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The Foundational Principles of Marriage

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July 30, 2017
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Living by Faith with Mike & DeeDee Freeman

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The Foundational Principles of Marriage

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  • ("It Takes Two" by Rob Base & DJ EZ Rock)
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  • - [Narrator] Join us for Marriage Made EZ,
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  • with our special guests, Drs. Joseph and Renee Mills
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  • of Agape Embassy Ministries,
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  • as they share the secrets to their 51 year marriage.
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  • Friday August 4th 7pm
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  • at Spirit of Fath Christian Center in Brandywine, Maryland.
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  • ("It Takes Two" by Rob Base & DJ EZ Rock)
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  • But I know your heart is right towards one another.
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  • And that's what you have to begin to put more emphasis on.
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  • Instead of just the little idiosyncrasies,
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  • idiosyncrasies that goes on in the marriage
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  • that's designed to become distractions.
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  • No more distractions, we will ignore and avoid all of
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  • these distractions.
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  • (cheering)
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  • Wow, marriage made easy, okay this is amazing,
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  • this is amazing, now I know that things are done
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  • with excellence around here.
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  • But my goodness.
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  • I'm excited to be here
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  • and very honored to sing for you tonight.
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  • Many of you may know me from,
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  • anybody know some of my music?
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  • Okay.
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  • Okay, okay, so,
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  • maybe I'll talk about things that you don't know.
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  • One I believe that God has called me to a specific
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  • ministry for marrieds, in particular.
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  • But I believe my musical legacy has always been about
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  • singing to the hearts of women.
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  • And to the minds of men.
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  • To encourage you in love.
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  • But, you know, love takes on so many facets
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  • and the one thing I do wanna start with
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  • is love of the Lord.
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  • I want to do a little bit of this song for Pastor Mike.
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  • We were talking about this,
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  • I'm gonna do a little bit of acapella
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  • then I'm gonna go and I'll do some of my other music for you
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  • but (sighing)
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  • in order for you to have success in marriage,
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  • I know a lot of it is about the faithfulness of God.
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  • Beyond yourself, hallelujah.
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  • Hallelujah.
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  • Great is thy faithfulness
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  • Unto me father
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  • There is no shadow of
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  • Turning in thee
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  • Thy failest not
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  • Thy compassions oh Lord
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  • They fail not
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  • As thou has been, thou forever shalt be
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  • Summer and winter, springtime and harvest
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  • Sun, moon and stars and their
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  • And their courses above
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  • Join in all nature
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  • In manifold witness
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  • To thy great faithfulness
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  • Mercy and love
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  • Oh great is thy faithfulness
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  • Anybody know?
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  • Great
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  • Is thy faithfulness
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  • Morning by morning
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  • New mercy I see
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  • All I have needed thy hand
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  • Has provided
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  • And great is thy faithfulness
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  • Lord unto me
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  • Oh great is thy faithfulness
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  • Great
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  • Is thy faithfulness
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  • Morning by morning
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  • New mercy I see
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  • And all I have needed
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  • Thy hand
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  • Thy hand, Jesus thy hand
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  • Has provided
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  • And great is thy faithfulness
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  • Great is thy faithfulness
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  • Great is thy faithfulness
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  • Lord unto
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  • To, to
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  • To me
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  • (cheering)
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  • Hallelujah God.
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  • Hallelujah!
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  • (gentle music)
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  • You called me out upon the waters
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  • The great unknown
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  • - And we're on this campaign,
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  • to go throughout the nation, to release an anointing
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  • on couples, so that they can have the same thing
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  • up on their lives, and live a blessed life
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  • for the rest of your life!
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  • I decree it to be so, in the name of Jesus!
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  • - When I first came, I was told that I was not gonna
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  • leave the same way that I came in.
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  • And true to honest, I didn't.
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  • I mean, I really felt the presence of a superior being
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  • in this building.
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  • It's just, overwhelming more or less.
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  • It's hard to explain because it was new coming to me.
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  • And so, but it's just, thank you sweetheart.
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  • It's the best I can say, it's a wonderful feeling.
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  • - They are real, they showed us that couples could
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  • be real you know, as Christians,
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  • and they funny, you know, we just love that they
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  • are pastors and they have a loving marriage
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  • and that they showed us that the good example
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  • of what marriage is truly made of.
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  • - And I will have to say, I appreciate the spirit
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  • that sits over Marriage Made EZ.
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  • You know, there's a presence, from the time you step
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  • on the ground wherever it is, and walk into,
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  • that it sends a calmness.
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  • And this is a place, man, I've watched this three,
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  • four, five years now, and by all means,
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  • get here, wherever it is.
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  • And we drove six hours away, so you know,
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  • get here, there's a presence here that will break chains.
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  • All for marriages.
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  • - What I liked most about it was
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  • how real he was, the applications he gave us,
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  • the nuggets that he dropped, I love it.
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  • We were going through a divorce, we were,
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  • but after tonight, I'm gonna call him and tell him
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  • I'm done, 'cause my husband, I'm glad he brought me here.
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  • - I don't know if you were given one of these,
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  • but this really should not have been given to me.
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  • It should have been given to you.
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  • And I want to pin this on you because you
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  • were the super woman involved in making my life
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  • what it is today.
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  • (applause) (gentle music)
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  • Wow.
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  • Amazing.
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  • - That was too emotional.
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  • (laughing)
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  • That kinda got me, I'm hitting him, like,
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  • Lord, I gotta get myself together.
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  • - Oh Jesus.
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  • Would you just grab a hold of the spouse that you have
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  • here with you, just turn in and face them.
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  • There is nothing, absolutely nothing,
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  • more important...
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  • In life than the person standing in front of you.
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  • Next to of course, our heavenly father.
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  • It's far time that, don't look at me, look at them.
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  • Some of you have been avoiding that person right
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  • there in front of you.
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  • You've been called to spend a life of love
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  • and purpose together, and you've been avoiding one another
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  • and it's far past time for you to be dominating in life.
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  • This year is the year of change.
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  • Everything changes for your marriage.
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  • Tonight.
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  • I said everything changes.
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  • Your finance, your romance, changes.
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  • It's not just going to another level,
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  • it's going to the next dimension.
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  • Go ahead and kiss her on the forehead,
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  • kiss her on the cheek, kiss her on her lips.
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  • Suck her nose.
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  • (laughing)
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  • Tell her, say, "Things change for us tonight."
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  • - Tonight, all right.
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  • - All I do is for you, tell 'em, all I do,
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  • is for you.
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  • And you may not communicate it the way he wants to
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  • hear it or she wants to hear it.
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  • You may not convey it the way that it should be conveyed.
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  • But I know your heart is right towards one another.
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  • And that's what you have to begin to put more emphasis on.
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  • Instead of just the little idiosyncrasies,
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  • idiosyncrasies that goes on in the marriage
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  • that's designed to become distractions.
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  • that's designed to become distractions.
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  • No more distractions, we will ignore and avoid all of
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  • these distractions.
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  • And all of us together,
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  • as husbands and even as wives,
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  • will begin to dominate.
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  • This is the year of domination.
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  • In every area of our lives.
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  • Now for the very first time, a fresh,
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  • I pronounce you husband and wife.
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  • The ones that are already married.
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  • Don't you think something's going on.
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  • You didn't get married tonight if you don't
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  • have a certificate.
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  • (laughing)
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  • Some of ya'll we had a man, there was people there.
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  • Come on, let's just give the Lord a great big shout.
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  • I said give the Lord a great big shout!
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  • I said give God, a great big shout!
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  • It's all about him!
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  • (cheering)
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  • Come on, shout, we win!
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  • - [Audience] We win!
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  • - In Jesus name!
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  • - [Audience] In Jesus name!
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  • - [Mike] You may be seated.
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  • Wow.
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  • - That was good.
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  • - Give it up for Kenny Lattimore.
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  • (cheering) (applause)
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  • Man.
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  • God.
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  • - I wish you could sing like that.
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  • - I wish I could sing like that.
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  • I'm grateful for tonight and being here tonight.
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  • There's something on this night that's literally
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  • going to revolutionize your marriage.
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  • I promise you, I know when I'm in a good meeting,
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  • I know the environment and the atmosphere.
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  • What, Kenny kinda set this thing up.
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  • It's conducive for breakthrough.
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  • I'm not ignoring what you were saying because I get it.
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  • I still make all the decisions in our home.
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  • No, no, I have the final say, sir.
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  • Where's the brothers down here?
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  • (laughing)
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  • Okay, back there, okay.
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  • - Uh-huh.
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  • Tell 'em, you sure do, you make every decision at the end.
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  • - No, I have the final say so.
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  • - You have the final say so, yes you do.
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  • - And we've been through that before.
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  • - Yes, but we have some new people here.
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  • (laughing)
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  • And I think they should know.
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  • - And so the final decision isn't always what I have
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  • come up with.
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  • The final decision is, after careful deliberation
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  • with the both of us because I married someone equally
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  • if not more intelligent than myself.
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  • She is the product of my intelligent choice.
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  • If I was smart enough to select her,
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  • I can't be dumb not to listen to her.
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  • (cheering) (applause)
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  • You are dumb if you don't listen to your wife.
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  • You're just dumb.
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  • (laughing)
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  • - [DeeDee] They not hear.
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  • - If you don't listen to your wife, you're dumb.
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  • And don't look at 'em right now, baby, don't, don't, don't.
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  • (laughing)
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  • Don't turn to 'em right now and--
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  • (laughing)
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  • You just dumb, and it's designed to almost piss you off.
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  • It's designed to provoke you on to good works.
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  • It's not designed to embarrass you, or to put you down,
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  • I just want to get your attention.
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  • It was, it was set down one time and told me
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  • that something I was doing, he said, "That's stupid."
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  • And the way he said stupid.
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  • (laughing)
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  • It changed my life.
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  • I don't mean to insult you.
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  • What kind of pastor would I be just to come in here
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  • and try to belittle or insult individuals intentionally?
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  • It's not my desire to insult you.
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  • Or to put you down.
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  • If any place, you should be lifted as in the church
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  • of the Lord Jesus Christ, or the place where the
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  • church of the Lord Jesus Christ gathers.
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  • I want to throw you as far as I can throw you
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  • out in front of even what we have accomplished in life.
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  • I want to shine or create something that shines on you.
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  • I don't want to put you down, I want to lift you up.
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  • That's my whole heart's desire.
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  • Where do you think we gather, where do you think we
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  • travel this nation for?
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  • To put people down?
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  • No, that's not my intent.
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  • And I hope you don't help Satan.
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  • Remember I told you, God gave me a word,
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  • stop helping Satan destroy you.
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  • A lot of couples are helping Satan in destroying themselves.
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  • I'm not here to put you down at all, child of God.
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  • My brother, my sister in Christ.
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  • I'm here to try to get your attention, to shake you.
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  • And so I set myself years ago,
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  • even in leadership, here we go back to pastoring.
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  • I used to sit down with a group of people around the table
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  • and the only thoughts that were heard were mine.
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  • Now I'm sitting there with 10 brilliant intelligent
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  • highly educated individuals sitting around the table
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  • and all we heard from was one thought.
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  • My motto is get around, get good people around you
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  • and listen to 'em.
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  • Everybody needs somebody on their team that cares
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  • about their dream.
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  • You need a good squad and if you the smartest one
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  • on your team, you need a new team.
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  • Furthermore, if you are the wealthiest one on your team,
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  • you need a new team.
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  • You feel good about having more than everybody else
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  • at the table, well then how are you gonna grow?
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  • And we would come and then leave that meeting
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  • only listening to one thought.
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  • Until I began to empower the people and the minds
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  • and the thought processes that were sitting around
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  • the table, I limited the growth of this church.
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  • But when I released the minds and the thoughts
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  • and the creativities that were sitting around
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  • the table, I began to see how we could grow.
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  • And then there was a reverse, the thing just shift.
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  • I would come in to just sit down and they would do
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  • all the talking and I would do all the listening.
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  • Well why can't you make that the macro, the micro
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  • in your home, instead of you having all of the decisions
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  • and I was trapped in that dilemma.
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  • It was a very, very negative oxymoron, some conundrum
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  • to some degree.
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  • I would come in and then turn everything towards her.
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  • DeeDee, what do you think?
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  • Because I came in thinking I had to have all of the
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  • answers, that was not only in my marriage,
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  • but that was also in this ministry.
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  • I was almost embarrassed to tell you I didn't know.
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  • In the early years I would just lie.
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  • Somebody tell me something, I'd come up with
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  • something make it sound like I knew because--
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  • (laughing)
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  • It was so liberating to just finally look someone
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  • in the eye and say, I don't know, but I can get back to you.
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  • Truth of the matter is, man we don't know everything
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  • but God has equipped us with help.
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  • (audience murmuring)
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  • Oh please turn to your wife and say, "Help me."
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  • That's what they are called, help.
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  • - [DeeDee] And we love helping.
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  • (laughing)
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  • Don't we?
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  • - You all love help so much to the point
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  • that it looks like you're trying to take over.
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  • And that's what sometimes we can't stand,
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  • but that doesn't make us smaller, that makes us bigger.
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  • When we can decrease, so that you may increase,
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  • that God will get the glory in our relationship.
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  • I look better when she's strong.
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  • Come on did you hear what I just said?
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  • Lady, look at your husband and say, "Baby, I just make
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  • "you shy more when I'm strong."
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  • You don't want her to be strong.
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  • I want my wife to be as strong as she can be in life.
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  • I sit around and watch her, her dedication and commitment
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  • to even improving her life and her life skills
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  • and her skill sets and her abilities.
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  • She's in school, and she's up two and 3:00 in the morning.
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  • And I don't get to see her sometimes until in the morning
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  • and I see her dedication towards that.
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  • Man I can sit around and murmur and complain
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  • about some things that I may not be getting
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  • in her quest to become better, but I get behind her.
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  • She's been behind me for years to encourage me
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  • and to strengthen me, and to see my dreams come true.
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  • Now it's time for me to get behind her and to push her.
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  • It's nothing wrong with getting behind your wife.
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  • I tell ya what.
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  • I tell ya what, I tell ya what.
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  • Getting behind her and letting her become,
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  • getting behind, I just got that.
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  • I just got that.
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  • Ya'll nasty, ya'll nasty.
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  • (bell dinging) (laughing)
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  • Ya'll are some nasty, this say ring for sex.
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  • Getting behind her--
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  • (bell dinging) (laughing)
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  • Getting behind her.
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  • I must be the slowest person in this room.
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  • (laughing)
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  • I gotta be the slowest dude in this room.
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  • Everybody laughin' but me.
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  • I'm just talking up, what are they laughing for?
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  • And then it hit me like, behind, yeah.
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  • All ya'll nasty.
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  • Did anybody else miss it but me?
  • 00:25:32.180 --> 00:25:35.130
  • Everybody else was on board?
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  • Some of ya'll lying, you need to stop lying.
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  • So, getting behind your wife, brother,
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  • that is an empowering position.
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  • Stop being so nasty, I ain't talking about that now.
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  • No, no for real, it is a most empowering position.
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  • You ought to try--
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  • (laughing)
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  • - Hey if you knew that your harvest would come up today,
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  • what would you sow?
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  • And, let me ask you,
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  • what would that harvest look like
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  • that has literally been previously sown?
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  • You know, the Bible says
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  • whatever a man sows, that's what he's going to reap.
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  • Amos was talking about that harvester catching up
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  • with the sower so at the same time, both are in the field.
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  • And as fast as you can sow it,
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  • that's how fast it's going to come up in your life.
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  • You cannot delay, you cannot keep
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  • procrastinating and putting this off.
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  • Here's some good ground that's screaming out to you.
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  • So how many ways will God have
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  • to keep getting your attention?
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  • How many times will it take for you to start this process?
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  • Child of God, I will never stand here
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  • and insult the promises of God or Holy Spirit
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  • by begging you for anything,
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  • but I strongly beseech you by the mercies of God that you
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  • sow, even if it's not into this ministry, other ministries.
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  • You gotta get the process started.
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  • Well, this is good ground.
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  • Deena and I have been here on this station for years,
  • 00:27:47.220 --> 00:27:52.080
  • pouring out to you.
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  • Now, it's time for you to pour onto us.
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  • Consider partnering with us today.
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  • We would certainly appreciate it very much.
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  • Okay, until next time!
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  • Remember, life is better when you're living by faith.
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