Keep It in the Elevator | TBN

Keep It in the Elevator

Watch Keep It in the Elevator
November 15, 2016
28:31

Living by Faith with Mike & DeeDee Freeman

Closed captions

Keep It in the Elevator

Show timecode
Hide timecode
  • because I'm adding value to who they are.
  • 00:00:01.220 --> 00:00:04.110
  • "Okay baby, let's get this spinach thing done.
  • 00:00:04.110 --> 00:00:07.000
  • "But I also wanna make sure you will
  • 00:00:07.000 --> 00:00:10.040
  • "at least get a scoop of ice cream."
  • 00:00:10.040 --> 00:00:13.010
  • It was the value I had in my house
  • 00:00:13.010 --> 00:00:16.200
  • that literally caused them to know
  • 00:00:16.200 --> 00:00:19.000
  • that my role as your child is as equally
  • 00:00:19.000 --> 00:00:22.190
  • as significant and important as your role as father.
  • 00:00:22.190 --> 00:00:26.150
  • Today, on Living by Faith...
  • 00:01:00.250 --> 00:01:02.060
  • And I don't really mind the methodologies
  • 00:01:02.060 --> 00:01:02.120
  • that are incorporated or embraced, governor in church.
  • 00:01:03.110 --> 00:01:06.010
  • I really don't.
  • 00:01:06.010 --> 00:01:07.070
  • I do mind the changing of a message.
  • 00:01:07.070 --> 00:01:11.200
  • You now, the method may change
  • 00:01:11.200 --> 00:01:14.090
  • but the message should never change.
  • 00:01:14.090 --> 00:01:16.190
  • And this is just bait.
  • 00:01:16.190 --> 00:01:18.040
  • And in fishing I believe the bait can change
  • 00:01:18.040 --> 00:01:22.070
  • but the hook should never change.
  • 00:01:22.070 --> 00:01:24.140
  • taught me a lesson concerning that.
  • 00:01:27.080 --> 00:01:27.280
  • He said "What is the prerequisite of following me?"
  • 00:01:28.110 --> 00:01:30.260
  • And I couldn't brother Dogen,
  • 00:01:30.260 --> 00:01:32.100
  • I couldn't right off answer.
  • 00:01:32.100 --> 00:01:35.120
  • I was trying.
  • 00:01:35.120 --> 00:01:36.190
  • Because it sound like the Holy Spirit had
  • 00:01:36.190 --> 00:01:40.040
  • a little hostility in his voice.
  • 00:01:40.040 --> 00:01:42.170
  • It was like "No, what is the prerequisite
  • 00:01:42.170 --> 00:01:45.280
  • "of following me boy."
  • 00:01:45.280 --> 00:01:47.260
  • It came across almost like that in my Spirit.
  • 00:01:47.260 --> 00:01:51.250
  • And I went through this process you know.
  • 00:01:52.060 --> 00:01:54.270
  • I'm digging around in my heart
  • 00:01:54.270 --> 00:01:57.040
  • and I'm saying "Okay, it's to confess Jesus Christ
  • 00:01:57.040 --> 00:02:00.020
  • "as Lord and believe in your heart."
  • 00:02:00.020 --> 00:02:02.230
  • He said "No, that is not the prerequisite of following me.
  • 00:02:02.230 --> 00:02:06.090
  • "That's how you accept me."
  • 00:02:06.090 --> 00:02:08.070
  • And so now I'm saying "I'm not feeling well."
  • 00:02:08.070 --> 00:02:11.240
  • (audience laughs)
  • 00:02:11.240 --> 00:02:15.110
  • I ain't feeling so good.
  • 00:02:15.110 --> 00:02:16.260
  • Come on, how many of you all know
  • 00:02:16.260 --> 00:02:17.250
  • we make some excuses at times.
  • 00:02:17.250 --> 00:02:19.250
  • We trying to come up with something
  • 00:02:19.250 --> 00:02:21.040
  • give ourselves passes all the time.
  • 00:02:21.040 --> 00:02:23.130
  • And so He said "It's deny yourself, it's deny yourself."
  • 00:02:23.130 --> 00:02:27.270
  • And then pointed me to the scripture.
  • 00:02:27.270 --> 00:02:29.190
  • He says "If a man desires to follow me
  • 00:02:29.190 --> 00:02:31.230
  • "the prerequisite in following me is denying yourself."
  • 00:02:31.230 --> 00:02:35.150
  • The prerequisite of denying yourself is humbling yourself.
  • 00:02:35.150 --> 00:02:39.090
  • If you never humble yourself you will never deny yourself.
  • 00:02:39.090 --> 00:02:43.200
  • Now what's preventing you from humbling yourself?
  • 00:02:43.200 --> 00:02:47.020
  • And you may not admit to this right away,
  • 00:02:47.020 --> 00:02:49.070
  • but if you'll examine your life you will find out
  • 00:02:49.070 --> 00:02:52.190
  • that pride is the number one enemy
  • 00:02:52.190 --> 00:02:55.160
  • to your not humbling yourself.
  • 00:02:55.160 --> 00:02:58.010
  • You can't humble yourself because you don't deny yourself.
  • 00:02:58.010 --> 00:03:02.240
  • Because of the pride, and if the pride is there
  • 00:03:03.180 --> 00:03:06.100
  • you will never be.
  • 00:03:06.100 --> 00:03:07.160
  • Did I make that clear enough for them?
  • 00:03:07.160 --> 00:03:09.140
  • And so when the Lord begin to share it with me,
  • 00:03:10.180 --> 00:03:12.260
  • He said "Stop fighting for your way."
  • 00:03:12.260 --> 00:03:15.160
  • He said "I've proven to you through this episode
  • 00:03:18.150 --> 00:03:21.210
  • "that I will be with you even until the end of the earth.
  • 00:03:21.210 --> 00:03:25.000
  • "Just like I protected you in this attack when Satan
  • 00:03:25.000 --> 00:03:28.010
  • "tried to kill you, I'll protect you in every area."
  • 00:03:28.010 --> 00:03:31.110
  • It changed my life!
  • 00:03:31.110 --> 00:03:33.180
  • I promise you, it changed my life!
  • 00:03:33.180 --> 00:03:36.010
  • Even in our relationship, I don't have to push my way.
  • 00:03:36.010 --> 00:03:39.210
  • Most of the relationships are argumentive relationships,
  • 00:03:39.210 --> 00:03:43.170
  • that the arguments that you have.
  • 00:03:43.170 --> 00:03:45.140
  • Would you help me please?
  • 00:03:45.140 --> 00:03:47.110
  • The arguments we have in relationship
  • 00:03:48.050 --> 00:03:50.250
  • is based upon somebody wanting their way.
  • 00:03:51.010 --> 00:03:55.120
  • Now I know I'm always right.
  • 00:03:55.120 --> 00:03:57.270
  • That's the thing she needs to embrace
  • 00:03:57.270 --> 00:04:01.100
  • and understand and go with.
  • 00:04:01.100 --> 00:04:04.120
  • I'm always right. - [DeeDee] I go with it.
  • 00:04:04.120 --> 00:04:05.240
  • - [Pastor] Come on men, how many of you men
  • 00:04:05.240 --> 00:04:07.120
  • are always right?
  • 00:04:07.120 --> 00:04:08.210
  • You know you're right.
  • 00:04:08.210 --> 00:04:09.210
  • - [DeeDee] I just go with it.
  • 00:04:09.210 --> 00:04:10.150
  • - You would not be
  • 00:04:10.150 --> 00:04:11.250
  • throwing the shoes - [DeeDee] You are always right.
  • 00:04:11.250 --> 00:04:13.170
  • - [Pastor] and the television sets around the room,
  • 00:04:13.170 --> 00:04:16.100
  • if in fact you were not right.
  • 00:04:16.100 --> 00:04:18.190
  • That's why you're so passionate
  • 00:04:18.190 --> 00:04:20.090
  • because you're right.
  • 00:04:20.090 --> 00:04:21.180
  • - [DeeDee] Mmm hmm, mmm hmmm.
  • 00:04:21.180 --> 00:04:24.110
  • Yup, I agree, I just let you go with it.
  • 00:04:24.110 --> 00:04:27.280
  • - And so because we're right--
  • 00:04:27.280 --> 00:04:29.120
  • - When I know you're always right I can
  • 00:04:29.120 --> 00:04:31.020
  • just rest assure know that if you're not,
  • 00:04:31.020 --> 00:04:34.030
  • God will sure tell ya.
  • 00:04:34.030 --> 00:04:36.050
  • - And so I was interested in...
  • 00:04:36.050 --> 00:04:39.120
  • (audience laughs)
  • 00:04:39.120 --> 00:04:42.090
  • (DeeDee laughs)
  • 00:04:49.150 --> 00:04:50.110
  • - One statement.
  • 00:04:50.110 --> 00:04:51.200
  • - Come on, stay with the Pastor.
  • 00:04:52.190 --> 00:04:54.100
  • - They with you, they with you.
  • 00:04:55.080 --> 00:04:56.190
  • - No really, I mean because and then the Lord
  • 00:04:56.190 --> 00:04:59.130
  • showed me that, He said "You don't have to
  • 00:04:59.130 --> 00:05:02.230
  • "go off like that and prove that you are right.
  • 00:05:03.010 --> 00:05:06.150
  • "You're fighting for something that I told you
  • 00:05:06.150 --> 00:05:09.090
  • "that I will straighten out myself."
  • 00:05:09.090 --> 00:05:11.030
  • And now that I'm chill, you know,
  • 00:05:11.030 --> 00:05:13.250
  • if DeeDee don't understand I'm right,
  • 00:05:13.250 --> 00:05:15.250
  • I'll just sit back, Holy Spirit let her know
  • 00:05:15.250 --> 00:05:18.060
  • "You know he's right."
  • 00:05:18.060 --> 00:05:19.220
  • And then she'll come to me and say "Oh baby you were right."
  • 00:05:19.220 --> 00:05:21.080
  • And it works every single time now.
  • 00:05:21.080 --> 00:05:24.090
  • It does. - [DeeDee] Mmm hmm.
  • 00:05:24.240 --> 00:05:26.020
  • And she realize it.
  • 00:05:26.020 --> 00:05:27.070
  • But the Spirit of God took care of it.
  • 00:05:27.070 --> 00:05:28.240
  • Oppose to me, ranting and raging around the house.
  • 00:05:28.240 --> 00:05:32.060
  • And then it literally revealed to me the
  • 00:05:32.060 --> 00:05:35.290
  • immaturity Joy that I was walking in.
  • 00:05:35.290 --> 00:05:39.020
  • He says "She's getting on your nerve because
  • 00:05:39.020 --> 00:05:41.190
  • "you don't have what you should have built in you.
  • 00:05:41.190 --> 00:05:45.040
  • "And you're immature and that's why
  • 00:05:45.040 --> 00:05:47.150
  • "she's getting on your nerve."
  • 00:05:47.150 --> 00:05:48.280
  • Now she has not stopped.
  • 00:05:48.280 --> 00:05:50.230
  • I repeat, she has not stopped doing
  • 00:05:50.230 --> 00:05:53.180
  • the things that she wants to.
  • 00:05:53.180 --> 00:05:55.110
  • But it no longer gets on my nerve.
  • 00:05:55.110 --> 00:05:57.120
  • It doesn't get on my nerve because it's my choice!
  • 00:05:57.120 --> 00:06:01.020
  • It's my choice to determine whether something
  • 00:06:01.020 --> 00:06:04.050
  • is gonna aggravate me or something is going.
  • 00:06:04.050 --> 00:06:07.050
  • Are you all hearing what I'm saying to you?!
  • 00:06:07.050 --> 00:06:09.190
  • And so if we all take the responsibility
  • 00:06:09.190 --> 00:06:13.030
  • of owning our response and growing up spiritually,
  • 00:06:13.030 --> 00:06:17.100
  • and being accountable for who Jesus says we are,
  • 00:06:17.100 --> 00:06:20.160
  • and who we would like for people to see us as.
  • 00:06:20.160 --> 00:06:24.100
  • Because who you are may not be the same perception
  • 00:06:24.100 --> 00:06:28.100
  • that people have of you.
  • 00:06:28.100 --> 00:06:30.040
  • Your perception and who you are could be worlds apart.
  • 00:06:30.040 --> 00:06:34.050
  • Here's the ideal and here's the real.
  • 00:06:34.050 --> 00:06:37.000
  • And there's a big gap in between.
  • 00:06:37.000 --> 00:06:39.060
  • We as believer's are gonna have to do something
  • 00:06:39.060 --> 00:06:42.010
  • about this life of ours.
  • 00:06:42.010 --> 00:06:43.290
  • - Mmm hmm, it's good.
  • 00:06:43.290 --> 00:06:45.170
  • - And you see, if DeeDee said all of that
  • 00:06:45.170 --> 00:06:47.210
  • y'all would be upon your feet.
  • 00:06:47.210 --> 00:06:49.060
  • Can you show me a little love?
  • 00:06:49.060 --> 00:06:51.240
  • (audience shouts)
  • 00:06:51.240 --> 00:06:54.160
  • I can't, I can't with y'all.
  • 00:06:56.100 --> 00:06:58.020
  • I can't, no really, I can't with y'all.
  • 00:06:58.180 --> 00:07:00.240
  • But I'm mature enough to just go with the flow,
  • 00:07:00.240 --> 00:07:03.180
  • until the Lord shows you. - [DeeDee] You're response
  • 00:07:04.220 --> 00:07:05.290
  • - [DeeDee] is your responsibility.
  • 00:07:05.290 --> 00:07:07.090
  • - So we've seen in the scripture--
  • 00:07:07.090 --> 00:07:09.000
  • - So we gonna stay with this, not go into
  • 00:07:09.000 --> 00:07:11.000
  • these other things, we can do these later.
  • 00:07:11.000 --> 00:07:13.200
  • I see, cause you've gone in.
  • 00:07:13.200 --> 00:07:15.110
  • - Yeah, I'm in the lesson. - [DeeDee] Yeah that's good.
  • 00:07:15.110 --> 00:07:16.190
  • - [DeeDee] I see. But that's good.
  • 00:07:16.190 --> 00:07:18.200
  • I think that's really good because that really
  • 00:07:18.200 --> 00:07:20.200
  • lines up with mutual submission.
  • 00:07:20.200 --> 00:07:22.220
  • In order for us to have - [Pastor] Absolutely.
  • 00:07:22.220 --> 00:07:24.040
  • - [DeeDee] mutual submission, we all have to know
  • 00:07:24.040 --> 00:07:26.230
  • how to humble ourselves in a relationship.
  • 00:07:26.230 --> 00:07:29.160
  • Because you'll never submit to somebody
  • 00:07:29.160 --> 00:07:31.170
  • and be humble at the same time.
  • 00:07:31.170 --> 00:07:33.240
  • Not be humble at the same,
  • 00:07:33.240 --> 00:07:34.290
  • operating pride. - [Pastor] Absolutely,
  • 00:07:34.290 --> 00:07:36.080
  • - [Pastor] I thought that's what you meant.
  • 00:07:36.080 --> 00:07:37.130
  • - Yeah because I mean it's impossible.
  • 00:07:37.130 --> 00:07:38.250
  • If I'm operating pride I'll never be able to submit
  • 00:07:38.250 --> 00:07:41.170
  • to somebody because I'm gonna feel like
  • 00:07:41.240 --> 00:07:43.140
  • I'm supposed to be the one that make
  • 00:07:43.140 --> 00:07:45.110
  • all the decisions to control the situation.
  • 00:07:45.110 --> 00:07:48.000
  • And just be the one to just carry out
  • 00:07:48.000 --> 00:07:50.020
  • whatever, you know, the responsibilities are
  • 00:07:50.020 --> 00:07:52.110
  • and you just follow.
  • 00:07:52.110 --> 00:07:53.170
  • - [Pastor] So who should be submitting?
  • 00:07:53.170 --> 00:07:54.200
  • The wife, the scripture says the wife.
  • 00:07:54.200 --> 00:07:56.010
  • - [DeeDee] The wife should submit, but who else
  • 00:07:56.010 --> 00:07:57.120
  • should be submitting is the question.
  • 00:07:57.120 --> 00:07:59.010
  • - [Pastor] The children.
  • 00:07:59.010 --> 00:08:00.110
  • - The children should be submitting as well.
  • 00:08:00.110 --> 00:08:01.210
  • And I think that's great.
  • 00:08:01.210 --> 00:08:02.240
  • Now who else should be submitting?
  • 00:08:02.240 --> 00:08:04.020
  • - The pets.
  • 00:08:04.020 --> 00:08:05.050
  • - The pets? (audience laughs)
  • 00:08:05.050 --> 00:08:06.200
  • We do train our pets.
  • 00:08:10.230 --> 00:08:12.000
  • - That's right.
  • 00:08:12.000 --> 00:08:12.270
  • And you tell the pet sit.
  • 00:08:12.270 --> 00:08:14.070
  • - Uh huh, mmm hmm, and who else?
  • 00:08:14.070 --> 00:08:17.110
  • (audience laughs)
  • 00:08:17.110 --> 00:08:20.030
  • - Look.
  • 00:08:23.250 --> 00:08:25.110
  • - I think we can go to the scripture.
  • 00:08:27.120 --> 00:08:29.060
  • - [Pastor and DeeDee] (Howls) don't know.
  • 00:08:29.060 --> 00:08:30.160
  • (everyone laughs)
  • 00:08:30.160 --> 00:08:32.010
  • - I think we can go to the scripture
  • 00:08:32.010 --> 00:08:33.100
  • and sure to find it if you want to.
  • 00:08:33.100 --> 00:08:35.130
  • - Alright.
  • 00:08:35.130 --> 00:08:36.250
  • Let's go to the scripture. - [DeeDee] Let's go to
  • 00:08:36.250 --> 00:08:37.190
  • - [DeeDee] Ephesians 5.
  • 00:08:37.190 --> 00:08:38.170
  • - Do we have to go to the Bible?
  • 00:08:38.170 --> 00:08:39.210
  • Do we have to go to the Bible?
  • 00:08:40.040 --> 00:08:42.060
  • I don't wanna go to the Bible.
  • 00:08:43.090 --> 00:08:45.190
  • The Bible is so good.
  • 00:08:48.080 --> 00:08:49.130
  • How many of y'all love your Bible?
  • 00:08:49.130 --> 00:08:51.070
  • How many of y'all love the word of God?
  • 00:08:51.220 --> 00:08:53.240
  • We love the word of God.
  • 00:08:53.240 --> 00:08:55.030
  • The word of God is so rich, it's so good.
  • 00:08:55.030 --> 00:08:57.260
  • It has changed our life.
  • 00:08:57.260 --> 00:08:59.070
  • And I promise you.
  • 00:08:59.070 --> 00:09:00.260
  • Man that Hebrews 13:7, make it a part
  • 00:09:01.040 --> 00:09:03.250
  • of your life from the Message Bible.
  • 00:09:03.250 --> 00:09:06.010
  • Appreciate your pastoral care oversight.
  • 00:09:06.180 --> 00:09:09.180
  • Where is it?
  • 00:09:09.180 --> 00:09:10.120
  • Put it up on the screen.
  • 00:09:10.120 --> 00:09:11.190
  • Hebrews 7 to 13.
  • 00:09:11.290 --> 00:09:13.140
  • And get Colossians chapter number three as well.
  • 00:09:13.140 --> 00:09:16.100
  • But I wanna start at Hebrews 13:7.
  • 00:09:16.100 --> 00:09:20.250
  • Oh man, "Appreciate your pastoral leaders
  • 00:09:21.160 --> 00:09:24.000
  • "who gave you" what?
  • 00:09:24.000 --> 00:09:25.250
  • - [Audience and Pastor] The word of God.
  • 00:09:25.250 --> 00:09:27.070
  • - [Pastor] If you don't have it just look up
  • 00:09:27.070 --> 00:09:28.110
  • at the fake monitor.
  • 00:09:28.110 --> 00:09:29.240
  • "Take a good look at the way they" what?
  • 00:09:29.240 --> 00:09:33.290
  • (audience responds)
  • 00:09:33.290 --> 00:09:35.050
  • Every pastor should be able to say that.
  • 00:09:35.050 --> 00:09:37.160
  • As a matter of fact, if I never pick up the Bible
  • 00:09:38.110 --> 00:09:40.190
  • you should learn scriptures by looking at me.
  • 00:09:40.190 --> 00:09:43.080
  • That's powerful statement.
  • 00:09:46.090 --> 00:09:48.040
  • Turn to your neighbor and say that's awesome.
  • 00:09:49.040 --> 00:09:51.100
  • - [Audience] That's awesome.
  • 00:09:51.100 --> 00:09:52.230
  • - I'm telling you, I learned how to really love my wife
  • 00:09:52.230 --> 00:09:55.230
  • by watching Dr. Price.
  • 00:09:55.230 --> 00:09:57.170
  • It wasn't all scripture.
  • 00:09:58.290 --> 00:10:00.270
  • It was having pastoral leadership.
  • 00:10:00.270 --> 00:10:03.070
  • That Rabbi dust got on me.
  • 00:10:03.070 --> 00:10:05.080
  • Now the Rabbi dust, you have to understand,
  • 00:10:05.080 --> 00:10:07.170
  • is walking close enough to your leader
  • 00:10:07.170 --> 00:10:10.140
  • where the dust of his lifestyle gets on you.
  • 00:10:10.140 --> 00:10:13.260
  • Are you hearing what I'm telling you?
  • 00:10:16.080 --> 00:10:17.270
  • So it says "Appreciate your pastoral leaders,
  • 00:10:17.270 --> 00:10:20.180
  • "and watch the way that they live and let their" what?
  • 00:10:20.280 --> 00:10:25.060
  • "Let their faithfulness instruct you."
  • 00:10:25.190 --> 00:10:29.000
  • I mean why would you do or allow
  • 00:10:29.220 --> 00:10:34.080
  • anything else to instruct you
  • 00:10:34.080 --> 00:10:35.290
  • when you're watching my faithfulness?
  • 00:10:35.290 --> 00:10:38.050
  • Now name an area that I'm not faithful in?
  • 00:10:38.050 --> 00:10:41.060
  • You name it.
  • 00:10:41.170 --> 00:10:42.220
  • Hello?
  • 00:10:44.020 --> 00:10:45.070
  • No, you can't embarrass me.
  • 00:10:46.040 --> 00:10:47.250
  • Embarrassment is a choice.
  • 00:10:48.140 --> 00:10:50.110
  • You can't make me say "Let's go through the list.
  • 00:10:50.170 --> 00:10:53.060
  • "Let's go through the list."
  • 00:10:54.070 --> 00:10:55.180
  • You can attest to a lot of it.
  • 00:10:56.020 --> 00:10:58.030
  • Husband.
  • 00:10:58.030 --> 00:10:59.050
  • - [DeeDee] Faithful.
  • 00:10:59.130 --> 00:11:00.270
  • - Okay, okay, no for real, stop playing so much.
  • 00:11:01.000 --> 00:11:03.210
  • - [DeeDee] I'm not, I'm not playing.
  • 00:11:03.210 --> 00:11:05.140
  • (DeeDee stutters)
  • 00:11:05.140 --> 00:11:07.200
  • Like really, I agree 100%.
  • 00:11:07.200 --> 00:11:10.220
  • - [Pastor] Come on boo boo kitty cat got your tongue.
  • 00:11:10.220 --> 00:11:12.080
  • (audience laughs)
  • 00:11:12.080 --> 00:11:14.180
  • Y'all watch too much TV.
  • 00:11:14.200 --> 00:11:16.150
  • - You watch too much.
  • 00:11:16.150 --> 00:11:18.240
  • - There's only one area in that husband
  • 00:11:21.010 --> 00:11:24.110
  • department that I need to get up on.
  • 00:11:24.110 --> 00:11:27.240
  • - What?
  • 00:11:27.240 --> 00:11:28.200
  • - Oh you don't know?
  • 00:11:28.280 --> 00:11:30.050
  • - I'd like to know.
  • 00:11:30.190 --> 00:11:31.250
  • - If you don't know I'm not gonna tell you.
  • 00:11:31.250 --> 00:11:33.280
  • - I may know if you say it.
  • 00:11:34.220 --> 00:11:36.010
  • See when you say. - [Pastor] I know you know.
  • 00:11:36.010 --> 00:11:37.140
  • - [DeeDee] See but you talking about every area.
  • 00:11:37.250 --> 00:11:40.200
  • It's a difference between--
  • 00:11:41.010 --> 00:11:42.060
  • - [Pastor] I'm not talking about area,
  • 00:11:42.060 --> 00:11:43.030
  • I'm talking about overall.
  • 00:11:43.030 --> 00:11:44.070
  • Give me an overall, from zero to 10.
  • 00:11:44.070 --> 00:11:45.230
  • 10 being the greatest, rate me.
  • 00:11:45.230 --> 00:11:47.240
  • - See, that's two different things to me.
  • 00:11:49.190 --> 00:11:51.130
  • - Lady, just answer the man's question.
  • 00:11:51.130 --> 00:11:52.290
  • - No, listen.
  • 00:11:52.290 --> 00:11:53.270
  • - Your honor, would you make
  • 00:11:53.270 --> 00:11:55.040
  • the witness answer the question.
  • 00:11:55.040 --> 00:11:57.120
  • - No, no, no, no, no.
  • 00:11:57.120 --> 00:11:58.230
  • Cause you talking about faithfulness now.
  • 00:11:58.230 --> 00:12:01.050
  • And now you making me think you talking about
  • 00:12:01.050 --> 00:12:03.190
  • areas you need to grow in.
  • 00:12:03.190 --> 00:12:04.260
  • That doesn't mean you're not faithful in it.
  • 00:12:04.260 --> 00:12:07.000
  • - I'm not talking about areas I need to grow in.
  • 00:12:07.000 --> 00:12:08.190
  • I know there's faithfulness, but I'm just saying
  • 00:12:08.190 --> 00:12:11.000
  • all across the board.
  • 00:12:11.000 --> 00:12:12.130
  • - I say a 10, I agree.
  • 00:12:12.130 --> 00:12:13.260
  • - 10?! - [DeeDee] 100%, yeah.
  • 00:12:13.260 --> 00:12:15.030
  • - 10?
  • 00:12:15.030 --> 00:12:16.090
  • - [DeeDee] Yeah I think you got it going on.
  • 00:12:16.090 --> 00:12:17.090
  • - Let the record state--
  • 00:12:17.090 --> 00:12:18.210
  • - [DeeDee] No I didn't say you didn't have areas
  • 00:12:18.210 --> 00:12:20.100
  • that you don't need to work on.
  • 00:12:20.100 --> 00:12:21.180
  • That's what--
  • 00:12:21.180 --> 00:12:22.160
  • - I know you didn't say that.
  • 00:12:22.160 --> 00:12:23.210
  • I told you that. (audience laughs)
  • 00:12:23.210 --> 00:12:24.180
  • - Let's get this straight.
  • 00:12:26.260 --> 00:12:28.110
  • That's why I didn't wanna be locked in in something.
  • 00:12:30.010 --> 00:12:32.130
  • And he talking about I got it on tape.
  • 00:12:32.130 --> 00:12:33.230
  • - But I understand what you're saying.
  • 00:12:33.230 --> 00:12:35.080
  • Faith...
  • 00:12:35.080 --> 00:12:36.010
  • (everyone laughs)
  • 00:12:36.010 --> 00:12:37.160
  • She got that Josh.
  • 00:12:41.070 --> 00:12:42.260
  • What's the lady do the typing and talking to the man.
  • 00:12:42.260 --> 00:12:45.090
  • - [DeeDee] A stenographer.
  • 00:12:45.090 --> 00:12:46.130
  • - She wanna let that lady know man.
  • 00:12:46.130 --> 00:12:47.220
  • - [DeeDee] That's right.
  • 00:12:47.220 --> 00:12:48.270
  • - Don't let that go in that record.
  • 00:12:48.270 --> 00:12:50.030
  • - That's right, let the record reflect.
  • 00:12:50.030 --> 00:12:51.180
  • - Yeah, yeah, yeah, but that's when you were saying,
  • 00:12:51.180 --> 00:12:54.070
  • and I understand that.
  • 00:12:54.070 --> 00:12:55.150
  • Because it's not that I've been unfaithful
  • 00:12:55.150 --> 00:12:58.070
  • in any of those areas.
  • 00:12:58.070 --> 00:13:00.130
  • It's just that there's some growth in all of,
  • 00:13:00.130 --> 00:13:04.020
  • well one department anywhere within our marriage.
  • 00:13:04.120 --> 00:13:09.060
  • But overall as it relates to my faithfulness
  • 00:13:09.060 --> 00:13:11.200
  • it's been over 30 years now.
  • 00:13:11.200 --> 00:13:14.130
  • Over 30 years baby.
  • 00:13:14.130 --> 00:13:16.130
  • - [DeeDee] It's a long time.
  • 00:13:16.130 --> 00:13:17.120
  • - 10.964 days
  • 00:13:17.120 --> 00:13:21.070
  • of faithfulness.
  • 00:13:21.230 --> 00:13:22.200
  • - It's gonna be 65 tomorrow.
  • 00:13:22.200 --> 00:13:23.240
  • - Alright, on your birthday.
  • 00:13:23.240 --> 00:13:26.050
  • Can you make that your birthday gift to me?
  • 00:13:26.050 --> 00:13:29.260
  • - Okay what is it?
  • 00:13:29.260 --> 00:13:31.000
  • 10.000 what?
  • 00:13:31.000 --> 00:13:32.130
  • - I'm not telling you. - [DeeDee] 965.
  • 00:13:32.130 --> 00:13:34.280
  • - [Pastor] So in all of those (inaudible), as father?
  • 00:13:37.100 --> 00:13:40.070
  • - In every area--
  • 00:13:41.100 --> 00:13:42.070
  • - Faithful.
  • 00:13:42.070 --> 00:13:43.120
  • - See I don't have to go through that,
  • 00:13:43.120 --> 00:13:44.250
  • because I'm telling you.
  • 00:13:44.250 --> 00:13:46.100
  • - No, we're talking about - [DeeDee] There has faith.
  • 00:13:46.100 --> 00:13:47.250
  • - [Pastor] letting my faithfulness instruct them.
  • 00:13:47.250 --> 00:13:50.240
  • - Right.
  • 00:13:50.240 --> 00:13:51.280
  • - Let's just go through some areas.
  • 00:13:51.280 --> 00:13:53.270
  • - Right, so but--
  • 00:13:54.050 --> 00:13:55.010
  • - In being a father.
  • 00:13:55.010 --> 00:13:55.280
  • - But define faithfulness.
  • 00:13:55.280 --> 00:13:57.160
  • What do you consider to be faithfulness?
  • 00:13:57.160 --> 00:13:59.200
  • - What does the Bible call faithfulness?
  • 00:14:00.180 --> 00:14:02.270
  • What did Pastor Wayne just talk about in faithfulness?
  • 00:14:02.270 --> 00:14:05.180
  • - [DeeDee] Tell em.
  • 00:14:05.180 --> 00:14:06.270
  • - Okay there's trustworthy, that's loyal,
  • 00:14:06.270 --> 00:14:09.190
  • that's being where you're supposed to be
  • 00:14:10.010 --> 00:14:12.220
  • when you're supposed to be,
  • 00:14:12.220 --> 00:14:14.120
  • doing what you're supposed to do.
  • 00:14:14.120 --> 00:14:16.250
  • Faithful, committed.
  • 00:14:16.250 --> 00:14:18.110
  • There's so many different synonyms that
  • 00:14:18.220 --> 00:14:21.010
  • can go along with that term.
  • 00:14:21.010 --> 00:14:23.030
  • I mean I can't give you - [DeeDee] No, I think
  • 00:14:23.030 --> 00:14:26.050
  • specifically, what the - [DeeDee] that's great.
  • 00:14:26.050 --> 00:14:27.230
  • definition. - [DeeDee] I don't need that.
  • 00:14:27.230 --> 00:14:29.120
  • - [DeeDee] I'm just saying for them.
  • 00:14:29.120 --> 00:14:30.220
  • Because some people just consider faithfulness
  • 00:14:30.220 --> 00:14:34.120
  • as not stepping out on their spouse.
  • 00:14:34.120 --> 00:14:36.230
  • - Oh no.
  • 00:14:37.040 --> 00:14:38.160
  • - No I understand that. - [Pastor] That's a part of it.
  • 00:14:38.160 --> 00:14:39.180
  • - [DeeDee] That's a part of it.
  • 00:14:39.180 --> 00:14:40.180
  • - [Pastor] Yeah.
  • 00:14:40.180 --> 00:14:41.260
  • - But I wanted you to be able to define that
  • 00:14:41.260 --> 00:14:43.050
  • so everybody can have that across the board.
  • 00:14:43.050 --> 00:14:46.000
  • So we can all be on the same page.
  • 00:14:46.000 --> 00:14:47.270
  • - I got you, I got you.
  • 00:14:47.270 --> 00:14:48.260
  • - Okay.
  • 00:14:48.260 --> 00:14:50.090
  • - So, but I was just going through the areas of my life
  • 00:14:50.090 --> 00:14:53.050
  • so you can say check or nay. - [DeeDee] Every area.
  • 00:14:53.050 --> 00:14:55.130
  • - [DeeDee] Okay go ahead, check.
  • 00:14:55.130 --> 00:14:56.230
  • - Okay, I said husband.
  • 00:14:56.230 --> 00:14:58.030
  • - Check.
  • 00:14:58.030 --> 00:14:58.280
  • - Alright, father.
  • 00:14:58.280 --> 00:14:59.240
  • - Check.
  • 00:14:59.240 --> 00:15:00.230
  • - Okay, Pastor.
  • 00:15:01.070 --> 00:15:03.240
  • - Check.
  • 00:15:03.240 --> 00:15:04.240
  • - Tither.
  • 00:15:05.190 --> 00:15:06.080
  • - Check.
  • 00:15:06.080 --> 00:15:07.160
  • - Word, keeping my word. - [DeeDee] Check, check.
  • 00:15:08.170 --> 00:15:11.150
  • - [Pastor] Y'all help man.
  • 00:15:13.260 --> 00:15:15.140
  • Huh?
  • 00:15:15.230 --> 00:15:16.200
  • Friend.
  • 00:15:17.060 --> 00:15:18.010
  • (audience laughs)
  • 00:15:19.220 --> 00:15:21.280
  • - He can't stand when I be playing.
  • 00:15:29.000 --> 00:15:31.130
  • Check, for real, check check.
  • 00:15:33.240 --> 00:15:36.080
  • - Provider.
  • 00:15:36.150 --> 00:15:37.050
  • - Check.
  • 00:15:37.050 --> 00:15:37.240
  • - Huh?
  • 00:15:37.240 --> 00:15:38.190
  • Giver.
  • 00:15:39.020 --> 00:15:39.220
  • - Check.
  • 00:15:39.220 --> 00:15:40.190
  • - A listener.
  • 00:15:43.000 --> 00:15:43.290
  • - Check.
  • 00:15:43.290 --> 00:15:44.280
  • - Supporter, protector.
  • 00:15:45.170 --> 00:15:46.290
  • - Check.
  • 00:15:46.290 --> 00:15:47.270
  • - I'm talking about protecting.
  • 00:15:47.270 --> 00:15:49.070
  • I can not stand when she doesn't stay with me.
  • 00:15:49.070 --> 00:15:53.010
  • It's like stay right, we get in these crowds.
  • 00:15:54.030 --> 00:15:57.140
  • DeeDee where are you?
  • 00:15:57.140 --> 00:15:59.000
  • - [Audience member] Amen.
  • 00:15:59.000 --> 00:15:59.270
  • - Thank you, yeah.
  • 00:15:59.270 --> 00:16:02.060
  • The security team would appreciate that.
  • 00:16:02.060 --> 00:16:04.130
  • (audience laughs)
  • 00:16:04.130 --> 00:16:06.120
  • I'm like DeeDee just love everybody.
  • 00:16:07.080 --> 00:16:09.080
  • Her mother gotta talk to everybody.
  • 00:16:09.080 --> 00:16:10.240
  • "Girl, hadn't seen you."
  • 00:16:10.240 --> 00:16:12.070
  • You've never seen them before.
  • 00:16:12.070 --> 00:16:13.250
  • (audience laughs)
  • 00:16:13.250 --> 00:16:16.230
  • It's your first time meeting these people.
  • 00:16:16.230 --> 00:16:19.090
  • And I mean, she is just you know gullible in that respect.
  • 00:16:20.190 --> 00:16:25.010
  • and she just hugs em and I can't stand her getting away
  • 00:16:25.010 --> 00:16:29.190
  • from me because I can't protect her like I want to.
  • 00:16:29.190 --> 00:16:33.160
  • Something go down I want DeeDee right there.
  • 00:16:33.160 --> 00:16:35.140
  • I tell her all the time, "Baby, stay with me.
  • 00:16:35.140 --> 00:16:38.060
  • "I'm coming, go ahead.
  • 00:16:38.060 --> 00:16:41.020
  • "Hi baby."
  • 00:16:41.020 --> 00:16:42.170
  • (audience laughs)
  • 00:16:42.170 --> 00:16:44.200
  • So that protector area is so much to me
  • 00:16:45.050 --> 00:16:47.180
  • because I promise you man,
  • 00:16:47.180 --> 00:16:49.250
  • one of the areas I'm not real saved in.
  • 00:16:50.080 --> 00:16:52.160
  • Don't mess with DeeDee.
  • 00:16:52.160 --> 00:16:54.030
  • Don't fool with DeeDee.
  • 00:16:55.090 --> 00:16:56.170
  • You hurt DeeDee, I can't promise you anything.
  • 00:16:56.170 --> 00:16:59.240
  • I don't know...
  • 00:16:59.240 --> 00:17:01.080
  • No, I'm crazy in that respect with her.
  • 00:17:05.010 --> 00:17:07.030
  • She'll hit her toe and I gotta hold her toe
  • 00:17:07.030 --> 00:17:09.240
  • and kiss it and make it better.
  • 00:17:09.240 --> 00:17:11.210
  • Yeah man.
  • 00:17:12.120 --> 00:17:13.170
  • But what I'm saying, every man in here.
  • 00:17:15.100 --> 00:17:18.280
  • You don't even need the Bible in that area.
  • 00:17:18.280 --> 00:17:21.180
  • You really don't, I'm just saying.
  • 00:17:22.040 --> 00:17:23.240
  • I'm not, don't hear wrong, because people
  • 00:17:23.240 --> 00:17:26.190
  • will take a statement like that
  • 00:17:26.190 --> 00:17:28.030
  • and put it on Google or YouTube.
  • 00:17:28.030 --> 00:17:30.070
  • Say he say you don't even need the Bible.
  • 00:17:30.070 --> 00:17:32.250
  • And I'm not saying that.
  • 00:17:33.050 --> 00:17:34.180
  • But why can't your life reflect what the scripture
  • 00:17:34.180 --> 00:17:37.290
  • has already stated where you become what I am
  • 00:17:37.290 --> 00:17:42.170
  • to other men.
  • 00:17:42.170 --> 00:17:44.090
  • I'm never leaving her, I'm like Jesus.
  • 00:17:45.090 --> 00:17:47.170
  • I'm never leaving her, nor forsaking her.
  • 00:17:47.170 --> 00:17:50.070
  • I'm being with her even until the end of my life.
  • 00:17:50.070 --> 00:17:54.130
  • I promise you.
  • 00:17:54.130 --> 00:17:55.260
  • So let that instruct you.
  • 00:17:55.260 --> 00:17:58.120
  • What part of that do you not get?
  • 00:17:58.120 --> 00:18:01.210
  • I mean you don't even have to listen to me say anything.
  • 00:18:02.080 --> 00:18:05.180
  • All you have to do is watch.
  • 00:18:05.180 --> 00:18:07.220
  • More is caught than taught.
  • 00:18:08.290 --> 00:18:11.020
  • As a matter of fact, too many people are just talking.
  • 00:18:11.020 --> 00:18:14.020
  • Talking loud, ain't saying nothing.
  • 00:18:14.020 --> 00:18:17.020
  • So, watch this.
  • 00:18:20.280 --> 00:18:22.110
  • Let his faithfulness instruct you
  • 00:18:22.110 --> 00:18:25.070
  • and what is that?
  • 00:18:25.070 --> 00:18:27.010
  • As well?
  • 00:18:27.010 --> 00:18:27.260
  • (audience responds)
  • 00:18:27.260 --> 00:18:29.070
  • As what?
  • 00:18:29.070 --> 00:18:30.040
  • As well as the truthfulness.
  • 00:18:30.160 --> 00:18:32.230
  • Truthfulness, come on.
  • 00:18:32.230 --> 00:18:35.010
  • Go to the next part of that.
  • 00:18:35.010 --> 00:18:36.220
  • And it says "And there should be a"what?
  • 00:18:36.220 --> 00:18:39.110
  • "Consistency that runs through us all."
  • 00:18:39.230 --> 00:18:43.260
  • Awe man that's powerful.
  • 00:18:44.250 --> 00:18:46.160
  • Come on receive that consistency
  • 00:18:47.180 --> 00:18:51.000
  • that runs through us all.
  • 00:18:51.150 --> 00:18:53.020
  • All of us are paid on top financially.
  • 00:18:53.020 --> 00:18:57.130
  • Come on joyous people.
  • 00:18:57.220 --> 00:18:59.270
  • Peaceful people come on.
  • 00:19:00.090 --> 00:19:02.010
  • Shout I receive.
  • 00:19:02.010 --> 00:19:03.060
  • - [Audience] I receive!
  • 00:19:03.060 --> 00:19:04.290
  • - And so we found out in the scripture that
  • 00:19:05.190 --> 00:19:07.230
  • the apostle Paul went in various parts
  • 00:19:07.230 --> 00:19:10.170
  • of that Mediterranean border.
  • 00:19:10.170 --> 00:19:13.000
  • He just kinda went up in Athens and Greece,
  • 00:19:13.000 --> 00:19:15.270
  • and he went up in Ephesus, he went up in Rome.
  • 00:19:15.270 --> 00:19:18.280
  • His assignment now was to teach principles
  • 00:19:18.280 --> 00:19:22.040
  • concerning the makeup of the family.
  • 00:19:22.040 --> 00:19:24.110
  • It is a lie that children don't come with manuals.
  • 00:19:24.110 --> 00:19:28.220
  • Children come with manuals.
  • 00:19:28.220 --> 00:19:30.250
  • Marriages come with manuals.
  • 00:19:30.250 --> 00:19:33.040
  • There's a manual given for the rearing of your children.
  • 00:19:33.040 --> 00:19:37.030
  • And I don't know where people are just hauling off
  • 00:19:37.030 --> 00:19:39.160
  • picking up things, incorporating it, implementing things
  • 00:19:39.160 --> 00:19:43.070
  • in their relationship and even in their family.
  • 00:19:43.070 --> 00:19:46.080
  • That didn't come from the word of God.
  • 00:19:46.080 --> 00:19:48.060
  • Now dig this.
  • 00:19:48.060 --> 00:19:49.120
  • We're all products of the environment
  • 00:19:49.120 --> 00:19:51.090
  • that we have come out of.
  • 00:19:51.090 --> 00:19:52.200
  • And some of the things I picked up from my home
  • 00:19:52.200 --> 00:19:55.210
  • was not necessarily something that was
  • 00:19:55.210 --> 00:19:57.260
  • picked up out of the Bible.
  • 00:19:57.260 --> 00:20:00.070
  • So subsequently, I went into our home
  • 00:20:00.070 --> 00:20:02.210
  • with things that I thought were good things,
  • 00:20:02.210 --> 00:20:05.040
  • but they were not God things.
  • 00:20:05.040 --> 00:20:07.070
  • And it's important that you put God things
  • 00:20:07.070 --> 00:20:09.160
  • in place in your house because it's the God thing
  • 00:20:09.160 --> 00:20:12.190
  • is gonna end up a good thing.
  • 00:20:12.190 --> 00:20:14.140
  • Just because it's a good thing
  • 00:20:14.140 --> 00:20:15.230
  • it may not end up a God thing.
  • 00:20:15.230 --> 00:20:17.230
  • Because a good thing may seem right to you,
  • 00:20:17.230 --> 00:20:20.230
  • but the end of that way is the way of death and destruction.
  • 00:20:20.230 --> 00:20:24.090
  • Am I preaching well enough for you now?
  • 00:20:24.090 --> 00:20:26.140
  • If you can't handle this couch kind of talk,
  • 00:20:26.140 --> 00:20:29.070
  • this setting is simply designed,
  • 00:20:29.070 --> 00:20:31.080
  • because this what we do at home.
  • 00:20:31.080 --> 00:20:33.120
  • You're part of our big family meeting that we have.
  • 00:20:33.120 --> 00:20:36.090
  • We sit our family down.
  • 00:20:36.090 --> 00:20:37.280
  • DeeDee and I will sit down and just talk.
  • 00:20:37.280 --> 00:20:40.190
  • On one of our vacation in Saint Lucia,
  • 00:20:40.190 --> 00:20:43.120
  • hello to all of my wonderful Saint Lucia members
  • 00:20:43.120 --> 00:20:46.160
  • and partners I love you.
  • 00:20:46.160 --> 00:20:47.270
  • I love the people of Saint Lucia.
  • 00:20:47.270 --> 00:20:49.170
  • The Saint Lucians.
  • 00:20:49.170 --> 00:20:51.080
  • I love them so much, we had a great time.
  • 00:20:51.160 --> 00:20:53.100
  • We sat out on the beach for hours.
  • 00:20:53.100 --> 00:20:56.050
  • And just talked and shared.
  • 00:20:56.130 --> 00:20:58.030
  • And she was able to pour into me some of the things
  • 00:20:58.030 --> 00:21:01.010
  • that I need to just pick up in.
  • 00:21:01.010 --> 00:21:03.100
  • Or some of the things that could just
  • 00:21:03.100 --> 00:21:05.080
  • refine and become better.
  • 00:21:05.230 --> 00:21:07.260
  • So this is our style.
  • 00:21:07.260 --> 00:21:09.160
  • And I think every, let our faithfulness instruct you.
  • 00:21:09.160 --> 00:21:13.090
  • Let our examples instruct you.
  • 00:21:13.090 --> 00:21:15.100
  • So you should be at home with your wife
  • 00:21:15.100 --> 00:21:17.240
  • or your husband, and your children, and sitting around.
  • 00:21:17.240 --> 00:21:21.040
  • We started off that Friday night with all of our children
  • 00:21:21.040 --> 00:21:25.160
  • being a part of that open meeting.
  • 00:21:25.160 --> 00:21:27.230
  • And so we have this setting,
  • 00:21:27.230 --> 00:21:29.100
  • and they set up this set to give it
  • 00:21:29.100 --> 00:21:31.150
  • a little feel of us being at home and talking.
  • 00:21:31.150 --> 00:21:34.240
  • And as a matter of fact church as we know it
  • 00:21:34.240 --> 00:21:37.200
  • is rapidly changing.
  • 00:21:37.200 --> 00:21:39.070
  • And I don't really mind the methodologies
  • 00:21:39.070 --> 00:21:42.270
  • that are incorporated or embraced, governor in church.
  • 00:21:42.270 --> 00:21:46.160
  • I really don't.
  • 00:21:46.160 --> 00:21:47.220
  • I do mind the changing of a message.
  • 00:21:47.220 --> 00:21:52.050
  • You now, the method may change
  • 00:21:52.050 --> 00:21:54.240
  • but the message should never change.
  • 00:21:54.240 --> 00:21:57.040
  • And this is just bait.
  • 00:21:57.040 --> 00:21:58.190
  • And in fishing I believe the bait can change
  • 00:21:58.190 --> 00:22:02.240
  • but the hook should never change.
  • 00:22:02.240 --> 00:22:05.070
  • Do you object if you got it.
  • 00:22:05.190 --> 00:22:07.160
  • Cause I like neck ties, I like church stuff.
  • 00:22:08.290 --> 00:22:11.130
  • I like Bibles man, I like turning pages.
  • 00:22:11.130 --> 00:22:14.100
  • And now we got these telephone,
  • 00:22:14.100 --> 00:22:15.250
  • open collar shirts, I don't have on any socks or anything.
  • 00:22:15.250 --> 00:22:18.130
  • This is not my style.
  • 00:22:18.130 --> 00:22:19.250
  • This is not how I've been raised.
  • 00:22:19.250 --> 00:22:21.190
  • And now my kids like, "You gotta loosen up man.
  • 00:22:21.190 --> 00:22:23.280
  • "You gotta just drop the tie.
  • 00:22:23.280 --> 00:22:25.220
  • "Get rid of the tie."
  • 00:22:25.220 --> 00:22:26.280
  • I like ties, I like suits, I like Bible,
  • 00:22:27.090 --> 00:22:29.080
  • I like turning the pages, you understand.
  • 00:22:29.080 --> 00:22:31.130
  • You know you going to church.
  • 00:22:31.130 --> 00:22:33.120
  • Some of y'all don't look like you.
  • 00:22:33.270 --> 00:22:35.180
  • (Pastor stutters)
  • 00:22:35.180 --> 00:22:38.010
  • Put on some jeans and a shirt and pick up your phone.
  • 00:22:38.010 --> 00:22:40.220
  • And that's cool.
  • 00:22:40.220 --> 00:22:42.020
  • That's the day we live in unfortunately.
  • 00:22:42.020 --> 00:22:45.050
  • I can't stand this change, but I gotta adapt
  • 00:22:45.050 --> 00:22:48.060
  • to this change so I can be relevant.
  • 00:22:48.060 --> 00:22:50.120
  • I just can't take it!
  • 00:22:50.120 --> 00:22:52.100
  • - [DeeDee] I love change.
  • 00:22:52.280 --> 00:22:54.160
  • - But you don't even look like you're going to church.
  • 00:22:54.160 --> 00:22:56.130
  • Remember when you didn't feel saved,
  • 00:22:56.130 --> 00:22:58.130
  • but you put on your tie and you grab your Bible.
  • 00:22:58.130 --> 00:23:01.130
  • Shoot I feel saved.
  • 00:23:01.130 --> 00:23:03.160
  • Come on, some of y'all know what I'm talking about.
  • 00:23:04.060 --> 00:23:06.000
  • You could of got drunk the night before,
  • 00:23:06.000 --> 00:23:07.260
  • but you pick up that Bible.
  • 00:23:07.260 --> 00:23:09.170
  • And you on your way - [DeeDee] That coffee table
  • 00:23:10.120 --> 00:23:11.150
  • to church. - [DeeDee] Bible.
  • 00:23:11.150 --> 00:23:12.210
  • - [Pastor] Pull your cross out of your shirt.
  • 00:23:14.000 --> 00:23:16.010
  • - That you hid all week long.
  • 00:23:16.200 --> 00:23:18.060
  • - You hid it all week long and you come out.
  • 00:23:18.060 --> 00:23:20.210
  • And what I don't like about that is that
  • 00:23:23.020 --> 00:23:25.160
  • we are adapting to the dress
  • 00:23:25.160 --> 00:23:27.140
  • and the phones and the technology.
  • 00:23:27.140 --> 00:23:29.240
  • I mean, come on, is this my Bible nowadays?
  • 00:23:29.240 --> 00:23:33.030
  • You know, really, it's not my Bible,
  • 00:23:33.250 --> 00:23:35.150
  • but it contains the Bible.
  • 00:23:35.150 --> 00:23:37.150
  • And watch this.
  • 00:23:37.150 --> 00:23:38.220
  • You don't know, I'm in jeans or whatever shirt.
  • 00:23:38.220 --> 00:23:41.100
  • And just got my phone because I got Bible apps on my phone.
  • 00:23:41.100 --> 00:23:45.070
  • Now you really don't know who's who.
  • 00:23:45.070 --> 00:23:47.190
  • You can't tell back in the day
  • 00:23:47.190 --> 00:23:49.120
  • they used to wear the collars.
  • 00:23:49.120 --> 00:23:50.210
  • And you do, (inaudible) straighten up.
  • 00:23:50.210 --> 00:23:53.090
  • Nowadays you don't know if it's red or ludicrous.
  • 00:23:53.270 --> 00:23:58.110
  • (audience laughs)
  • 00:23:58.110 --> 00:24:01.120
  • - But nowadays they aren't even
  • 00:24:02.100 --> 00:24:03.190
  • straighten up with people in collars.
  • 00:24:03.190 --> 00:24:06.050
  • Cause the honor's not there.
  • 00:24:06.170 --> 00:24:07.290
  • - And the honor's not there.
  • 00:24:07.290 --> 00:24:09.070
  • But what disturbs me the most, we are adapting
  • 00:24:09.070 --> 00:24:12.280
  • to a culture of our society in our society
  • 00:24:12.280 --> 00:24:16.230
  • and yet our message and our mouth is diminishing.
  • 00:24:16.230 --> 00:24:21.090
  • Now you dress like them and now you don't
  • 00:24:21.090 --> 00:24:24.240
  • even talk like you should.
  • 00:24:24.240 --> 00:24:26.270
  • And gay pride just danced themselves
  • 00:24:27.220 --> 00:24:29.290
  • right down the main street yesterday.
  • 00:24:29.290 --> 00:24:34.040
  • And they let their all hang out.
  • 00:24:34.040 --> 00:24:36.180
  • And they coming out the closet, and we occupying them.
  • 00:24:36.250 --> 00:24:40.030
  • Cause we're not as pronounced with our message.
  • 00:24:41.170 --> 00:24:44.220
  • Back to the family.
  • 00:24:44.220 --> 00:24:46.050
  • So the apostle Paul was given the task of going up
  • 00:24:46.160 --> 00:24:50.040
  • and now we got these scripture references.
  • 00:24:50.040 --> 00:24:52.120
  • Look st some of them.
  • 00:24:52.120 --> 00:24:53.160
  • Colossians chapter number three.
  • 00:24:53.160 --> 00:24:55.050
  • - Colossians 3:18.
  • 00:24:55.050 --> 00:24:56.230
  • - Cause he's setting up order.
  • 00:24:56.230 --> 00:24:58.270
  • - "Wives, submit to your own husbands."
  • 00:24:59.070 --> 00:25:02.160
  • - I like that scripture.
  • 00:25:02.160 --> 00:25:03.150
  • - I know you do.
  • 00:25:03.150 --> 00:25:04.220
  • "As is fitting in the Lord.
  • 00:25:05.050 --> 00:25:07.150
  • - "As it is fitting in the Lord."
  • 00:25:07.150 --> 00:25:09.060
  • Okay.
  • 00:25:09.160 --> 00:25:10.280
  • - "Husbands, love your wives. - [Pastor] Husbands.
  • 00:25:10.280 --> 00:25:12.220
  • - [DeeDee] "And do not bitter towards them.
  • 00:25:13.030 --> 00:25:15.130
  • - "And do not bitter towards them."
  • 00:25:15.130 --> 00:25:17.240
  • Don't do bitter stuff towards your wife.
  • 00:25:17.240 --> 00:25:21.050
  • God man, okay I'm not gonna test that.
  • 00:25:21.220 --> 00:25:24.160
  • Go on, okay so he talks to the wife.
  • 00:25:24.160 --> 00:25:27.020
  • Then he talks to the husband.
  • 00:25:27.020 --> 00:25:28.140
  • Now who is he talking to?
  • 00:25:28.140 --> 00:25:29.160
  • - The children.
  • 00:25:29.160 --> 00:25:30.100
  • - The children, alright.
  • 00:25:30.100 --> 00:25:31.060
  • - "Obey your parents"--
  • 00:25:31.060 --> 00:25:32.120
  • - It's something for everybody.
  • 00:25:32.120 --> 00:25:33.170
  • "Obey your parents in" how many things?
  • 00:25:33.170 --> 00:25:35.080
  • - All things. - [Pastor] All things.
  • 00:25:35.080 --> 00:25:36.230
  • - [Pastor] Man, it behooves all of you children
  • 00:25:36.230 --> 00:25:39.170
  • who are to obey your parents.
  • 00:25:39.170 --> 00:25:41.160
  • Obeying your parents is still fly.
  • 00:25:41.160 --> 00:25:44.050
  • Did you hear what I said?
  • 00:25:45.210 --> 00:25:47.080
  • Obeying your parents is on fleek.
  • 00:25:48.020 --> 00:25:51.010
  • (audience laughs)
  • 00:25:51.010 --> 00:25:54.060
  • It is.
  • 00:25:55.200 --> 00:25:56.240
  • Obeying your parents is so important
  • 00:25:57.020 --> 00:25:59.100
  • and now some parents have adapted this kind
  • 00:25:59.100 --> 00:26:02.120
  • of mindset or this (stutters)
  • 00:26:02.120 --> 00:26:06.240
  • philosophy that I'm not gonna be as
  • 00:26:08.070 --> 00:26:11.190
  • hard on my children as my parents were.
  • 00:26:11.190 --> 00:26:15.070
  • What does that mean?
  • 00:26:15.070 --> 00:26:16.250
  • - Yeah, what does that mean?
  • 00:26:16.250 --> 00:26:18.200
  • - Because there's some things that every parent
  • 00:26:19.070 --> 00:26:22.190
  • needs to be firm and hard as it relates to their children.
  • 00:26:22.190 --> 00:26:26.100
  • - I agree, I agree.
  • 00:26:26.100 --> 00:26:29.030
  • - But we gotta get a balance in that.
  • 00:26:29.030 --> 00:26:31.110
  • Because there is sometimes
  • 00:26:31.230 --> 00:26:33.260
  • over or outlandish overkill, outlandish.
  • 00:26:35.010 --> 00:26:39.280
  • You're just going overboard with it.
  • 00:26:40.030 --> 00:26:42.090
  • Where the apostle Paul gets into the next scripture
  • 00:26:42.090 --> 00:26:45.210
  • and he charges the fathers, what did he say?
  • 00:26:45.210 --> 00:26:49.160
  • - "Do not provoke your children
  • 00:26:49.160 --> 00:26:51.050
  • "lest they become discouraged."
  • 00:26:51.050 --> 00:26:53.040
  • - Yeah, yeah, father's don't provoke your children.
  • 00:26:53.040 --> 00:26:55.180
  • So he talked to the wife, he talked to the husband,
  • 00:26:55.180 --> 00:26:58.000
  • he talked to the children, now he's talking to the father.
  • 00:26:58.000 --> 00:27:00.240
  • What did he say about mother's?
  • 00:27:00.240 --> 00:27:02.250
  • He didn't say a thing about the mother's
  • 00:27:03.260 --> 00:27:05.120
  • because he was leaving it to,
  • 00:27:05.120 --> 00:27:08.080
  • at this particular time.
  • 00:27:08.080 --> 00:27:09.250
  • We see different things in the scripture concerning mother.
  • 00:27:09.250 --> 00:27:13.020
  • But he was literally placing the ownness
  • 00:27:13.020 --> 00:27:16.090
  • and the responsibility of the development
  • 00:27:16.090 --> 00:27:19.050
  • of that child on the father.
  • 00:27:19.050 --> 00:27:22.040
  • You wanna be the head of the house do ya?
  • 00:27:22.130 --> 00:27:24.250
  • Voiceover: Thank you for viewing Living By Faith.
  • 00:27:31.020 --> 00:27:33.150
  • If you'd like to obtain a copy of today's lesson,
  • 00:27:33.150 --> 00:27:35.290
  • or any other featured item,
  • 00:27:35.290 --> 00:27:37.220
  • please give us a call at 1-888-630-4540.
  • 00:27:37.220 --> 00:27:44.040
  • "Just call the maintenance guy."
  • 00:27:46.270 --> 00:27:48.070
  • I knew that's what he wanted me to do.
  • 00:27:48.070 --> 00:27:49.240
  • - [Pastor] I was gonna spend that money.
  • 00:27:49.240 --> 00:27:51.030
  • - [DeeDee] He was gonna spend that money.
  • 00:27:51.030 --> 00:27:52.240
  • So I turned and I walked.
  • 00:27:52.240 --> 00:27:55.110
  • And I wanted to go back and look so bad.
  • 00:27:55.110 --> 00:27:58.090
  • You know how you wanna go and see if it's on?
  • 00:27:58.130 --> 00:28:00.030
  • I said "Nope, I'm not going."
  • 00:28:00.030 --> 00:28:01.180
  • I knew the devil was trying to make me go back and doubt.
  • 00:28:01.180 --> 00:28:03.160
  • I said "I'm not going back, I expect it to come on."
  • 00:28:03.160 --> 00:28:06.120
  • And so when I turned I said "God, I know
  • 00:28:06.120 --> 00:28:08.200
  • "he don't believe but show him for me."
  • 00:28:08.200 --> 00:28:11.090
  • (audience cheers)
  • 00:28:11.090 --> 00:28:11.100
  • Voiceover: If you are ever in the Washington
  • 00:28:15.250 --> 00:28:17.060
  • or Baltimore Metropolitan areas, we invite you
  • 00:28:17.060 --> 00:28:19.100
  • to worship with us at one of
  • 00:28:19.100 --> 00:28:21.020
  • our Saturday evening or Sunday morning services.
  • 00:28:21.020 --> 00:28:23.130
  • Please give us a call at 1-888-630-4540.
  • 00:28:23.130 --> 00:28:30.130