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The Family Meeting Part 2

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October 31, 2016
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Living by Faith with Mike & DeeDee Freeman

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  • I said everybody, I invited everybody over.
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  • - Now shouldn't that be a family matter?
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  • - Because some of you may try to keep it within this part,
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  • well I need to take it out you know a little wider
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  • because you don't know who have your answer.
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  • - But were you even thinking along that line?
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  • - No, but I'm thinking this is my family.
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  • We know how to pray and come together,
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  • this is what we do.
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  • - And that's why you would involve your family
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  • in some of these issues.
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  • We're not just gossiping.
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  • We're not just spreading information.
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  • We need those who can get with us in faith,
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  • because one can chase a thousand,
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  • and two can put 10.000.
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  • So why not, why not your family?
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  • Who do you think will cover you the most?
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  • Now that's not all y'alls family.
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  • - Yeah that's not everybody's family.
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  • - Okay.
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  • - God had to tell me that I was destroying something
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  • in Brelyn that she would need later in life.
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  • Because my position at that time was just to break her.
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  • Was to show her that I'm in charge, I'm the mother,
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  • I'm the grown up.
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  • You gonna do exactly what I say do,
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  • even if it wasn't even all that important
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  • to be done at that particular time.
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  • Or not that necessary.
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  • And so God had to tell me that.
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  • And now, when I look back at it
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  • and I see where she is to now.
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  • - Today.
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  • - See where she is today, and I can understand
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  • the you know, what she need to carry out the assignment
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  • that's on her life.
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  • I mean the courage, - [Pastor] Okay.
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  • - [DeeDee and Pastor] the boldness,
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  • - [DeeDee] the fortitude, she just wouldn't back down.
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  • She's not afraid of anything.
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  • She ain't shy.
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  • She's just not--
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  • - And so you saw that now--
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  • - I see it now, or I saw it much later,
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  • but I didn't see it then.
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  • And so now I teach people--
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  • - And you were trying to whoop
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  • some of the traits and characteristics
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  • that got. - [DeeDee] Out of her that--
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  • - [Pastor] Instead of nurturing
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  • and identifying, - [DeeDee] Exactly.
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  • - [Pastor] what God has placed in her.
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  • - Exactly.
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  • - That's a good lesson there.
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  • - And so now I teach people
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  • how to recognize. - [Pastor] Because some kids
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  • - [Pastor] are class clowns at school.
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  • - Mmm hmm, mmm hmm.
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  • (audience laughs)
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  • - And they're going about it the wrong way.
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  • Who knows, they may be the next Kevin Hart.
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  • - Yeah, or real talkative.
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  • You know just talk a lot and always wanna debate.
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  • And you try to beat that out of em
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  • and tell them shut up all the time.
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  • You don't know, they may be an attorney or something.
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  • You know, or a preacher.
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  • You know or pastor.
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  • So you have to identify what's on their life.
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  • - Okay, I don't want to get into
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  • parenting too much. - [DeeDee] Exactly.
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  • - [Pastor] But here's what I was thinking.
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  • It's quite intriguing to me, to be able to have
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  • an opportunity to speak to mentors of mine.
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  • Like we were just so privileged not too long ago
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  • to sit down with T.D and Sarah Jakes.
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  • Serita Jakes.
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  • And you know, to sit down and just hear from
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  • a perspective where no one's preaching or teaching
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  • or the set up is not as such.
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  • As far as the pulpit parishioner scene.
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  • But just sitting down and listening,
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  • imposing questions.
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  • We have the same opportunity with Dr. Price,
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  • and Creflo and Taffi, and just recently
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  • I.V. and Bridget Hilliard.
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  • I think more is caught than taught.
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  • And sometimes you don't need to be preached to.
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  • You need to just have an exchange.
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  • Like, let's make this a living room discussion.
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  • Between you and I, your family and my family.
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  • And let's engage, it should be a more like
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  • a participatory kind of setting.
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  • Where you're engaged.
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  • Ask us anything.
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  • Because if you had us one on one,
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  • what are some of the things that you would be curious about
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  • and want to know how we went about.
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  • Like when in our marriage we decided
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  • we were gonna have one viewing station.
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  • They were not gonna have televisions in their rooms.
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  • Maybe for some of the young parents,
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  • you've already have a set up
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  • where everyone has a television.
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  • Well, I don't think that's the best way
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  • to raise or to rear a child in that
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  • central viewing station happening to be
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  • very profitable to us.
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  • So we got a bunch of close--
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  • - I do but I didn't finish my point.
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  • Because when I started talking about Brelyn
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  • and I was telling you all about how I just
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  • used to lose it all the time.
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  • Well I knew, I'm thinking about my husband.
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  • I'm saying okay, so his great grandfather pastor,
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  • his grandfather pastor, his father pastor, he a pastor.
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  • I knew it was no doubt that somebody in my family
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  • was gonna be standing up here preaching one day.
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  • So I had to begin to create memories.
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  • Somebody, I didn't say you Josh.
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  • You know, so I knew.
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  • So I knew that I had to start creating some good things
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  • that I wanted them to say about me.
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  • I knew one of them have all the crazy--
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  • - Oh that was your motive for stop being crazy?
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  • - Oh definitely, oh yes.
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  • I said, "This ain't good.
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  • "I know they gonna stand up in front of people one day
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  • "and tell all the crazy stuff.
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  • "I want them to have some good stuff to say."
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  • And so I used to ask them, they'll tell ya.
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  • I used to say "Okay, now when you preach
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  • "what are you gonna say?"
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  • They were little, and I would ask them.
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  • I wanted to know some of the good stuff.
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  • Cause I didn't wanna know just the crazy stuff.
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  • So whatever it takes. - [Pastor] Okay.
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  • - [Pastor] Okay, so get it started.
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  • - Okay good.
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  • So we have a few questions.
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  • - That we're gonna ask them?
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  • - That we're gonna ask them
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  • and we gonna allow them to participate.
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  • And either of you can just jump in.
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  • Britney probably a little bit more acquainted
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  • with these a lot of these things I guess.
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  • But Josh knows something, Keisha as well.
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  • It says, "Do you tell your family
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  • "about issues in your marriage?"
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  • Now we are the family.
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  • So not just everybody in general.
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  • But do you tell, you know, because some of you
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  • may have family members that you're very close to
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  • and you share a lot of things with and you wanna know that.
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  • And your husband or your wife may not want
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  • you to share certain things and so--
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  • - Who formulated these questions?
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  • - They asked just some random people.
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  • - Okay, what about you all?
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  • Do you tell your family about your stuff?
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  • (audience responds)
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  • You don't?
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  • (audience responds)
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  • Okay, give me the hands of those who don't.
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  • Well I don't family nothing.
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  • And then you tell your wife, "I tell you what,
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  • "you better not be telling your family."
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  • (audience laughs)
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  • How many of y'all say I do?
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  • I do tell my.
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  • And my hand is raised.
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  • You know there's this misnomer I think that exists
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  • where we don't involve our families
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  • because after a while we'll be back together,
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  • and they'll still hold the same grudge.
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  • Is that the premise that you all are thinking?
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  • (audience responds)
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  • - Yeah, well that's, I mean I wouldn't tell
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  • that family member either.
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  • I would talk only family member like I wouldn't
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  • expect to talk with Lisa and tell her some things
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  • and then let her have a issue with you
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  • when things were okay with us.
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  • I would only talk to family members that I know
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  • that are mature enough to handle certain things.
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  • Would not be judgemental,
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  • but be able to give me wise counsel.
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  • - Oh y'all always going along with DeeDee.
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  • It's amazing.
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  • Everything DeeDee said "He He DeeDee."
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  • I'm talking about issues of problems,
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  • or issues. - [DeeDee] Yes, yes, yes.
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  • - [DeeDee] And I'm gonna tell you something--
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  • - Do you tell your family?
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  • - Yes, that's what I just said.
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  • I had family members I would tell.
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  • - If we're having a problem.
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  • She left me one time.
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  • Was I at work?
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  • - Yes.
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  • - I went off to work, I didn't even know you left me.
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  • - I know.
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  • - She packed up all her clothes and she left me.
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  • And while she was leaving the house
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  • with all her clothes.
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  • Did you all know she left me?
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  • You knew?!
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  • I guess everybody.
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  • Have you seen her
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  • Why oh why
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  • Did she have to leave me
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  • - You know, you know.
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  • Go away
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  • You wouldn't be singing that song, you would know.
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  • - Listen, she left me.
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  • Lisa saw you.
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  • Or did you stop by her house?
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  • - I saw Lisa, I stopped.
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  • I saw her and I turned around.
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  • We stopped and talked.
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  • And then I came back to her house.
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  • - And Lisa talked you into not leaving me?
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  • - Yeah.
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  • (audience laughs)
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  • - I'm glad you're so overwhelmed
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  • and enthused by that.
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  • You know?
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  • - I am now, but then I wasn't.
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  • - What did she say?
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  • - I have no idea?
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  • - But why didn't she tell me you was leaving me?
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  • - Why's she gonna tell you?
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  • - So family's should have like secrets,
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  • where you tell her stuff.
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  • - I didn't even go nowhere.
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  • I just took a ride.
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  • (audience laughs)
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  • - That was gonna be a one way trip.
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  • - So Britney, - [Pastor] That's cool.
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  • - [DeeDee] ask Britney, I would like to know
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  • what they would say.
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  • - Well it all depends.
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  • - All depends.
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  • - Like if it's an issue that we can handle on our own, no.
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  • If it's an issue that we're struggling with,
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  • and we need some outside help,
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  • then that's when we come to y'all.
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  • - [Pastor] You would come and tell me
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  • the things that you all have challenging?
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  • - Yeah, if it's continuous challenges.
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  • I mean cause there have
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  • been some challenges. - [Pastor] Is that the norm?
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  • - [DeeDee] Is what the norm? - [Britney] It all depends.
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  • - Is that because I'm a pastor?
  • 00:10:37.260 --> 00:10:39.170
  • - [DeeDee] No.
  • 00:10:39.270 --> 00:10:41.030
  • - Should other people who have father's
  • 00:10:41.030 --> 00:10:42.190
  • who are spiritual and da da da da?
  • 00:10:42.190 --> 00:10:44.240
  • - I think again, if they're gonna give wise counsel
  • 00:10:44.240 --> 00:10:48.220
  • and not be judgemental. (Britney mumbles)
  • 00:10:48.220 --> 00:10:50.140
  • - [Pastor] Okay, I'm glad you feel comfortable
  • 00:10:52.060 --> 00:10:53.250
  • in that race car.
  • 00:10:53.250 --> 00:10:54.240
  • - No, I do.
  • 00:10:54.240 --> 00:10:55.290
  • At first I didn't cause I thought
  • 00:10:55.290 --> 00:10:58.150
  • I always had to protect him.
  • 00:10:58.150 --> 00:11:00.240
  • - That's good.
  • 00:11:01.250 --> 00:11:02.260
  • - Yeah.
  • 00:11:03.010 --> 00:11:04.140
  • - And some wives are protecting husband's inconsistencies
  • 00:11:04.140 --> 00:11:08.030
  • as such and aren't revealing
  • 00:11:08.100 --> 00:11:11.020
  • some of those inadequacies.
  • 00:11:11.020 --> 00:11:14.040
  • And it's detrimental for the relationship.
  • 00:11:14.040 --> 00:11:17.070
  • It really is. - [DeeDee] Totally.
  • 00:11:17.200 --> 00:11:18.260
  • - [Pastor] Because it's a pride thing really
  • 00:11:18.260 --> 00:11:22.170
  • that's preventing them to kind of expose
  • 00:11:22.170 --> 00:11:27.130
  • to help opposed to cover to hurt.
  • 00:11:27.130 --> 00:11:31.220
  • And that's so important.
  • 00:11:33.190 --> 00:11:35.140
  • She told me years ago.
  • 00:11:35.160 --> 00:11:37.000
  • She said "I tell you what, I don't do phony.
  • 00:11:37.000 --> 00:11:39.200
  • "And so you can act like you wanna act one way at home
  • 00:11:41.160 --> 00:11:44.230
  • "and then expect for me to act a certain way at church.
  • 00:11:44.230 --> 00:11:47.260
  • "I'm not gonna be putting on with you and your games."
  • 00:11:47.260 --> 00:11:51.240
  • And some of you wives are going along
  • 00:11:51.240 --> 00:11:55.070
  • with some of this stuff and that's why he hadn't
  • 00:11:55.070 --> 00:11:58.050
  • stopped some of that goofy stuff.
  • 00:11:58.050 --> 00:12:01.290
  • Because he knows that you're just gonna sit
  • 00:12:02.030 --> 00:12:04.230
  • there in silence and in pain and let it go.
  • 00:12:04.230 --> 00:12:09.170
  • Well you're not, you're doing your entire relationship
  • 00:12:09.170 --> 00:12:14.010
  • and children a disservice.
  • 00:12:14.010 --> 00:12:17.010
  • Somebody should know about that.
  • 00:12:18.170 --> 00:12:20.080
  • I remember when I came home from the hospital.
  • 00:12:20.080 --> 00:12:22.250
  • I just had enough of hospitals
  • 00:12:23.050 --> 00:12:24.290
  • and doctors and all this thing.
  • 00:12:24.290 --> 00:12:26.250
  • I'm a grown dog gone man.
  • 00:12:26.250 --> 00:12:28.070
  • And she...
  • 00:12:28.070 --> 00:12:29.200
  • She opens the door for this therapist
  • 00:12:30.170 --> 00:12:33.170
  • and she said "Mike the therapist is here."
  • 00:12:33.170 --> 00:12:35.170
  • I said "Tell him I said go away."
  • 00:12:35.170 --> 00:12:38.070
  • And she said "No," she came back into the bedroom.
  • 00:12:39.040 --> 00:12:42.020
  • "You gonna come out here now.
  • 00:12:42.020 --> 00:12:43.150
  • "I'm telling you right now you gonna come
  • 00:12:43.150 --> 00:12:44.280
  • "out of this room.
  • 00:12:44.280 --> 00:12:46.100
  • "This man done come all this way to take care of you
  • 00:12:46.100 --> 00:12:48.200
  • "and you gonna sit back here.
  • 00:12:48.200 --> 00:12:49.180
  • "I ain't having it."
  • 00:12:49.180 --> 00:12:50.250
  • I said, "You just better get on out this room.
  • 00:12:53.060 --> 00:12:55.140
  • "And tell that man I'm not coming out."
  • 00:12:56.020 --> 00:12:58.040
  • She said "I tell you what, I'm gonna go get Dr. Price
  • 00:12:58.230 --> 00:13:01.000
  • "on the phone right now."
  • 00:13:01.000 --> 00:13:02.100
  • I said "Well call him."
  • 00:13:02.100 --> 00:13:04.000
  • - What did I do? - [Pastor] I believe.
  • 00:13:05.200 --> 00:13:06.280
  • - [Pastor] She called him.
  • 00:13:06.280 --> 00:13:08.060
  • I believe that there should be
  • 00:13:09.220 --> 00:13:11.230
  • some level of authority that's in every man's life
  • 00:13:11.230 --> 00:13:16.080
  • where he will have to sit up in the presence of another man,
  • 00:13:16.080 --> 00:13:20.180
  • or at least some kind of accountability.
  • 00:13:20.180 --> 00:13:23.250
  • - Yes.
  • 00:13:23.250 --> 00:13:25.010
  • Somebody that you'll - [Pastor] You know
  • 00:13:25.010 --> 00:13:26.070
  • listen to. - [Pastor] you on your own
  • 00:13:26.070 --> 00:13:26.260
  • and such.
  • 00:13:26.260 --> 00:13:28.080
  • - Somebody that you will - [DeeDee] That's dangerous.
  • 00:13:28.080 --> 00:13:29.130
  • - [Pastor] listen to is dangerous.
  • 00:13:29.130 --> 00:13:30.110
  • We're at the point right now,
  • 00:13:30.130 --> 00:13:31.250
  • that I'm doing most of the talking because I got
  • 00:13:31.250 --> 00:13:34.190
  • so many things really together I don't have to do
  • 00:13:34.190 --> 00:13:37.260
  • as much listening as I once had to do.
  • 00:13:37.260 --> 00:13:40.250
  • I've entered into a position where I'm now fathering,
  • 00:13:40.250 --> 00:13:44.160
  • I'm fathering men and pastor's and others
  • 00:13:44.160 --> 00:13:48.290
  • who are submitting their relationship to our lives.
  • 00:13:48.290 --> 00:13:51.230
  • And I'm giving them principals that's
  • 00:13:51.230 --> 00:13:54.060
  • causing them to have great relationship.
  • 00:13:54.060 --> 00:13:56.100
  • But it's so good to know even my own daughter and son,
  • 00:13:56.100 --> 00:13:59.180
  • you feel the same way Kevin?
  • 00:13:59.180 --> 00:14:01.040
  • I mean if she came to me about that?
  • 00:14:01.040 --> 00:14:03.160
  • - Yeah. - [Pastor] Or anything.
  • 00:14:03.260 --> 00:14:04.260
  • - [Pastor] I think it should.
  • 00:14:05.100 --> 00:14:06.080
  • Tim looking like, "I don't know
  • 00:14:06.080 --> 00:14:07.150
  • "if we gonna do that."
  • 00:14:07.150 --> 00:14:08.240
  • Do you see him down there like.
  • 00:14:09.260 --> 00:14:11.050
  • (audience laughs)
  • 00:14:11.050 --> 00:14:12.180
  • - [DeeDee] Like "We ain't talked about
  • 00:14:12.180 --> 00:14:13.260
  • "this Bre, Bre." - [Pastor] Is that your look
  • 00:14:13.260 --> 00:14:14.190
  • - [Pastor] or what?
  • 00:14:14.190 --> 00:14:16.090
  • But still, you're in almost on something
  • 00:14:16.290 --> 00:14:20.190
  • like our family meeting in this setting.
  • 00:14:20.190 --> 00:14:23.180
  • Because this is how we sit around in our home even today,
  • 00:14:23.180 --> 00:14:27.250
  • and discuss issues like this that are jur-mane
  • 00:14:27.250 --> 00:14:30.290
  • for blessed relationships.
  • 00:14:30.290 --> 00:14:33.060
  • And I asked them about how far can I go?
  • 00:14:33.060 --> 00:14:36.180
  • What's my boundary in sharing with your relationship
  • 00:14:36.180 --> 00:14:41.100
  • so forth and so on.
  • 00:14:41.100 --> 00:14:42.230
  • I think this is a great idea to share in this capacity.
  • 00:14:42.230 --> 00:14:46.170
  • - [DeeDee] I do too.
  • 00:14:46.170 --> 00:14:47.160
  • You did good.
  • 00:14:47.160 --> 00:14:48.260
  • - Josh, what about you?
  • 00:14:49.160 --> 00:14:50.290
  • - Had to cut my mike on.
  • 00:14:53.030 --> 00:14:54.160
  • I mean yeah, I think the same thing Britney just said.
  • 00:14:55.220 --> 00:14:58.130
  • You know, if it's something I can handle
  • 00:14:58.130 --> 00:15:00.110
  • or something that we can handle then we get it done.
  • 00:15:00.110 --> 00:15:03.090
  • But if it's something that keeps going on
  • 00:15:03.090 --> 00:15:05.020
  • then I need to ask my mama like Mike's.
  • 00:15:05.020 --> 00:15:09.240
  • - [Pastor] Mama.
  • 00:15:10.050 --> 00:15:11.000
  • - What' up.
  • 00:15:11.000 --> 00:15:11.230
  • - [Pastor] Mama.
  • 00:15:11.230 --> 00:15:12.290
  • - What's up you know what I mean?
  • 00:15:12.290 --> 00:15:14.130
  • - [Pastor] Is she gonna be crazy like this forever?
  • 00:15:14.130 --> 00:15:16.010
  • (audience laughs)
  • 00:15:16.010 --> 00:15:18.030
  • - He don't say it. - [Joshua] And alot of times
  • 00:15:18.060 --> 00:15:19.140
  • - [Joshua] I got to my mama.
  • 00:15:19.140 --> 00:15:20.200
  • If I ever go to my dad only because
  • 00:15:20.200 --> 00:15:22.050
  • I know my mom kinda know more stuff about
  • 00:15:22.050 --> 00:15:24.080
  • females than my dad would so.
  • 00:15:24.080 --> 00:15:26.180
  • - What?!
  • 00:15:26.180 --> 00:15:27.120
  • (audience laughs)
  • 00:15:27.120 --> 00:15:28.240
  • That was the most ridiculous thing you could ever--
  • 00:15:28.240 --> 00:15:30.260
  • - [DeeDee] No it wasn't! - [Josh] That's serious though.
  • 00:15:30.260 --> 00:15:32.080
  • - [DeeDee] That was good Joshua.
  • 00:15:32.080 --> 00:15:35.030
  • - Bless the Lord.
  • 00:15:36.030 --> 00:15:36.290
  • - That was good.
  • 00:15:42.250 --> 00:15:44.070
  • - And Keisha is a different kind of specimen.
  • 00:15:45.010 --> 00:15:48.100
  • Keisha--
  • 00:15:49.020 --> 00:15:50.230
  • - [DeeDee] Only child.
  • 00:15:51.000 --> 00:15:52.060
  • - Only child, but at the same time,
  • 00:15:52.060 --> 00:15:55.000
  • I have to give Keisha like her room and her space.
  • 00:15:55.120 --> 00:15:59.090
  • You know somebody told Brelyn and them for instance.
  • 00:15:59.090 --> 00:16:02.210
  • Keep your family out of your business.
  • 00:16:03.120 --> 00:16:05.250
  • And I'm not quite sure what they were
  • 00:16:06.190 --> 00:16:10.040
  • talking about in it's entirety,
  • 00:16:10.040 --> 00:16:13.120
  • but a lot of benefit has come from
  • 00:16:13.200 --> 00:16:18.190
  • involving my family in my business.
  • 00:16:18.270 --> 00:16:21.270
  • Like when Josh was arrested for attempted murder.
  • 00:16:23.190 --> 00:16:26.150
  • (audience laughs)
  • 00:16:28.210 --> 00:16:31.020
  • - Why you gotta bring that up again?
  • 00:16:31.120 --> 00:16:33.020
  • That has nothing to do with it.
  • 00:16:33.210 --> 00:16:35.030
  • - It sound like I tried to kill somebody.
  • 00:16:35.030 --> 00:16:36.170
  • I didn't try to kill nobody.
  • 00:16:36.170 --> 00:16:38.110
  • - [Pastor] That's what you were arrested for.
  • 00:16:38.110 --> 00:16:39.260
  • - I just happened to be in - [Pastor] That's what you
  • 00:16:39.260 --> 00:16:41.060
  • the car (mumbles). - [Pastor] were arrested for.
  • 00:16:41.060 --> 00:16:42.150
  • - [Pastor] Attempted murder.
  • 00:16:42.150 --> 00:16:43.240
  • That's what it sound like to all them.
  • 00:16:44.130 --> 00:16:46.080
  • (audience laughs)
  • 00:16:46.080 --> 00:16:48.140
  • (DeeDee laughs and sighs)
  • 00:16:52.000 --> 00:16:52.270
  • - [DeeDee] This is funny.
  • 00:16:52.270 --> 00:16:54.100
  • - [Pastor] Didn't it sound like he tried to kill somebody?
  • 00:16:54.100 --> 00:16:55.080
  • - [DeeDee] The way you said it.
  • 00:16:55.080 --> 00:16:56.050
  • - What is attempted murder?
  • 00:16:56.050 --> 00:16:57.250
  • - [DeeDee] That's the way you said it.
  • 00:16:58.030 --> 00:16:59.150
  • - I intended to say it that way.
  • 00:16:59.150 --> 00:17:01.030
  • - I know it.
  • 00:17:01.030 --> 00:17:02.080
  • - But it was her idea at the time.
  • 00:17:02.190 --> 00:17:05.190
  • It's all good main man.
  • 00:17:05.190 --> 00:17:07.030
  • - Yeah, cause it was my idea to bring it to my family.
  • 00:17:07.030 --> 00:17:10.030
  • - She called a family meeting.
  • 00:17:10.120 --> 00:17:11.290
  • - I called a family meeting with all of my siblings.
  • 00:17:11.290 --> 00:17:14.060
  • - I mean, who does that include?
  • 00:17:14.060 --> 00:17:15.250
  • - I'm gonna tell them.
  • 00:17:15.250 --> 00:17:17.080
  • With all of my siblings, with all of your siblings,
  • 00:17:17.080 --> 00:17:18.220
  • I said everybody, I invited everybody over.
  • 00:17:18.220 --> 00:17:21.220
  • - Now shouldn't that be a family matter?
  • 00:17:21.220 --> 00:17:24.030
  • - Because some of you may try to keep it within this part,
  • 00:17:24.030 --> 00:17:27.220
  • well I need to take it out you know a little wider
  • 00:17:27.220 --> 00:17:31.090
  • because you don't know who have your answer.
  • 00:17:31.090 --> 00:17:33.180
  • - But were you even thinking along that line?
  • 00:17:33.180 --> 00:17:35.250
  • - No, but I'm thinking this is my family.
  • 00:17:35.250 --> 00:17:37.270
  • We know how to pray and come together,
  • 00:17:37.270 --> 00:17:39.090
  • this is what we do.
  • 00:17:39.090 --> 00:17:40.200
  • - And that's why you would involve your family
  • 00:17:40.200 --> 00:17:43.120
  • in some of these issues.
  • 00:17:43.120 --> 00:17:45.090
  • in some of these issues.
  • 00:17:45.090 --> 00:17:45.100
  • We're not just gossiping.
  • 00:17:45.280 --> 00:17:47.090
  • We're not just spreading information.
  • 00:17:47.090 --> 00:17:49.190
  • We need those who can get with us in faith,
  • 00:17:49.190 --> 00:17:53.000
  • because one can chase a thousand,
  • 00:17:53.000 --> 00:17:55.160
  • and two can put 10.000.
  • 00:17:55.160 --> 00:17:57.220
  • So why not, why not your family?
  • 00:17:57.290 --> 00:18:00.120
  • Who do you think will cover you the most?
  • 00:18:00.120 --> 00:18:02.230
  • Now that's not all y'alls family.
  • 00:18:02.230 --> 00:18:04.230
  • - Yeah that's not everybody's family.
  • 00:18:04.230 --> 00:18:06.160
  • Yeah you have to--
  • 00:18:06.290 --> 00:18:07.060
  • Yeah you have to--
  • 00:18:07.140 --> 00:18:07.260
  • - I said something good?!
  • 00:18:08.030 --> 00:18:09.050
  • Well would you clap?!
  • 00:18:09.200 --> 00:18:11.100
  • I said something good.
  • 00:18:14.240 --> 00:18:15.240
  • - You always do.
  • 00:18:15.240 --> 00:18:16.250
  • - I said something good.
  • 00:18:16.250 --> 00:18:18.020
  • - You are so funny.
  • 00:18:18.020 --> 00:18:19.240
  • They like "Yeah, that's not my family?"
  • 00:18:19.240 --> 00:18:21.080
  • - Let the record reflect.
  • 00:18:21.080 --> 00:18:23.090
  • - [DeeDee] You crazy.
  • 00:18:24.150 --> 00:18:25.270
  • Look, but one thing I really respect
  • 00:18:25.270 --> 00:18:28.260
  • about Keisha and I like--
  • 00:18:28.260 --> 00:18:30.160
  • - Don't, I'm glad you brought me back to that.
  • 00:18:30.160 --> 00:18:33.010
  • But keep that family piece going,
  • 00:18:33.130 --> 00:18:35.030
  • but don't let me forget Keisha.
  • 00:18:35.030 --> 00:18:36.280
  • - Okay, you wanna say your part first?
  • 00:18:36.280 --> 00:18:38.290
  • - I so love Keisha.
  • 00:18:39.220 --> 00:18:41.040
  • - You gonna cry?
  • 00:18:45.130 --> 00:18:46.110
  • - Man.
  • 00:18:46.110 --> 00:18:47.040
  • - Okay let me go.
  • 00:18:47.040 --> 00:18:47.270
  • (audience laughs)
  • 00:18:47.270 --> 00:18:49.050
  • It's like double dutch tonight.
  • 00:18:57.100 --> 00:18:58.280
  • I don't wanna cry.
  • 00:18:58.280 --> 00:19:00.230
  • - See because I feel that
  • 00:19:00.230 --> 00:19:03.150
  • I want to win Keisha.
  • 00:19:04.060 --> 00:19:06.150
  • I don't really know where I truly stand with Keisha.
  • 00:19:07.070 --> 00:19:12.020
  • - Okay let me tell you.
  • 00:19:12.180 --> 00:19:13.250
  • Cause like Keisha is, that's on his part.
  • 00:19:13.250 --> 00:19:18.090
  • - That's just my part.
  • 00:19:18.090 --> 00:19:19.090
  • - Yeah that's your part.
  • 00:19:19.090 --> 00:19:20.200
  • - It's not like she's - [DeeDee] Because it's not.
  • 00:19:20.200 --> 00:19:21.250
  • - [Pastor] reflected anything negative.
  • 00:19:21.250 --> 00:19:22.190
  • - [DeeDee] No because--
  • 00:19:22.190 --> 00:19:23.170
  • - I'm not saying that at all.
  • 00:19:23.170 --> 00:19:24.120
  • - Okay baby, okay.
  • 00:19:24.120 --> 00:19:25.170
  • - I just really want her to know,
  • 00:19:25.170 --> 00:19:27.000
  • how much she's a part of who we are.
  • 00:19:27.070 --> 00:19:31.040
  • - [DeeDee] I think you tell her that enough.
  • 00:19:32.100 --> 00:19:33.190
  • - I tell her all the time.
  • 00:19:33.190 --> 00:19:35.120
  • - So there, if she doesn't know that then.
  • 00:19:36.000 --> 00:19:38.060
  • - I've shared it privately.
  • 00:19:39.240 --> 00:19:41.190
  • I mean come on, if we gonna talk like
  • 00:19:42.020 --> 00:19:43.150
  • we would talk at home in front of all these people.
  • 00:19:43.150 --> 00:19:46.290
  • - No, I mean that's fine.
  • 00:19:47.170 --> 00:19:49.000
  • But I wanna go back to the other part about sharing
  • 00:19:49.000 --> 00:19:52.030
  • and this part with--
  • 00:19:52.030 --> 00:19:53.010
  • - Okay, but don't forget about
  • 00:19:53.010 --> 00:19:54.060
  • bringing your family together as well.
  • 00:19:54.060 --> 00:19:56.070
  • To tell them about that episode.
  • 00:19:56.130 --> 00:19:58.140
  • - [DeeDee] I finished with that.
  • 00:19:59.290 --> 00:20:01.070
  • - No, no, no. - [DeeDee] I said we brought.
  • 00:20:01.070 --> 00:20:02.280
  • There are other points that can be made from that.
  • 00:20:02.280 --> 00:20:04.110
  • - Okay.
  • 00:20:04.110 --> 00:20:05.160
  • - I just want you to go to Keisha.
  • 00:20:05.160 --> 00:20:06.220
  • - Okay I'm gonna go back here to Keisha.
  • 00:20:06.220 --> 00:20:07.280
  • (DeeDee laughs)
  • 00:20:07.280 --> 00:20:09.060
  • This is funny.
  • 00:20:09.060 --> 00:20:10.110
  • But like Josh said, Josh will call me.
  • 00:20:10.180 --> 00:20:13.170
  • Keisha I've made it very clear with her
  • 00:20:13.170 --> 00:20:16.290
  • that I don't take sides.
  • 00:20:17.100 --> 00:20:19.250
  • I don't take sides at all.
  • 00:20:20.030 --> 00:20:22.070
  • We'll talk about Josh just like
  • 00:20:22.180 --> 00:20:25.020
  • you know I would talk about anybody.
  • 00:20:25.220 --> 00:20:27.220
  • If she has something to say, she's very free to discuss
  • 00:20:28.010 --> 00:20:31.180
  • and to share whatever she wanna say without
  • 00:20:31.180 --> 00:20:33.270
  • me trying to defend Josh.
  • 00:20:33.270 --> 00:20:36.050
  • My position is to give her information that can cause
  • 00:20:36.050 --> 00:20:39.210
  • her to have a blessed relationship.
  • 00:20:39.210 --> 00:20:41.230
  • That's my only interest.
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  • I would give her. - [Pastor] But why are you
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  • - [Pastor] so involved in their relationship?
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  • - I'm only involved to the extent in which
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  • they involve me and when they call me.
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  • It's not like I'm gonna go to them and say
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  • "Hey, you doing so and so."
  • 00:20:56.120 --> 00:20:58.090
  • Well I do do that too but--
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  • - Yeah I was about to say, you do that sometimes.
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  • - Well I'm glad that line thing done came out.
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  • - [DeeDee] I don't do that.
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  • - But yeah, even her - [Pastor] That was a lie
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  • mom too though. - [Pastor] then there boy.
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  • - [Pastor] I saw that demon.
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  • - You know my parents.
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  • It's not just my parents - [Pastor] Did you see that
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  • but even her mom. - [Pastor] demon there Josh?
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  • - Yeah I've seen it.
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  • - [DeeDee] It's not that bad like that though.
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  • It's not like I'm on them
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  • or trying to get involved in certain things.
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  • I'm more of like a follow up kind of person.
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  • Like if you come to me and bring me something,
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  • now I'm gonna come to make sure you
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  • carry out the part.
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  • You know the information
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  • or the instructions that I gave you.
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  • Because if you not gonna carry it out,
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  • I don't care if it's my child or even one of you all.
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  • I'm not gonna keep talking to you.
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  • - But dig this.
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  • Look how we're involved in their relationships.
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  • - What do you wanna say?
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  • - No, I just said look how we're involved.
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  • - [DeeDee] How are we involved?
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  • - We're involved like we're involved.
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  • (audience laughs)
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  • It's apparent, it's obvious.
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  • We have something to do
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  • with every last one of their relationship.
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  • But, the understanding is in most households,
  • 00:22:06.190 --> 00:22:11.080
  • "Your mother and father are to involved in our relationship.
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  • "I want them to keep out of our relationship."
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  • And the word family from it's original Greek tense
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  • was the word that we have now in our vocabulary, connection.
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  • So when I married her,
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  • I didn't just marry her as some suppose.
  • 00:22:28.130 --> 00:22:31.210
  • "I didn't marry your mother, I married you!
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  • "I didn't marry your whole family, I married you."
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  • Well the word and the concept that was
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  • in the mind of God was that families came together.
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  • The Bird family and the Whims family.
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  • And then when the Whims and the Birds got together
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  • they became the WhimsBird family.
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  • And those couldn't eat, the Bird family fed em.
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  • And those who couldn't protect themself
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  • the Whims family fed em.
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  • And so when they came together they were stronger.
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  • We don't use it to the benefit that it's
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  • been designed to use it.
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  • And that's all I'm trying to convey here.
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  • You can be stronger together with the different entities
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  • of your family that you are blocking out.
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  • Just for your consideration.
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  • Because there are some family members that you have
  • 00:23:16.230 --> 00:23:19.070
  • that know a little more about an area
  • 00:23:19.070 --> 00:23:22.020
  • that you are going through
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  • and they are willing to share that information.
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  • But no, you wanna be private and isolated and insulated
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  • and not share that information.
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  • We put that information out, I promise you,
  • 00:23:32.040 --> 00:23:35.020
  • the way we got to Josh emancipation (laughs)
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  • when he was arrested for attempted murder
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  • was we shared with our entire family.
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  • And one of the family members said "Well I know a good
  • 00:23:47.050 --> 00:23:49.260
  • "attorney that's at Howard University."
  • 00:23:49.260 --> 00:23:52.130
  • Well the attorney at Howard University knew a--
  • 00:23:52.130 --> 00:23:55.030
  • - [DeeDee] Everybody knew somebody.
  • 00:23:55.030 --> 00:23:56.010
  • - Woo, everybody knew somebody.
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  • And when we got to the person that we finally need
  • 00:23:58.010 --> 00:24:01.190
  • that person had the power to drop the charges.
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  • Whatever.
  • 00:24:05.240 --> 00:24:06.270
  • And so if we would've
  • 00:24:06.270 --> 00:24:10.090
  • kept it to ourselves.
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  • Like she went public with my attack.
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  • She was supposed to keep it quiet.
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  • I went into the hospital and I threatened
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  • the first girl that I walked in to.
  • 00:24:21.040 --> 00:24:23.090
  • That girl Keisha, I'll never forget Keisha.
  • 00:24:23.090 --> 00:24:25.250
  • She's a member of the church.
  • 00:24:25.250 --> 00:24:27.090
  • And I walked in and she took my meter and Keisha said
  • 00:24:27.090 --> 00:24:30.160
  • "Pastor!"
  • 00:24:30.160 --> 00:24:31.230
  • I said "Keisha, I can barely breathe, Keisha.
  • 00:24:31.230 --> 00:24:35.040
  • "Don't you tell a single soul that I'm in here.
  • 00:24:37.110 --> 00:24:40.110
  • "Oh Pastor I won't tell anything.
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  • "It's against the HIPAA, the NAPA, the PIPA."
  • 00:24:42.090 --> 00:24:45.110
  • - HIPAA, HIPAA law.
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  • - What is it?
  • 00:24:47.080 --> 00:24:47.290
  • - HIPAA.
  • 00:24:47.290 --> 00:24:49.060
  • - Okay, well you know, as long as you know
  • 00:24:49.060 --> 00:24:50.160
  • you know what I'm saying.
  • 00:24:50.160 --> 00:24:51.290
  • "It's against some law for me to tell somebody."
  • 00:24:52.100 --> 00:24:56.040
  • And I wanted to just keep it under the radar.
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  • I didn't want anybody to know.
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  • This one right here went public with the thing.
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  • Internet, Facebook, Instagram, I'm like,
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  • "Are you serious?!"
  • 00:25:08.110 --> 00:25:09.170
  • I was asleep, I didn't have any rebuttal.
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  • (audience laughs)
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  • Lower third.
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  • They ran in the lower third "We need the Body of Christ
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  • "praying for Dr. Mike Freeman."
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  • People all over the world was praying for me
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  • because we went public with it.
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  • We could've kept within our family,
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  • but we took it to our bigger family.
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  • The Body of Christ.
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  • Now some of the family members
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  • in the body of Christ wanted me dead.
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  • But thank God for the ones who wanted me to live.
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  • - I am so elated and excited.
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  • Man, we're on the road again.
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  • On the road again, just can't wait
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  • to get on the road again.
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  • DeeDee and I are taking Marriage Made EZ
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  • back on the road, how about that.
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  • And we want to come to
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  • your ministry.
  • 00:26:31.070 --> 00:26:32.160
  • You have to call a pastor,
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  • or have your pastor to call,
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  • let us know that your facility
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  • is available for us to come in.
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  • We're not asking you for a dime
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  • we just want to use your place
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  • well, actually, His place
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  • that you have been assigned over,
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  • so that we can come and enrich marriages.
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  • I just ran into a young lady the other night, and she said,
  • 00:26:56.260 --> 00:27:01.280
  • "Pastor Freeman, you, with all due respect,
  • 00:27:01.280 --> 00:27:05.280
  • you are a fool,
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  • you and that Dr. DeeDee."
  • 00:27:07.100 --> 00:27:09.070
  • She called me a fool, can you imagine that?
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  • But then she concluded by saying,
  • 00:27:11.250 --> 00:27:13.240
  • "My marriage is
  • 00:27:13.240 --> 00:27:15.140
  • so much better
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  • because of your transparency,
  • 00:27:16.260 --> 00:27:19.090
  • your candor, and your humor."
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  • I don't know where this humor has come from, I really don't.
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  • It's not even something I want.
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  • I recall Jesse Duplantis saying the same thing,
  • 00:27:29.130 --> 00:27:32.260
  • that God had just made it a part of my ministry.
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  • And we have a good time, we have an exciting time,
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  • and I'm just that enriched, I'm just that fulfilled.
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  • And I want some of this to get on you and your area.
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  • So, contact my office, we're ready to get back on the road.
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  • You know the Devil has shot us a blow
  • 00:27:50.160 --> 00:27:52.260
  • and literally try
  • 00:27:52.260 --> 00:27:54.290
  • to destroy
  • 00:27:54.290 --> 00:27:56.150
  • and even kill the Ministry of Mike and DeeDee Freeman,
  • 00:27:56.150 --> 00:27:59.190
  • but we're up again, we're strong,
  • 00:27:59.190 --> 00:28:01.130
  • we're fired up, we're ready to go,
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  • and all we need to know is that you want us
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  • to come to your area.
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  • We've been to L.A., we've been to Chicago,
  • 00:28:08.130 --> 00:28:10.200
  • we've been to Atlanta, we've been to New York,
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  • we've been to Detroit, we're ready to go.
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  • North Carolina, we've been to the Bahamas,
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  • we're ready to fire up that jet and come wherever
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  • we got to come to be a part
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  • of transforming the marriages in your area.
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  • Call us, we're waiting for you.
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