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How to Rate Your Marriage

Watch How to Rate Your Marriage
November 30, 2016
28:29

Living by Faith with Mike & DeeDee Freeman

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How to Rate Your Marriage

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  • Mike: On a scale from one to 10,
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  • I need you to rate your marriage.
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  • 10 being the greatest.
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  • I need you to rate from one to 10.
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  • Rate your marriage or your relationship,
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  • even as single.
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  • Give me a number, don't let them see your number.
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  • Here's the law of destination.
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  • The law of destination says firstly,
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  • you must what?
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  • You must locate yourself.
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  • You must know where you are.
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  • Regardless of where the place happens to be,
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  • if you don't know where you are ...
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  • I'm preaching better than y'all saying "amen".
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  • You'll never know how to get there.
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  • This is just for identification purpose only.
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  • This is not to put anybody down,
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  • because some of the brothers going to have
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  • nine and a half. (laughter)
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  • And your wife going to have three. (laughter)
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  • Because here's my style.
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  • If I can't put but seven on that paper,
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  • that is a personal insult to me.
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  • You don't understand.
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  • It's not an insult in the sense that I'm disappointed
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  • about where I am saying seven.
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  • I know I can do so much better, so I'm going
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  • to use this seven and I'm going to go to her
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  • and I'll say, "Okay, how do I become eight?"
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  • So, most men are grading their marriages
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  • higher than their wives.
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  • Voiceover: Today on Marriage Made EZ.
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  • Mike: Your wife is trying to tell you
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  • one of the reasons why she may say a lower number
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  • simply because of your associates.
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  • Your associate is a threat to your relationship.
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  • Insecurity is a birthed out of that wrong relationship.
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  • (upbeat music)
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  • (lyrics) We're going to make marriage easy
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  • Mike: It doesn't matter how we're getting along
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  • with one another.
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  • What matters the most is that I value convenant
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  • and I'm going to fix it.
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  • I'm going to fix it, DeeDee, I'm going to fix it.
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  • You just tell me what I need to do.
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  • I'm going to fix this.
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  • If I got a six, listen, next month,
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  • you're going to tell me I got a seven. (laughter)
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  • No, I'm turned up.
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  • I'm on the grind.
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  • There's nothing more important to me than family.
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  • (applause)
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  • See, because you got to use even priority as a category.
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  • How much do you prioritize her?
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  • DeeDee say, "What you going to do today?"
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  • Automatically in my mind, it's like, "Oh, what, nothing!
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  • "You want me to do something?"
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  • I'm erasing and eradicating everything
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  • that's on my agenda to convey to her in every way,
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  • you are numero uno.
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  • Are you hearing what I'm telling you?
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  • Man, some of the partners and my sons in ministry
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  • just bought me this new Range Rover.
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  • The thing is off the hook, mucho gracias. (laughter)
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  • Me el jefe, the boss. (laughter)
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  • I was in the thing and I was presetting the stations
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  • and DeeDee just cold all the time [unintelligible].
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  • She jumped in the truck, "I'm cold, can you turn on my seat?"
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  • "Turn on your seat, yeah, but I'm presetting this.
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  • "I'm presetting the station, I'm right in the middle
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  • "presetting the station."
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  • And Holy Spirit said, "Is that showing her she's first?"
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  • No, I'm tackling every area.
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  • When she wants you to come home
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  • and there's just a little more to do at work
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  • and you stay at work, you just told her.
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  • Lord Jesus.
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  • Some of y'all ladies looking at me now,
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  • "Leave him alone about that." (laughter)
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  • But dig this.
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  • That at least should be discussed.
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  • So, category.
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  • Family meetings, what's your number in that category?
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  • How did you come to six?
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  • Anybody can say, "Well, we're not so bad."
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  • You really don't know how bad or good you are
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  • until you sit down and you're examining
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  • all of these categories, because you can come up
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  • with a fictitious number that gives some kind
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  • of facade or veneer as being a great representation
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  • of your relationship.
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  • But if you start going through each one of them,
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  • you may not be coming up with the overall correct
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  • and accurate number.
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  • I'm after accuracy.
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  • You can get it.
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  • Come on, talk to me.
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  • DeeDee: I'd like to know, as far as the men,
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  • how do men rate their relationship different
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  • from women, from their wives?
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  • What causes that?
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  • Mike: You all are so emotional.
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  • You're just so, you're so ...
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  • (laughter)
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  • complex and so many ...
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  • The dichotomy and the complexities of your makeup.
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  • You stress about every ...
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  • We just kind of take it and, "Oh, it ain't that bad."
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  • The house is ablaze.
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  • "Calm down." (laughter)
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  • I'm going to get to it, I'm going to call about it.
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  • You're running around here. (laughter)
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  • Men: Amen.
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  • DeeDee: Oh, that's funny.
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  • Because I want -
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  • Mike: We don't get into where you all are.
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  • That's what creates all of who we can be.
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  • DeeDee: That's what creates us having two different numbers.
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  • (applause and laughter)
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  • I got them.
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  • No, but, because -
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  • Mike: And that's what creates two different numbers.
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  • DeeDee: Because you don't get into that.
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  • Mike: We don't see it like you all see it.
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  • You all are just jump about everything.
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  • It ain't the end of the world right now.
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  • It is not the end of the world.
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  • The world is not going to go anywhere
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  • because I haven't been home in three days. (laughter)
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  • DeeDee: And a big slip is on the door saying
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  • you're about to be evicted. (laughter)
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  • Mike: Trust me, baby.
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  • DeeDee: You're going to make it happen.
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  • Mike: And that's why God has so equipped us
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  • with the dynamic of this oneness,
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  • because she brings a part to my life
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  • that if I pay attention to, I can be all together
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  • what God intended, because she possesses a part
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  • DeeDee: That's good.
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  • Mike: And the Bible says I obtain favor,
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  • but I got to get in to know her
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  • and what her cries are, what her fears are,
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  • what her insecurities are, so I can now transition
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  • into becoming all I should become,
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  • because now I'm relatable. (applause)
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  • She's sitting around.
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  • I'm going to get you a coupon. (laughter)
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  • I have watched so many women hurt so bad
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  • and the guy says, "Man, that's just her.
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  • "She's just got problems."
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  • What?
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  • Mister, whatever problem she have
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  • Audience: You have. Mike: You have.
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  • And until you're willing to get into where she is.
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  • Now, let me help you with something,
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  • because I want to go somewhere really quick
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  • to help you, because time is just really lapsing here.
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  • One of the ways, you guys chime in here,
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  • one of the ways that I instantly transitioned my marriage
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  • is by having a man and a woman of God
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  • in my life that I value.
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  • Okay, talk to me.
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  • What does that mean?
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  • DeeDee: No, that's right, because we begin
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  • to have, I was getting ready to say value,
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  • but of course we value their relationship,
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  • but we made ourself accountable to somebody else
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  • and that accountability will cause you to want
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  • to do things right in your relationship,
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  • because you don't want to look a certain way to them.
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  • Pastor Mike and I both, I know for me, I don't do fake,
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  • I don't do phony and I had to tell him that,
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  • because I used to do fake and I used to do phony,
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  • but I hated that, because it was killing me on the inside.
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  • So, I begin to tell him, "Okay, if we're going to do this thing,
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  • "we're going to have to find somebody
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  • "that we can really follow and we can begin to model after."
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  • Mike: Mimic. DeeDee: To mimic.
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  • Mike: Imitate, emulate.
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  • Alec, just talk, tell me something.
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  • Alec: You're right.
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  • There's two points I'd like to make, Pastor, if I could.
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  • We begin, you always say, "Hang around those
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  • "that have your answers, don't hang around
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  • "those that have your problem."
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  • One of the main -
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  • Mike: Say that one more time.
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  • Alec: Hang around those that have your answers,
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  • don't hang around those that have your problem.
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  • Mike: Say that one more time.
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  • Alec: Hang around those that have your answer,
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  • don't hang around those that have your problem.
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  • Mike: I literally say, "Get away from those
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  • "who have your problem."
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  • Get away from those who have your problem,
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  • because whomever you hang out with,
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  • you will soon become like.
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  • Your wife is trying to tell you one of the reasons
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  • why she may say a lower number simply is
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  • because of your associates.
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  • Your associate is a threat to your relationship.
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  • Insecurity is birthed out of that wrong relationship.
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  • She knows Raheem is messing -
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  • (chuckles) Raheem (laughter)
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  • He's no good, but yet, that's your partner,
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  • that's your friend, we've been together
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  • long before I've known you.
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  • Well, now you're conveying to her that she's number two,
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  • because if this one doesn't like me being with anyone
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  • that anyone now is up for discussion
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  • and possibly eliminated.
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  • (upbeat music)
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  • Mike: Mike Mclaughlin, Olathe, Kansas.
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  • Sarah: I'm Sarah and I've been married
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  • 24 years in December.
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  • Mike: I will say 10.5. (laughs)
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  • Sarah: I'd say definitely a 9, a very strong 9.
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  • I guess he could do more things. (laughs)
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  • If I didn't have to compromise so much,
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  • then maybe it would be a 10.
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  • Mike: It's like any other marriage,
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  • there are ups and downs and things like that,
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  • but God has put me with the right person
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  • and the opportunities, even when things are down,
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  • it's still a great thing at the end of the day
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  • to be married to Sarah and I have the great kids we do,
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  • so that's why.
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  • (upbeat music)
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  • Mike: Because if this one doesn't like me being
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  • with anyone, that anyone now is up for discussion
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  • and possibly eliminated.
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  • I want to know why, what are the reasons.
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  • Before I eliminate this relationship or this association,
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  • tell me why, allow me to know.
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  • Maybe it's something I can fix,
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  • but if it's something I can't fix
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  • and it's something that she perpetually dislikes, see you.
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  • I'm not getting any help out here. (laughter)
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  • So, go on.
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  • Alec: So how our marriage went from good to great,
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  • I began to have -
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  • I've never in my life had anyone, A, to mentor me
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  • and I began to have a mentor,
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  • which is Dr. Richard Smith.
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  • That was one partner that I mentored that.
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  • He held me accountable.
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  • The second partner I had, I call them big brother, big sister.
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  • That'd be Elder Conrad and Minister Cindy,
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  • which if everybody has known them,
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  • they've never argued in their marriage
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  • and the way that -
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  • Mike: Do you believe that?
  • 00:15:29.120 --> 00:15:30.170
  • Alec: Absolutely, I see it in action.
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  • Mike: Stand, Conrad and Cindy.
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  • They've been married for 21 years
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  • and in church one night, in church, they said
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  • they have never argued.
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  • Drop your stones, please. (laughter)
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  • I made light of it and I got in the car
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  • and Holy Spirit said, "What do you think was so funny?
  • 00:16:09.240 --> 00:16:13.190
  • "Why are you making light of that?"
  • 00:16:13.190 --> 00:16:15.280
  • Any time the Holy Spirit asks you a question,
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  • it is not because he doesn't know the answer. (laughter)
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  • You're about to learn something.
  • 00:16:24.180 --> 00:16:26.260
  • Watch this [unintelligible]
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  • He said, "How long you known Dr. Price?"
  • 00:16:28.290 --> 00:16:33.070
  • "Uh.17, 18 years."
  • 00:16:34.210 --> 00:16:38.080
  • He said, "When have you ever argued with him?"
  • 00:16:38.080 --> 00:16:40.280
  • I said, "Never."
  • 00:16:42.260 --> 00:16:43.270
  • He said, "You know why?
  • 00:16:43.270 --> 00:16:45.270
  • "Because you want to maintain a certain impression
  • 00:16:45.270 --> 00:16:49.190
  • "with him, but you'll say anything out of your mouth
  • 00:16:49.190 --> 00:16:52.120
  • "to DeeDee, because you're not interested
  • 00:16:52.120 --> 00:16:56.150
  • "in impressing her every day.
  • 00:16:56.150 --> 00:16:59.260
  • "That's why you can go and say whatever you want
  • 00:16:59.260 --> 00:17:02.010
  • "to say to her, but when it comes to your pastor,
  • 00:17:02.010 --> 00:17:06.240
  • "somebody who's not even in covenant with you for life,
  • 00:17:06.240 --> 00:17:11.190
  • "you're giving him more honor than you're giving
  • 00:17:13.050 --> 00:17:15.290
  • "the one that I said that was first place."
  • 00:17:15.290 --> 00:17:18.150
  • Listen, I've never argued with her since.
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  • Watch this.
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  • We've been married for -
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  • How long we've been married?
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  • DeeDee: It'll be 29 years this year.
  • 00:17:29.110 --> 00:17:31.180
  • Mike: We've been married for 29 years this year
  • 00:17:31.180 --> 00:17:35.070
  • and watch this and that only stopped three years ago.
  • 00:17:35.070 --> 00:17:40.080
  • "Well, what've you been doing all the rest of the time?
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  • What do you think? (laughter)
  • 00:17:48.240 --> 00:17:52.080
  • DeeDee: But I didn't argue, you argued.
  • 00:17:59.050 --> 00:18:03.270
  • Mike: We're about to argue about that. (laughter)
  • 00:18:03.270 --> 00:18:06.280
  • No, I was just making light.
  • 00:18:10.220 --> 00:18:12.280
  • I've always been the one, because I like things a certain way.
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  • I'm demonstrative in a certain pragmatic -
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  • There's just some things.
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  • You just saw it in the [sound].
  • 00:18:25.280 --> 00:18:27.160
  • What?
  • 00:18:27.160 --> 00:18:29.180
  • Ain't no mean a thing out of it
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  • and she had to get know that part of me,
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  • but I didn't know, just a fool, just cutting up,
  • 00:18:38.120 --> 00:18:41.010
  • but I got the revelation of the thing.
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  • Let me tell you something right now.
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  • That one word was worth your coming.
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  • (applause)
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  • Look at the person you're here with.
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  • Say, "Guess what." (audience repeats)
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  • From this moment forward. (audience repeats)
  • 00:18:56.170 --> 00:18:58.170
  • We are never, ever (audience repeats)
  • 00:18:58.170 --> 00:19:02.040
  • arguing again. (audience repeats)
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  • You got my word.
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  • Tell them you've got my word. (audience repeats)
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  • Come on, pinky promise. (laughter)
  • 00:19:08.240 --> 00:19:10.050
  • Come on, pinky promise.
  • 00:19:10.050 --> 00:19:14.100
  • Come on, you got to seal the deal.
  • 00:19:14.100 --> 00:19:16.270
  • You got to seal the deal.
  • 00:19:16.270 --> 00:19:19.010
  • Come on, bring it up top, seal the deal. (laughter)
  • 00:19:19.010 --> 00:19:23.020
  • Come on, did you seal it?
  • 00:19:23.040 --> 00:19:25.040
  • Come on, put a little saliva on it. (laughter)
  • 00:19:25.260 --> 00:19:29.080
  • DeeDee: You way over the top. (laughing)
  • 00:19:31.070 --> 00:19:34.160
  • Mike: You know what [Hef] does?
  • 00:19:36.140 --> 00:19:39.110
  • [Dartanian] look, I decided that I was going to do
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  • what I perceived Dr. Price to do.
  • 00:19:47.200 --> 00:19:52.220
  • Now, he may have been cussing Dr. Betty out,
  • 00:19:53.040 --> 00:19:56.250
  • but I gave him the benefit of every doubt
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  • and I said I'm going to do what I think he would do.
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  • Oh, you all may be seated.
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  • Changed my life forever.
  • 00:20:11.150 --> 00:20:17.140
  • (laughs) This may be a dangerous question to ask.
  • 00:20:20.190 --> 00:20:24.060
  • How many of you all got me smoking weed?
  • 00:20:24.180 --> 00:20:28.050
  • (laughter)
  • 00:20:28.090 --> 00:20:32.040
  • DeeDee: I raised my hand on you.
  • 00:20:32.040 --> 00:20:33.060
  • Mike: I'm talking about now.
  • 00:20:33.060 --> 00:20:35.190
  • I said, "How many of y'all?"
  • 00:20:35.290 --> 00:20:37.140
  • No, for real, how many of y'all got me smoking weed?
  • 00:20:37.140 --> 00:20:41.200
  • How many of you all got me hanging out in clubs,
  • 00:20:41.200 --> 00:20:44.040
  • drinking, getting drunk, hanging out with women?
  • 00:20:44.040 --> 00:20:47.030
  • How many of y'all, you have me cussing Dr. DeeDee out?
  • 00:20:47.030 --> 00:20:50.200
  • How many of y'all have me?
  • 00:20:50.200 --> 00:20:52.070
  • No, really, raise your hand if you have me in that.
  • 00:20:52.070 --> 00:20:56.040
  • How many of y'all got me whooping her, slapping her,
  • 00:20:56.040 --> 00:20:59.010
  • beating her?
  • 00:20:59.010 --> 00:21:00.060
  • How many of y'all have -
  • 00:21:00.060 --> 00:21:02.100
  • Watch this, because you don't have me in your mind
  • 00:21:02.100 --> 00:21:07.150
  • and you don't even know me.
  • 00:21:07.150 --> 00:21:09.220
  • DeeDee: That's good.
  • 00:21:09.220 --> 00:21:10.280
  • Mike: You don't know what the heck I'm doing,
  • 00:21:10.280 --> 00:21:13.030
  • but you got in your mind and you don't have me doing
  • 00:21:13.030 --> 00:21:15.280
  • any of those things, all I did was what I had Dr. Price doing.
  • 00:21:15.280 --> 00:21:21.230
  • Audience: Amen.
  • 00:21:21.230 --> 00:21:23.180
  • Mike: This is just ...
  • 00:21:25.050 --> 00:21:27.050
  • Okay, but let me give you some scripture.
  • 00:21:27.050 --> 00:21:29.040
  • We'll get back.
  • 00:21:29.040 --> 00:21:30.100
  • Let me give you two scripture references
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  • and then I'll let them go.
  • 00:21:31.240 --> 00:21:33.210
  • Give me that Hebrews 6:12.
  • 00:21:33.210 --> 00:21:36.050
  • "Don't drag your feet.
  • 00:21:37.110 --> 00:21:39.120
  • "Be like those who do," what?
  • 00:21:39.250 --> 00:21:42.120
  • Audience: "Stay the course."
  • 00:21:42.120 --> 00:21:43.200
  • Mike: With what?
  • 00:21:43.200 --> 00:21:44.220
  • Audience: "Committed faith."
  • 00:21:44.220 --> 00:21:46.000
  • Mike: "Committed faith and get everything,"
  • 00:21:46.000 --> 00:21:50.140
  • Audience: "Promised to them."
  • 00:21:50.140 --> 00:21:53.030
  • Mike: Here's the one you really need to see.
  • 00:21:55.000 --> 00:21:56.220
  • First Thessalonians, go there.
  • 00:21:56.220 --> 00:21:58.160
  • Chapter number one.
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  • Come on, Brother Richard.
  • 00:22:00.180 --> 00:22:02.260
  • What verse are we starting?
  • 00:22:02.260 --> 00:22:04.050
  • DeeDee: Five.
  • 00:22:04.050 --> 00:22:05.180
  • Mike: Verse five, I think it's before that.
  • 00:22:05.180 --> 00:22:08.030
  • DeeDee: We started at -
  • 00:22:08.110 --> 00:22:09.090
  • Richard: Verses four and three.
  • 00:22:09.090 --> 00:22:10.230
  • DeeDee: Four and three.
  • 00:22:10.230 --> 00:22:11.200
  • Mike: Let me see.
  • 00:22:11.200 --> 00:22:14.150
  • Go down, go up, go up, go up.
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  • Give me two.
  • 00:22:21.070 --> 00:22:23.000
  • First Thessalonians, Chapter number one, verse number two.
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  • Watch this.
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  • We do what?
  • 00:22:30.030 --> 00:22:31.200
  • Audience: Give thanks.
  • 00:22:31.200 --> 00:22:32.190
  • Mike: To God for what?
  • 00:22:32.190 --> 00:22:33.260
  • Audience: [unintelligible]
  • 00:22:33.260 --> 00:22:36.120
  • Mike: No, no, give me Message Bible.
  • 00:22:36.120 --> 00:22:40.040
  • That's good stuff.
  • 00:22:43.110 --> 00:22:45.040
  • Here we go, 1:2.
  • 00:22:45.180 --> 00:22:47.070
  • "Every time we think of you,"
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  • Audience: "We thank God for you."
  • 00:22:51.050 --> 00:22:52.120
  • Mike: Would you do that for me?
  • 00:22:52.120 --> 00:22:54.140
  • I said would you do that for me?
  • 00:22:54.140 --> 00:22:55.230
  • Audience: Yes.
  • 00:22:55.230 --> 00:22:56.280
  • Mike: I said would you do that for me?
  • 00:22:56.280 --> 00:22:57.230
  • Audience: Yes.
  • 00:22:57.230 --> 00:22:59.070
  • Mike: I'm saying every time you think of Mike and DeeDee
  • 00:22:59.070 --> 00:23:02.040
  • would you just thank God for us?
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  • Audience: Amen.
  • 00:23:03.190 --> 00:23:04.240
  • Mike: I asked you a question.
  • 00:23:04.240 --> 00:23:06.070
  • Audience: Yes!
  • 00:23:06.070 --> 00:23:07.130
  • Mike: Watch this.
  • 00:23:07.130 --> 00:23:08.290
  • "Day and night, you're in our," what?
  • 00:23:08.290 --> 00:23:12.030
  • Audience: "Prayers."
  • 00:23:12.030 --> 00:23:13.020
  • Mike: Here we go.
  • 00:23:13.020 --> 00:23:15.040
  • "As we," what?
  • 00:23:15.200 --> 00:23:17.050
  • All: "Call to mind your work of faith, your labor of love,
  • 00:23:17.050 --> 00:23:22.230
  • "and your patience of hope in following,"
  • 00:23:22.230 --> 00:23:27.000
  • Audience: "Our Master, Jesus Christ."
  • 00:23:27.000 --> 00:23:29.230
  • Mike: Watch this.
  • 00:23:29.230 --> 00:23:31.070
  • "It is clear to us, friends, that God not only loves you
  • 00:23:31.070 --> 00:23:36.030
  • "very much but also has put his hand on you
  • 00:23:36.030 --> 00:23:41.200
  • "for something special.
  • 00:23:41.200 --> 00:23:45.020
  • "When the Message," watch this, "we preached came to you,
  • 00:23:45.070 --> 00:23:50.210
  • "it wasn't just words."
  • 00:23:50.240 --> 00:23:53.230
  • (applause) No, this can't just be words to y'all.
  • 00:23:53.230 --> 00:24:00.120
  • Audience Member: Amen, Pastor.
  • 00:24:00.120 --> 00:24:02.090
  • Mike: It wasn't just words.
  • 00:24:02.090 --> 00:24:05.010
  • All: "Something happened in you."
  • 00:24:05.010 --> 00:24:08.230
  • Mike: You should become the word that you're hearing.
  • 00:24:08.230 --> 00:24:14.180
  • (applause)
  • 00:24:14.180 --> 00:24:17.210
  • I am a man of God who loves his wife like Christ
  • 00:24:17.210 --> 00:24:22.180
  • and a seven and eight and a nine is unacceptable.
  • 00:24:22.210 --> 00:24:28.020
  • "Something happened in you."
  • 00:24:30.130 --> 00:24:33.000
  • "The Holy Spirit put steel,"
  • 00:24:33.000 --> 00:24:39.150
  • We didn't say plastic.
  • 00:24:39.200 --> 00:24:42.230
  • You break every time somebody say something to you.
  • 00:24:43.110 --> 00:24:47.170
  • We didn't say fiberglass, we didn't say aluminum.
  • 00:24:47.170 --> 00:24:52.030
  • Steel.
  • 00:24:52.030 --> 00:24:54.040
  • "You paid careful attention to the way we lived
  • 00:24:54.290 --> 00:25:01.070
  • "among you, and determined to live,"
  • 00:25:01.070 --> 00:25:07.020
  • Oh Lord Jesus.
  • 00:25:07.020 --> 00:25:09.040
  • Come on, somebody. (cheering)
  • 00:25:11.010 --> 00:25:13.280
  • If Dr. DeeDee and I have this blessed marriage
  • 00:25:16.210 --> 00:25:20.090
  • and we got some 10s in here, it is apparent
  • 00:25:20.090 --> 00:25:24.170
  • that 10 is attainable.
  • 00:25:24.170 --> 00:25:27.170
  • Audience: Amen.
  • 00:25:27.170 --> 00:25:29.270
  • Mike: Now why don't you have one?
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  • with us on Periscope sometime?
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  • That is a very intimate way to get to know DeeDee and I.
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  • I mean, she is just off the hook.
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  • She behaves pretty well
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  • to see some of the behind the scene antics
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  • - [DeeDee] See how he acts. - of this one.
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