO PUNCH HIM
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  • AND BEAT HIM SENSELESS,
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  • HE ENDED UP DYING AS A RESULT OF IT.
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  • LET'S BE HONEST, ANGER IS DIFFICULT TO CONTROL EVEN
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  • FOR THE SO-CALLED MANAGEMENT EXPERTS.
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  • AND YET THE BIBLE SAYS THAT CONTROLLING OUR ANGER
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  • IS JUST AS IMPORTANT TO SUCCESS IN LIFE AS
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  • CONTAINING OUR LUST OR CONTROLLING OUR SPEECH.
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  • IN FACT WE SEE THAT OVER AND OVER AGAIN IN THE BOOK
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  • OF PROVERBS, THE PREMIUM THAT SOLOMON PLACES
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  • ON CONTROLLING OUR ANGER.
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  • LISTEN TO PROVERBS 14:29, "HE WHO IS SLOW TO ANGER
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  • HAS GREAT UNDERSTANDING,
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  • BUT HE WHO IS QUICK-TEMPERED EXALTS FOLLY."
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  • OR PROVERBS 15:1, "A GENTLE ANSWER TURNS AWAY
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  • WRATH, BUT A HARSH WORD STIRS UP ANGER."
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  • PROVERBS 16:32, "HE WHO IS SLOW TO ANGER IS BETTER
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  • THAN THE MIGHTY, AND HE WHO RULES HIS SPIRIT,
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  • IS BETTER THAN HE WHO CAPTURES A CITY."
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  • DID YOU CATCH THAT LAST SENTENCE?
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  • A WISE PERSON, SOLOMON SAYS,
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  • WHO REALLY WANTS TO BE INTENT ON SUCCESS IN LIFE
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  • LEARNS HOW TO TURN AWAY FROM HIS ANGER.
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  • AND YET TURNING AWAY FROM ANGER
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  • IS NOT THE NORM TODAY.
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  • IN FACT IT GOES AGAINST CONVENTIONAL WISDOM.
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  • ALL THESE PEOPLE ARE OUT THERE DUMPING THEIR ANGER
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  • ON ONE ANOTHER.
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  • BUT REMEMBER IN THE BOOK OF PROVERBS SOLOMON GIVES
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  • US TEN PIECES OF UNCOMMON SENSE.
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  • THE WORLD SAYS EXPRESS YOUR ANGER.
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  • NOT SOLOMON.
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  • HE SAYS IF YOU WANT TO BE SUCCESSFUL IN LIFE,
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  • CONTROL YOUR ANGER.
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  • OR AS I'M SAYING THIS MORNING: KEEP YOUR COOL
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  • WHEN THINGS GET HOT.
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  • NOW HOW DO YOU DO THAT?
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  • HOW DO YOU CONTROL THE ANGER THAT WE ALL FEEL
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  • FROM TIME TO TIME?
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  • WELL FIRST OF ALL, IT'S IMPORTANT TO DEFINE
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  • WHAT ANGER IS.
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  • WHAT ARE WE TALKING ABOUT
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  • WHEN WE'RE TALKING ABOUT ANGER?
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  • SOME OF YOU MAY SAY: WHY, I DON'T NEED
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  • A DEFINITION OF ANGER.
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  • YOU MAY BE KIND OF LIKE A JUSTICE POTTER STEWART,
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  • THE SUPREME COURT JUSTICE, WHO WAS ONCE ASKED:
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  • HOW DO YOU DEFINE PORNOGRAPHY?
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  • AND JUSTICE STEWART SAID, "I DON'T KNOW HOW
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  • TO DEFINE IT, BUT I KNOW IT WHEN I SEE IT."
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  • YOU MAY FEEL THAT WAY ABOUT ANGER.
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  • I DON'T KNOW HOW TO DEFINE IT,
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  • BUT I SURE KNOW IT WHEN I FEEL IT.
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  • PERHAPS YOU'RE DRIVING DOWN THE TOLL-WAY MINDING
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  • YOUR OWN BUSINESS, THINKING ABOUT YOUR
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  • PASTOR, AND CHURCH AND EVERYTHING,
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  • AND AS YOU'RE DRIVING SUDDENLY YOU SEE SOMEBODY
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  • IN YOUR REARVIEW MIRROR COME UP RIGHT BEHIND YOU,
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  • PULL OUT AROUND YOU, CUT IN FRONT OF YOU;
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  • AND YOU THINK: THIS IDIOT'S GOING
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  • TO CAUSE AN ACCIDENT.
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  • YOUR ADRENALINE BEGINS TO PUMP,
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  • AND YOUR HEART BEGINS TO POUND,
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  • AND YOU PUT YOUR FOOT ON THE ACCELERATOR,
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  • AND YOU SPEED UP IN ORDER TO GIVE THAT GUY THE HOLY
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  • SALUTE IF YOU KNOW WHAT I MEAN.
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  • AND WHAT YOU'RE FEELING THERE -
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  • THAT'S ANGER.
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  • THAT'S WHAT ANGER IS.
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  • OR WIVES MAYBE YOU CAN IDENTIFY WITH THIS:
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  • YOU DECIDE THAT YOUR FRIENDS INVITE YOU
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  • TO GO OUT FOR A JOINT BIRTHDAY CELEBRATION
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  • WITH SEVERAL OTHER FRIENDS.
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  • AND AT FIRST YOU'RE RELUCTANT TO DO SO.
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  • IT'S A SCHOOL NIGHT, YOUR KIDS NEED TO BE FED,
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  • THEY NEED TO DO THEIR HOMEWORK.
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  • YOU REALLY DON'T THINK YOU CAN DO IT,
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  • BUT YOUR HUSBAND SAYS: HONEY GO ON OUT FOR COUPLE
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  • OF HOURS, I'LL TAKE CARE OF EVERYTHING.
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  • COUPLE OF HOURS LATER YOU RETURN HOME,
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  • THE KIDS ARE RUNNING WILD, THE KITCHEN LOOKS LIKE A
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  • NUCLEAR EXPLOSION HAS BEEN DETONATED IN IT;
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  • YOU WALK INTO THE DEN, THE TELEVISION IS BLARING WITH
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  • A FOOTBALL GAME, AND YOUR HUSBAND IS
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  • SPRAWLED OUT ON THE COUCH ASLEEP.
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  • HE AWAKENS AND HE SEES YOU AND HE SAYS:
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  • HOME SO EARLY DEAR?
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  • THAT EMOTION YOU'RE FEELING INSIDE -
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  • IT'S CALLED ANGER.
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  • WE ALL FEEL IT FROM TIME TO TIME.
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  • LET ME GIVE YOU THIS DEFINITION OF ANGER
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  • THAT MAY HELP YOU.
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  • IT'S GOING TO BE THE GUIDE FOR OUR STUDY TODAY.
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  • ANGER IS A NATURAL, PHYSICAL AND EMOTIONAL
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  • RESPONSE TO PERCEIVED INJUSTICE.
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  • LET ME SAY IT AGAIN: ANGER IS A NATURAL PHYSICAL AND
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  • EMOTIONAL RESPONSE TO PERCEIVED INJUSTICE.
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  • NOW THERE ARE THREE INGREDIENTS TO THIS
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  • DEFINITION IMPORTANT TO UNDERSTAND.
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  • FIRST OF ALL, ANGER IS A NATURAL RESPONSE.
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  • STAY WITH ME ON THIS.
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  • IN GENESIS 1:27 WE FIND THESE WORDS,
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  • "GOD CREATED MAN IN HIS OWN IMAGE,
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  • IN THE IMAGE OF GOD HE CREATED HIM;
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  • MALE AND FEMALE HE CREATED THEM."
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  • MAN WAS ORIGINALLY CREATED IN GOD'S IMAGE,
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  • AND EVEN THOUGH THE SIN OF ADAM AND EVE MARRED THAT
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  • IMAGE, AND EVEN BLURRED THAT IMAGE,
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  • SIN DID NOT ERADICATE GOD'S IMAGE FROM MAN.
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  • EVERY HUMAN BEING WHO WALKS THE FACE OF THE
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  • PLANET TODAY, WHETHER THEY ARE CHRISTIAN OR NOT IS
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  • MADE IN THE IMAGE OF GOD.
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  • AND EVERY PERSON, CHRISTIAN OR NOT,
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  • BEARS SOME REMNANT OF GOD'S IMAGE IN HIM OR HER.
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  • WHAT I'M SAYING TO YOU IS THE REASON YOU AND I GET
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  • ANGRY IS BECAUSE WE'RE MADE IN THE IMAGE
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  • OF A GOD WHO GETS ANGRY.
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  • THAT'S WHY I SAY IT IS A NATURAL RESPONSE.
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  • GOD HAS CERTAIN ATTRIBUTES,
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  • AND ANYTHING THAT IS IN OPPOSITION OF THOSE
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  • ATTRIBUTES MAKES GOD ANGRY.
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  • FOR EXAMPLE, GOD IS A GOD OF JUSTICE.
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  • HE IS ANGRY ABOUT INJUSTICE.
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  • GOD IS A GOD OF LOVE.
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  • THAT MEANS HE HATES ANYTHING THAT IS UNLOVING.
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  • GOD IS A GOD OF HOLINESS.
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  • IT MEANS HE HATES ANYTHING THAT IS UNHOLY OR SINFUL.
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  • THE REASON YOU AND I GET ANGRY IS BECAUSE WE'RE
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  • MADE IN THE IMAGE OF GOD.
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  • SECONDLY, ANGER'S A MATTER OF PERCEPTION.
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  • REMEMBER I SAID IT'S A NATURAL AND EMOTIONAL
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  • RESPONSE TO PERCEIVED INJUSTICE.
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  • SOMETIMES WE JUMP TO CONCLUSIONS.
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  • WE ASSUME THAT SOMETHING IS WRONG AND WE GET ANGRY.
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  • FOR EXAMPLE, GO BACK TO MY EXAMPLE: LET'S SAY YOU
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  • SPEED UP AND YOU CATCH THAT MOTORIST WHO ALMOST
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  • CAUSED THE ACCIDENT ON THE TOLL-WAY.
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  • YOU PULL HIM OFF TO THE SIDE OF THE ROAD;
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  • YOU DISCOVER HE HAS A CHILD IN THE BACKSEAT THAT
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  • HE'S TRYING TO RUSH TO THE HOSPITAL FOR AN EMERGENCY.
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  • THAT WOULD CHANGE YOUR PERSPECTIVE,
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  • WOULDN'T IT?
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  • OR LADIES, LET'S JUST IMAGINE YOU GET HOME,
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  • YOUR HUSBAND'S SPRAWLED OUT ON THE COUCH AND YOU
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  • FIND OUT HE'S SICK, HE SAID HE HAD A COLD
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  • AND HE TOOK SOME COLD MEDICINE,
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  • AND THAT'S WHAT MADE HIM PASS OUT.
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  • THAT'D CHANGE YOUR PERSPECTIVE,
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  • WOULDN'T IT?
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  • NO, PROBABLY NOT, BUT ANYWAY JUST PLAY LIKE IT
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  • WOULD - COME ON, PLAY ALONG WITH ME HERE
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  • FOR JUST A MOMENT.
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  • I MEAN, THE REASON WE GET ANGRY A LOT OF TIMES IS
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  • BECAUSE WE HAVE INCOMPLETE INFORMATION.
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  • THIRDLY, ANGER RESULTS IN A RESPONSE.
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  • REMEMBER I SAID: ANGER IS A NATURAL,
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  • PHYSICAL AND EMOTIONAL RESPONSE.
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  • MARK IT DOWN, REMEMBER THIS,
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  • ANGER WILL ALWAYS EXPRESS ITSELF.
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  • WE CAN'T STOP THAT.
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  • IN EPHESIANS 4:26-27 PAUL SAYS,
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  • "BE ANGRY, AND YET DO NOT SIN;
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  • DO NOT LET THE SUN GO DOWN ON YOUR ANGER,
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  • AND DO NOT GIVE THE DEVIL AN OPPORTUNITY."
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  • DID YOU KNOW NOWHERE ELSE IN THE BIBLE DOES IT SAY:
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  • BE GREEDY, BUT DON'T SIN?
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  • OR: BE LUSTFUL, BUT DON'T SIN.
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  • IT DOESN'T SAY THAT.
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  • BUT HERE IT SAYS YOU CAN GO AHEAD AND BE ANGRY.
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  • WHY HE SAYS THAT IS THAT'S A NATURAL RESPONSE.
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  • YOU'RE NOT GOING TO STOP FEELING ANGRY;
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  • THE QUESTION IS HOW DO YOU EXPRESS THAT ANGER.
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  • IN COLOSSIANS 3:8, PAUL SAYS,
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  • "BUT NOW YOU ALSO, PUT THEM ALL ASIDE: ANGER,
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  • WRATH, MALICE, SLANDER, ABUSIVE SPEECH
  • 00:10:08.100 --> 00:10:12.030
  • FROM YOUR MOUTH."
  • 00:10:12.040 --> 00:10:13.140
  • NOTICE HE DIDN'T SAY: QUIT FEELING ANGER.
  • 00:10:13.150 --> 00:10:16.050
  • HE SAID: INSTEAD KNOW HOW TO PUT IT ASIDE.
  • 00:10:16.060 --> 00:10:19.050
  • NOW THIS WORD "ANGER" IS A GENERAL TERM.
  • 00:10:19.060 --> 00:10:21.260
  • BUT THESE NEXT TWO PHRASES,
  • 00:10:21.270 --> 00:10:23.120
  • LOOK AT COLOSSIANS 3:8, WRATH AND MALICE REFER TO
  • 00:10:23.130 --> 00:10:28.030
  • TWO DIFFERENT RESPONSES TO ANGER.
  • 00:10:28.040 --> 00:10:31.090
  • WRATH, WRITE THIS DOWN, WRATH IS ANGER EXPRESSED.
  • 00:10:31.100 --> 00:10:36.270
  • WRATH IS ANGER EXPRESSED.
  • 00:10:36.280 --> 00:10:39.290
  • THAT WORD "WRATH" IN THE NEW TESTAMENT IS THE GREEK
  • 00:10:40.000 --> 00:10:42.070
  • WORD "THYMON", AND LITERALLY IT MEANS RAGE.
  • 00:10:42.080 --> 00:10:47.160
  • THAT'S WHAT WRATH IS, IT IS AN OUTWARD VOLCANIC
  • 00:10:47.170 --> 00:10:51.020
  • EXPLOSION OF ANGER.
  • 00:10:51.030 --> 00:10:53.140
  • WE TALK ABOUT SOMETIMES PEOPLE
  • 00:10:53.150 --> 00:10:55.120
  • WHO GO INTO A BLIND RAGE.
  • 00:10:55.130 --> 00:10:59.210
  • PEOPLE WILL GO TEMPORARILY INSANE;
  • 00:10:59.220 --> 00:11:01.260
  • IT'S SAID, IN TIME OF BLIND RAGE.
  • 00:11:01.270 --> 00:11:03.210
  • THAT IS, THEY ARE SO OVERCOME BY THEIR ANGER
  • 00:11:03.220 --> 00:11:06.020
  • THEY LOSE CONTROL OF THEIR SPEECH AND ACTIONS.
  • 00:11:06.030 --> 00:11:09.110
  • AND MANY TIMES WHEN WE GIVE FULL VENT TO OUR
  • 00:11:09.120 --> 00:11:11.220
  • RAGE, WE SAY WORDS THAT CAN NEVER BE RETRIEVED;
  • 00:11:11.230 --> 00:11:15.100
  • WE MAKE DECISIONS THAT ARE ABSOLUTELY IRREVERSIBLE;
  • 00:11:15.110 --> 00:11:18.250
  • AND THAT'S WHY SOLOMON SAID IN PROVERBS 14:17,
  • 00:11:18.260 --> 00:11:22.260
  • "A QUICK-TEMPERED MAN ACTS FOOLISHLY,
  • 00:11:22.270 --> 00:11:26.270
  • AND A MAN OF EVIL DEVICES IS HATED."
  • 00:11:26.280 --> 00:11:30.180
  • WRATH IS ANGER EXPRESSED, BUT MALICE - THAT'S THE
  • 00:11:30.190 --> 00:11:34.240
  • OTHER WORD PAUL USES IN COLOSSIANS 3:8 -
  • 00:11:34.250 --> 00:11:37.000
  • THAT IS ANGER SUPPRESSED.
  • 00:11:37.010 --> 00:11:39.200
  • WRATH IS ANGER EXPRESSED.
  • 00:11:39.210 --> 00:11:41.210
  • MALICE IS ANGER SUPPRESSED.
  • 00:11:41.220 --> 00:11:43.270
  • SOMETIMES WHEN WE GET ANGRY GOOD SENSE PREVAILS
  • 00:11:43.280 --> 00:11:46.130
  • AND INSTEAD OF UNLEASHING A TORRENT OF NEGATIVE
  • 00:11:46.140 --> 00:11:48.110
  • WORDS AGAINST THE PERSON, WE DECIDED IT'D BE IN OUR
  • 00:11:48.120 --> 00:11:50.290
  • BEST INTEREST NOT TO.
  • 00:11:51.000 --> 00:11:52.030
  • ESPECIALLY IF THAT OTHER PERSON IS OUR EMPLOYER,
  • 00:11:52.040 --> 00:11:55.090
  • OR OUR MATE, OR SOMEBODY WE CARE ABOUT.
  • 00:11:55.100 --> 00:11:58.260
  • SO INSTEAD OF EXPRESSING OUR ANGER,
  • 00:11:58.270 --> 00:12:00.180
  • WE TURN IT INWARDLY.
  • 00:12:00.190 --> 00:12:02.260
  • BUT REMEMBER MALICE, MALICE - ANGER SUPPRESSED
  • 00:12:02.270 --> 00:12:06.210
  • - IS JUST AS DANGEROUS AS WRATH,
  • 00:12:06.220 --> 00:12:10.070
  • WHICH IS ANGER EXPRESSED.
  • 00:12:10.080 --> 00:12:12.200
  • WHENEVER WE TURN OUR ANGER INWARD,
  • 00:12:12.210 --> 00:12:15.100
  • WHAT HAPPENS IS THAT ANGER TURNS INTO BITTERNESS THAT
  • 00:12:15.110 --> 00:12:18.130
  • BECOMES A CORROSIVE AGENT THAT EVENTUALLY DESTROYS
  • 00:12:18.140 --> 00:12:21.120
  • THE CONTAINER IN WHICH IT'S STORED.
  • 00:12:21.130 --> 00:12:24.070
  • DR. FRANK MINIRTH, THE CHRISTIAN PSYCHIATRIST
  • 00:12:24.080 --> 00:12:26.210
  • SAYS, "PENT UP ANGER IS PROBABLY THE LEADING CAUSE
  • 00:12:26.220 --> 00:12:31.050
  • OF DEATH IN AMERICA TODAY."
  • 00:12:31.060 --> 00:12:34.090
  • THE OTHER PROBLEM WITH SUPPRESSED ANGER IS THAT
  • 00:12:34.100 --> 00:12:37.090
  • IT RARELY STAYS SUPPRESSED.
  • 00:12:37.100 --> 00:12:40.130
  • EVENTUALLY, AND SOMETIMES UNEXPECTEDLY
  • 00:12:40.140 --> 00:12:42.250
  • THAT ANGER EXPLODES.
  • 00:12:42.260 --> 00:12:45.080
  • AND THAT'S WHY SOLOMON SAID WE NEED TO DEAL WITH
  • 00:12:45.090 --> 00:12:47.110
  • ANGER THAT IS SUPPRESSED, AND DEAL WITH THAT JUST
  • 00:12:47.120 --> 00:12:50.050
  • LIKE ANGER THAT IS EXPRESSED.
  • 00:12:50.060 --> 00:12:51.250
  • IN PROVERBS 30:33 SOLOMON WARNED,
  • 00:12:51.260 --> 00:12:55.030
  • "FOR THE CHURNING OF MILK PRODUCES BUTTER AND
  • 00:12:55.040 --> 00:12:58.290
  • PRESSING THE NOSE BRINGS FORTH BLOOD;
  • 00:12:59.000 --> 00:13:01.070
  • SO THE CHURNING OF ANGER PRODUCES STRIFE."
  • 00:13:01.080 --> 00:13:07.070
  • WELL, IF WE'RE NOT TO EXPRESS OUR ANGER IN A
  • 00:13:07.080 --> 00:13:09.090
  • RAGE; IF WE'RE NOT TO SUPPRESS IT,
  • 00:13:09.100 --> 00:13:11.200
  • AND KEEP TURNING IT OVER IN OUR HEARTS;
  • 00:13:11.210 --> 00:13:13.280
  • HOW DO WE EFFECTIVELY DEAL WITH ANGER?
  • 00:13:13.290 --> 00:13:17.020
  • I WANT YOU TO NOTICE IN THE BOOK OF PROVERBS
  • 00:13:17.030 --> 00:13:18.240
  • SOLOMON GIVES US FIVE SIMPLE PRINCIPLES
  • 00:13:18.250 --> 00:13:21.030
  • FOR DEALING WITH THE ANGER
  • 00:13:21.040 --> 00:13:23.160
  • THAT WE FEEL TOWARD OTHERS.
  • 00:13:23.170 --> 00:13:25.180
  • PRINCIPLE NUMBER ONE: WHENEVER YOU FEEL ANGRY
  • 00:13:25.190 --> 00:13:29.030
  • CALL AN EMOTIONAL TIME-OUT.
  • 00:13:29.040 --> 00:13:32.120
  • IF YOU'RE IN A CONVERSATION WITH SOMEBODY,
  • 00:13:32.130 --> 00:13:34.260
  • AND YOU FEEL YOURSELF GETTING MORE AND
  • 00:13:34.270 --> 00:13:36.240
  • MORE ANGRY - ASK FOR A TIME-OUT.
  • 00:13:36.250 --> 00:13:39.170
  • IF YOU'RE ARGUING WITH YOUR MATE,
  • 00:13:39.180 --> 00:13:41.190
  • REMOVE YOURSELF AND GO TO THE OTHER ROOM.
  • 00:13:41.200 --> 00:13:43.280
  • IF YOU'RE ARGUING WITH YOUR BOSS,
  • 00:13:43.290 --> 00:13:46.050
  • JUST ASK IF YOU CAN GO BACK TO YOUR OFFICE AND
  • 00:13:46.060 --> 00:13:49.260
  • RECONVENE THE MEETING AGAIN.
  • 00:13:49.270 --> 00:13:51.040
  • IF YOU'RE IN A TELEPHONE CONVERSATION,
  • 00:13:51.050 --> 00:13:52.190
  • ASK IF YOU CAN CALL THE PERSON BACK,
  • 00:13:52.200 --> 00:13:55.070
  • SO YOU CAN COLLECT YOUR THOUGHTS.
  • 00:13:55.080 --> 00:13:57.090
  • BY THE WAY, REMOVING YOURSELF FROM A VOLATILE
  • 00:13:57.100 --> 00:13:59.280
  • SITUATION IS NOT A SIGN OF WEAKNESS;
  • 00:13:59.290 --> 00:14:02.170
  • IT'S THE SIGN OF WISDOM.
  • 00:14:02.180 --> 00:14:04.060
  • LISTEN TO PROVERBS 19:11 - YOU KNOW WE THINK ANGER'S
  • 00:14:04.070 --> 00:14:07.290
  • A SIGN OF STRENGTH - NOT THE BIBLE.
  • 00:14:08.000 --> 00:14:10.000
  • SOLOMON SAYS, "A MAN'S DISCRETION MAKES HIM SLOW
  • 00:14:10.010 --> 00:14:13.110
  • TO ANGER, AND IT IS HIS GLORY," NOT HIS WEAKNESS,
  • 00:14:13.120 --> 00:14:17.170
  • "IT IS HIS GLORY TO OVERLOOK A TRANSGRESSION."
  • 00:14:17.180 --> 00:14:21.190
  • CALL AN EMOTIONAL TIME-OUT
  • 00:14:21.200 --> 00:14:23.100
  • SO YOU ARE SLOW TO GET ANGRY.
  • 00:14:23.110 --> 00:14:25.000
  • NUMBER TWO: ANALYZE THE CAUSE OF YOUR ANGER.
  • 00:14:25.010 --> 00:14:28.260
  • YOU KNOW THE PURPOSE OF AN EMOTIONAL TIME-OUT IS NOT
  • 00:14:28.270 --> 00:14:31.000
  • TO AVOID YOUR ANGRY FEELINGS,
  • 00:14:31.010 --> 00:14:32.240
  • BUT TO ANALYZE THEM SO YOU CAN
  • 00:14:32.250 --> 00:14:34.130
  • DEAL WITH THEM APPROPRIATELY.
  • 00:14:34.140 --> 00:14:36.090
  • DURING THAT TIME-OUT ASK YOURSELF TWO QUESTIONS.
  • 00:14:36.100 --> 00:14:38.220
  • NUMBER ONE, WHAT IS THE REAL CAUSE OF MY ANGER?
  • 00:14:38.230 --> 00:14:41.250
  • WHY AM I FEELING THIS WAY?
  • 00:14:41.260 --> 00:14:43.240
  • IS IT BECAUSE OF A RIGHT I EXPECT HAS BEEN VIOLATED?
  • 00:14:43.250 --> 00:14:48.180
  • IS IT BECAUSE I REALLY FEEL ANGRY OVER AN
  • 00:14:48.190 --> 00:14:51.060
  • INJUSTICE TOWARD SOMEBODY ELSE?
  • 00:14:51.070 --> 00:14:52.220
  • EXACTLY WHY DO I FEEL THIS WAY?
  • 00:14:52.230 --> 00:14:55.230
  • AND SECOND QUESTION TO ASK YOURSELF IS:
  • 00:14:55.240 --> 00:14:57.250
  • DO I HAVE COMPLETE AND ACCURATE INFORMATION?
  • 00:14:57.260 --> 00:15:01.150
  • REMEMBER, A LOT OF THE TIMES WE FEEL ANGRY IS
  • 00:15:01.160 --> 00:15:04.090
  • BECAUSE WE DON'T HAVE ALL THE FACTS.
  • 00:15:04.100 --> 00:15:06.160
  • PROVERBS 18:13 SAYS, "HE WHO GIVES AN ANSWER BEFORE
  • 00:15:06.170 --> 00:15:11.060
  • HE HEARS, IT IS FOLLY AND SHAME TO HIM."
  • 00:15:11.070 --> 00:15:15.270
  • NUMBER THREE: LEARN TO OVERLOOK MINOR OFFENSES.
  • 00:15:15.280 --> 00:15:20.130
  • LEARN TO OVERLOOK MINOR OFFENSES.
  • 00:15:20.140 --> 00:15:22.100
  • YOU KNOW YOU CAN'T GO THROUGH LIFE EVERY DAY
  • 00:15:22.110 --> 00:15:24.050
  • WITHOUT SUFFERING MINOR EMOTIONAL BRUISES
  • 00:15:24.060 --> 00:15:27.200
  • FROM OTHER PEOPLE.
  • 00:15:27.210 --> 00:15:29.030
  • MAYBE AN UNRETURNED TELEPHONE CALL,
  • 00:15:29.040 --> 00:15:31.210
  • OR A FORGOTTEN BIRTHDAY, OR SOME OTHER SLIGHT LIKE
  • 00:15:31.220 --> 00:15:35.010
  • SOMEBODY BEING LATE FOR AN APPOINTMENT.
  • 00:15:35.020 --> 00:15:37.160
  • THOSE INJUSTICES ARE REAL, THEY'RE PAINFUL,
  • 00:15:37.170 --> 00:15:40.070
  • BUT THEY'RE ALSO TEMPORARY.
  • 00:15:40.080 --> 00:15:42.050
  • AND A WISE PERSON LEARNS TO OVERLOOK
  • 00:15:42.060 --> 00:15:45.050
  • THOSE MINOR OFFENSES.
  • 00:15:45.060 --> 00:15:46.210
  • WHEN SOMEBODY WRONGS YOU IN A MINOR WAY,
  • 00:15:46.220 --> 00:15:48.270
  • GO AHEAD AND ACKNOWLEDGE IT,
  • 00:15:48.280 --> 00:15:51.090
  • BUT THEN GET OVER IT.
  • 00:15:51.100 --> 00:15:52.190
  • THAT'S THE WAY WE OUGHT TO DEAL WITH MINOR
  • 00:15:52.200 --> 00:15:54.160
  • TRANSGRESSIONS THAT WE ALL EXPERIENCE EVERY DAY.
  • 00:15:54.170 --> 00:15:57.260
  • NUMBER FOUR: LEARN TO FORGIVE MAJOR OFFENSES.
  • 00:15:57.270 --> 00:16:02.200
  • NO, SOME OF THE OFFENSES THAT WE ENDURE,
  • 00:16:02.210 --> 00:16:05.020
  • SOME OF THE BRUISES WE TAKE
  • 00:16:05.030 --> 00:16:06.090
  • CAN'T BE EASILY OVERLOOKED.
  • 00:16:06.100 --> 00:16:09.050
  • THE UNFAITHFULNESS OF A MATE,
  • 00:16:09.060 --> 00:16:11.110
  • THE ABUSE OF A PARENT, THE UNFAIR DISMISSAL BY AN
  • 00:16:11.120 --> 00:16:15.130
  • EMPLOYER - WE JUST CAN'T GET OVER THAT IMMEDIATELY.
  • 00:16:15.140 --> 00:16:20.260
  • HEALING NEEDS TO TAKE PLACE.
  • 00:16:20.270 --> 00:16:23.100
  • AND FORTUNATELY GOD HAS GIVEN US A SURGICAL
  • 00:16:23.110 --> 00:16:26.030
  • PROCEDURE TO DEAL WITH THE MAJOR HURTS IN OUR LIFE.
  • 00:16:26.040 --> 00:16:30.030
  • IT'S CALLED FORGIVENESS.
  • 00:16:30.040 --> 00:16:32.090
  • ALL OF US HAVE PEOPLE WE NEED TO FORGIVE.
  • 00:16:32.100 --> 00:16:35.260
  • OF COURSE THE REASON WE'RE TO FORGIVE IS BECAUSE OF
  • 00:16:35.270 --> 00:16:39.210
  • THE GREAT FORGIVENESS THAT GOD HAS EXTENDED TO US.
  • 00:16:39.220 --> 00:16:43.150
  • EPHESIANS 4:32 SAYS, "BE KIND TO ONE ANOTHER,
  • 00:16:43.160 --> 00:16:46.130
  • TENDER-HEARTED, FORGIVING ONE OTHER,
  • 00:16:46.140 --> 00:16:49.180
  • JUST AS GOD IN CHRIST ALSO HAS FORGIVEN YOU."
  • 00:16:49.190 --> 00:16:53.210
  • FORGIVENESS ISN'T OPTIONAL.
  • 00:16:53.220 --> 00:16:55.260
  • IT'S ESSENTIAL FOR ANYONE
  • 00:16:55.270 --> 00:16:57.270
  • WHO WANTS GOD'S FORGIVENESS.
  • 00:16:57.280 --> 00:17:00.140
  • NUMBER FIVE, HOW DO YOU DEAL WITH
  • 00:17:00.150 --> 00:17:03.010
  • ANGER IN YOUR LIFE?
  • 00:17:03.020 --> 00:17:05.040
  • HOW DO YOU KEEP FROM ALLOWING ANGER TO GET OUT
  • 00:17:05.050 --> 00:17:06.290
  • OF CONTROL EITHER THOUGH WRATH OR MALICE?
  • 00:17:07.000 --> 00:17:09.280
  • NUMBER FIVE: DON'T ASSOCIATE WITH ANGRY PEOPLE.
  • 00:17:09.290 --> 00:17:14.000
  • NOW REMEMBER THIS, ANGER IS A LEARNED RESPONSE.
  • 00:17:14.010 --> 00:17:20.060
  • IF YOU ASSOCIATE WITH ANGRY PEOPLE -
  • 00:17:20.070 --> 00:17:22.050
  • YOU'RE GOING TO BECOME ANGRY AS WELL.
  • 00:17:22.060 --> 00:17:25.060
  • I'M GOING TO GIVE YOU THE BEST PIECE OF ADVICE
  • 00:17:25.070 --> 00:17:27.200
  • YOU'RE GOING TO HEAR THIS WEEK,
  • 00:17:27.210 --> 00:17:28.240
  • OK.
  • 00:17:28.250 --> 00:17:29.280
  • IF YOU ARE SINGLE AND THINKING ABOUT GETTING
  • 00:17:29.290 --> 00:17:33.060
  • MARRIED AT SOME POINT IN YOUR LIFE DON'T DATE AND
  • 00:17:33.070 --> 00:17:37.260
  • CERTAINLY DON'T MARRY SOMEONE
  • 00:17:37.270 --> 00:17:41.080
  • WHO IS HABITUALLY ANGRY.
  • 00:17:41.090 --> 00:17:44.070
  • DON'T MARRY OR EVEN DATE SOMEBODY WHO HAS A PROBLEM
  • 00:17:44.080 --> 00:17:47.190
  • WITH HIS OR HER TEMPER.
  • 00:17:47.200 --> 00:17:49.050
  • THAT'S WHAT SOLOMON SAID IN PROVERBS 22:24-25,
  • 00:17:49.060 --> 00:17:53.050
  • "DO NOT ASSOCIATE WITH A MAN GIVEN TO ANGER;
  • 00:17:53.060 --> 00:17:56.250
  • OR GO WITH A HOT-TEMPERED MAN,
  • 00:17:56.260 --> 00:17:59.050
  • LEST YOU WILL LEARN HIS WAYS
  • 00:17:59.060 --> 00:18:00.290
  • AND FIND A SNARE FOR YOURSELF."
  • 00:18:01.000 --> 00:18:04.130
  • NOW, IF IT'S SOMEBODY WHO ACKNOWLEDGES HE HAS AN
  • 00:18:04.140 --> 00:18:07.180
  • ANGER PROBLEM, AND HE OR SHE IS DEALING WITH IT
  • 00:18:07.190 --> 00:18:10.000
  • POSITIVELY, THAT'S ONE THING.
  • 00:18:10.010 --> 00:18:11.280
  • BUT A PERSON WHO IS CONTINUALLY BLOWING UP ALL
  • 00:18:11.290 --> 00:18:14.140
  • THE TIME, IF YOU MARRY THAT PERSON,
  • 00:18:14.150 --> 00:18:16.220
  • YOU'RE GOING TO BE MISERABLE AND YOU'RE GOING
  • 00:18:16.230 --> 00:18:18.130
  • TO BE THE OBJECT OF HIS OR HER ANGER AT SOME POINT.
  • 00:18:18.140 --> 00:18:21.170
  • NOW, WE'VE TALKED ABOUT HOW TO HANDLE THE ANGER
  • 00:18:21.180 --> 00:18:24.130
  • THAT WE FEEL; BUT HOW DO YOU DEAL WITH ANGER THAT
  • 00:18:24.140 --> 00:18:27.160
  • IS DIRECTED TOWARD YOU?
  • 00:18:27.170 --> 00:18:30.000
  • WELL AGAIN, SOLOMON GIVES US SOME VERY GREAT ADVICE
  • 00:18:30.010 --> 00:18:33.080
  • FOR HOW TO DEAL WITH ANGRY PEOPLE
  • 00:18:33.090 --> 00:18:35.200
  • THAT COME INTO OUR LIFE.
  • 00:18:35.210 --> 00:18:37.010
  • HOW MANY OF YOU THIS WEEK HAVE HAD TO DEAL WITH AN
  • 00:18:37.020 --> 00:18:39.280
  • ANGRY PERSON IN YOUR LIFE, OK.
  • 00:18:39.290 --> 00:18:42.060
  • DON'T LOOK AT THE PERSON NEXT TO YOU
  • 00:18:42.070 --> 00:18:43.250
  • IF IT'S YOUR MATE.
  • 00:18:43.260 --> 00:18:45.260
  • WE ALL DEAL WITH ANGRY PEOPLE.
  • 00:18:46.210 --> 00:18:49.010
  • LISTEN TO WHAT SOLOMON SAYS ABOUT HOW TO HANDLE
  • 00:18:49.020 --> 00:18:51.040
  • ANGRY PEOPLE IN YOUR LIFE.
  • 00:18:51.050 --> 00:18:52.180
  • FIRST OF ALL, LISTEN CAREFULLY
  • 00:18:52.190 --> 00:18:55.180
  • TO AN ANGRY PERSON.
  • 00:18:55.190 --> 00:18:57.140
  • GARY CHAPMAN WROTE A GREAT BOOK ON ANGER CALLED "THE
  • 00:18:57.150 --> 00:19:00.070
  • OTHER SIDE OF LOVE" AND HE SAID THERE ARE SEVEN STEPS
  • 00:19:00.080 --> 00:19:03.250
  • FOR DEALING WITH AN ANGRY PERSON.
  • 00:19:03.260 --> 00:19:06.210
  • STEP ONE, LISTEN.
  • 00:19:06.220 --> 00:19:09.120
  • STEP TWO, LISTEN.
  • 00:19:09.130 --> 00:19:11.290
  • STEP THREE, LISTEN.
  • 00:19:12.000 --> 00:19:15.050
  • WHEN SOMEBODY COMES AT YOU AND THEY'RE ANGRY -
  • 00:19:15.060 --> 00:19:17.240
  • RESIST THE IMPULSE TO ARGUE WITH THEM.
  • 00:19:17.250 --> 00:19:20.210
  • JUST LISTEN, LISTEN, LISTEN.
  • 00:19:20.220 --> 00:19:24.050
  • NUMBER TWO, HOW DO YOU HANDLE ANGRY PEOPLE?
  • 00:19:24.060 --> 00:19:27.090
  • TRY TO IDENTIFY WITH THE OTHER PERSON'S ANGER.
  • 00:19:27.100 --> 00:19:30.200
  • INSTEAD OF CRITICIZING THEIR EMOTION,
  • 00:19:30.210 --> 00:19:32.260
  • INSTEAD OF INVALIDATING THEM,
  • 00:19:32.270 --> 00:19:35.050
  • TRY TO IDENTIFY WITH IT.
  • 00:19:35.060 --> 00:19:37.070
  • YOU MIGHT SAY SOMETHING LIKE:
  • 00:19:37.080 --> 00:19:39.080
  • I UNDERSTAND HOW DISAPPOINTED YOU ARE.
  • 00:19:39.090 --> 00:19:42.020
  • OR YOU MIGHT SAY: YOU KNOW IF I WERE YOU AND THOUGHT
  • 00:19:42.030 --> 00:19:44.140
  • THAT'S THE WAY IT HAPPENED I'D BE JUST AS ANGRY
  • 00:19:44.150 --> 00:19:47.050
  • AS YOU ARE AS WELL.
  • 00:19:47.060 --> 00:19:49.110
  • PROVERBS 10:12 SAYS, "HATRED STIRS UP STRIFE,
  • 00:19:49.120 --> 00:19:53.160
  • BUT LOVE COVERS ALL TRANSGRESSIONS."
  • 00:19:53.170 --> 00:19:57.040
  • ONE PRACTICAL WAY WE DEMONSTRATE LOVE TOWARD AN
  • 00:19:57.050 --> 00:20:00.000
  • ADVERSARY IS BY UNDERSTANDING RATHER THAN
  • 00:20:00.010 --> 00:20:03.080
  • INVALIDATING OUR ADVERSARY'S FEELINGS.
  • 00:20:03.090 --> 00:20:07.000
  • NUMBER THREE: ANSWER SOFTLY AND SLOWLY.
  • 00:20:07.010 --> 00:20:12.190
  • ANSWER SOFTLY AND SLOWLY.
  • 00:20:12.200 --> 00:20:16.020
  • WHENEVER SOMEBODY IS SPEWING INCENDIARY WORDS
  • 00:20:16.030 --> 00:20:19.220
  • TOWARDS US, JUST IMAGINE IN ONE HAND YOU HAVE A
  • 00:20:19.230 --> 00:20:23.080
  • BUCKET OF WATER, IN THE OTHER HAND YOU HAVE A
  • 00:20:23.090 --> 00:20:25.140
  • BUCKET OF GASOLINE - AND YOU GET TO DECIDE WHICH
  • 00:20:25.150 --> 00:20:28.240
  • BUCKET YOU'RE GOING TO THROW ON THOSE ANGRY SPARKS.
  • 00:20:28.250 --> 00:20:31.270
  • SOLOMON SAID THAT IN PROVERBS 15:1,
  • 00:20:31.280 --> 00:20:34.210
  • "A GENTLE ANSWER TURNS AWAY WRATH,
  • 00:20:34.220 --> 00:20:38.060
  • BUT A HARSH WORD STIRS UP ANGER."
  • 00:20:38.070 --> 00:20:42.010
  • NUMBER FOUR, IN DEALING WITH AN ANGRY PERSON ASK
  • 00:20:42.020 --> 00:20:44.270
  • FORGIVENESS IF NECESSARY.
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  • NOTHING WILL TAKE THE WIND OUT OF AN ANGRY PERSON'S
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  • SAILS ANY QUICKER THAN YOUR RESPONDING:
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  • I'M SORRY FOR WHAT I DID.
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  • WOULD YOU FORGIVE ME?
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  • YOU KNOW OVER AND OVER AGAIN IN THE NEW TESTAMENT
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  • THE BIBLE TALKS ABOUT HAVING A CLEAR CONSCIENCE
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  • THAT IT'S ESSENTIAL TO LIVING THE CHRISTIAN LIFE.
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  • DO YOU KNOW WHAT A CLEAR CONSCIENCE IS?
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  • IT'S THE KNOWLEDGE THAT THERE IS NO ONE WHO CAN
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  • ACCUSE ME OF A WRONG I'VE NOT ATTEMPTED
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  • TO MAKE RIGHT.
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  • I KNOW I'M REVEALING MY AGE WHEN I TALK ABOUT AMOS
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  • AND ANDY, BUT THERE WAS AN EPISODE IN WHICH ANDY WAS
  • 00:21:20.080 --> 00:21:22.290
  • WALKING AROUND WITH A LITTLE BOTTLE
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  • TIED AROUND HIS NECK.
  • 00:21:25.240 --> 00:21:27.280
  • AND HIS FRIEND AMOS SAID: WHAT IS THAT BOTTLE
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  • AROUND YOUR NECK?
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  • AND ANDY SAYS: OH, IT'S A BOTTLE OF NITROGLYCERIN.
  • 00:21:30.250 --> 00:21:34.120
  • AND AMOS SAYS: WHY WOULD YOU BE CARRYING A BOTTLE
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  • OF NITROGLYCERIN AROUND YOUR NECK?
  • 00:21:37.070 --> 00:21:39.240
  • AND ANDY SAYS: WHY I'VE GOT THIS FRIEND AND EVERY
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  • TIME HE TALKS TO ME HE POKES ME IN THE CHEST AND
  • 00:21:41.270 --> 00:21:45.180
  • IT BOTHERS ME, SO I DECIDED TO PUT THIS
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  • NITROGLYCERIN AROUND MY NECK;
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  • THE NEXT TIME HE POKES ME HE'S GOING TO GET
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  • HIS FINGER BLOWN OFF.
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  • 00:21:53.080 --> 00:21:56.240
  • WELL THAT'S NOT ALL THAT'S GOING TO GET BLOWN OFF,
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  • IS IT?
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  • LISTEN TO ME.
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  • WHENEVER WE HAVE ANGER THAT IS UNDEALT WITH IN
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  • OUR HEART, IT'S LIKE WALKING AROUND WITH A
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  • BOTTLE OF NITROGLYCERIN AROUND OUR NECK.
  • 00:22:11.080 --> 00:22:15.010
  • AND WHENEVER WE DEAL ANGRILY WITH SOMEBODY
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  • WHO IS ANGRY, IT'S JUST LIKE PUNCHING
  • 00:22:18.010 --> 00:22:20.260
  • OLD ANDY RIGHT IN THE CHEST THERE
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  • AND EXPLODING THAT BOTTLE OF NITROGLYCERIN.
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  • YOU SEE SOLOMON HAS ANOTHER WAY,
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  • OTHER ADVICE FOR HANDLING ANGER.
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  • YOU KNOW WHAT SOLOMON SAYS ABOUT ANGER?
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  • HE SAYS GET AS FAR AWAY FROM IT AS POSSIBLE.
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  • WHATEVER YOU DO DON'T WEAR IT AROUND YOUR NECK
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  • OR IN YOUR HEART.
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  • DON'T ASSOCIATE WITH IT.
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  • AND MOST OF ALL WHEN CONFRONTED WITH IT MAKE
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  • SURE YOU HANDLE WITH CARE.
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  • SOLOMON SAID IT THIS WAY IN ECCLESIASTES 7:9,
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  • "DO NOT BE EAGER IN YOUR HEART TO BE ANGRY,
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  • FOR ANGER RESIDES IN THE BOSOM OF FOOLS."
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  • KEEP YOUR COOL WHEN THINGS GET HOT.
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  • WHETHER YOU'RE THE CULPRIT OR THE VICTIM
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  • UNCONTROLLED RAGE HAS NO PLACE IN OUR LIVES.
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  • LET ME ENCOURAGE YOU TO EMBRACE THIS COUNSEL FROM
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  • KING SOLOMON TO MANAGE YOUR ANGER
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  • WHEN THINGS GET HOT.
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