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Praise | Brian Tome | August 26, 2019

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August 26, 2019

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Dr. Reverend Wilfredo “Choco” De Jesus hosts Pastor Brian Tome

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Praise | Brian Tome | August 26, 2019

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- MALE ANNOUNCER: TONIGHT ON
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"PRAISE,"
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FROM CHICAGO,
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FOUNDER AND SENIOR
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PASTOR OF CROSSROADS CHURCH,
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AUTHOR AND ENTREPRENEUR,
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AND NOW
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PASTOR WILFREDO
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- WILFREDO "CHOCO" DE JESUS:
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WELL, GOD BLESS YOU.
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WE'RE SO GLAD.
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WELCOME TO CHICAGO, THE "WINDY
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CITY"-- WE'RE GLAD-- WHERE GREAT
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THINGS ARE HAPPENING, WHAT
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BUT THERE ARE SO MANY GREAT
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THINGS THAT ARE HAPPENING IN THE
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CHURCHES OF JESUS CHRIST AS
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THEY'RE ENGAGING CULTURE, AND
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WE'RE GLAD YOU'RE HERE TONIGHT.
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HERE'S THE THING: AND WHEN A MAN
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STANDS UP, THE BOY SITS DOWN,
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AND WHAT YOU'RE ABOUT TO HEAR IS
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GOING TO CHANGE YOUR FAMILY.
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SO WHEREVER YOU'RE AT, I WANT
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YOU TO GET YOUR SON, YOUR
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HUSBAND, DRAG THEM OUT OF THE
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ROOM, AND TELL THEM, "YOU NEED
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TO HEAR WHAT GOD HAS PLACED IN
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THIS MAN'S LIFE."
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SO I WANT YOU TO PLEASE
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HELP ME WELCOME PASTOR BRIAN,
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- WILFREDO: GOD BLESS YOU, MY
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FRIEND.
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- BRIAN TOME: YOU TOO, FRIEND.
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- WILFREDO: GOD BLESS YOU.
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- BRIAN: IT IS AN HONOR TO BE
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HERE.
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YEAH, I'LL TELL YA WHAT.
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I'VE BEEN SHOCKED AT HOW MANY
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WOMEN HAVE BEEN BUYING MY BOOK.
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I'M SHOCKED.
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IS CALLED
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"THE FIVE MARKS OF A MAN,"
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BECAUSE I WROTE THIS BECAUSE MEN
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ARE CONFUSED, QUITE FRANKLY.
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THERE'S NEVER BEEN A MORE
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CONFUSING TIME TO BE A MAN THAN
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THERE IS RIGHT NOW, AND WE'VE
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NEVER HAD MORE DANGEROUS MEN ON
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THE STREETS AND IN BOARDROOMS
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THAN THERE IS RIGHT NOW.
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1 CORINTHIANS CHAPTER 16, VERSE
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13 AND 14, SAYS, "BE WATCHFUL,
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STAND FIRM IN THE FAITH--" AND
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HERE'S THE BIG ONE; CATCH IT--
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IT DOESN'T SAY, "ACT LIKE A
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MATURE INDIVIDUAL."
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IT DOESN'T SAY,
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"ACT LIKE AN EMOTIONALLY
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RESPONSIBLE INDIVIDUAL."
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IT DOESN'T SAY, "ACT LIKE A
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GOOD CHRISTIAN."
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"ACT LIKE MEN."
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AND SO I WANNA SAY,
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"WHY IS THAT NOT A
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POSITIVE THING ANYMORE?
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WHERE ARE THE MEN WHO EMBODY
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THAT THIS IS A POSITIVE THING?
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WHERE ARE ALL OF US WHO ARE
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SAYING, 'IT'S A GOOD THING TO
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BE MAN'?"
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THAT'S ONE OF THE HUGE THINGS
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GOD HAS BEEN DOING IN MY LIFE
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AND TEACHING ME.
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I'M EXCITED TO BE HERE TODAY.
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- WILFREDO: WELL, WE'RE EXCITED
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TO HAVE YOU.
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WE'RE EXCITED TO HAVE YOU AND
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READING UP ON YOUR BOOK,
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"THE FIVE MARKS OF A MAN."
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PASTOR, WHERE DID THE GENESIS
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OF THIS START FROM?
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WHERE WAS IT BIRTHED OUT OF?
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I KNOW YOU WENT TO SCHOOL.
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I WAS READING UP ON YOU A
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LITTLE BIT.
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IT TOOK YOU SEVEN YEARS TO
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FINISH YOUR DEGREE.
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- BRIAN: MY FOUR-YEAR DEGREE.
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- WILFREDO: YOUR
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FOUR-YEAR DEGREE.
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[LAUGHTER]
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- BRIAN: YES.
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- WILFREDO: SO WE'RE LIKE TWINS
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'CAUSE IT TOOK ME A WHILE TO GET
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MY BACHELOR'S DEGREE.
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BUT WHERE DID IT ALL BIRTH FROM?
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- BRIAN: IT STARTED WHEN MY SON
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WAS BORN.
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MY SON WAS BORN AT A VERY
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EARLY AGE.
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THAT IS FUNNY.
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[LAUGHTER]
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YEAH, BORN AT A VERY EARLY AGE.
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AND WHEN THEY PLACED HIM ON THE
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WARMING TABLE, I WENT OVER TO
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SEE THIS GUY.
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NOW, I'M ADOPTED.
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THIS IS, AT THIS POINT, ONLY MY
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SECOND DNA PERSON I'VE EVER SEEN
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WHO'S RELATED TO ME-- DNA.
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I WAS ADOPTED AT BIRTH.
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SO IT WAS MY OLDEST DAUGHTER,
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AND IT WAS HIM, SO IT'S STILL A
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FREAKY THING, LIKE, "WOW, THAT'S
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SOMEBODY ELSE WHO HAS MY DNA."
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SO I WENT OVER TO SEE HIM.
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I HELD HIS LITTLE HAND, AND IF
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YOU EVER BEEN A LITTLE-- SEEN
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LITTLE BABIES, THEY'RE ALL
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NAKED, AND SOON AS I TOUCH HIS
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HAND, A STREAM OF URINE GOES UP
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INTO THE AIR.
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IT HITS MY SHOULDER AND TRICKLES
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ALL THE WAY DOWN MY HAND, AND I
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THOUGHT TO MYSELF, "I GOTTA GET
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AHOLD OF THIS GUY RIGHT NOW
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BECAUSE--"
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[LAUGHTER]
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-- "THIS IS A METAPHOR FOR
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WHAT'S GONNA HAPPEN BECAUSE, IF
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I DON'T GET AHOLD OF HIM, HE'S
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GONNA URINATE ALL OVER ME FOR
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THE REST OF MY LIFE, LIKE I
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URINATED ALL OVER MY DAD."
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I WAS AN AWFUL SON.
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I'M TELLIN' YOU WHAT--
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EVERYTHING MY DAD HAD, I BROKE.
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EVERY RULE THAT HE HAD, I BROKE.
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EVERYTHING THAT HE WANTED ME TO
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BE, I WANTED TO REBEL AGAINST,
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AND I REALIZED THAT I WAS TRYING
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TO PROVE THAT I WAS A MAN, AND I
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NEEDED TO HELP MY SON SEE WHAT A
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MAN IS INSTEAD OF HIM TRYING TO
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PROVE THAT HE WAS A MAN.
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- WILFREDO: WOW, WOW, THAT IS--
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YEAH, AMEN.
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[APPLAUSE]
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I WANT YOU TO KNOW A LITTLE BIT
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MORE ABOUT BRIAN.
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WE'RE GONNA GET DEEP INTO HIS
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LIFE WITH HIS RELATIONSHIP WITH
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HIS FATHER, RELATIONSHIP WITH
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HIS SON, BUT ALSO THE BIRTH OF
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THIS BOOK THAT WE BELIEVE THAT
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WILL TOUCH MILLIONS OF MEN, BUT
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I WANT YOU TO WATCH THIS BIO OF
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BROTHER BRIAN.
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- ANNOUNCER: FOUNDER AND SENIOR
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PASTOR OF CROSSROADS CHURCH,
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BEST-SELLING AUTHOR, AND
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ENTREPRENEUR, BRIAN TOME IS A
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MAN ON A MISSION.
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AS THE SENIOR PASTOR OF
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CROSSROADS, HE CREATED A PLACE
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FOR THOSE WHO HAD GIVEN UP ON
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CHURCH BUT HAD NOT GIVEN
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UP ON GOD.
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CROSSROADS NOW HOSTS MORE THAN
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34.000 PEOPLE ACROSS TEN
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CAMPUSES IN OHIO AND KENTUCKY,
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AND IS ACTIVELY ENGAGED IN
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COMBATING GENERATIONAL POVERTY
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IN CINCINNATI'S URBAN CORE,
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OPERATING A MEDICAL CLINIC, AND
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SUPPORTING AN HIV-AIDS HOSPICE
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IN SOUTH AFRICA, AND BATTLING
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CHILD SEX SLAVERY IN INDIA.
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THROUGH CROSSROADS, BRIAN ALSO
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STARTED AND LEADS MAN CAMP, A
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PRIMITIVE WEEKEND CAMPING
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EXPERIENCE TO HELP MEN RECLAIM
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THE CODE OF MANHOOD AND BECOME
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COMMITTED BROTHERS, HUSBANDS,
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AND FATHERS.
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BRIAN TOME BELIEVES THERE ARE
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FIVE MARKS THAT EVERY AUTHENTIC
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MAN IN HISTORY HAS DISPLAYED,
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AND PURSUING THEM CAN BE
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LIFE-ALTERING.
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HERE TO TALK ABOUT WHAT REALLY
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SEPARATES A MAN FROM A BOY,
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- WILFREDO: WELCOME BACK.
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WELCOME BACK.
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WE'RE HERE WITH PASTOR BRIAN,
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A MAN'S MAN.
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IF YOU READ THE BOOK, YOU'RE
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GONNA FIND OUT THAT THIS IS A
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MAN'S MAN, AND WE WERE TALKING
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EARLIER REGARDING HIS STORY, AND
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I WANNA GO BACK A LITTLE BIT
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OVER YOUR RELATIONSHIP
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WITH YOUR FATHER,
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HOW THAT WAS--
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MAYBE PERHAPS HOW YOU
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TREATED HIM.
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AND THERE MAY BE A YOUNG MAN
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WHO'S WATCHING RIGHT NOW AND
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PROBABLY DOESN'T HAVE A
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RELATIONSHIP WITH THEIR FATHER.
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WHAT WERE SOME OF THE THINGS
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THAT YOU WENT THROUGH, BRIAN,
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WITH YOUR DAD THAT YOU KNOW THAT
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YOU WERE JUST BREAKING
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HIS HEART?
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- BRIAN: WELL, I'M VERY
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THANKFUL FOR MY MOM AND DAD WHO
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ADOPTED ME-- AND ARE
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MY MOM AND DAD.
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I'M VERY, VERY THANKFUL
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VERY, VERY, VERY, VERY BLESSED
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BY THEM, AND AT THE SAME TIME,
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THERE WAS A BIT OF A EMOTIONAL
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OUTAGE IN OUR RELATIONSHIP, AND
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I KEPT TRYING TO PROVE THAT I
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WAS A MAN, AND ONE DAY I WAS
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READING THE SCRIPTURES-- AND
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I'LL ASK YOU, ALTHOUGH YOU'VE
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READ THE BOOK, SO YOU ALREADY
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WHAT DO YOU THINK IF I ASKED THE
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AVERAGE PERSON IN THE AUDIENCE,
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"WHAT IS THE GREATEST DAY IN THE
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LIFE OF JESUS?"
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WHAT MIGHT YOU SAY?
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SOME MIGHT SAY, "OH, IT'S THE
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DAY YOU ROSE FROM THE DEAD."
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THAT WOULD BE A GREAT DAY.
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IT'S THE DAY HE PUT HIS HAND ON
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SOMEBODY, SPITTIN' MUD, AND PUT
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HIS HANDS ON THEIR EYES, AND
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THEY GOT HEALED OF BLINDNESS.
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THAT WOULD BE A GREAT DAY
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FOR SURE.
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I THINK THE MOST PROFOUND DAY IN
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JESUS' LIFE WAS THE DAY WHEN HE
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WAS BAPTIZED BECAUSE HE HEARS
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HIS DAD SAY TO HIM, "THIS IS MY
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SON IN WHOM I'M WELL PLEASED."
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[APPLAUSE]
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NOW, WHEN YOU READ THAT, WE'RE
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NOT REALLY CERTAIN IF THIS IS A
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LOUD VOICE THAT EVERYBODY
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CAN HEAR.
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WE'RE NOT CERTAIN OF THAT, BUT
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CHAPTERS LATER, WE HAVE THE
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TRANSFIGURATION WHERE THE SAME
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THING HAPPENS AGAIN.
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HE'S GOT PETER, JAMES, AND JOHN,
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AND ALL OF A SUDDEN, HE
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TRANSFORMS IN FRONT OF THEM TO
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SEE HIS HEAVENLY GLORY, AND THEN
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A VOICE COMES THAT WE KNOW FOR
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SURE EVERYBODY HEARS, AND IT'S
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THE EXACT SAME THING, "THIS IS
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MY SON IN WHOM
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I'M WELL PLEASED."
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I'VE LEARNED-- AND ANCIENT
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CULTURE SHOWS THIS--
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THAT WHEN A MALE IS NOT TOLD
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THAT HE IS A MAN, HE WILL KEEP
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TRYING TO PROVE THAT HE'S A MAN,
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AND THE WAY HE PROVES HE'S A MAN
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IS OFTENTIMES IN A VERY IMMATURE
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AND DESTRUCTIVE WAY.
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EVERY ANCIENT CULTURE HAS HAD A
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WAY THAT WE BRING A
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BOY INTO BEING A MAN.
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IT COULD BE YOU GO CLIMB A
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MOUNTAIN AND YOU BRING BACK A
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EAGLE'S FEATHER.
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IT COULD BE THAT YOU
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JUMP OVER A COW.
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IT COULD BE YOU SHOOT A DEER AND
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YOU DRINK BLOOD.
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I HAD A GUY INTERACT WITH--
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FIRST GENERATION FROM AFRICA-- A
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COUPLE YEARS AGO, HE SAID,
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"YEAH, IN MY VILLAGE, ALL THE
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MEN COME UP TO THE HOUSE, AND
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THEY SAY, 'WE NEED YOU OUT HERE
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RIGHT NOW,' AND MY MOM TRIED
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TO-- KEEPS ME BACK.
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SHE'S HOLDING ME BEHIND HER
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SKIRT, AND IF THEY CAN'T WOO YOU
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OUT, THEY LEAVE FOR A YEAR.
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THEY COME BACK, AND THIS TIME,
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IF MOM IS KEEPIN' ME BACK AND
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THEY CAN'T WOO ME OUT, THEY GO,
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AND THEY PHYSICALLY GRAB ME.
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THEY RIP ME OUT OF THE HOUSE.
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THEY TAKE ME UP THE HILL.
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THEY PERFORM A CEREMONY ON ME,
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AND WHEN I COME BACK, I'M A MAN,
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AND I BRING BACK EGGS TO THE
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FAMILY BECAUSE NOW THE ROLES
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HAVE CHANGED.
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I'M NO LONGER A BOY WHO'S JUST
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TAKE, TAKE, TAKING.
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I'M A MAN WHO'S SUPPOSED TO
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PROVIDE."
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WE DON'T HAVE THOSE KIND OF
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THINGS IN OUR CULTURE, AND SO
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WHAT WE DO, WE ALL WANNA KNOW,
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"AM I A MAN?"
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SO IT'S ALL KIND OF
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STEREOTYPICAL, OFTENTIMES,
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HARMFUL THINGS LIKE, "I'M GONNA
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DRIVE ME A BIG TRUCK"--
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[LAUGHTER]
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-- OR "I'M GONNA ABUSE ALCOHOL,"
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OR "I'M GOING TO TAKE ADVANTAGE
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OF WOMEN," AND WE'RE TRYING TO
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PROVE WE'RE MEN.
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THAT'S MY STORY, PASTOR CHOCO.
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I WASN'T DISCIPLINED, I WAS JUST
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ABUSING WOMEN, I WAS ABUSING
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ALCOHOL, AND LOOKING BACK, I WAS
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TRYING TO PROVE THAT I WAS A
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MAN, AND MUCH OF THE BEHAVIORS
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WE HAVE IN OUR CULTURE THAT
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WE'RE UPSET ABOUT ARE COMING
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FROM A VOID INSIDE OF US.
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WE'RE JUST EMPTY LITTLE BOYS.
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YOU CAN BE A 50-YEAR-OLD EMPTY
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LITTLE BOY IF YOU HAVEN'T HAD A
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FATHER FIGURE OR YOUR HEAVENLY
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FATHER, AND YOU HAVEN'T FELT HIM
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SAY, "SON, I'M PROUD OF YOU.
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YOU'RE DOIN' WELL."
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WE ALL NEED THAT,
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AND WHEN WE DON'T HAVE THAT,
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WE BETTER FIGURE OUT SOME
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WAY TO FILL THAT VOID.
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- WILFREDO: IT'S INTERESTING
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BECAUSE I WASN'T RAISED
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WITH A FATHER.
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MY FATHER ABANDONED ME WHEN I
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WAS EIGHT YEARS OLD IN THE CITY
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OF CHICAGO, AND THERE WERE SIX
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OF US IN MY FAMILY.
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BUT I GOT SAVED ABOUT THE AGE OF
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14, AND THEN HE BECOMES MY
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HEAVENLY FATHER.
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SO I UNDERSTAND HIS VOICE.
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SO YOU'RE TALKIN' ABOUT A
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RELATIONSHIP.
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SO I WAS ADOPTED BY HIM TO BE
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HIS SON AS WELL.
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BUT WHEN YOU TALK ABOUT YOUR
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RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR SON, WHEN
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HE WAS FIRST BORN, AND HE REALLY
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INITIATED YOU BY PEEIN' ON YOUR
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SHIRT OR PEEIN' ON YOUR ARM--
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[LAUGHTER]
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-- WHAT WAS THAT MOMENT?
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BECAUSE I'M A FATHER OF A SON.
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I'M A FATHER OF TWO GIRLS.
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WHAT WAS THAT MOMENT FOR YOU
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WHEN YOU FIRST SAW YOUR SON?
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- BRIAN: IT WAS DAUNTING, IT
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REALLY WAS.
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IT WAS DAUNTING.
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WHEN YOU HAVE A SON, IT'S
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DIFFERENT THAN HAVING
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A DAUGHTER.
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I'VE GOT TWO DAUGHTERS.
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THEY'RE AMAZING, THEY'RE
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POWERFUL, BUT I'LL TELL YA WHAT:
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WHEN YOU HAVE A SON, YOU HAVE
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SOMETHING THAT'S CAPABLE OF MORE
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DESTRUCTION IN THE WORLD.
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I LIKE DOGS.
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I'VE GOT BIG DOGS.
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YOU HAVE YOURSELF A NICE
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LITTLE POODLE.
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THEY'RE FINE.
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YOU DON'T HAVE TO WORRY ABOUT
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TRAINING THEM TOO MUCH 'CAUSE,
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EVEN IF THEY GET OUT OF HAND,
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YOU JUST YANK 'EM BY THE COLLAR,
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AND THEY'RE NOT GONNA
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HURT ANYBODY.
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WELL, WE HAVE A ROTTWEILER AND
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AN ENGLISH MASTIFF, AND YOU
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DON'T POUR INTO THAT LITTLE
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PUPPY, YOU COULD JACK SOMEBODY
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UP, RIGHT?
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SO, WHEN I HAD A SON, I'M LIKE,
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"OKAY, THIS GUY IS GONNA
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BE STRONG.
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HE'S GOING TO BE EITHER STRONGLY
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POSITIVE, OR HE'S GOING TO BE
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STRONGLY NEGATIVE.
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I'M GONNA MAKE SURE, ON MY
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WATCH, HE'S STRONGLY POSITIVE,
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AND, FORTUNATELY, THAT'S THE WAY
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IT IS FOR HIM, BUT MOST OF OUR
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YOUNG MALES ARE NOT GROWING UP
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WITH A TRAINER THAT BRINGS THEM
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UP, AND SO WE'RE LEFT TO PARENT
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ONE ANOTHER.
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WHEN YOU HAVE 16-YEAR-OLDS
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PARENTING ONE ANOTHER, OOH,
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THAT'S A RECIPE FOR DISASTER.
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ACTUALLY, IT'S A RECIPE FOR WHAT
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WE HAVE IN OUR CULTURE RIGHT
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NOW, WHICH IS NOT HEALTHY.
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NOW, IT'S AMAZING BECAUSE IN
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CULTURE WE LIVE IN,
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THE UNITED STATES,
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WHERE THERE'S AN ABSENCE
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FATHERS TAKING THEIR RIGHTFULLY
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PLACE-- AND I GO AROUND THE
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COUNTRY, AND I TELL PEOPLE THAT
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HOLLYWOOD HAS STRIPPED THE
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IDENTITY OF A MAN.
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WE DON'T EVEN KNOW WHO
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WE DON'T EVEN KNOW HOW TO ACT.
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SHALL WE OPEN THE DOOR?
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SHALL WE LET HER OPEN HER
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OWN DOOR?
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YOU KNOW, SO, AND ALL THAT HAS
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BEEN TAKEN AWAY, BUT IF WE GO
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BACK TO THE BIBLE, WHICH I THINK
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IS WHERE THIS BOOK IS COMING
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FROM, THIS IS WHERE THE GENESIS,
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"BE LIKE A MAN, ACT LIKE A MAN,"
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TELL US ABOUT THE FIRST MARK OF
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A MAN.
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- BRIAN: WELL, THERE'S FIVE OF
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THEM, AND, INTERESTINGLY, THESE
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FIVE MARKS-- ACTUALLY, THE
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SCRIPTURE I QUOTED EARLIER, 1
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CORINTHIANS 16:13-14, IF YOU
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READ THAT WHOLE SECTION, ALL
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FIVE OF THOSE MARKS ARE INSIDE
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OF THOSE VERSES, BUT THESE MARKS
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CAME ABOUT, REALLY, BECAUSE I
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LOOKED AT EVERY MAN I KNEW THAT
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I ASPIRED TO BE LIKE, EVERY MAN
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WHO WAS A FATHER FIGURE TO ME,
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EVEN THOUGH THEY DIDN'T KNOW IT,
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EVERY MAN I RESPECTED, AND ALL
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OF THEM HAD THESE FIVE THINGS.
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IN FACT, I HATE TO SAY-- THIS
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SOUNDS AWFUL ON A CHRISTIAN
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SHOW, BUT I'LL SAY IT: THERE'S A
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LOT OF CHRISTIAN GUYS WHO ARE IN
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THEIR 40s, WHO ARE NOT MEN, AND
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THERE'S ATHEISTS WHO ARE IN
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THEIR 40s, WHO ARE MEN.
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THIS IS NOT ABOUT
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RECEIVING JESUS.
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THIS IS NOT ABOUT HAVING, YOU
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KNOW, TEN COMMANDMENTS GOING
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THROUGH YOUR LIFE.
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THESE FIVE THINGS, ALL OF THEM
00:13:06.250 --> 00:13:07.270
ARE IN THE BIBLE.
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ALL OF THEM ARE IN EVERY
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BIBLICAL HERO, BUT YOU CAN BE A
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BELIEVER AND NOT HAVE THESE FIVE
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THINGS, AND SO HERE THEY ARE,
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ONE IS A MAN HAS A VISION, AND A
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BOY LIVES DAY TO DAY.
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WHEN I GREW UP, PART OF WHY IT
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TOOK ME SO LONG TO GRADUATE FROM
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COLLEGE IS BECAUSE I DIDN'T HAVE
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A VISION FOR WHAT SCHOOL WOULD
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I DIDN'T.
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I WAS IN SCHOOL BECAUSE MY
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PARENTS TOLD ME I HAD TO GO, AND
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THEY WERE PAYING FOR IT, THANK
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YOU, JESUS, THANK YOU--
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[LAUGHTER]
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-- WHICH IS ALSO WHY IT TOOK ME
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SEVEN YEARS, RIGHT?
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SOMEONE IS GONNA PAY YOU FOR
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YOUR SCHOOLING, YOU'RE GONNA
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DROP CLASSES LEFT AND RIGHT, AND
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IT TOOK ME SEVEN YEARS.
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I DIDN'T HAVE IN MY MIND A
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VISION OF "IF I GO TO SCHOOL,
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I'LL BE ABLE TO
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EARN MORE MONEY."
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A VISION IS ALL ABOUT SOMETHING
00:13:52.170 --> 00:13:54.100
THAT'S BEYOND WHERE YOU ARE
00:13:54.100 --> 00:13:55.270
RIGHT NOW, AND YOU DON'T HAVE
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IT RIGHT NOW BECAUSE IT'S TOO
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HARD TO HAVE IT RIGHT NOW.
00:14:00.080 --> 00:14:01.180
YOU HAVE TO DO THINGS YOU DON'T
00:14:01.180 --> 00:14:03.170
WANNA DO RIGHT NOW TO GET THINGS
00:14:03.170 --> 00:14:05.230
YOU WANNA GET LATER.
00:14:06.130 --> 00:14:09.130
A BOY CANNOT THINK ABOUT
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THAT AT ALL.
00:14:11.010 --> 00:14:12.020
A BOY DOESN'T WANNA HAVE A JOB.
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A BOY DOESN'T WANNA STUDY 'CAUSE
00:14:13.100 --> 00:14:15.070
HE JUST WANTS THE EASIEST DAY
00:14:15.070 --> 00:14:16.200
TODAY, WHEREAS A MAN SAYS, "NO,
00:14:16.200 --> 00:14:17.270
THERE'S SOMETHIN' OUT THERE,
00:14:17.270 --> 00:14:19.010
WHATEVER THAT THING IS."
00:14:19.010 --> 00:14:19.260
YOUR VISION COULD BE
00:14:19.260 --> 00:14:20.150
STARTING A BUSINESS,
00:14:20.150 --> 00:14:21.180
YOUR VISION COULD BE
00:14:21.180 --> 00:14:23.160
"I'M GONNA BE THE FIRST MALE IN
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MY FAMILY THAT DOESN'T
00:14:24.080 --> 00:14:25.140
GET A DIVORCE."
00:14:25.140 --> 00:14:27.080
YOUR VISION COULD BE
00:14:27.080 --> 00:14:27.240
"I'M GONNA BE A DAD TO THIS
00:14:27.240 --> 00:14:29.270
LITTLE ONE EVEN THOUGH I DIDN'T
00:14:29.270 --> 00:14:31.180
HAVE A DAD TO MY LITTLE ONE."
00:14:31.180 --> 00:14:33.020
BY THE WAY, DADS, YOU CAN START
00:14:33.020 --> 00:14:35.010
WHEN YOUR KID'S 12, IF YOU
00:14:35.010 --> 00:14:37.210
HAVEN'T DONE IT YET.
00:14:37.210 --> 00:14:38.200
IT IS NEVER TOO LATE.
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[APPLAUSE]
00:14:39.190 --> 00:14:42.150
YOU KNOW, YOUR VISION COULD BE
00:14:42.150 --> 00:14:43.060
"I'M GONNA BE THE FIRST OF MY
00:14:43.060 --> 00:14:43.270
FAMILY NOT TO BE AN ALCOHOLIC."
00:14:43.270 --> 00:14:44.190
ANYTHING.
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IT'S JUST SOMETHING OUT THERE
00:14:45.000 --> 00:14:47.140
THAT'S DEFINING MY
00:14:47.140 --> 00:14:48.200
CHOICES TODAY.
00:14:48.200 --> 00:14:49.180
- WILFREDO: IT'S INTERESTING
00:14:49.180 --> 00:14:50.120
ABOUT VISION BECAUSE THAT'S THE
00:14:50.120 --> 00:14:52.030
FIRST CHAPTER OF THE MARKED MAN,
00:14:52.030 --> 00:14:52.250
OF HAVING A VISION, AND THE
00:14:52.250 --> 00:14:54.150
BIBLE SPEAKS ABOUT THAT, RIGHT?
00:14:54.150 --> 00:14:55.200
"WHERE THERE IS NO VISION, THE
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PEOPLE PERISH."
00:14:56.160 --> 00:14:57.120
BUT THE WORD "VISION"
00:14:57.120 --> 00:14:58.250
IN ITS ORIGINAL TEXT,
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IT MEANT, "WHERE THERE IS NO
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WORD, THE PEOPLE PERISH," AND
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THIS IS A WORD FOR TODAY ABOUT
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MEN TAKING THEIR RIGHTFUL PLACE
00:15:06.020 --> 00:15:08.090
AND HAVING A VISION.
00:15:08.090 --> 00:15:11.020
SO IN EVERY OCTOBER, IN MY
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FAMILY-- AND, YOU KNOW, THIS IS
00:15:12.190 --> 00:15:14.140
THROUGH THE HOLY SPIRIT 'CAUSE I
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WOULD SIT DOWN WITH MY FAMILY,
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AND I'D SAY, "BEFORE WE REACH
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THE FOLLOWING YEAR,
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HERE'S THE VISION.
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HERE'S WHAT WE NEED TO DO: THIS
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IS HOW MUCH WE WANNA SAVE, THIS
00:15:22.110 --> 00:15:23.160
IS WHERE WE WANNA GO
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ON VACATION."
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THIS WAS IN OCTOBER,
00:15:25.060 --> 00:15:26.070
PLANNING FOR NEXT YEAR.
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- BRIAN: WELL, YOU'RE BETTER
00:15:27.150 --> 00:15:28.060
THAN ME.
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I'M ALREADY FEELING GUILT-RIDDEN
00:15:28.160 --> 00:15:29.080
ALREADY-- I AM.
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[LAUGHTER]
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I FEEL LIKE A LOSER.
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GO AHEAD, KEEP TALKING.
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[LAUGHTER]
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- WILFREDO: WELL, THIS WAS--
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I MEAN, WHEN YOU TALKING ABOUT
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LOOKING TOWARDS THE FUTURE,
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THAT'S WHAT A MAN DOES, RIGHT?
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THIS WHAT WE DO.
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WE LOOK TOWARDS THE FUTURE, AND
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WE TAKE RESPONSIBILITY, AND IF
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YOU LOOK TOWARDS THE FUTURE--
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YOU DID SOMETHIN'.
00:15:44.130 --> 00:15:45.210
WE'RE GONNA SEE A VIDEO OF A
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CHANGED LIFE OF A YOUNG MAN,
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AN INMATE.
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AN INMATE.
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AND THEN, AFTER WE COME BACK
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FROM THE VIDEO, I WANT YOU TO
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SPEAK IN TO THAT.
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- BRIAN: YEAH, WELL, EVEN--
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LET'S DESCRIBE HOW
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THIS HAPPENED.
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- WILFREDO: YEAH, WHAT THEY'RE
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ABOUT TO SEE.
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- BRIAN: SO THERE'S A JUDGE
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THAT HAS FOUND THAT THE MOST
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EFFECTIVE THING THAT HE'S BEEN
00:16:02.030 --> 00:16:03.110
ABLE TO DO WITH ALL THE
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JUVENILES WHO COME THROUGH HIS
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COURT SYSTEM, ONCE THEY COME IN,
00:16:05.160 --> 00:16:07.140
IS TO GIVE THEM THIS BOOK, AND
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HE HAS 'EM WRITE A BOOK REPORT
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ON IT, AND IT'S JUST TAKEN OFF,
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AND HE'S TOLD US, OF ALL THE
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THINGS THAT HE'S DONE, HE'S
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NEVER SEEN ANYTHING WORK AS WELL
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WITH YOUNG, HURTING MALES
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THAN THIS.
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AND SO I DECIDED, "I'M GONNA
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START MEETING SOME OF
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THESE KIDS."
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AND SO THIS IS ONE OF
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THOSE KIDS THAT HAD READ MY
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BOOK, DID A REPORT ON IT, AND
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HIS LIFE IS DIFFERENT, AND IT'S
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PRETTY COOL.
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- WILFREDO: AWESOME.
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- LEIF: DEAR BRIAN, FIRST
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OFF, I WANNA THANK YOU FOR
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WRITING "THE FIVE MARKS OF MAN."
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I WANTED TO TELL YOU THAT I HAVE
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CHANGED A LOT SINCE I FIRST READ
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THE BOOK.
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BEFORE, I NEVER HAD A VISION FOR
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ALMOST ANYTHING.
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I WOULD DO WHATEVER I WANTED,
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NOT KNOWING OR THINKING ABOUT
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THE OUTCOME ON HOW IT COULD
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AFFECT ME AND MY FAMILY AND
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MY FRIENDS.
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NOW MY VISION IS TO BE A MAN,
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BUT NOT JUST ANY MAN-- THE BEST
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MAN I CAN BE.
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IN THE PAST, I THOUGHT I WANTED
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TO BE INDEPENDENT AND DO
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EVERYTHING BY MYSELF.
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I HAVE LEARNED THAT ACCEPTING
00:17:13.130 --> 00:17:16.110
HELP IS NOT A SIGN OF WEAKNESS,
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BUT A SIGN OF MATURITY.
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TODAY AT COURT I CRIED WHEN I
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HUGGED MY MOM.
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I CRIED WHEN I HAD TALKED TO
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MY ATTORNEY.
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I COULD BARELY SPEAK BECAUSE I
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WAS CRYING SO MUCH.
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I REALIZE I NEED TO SHOW
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MORE EMOTION.
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WHEN I WAS SERVING MYSELF, I DID
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WHAT I WANTED, AND I STOLE GUNS,
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I SOLD DRUGS.
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I STOLE AND MANIPULATED.
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NOW I WANNA GET OUT AND HELP
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OTHERS NOT HURT OTHERS.
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WHEN I WAS A BOY, I HURT OTHERS
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VERY MUCH WHO WERE VERY CLOSE TO
00:17:42.010 --> 00:17:44.090
ME, AND I BETRAYED THEM, WHEN
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NOW I WILL PROTECT ANYTHING THAT
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WOULD TRY TO HURT THEM.
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- BRIAN: IF I HAD YOUR PARENTS'
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SITUATION, I HAD YOUR SITUATION,
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I MIGHT BE EXACTLY LIKE YOU-- I
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DON'T KNOW.
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I DON'T KNOW.
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- LEIF: I'M JUST TRYIN' TO GET
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BETTER, AND I'M TRYIN' TO BUILD
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A BETTER RELATIONSHIP WITH
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MY MOM.
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- BRIAN: BROTHER, YOUR BEST
00:18:01.070 --> 00:18:02.030
DAYS ARE AHEAD OF YOU.
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- LEIF: YEAH.
00:18:03.160 --> 00:18:03.290
- BRIAN: GOD DOES NOT-- HE DOES
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NOT JUDGE YOU ON THE PAST.
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HE IS SO OVER THE PAST.
00:18:07.040 --> 00:18:07.220
IT'S OVER.
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AS FAR AS GOD'S CONCERNED, THAT
00:18:09.060 --> 00:18:10.050
STUFF IS DONE.
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YOU MIGHT THINK ABOUT IT.
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GOD DOESN'T THINK ABOUT IT.
00:18:12.140 --> 00:18:14.050
HE'S ABOUT YOUR FUTURE.
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- LEIF: YEAH.
00:18:15.290 --> 00:18:17.070
- BRIAN: SO YOU GOT A GREAT ONE
00:18:17.070 --> 00:18:18.090
AHEAD OF YOU, BROTHER.
00:18:18.090 --> 00:18:19.230
YOU'RE A GOOD MAN.
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- LEIF: THANKS.
00:18:20.160 --> 00:18:21.180
- BRIAN: YOU ARE.
00:18:21.180 --> 00:18:22.030
THANKS, MAN.
00:18:22.030 --> 00:18:22.280
HEY, YOU MIND IF I PRAY FOR YOU,
00:18:22.280 --> 00:18:23.200
MAN?
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- LEIF: YEAH.
00:18:23.280 --> 00:18:24.110
- BRIAN: HERE, GIVE ME YOUR
00:18:24.110 --> 00:18:25.080
HAND RIGHT HERE IF
00:18:25.080 --> 00:18:25.230
YOU DON'T MIND.
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MM, GOD, I THANK YOU FOR LEIF
00:18:26.210 --> 00:18:28.200
AND WHAT YOU'RE DOING IN
00:18:28.200 --> 00:18:31.000
HIS LIFE.
00:18:31.000 --> 00:18:32.140
YOU ARE DOING SOMETHING IN
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HIS LIFE.
00:18:33.030 --> 00:18:34.200
YOU'RE DOING SOMETHING
00:18:34.200 --> 00:18:35.070
SIGNIFICANT AND PROFOUND.
00:18:35.070 --> 00:18:37.030
BRING A NEW THING OVER HIM
00:18:37.030 --> 00:18:38.190
RIGHT NOW.
00:18:38.190 --> 00:18:40.110
SPIRIT, I PRAY YOU'D WASH OVER
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HIM, POUR YOUR GRACE ON HIM.
00:18:41.040 --> 00:18:42.260
HELP HIM TO FEEL.
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HELP HIM TO FEEL YOUR
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FORGIVENESS AND THE HOPE YOU
00:18:45.090 --> 00:18:47.230
HAVE FOR HIS FUTURE.
00:18:47.230 --> 00:18:48.100
IT'S A GREAT FUTURE, GOD.
00:18:48.100 --> 00:18:49.090
I CAN SEE IT.
00:18:49.090 --> 00:18:50.150
I PRAY THESE THINGS IN YOUR
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NAME, JESUS, AMEN.
00:18:51.060 --> 00:18:52.080
- LEIF: AMEN.
00:18:52.080 --> 00:18:53.220
- BRIAN: DUDE, YOU'RE GONNA
00:18:53.220 --> 00:18:54.150
BE FINE.
00:18:54.150 --> 00:18:56.020
THANKFUL FOR YOU.
00:18:56.020 --> 00:18:57.110
- LEIF: THANKFUL FOR YOU TOO.
00:18:57.110 --> 00:18:58.020
- WILFREDO: PRAISE THE LORD.
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WHAT AN AWESOME, AWESOME STORY,
00:19:35.050 --> 00:19:35.270
AND THINGS LIKE THIS DON'T GET
00:19:35.270 --> 00:19:38.150
SHARED ON OTHER NETWORKS OF WHAT
00:19:38.150 --> 00:19:40.150
GOD IS DOING.
00:19:40.150 --> 00:19:42.100
ALL WE HEAR IS ABOUT THE
00:19:42.100 --> 00:19:43.070
VIOLENCE AND THINGS, AND HOW BAD
00:19:43.070 --> 00:19:44.190
THE COUNTRY IS.
00:19:44.190 --> 00:19:46.180
MEANWHILE, THERE ARE YOUNG MEN
00:19:46.180 --> 00:19:48.080
IN PRISON WHERE LIVES ARE BEING
00:19:48.080 --> 00:19:50.200
TRANSFORMED.
00:19:50.200 --> 00:19:52.230
AND PRAISE GOD FOR YOUR BOOK
00:19:52.230 --> 00:19:53.220
THAT'S CHALLENGING.
00:19:53.220 --> 00:19:55.100
WE'RE HERE WITH PASTOR BRIAN,
00:19:55.100 --> 00:19:57.070
AND HE'S SHARING THE BOOK THAT
00:19:57.070 --> 00:19:58.270
GOD HAS PLACED IN HIS HEART,
00:19:58.270 --> 00:20:00.140
AND WHAT A TIMELY BOOK.
00:20:00.140 --> 00:20:02.010
NOW, WE TALKED ABOUT CHAPTER
00:20:02.010 --> 00:20:03.260
ONE, WHICH IS ABOUT VISION, AND
00:20:03.260 --> 00:20:05.060
WE WANNA AT LEAST JUMP TO
00:20:05.060 --> 00:20:06.030
ANOTHER CHAPTER.
00:20:06.030 --> 00:20:07.010
AND I LIKE THE STORY ABOUT THE
00:20:07.010 --> 00:20:09.150
LONE WOLF--
00:20:09.150 --> 00:20:12.110
[LAUGHTER]
00:20:12.110 --> 00:20:13.230
-- BECAUSE THAT'S HOW-- MEN ARE
00:20:13.230 --> 00:20:15.120
LIKE THAT.
00:20:15.120 --> 00:20:16.060
THEY JUST DON'T LIKE TO-- THEY
00:20:16.060 --> 00:20:17.060
JUST WANNA BE THE LONE RANGER,
00:20:17.060 --> 00:20:19.090
BUT THEY DON'T KNOW THAT THE
00:20:19.090 --> 00:20:20.150
LONE RANGER HAD TONTO, YOU KNOW?
00:20:20.150 --> 00:20:22.150
- BRIAN: THAT'S RIGHT.
00:20:22.150 --> 00:20:23.060
- WILFREDO: AND SO TALK TO US
00:20:23.060 --> 00:20:23.270
ABOUT THAT.
00:20:23.270 --> 00:20:24.110
- BRIAN: YEAH, WELL,
00:20:24.110 --> 00:20:24.280
THESE FIVE THINGS ARE EQUALLY
00:20:28.060 --> 00:20:28.270
APPLICABLE TO WOMEN AS WELL AS
00:20:28.270 --> 00:20:29.180
MEN.
00:20:29.180 --> 00:20:30.040
THEY REALLY ARE.
00:20:30.040 --> 00:20:31.050
WE JUST FIND THAT GIRLS
00:20:31.050 --> 00:20:34.010
NATURALLY BECOME WOMEN MORE SO
00:20:34.010 --> 00:20:35.200
AND THESE ARE FIVE THINGS,
00:20:39.080 --> 00:20:40.100
THEY'RE DEFINITELY DEFINING
00:20:40.100 --> 00:20:41.120
THINGS WHERE MEN ARE
00:20:41.120 --> 00:20:42.030
CHALLENGED IN.
00:20:42.030 --> 00:20:44.080
THIS ONE IS A PERFECT EXAMPLE,
00:20:44.080 --> 00:20:45.020
AND WOMEN TEND TO BE MUCH BETTER
00:20:45.020 --> 00:20:46.120
AT RELATIONSHIPS.
00:20:46.120 --> 00:20:48.220
I'M SURE-- MY WIFE, THAT'S
00:20:48.220 --> 00:20:49.110
THE CASE.
00:20:49.110 --> 00:20:50.250
IS THAT THE CASE WITH YOU AND
00:20:50.250 --> 00:20:51.160
YOUR WIFE?
00:20:51.160 --> 00:20:51.270
- WILFREDO: YEAH, FOR SURE,
00:20:51.270 --> 00:20:52.170
FOR SURE.
00:20:52.170 --> 00:20:53.110
- BRIAN: WOMEN GET THE
00:20:53.110 --> 00:20:55.030
COMMUNITY-EXPERIENCE THING MORE
00:20:55.030 --> 00:20:56.130
AND THE FRIEND THING MORE-- MEN,
00:20:56.130 --> 00:20:57.170
NOT SO MUCH.
00:20:57.170 --> 00:20:58.230
WE'RE VERY-- WE'RE UNCOMFORTABLE
00:20:58.230 --> 00:21:00.100
SHARING OUR FEELINGS.
00:21:00.100 --> 00:21:01.190
WE'RE UNCOMFORTABLE BEING AROUND
00:21:01.190 --> 00:21:02.110
OTHER PEOPLE.
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IN FACT, YOU'LL HEAR MEN SAY
00:21:03.050 --> 00:21:04.140
PROUDLY, "WELL, I'M KIND OF A
00:21:04.140 --> 00:21:05.120
LONE WOLF.
00:21:05.120 --> 00:21:07.060
I'M KIND OF--" I DON'T KNOW IF
00:21:07.060 --> 00:21:08.010
YOU'VE EVER MET A LONE WOLF.
00:21:08.010 --> 00:21:08.210
I HAVE.
00:21:08.210 --> 00:21:09.110
I MET A GUY A NUMBER OF
00:21:09.110 --> 00:21:10.260
YEARS AGO--
00:21:10.260 --> 00:21:11.090
THIS IS IN THE BOOK--
00:21:11.090 --> 00:21:12.210
IN MONTANA, WHO TRAINS WOLVES.
00:21:13.030 --> 00:21:16.030
HE RECAPTURES WOLVES AND
00:21:16.030 --> 00:21:17.270
CAPTURES WOLVES FROM SOCIETY.
00:21:17.270 --> 00:21:18.270
HE ALSO HAS A BEAR.
00:21:18.270 --> 00:21:20.010
HE DOES THINGS FOR HOLLYWOOD,
00:21:20.010 --> 00:21:21.260
AND HE POINTED TO THIS ONE LONE
00:21:21.260 --> 00:21:22.180
WOLF, WHO WAS IN A CAGE, THAT
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THE OTHER WOLVES DIDN'T WANT
00:21:24.170 --> 00:21:26.140
AROUND, AND THIS WOLF DIDN'T
00:21:26.140 --> 00:21:27.110
WANNA BE AROUND THEM.
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HE SAID, "YOU KNOW WHAT YOU GOT
00:21:28.050 --> 00:21:28.270
THERE, RIGHT THERE?"
00:21:28.270 --> 00:21:29.130
I SAID, "NO, WHAT'S THAT?"
00:21:29.130 --> 00:21:30.020
HE SAID, "THAT'S A LONE WOLF."
00:21:30.020 --> 00:21:30.240
I SAID, "OOH, REALLY,
00:21:30.240 --> 00:21:32.020
A LONE WOLF?"
00:21:32.020 --> 00:21:32.220
'CAUSE IT SOUNDS SO, LIKE, COOL
00:21:32.220 --> 00:21:33.140
AND SEXY: "OOH, LONE WOLF,"
00:21:33.140 --> 00:21:34.190
YOU KNOW?
00:21:34.190 --> 00:21:35.230
[LAUGHTER]
00:21:35.230 --> 00:21:37.030
HE SAID, "LET ME TELL YA
00:21:37.030 --> 00:21:37.210
SOMETHIN' ABOUT LONE WOLVES."
00:21:37.210 --> 00:21:38.120
HE SAID,
00:21:38.120 --> 00:21:40.160
"LONE WOLVES ARE SMALLER
00:21:40.160 --> 00:21:41.040
THAN OTHER WOLVES, AND THEY DIE
00:21:41.040 --> 00:21:42.040
SOONER THAN OTHER WOLVES."
00:21:42.040 --> 00:21:43.120
- WILFREDO: COME ON, SAY IT,
00:21:43.120 --> 00:21:44.200
COME ON.
00:21:44.200 --> 00:21:45.030
- BRIAN: I SAID, "WHY'S THAT?"
00:21:45.030 --> 00:21:46.000
HE SAID, "BECAUSE WOLVES
00:21:46.000 --> 00:21:47.050
ARE MADE TO RUN IN PACKS.
00:21:47.050 --> 00:21:48.250
IF THEY'RE NOT IN A PACK,
00:21:48.250 --> 00:21:49.180
THEY CAN'T BRING DOWN AN ELK.
00:21:49.180 --> 00:21:51.020
THEY CAN'T BRING DOWN--
00:21:51.020 --> 00:21:51.250
THEY CAN'T EAT AS MUCH."
00:21:51.250 --> 00:21:53.180
AND SO A WOLF THAT
00:21:53.180 --> 00:21:55.080
DOESN'T COME INTO A PACK
00:21:55.080 --> 00:21:56.070
SETTING IS ALWAYS SMALLER,
00:21:56.070 --> 00:21:57.120
ALWAYS WEAKER, ALWAYS DIES
00:21:57.120 --> 00:21:58.220
SOONER, AND THAT'S WHAT'S
00:21:58.220 --> 00:21:59.190
HAPPENING IN OUR
00:21:59.190 --> 00:22:00.220
MASCULINE CULTURE.
00:22:00.220 --> 00:22:02.050
WE DON'T HAVE
00:22:02.050 --> 00:22:03.250
GENUINE FRIENDSHIPS.
00:22:03.250 --> 00:22:05.080
WE JUST WANNA, LIKE, TOUCH A GUY
00:22:05.080 --> 00:22:06.080
AND, LIKE, "HOW'RE YOU DOIN'?"
00:22:06.080 --> 00:22:07.050
AND TALK ABOUT THE PROBLEMS OF
00:22:07.050 --> 00:22:08.150
MEN ARE TEAM PLAYERS.
00:22:10.260 --> 00:22:12.020
BOYS WANNA BE MVP.
00:22:12.020 --> 00:22:13.140
THAT'S THE BIG IDEA.
00:22:13.140 --> 00:22:14.000
MEN ARE TEAM PLAYERS.
00:22:14.000 --> 00:22:15.220
BOYS WANNA BE ALL-TIME
00:22:15.220 --> 00:22:17.060
THEY WANT ALL THE ATTENTION
00:22:20.130 --> 00:22:21.030
ON THEMSELVES.
00:22:21.030 --> 00:22:21.230
THEY'RE NOT ABOUT THE TEAM, AND
00:22:21.230 --> 00:22:22.150
MEN ARE ABOUT A TEAM.
00:22:22.240 --> 00:22:25.240
- WILFREDO: AND YOU THINK ABOUT
00:22:25.240 --> 00:22:26.270
"TEAM PLAYER," IN THE BIBLE,
00:22:26.270 --> 00:22:29.010
I MEAN, JESUS, HE TRAVELED
00:22:29.010 --> 00:22:29.240
IN A PACK.
00:22:29.240 --> 00:22:30.060
- BRIAN: WELL, AND
00:22:30.060 --> 00:22:31.020
EVEN BEFORE... JESUS,
00:22:31.020 --> 00:22:33.130
JESUS IS ALWAYS THE ANSWER.
00:22:33.130 --> 00:22:34.290
WE KNOW THAT, BUT EVEN BEFORE
00:22:34.290 --> 00:22:35.200
JESUS, WE GOT ADAM AND EVE,
00:22:35.200 --> 00:22:36.100
RIGHT?
00:22:36.100 --> 00:22:37.250
THE GREATEST TEAM ANY MAN WILL
00:22:37.250 --> 00:22:39.170
EVER BE ON IS THE TEAM OF
00:22:39.170 --> 00:22:41.220
HIS MARRIAGE.
00:22:41.220 --> 00:22:43.040
THAT'S THE GREATEST TEAM HE'LL
00:22:43.040 --> 00:22:43.250
EVER BE ON--
00:22:43.250 --> 00:22:45.230
[CHEERS AND APPLAUSE]
00:22:45.230 --> 00:22:47.260
-- BECAUSE THAT'S HOW GOD
00:22:47.260 --> 00:22:48.150
CREATED US.
00:22:48.150 --> 00:22:50.060
GOD SAID IN GENESIS, "IT IS NOT
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GOOD FOR THE MAN TO BE ALONE,"
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RIGHT?
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AND WHAT DO WE HAVE IN OUR
00:22:54.000 --> 00:22:55.010
CULTURE TODAY?
00:22:55.010 --> 00:22:55.170
WE HAVE MEN PUSHING OFF
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MARRIAGE, PUSHING IT LATER AND
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LATER AND LATER OR NOT EVEN
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WANTING MARRIAGE AT ALL.
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THIS IS OUR LONE RANGER NATURE.
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WE'RE WANTING TO PLAY, WE'RE
00:23:04.010 --> 00:23:05.040
WANTING TO BE BOYS, WE DON'T
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THE GREATEST THING A MAN CAN DO
00:23:08.080 --> 00:23:09.000
FOR HIS FINANCIAL FUTURE IS TO
00:23:09.000 --> 00:23:09.230
GET MARRIED AND STAY MARRIED.
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TRUE.
00:23:10.140 --> 00:23:13.010
THE GREATEST THING A MAN CAN DO
00:23:13.010 --> 00:23:13.230
FOR HIS FINANCIAL FUTURE IS TO
00:23:13.230 --> 00:23:15.010
GET MARRIED AND STAY MARRIED
00:23:15.010 --> 00:23:17.040
BECAUSE YOU HAVE A TEAMMATE.
00:23:17.040 --> 00:23:18.110
YOU HAVE SOMEONE WHO CAN BE
00:23:18.110 --> 00:23:19.090
ALONGSIDE WITH YOU, AND SO IT'S
00:23:19.090 --> 00:23:21.240
NOT JUST ADAM AND EVE.
00:23:21.240 --> 00:23:22.290
IT'S JUST AS YOU SAID,
00:23:22.290 --> 00:23:24.160
I MEAN, JESUS HAS GOT 12 GUYS
00:23:26.170 --> 00:23:27.080
AROUND HIM, AND NOT EVERYONE'S A
00:23:27.080 --> 00:23:28.280
WINNER.
00:23:28.280 --> 00:23:30.080
YOU KNOW, HE WAS "1 FOR 12."
00:23:30.080 --> 00:23:31.090
ONE OF 'EM WAS A LOSER, RIGHT?
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[LAUGHTER]
00:23:32.000 --> 00:23:32.190
WE'RE GONNA HAVE PEOPLE IN OUR
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RELATIONAL CIRCLES THAT AREN'T
00:23:34.200 --> 00:23:35.220
GOING TO BE ALL THAT GREAT.
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JESUS, THE HOLY SPIRIT, GOD--
00:23:37.080 --> 00:23:40.070
GOD EXISTS IN TRINITY.
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WHO ARE WE TO THINK THAT I CAN
00:23:42.060 --> 00:23:44.010
EXIST ON MY OWN?
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I CANNOT.
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- WILFREDO: WOW, THAT'S A GOOD
00:23:46.100 --> 00:23:47.140
WORD, AND I LIKE WHAT YOU SAID
00:23:47.140 --> 00:23:48.050
IN YOUR BOOK, BRIAN.
00:23:48.050 --> 00:23:48.210
YOU TALKED ABOUT HOW YOUR WIFE
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IS NOT YOUR BEST FRIEND, RIGHT?
00:23:51.010 --> 00:23:53.180
BECAUSE YOU SAY IN YOUR BOOK
00:23:53.180 --> 00:23:56.010
BECAUSE YOU'RE ONE.
00:23:56.010 --> 00:23:58.090
IF YOU HAVE A BEST FRIEND, THEN
00:23:58.090 --> 00:23:59.260
THAT'S TWO PEOPLE AND HOW, IN A
00:23:59.260 --> 00:24:01.140
MARRIAGE, YOU SHOULD BE ONE, AND
00:24:01.140 --> 00:24:03.000
I KIND OF-- I STARTED-- THAT'S
00:24:03.000 --> 00:24:04.020
PRETTY DEEP.
00:24:04.020 --> 00:24:04.160
EXPOUND ON THAT A LITTLE BIT.
00:24:04.160 --> 00:24:05.190
- BRIAN: YEAH, WELL, WHEN
00:24:05.190 --> 00:24:06.260
MARRIAGE HAPPENS, YOU'RE ONE
00:24:06.260 --> 00:24:08.280
PERSON.
00:24:08.280 --> 00:24:10.210
YOU'RE NOT TWO PEOPLE WHO ARE IN
00:24:10.210 --> 00:24:12.020
PARTNERSHIP.
00:24:12.020 --> 00:24:13.020
YOU ARE ONE.
00:24:13.020 --> 00:24:15.040
WHEN I'VE DONE WEDDINGS,
00:24:15.040 --> 00:24:17.030
SOMETIMES YOU HAVE SOME
00:24:17.030 --> 00:24:19.060
ENLIGHTENED PEOPLE WHO COME IN
00:24:19.060 --> 00:24:19.270
AND SAY, "NOW WE'RE GONNA DO THE
00:24:19.270 --> 00:24:21.090
UNITY CANDLE, AND WE'RE GONNA
00:24:21.090 --> 00:24:22.000
HAVE THE CANDLE, AND WE'RE GONNA
00:24:22.000 --> 00:24:23.140
PUT IT IN THE MIDDLE," AND THEN
00:24:23.140 --> 00:24:24.060
SOMETIMES THE WEDDING
00:24:24.060 --> 00:24:25.080
COORDINATOR, WHO WILL SAY, "AND
00:24:25.080 --> 00:24:26.170
THEN, ONCE YOU LIGHT THE MIDDLE
00:24:26.170 --> 00:24:28.140
CANDLE, THE UNITY CANDLE, THEN
00:24:28.140 --> 00:24:29.270
YOU PUT YOUR CANDLES BACK ON THE
00:24:29.270 --> 00:24:31.060
SIDES--" AND I'VE HEARD 'EM SAY
00:24:31.060 --> 00:24:32.150
THIS-- "BECAUSE YOU'RE STILL AN
00:24:32.150 --> 00:24:34.130
INDIVIDUAL, BUT NOW YOU ALSO
00:24:34.130 --> 00:24:35.070
ARE ONE."
00:24:35.070 --> 00:24:37.290
AND WHEN I HEAR THAT,
00:24:37.290 --> 00:24:38.180
I SAID, "NO, NO, NO, NO."
00:24:38.180 --> 00:24:40.070
ANYBODY I'M DOIN', IF YOU'RE
00:24:40.070 --> 00:24:41.070
GONNA DO A UNITY CANDLE,
00:24:41.070 --> 00:24:42.260
YOU'RE GONNA BLOW THOSE
00:24:42.260 --> 00:24:44.120
INDIVIDUAL CANDLES OUT
00:24:44.120 --> 00:24:45.090
BECAUSE MARRIAGE IS ABOUT "I AM
00:24:45.090 --> 00:24:46.210
NO LONGER AN INDIVIDUAL
00:24:46.210 --> 00:24:47.230
ANY LONGER.
00:24:47.230 --> 00:24:50.020
I AM ONE.
00:24:50.020 --> 00:24:51.130
GOD LOOKS AT ME-- ONE."
00:24:51.130 --> 00:24:52.250
[APPLAUSE]
00:24:52.250 --> 00:24:54.110
SO TO CALL MY WIFE, "MY BEST
00:24:54.110 --> 00:24:56.120
FRIEND," IS LIKE TO CALL MY
00:24:56.120 --> 00:24:57.220
HEART, "MY FAVORITE ORGAN,"
00:24:57.220 --> 00:24:58.210
YOU KNOW?
00:24:58.210 --> 00:25:00.070
[LAUGHTER]
00:25:00.070 --> 00:25:00.290
I'M ONE.
00:25:00.290 --> 00:25:01.230
SO I THINK IT'S UNHEALTHY
00:25:01.230 --> 00:25:02.120
THAT WAY.
00:25:02.120 --> 00:25:04.170
SECONDLY, THERE ARE SOME THINGS
00:25:04.170 --> 00:25:05.250
THAT I WILL TALK TO MY GUY
00:25:05.250 --> 00:25:07.240
FRIENDS ABOUT THAT, NOT THAT I
00:25:07.240 --> 00:25:10.040
NECESSARILY WOULDN'T TALK TO MY
00:25:10.040 --> 00:25:11.030
WIFE ABOUT, BUT THAT SHE JUST
00:25:11.030 --> 00:25:11.240
WOULDN'T GET.
00:25:11.240 --> 00:25:12.070
SHE DOESN'T UNDERSTAND.
00:25:12.070 --> 00:25:14.000
THERE ARE SOME THINGS ABOUT
00:25:14.000 --> 00:25:15.000
BEING A MAN THAT ONLY A MAN WILL
00:25:15.000 --> 00:25:16.180
FULLY UNDERSTAND AND BE ABLE TO
00:25:16.180 --> 00:25:18.010
HELP ME WITH, SO I LIKE TO
00:25:18.010 --> 00:25:19.100
RESERVE "BEST FRIEND" KIND OF
00:25:19.100 --> 00:25:21.150
LANGUAGE FOR MEN, THOUGH EVEN
00:25:22.110 --> 00:25:25.110
FOR MYSELF, I DON'T
00:25:25.110 --> 00:25:25.280
HAVE A BEST--
00:25:25.280 --> 00:25:26.120
DO YOU HAVE A BEST FRIEND?
00:25:26.120 --> 00:25:27.210
- WILFREDO: YES.
00:25:27.210 --> 00:25:28.260
YOU'RE ASKING ME--
00:25:28.260 --> 00:25:29.110
- BRIAN: YEAH, DO YOU HAVE A--
00:25:29.110 --> 00:25:30.240
- WILFREDO: OH, YES,
00:25:30.240 --> 00:25:31.240
A BEST FRIEND.
00:25:31.240 --> 00:25:32.140
FOR 40 YEARS, HE'S BEEN
00:25:32.140 --> 00:25:33.110
MY BUDDY.
00:25:33.110 --> 00:25:34.030
- BRIAN: MOST GUYS ARE NOT
00:25:34.030 --> 00:25:34.230
LIKE THAT.
00:25:34.230 --> 00:25:36.030
I'M JEALOUS.
00:25:36.030 --> 00:25:36.150
MOST GUYS CAN SAY, "WELL, I'VE
00:25:36.150 --> 00:25:37.210
GOT, LIKE, THREE OR FOUR GUYS,"
00:25:37.210 --> 00:25:39.110
AND THAT'S OKAY.
00:25:39.110 --> 00:25:39.250
IF YOU'VE A BEST FRIEND,
00:25:39.250 --> 00:25:41.140
WONDERFUL, BUT MOST OF US, WE'VE
00:25:41.140 --> 00:25:42.190
GOT A SMALL TEAM, AND
00:25:42.190 --> 00:25:44.010
THAT'S FINE.
00:25:44.010 --> 00:25:44.230
THE IMPORTANT THING IS YOU'VE
00:25:44.230 --> 00:25:46.000
GOTTA BE WITH OTHER PEOPLE.
00:25:46.000 --> 00:25:47.030
WE ACTUALLY STARTED A THING JUST
00:25:47.030 --> 00:25:48.190
FOR THIS DEAL.
00:25:48.190 --> 00:25:51.180
WE STARTED SOMETHIN' CALLED
00:25:51.180 --> 00:25:52.290
MAN CAMP.
00:25:52.290 --> 00:25:54.250
WE REALIZED THE GUYS WERE SO, SO
00:25:54.250 --> 00:25:55.170
ISOLATED.
00:25:55.170 --> 00:25:57.070
I LIKE TO RIDE MOTORCYCLES.
00:25:57.070 --> 00:25:57.270
I FOUND OUT THERE'S SOMETHIN'
00:25:57.270 --> 00:25:58.290
YOU AND I HAVE IN COMMON.
00:25:58.290 --> 00:25:59.180
- WILFREDO: YES.
00:25:59.180 --> 00:26:00.080
- BRIAN: DO YOU LIKE TO CAMP?
00:26:00.080 --> 00:26:01.070
- WILFREDO: I LOVE TO CAMP--
00:26:01.070 --> 00:26:02.100
- BRIAN: DO YOU REALLY?
00:26:02.100 --> 00:26:02.280
- WILFREDO: -- IN THE RV.
00:26:02.280 --> 00:26:03.170
[LAUGHTER]
00:26:03.170 --> 00:26:04.230
- BRIAN: OKAY, ALL RIGHT,
00:26:04.230 --> 00:26:05.120
ALL RIGHT.
00:26:05.120 --> 00:26:06.070
[APPLAUSE]
00:26:06.070 --> 00:26:06.250
MOST DUDES DON'T EVEN WANNA CAMP
00:26:06.250 --> 00:26:07.240
IN THE RV, YOU KNOW?
00:26:07.240 --> 00:26:09.230
SO I WAS OUT IN THIS MOTORCYCLE
00:26:09.230 --> 00:26:11.120
TRIP ONCE, AND I WAS WITH
00:26:11.120 --> 00:26:12.200
SOME FRIENDS.
00:26:14.240 --> 00:26:17.240
IT WAS SIX OF US, AND WE SAT
00:26:17.240 --> 00:26:18.140
AROUND THIS CAMPFIRE, AND WE
00:26:18.140 --> 00:26:19.040
WERE BONDING, AND WE WERE
00:26:19.040 --> 00:26:19.230
LAUGHING, AND GUYS WERE TALKIN'
00:26:19.230 --> 00:26:20.180
ABOUT JUNK IN THEIR LIFE AND
00:26:20.180 --> 00:26:21.090
ENCOURAGING ONE ANOTHER, AND ONE
00:26:21.090 --> 00:26:22.220
MORNING, WE SAID, "THIS IS SO
00:26:22.220 --> 00:26:24.070
AMAZING THAT WE DO THIS.
00:26:24.070 --> 00:26:25.090
WE NEED TO HAVE MORE GUYS BE
00:26:25.090 --> 00:26:27.130
ABLE TO HAVE THIS EXPERIENCE,
00:26:27.130 --> 00:26:29.020
EXCEPT THEY SHOULDN'T HAVE TO
00:26:29.020 --> 00:26:30.040
HAVE TO HAVE A MOTORCYCLE AND
00:26:30.040 --> 00:26:31.150
COME ON A TRIP WITH US, SO LET'S
00:26:31.150 --> 00:26:32.180
START THIS THING WHERE WE HAVE
00:26:32.180 --> 00:26:34.110
PEOPLE DOING RUSTIC CAMPING, AND
00:26:34.110 --> 00:26:35.250
WE'D HAVE GAMES, AND WE HAVE
00:26:35.250 --> 00:26:37.070
SOME GREAT TEACHING, AND WE
00:26:37.070 --> 00:26:39.040
LAUGH--" AND WE STARTED
00:26:39.040 --> 00:26:39.260
MAN CAMP.
00:26:40.170 --> 00:26:43.170
- WILFREDO: LOVE IT.
00:26:43.170 --> 00:26:44.040
- BRIAN: AND WHAT HAPPENS AT
00:26:44.040 --> 00:26:44.250
MAN CAMP IS THAT PEOPLE SIT
00:26:44.250 --> 00:26:45.150
AROUND A FIRE, AND THEY TALK.
00:26:45.150 --> 00:26:46.230
GUYS JUST DON'T TALK.
00:26:46.270 --> 00:26:49.270
MOST GUYS, LIKE IN THE AUDIENCE
00:26:49.270 --> 00:26:50.260
HERE, IF YOU HAVE SOMEBODY YOU
00:26:50.260 --> 00:26:52.290
WORK WITH, THEY'RE PROBABLY
00:26:52.290 --> 00:26:54.110
YOUR FRIEND.
00:26:54.110 --> 00:26:54.280
WHEN YOU CHANGE JOBS, YOU
00:26:54.280 --> 00:26:55.190
PROBABLY HAVE NO FRIENDS 'CAUSE
00:26:55.190 --> 00:26:57.070
GUYS HAVE LOST THE ABILITY TO
00:26:57.070 --> 00:26:58.210
CONNECT WITH OTHER GUYS, SO WE
00:26:58.210 --> 00:26:59.200
STARTED THIS THING CALLED
00:26:59.200 --> 00:27:00.110
MAN CAMP.
00:27:00.110 --> 00:27:00.270
ACTUALLY, CAN I SHOW
00:27:00.270 --> 00:27:01.130
ANOTHER VIDEO?
00:27:01.130 --> 00:27:03.240
- WILFREDO: ABSOLUTELY.
00:27:03.240 --> 00:27:04.120
I DON'T WANNA SHOW TOO MANY
00:27:04.120 --> 00:27:05.020
VIDEOS.
00:27:05.020 --> 00:27:05.120
- WILFREDO: NO, NO, LET'S SEE
00:27:05.120 --> 00:27:06.030
THAT VIDEO.
00:27:06.030 --> 00:27:07.030
- BRIAN: YEAH, LET'S SHOW THIS
00:27:07.030 --> 00:27:07.250
'CAUSE THIS IS AN EXAMPLE OF HOW
00:27:07.250 --> 00:27:08.260
MEN ARE FINDING THE ABILITY TO
00:27:08.260 --> 00:27:09.170
BE IN TEAM WITH ONE ANOTHER.
00:27:09.170 --> 00:27:10.160
- WILFREDO: AMEN, WATCH THE
00:27:10.160 --> 00:27:11.060
VIDEO, MAN CAMP.
00:27:11.060 --> 00:27:11.260
- BRIAN: SO A COUPLE
00:27:15.180 --> 00:27:16.070
OF YEARS AGO,
00:27:16.070 --> 00:27:16.220
I AND SOME BUDDIES
00:27:16.220 --> 00:27:17.090
OF MINE WERE IN A
00:27:17.090 --> 00:27:17.260
PLACE JUST LIKE THIS.
00:27:17.260 --> 00:27:18.150
WE'D BEEN RIDING
00:27:18.150 --> 00:27:18.290
HAVING ALL KINDS OF PROBLEMS.
00:27:20.260 --> 00:27:21.170
AND AS WE'RE AROUND THE
00:27:21.170 --> 00:27:22.050
CAMPFIRE, WE WERE REFLECTING ON
00:27:22.050 --> 00:27:23.080
HOW SOMETHING INSIDE OF US HAS
00:27:23.080 --> 00:27:24.020
COME ALIVE BY PROBLEM-SOLVING,
00:27:24.020 --> 00:27:26.070
BY STRETCHING OURSELVES, AND SO
00:27:26.070 --> 00:27:28.030
WE SAID, "WHAT WOULD HAPPEN IF
00:27:28.030 --> 00:27:29.050
WE WERE ABLE TO TAKE WHAT WE
00:27:29.050 --> 00:27:30.100
EXPERIENCED ON A BIKE TRIP, TO A
00:27:30.100 --> 00:27:32.050
CAMP SETTING WHERE GUYS HAD
00:27:32.050 --> 00:27:34.170
ADVENTURE, UNPREDICTABLE THINGS,
00:27:34.180 --> 00:27:37.180
PROBLEMS HAPPEN, AND BONDING
00:27:37.180 --> 00:27:38.080
TOOK PLACE?
00:27:38.080 --> 00:27:38.280
AND SO OUT OF THAT, MAN CAMP
00:27:38.280 --> 00:27:40.200
WAS BORN.
00:27:40.200 --> 00:27:41.260
WE FIND THAT WE GET TO KNOW EACH
00:27:41.260 --> 00:27:43.100
OTHER A LITTLE BETTER.
00:27:43.100 --> 00:27:45.060
WE GET TO KNOW GOD A LOT BETTER,
00:27:45.060 --> 00:27:46.110
AND WE REALLY GET IN TOUCH WITH
00:27:46.110 --> 00:27:47.230
THAT PRIMAL MALE INSIDE OF US.
00:27:47.230 --> 00:27:50.130
WE NEED TO GET BACK TO
00:27:50.130 --> 00:27:51.000
OUR ROOTS.
00:27:51.000 --> 00:27:52.090
MAN, FROM THE BEGINNING OF TIME,
00:27:52.090 --> 00:27:53.010
HAS BEEN IN ENVIRONMENTS LIKE
00:27:53.010 --> 00:27:54.090
THIS, AND WE'RE CREATING AN
00:27:54.090 --> 00:27:55.290
ENVIRONMENT FOR YOU AND THE
00:27:55.290 --> 00:27:57.190
FRIENDS YOU BRING TO COME HERE.
00:27:57.190 --> 00:27:59.000
I'M RIGHT HERE ON LAND THAT WE
00:27:59.000 --> 00:28:01.030
HAVE BOUGHT, THE VERY FIRST TIME
00:28:01.030 --> 00:28:02.070
WE'VE BEEN ON THIS 435 ACRES, TO
00:28:02.070 --> 00:28:04.010
ACTUALLY BUILD SOMETHING, TO
00:28:04.010 --> 00:28:05.080
BUILD INTO YOU, TO BUILD INTO
00:28:05.080 --> 00:28:06.180
YOUR FRIENDS, TO BUILD INTO A
00:28:06.180 --> 00:28:07.200
WHOLE NEW FRATERNITY OF MEN THAT
00:28:07.200 --> 00:28:08.140
NEEDS MAN CAMP.
00:28:08.140 --> 00:28:11.080
SOMETHIN' IS DEAD INSIDE OF US
00:28:11.080 --> 00:28:12.210
AND NEEDS TO BE BROUGHT BACK TO
00:28:12.210 --> 00:28:14.020
LIFE, AND GOD NEEDS TO GET AHOLD
00:28:14.020 --> 00:28:15.060
OF US, SOME OF US FOR THE VERY
00:28:15.060 --> 00:28:16.120
FIRST TIME, FOR OTHERS OF US, IT
00:28:16.120 --> 00:28:18.120
NEEDS TO BE REKINDLED.
00:28:18.120 --> 00:28:20.030
GET EVERY FRIEND, EVERY GUY YOU
00:28:20.030 --> 00:28:22.250
KNOW.
00:28:22.250 --> 00:28:23.110
THEY WILL THANK YOU FOR IT.
00:28:23.110 --> 00:28:24.100
PUSH YOURSELF.
00:28:24.100 --> 00:28:25.120
WHEN'S THE LAST TIME YOU PUSHED
00:28:25.120 --> 00:28:26.040
YOURSELF?
00:28:26.040 --> 00:28:26.160
WHEN'S THE LAST TIME YOU TRIED
00:28:26.160 --> 00:28:27.130
SOMETHIN' NEW?
00:28:27.130 --> 00:28:28.030
WHEN'S THE LAST TIME YOU HAD TO
00:28:28.030 --> 00:28:28.250
STRETCH?
00:28:28.250 --> 00:28:30.230
THAT'S WHAT MAN CAMP IS FOR, AND
00:28:30.230 --> 00:28:31.150
YOU'RE GONNA FIND ON THE OTHER
00:28:31.150 --> 00:28:32.130
END OF IT YOU'RE GONNA BE A
00:28:32.130 --> 00:28:34.070
BETTER VERSION OF YOURSELF.
00:28:34.070 --> 00:28:35.060
YOU'RE GONNA BE A BETTER MAN.
00:28:35.060 --> 00:28:36.120
[MUSIC]
00:28:43.280 --> 00:28:46.280
HEY, GOD BLESS YOU.
00:28:53.270 --> 00:28:55.000
CHOCO HERE AT NEW LIFE COVENANT.
00:28:57.240 --> 00:28:59.050
WE'RE IN CHICAGO, AND WE'VE GOT
00:28:59.050 --> 00:28:59.270
THIS AWESOME PRIVILEGE TO HAVE
00:28:59.270 --> 00:29:01.030
PASTOR BRIAN WITH US FROM
00:29:01.030 --> 00:29:01.220
CROSSROADS CHURCH IN
00:29:01.220 --> 00:29:02.090
AND WE'VE BEEN TALKING ABOUT A
00:29:05.200 --> 00:29:06.190
PROBLEM, AND PEOPLE PROBABLY
00:29:06.190 --> 00:29:08.240
WON'T USE THIS WORD, BUT AN
00:29:08.240 --> 00:29:10.000
"EPIDEMIC" OF AN ABSENCE OF A
00:29:10.000 --> 00:29:11.140
MAN-- AN ABSENCE.
00:29:11.240 --> 00:29:14.240
WHEN THE MAN IS ABSENT,
00:29:14.240 --> 00:29:16.040
IT GETS CHAOTIC.
00:29:16.040 --> 00:29:19.000
NOTHING WITH MY SISTERS--
00:29:19.000 --> 00:29:19.250
I WAS RAISED BY MY MOM.
00:29:19.250 --> 00:29:20.270
SHE RAISED FIVE BOYS, AND ALL
00:29:20.270 --> 00:29:22.130
THE GLORY TO GOD TO HER, WHO WAS
00:29:22.130 --> 00:29:24.210
A SINGLE MOM, STRONG, BUT I KNOW
00:29:24.210 --> 00:29:26.250
THAT, IF THERE WASN'T A MAN IN
00:29:26.250 --> 00:29:28.170
MY LIFE, WHO WOULD JUST STEP
00:29:28.170 --> 00:29:30.210
IN-- AND THAT WOULD'VE MADE THE
00:29:30.210 --> 00:29:33.080
DIFFERENCE IN THIS, AND AS I WAS
00:29:33.080 --> 00:29:34.280
READING YOUR BOOK, CHAPTER THREE
00:29:34.280 --> 00:29:36.130
TALKS ABOUT THE STORY ABOUT
00:29:36.130 --> 00:29:38.200
ELEPHANTS, AND OUT OF THAT,
00:29:38.200 --> 00:29:40.080
I THOUGHT,
00:29:40.080 --> 00:29:40.220
"THIS WAS VERY INTRIGUING."
00:29:40.220 --> 00:29:41.270
WHY DON'T YOU SHARE WITH US
00:29:41.270 --> 00:29:42.210
ABOUT WHAT HAPPENED WHEN THEY
00:29:42.210 --> 00:29:44.170
STARTED MOVING SOME
00:29:44.170 --> 00:29:45.200
ELEPHANTS AND WHAT OCCURRED?
00:29:45.200 --> 00:29:46.270
- BRIAN: I'VE BEEN TO SOUTH
00:29:46.270 --> 00:29:48.200
AFRICA A NUMBER OF TIMES 'CAUSE
00:29:48.200 --> 00:29:49.170
WE SOME WORK WITH THE HIV CRISIS
00:29:49.170 --> 00:29:50.110
AND WE STILL DO WORK IN AFRICA,
00:29:52.280 --> 00:29:54.000
AND I'VE BEEN TO TWO BIG
00:29:54.000 --> 00:29:55.090
NATIONAL PARKS, PILANESBERG AND
00:29:55.090 --> 00:29:58.010
KRUGER, WHICH IS WHERE YOU GO,
00:29:58.010 --> 00:29:59.130
AND YOU SEE THE ELEPHANTS AND
00:29:59.130 --> 00:30:00.050
YOU SEE THE LIONS.
00:30:00.050 --> 00:30:02.110
I MEAN, IT'S REALLY, REALLY
00:30:02.110 --> 00:30:03.020
FREAKY.
00:30:03.020 --> 00:30:05.120
WHAT I DIDN'T KNOW WHILE I WAS
00:30:05.120 --> 00:30:07.000
THERE, BUT I FOUND AND VERIFIED
00:30:07.000 --> 00:30:08.150
AS AN ACTUAL TRUE STORY, IS ONE
00:30:08.150 --> 00:30:09.270
OF THOSE NATIONAL PARKS WAS
00:30:10.200 --> 00:30:13.200
THE OTHER NATIONAL PARK HAD A
00:30:16.290 --> 00:30:17.260
LOT OF ELEPHANTS.
00:30:17.260 --> 00:30:18.290
THEY THOUGHT, "HAH, LET'S TAKE
00:30:18.290 --> 00:30:20.070
THE ELEPHANTS OVER HERE AND
00:30:20.070 --> 00:30:21.190
BRING THEM OVER HERE."
00:30:21.190 --> 00:30:23.150
THEY HAD HARNESSES THAT
00:30:23.150 --> 00:30:25.000
WOULD ONLY SUPPORT A
00:30:25.000 --> 00:30:26.090
CERTAIN-SIZE ELEPHANT,
00:30:26.090 --> 00:30:27.200
SO THEY HELICOPTERED OVER HERE,
00:30:27.200 --> 00:30:28.280
AND DROPPED ALL THESE ELEPHANTS
00:30:28.280 --> 00:30:30.110
OFF AND, LIKE, "OH, GOOD,
00:30:30.110 --> 00:30:31.110
WE DID A GOOD JOB HERE."
00:30:31.110 --> 00:30:31.290
UNFORTUNATELY, WHAT THEY STARTED
00:30:31.290 --> 00:30:33.180
TO FIND WAS REALLY WEIRD THINGS.
00:30:33.180 --> 00:30:35.080
THE WHITE RHINOCEROSES STARTED
00:30:35.080 --> 00:30:37.060
TO DIE INSIDE OF THE PARK WHERE
00:30:38.090 --> 00:30:41.090
THE YOUNG ELEPHANTS WERE
00:30:41.090 --> 00:30:42.150
TRANSPORTED 'CAUSE THEY WERE THE
00:30:42.150 --> 00:30:44.080
SMALLER ONES, AND THEY FINALLY
00:30:44.080 --> 00:30:46.220
SET UP SOME CAMERAS TO TRY TO
00:30:46.220 --> 00:30:48.010
FIGURE OUT WHAT WAS GOIN' ON,
00:30:48.010 --> 00:30:48.280
AND THEY REALIZED WHAT'S
00:30:48.280 --> 00:30:50.030
HAPPENING HERE IS THAT THESE
00:30:50.030 --> 00:30:51.080
ELEPHANTS ARE JUST GORING AND
00:30:51.080 --> 00:30:52.250
KILLING THESE WHITE
00:30:52.250 --> 00:30:55.170
RHINOCEROSES, AND IT'S JUST FOR
00:30:55.170 --> 00:30:56.140
SPORT.
00:30:56.140 --> 00:30:58.220
THERE'S NO REASON FOR IT.
00:30:58.220 --> 00:31:01.130
IT'S JUST FOR SPORT, AND AS THEY
00:31:01.130 --> 00:31:02.220
DUG DEEPER, IT SAID, "IT LOOKS
00:31:02.220 --> 00:31:04.210
LIKE THESE GUYS WANT TO MATE,
00:31:04.210 --> 00:31:06.260
BUT THE FEMALE ELEPHANTS KNOW
00:31:06.260 --> 00:31:09.190
THAT THESE GUYS AREN'T READY, SO
00:31:09.190 --> 00:31:11.120
THEY'RE DENYING 'EM, AND THEY'RE
00:31:11.120 --> 00:31:12.260
FRUSTRATED, AND THEY'RE JUST
00:31:12.260 --> 00:31:13.250
GOING ON KILLING SPREES," SO
00:31:13.250 --> 00:31:14.290
THEY SAID, "WHAT'RE WE GONNA DO
00:31:14.290 --> 00:31:15.210
ON THIS?"
00:31:15.210 --> 00:31:16.080
AT THAT POINT, TECHNOLOGY
00:31:16.080 --> 00:31:17.110
HAD IMPROVED.
00:31:17.110 --> 00:31:19.060
THEY WERE ABLE TO GET SOME
00:31:19.060 --> 00:31:19.250
BIGGER, STRONGER HARNESSES, SO
00:31:19.250 --> 00:31:21.100
THEY BROUGHT A COUPLE OF THE
00:31:21.100 --> 00:31:22.190
HUGE, BIG BULL ELEPHANTS, OVER
00:31:22.190 --> 00:31:24.140
FROM THIS PLACE, OVER, DROPPED
00:31:24.140 --> 00:31:26.270
HIM IN, AND THERE'S A
00:31:26.270 --> 00:31:27.270
FASCINATING THING HAPPENED.
00:31:27.270 --> 00:31:30.120
THESE YOUNG BUCKS, THESE YOUNG
00:31:30.120 --> 00:31:31.030
ELEPHANTS WOULD TRY TO SHOW
00:31:31.030 --> 00:31:31.280
THEIR STUFF, CAME UP TO 'EM,
00:31:31.280 --> 00:31:33.170
TRIED TO SHOW HOW COOL THEY
00:31:33.170 --> 00:31:34.130
WERE, AND THIS BIG-- I CAN'T
00:31:34.130 --> 00:31:35.140
REMEMBER IF HIS NAME
00:31:35.140 --> 00:31:36.230
WAS MAMOOSA.
00:31:37.220 --> 00:31:40.220
THIS BIG GUY TOOK A LOOK AT HIM.
00:31:40.220 --> 00:31:41.140
HE CHARGED HIM, TOOK HIS TUSKS
00:31:41.140 --> 00:31:42.050
RIGHT INTO HIS SIDE OF HIS
00:31:42.050 --> 00:31:43.090
CHEST, LIFTED THIS ELEPHANT UP
00:31:43.090 --> 00:31:45.080
OFF THE GROUND AND DROPPED HIM
00:31:45.080 --> 00:31:46.130
DOWN, AND LIKE THAT,
00:31:46.130 --> 00:31:47.090
IT WAS OVER.
00:31:48.080 --> 00:31:51.080
LIKE THAT, THERE WAS NO MORE
00:31:51.080 --> 00:31:51.280
KILLING OF RHINOCEROSES BECAUSE
00:31:51.280 --> 00:31:52.200
OLDER FATHER FIGURES HAD COME
00:31:52.200 --> 00:31:54.050
INTO THE EQUATION, AND THE
00:31:55.040 --> 00:31:58.040
YOUNGER MALES--
00:31:58.040 --> 00:31:59.290
[APPLAUSE]
00:31:59.290 --> 00:32:00.150
-- NOW KNEW HOW TO ACT.
00:32:00.190 --> 00:32:03.190
AND ONCE THEY GREW UP, THEY WERE
00:32:03.190 --> 00:32:04.150
FINE.
00:32:04.150 --> 00:32:05.040
THIS IS WHAT WE HAVE GOING ON IN
00:32:05.040 --> 00:32:06.070
OUR CULTURE.
00:32:06.070 --> 00:32:06.290
MANY OF US, UNFORTUNATELY, DO
00:32:06.290 --> 00:32:08.120
NOT HAVE A DNA DAD LIVING WITH
00:32:08.120 --> 00:32:11.030
US, OR IF WE HAVE AN ADOPTED DAD
00:32:11.030 --> 00:32:12.250
WITH US, MAYBE HE HASN'T DONE
00:32:12.250 --> 00:32:14.090
WHAT HE COULD'VE DONE, BUT I'LL
00:32:14.090 --> 00:32:16.070
TELL YA WHAT, THERE'S STILL
00:32:16.070 --> 00:32:17.220
PLACE FOR FATHER FIGURES.
00:32:17.220 --> 00:32:19.080
ANY GUY WHO'S GOT HIS STUFF
00:32:19.080 --> 00:32:21.250
TOGETHER, WHEN HE GETS AROUND A
00:32:21.250 --> 00:32:22.290
YOUNGER MALE, POWERFUL THINGS
00:32:22.290 --> 00:32:25.050
HAPPEN, AND THIS-- WE NEED THE
00:32:25.050 --> 00:32:26.240
OLD BULLS IN OUR CULTURE TO MAKE
00:32:27.030 --> 00:32:30.030
TIME IN THEIR SCHEDULE.
00:32:30.030 --> 00:32:32.040
I'LL JUST SAY IT RIGHT NOW, IF
00:32:32.040 --> 00:32:33.240
THERE'S ANY GUYS WHO ARE WITH ME
00:32:33.240 --> 00:32:36.070
RIGHT NOW, WE NEED YOU AS AN
00:32:36.070 --> 00:32:36.270
OLDER GUY.
00:32:36.270 --> 00:32:37.100
IF YOU SEE A YOUNGER GUY, GET
00:32:37.100 --> 00:32:38.080
AROUND HIM.
00:32:38.080 --> 00:32:40.010
I'M TELLIN' YA, GET AROUND HIM.
00:32:40.010 --> 00:32:41.230
[APPLAUSE]
00:32:41.230 --> 00:32:43.020
PUT YOUR HAND ON HIS SHOULDER.
00:32:43.020 --> 00:32:44.070
LOOK INTO HIS EYES.
00:32:44.070 --> 00:32:46.180
SPEAK LIFE INTO HIM.
00:32:46.180 --> 00:32:47.040
GIVE HIM ENCOURAGEMENT.
00:32:47.040 --> 00:32:48.020
IF YOU GIVE HIM ANY
00:32:48.020 --> 00:32:49.080
ENCOURAGEMENT, THE LIKELIHOOD IS
00:32:49.080 --> 00:32:51.160
HE'S NEVER HAD THAT FROM ANY
00:32:51.160 --> 00:32:52.190
OLDER MALE, AND YOU LITERALLY
00:32:52.190 --> 00:32:53.290
COULD CHANGE HIS LIFE.
00:32:54.140 --> 00:32:57.140
- WILFREDO: WOW, WOW, WOW.
00:32:57.140 --> 00:32:58.040
I'M TELLING YOU, YOU COULD
00:32:58.040 --> 00:32:58.230
COLLECT AN OFFERING WITH THAT
00:32:58.230 --> 00:32:59.140
MESSAGE RIGHT NOW.
00:32:59.140 --> 00:33:00.140
WE COULD COLLECT AN OFFERING
00:33:00.140 --> 00:33:01.170
WITH THIS BECAUSE, AS YOU'RE
00:33:01.170 --> 00:33:02.270
TALKING, BRIAN, I'M THINKIN',
00:33:02.270 --> 00:33:03.180
"HOW--"
00:33:03.180 --> 00:33:04.080
- BRIAN: IF IT'S BIG ENOUGH,
00:33:04.080 --> 00:33:04.290
WHY DON'T WE COLLECT IT
00:33:04.290 --> 00:33:05.170
RIGHT NOW?
00:33:05.170 --> 00:33:05.280
- WILFREDO: WE COULD DO THAT.
00:33:05.280 --> 00:33:06.190
[LAUGHTER]
00:33:06.190 --> 00:33:07.150
- BRIAN: I'LL TAKE IT IF YOU
00:33:07.210 --> 00:33:10.210
COLLECT IT.
00:33:10.210 --> 00:33:11.170
- WILFREDO: WELL, I'M THINKIN'
00:33:11.170 --> 00:33:12.090
BECAUSE, WHAT HAPPENS IN OUR
00:33:12.090 --> 00:33:13.040
LIVES AS MEN, WHEN WE'RE LOST IN
00:33:13.040 --> 00:33:14.020
GOD LIFTS US UP AND TAKES US
00:33:16.080 --> 00:33:17.070
INTO ANOTHER AREA, WHICH IS
00:33:17.070 --> 00:33:17.270
THE CHURCH.
00:33:17.270 --> 00:33:18.090
HE TRANSPLANTS US INTO THE
00:33:18.090 --> 00:33:20.170
CHURCH SO THAT WE CAN BECOME
00:33:20.170 --> 00:33:22.210
BECOME ROLE MODELS AND MENTORS,
00:33:25.220 --> 00:33:26.200
THINGS THAT PEOPLE DIDN'T DO FOR
00:33:26.200 --> 00:33:28.170
US, SO WHEN I LOOK AT THE
00:33:28.170 --> 00:33:30.020
ANALOGY OF THE ELEPHANT WHEN I
00:33:30.020 --> 00:33:31.250
WAS READING IT, I'M LIKE,
00:33:31.250 --> 00:33:32.250
"MY WORD, ALL THESE MEN."
00:33:32.250 --> 00:33:35.230
- BRIAN: AND WHAT WERE THESE
00:33:35.230 --> 00:33:36.170
ELEPHANTS DOING?
00:33:36.170 --> 00:33:37.010
THEY WERE PROTECTING, ACTUALLY,
00:33:37.010 --> 00:33:38.050
THE RHINOS, AND THEY WERE
00:33:38.050 --> 00:33:39.140
PROTECTING THESE GUYS' FUTURE,
00:33:39.140 --> 00:33:40.050
MEN ARE PROTECTORS, AND BOYS
00:33:43.010 --> 00:33:43.210
ARE PREDATORS.
00:33:43.210 --> 00:33:45.100
BOYS TAKE, TAKE, TAKE.
00:33:45.100 --> 00:33:47.180
- WILFREDO: COME ON, SPEAK ON
00:33:47.180 --> 00:33:48.210
THAT, YEAH.
00:33:48.210 --> 00:33:49.030
- BRIAN: THAT WHATEVER THEY
00:33:49.030 --> 00:33:49.230
THEY WILL TAKE FROM A WOMAN,
00:33:51.150 --> 00:33:52.050
THEY WILL TAKE FROM THEIR
00:33:52.050 --> 00:33:53.040
PARENTS, THEY WILL TAKE FROM THE
00:33:53.040 --> 00:33:55.080
GOVERNMENT, THEY WILL TAKE-- AND
00:33:55.080 --> 00:33:57.070
IF SOMEONE THERE WANTS TO GIVE
00:33:57.070 --> 00:33:58.260
SOMETHING, THAT'S OKAY, BUT
00:33:58.260 --> 00:33:59.230
WE'RE TALKING ABUSING THE SYSTEM
00:33:59.230 --> 00:34:01.120
AND TAKE, TAKE, TAKING, BUT MAN
00:34:01.120 --> 00:34:02.250
WANTS TO PROTECT.
00:34:02.250 --> 00:34:04.230
YOU KNOW, ONE OF THE WEIRD
00:34:04.230 --> 00:34:06.080
THINGS IN OUR CULTURE IS-- COULD
00:34:06.080 --> 00:34:07.170
YOU IMAGINE-- DO YOU HAVE
00:34:07.170 --> 00:34:08.230
ANY DAUGHTERS?
00:34:08.230 --> 00:34:09.070
- WILFREDO: I DO.
00:34:09.070 --> 00:34:09.230
I'VE GOT TWO.
00:34:09.230 --> 00:34:10.130
- BRIAN: HOW OLD ARE THEY?
00:34:10.130 --> 00:34:11.030
- WILFREDO: ONE'S GONNA BE 30,
00:34:11.030 --> 00:34:12.150
AND THE OTHER ONE, 27.
00:34:12.150 --> 00:34:13.130
- BRIAN: ALL RIGHT, SO YOU'RE
00:34:13.130 --> 00:34:14.040
IN A SIMILAR SITUATION AS I AM,
00:34:14.040 --> 00:34:15.150
BUT IMAGINE IF SOMEONE COMES TO
00:34:15.150 --> 00:34:16.130
YOUR HOUSE AND SAYS,
00:34:16.130 --> 00:34:17.120
"MR. CHOCO, I'M HERE TO TAKE
00:34:17.120 --> 00:34:19.040
YOUR CAR."
00:34:19.040 --> 00:34:22.020
WHAT WOULD YOU SAY?
00:34:22.020 --> 00:34:23.010
- WILFREDO: "IT'S NOT
00:34:23.010 --> 00:34:23.240
GONNA HAPPEN."
00:34:23.240 --> 00:34:24.170
[LAUGHTER]
00:34:24.170 --> 00:34:25.010
- BRIAN: YEAH, "YOU'RE NOT
00:34:25.010 --> 00:34:25.220
GONNA TAKE IT."
00:34:25.220 --> 00:34:26.060
[LAUGHTER]
00:34:26.060 --> 00:34:26.230
OR HOW ABOUT THIS ONE?
00:34:26.230 --> 00:34:27.100
YOU GOLF?
00:34:27.100 --> 00:34:27.210
- WILFREDO: I DO NOT.
00:34:27.210 --> 00:34:28.080
- BRIAN: ALL RIGHT, OH, HOW
00:34:28.080 --> 00:34:28.280
ABOUT THIS?
00:34:28.280 --> 00:34:29.100
- WILFREDO: BASEBALL.
00:34:29.100 --> 00:34:29.270
- BRIAN: BASEBALL.
00:34:29.270 --> 00:34:30.130
"HEY, MR. CHOCO, I'VE NEVER MET
00:34:30.130 --> 00:34:31.050
YOU, BUT I'M GONNA JUST TAKE
00:34:31.050 --> 00:34:31.250
YOUR BASEBALL GLOVE FOR A WHILE,
00:34:31.250 --> 00:34:33.210
AND I'M JUST GONNA USE IT."
00:34:33.210 --> 00:34:34.150
YOU'D SAY--
00:34:34.150 --> 00:34:35.110
- WILFREDO: YEAH, "IT'S NOT
00:34:35.110 --> 00:34:36.010
GONNA HAPPEN."
00:34:36.010 --> 00:34:36.260
- BRIAN: NO, NO, IT'S NOT GONNA
00:34:36.260 --> 00:34:37.180
HAPPEN.
00:34:37.180 --> 00:34:38.190
BUT, YET SOME GUY COMES TO YOUR
00:34:38.190 --> 00:34:39.110
HOUSE AND SAYS, "HEY, I'M HERE
00:34:39.110 --> 00:34:40.020
TO TAKE OUT YOUR DAUGHTER," AND
00:34:40.020 --> 00:34:40.280
WE'RE SUPPOSED TO SAY, "OH, MY
00:34:40.280 --> 00:34:41.190
DAUGHTER?
00:34:41.190 --> 00:34:42.160
OH, FINE, TAKE MY DAUGHTER,
00:34:42.160 --> 00:34:43.060
NO PROBLEM."
00:34:43.060 --> 00:34:45.080
CAN'T HAVE MY BASEBALL
00:34:45.080 --> 00:34:46.020
GLOVE, CAN'T-- BUT, FINE,
00:34:46.020 --> 00:34:46.210
MY DAUGHTER."
00:34:46.210 --> 00:34:47.070
NO, NO, NO, NO, NO,
00:34:47.070 --> 00:34:47.230
NO, NO, NO.
00:34:47.230 --> 00:34:48.130
NO, NO, NOT IN MY HOUSE.
00:34:48.130 --> 00:34:49.160
TOMI, DON'T PLAY THAT WAY.
00:34:49.160 --> 00:34:50.270
NO, THE WAY, WHAT HAPPENS, IF
00:34:50.270 --> 00:34:51.290
YOU COME AND YOU WANNA TAKE MY
00:34:51.290 --> 00:34:53.240
DAUGHTERS OUT, FIRST, YOU'RE
00:34:53.240 --> 00:34:55.030
GONNA TAKE ME OUT 'CAUSE I'M
00:34:55.030 --> 00:34:56.050
THERE TO PROTECT THEM.
00:34:56.050 --> 00:34:58.080
- WILFREDO: YES, THAT'S GOOD.
00:34:58.080 --> 00:34:59.000
- BRIAN: SO THE LAST TIME THIS
00:34:59.000 --> 00:34:59.220
HAPPENED--
00:34:59.220 --> 00:35:00.120
[APPLAUSE]
00:35:00.120 --> 00:35:01.170
-- A YOUNG MAN CAME TO THE
00:35:01.170 --> 00:35:03.010
HOUSE, AND I SAID, "BEN, LET'S
00:35:03.010 --> 00:35:05.060
GO OUT 'CAUSE YOU'RE GONNA TAKE
00:35:05.060 --> 00:35:06.150
ME OUT BEFORE YOU TAKE MY
00:35:06.150 --> 00:35:07.120
DAUGHTER."
00:35:07.120 --> 00:35:08.080
I HAD HIM DRIVE.
00:35:08.080 --> 00:35:09.140
I WANNA SEE HOW HE DRIVES--
00:35:09.140 --> 00:35:11.120
- WILFREDO: THAT'S GOOD.
00:35:11.120 --> 00:35:12.070
- BRIAN: -- GO OUT, AND I SAID
00:35:12.070 --> 00:35:13.130
TO HIM, "BEN, I NEED TO GET TWO
00:35:13.130 --> 00:35:14.210
THINGS STRAIGHT.
00:35:14.210 --> 00:35:15.240
NUMBER ONE, I NEED YOUR
00:35:15.240 --> 00:35:16.280
ASSURANCE YOU'RE GONNA PROTECT
00:35:16.280 --> 00:35:17.190
MY DAUGHTER'S REPUTATION."
00:35:17.190 --> 00:35:18.190
- WILFREDO: THE DAD INSURANCE.
00:35:18.190 --> 00:35:20.000
- BRIAN: THAT'S RIGHT.
00:35:20.000 --> 00:35:20.180
NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS, I NEED
00:35:20.180 --> 00:35:22.010
HER REPUTATION PROTECTED IF
00:35:22.010 --> 00:35:23.120
YOU'RE WITH HER OR WHEN YOU
00:35:23.120 --> 00:35:24.020
BREAK UP.
00:35:24.020 --> 00:35:25.290
NUMBER TWO-- "CAN YOU DO IT?"
00:35:25.290 --> 00:35:26.200
HE SAID, "YES, SIR."
00:35:26.200 --> 00:35:27.060
"NUMBER TWO,
00:35:27.060 --> 00:35:27.230
LET'S BE SERIOUS, BEN.
00:35:27.230 --> 00:35:28.130
THIS ISN'T GONNA LAST VERY LONG.
00:35:28.130 --> 00:35:29.240
I'VE KNOWN MARIAH LONG
00:35:29.240 --> 00:35:31.010
BEFORE YOU.
00:35:31.010 --> 00:35:32.150
I'LL KNOW HER LONG, LONG
00:35:32.150 --> 00:35:33.030
AFTER YOU.
00:35:33.030 --> 00:35:33.200
[LAUGHTER]
00:35:33.200 --> 00:35:34.290
I NEED TO KNOW WHAT YOUR SEXUAL
00:35:34.290 --> 00:35:35.290
INTENTIONS ARE WITH MY DAUGHTER.
00:35:35.290 --> 00:35:37.150
WHAT ARE YOU PLANNIN' ON DOIN'
00:35:37.150 --> 00:35:38.090
WITH MY DAUGHTER SEXUALLY?
00:35:38.150 --> 00:35:41.150
AND HE'S-- [STAMMERING]
00:35:41.150 --> 00:35:42.070
NOW, TWO THINGS I KNOW.
00:35:42.070 --> 00:35:43.100
TWO THINGS I KNOW.
00:35:43.100 --> 00:35:46.030
ONE, HE'S PROBABLY NOT BEING
00:35:46.030 --> 00:35:47.220
ENTIRELY HONEST WITH ME.
00:35:48.080 --> 00:35:51.080
- WILFREDO: RIGHT, RIGHT.
00:35:51.080 --> 00:35:51.290
- BRIAN: LIKE, HE SAID, "WELL,
00:35:51.290 --> 00:35:53.010
ALL WE'RE GONNA DO IS
00:35:53.010 --> 00:35:53.180
GONNA KISS."
00:35:53.180 --> 00:35:55.030
AND I SAID, "OH, WHAT KIND
00:35:55.030 --> 00:35:55.220
OF KISS?"
00:35:55.220 --> 00:35:56.030
[LAUGHTER]
00:35:56.030 --> 00:35:58.030
I SAYS, "IS IT GONNA BE AN
00:35:58.030 --> 00:35:58.220
ALFALFA KISS?"
00:35:58.220 --> 00:35:59.290
YOU KNOW WHAT AN "ALFALFA KISS"
00:35:59.290 --> 00:36:00.290
IS?
00:36:00.290 --> 00:36:01.150
- WILFREDO: I DO NOT.
00:36:01.150 --> 00:36:02.020
- BRIAN: AL-FAL-FA.
00:36:02.020 --> 00:36:03.260
[LAUGHTER]
00:36:03.260 --> 00:36:04.080
[APPLAUSE]
00:36:05.030 --> 00:36:08.030
THAT'LL PREACH RIGHT THERE.
00:36:08.030 --> 00:36:08.280
THAT'LL PREACH RIGHT THERE.
00:36:08.280 --> 00:36:10.030
"IS IT GONNA BE AN ALFALFA KISS
00:36:10.030 --> 00:36:10.250
OR NOT?"
00:36:10.250 --> 00:36:12.050
SAID, "NO, WE'RE
00:36:12.050 --> 00:36:12.190
JUST NOT--"
00:36:12.190 --> 00:36:13.150
EVEN IF I ASSUME HE'S
00:36:13.150 --> 00:36:15.080
TELLING ME THE TRUTH, I KNOW
00:36:15.080 --> 00:36:17.250
THAT HORMONES TAKE OVER A
00:36:17.250 --> 00:36:19.080
16-YEAR-OLD.
00:36:19.080 --> 00:36:20.260
I KNOW THAT THEY'RE-- SO I'M NOT
00:36:20.260 --> 00:36:22.170
NAIVE, BUT HERE'S WHAT I KNOW,
00:36:22.170 --> 00:36:23.180
HERE'S WHAT I KNOW.
00:36:23.180 --> 00:36:25.130
IF NO ONE GOES TO BAT FOR
00:36:25.130 --> 00:36:27.040
MY DAUGHTER, NO ONE ELSE
00:36:27.040 --> 00:36:28.050
WILL.
00:36:28.050 --> 00:36:29.210
SOMEONE'S GOTTA STAND IN THE
00:36:29.210 --> 00:36:30.230
MIDDLE THERE, AND I PROTECT.
00:36:30.230 --> 00:36:32.090
[APPLAUSE]
00:36:32.090 --> 00:36:32.210
I HAVE A LEVEL OF SAVINGS.
00:36:32.210 --> 00:36:34.280
I HAVE ONE SAVINGS BECAUSE I
00:36:34.280 --> 00:36:36.100
WANNA PROTECT SOMEBODY WHEN THEY
00:36:36.100 --> 00:36:37.200
CAN'T PAY THEIR UTILITY BILL.
00:36:37.200 --> 00:36:39.230
I WANNA PAY IT FOR THEM, SO,
00:36:39.230 --> 00:36:40.260
MEN, WE THINK THIS WAY.
00:36:40.260 --> 00:36:42.170
BOYS THINK ABOUT "MONEY IS ONLY
00:36:42.170 --> 00:36:45.080
THERE SO I CAN BUY MORE TOYS."
00:36:45.080 --> 00:36:46.230
MEN THINK, "NO, MONEY IS ALSO
00:36:46.230 --> 00:36:48.090
THERE AS A FORM OF PROTECTION.
00:36:48.090 --> 00:36:49.140
THAT'S THE FOURTH MARK OF MAN.
00:36:49.140 --> 00:36:51.250
- WILFREDO: SO IT'S INTERESTING
00:36:51.250 --> 00:36:53.050
'CAUSE, FATHER OF TWO, TWO
00:36:53.050 --> 00:36:53.280
DAUGHTERS, AND JUST WHEN MY
00:36:53.280 --> 00:36:55.180
SON-IN-LAW CAME TO ASK MY
00:36:56.110 --> 00:36:59.110
DAUGHTER, IT WAS ON A SUNDAY
00:36:59.110 --> 00:37:02.020
AFTER FOUR SERVICES, AND HE CAME
00:37:02.020 --> 00:37:04.200
TO MY WIFE AND SAID, I'D LIKE
00:37:04.200 --> 00:37:06.140
TO--
00:37:06.140 --> 00:37:07.090
- BRIAN: YEAH, IT'S EASIER TO
00:37:07.090 --> 00:37:08.000
ASK.
00:37:08.000 --> 00:37:09.250
- WILFREDO: -- YEAH, THE EASY
00:37:09.250 --> 00:37:10.160
ROUTE.
00:37:10.160 --> 00:37:10.250
[LAUGHTER]
00:37:10.250 --> 00:37:11.060
SAID, "I'D LIKE TO TALK TO YOU."
00:37:11.060 --> 00:37:11.280
SO THEN, MY WIFE, ELIZABETH,
00:37:11.280 --> 00:37:12.180
COMES AND SAID, "BABE, ANTHONY
00:37:12.180 --> 00:37:13.210
WANTS TO TALK TO US."
00:37:13.210 --> 00:37:15.030
I SAID,
00:37:15.030 --> 00:37:17.040
"ABOUT WHAT?"
00:37:17.040 --> 00:37:18.010
AND SHE SAYS, "YOU KNOW,
00:37:18.010 --> 00:37:19.070
YOU KNOW
00:37:19.070 --> 00:37:19.180
YOU KNOW."
00:37:19.180 --> 00:37:19.290
I SAID, "I DON'T KNOW ANYTHING.
00:37:19.290 --> 00:37:20.210
WHAT'RE YOU TALKIN' ABOUT?"
00:37:20.210 --> 00:37:21.140
[LAUGHTER]
00:37:21.140 --> 00:37:22.120
AND I SAID, "I'M NOT READY
00:37:22.120 --> 00:37:23.010
TO TALK."
00:37:23.010 --> 00:37:23.250
SO ONE MONTH PASSED BY.
00:37:23.250 --> 00:37:25.170
ANOTHER SUNDAY, MY WIFE SAID,
00:37:25.170 --> 00:37:26.150
"WE NEED TO TALK TO ANTHONY."
00:37:26.150 --> 00:37:27.180
I SAID, "WE DON'T HAVE TO
00:37:27.180 --> 00:37:28.160
TALK TO ANYBODY."
00:37:28.160 --> 00:37:29.270
TWO MONTHS PASS BY,
00:37:29.270 --> 00:37:30.130
FOUR MONTHS PASS BY.
00:37:30.130 --> 00:37:32.010
FINALLY, ON A DECEMBER IN
00:37:32.010 --> 00:37:33.200
CHICAGO, 11 O'CLOCK AT NIGHT,
00:37:33.200 --> 00:37:35.290
I SAID, "CALL ANTHONY.
00:37:35.290 --> 00:37:36.280
TELL HIM READY TO TALK AND TO
00:37:36.280 --> 00:37:37.190
BRING ME A 7 UP.
00:37:37.190 --> 00:37:39.240
BRING ME A 7 UP, TWO-LITER."
00:37:39.240 --> 00:37:41.130
SO HE COMES.
00:37:41.130 --> 00:37:42.020
IT LOOKS LIKE HE'S BEEN WAITING
00:37:42.020 --> 00:37:43.080
FOUR MONTHS IN FRONT OF THE
00:37:43.080 --> 00:37:44.150
HOUSE 'CAUSE HE GOT THERE, LIKE,
00:37:44.150 --> 00:37:45.070
IN TWO MINUTES.
00:37:45.070 --> 00:37:46.060
[LAUGHTER]
00:37:46.060 --> 00:37:49.020
AND I SAID, "MY WIFE SAYS YOU
00:37:49.020 --> 00:37:49.230
WANNA TALK TO US.
00:37:49.230 --> 00:37:50.240
WHAT DO YOU WANNA TALK ABOUT?"
00:37:50.240 --> 00:37:51.270
HE SAYS, "WELL, I'VE BEEN DATING
00:37:51.270 --> 00:37:53.110
YOUR DAUGHTER FOR FOUR YEARS,
00:37:53.110 --> 00:37:54.150
AND WANNA KNOW IF WE CAN-- I CAN
00:37:54.150 --> 00:37:55.170
MARRY HER.
00:37:55.170 --> 00:37:57.190
- WILFREDO: I SAID, "NOPE.
00:37:57.190 --> 00:37:58.240
SHE'S GOT EVERYTHING SHE HAS
00:37:58.240 --> 00:37:59.160
RIGHT HERE, EVERYTHING:
00:37:59.160 --> 00:38:01.010
PROTECTION, SECURITY, LOVE FROM
00:38:01.010 --> 00:38:03.020
A FATHER.
00:38:03.020 --> 00:38:04.260
ALL THESE THINGS, CAN YOU GIVE
00:38:04.260 --> 00:38:06.000
HER THAT?
00:38:06.000 --> 00:38:07.070
CAN YOU GIVE HER THAT?
00:38:07.070 --> 00:38:07.290
I MEAN, YOU'VE BEEN DATING FOR
00:38:07.290 --> 00:38:08.270
FOUR YEARS.
00:38:08.270 --> 00:38:10.090
HOW MUCH MONEY HAVE YOU SAVED?"
00:38:10.090 --> 00:38:12.020
HE SAID, "WELL, I SAVED
00:38:12.020 --> 00:38:13.100
AROUND $20.000."
00:38:13.100 --> 00:38:15.050
I SAID, "WELL, WELCOME
00:38:15.050 --> 00:38:15.220
TO THE FAMILY."
00:38:15.220 --> 00:38:16.160
[LAUGHTER]
00:38:16.160 --> 00:38:17.200
[APPLAUSE]
00:38:18.290 --> 00:38:21.290
AND NOW THEY'RE HAPPILY MARRIED.
00:38:21.290 --> 00:38:22.250
THEY'RE SEVEN YEARS MARRIED AND
00:38:22.250 --> 00:38:24.040
GOT-- THEY'RE GONNA GIVE US OUR
00:38:24.040 --> 00:38:25.070
SECOND GRANDCHILD BUT--
00:38:25.070 --> 00:38:26.070
- BRIAN: OH, THAT'S GOOD,
00:38:26.070 --> 00:38:27.080
THAT'S GOOD.
00:38:27.080 --> 00:38:27.200
- WILFREDO: AMEN.
00:38:27.200 --> 00:38:28.180
BUT THAT'S THE PROTECTING PART
00:38:28.180 --> 00:38:29.090
OF A MAN.
00:38:29.090 --> 00:38:31.000
- BRIAN: WELL, AND IT DOESN'T--
00:38:31.000 --> 00:38:31.220
IT NEVER ENDS.
00:38:31.220 --> 00:38:32.050
LIKE, IN THIS SITUATION WITH
00:38:32.050 --> 00:38:33.050
MARIAH-- BY THE WAY, THIS BOY
00:38:33.050 --> 00:38:34.150
SHE'S BEEN DATING, HE ACTUALLY
00:38:34.150 --> 00:38:35.150
TURNED OUT TO BE A MAN.
00:38:35.150 --> 00:38:36.130
SHE'S STILL WITH HIM FOUR YEARS
00:38:36.130 --> 00:38:37.210
LATER.
00:38:37.210 --> 00:38:38.050
I THINK THEY'RE PROBABLY GONNA
00:38:38.050 --> 00:38:39.020
GET MARRIED.
00:38:39.020 --> 00:38:39.140
IT'S PRETTY IMPRESSIVE.
00:38:39.140 --> 00:38:41.090
BUT WHEN I HAD THAT DISCUSSION,
00:38:41.090 --> 00:38:42.230
MY DAUGHTER WAS FREAKING OUT
00:38:42.230 --> 00:38:45.120
WHEN I WENT TO TALK WITH HIM.
00:38:45.120 --> 00:38:46.290
[LAUGHTER]
00:38:46.290 --> 00:38:47.100
MY WIFE WAS FREAKING OUT.
00:38:47.100 --> 00:38:48.030
I GET BACK.
00:38:48.030 --> 00:38:51.010
MY PHONE'S BLOWIN' UP FROM MY
00:38:51.010 --> 00:38:51.220
OTHER TWO OLDER KIDS.
00:38:51.220 --> 00:38:53.010
THEY'RE GOIN', "WAY TO GO, DAD,
00:38:53.010 --> 00:38:53.280
WAY TO GO."
00:38:53.280 --> 00:38:54.220
HERE'S THE THING:
00:38:54.220 --> 00:38:57.080
WE ALL WANNA BE WELL LED.
00:38:57.080 --> 00:38:58.170
IT DOESN'T MATTER IF WE ARE 16
00:38:58.170 --> 00:38:59.190
OR WHETHER WE'RE 53.
00:38:59.190 --> 00:39:02.170
I STILL WANT MY DAD TO LEAD ME.
00:39:02.170 --> 00:39:03.200
THAT NEVER STOPS 'CAUSE WE, AS
00:39:03.200 --> 00:39:04.270
MEN, WE WANNA BE ON THE PART
00:39:04.270 --> 00:39:05.260
OF A TEAM.
00:39:05.260 --> 00:39:07.250
WE WANT SOMEBODY TO BE
00:39:07.250 --> 00:39:08.170
PROTECTING US.
00:39:08.170 --> 00:39:09.010
- WILFREDO: WE HAVE A DREAM
00:39:09.010 --> 00:39:10.080
CENTER IN CHICAGO, AND WE ALSO
00:39:10.080 --> 00:39:11.230
HAVE A TEEN CENTER, SO ONE OF
00:39:11.230 --> 00:39:13.190
OUR GIRLS, SHE WAS TURNING 17.
00:39:13.190 --> 00:39:16.130
SHE WAS GRADUATING FROM
00:39:16.130 --> 00:39:17.020
HIGH SCHOOL.
00:39:20.130 --> 00:39:23.130
WHEN WE FIRST-- SHE CAME TO US.
00:39:23.130 --> 00:39:24.050
SHE WAS PROBABLY IN HER FRESHMAN
00:39:24.050 --> 00:39:24.280
YEAR, SO WE BECAME-- THE CHURCH
00:39:24.280 --> 00:39:26.010
BECAME LIKE THE GUARDIAN, RIGHT?
00:39:26.010 --> 00:39:26.230
SO I BECAME HER FATHER,
00:39:26.230 --> 00:39:28.030
PUERTO RICAN TO AN
00:39:28.030 --> 00:39:28.180
AFRICAN-AMERICAN.
00:39:28.180 --> 00:39:30.040
SO HERE SHE IS.
00:39:30.040 --> 00:39:30.290
SHE'S ON HER PROM NIGHT, SO I
00:39:30.290 --> 00:39:32.100
TOLD THE STAFF, "WHEN HER DATE
00:39:32.100 --> 00:39:34.260
GETS THERE, TELL HIM TO CALL ME.
00:39:34.260 --> 00:39:37.080
I WANNA GO THERE."
00:39:37.080 --> 00:39:38.070
SO THE DATE GETS THERE.
00:39:38.070 --> 00:39:39.060
I SHOW UP IN MY CAR, AND I JUST
00:39:39.060 --> 00:39:41.160
WANTED THE YOUNG MAN TO KNOW
00:39:41.160 --> 00:39:42.150
THAT THE YOUNG GIRL HAD A
00:39:42.150 --> 00:39:44.210
FATHER, AND I WANTED HIM TO KNOW
00:39:45.210 --> 00:39:48.210
THERE'S A PROTECTING HER.
00:39:48.210 --> 00:39:51.000
[APPLAUSE]
00:39:51.000 --> 00:39:52.090
AND THIS IS WHAT GOD, WHEN HE'S
00:39:52.090 --> 00:39:53.190
TRANSPORTED YOU FROM A LIFE OF
00:39:53.190 --> 00:39:55.160
SIN, AND GOD RESCUES YOU IS SO
00:39:55.160 --> 00:39:57.120
THAT YOU CAN PLAY A ROLE IN THE
00:39:57.120 --> 00:39:58.250
LIFE OF A CHILD.
00:39:58.250 --> 00:40:01.110
TALK TO US ABOUT THE OTHER MARK
00:40:01.180 --> 00:40:04.180
OF A MAN BECAUSE WE TALKED ABOUT
00:40:04.180 --> 00:40:05.220
VISION, WE TALKED ABOUT TEAM
00:40:05.220 --> 00:40:06.210
- BRIAN: THE LAST ONE IS THAT A
00:40:09.010 --> 00:40:10.050
MAN TAKES A MINORITY POSITION,
00:40:10.050 --> 00:40:11.190
BUT A BOY NEEDS TO BE IN THE
00:40:11.190 --> 00:40:13.230
MAJORITY.
00:40:13.230 --> 00:40:15.250
- WILFREDO: THAT'S GOOD.
00:40:15.250 --> 00:40:16.230
- BRIAN: SO WHEN I USED TO DO
00:40:16.230 --> 00:40:17.140
STUDENT MINISTRY, AND YOU TRY TO
00:40:17.140 --> 00:40:19.100
THE BIG OBJECTION AND THE BIG
00:40:21.140 --> 00:40:22.050
QUESTION EVERY KID WOULD ASK IS
00:40:22.050 --> 00:40:22.270
"WELL, WHO ELSE IS GOIN'?
00:40:22.270 --> 00:40:23.160
WHO'S GOIN'?"
00:40:23.160 --> 00:40:25.200
BECAUSE THEY WANNA MAKE SURE
00:40:25.200 --> 00:40:27.010
THERE'S SORT OF A MASH, THERE'S
00:40:27.010 --> 00:40:28.070
A MOB RUNNIN' UP.
00:40:28.070 --> 00:40:29.290
A MAN ISN'T LIKE THAT.
00:40:29.290 --> 00:40:31.050
BOYS ARE LIKE PIGEONS.
00:40:31.050 --> 00:40:32.030
MEN ARE LIKE EAGLES.
00:40:32.030 --> 00:40:34.010
YOU KNOW, WHEN YOU GO DOWNTOWN
00:40:34.010 --> 00:40:35.080
TO CHICAGO, WHEREVER YOU ARE,
00:40:35.080 --> 00:40:36.070
PIGEONS, THEY'RE ALL OVER
00:40:36.070 --> 00:40:36.260
THE PLACE.
00:40:37.020 --> 00:40:40.020
THEY'RE EVERYWHERE.
00:40:40.020 --> 00:40:40.180
THEY'RE IN THIS BIG MASS.
00:40:40.180 --> 00:40:41.070
THEY'RE ALL AROUND.
00:40:41.070 --> 00:40:43.090
BUT EAGLES, MAN, FALCONS,
00:40:43.090 --> 00:40:43.280
THEY SOAR ABOVE.
00:40:43.280 --> 00:40:44.180
THEY'RE UP HERE.
00:40:44.180 --> 00:40:45.110
BOYS ARE ALWAYS DOWN HERE,
00:40:45.110 --> 00:40:47.090
TRYIN' TO GET THE CHICKEN SCRAPS
00:40:47.090 --> 00:40:48.260
WITH THE MASSES, BUT THERE'S
00:40:48.260 --> 00:40:50.110
FEWER MEN THAN THERE ARE BOYS,
00:40:50.110 --> 00:40:52.100
AND I REALIZE, YOU START ME
00:40:52.100 --> 00:40:54.060
TALKIN' ABOUT SEX, I KNOW I AM
00:40:54.060 --> 00:40:55.050
GOING TO BE WEIRD.
00:40:56.020 --> 00:40:59.020
I KNOW, ME BELIEVING THAT A MAN
00:40:59.020 --> 00:41:01.100
SHOULD HAVE SEX WITH A WOMAN
00:41:01.180 --> 00:41:04.180
ONLY WHEN HE IS MARRIED, I KNOW
00:41:04.180 --> 00:41:07.020
I'M IN THE MINORITY.
00:41:07.020 --> 00:41:09.150
I KNOW THAT HOLLYWOOD'S NEVER
00:41:09.150 --> 00:41:10.110
GONNA SUPPORT THAT.
00:41:10.110 --> 00:41:10.270
I KNOW I'M NEVER GONNA SEE THAT
00:41:10.270 --> 00:41:11.250
VALUE LIFTED UP.
00:41:11.250 --> 00:41:13.090
I KNOW, WHENEVER THERE'S A SEX
00:41:13.090 --> 00:41:14.140
DISCUSSION OR ANYTHING, I'M
00:41:14.140 --> 00:41:15.230
ALWAYS GONNA BE THE WEIRD ONE IN
00:41:15.230 --> 00:41:18.020
THE ROOM, AND THAT'S OKAY.
00:41:18.020 --> 00:41:20.150
I AM FINE WITH THAT.
00:41:20.150 --> 00:41:21.240
[APPLAUSE]
00:41:21.240 --> 00:41:24.090
I WILL BE IN A MINORITY.
00:41:24.090 --> 00:41:24.270
I KNOW, I KNOW, WHENEVER WE
00:41:24.270 --> 00:41:26.140
START TALKIN' ABOUT MANAGING
00:41:26.140 --> 00:41:27.270
MONEY AND HOW MUCH YOU SHOULD
00:41:27.270 --> 00:41:29.030
GIVE AWAY, I KNOW PEOPLE ARE
00:41:29.030 --> 00:41:30.210
GONNA LOOK AT ME AND "YOU GIVE
00:41:30.210 --> 00:41:31.260
WHAT PERCENTAGE OF YOUR INCOME
00:41:31.260 --> 00:41:32.170
AWAY?"
00:41:32.170 --> 00:41:33.050
"I KNOW THAT, AND IT WORKS, AND
00:41:33.050 --> 00:41:35.160
I'M A MAN, AND YOU'RE NOT.
00:41:35.160 --> 00:41:37.160
I UNDERSTAND."
00:41:37.160 --> 00:41:39.270
YOU JUST GET INTO SO MANY
00:41:39.270 --> 00:41:41.080
THINGS, I JUST RECOGNIZE
00:41:41.080 --> 00:41:42.290
I'M NOT GONNA HAVE-- I'M GONNA
00:41:42.290 --> 00:41:44.160
HAVE AFFIRMATION MAYBE WHEN I'M
00:41:44.160 --> 00:41:46.020
WITH YOU, OKAY?
00:41:46.020 --> 00:41:48.030
BUT WE'RE-- BE VERY CLEAR,
00:41:48.030 --> 00:41:49.140
BROTHER, WE'RE IN THE MINORITY,
00:41:49.140 --> 00:41:50.140
AND A MAN'S LIKE--
00:41:50.140 --> 00:41:52.050
- WILFREDO: ABSOLUTELY.
00:41:52.050 --> 00:41:52.250
AND IT WASN'T LIKE THIS BECAUSE,
00:41:52.250 --> 00:41:55.160
IN 1914, WHEN THE "TITANIC"
00:41:55.160 --> 00:41:56.240
SANK, OVER 82% OF THE WOMEN
00:41:57.200 --> 00:42:00.220
SURVIVED, SURVIVED THAT NIGHT.
00:42:01.070 --> 00:42:04.070
I DON'T KNOW IF YOU KNEW THAT.
00:42:04.070 --> 00:42:06.260
OVER 82% SURVIVED.
00:42:06.260 --> 00:42:07.110
THE MEN WOULD RATHER GIVE THE
00:42:07.110 --> 00:42:08.250
WOMEN THE DOORS
00:42:08.250 --> 00:42:11.230
SO THAT THE WOMEN--
00:42:11.230 --> 00:42:13.040
OR GET 'EM ON THE BOAT AND
00:42:13.040 --> 00:42:14.100
SACRIFICE THEIR LIVES.
00:42:14.100 --> 00:42:15.140
THAT WAS 1914.
00:42:15.230 --> 00:42:18.230
2019, THE MEN ARE, LIKE, KICKIN'
00:42:18.230 --> 00:42:20.220
THE WOMEN.
00:42:21.180 --> 00:42:24.180
[LAUGHTER]
00:42:24.180 --> 00:42:25.020
"GIRL, GET YOUR OWN BOAT."
00:42:25.020 --> 00:42:28.020
BUT THAT CULTURE,
00:42:28.020 --> 00:42:28.250
THAT CULTURE THAT YOU'RE
00:42:28.250 --> 00:42:29.280
TALKIN' ABOUT IN THE
00:42:29.280 --> 00:42:31.070
1914s AND THE 1950s,
00:42:31.070 --> 00:42:33.030
CHRISTIANITY WAS NOT
00:42:33.030 --> 00:42:34.170
IN THE MINORITY.
00:42:34.170 --> 00:42:36.220
THE WAY OF THINKIN' WAS NOT IN
00:42:36.220 --> 00:42:38.040
THE MINORITY, BUT WE FIND
00:42:38.040 --> 00:42:40.030
OURSELVES TODAY IN A CULTURE
00:42:40.030 --> 00:42:41.090
THAT SAYS TO YOU AND I, "WE ARE
00:42:41.090 --> 00:42:42.250
OUT OF STEP.
00:42:42.250 --> 00:42:44.210
WE'RE NOT COOL.
00:42:44.210 --> 00:42:46.290
WE'RE A COUNTERCULTURE."
00:42:46.290 --> 00:42:47.260
- BRIAN: AMERICA HAS ALWAYS HAD
00:42:47.260 --> 00:42:48.180
ITS PROBLEMS.
00:42:48.180 --> 00:42:49.080
LET'S BE REAL.
00:42:49.080 --> 00:42:49.240
SLAVERY EXISTED INSIDE OF A
00:42:49.240 --> 00:42:51.020
CHRISTIAN CULTURE.
00:42:51.020 --> 00:42:51.270
ALCOHOL ABUSE TOOK PLACE.
00:42:51.270 --> 00:42:54.210
AMERICA'S NEVER BEEN THIS
00:42:54.210 --> 00:42:56.290
BEAUTIFUL, GOD-ORIENTED-- IT
00:42:57.080 --> 00:43:00.100
NEVER HAS, BUT THERE WAS A TIME
00:43:00.100 --> 00:43:03.100
WHEN THE, SORT OF, CHRISTIAN
00:43:03.100 --> 00:43:05.230
MORAL WORLDVIEW WAS SOMEWHAT
00:43:05.230 --> 00:43:08.190
PREVALENT, AND YOU COULD BE AN
00:43:08.190 --> 00:43:11.120
ATHEIST AND BE VERY EXCITED IN
00:43:11.120 --> 00:43:12.190
AMERICA EVEN THOUGH IT WAS
00:43:12.190 --> 00:43:14.000
CHRISTIAN BECAUSE THAT'S WHAT
00:43:14.000 --> 00:43:15.080
YOUR VALUES WERE, AND THE
00:43:15.080 --> 00:43:16.280
CULTURE SUPPORTED THAT.
00:43:16.280 --> 00:43:18.100
CULTURE DOES NOT SUPPORT THAT
00:43:18.100 --> 00:43:19.160
ANY LONGER.
00:43:19.160 --> 00:43:19.290
IN FACT, IF YOU HAVE THAT AS A
00:43:19.290 --> 00:43:21.190
SET OR A CODE FOR HOW YOU
00:43:21.190 --> 00:43:24.020
OPERATE, YOU'RE GOING TO BE
00:43:24.020 --> 00:43:25.070
WEIRD, YOU'RE GOING TO BE
00:43:25.070 --> 00:43:26.080
SHUNNED, YOU'RE GOING TO BE
00:43:26.080 --> 00:43:27.230
JUDGED FOR THINGS THAT PEOPLE
00:43:27.230 --> 00:43:29.000
USED TO BE CONGRATULATED FOR
00:43:29.000 --> 00:43:29.200
JUST 30 YEARS AGO.
00:43:29.200 --> 00:43:31.270
- WILFREDO: ABSOLUTELY, AND LET
00:43:31.270 --> 00:43:32.250
ME JUST ENCOURAGE THOSE THAT ARE
00:43:32.250 --> 00:43:34.150
WATCHING, YOU MAY BE LIKE MY
00:43:34.150 --> 00:43:35.280
BROTHER IS SAYING, IN THE
00:43:35.280 --> 00:43:37.080
MINORITY, WHICH WE ARE, BUT ONE
00:43:37.080 --> 00:43:38.050
MAN OR ONE WOMAN WITH GOD IS THE
00:43:39.000 --> 00:43:42.000
MAJORITY.
00:43:42.280 --> 00:43:45.280
ALL YOU NEED IS GOD ON YOUR SIDE
00:43:45.280 --> 00:43:46.280
AND VALUE SYSTEM.
00:43:46.280 --> 00:43:48.140
[APPLAUSE]
00:43:48.140 --> 00:43:51.080
AND MAYBE YOU'RE RUNNING A
00:43:51.080 --> 00:43:51.270
MEN'S MINISTRY.
00:43:53.190 --> 00:43:56.190
MAYBE YOU'RE TRYIN' TO THINK
00:43:56.190 --> 00:43:57.090
ABOUT HOW TO DEAL WITH THE LIFE
00:43:57.090 --> 00:43:58.160
GROUP IN YOUR SETTING THERE,
00:43:58.160 --> 00:43:59.060
WHEREVER YOU'RE AT, SOMEWHERE
00:43:59.060 --> 00:43:59.270
AROUND THE WORLD.
00:43:59.270 --> 00:44:00.140
I WANT MY BROTHER BRIAN JUST TO
00:44:00.140 --> 00:44:01.140
SPEAK INTO YOUR LIFE AND JUST TO
00:44:01.140 --> 00:44:03.130
GIVE YOU SOME POINTERS, SOME
00:44:03.130 --> 00:44:05.020
IDEAS HOW TO START A MEN'S GROUP
00:44:05.020 --> 00:44:07.090
'CAUSE HE'S GOT THIS CAVE, THIS
00:44:07.090 --> 00:44:08.210
CAMP THAT HAPPENS WITH THE MEN.
00:44:08.210 --> 00:44:10.000
HE ALSO HAS A MARRIAGE GROUP OR
00:44:10.000 --> 00:44:11.090
CAMP THAT'S HAPPENING.
00:44:11.090 --> 00:44:12.160
I WANT HIM TO SPEAK INTO THAT,
00:44:12.160 --> 00:44:14.160
AND THEN, IN A LITTLE BIT, WE'RE
00:44:14.160 --> 00:44:15.080
GONNA SEE A LITTLE BIT OF
00:44:15.080 --> 00:44:16.010
CROSSROADS.
00:44:16.010 --> 00:44:17.090
IF YOU COULD JUST LET OUR
00:44:17.090 --> 00:44:18.060
VIEWERS KNOW A LITTLE BIT ABOUT
00:44:18.060 --> 00:44:18.280
THAT?
00:44:18.280 --> 00:44:20.050
- BRIAN: YEAH, WELL, FIRST, I
00:44:20.050 --> 00:44:21.060
YOU KNOW, MAN, IF YOU ARE A
00:44:24.000 --> 00:44:24.200
WOMAN, YOU ARE EQUALLY CREATED
00:44:24.200 --> 00:44:25.110
IN THE IMAGE OF GOD, AND YOU
00:44:25.110 --> 00:44:26.010
AND THERE'S NOTHING IN
00:44:30.100 --> 00:44:31.000
THIS BOOK THAT ISN'T
00:44:31.000 --> 00:44:32.210
APPLICABLE TO YOUR LIFE, AND
00:44:32.210 --> 00:44:33.160
MAYBE THIS BOOK WOULD HELP SOME
00:44:33.160 --> 00:44:34.260
OTHER GUY THAT'S IN YOUR LIFE.
00:44:34.260 --> 00:44:36.270
I WANNA BE REAL CLEAR ON THAT,
00:44:36.270 --> 00:44:37.180
BUT THIS BOOK WAS WRITTEN, AND
00:44:37.180 --> 00:44:40.020
THE MESSAGE I'M GIVING RIGHT NOW
00:44:40.020 --> 00:44:40.240
IS GIVEN FOR A GENDER THAT IS
00:44:40.240 --> 00:44:43.190
BEATEN DOWN AND IS CONFUSED AND
00:44:43.190 --> 00:44:45.170
IT'S REALLY CRAZY: ON KING
00:44:53.160 --> 00:44:55.040
DAVID'S FINAL DEATH BED, IT'S
00:44:55.040 --> 00:44:56.120
ONE OF THE CRAZIEST SCENES IN
00:44:56.120 --> 00:44:57.110
THE BIBLE BECAUSE, AS HE'S
00:44:57.110 --> 00:44:58.230
DYING, HIS MIGHTY MEN STUFF A
00:44:59.180 --> 00:45:02.200
BUNCH OF YOUNG WOMEN INTO HIS
00:45:02.200 --> 00:45:04.160
BED, AND WE DON'T HEAR THIS ONE
00:45:04.160 --> 00:45:06.040
PREACHED VERY OFTEN.
00:45:06.040 --> 00:45:07.060
[LAUGHTER]
00:45:07.060 --> 00:45:08.090
HE'S COLD, HE'S DYING, AND THEY
00:45:08.090 --> 00:45:09.160
WERE LIKE, "THE KING'S DYIN'.
00:45:09.160 --> 00:45:10.190
WE'LL STICK SOME YOUNG WOMEN IN
00:45:10.190 --> 00:45:12.070
THERE WITH HIM."
00:45:12.070 --> 00:45:12.210
HE CAN'T DO ANYTHING
00:45:12.210 --> 00:45:14.010
BECAUSE HIS BLOOD FLOW IS SO
00:45:14.010 --> 00:45:15.120
POOR, BUT STICK SOME YOUNG
00:45:15.120 --> 00:45:16.150
WOMEN IN THERE AND WARM HIM UP."
00:45:16.150 --> 00:45:17.250
SO THIS IS HAPPENING.
00:45:17.250 --> 00:45:18.290
HE'S TRYING TO-- AND HE BRINGS
00:45:18.290 --> 00:45:19.200
HIS SON SOLOMON TO HIM, AND IF
00:45:19.220 --> 00:45:22.220
YOU BRING SOLOMON TO HIM, HE
00:45:22.220 --> 00:45:24.000
GIVES HIM, SORT OF, HIS FINAL
00:45:24.000 --> 00:45:25.180
WORDS BEFORE SOLOMON'S GOING TO
00:45:25.180 --> 00:45:26.280
BECOME KING, AND HE SAYS,
00:45:26.280 --> 00:45:28.150
"HONOR THE LORD YOUR GOD,
00:45:28.150 --> 00:45:30.020
FOLLOW HIS COMMANDMENTS,
00:45:30.020 --> 00:45:30.200
AND ACT LIKE A MAN."
00:45:30.200 --> 00:45:33.120
BE A MAN.
00:45:33.120 --> 00:45:34.280
[APPLAUSE]
00:45:34.280 --> 00:45:36.180
MEN, MEN, YOU HAVE TO BELIEVE
00:45:36.180 --> 00:45:39.160
THAT IT IS A BLESSING TO
00:45:39.160 --> 00:45:42.020
BE A MAN.
00:45:42.020 --> 00:45:43.030
- WILFREDO: YES, YES.
00:45:43.030 --> 00:45:44.080
- BRIAN: I'M SURE IT'S A
00:45:44.080 --> 00:45:44.270
BLESSING TO BE A WOMAN TOO.
00:45:44.270 --> 00:45:45.250
I'VE NEVER BEEN ONE, I DON'T
00:45:45.250 --> 00:45:46.280
PLAN ON BEING ONE, BUT I'M SURE
00:45:46.280 --> 00:45:48.040
IT'S AS BLESSED COULD BE.
00:45:48.040 --> 00:45:50.040
I'M SURE IT'D BE AMAZING TO HAVE
00:45:50.040 --> 00:45:50.260
THE CAPACITY TO BRING LIFE OUT
00:45:50.260 --> 00:45:51.290
OF YOUR BODY.
00:45:51.290 --> 00:45:53.040
THAT WOULD BE AMAZING THAT A
00:45:53.040 --> 00:45:54.120
WOMAN GETS TO DO, BUT YOU GOTTA
00:45:54.120 --> 00:45:55.190
KNOW, AS A MAN, IT IS A BLESSING
00:45:55.210 --> 00:45:58.210
TO BE A MAN.
00:45:58.210 --> 00:45:59.090
THE BIBLE SAYS YOU SHOULD HONOR
00:45:59.090 --> 00:46:01.040
THE WEAKER VESSEL AS YOUR WIFE.
00:46:01.040 --> 00:46:03.290
I GOTTA TELL YA, I'M NOT SURE
00:46:03.290 --> 00:46:05.080
WHAT THAT MEANS.
00:46:05.080 --> 00:46:07.020
I DON'T KNOW WHAT THAT MEANS
00:46:07.020 --> 00:46:07.220
'CAUSE I KNOW WOMEN WHO CAN DO
00:46:07.220 --> 00:46:08.170
MORE PUSH-UPS THAN THEIR
00:46:08.170 --> 00:46:10.050
HUSBANDS.
00:46:10.050 --> 00:46:11.090
I KNOW WOMEN WHO ARE MORE
00:46:11.090 --> 00:46:13.270
EMOTIONALLY STABLE THAN THEIR
00:46:13.270 --> 00:46:14.180
HUSBANDS.
00:46:14.180 --> 00:46:16.050
I DON'T KNOW WHAT THAT MEANS.
00:46:16.050 --> 00:46:18.160
THERE ARE SOME THINGS IN THE
00:46:18.160 --> 00:46:19.240
BIBLE I DON'T KNOW EXACTLY WHAT
00:46:19.240 --> 00:46:20.210
IT MEANS, BUT YOU JUST DO IT.
00:46:20.210 --> 00:46:22.230
AND I'LL TELL YA WHAT, IF YOU'RE
00:46:22.230 --> 00:46:24.040
MARRIED, AND YOU JUST TREAT YOUR
00:46:24.040 --> 00:46:25.110
WIFE LIKE SHE IS A PRECIOUS
00:46:25.110 --> 00:46:27.260
VESSEL FROM THE MING DYNASTY, A
00:46:27.260 --> 00:46:30.070
PRECIOUS VESSEL THAT NEEDS--
00:46:30.070 --> 00:46:32.240
PROTECTED AND NURTURED AND
00:46:32.240 --> 00:46:35.110
VALUED AND APPRECIATED, YOUR
00:46:35.110 --> 00:46:36.210
MARRIAGE WILL GO TO A WHOLE
00:46:36.210 --> 00:46:38.160
NOTHER LEVEL.
00:46:39.250 --> 00:46:42.250
NO ONE GETS TO BE YOU, OTHER
00:46:42.250 --> 00:46:44.050
THAN YOU, AND YOU GOTTA FEEL
00:46:44.050 --> 00:46:45.180
IT'S A BLESSING TO BE YOU AND
00:46:45.180 --> 00:46:46.180
THERE'S UNIQUE CAPACITY GOD HAS
00:46:46.180 --> 00:46:48.070
FOR YOU, AND HERE'S THE THING:
00:46:48.070 --> 00:46:50.090
DOESN'T MATTER HOW BOYISH YOU'VE
00:46:50.090 --> 00:46:51.260
BEEN, DOESN'T MATTER HOW
00:46:51.260 --> 00:46:53.200
PIGEON-LIKE YOU'VE BEEN, DOESN'T
00:46:53.200 --> 00:46:55.050
MATTER HOW YOUNG ELEPHANT-LIKE
00:46:55.050 --> 00:46:56.000
YOU'VE BEEN.
00:46:56.000 --> 00:46:57.050
THAT IS TOMORROW.
00:46:57.050 --> 00:46:57.270
WE ARE NOT ABOUT THE GOD OF
00:46:57.270 --> 00:46:59.000
YESTERDAY.
00:46:59.000 --> 00:47:00.200
WE'RE ABOUT THE GOD OF TOMORROW.
00:47:00.200 --> 00:47:03.130
LET THE END BE THE END.
00:47:03.130 --> 00:47:05.160
TODAY COULD BE YOUR COMING OF
00:47:05.160 --> 00:47:06.250
AGE BIRTHDAY.
00:47:06.250 --> 00:47:07.120
TODAY COULD BE YOUR FIRST DAY AS
00:47:07.180 --> 00:47:10.180
A MAN.
00:47:10.180 --> 00:47:13.060
JUST RIGHT NOW, HIT YOUR KNEES.
00:47:13.060 --> 00:47:14.110
HIT YOUR KNEES BEFORE THE TV
00:47:14.110 --> 00:47:15.010
RIGHT NOW.
00:47:15.010 --> 00:47:15.160
GOD SEES IT.
00:47:15.160 --> 00:47:16.010
GOD SEES.
00:47:16.010 --> 00:47:17.150
IN FACT, LOOK AT ME RIGHT NOW.
00:47:17.150 --> 00:47:18.120
I'LL TELL YA RIGHT NOW, AND I
00:47:18.120 --> 00:47:19.190
DON'T KNOW IF ANYONE'S EVER
00:47:19.190 --> 00:47:20.090
TOLD YOU.
00:47:20.090 --> 00:47:21.030
I'MMA TELL YA RIGHT NOW: IF I
00:47:21.030 --> 00:47:22.170
WAS WITH YOU, I WOULD DO THIS
00:47:22.170 --> 00:47:23.180
IN PERSON.
00:47:23.180 --> 00:47:25.130
I'VE DONE THIS TO A BUNCH
00:47:25.130 --> 00:47:26.020
OF GUYS.
00:47:26.020 --> 00:47:26.120
I'M GONNA DO IT FOR YOU,
00:47:26.120 --> 00:47:27.000
AND THIS IS FOR YOU.
00:47:27.000 --> 00:47:27.160
GOD HAS YOU HERE RIGHT NOW
00:47:27.160 --> 00:47:29.020
FOR THIS.
00:47:29.020 --> 00:47:29.160
YOU KNOW WHAT IT IS?
00:47:29.160 --> 00:47:30.160
ALL RIGHT, NOW, YOU'RE A GOOD
00:47:30.160 --> 00:47:32.240
MAN IN WHOM GOD IS PLEASED.
00:47:34.230 --> 00:47:37.230
GOD HAS FORMED YOU.
00:47:37.230 --> 00:47:39.130
HE'S KNIT YOU TOGETHER IN YOUR
00:47:39.130 --> 00:47:40.150
MOTHER'S WOMB.
00:47:40.210 --> 00:47:43.210
HE HAS A PLAN FOR YOU.
00:47:43.210 --> 00:47:44.190
HE HAS A PURPOSE FOR YOU.
00:47:44.190 --> 00:47:45.210
YOU ARE HIS SON.
00:47:45.270 --> 00:47:48.270
I TELL YOU RIGHT NOW, YOU ARE A
00:47:48.270 --> 00:47:49.230
MAN.
00:47:50.050 --> 00:47:53.050
GOD, PUT YOUR BLESSING ON THIS
00:47:53.050 --> 00:47:54.230
SON OF YOURS RIGHT NOW AND ON
00:47:54.230 --> 00:47:55.200
THIS MAN.
00:47:55.200 --> 00:47:57.250
MAKE THIS BE THE NEW DAY OF HIS
00:47:57.250 --> 00:47:59.170
LIFE, THAT HIS TOMORROW IS
00:47:59.170 --> 00:48:01.200
DIFFERENT THAN HIS YESTERDAY.
00:48:01.200 --> 00:48:03.060
AND, GOD, I PRAY FOR ALL THE
00:48:03.060 --> 00:48:04.120
WOMEN IN OUR AUDIENCE AND ON OUR
00:48:04.120 --> 00:48:06.110
BROADCAST THAT THEY WOULD BE
00:48:06.110 --> 00:48:08.190
PATIENT WITH THE GENDER THAT IS
00:48:09.080 --> 00:48:12.080
VERY BELEAGUERED, AND THAT THEY
00:48:12.080 --> 00:48:14.100
WOULD BE WISE WITH THE GENDER
00:48:14.130 --> 00:48:17.130
THAT IS ALSO FREQUENTLY
00:48:17.130 --> 00:48:18.170
VERY CONFUSED.
00:48:19.210 --> 00:48:22.210
BLESS YOUR SONS AND DAUGHTERS
00:48:22.210 --> 00:48:23.120
TODAY, I PRAY, JESUS, IN YOUR
00:48:23.120 --> 00:48:24.030
NAME, AMEN.
00:48:24.030 --> 00:48:25.010
- WILFREDO: COME, ON GIVE THE
00:48:25.010 --> 00:48:25.220
LORD A PRAISE OFFERING.
00:48:25.220 --> 00:48:26.100
[APPLAUSE]
00:48:26.100 --> 00:48:27.060
- WILFREDO: WOW, WOW.
00:48:27.060 --> 00:48:29.070
YOU JUST HEARD A WORD THERE FROM
00:48:29.070 --> 00:48:31.250
PASTOR BRIAN, THE AUTHOR OF
00:48:31.250 --> 00:48:33.130
"THE FIVE MARKS OF A MAN."
00:48:34.200 --> 00:48:37.200
IF YOU'RE EVER IN THE
00:48:37.200 --> 00:48:38.070
CINCINNATI, OHIO, AREA--
00:48:38.070 --> 00:48:39.040
HE HAS A GREAT CHURCH THERE,
00:48:39.040 --> 00:48:40.230
CROSSROADS.
00:48:40.230 --> 00:48:42.240
I WANT YOU TO WATCH THIS VIDEO A
00:48:42.240 --> 00:48:44.030
LITTLE BIT ABOUT HIS MINISTRY
00:48:44.030 --> 00:48:44.240
THERE IN CINCINNATI.
00:48:45.070 --> 00:48:48.070
- MALE: AM I AS GOOD-LOOKING AS
00:48:48.070 --> 00:48:48.290
I THINK I AM?
00:48:48.290 --> 00:48:50.110
- MALE: I WONDER WHERE NORMAL
00:48:50.110 --> 00:48:51.130
PEOPLE FIND FRIENDS?
00:48:51.130 --> 00:48:52.050
- MALE: WHERE WOULD I FIND OUT
00:48:52.050 --> 00:48:52.270
HOW TO BE A GOOD DAD?
00:48:52.270 --> 00:48:54.290
- FEMALE: SHOULD I BE TAKING MY
00:48:54.290 --> 00:48:55.210
KIDS TO CHURCH?
00:48:55.210 --> 00:48:57.210
- MALE: WHAT IS UP WITH MY
00:48:57.210 --> 00:48:58.110
NOSE HAIR?
00:48:58.110 --> 00:48:59.060
- ANNOUNCER: CROSSROADS CHURCH,
00:48:59.060 --> 00:48:59.280
REAL PEOPLE ASKING
00:48:59.280 --> 00:49:01.010
REAL QUESTIONS.
00:49:01.010 --> 00:49:04.010
- ANNOUNCER: CROSSROADS CHURCH
00:49:04.010 --> 00:49:04.230
IS A COMMUNITY OF PEOPLE ACROSS
00:49:04.230 --> 00:49:05.220
THE COUNTRY, TRADING ISOLATION
00:49:05.220 --> 00:49:07.100
FOR FRIENDSHIP,
00:49:07.100 --> 00:49:08.240
INSECURITY FOR HOPE.
00:49:09.070 --> 00:49:12.070
WE'RE PURSUING GOD IN THE MIDST
00:49:12.070 --> 00:49:12.290
OF OUR MESS, A GOD WHO LOVES US
00:49:12.290 --> 00:49:13.210
AND TAKES US ON INCREDIBLE
00:49:13.210 --> 00:49:14.230
ADVENTURES.
00:49:14.230 --> 00:49:15.240
CHECK US OUT.
00:49:15.240 --> 00:49:17.190
[CHEERS AND APPLAUSE]
00:49:18.250 --> 00:49:21.250
- WILFREDO: HEY, WELCOME BACK,
00:49:21.250 --> 00:49:22.240
WELCOME BACK.
00:49:22.240 --> 00:49:24.100
GOD BLESS YOU.
00:49:24.100 --> 00:49:25.100
WE'RE HERE IN THE WINDY CITY,
00:49:25.100 --> 00:49:26.260
CHICAGO, WITH PASTOR BRIAN,
00:49:26.260 --> 00:49:28.200
THE AUTHOR.
00:49:28.220 --> 00:49:31.220
YOU KNOW, ONE OF THE THINGS I
00:49:31.220 --> 00:49:32.130
WAS READING UP ON YOU WAS
00:49:32.130 --> 00:49:34.120
THE MOTORCYCLE.
00:49:34.120 --> 00:49:36.030
DID YOU MAKE SOMETHING ON
00:49:36.030 --> 00:49:36.220
THE MOTORCYCLE?
00:49:36.220 --> 00:49:37.060
- BRIAN: I DID.
00:49:37.060 --> 00:49:38.090
I AM OFFICIALLY AN INVENTOR, SO,
00:49:38.090 --> 00:49:39.140
YES, I--
00:49:39.140 --> 00:49:39.260
- WILFREDO: YEAH, YOU HAD AN
00:49:39.260 --> 00:49:41.030
AWARD.
00:49:41.030 --> 00:49:43.020
- BRIAN: YES, I-- WELL, I HAD A
00:49:43.020 --> 00:49:43.240
CUSTOM-BIKE-BUILDING AWARD, AND
00:49:43.240 --> 00:49:44.240
I INVENTED A PART THAT I MADE A
00:49:44.240 --> 00:49:46.110
LOT OF MONEY ON UNTIL THE
00:49:46.110 --> 00:49:48.140
MANUFACTURER MADE THEIR OWN PART
00:49:48.140 --> 00:49:49.260
AND PUT ME OUT OF BUSINESS SO--
00:49:49.260 --> 00:49:50.280
[LAUGHTER]
00:49:50.280 --> 00:49:53.140
- WILFREDO: WELL, YOU RIDE
00:49:53.140 --> 00:49:55.060
BIKES, YOU LOVE CAMPING, YOU
00:49:55.060 --> 00:49:56.010
HAVE A MINISTRY OUT IN
00:49:56.010 --> 00:49:57.090
CINCINNATI, OHIO, THAT GOD HAS
00:49:57.090 --> 00:49:58.220
BLESSED YOU WITH, GOT BEAUTIFUL
00:49:58.220 --> 00:50:00.130
CHILDREN.
00:50:00.130 --> 00:50:01.210
REALLY, QUICKLY, WHAT ARE MAYBE
00:50:01.210 --> 00:50:03.030
SOME NEXT STEPS THAT'S NEXT FOR
00:50:03.030 --> 00:50:04.190
BRIAN?
00:50:04.190 --> 00:50:06.120
- BRIAN: WELL, I THINK IT'S
00:50:06.120 --> 00:50:07.150
IMPORTANT, AS YOU TALK ABOUT
00:50:07.150 --> 00:50:08.170
IN SOME WAYS, I AM A
00:50:11.090 --> 00:50:12.000
STEREOTYPICAL MAN, BUT NONE OF
00:50:12.000 --> 00:50:13.230
THAT STUFF IS IN THE BOOK.
00:50:13.230 --> 00:50:14.260
YOU DON'T HAVE TO HAVE A TRUCK
00:50:14.260 --> 00:50:17.200
TO BE A MAN.
00:50:17.200 --> 00:50:19.050
SOME MANLY MEN HAVE MINIVANS.
00:50:19.160 --> 00:50:22.160
YOU DON'T HAVE TO BE INTO
00:50:22.160 --> 00:50:23.050
CAMPING TO BE A MAN.
00:50:23.050 --> 00:50:25.000
INCREDIBLE, MANLY MEN
00:50:25.000 --> 00:50:26.080
FINGER-PAINT.
00:50:26.080 --> 00:50:28.020
WE HAVE TO GET AWAY FROM THESE
00:50:28.020 --> 00:50:29.120
TRAPPINGS, JUST THE TRAPPINGS OF
00:50:29.120 --> 00:50:31.100
MASCULINITY, AND RECOGNIZE IT'S
00:50:31.100 --> 00:50:33.010
WHAT IS IT THAT'S FILLING
00:50:35.280 --> 00:50:36.170
YOU UP?
00:50:36.170 --> 00:50:37.060
SO, FOR ME-- I'M SURE IT'S,
00:50:37.060 --> 00:50:37.280
LIKE, THE SAME WITH YOU--
00:50:37.280 --> 00:50:39.010
MINISTRY WILL WEAR YOU OUT,
00:50:39.010 --> 00:50:40.130
YOU KNOW?
00:50:40.130 --> 00:50:42.290
EVEN JUST NORMAL LIFE WILL WEAR
00:50:42.290 --> 00:50:43.260
YOU OUT, AND I THINK GOD LOOKS
00:50:43.260 --> 00:50:46.150
AT US, AND HE WANTS TO MAKE SURE
00:50:46.150 --> 00:50:48.000
THAT WE'RE PLAYING.
00:50:48.000 --> 00:50:48.200
IF WE LOOK AT OUR KIDS, AND OUR
00:50:48.200 --> 00:50:50.070
KIDS WERE ONLY EVER AT WORK AND
00:50:50.070 --> 00:50:52.150
DOING SCHOOLWORK, WE WOULD SAY--
00:50:52.150 --> 00:50:54.220
WE NEVER SAW THEM LAUGHING IN
00:50:54.220 --> 00:50:55.180
THE SANDBOX; WE NEVER SAW THEM
00:50:55.180 --> 00:50:57.200
ON A SWING-- WE WOULD SAY,
00:50:57.200 --> 00:50:58.270
"WHAT'S WRONG WITH US HERE?"
00:50:58.270 --> 00:51:00.230
I THINK THERE'S A MASSIVE OUTAGE
00:51:00.230 --> 00:51:03.210
IN CHRISTENDOM IN OUR COUNTRY.
00:51:03.210 --> 00:51:04.230
WE'VE FORGOTTEN HOW TO PLAY.
00:51:04.230 --> 00:51:05.130
WE'VE FORGOTTEN HOW TO TAKE CARE
00:51:05.130 --> 00:51:06.230
OF OURSELVES.
00:51:06.230 --> 00:51:08.080
GOD HAS CREATED US THAT WAY, AND
00:51:08.080 --> 00:51:10.050
SO I PUT A SIZEABLE PORTION OF
00:51:10.050 --> 00:51:12.010
MY CREATIVE TIME TO FIGURING OUT
00:51:12.010 --> 00:51:13.170
HOW I CAN PLAY 'CAUSE, WHEN I
00:51:13.170 --> 00:51:15.190
PLAY, I BECOME A FRESHER VERSION
00:51:15.190 --> 00:51:17.010
OF MYSELF THAT HELPS ME TO SERVE
00:51:17.010 --> 00:51:18.210
GOD IN A MORE FRUITFUL WAY.
00:51:18.210 --> 00:51:20.190
- WILFREDO: WELL, LISTEN, I
00:51:20.190 --> 00:51:21.260
WANNA ENCOURAGE YOU, MOM, DAD,
00:51:22.140 --> 00:51:25.140
MEN'S DIRECTOR, WHATEVER
00:51:25.140 --> 00:51:28.120
MINISTRY YOU'RE LEADING, THIS
00:51:28.120 --> 00:51:29.210
BOOK, "THE FIVE MARKS OF A MAN,"
00:51:29.210 --> 00:51:32.200
I WANT YOU TO ORDER IT, GET A
00:51:32.200 --> 00:51:34.050
GROUP OF MEN TOGETHER, LET IT
00:51:34.050 --> 00:51:36.020
BLESS YOUR LIFE.
00:51:36.020 --> 00:51:37.130
THERE'S SOME REALLY GREAT
00:51:37.130 --> 00:51:38.170
NUGGETS HERE, I'M TELLING YOU,
00:51:38.170 --> 00:51:40.020
THAT CAN CHANGE YOUR LIFE,
00:51:40.020 --> 00:51:41.200
CHANGE THE WAY YOU'RE SEEING
00:51:41.200 --> 00:51:42.120
THINGS-- PERSPECTIVE.
00:51:42.120 --> 00:51:43.290
IT'S OKAY TO BE A MAN.
00:51:43.290 --> 00:51:46.190
- BRIAN: YEAH, AND WE FOUND
00:51:46.190 --> 00:51:47.220
THAT GUYS ARE GOIN' THROUGH THIS
00:51:47.220 --> 00:51:50.130
AS THEIR OWN SMALL GROUP.
00:51:50.130 --> 00:51:51.220
WE FOUND THAT MEN ARE TAKING
00:51:51.220 --> 00:51:52.230
THEIR CHILDREN THROUGH
00:51:52.230 --> 00:51:53.190
THIS BOOK.
00:51:54.170 --> 00:51:57.170
WE'RE SEEING THAT THERE ARE SOME
00:51:57.170 --> 00:51:58.090
PEOPLE WHO ARE MANAGERS AND
00:51:58.090 --> 00:51:58.290
THEIR WORK SETTING ARE TAKING
00:51:58.290 --> 00:51:59.200
PEOPLE THROUGH IT.
00:51:59.200 --> 00:52:00.070
WE'RE FINDING-- OF COURSE, WE
00:52:00.070 --> 00:52:00.280
ALREADY TALKED ABOUT COURT
00:52:00.280 --> 00:52:01.170
PEOPLE, AND COURT SYSTEMS ARE
00:52:01.170 --> 00:52:03.040
USING THIS.
00:52:03.040 --> 00:52:03.220
WE'VE SEEN FOOTBALL TEAMS
00:52:03.220 --> 00:52:04.190
USING THIS.
00:52:04.200 --> 00:52:07.200
IT'S JUST REALLY GREAT STARTER
00:52:07.200 --> 00:52:08.110
MATERIAL FOR YOU TO TALK.
00:52:08.110 --> 00:52:09.220
SOMETIMES WE, AS MEN, HAVE A
00:52:09.220 --> 00:52:11.010
HARD TIME HAVING A CONVERSATIONS
00:52:11.010 --> 00:52:13.160
BECAUSE WE DON'T KNOW EXACTLY
00:52:13.160 --> 00:52:14.070
WHAT TO TALK ABOUT.
00:52:14.070 --> 00:52:14.280
THIS COULD BE A GOOD STARTER FOR
00:52:14.280 --> 00:52:16.230
YA.
00:52:16.230 --> 00:52:18.050
- WILFREDO: YOU KNOW, ONE OF
00:52:18.050 --> 00:52:19.060
THE THINGS THAT I HOPE THAT THIS
00:52:19.060 --> 00:52:19.280
PROGRAM HAS BLESSED YOUR LIFE AS
00:52:19.280 --> 00:52:22.050
YOU'RE WATCHING THIS, THAT YOU
00:52:22.050 --> 00:52:23.180
WOULD READ KNOWING THAT
00:52:23.180 --> 00:52:25.000
WE WANT TO SET YOU FREE,
00:52:25.000 --> 00:52:27.080
MEN, 'CAUSE MEN HAVE BEEN
00:52:28.020 --> 00:52:31.020
INCARCERATED-- RIGHT?
00:52:31.020 --> 00:52:32.070
-- BY SOCIETY.
00:52:32.070 --> 00:52:32.210
WE JUST DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO.
00:52:32.210 --> 00:52:34.000
WE DON'T KNOW HOW TO BEHAVE.
00:52:34.000 --> 00:52:35.010
WE DON'T KNOW HOW TO ACT WITH
00:52:35.010 --> 00:52:36.090
OUR SPOUSES, OUR CHILDREN, WITH
00:52:36.090 --> 00:52:38.010
WOMEN IN THE CHURCH, SO WE WANT
00:52:38.010 --> 00:52:39.110
TO ENCOURAGE YOU IN THIS PROGRAM
00:52:39.110 --> 00:52:42.000
THAT IT'S OKAY TO BE A MAN, A
00:52:42.000 --> 00:52:43.010
GODLY MAN, A MAN WHO LIVES FOR
00:52:43.010 --> 00:52:45.040
JESUS, LOVES HIS WIFE, LOVES HIS
00:52:45.040 --> 00:52:47.230
FAMILY, LOVES HIS COMMUNITY, AND
00:52:47.230 --> 00:52:48.190
BE ABLE TO STAND UP.
00:52:49.150 --> 00:52:52.150
ONE OF THE THINGS I SHARE ACROSS
00:52:52.150 --> 00:52:53.280
THE COUNTRY IS THAT, WHEN A MAN
00:52:53.280 --> 00:52:55.180
STANDS UP, THE BOY SITS DOWN,
00:52:55.180 --> 00:52:56.200
AND WE NEED YOU TO TAKE YOUR
00:52:56.200 --> 00:52:57.290
PLACE, YOUR RIGHTFUL PLACE--
00:52:57.290 --> 00:52:59.120
[APPLAUSE]
00:52:59.140 --> 00:53:02.160
-- YOUR GOD-GIVEN PLACE, AND
00:53:02.160 --> 00:53:03.120
THIS BOOK, IT'S GOING TO PROVOKE
00:53:03.120 --> 00:53:05.040
YOU.
00:53:05.040 --> 00:53:06.280
IT'S GONNA DISTURB YOU BECAUSE
00:53:06.280 --> 00:53:08.200
THERE'S-- MEN HAVE BECOME
00:53:08.200 --> 00:53:10.070
EXTINCT LIKE THESE ELEPHANTS.
00:53:10.070 --> 00:53:12.230
THEY HAVE TO BE TRANSPORTED--
00:53:12.230 --> 00:53:13.240
RIGHT?
00:53:13.240 --> 00:53:15.260
-- TO A PLACE WHERE THEY CAN
00:53:15.260 --> 00:53:16.200
HAVE OTHER MEN TO MENTOR THEM,
00:53:16.200 --> 00:53:18.040
AND THOSE ARE SOME OF THE
00:53:18.040 --> 00:53:20.050
THINGS, THE MINISTRIES THAT YOU
00:53:20.050 --> 00:53:21.080
GUYS ARE DOING THROUGH THAT CAMP
00:53:21.080 --> 00:53:22.100
THAT YOU GUYS ARE HAVING THERE
00:53:22.100 --> 00:53:23.170
IN CINCINNATI.
00:53:23.170 --> 00:53:25.030
- BRIAN: EVERY CHURCH IS GONNA
00:53:25.030 --> 00:53:25.250
HAVE TO CRACK THE CODE ON THIS.
00:53:25.250 --> 00:53:27.200
WE HAVE A CRISIS IN CHRISTENDOM
00:53:27.200 --> 00:53:28.270
IN OUR COUNTRY.
00:53:28.270 --> 00:53:29.200
SEVENTY-SIX PERCENT OF ALL
00:53:30.040 --> 00:53:33.040
CHRISTIAN BOOKS BOUGHT ARE
00:53:33.040 --> 00:53:34.190
BOUGHT BY WOMEN.
00:53:34.190 --> 00:53:36.110
SEVENTY PERCENT, AT LEAST, OF
00:53:37.030 --> 00:53:40.030
EVERY CONGREGATION, IF YOU JUST
00:53:40.030 --> 00:53:41.110
LOOK AT YOUR CONGREGATION, LOOK
00:53:41.110 --> 00:53:42.030
AT THE PERCENTAGE THAT ARE IN
00:53:42.030 --> 00:53:43.140
THERE OF WOMEN VERSUS MEN-- WAY,
00:53:43.140 --> 00:53:45.230
WAY, WAY, WAY, WAY, WAY MORE.
00:53:45.230 --> 00:53:47.240
THIS IS NOT THE CASE WITH OTHER
00:53:47.240 --> 00:53:49.050
RELIGIONS.
00:53:49.050 --> 00:53:50.050
ISLAM, FOR INSTANCE, IS VERY,
00:53:50.050 --> 00:53:51.080
VERY STRONG IN BEING ABLE TO
00:53:51.080 --> 00:53:53.190
REACH MEN.
00:53:53.190 --> 00:53:55.080
MEN ARE VERY ENGAGED IN THEIR
00:53:55.080 --> 00:53:56.060
FAITH IN ISLAM.
00:53:56.060 --> 00:53:57.150
THIS HAS NOT ALWAYS BEEN THE WAY
00:53:57.150 --> 00:53:59.080
IT IS IN CHRISTIANITY.
00:53:59.080 --> 00:54:00.210
IT'S NOT, BUT IN TODAY, CURRENT,
00:54:00.210 --> 00:54:02.250
MODERN-DAY AMERICA, WE'RE NOT
00:54:02.250 --> 00:54:04.050
KNOWING HOW TO SPEAK TO MEN.
00:54:04.050 --> 00:54:06.140
WE DON'T KNOW HOW TO REACH MEN
00:54:06.140 --> 00:54:08.090
ANY LONGER.
00:54:08.090 --> 00:54:09.140
WE DON'T KNOW HOW TO ENGAGE MEN.
00:54:09.140 --> 00:54:10.110
WE DON'T KNOW HOW TO FIRE UP THE
00:54:10.110 --> 00:54:12.030
CREATIVITY OF MEN.
00:54:12.030 --> 00:54:13.180
CHURCHES HAVE GOTTA FIGURE THIS
00:54:13.180 --> 00:54:14.200
OUT.
00:54:14.200 --> 00:54:15.280
IT MAY NOT BE THE WAY THAT I'M
00:54:15.280 --> 00:54:16.190
DOING IT OR THE WAY THAT
00:54:16.190 --> 00:54:18.120
CROSSROADS IS DOING IT, BUT YOU
00:54:18.120 --> 00:54:19.040
GOTTA FIGURE THIS NUT OUT
00:54:19.040 --> 00:54:20.280
BECAUSE, AS MEN GO, SO GOES THE
00:54:20.280 --> 00:54:22.100
CULTURE.
00:54:22.100 --> 00:54:23.130
- WILFREDO: ABSOLUTELY, NO, I
00:54:23.130 --> 00:54:24.040
AGREE WITH THAT.
00:54:24.070 --> 00:54:27.070
AND THERE WAS A PERCENTAGE THAT
00:54:27.070 --> 00:54:28.160
CAME OUT THAT, WHEN A CHILD GETS
00:54:28.160 --> 00:54:29.190
SAVED IN THE CHURCH, I THINK 13%
00:54:29.190 --> 00:54:31.170
OF THE FAMILY COMES TO CHURCH.
00:54:31.170 --> 00:54:34.170
- BRIAN: AND IT'S 93% WHEN A
00:54:34.170 --> 00:54:36.040
MAN COMES TO CHRIST FIRST.
00:54:36.040 --> 00:54:38.000
WHEN A MAN COMES TO FAITH FIRST,
00:54:38.000 --> 00:54:40.020
IT'S 93% OF THE FAMILY FOLLOWS.
00:54:40.020 --> 00:54:41.040
- WILFREDO: WOW, WOW, WOW, WOW.
00:54:41.040 --> 00:54:41.260
[APPLAUSE]
00:54:43.080 --> 00:54:46.080
LISTEN, WE'RE LIVIN' IN SOME
00:54:46.080 --> 00:54:47.150
EXCITING DAYS, AN OPPORTUNITY
00:54:47.260 --> 00:54:50.260
FOR THE MEN, THE MEN OF GOD, TO
00:54:50.260 --> 00:54:52.030
TAKE THEIR PLACE IN THE LOCAL
00:54:52.030 --> 00:54:53.110
CHURCH.
00:54:53.110 --> 00:54:54.000
- BRIAN: YEAH, PEOPLE JUST CLAP
00:54:54.000 --> 00:54:55.290
ABOUT 93% OF THE-- THERE REALLY
00:54:56.160 --> 00:54:59.160
SHOULDN'T BE ANY CLAPPING ABOUT
00:54:59.160 --> 00:55:00.210
THAT BECAUSE MEN AREN'T COMING
00:55:00.210 --> 00:55:01.190
TO CHRIST, WHICH IS WHY THE
00:55:01.190 --> 00:55:02.290
CHURCH IS IN DECLINE IN AMERICA.
00:55:02.290 --> 00:55:04.170
YOU KNOW, THAT TRUTH IS REAL,
00:55:04.170 --> 00:55:07.120
BUT WE'RE NOT LEVERAGING THAT,
00:55:07.120 --> 00:55:09.250
AND WE'RE SEEING THE STRESS
00:55:09.250 --> 00:55:11.130
FRACTURES IN OUR CHURCHES, AND
00:55:11.130 --> 00:55:13.050
IF WE DON'T CHANGE THAT SOMEHOW,
00:55:13.050 --> 00:55:15.070
IT'S NOT GONNA BE GOOD FOR THE
00:55:15.070 --> 00:55:17.060
FUTURE OF AMERICA.
00:55:17.060 --> 00:55:17.290
- WILFREDO: HEY, LET ME JUST
00:55:17.290 --> 00:55:19.070
TAKE A QUICK POLL HERE IN THE
00:55:19.070 --> 00:55:20.130
AUDIENCE, AND HOW MANY OF YOU
00:55:20.130 --> 00:55:22.040
ALL WERE RAISED IN A
00:55:22.040 --> 00:55:23.270
SINGLE-FAMILY HOME?
00:55:23.270 --> 00:55:25.170
RAISE YOUR HAND IF YOU WERE
00:55:25.170 --> 00:55:26.190
RAISED IN A SINGLE-FAMILY HOME.
00:55:26.190 --> 00:55:27.140
SO WE HAVE A GOOD DIVISION HERE
00:55:27.140 --> 00:55:28.190
OF THAT.
00:55:28.190 --> 00:55:29.260
AND SO YOU COULD SEE THE NEED OF
00:55:29.260 --> 00:55:31.160
THIS, AND HERE'S WHAT I WANNA
00:55:31.160 --> 00:55:33.160
DO.
00:55:33.160 --> 00:55:34.200
FOR THE NEXT FEW SECONDS THAT WE
00:55:34.200 --> 00:55:36.060
HAVE WITH YOU HERE, AND THOSE
00:55:36.060 --> 00:55:37.080
THAT ARE WATCHIN' ACROSS THE
00:55:37.080 --> 00:55:38.120
WORLD, I WANNA ENCOURAGE YOU,
00:55:38.120 --> 00:55:40.080
FIRST OF ALL, MEN, TO STAND UP,
00:55:40.080 --> 00:55:42.220
TAKE YOUR PLACE IN THE KINGDOM
00:55:42.220 --> 00:55:45.010
OF GOD.
00:55:45.010 --> 00:55:46.070
SO LET'S-- WOULD YOU JUST STAND
00:55:46.070 --> 00:55:46.290
WITH ME THIS EVENING AND BE ABLE
00:55:46.290 --> 00:55:48.240
TO JUST PRAY?
00:55:48.240 --> 00:55:50.150
BE ABLE TO PRAY FOR THE MEN AND
00:55:50.290 --> 00:55:53.290
PRAY FOR WHAT'S HAPPENIN' IN OUR
00:55:53.290 --> 00:55:55.110
CULTURE TODAY.
00:55:55.110 --> 00:55:56.260
WOULD YOU JUST BEGIN TO JUST
00:55:56.260 --> 00:55:57.160
PRAY RIGHT NOW?
00:55:57.160 --> 00:55:59.080
AND THOSE THAT ARE WATCHING
00:55:59.080 --> 00:56:00.160
ACROSS THIS NATION, AROUND THE
00:56:00.160 --> 00:56:01.210
WORLD, LET ME JUST PRAY: FATHER,
00:56:01.210 --> 00:56:02.290
IN THE NAME OF JESUS, WE COME
00:56:02.290 --> 00:56:04.290
BEFORE YOU RIGHT NOW, AND WE
00:56:04.290 --> 00:56:07.050
DECLARE AND DECREE, WE DECLARE
00:56:07.050 --> 00:56:09.140
AND DECREE THAT MEN WOULD COME
00:56:09.230 --> 00:56:12.230
OUT OF THEIR CAGES.
00:56:12.230 --> 00:56:14.190
SET THEM FREE.
00:56:14.190 --> 00:56:17.160
LET THEM BE MEN OF VISION.
00:56:17.160 --> 00:56:19.160
LET THEM BE MEN OF TEAM.
00:56:19.160 --> 00:56:21.260
LET THEM BE MEN, THEIR GOD THAT
00:56:21.260 --> 00:56:23.090
STANDS UP IN THEIR COMMUNITY.
00:56:23.090 --> 00:56:25.060
OH, GOD, I PRAY RIGHT NOW THAT
00:56:25.060 --> 00:56:28.040
YOU WOULD BLESS, BLESS THE
00:56:28.080 --> 00:56:31.080
CHURCH AND ALL THE MEN THAT ARE
00:56:32.020 --> 00:56:35.020
WATCHING RIGHT NOW THAT THEY
00:56:35.020 --> 00:56:37.090
WOULD BE INSPIRED TO BE MENTORS
00:56:37.210 --> 00:56:40.210
AND LEADERS IN THEIR LOCAL
00:56:40.210 --> 00:56:42.220
SCHOOLS.
00:56:42.220 --> 00:56:44.100
THANK YOU FOR MY BROTHER BRIAN.
00:56:44.100 --> 00:56:45.200
THANK YOU FOR HIM BEING A PART
00:56:45.200 --> 00:56:48.160
OF THE MINORITY AND THIS MESSAGE
00:56:48.160 --> 00:56:50.160
THAT IS SO CRUCIAL RIGHT NOW,
00:56:50.160 --> 00:56:51.290
AND WE THANK YOU, GOD.
00:56:51.290 --> 00:56:53.270
WE THANK YOU IN ADVANCE FOR WHAT
00:56:53.270 --> 00:56:55.150
YOU'RE ABOUT TO DO IN AMERICA,
00:56:55.150 --> 00:56:56.280
AN AWAKENING THAT WOULD HAPPEN
00:56:56.280 --> 00:56:58.240
IN THIS NATION, AND WE PROMISE
00:56:58.240 --> 00:57:01.050
TO GIVE YOU ALL THE GLORY, ALL
00:57:01.050 --> 00:57:02.290
THE HONOR AND PRAISE, IN JESUS'
00:57:02.290 --> 00:57:05.190
NAME, AMEN AND AMEN, AND AMEN.
00:57:05.190 --> 00:57:08.000
GOD BLESS YOU ALL.
00:57:08.000 --> 00:57:09.070
GOD BLESS YOU.
00:57:09.070 --> 00:57:10.240
THANK YOU.
00:57:10.240 --> 00:57:11.190
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