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How to Rate Your Marriage

Watch How to Rate Your Marriage
December 1, 2016
28:31

Living by Faith with Mike & DeeDee Freeman

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  • and we'll see you there.
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  • Mike: Your wife is trying to tell you
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  • one of the reasons why she may say a lower number
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  • simply because of your associates.
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  • Your associate is a threat to your relationship.
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  • Security is birth out of that wrong relationship.
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  • She knows Raheem is messing Raheem.
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  • (audience laughing)
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  • He's no good
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  • but yet that's your partner, that's your friend,
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  • we've been together long before I've known you.
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  • Well, now you're conveying to her
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  • that she's number two
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  • because if this one doesn't like me being with anyone,
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  • that anyone now is up for discussion
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  • and possibly eliminated.
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  • Voiceover: Today on Marriage Made Easy.
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  • Mike: Next time something jump off in your house.
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  • Hey, we receive joy!
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  • (audience applauding)
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  • Shake your booty tonight, joy!
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  • She cook it, joy!
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  • (audience laughing)
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  • Come on brothers, shout joy!
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  • Audience: Joy!
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  • (upbeat music)
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  • (lyrics) We're going to make marriage easy
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  • Mike: If Dr. DeeDee and I have this blessed marriage
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  • and we got some tens in here,
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  • it is apparent that ten is attainable.
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  • Now why don't you have one?
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  • Why aren't you stepping up tonight to say
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  • "You know what, okay."
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  • "It's on."
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  • "Let's get ready."
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  • You ain't going to have no fight
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  • (audience laughing)
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  • but you're going to come together and fight for your ten.
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  • (audience clapping)
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  • Look at the person you're here with tonight.
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  • Say "Bless God, we're tens."
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  • Audience: Bless God, we're tens.
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  • Mike: We're not 9 1/2s.
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  • Audience: We're not 9 1/2s. Mike: We're not eight's.
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  • Audience: We're not eight's.
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  • Mike: We are tens.
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  • Audience: We are tens.
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  • Mike: Matter of fact tell him decrease.
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  • Say, matter of fact.
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  • Audience: Matter of fact.
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  • Mike: I prophesize to you.
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  • Audience: I prophesize to you.
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  • Mike: We're twelve's. Audience: We're twelve's.
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  • Mike: In Jesus name.
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  • Audience: In Jesus name. (clapping)
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  • Mike: They just aired this young boy on the news
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  • who had a 5.45 average grade point.
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  • I said, how do you get that?
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  • How do you get that baby?
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  • DeeDee: The AP, the higher classes.
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  • Mike: The AP, the higher class.
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  • My sister's principal.
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  • How do you get a 5.45?
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  • Your grades, check it all AP classes,
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  • maximize getting extra stuff.
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  • The boy had four writes to every college you can name
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  • but Harvard
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  • and he said I'm selecting Yale anyway.
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  • (audience clapping)
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  • Your relationship is going bust the chart.
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  • Audience: Amen.
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  • Mike: You missed it. (audience applauding)
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  • Because in order for marriage to be made easy,
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  • it's going to require work.
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  • If you want it easy, you're going to have to do the work.
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  • Audience: Amen.
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  • Mike: Here we go, watch this.
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  • Determine to live, that way yourself in imitating us,
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  • Mike: You imitated. Audience: You imitated.
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  • Mike: I have decided to follow Jesus,
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  • I have decided to follow Jesus.
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  • Ain't nobody tell you follow Jesus.
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  • You know what Paul told the church?
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  • Follow me
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  • and your problem is you got this raise
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  • and this thought about following Jesus
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  • and you don't even know him.
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  • You need to hook up with someone
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  • who you precede to have his ways.
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  • I'm trying to help you
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  • and that's the first place you go
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  • when you don't want to submit to a man.
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  • I'm following Jesus, I ain't following no man.
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  • Man, putting on his pant just the way he put ...
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  • Won't you tell that police officer that
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  • when he pull you up.
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  • I don't know why you pull me up,
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  • you put your pants on the same.
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  • (audience laughing)
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  • The order of God is this.
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  • God would always put a man in another man's life
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  • to lead him to the next level of life.
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  • I don't need to go to church, I don't need a pastor
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  • and you are literally forfeiting the plan of God
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  • for you to have the good life.
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  • I'm just telling you what I know.
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  • Now watch this.
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  • He says, In imitating us
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  • you imitated the master, although what great?
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  • Trouble accompany the word
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  • because what I'm telling you, Satan doesn't like.
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  • Immediately after the word is sung, his come.
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  • Some of you will be tempted to fight on the way home.
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  • Lean off all your wife say,
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  • that's that cover right behind us.
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  • (audience laughing)
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  • They got to be in front of us or behind us
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  • or on the side of us but it ain't us.
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  • Come on, somebody!
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  • (audience clapping)
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  • You were able to take great joy from Holy Spirit
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  • taking the trouble with joy and joy.
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  • Next time something jump off in your house.
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  • Hey, we receive joy!
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  • (audience applauding)
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  • Shake your booty tonight, joy!
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  • She cook it, joy!
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  • (audience laughing)
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  • Come on brothers, shout joy!
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  • Audience: Joy.
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  • Mike: You got to stay there.
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  • (audience laughing)
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  • Did he say booty?
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  • (audience laughing)
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  • Like Dr. DeeDee, okay, [unintelligible].
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  • Dr. DeeDee has it like turn up
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  • and this department.
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  • I don't know what has happened.
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  • (audience laughing)
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  • I can't take it.
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  • (audience laughing)
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  • She's now complaining about me
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  • and I want to be there but truth is I'm tired.
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  • (audience laughing)
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  • I couldn't resist that.
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  • I just heard it couldn't resist it.
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  • Now, I don't know what's happening
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  • but I'm not failing in that area because I'm communicating.
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  • (audience laughing)
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  • Some of the ladies look like.
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  • (audience laughing)
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  • DeeDee: I don't know anything going together.
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  • I'm going to be satisfied by talk.
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  • (audience laughing)
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  • Mike: Can we all stop playing?
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  • (audience laughing)
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  • No, my point is ...
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  • (audience laughing)
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  • Watch this,
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  • nothing is that bad when you are discussing it.
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  • If I can at least get you to keep talking
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  • about whatever dilemma.
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  • I'm telling you openly and honestly
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  • with whatever's going on.
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  • God, I just heard that and I ain't don't want to hear that.
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  • Some of you are just so dishonest to each other.
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  • I mean it came up on me so strong John,
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  • Pastor John that it's like they lie.
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  • You'll never have what you want to have lying to her.
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  • DeeDee: Or to him [unintelligible]. Mike: Or to him.
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  • Because you didn't say anything,
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  • didn't mean you didn't lie.
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  • A lie is anything used to deceive another.
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  • I didn't say anything
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  • but you already know what she's asking
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  • and you're keeping quiet on it like nothing happening.
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  • All she want to know, what's going on?
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  • Everything all right?
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  • A lie and you're not dealing honestly with
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  • man, the wife of your youth,
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  • the scripture says.
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  • (upbeat music)
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  • (melancholic music)
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  • Only four year and a half have we not argued, 27 years.
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  • Most people will say, "You're going to argue!"
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  • Who said you had to?
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  • If you keep her here, if you keep him here,
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  • it will help you to refrain your tongue from evil.
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  • That was worth coming out here tonight in this cell.
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  • Shout amen somebody.
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  • Audience: Amen.
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  • Man in dark polo: I've really liked the fact
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  • that they're very real and open and honest
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  • and transparency is such a key
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  • in developing a great communication in marriage,
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  • in our marriages and tonight that was really
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  • exemplified in a great way
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  • and it really impacted our lives and we enjoyed it.
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  • Man in red polo: What I liked about tonight was
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  • how the transparency that Drs. Mike and DeeDee
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  • have in their relationship.
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  • It also helped me and Stacy and our relationship
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  • because now we see
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  • that some of the same things that's going on
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  • in our marriage were going on in their marriage.
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  • They had the answers to our issues
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  • and we apply them to our life
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  • and now our marriage is made easy.
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  • Woman in black coat: How real it was kept.
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  • You know what I'm saying,
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  • like it really got beneath the surface on a lot of things.
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  • I feel like a lot of questions that you want to ask
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  • but never get a chance to really ask
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  • were addressed
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  • and it's like rekindle something between us,
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  • brought us back to that first place.
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  • Man in dark polo: Just communicating more
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  • and getting back to that fun level
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  • of just enjoying each other's company and laughing more.
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  • That's something that a lot of couples don't really do
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  • but I'm glad it's in our relationship,
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  • that's something we do often.
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  • That was just like you're right there.
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  • I saw it from the booty.
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  • That was it right there.
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  • Woman in white: When Dr. DeeDee talked about communication
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  • and how you communicate by asking those questions,
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  • making sure that your partner understands exactly
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  • what you've said so to ask those questions
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  • like do you really understand what I mean?
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  • Did you hear what I said?
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  • What is your response to what I said
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  • and so I think that that was pretty powerful.
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  • Woman in gray: Talking about issues that
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  • in many churches they may find it hard
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  • to discuss and our pastor taught us.
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  • God is the creator of sex
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  • so that's where you should be talking about at that.
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  • Man in white: I like the fact that it was interactive
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  • so you got a chance to see different couples
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  • and engaged and different personalities
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  • and different situations with the unique marriages.
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  • With us being not newlyweds but about two years in,
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  • it's good for us to see disparity
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  • and different types of real life situations
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  • to help us out.
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  • Woman in white: I think it's just really awesome
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  • how they are really changing people's lives
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  • through marriage and declaring war
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  • on divorce because there's so many people
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  • in the body of Christ who are married
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  • but yet they're still act as if their single.
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  • They really give you practical keys
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  • on how to remain married
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  • which is really, really good too.
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  • Woman in blouse: I agree, when he said that
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  • if communication is not in your home
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  • then death has entered your house,
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  • that was the, like that was definitely in the notes.
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  • (soaring music)
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  • Mike: Let me just try to finish this one.
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  • Watch this.
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  • Do you know ...
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  • Come on, read with me, come on.
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  • Mike: Do you know that ...
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  • Audience: All of the prophecies Mike: Prophecies.
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  • Audience: Both in Macedonia.
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  • Mike: And Achaia. Audience: And Achaia.
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  • Achia.
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  • Believers look up to you.
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  • Audience: Has gotten around.
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  • Your lives are echoing the Master's Word,
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  • not only in the provinces
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  • but all over the place.
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  • Mike: The news ... Audeince: The news of your faith
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  • in God is out.
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  • We don't even have to say anything anymore,
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  • you're the message.
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  • (audience clapping)
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  • Mike: This thing go get so turned up.
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  • You ain't going to have to open your mouth anymore.
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  • People will begin to see the changes
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  • that you've come from six, seven, eight, nine and 10
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  • and you won't even have to open your mouth,
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  • your marriage will become the message.
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  • Audience: Amen.
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  • Mike: That's gangster.
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  • (audience laughing)
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  • How much do you value this?
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  • How much are you in?
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  • Are you all in or partially in?
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  • What's up?
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  • Because this world is in desperate need of
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  • marriage examples.
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  • Say something John.
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  • (audience laughing)
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  • This is Pastor John talking with Jen.
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  • John: Amen, Pastor that's exactly what drew me here.
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  • When we came to the very first Marriage Made Easy
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  • before we even joined this ministry.
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  • The thing that so impressed us was your lies,
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  • it was real.
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  • It wasn't something made up
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  • and because we were able to come and talk to you guys
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  • and get to know you,
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  • we understood that it was real.
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  • Mike: Come on. John: What you see up here
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  • is exactly what you see in the personal lives
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  • and that is exactly how we have endeavored
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  • to do this very same thing.
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  • I've never had anybody bold enough
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  • Mike: Come on.
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  • John: That's what I'm striving for,
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  • that's exactly what I'm striving for.
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  • Mike: Come on.
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  • John: As the example and I never did that before.
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  • Mike: Come on.
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  • DeeDee: That's good.
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  • Mike: Now, how many men, how many husbands
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  • could literally go home and tell your children,
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  • DeeDee: That's good.
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  • Mike: Your wife would be looking like.
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  • (audience laughing)
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  • Because Christians are not exhibiting
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  • and not exemplify what we're supposed to be exemplified.
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  • Are you hearing what I'm saying?
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  • We are now pulling back on the standards
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  • and the ethics that God intended for us to uphold,
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  • to keep this thing in this proper place.
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  • That's why all the turmoil is happening in the world
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  • is because of the family.
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  • If you don't have this mess in the family,
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  • removing God, removing,
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  • something happens.
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  • Time passes if something happens.
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  • Like they took God out of school
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  • and then think they were going to be in shootings from.
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  • Little by little, the morals and the standards,
  • 00:20:12.210 --> 00:20:19.080
  • even their marriages are eroding.
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  • Who are going to be the ones who are going to stand up
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  • and lift up the banner?
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  • Look at that, look at that, that we are with.
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  • Yeah, you are, yeah, yeah, I know.
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  • I know, I know.
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  • Just shout I'm all in.
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  • Audience: I'm all in. (clapping)
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  • Mike: Then we don't do anything
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  • where a father can say "Son, you watch me."
  • 00:20:51.080 --> 00:20:57.050
  • That was the original intent.
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  • The heavenly father created sons
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  • and his sons were supposed to look to him initially
  • 00:21:06.040 --> 00:21:12.050
  • then these earthly fathers became fathers,
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  • replicas of the heavenly father.
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  • That's why the apostle Paul said,
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  • "When you imitated us, you imitated the master."
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  • That father who's supposed to be in the home
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  • and 65% of them are not.
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  • Well supposed to show that boy God
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  • and be just like Jesus.
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  • When they act like Thomas and the other disciples,
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  • show us the Father.
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  • Jesus said, "When you see me."
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  • Now how many of us can stand
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  • with that kind of authority with our son.
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  • Son, when you see me, you see the father.
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  • You can't just come in here and hear this word.
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  • You got to become this word.
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  • DeeDee: Yes, that's good.
  • 00:22:18.140 --> 00:22:20.120
  • (audience clapping)
  • 00:22:20.120 --> 00:22:26.110
  • Mike: Tom.
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  • Tom: Pastor, we are without excuse
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  • because we have a living example
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  • and it's up to us to choose to follow the example before us
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  • to achieve the goal.
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  • Mike: Come tell me baby, come on.
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  • Tom: Because if we follow their example,
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  • we will take the world for Christ.
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  • Audience: Amen.
  • 00:22:48.000 --> 00:22:49.120
  • Tom: None of us can't say that
  • 00:22:49.120 --> 00:22:51.270
  • but at least with this man and woman of God,
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  • Audience: Amen.
  • 00:22:53.240 --> 00:22:57.150
  • Tom: I say this all the time.
  • 00:22:57.150 --> 00:22:59.000
  • Whenever I come up here,
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  • how do you get so successful?
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  • Just listen to him, I just follow him.
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  • It's not rocket scientist,
  • 00:23:02.290 --> 00:23:04.100
  • I mean it's a scripture principle.
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  • You become the same person who hang around.
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  • Mike: Come on.
  • 00:23:09.120 --> 00:23:10.250
  • Tom: I just feel quite opposite hang with those who guys,
  • 00:23:10.250 --> 00:23:13.230
  • ask me if it was your [unintelligible].
  • 00:23:13.230 --> 00:23:15.030
  • You think about it, it's a very simple saying
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  • where it's completely biblical based
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  • because everything I've achieved in my life
  • 00:23:19.040 --> 00:23:21.030
  • is by listening to what this man and woman of God
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  • Mike: Wow.
  • 00:23:24.130 --> 00:23:25.240
  • Tom: You're so smart, I'm not smart.
  • 00:23:25.240 --> 00:23:28.170
  • It just feels like he's got what I want.
  • 00:23:28.170 --> 00:23:31.000
  • Okay, so I'm going to follow what he's doing
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  • to try to get what he's got.
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  • Mike: Oh baby you,
  • 00:23:36.100 --> 00:23:39.080
  • you got what I need
  • 00:23:39.080 --> 00:23:42.110
  • Audience: A friend.
  • 00:23:42.110 --> 00:23:46.280
  • Mike: Okay, all right.
  • 00:23:46.280 --> 00:23:48.060
  • (audience laughing)
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  • I love having fun but I ain't here to play
  • 00:23:49.290 --> 00:23:52.010
  • with nobody.
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  • All you got to do is find that holy hook up.
  • 00:23:54.080 --> 00:23:58.150
  • Audience: That's right.
  • 00:23:58.150 --> 00:24:00.220
  • Mike: Come on Tom, you guys talk to me.
  • 00:24:02.150 --> 00:24:04.090
  • Come on doc, tell me something good, tell me.
  • 00:24:04.090 --> 00:24:07.010
  • Tom: The only other thing that I will pass on
  • 00:24:07.010 --> 00:24:09.260
  • is about a year ago
  • 00:24:09.260 --> 00:24:12.270
  • and you confirmed a couple of months ago,
  • 00:24:12.270 --> 00:24:14.160
  • I got the revelation of sowing into my wife.
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  • We sow into every other thing,
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  • Mike: Oh, man.
  • 00:24:19.120 --> 00:24:21.080
  • Tom: If you really want to see change in your marriage,
  • 00:24:21.080 --> 00:24:23.100
  • I began to sow on my wife and I made no shortcuts.
  • 00:24:23.100 --> 00:24:27.150
  • That means I didn't just buy her something
  • 00:24:27.150 --> 00:24:29.150
  • because I wanted to do just to pass it,
  • 00:24:29.150 --> 00:24:32.140
  • I got her the best which whatever she thought she wanted,
  • 00:24:32.140 --> 00:24:35.270
  • I went and brought it.
  • 00:24:35.270 --> 00:24:37.180
  • Now some people might say,
  • 00:24:37.180 --> 00:24:39.010
  • I went to the Gucci store, the Louis Vuitton store,
  • 00:24:39.010 --> 00:24:41.180
  • whatever it is, I brought her the best.
  • 00:24:41.180 --> 00:24:43.230
  • A new car she was thinking
  • 00:24:43.230 --> 00:24:45.070
  • that she wanted a new Mercedes, I brought it for her.
  • 00:24:45.070 --> 00:24:47.150
  • I didn't make any shortcuts and as I began to do this,
  • 00:24:47.150 --> 00:24:50.170
  • Mike: Wait a minute.
  • 00:24:50.170 --> 00:24:51.280
  • I mean, [unintelligible]. (audience laughing)
  • 00:24:51.280 --> 00:24:56.010
  • Mike: Some things we ain't ready to follow it.
  • 00:24:56.010 --> 00:25:01.120
  • DeeDee: It's the principle.
  • 00:25:02.070 --> 00:25:03.270
  • Mike: It is the principle guess what,
  • 00:25:03.270 --> 00:25:06.170
  • if that Hyundai is the best you can do.
  • 00:25:06.170 --> 00:25:12.060
  • DeeDee: Mean she might just need some new tires.
  • 00:25:12.060 --> 00:25:14.270
  • Mike: The best.
  • 00:25:14.270 --> 00:25:17.020
  • DeeDee: She just want what she want.
  • 00:25:17.020 --> 00:25:19.010
  • Mike: She's always kind of challenged me about,
  • 00:25:19.010 --> 00:25:24.150
  • I would buy her what I would want for her.
  • 00:25:25.160 --> 00:25:28.080
  • (audience laughing)
  • 00:25:28.080 --> 00:25:33.180
  • I didn't [know] people want a coupon.
  • 00:25:33.180 --> 00:25:35.140
  • (audience laughing)
  • 00:25:35.140 --> 00:25:37.280
  • Or are you relating to that?
  • 00:25:37.280 --> 00:25:39.180
  • DeeDee: Yeah.
  • 00:25:39.180 --> 00:25:40.260
  • Mike: I would buy her what I wanted for her
  • 00:25:40.260 --> 00:25:44.140
  • especially with cars.
  • 00:25:44.140 --> 00:25:46.120
  • Baby, you need this car.
  • 00:25:47.180 --> 00:25:49.190
  • I like black car, she likes white car.
  • 00:25:50.200 --> 00:25:53.090
  • It was so hard to buy a white car
  • 00:25:53.090 --> 00:25:57.060
  • but guess what I do, I value her.
  • 00:25:58.240 --> 00:26:01.190
  • Men, if you will just start sowing into her,
  • 00:26:02.030 --> 00:26:07.260
  • make your primary focus and interest, your wife,
  • 00:26:09.070 --> 00:26:13.200
  • you're going to sow into her.
  • 00:26:13.200 --> 00:26:16.030
  • I don't think you understand what I just said.
  • 00:26:18.260 --> 00:26:20.280
  • I want to sow into you.
  • 00:26:20.280 --> 00:26:24.010
  • (audience laughing)
  • 00:26:25.090 --> 00:26:36.190
  • DeeDee: I think that fifth you got me.
  • 00:26:36.190 --> 00:26:39.120
  • Mike: It's turned up.
  • 00:26:39.120 --> 00:26:41.080
  • DeeDee: Probably tell some.
  • 00:26:41.080 --> 00:26:42.140
  • You've been prompt this all these years
  • 00:26:42.140 --> 00:26:45.020
  • and now you want to turn on me.
  • 00:26:45.020 --> 00:26:46.210
  • Mike: What's up?
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