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God's Answer For Anger

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July 5, 2020
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Dr. Jack Graham's mission is to glorify God by introducing Jesus Christ to as Lord to all people.

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God's Answer For Anger

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  • So many angry people inour world. The world is a
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  • violent place now. A dangerousplace. You shouldn't be
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  • surprised because the Scripturesay says in the last days
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  • perilous, dangerous, scary timeswill come, and it's getting
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  • pretty scary, isn't it? So muchanger. Our nation seems to be so
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  • angry, so violent. And peopleare mad; many are mad all the
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  • time, just filled with either aneternal rage that seethes and
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  • burns within or the outbursts ofanger that we see displayed. The
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  • other day Deb and I were justout for a nice breakfast on a
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  • Saturday morning and we wererolling down the street, came to
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  • a stoplight nearby here and wenoticed that two guys were
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  • getting out of their truck, onein front, one in back. Clearly
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  • they were shouting at eachother. And the next thing you
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  • know, these guys are doubling upand squaring off, and they're
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  • going to fight in the middle ofthe intersection. Now when is
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  • the last time you actually saw afist fight? This was a fist
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  • fight. It didn't last long. Theone guy took the other guy down
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  • and began kicking him in thehead. And then they both just
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  • jumped back in their trucks anddrove off like nothing happened.
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  • And I'm thinking to myself,"What just happened?" Deb is
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  • saying, "Call the police; callthe police." I said, "I'm not
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  • calling anybody." [laughter]Maybe we should have. I don't
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  • know but... I thought, "On aSaturday morning? Two guys
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  • driving their trucks and they'reduking it out in the middle of
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  • an intersection!". There's somuch rage. And, for so many
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  • people it's something down deepinside of them. And you have
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  • become a different personbecause of it. There's no peace;
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  • there's constant striving andstrife and there's just anger
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  • that boils over when someonepushes you or shoves you in some
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  • way emotionally or with theirwords. And then it happens. You
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  • don't know why but it's becauseyou've not received God's anger
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  • answer... answer for anger. Andwe find this answer in many
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  • places in Scripture, but inEphesians chapter 4, beginning
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  • verse 26 it says: 26) Be angryand do not sin; do not let the
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  • sun go down on your anger (orwrath) (And watch this, verse
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  • 27), 27) and give no opportunityto the devil. Key verse, coming
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  • back to that in just a moment.But scan down to verse 30: 30)
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  • And do not grieve the HolySpirit of God, by whom you were
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  • sealed for the day ofredemption. 31) Let all
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  • bitterness and wrath and angerand clamor and slander be put
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  • away from you, along with allmalice. And here's God's answer
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  • for anger, verse 32: 32) Be kindto one another, tenderhearted,
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  • forgiving one another, as God inChrist forgave you. So this
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  • sermon in one sentence is this:God's answers for our anger...
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  • for your anger is forgiveness...forgiveness. Now there are two
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  • kinds of anger. There is ungodlyanger and there is godly anger.
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  • You say, what could be a godlyanger? There must be some kind
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  • of anger that is not sinfulanger, that is a kind of
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  • sanctified anger, if you will, arighteous anger. Not an
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  • unrighteous anger, because verse26 says, "Be angry and do not
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  • sin." So what is a healthyanger? Did you know the Bible
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  • tells us that [Psalm 7:11] "Godis angry with the wicked every
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  • day"? Do you know that the Biblesays that the wrath of God...
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  • God's burning anger is executedin judgment over unbelieving and
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  • unrepentant people? You know ifyou read your Bible that God who
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  • is love will judge all sin, andall sinful people who do not
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  • repent of their sin. This is whyGod sent his only son, Jesus
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  • Christ, to die on the cross foryour sins, to rise on the third
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  • day. This good news of theGospel, because [2 Peter 3:9]
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  • "God is not willing that anyshould perish, but that all
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  • should come to repentance." Andyet... and yet, yes, God will
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  • judge with holy wrath sinfulpeople who do not come to find
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  • forgiveness and healing and hopein Christ. That is a fact. So,
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  • if it is a fact that God Himselfis angry with sin and sinful
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  • behavior, then it's possible tobe angry, to even have a godly
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  • anger towards sin and towardssinful behavior. It reminds me
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  • that in our generation as inevery generation there are some
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  • things that ought to make usangry! Racial prejudice, racial
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  • hate ought to make us angry! Itought to stir righteous
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  • indignation in the soul of abeliever! Enough that we would
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  • respond and speak truth in love,and act and fight for what is
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  • right! [applause] So... You say,"Pastor, you're getting all
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  • worked up!" Exactly! We shouldget worked up and respond and
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  • speak the truth and bring theGospel... Romans 12:21 "to
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  • overcome evil with good... toovercome evil with good." That's
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  • what God has called us to do.But there... there's another
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  • kind of anger. It is anunresolved anger and bitterness
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  • that is seen often in the heartsof people, unregenerate,
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  • unbelieving people... butunfortunately, it's also seen in
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  • the hearts of believers... inthe lives of believers. Because,
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  • remember, this passage inEphesians 4 was written to
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  • believers. So, anger's aproblem! It seems... One study
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  • indicates that anger shows up inthe average person's life 8 to
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  • 10 times a day in some way. Ifyou say you never get angry,
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  • then you need to repent offalsehood because you do get
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  • angry! And so do I; I admit it!And I'm not talking about
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  • righteous anger here, butunrighteous anger. And verse 26,
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  • again, if you look at it, says:"Do not let the sun go down on
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  • your anger." In other words,don't go to bed with your anger.
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  • Don't allow your anger to livein your house because if you do,
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  • do you know what's happening ifyou are living with anger? - And
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  • I've discovered as a pastorthrough the years that many
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  • people live year after yearafter year with some kind of
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  • anger and resentment andbitterness in their life. I
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  • think it's the number oneproblem in the church in America
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  • today. There are so many angrypeople and that constitutes
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  • angry churches. Anger... it'swhat's breaking our homes...
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  • ripping our homes apart,marriages, families. And this
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  • anger that so many people feelon a constant basis ultimately
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  • is devastating in peoples'lives. Because, you know why?
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  • Look at verse 27. It says "giveno opportunity to the devil."
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  • Anger opens the door of yourheart, your life, your home,
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  • your family to the power of theenemy and to the bondage of
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  • Satan himself. There are satanicstrongholds in peoples' lives
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  • because of anger. Notice whathappens when the devil gets a
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  • foothold, when the devil getsin. Verse 31. It starts with
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  • bitterness. Unresolved angerbecomes bitterness, and
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  • bitterness is rage within. It'sresentment. I've known many
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  • people who are embittered aboutcircumstances in their lives,
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  • problems they're facing, someonein their life... someone who
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  • hurt them... someone who saidsomething and people are bitter.
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  • I've known people who are angrywith God, bitter with God,
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  • bitter with the church. Angrywith themselves, bitter! They're
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  • bitter people. And according toHebrews, it's described as a
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  • root of bitterness. A root goesdown deep; it's unseen, but the
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  • bitter fruit of bitterness isall this anger and outrageous
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  • behavior that you can see in aperson's life... We'll get to
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  • that in just a moment, but it'sdown deep within. That's the
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  • anger. That's why it doesn'thave to be outward; it can be
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  • inward; it can be very, verystrong on the inside. That's
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  • bitterness. It's resentment.It's an inside job. And some of
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  • you know it because the HolySpirit right now is speaking to
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  • you, and like a Great Physician,is moving around and showing you
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  • some area of bitterness in yourlife, unresolved, unrepentant,
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  • sinful, anger.
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  • But then, noticewhat happens beyond bitterness.
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  • He talks about wrath. Nowbitterness turns to burning!
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  • This is the burning, theagitation, the aggravation,
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  • constantly churning in aperson's life. And it doesn't
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  • take but a spark to get a firegoing. This past week I was
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  • wanting to burn some wood. So, Ihave a fire pit and I was trying
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  • to get rid of some wood becausemy wood has become a... a pile
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  • for rats and other kinds ofvarmints, so I'm burning up the
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  • wood. And... now I failed BoyScouts because I couldn't do
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  • this stuff very well. So, I gotthe fire going, and I had a
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  • really good fire going. So, Idecide I'm going to throw
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  • another log on. Get this donequickly, get rid of this wood.
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  • So, I threw a log on the fire.And because I just threw it in
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  • there, sparks went everywhere.And the next thing you know, my
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  • yards on fire! [laughter] Imean, I got a fire! I got a
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  • grass fire going! Thankfully,there was a garden hose right
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  • next to it and I get that thingout. Now I'm a fireman... I put
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  • the fire out and it all goesaway. And I'm thinking there's a
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  • parable in this for the people[laughter] because you got a
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  • fire going on the inside!Somebody throws a log on it;
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  • somebody does the wrong thing...says the wrong thing, next thing
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  • you know the sparks are flying,and then you've got a fire in
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  • your yard that can burn thehouse down! Unless you put it
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  • out! It speaks of anger. There'sbitterness, there's wrath,
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  • there's anger. Now it'sbeginning to show up on your
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  • face, on your countenance.There's no signs of joy,
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  • evidence of peace. There's ascowl. And the interesting thing
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  • that happens with anger is theflight... fight or flight
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  • syndrome kicks in and it beginsto affect you physically. You
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  • may clench your fists, your bodymay shake, your face may get
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  • red, your eyes narrow, and whilein problems like anxiety,
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  • depression... those kinds ofthings, it drains you
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  • emotionally and physically. Whathappens in anger is the
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  • adrenaline kicks in and itactually adrenalizes you and
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  • energizes you at some level.You're ready to get after it
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  • now; you're ready to fightsomebody! And that's anger, and
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  • now the devil's in deeper. Thenext thing the devil does is
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  • this clamor. Now, that's a wordyou probably haven't used in
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  • your vocabulary this week.Clamor. He was clamoring. What
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  • is that? It actually means loudspeaking. To shout! It's what
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  • happens when you get in anargument and the voices get
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  • raised, and now somebody saysstop shouting at me. "I'M NOT
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  • SHOUTING AT YOU!" [laughter]"Don't raise your voice!" "I'M
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  • NOT RAISING MY VOICE!" That'sclamoring, that's shouting. And
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  • it's generally accompanied byprofanity and cursing. Do you
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  • not think this stuff grieves theHoly Spirit? Of course, it does.
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  • Earlier in verse 29 in Ephesians4, it says, "Let no corrupt talk
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  • come out of your mouth, but onlysuch as is good for building up,
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  • as fits the occasion, that itmay give grace to those who hear
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  • it." You say, "I'll just givepeople a piece of my mind. I'll
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  • tell them off." And the nextthing you know, the shouting
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  • turns to outbursts; it meansoutbursts of anger, laced often
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  • with profanity and blasphemy.And remember, many people have
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  • grown up in this kind ofenvironment. The shouting, the
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  • arguing, the hatefulness, thespitefulness. Maybe you, some of
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  • you grew up in that kind ofenvironment and you need to
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  • break that chain in your ownlife. Your little kids are
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  • hearing this stuff. If you'regoing to have an argument with
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  • your wife and you're going tohave arguments with your wife or
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  • your husband. If you haven't hadan argument... You say, "I've
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  • never had an argument with myspouse", then I really doubt
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  • you've really been married.[laughter] Of course, you have.
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  • Deb and I have had somearguments. At least discussions
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  • that you can hear several blocksaway some times. [laughter] It's
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  • like Mrs. Ruth Graham said, "Youknow, I've never considered
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  • divorce. I've never considereddivorcing my husband Billy
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  • Graham." She said, "Murder a fewtimes, yes, but not divorce!"
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  • But if you're going to have...I'm not talking about
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  • disagreements. The kids knowyou're not perfect. You're going
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  • to have disagreements. But thiskind of outrage and anger and
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  • abusiveness. Don't let yourlittle kids... You solve this.
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  • Don't let the sun go down onyour wrath. Settle it, solve it.
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  • Don't expose your family tofilthy talk. You know what the
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  • word corrupt there in verse27... 29 means? It means rotten,
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  • filthy rotten words. Now thedevil's really in it. That's all
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  • spewing out. But he's notfinished. And slander... put it
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  • away from you. I've noticed thatpeople who are angry all the
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  • time in particularly... theylike to tell other people about
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  • it. You ever noticed that? Angrypeople like to tell every body
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  • else how angry they are. And ittypically comes with slander or
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  • lies or gossip. You're nevermore like the devil than when
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  • you're slandering people,because the devil whose very
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  • name means the accuser, theslanderer. So your angry... your
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  • angry about something...somebody said something,
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  • somebody did something so youjust want to talk, talk, talk,
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  • talk, talk and slander peoplebecause of it. That grieves the
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  • Holy Spirit. That invites thedevil in. Now the anger turns to
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  • words. Words like, "I hate you,""I wish I'd never married you."
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  • "Go to hell." Or worse. That'sslander. You'd think that would
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  • be enough but the devil's notdone yet. There's something
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  • else, end of verse 31. It'smalice... malice. And now you're
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  • actually ready... Malice meansmad... turns from mad to mad men
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  • and women. Malice. You're readyto fight somebody. You're ready
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  • to hit somebody. You're ready tojump out of a truck and duke it
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  • out! Or bully someone with yourwords. Or actually hit your wife
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  • or abuse a child. God help youbecause now you're in bondage to
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  • the power of Satan in your life.And you know why? It's all
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  • because you didn't start back uphere and start dealing with your
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  • anger a long time ago when thesun was coming up and down. It's
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  • been many suns up and down andmany moons for some of you since
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  • you've dealt with your anger.And if you don't, it's going to
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  • turn into this, I'm telling you,because you don't know what
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  • Satan can do with a life. Again,think of the spark; think of my
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  • fire; it can burn everythingdown. Anger! No way to live. It
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  • can actually kill you, by theway. I wonder if your anger is
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  • worth dying for? So what is theanswer? Verse 32. Thank God,
  • 00:22:47.756 --> 00:22:59.367
  • it's in the Bible: "Be kind toone another, tenderhearted,
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  • forgiving one another, as God inChrist has forgiven you." How
  • 00:23:02.737 --> 00:23:06.808
  • has God in Christ forgiven us?Totally and completely. The word
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  • forgiveness, you know what itmeans? It means to pay a debt.
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  • We owed a debt we could not payand Jesus paid a debt He did not
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  • owe... our debt. That'sforgiveness. You say, "You don't
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  • know what that person said tome. You don't know what they did
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  • to me. It was terrible. It wasawful. I can't stop thinking
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  • about it. I can't stop obsessingover it. I know it's wrong, but
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  • I cannot forgive. You don'tknow, pastor, what that person
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  • did to me." No, I don't. But Iknow what they did to Jesus.
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  • They stripped Him bare, whippedHim, mocked Him, cursed Him,
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  • blasphemed Him. He voluntarilylaid down
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  • His life into the hands ofsinful men for you sins and
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  • mine, but they beat Him withinan inch of His life, they nailed
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  • Him to a cross, they spit onHim, God's pure and perfect Lamb
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  • of God! And Jesus on the crossamong the first words that He
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  • said, [Luke 23:34] "Father,forgive them for they know not
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  • what they do." "Forgive oneanother as God in Christ has
  • 00:24:25.587 --> 00:24:31.560
  • forgiven you." Forgiveness isnot
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  • about the other person; it'sabout you. It's you, and when
  • 00:24:34.596 --> 00:24:46.341
  • you forgive someone, you set thecaptive free. And the captive
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  • you set free is you. You're nolonger living in the chains of
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  • the past and the pain of theabuse or the anger of whatever
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  • happened. You can live free whenyou forgive as God in Christ has
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  • forgiven you. When we areobsessing about what happened on
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  • a person who hurt us... becausemost anger comes because we're
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  • hurt in some way. It can be aminor offense but some people
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  • are so easily offended. Try tolive so that you're not easily
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  • offended. But so many people arealways on edge and always ready
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  • to be angry, ready to reactrather than to respond in love
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  • and kindness. But God is sayingI want to exchange My love,
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  • forgiveness and kindness... theloving kindness of God for your
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  • anger, for your rage, for yourbitterness, for your pain. You
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  • can break free of the bondage.How? Repentance... Repentance
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  • which means to change the wayyou think and admit, own it. You
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  • can't repent for somebody else,but you can repent for yourself.
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  • So confess it; don't nurse,don't rehearse it, don't
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  • converse it by talking about itall the time. Because any moment
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  • you're focused on the hurt, thepain, that's another day,
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  • another day that you go to bedangry and you don't get your
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  • eyes on Jesus. Get your eyes offyour anger and off the person
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  • who angers you, and get youreyes on Jesus! Obsess over Him
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  • the forgiveness of God has givenyou. And the same God who has
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  • forgiven you will free you andthe anger by the power of the
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  • Holy Spirit. You say, "That's...that's unnatural." Absolutely,
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  • this is supernatural. It's thesupernatural work of God in your
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  • life. Don't you want that?
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