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Realationships: I Love You, But

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July 19, 2020
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In times of stress and pressure; what comes out is either constructive or destructive. Pastor Kerry walks through James 3 to teach what the Bible says about how to handle anger.

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Realationships: I Love You, But

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  • Kerry Shook: Whenever we'reunder stress, whenever we're
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  • squeezed, whatever's on theinside of our life is going to
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  • come out.
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  • ♪♪♪
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  • Kerry: When Chris and I werefirst married, I had no idea how
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  • to process anger and I rememberafter one of our first arguments
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  • I went into the bathroom becauseI needed to get ready for an
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  • event that we were attendingthat night and I was starting to
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  • shave and I took out thecan of shaving cream.
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  • But I was just so mad, I wasjust so frustrated, I didn't
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  • know what to do with it and Ijust started squeezing the can
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  • of shaving cream and sprayingthe shaving cream out into
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  • the sink.
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  • And I just kept spraying it andspraying it and spraying it and
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  • spraying it until I sprayed thewhole can of shaving cream out
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  • into the sink and then I threwthe can into the sink and then I
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  • walked out of the bathroomand I slammed the door.
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  • And Chris heard all thecommotion and she went into the
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  • bathroom and she came out andhad a puzzled look on her face
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  • and she said, "Did you justspray a whole can of shaving
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  • cream into the sinkbecause you're mad?"
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  • And I said, "Yeah,that's right."
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  • And she just said, "Okay," andshe didn't say anything else.
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  • She just gave me a look thatsaid, "And you think that's
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  • supposed to solve the conflict,spraying a can of shaving cream
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  • in the sink?
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  • You think that's supposedto make everything better?"
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  • See, I had no ideahow to process anger.
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  • And I've made a thousand stupidmistakes in our marriage and we
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  • all make so many mistakes whenit comes to expressing our anger
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  • and it hurts ourselves, it doesdamage to the people closest
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  • to us.
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  • Really, as I've thought aboutit, there's a biblical principle
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  • in a can of shavingcream, and it's this.
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  • When the pressure is on, what'son the inside of the can is
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  • going to come out.
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  • When I pressed that can ofshaving cream, cologne didn't
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  • come out.
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  • When I put the pressure on thatcan of shaving cream, toothpaste
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  • didn't come out,soda didn't come out.
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  • Shaving cream came out becausethat was what was on the inside
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  • of the can.
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  • And whenever we're underpressure, whenever we're under
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  • stress, whenever we're squeezed,whatever's on the inside of our
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  • life is going to come out.
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  • If there's bitterness andresentment in my life, when the
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  • pressure is on and I'm squeezed,there's gonna be bitter words
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  • and actions, resentful words andactions that are--come out of
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  • my life.
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  • If I have some unresolved hurtin my life, when the pressure is
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  • on and I'm squeezed, hurtfulwords are gonna come out of
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  • my mouth.
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  • You know, if there's anxiety andfear that's filling up my life,
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  • when the pressure is on and I'msqueezed, fearful attacks are
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  • gonna come out of my life andout of my mouth and out of my
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  • actions at thepeople closest to me.
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  • Now, usually, when we spew outhurtful or angry or fearful or
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  • bitter words, we say somethinglike this: "Wow, I don't know
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  • why I said that.
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  • Wow, I don't knowwhere that came from.
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  • I mean, that's notlike me at all."
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  • But that's not true.
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  • It's just like me.
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  • It's not the pressure that--it'snot the pressure that really
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  • brings the anger out.
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  • It's just pressure and stressreveal what is in there already.
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  • It's not pressure and stressthat creates the anger.
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  • It's not pressure and stressthat creates the hurtful things.
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  • It's not pressure andstress that creates the
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  • resentful things.
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  • It's the pressure and stressthat just brings out what's
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  • already in there.
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  • But we always say, "Wow,that's not like me at all.
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  • I don't know wherethat came from."
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  • Well, it came from the inside'cause whatever's on the inside
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  • is gonna come out whenthe pressure is on.
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  • And that's what's happeningright now during this
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  • coronavirus crisis, when we'reall forced to be together for a
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  • long period of time.
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  • It's important to understandthat what's coming out right now
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  • in our homes, what's comingout right now with conflict and
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  • anger and frustration andannoyances, those are issues
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  • that were already there in ourlives, in our relationships,
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  • it's just that this isbringing it out in a big way.
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  • And so that's why we'restarting this new series called,
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  • "Real-ationships."
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  • It's all about getting realbecause it's getting real in our
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  • homes right now and it's timeto get real in our relationships
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  • because this coronavirus crisisis not just a health crisis and
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  • it's not just aneconomic crisis.
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  • Maybe the most devastating thingof all, when this is all said
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  • and done, is it's arelationship crisis.
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  • Relationships are in trouble.
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  • I came across this "TimeMagazine" article by Belinda
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  • Luscombe and she wrote this:"Have you recently noticed how
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  • loud your partner chews?
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  • That her placement of itemsin the fridge is illogical?
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  • That his consumption of papertowels and antibacterial soap
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  • and the good snacksis remarkably high?
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  • That parenting is not one ofhis or her core strengths?
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  • If so, you might bemarried in a pandemic."
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  • We laugh at that and wecan all relate to that.
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  • But this article goes on tosay some really serious stuff.
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  • And some of the psychologistsand psychiatrists interviewed
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  • said, "Anxiety and stress levelwhen it gets really high, people
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  • tend to take it out on thepeople closest to them."
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  • And it's so true,and it's devastating.
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  • Incidents of domestic violenceare up by 25% in America.
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  • After the COVID-19 cases beganto subside in China and people
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  • were allowed to go out again,there was a reported surge in
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  • divorce filings.
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  • After they were confined forthat long and people, when they
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  • could get out, first thing theydid was go to the court house,
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  • file for divorce.
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  • And by the way, you can't spelldivorce without the letters "C,
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  • O, V, I, D."
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  • Just think about that.
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  • You see, this crisis is bringingout those issues that are
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  • already inside.
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  • It's bringing out those issuesthat were already there
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  • in relationships.
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  • We could just avoid them becausewe could be on the go, we could
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  • be on the run, we could bealways moving so fast that we
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  • didn't have to deal with them.
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  • But when you're together for anyperiod of time, you've got to
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  • start dealing with those things.
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  • That conflict is gonna come out.
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  • And so that's why this crisiscreates also opportunities.
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  • I believe with all my heart inthe middle of this great crisis
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  • and horrible moment in time, inso many ways, there's such an
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  • amazing opportunity for yourrelationships to grow close.
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  • You see in this crisis, yourrelationships will either grow
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  • closer together orthey'll be ripped apart.
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  • That's what happens when thehurricane winds of change hit.
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  • That's what happens when theearthquake of crisis shakes
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  • our lives.
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  • It all comes down tohow you handle anger.
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  • female announcer: Still tocome, with Pastor Kerry Shook.
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  • Kerry: Am I doing this just toblow up so I can feel better?
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  • Am I doing this to build upso the relationship can
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  • grow deeper?
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  • ♪♪♪
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  • announcer: In the midst of thecoronavirus, we have witnessed
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  • God's work in amazingways to grow his church.
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  • Christ and staying connectedto the true source of hope.
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  • Kerry: In James 3:5-6 it says:"But a tiny spark can set a
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  • great forest on fire.
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  • And the tongue isa flame of fire."
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  • Saying one little errant sparkcan set a whole forest of
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  • thousands of acres on fire andburn a whole forest of thousands
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  • upon thousands of acres downthat took hundreds of years
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  • to grow.
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  • And just as that one spark canburn down thousands of acres,
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  • one foolish angry word can burndown a relationship that's taken
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  • years to build.
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  • One foolish angry word canburn down a whole relationship.
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  • On the other hand, one wiseangry word can break through a
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  • barrier in a relationshipthat's holding it back.
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  • I mean, words are powerful.
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  • To build up or to burn down.
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  • And so I have to understand thepower of my words 'cause if I
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  • don't understand the power of mywords, my words and my anger are
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  • gonna be out of control duringthis crisis and they're gonna
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  • crush me and thepeople around me.
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  • So understanding the power of mywords and then, secondly, commit
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  • to wise fighting words.
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  • Commit to wise fighting words.
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  • Wise angry words makea huge difference.
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  • They break through barriers.
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  • It says in James 3:17: "But thewisdom from above is first of
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  • all pure.
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  • It's also peace loving, gentleat all times, and willing to
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  • yield to others.
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  • It is full of mercyand good deeds.
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  • It shows no favoritismand is always sincere.
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  • And those who are peacemakerswill plant seeds of peace and
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  • reap a harvest ofrighteousness."
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  • The first rule in wise fighting:always check my motives.
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  • Before you bring up an issueor you move into conflict, you
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  • wanna ask yourself, "Am Idoing this to build up the
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  • relationship or am I doingthis to tear down that person?"
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  • He says in James 3: "Wisdom fromabove is first of all pure."
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  • Do I have pure motives or do Ihave purely personal motives
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  • in this?
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  • Do I just want to get this offmy chest so I can feel better or
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  • do I not really want to bringthis up but I know I have to
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  • because there's no way therelationship can go to a deeper
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  • level unless I do?
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  • I know that this is gonna betough and may create conflict.
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  • I would rather not do this butI know I need to because I love
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  • that person and I careabout our relationship.
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  • See, those are thethings you wanna ask.
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  • Am I doing this just to blowup so I can feel better?
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  • Am I doing this to build upso the relationship can
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  • grow deeper?
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  • Always check your motives and,by the way, before you check
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  • your motives, you really need tolook at your mode of operation.
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  • You need to look at yourstandard operating procedures
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  • when it comes to expressinganger because we all have these
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  • fleshly tendencies to expressour anger in incorrect ways and
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  • usually we use thesame incorrect ways.
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  • And you know, it'sthe way we're made up.
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  • Usually, it comes out in thesewrong ways and we get in these
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  • habits that maybe we learnedgrowing up or that just come
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  • because of our flesh.
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  • And so it's so important tounderstand your wrong way 'cause
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  • usually we have one wrong wayof expressing anger and if you
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  • don't understand that,you can't deal with it.
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  • You can't admit it.
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  • And so I'm gonna helpyou understand that.
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  • The first incorrect way ofexpressing anger is the
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  • ketchup way.
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  • There are a lot ofketchup people out there.
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  • I have a bottle of ketchup here,and ketchup people when they're
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  • squeezed, when the pressure ison, they just blow up and just
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  • ketchup goes everywhere.
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  • Their anger just goeseverywhere, on everyone else.
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  • Ketchup people, when they'resqueezed, they just blow up,
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  • they just explode in anger.
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  • And they get it off their chestand they feel a lot better but
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  • everyone else is left bloody andbruised and everyone else feels
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  • like a bomb has just gone off.
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  • And that's a reallydestructive kind of anger.
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  • The people that justblow up, ketchup people.
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  • So do you know a ketchup person?
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  • Or is that the thing youstruggle with, anger
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  • that explodes?
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  • You feel a lot better but theneveryone else feels a whole
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  • lot worse.
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  • And then there are whatI call mustard people.
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  • There's ketchup peopleand mustard people.
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  • Mustard people are those thatthey get angry, they get mad,
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  • but they just stuff it down.
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  • They just keep stuffing itdown and stuffing it down and
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  • stuffing it down.
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  • They don't blow up, they juststuff it down and it turns
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  • bitter, bitter mustard.
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  • It becomes really bitter, andit just keeps building up and it
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  • keeps building up and,see, it's no longer anger.
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  • It turns into bitterness.
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  • And that bitterness candestroy you and can destroy
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  • your relationships.
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  • And many peoplestuff their anger.
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  • Sometimes, Christians will stufftheir anger because they think,
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  • "I'm not supposedto be mad at this."
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  • And so they ignore their anger.
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  • When they're angry on theinside, it's gonna come out in
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  • some strange way ifyou don't deal with it.
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  • And so there'sexploders and stuffers.
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  • There's ketchup people andthere are mustard people.
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  • And usually, a ketchup personis married to a mustard person.
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  • I think God just has a goodsense of humor and he loves to
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  • watch that take place.
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  • Exploders and stuffers areusually drawn to each other and
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  • exploders, they may not bejust exploding and yelling and
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  • screaming, but it could bejust exploding with emotion.
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  • But stuffing couldbe avoiding as well.
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  • But then there's athird type of person.
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  • It's what I call theHershey Syrup person.
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  • It's the person who, on theoutside, they always say sweet
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  • and syrupy things but whenthey're squeezed, what
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  • comes out?
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  • Mustard?
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  • Boy, that would be disgusting,wouldn't it, if you were getting
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  • ready to have your Blue Bellwith some Hershey's Chocolate
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  • Syrup over it and squeezeit out and it's mustard.
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  • You see, we replaced thechocolate syrup with mustard to
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  • get across the point that itdoesn't matter how syrupy and
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  • sweet you are on the outside, ifthere's mustard on the inside.
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  • It's what's on the inside andthere are a lot of Hershey Syrup
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  • people that they'll say thingsthat are kind of sweet and
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  • syrupy but behind yourback they'll cut you down.
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  • Or they'll say something kindof sarcastic to you and there's
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  • some sweetness to it but there'ssomething that's just not right
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  • about it and you can'treally pinpoint 'em.
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  • They get their anger out inlittle ways, little biting ways,
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  • little sarcastic comments.
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  • And they never comestraight at you.
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  • It's always sweet and syrupybut, yet, it may be the most
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  • bitter kind.
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  • And so every one of us has a wayof expressing our anger that's
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  • really wrong and destructive andwe come back to it over and over
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  • again so I just want you torecognize which one are you and
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  • the people in your life thatyou're closest to right now
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  • because to check your motives,you've got to admit the ways
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  • that you do things.
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  • And I have to admit thatI'm kind of a stuffer.
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  • I'm a mustard person and that'sone of the most destructive.
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  • And God's really beenworking with me on that.
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  • And sometimes I'm this, though,sweet and syrupy but kind of
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  • sarcastic and don't justconfront it but just little
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  • things and so I've got to admitit so that I can deal with
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  • my motives.
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  • But there's a third thing.
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  • Allow God to cleanseand fill my soul.
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  • See, the real problem is notwith my mouth, it's with
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  • my heart.
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  • What's on the inside just comesout when I'm under pressure and
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  • I hate to admit thatsometimes, you know?
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  • It's like, "No, it's just allthese circumstances that are
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  • causing this.
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  • If it wasn't for thisunprecedented circumstance, then
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  • I wouldn't be so angry.
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  • If it wasn't for thisunprecedented circumstance, I
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  • wouldn't worry like this,I wouldn't do this."
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  • No, it was there all the time,it's just this is bringing
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  • it out.
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  • When the pressure's on,whatever's on the inside's gonna
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  • come out.
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  • In James 3:10 it says: "Andso blessing and cursing come
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  • pouring out of the same mouth.
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  • Surely, my brothers andsisters, this is not right!
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  • Does a spring of water bubbleout with both fresh water and
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  • bitter water?
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  • Does a fig tree produce olives,or a grapevine produce figs?
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  • No, and you can't draw freshwater from a faulty spring."
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  • Saying you can't draw freshwater from a bitter well and you
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  • can't say wise words whenthere's bitterness in your soul.
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  • Whatever's on the insideis gonna come out.
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  • When I'm filled with anxiety andfear, when the pressure's on and
  • 00:18:15.010 --> 00:18:17.346
  • I'm squeezed, anxious words,fearful words, stressful words
  • 00:18:17.379 --> 00:18:22.117
  • are gonna come out of my mouth.
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  • When I'm filled with a criticalspirit, when the pressure's on,
  • 00:18:24.219 --> 00:18:28.090
  • critical words are gonnacome out of my mouth.
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  • It just revealswhat's on the inside.
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  • That' why it's so importantduring these times to really pay
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  • attention to your soul, to letGod cleanse your soul and to
  • 00:18:34.830 --> 00:18:39.368
  • really feed your soul so yoursoul's not empty and your soul
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  • is filled with good things andwhen the pressure's on you'll
  • 00:18:42.604 --> 00:18:46.308
  • feel fear and anxiety and allthat but you will be centered in
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  • your soul.
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  • Jesus said this: "Thereforeeveryone who hears these words
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  • of mine and puts them intopractice is like a wise man who
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  • built his house on the rock.
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  • The rain came down, the streamsrose, and the winds blew and
  • 00:19:00.522 --> 00:19:03.058
  • beat against that house; yet itdid not fall, because it had its
  • 00:19:03.091 --> 00:19:05.894
  • foundation on the rock."
  • 00:19:05.928 --> 00:19:08.830
  • Jesus says the only surefoundation is the rock of ages.
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  • The only foundation you canbuild your home on is
  • 00:19:12.601 --> 00:19:17.306
  • Jesus Christ.
  • 00:19:17.339 --> 00:19:19.408
  • Every other foundation when theearthquake of crisis hits, the
  • 00:19:19.441 --> 00:19:22.945
  • foundation's gonna crack andthe house is gonna crumble.
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  • When the floodwaters rise,it's gonna wash away
  • 00:19:26.682 --> 00:19:28.984
  • those relationships.
  • 00:19:29.017 --> 00:19:32.454
  • And so it's so importantto build your life on the
  • 00:19:32.487 --> 00:19:34.957
  • foundation of Jesus Christbecause he is the rock of ages,
  • 00:19:34.990 --> 00:19:37.559
  • the only solid rockthat's gonna stand.
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  • And when you build your life onthe rock of ages, it fills you
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  • with peace.
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  • Even when you feel fear andanxiety, even when you feel
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  • depression, even when you feelhurt, you have a rock to
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  • stand on.
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  • You know you're gonnamake it through.
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  • You know that he's gonna holdyou up and when the winds of
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  • change blow, everyone else maybe torn apart but it'll grow you
  • 00:19:59.715 --> 00:20:04.886
  • closer to him and closerto the people you love.
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  • ♪♪♪
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  • ♪ Maker of heaven,maker of earth ♪
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  • ♪ Galaxy architectgave me my worth ♪
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  • ♪ Who could have predictedthe story you'd write ♪
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  • ♪ No, no, you stretchedout the heavens ♪
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  • ♪ And laid down your life ♪
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  • ♪ Here where sinand love collide ♪
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  • ♪ I stand in awe,arms open wide ♪
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  • ♪ The God whojoined the hemispheres ♪
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  • ♪ Joined my fight ♪
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  • ♪ Here where sinand blood collide ♪
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  • ♪ My chains fall off ♪
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  • ♪ My fears subside ♪
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  • ♪ The God whomade the universe ♪
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  • ♪ Made a way ♪
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  • ♪ He made a way ♪
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  • ♪♪♪
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  • ♪ Here where sinand blood collide ♪
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  • male: Sing "Maker of heaven."
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  • ♪ Maker of heaven,author of life ♪
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  • ♪ With no obligation ♪
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  • ♪ You painted the skies ♪
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  • ♪ There's no planet too big,no creature too small ♪
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  • ♪ No, in your perfectpicture, you wanted it all ♪
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  • male: Come on we sing out.
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  • ♪ Here where sinand love collide ♪
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  • ♪ I stand in awe,arms open wide ♪
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  • ♪ The God who joinedthe hemispheres ♪
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  • ♪ Joined my fight ♪
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  • ♪ Here where sinand blood collide ♪
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  • ♪ My chains fall off ♪
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  • ♪ My fears subside ♪
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  • ♪ The God who made theuniverse made a way ♪
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  • ♪♪♪
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  • ♪ Gonna make a way ♪
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  • ♪ Make a way ♪
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  • ♪ You're the makerof the stars ♪
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  • ♪ So make a way ♪
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  • ♪ You're the makerof my heart ♪
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  • ♪ So make a way ♪
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  • ♪ You made theblind to see ♪
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  • ♪ So make a way ♪
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  • ♪ You made somethingnew in me ♪
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  • ♪ So make a way ♪
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  • ♪ When the wallsare closing in ♪
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  • ♪ You will make a way ♪
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  • ♪ When I needto start again ♪
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  • ♪ You will make a way ♪
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  • ♪ When I can'tsee my way out ♪
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  • ♪ You will make a way ♪
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  • ♪ In the darknessI will shout ♪
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  • ♪ You will make a way ♪
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  • ♪ When I have nothing left ♪
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  • ♪ You will make a way ♪
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  • ♪ I can't takeone more step ♪
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  • ♪ You will make a way ♪
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  • ♪ I can't see my way out ♪
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  • ♪ You will make a way ♪
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  • ♪ In the dark, I will shout ♪
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  • ♪ You will make a way ♪
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  • ♪ When I have nothing left ♪
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  • ♪ You will make a way ♪
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  • ♪ I can't takeone more step ♪
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  • ♪ You will make a way ♪
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  • ♪ I can't see my way out ♪
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  • ♪ You will make a way ♪
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  • ♪ In the dark, I will shout ♪
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  • ♪ You will make a way ♪
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  • ♪♪♪
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  • ♪♪♪
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