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Dr. Reverend Wilfredo “Choco” De Jesus hosts Pastor Brian Tome

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Praise | Brian Tome | August 26, 2019

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  • [MUSIC]
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  • - MALE ANNOUNCER: TONIGHT ON
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  • "PRAISE,"
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  • FROM CHICAGO,
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  • FOUNDER AND SENIOR
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  • PASTOR OF CROSSROADS CHURCH,
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  • AUTHOR AND ENTREPRENEUR,
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  • AND NOW
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  • PASTOR WILFREDO
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  • - WILFREDO "CHOCO" DE JESUS:
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  • WELL, GOD BLESS YOU.
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  • WE'RE SO GLAD.
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  • WELCOME TO CHICAGO, THE "WINDY
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  • CITY"-- WE'RE GLAD-- WHERE GREAT
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  • THINGS ARE HAPPENING, WHAT
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  • BUT THERE ARE SO MANY GREAT
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  • THINGS THAT ARE HAPPENING IN THE
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  • CHURCHES OF JESUS CHRIST AS
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  • THEY'RE ENGAGING CULTURE, AND
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  • WE'RE GLAD YOU'RE HERE TONIGHT.
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  • HERE'S THE THING: AND WHEN A MAN
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  • STANDS UP, THE BOY SITS DOWN,
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  • AND WHAT YOU'RE ABOUT TO HEAR IS
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  • GOING TO CHANGE YOUR FAMILY.
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  • SO WHEREVER YOU'RE AT, I WANT
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  • YOU TO GET YOUR SON, YOUR
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  • HUSBAND, DRAG THEM OUT OF THE
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  • ROOM, AND TELL THEM, "YOU NEED
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  • TO HEAR WHAT GOD HAS PLACED IN
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  • THIS MAN'S LIFE."
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  • SO I WANT YOU TO PLEASE
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  • HELP ME WELCOME PASTOR BRIAN,
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  • - WILFREDO: GOD BLESS YOU, MY
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  • FRIEND.
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  • - BRIAN TOME: YOU TOO, FRIEND.
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  • - WILFREDO: GOD BLESS YOU.
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  • - BRIAN: IT IS AN HONOR TO BE
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  • HERE.
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  • YEAH, I'LL TELL YA WHAT.
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  • I'VE BEEN SHOCKED AT HOW MANY
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  • WOMEN HAVE BEEN BUYING MY BOOK.
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  • I'M SHOCKED.
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  • IS CALLED
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  • "THE FIVE MARKS OF A MAN,"
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  • BECAUSE I WROTE THIS BECAUSE MEN
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  • ARE CONFUSED, QUITE FRANKLY.
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  • THERE'S NEVER BEEN A MORE
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  • CONFUSING TIME TO BE A MAN THAN
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  • THERE IS RIGHT NOW, AND WE'VE
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  • NEVER HAD MORE DANGEROUS MEN ON
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  • THE STREETS AND IN BOARDROOMS
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  • THAN THERE IS RIGHT NOW.
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  • 1 CORINTHIANS CHAPTER 16, VERSE
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  • 13 AND 14, SAYS, "BE WATCHFUL,
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  • STAND FIRM IN THE FAITH--" AND
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  • HERE'S THE BIG ONE; CATCH IT--
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  • IT DOESN'T SAY, "ACT LIKE A
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  • MATURE INDIVIDUAL."
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  • IT DOESN'T SAY,
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  • "ACT LIKE AN EMOTIONALLY
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  • RESPONSIBLE INDIVIDUAL."
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  • IT DOESN'T SAY, "ACT LIKE A
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  • GOOD CHRISTIAN."
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  • "ACT LIKE MEN."
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  • AND SO I WANNA SAY,
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  • "WHY IS THAT NOT A
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  • POSITIVE THING ANYMORE?
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  • WHERE ARE THE MEN WHO EMBODY
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  • THAT THIS IS A POSITIVE THING?
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  • WHERE ARE ALL OF US WHO ARE
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  • SAYING, 'IT'S A GOOD THING TO
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  • BE MAN'?"
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  • THAT'S ONE OF THE HUGE THINGS
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  • GOD HAS BEEN DOING IN MY LIFE
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  • AND TEACHING ME.
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  • I'M EXCITED TO BE HERE TODAY.
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  • - WILFREDO: WELL, WE'RE EXCITED
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  • TO HAVE YOU.
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  • WE'RE EXCITED TO HAVE YOU AND
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  • READING UP ON YOUR BOOK,
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  • "THE FIVE MARKS OF A MAN."
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  • PASTOR, WHERE DID THE GENESIS
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  • OF THIS START FROM?
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  • WHERE WAS IT BIRTHED OUT OF?
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  • I KNOW YOU WENT TO SCHOOL.
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  • I WAS READING UP ON YOU A
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  • LITTLE BIT.
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  • IT TOOK YOU SEVEN YEARS TO
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  • FINISH YOUR DEGREE.
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  • - BRIAN: MY FOUR-YEAR DEGREE.
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  • - WILFREDO: YOUR
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  • FOUR-YEAR DEGREE.
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  • [LAUGHTER]
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  • - BRIAN: YES.
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  • - WILFREDO: SO WE'RE LIKE TWINS
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  • 'CAUSE IT TOOK ME A WHILE TO GET
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  • MY BACHELOR'S DEGREE.
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  • BUT WHERE DID IT ALL BIRTH FROM?
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  • - BRIAN: IT STARTED WHEN MY SON
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  • WAS BORN.
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  • MY SON WAS BORN AT A VERY
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  • EARLY AGE.
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  • THAT IS FUNNY.
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  • [LAUGHTER]
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  • YEAH, BORN AT A VERY EARLY AGE.
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  • AND WHEN THEY PLACED HIM ON THE
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  • WARMING TABLE, I WENT OVER TO
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  • SEE THIS GUY.
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  • NOW, I'M ADOPTED.
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  • THIS IS, AT THIS POINT, ONLY MY
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  • SECOND DNA PERSON I'VE EVER SEEN
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  • WHO'S RELATED TO ME-- DNA.
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  • I WAS ADOPTED AT BIRTH.
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  • SO IT WAS MY OLDEST DAUGHTER,
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  • AND IT WAS HIM, SO IT'S STILL A
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  • FREAKY THING, LIKE, "WOW, THAT'S
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  • SOMEBODY ELSE WHO HAS MY DNA."
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  • SO I WENT OVER TO SEE HIM.
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  • I HELD HIS LITTLE HAND, AND IF
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  • YOU EVER BEEN A LITTLE-- SEEN
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  • LITTLE BABIES, THEY'RE ALL
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  • NAKED, AND SOON AS I TOUCH HIS
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  • HAND, A STREAM OF URINE GOES UP
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  • INTO THE AIR.
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  • IT HITS MY SHOULDER AND TRICKLES
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  • ALL THE WAY DOWN MY HAND, AND I
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  • THOUGHT TO MYSELF, "I GOTTA GET
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  • AHOLD OF THIS GUY RIGHT NOW
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  • BECAUSE--"
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  • [LAUGHTER]
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  • -- "THIS IS A METAPHOR FOR
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  • WHAT'S GONNA HAPPEN BECAUSE, IF
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  • I DON'T GET AHOLD OF HIM, HE'S
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  • GONNA URINATE ALL OVER ME FOR
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  • THE REST OF MY LIFE, LIKE I
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  • URINATED ALL OVER MY DAD."
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  • I WAS AN AWFUL SON.
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  • I'M TELLIN' YOU WHAT--
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  • EVERYTHING MY DAD HAD, I BROKE.
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  • EVERY RULE THAT HE HAD, I BROKE.
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  • EVERYTHING THAT HE WANTED ME TO
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  • BE, I WANTED TO REBEL AGAINST,
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  • AND I REALIZED THAT I WAS TRYING
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  • TO PROVE THAT I WAS A MAN, AND I
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  • NEEDED TO HELP MY SON SEE WHAT A
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  • MAN IS INSTEAD OF HIM TRYING TO
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  • PROVE THAT HE WAS A MAN.
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  • - WILFREDO: WOW, WOW, THAT IS--
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  • YEAH, AMEN.
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  • [APPLAUSE]
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  • I WANT YOU TO KNOW A LITTLE BIT
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  • MORE ABOUT BRIAN.
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  • WE'RE GONNA GET DEEP INTO HIS
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  • LIFE WITH HIS RELATIONSHIP WITH
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  • HIS FATHER, RELATIONSHIP WITH
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  • HIS SON, BUT ALSO THE BIRTH OF
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  • THIS BOOK THAT WE BELIEVE THAT
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  • WILL TOUCH MILLIONS OF MEN, BUT
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  • I WANT YOU TO WATCH THIS BIO OF
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  • BROTHER BRIAN.
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  • - ANNOUNCER: FOUNDER AND SENIOR
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  • PASTOR OF CROSSROADS CHURCH,
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  • BEST-SELLING AUTHOR, AND
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  • ENTREPRENEUR, BRIAN TOME IS A
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  • MAN ON A MISSION.
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  • AS THE SENIOR PASTOR OF
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  • CROSSROADS, HE CREATED A PLACE
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  • FOR THOSE WHO HAD GIVEN UP ON
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  • CHURCH BUT HAD NOT GIVEN
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  • UP ON GOD.
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  • CROSSROADS NOW HOSTS MORE THAN
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  • 34.000 PEOPLE ACROSS TEN
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  • CAMPUSES IN OHIO AND KENTUCKY,
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  • AND IS ACTIVELY ENGAGED IN
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  • COMBATING GENERATIONAL POVERTY
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  • IN CINCINNATI'S URBAN CORE,
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  • OPERATING A MEDICAL CLINIC, AND
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  • SUPPORTING AN HIV-AIDS HOSPICE
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  • IN SOUTH AFRICA, AND BATTLING
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  • CHILD SEX SLAVERY IN INDIA.
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  • THROUGH CROSSROADS, BRIAN ALSO
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  • STARTED AND LEADS MAN CAMP, A
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  • PRIMITIVE WEEKEND CAMPING
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  • EXPERIENCE TO HELP MEN RECLAIM
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  • THE CODE OF MANHOOD AND BECOME
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  • COMMITTED BROTHERS, HUSBANDS,
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  • AND FATHERS.
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  • BRIAN TOME BELIEVES THERE ARE
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  • FIVE MARKS THAT EVERY AUTHENTIC
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  • MAN IN HISTORY HAS DISPLAYED,
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  • AND PURSUING THEM CAN BE
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  • LIFE-ALTERING.
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  • HERE TO TALK ABOUT WHAT REALLY
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  • SEPARATES A MAN FROM A BOY,
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  • - WILFREDO: WELCOME BACK.
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  • WELCOME BACK.
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  • WE'RE HERE WITH PASTOR BRIAN,
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  • A MAN'S MAN.
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  • IF YOU READ THE BOOK, YOU'RE
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  • GONNA FIND OUT THAT THIS IS A
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  • MAN'S MAN, AND WE WERE TALKING
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  • EARLIER REGARDING HIS STORY, AND
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  • I WANNA GO BACK A LITTLE BIT
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  • OVER YOUR RELATIONSHIP
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  • WITH YOUR FATHER,
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  • HOW THAT WAS--
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  • MAYBE PERHAPS HOW YOU
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  • TREATED HIM.
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  • AND THERE MAY BE A YOUNG MAN
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  • WHO'S WATCHING RIGHT NOW AND
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  • PROBABLY DOESN'T HAVE A
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  • RELATIONSHIP WITH THEIR FATHER.
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  • WHAT WERE SOME OF THE THINGS
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  • THAT YOU WENT THROUGH, BRIAN,
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  • WITH YOUR DAD THAT YOU KNOW THAT
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  • YOU WERE JUST BREAKING
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  • HIS HEART?
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  • - BRIAN: WELL, I'M VERY
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  • THANKFUL FOR MY MOM AND DAD WHO
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  • ADOPTED ME-- AND ARE
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  • MY MOM AND DAD.
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  • I'M VERY, VERY THANKFUL
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  • VERY, VERY, VERY, VERY BLESSED
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  • BY THEM, AND AT THE SAME TIME,
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  • THERE WAS A BIT OF A EMOTIONAL
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  • OUTAGE IN OUR RELATIONSHIP, AND
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  • I KEPT TRYING TO PROVE THAT I
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  • WAS A MAN, AND ONE DAY I WAS
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  • READING THE SCRIPTURES-- AND
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  • I'LL ASK YOU, ALTHOUGH YOU'VE
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  • READ THE BOOK, SO YOU ALREADY
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  • WHAT DO YOU THINK IF I ASKED THE
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  • AVERAGE PERSON IN THE AUDIENCE,
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  • "WHAT IS THE GREATEST DAY IN THE
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  • LIFE OF JESUS?"
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  • WHAT MIGHT YOU SAY?
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  • SOME MIGHT SAY, "OH, IT'S THE
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  • DAY YOU ROSE FROM THE DEAD."
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  • THAT WOULD BE A GREAT DAY.
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  • IT'S THE DAY HE PUT HIS HAND ON
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  • SOMEBODY, SPITTIN' MUD, AND PUT
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  • HIS HANDS ON THEIR EYES, AND
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  • THEY GOT HEALED OF BLINDNESS.
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  • THAT WOULD BE A GREAT DAY
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  • FOR SURE.
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  • I THINK THE MOST PROFOUND DAY IN
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  • JESUS' LIFE WAS THE DAY WHEN HE
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  • WAS BAPTIZED BECAUSE HE HEARS
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  • HIS DAD SAY TO HIM, "THIS IS MY
  • 00:07:02.280 --> 00:07:03.270
  • SON IN WHOM I'M WELL PLEASED."
  • 00:07:04.220 --> 00:07:07.220
  • [APPLAUSE]
  • 00:07:07.220 --> 00:07:09.040
  • NOW, WHEN YOU READ THAT, WE'RE
  • 00:07:09.210 --> 00:07:12.210
  • NOT REALLY CERTAIN IF THIS IS A
  • 00:07:12.210 --> 00:07:14.110
  • LOUD VOICE THAT EVERYBODY
  • 00:07:14.110 --> 00:07:15.000
  • CAN HEAR.
  • 00:07:15.000 --> 00:07:16.050
  • WE'RE NOT CERTAIN OF THAT, BUT
  • 00:07:16.050 --> 00:07:17.200
  • CHAPTERS LATER, WE HAVE THE
  • 00:07:17.200 --> 00:07:19.000
  • TRANSFIGURATION WHERE THE SAME
  • 00:07:19.000 --> 00:07:20.280
  • THING HAPPENS AGAIN.
  • 00:07:20.280 --> 00:07:22.220
  • HE'S GOT PETER, JAMES, AND JOHN,
  • 00:07:22.220 --> 00:07:24.040
  • AND ALL OF A SUDDEN, HE
  • 00:07:24.040 --> 00:07:25.090
  • TRANSFORMS IN FRONT OF THEM TO
  • 00:07:25.090 --> 00:07:27.000
  • SEE HIS HEAVENLY GLORY, AND THEN
  • 00:07:27.000 --> 00:07:28.180
  • A VOICE COMES THAT WE KNOW FOR
  • 00:07:28.180 --> 00:07:30.160
  • SURE EVERYBODY HEARS, AND IT'S
  • 00:07:30.160 --> 00:07:31.230
  • THE EXACT SAME THING, "THIS IS
  • 00:07:31.230 --> 00:07:32.270
  • MY SON IN WHOM
  • 00:07:32.270 --> 00:07:33.210
  • I'M WELL PLEASED."
  • 00:07:33.210 --> 00:07:36.160
  • I'VE LEARNED-- AND ANCIENT
  • 00:07:36.160 --> 00:07:37.160
  • CULTURE SHOWS THIS--
  • 00:07:37.160 --> 00:07:38.020
  • THAT WHEN A MALE IS NOT TOLD
  • 00:07:38.020 --> 00:07:41.010
  • THAT HE IS A MAN, HE WILL KEEP
  • 00:07:41.010 --> 00:07:42.080
  • TRYING TO PROVE THAT HE'S A MAN,
  • 00:07:43.160 --> 00:07:46.160
  • AND THE WAY HE PROVES HE'S A MAN
  • 00:07:46.160 --> 00:07:47.120
  • IS OFTENTIMES IN A VERY IMMATURE
  • 00:07:47.120 --> 00:07:48.120
  • AND DESTRUCTIVE WAY.
  • 00:07:48.120 --> 00:07:51.070
  • EVERY ANCIENT CULTURE HAS HAD A
  • 00:07:51.070 --> 00:07:51.290
  • WAY THAT WE BRING A
  • 00:07:51.290 --> 00:07:52.210
  • BOY INTO BEING A MAN.
  • 00:07:53.220 --> 00:07:56.220
  • IT COULD BE YOU GO CLIMB A
  • 00:07:56.220 --> 00:07:58.200
  • MOUNTAIN AND YOU BRING BACK A
  • 00:07:58.200 --> 00:08:00.030
  • EAGLE'S FEATHER.
  • 00:08:00.030 --> 00:08:02.180
  • IT COULD BE THAT YOU
  • 00:08:02.180 --> 00:08:04.080
  • JUMP OVER A COW.
  • 00:08:04.080 --> 00:08:06.150
  • IT COULD BE YOU SHOOT A DEER AND
  • 00:08:06.150 --> 00:08:08.240
  • YOU DRINK BLOOD.
  • 00:08:08.240 --> 00:08:11.220
  • I HAD A GUY INTERACT WITH--
  • 00:08:11.220 --> 00:08:13.010
  • FIRST GENERATION FROM AFRICA-- A
  • 00:08:13.010 --> 00:08:15.110
  • COUPLE YEARS AGO, HE SAID,
  • 00:08:15.110 --> 00:08:16.000
  • "YEAH, IN MY VILLAGE, ALL THE
  • 00:08:16.000 --> 00:08:18.090
  • MEN COME UP TO THE HOUSE, AND
  • 00:08:18.090 --> 00:08:19.170
  • THEY SAY, 'WE NEED YOU OUT HERE
  • 00:08:19.170 --> 00:08:21.060
  • RIGHT NOW,' AND MY MOM TRIED
  • 00:08:21.060 --> 00:08:22.230
  • TO-- KEEPS ME BACK.
  • 00:08:22.230 --> 00:08:25.040
  • SHE'S HOLDING ME BEHIND HER
  • 00:08:25.040 --> 00:08:25.240
  • SKIRT, AND IF THEY CAN'T WOO YOU
  • 00:08:25.240 --> 00:08:28.040
  • OUT, THEY LEAVE FOR A YEAR.
  • 00:08:28.040 --> 00:08:29.130
  • THEY COME BACK, AND THIS TIME,
  • 00:08:29.130 --> 00:08:30.160
  • IF MOM IS KEEPIN' ME BACK AND
  • 00:08:30.160 --> 00:08:31.280
  • THEY CAN'T WOO ME OUT, THEY GO,
  • 00:08:31.280 --> 00:08:33.100
  • AND THEY PHYSICALLY GRAB ME.
  • 00:08:33.100 --> 00:08:35.060
  • THEY RIP ME OUT OF THE HOUSE.
  • 00:08:35.060 --> 00:08:36.200
  • THEY TAKE ME UP THE HILL.
  • 00:08:36.200 --> 00:08:37.150
  • THEY PERFORM A CEREMONY ON ME,
  • 00:08:37.150 --> 00:08:38.290
  • AND WHEN I COME BACK, I'M A MAN,
  • 00:08:38.290 --> 00:08:40.250
  • AND I BRING BACK EGGS TO THE
  • 00:08:40.250 --> 00:08:42.210
  • FAMILY BECAUSE NOW THE ROLES
  • 00:08:42.210 --> 00:08:43.270
  • HAVE CHANGED.
  • 00:08:43.270 --> 00:08:46.080
  • I'M NO LONGER A BOY WHO'S JUST
  • 00:08:46.080 --> 00:08:47.240
  • TAKE, TAKE, TAKING.
  • 00:08:47.240 --> 00:08:48.110
  • I'M A MAN WHO'S SUPPOSED TO
  • 00:08:48.110 --> 00:08:49.020
  • PROVIDE."
  • 00:08:49.020 --> 00:08:51.010
  • WE DON'T HAVE THOSE KIND OF
  • 00:08:51.010 --> 00:08:51.250
  • THINGS IN OUR CULTURE, AND SO
  • 00:08:51.250 --> 00:08:53.120
  • WHAT WE DO, WE ALL WANNA KNOW,
  • 00:08:53.120 --> 00:08:54.050
  • "AM I A MAN?"
  • 00:08:54.050 --> 00:08:55.090
  • SO IT'S ALL KIND OF
  • 00:08:55.090 --> 00:08:56.200
  • STEREOTYPICAL, OFTENTIMES,
  • 00:08:56.200 --> 00:08:59.050
  • HARMFUL THINGS LIKE, "I'M GONNA
  • 00:08:59.050 --> 00:08:59.270
  • DRIVE ME A BIG TRUCK"--
  • 00:08:59.270 --> 00:09:01.020
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:09:01.020 --> 00:09:02.190
  • -- OR "I'M GONNA ABUSE ALCOHOL,"
  • 00:09:02.190 --> 00:09:04.090
  • OR "I'M GOING TO TAKE ADVANTAGE
  • 00:09:04.090 --> 00:09:06.040
  • OF WOMEN," AND WE'RE TRYING TO
  • 00:09:06.040 --> 00:09:07.180
  • PROVE WE'RE MEN.
  • 00:09:07.180 --> 00:09:09.010
  • THAT'S MY STORY, PASTOR CHOCO.
  • 00:09:09.010 --> 00:09:10.140
  • I WASN'T DISCIPLINED, I WAS JUST
  • 00:09:10.140 --> 00:09:12.240
  • ABUSING WOMEN, I WAS ABUSING
  • 00:09:12.260 --> 00:09:15.260
  • ALCOHOL, AND LOOKING BACK, I WAS
  • 00:09:15.260 --> 00:09:16.190
  • TRYING TO PROVE THAT I WAS A
  • 00:09:16.250 --> 00:09:19.250
  • MAN, AND MUCH OF THE BEHAVIORS
  • 00:09:19.250 --> 00:09:22.220
  • WE HAVE IN OUR CULTURE THAT
  • 00:09:22.220 --> 00:09:23.270
  • WE'RE UPSET ABOUT ARE COMING
  • 00:09:23.270 --> 00:09:26.000
  • FROM A VOID INSIDE OF US.
  • 00:09:26.000 --> 00:09:27.150
  • WE'RE JUST EMPTY LITTLE BOYS.
  • 00:09:27.150 --> 00:09:29.150
  • YOU CAN BE A 50-YEAR-OLD EMPTY
  • 00:09:29.150 --> 00:09:31.080
  • LITTLE BOY IF YOU HAVEN'T HAD A
  • 00:09:31.080 --> 00:09:33.200
  • FATHER FIGURE OR YOUR HEAVENLY
  • 00:09:33.200 --> 00:09:34.290
  • FATHER, AND YOU HAVEN'T FELT HIM
  • 00:09:34.290 --> 00:09:37.020
  • SAY, "SON, I'M PROUD OF YOU.
  • 00:09:37.020 --> 00:09:39.040
  • YOU'RE DOIN' WELL."
  • 00:09:39.040 --> 00:09:39.200
  • WE ALL NEED THAT,
  • 00:09:39.200 --> 00:09:42.170
  • AND WHEN WE DON'T HAVE THAT,
  • 00:09:42.170 --> 00:09:44.160
  • WE BETTER FIGURE OUT SOME
  • 00:09:44.160 --> 00:09:45.150
  • WAY TO FILL THAT VOID.
  • 00:09:45.150 --> 00:09:46.040
  • - WILFREDO: IT'S INTERESTING
  • 00:09:46.040 --> 00:09:47.210
  • BECAUSE I WASN'T RAISED
  • 00:09:47.210 --> 00:09:50.000
  • WITH A FATHER.
  • 00:09:50.000 --> 00:09:50.130
  • MY FATHER ABANDONED ME WHEN I
  • 00:09:50.130 --> 00:09:51.220
  • WAS EIGHT YEARS OLD IN THE CITY
  • 00:09:51.220 --> 00:09:53.050
  • OF CHICAGO, AND THERE WERE SIX
  • 00:09:53.050 --> 00:09:54.290
  • OF US IN MY FAMILY.
  • 00:09:54.290 --> 00:09:57.090
  • BUT I GOT SAVED ABOUT THE AGE OF
  • 00:09:57.090 --> 00:09:59.240
  • 14, AND THEN HE BECOMES MY
  • 00:09:59.240 --> 00:10:00.180
  • HEAVENLY FATHER.
  • 00:10:00.180 --> 00:10:01.020
  • SO I UNDERSTAND HIS VOICE.
  • 00:10:01.020 --> 00:10:02.140
  • SO YOU'RE TALKIN' ABOUT A
  • 00:10:02.140 --> 00:10:04.070
  • RELATIONSHIP.
  • 00:10:04.070 --> 00:10:06.220
  • SO I WAS ADOPTED BY HIM TO BE
  • 00:10:06.220 --> 00:10:07.210
  • HIS SON AS WELL.
  • 00:10:07.210 --> 00:10:10.150
  • BUT WHEN YOU TALK ABOUT YOUR
  • 00:10:10.150 --> 00:10:12.040
  • RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR SON, WHEN
  • 00:10:12.040 --> 00:10:13.040
  • HE WAS FIRST BORN, AND HE REALLY
  • 00:10:13.290 --> 00:10:16.290
  • INITIATED YOU BY PEEIN' ON YOUR
  • 00:10:16.290 --> 00:10:18.270
  • SHIRT OR PEEIN' ON YOUR ARM--
  • 00:10:18.270 --> 00:10:19.240
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:10:19.240 --> 00:10:20.200
  • -- WHAT WAS THAT MOMENT?
  • 00:10:20.200 --> 00:10:22.280
  • BECAUSE I'M A FATHER OF A SON.
  • 00:10:22.280 --> 00:10:24.050
  • I'M A FATHER OF TWO GIRLS.
  • 00:10:24.050 --> 00:10:26.080
  • WHAT WAS THAT MOMENT FOR YOU
  • 00:10:26.080 --> 00:10:27.150
  • WHEN YOU FIRST SAW YOUR SON?
  • 00:10:27.150 --> 00:10:30.020
  • - BRIAN: IT WAS DAUNTING, IT
  • 00:10:30.020 --> 00:10:30.290
  • REALLY WAS.
  • 00:10:30.290 --> 00:10:31.150
  • IT WAS DAUNTING.
  • 00:10:31.150 --> 00:10:33.110
  • WHEN YOU HAVE A SON, IT'S
  • 00:10:33.110 --> 00:10:35.030
  • DIFFERENT THAN HAVING
  • 00:10:35.030 --> 00:10:35.200
  • A DAUGHTER.
  • 00:10:35.200 --> 00:10:37.180
  • I'VE GOT TWO DAUGHTERS.
  • 00:10:37.180 --> 00:10:38.210
  • THEY'RE AMAZING, THEY'RE
  • 00:10:38.210 --> 00:10:39.250
  • POWERFUL, BUT I'LL TELL YA WHAT:
  • 00:10:39.250 --> 00:10:42.070
  • WHEN YOU HAVE A SON, YOU HAVE
  • 00:10:42.070 --> 00:10:44.100
  • SOMETHING THAT'S CAPABLE OF MORE
  • 00:10:44.100 --> 00:10:45.240
  • DESTRUCTION IN THE WORLD.
  • 00:10:45.240 --> 00:10:46.190
  • I LIKE DOGS.
  • 00:10:46.190 --> 00:10:49.010
  • I'VE GOT BIG DOGS.
  • 00:10:49.010 --> 00:10:50.130
  • YOU HAVE YOURSELF A NICE
  • 00:10:50.130 --> 00:10:51.050
  • LITTLE POODLE.
  • 00:10:51.050 --> 00:10:51.280
  • THEY'RE FINE.
  • 00:10:51.280 --> 00:10:53.080
  • YOU DON'T HAVE TO WORRY ABOUT
  • 00:10:53.080 --> 00:10:54.000
  • TRAINING THEM TOO MUCH 'CAUSE,
  • 00:10:54.000 --> 00:10:55.010
  • EVEN IF THEY GET OUT OF HAND,
  • 00:10:55.010 --> 00:10:56.090
  • YOU JUST YANK 'EM BY THE COLLAR,
  • 00:10:56.090 --> 00:10:57.140
  • AND THEY'RE NOT GONNA
  • 00:10:57.140 --> 00:10:58.010
  • HURT ANYBODY.
  • 00:10:58.010 --> 00:10:59.010
  • WELL, WE HAVE A ROTTWEILER AND
  • 00:10:59.010 --> 00:11:00.100
  • AN ENGLISH MASTIFF, AND YOU
  • 00:11:00.100 --> 00:11:03.100
  • DON'T POUR INTO THAT LITTLE
  • 00:11:03.100 --> 00:11:04.130
  • PUPPY, YOU COULD JACK SOMEBODY
  • 00:11:04.130 --> 00:11:05.110
  • UP, RIGHT?
  • 00:11:05.110 --> 00:11:06.140
  • SO, WHEN I HAD A SON, I'M LIKE,
  • 00:11:06.140 --> 00:11:08.000
  • "OKAY, THIS GUY IS GONNA
  • 00:11:08.000 --> 00:11:09.040
  • BE STRONG.
  • 00:11:09.040 --> 00:11:09.170
  • HE'S GOING TO BE EITHER STRONGLY
  • 00:11:10.010 --> 00:11:13.010
  • POSITIVE, OR HE'S GOING TO BE
  • 00:11:13.010 --> 00:11:13.230
  • STRONGLY NEGATIVE.
  • 00:11:13.230 --> 00:11:14.190
  • I'M GONNA MAKE SURE, ON MY
  • 00:11:14.190 --> 00:11:16.040
  • WATCH, HE'S STRONGLY POSITIVE,
  • 00:11:16.040 --> 00:11:17.170
  • AND, FORTUNATELY, THAT'S THE WAY
  • 00:11:17.170 --> 00:11:18.210
  • IT IS FOR HIM, BUT MOST OF OUR
  • 00:11:18.210 --> 00:11:21.100
  • YOUNG MALES ARE NOT GROWING UP
  • 00:11:21.100 --> 00:11:23.160
  • WITH A TRAINER THAT BRINGS THEM
  • 00:11:23.160 --> 00:11:26.060
  • UP, AND SO WE'RE LEFT TO PARENT
  • 00:11:26.060 --> 00:11:27.230
  • ONE ANOTHER.
  • 00:11:27.230 --> 00:11:28.140
  • WHEN YOU HAVE 16-YEAR-OLDS
  • 00:11:30.170 --> 00:11:31.160
  • PARENTING ONE ANOTHER, OOH,
  • 00:11:31.160 --> 00:11:32.060
  • THAT'S A RECIPE FOR DISASTER.
  • 00:11:32.060 --> 00:11:33.000
  • ACTUALLY, IT'S A RECIPE FOR WHAT
  • 00:11:33.000 --> 00:11:34.020
  • WE HAVE IN OUR CULTURE RIGHT
  • 00:11:34.020 --> 00:11:35.110
  • NOW, WHICH IS NOT HEALTHY.
  • 00:11:35.110 --> 00:11:36.130
  • NOW, IT'S AMAZING BECAUSE IN
  • 00:11:38.190 --> 00:11:39.170
  • CULTURE WE LIVE IN,
  • 00:11:39.170 --> 00:11:41.280
  • THE UNITED STATES,
  • 00:11:41.280 --> 00:11:43.020
  • WHERE THERE'S AN ABSENCE
  • 00:11:43.020 --> 00:11:44.220
  • FATHERS TAKING THEIR RIGHTFULLY
  • 00:11:47.040 --> 00:11:47.260
  • PLACE-- AND I GO AROUND THE
  • 00:11:47.260 --> 00:11:50.030
  • COUNTRY, AND I TELL PEOPLE THAT
  • 00:11:50.030 --> 00:11:51.130
  • HOLLYWOOD HAS STRIPPED THE
  • 00:11:51.130 --> 00:11:52.290
  • IDENTITY OF A MAN.
  • 00:11:53.100 --> 00:11:56.100
  • WE DON'T EVEN KNOW WHO
  • 00:11:56.100 --> 00:11:56.280
  • WE DON'T EVEN KNOW HOW TO ACT.
  • 00:11:59.190 --> 00:12:00.120
  • SHALL WE OPEN THE DOOR?
  • 00:12:00.120 --> 00:12:01.000
  • SHALL WE LET HER OPEN HER
  • 00:12:01.000 --> 00:12:01.190
  • OWN DOOR?
  • 00:12:01.190 --> 00:12:02.250
  • YOU KNOW, SO, AND ALL THAT HAS
  • 00:12:02.250 --> 00:12:04.090
  • BEEN TAKEN AWAY, BUT IF WE GO
  • 00:12:04.090 --> 00:12:05.120
  • BACK TO THE BIBLE, WHICH I THINK
  • 00:12:05.120 --> 00:12:07.060
  • IS WHERE THIS BOOK IS COMING
  • 00:12:07.060 --> 00:12:09.160
  • FROM, THIS IS WHERE THE GENESIS,
  • 00:12:09.160 --> 00:12:10.210
  • "BE LIKE A MAN, ACT LIKE A MAN,"
  • 00:12:10.210 --> 00:12:12.160
  • TELL US ABOUT THE FIRST MARK OF
  • 00:12:12.160 --> 00:12:15.030
  • A MAN.
  • 00:12:15.030 --> 00:12:16.110
  • - BRIAN: WELL, THERE'S FIVE OF
  • 00:12:16.110 --> 00:12:17.110
  • THEM, AND, INTERESTINGLY, THESE
  • 00:12:17.110 --> 00:12:19.090
  • FIVE MARKS-- ACTUALLY, THE
  • 00:12:19.090 --> 00:12:20.170
  • SCRIPTURE I QUOTED EARLIER, 1
  • 00:12:20.170 --> 00:12:22.010
  • CORINTHIANS 16:13-14, IF YOU
  • 00:12:22.020 --> 00:12:25.020
  • READ THAT WHOLE SECTION, ALL
  • 00:12:25.020 --> 00:12:26.200
  • FIVE OF THOSE MARKS ARE INSIDE
  • 00:12:26.200 --> 00:12:28.110
  • OF THOSE VERSES, BUT THESE MARKS
  • 00:12:28.110 --> 00:12:30.190
  • CAME ABOUT, REALLY, BECAUSE I
  • 00:12:30.190 --> 00:12:32.290
  • LOOKED AT EVERY MAN I KNEW THAT
  • 00:12:32.290 --> 00:12:34.270
  • I ASPIRED TO BE LIKE, EVERY MAN
  • 00:12:34.270 --> 00:12:37.060
  • WHO WAS A FATHER FIGURE TO ME,
  • 00:12:38.090 --> 00:12:41.090
  • EVEN THOUGH THEY DIDN'T KNOW IT,
  • 00:12:41.090 --> 00:12:42.150
  • EVERY MAN I RESPECTED, AND ALL
  • 00:12:42.150 --> 00:12:44.140
  • OF THEM HAD THESE FIVE THINGS.
  • 00:12:44.140 --> 00:12:45.200
  • IN FACT, I HATE TO SAY-- THIS
  • 00:12:45.200 --> 00:12:46.250
  • SOUNDS AWFUL ON A CHRISTIAN
  • 00:12:46.250 --> 00:12:48.120
  • SHOW, BUT I'LL SAY IT: THERE'S A
  • 00:12:48.120 --> 00:12:50.080
  • LOT OF CHRISTIAN GUYS WHO ARE IN
  • 00:12:50.080 --> 00:12:53.040
  • THEIR 40s, WHO ARE NOT MEN, AND
  • 00:12:53.040 --> 00:12:54.220
  • THERE'S ATHEISTS WHO ARE IN
  • 00:12:54.220 --> 00:12:55.210
  • THEIR 40s, WHO ARE MEN.
  • 00:12:55.210 --> 00:12:56.260
  • THIS IS NOT ABOUT
  • 00:12:56.260 --> 00:12:57.260
  • RECEIVING JESUS.
  • 00:13:00.120 --> 00:13:03.120
  • THIS IS NOT ABOUT HAVING, YOU
  • 00:13:03.120 --> 00:13:04.240
  • KNOW, TEN COMMANDMENTS GOING
  • 00:13:04.240 --> 00:13:05.140
  • THROUGH YOUR LIFE.
  • 00:13:05.140 --> 00:13:06.250
  • THESE FIVE THINGS, ALL OF THEM
  • 00:13:06.250 --> 00:13:07.270
  • ARE IN THE BIBLE.
  • 00:13:07.270 --> 00:13:09.120
  • ALL OF THEM ARE IN EVERY
  • 00:13:09.120 --> 00:13:10.000
  • BIBLICAL HERO, BUT YOU CAN BE A
  • 00:13:10.000 --> 00:13:12.010
  • BELIEVER AND NOT HAVE THESE FIVE
  • 00:13:12.010 --> 00:13:13.180
  • THINGS, AND SO HERE THEY ARE,
  • 00:13:13.180 --> 00:13:15.110
  • ONE IS A MAN HAS A VISION, AND A
  • 00:13:19.070 --> 00:13:19.290
  • BOY LIVES DAY TO DAY.
  • 00:13:19.290 --> 00:13:21.200
  • WHEN I GREW UP, PART OF WHY IT
  • 00:13:22.200 --> 00:13:25.200
  • TOOK ME SO LONG TO GRADUATE FROM
  • 00:13:25.200 --> 00:13:26.250
  • COLLEGE IS BECAUSE I DIDN'T HAVE
  • 00:13:26.250 --> 00:13:28.200
  • A VISION FOR WHAT SCHOOL WOULD
  • 00:13:28.200 --> 00:13:30.130
  • I DIDN'T.
  • 00:13:32.190 --> 00:13:33.250
  • I WAS IN SCHOOL BECAUSE MY
  • 00:13:33.250 --> 00:13:35.030
  • PARENTS TOLD ME I HAD TO GO, AND
  • 00:13:35.030 --> 00:13:36.080
  • THEY WERE PAYING FOR IT, THANK
  • 00:13:36.080 --> 00:13:36.290
  • YOU, JESUS, THANK YOU--
  • 00:13:36.290 --> 00:13:37.190
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:13:37.190 --> 00:13:38.040
  • -- WHICH IS ALSO WHY IT TOOK ME
  • 00:13:38.040 --> 00:13:38.260
  • SEVEN YEARS, RIGHT?
  • 00:13:38.260 --> 00:13:40.050
  • SOMEONE IS GONNA PAY YOU FOR
  • 00:13:40.050 --> 00:13:40.250
  • YOUR SCHOOLING, YOU'RE GONNA
  • 00:13:40.250 --> 00:13:42.060
  • DROP CLASSES LEFT AND RIGHT, AND
  • 00:13:42.060 --> 00:13:43.100
  • IT TOOK ME SEVEN YEARS.
  • 00:13:43.100 --> 00:13:44.090
  • I DIDN'T HAVE IN MY MIND A
  • 00:13:44.090 --> 00:13:46.140
  • VISION OF "IF I GO TO SCHOOL,
  • 00:13:46.140 --> 00:13:48.050
  • I'LL BE ABLE TO
  • 00:13:48.050 --> 00:13:49.060
  • EARN MORE MONEY."
  • 00:13:49.170 --> 00:13:52.170
  • A VISION IS ALL ABOUT SOMETHING
  • 00:13:52.170 --> 00:13:54.100
  • THAT'S BEYOND WHERE YOU ARE
  • 00:13:54.100 --> 00:13:55.270
  • RIGHT NOW, AND YOU DON'T HAVE
  • 00:13:55.270 --> 00:13:57.100
  • IT RIGHT NOW BECAUSE IT'S TOO
  • 00:13:57.100 --> 00:14:00.080
  • HARD TO HAVE IT RIGHT NOW.
  • 00:14:00.080 --> 00:14:01.180
  • YOU HAVE TO DO THINGS YOU DON'T
  • 00:14:01.180 --> 00:14:03.170
  • WANNA DO RIGHT NOW TO GET THINGS
  • 00:14:03.170 --> 00:14:05.230
  • YOU WANNA GET LATER.
  • 00:14:06.130 --> 00:14:09.130
  • A BOY CANNOT THINK ABOUT
  • 00:14:09.130 --> 00:14:11.010
  • THAT AT ALL.
  • 00:14:11.010 --> 00:14:12.020
  • A BOY DOESN'T WANNA HAVE A JOB.
  • 00:14:12.020 --> 00:14:13.100
  • A BOY DOESN'T WANNA STUDY 'CAUSE
  • 00:14:13.100 --> 00:14:15.070
  • HE JUST WANTS THE EASIEST DAY
  • 00:14:15.070 --> 00:14:16.200
  • TODAY, WHEREAS A MAN SAYS, "NO,
  • 00:14:16.200 --> 00:14:17.270
  • THERE'S SOMETHIN' OUT THERE,
  • 00:14:17.270 --> 00:14:19.010
  • WHATEVER THAT THING IS."
  • 00:14:19.010 --> 00:14:19.260
  • YOUR VISION COULD BE
  • 00:14:19.260 --> 00:14:20.150
  • STARTING A BUSINESS,
  • 00:14:20.150 --> 00:14:21.180
  • YOUR VISION COULD BE
  • 00:14:21.180 --> 00:14:23.160
  • "I'M GONNA BE THE FIRST MALE IN
  • 00:14:23.160 --> 00:14:24.080
  • MY FAMILY THAT DOESN'T
  • 00:14:24.080 --> 00:14:25.140
  • GET A DIVORCE."
  • 00:14:25.140 --> 00:14:27.080
  • YOUR VISION COULD BE
  • 00:14:27.080 --> 00:14:27.240
  • "I'M GONNA BE A DAD TO THIS
  • 00:14:27.240 --> 00:14:29.270
  • LITTLE ONE EVEN THOUGH I DIDN'T
  • 00:14:29.270 --> 00:14:31.180
  • HAVE A DAD TO MY LITTLE ONE."
  • 00:14:31.180 --> 00:14:33.020
  • BY THE WAY, DADS, YOU CAN START
  • 00:14:33.020 --> 00:14:35.010
  • WHEN YOUR KID'S 12, IF YOU
  • 00:14:35.010 --> 00:14:37.210
  • HAVEN'T DONE IT YET.
  • 00:14:37.210 --> 00:14:38.200
  • IT IS NEVER TOO LATE.
  • 00:14:38.200 --> 00:14:39.190
  • [APPLAUSE]
  • 00:14:39.190 --> 00:14:42.150
  • YOU KNOW, YOUR VISION COULD BE
  • 00:14:42.150 --> 00:14:43.060
  • "I'M GONNA BE THE FIRST OF MY
  • 00:14:43.060 --> 00:14:43.270
  • FAMILY NOT TO BE AN ALCOHOLIC."
  • 00:14:43.270 --> 00:14:44.190
  • ANYTHING.
  • 00:14:44.190 --> 00:14:45.000
  • IT'S JUST SOMETHING OUT THERE
  • 00:14:45.000 --> 00:14:47.140
  • THAT'S DEFINING MY
  • 00:14:47.140 --> 00:14:48.200
  • CHOICES TODAY.
  • 00:14:48.200 --> 00:14:49.180
  • - WILFREDO: IT'S INTERESTING
  • 00:14:49.180 --> 00:14:50.120
  • ABOUT VISION BECAUSE THAT'S THE
  • 00:14:50.120 --> 00:14:52.030
  • FIRST CHAPTER OF THE MARKED MAN,
  • 00:14:52.030 --> 00:14:52.250
  • OF HAVING A VISION, AND THE
  • 00:14:52.250 --> 00:14:54.150
  • BIBLE SPEAKS ABOUT THAT, RIGHT?
  • 00:14:54.150 --> 00:14:55.200
  • "WHERE THERE IS NO VISION, THE
  • 00:14:55.200 --> 00:14:56.160
  • PEOPLE PERISH."
  • 00:14:56.160 --> 00:14:57.120
  • BUT THE WORD "VISION"
  • 00:14:57.120 --> 00:14:58.250
  • IN ITS ORIGINAL TEXT,
  • 00:14:58.250 --> 00:15:00.100
  • IT MEANT, "WHERE THERE IS NO
  • 00:15:00.100 --> 00:15:02.070
  • WORD, THE PEOPLE PERISH," AND
  • 00:15:02.070 --> 00:15:03.280
  • THIS IS A WORD FOR TODAY ABOUT
  • 00:15:03.280 --> 00:15:06.020
  • MEN TAKING THEIR RIGHTFUL PLACE
  • 00:15:06.020 --> 00:15:08.090
  • AND HAVING A VISION.
  • 00:15:08.090 --> 00:15:11.020
  • SO IN EVERY OCTOBER, IN MY
  • 00:15:11.020 --> 00:15:12.190
  • FAMILY-- AND, YOU KNOW, THIS IS
  • 00:15:12.190 --> 00:15:14.140
  • THROUGH THE HOLY SPIRIT 'CAUSE I
  • 00:15:14.140 --> 00:15:16.140
  • WOULD SIT DOWN WITH MY FAMILY,
  • 00:15:16.140 --> 00:15:17.180
  • AND I'D SAY, "BEFORE WE REACH
  • 00:15:17.180 --> 00:15:19.050
  • THE FOLLOWING YEAR,
  • 00:15:19.050 --> 00:15:20.020
  • HERE'S THE VISION.
  • 00:15:20.020 --> 00:15:21.080
  • HERE'S WHAT WE NEED TO DO: THIS
  • 00:15:21.080 --> 00:15:22.110
  • IS HOW MUCH WE WANNA SAVE, THIS
  • 00:15:22.110 --> 00:15:23.160
  • IS WHERE WE WANNA GO
  • 00:15:23.160 --> 00:15:24.140
  • ON VACATION."
  • 00:15:24.140 --> 00:15:25.060
  • THIS WAS IN OCTOBER,
  • 00:15:25.060 --> 00:15:26.070
  • PLANNING FOR NEXT YEAR.
  • 00:15:26.070 --> 00:15:27.150
  • - BRIAN: WELL, YOU'RE BETTER
  • 00:15:27.150 --> 00:15:28.060
  • THAN ME.
  • 00:15:28.060 --> 00:15:28.160
  • I'M ALREADY FEELING GUILT-RIDDEN
  • 00:15:28.160 --> 00:15:29.080
  • ALREADY-- I AM.
  • 00:15:29.080 --> 00:15:29.220
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:15:29.220 --> 00:15:30.180
  • I FEEL LIKE A LOSER.
  • 00:15:30.180 --> 00:15:31.160
  • GO AHEAD, KEEP TALKING.
  • 00:15:31.160 --> 00:15:32.080
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:15:32.080 --> 00:15:34.030
  • - WILFREDO: WELL, THIS WAS--
  • 00:15:34.030 --> 00:15:35.040
  • I MEAN, WHEN YOU TALKING ABOUT
  • 00:15:35.040 --> 00:15:36.110
  • LOOKING TOWARDS THE FUTURE,
  • 00:15:36.110 --> 00:15:37.190
  • THAT'S WHAT A MAN DOES, RIGHT?
  • 00:15:37.190 --> 00:15:39.040
  • THIS WHAT WE DO.
  • 00:15:39.040 --> 00:15:39.180
  • WE LOOK TOWARDS THE FUTURE, AND
  • 00:15:39.180 --> 00:15:41.060
  • WE TAKE RESPONSIBILITY, AND IF
  • 00:15:41.060 --> 00:15:42.210
  • YOU LOOK TOWARDS THE FUTURE--
  • 00:15:42.210 --> 00:15:44.130
  • YOU DID SOMETHIN'.
  • 00:15:44.130 --> 00:15:45.210
  • WE'RE GONNA SEE A VIDEO OF A
  • 00:15:45.210 --> 00:15:47.230
  • CHANGED LIFE OF A YOUNG MAN,
  • 00:15:47.230 --> 00:15:48.130
  • AN INMATE.
  • 00:15:48.130 --> 00:15:49.070
  • AN INMATE.
  • 00:15:49.070 --> 00:15:50.180
  • AND THEN, AFTER WE COME BACK
  • 00:15:50.180 --> 00:15:51.130
  • FROM THE VIDEO, I WANT YOU TO
  • 00:15:51.130 --> 00:15:52.160
  • SPEAK IN TO THAT.
  • 00:15:52.160 --> 00:15:54.010
  • - BRIAN: YEAH, WELL, EVEN--
  • 00:15:54.010 --> 00:15:55.130
  • LET'S DESCRIBE HOW
  • 00:15:55.130 --> 00:15:55.280
  • THIS HAPPENED.
  • 00:15:55.280 --> 00:15:58.070
  • - WILFREDO: YEAH, WHAT THEY'RE
  • 00:15:58.070 --> 00:15:59.090
  • ABOUT TO SEE.
  • 00:15:59.090 --> 00:16:00.210
  • - BRIAN: SO THERE'S A JUDGE
  • 00:16:00.210 --> 00:16:01.120
  • THAT HAS FOUND THAT THE MOST
  • 00:16:01.120 --> 00:16:02.030
  • EFFECTIVE THING THAT HE'S BEEN
  • 00:16:02.030 --> 00:16:03.110
  • ABLE TO DO WITH ALL THE
  • 00:16:03.110 --> 00:16:04.080
  • JUVENILES WHO COME THROUGH HIS
  • 00:16:04.080 --> 00:16:05.160
  • COURT SYSTEM, ONCE THEY COME IN,
  • 00:16:05.160 --> 00:16:07.140
  • IS TO GIVE THEM THIS BOOK, AND
  • 00:16:07.140 --> 00:16:08.210
  • HE HAS 'EM WRITE A BOOK REPORT
  • 00:16:08.210 --> 00:16:10.180
  • ON IT, AND IT'S JUST TAKEN OFF,
  • 00:16:10.180 --> 00:16:12.150
  • AND HE'S TOLD US, OF ALL THE
  • 00:16:12.150 --> 00:16:15.020
  • THINGS THAT HE'S DONE, HE'S
  • 00:16:15.020 --> 00:16:16.090
  • NEVER SEEN ANYTHING WORK AS WELL
  • 00:16:16.090 --> 00:16:17.010
  • WITH YOUNG, HURTING MALES
  • 00:16:17.010 --> 00:16:18.090
  • THAN THIS.
  • 00:16:18.090 --> 00:16:20.020
  • AND SO I DECIDED, "I'M GONNA
  • 00:16:20.020 --> 00:16:21.100
  • START MEETING SOME OF
  • 00:16:21.100 --> 00:16:22.110
  • THESE KIDS."
  • 00:16:22.110 --> 00:16:22.280
  • AND SO THIS IS ONE OF
  • 00:16:22.280 --> 00:16:24.080
  • THOSE KIDS THAT HAD READ MY
  • 00:16:24.080 --> 00:16:25.250
  • BOOK, DID A REPORT ON IT, AND
  • 00:16:25.250 --> 00:16:27.010
  • HIS LIFE IS DIFFERENT, AND IT'S
  • 00:16:27.010 --> 00:16:27.230
  • PRETTY COOL.
  • 00:16:27.230 --> 00:16:28.220
  • - WILFREDO: AWESOME.
  • 00:16:28.220 --> 00:16:29.090
  • - LEIF: DEAR BRIAN, FIRST
  • 00:16:49.030 --> 00:16:50.130
  • OFF, I WANNA THANK YOU FOR
  • 00:16:50.130 --> 00:16:51.020
  • WRITING "THE FIVE MARKS OF MAN."
  • 00:16:51.020 --> 00:16:53.140
  • I WANTED TO TELL YOU THAT I HAVE
  • 00:16:53.140 --> 00:16:54.060
  • CHANGED A LOT SINCE I FIRST READ
  • 00:16:54.060 --> 00:16:55.010
  • THE BOOK.
  • 00:16:55.010 --> 00:16:56.090
  • BEFORE, I NEVER HAD A VISION FOR
  • 00:16:56.090 --> 00:16:57.010
  • ALMOST ANYTHING.
  • 00:16:57.010 --> 00:16:58.120
  • I WOULD DO WHATEVER I WANTED,
  • 00:16:58.120 --> 00:17:00.050
  • NOT KNOWING OR THINKING ABOUT
  • 00:17:00.050 --> 00:17:01.170
  • THE OUTCOME ON HOW IT COULD
  • 00:17:01.170 --> 00:17:03.040
  • AFFECT ME AND MY FAMILY AND
  • 00:17:03.040 --> 00:17:03.240
  • MY FRIENDS.
  • 00:17:03.240 --> 00:17:05.160
  • NOW MY VISION IS TO BE A MAN,
  • 00:17:05.160 --> 00:17:07.150
  • BUT NOT JUST ANY MAN-- THE BEST
  • 00:17:07.150 --> 00:17:08.110
  • MAN I CAN BE.
  • 00:17:08.110 --> 00:17:10.080
  • IN THE PAST, I THOUGHT I WANTED
  • 00:17:10.080 --> 00:17:11.000
  • TO BE INDEPENDENT AND DO
  • 00:17:11.000 --> 00:17:12.060
  • EVERYTHING BY MYSELF.
  • 00:17:12.060 --> 00:17:13.130
  • I HAVE LEARNED THAT ACCEPTING
  • 00:17:13.130 --> 00:17:16.110
  • HELP IS NOT A SIGN OF WEAKNESS,
  • 00:17:16.110 --> 00:17:19.010
  • BUT A SIGN OF MATURITY.
  • 00:17:19.010 --> 00:17:20.010
  • TODAY AT COURT I CRIED WHEN I
  • 00:17:20.010 --> 00:17:21.080
  • HUGGED MY MOM.
  • 00:17:21.080 --> 00:17:22.120
  • I CRIED WHEN I HAD TALKED TO
  • 00:17:22.120 --> 00:17:24.090
  • MY ATTORNEY.
  • 00:17:24.090 --> 00:17:24.260
  • I COULD BARELY SPEAK BECAUSE I
  • 00:17:24.260 --> 00:17:26.010
  • WAS CRYING SO MUCH.
  • 00:17:26.010 --> 00:17:27.220
  • I REALIZE I NEED TO SHOW
  • 00:17:27.220 --> 00:17:29.110
  • MORE EMOTION.
  • 00:17:29.110 --> 00:17:30.150
  • WHEN I WAS SERVING MYSELF, I DID
  • 00:17:30.150 --> 00:17:32.140
  • WHAT I WANTED, AND I STOLE GUNS,
  • 00:17:32.140 --> 00:17:34.040
  • I SOLD DRUGS.
  • 00:17:34.040 --> 00:17:36.040
  • I STOLE AND MANIPULATED.
  • 00:17:36.040 --> 00:17:37.080
  • NOW I WANNA GET OUT AND HELP
  • 00:17:37.080 --> 00:17:38.030
  • OTHERS NOT HURT OTHERS.
  • 00:17:38.030 --> 00:17:39.270
  • WHEN I WAS A BOY, I HURT OTHERS
  • 00:17:39.270 --> 00:17:42.010
  • VERY MUCH WHO WERE VERY CLOSE TO
  • 00:17:42.010 --> 00:17:44.090
  • ME, AND I BETRAYED THEM, WHEN
  • 00:17:44.090 --> 00:17:45.040
  • NOW I WILL PROTECT ANYTHING THAT
  • 00:17:45.150 --> 00:17:48.150
  • WOULD TRY TO HURT THEM.
  • 00:17:48.150 --> 00:17:49.050
  • - BRIAN: IF I HAD YOUR PARENTS'
  • 00:17:49.050 --> 00:17:50.000
  • SITUATION, I HAD YOUR SITUATION,
  • 00:17:50.000 --> 00:17:51.150
  • I MIGHT BE EXACTLY LIKE YOU-- I
  • 00:17:51.150 --> 00:17:52.260
  • DON'T KNOW.
  • 00:17:52.260 --> 00:17:54.210
  • I DON'T KNOW.
  • 00:17:54.210 --> 00:17:56.210
  • - LEIF: I'M JUST TRYIN' TO GET
  • 00:17:56.210 --> 00:17:57.180
  • BETTER, AND I'M TRYIN' TO BUILD
  • 00:17:57.180 --> 00:17:58.110
  • A BETTER RELATIONSHIP WITH
  • 00:17:58.110 --> 00:17:59.250
  • MY MOM.
  • 00:17:59.250 --> 00:18:01.070
  • - BRIAN: BROTHER, YOUR BEST
  • 00:18:01.070 --> 00:18:02.030
  • DAYS ARE AHEAD OF YOU.
  • 00:18:02.030 --> 00:18:03.160
  • - LEIF: YEAH.
  • 00:18:03.160 --> 00:18:03.290
  • - BRIAN: GOD DOES NOT-- HE DOES
  • 00:18:03.290 --> 00:18:05.170
  • NOT JUDGE YOU ON THE PAST.
  • 00:18:05.170 --> 00:18:07.040
  • HE IS SO OVER THE PAST.
  • 00:18:07.040 --> 00:18:07.220
  • IT'S OVER.
  • 00:18:07.220 --> 00:18:09.060
  • AS FAR AS GOD'S CONCERNED, THAT
  • 00:18:09.060 --> 00:18:10.050
  • STUFF IS DONE.
  • 00:18:10.050 --> 00:18:11.170
  • YOU MIGHT THINK ABOUT IT.
  • 00:18:11.170 --> 00:18:12.140
  • GOD DOESN'T THINK ABOUT IT.
  • 00:18:12.140 --> 00:18:14.050
  • HE'S ABOUT YOUR FUTURE.
  • 00:18:14.050 --> 00:18:15.290
  • - LEIF: YEAH.
  • 00:18:15.290 --> 00:18:17.070
  • - BRIAN: SO YOU GOT A GREAT ONE
  • 00:18:17.070 --> 00:18:18.090
  • AHEAD OF YOU, BROTHER.
  • 00:18:18.090 --> 00:18:19.230
  • YOU'RE A GOOD MAN.
  • 00:18:19.230 --> 00:18:20.160
  • - LEIF: THANKS.
  • 00:18:20.160 --> 00:18:21.180
  • - BRIAN: YOU ARE.
  • 00:18:21.180 --> 00:18:22.030
  • THANKS, MAN.
  • 00:18:22.030 --> 00:18:22.280
  • HEY, YOU MIND IF I PRAY FOR YOU,
  • 00:18:22.280 --> 00:18:23.200
  • MAN?
  • 00:18:23.200 --> 00:18:23.280
  • - LEIF: YEAH.
  • 00:18:23.280 --> 00:18:24.110
  • - BRIAN: HERE, GIVE ME YOUR
  • 00:18:24.110 --> 00:18:25.080
  • HAND RIGHT HERE IF
  • 00:18:25.080 --> 00:18:25.230
  • YOU DON'T MIND.
  • 00:18:25.230 --> 00:18:26.210
  • MM, GOD, I THANK YOU FOR LEIF
  • 00:18:26.210 --> 00:18:28.200
  • AND WHAT YOU'RE DOING IN
  • 00:18:28.200 --> 00:18:31.000
  • HIS LIFE.
  • 00:18:31.000 --> 00:18:32.140
  • YOU ARE DOING SOMETHING IN
  • 00:18:32.140 --> 00:18:33.030
  • HIS LIFE.
  • 00:18:33.030 --> 00:18:34.200
  • YOU'RE DOING SOMETHING
  • 00:18:34.200 --> 00:18:35.070
  • SIGNIFICANT AND PROFOUND.
  • 00:18:35.070 --> 00:18:37.030
  • BRING A NEW THING OVER HIM
  • 00:18:37.030 --> 00:18:38.190
  • RIGHT NOW.
  • 00:18:38.190 --> 00:18:40.110
  • SPIRIT, I PRAY YOU'D WASH OVER
  • 00:18:40.110 --> 00:18:41.040
  • HIM, POUR YOUR GRACE ON HIM.
  • 00:18:41.040 --> 00:18:42.260
  • HELP HIM TO FEEL.
  • 00:18:42.260 --> 00:18:43.290
  • HELP HIM TO FEEL YOUR
  • 00:18:43.290 --> 00:18:45.090
  • FORGIVENESS AND THE HOPE YOU
  • 00:18:45.090 --> 00:18:47.230
  • HAVE FOR HIS FUTURE.
  • 00:18:47.230 --> 00:18:48.100
  • IT'S A GREAT FUTURE, GOD.
  • 00:18:48.100 --> 00:18:49.090
  • I CAN SEE IT.
  • 00:18:49.090 --> 00:18:50.150
  • I PRAY THESE THINGS IN YOUR
  • 00:18:50.150 --> 00:18:51.060
  • NAME, JESUS, AMEN.
  • 00:18:51.060 --> 00:18:52.080
  • - LEIF: AMEN.
  • 00:18:52.080 --> 00:18:53.220
  • - BRIAN: DUDE, YOU'RE GONNA
  • 00:18:53.220 --> 00:18:54.150
  • BE FINE.
  • 00:18:54.150 --> 00:18:56.020
  • THANKFUL FOR YOU.
  • 00:18:56.020 --> 00:18:57.110
  • - LEIF: THANKFUL FOR YOU TOO.
  • 00:18:57.110 --> 00:18:58.020
  • - WILFREDO: PRAISE THE LORD.
  • 00:19:33.130 --> 00:19:35.050
  • WHAT AN AWESOME, AWESOME STORY,
  • 00:19:35.050 --> 00:19:35.270
  • AND THINGS LIKE THIS DON'T GET
  • 00:19:35.270 --> 00:19:38.150
  • SHARED ON OTHER NETWORKS OF WHAT
  • 00:19:38.150 --> 00:19:40.150
  • GOD IS DOING.
  • 00:19:40.150 --> 00:19:42.100
  • ALL WE HEAR IS ABOUT THE
  • 00:19:42.100 --> 00:19:43.070
  • VIOLENCE AND THINGS, AND HOW BAD
  • 00:19:43.070 --> 00:19:44.190
  • THE COUNTRY IS.
  • 00:19:44.190 --> 00:19:46.180
  • MEANWHILE, THERE ARE YOUNG MEN
  • 00:19:46.180 --> 00:19:48.080
  • IN PRISON WHERE LIVES ARE BEING
  • 00:19:48.080 --> 00:19:50.200
  • TRANSFORMED.
  • 00:19:50.200 --> 00:19:52.230
  • AND PRAISE GOD FOR YOUR BOOK
  • 00:19:52.230 --> 00:19:53.220
  • THAT'S CHALLENGING.
  • 00:19:53.220 --> 00:19:55.100
  • WE'RE HERE WITH PASTOR BRIAN,
  • 00:19:55.100 --> 00:19:57.070
  • AND HE'S SHARING THE BOOK THAT
  • 00:19:57.070 --> 00:19:58.270
  • GOD HAS PLACED IN HIS HEART,
  • 00:19:58.270 --> 00:20:00.140
  • AND WHAT A TIMELY BOOK.
  • 00:20:00.140 --> 00:20:02.010
  • NOW, WE TALKED ABOUT CHAPTER
  • 00:20:02.010 --> 00:20:03.260
  • ONE, WHICH IS ABOUT VISION, AND
  • 00:20:03.260 --> 00:20:05.060
  • WE WANNA AT LEAST JUMP TO
  • 00:20:05.060 --> 00:20:06.030
  • ANOTHER CHAPTER.
  • 00:20:06.030 --> 00:20:07.010
  • AND I LIKE THE STORY ABOUT THE
  • 00:20:07.010 --> 00:20:09.150
  • LONE WOLF--
  • 00:20:09.150 --> 00:20:12.110
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:20:12.110 --> 00:20:13.230
  • -- BECAUSE THAT'S HOW-- MEN ARE
  • 00:20:13.230 --> 00:20:15.120
  • LIKE THAT.
  • 00:20:15.120 --> 00:20:16.060
  • THEY JUST DON'T LIKE TO-- THEY
  • 00:20:16.060 --> 00:20:17.060
  • JUST WANNA BE THE LONE RANGER,
  • 00:20:17.060 --> 00:20:19.090
  • BUT THEY DON'T KNOW THAT THE
  • 00:20:19.090 --> 00:20:20.150
  • LONE RANGER HAD TONTO, YOU KNOW?
  • 00:20:20.150 --> 00:20:22.150
  • - BRIAN: THAT'S RIGHT.
  • 00:20:22.150 --> 00:20:23.060
  • - WILFREDO: AND SO TALK TO US
  • 00:20:23.060 --> 00:20:23.270
  • ABOUT THAT.
  • 00:20:23.270 --> 00:20:24.110
  • - BRIAN: YEAH, WELL,
  • 00:20:24.110 --> 00:20:24.280
  • THESE FIVE THINGS ARE EQUALLY
  • 00:20:28.060 --> 00:20:28.270
  • APPLICABLE TO WOMEN AS WELL AS
  • 00:20:28.270 --> 00:20:29.180
  • MEN.
  • 00:20:29.180 --> 00:20:30.040
  • THEY REALLY ARE.
  • 00:20:30.040 --> 00:20:31.050
  • WE JUST FIND THAT GIRLS
  • 00:20:31.050 --> 00:20:34.010
  • NATURALLY BECOME WOMEN MORE SO
  • 00:20:34.010 --> 00:20:35.200
  • AND THESE ARE FIVE THINGS,
  • 00:20:39.080 --> 00:20:40.100
  • THEY'RE DEFINITELY DEFINING
  • 00:20:40.100 --> 00:20:41.120
  • THINGS WHERE MEN ARE
  • 00:20:41.120 --> 00:20:42.030
  • CHALLENGED IN.
  • 00:20:42.030 --> 00:20:44.080
  • THIS ONE IS A PERFECT EXAMPLE,
  • 00:20:44.080 --> 00:20:45.020
  • AND WOMEN TEND TO BE MUCH BETTER
  • 00:20:45.020 --> 00:20:46.120
  • AT RELATIONSHIPS.
  • 00:20:46.120 --> 00:20:48.220
  • I'M SURE-- MY WIFE, THAT'S
  • 00:20:48.220 --> 00:20:49.110
  • THE CASE.
  • 00:20:49.110 --> 00:20:50.250
  • IS THAT THE CASE WITH YOU AND
  • 00:20:50.250 --> 00:20:51.160
  • YOUR WIFE?
  • 00:20:51.160 --> 00:20:51.270
  • - WILFREDO: YEAH, FOR SURE,
  • 00:20:51.270 --> 00:20:52.170
  • FOR SURE.
  • 00:20:52.170 --> 00:20:53.110
  • - BRIAN: WOMEN GET THE
  • 00:20:53.110 --> 00:20:55.030
  • COMMUNITY-EXPERIENCE THING MORE
  • 00:20:55.030 --> 00:20:56.130
  • AND THE FRIEND THING MORE-- MEN,
  • 00:20:56.130 --> 00:20:57.170
  • NOT SO MUCH.
  • 00:20:57.170 --> 00:20:58.230
  • WE'RE VERY-- WE'RE UNCOMFORTABLE
  • 00:20:58.230 --> 00:21:00.100
  • SHARING OUR FEELINGS.
  • 00:21:00.100 --> 00:21:01.190
  • WE'RE UNCOMFORTABLE BEING AROUND
  • 00:21:01.190 --> 00:21:02.110
  • OTHER PEOPLE.
  • 00:21:02.110 --> 00:21:03.050
  • IN FACT, YOU'LL HEAR MEN SAY
  • 00:21:03.050 --> 00:21:04.140
  • PROUDLY, "WELL, I'M KIND OF A
  • 00:21:04.140 --> 00:21:05.120
  • LONE WOLF.
  • 00:21:05.120 --> 00:21:07.060
  • I'M KIND OF--" I DON'T KNOW IF
  • 00:21:07.060 --> 00:21:08.010
  • YOU'VE EVER MET A LONE WOLF.
  • 00:21:08.010 --> 00:21:08.210
  • I HAVE.
  • 00:21:08.210 --> 00:21:09.110
  • I MET A GUY A NUMBER OF
  • 00:21:09.110 --> 00:21:10.260
  • YEARS AGO--
  • 00:21:10.260 --> 00:21:11.090
  • THIS IS IN THE BOOK--
  • 00:21:11.090 --> 00:21:12.210
  • IN MONTANA, WHO TRAINS WOLVES.
  • 00:21:13.030 --> 00:21:16.030
  • HE RECAPTURES WOLVES AND
  • 00:21:16.030 --> 00:21:17.270
  • CAPTURES WOLVES FROM SOCIETY.
  • 00:21:17.270 --> 00:21:18.270
  • HE ALSO HAS A BEAR.
  • 00:21:18.270 --> 00:21:20.010
  • HE DOES THINGS FOR HOLLYWOOD,
  • 00:21:20.010 --> 00:21:21.260
  • AND HE POINTED TO THIS ONE LONE
  • 00:21:21.260 --> 00:21:22.180
  • WOLF, WHO WAS IN A CAGE, THAT
  • 00:21:22.180 --> 00:21:24.170
  • THE OTHER WOLVES DIDN'T WANT
  • 00:21:24.170 --> 00:21:26.140
  • AROUND, AND THIS WOLF DIDN'T
  • 00:21:26.140 --> 00:21:27.110
  • WANNA BE AROUND THEM.
  • 00:21:27.110 --> 00:21:28.050
  • HE SAID, "YOU KNOW WHAT YOU GOT
  • 00:21:28.050 --> 00:21:28.270
  • THERE, RIGHT THERE?"
  • 00:21:28.270 --> 00:21:29.130
  • I SAID, "NO, WHAT'S THAT?"
  • 00:21:29.130 --> 00:21:30.020
  • HE SAID, "THAT'S A LONE WOLF."
  • 00:21:30.020 --> 00:21:30.240
  • I SAID, "OOH, REALLY,
  • 00:21:30.240 --> 00:21:32.020
  • A LONE WOLF?"
  • 00:21:32.020 --> 00:21:32.220
  • 'CAUSE IT SOUNDS SO, LIKE, COOL
  • 00:21:32.220 --> 00:21:33.140
  • AND SEXY: "OOH, LONE WOLF,"
  • 00:21:33.140 --> 00:21:34.190
  • YOU KNOW?
  • 00:21:34.190 --> 00:21:35.230
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:21:35.230 --> 00:21:37.030
  • HE SAID, "LET ME TELL YA
  • 00:21:37.030 --> 00:21:37.210
  • SOMETHIN' ABOUT LONE WOLVES."
  • 00:21:37.210 --> 00:21:38.120
  • HE SAID,
  • 00:21:38.120 --> 00:21:40.160
  • "LONE WOLVES ARE SMALLER
  • 00:21:40.160 --> 00:21:41.040
  • THAN OTHER WOLVES, AND THEY DIE
  • 00:21:41.040 --> 00:21:42.040
  • SOONER THAN OTHER WOLVES."
  • 00:21:42.040 --> 00:21:43.120
  • - WILFREDO: COME ON, SAY IT,
  • 00:21:43.120 --> 00:21:44.200
  • COME ON.
  • 00:21:44.200 --> 00:21:45.030
  • - BRIAN: I SAID, "WHY'S THAT?"
  • 00:21:45.030 --> 00:21:46.000
  • HE SAID, "BECAUSE WOLVES
  • 00:21:46.000 --> 00:21:47.050
  • ARE MADE TO RUN IN PACKS.
  • 00:21:47.050 --> 00:21:48.250
  • IF THEY'RE NOT IN A PACK,
  • 00:21:48.250 --> 00:21:49.180
  • THEY CAN'T BRING DOWN AN ELK.
  • 00:21:49.180 --> 00:21:51.020
  • THEY CAN'T BRING DOWN--
  • 00:21:51.020 --> 00:21:51.250
  • THEY CAN'T EAT AS MUCH."
  • 00:21:51.250 --> 00:21:53.180
  • AND SO A WOLF THAT
  • 00:21:53.180 --> 00:21:55.080
  • DOESN'T COME INTO A PACK
  • 00:21:55.080 --> 00:21:56.070
  • SETTING IS ALWAYS SMALLER,
  • 00:21:56.070 --> 00:21:57.120
  • ALWAYS WEAKER, ALWAYS DIES
  • 00:21:57.120 --> 00:21:58.220
  • SOONER, AND THAT'S WHAT'S
  • 00:21:58.220 --> 00:21:59.190
  • HAPPENING IN OUR
  • 00:21:59.190 --> 00:22:00.220
  • MASCULINE CULTURE.
  • 00:22:00.220 --> 00:22:02.050
  • WE DON'T HAVE
  • 00:22:02.050 --> 00:22:03.250
  • GENUINE FRIENDSHIPS.
  • 00:22:03.250 --> 00:22:05.080
  • WE JUST WANNA, LIKE, TOUCH A GUY
  • 00:22:05.080 --> 00:22:06.080
  • AND, LIKE, "HOW'RE YOU DOIN'?"
  • 00:22:06.080 --> 00:22:07.050
  • AND TALK ABOUT THE PROBLEMS OF
  • 00:22:07.050 --> 00:22:08.150
  • MEN ARE TEAM PLAYERS.
  • 00:22:10.260 --> 00:22:12.020
  • BOYS WANNA BE MVP.
  • 00:22:12.020 --> 00:22:13.140
  • THAT'S THE BIG IDEA.
  • 00:22:13.140 --> 00:22:14.000
  • MEN ARE TEAM PLAYERS.
  • 00:22:14.000 --> 00:22:15.220
  • BOYS WANNA BE ALL-TIME
  • 00:22:15.220 --> 00:22:17.060
  • THEY WANT ALL THE ATTENTION
  • 00:22:20.130 --> 00:22:21.030
  • ON THEMSELVES.
  • 00:22:21.030 --> 00:22:21.230
  • THEY'RE NOT ABOUT THE TEAM, AND
  • 00:22:21.230 --> 00:22:22.150
  • MEN ARE ABOUT A TEAM.
  • 00:22:22.240 --> 00:22:25.240
  • - WILFREDO: AND YOU THINK ABOUT
  • 00:22:25.240 --> 00:22:26.270
  • "TEAM PLAYER," IN THE BIBLE,
  • 00:22:26.270 --> 00:22:29.010
  • I MEAN, JESUS, HE TRAVELED
  • 00:22:29.010 --> 00:22:29.240
  • IN A PACK.
  • 00:22:29.240 --> 00:22:30.060
  • - BRIAN: WELL, AND
  • 00:22:30.060 --> 00:22:31.020
  • EVEN BEFORE... JESUS,
  • 00:22:31.020 --> 00:22:33.130
  • JESUS IS ALWAYS THE ANSWER.
  • 00:22:33.130 --> 00:22:34.290
  • WE KNOW THAT, BUT EVEN BEFORE
  • 00:22:34.290 --> 00:22:35.200
  • JESUS, WE GOT ADAM AND EVE,
  • 00:22:35.200 --> 00:22:36.100
  • RIGHT?
  • 00:22:36.100 --> 00:22:37.250
  • THE GREATEST TEAM ANY MAN WILL
  • 00:22:37.250 --> 00:22:39.170
  • EVER BE ON IS THE TEAM OF
  • 00:22:39.170 --> 00:22:41.220
  • HIS MARRIAGE.
  • 00:22:41.220 --> 00:22:43.040
  • THAT'S THE GREATEST TEAM HE'LL
  • 00:22:43.040 --> 00:22:43.250
  • EVER BE ON--
  • 00:22:43.250 --> 00:22:45.230
  • [CHEERS AND APPLAUSE]
  • 00:22:45.230 --> 00:22:47.260
  • -- BECAUSE THAT'S HOW GOD
  • 00:22:47.260 --> 00:22:48.150
  • CREATED US.
  • 00:22:48.150 --> 00:22:50.060
  • GOD SAID IN GENESIS, "IT IS NOT
  • 00:22:50.060 --> 00:22:51.100
  • GOOD FOR THE MAN TO BE ALONE,"
  • 00:22:51.100 --> 00:22:53.040
  • RIGHT?
  • 00:22:53.040 --> 00:22:54.000
  • AND WHAT DO WE HAVE IN OUR
  • 00:22:54.000 --> 00:22:55.010
  • CULTURE TODAY?
  • 00:22:55.010 --> 00:22:55.170
  • WE HAVE MEN PUSHING OFF
  • 00:22:55.170 --> 00:22:56.150
  • MARRIAGE, PUSHING IT LATER AND
  • 00:22:56.150 --> 00:22:58.000
  • LATER AND LATER OR NOT EVEN
  • 00:22:58.000 --> 00:22:59.240
  • WANTING MARRIAGE AT ALL.
  • 00:22:59.240 --> 00:23:01.190
  • THIS IS OUR LONE RANGER NATURE.
  • 00:23:01.190 --> 00:23:04.010
  • WE'RE WANTING TO PLAY, WE'RE
  • 00:23:04.010 --> 00:23:05.040
  • WANTING TO BE BOYS, WE DON'T
  • 00:23:05.040 --> 00:23:06.040
  • THE GREATEST THING A MAN CAN DO
  • 00:23:08.080 --> 00:23:09.000
  • FOR HIS FINANCIAL FUTURE IS TO
  • 00:23:09.000 --> 00:23:09.230
  • GET MARRIED AND STAY MARRIED.
  • 00:23:09.230 --> 00:23:10.140
  • TRUE.
  • 00:23:10.140 --> 00:23:13.010
  • THE GREATEST THING A MAN CAN DO
  • 00:23:13.010 --> 00:23:13.230
  • FOR HIS FINANCIAL FUTURE IS TO
  • 00:23:13.230 --> 00:23:15.010
  • GET MARRIED AND STAY MARRIED
  • 00:23:15.010 --> 00:23:17.040
  • BECAUSE YOU HAVE A TEAMMATE.
  • 00:23:17.040 --> 00:23:18.110
  • YOU HAVE SOMEONE WHO CAN BE
  • 00:23:18.110 --> 00:23:19.090
  • ALONGSIDE WITH YOU, AND SO IT'S
  • 00:23:19.090 --> 00:23:21.240
  • NOT JUST ADAM AND EVE.
  • 00:23:21.240 --> 00:23:22.290
  • IT'S JUST AS YOU SAID,
  • 00:23:22.290 --> 00:23:24.160
  • I MEAN, JESUS HAS GOT 12 GUYS
  • 00:23:26.170 --> 00:23:27.080
  • AROUND HIM, AND NOT EVERYONE'S A
  • 00:23:27.080 --> 00:23:28.280
  • WINNER.
  • 00:23:28.280 --> 00:23:30.080
  • YOU KNOW, HE WAS "1 FOR 12."
  • 00:23:30.080 --> 00:23:31.090
  • ONE OF 'EM WAS A LOSER, RIGHT?
  • 00:23:31.090 --> 00:23:32.000
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:23:32.000 --> 00:23:32.190
  • WE'RE GONNA HAVE PEOPLE IN OUR
  • 00:23:32.190 --> 00:23:34.200
  • RELATIONAL CIRCLES THAT AREN'T
  • 00:23:34.200 --> 00:23:35.220
  • GOING TO BE ALL THAT GREAT.
  • 00:23:35.220 --> 00:23:37.080
  • JESUS, THE HOLY SPIRIT, GOD--
  • 00:23:37.080 --> 00:23:40.070
  • GOD EXISTS IN TRINITY.
  • 00:23:40.070 --> 00:23:42.060
  • WHO ARE WE TO THINK THAT I CAN
  • 00:23:42.060 --> 00:23:44.010
  • EXIST ON MY OWN?
  • 00:23:44.010 --> 00:23:44.240
  • I CANNOT.
  • 00:23:44.240 --> 00:23:46.100
  • - WILFREDO: WOW, THAT'S A GOOD
  • 00:23:46.100 --> 00:23:47.140
  • WORD, AND I LIKE WHAT YOU SAID
  • 00:23:47.140 --> 00:23:48.050
  • IN YOUR BOOK, BRIAN.
  • 00:23:48.050 --> 00:23:48.210
  • YOU TALKED ABOUT HOW YOUR WIFE
  • 00:23:48.210 --> 00:23:51.010
  • IS NOT YOUR BEST FRIEND, RIGHT?
  • 00:23:51.010 --> 00:23:53.180
  • BECAUSE YOU SAY IN YOUR BOOK
  • 00:23:53.180 --> 00:23:56.010
  • BECAUSE YOU'RE ONE.
  • 00:23:56.010 --> 00:23:58.090
  • IF YOU HAVE A BEST FRIEND, THEN
  • 00:23:58.090 --> 00:23:59.260
  • THAT'S TWO PEOPLE AND HOW, IN A
  • 00:23:59.260 --> 00:24:01.140
  • MARRIAGE, YOU SHOULD BE ONE, AND
  • 00:24:01.140 --> 00:24:03.000
  • I KIND OF-- I STARTED-- THAT'S
  • 00:24:03.000 --> 00:24:04.020
  • PRETTY DEEP.
  • 00:24:04.020 --> 00:24:04.160
  • EXPOUND ON THAT A LITTLE BIT.
  • 00:24:04.160 --> 00:24:05.190
  • - BRIAN: YEAH, WELL, WHEN
  • 00:24:05.190 --> 00:24:06.260
  • MARRIAGE HAPPENS, YOU'RE ONE
  • 00:24:06.260 --> 00:24:08.280
  • PERSON.
  • 00:24:08.280 --> 00:24:10.210
  • YOU'RE NOT TWO PEOPLE WHO ARE IN
  • 00:24:10.210 --> 00:24:12.020
  • PARTNERSHIP.
  • 00:24:12.020 --> 00:24:13.020
  • YOU ARE ONE.
  • 00:24:13.020 --> 00:24:15.040
  • WHEN I'VE DONE WEDDINGS,
  • 00:24:15.040 --> 00:24:17.030
  • SOMETIMES YOU HAVE SOME
  • 00:24:17.030 --> 00:24:19.060
  • ENLIGHTENED PEOPLE WHO COME IN
  • 00:24:19.060 --> 00:24:19.270
  • AND SAY, "NOW WE'RE GONNA DO THE
  • 00:24:19.270 --> 00:24:21.090
  • UNITY CANDLE, AND WE'RE GONNA
  • 00:24:21.090 --> 00:24:22.000
  • HAVE THE CANDLE, AND WE'RE GONNA
  • 00:24:22.000 --> 00:24:23.140
  • PUT IT IN THE MIDDLE," AND THEN
  • 00:24:23.140 --> 00:24:24.060
  • SOMETIMES THE WEDDING
  • 00:24:24.060 --> 00:24:25.080
  • COORDINATOR, WHO WILL SAY, "AND
  • 00:24:25.080 --> 00:24:26.170
  • THEN, ONCE YOU LIGHT THE MIDDLE
  • 00:24:26.170 --> 00:24:28.140
  • CANDLE, THE UNITY CANDLE, THEN
  • 00:24:28.140 --> 00:24:29.270
  • YOU PUT YOUR CANDLES BACK ON THE
  • 00:24:29.270 --> 00:24:31.060
  • SIDES--" AND I'VE HEARD 'EM SAY
  • 00:24:31.060 --> 00:24:32.150
  • THIS-- "BECAUSE YOU'RE STILL AN
  • 00:24:32.150 --> 00:24:34.130
  • INDIVIDUAL, BUT NOW YOU ALSO
  • 00:24:34.130 --> 00:24:35.070
  • ARE ONE."
  • 00:24:35.070 --> 00:24:37.290
  • AND WHEN I HEAR THAT,
  • 00:24:37.290 --> 00:24:38.180
  • I SAID, "NO, NO, NO, NO."
  • 00:24:38.180 --> 00:24:40.070
  • ANYBODY I'M DOIN', IF YOU'RE
  • 00:24:40.070 --> 00:24:41.070
  • GONNA DO A UNITY CANDLE,
  • 00:24:41.070 --> 00:24:42.260
  • YOU'RE GONNA BLOW THOSE
  • 00:24:42.260 --> 00:24:44.120
  • INDIVIDUAL CANDLES OUT
  • 00:24:44.120 --> 00:24:45.090
  • BECAUSE MARRIAGE IS ABOUT "I AM
  • 00:24:45.090 --> 00:24:46.210
  • NO LONGER AN INDIVIDUAL
  • 00:24:46.210 --> 00:24:47.230
  • ANY LONGER.
  • 00:24:47.230 --> 00:24:50.020
  • I AM ONE.
  • 00:24:50.020 --> 00:24:51.130
  • GOD LOOKS AT ME-- ONE."
  • 00:24:51.130 --> 00:24:52.250
  • [APPLAUSE]
  • 00:24:52.250 --> 00:24:54.110
  • SO TO CALL MY WIFE, "MY BEST
  • 00:24:54.110 --> 00:24:56.120
  • FRIEND," IS LIKE TO CALL MY
  • 00:24:56.120 --> 00:24:57.220
  • HEART, "MY FAVORITE ORGAN,"
  • 00:24:57.220 --> 00:24:58.210
  • YOU KNOW?
  • 00:24:58.210 --> 00:25:00.070
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:25:00.070 --> 00:25:00.290
  • I'M ONE.
  • 00:25:00.290 --> 00:25:01.230
  • SO I THINK IT'S UNHEALTHY
  • 00:25:01.230 --> 00:25:02.120
  • THAT WAY.
  • 00:25:02.120 --> 00:25:04.170
  • SECONDLY, THERE ARE SOME THINGS
  • 00:25:04.170 --> 00:25:05.250
  • THAT I WILL TALK TO MY GUY
  • 00:25:05.250 --> 00:25:07.240
  • FRIENDS ABOUT THAT, NOT THAT I
  • 00:25:07.240 --> 00:25:10.040
  • NECESSARILY WOULDN'T TALK TO MY
  • 00:25:10.040 --> 00:25:11.030
  • WIFE ABOUT, BUT THAT SHE JUST
  • 00:25:11.030 --> 00:25:11.240
  • WOULDN'T GET.
  • 00:25:11.240 --> 00:25:12.070
  • SHE DOESN'T UNDERSTAND.
  • 00:25:12.070 --> 00:25:14.000
  • THERE ARE SOME THINGS ABOUT
  • 00:25:14.000 --> 00:25:15.000
  • BEING A MAN THAT ONLY A MAN WILL
  • 00:25:15.000 --> 00:25:16.180
  • FULLY UNDERSTAND AND BE ABLE TO
  • 00:25:16.180 --> 00:25:18.010
  • HELP ME WITH, SO I LIKE TO
  • 00:25:18.010 --> 00:25:19.100
  • RESERVE "BEST FRIEND" KIND OF
  • 00:25:19.100 --> 00:25:21.150
  • LANGUAGE FOR MEN, THOUGH EVEN
  • 00:25:22.110 --> 00:25:25.110
  • FOR MYSELF, I DON'T
  • 00:25:25.110 --> 00:25:25.280
  • HAVE A BEST--
  • 00:25:25.280 --> 00:25:26.120
  • DO YOU HAVE A BEST FRIEND?
  • 00:25:26.120 --> 00:25:27.210
  • - WILFREDO: YES.
  • 00:25:27.210 --> 00:25:28.260
  • YOU'RE ASKING ME--
  • 00:25:28.260 --> 00:25:29.110
  • - BRIAN: YEAH, DO YOU HAVE A--
  • 00:25:29.110 --> 00:25:30.240
  • - WILFREDO: OH, YES,
  • 00:25:30.240 --> 00:25:31.240
  • A BEST FRIEND.
  • 00:25:31.240 --> 00:25:32.140
  • FOR 40 YEARS, HE'S BEEN
  • 00:25:32.140 --> 00:25:33.110
  • MY BUDDY.
  • 00:25:33.110 --> 00:25:34.030
  • - BRIAN: MOST GUYS ARE NOT
  • 00:25:34.030 --> 00:25:34.230
  • LIKE THAT.
  • 00:25:34.230 --> 00:25:36.030
  • I'M JEALOUS.
  • 00:25:36.030 --> 00:25:36.150
  • MOST GUYS CAN SAY, "WELL, I'VE
  • 00:25:36.150 --> 00:25:37.210
  • GOT, LIKE, THREE OR FOUR GUYS,"
  • 00:25:37.210 --> 00:25:39.110
  • AND THAT'S OKAY.
  • 00:25:39.110 --> 00:25:39.250
  • IF YOU'VE A BEST FRIEND,
  • 00:25:39.250 --> 00:25:41.140
  • WONDERFUL, BUT MOST OF US, WE'VE
  • 00:25:41.140 --> 00:25:42.190
  • GOT A SMALL TEAM, AND
  • 00:25:42.190 --> 00:25:44.010
  • THAT'S FINE.
  • 00:25:44.010 --> 00:25:44.230
  • THE IMPORTANT THING IS YOU'VE
  • 00:25:44.230 --> 00:25:46.000
  • GOTTA BE WITH OTHER PEOPLE.
  • 00:25:46.000 --> 00:25:47.030
  • WE ACTUALLY STARTED A THING JUST
  • 00:25:47.030 --> 00:25:48.190
  • FOR THIS DEAL.
  • 00:25:48.190 --> 00:25:51.180
  • WE STARTED SOMETHIN' CALLED
  • 00:25:51.180 --> 00:25:52.290
  • MAN CAMP.
  • 00:25:52.290 --> 00:25:54.250
  • WE REALIZED THE GUYS WERE SO, SO
  • 00:25:54.250 --> 00:25:55.170
  • ISOLATED.
  • 00:25:55.170 --> 00:25:57.070
  • I LIKE TO RIDE MOTORCYCLES.
  • 00:25:57.070 --> 00:25:57.270
  • I FOUND OUT THERE'S SOMETHIN'
  • 00:25:57.270 --> 00:25:58.290
  • YOU AND I HAVE IN COMMON.
  • 00:25:58.290 --> 00:25:59.180
  • - WILFREDO: YES.
  • 00:25:59.180 --> 00:26:00.080
  • - BRIAN: DO YOU LIKE TO CAMP?
  • 00:26:00.080 --> 00:26:01.070
  • - WILFREDO: I LOVE TO CAMP--
  • 00:26:01.070 --> 00:26:02.100
  • - BRIAN: DO YOU REALLY?
  • 00:26:02.100 --> 00:26:02.280
  • - WILFREDO: -- IN THE RV.
  • 00:26:02.280 --> 00:26:03.170
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:26:03.170 --> 00:26:04.230
  • - BRIAN: OKAY, ALL RIGHT,
  • 00:26:04.230 --> 00:26:05.120
  • ALL RIGHT.
  • 00:26:05.120 --> 00:26:06.070
  • [APPLAUSE]
  • 00:26:06.070 --> 00:26:06.250
  • MOST DUDES DON'T EVEN WANNA CAMP
  • 00:26:06.250 --> 00:26:07.240
  • IN THE RV, YOU KNOW?
  • 00:26:07.240 --> 00:26:09.230
  • SO I WAS OUT IN THIS MOTORCYCLE
  • 00:26:09.230 --> 00:26:11.120
  • TRIP ONCE, AND I WAS WITH
  • 00:26:11.120 --> 00:26:12.200
  • SOME FRIENDS.
  • 00:26:14.240 --> 00:26:17.240
  • IT WAS SIX OF US, AND WE SAT
  • 00:26:17.240 --> 00:26:18.140
  • AROUND THIS CAMPFIRE, AND WE
  • 00:26:18.140 --> 00:26:19.040
  • WERE BONDING, AND WE WERE
  • 00:26:19.040 --> 00:26:19.230
  • LAUGHING, AND GUYS WERE TALKIN'
  • 00:26:19.230 --> 00:26:20.180
  • ABOUT JUNK IN THEIR LIFE AND
  • 00:26:20.180 --> 00:26:21.090
  • ENCOURAGING ONE ANOTHER, AND ONE
  • 00:26:21.090 --> 00:26:22.220
  • MORNING, WE SAID, "THIS IS SO
  • 00:26:22.220 --> 00:26:24.070
  • AMAZING THAT WE DO THIS.
  • 00:26:24.070 --> 00:26:25.090
  • WE NEED TO HAVE MORE GUYS BE
  • 00:26:25.090 --> 00:26:27.130
  • ABLE TO HAVE THIS EXPERIENCE,
  • 00:26:27.130 --> 00:26:29.020
  • EXCEPT THEY SHOULDN'T HAVE TO
  • 00:26:29.020 --> 00:26:30.040
  • HAVE TO HAVE A MOTORCYCLE AND
  • 00:26:30.040 --> 00:26:31.150
  • COME ON A TRIP WITH US, SO LET'S
  • 00:26:31.150 --> 00:26:32.180
  • START THIS THING WHERE WE HAVE
  • 00:26:32.180 --> 00:26:34.110
  • PEOPLE DOING RUSTIC CAMPING, AND
  • 00:26:34.110 --> 00:26:35.250
  • WE'D HAVE GAMES, AND WE HAVE
  • 00:26:35.250 --> 00:26:37.070
  • SOME GREAT TEACHING, AND WE
  • 00:26:37.070 --> 00:26:39.040
  • LAUGH--" AND WE STARTED
  • 00:26:39.040 --> 00:26:39.260
  • MAN CAMP.
  • 00:26:40.170 --> 00:26:43.170
  • - WILFREDO: LOVE IT.
  • 00:26:43.170 --> 00:26:44.040
  • - BRIAN: AND WHAT HAPPENS AT
  • 00:26:44.040 --> 00:26:44.250
  • MAN CAMP IS THAT PEOPLE SIT
  • 00:26:44.250 --> 00:26:45.150
  • AROUND A FIRE, AND THEY TALK.
  • 00:26:45.150 --> 00:26:46.230
  • GUYS JUST DON'T TALK.
  • 00:26:46.270 --> 00:26:49.270
  • MOST GUYS, LIKE IN THE AUDIENCE
  • 00:26:49.270 --> 00:26:50.260
  • HERE, IF YOU HAVE SOMEBODY YOU
  • 00:26:50.260 --> 00:26:52.290
  • WORK WITH, THEY'RE PROBABLY
  • 00:26:52.290 --> 00:26:54.110
  • YOUR FRIEND.
  • 00:26:54.110 --> 00:26:54.280
  • WHEN YOU CHANGE JOBS, YOU
  • 00:26:54.280 --> 00:26:55.190
  • PROBABLY HAVE NO FRIENDS 'CAUSE
  • 00:26:55.190 --> 00:26:57.070
  • GUYS HAVE LOST THE ABILITY TO
  • 00:26:57.070 --> 00:26:58.210
  • CONNECT WITH OTHER GUYS, SO WE
  • 00:26:58.210 --> 00:26:59.200
  • STARTED THIS THING CALLED
  • 00:26:59.200 --> 00:27:00.110
  • MAN CAMP.
  • 00:27:00.110 --> 00:27:00.270
  • ACTUALLY, CAN I SHOW
  • 00:27:00.270 --> 00:27:01.130
  • ANOTHER VIDEO?
  • 00:27:01.130 --> 00:27:03.240
  • - WILFREDO: ABSOLUTELY.
  • 00:27:03.240 --> 00:27:04.120
  • I DON'T WANNA SHOW TOO MANY
  • 00:27:04.120 --> 00:27:05.020
  • VIDEOS.
  • 00:27:05.020 --> 00:27:05.120
  • - WILFREDO: NO, NO, LET'S SEE
  • 00:27:05.120 --> 00:27:06.030
  • THAT VIDEO.
  • 00:27:06.030 --> 00:27:07.030
  • - BRIAN: YEAH, LET'S SHOW THIS
  • 00:27:07.030 --> 00:27:07.250
  • 'CAUSE THIS IS AN EXAMPLE OF HOW
  • 00:27:07.250 --> 00:27:08.260
  • MEN ARE FINDING THE ABILITY TO
  • 00:27:08.260 --> 00:27:09.170
  • BE IN TEAM WITH ONE ANOTHER.
  • 00:27:09.170 --> 00:27:10.160
  • - WILFREDO: AMEN, WATCH THE
  • 00:27:10.160 --> 00:27:11.060
  • VIDEO, MAN CAMP.
  • 00:27:11.060 --> 00:27:11.260
  • - BRIAN: SO A COUPLE
  • 00:27:15.180 --> 00:27:16.070
  • OF YEARS AGO,
  • 00:27:16.070 --> 00:27:16.220
  • I AND SOME BUDDIES
  • 00:27:16.220 --> 00:27:17.090
  • OF MINE WERE IN A
  • 00:27:17.090 --> 00:27:17.260
  • PLACE JUST LIKE THIS.
  • 00:27:17.260 --> 00:27:18.150
  • WE'D BEEN RIDING
  • 00:27:18.150 --> 00:27:18.290
  • HAVING ALL KINDS OF PROBLEMS.
  • 00:27:20.260 --> 00:27:21.170
  • AND AS WE'RE AROUND THE
  • 00:27:21.170 --> 00:27:22.050
  • CAMPFIRE, WE WERE REFLECTING ON
  • 00:27:22.050 --> 00:27:23.080
  • HOW SOMETHING INSIDE OF US HAS
  • 00:27:23.080 --> 00:27:24.020
  • COME ALIVE BY PROBLEM-SOLVING,
  • 00:27:24.020 --> 00:27:26.070
  • BY STRETCHING OURSELVES, AND SO
  • 00:27:26.070 --> 00:27:28.030
  • WE SAID, "WHAT WOULD HAPPEN IF
  • 00:27:28.030 --> 00:27:29.050
  • WE WERE ABLE TO TAKE WHAT WE
  • 00:27:29.050 --> 00:27:30.100
  • EXPERIENCED ON A BIKE TRIP, TO A
  • 00:27:30.100 --> 00:27:32.050
  • CAMP SETTING WHERE GUYS HAD
  • 00:27:32.050 --> 00:27:34.170
  • ADVENTURE, UNPREDICTABLE THINGS,
  • 00:27:34.180 --> 00:27:37.180
  • PROBLEMS HAPPEN, AND BONDING
  • 00:27:37.180 --> 00:27:38.080
  • TOOK PLACE?
  • 00:27:38.080 --> 00:27:38.280
  • AND SO OUT OF THAT, MAN CAMP
  • 00:27:38.280 --> 00:27:40.200
  • WAS BORN.
  • 00:27:40.200 --> 00:27:41.260
  • WE FIND THAT WE GET TO KNOW EACH
  • 00:27:41.260 --> 00:27:43.100
  • OTHER A LITTLE BETTER.
  • 00:27:43.100 --> 00:27:45.060
  • WE GET TO KNOW GOD A LOT BETTER,
  • 00:27:45.060 --> 00:27:46.110
  • AND WE REALLY GET IN TOUCH WITH
  • 00:27:46.110 --> 00:27:47.230
  • THAT PRIMAL MALE INSIDE OF US.
  • 00:27:47.230 --> 00:27:50.130
  • WE NEED TO GET BACK TO
  • 00:27:50.130 --> 00:27:51.000
  • OUR ROOTS.
  • 00:27:51.000 --> 00:27:52.090
  • MAN, FROM THE BEGINNING OF TIME,
  • 00:27:52.090 --> 00:27:53.010
  • HAS BEEN IN ENVIRONMENTS LIKE
  • 00:27:53.010 --> 00:27:54.090
  • THIS, AND WE'RE CREATING AN
  • 00:27:54.090 --> 00:27:55.290
  • ENVIRONMENT FOR YOU AND THE
  • 00:27:55.290 --> 00:27:57.190
  • FRIENDS YOU BRING TO COME HERE.
  • 00:27:57.190 --> 00:27:59.000
  • I'M RIGHT HERE ON LAND THAT WE
  • 00:27:59.000 --> 00:28:01.030
  • HAVE BOUGHT, THE VERY FIRST TIME
  • 00:28:01.030 --> 00:28:02.070
  • WE'VE BEEN ON THIS 435 ACRES, TO
  • 00:28:02.070 --> 00:28:04.010
  • ACTUALLY BUILD SOMETHING, TO
  • 00:28:04.010 --> 00:28:05.080
  • BUILD INTO YOU, TO BUILD INTO
  • 00:28:05.080 --> 00:28:06.180
  • YOUR FRIENDS, TO BUILD INTO A
  • 00:28:06.180 --> 00:28:07.200
  • WHOLE NEW FRATERNITY OF MEN THAT
  • 00:28:07.200 --> 00:28:08.140
  • NEEDS MAN CAMP.
  • 00:28:08.140 --> 00:28:11.080
  • SOMETHIN' IS DEAD INSIDE OF US
  • 00:28:11.080 --> 00:28:12.210
  • AND NEEDS TO BE BROUGHT BACK TO
  • 00:28:12.210 --> 00:28:14.020
  • LIFE, AND GOD NEEDS TO GET AHOLD
  • 00:28:14.020 --> 00:28:15.060
  • OF US, SOME OF US FOR THE VERY
  • 00:28:15.060 --> 00:28:16.120
  • FIRST TIME, FOR OTHERS OF US, IT
  • 00:28:16.120 --> 00:28:18.120
  • NEEDS TO BE REKINDLED.
  • 00:28:18.120 --> 00:28:20.030
  • GET EVERY FRIEND, EVERY GUY YOU
  • 00:28:20.030 --> 00:28:22.250
  • KNOW.
  • 00:28:22.250 --> 00:28:23.110
  • THEY WILL THANK YOU FOR IT.
  • 00:28:23.110 --> 00:28:24.100
  • PUSH YOURSELF.
  • 00:28:24.100 --> 00:28:25.120
  • WHEN'S THE LAST TIME YOU PUSHED
  • 00:28:25.120 --> 00:28:26.040
  • YOURSELF?
  • 00:28:26.040 --> 00:28:26.160
  • WHEN'S THE LAST TIME YOU TRIED
  • 00:28:26.160 --> 00:28:27.130
  • SOMETHIN' NEW?
  • 00:28:27.130 --> 00:28:28.030
  • WHEN'S THE LAST TIME YOU HAD TO
  • 00:28:28.030 --> 00:28:28.250
  • STRETCH?
  • 00:28:28.250 --> 00:28:30.230
  • THAT'S WHAT MAN CAMP IS FOR, AND
  • 00:28:30.230 --> 00:28:31.150
  • YOU'RE GONNA FIND ON THE OTHER
  • 00:28:31.150 --> 00:28:32.130
  • END OF IT YOU'RE GONNA BE A
  • 00:28:32.130 --> 00:28:34.070
  • BETTER VERSION OF YOURSELF.
  • 00:28:34.070 --> 00:28:35.060
  • YOU'RE GONNA BE A BETTER MAN.
  • 00:28:35.060 --> 00:28:36.120
  • [MUSIC]
  • 00:28:43.280 --> 00:28:46.280
  • HEY, GOD BLESS YOU.
  • 00:28:53.270 --> 00:28:55.000
  • CHOCO HERE AT NEW LIFE COVENANT.
  • 00:28:57.240 --> 00:28:59.050
  • WE'RE IN CHICAGO, AND WE'VE GOT
  • 00:28:59.050 --> 00:28:59.270
  • THIS AWESOME PRIVILEGE TO HAVE
  • 00:28:59.270 --> 00:29:01.030
  • PASTOR BRIAN WITH US FROM
  • 00:29:01.030 --> 00:29:01.220
  • CROSSROADS CHURCH IN
  • 00:29:01.220 --> 00:29:02.090
  • AND WE'VE BEEN TALKING ABOUT A
  • 00:29:05.200 --> 00:29:06.190
  • PROBLEM, AND PEOPLE PROBABLY
  • 00:29:06.190 --> 00:29:08.240
  • WON'T USE THIS WORD, BUT AN
  • 00:29:08.240 --> 00:29:10.000
  • "EPIDEMIC" OF AN ABSENCE OF A
  • 00:29:10.000 --> 00:29:11.140
  • MAN-- AN ABSENCE.
  • 00:29:11.240 --> 00:29:14.240
  • WHEN THE MAN IS ABSENT,
  • 00:29:14.240 --> 00:29:16.040
  • IT GETS CHAOTIC.
  • 00:29:16.040 --> 00:29:19.000
  • NOTHING WITH MY SISTERS--
  • 00:29:19.000 --> 00:29:19.250
  • I WAS RAISED BY MY MOM.
  • 00:29:19.250 --> 00:29:20.270
  • SHE RAISED FIVE BOYS, AND ALL
  • 00:29:20.270 --> 00:29:22.130
  • THE GLORY TO GOD TO HER, WHO WAS
  • 00:29:22.130 --> 00:29:24.210
  • A SINGLE MOM, STRONG, BUT I KNOW
  • 00:29:24.210 --> 00:29:26.250
  • THAT, IF THERE WASN'T A MAN IN
  • 00:29:26.250 --> 00:29:28.170
  • MY LIFE, WHO WOULD JUST STEP
  • 00:29:28.170 --> 00:29:30.210
  • IN-- AND THAT WOULD'VE MADE THE
  • 00:29:30.210 --> 00:29:33.080
  • DIFFERENCE IN THIS, AND AS I WAS
  • 00:29:33.080 --> 00:29:34.280
  • READING YOUR BOOK, CHAPTER THREE
  • 00:29:34.280 --> 00:29:36.130
  • TALKS ABOUT THE STORY ABOUT
  • 00:29:36.130 --> 00:29:38.200
  • ELEPHANTS, AND OUT OF THAT,
  • 00:29:38.200 --> 00:29:40.080
  • I THOUGHT,
  • 00:29:40.080 --> 00:29:40.220
  • "THIS WAS VERY INTRIGUING."
  • 00:29:40.220 --> 00:29:41.270
  • WHY DON'T YOU SHARE WITH US
  • 00:29:41.270 --> 00:29:42.210
  • ABOUT WHAT HAPPENED WHEN THEY
  • 00:29:42.210 --> 00:29:44.170
  • STARTED MOVING SOME
  • 00:29:44.170 --> 00:29:45.200
  • ELEPHANTS AND WHAT OCCURRED?
  • 00:29:45.200 --> 00:29:46.270
  • - BRIAN: I'VE BEEN TO SOUTH
  • 00:29:46.270 --> 00:29:48.200
  • AFRICA A NUMBER OF TIMES 'CAUSE
  • 00:29:48.200 --> 00:29:49.170
  • WE SOME WORK WITH THE HIV CRISIS
  • 00:29:49.170 --> 00:29:50.110
  • AND WE STILL DO WORK IN AFRICA,
  • 00:29:52.280 --> 00:29:54.000
  • AND I'VE BEEN TO TWO BIG
  • 00:29:54.000 --> 00:29:55.090
  • NATIONAL PARKS, PILANESBERG AND
  • 00:29:55.090 --> 00:29:58.010
  • KRUGER, WHICH IS WHERE YOU GO,
  • 00:29:58.010 --> 00:29:59.130
  • AND YOU SEE THE ELEPHANTS AND
  • 00:29:59.130 --> 00:30:00.050
  • YOU SEE THE LIONS.
  • 00:30:00.050 --> 00:30:02.110
  • I MEAN, IT'S REALLY, REALLY
  • 00:30:02.110 --> 00:30:03.020
  • FREAKY.
  • 00:30:03.020 --> 00:30:05.120
  • WHAT I DIDN'T KNOW WHILE I WAS
  • 00:30:05.120 --> 00:30:07.000
  • THERE, BUT I FOUND AND VERIFIED
  • 00:30:07.000 --> 00:30:08.150
  • AS AN ACTUAL TRUE STORY, IS ONE
  • 00:30:08.150 --> 00:30:09.270
  • OF THOSE NATIONAL PARKS WAS
  • 00:30:10.200 --> 00:30:13.200
  • THE OTHER NATIONAL PARK HAD A
  • 00:30:16.290 --> 00:30:17.260
  • LOT OF ELEPHANTS.
  • 00:30:17.260 --> 00:30:18.290
  • THEY THOUGHT, "HAH, LET'S TAKE
  • 00:30:18.290 --> 00:30:20.070
  • THE ELEPHANTS OVER HERE AND
  • 00:30:20.070 --> 00:30:21.190
  • BRING THEM OVER HERE."
  • 00:30:21.190 --> 00:30:23.150
  • THEY HAD HARNESSES THAT
  • 00:30:23.150 --> 00:30:25.000
  • WOULD ONLY SUPPORT A
  • 00:30:25.000 --> 00:30:26.090
  • CERTAIN-SIZE ELEPHANT,
  • 00:30:26.090 --> 00:30:27.200
  • SO THEY HELICOPTERED OVER HERE,
  • 00:30:27.200 --> 00:30:28.280
  • AND DROPPED ALL THESE ELEPHANTS
  • 00:30:28.280 --> 00:30:30.110
  • OFF AND, LIKE, "OH, GOOD,
  • 00:30:30.110 --> 00:30:31.110
  • WE DID A GOOD JOB HERE."
  • 00:30:31.110 --> 00:30:31.290
  • UNFORTUNATELY, WHAT THEY STARTED
  • 00:30:31.290 --> 00:30:33.180
  • TO FIND WAS REALLY WEIRD THINGS.
  • 00:30:33.180 --> 00:30:35.080
  • THE WHITE RHINOCEROSES STARTED
  • 00:30:35.080 --> 00:30:37.060
  • TO DIE INSIDE OF THE PARK WHERE
  • 00:30:38.090 --> 00:30:41.090
  • THE YOUNG ELEPHANTS WERE
  • 00:30:41.090 --> 00:30:42.150
  • TRANSPORTED 'CAUSE THEY WERE THE
  • 00:30:42.150 --> 00:30:44.080
  • SMALLER ONES, AND THEY FINALLY
  • 00:30:44.080 --> 00:30:46.220
  • SET UP SOME CAMERAS TO TRY TO
  • 00:30:46.220 --> 00:30:48.010
  • FIGURE OUT WHAT WAS GOIN' ON,
  • 00:30:48.010 --> 00:30:48.280
  • AND THEY REALIZED WHAT'S
  • 00:30:48.280 --> 00:30:50.030
  • HAPPENING HERE IS THAT THESE
  • 00:30:50.030 --> 00:30:51.080
  • ELEPHANTS ARE JUST GORING AND
  • 00:30:51.080 --> 00:30:52.250
  • KILLING THESE WHITE
  • 00:30:52.250 --> 00:30:55.170
  • RHINOCEROSES, AND IT'S JUST FOR
  • 00:30:55.170 --> 00:30:56.140
  • SPORT.
  • 00:30:56.140 --> 00:30:58.220
  • THERE'S NO REASON FOR IT.
  • 00:30:58.220 --> 00:31:01.130
  • IT'S JUST FOR SPORT, AND AS THEY
  • 00:31:01.130 --> 00:31:02.220
  • DUG DEEPER, IT SAID, "IT LOOKS
  • 00:31:02.220 --> 00:31:04.210
  • LIKE THESE GUYS WANT TO MATE,
  • 00:31:04.210 --> 00:31:06.260
  • BUT THE FEMALE ELEPHANTS KNOW
  • 00:31:06.260 --> 00:31:09.190
  • THAT THESE GUYS AREN'T READY, SO
  • 00:31:09.190 --> 00:31:11.120
  • THEY'RE DENYING 'EM, AND THEY'RE
  • 00:31:11.120 --> 00:31:12.260
  • FRUSTRATED, AND THEY'RE JUST
  • 00:31:12.260 --> 00:31:13.250
  • GOING ON KILLING SPREES," SO
  • 00:31:13.250 --> 00:31:14.290
  • THEY SAID, "WHAT'RE WE GONNA DO
  • 00:31:14.290 --> 00:31:15.210
  • ON THIS?"
  • 00:31:15.210 --> 00:31:16.080
  • AT THAT POINT, TECHNOLOGY
  • 00:31:16.080 --> 00:31:17.110
  • HAD IMPROVED.
  • 00:31:17.110 --> 00:31:19.060
  • THEY WERE ABLE TO GET SOME
  • 00:31:19.060 --> 00:31:19.250
  • BIGGER, STRONGER HARNESSES, SO
  • 00:31:19.250 --> 00:31:21.100
  • THEY BROUGHT A COUPLE OF THE
  • 00:31:21.100 --> 00:31:22.190
  • HUGE, BIG BULL ELEPHANTS, OVER
  • 00:31:22.190 --> 00:31:24.140
  • FROM THIS PLACE, OVER, DROPPED
  • 00:31:24.140 --> 00:31:26.270
  • HIM IN, AND THERE'S A
  • 00:31:26.270 --> 00:31:27.270
  • FASCINATING THING HAPPENED.
  • 00:31:27.270 --> 00:31:30.120
  • THESE YOUNG BUCKS, THESE YOUNG
  • 00:31:30.120 --> 00:31:31.030
  • ELEPHANTS WOULD TRY TO SHOW
  • 00:31:31.030 --> 00:31:31.280
  • THEIR STUFF, CAME UP TO 'EM,
  • 00:31:31.280 --> 00:31:33.170
  • TRIED TO SHOW HOW COOL THEY
  • 00:31:33.170 --> 00:31:34.130
  • WERE, AND THIS BIG-- I CAN'T
  • 00:31:34.130 --> 00:31:35.140
  • REMEMBER IF HIS NAME
  • 00:31:35.140 --> 00:31:36.230
  • WAS MAMOOSA.
  • 00:31:37.220 --> 00:31:40.220
  • THIS BIG GUY TOOK A LOOK AT HIM.
  • 00:31:40.220 --> 00:31:41.140
  • HE CHARGED HIM, TOOK HIS TUSKS
  • 00:31:41.140 --> 00:31:42.050
  • RIGHT INTO HIS SIDE OF HIS
  • 00:31:42.050 --> 00:31:43.090
  • CHEST, LIFTED THIS ELEPHANT UP
  • 00:31:43.090 --> 00:31:45.080
  • OFF THE GROUND AND DROPPED HIM
  • 00:31:45.080 --> 00:31:46.130
  • DOWN, AND LIKE THAT,
  • 00:31:46.130 --> 00:31:47.090
  • IT WAS OVER.
  • 00:31:48.080 --> 00:31:51.080
  • LIKE THAT, THERE WAS NO MORE
  • 00:31:51.080 --> 00:31:51.280
  • KILLING OF RHINOCEROSES BECAUSE
  • 00:31:51.280 --> 00:31:52.200
  • OLDER FATHER FIGURES HAD COME
  • 00:31:52.200 --> 00:31:54.050
  • INTO THE EQUATION, AND THE
  • 00:31:55.040 --> 00:31:58.040
  • YOUNGER MALES--
  • 00:31:58.040 --> 00:31:59.290
  • [APPLAUSE]
  • 00:31:59.290 --> 00:32:00.150
  • -- NOW KNEW HOW TO ACT.
  • 00:32:00.190 --> 00:32:03.190
  • AND ONCE THEY GREW UP, THEY WERE
  • 00:32:03.190 --> 00:32:04.150
  • FINE.
  • 00:32:04.150 --> 00:32:05.040
  • THIS IS WHAT WE HAVE GOING ON IN
  • 00:32:05.040 --> 00:32:06.070
  • OUR CULTURE.
  • 00:32:06.070 --> 00:32:06.290
  • MANY OF US, UNFORTUNATELY, DO
  • 00:32:06.290 --> 00:32:08.120
  • NOT HAVE A DNA DAD LIVING WITH
  • 00:32:08.120 --> 00:32:11.030
  • US, OR IF WE HAVE AN ADOPTED DAD
  • 00:32:11.030 --> 00:32:12.250
  • WITH US, MAYBE HE HASN'T DONE
  • 00:32:12.250 --> 00:32:14.090
  • WHAT HE COULD'VE DONE, BUT I'LL
  • 00:32:14.090 --> 00:32:16.070
  • TELL YA WHAT, THERE'S STILL
  • 00:32:16.070 --> 00:32:17.220
  • PLACE FOR FATHER FIGURES.
  • 00:32:17.220 --> 00:32:19.080
  • ANY GUY WHO'S GOT HIS STUFF
  • 00:32:19.080 --> 00:32:21.250
  • TOGETHER, WHEN HE GETS AROUND A
  • 00:32:21.250 --> 00:32:22.290
  • YOUNGER MALE, POWERFUL THINGS
  • 00:32:22.290 --> 00:32:25.050
  • HAPPEN, AND THIS-- WE NEED THE
  • 00:32:25.050 --> 00:32:26.240
  • OLD BULLS IN OUR CULTURE TO MAKE
  • 00:32:27.030 --> 00:32:30.030
  • TIME IN THEIR SCHEDULE.
  • 00:32:30.030 --> 00:32:32.040
  • I'LL JUST SAY IT RIGHT NOW, IF
  • 00:32:32.040 --> 00:32:33.240
  • THERE'S ANY GUYS WHO ARE WITH ME
  • 00:32:33.240 --> 00:32:36.070
  • RIGHT NOW, WE NEED YOU AS AN
  • 00:32:36.070 --> 00:32:36.270
  • OLDER GUY.
  • 00:32:36.270 --> 00:32:37.100
  • IF YOU SEE A YOUNGER GUY, GET
  • 00:32:37.100 --> 00:32:38.080
  • AROUND HIM.
  • 00:32:38.080 --> 00:32:40.010
  • I'M TELLIN' YA, GET AROUND HIM.
  • 00:32:40.010 --> 00:32:41.230
  • [APPLAUSE]
  • 00:32:41.230 --> 00:32:43.020
  • PUT YOUR HAND ON HIS SHOULDER.
  • 00:32:43.020 --> 00:32:44.070
  • LOOK INTO HIS EYES.
  • 00:32:44.070 --> 00:32:46.180
  • SPEAK LIFE INTO HIM.
  • 00:32:46.180 --> 00:32:47.040
  • GIVE HIM ENCOURAGEMENT.
  • 00:32:47.040 --> 00:32:48.020
  • IF YOU GIVE HIM ANY
  • 00:32:48.020 --> 00:32:49.080
  • ENCOURAGEMENT, THE LIKELIHOOD IS
  • 00:32:49.080 --> 00:32:51.160
  • HE'S NEVER HAD THAT FROM ANY
  • 00:32:51.160 --> 00:32:52.190
  • OLDER MALE, AND YOU LITERALLY
  • 00:32:52.190 --> 00:32:53.290
  • COULD CHANGE HIS LIFE.
  • 00:32:54.140 --> 00:32:57.140
  • - WILFREDO: WOW, WOW, WOW.
  • 00:32:57.140 --> 00:32:58.040
  • I'M TELLING YOU, YOU COULD
  • 00:32:58.040 --> 00:32:58.230
  • COLLECT AN OFFERING WITH THAT
  • 00:32:58.230 --> 00:32:59.140
  • MESSAGE RIGHT NOW.
  • 00:32:59.140 --> 00:33:00.140
  • WE COULD COLLECT AN OFFERING
  • 00:33:00.140 --> 00:33:01.170
  • WITH THIS BECAUSE, AS YOU'RE
  • 00:33:01.170 --> 00:33:02.270
  • TALKING, BRIAN, I'M THINKIN',
  • 00:33:02.270 --> 00:33:03.180
  • "HOW--"
  • 00:33:03.180 --> 00:33:04.080
  • - BRIAN: IF IT'S BIG ENOUGH,
  • 00:33:04.080 --> 00:33:04.290
  • WHY DON'T WE COLLECT IT
  • 00:33:04.290 --> 00:33:05.170
  • RIGHT NOW?
  • 00:33:05.170 --> 00:33:05.280
  • - WILFREDO: WE COULD DO THAT.
  • 00:33:05.280 --> 00:33:06.190
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:33:06.190 --> 00:33:07.150
  • - BRIAN: I'LL TAKE IT IF YOU
  • 00:33:07.210 --> 00:33:10.210
  • COLLECT IT.
  • 00:33:10.210 --> 00:33:11.170
  • - WILFREDO: WELL, I'M THINKIN'
  • 00:33:11.170 --> 00:33:12.090
  • BECAUSE, WHAT HAPPENS IN OUR
  • 00:33:12.090 --> 00:33:13.040
  • LIVES AS MEN, WHEN WE'RE LOST IN
  • 00:33:13.040 --> 00:33:14.020
  • GOD LIFTS US UP AND TAKES US
  • 00:33:16.080 --> 00:33:17.070
  • INTO ANOTHER AREA, WHICH IS
  • 00:33:17.070 --> 00:33:17.270
  • THE CHURCH.
  • 00:33:17.270 --> 00:33:18.090
  • HE TRANSPLANTS US INTO THE
  • 00:33:18.090 --> 00:33:20.170
  • CHURCH SO THAT WE CAN BECOME
  • 00:33:20.170 --> 00:33:22.210
  • BECOME ROLE MODELS AND MENTORS,
  • 00:33:25.220 --> 00:33:26.200
  • THINGS THAT PEOPLE DIDN'T DO FOR
  • 00:33:26.200 --> 00:33:28.170
  • US, SO WHEN I LOOK AT THE
  • 00:33:28.170 --> 00:33:30.020
  • ANALOGY OF THE ELEPHANT WHEN I
  • 00:33:30.020 --> 00:33:31.250
  • WAS READING IT, I'M LIKE,
  • 00:33:31.250 --> 00:33:32.250
  • "MY WORD, ALL THESE MEN."
  • 00:33:32.250 --> 00:33:35.230
  • - BRIAN: AND WHAT WERE THESE
  • 00:33:35.230 --> 00:33:36.170
  • ELEPHANTS DOING?
  • 00:33:36.170 --> 00:33:37.010
  • THEY WERE PROTECTING, ACTUALLY,
  • 00:33:37.010 --> 00:33:38.050
  • THE RHINOS, AND THEY WERE
  • 00:33:38.050 --> 00:33:39.140
  • PROTECTING THESE GUYS' FUTURE,
  • 00:33:39.140 --> 00:33:40.050
  • MEN ARE PROTECTORS, AND BOYS
  • 00:33:43.010 --> 00:33:43.210
  • ARE PREDATORS.
  • 00:33:43.210 --> 00:33:45.100
  • BOYS TAKE, TAKE, TAKE.
  • 00:33:45.100 --> 00:33:47.180
  • - WILFREDO: COME ON, SPEAK ON
  • 00:33:47.180 --> 00:33:48.210
  • THAT, YEAH.
  • 00:33:48.210 --> 00:33:49.030
  • - BRIAN: THAT WHATEVER THEY
  • 00:33:49.030 --> 00:33:49.230
  • THEY WILL TAKE FROM A WOMAN,
  • 00:33:51.150 --> 00:33:52.050
  • THEY WILL TAKE FROM THEIR
  • 00:33:52.050 --> 00:33:53.040
  • PARENTS, THEY WILL TAKE FROM THE
  • 00:33:53.040 --> 00:33:55.080
  • GOVERNMENT, THEY WILL TAKE-- AND
  • 00:33:55.080 --> 00:33:57.070
  • IF SOMEONE THERE WANTS TO GIVE
  • 00:33:57.070 --> 00:33:58.260
  • SOMETHING, THAT'S OKAY, BUT
  • 00:33:58.260 --> 00:33:59.230
  • WE'RE TALKING ABUSING THE SYSTEM
  • 00:33:59.230 --> 00:34:01.120
  • AND TAKE, TAKE, TAKING, BUT MAN
  • 00:34:01.120 --> 00:34:02.250
  • WANTS TO PROTECT.
  • 00:34:02.250 --> 00:34:04.230
  • YOU KNOW, ONE OF THE WEIRD
  • 00:34:04.230 --> 00:34:06.080
  • THINGS IN OUR CULTURE IS-- COULD
  • 00:34:06.080 --> 00:34:07.170
  • YOU IMAGINE-- DO YOU HAVE
  • 00:34:07.170 --> 00:34:08.230
  • ANY DAUGHTERS?
  • 00:34:08.230 --> 00:34:09.070
  • - WILFREDO: I DO.
  • 00:34:09.070 --> 00:34:09.230
  • I'VE GOT TWO.
  • 00:34:09.230 --> 00:34:10.130
  • - BRIAN: HOW OLD ARE THEY?
  • 00:34:10.130 --> 00:34:11.030
  • - WILFREDO: ONE'S GONNA BE 30,
  • 00:34:11.030 --> 00:34:12.150
  • AND THE OTHER ONE, 27.
  • 00:34:12.150 --> 00:34:13.130
  • - BRIAN: ALL RIGHT, SO YOU'RE
  • 00:34:13.130 --> 00:34:14.040
  • IN A SIMILAR SITUATION AS I AM,
  • 00:34:14.040 --> 00:34:15.150
  • BUT IMAGINE IF SOMEONE COMES TO
  • 00:34:15.150 --> 00:34:16.130
  • YOUR HOUSE AND SAYS,
  • 00:34:16.130 --> 00:34:17.120
  • "MR. CHOCO, I'M HERE TO TAKE
  • 00:34:17.120 --> 00:34:19.040
  • YOUR CAR."
  • 00:34:19.040 --> 00:34:22.020
  • WHAT WOULD YOU SAY?
  • 00:34:22.020 --> 00:34:23.010
  • - WILFREDO: "IT'S NOT
  • 00:34:23.010 --> 00:34:23.240
  • GONNA HAPPEN."
  • 00:34:23.240 --> 00:34:24.170
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:34:24.170 --> 00:34:25.010
  • - BRIAN: YEAH, "YOU'RE NOT
  • 00:34:25.010 --> 00:34:25.220
  • GONNA TAKE IT."
  • 00:34:25.220 --> 00:34:26.060
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:34:26.060 --> 00:34:26.230
  • OR HOW ABOUT THIS ONE?
  • 00:34:26.230 --> 00:34:27.100
  • YOU GOLF?
  • 00:34:27.100 --> 00:34:27.210
  • - WILFREDO: I DO NOT.
  • 00:34:27.210 --> 00:34:28.080
  • - BRIAN: ALL RIGHT, OH, HOW
  • 00:34:28.080 --> 00:34:28.280
  • ABOUT THIS?
  • 00:34:28.280 --> 00:34:29.100
  • - WILFREDO: BASEBALL.
  • 00:34:29.100 --> 00:34:29.270
  • - BRIAN: BASEBALL.
  • 00:34:29.270 --> 00:34:30.130
  • "HEY, MR. CHOCO, I'VE NEVER MET
  • 00:34:30.130 --> 00:34:31.050
  • YOU, BUT I'M GONNA JUST TAKE
  • 00:34:31.050 --> 00:34:31.250
  • YOUR BASEBALL GLOVE FOR A WHILE,
  • 00:34:31.250 --> 00:34:33.210
  • AND I'M JUST GONNA USE IT."
  • 00:34:33.210 --> 00:34:34.150
  • YOU'D SAY--
  • 00:34:34.150 --> 00:34:35.110
  • - WILFREDO: YEAH, "IT'S NOT
  • 00:34:35.110 --> 00:34:36.010
  • GONNA HAPPEN."
  • 00:34:36.010 --> 00:34:36.260
  • - BRIAN: NO, NO, IT'S NOT GONNA
  • 00:34:36.260 --> 00:34:37.180
  • HAPPEN.
  • 00:34:37.180 --> 00:34:38.190
  • BUT, YET SOME GUY COMES TO YOUR
  • 00:34:38.190 --> 00:34:39.110
  • HOUSE AND SAYS, "HEY, I'M HERE
  • 00:34:39.110 --> 00:34:40.020
  • TO TAKE OUT YOUR DAUGHTER," AND
  • 00:34:40.020 --> 00:34:40.280
  • WE'RE SUPPOSED TO SAY, "OH, MY
  • 00:34:40.280 --> 00:34:41.190
  • DAUGHTER?
  • 00:34:41.190 --> 00:34:42.160
  • OH, FINE, TAKE MY DAUGHTER,
  • 00:34:42.160 --> 00:34:43.060
  • NO PROBLEM."
  • 00:34:43.060 --> 00:34:45.080
  • CAN'T HAVE MY BASEBALL
  • 00:34:45.080 --> 00:34:46.020
  • GLOVE, CAN'T-- BUT, FINE,
  • 00:34:46.020 --> 00:34:46.210
  • MY DAUGHTER."
  • 00:34:46.210 --> 00:34:47.070
  • NO, NO, NO, NO, NO,
  • 00:34:47.070 --> 00:34:47.230
  • NO, NO, NO.
  • 00:34:47.230 --> 00:34:48.130
  • NO, NO, NOT IN MY HOUSE.
  • 00:34:48.130 --> 00:34:49.160
  • TOMI, DON'T PLAY THAT WAY.
  • 00:34:49.160 --> 00:34:50.270
  • NO, THE WAY, WHAT HAPPENS, IF
  • 00:34:50.270 --> 00:34:51.290
  • YOU COME AND YOU WANNA TAKE MY
  • 00:34:51.290 --> 00:34:53.240
  • DAUGHTERS OUT, FIRST, YOU'RE
  • 00:34:53.240 --> 00:34:55.030
  • GONNA TAKE ME OUT 'CAUSE I'M
  • 00:34:55.030 --> 00:34:56.050
  • THERE TO PROTECT THEM.
  • 00:34:56.050 --> 00:34:58.080
  • - WILFREDO: YES, THAT'S GOOD.
  • 00:34:58.080 --> 00:34:59.000
  • - BRIAN: SO THE LAST TIME THIS
  • 00:34:59.000 --> 00:34:59.220
  • HAPPENED--
  • 00:34:59.220 --> 00:35:00.120
  • [APPLAUSE]
  • 00:35:00.120 --> 00:35:01.170
  • -- A YOUNG MAN CAME TO THE
  • 00:35:01.170 --> 00:35:03.010
  • HOUSE, AND I SAID, "BEN, LET'S
  • 00:35:03.010 --> 00:35:05.060
  • GO OUT 'CAUSE YOU'RE GONNA TAKE
  • 00:35:05.060 --> 00:35:06.150
  • ME OUT BEFORE YOU TAKE MY
  • 00:35:06.150 --> 00:35:07.120
  • DAUGHTER."
  • 00:35:07.120 --> 00:35:08.080
  • I HAD HIM DRIVE.
  • 00:35:08.080 --> 00:35:09.140
  • I WANNA SEE HOW HE DRIVES--
  • 00:35:09.140 --> 00:35:11.120
  • - WILFREDO: THAT'S GOOD.
  • 00:35:11.120 --> 00:35:12.070
  • - BRIAN: -- GO OUT, AND I SAID
  • 00:35:12.070 --> 00:35:13.130
  • TO HIM, "BEN, I NEED TO GET TWO
  • 00:35:13.130 --> 00:35:14.210
  • THINGS STRAIGHT.
  • 00:35:14.210 --> 00:35:15.240
  • NUMBER ONE, I NEED YOUR
  • 00:35:15.240 --> 00:35:16.280
  • ASSURANCE YOU'RE GONNA PROTECT
  • 00:35:16.280 --> 00:35:17.190
  • MY DAUGHTER'S REPUTATION."
  • 00:35:17.190 --> 00:35:18.190
  • - WILFREDO: THE DAD INSURANCE.
  • 00:35:18.190 --> 00:35:20.000
  • - BRIAN: THAT'S RIGHT.
  • 00:35:20.000 --> 00:35:20.180
  • NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS, I NEED
  • 00:35:20.180 --> 00:35:22.010
  • HER REPUTATION PROTECTED IF
  • 00:35:22.010 --> 00:35:23.120
  • YOU'RE WITH HER OR WHEN YOU
  • 00:35:23.120 --> 00:35:24.020
  • BREAK UP.
  • 00:35:24.020 --> 00:35:25.290
  • NUMBER TWO-- "CAN YOU DO IT?"
  • 00:35:25.290 --> 00:35:26.200
  • HE SAID, "YES, SIR."
  • 00:35:26.200 --> 00:35:27.060
  • "NUMBER TWO,
  • 00:35:27.060 --> 00:35:27.230
  • LET'S BE SERIOUS, BEN.
  • 00:35:27.230 --> 00:35:28.130
  • THIS ISN'T GONNA LAST VERY LONG.
  • 00:35:28.130 --> 00:35:29.240
  • I'VE KNOWN MARIAH LONG
  • 00:35:29.240 --> 00:35:31.010
  • BEFORE YOU.
  • 00:35:31.010 --> 00:35:32.150
  • I'LL KNOW HER LONG, LONG
  • 00:35:32.150 --> 00:35:33.030
  • AFTER YOU.
  • 00:35:33.030 --> 00:35:33.200
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:35:33.200 --> 00:35:34.290
  • I NEED TO KNOW WHAT YOUR SEXUAL
  • 00:35:34.290 --> 00:35:35.290
  • INTENTIONS ARE WITH MY DAUGHTER.
  • 00:35:35.290 --> 00:35:37.150
  • WHAT ARE YOU PLANNIN' ON DOIN'
  • 00:35:37.150 --> 00:35:38.090
  • WITH MY DAUGHTER SEXUALLY?
  • 00:35:38.150 --> 00:35:41.150
  • AND HE'S-- [STAMMERING]
  • 00:35:41.150 --> 00:35:42.070
  • NOW, TWO THINGS I KNOW.
  • 00:35:42.070 --> 00:35:43.100
  • TWO THINGS I KNOW.
  • 00:35:43.100 --> 00:35:46.030
  • ONE, HE'S PROBABLY NOT BEING
  • 00:35:46.030 --> 00:35:47.220
  • ENTIRELY HONEST WITH ME.
  • 00:35:48.080 --> 00:35:51.080
  • - WILFREDO: RIGHT, RIGHT.
  • 00:35:51.080 --> 00:35:51.290
  • - BRIAN: LIKE, HE SAID, "WELL,
  • 00:35:51.290 --> 00:35:53.010
  • ALL WE'RE GONNA DO IS
  • 00:35:53.010 --> 00:35:53.180
  • GONNA KISS."
  • 00:35:53.180 --> 00:35:55.030
  • AND I SAID, "OH, WHAT KIND
  • 00:35:55.030 --> 00:35:55.220
  • OF KISS?"
  • 00:35:55.220 --> 00:35:56.030
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:35:56.030 --> 00:35:58.030
  • I SAYS, "IS IT GONNA BE AN
  • 00:35:58.030 --> 00:35:58.220
  • ALFALFA KISS?"
  • 00:35:58.220 --> 00:35:59.290
  • YOU KNOW WHAT AN "ALFALFA KISS"
  • 00:35:59.290 --> 00:36:00.290
  • IS?
  • 00:36:00.290 --> 00:36:01.150
  • - WILFREDO: I DO NOT.
  • 00:36:01.150 --> 00:36:02.020
  • - BRIAN: AL-FAL-FA.
  • 00:36:02.020 --> 00:36:03.260
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:36:03.260 --> 00:36:04.080
  • [APPLAUSE]
  • 00:36:05.030 --> 00:36:08.030
  • THAT'LL PREACH RIGHT THERE.
  • 00:36:08.030 --> 00:36:08.280
  • THAT'LL PREACH RIGHT THERE.
  • 00:36:08.280 --> 00:36:10.030
  • "IS IT GONNA BE AN ALFALFA KISS
  • 00:36:10.030 --> 00:36:10.250
  • OR NOT?"
  • 00:36:10.250 --> 00:36:12.050
  • SAID, "NO, WE'RE
  • 00:36:12.050 --> 00:36:12.190
  • JUST NOT--"
  • 00:36:12.190 --> 00:36:13.150
  • EVEN IF I ASSUME HE'S
  • 00:36:13.150 --> 00:36:15.080
  • TELLING ME THE TRUTH, I KNOW
  • 00:36:15.080 --> 00:36:17.250
  • THAT HORMONES TAKE OVER A
  • 00:36:17.250 --> 00:36:19.080
  • 16-YEAR-OLD.
  • 00:36:19.080 --> 00:36:20.260
  • I KNOW THAT THEY'RE-- SO I'M NOT
  • 00:36:20.260 --> 00:36:22.170
  • NAIVE, BUT HERE'S WHAT I KNOW,
  • 00:36:22.170 --> 00:36:23.180
  • HERE'S WHAT I KNOW.
  • 00:36:23.180 --> 00:36:25.130
  • IF NO ONE GOES TO BAT FOR
  • 00:36:25.130 --> 00:36:27.040
  • MY DAUGHTER, NO ONE ELSE
  • 00:36:27.040 --> 00:36:28.050
  • WILL.
  • 00:36:28.050 --> 00:36:29.210
  • SOMEONE'S GOTTA STAND IN THE
  • 00:36:29.210 --> 00:36:30.230
  • MIDDLE THERE, AND I PROTECT.
  • 00:36:30.230 --> 00:36:32.090
  • [APPLAUSE]
  • 00:36:32.090 --> 00:36:32.210
  • I HAVE A LEVEL OF SAVINGS.
  • 00:36:32.210 --> 00:36:34.280
  • I HAVE ONE SAVINGS BECAUSE I
  • 00:36:34.280 --> 00:36:36.100
  • WANNA PROTECT SOMEBODY WHEN THEY
  • 00:36:36.100 --> 00:36:37.200
  • CAN'T PAY THEIR UTILITY BILL.
  • 00:36:37.200 --> 00:36:39.230
  • I WANNA PAY IT FOR THEM, SO,
  • 00:36:39.230 --> 00:36:40.260
  • MEN, WE THINK THIS WAY.
  • 00:36:40.260 --> 00:36:42.170
  • BOYS THINK ABOUT "MONEY IS ONLY
  • 00:36:42.170 --> 00:36:45.080
  • THERE SO I CAN BUY MORE TOYS."
  • 00:36:45.080 --> 00:36:46.230
  • MEN THINK, "NO, MONEY IS ALSO
  • 00:36:46.230 --> 00:36:48.090
  • THERE AS A FORM OF PROTECTION.
  • 00:36:48.090 --> 00:36:49.140
  • THAT'S THE FOURTH MARK OF MAN.
  • 00:36:49.140 --> 00:36:51.250
  • - WILFREDO: SO IT'S INTERESTING
  • 00:36:51.250 --> 00:36:53.050
  • 'CAUSE, FATHER OF TWO, TWO
  • 00:36:53.050 --> 00:36:53.280
  • DAUGHTERS, AND JUST WHEN MY
  • 00:36:53.280 --> 00:36:55.180
  • SON-IN-LAW CAME TO ASK MY
  • 00:36:56.110 --> 00:36:59.110
  • DAUGHTER, IT WAS ON A SUNDAY
  • 00:36:59.110 --> 00:37:02.020
  • AFTER FOUR SERVICES, AND HE CAME
  • 00:37:02.020 --> 00:37:04.200
  • TO MY WIFE AND SAID, I'D LIKE
  • 00:37:04.200 --> 00:37:06.140
  • TO--
  • 00:37:06.140 --> 00:37:07.090
  • - BRIAN: YEAH, IT'S EASIER TO
  • 00:37:07.090 --> 00:37:08.000
  • ASK.
  • 00:37:08.000 --> 00:37:09.250
  • - WILFREDO: -- YEAH, THE EASY
  • 00:37:09.250 --> 00:37:10.160
  • ROUTE.
  • 00:37:10.160 --> 00:37:10.250
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:37:10.250 --> 00:37:11.060
  • SAID, "I'D LIKE TO TALK TO YOU."
  • 00:37:11.060 --> 00:37:11.280
  • SO THEN, MY WIFE, ELIZABETH,
  • 00:37:11.280 --> 00:37:12.180
  • COMES AND SAID, "BABE, ANTHONY
  • 00:37:12.180 --> 00:37:13.210
  • WANTS TO TALK TO US."
  • 00:37:13.210 --> 00:37:15.030
  • I SAID,
  • 00:37:15.030 --> 00:37:17.040
  • "ABOUT WHAT?"
  • 00:37:17.040 --> 00:37:18.010
  • AND SHE SAYS, "YOU KNOW,
  • 00:37:18.010 --> 00:37:19.070
  • YOU KNOW
  • 00:37:19.070 --> 00:37:19.180
  • YOU KNOW."
  • 00:37:19.180 --> 00:37:19.290
  • I SAID, "I DON'T KNOW ANYTHING.
  • 00:37:19.290 --> 00:37:20.210
  • WHAT'RE YOU TALKIN' ABOUT?"
  • 00:37:20.210 --> 00:37:21.140
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:37:21.140 --> 00:37:22.120
  • AND I SAID, "I'M NOT READY
  • 00:37:22.120 --> 00:37:23.010
  • TO TALK."
  • 00:37:23.010 --> 00:37:23.250
  • SO ONE MONTH PASSED BY.
  • 00:37:23.250 --> 00:37:25.170
  • ANOTHER SUNDAY, MY WIFE SAID,
  • 00:37:25.170 --> 00:37:26.150
  • "WE NEED TO TALK TO ANTHONY."
  • 00:37:26.150 --> 00:37:27.180
  • I SAID, "WE DON'T HAVE TO
  • 00:37:27.180 --> 00:37:28.160
  • TALK TO ANYBODY."
  • 00:37:28.160 --> 00:37:29.270
  • TWO MONTHS PASS BY,
  • 00:37:29.270 --> 00:37:30.130
  • FOUR MONTHS PASS BY.
  • 00:37:30.130 --> 00:37:32.010
  • FINALLY, ON A DECEMBER IN
  • 00:37:32.010 --> 00:37:33.200
  • CHICAGO, 11 O'CLOCK AT NIGHT,
  • 00:37:33.200 --> 00:37:35.290
  • I SAID, "CALL ANTHONY.
  • 00:37:35.290 --> 00:37:36.280
  • TELL HIM READY TO TALK AND TO
  • 00:37:36.280 --> 00:37:37.190
  • BRING ME A 7 UP.
  • 00:37:37.190 --> 00:37:39.240
  • BRING ME A 7 UP, TWO-LITER."
  • 00:37:39.240 --> 00:37:41.130
  • SO HE COMES.
  • 00:37:41.130 --> 00:37:42.020
  • IT LOOKS LIKE HE'S BEEN WAITING
  • 00:37:42.020 --> 00:37:43.080
  • FOUR MONTHS IN FRONT OF THE
  • 00:37:43.080 --> 00:37:44.150
  • HOUSE 'CAUSE HE GOT THERE, LIKE,
  • 00:37:44.150 --> 00:37:45.070
  • IN TWO MINUTES.
  • 00:37:45.070 --> 00:37:46.060
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:37:46.060 --> 00:37:49.020
  • AND I SAID, "MY WIFE SAYS YOU
  • 00:37:49.020 --> 00:37:49.230
  • WANNA TALK TO US.
  • 00:37:49.230 --> 00:37:50.240
  • WHAT DO YOU WANNA TALK ABOUT?"
  • 00:37:50.240 --> 00:37:51.270
  • HE SAYS, "WELL, I'VE BEEN DATING
  • 00:37:51.270 --> 00:37:53.110
  • YOUR DAUGHTER FOR FOUR YEARS,
  • 00:37:53.110 --> 00:37:54.150
  • AND WANNA KNOW IF WE CAN-- I CAN
  • 00:37:54.150 --> 00:37:55.170
  • MARRY HER.
  • 00:37:55.170 --> 00:37:57.190
  • - WILFREDO: I SAID, "NOPE.
  • 00:37:57.190 --> 00:37:58.240
  • SHE'S GOT EVERYTHING SHE HAS
  • 00:37:58.240 --> 00:37:59.160
  • RIGHT HERE, EVERYTHING:
  • 00:37:59.160 --> 00:38:01.010
  • PROTECTION, SECURITY, LOVE FROM
  • 00:38:01.010 --> 00:38:03.020
  • A FATHER.
  • 00:38:03.020 --> 00:38:04.260
  • ALL THESE THINGS, CAN YOU GIVE
  • 00:38:04.260 --> 00:38:06.000
  • HER THAT?
  • 00:38:06.000 --> 00:38:07.070
  • CAN YOU GIVE HER THAT?
  • 00:38:07.070 --> 00:38:07.290
  • I MEAN, YOU'VE BEEN DATING FOR
  • 00:38:07.290 --> 00:38:08.270
  • FOUR YEARS.
  • 00:38:08.270 --> 00:38:10.090
  • HOW MUCH MONEY HAVE YOU SAVED?"
  • 00:38:10.090 --> 00:38:12.020
  • HE SAID, "WELL, I SAVED
  • 00:38:12.020 --> 00:38:13.100
  • AROUND $20.000."
  • 00:38:13.100 --> 00:38:15.050
  • I SAID, "WELL, WELCOME
  • 00:38:15.050 --> 00:38:15.220
  • TO THE FAMILY."
  • 00:38:15.220 --> 00:38:16.160
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:38:16.160 --> 00:38:17.200
  • [APPLAUSE]
  • 00:38:18.290 --> 00:38:21.290
  • AND NOW THEY'RE HAPPILY MARRIED.
  • 00:38:21.290 --> 00:38:22.250
  • THEY'RE SEVEN YEARS MARRIED AND
  • 00:38:22.250 --> 00:38:24.040
  • GOT-- THEY'RE GONNA GIVE US OUR
  • 00:38:24.040 --> 00:38:25.070
  • SECOND GRANDCHILD BUT--
  • 00:38:25.070 --> 00:38:26.070
  • - BRIAN: OH, THAT'S GOOD,
  • 00:38:26.070 --> 00:38:27.080
  • THAT'S GOOD.
  • 00:38:27.080 --> 00:38:27.200
  • - WILFREDO: AMEN.
  • 00:38:27.200 --> 00:38:28.180
  • BUT THAT'S THE PROTECTING PART
  • 00:38:28.180 --> 00:38:29.090
  • OF A MAN.
  • 00:38:29.090 --> 00:38:31.000
  • - BRIAN: WELL, AND IT DOESN'T--
  • 00:38:31.000 --> 00:38:31.220
  • IT NEVER ENDS.
  • 00:38:31.220 --> 00:38:32.050
  • LIKE, IN THIS SITUATION WITH
  • 00:38:32.050 --> 00:38:33.050
  • MARIAH-- BY THE WAY, THIS BOY
  • 00:38:33.050 --> 00:38:34.150
  • SHE'S BEEN DATING, HE ACTUALLY
  • 00:38:34.150 --> 00:38:35.150
  • TURNED OUT TO BE A MAN.
  • 00:38:35.150 --> 00:38:36.130
  • SHE'S STILL WITH HIM FOUR YEARS
  • 00:38:36.130 --> 00:38:37.210
  • LATER.
  • 00:38:37.210 --> 00:38:38.050
  • I THINK THEY'RE PROBABLY GONNA
  • 00:38:38.050 --> 00:38:39.020
  • GET MARRIED.
  • 00:38:39.020 --> 00:38:39.140
  • IT'S PRETTY IMPRESSIVE.
  • 00:38:39.140 --> 00:38:41.090
  • BUT WHEN I HAD THAT DISCUSSION,
  • 00:38:41.090 --> 00:38:42.230
  • MY DAUGHTER WAS FREAKING OUT
  • 00:38:42.230 --> 00:38:45.120
  • WHEN I WENT TO TALK WITH HIM.
  • 00:38:45.120 --> 00:38:46.290
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:38:46.290 --> 00:38:47.100
  • MY WIFE WAS FREAKING OUT.
  • 00:38:47.100 --> 00:38:48.030
  • I GET BACK.
  • 00:38:48.030 --> 00:38:51.010
  • MY PHONE'S BLOWIN' UP FROM MY
  • 00:38:51.010 --> 00:38:51.220
  • OTHER TWO OLDER KIDS.
  • 00:38:51.220 --> 00:38:53.010
  • THEY'RE GOIN', "WAY TO GO, DAD,
  • 00:38:53.010 --> 00:38:53.280
  • WAY TO GO."
  • 00:38:53.280 --> 00:38:54.220
  • HERE'S THE THING:
  • 00:38:54.220 --> 00:38:57.080
  • WE ALL WANNA BE WELL LED.
  • 00:38:57.080 --> 00:38:58.170
  • IT DOESN'T MATTER IF WE ARE 16
  • 00:38:58.170 --> 00:38:59.190
  • OR WHETHER WE'RE 53.
  • 00:38:59.190 --> 00:39:02.170
  • I STILL WANT MY DAD TO LEAD ME.
  • 00:39:02.170 --> 00:39:03.200
  • THAT NEVER STOPS 'CAUSE WE, AS
  • 00:39:03.200 --> 00:39:04.270
  • MEN, WE WANNA BE ON THE PART
  • 00:39:04.270 --> 00:39:05.260
  • OF A TEAM.
  • 00:39:05.260 --> 00:39:07.250
  • WE WANT SOMEBODY TO BE
  • 00:39:07.250 --> 00:39:08.170
  • PROTECTING US.
  • 00:39:08.170 --> 00:39:09.010
  • - WILFREDO: WE HAVE A DREAM
  • 00:39:09.010 --> 00:39:10.080
  • CENTER IN CHICAGO, AND WE ALSO
  • 00:39:10.080 --> 00:39:11.230
  • HAVE A TEEN CENTER, SO ONE OF
  • 00:39:11.230 --> 00:39:13.190
  • OUR GIRLS, SHE WAS TURNING 17.
  • 00:39:13.190 --> 00:39:16.130
  • SHE WAS GRADUATING FROM
  • 00:39:16.130 --> 00:39:17.020
  • HIGH SCHOOL.
  • 00:39:20.130 --> 00:39:23.130
  • WHEN WE FIRST-- SHE CAME TO US.
  • 00:39:23.130 --> 00:39:24.050
  • SHE WAS PROBABLY IN HER FRESHMAN
  • 00:39:24.050 --> 00:39:24.280
  • YEAR, SO WE BECAME-- THE CHURCH
  • 00:39:24.280 --> 00:39:26.010
  • BECAME LIKE THE GUARDIAN, RIGHT?
  • 00:39:26.010 --> 00:39:26.230
  • SO I BECAME HER FATHER,
  • 00:39:26.230 --> 00:39:28.030
  • PUERTO RICAN TO AN
  • 00:39:28.030 --> 00:39:28.180
  • AFRICAN-AMERICAN.
  • 00:39:28.180 --> 00:39:30.040
  • SO HERE SHE IS.
  • 00:39:30.040 --> 00:39:30.290
  • SHE'S ON HER PROM NIGHT, SO I
  • 00:39:30.290 --> 00:39:32.100
  • TOLD THE STAFF, "WHEN HER DATE
  • 00:39:32.100 --> 00:39:34.260
  • GETS THERE, TELL HIM TO CALL ME.
  • 00:39:34.260 --> 00:39:37.080
  • I WANNA GO THERE."
  • 00:39:37.080 --> 00:39:38.070
  • SO THE DATE GETS THERE.
  • 00:39:38.070 --> 00:39:39.060
  • I SHOW UP IN MY CAR, AND I JUST
  • 00:39:39.060 --> 00:39:41.160
  • WANTED THE YOUNG MAN TO KNOW
  • 00:39:41.160 --> 00:39:42.150
  • THAT THE YOUNG GIRL HAD A
  • 00:39:42.150 --> 00:39:44.210
  • FATHER, AND I WANTED HIM TO KNOW
  • 00:39:45.210 --> 00:39:48.210
  • THERE'S A PROTECTING HER.
  • 00:39:48.210 --> 00:39:51.000
  • [APPLAUSE]
  • 00:39:51.000 --> 00:39:52.090
  • AND THIS IS WHAT GOD, WHEN HE'S
  • 00:39:52.090 --> 00:39:53.190
  • TRANSPORTED YOU FROM A LIFE OF
  • 00:39:53.190 --> 00:39:55.160
  • SIN, AND GOD RESCUES YOU IS SO
  • 00:39:55.160 --> 00:39:57.120
  • THAT YOU CAN PLAY A ROLE IN THE
  • 00:39:57.120 --> 00:39:58.250
  • LIFE OF A CHILD.
  • 00:39:58.250 --> 00:40:01.110
  • TALK TO US ABOUT THE OTHER MARK
  • 00:40:01.180 --> 00:40:04.180
  • OF A MAN BECAUSE WE TALKED ABOUT
  • 00:40:04.180 --> 00:40:05.220
  • VISION, WE TALKED ABOUT TEAM
  • 00:40:05.220 --> 00:40:06.210
  • - BRIAN: THE LAST ONE IS THAT A
  • 00:40:09.010 --> 00:40:10.050
  • MAN TAKES A MINORITY POSITION,
  • 00:40:10.050 --> 00:40:11.190
  • BUT A BOY NEEDS TO BE IN THE
  • 00:40:11.190 --> 00:40:13.230
  • MAJORITY.
  • 00:40:13.230 --> 00:40:15.250
  • - WILFREDO: THAT'S GOOD.
  • 00:40:15.250 --> 00:40:16.230
  • - BRIAN: SO WHEN I USED TO DO
  • 00:40:16.230 --> 00:40:17.140
  • STUDENT MINISTRY, AND YOU TRY TO
  • 00:40:17.140 --> 00:40:19.100
  • THE BIG OBJECTION AND THE BIG
  • 00:40:21.140 --> 00:40:22.050
  • QUESTION EVERY KID WOULD ASK IS
  • 00:40:22.050 --> 00:40:22.270
  • "WELL, WHO ELSE IS GOIN'?
  • 00:40:22.270 --> 00:40:23.160
  • WHO'S GOIN'?"
  • 00:40:23.160 --> 00:40:25.200
  • BECAUSE THEY WANNA MAKE SURE
  • 00:40:25.200 --> 00:40:27.010
  • THERE'S SORT OF A MASH, THERE'S
  • 00:40:27.010 --> 00:40:28.070
  • A MOB RUNNIN' UP.
  • 00:40:28.070 --> 00:40:29.290
  • A MAN ISN'T LIKE THAT.
  • 00:40:29.290 --> 00:40:31.050
  • BOYS ARE LIKE PIGEONS.
  • 00:40:31.050 --> 00:40:32.030
  • MEN ARE LIKE EAGLES.
  • 00:40:32.030 --> 00:40:34.010
  • YOU KNOW, WHEN YOU GO DOWNTOWN
  • 00:40:34.010 --> 00:40:35.080
  • TO CHICAGO, WHEREVER YOU ARE,
  • 00:40:35.080 --> 00:40:36.070
  • PIGEONS, THEY'RE ALL OVER
  • 00:40:36.070 --> 00:40:36.260
  • THE PLACE.
  • 00:40:37.020 --> 00:40:40.020
  • THEY'RE EVERYWHERE.
  • 00:40:40.020 --> 00:40:40.180
  • THEY'RE IN THIS BIG MASS.
  • 00:40:40.180 --> 00:40:41.070
  • THEY'RE ALL AROUND.
  • 00:40:41.070 --> 00:40:43.090
  • BUT EAGLES, MAN, FALCONS,
  • 00:40:43.090 --> 00:40:43.280
  • THEY SOAR ABOVE.
  • 00:40:43.280 --> 00:40:44.180
  • THEY'RE UP HERE.
  • 00:40:44.180 --> 00:40:45.110
  • BOYS ARE ALWAYS DOWN HERE,
  • 00:40:45.110 --> 00:40:47.090
  • TRYIN' TO GET THE CHICKEN SCRAPS
  • 00:40:47.090 --> 00:40:48.260
  • WITH THE MASSES, BUT THERE'S
  • 00:40:48.260 --> 00:40:50.110
  • FEWER MEN THAN THERE ARE BOYS,
  • 00:40:50.110 --> 00:40:52.100
  • AND I REALIZE, YOU START ME
  • 00:40:52.100 --> 00:40:54.060
  • TALKIN' ABOUT SEX, I KNOW I AM
  • 00:40:54.060 --> 00:40:55.050
  • GOING TO BE WEIRD.
  • 00:40:56.020 --> 00:40:59.020
  • I KNOW, ME BELIEVING THAT A MAN
  • 00:40:59.020 --> 00:41:01.100
  • SHOULD HAVE SEX WITH A WOMAN
  • 00:41:01.180 --> 00:41:04.180
  • ONLY WHEN HE IS MARRIED, I KNOW
  • 00:41:04.180 --> 00:41:07.020
  • I'M IN THE MINORITY.
  • 00:41:07.020 --> 00:41:09.150
  • I KNOW THAT HOLLYWOOD'S NEVER
  • 00:41:09.150 --> 00:41:10.110
  • GONNA SUPPORT THAT.
  • 00:41:10.110 --> 00:41:10.270
  • I KNOW I'M NEVER GONNA SEE THAT
  • 00:41:10.270 --> 00:41:11.250
  • VALUE LIFTED UP.
  • 00:41:11.250 --> 00:41:13.090
  • I KNOW, WHENEVER THERE'S A SEX
  • 00:41:13.090 --> 00:41:14.140
  • DISCUSSION OR ANYTHING, I'M
  • 00:41:14.140 --> 00:41:15.230
  • ALWAYS GONNA BE THE WEIRD ONE IN
  • 00:41:15.230 --> 00:41:18.020
  • THE ROOM, AND THAT'S OKAY.
  • 00:41:18.020 --> 00:41:20.150
  • I AM FINE WITH THAT.
  • 00:41:20.150 --> 00:41:21.240
  • [APPLAUSE]
  • 00:41:21.240 --> 00:41:24.090
  • I WILL BE IN A MINORITY.
  • 00:41:24.090 --> 00:41:24.270
  • I KNOW, I KNOW, WHENEVER WE
  • 00:41:24.270 --> 00:41:26.140
  • START TALKIN' ABOUT MANAGING
  • 00:41:26.140 --> 00:41:27.270
  • MONEY AND HOW MUCH YOU SHOULD
  • 00:41:27.270 --> 00:41:29.030
  • GIVE AWAY, I KNOW PEOPLE ARE
  • 00:41:29.030 --> 00:41:30.210
  • GONNA LOOK AT ME AND "YOU GIVE
  • 00:41:30.210 --> 00:41:31.260
  • WHAT PERCENTAGE OF YOUR INCOME
  • 00:41:31.260 --> 00:41:32.170
  • AWAY?"
  • 00:41:32.170 --> 00:41:33.050
  • "I KNOW THAT, AND IT WORKS, AND
  • 00:41:33.050 --> 00:41:35.160
  • I'M A MAN, AND YOU'RE NOT.
  • 00:41:35.160 --> 00:41:37.160
  • I UNDERSTAND."
  • 00:41:37.160 --> 00:41:39.270
  • YOU JUST GET INTO SO MANY
  • 00:41:39.270 --> 00:41:41.080
  • THINGS, I JUST RECOGNIZE
  • 00:41:41.080 --> 00:41:42.290
  • I'M NOT GONNA HAVE-- I'M GONNA
  • 00:41:42.290 --> 00:41:44.160
  • HAVE AFFIRMATION MAYBE WHEN I'M
  • 00:41:44.160 --> 00:41:46.020
  • WITH YOU, OKAY?
  • 00:41:46.020 --> 00:41:48.030
  • BUT WE'RE-- BE VERY CLEAR,
  • 00:41:48.030 --> 00:41:49.140
  • BROTHER, WE'RE IN THE MINORITY,
  • 00:41:49.140 --> 00:41:50.140
  • AND A MAN'S LIKE--
  • 00:41:50.140 --> 00:41:52.050
  • - WILFREDO: ABSOLUTELY.
  • 00:41:52.050 --> 00:41:52.250
  • AND IT WASN'T LIKE THIS BECAUSE,
  • 00:41:52.250 --> 00:41:55.160
  • IN 1914, WHEN THE "TITANIC"
  • 00:41:55.160 --> 00:41:56.240
  • SANK, OVER 82% OF THE WOMEN
  • 00:41:57.200 --> 00:42:00.220
  • SURVIVED, SURVIVED THAT NIGHT.
  • 00:42:01.070 --> 00:42:04.070
  • I DON'T KNOW IF YOU KNEW THAT.
  • 00:42:04.070 --> 00:42:06.260
  • OVER 82% SURVIVED.
  • 00:42:06.260 --> 00:42:07.110
  • THE MEN WOULD RATHER GIVE THE
  • 00:42:07.110 --> 00:42:08.250
  • WOMEN THE DOORS
  • 00:42:08.250 --> 00:42:11.230
  • SO THAT THE WOMEN--
  • 00:42:11.230 --> 00:42:13.040
  • OR GET 'EM ON THE BOAT AND
  • 00:42:13.040 --> 00:42:14.100
  • SACRIFICE THEIR LIVES.
  • 00:42:14.100 --> 00:42:15.140
  • THAT WAS 1914.
  • 00:42:15.230 --> 00:42:18.230
  • 2019, THE MEN ARE, LIKE, KICKIN'
  • 00:42:18.230 --> 00:42:20.220
  • THE WOMEN.
  • 00:42:21.180 --> 00:42:24.180
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:42:24.180 --> 00:42:25.020
  • "GIRL, GET YOUR OWN BOAT."
  • 00:42:25.020 --> 00:42:28.020
  • BUT THAT CULTURE,
  • 00:42:28.020 --> 00:42:28.250
  • THAT CULTURE THAT YOU'RE
  • 00:42:28.250 --> 00:42:29.280
  • TALKIN' ABOUT IN THE
  • 00:42:29.280 --> 00:42:31.070
  • 1914s AND THE 1950s,
  • 00:42:31.070 --> 00:42:33.030
  • CHRISTIANITY WAS NOT
  • 00:42:33.030 --> 00:42:34.170
  • IN THE MINORITY.
  • 00:42:34.170 --> 00:42:36.220
  • THE WAY OF THINKIN' WAS NOT IN
  • 00:42:36.220 --> 00:42:38.040
  • THE MINORITY, BUT WE FIND
  • 00:42:38.040 --> 00:42:40.030
  • OURSELVES TODAY IN A CULTURE
  • 00:42:40.030 --> 00:42:41.090
  • THAT SAYS TO YOU AND I, "WE ARE
  • 00:42:41.090 --> 00:42:42.250
  • OUT OF STEP.
  • 00:42:42.250 --> 00:42:44.210
  • WE'RE NOT COOL.
  • 00:42:44.210 --> 00:42:46.290
  • WE'RE A COUNTERCULTURE."
  • 00:42:46.290 --> 00:42:47.260
  • - BRIAN: AMERICA HAS ALWAYS HAD
  • 00:42:47.260 --> 00:42:48.180
  • ITS PROBLEMS.
  • 00:42:48.180 --> 00:42:49.080
  • LET'S BE REAL.
  • 00:42:49.080 --> 00:42:49.240
  • SLAVERY EXISTED INSIDE OF A
  • 00:42:49.240 --> 00:42:51.020
  • CHRISTIAN CULTURE.
  • 00:42:51.020 --> 00:42:51.270
  • ALCOHOL ABUSE TOOK PLACE.
  • 00:42:51.270 --> 00:42:54.210
  • AMERICA'S NEVER BEEN THIS
  • 00:42:54.210 --> 00:42:56.290
  • BEAUTIFUL, GOD-ORIENTED-- IT
  • 00:42:57.080 --> 00:43:00.100
  • NEVER HAS, BUT THERE WAS A TIME
  • 00:43:00.100 --> 00:43:03.100
  • WHEN THE, SORT OF, CHRISTIAN
  • 00:43:03.100 --> 00:43:05.230
  • MORAL WORLDVIEW WAS SOMEWHAT
  • 00:43:05.230 --> 00:43:08.190
  • PREVALENT, AND YOU COULD BE AN
  • 00:43:08.190 --> 00:43:11.120
  • ATHEIST AND BE VERY EXCITED IN
  • 00:43:11.120 --> 00:43:12.190
  • AMERICA EVEN THOUGH IT WAS
  • 00:43:12.190 --> 00:43:14.000
  • CHRISTIAN BECAUSE THAT'S WHAT
  • 00:43:14.000 --> 00:43:15.080
  • YOUR VALUES WERE, AND THE
  • 00:43:15.080 --> 00:43:16.280
  • CULTURE SUPPORTED THAT.
  • 00:43:16.280 --> 00:43:18.100
  • CULTURE DOES NOT SUPPORT THAT
  • 00:43:18.100 --> 00:43:19.160
  • ANY LONGER.
  • 00:43:19.160 --> 00:43:19.290
  • IN FACT, IF YOU HAVE THAT AS A
  • 00:43:19.290 --> 00:43:21.190
  • SET OR A CODE FOR HOW YOU
  • 00:43:21.190 --> 00:43:24.020
  • OPERATE, YOU'RE GOING TO BE
  • 00:43:24.020 --> 00:43:25.070
  • WEIRD, YOU'RE GOING TO BE
  • 00:43:25.070 --> 00:43:26.080
  • SHUNNED, YOU'RE GOING TO BE
  • 00:43:26.080 --> 00:43:27.230
  • JUDGED FOR THINGS THAT PEOPLE
  • 00:43:27.230 --> 00:43:29.000
  • USED TO BE CONGRATULATED FOR
  • 00:43:29.000 --> 00:43:29.200
  • JUST 30 YEARS AGO.
  • 00:43:29.200 --> 00:43:31.270
  • - WILFREDO: ABSOLUTELY, AND LET
  • 00:43:31.270 --> 00:43:32.250
  • ME JUST ENCOURAGE THOSE THAT ARE
  • 00:43:32.250 --> 00:43:34.150
  • WATCHING, YOU MAY BE LIKE MY
  • 00:43:34.150 --> 00:43:35.280
  • BROTHER IS SAYING, IN THE
  • 00:43:35.280 --> 00:43:37.080
  • MINORITY, WHICH WE ARE, BUT ONE
  • 00:43:37.080 --> 00:43:38.050
  • MAN OR ONE WOMAN WITH GOD IS THE
  • 00:43:39.000 --> 00:43:42.000
  • MAJORITY.
  • 00:43:42.280 --> 00:43:45.280
  • ALL YOU NEED IS GOD ON YOUR SIDE
  • 00:43:45.280 --> 00:43:46.280
  • AND VALUE SYSTEM.
  • 00:43:46.280 --> 00:43:48.140
  • [APPLAUSE]
  • 00:43:48.140 --> 00:43:51.080
  • AND MAYBE YOU'RE RUNNING A
  • 00:43:51.080 --> 00:43:51.270
  • MEN'S MINISTRY.
  • 00:43:53.190 --> 00:43:56.190
  • MAYBE YOU'RE TRYIN' TO THINK
  • 00:43:56.190 --> 00:43:57.090
  • ABOUT HOW TO DEAL WITH THE LIFE
  • 00:43:57.090 --> 00:43:58.160
  • GROUP IN YOUR SETTING THERE,
  • 00:43:58.160 --> 00:43:59.060
  • WHEREVER YOU'RE AT, SOMEWHERE
  • 00:43:59.060 --> 00:43:59.270
  • AROUND THE WORLD.
  • 00:43:59.270 --> 00:44:00.140
  • I WANT MY BROTHER BRIAN JUST TO
  • 00:44:00.140 --> 00:44:01.140
  • SPEAK INTO YOUR LIFE AND JUST TO
  • 00:44:01.140 --> 00:44:03.130
  • GIVE YOU SOME POINTERS, SOME
  • 00:44:03.130 --> 00:44:05.020
  • IDEAS HOW TO START A MEN'S GROUP
  • 00:44:05.020 --> 00:44:07.090
  • 'CAUSE HE'S GOT THIS CAVE, THIS
  • 00:44:07.090 --> 00:44:08.210
  • CAMP THAT HAPPENS WITH THE MEN.
  • 00:44:08.210 --> 00:44:10.000
  • HE ALSO HAS A MARRIAGE GROUP OR
  • 00:44:10.000 --> 00:44:11.090
  • CAMP THAT'S HAPPENING.
  • 00:44:11.090 --> 00:44:12.160
  • I WANT HIM TO SPEAK INTO THAT,
  • 00:44:12.160 --> 00:44:14.160
  • AND THEN, IN A LITTLE BIT, WE'RE
  • 00:44:14.160 --> 00:44:15.080
  • GONNA SEE A LITTLE BIT OF
  • 00:44:15.080 --> 00:44:16.010
  • CROSSROADS.
  • 00:44:16.010 --> 00:44:17.090
  • IF YOU COULD JUST LET OUR
  • 00:44:17.090 --> 00:44:18.060
  • VIEWERS KNOW A LITTLE BIT ABOUT
  • 00:44:18.060 --> 00:44:18.280
  • THAT?
  • 00:44:18.280 --> 00:44:20.050
  • - BRIAN: YEAH, WELL, FIRST, I
  • 00:44:20.050 --> 00:44:21.060
  • YOU KNOW, MAN, IF YOU ARE A
  • 00:44:24.000 --> 00:44:24.200
  • WOMAN, YOU ARE EQUALLY CREATED
  • 00:44:24.200 --> 00:44:25.110
  • IN THE IMAGE OF GOD, AND YOU
  • 00:44:25.110 --> 00:44:26.010
  • AND THERE'S NOTHING IN
  • 00:44:30.100 --> 00:44:31.000
  • THIS BOOK THAT ISN'T
  • 00:44:31.000 --> 00:44:32.210
  • APPLICABLE TO YOUR LIFE, AND
  • 00:44:32.210 --> 00:44:33.160
  • MAYBE THIS BOOK WOULD HELP SOME
  • 00:44:33.160 --> 00:44:34.260
  • OTHER GUY THAT'S IN YOUR LIFE.
  • 00:44:34.260 --> 00:44:36.270
  • I WANNA BE REAL CLEAR ON THAT,
  • 00:44:36.270 --> 00:44:37.180
  • BUT THIS BOOK WAS WRITTEN, AND
  • 00:44:37.180 --> 00:44:40.020
  • THE MESSAGE I'M GIVING RIGHT NOW
  • 00:44:40.020 --> 00:44:40.240
  • IS GIVEN FOR A GENDER THAT IS
  • 00:44:40.240 --> 00:44:43.190
  • BEATEN DOWN AND IS CONFUSED AND
  • 00:44:43.190 --> 00:44:45.170
  • IT'S REALLY CRAZY: ON KING
  • 00:44:53.160 --> 00:44:55.040
  • DAVID'S FINAL DEATH BED, IT'S
  • 00:44:55.040 --> 00:44:56.120
  • ONE OF THE CRAZIEST SCENES IN
  • 00:44:56.120 --> 00:44:57.110
  • THE BIBLE BECAUSE, AS HE'S
  • 00:44:57.110 --> 00:44:58.230
  • DYING, HIS MIGHTY MEN STUFF A
  • 00:44:59.180 --> 00:45:02.200
  • BUNCH OF YOUNG WOMEN INTO HIS
  • 00:45:02.200 --> 00:45:04.160
  • BED, AND WE DON'T HEAR THIS ONE
  • 00:45:04.160 --> 00:45:06.040
  • PREACHED VERY OFTEN.
  • 00:45:06.040 --> 00:45:07.060
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:45:07.060 --> 00:45:08.090
  • HE'S COLD, HE'S DYING, AND THEY
  • 00:45:08.090 --> 00:45:09.160
  • WERE LIKE, "THE KING'S DYIN'.
  • 00:45:09.160 --> 00:45:10.190
  • WE'LL STICK SOME YOUNG WOMEN IN
  • 00:45:10.190 --> 00:45:12.070
  • THERE WITH HIM."
  • 00:45:12.070 --> 00:45:12.210
  • HE CAN'T DO ANYTHING
  • 00:45:12.210 --> 00:45:14.010
  • BECAUSE HIS BLOOD FLOW IS SO
  • 00:45:14.010 --> 00:45:15.120
  • POOR, BUT STICK SOME YOUNG
  • 00:45:15.120 --> 00:45:16.150
  • WOMEN IN THERE AND WARM HIM UP."
  • 00:45:16.150 --> 00:45:17.250
  • SO THIS IS HAPPENING.
  • 00:45:17.250 --> 00:45:18.290
  • HE'S TRYING TO-- AND HE BRINGS
  • 00:45:18.290 --> 00:45:19.200
  • HIS SON SOLOMON TO HIM, AND IF
  • 00:45:19.220 --> 00:45:22.220
  • YOU BRING SOLOMON TO HIM, HE
  • 00:45:22.220 --> 00:45:24.000
  • GIVES HIM, SORT OF, HIS FINAL
  • 00:45:24.000 --> 00:45:25.180
  • WORDS BEFORE SOLOMON'S GOING TO
  • 00:45:25.180 --> 00:45:26.280
  • BECOME KING, AND HE SAYS,
  • 00:45:26.280 --> 00:45:28.150
  • "HONOR THE LORD YOUR GOD,
  • 00:45:28.150 --> 00:45:30.020
  • FOLLOW HIS COMMANDMENTS,
  • 00:45:30.020 --> 00:45:30.200
  • AND ACT LIKE A MAN."
  • 00:45:30.200 --> 00:45:33.120
  • BE A MAN.
  • 00:45:33.120 --> 00:45:34.280
  • [APPLAUSE]
  • 00:45:34.280 --> 00:45:36.180
  • MEN, MEN, YOU HAVE TO BELIEVE
  • 00:45:36.180 --> 00:45:39.160
  • THAT IT IS A BLESSING TO
  • 00:45:39.160 --> 00:45:42.020
  • BE A MAN.
  • 00:45:42.020 --> 00:45:43.030
  • - WILFREDO: YES, YES.
  • 00:45:43.030 --> 00:45:44.080
  • - BRIAN: I'M SURE IT'S A
  • 00:45:44.080 --> 00:45:44.270
  • BLESSING TO BE A WOMAN TOO.
  • 00:45:44.270 --> 00:45:45.250
  • I'VE NEVER BEEN ONE, I DON'T
  • 00:45:45.250 --> 00:45:46.280
  • PLAN ON BEING ONE, BUT I'M SURE
  • 00:45:46.280 --> 00:45:48.040
  • IT'S AS BLESSED COULD BE.
  • 00:45:48.040 --> 00:45:50.040
  • I'M SURE IT'D BE AMAZING TO HAVE
  • 00:45:50.040 --> 00:45:50.260
  • THE CAPACITY TO BRING LIFE OUT
  • 00:45:50.260 --> 00:45:51.290
  • OF YOUR BODY.
  • 00:45:51.290 --> 00:45:53.040
  • THAT WOULD BE AMAZING THAT A
  • 00:45:53.040 --> 00:45:54.120
  • WOMAN GETS TO DO, BUT YOU GOTTA
  • 00:45:54.120 --> 00:45:55.190
  • KNOW, AS A MAN, IT IS A BLESSING
  • 00:45:55.210 --> 00:45:58.210
  • TO BE A MAN.
  • 00:45:58.210 --> 00:45:59.090
  • THE BIBLE SAYS YOU SHOULD HONOR
  • 00:45:59.090 --> 00:46:01.040
  • THE WEAKER VESSEL AS YOUR WIFE.
  • 00:46:01.040 --> 00:46:03.290
  • I GOTTA TELL YA, I'M NOT SURE
  • 00:46:03.290 --> 00:46:05.080
  • WHAT THAT MEANS.
  • 00:46:05.080 --> 00:46:07.020
  • I DON'T KNOW WHAT THAT MEANS
  • 00:46:07.020 --> 00:46:07.220
  • 'CAUSE I KNOW WOMEN WHO CAN DO
  • 00:46:07.220 --> 00:46:08.170
  • MORE PUSH-UPS THAN THEIR
  • 00:46:08.170 --> 00:46:10.050
  • HUSBANDS.
  • 00:46:10.050 --> 00:46:11.090
  • I KNOW WOMEN WHO ARE MORE
  • 00:46:11.090 --> 00:46:13.270
  • EMOTIONALLY STABLE THAN THEIR
  • 00:46:13.270 --> 00:46:14.180
  • HUSBANDS.
  • 00:46:14.180 --> 00:46:16.050
  • I DON'T KNOW WHAT THAT MEANS.
  • 00:46:16.050 --> 00:46:18.160
  • THERE ARE SOME THINGS IN THE
  • 00:46:18.160 --> 00:46:19.240
  • BIBLE I DON'T KNOW EXACTLY WHAT
  • 00:46:19.240 --> 00:46:20.210
  • IT MEANS, BUT YOU JUST DO IT.
  • 00:46:20.210 --> 00:46:22.230
  • AND I'LL TELL YA WHAT, IF YOU'RE
  • 00:46:22.230 --> 00:46:24.040
  • MARRIED, AND YOU JUST TREAT YOUR
  • 00:46:24.040 --> 00:46:25.110
  • WIFE LIKE SHE IS A PRECIOUS
  • 00:46:25.110 --> 00:46:27.260
  • VESSEL FROM THE MING DYNASTY, A
  • 00:46:27.260 --> 00:46:30.070
  • PRECIOUS VESSEL THAT NEEDS--
  • 00:46:30.070 --> 00:46:32.240
  • PROTECTED AND NURTURED AND
  • 00:46:32.240 --> 00:46:35.110
  • VALUED AND APPRECIATED, YOUR
  • 00:46:35.110 --> 00:46:36.210
  • MARRIAGE WILL GO TO A WHOLE
  • 00:46:36.210 --> 00:46:38.160
  • NOTHER LEVEL.
  • 00:46:39.250 --> 00:46:42.250
  • NO ONE GETS TO BE YOU, OTHER
  • 00:46:42.250 --> 00:46:44.050
  • THAN YOU, AND YOU GOTTA FEEL
  • 00:46:44.050 --> 00:46:45.180
  • IT'S A BLESSING TO BE YOU AND
  • 00:46:45.180 --> 00:46:46.180
  • THERE'S UNIQUE CAPACITY GOD HAS
  • 00:46:46.180 --> 00:46:48.070
  • FOR YOU, AND HERE'S THE THING:
  • 00:46:48.070 --> 00:46:50.090
  • DOESN'T MATTER HOW BOYISH YOU'VE
  • 00:46:50.090 --> 00:46:51.260
  • BEEN, DOESN'T MATTER HOW
  • 00:46:51.260 --> 00:46:53.200
  • PIGEON-LIKE YOU'VE BEEN, DOESN'T
  • 00:46:53.200 --> 00:46:55.050
  • MATTER HOW YOUNG ELEPHANT-LIKE
  • 00:46:55.050 --> 00:46:56.000
  • YOU'VE BEEN.
  • 00:46:56.000 --> 00:46:57.050
  • THAT IS TOMORROW.
  • 00:46:57.050 --> 00:46:57.270
  • WE ARE NOT ABOUT THE GOD OF
  • 00:46:57.270 --> 00:46:59.000
  • YESTERDAY.
  • 00:46:59.000 --> 00:47:00.200
  • WE'RE ABOUT THE GOD OF TOMORROW.
  • 00:47:00.200 --> 00:47:03.130
  • LET THE END BE THE END.
  • 00:47:03.130 --> 00:47:05.160
  • TODAY COULD BE YOUR COMING OF
  • 00:47:05.160 --> 00:47:06.250
  • AGE BIRTHDAY.
  • 00:47:06.250 --> 00:47:07.120
  • TODAY COULD BE YOUR FIRST DAY AS
  • 00:47:07.180 --> 00:47:10.180
  • A MAN.
  • 00:47:10.180 --> 00:47:13.060
  • JUST RIGHT NOW, HIT YOUR KNEES.
  • 00:47:13.060 --> 00:47:14.110
  • HIT YOUR KNEES BEFORE THE TV
  • 00:47:14.110 --> 00:47:15.010
  • RIGHT NOW.
  • 00:47:15.010 --> 00:47:15.160
  • GOD SEES IT.
  • 00:47:15.160 --> 00:47:16.010
  • GOD SEES.
  • 00:47:16.010 --> 00:47:17.150
  • IN FACT, LOOK AT ME RIGHT NOW.
  • 00:47:17.150 --> 00:47:18.120
  • I'LL TELL YA RIGHT NOW, AND I
  • 00:47:18.120 --> 00:47:19.190
  • DON'T KNOW IF ANYONE'S EVER
  • 00:47:19.190 --> 00:47:20.090
  • TOLD YOU.
  • 00:47:20.090 --> 00:47:21.030
  • I'MMA TELL YA RIGHT NOW: IF I
  • 00:47:21.030 --> 00:47:22.170
  • WAS WITH YOU, I WOULD DO THIS
  • 00:47:22.170 --> 00:47:23.180
  • IN PERSON.
  • 00:47:23.180 --> 00:47:25.130
  • I'VE DONE THIS TO A BUNCH
  • 00:47:25.130 --> 00:47:26.020
  • OF GUYS.
  • 00:47:26.020 --> 00:47:26.120
  • I'M GONNA DO IT FOR YOU,
  • 00:47:26.120 --> 00:47:27.000
  • AND THIS IS FOR YOU.
  • 00:47:27.000 --> 00:47:27.160
  • GOD HAS YOU HERE RIGHT NOW
  • 00:47:27.160 --> 00:47:29.020
  • FOR THIS.
  • 00:47:29.020 --> 00:47:29.160
  • YOU KNOW WHAT IT IS?
  • 00:47:29.160 --> 00:47:30.160
  • ALL RIGHT, NOW, YOU'RE A GOOD
  • 00:47:30.160 --> 00:47:32.240
  • MAN IN WHOM GOD IS PLEASED.
  • 00:47:34.230 --> 00:47:37.230
  • GOD HAS FORMED YOU.
  • 00:47:37.230 --> 00:47:39.130
  • HE'S KNIT YOU TOGETHER IN YOUR
  • 00:47:39.130 --> 00:47:40.150
  • MOTHER'S WOMB.
  • 00:47:40.210 --> 00:47:43.210
  • HE HAS A PLAN FOR YOU.
  • 00:47:43.210 --> 00:47:44.190
  • HE HAS A PURPOSE FOR YOU.
  • 00:47:44.190 --> 00:47:45.210
  • YOU ARE HIS SON.
  • 00:47:45.270 --> 00:47:48.270
  • I TELL YOU RIGHT NOW, YOU ARE A
  • 00:47:48.270 --> 00:47:49.230
  • MAN.
  • 00:47:50.050 --> 00:47:53.050
  • GOD, PUT YOUR BLESSING ON THIS
  • 00:47:53.050 --> 00:47:54.230
  • SON OF YOURS RIGHT NOW AND ON
  • 00:47:54.230 --> 00:47:55.200
  • THIS MAN.
  • 00:47:55.200 --> 00:47:57.250
  • MAKE THIS BE THE NEW DAY OF HIS
  • 00:47:57.250 --> 00:47:59.170
  • LIFE, THAT HIS TOMORROW IS
  • 00:47:59.170 --> 00:48:01.200
  • DIFFERENT THAN HIS YESTERDAY.
  • 00:48:01.200 --> 00:48:03.060
  • AND, GOD, I PRAY FOR ALL THE
  • 00:48:03.060 --> 00:48:04.120
  • WOMEN IN OUR AUDIENCE AND ON OUR
  • 00:48:04.120 --> 00:48:06.110
  • BROADCAST THAT THEY WOULD BE
  • 00:48:06.110 --> 00:48:08.190
  • PATIENT WITH THE GENDER THAT IS
  • 00:48:09.080 --> 00:48:12.080
  • VERY BELEAGUERED, AND THAT THEY
  • 00:48:12.080 --> 00:48:14.100
  • WOULD BE WISE WITH THE GENDER
  • 00:48:14.130 --> 00:48:17.130
  • THAT IS ALSO FREQUENTLY
  • 00:48:17.130 --> 00:48:18.170
  • VERY CONFUSED.
  • 00:48:19.210 --> 00:48:22.210
  • BLESS YOUR SONS AND DAUGHTERS
  • 00:48:22.210 --> 00:48:23.120
  • TODAY, I PRAY, JESUS, IN YOUR
  • 00:48:23.120 --> 00:48:24.030
  • NAME, AMEN.
  • 00:48:24.030 --> 00:48:25.010
  • - WILFREDO: COME, ON GIVE THE
  • 00:48:25.010 --> 00:48:25.220
  • LORD A PRAISE OFFERING.
  • 00:48:25.220 --> 00:48:26.100
  • [APPLAUSE]
  • 00:48:26.100 --> 00:48:27.060
  • - WILFREDO: WOW, WOW.
  • 00:48:27.060 --> 00:48:29.070
  • YOU JUST HEARD A WORD THERE FROM
  • 00:48:29.070 --> 00:48:31.250
  • PASTOR BRIAN, THE AUTHOR OF
  • 00:48:31.250 --> 00:48:33.130
  • "THE FIVE MARKS OF A MAN."
  • 00:48:34.200 --> 00:48:37.200
  • IF YOU'RE EVER IN THE
  • 00:48:37.200 --> 00:48:38.070
  • CINCINNATI, OHIO, AREA--
  • 00:48:38.070 --> 00:48:39.040
  • HE HAS A GREAT CHURCH THERE,
  • 00:48:39.040 --> 00:48:40.230
  • CROSSROADS.
  • 00:48:40.230 --> 00:48:42.240
  • I WANT YOU TO WATCH THIS VIDEO A
  • 00:48:42.240 --> 00:48:44.030
  • LITTLE BIT ABOUT HIS MINISTRY
  • 00:48:44.030 --> 00:48:44.240
  • THERE IN CINCINNATI.
  • 00:48:45.070 --> 00:48:48.070
  • - MALE: AM I AS GOOD-LOOKING AS
  • 00:48:48.070 --> 00:48:48.290
  • I THINK I AM?
  • 00:48:48.290 --> 00:48:50.110
  • - MALE: I WONDER WHERE NORMAL
  • 00:48:50.110 --> 00:48:51.130
  • PEOPLE FIND FRIENDS?
  • 00:48:51.130 --> 00:48:52.050
  • - MALE: WHERE WOULD I FIND OUT
  • 00:48:52.050 --> 00:48:52.270
  • HOW TO BE A GOOD DAD?
  • 00:48:52.270 --> 00:48:54.290
  • - FEMALE: SHOULD I BE TAKING MY
  • 00:48:54.290 --> 00:48:55.210
  • KIDS TO CHURCH?
  • 00:48:55.210 --> 00:48:57.210
  • - MALE: WHAT IS UP WITH MY
  • 00:48:57.210 --> 00:48:58.110
  • NOSE HAIR?
  • 00:48:58.110 --> 00:48:59.060
  • - ANNOUNCER: CROSSROADS CHURCH,
  • 00:48:59.060 --> 00:48:59.280
  • REAL PEOPLE ASKING
  • 00:48:59.280 --> 00:49:01.010
  • REAL QUESTIONS.
  • 00:49:01.010 --> 00:49:04.010
  • - ANNOUNCER: CROSSROADS CHURCH
  • 00:49:04.010 --> 00:49:04.230
  • IS A COMMUNITY OF PEOPLE ACROSS
  • 00:49:04.230 --> 00:49:05.220
  • THE COUNTRY, TRADING ISOLATION
  • 00:49:05.220 --> 00:49:07.100
  • FOR FRIENDSHIP,
  • 00:49:07.100 --> 00:49:08.240
  • INSECURITY FOR HOPE.
  • 00:49:09.070 --> 00:49:12.070
  • WE'RE PURSUING GOD IN THE MIDST
  • 00:49:12.070 --> 00:49:12.290
  • OF OUR MESS, A GOD WHO LOVES US
  • 00:49:12.290 --> 00:49:13.210
  • AND TAKES US ON INCREDIBLE
  • 00:49:13.210 --> 00:49:14.230
  • ADVENTURES.
  • 00:49:14.230 --> 00:49:15.240
  • CHECK US OUT.
  • 00:49:15.240 --> 00:49:17.190
  • [CHEERS AND APPLAUSE]
  • 00:49:18.250 --> 00:49:21.250
  • - WILFREDO: HEY, WELCOME BACK,
  • 00:49:21.250 --> 00:49:22.240
  • WELCOME BACK.
  • 00:49:22.240 --> 00:49:24.100
  • GOD BLESS YOU.
  • 00:49:24.100 --> 00:49:25.100
  • WE'RE HERE IN THE WINDY CITY,
  • 00:49:25.100 --> 00:49:26.260
  • CHICAGO, WITH PASTOR BRIAN,
  • 00:49:26.260 --> 00:49:28.200
  • THE AUTHOR.
  • 00:49:28.220 --> 00:49:31.220
  • YOU KNOW, ONE OF THE THINGS I
  • 00:49:31.220 --> 00:49:32.130
  • WAS READING UP ON YOU WAS
  • 00:49:32.130 --> 00:49:34.120
  • THE MOTORCYCLE.
  • 00:49:34.120 --> 00:49:36.030
  • DID YOU MAKE SOMETHING ON
  • 00:49:36.030 --> 00:49:36.220
  • THE MOTORCYCLE?
  • 00:49:36.220 --> 00:49:37.060
  • - BRIAN: I DID.
  • 00:49:37.060 --> 00:49:38.090
  • I AM OFFICIALLY AN INVENTOR, SO,
  • 00:49:38.090 --> 00:49:39.140
  • YES, I--
  • 00:49:39.140 --> 00:49:39.260
  • - WILFREDO: YEAH, YOU HAD AN
  • 00:49:39.260 --> 00:49:41.030
  • AWARD.
  • 00:49:41.030 --> 00:49:43.020
  • - BRIAN: YES, I-- WELL, I HAD A
  • 00:49:43.020 --> 00:49:43.240
  • CUSTOM-BIKE-BUILDING AWARD, AND
  • 00:49:43.240 --> 00:49:44.240
  • I INVENTED A PART THAT I MADE A
  • 00:49:44.240 --> 00:49:46.110
  • LOT OF MONEY ON UNTIL THE
  • 00:49:46.110 --> 00:49:48.140
  • MANUFACTURER MADE THEIR OWN PART
  • 00:49:48.140 --> 00:49:49.260
  • AND PUT ME OUT OF BUSINESS SO--
  • 00:49:49.260 --> 00:49:50.280
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:49:50.280 --> 00:49:53.140
  • - WILFREDO: WELL, YOU RIDE
  • 00:49:53.140 --> 00:49:55.060
  • BIKES, YOU LOVE CAMPING, YOU
  • 00:49:55.060 --> 00:49:56.010
  • HAVE A MINISTRY OUT IN
  • 00:49:56.010 --> 00:49:57.090
  • CINCINNATI, OHIO, THAT GOD HAS
  • 00:49:57.090 --> 00:49:58.220
  • BLESSED YOU WITH, GOT BEAUTIFUL
  • 00:49:58.220 --> 00:50:00.130
  • CHILDREN.
  • 00:50:00.130 --> 00:50:01.210
  • REALLY, QUICKLY, WHAT ARE MAYBE
  • 00:50:01.210 --> 00:50:03.030
  • SOME NEXT STEPS THAT'S NEXT FOR
  • 00:50:03.030 --> 00:50:04.190
  • BRIAN?
  • 00:50:04.190 --> 00:50:06.120
  • - BRIAN: WELL, I THINK IT'S
  • 00:50:06.120 --> 00:50:07.150
  • IMPORTANT, AS YOU TALK ABOUT
  • 00:50:07.150 --> 00:50:08.170
  • IN SOME WAYS, I AM A
  • 00:50:11.090 --> 00:50:12.000
  • STEREOTYPICAL MAN, BUT NONE OF
  • 00:50:12.000 --> 00:50:13.230
  • THAT STUFF IS IN THE BOOK.
  • 00:50:13.230 --> 00:50:14.260
  • YOU DON'T HAVE TO HAVE A TRUCK
  • 00:50:14.260 --> 00:50:17.200
  • TO BE A MAN.
  • 00:50:17.200 --> 00:50:19.050
  • SOME MANLY MEN HAVE MINIVANS.
  • 00:50:19.160 --> 00:50:22.160
  • YOU DON'T HAVE TO BE INTO
  • 00:50:22.160 --> 00:50:23.050
  • CAMPING TO BE A MAN.
  • 00:50:23.050 --> 00:50:25.000
  • INCREDIBLE, MANLY MEN
  • 00:50:25.000 --> 00:50:26.080
  • FINGER-PAINT.
  • 00:50:26.080 --> 00:50:28.020
  • WE HAVE TO GET AWAY FROM THESE
  • 00:50:28.020 --> 00:50:29.120
  • TRAPPINGS, JUST THE TRAPPINGS OF
  • 00:50:29.120 --> 00:50:31.100
  • MASCULINITY, AND RECOGNIZE IT'S
  • 00:50:31.100 --> 00:50:33.010
  • WHAT IS IT THAT'S FILLING
  • 00:50:35.280 --> 00:50:36.170
  • YOU UP?
  • 00:50:36.170 --> 00:50:37.060
  • SO, FOR ME-- I'M SURE IT'S,
  • 00:50:37.060 --> 00:50:37.280
  • LIKE, THE SAME WITH YOU--
  • 00:50:37.280 --> 00:50:39.010
  • MINISTRY WILL WEAR YOU OUT,
  • 00:50:39.010 --> 00:50:40.130
  • YOU KNOW?
  • 00:50:40.130 --> 00:50:42.290
  • EVEN JUST NORMAL LIFE WILL WEAR
  • 00:50:42.290 --> 00:50:43.260
  • YOU OUT, AND I THINK GOD LOOKS
  • 00:50:43.260 --> 00:50:46.150
  • AT US, AND HE WANTS TO MAKE SURE
  • 00:50:46.150 --> 00:50:48.000
  • THAT WE'RE PLAYING.
  • 00:50:48.000 --> 00:50:48.200
  • IF WE LOOK AT OUR KIDS, AND OUR
  • 00:50:48.200 --> 00:50:50.070
  • KIDS WERE ONLY EVER AT WORK AND
  • 00:50:50.070 --> 00:50:52.150
  • DOING SCHOOLWORK, WE WOULD SAY--
  • 00:50:52.150 --> 00:50:54.220
  • WE NEVER SAW THEM LAUGHING IN
  • 00:50:54.220 --> 00:50:55.180
  • THE SANDBOX; WE NEVER SAW THEM
  • 00:50:55.180 --> 00:50:57.200
  • ON A SWING-- WE WOULD SAY,
  • 00:50:57.200 --> 00:50:58.270
  • "WHAT'S WRONG WITH US HERE?"
  • 00:50:58.270 --> 00:51:00.230
  • I THINK THERE'S A MASSIVE OUTAGE
  • 00:51:00.230 --> 00:51:03.210
  • IN CHRISTENDOM IN OUR COUNTRY.
  • 00:51:03.210 --> 00:51:04.230
  • WE'VE FORGOTTEN HOW TO PLAY.
  • 00:51:04.230 --> 00:51:05.130
  • WE'VE FORGOTTEN HOW TO TAKE CARE
  • 00:51:05.130 --> 00:51:06.230
  • OF OURSELVES.
  • 00:51:06.230 --> 00:51:08.080
  • GOD HAS CREATED US THAT WAY, AND
  • 00:51:08.080 --> 00:51:10.050
  • SO I PUT A SIZEABLE PORTION OF
  • 00:51:10.050 --> 00:51:12.010
  • MY CREATIVE TIME TO FIGURING OUT
  • 00:51:12.010 --> 00:51:13.170
  • HOW I CAN PLAY 'CAUSE, WHEN I
  • 00:51:13.170 --> 00:51:15.190
  • PLAY, I BECOME A FRESHER VERSION
  • 00:51:15.190 --> 00:51:17.010
  • OF MYSELF THAT HELPS ME TO SERVE
  • 00:51:17.010 --> 00:51:18.210
  • GOD IN A MORE FRUITFUL WAY.
  • 00:51:18.210 --> 00:51:20.190
  • - WILFREDO: WELL, LISTEN, I
  • 00:51:20.190 --> 00:51:21.260
  • WANNA ENCOURAGE YOU, MOM, DAD,
  • 00:51:22.140 --> 00:51:25.140
  • MEN'S DIRECTOR, WHATEVER
  • 00:51:25.140 --> 00:51:28.120
  • MINISTRY YOU'RE LEADING, THIS
  • 00:51:28.120 --> 00:51:29.210
  • BOOK, "THE FIVE MARKS OF A MAN,"
  • 00:51:29.210 --> 00:51:32.200
  • I WANT YOU TO ORDER IT, GET A
  • 00:51:32.200 --> 00:51:34.050
  • GROUP OF MEN TOGETHER, LET IT
  • 00:51:34.050 --> 00:51:36.020
  • BLESS YOUR LIFE.
  • 00:51:36.020 --> 00:51:37.130
  • THERE'S SOME REALLY GREAT
  • 00:51:37.130 --> 00:51:38.170
  • NUGGETS HERE, I'M TELLING YOU,
  • 00:51:38.170 --> 00:51:40.020
  • THAT CAN CHANGE YOUR LIFE,
  • 00:51:40.020 --> 00:51:41.200
  • CHANGE THE WAY YOU'RE SEEING
  • 00:51:41.200 --> 00:51:42.120
  • THINGS-- PERSPECTIVE.
  • 00:51:42.120 --> 00:51:43.290
  • IT'S OKAY TO BE A MAN.
  • 00:51:43.290 --> 00:51:46.190
  • - BRIAN: YEAH, AND WE FOUND
  • 00:51:46.190 --> 00:51:47.220
  • THAT GUYS ARE GOIN' THROUGH THIS
  • 00:51:47.220 --> 00:51:50.130
  • AS THEIR OWN SMALL GROUP.
  • 00:51:50.130 --> 00:51:51.220
  • WE FOUND THAT MEN ARE TAKING
  • 00:51:51.220 --> 00:51:52.230
  • THEIR CHILDREN THROUGH
  • 00:51:52.230 --> 00:51:53.190
  • THIS BOOK.
  • 00:51:54.170 --> 00:51:57.170
  • WE'RE SEEING THAT THERE ARE SOME
  • 00:51:57.170 --> 00:51:58.090
  • PEOPLE WHO ARE MANAGERS AND
  • 00:51:58.090 --> 00:51:58.290
  • THEIR WORK SETTING ARE TAKING
  • 00:51:58.290 --> 00:51:59.200
  • PEOPLE THROUGH IT.
  • 00:51:59.200 --> 00:52:00.070
  • WE'RE FINDING-- OF COURSE, WE
  • 00:52:00.070 --> 00:52:00.280
  • ALREADY TALKED ABOUT COURT
  • 00:52:00.280 --> 00:52:01.170
  • PEOPLE, AND COURT SYSTEMS ARE
  • 00:52:01.170 --> 00:52:03.040
  • USING THIS.
  • 00:52:03.040 --> 00:52:03.220
  • WE'VE SEEN FOOTBALL TEAMS
  • 00:52:03.220 --> 00:52:04.190
  • USING THIS.
  • 00:52:04.200 --> 00:52:07.200
  • IT'S JUST REALLY GREAT STARTER
  • 00:52:07.200 --> 00:52:08.110
  • MATERIAL FOR YOU TO TALK.
  • 00:52:08.110 --> 00:52:09.220
  • SOMETIMES WE, AS MEN, HAVE A
  • 00:52:09.220 --> 00:52:11.010
  • HARD TIME HAVING A CONVERSATIONS
  • 00:52:11.010 --> 00:52:13.160
  • BECAUSE WE DON'T KNOW EXACTLY
  • 00:52:13.160 --> 00:52:14.070
  • WHAT TO TALK ABOUT.
  • 00:52:14.070 --> 00:52:14.280
  • THIS COULD BE A GOOD STARTER FOR
  • 00:52:14.280 --> 00:52:16.230
  • YA.
  • 00:52:16.230 --> 00:52:18.050
  • - WILFREDO: YOU KNOW, ONE OF
  • 00:52:18.050 --> 00:52:19.060
  • THE THINGS THAT I HOPE THAT THIS
  • 00:52:19.060 --> 00:52:19.280
  • PROGRAM HAS BLESSED YOUR LIFE AS
  • 00:52:19.280 --> 00:52:22.050
  • YOU'RE WATCHING THIS, THAT YOU
  • 00:52:22.050 --> 00:52:23.180
  • WOULD READ KNOWING THAT
  • 00:52:23.180 --> 00:52:25.000
  • WE WANT TO SET YOU FREE,
  • 00:52:25.000 --> 00:52:27.080
  • MEN, 'CAUSE MEN HAVE BEEN
  • 00:52:28.020 --> 00:52:31.020
  • INCARCERATED-- RIGHT?
  • 00:52:31.020 --> 00:52:32.070
  • -- BY SOCIETY.
  • 00:52:32.070 --> 00:52:32.210
  • WE JUST DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO.
  • 00:52:32.210 --> 00:52:34.000
  • WE DON'T KNOW HOW TO BEHAVE.
  • 00:52:34.000 --> 00:52:35.010
  • WE DON'T KNOW HOW TO ACT WITH
  • 00:52:35.010 --> 00:52:36.090
  • OUR SPOUSES, OUR CHILDREN, WITH
  • 00:52:36.090 --> 00:52:38.010
  • WOMEN IN THE CHURCH, SO WE WANT
  • 00:52:38.010 --> 00:52:39.110
  • TO ENCOURAGE YOU IN THIS PROGRAM
  • 00:52:39.110 --> 00:52:42.000
  • THAT IT'S OKAY TO BE A MAN, A
  • 00:52:42.000 --> 00:52:43.010
  • GODLY MAN, A MAN WHO LIVES FOR
  • 00:52:43.010 --> 00:52:45.040
  • JESUS, LOVES HIS WIFE, LOVES HIS
  • 00:52:45.040 --> 00:52:47.230
  • FAMILY, LOVES HIS COMMUNITY, AND
  • 00:52:47.230 --> 00:52:48.190
  • BE ABLE TO STAND UP.
  • 00:52:49.150 --> 00:52:52.150
  • ONE OF THE THINGS I SHARE ACROSS
  • 00:52:52.150 --> 00:52:53.280
  • THE COUNTRY IS THAT, WHEN A MAN
  • 00:52:53.280 --> 00:52:55.180
  • STANDS UP, THE BOY SITS DOWN,
  • 00:52:55.180 --> 00:52:56.200
  • AND WE NEED YOU TO TAKE YOUR
  • 00:52:56.200 --> 00:52:57.290
  • PLACE, YOUR RIGHTFUL PLACE--
  • 00:52:57.290 --> 00:52:59.120
  • [APPLAUSE]
  • 00:52:59.140 --> 00:53:02.160
  • -- YOUR GOD-GIVEN PLACE, AND
  • 00:53:02.160 --> 00:53:03.120
  • THIS BOOK, IT'S GOING TO PROVOKE
  • 00:53:03.120 --> 00:53:05.040
  • YOU.
  • 00:53:05.040 --> 00:53:06.280
  • IT'S GONNA DISTURB YOU BECAUSE
  • 00:53:06.280 --> 00:53:08.200
  • THERE'S-- MEN HAVE BECOME
  • 00:53:08.200 --> 00:53:10.070
  • EXTINCT LIKE THESE ELEPHANTS.
  • 00:53:10.070 --> 00:53:12.230
  • THEY HAVE TO BE TRANSPORTED--
  • 00:53:12.230 --> 00:53:13.240
  • RIGHT?
  • 00:53:13.240 --> 00:53:15.260
  • -- TO A PLACE WHERE THEY CAN
  • 00:53:15.260 --> 00:53:16.200
  • HAVE OTHER MEN TO MENTOR THEM,
  • 00:53:16.200 --> 00:53:18.040
  • AND THOSE ARE SOME OF THE
  • 00:53:18.040 --> 00:53:20.050
  • THINGS, THE MINISTRIES THAT YOU
  • 00:53:20.050 --> 00:53:21.080
  • GUYS ARE DOING THROUGH THAT CAMP
  • 00:53:21.080 --> 00:53:22.100
  • THAT YOU GUYS ARE HAVING THERE
  • 00:53:22.100 --> 00:53:23.170
  • IN CINCINNATI.
  • 00:53:23.170 --> 00:53:25.030
  • - BRIAN: EVERY CHURCH IS GONNA
  • 00:53:25.030 --> 00:53:25.250
  • HAVE TO CRACK THE CODE ON THIS.
  • 00:53:25.250 --> 00:53:27.200
  • WE HAVE A CRISIS IN CHRISTENDOM
  • 00:53:27.200 --> 00:53:28.270
  • IN OUR COUNTRY.
  • 00:53:28.270 --> 00:53:29.200
  • SEVENTY-SIX PERCENT OF ALL
  • 00:53:30.040 --> 00:53:33.040
  • CHRISTIAN BOOKS BOUGHT ARE
  • 00:53:33.040 --> 00:53:34.190
  • BOUGHT BY WOMEN.
  • 00:53:34.190 --> 00:53:36.110
  • SEVENTY PERCENT, AT LEAST, OF
  • 00:53:37.030 --> 00:53:40.030
  • EVERY CONGREGATION, IF YOU JUST
  • 00:53:40.030 --> 00:53:41.110
  • LOOK AT YOUR CONGREGATION, LOOK
  • 00:53:41.110 --> 00:53:42.030
  • AT THE PERCENTAGE THAT ARE IN
  • 00:53:42.030 --> 00:53:43.140
  • THERE OF WOMEN VERSUS MEN-- WAY,
  • 00:53:43.140 --> 00:53:45.230
  • WAY, WAY, WAY, WAY, WAY MORE.
  • 00:53:45.230 --> 00:53:47.240
  • THIS IS NOT THE CASE WITH OTHER
  • 00:53:47.240 --> 00:53:49.050
  • RELIGIONS.
  • 00:53:49.050 --> 00:53:50.050
  • ISLAM, FOR INSTANCE, IS VERY,
  • 00:53:50.050 --> 00:53:51.080
  • VERY STRONG IN BEING ABLE TO
  • 00:53:51.080 --> 00:53:53.190
  • REACH MEN.
  • 00:53:53.190 --> 00:53:55.080
  • MEN ARE VERY ENGAGED IN THEIR
  • 00:53:55.080 --> 00:53:56.060
  • FAITH IN ISLAM.
  • 00:53:56.060 --> 00:53:57.150
  • THIS HAS NOT ALWAYS BEEN THE WAY
  • 00:53:57.150 --> 00:53:59.080
  • IT IS IN CHRISTIANITY.
  • 00:53:59.080 --> 00:54:00.210
  • IT'S NOT, BUT IN TODAY, CURRENT,
  • 00:54:00.210 --> 00:54:02.250
  • MODERN-DAY AMERICA, WE'RE NOT
  • 00:54:02.250 --> 00:54:04.050
  • KNOWING HOW TO SPEAK TO MEN.
  • 00:54:04.050 --> 00:54:06.140
  • WE DON'T KNOW HOW TO REACH MEN
  • 00:54:06.140 --> 00:54:08.090
  • ANY LONGER.
  • 00:54:08.090 --> 00:54:09.140
  • WE DON'T KNOW HOW TO ENGAGE MEN.
  • 00:54:09.140 --> 00:54:10.110
  • WE DON'T KNOW HOW TO FIRE UP THE
  • 00:54:10.110 --> 00:54:12.030
  • CREATIVITY OF MEN.
  • 00:54:12.030 --> 00:54:13.180
  • CHURCHES HAVE GOTTA FIGURE THIS
  • 00:54:13.180 --> 00:54:14.200
  • OUT.
  • 00:54:14.200 --> 00:54:15.280
  • IT MAY NOT BE THE WAY THAT I'M
  • 00:54:15.280 --> 00:54:16.190
  • DOING IT OR THE WAY THAT
  • 00:54:16.190 --> 00:54:18.120
  • CROSSROADS IS DOING IT, BUT YOU
  • 00:54:18.120 --> 00:54:19.040
  • GOTTA FIGURE THIS NUT OUT
  • 00:54:19.040 --> 00:54:20.280
  • BECAUSE, AS MEN GO, SO GOES THE
  • 00:54:20.280 --> 00:54:22.100
  • CULTURE.
  • 00:54:22.100 --> 00:54:23.130
  • - WILFREDO: ABSOLUTELY, NO, I
  • 00:54:23.130 --> 00:54:24.040
  • AGREE WITH THAT.
  • 00:54:24.070 --> 00:54:27.070
  • AND THERE WAS A PERCENTAGE THAT
  • 00:54:27.070 --> 00:54:28.160
  • CAME OUT THAT, WHEN A CHILD GETS
  • 00:54:28.160 --> 00:54:29.190
  • SAVED IN THE CHURCH, I THINK 13%
  • 00:54:29.190 --> 00:54:31.170
  • OF THE FAMILY COMES TO CHURCH.
  • 00:54:31.170 --> 00:54:34.170
  • - BRIAN: AND IT'S 93% WHEN A
  • 00:54:34.170 --> 00:54:36.040
  • MAN COMES TO CHRIST FIRST.
  • 00:54:36.040 --> 00:54:38.000
  • WHEN A MAN COMES TO FAITH FIRST,
  • 00:54:38.000 --> 00:54:40.020
  • IT'S 93% OF THE FAMILY FOLLOWS.
  • 00:54:40.020 --> 00:54:41.040
  • - WILFREDO: WOW, WOW, WOW, WOW.
  • 00:54:41.040 --> 00:54:41.260
  • [APPLAUSE]
  • 00:54:43.080 --> 00:54:46.080
  • LISTEN, WE'RE LIVIN' IN SOME
  • 00:54:46.080 --> 00:54:47.150
  • EXCITING DAYS, AN OPPORTUNITY
  • 00:54:47.260 --> 00:54:50.260
  • FOR THE MEN, THE MEN OF GOD, TO
  • 00:54:50.260 --> 00:54:52.030
  • TAKE THEIR PLACE IN THE LOCAL
  • 00:54:52.030 --> 00:54:53.110
  • CHURCH.
  • 00:54:53.110 --> 00:54:54.000
  • - BRIAN: YEAH, PEOPLE JUST CLAP
  • 00:54:54.000 --> 00:54:55.290
  • ABOUT 93% OF THE-- THERE REALLY
  • 00:54:56.160 --> 00:54:59.160
  • SHOULDN'T BE ANY CLAPPING ABOUT
  • 00:54:59.160 --> 00:55:00.210
  • THAT BECAUSE MEN AREN'T COMING
  • 00:55:00.210 --> 00:55:01.190
  • TO CHRIST, WHICH IS WHY THE
  • 00:55:01.190 --> 00:55:02.290
  • CHURCH IS IN DECLINE IN AMERICA.
  • 00:55:02.290 --> 00:55:04.170
  • YOU KNOW, THAT TRUTH IS REAL,
  • 00:55:04.170 --> 00:55:07.120
  • BUT WE'RE NOT LEVERAGING THAT,
  • 00:55:07.120 --> 00:55:09.250
  • AND WE'RE SEEING THE STRESS
  • 00:55:09.250 --> 00:55:11.130
  • FRACTURES IN OUR CHURCHES, AND
  • 00:55:11.130 --> 00:55:13.050
  • IF WE DON'T CHANGE THAT SOMEHOW,
  • 00:55:13.050 --> 00:55:15.070
  • IT'S NOT GONNA BE GOOD FOR THE
  • 00:55:15.070 --> 00:55:17.060
  • FUTURE OF AMERICA.
  • 00:55:17.060 --> 00:55:17.290
  • - WILFREDO: HEY, LET ME JUST
  • 00:55:17.290 --> 00:55:19.070
  • TAKE A QUICK POLL HERE IN THE
  • 00:55:19.070 --> 00:55:20.130
  • AUDIENCE, AND HOW MANY OF YOU
  • 00:55:20.130 --> 00:55:22.040
  • ALL WERE RAISED IN A
  • 00:55:22.040 --> 00:55:23.270
  • SINGLE-FAMILY HOME?
  • 00:55:23.270 --> 00:55:25.170
  • RAISE YOUR HAND IF YOU WERE
  • 00:55:25.170 --> 00:55:26.190
  • RAISED IN A SINGLE-FAMILY HOME.
  • 00:55:26.190 --> 00:55:27.140
  • SO WE HAVE A GOOD DIVISION HERE
  • 00:55:27.140 --> 00:55:28.190
  • OF THAT.
  • 00:55:28.190 --> 00:55:29.260
  • AND SO YOU COULD SEE THE NEED OF
  • 00:55:29.260 --> 00:55:31.160
  • THIS, AND HERE'S WHAT I WANNA
  • 00:55:31.160 --> 00:55:33.160
  • DO.
  • 00:55:33.160 --> 00:55:34.200
  • FOR THE NEXT FEW SECONDS THAT WE
  • 00:55:34.200 --> 00:55:36.060
  • HAVE WITH YOU HERE, AND THOSE
  • 00:55:36.060 --> 00:55:37.080
  • THAT ARE WATCHIN' ACROSS THE
  • 00:55:37.080 --> 00:55:38.120
  • WORLD, I WANNA ENCOURAGE YOU,
  • 00:55:38.120 --> 00:55:40.080
  • FIRST OF ALL, MEN, TO STAND UP,
  • 00:55:40.080 --> 00:55:42.220
  • TAKE YOUR PLACE IN THE KINGDOM
  • 00:55:42.220 --> 00:55:45.010
  • OF GOD.
  • 00:55:45.010 --> 00:55:46.070
  • SO LET'S-- WOULD YOU JUST STAND
  • 00:55:46.070 --> 00:55:46.290
  • WITH ME THIS EVENING AND BE ABLE
  • 00:55:46.290 --> 00:55:48.240
  • TO JUST PRAY?
  • 00:55:48.240 --> 00:55:50.150
  • BE ABLE TO PRAY FOR THE MEN AND
  • 00:55:50.290 --> 00:55:53.290
  • PRAY FOR WHAT'S HAPPENIN' IN OUR
  • 00:55:53.290 --> 00:55:55.110
  • CULTURE TODAY.
  • 00:55:55.110 --> 00:55:56.260
  • WOULD YOU JUST BEGIN TO JUST
  • 00:55:56.260 --> 00:55:57.160
  • PRAY RIGHT NOW?
  • 00:55:57.160 --> 00:55:59.080
  • AND THOSE THAT ARE WATCHING
  • 00:55:59.080 --> 00:56:00.160
  • ACROSS THIS NATION, AROUND THE
  • 00:56:00.160 --> 00:56:01.210
  • WORLD, LET ME JUST PRAY: FATHER,
  • 00:56:01.210 --> 00:56:02.290
  • IN THE NAME OF JESUS, WE COME
  • 00:56:02.290 --> 00:56:04.290
  • BEFORE YOU RIGHT NOW, AND WE
  • 00:56:04.290 --> 00:56:07.050
  • DECLARE AND DECREE, WE DECLARE
  • 00:56:07.050 --> 00:56:09.140
  • AND DECREE THAT MEN WOULD COME
  • 00:56:09.230 --> 00:56:12.230
  • OUT OF THEIR CAGES.
  • 00:56:12.230 --> 00:56:14.190
  • SET THEM FREE.
  • 00:56:14.190 --> 00:56:17.160
  • LET THEM BE MEN OF VISION.
  • 00:56:17.160 --> 00:56:19.160
  • LET THEM BE MEN OF TEAM.
  • 00:56:19.160 --> 00:56:21.260
  • LET THEM BE MEN, THEIR GOD THAT
  • 00:56:21.260 --> 00:56:23.090
  • STANDS UP IN THEIR COMMUNITY.
  • 00:56:23.090 --> 00:56:25.060
  • OH, GOD, I PRAY RIGHT NOW THAT
  • 00:56:25.060 --> 00:56:28.040
  • YOU WOULD BLESS, BLESS THE
  • 00:56:28.080 --> 00:56:31.080
  • CHURCH AND ALL THE MEN THAT ARE
  • 00:56:32.020 --> 00:56:35.020
  • WATCHING RIGHT NOW THAT THEY
  • 00:56:35.020 --> 00:56:37.090
  • WOULD BE INSPIRED TO BE MENTORS
  • 00:56:37.210 --> 00:56:40.210
  • AND LEADERS IN THEIR LOCAL
  • 00:56:40.210 --> 00:56:42.220
  • SCHOOLS.
  • 00:56:42.220 --> 00:56:44.100
  • THANK YOU FOR MY BROTHER BRIAN.
  • 00:56:44.100 --> 00:56:45.200
  • THANK YOU FOR HIM BEING A PART
  • 00:56:45.200 --> 00:56:48.160
  • OF THE MINORITY AND THIS MESSAGE
  • 00:56:48.160 --> 00:56:50.160
  • THAT IS SO CRUCIAL RIGHT NOW,
  • 00:56:50.160 --> 00:56:51.290
  • AND WE THANK YOU, GOD.
  • 00:56:51.290 --> 00:56:53.270
  • WE THANK YOU IN ADVANCE FOR WHAT
  • 00:56:53.270 --> 00:56:55.150
  • YOU'RE ABOUT TO DO IN AMERICA,
  • 00:56:55.150 --> 00:56:56.280
  • AN AWAKENING THAT WOULD HAPPEN
  • 00:56:56.280 --> 00:56:58.240
  • IN THIS NATION, AND WE PROMISE
  • 00:56:58.240 --> 00:57:01.050
  • TO GIVE YOU ALL THE GLORY, ALL
  • 00:57:01.050 --> 00:57:02.290
  • THE HONOR AND PRAISE, IN JESUS'
  • 00:57:02.290 --> 00:57:05.190
  • NAME, AMEN AND AMEN, AND AMEN.
  • 00:57:05.190 --> 00:57:08.000
  • GOD BLESS YOU ALL.
  • 00:57:08.000 --> 00:57:09.070
  • GOD BLESS YOU.
  • 00:57:09.070 --> 00:57:10.240
  • THANK YOU.
  • 00:57:10.240 --> 00:57:11.190
  • [MUSIC]
  • 00:57:14.120 --> 00:57:15.160