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Accept People For Who They Are

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September 21, 2019
27:30

Joel Osteen

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Accept People For Who They Are

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  • (APPLAUSE)
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  • GOD BLESS YOU. IT'S A JOY TO
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  • COME INTO YOUR HOMES.
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  • IF YOU'RE EVER IN OUR AREA
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  • PLEASE STOP BY AND BE A PART OF
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  • ONE OF OUR SERVICES. I PROMISE
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  • YOU WE'LL MAKE YOU FEEL RIGHT
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  • AT HOME. BUT THANKS SO MUCH FOR
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  • TUNING IN.
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  • THANK YOU AGAIN FOR COMING OUT
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  • TODAY.
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  • I LIKE TO START WITH SOMETHING
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  • FUNNY. I HEARD ABOUT THIS YOUNG
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  • LADY. SHE TOOK HER FIANCE HOME
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  • TO MEET HER PARENTS. THE DAD
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  • SAID, "SON, TELL ME ABOUT
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  • YOURSELF. WHAT DO YOU DO?"
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  • HE SAID, "I'M A BIBLE SCHOLAR."
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  • THE DAD SAID, "THAT'S GREAT BUT
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  • HOW ARE YOU GOING TO PROVIDE A
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  • LIVING FOR MY DAUGHTER?"
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  • HE SAID, "I'M GOING TO STUDY
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  • THE BIBLE AND I KNOW GOD WILL
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  • PROVIDE."
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  • HE SAID, "YEAH, BUT HOW ARE YOU
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  • GOING TO AFFORD AN ENGAGEMENT
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  • RING FOR HER?"
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  • HE SAID, "I'M GOING TO FOCUS ON
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  • MY STUDIES AND I KNOW GOD WILL
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  • PROVIDE."
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  • HE SAID, "WELL, IN A FEW YEARS
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  • YOU ALL MAY HAVE CHILDREN. HOW
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  • ARE YOU GOING TO PROVIDE FOR
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  • THOSE CHILDREN?"
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  • HE SAID, "SIR, DON'T WORRY. GOD
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  • WILL PROVIDE."
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  • LATER THAT NIGHT, THE MAN'S WIFE
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  • ASKED HIM HOW THE TALK WITH
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  • THEIR FUTURE SON-IN-LAW WENT.
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  • HE SAID, "NOT GOOD. HE HAS NO
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  • PLANS, NO JOB AND HE THINKS
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  • THAT I AM GOD."
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  • (LAUGHTER/APPLAUSE)
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  • HOLD UP YOUR BIBLES. SAY IT
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  • LIKE YOU MEAN IT.
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  • THIS IS MY BIBLE.
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  • I AM WHAT IT SAYS I AM.
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  • I HAVE WHAT IT SAYS I HAVE.
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  • I CAN DO WHAT IT SAYS I CAN DO.
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  • TODAY I WILL BE TAUGHT THE WORD
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  • OF GOD.
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  • I BOLDLY CONFESS:
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  • MY MIND IS ALERT.
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  • MY HEART IS RECEPTIVE.
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  • I WILL NEVER BE THE SAME.
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  • IN JESUS' NAME.
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  • GOD BLESS YOU.
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  • I WANT TO TALK TO YOU TODAY
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  • ABOUT ACCEPTING PEOPLE FOR
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  • WHO THEY ARE.
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  • WHEN WE GET INTO RELATIONSHIP
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  • WITH SOMEONE IT'S EASY TO TRY TO
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  • MAKE THEM INTO WHO WE WANT THEM
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  • TO BE, ESPECIALLY OUR SPOUSE,
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  • OUR CHILDREN, THE PEOPLE THAT
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  • ARE CLOSE TO US.
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  • ONE OF THE BEST THINGS I'VE
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  • LEARNED IS GOD DIDN'T BRING
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  • PEOPLE INTO MY LIFE TO MAKE THEM
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  • JUST LIKE ME.
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  • GOD MADE US DIFFERENT ON
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  • PURPOSE: DIFFERENT
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  • PERSONALITIES, DIFFERENT
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  • STRENGTHS; DIFFERENT LOOKS.
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  • WE'RE ALL AT DIFFERENT MATURITY
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  • LEVELS.
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  • THE MISTAKE WE MAKE TOO OFTEN IS
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  • WE TRY TO FIT PEOPLE INTO OUR
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  • MOLD.
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  • IT'S LIKE WE'VE GOT THEM ON OUR
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  • POTTER'S WHEEL AND WE'RE TRYING
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  • TO WORK OUT THE LUMPS AND GET
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  • RID OF WHAT WE DON'T LIKE AND
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  • GET THEM ALL FIXED UP.
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  • THE PROBLEM WITH THIS IS WE ARE
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  • NOT THE POTTER - GOD IS.
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  • GOD IS THE ONE THAT IS MAKING
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  • AND MOLDING PEOPLE.
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  • REALLY, WE CAN'T CHANGE ANYONE.
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  • WE CAN ENCOURAGE THEM.
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  • WE CAN PRAY FOR THEM.
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  • WE CAN LEAD BY EXAMPLE.
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  • BUT ONLY GOD CAN TRULY CHANGE
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  • PEOPLE.
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  • WHEN SOMEONE DOESN'T HAVE OUR
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  • SAME STRENGTHS AND WE'RE WORKING
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  • OVERTIME TRYING TO MAKE THEM
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  • JUST LIKE US, ALL THAT DOES IS
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  • FRUSTRATES US, BRINGS STRESS AND
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  • TENSION INTO THE RELATIONSHIP.
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  • YOU'VE GOT TO GIVE PEOPLE ROOM
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  • TO BE WHO GOD MADE THEM TO BE.
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  • IF GOD WANTED US TO ALL LOOK
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  • ALIKE, THINK ALIKE, HAVE THE
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  • SAME STRENGTHS, THE SAME
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  • PERSONALITIES, HE WOULD HAVE
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  • MADE US THAT WAY.
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  • THINK ABOUT THIS. THE SAME GOD
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  • THAT MADE THE BUTTERFLY MADE
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  • THE LOCUST.
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  • THE SAME GOD THAT MADE THE
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  • POODLE MADE THE BULLDOG.
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  • THE SAME GOD THAT MADE THE HORSE
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  • MADE THE MULE.
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  • AND THE SAME GOD THAT MADE ME
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  • MADE MY BROTHER PAUL.
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  • (LAUGHTER)
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  • GOD LIKES VARIETY.
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  • I'M NOT LOOKING AT HIM.
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  • (LAUGHTER)
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  • YOU MAY BE TRYING TO CHANGE
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  • SOMEONE THAT DOESN'T HAVE YOUR
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  • STRENGTHS, YOUR KIND OF
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  • PERSONALITY, YOU GOALS, YET GOD
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  • MADE THEM LIKE THAT ON PURPOSE.
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  • YOU'RE FIGHTING AGAINST WHO THEY
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  • REALLY ARE.
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  • THIS IS WHAT I USED TO DO WITH
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  • VICTORIA. WHEN WE FIRST GOT
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  • MARRIED I TRIED TO MAKE HER
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  • JUST LIKE ME. I THOUGHT, "WHAT
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  • GREATER GIFT COULD I POSSIBLY
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  • GIVE HER THAN THAT?"
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  • (LAUGHTER)
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  • I'M VERY NAiVE.
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  • MY PERSONALITY TYPE IS I'M VERY
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  • FOCUSED, VERY STRUCTURED.
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  • I'VE GOT A PLAN AND I'M GOING TO
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  • STICK WITH IT. VICTORIA IS NOT
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  • LIKE THAT. SHE'S SPONTANEOUS,
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  • FUN, OUTGOING; NOT RIGID AT
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  • ALL. SHE'S INCREDIBLY SMART,
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  • A HARD WORKER. BUT SHE'S NOT
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  • ROUTINE. SHE DOESN'T LIKE TO DO
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  • THE SAME THING OVER AND OVER.
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  • NOT ME.
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  • I GET UP AT THE SAME TIME EVERY
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  • MORNING. NOT TWO MINUTES
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  • VARIANCE - THE EXACT SAME TIME.
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  • (LAUGHTER)
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  • I EAT THE SAME THINGS FOR
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  • BREAKFAST. BEEN DOING IT FOR
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  • 20 YEARS. GO TO MY OFFICE AT
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  • THE EXACT SAME TIME.
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  • I'M BORING BUT I AM FOCUSED.
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  • THAT'S ONE OF MY STRENGTHS.
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  • (LAUGHTER)
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  • i USED TO THINK THAT IT WAS MY
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  • CALLING IN LIFE TO TRY TO MAKE
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  • VICTORIA LIKE ME AND I HAD HER
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  • ON MY POTTER'S WHEEL.
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  • I THOUGHT I WAS SUPPOSED TO MAKE
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  • MY STRENGTHS HER STRENGTHS.
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  • ONE DAY IT DAWNED ON ME.
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  • I HAD A REVELATION.
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  • SHE DOESN'T WANT TO BE LIKE ME.
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  • THAT'S NOT WHO SHE IS.
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  • SHE LIKES BEING WHO GOD MADE HER
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  • TO BE JUST LIKE I LIKE BEING WHO
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  • GOD MADE ME TO BE.
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  • WE'RE NOT SUPPOSED TO GO AROUND
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  • LOOKING DOWN ON PEOPLE THAT
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  • DON'T HAVE OUR SAME STRENGTHS.
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  • YOU'LL ENJOY YOUR LIFE A WHOLE
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  • LOT MORE IF YOU LET PEOPLE OFF
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  • THE HOOK AND ACCEPT THEM FOR WHO
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  • THEY ARE.
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  • BECAUSE WHEN WE'RE ALWAYS TRYING
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  • TO CHANGE SOMEONE, THERE'S THIS
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  • UNDERLYING TENSION.
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  • IT SAYS, "THERE'S SOMETHING
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  • WRONG WITH YOU. YOU'RE NOT LIKE
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  • ME. YOU'RE INFERIOR."
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  • WE MAY NOT SAY IT OUT LOUD BUT
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  • WITH OUR ACTIONS IT COMES OUT
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  • SUBTLETY IN HOW WE TREAT PEOPLE.
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  • BUT A MARK OF TRUE MATURITY IS
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  • YOU ACCEPT PEOPLE JUST THE WAY
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  • THEY ARE.
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  • YOU DON'T HAVE THIS HIDDEN
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  • AGENDA WHERE DEEP DOWN YOU'RE
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  • REALLY TRYING TO CHANGE THEM AND
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  • MAKE THEM MORE LIKE YOU.
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  • THE WAY GOD MADE US IS WE ARE
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  • DRAWN TO PEOPLE THAT HAVE
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  • STRENGTHS THAT ARE DIFFERENT
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  • THAN OUR OWN.
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  • ONE REASON I FELL IN LOVE WITH
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  • VICTORIA, NOT JUST BECAUSE SHE'S
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  • BEAUTIFUL AND SMART AND
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  • TALENTED, BUT SHE'S FUN,
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  • OUTGOING, SPONTANEOUS.
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  • SHE'S NOT STIFF, NOT RIGID.
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  • SHE HAS STRENGTHS THAT ARE
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  • DIFFERENT THAN MINE.
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  • YET WE GET INTO RELATIONSHIP
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  • WITH SOMEONE AND WE THINK,
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  • "WOW! I LOVE YOUR GOOD
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  • QUALITIES BUT I WANT YOU TO
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  • HAVE MY STRENGTHS AS WELL."
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  • THE TRUTH IS NO PERSON HAS IT
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  • ALL.
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  • THAT'S WHY THE SCRIPTURE TALKS
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  • ABOUT WE HAVE TO MAKE ALLOWANCES
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  • FOR PEOPLE'S WEAKNESSES.
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  • WHAT WOULD HAPPEN IF WE ALL
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  • WOULD START ACCEPTING THE PEOPLE
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  • GOD PUT IN OUR LIFE AND NOT TRY
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  • TO CHANGE THEM?
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  • NUMBER ONE, WE WOULD HAVE BETTER
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  • RELATIONSHIPS.
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  • AND NUMBER TWO: WE WOULDN'T LIVE
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  • FRUSTRATED TRYING TO MAKE THEM
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  • INTO SOMETHING THAT THEY ARE
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  • NOT.
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  • WE HAVE THIS PLANT AT HOME.
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  • IT'S KIND OF LIKE AN IVY. IT'S
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  • IN THIS LARGE POT. IT DRAPES
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  • OVER TOWARD THE GROUND.
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  • WHEN WE FIRST GOT MARRIED, AT
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  • OUR TOWNHOUSE, WE HAD THIS SAME
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  • TYPE OF PLANT ON OUR BACK PORCH.
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  • I TOOK CARE OF IT. IT WAS MY
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  • PROJECT. I MADE SURE IT HAD THE
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  • RIGHT AMOUNT OF SUNLIGHT,
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  • THE RIGHT AMOUNT OF WATER.
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  • IT HAD THESE THICK, DARK GREEN
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  • LEAVES, VERY LUSH, VERY FULL; AS
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  • HEALTHY AS CAN BE.
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  • IF THOSE LEAVES EVER STARTED
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  • TURNING TO A LIGHTER GREEN I
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  • KNEW IT WASN'T GETTING ENOUGH
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  • WATER. I WOULD WATER IT MORE
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  • AND IN NO TIME THEY WOULD BE
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  • BACK TO DARK GREEN.
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  • WELL, IN OUR BACK YARD NOW WE
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  • HAVE THIS SAME TYPE OF PLANT BUT
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  • I COULD NEVER GET THE LEAVES TO
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  • LOOK RIGHT.
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  • THEY WERE ALWAYS A LITTLE BIT
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  • LIGHTER GREEN, ALMOST ON THE
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  • VERGE OF BEING YELLOW.
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  • SO I WATERED THEM LIKE I DID MY
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  • LAST PLANT, AGAIN AND AGAIN, BUT
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  • IT DIDN'T DO ANY GOOD.
  • 00:07:04.130 --> 00:07:05.250
  • STILL LIGHT GREEN LEAVES.
  • 00:07:05.250 --> 00:07:07.250
  • I WAS KIND OF PUZZLED BY IT.
  • 00:07:07.250 --> 00:07:09.120
  • I THOUGHT MAYBE SOMETHING IS
  • 00:07:09.120 --> 00:07:10.180
  • WRONG WITH THE SOIL.
  • 00:07:10.180 --> 00:07:11.270
  • SO I WENT DOWN TO THE NURSERY
  • 00:07:11.270 --> 00:07:13.140
  • AND I PICKED UP SOME FERTILIZER
  • 00:07:13.140 --> 00:07:15.070
  • AND I GAVE THAT PLANT FOOD DAY
  • 00:07:15.070 --> 00:07:17.140
  • AFTER DAY. I PAMPERED THIS
  • 00:07:17.140 --> 00:07:18.290
  • PLANT. I PRAYED OVER IT. I SANG
  • 00:07:18.290 --> 00:07:21.140
  • TO IT. I TOLD IT I LOVED IT.
  • 00:07:21.140 --> 00:07:23.280
  • I DID EVERYTHING I COULD.
  • 00:07:23.280 --> 00:07:25.070
  • (LAUGHTER)
  • 00:07:25.070 --> 00:07:26.080
  • NOTHING HELPED.
  • 00:07:26.080 --> 00:07:27.140
  • I THOUGHT, "WHY CAN'T I GET THIS
  • 00:07:27.140 --> 00:07:28.180
  • PLANT HEALTHY? WHY CAN'T I GET
  • 00:07:28.180 --> 00:07:29.250
  • THESE LEAVES DARK GREEN?"
  • 00:07:29.250 --> 00:07:32.050
  • FINALLY I CALLED THE EXPERT OUT,
  • 00:07:32.050 --> 00:07:33.260
  • THE MAN FROM THE NURSERY.
  • 00:07:33.260 --> 00:07:35.140
  • HE LOOKED AT IT AND SAID, "JOEL,
  • 00:07:35.140 --> 00:07:36.150
  • THIS PLANT IS AS HEALTHY AS CAN
  • 00:07:36.150 --> 00:07:38.200
  • BE. THERE'S NOTHING WRONG WITH
  • 00:07:38.200 --> 00:07:39.240
  • IT."
  • 00:07:39.240 --> 00:07:40.280
  • I SAID, "WELL, WHY DOES IT HAVE
  • 00:07:40.280 --> 00:07:42.020
  • LIGHT GREEN LEAVES AND NOT DARK
  • 00:07:42.020 --> 00:07:43.080
  • GREEN?"
  • 00:07:43.080 --> 00:07:45.060
  • HE SAID, "THIS PLANT IS A SLIGHT
  • 00:07:45.060 --> 00:07:47.010
  • VARIATION FROM THE PLANT YOU HAD
  • 00:07:47.010 --> 00:07:49.050
  • LAST TIME. THE VINES ARE THE
  • 00:07:49.050 --> 00:07:51.060
  • SAME SIZE, SAME SHAPE.
  • 00:07:51.060 --> 00:07:53.110
  • THEY GROW AT THE SAME RATE.
  • 00:07:53.110 --> 00:07:55.060
  • THE ONLY DIFFERENCE IS ONE HAS
  • 00:07:55.060 --> 00:07:57.020
  • DARK GREEN LEAVES AND ONE HAS
  • 00:07:57.020 --> 00:07:59.060
  • LIGHT GREEN LEAVES."
  • 00:07:59.060 --> 00:08:00.060
  • (LAUGHTER)
  • 00:08:00.060 --> 00:08:01.280
  • HERE I HAD SPENT MONTHS BEING
  • 00:08:01.280 --> 00:08:03.080
  • FRUSTRATED TRYING TO MAKE THAT
  • 00:08:03.080 --> 00:08:05.040
  • PLANT INTO SOMETHING THAT IT WAS
  • 00:08:05.040 --> 00:08:06.190
  • NEVER DESIGNED TO BE.
  • 00:08:06.190 --> 00:08:09.050
  • TOO OFTEN WE DO WHAT I DID WITH
  • 00:08:09.050 --> 00:08:10.020
  • PEOPLE.
  • 00:08:10.020 --> 00:08:12.230
  • WE THINK THEY'RE SUPPOSED TO BE
  • 00:08:12.230 --> 00:08:14.050
  • A CERTAIN WAY. THEY LOOK THE
  • 00:08:14.050 --> 00:08:15.280
  • SAME. THEY COME FROM THE SAME
  • 00:08:15.280 --> 00:08:16.270
  • FAMILY.
  • 00:08:16.270 --> 00:08:18.100
  • BUT JUST LIKE THIS PLANT, NO
  • 00:08:18.100 --> 00:08:20.040
  • MATTER HOW HARD YOU TRY TO FIT
  • 00:08:20.040 --> 00:08:21.210
  • THEM INTO THAT MOLD, IT'S NOT
  • 00:08:21.210 --> 00:08:23.170
  • GOING TO HAPPEN.
  • 00:08:23.170 --> 00:08:24.270
  • IT'S NOT WHO GOD CREATED THEM TO
  • 00:08:24.270 --> 00:08:26.070
  • BE.
  • 00:08:26.070 --> 00:08:27.110
  • WE'RE NOT SUPPOSED TO GO AROUND
  • 00:08:27.110 --> 00:08:28.260
  • TRYING TO CHANGE EVERYBODY, TRY
  • 00:08:28.260 --> 00:08:30.180
  • TO GET THEM TO BE LIKE THEIR
  • 00:08:30.180 --> 00:08:31.270
  • BROTHER, THEIR COUSIN, THEIR
  • 00:08:31.270 --> 00:08:33.040
  • RELATIVE.
  • 00:08:33.040 --> 00:08:34.260
  • NO, OUR JOB IS TO LOVE PEOPLE,
  • 00:08:34.260 --> 00:08:36.150
  • TO ACCEPT PEOPLE, TO LET THEM BE
  • 00:08:36.150 --> 00:08:37.290
  • WHO GOD CREATED THEM TO BE.
  • 00:08:37.290 --> 00:08:40.270
  • DON'T SPEND YOUR WHOLE LIFE
  • 00:08:40.270 --> 00:08:42.220
  • TRYING TO MAKE SOMEONE HAVE DARK
  • 00:08:42.220 --> 00:08:44.130
  • GREEN LEAVES WHEN GOD DESIGNED
  • 00:08:44.130 --> 00:08:46.180
  • THEM TO HAVE LIGHT GREEN LEAVES.
  • 00:08:46.180 --> 00:08:48.270
  • WHEN I WAS A LITTLE BOY GROWING
  • 00:08:48.270 --> 00:08:50.130
  • UP I WOULD GET INTO BED EVERY
  • 00:08:50.130 --> 00:08:52.230
  • NIGHT VERY CAREFULLY SO I
  • 00:08:52.230 --> 00:08:54.070
  • WOULDN'T MESS UP THE COVERS.
  • 00:08:54.070 --> 00:08:56.230
  • I WOULD SLEEP PERFECTLY STILL.
  • 00:08:56.230 --> 00:08:59.040
  • (LAUGHTER)
  • 00:08:59.040 --> 00:09:00.060
  • I WOULDN'T MOVE, WOULDN'T ROLL
  • 00:09:00.060 --> 00:09:01.010
  • OVER.
  • 00:09:01.010 --> 00:09:01.280
  • WHEN I WOKE UP THE NEXT DAY I
  • 00:09:01.280 --> 00:09:03.040
  • WOULD GET OUT OF BED AS
  • 00:09:03.040 --> 00:09:04.180
  • CAREFULLY AS CAN BE. THAT WAY
  • 00:09:04.180 --> 00:09:06.190
  • I WOULDN'T HAVE TO MAKE THE
  • 00:09:06.190 --> 00:09:08.000
  • BED UP. IT WAS ALREADY MADE.
  • 00:09:08.000 --> 00:09:10.000
  • (LAUGHTER)
  • 00:09:10.000 --> 00:09:11.170
  • YOU TALKING ABOUT STRUCTURE.
  • 00:09:11.170 --> 00:09:12.150
  • YOU ROLL AROUND IN YOUR COVERS?
  • 00:09:12.150 --> 00:09:14.040
  • WHAT'S WRONG WITH YOU?
  • 00:09:14.040 --> 00:09:15.070
  • (LAUGHTER)
  • 00:09:15.070 --> 00:09:16.220
  • IT'S FUNNY, OUR DAUGHTER
  • 00:09:16.220 --> 00:09:17.190
  • ALEXANDRA, SHE'S THIRTEEN YEARS
  • 00:09:17.190 --> 00:09:18.290
  • OLD AND SHE'S JUST LIKE ME - AS
  • 00:09:18.290 --> 00:09:20.250
  • PERFECT AS CAN BE.
  • 00:09:20.250 --> 00:09:22.200
  • (LAUGHTER)
  • 00:09:22.200 --> 00:09:24.220
  • OUR SON JONATHAN, HE'S
  • 00:09:24.220 --> 00:09:25.240
  • SEVENTEEN YEARS OLD AND HE IS
  • 00:09:25.240 --> 00:09:27.010
  • JUST LIKE VICTORIA - PERFECT IN
  • 00:09:27.010 --> 00:09:28.250
  • A DIFFERENT WAY.
  • 00:09:28.250 --> 00:09:31.060
  • (LAUGHTER)
  • 00:09:31.060 --> 00:09:32.220
  • ALEXANDRA PICKS OUT HER CLOTHES
  • 00:09:32.220 --> 00:09:34.080
  • THE NIGHT BEFORE WHAT SHE'S
  • 00:09:34.080 --> 00:09:35.240
  • GOING TO WEAR TO SCHOOL THE NEXT
  • 00:09:35.240 --> 00:09:36.270
  • DAY, VERY PREPARED.
  • 00:09:36.270 --> 00:09:38.050
  • WE'RE GOING ON A TRIP IN A
  • 00:09:38.050 --> 00:09:39.070
  • COUPLE OF WEEKS. ALEXANDRA HAS
  • 00:09:39.070 --> 00:09:40.250
  • ALREADY GOT THOSE CLOTHES LAID
  • 00:09:40.250 --> 00:09:42.280
  • OUT. SHE KNOWS WHAT SHE IS
  • 00:09:42.280 --> 00:09:43.250
  • GOING TO TAKE.
  • 00:09:43.250 --> 00:09:45.050
  • JONATHAN HAS A DIFFERENT
  • 00:09:45.050 --> 00:09:46.050
  • APPROACH. HE WILL PICK HIS OUT
  • 00:09:46.050 --> 00:09:48.000
  • NOT TWO WEEKS BEFORE BUT MAYBE
  • 00:09:48.000 --> 00:09:49.200
  • A COUPLE OF HOURS BEFORE.
  • 00:09:49.200 --> 00:09:51.030
  • (LAUGHTER)
  • 00:09:51.030 --> 00:09:52.070
  • DIFFERENT PERSONALITIES.
  • 00:09:52.070 --> 00:09:53.010
  • DIFFERENT STRENGTHS.
  • 00:09:53.010 --> 00:09:54.090
  • WHEN ALEXANDRA PACKS HER
  • 00:09:54.090 --> 00:09:55.090
  • SUITCASE IT IS A WORK OF ART.
  • 00:09:55.090 --> 00:09:57.240
  • EVERYTHING IS STRATEGICALLY
  • 00:09:57.240 --> 00:09:59.110
  • PLACED, PERFECTLY SECTIONED OFF.
  • 00:09:59.110 --> 00:10:01.270
  • SHE'S GOT ALL THESE LITTLE BAGS:
  • 00:10:01.270 --> 00:10:03.260
  • BAGS FOR MAKEUP, BAGS FOR
  • 00:10:03.260 --> 00:10:04.240
  • SHAMPOO, BAGS FOR SOAP, BAG OF
  • 00:10:04.240 --> 00:10:06.010
  • SNACKS. THAT'S FOR THE PLANE
  • 00:10:06.010 --> 00:10:07.030
  • RIDE GOING. THEN OF COURSE
  • 00:10:07.030 --> 00:10:10.030
  • THERE IS ANOTHER BAG OF SNACKS
  • 00:10:10.030 --> 00:10:11.150
  • STRATEGICALLY PLACED. THAT'S
  • 00:10:11.150 --> 00:10:13.140
  • FOR THE PLANE RIDE COMING BACK
  • 00:10:13.140 --> 00:10:14.230
  • HOME. (LAUGHTER)
  • 00:10:14.230 --> 00:10:16.120
  • WHEN I WAS JONATHAN'S AGE I WAS
  • 00:10:16.120 --> 00:10:17.210
  • PLAYING SPORTS ALL THE TIME.
  • 00:10:17.210 --> 00:10:20.000
  • JONATHAN NOT ONLY PLAYS SPORTS
  • 00:10:20.000 --> 00:10:21.180
  • BUT HE'LL GO PRACTICE HIS GUITAR
  • 00:10:21.180 --> 00:10:23.270
  • FOR A COUPLE OF HOURS.
  • 00:10:23.270 --> 00:10:25.220
  • I CAN'T PLAY ANY INSTRUMENT.
  • 00:10:25.220 --> 00:10:26.260
  • THEN HE MAY GO WRITE ON HIS
  • 00:10:26.260 --> 00:10:28.150
  • SCREENPLAY THAT HE'S BEEN
  • 00:10:28.150 --> 00:10:29.210
  • WORKING ON FOR A YEAR AND A
  • 00:10:29.210 --> 00:10:30.270
  • HALF. I WOULD NEVER WRITE
  • 00:10:30.270 --> 00:10:32.140
  • ANYTHING EXTRA UNLESS THE
  • 00:10:32.140 --> 00:10:33.090
  • TEACHERS REQUIRED US TO DO IT.
  • 00:10:33.090 --> 00:10:35.090
  • (LAUGHTER)
  • 00:10:35.090 --> 00:10:37.080
  • GOD PUTS PEOPLE IN OUR LIFE
  • 00:10:37.080 --> 00:10:38.120
  • THAT ARE DIFFERENT THAN WE ARE,
  • 00:10:38.120 --> 00:10:39.290
  • DIFFERENT STRENGTHS, DIFFERENT
  • 00:10:39.290 --> 00:10:41.050
  • TALENTS, DIFFERENT GOALS.
  • 00:10:41.050 --> 00:10:42.220
  • TOO OFTEN WE LOOK AT THEM AND
  • 00:10:42.220 --> 00:10:44.150
  • SAY, "HEY, YOU'RE NOT LIKE ME.
  • 00:10:44.150 --> 00:10:46.090
  • LET ME FIX YOU. LET ME GET YOU
  • 00:10:46.090 --> 00:10:47.290
  • STRAIGHTENED OUT."
  • 00:10:47.290 --> 00:10:50.010
  • THEY DON'T NEED TO BE FIXED.
  • 00:10:50.010 --> 00:10:51.110
  • THEY DON'T NEED TO BE
  • 00:10:51.110 --> 00:10:52.040
  • STRAIGHTENED OUT.
  • 00:10:52.040 --> 00:10:53.010
  • THEY NEED TO BE ACCEPTED,
  • 00:10:53.010 --> 00:10:54.160
  • APPROVED, LOVED, ENCOURAGED.
  • 00:10:54.160 --> 00:10:56.000
  • (APPLAUSE)
  • 00:10:56.000 --> 00:10:58.070
  • JUST BECAUSE THEY'RE NOT LIKE
  • 00:10:58.070 --> 00:10:59.110
  • YOU DOESN'T MEAN THAT THEY'RE
  • 00:10:59.110 --> 00:11:00.190
  • LESS THAN.
  • 00:11:00.190 --> 00:11:02.000
  • MOST LIKELY THEY HAVE STRENGTHS
  • 00:11:02.000 --> 00:11:03.110
  • THAT YOU DON'T HAVE.
  • 00:11:03.110 --> 00:11:05.220
  • THEY'RE GOOD AT SOMETHING THAT
  • 00:11:05.220 --> 00:11:06.270
  • YOU'RE NOT GOOD AT. DON'T WASTE
  • 00:11:06.270 --> 00:11:08.140
  • YOUR VALUABLE TIME AND ENERGY
  • 00:11:08.140 --> 00:11:10.160
  • TRYING TO MAKE SOMEBODY JUST
  • 00:11:10.160 --> 00:11:11.290
  • LIKE YOU. LET THEM BE WHO GOD
  • 00:11:11.290 --> 00:11:13.230
  • MADE THEM TO BE.
  • 00:11:13.230 --> 00:11:15.160
  • I HAVE A 14-YEAR-OLD NIECE NAMED
  • 00:11:15.160 --> 00:11:17.120
  • CAROLINE. THIS IS MY SISTER
  • 00:11:17.120 --> 00:11:20.060
  • LISA'S DAUGHTER AND HER HUSBAND
  • 00:11:20.060 --> 00:11:21.070
  • KEVIN.
  • 00:11:21.070 --> 00:11:22.170
  • CAROLINE IS NOT ONLY BEAUTIFUL
  • 00:11:22.170 --> 00:11:24.110
  • BUT SHE IS EXTREMELY CREATIVE.
  • 00:11:24.110 --> 00:11:26.190
  • SHE LOVES FASHION.
  • 00:11:26.190 --> 00:11:28.080
  • SHE'S GOT A GREAT EYE FOR
  • 00:11:28.080 --> 00:11:29.140
  • DESIGN.
  • 00:11:29.140 --> 00:11:30.180
  • SHE CAN TAKE THE MOST UNUSUAL
  • 00:11:30.180 --> 00:11:31.240
  • CLOTHES AND JEWELRY AND PUT THEM
  • 00:11:31.240 --> 00:11:33.090
  • TOGETHER AND MAKE THEM REALLY
  • 00:11:33.090 --> 00:11:34.210
  • LOOK GREAT.
  • 00:11:34.210 --> 00:11:36.070
  • NOBODY TAUGHT HER TO DO THIS.
  • 00:11:36.070 --> 00:11:37.260
  • IT JUST COMES NATURALLY TO HER.
  • 00:11:37.260 --> 00:11:39.230
  • BUT HERE'S THE THING, CAROLINE
  • 00:11:39.230 --> 00:11:40.200
  • DOESN'T LIKE TRADITIONAL. SHE
  • 00:11:40.200 --> 00:11:42.270
  • LIKES ANYTHING OUT OF THE
  • 00:11:42.270 --> 00:11:43.290
  • ORDINARY.
  • 00:11:43.290 --> 00:11:46.100
  • SHE LIKES HER HAIR ANY COLOR BUT
  • 00:11:46.100 --> 00:11:47.160
  • HER NORMAL COLOR. (LAUGHTER)
  • 00:11:47.160 --> 00:11:49.050
  • NOT BROWN BUT RED OR BLONDE OR
  • 00:11:49.050 --> 00:11:51.030
  • BLACK OR WITH AN ORANGE STREAK
  • 00:11:51.030 --> 00:11:52.260
  • THROUGH IT. SHE'S GOT THIS
  • 00:11:52.260 --> 00:11:54.000
  • INCREDIBLE PERSONALITY, SO
  • 00:11:54.000 --> 00:11:55.280
  • STYLISH, SO FASHIONABLE.
  • 00:11:55.280 --> 00:11:58.060
  • WHEN GOD PUTS PEOPLE IN OUR
  • 00:11:58.060 --> 00:11:59.120
  • LIVES LIKE THAT THAT ARE
  • 00:11:59.120 --> 00:12:01.010
  • DIFFERENT IT'S EASY TO THINK,
  • 00:12:01.010 --> 00:12:02.150
  • "WELL, THEY'RE FAR OUT. THEY'RE
  • 00:12:02.150 --> 00:12:03.280
  • STRANGE. LET ME GET THEM INTO
  • 00:12:03.280 --> 00:12:05.030
  • MY MOLD."
  • 00:12:05.030 --> 00:12:07.030
  • NO, THAT'S LIKE TRYING TO MAKE
  • 00:12:07.030 --> 00:12:08.260
  • THAT DARK GREEN PLANT HAVE LIGHT
  • 00:12:08.260 --> 00:12:10.200
  • GREEN LEAVES.
  • 00:12:10.200 --> 00:12:12.110
  • IT'S NOT WHO THEY ARE.
  • 00:12:12.110 --> 00:12:13.280
  • GOD IS THE ONE THAT PUTS THE
  • 00:12:13.280 --> 00:12:15.060
  • TALENTS, THE CREATIVITIES, THE
  • 00:12:15.060 --> 00:12:17.080
  • STRENGTHS, INTO DIFFERENT
  • 00:12:17.080 --> 00:12:18.130
  • PEOPLE.
  • 00:12:18.130 --> 00:12:20.050
  • OUR JOB IS NOT TO TRY TO CHANGE
  • 00:12:20.050 --> 00:12:21.150
  • THEM AND MAKE THEM LIKE US.
  • 00:12:21.150 --> 00:12:23.180
  • WE SHOULD ENCOURAGE THEM, GIVE
  • 00:12:23.180 --> 00:12:25.060
  • THEM ADVICE, GIVE THEM WISDOM,
  • 00:12:25.060 --> 00:12:27.040
  • BUT TAKE PEOPLE OFF OF YOUR
  • 00:12:27.040 --> 00:12:29.170
  • POTTER'S WHEEL.
  • 00:12:29.170 --> 00:12:30.230
  • DON'T TRY TO MAKE THEM JUST LIKE
  • 00:12:30.230 --> 00:12:31.250
  • YOU. ACCEPT THEM FOR WHO GOD
  • 00:12:31.250 --> 00:12:34.010
  • MADE THEM TO BE.
  • 00:12:34.010 --> 00:12:35.260
  • YOU SEE ME UP HERE. IT MAY SEEM
  • 00:12:35.260 --> 00:12:37.200
  • LIKE I'M REALLY OUTGOING, I'M
  • 00:12:37.200 --> 00:12:39.280
  • VERY TALKATIVE. BUT THE TRUTH
  • 00:12:39.280 --> 00:12:41.090
  • IS WHEN I'M NOT UP HERE I'M
  • 00:12:41.090 --> 00:12:43.040
  • VERY QUIET AND RESERVED.
  • 00:12:43.040 --> 00:12:45.150
  • I'M NOT SUPER-TALKATIVE.
  • 00:12:45.150 --> 00:12:47.060
  • OF COURSE, VICTORIA AND I, WE
  • 00:12:47.060 --> 00:12:48.130
  • TALK AT HOME AND WE HAVE FUN
  • 00:12:48.130 --> 00:12:49.230
  • TOGETHER. THERE'S A LOT OF
  • 00:12:49.230 --> 00:12:51.080
  • LAUGHTER IN OUR HOME.
  • 00:12:51.080 --> 00:12:52.270
  • BUT AS MUCH AS VICTORIA WOULD
  • 00:12:52.270 --> 00:12:54.180
  • PROBABLY LIKE ME TO SIT DOWN AND
  • 00:12:54.180 --> 00:12:56.000
  • TALK WITH HER TWO OR THREE HOURS
  • 00:12:56.000 --> 00:12:57.150
  • EVERY EVENING THAT'S JUST NOT
  • 00:12:57.150 --> 00:12:59.040
  • WHO I AM. (LAUGHTER)
  • 00:12:59.040 --> 00:13:01.170
  • I'VE GROWN. I DO MY BEST TO
  • 00:13:01.170 --> 00:13:02.230
  • COMMUNICATE PROPERLY BUT
  • 00:13:02.230 --> 00:13:04.270
  • VICTORIA RECOGNIZES THAT'S NOT
  • 00:13:04.270 --> 00:13:06.220
  • ONE OF MY STRENGTHS. SHE
  • 00:13:06.220 --> 00:13:08.270
  • DOESN'T TRY TO MAKE ME INTO
  • 00:13:08.270 --> 00:13:10.110
  • SOMETHING THAT I'M NOT. SHE
  • 00:13:10.110 --> 00:13:12.010
  • ACCEPTS THE FACT THAT I'M JUST
  • 00:13:12.010 --> 00:13:14.100
  • NOT ONE THAT'S PROBABLY
  • 00:13:14.100 --> 00:13:16.030
  • GOING TO SIT DOWN AND TELL MY
  • 00:13:16.030 --> 00:13:17.090
  • INNERMOST, DEEPEST FEELINGS.
  • 00:13:17.090 --> 00:13:20.050
  • ONE REASON WE HAVE A GOOD
  • 00:13:20.050 --> 00:13:21.210
  • RELATIONSHIP IS BECAUSE WE'RE
  • 00:13:21.210 --> 00:13:23.210
  • NOT CONSTANTLY TRYING TO CHANGE
  • 00:13:23.210 --> 00:13:25.070
  • EACH OTHER. WE ACCEPT EACH
  • 00:13:25.070 --> 00:13:27.050
  • OTHER FOR WHO WE ARE.
  • 00:13:27.050 --> 00:13:29.000
  • IF YOU'RE ALWAYS WORKING ON
  • 00:13:29.000 --> 00:13:30.110
  • ANOTHER PERSON TRYING TO CHANGE
  • 00:13:30.110 --> 00:13:31.280
  • THEM, THERE'S GOING TO BE THIS
  • 00:13:31.280 --> 00:13:33.120
  • UNDERLYING RESENTMENT THAT WILL
  • 00:13:33.120 --> 00:13:35.100
  • DEVELOP.
  • 00:13:35.100 --> 00:13:36.240
  • IT SAYS, "WHY DOESN'T HE TALK TO
  • 00:13:36.240 --> 00:13:38.200
  • ME MORE? WHY DOES SHE ACT
  • 00:13:38.200 --> 00:13:39.240
  • THAT WAY?"
  • 00:13:39.240 --> 00:13:41.040
  • NO, IT'S MUCH BETTER TO SAY,
  • 00:13:41.040 --> 00:13:43.120
  • "THAT'S JUST WHO GOD MADE THEM
  • 00:13:43.120 --> 00:13:44.200
  • TO BE. I CAN'T CHANGE THEM,
  • 00:13:44.200 --> 00:13:46.230
  • ONLY GOD CAN AND IF HE DOES,
  • 00:13:46.230 --> 00:13:49.160
  • GREAT. BUT IN THE MEANTIME I'M
  • 00:13:49.160 --> 00:13:50.280
  • NOT GOING TO BE FRUSTRATED."
  • 00:13:50.280 --> 00:13:52.100
  • HERE'S MY WHOLE MESSAGE IN A
  • 00:13:52.100 --> 00:13:54.040
  • NUTSHELL; THE OTHER PERSON MAY
  • 00:13:54.040 --> 00:13:55.140
  • NOT CHANGE BUT YOU CAN CHANGE.
  • 00:13:55.140 --> 00:13:58.100
  • YOU DON'T HAVE TO ALLOW WHAT
  • 00:13:58.100 --> 00:13:59.240
  • THEY DO OR DON'T DO UPSET YOU
  • 00:13:59.240 --> 00:14:02.110
  • FOR THE NEXT 25 YEARS.
  • 00:14:02.110 --> 00:14:03.260
  • (APPLAUSE)
  • 00:14:03.260 --> 00:14:06.000
  • VICTORIA HAS HAD TO MAKE
  • 00:14:06.000 --> 00:14:06.270
  • ALLOWANCES FOR MY WEAKNESSES.
  • 00:14:06.270 --> 00:14:08.180
  • I'VE HAD TO MAKE ALLOWANCES FOR
  • 00:14:08.180 --> 00:14:09.160
  • HER WEAKNESSES.
  • 00:14:09.160 --> 00:14:11.110
  • WHEN I COME TO CHURCH I LIKE TO
  • 00:14:11.110 --> 00:14:12.130
  • ARRIVE AT LEAST 30 MINUTES EARLY
  • 00:14:12.130 --> 00:14:15.050
  • SO I CAN GO OVER MY NOTES,
  • 00:14:15.050 --> 00:14:16.150
  • PREPARE AND REALLY BE IN PEACE.
  • 00:14:16.150 --> 00:14:19.090
  • VICTORIA ON THE OTHER HAND, SHE
  • 00:14:19.090 --> 00:14:20.270
  • LIKES TO COME JUST A FEW MINUTES
  • 00:14:20.270 --> 00:14:22.070
  • BEFORE THE SERVICE STARTS.
  • 00:14:22.070 --> 00:14:24.070
  • SHE PREPARES AT HOME AND GOES
  • 00:14:24.070 --> 00:14:25.080
  • OVER HER NOTES THERE.
  • 00:14:25.080 --> 00:14:27.030
  • FOR YEARS I REALLY TRIED TO
  • 00:14:27.030 --> 00:14:27.240
  • CHANGE HER.
  • 00:14:27.240 --> 00:14:28.110
  • I'D SAY, "VICTORIA, WHY DON'T
  • 00:14:28.110 --> 00:14:30.210
  • YOU LEAVE A LITTLE BIT EARLIER
  • 00:14:30.210 --> 00:14:31.290
  • IN CASE YOU GET CAUGHT IN
  • 00:14:31.290 --> 00:14:33.120
  • TRAFFIC, IN CASE YOU GET DELAYED
  • 00:14:33.120 --> 00:14:34.050
  • FOR SOME REASON."
  • 00:14:34.050 --> 00:14:36.040
  • WE'VE BEEN DOING THIS FOR TWELVE
  • 00:14:36.040 --> 00:14:37.080
  • YEARS AND SHE'S NEVER ONCE
  • 00:14:37.080 --> 00:14:38.160
  • MISSED THE OPENING OF THE
  • 00:14:38.160 --> 00:14:39.050
  • SERVICE.
  • 00:14:39.050 --> 00:14:40.210
  • I WAS JUST TRYING TO FIT HER
  • 00:14:40.210 --> 00:14:41.140
  • INTO MY MOLD.
  • 00:14:41.140 --> 00:14:44.100
  • WHEN WE MOVED FROM THE OTHER
  • 00:14:44.100 --> 00:14:45.140
  • LOCATION TO THIS NEW BUILDING
  • 00:14:45.140 --> 00:14:46.290
  • INSTEAD OF BEING A 30-MINUTE
  • 00:14:46.290 --> 00:14:49.030
  • DRIVE IT'S ONLY A TEN MINUTE
  • 00:14:49.030 --> 00:14:50.110
  • DRIVE. I THOUGHT, "GREAT!
  • 00:14:50.110 --> 00:14:52.020
  • THAT'S GOING TO SOLVE
  • 00:14:52.020 --> 00:14:52.210
  • EVERYTHING. SHE'S GOING TO BE
  • 00:14:52.210 --> 00:14:53.190
  • HERE 20 MINUTES EARLY."
  • 00:14:53.190 --> 00:14:54.230
  • BUT THAT'S NOT HOW SHE SAW IT.
  • 00:14:54.230 --> 00:14:56.290
  • SHE ALREADY CALCULATED THAT'S 20
  • 00:14:56.290 --> 00:14:58.060
  • MINUTES FOR HER TO GET SOMETHING
  • 00:14:58.060 --> 00:14:59.250
  • ELSE DONE. (LAUGHTER)
  • 00:14:59.250 --> 00:15:01.180
  • HERE'S MY POINT: SHE DIDN'T
  • 00:15:01.180 --> 00:15:03.010
  • CHANGE BUT I CHANGED.
  • 00:15:03.010 --> 00:15:05.260
  • AFTER 25 YEARS OF MARRIAGE, 25
  • 00:15:05.260 --> 00:15:07.070
  • YEARS OF TRYING TO MAKE HER JUST
  • 00:15:07.070 --> 00:15:09.110
  • LIKE ME, I HAD A BREAKTHROUGH, A
  • 00:15:09.110 --> 00:15:11.000
  • REVELATION.
  • 00:15:11.000 --> 00:15:13.090
  • GOD MADE HER LIKE THAT ON
  • 00:15:13.090 --> 00:15:14.140
  • PURPOSE.
  • 00:15:14.140 --> 00:15:15.270
  • I'VE LEARNED TO ACCEPT HER AND
  • 00:15:15.270 --> 00:15:17.220
  • APPROVE HER JUST THE WAY SHE IS.
  • 00:15:17.220 --> 00:15:19.130
  • (APPLAUSE)
  • 00:15:19.130 --> 00:15:21.050
  • ARE THERE PEOPLE IN YOUR LIFE,
  • 00:15:21.200 --> 00:15:24.200
  • YOU'RE WAITING FOR THEM TO
  • 00:15:24.200 --> 00:15:26.010
  • CHANGE AND THEN YOU'RE GOING TO
  • 00:15:26.010 --> 00:15:27.070
  • BE HAPPY?
  • 00:15:27.070 --> 00:15:28.150
  • THEN YOU'RE GOING TO LET THEM
  • 00:15:28.150 --> 00:15:29.090
  • OFF THE HOOK.
  • 00:15:29.090 --> 00:15:30.050
  • AS SOON AS THEY FIT INTO YOUR
  • 00:15:30.050 --> 00:15:31.090
  • MOLD THEN YOU'RE GOING TO GIVE
  • 00:15:31.090 --> 00:15:32.160
  • THEM YOUR APPROVAL.
  • 00:15:32.160 --> 00:15:34.280
  • NO, TAKE THIS IN THE RIGHT WAY:
  • 00:15:34.280 --> 00:15:36.040
  • THEY MAY NEVER CHANGE.
  • 00:15:36.040 --> 00:15:38.200
  • IT MAY NOT BE WHO GOD CREATED
  • 00:15:38.200 --> 00:15:40.000
  • THEM TO BE.
  • 00:15:40.000 --> 00:15:41.090
  • THE GOOD NEWS IS YOU CAN CHANGE.
  • 00:15:41.090 --> 00:15:43.130
  • IT DOESN'T HAVE TO BOTHER YOU.
  • 00:15:43.130 --> 00:15:45.060
  • IT DOESN'T HAVE TO LESSEN THE
  • 00:15:45.060 --> 00:15:46.080
  • RELATIONSHIP.
  • 00:15:46.080 --> 00:15:47.250
  • DON'T FOCUS ON WHAT YOU DON'T
  • 00:15:47.250 --> 00:15:49.050
  • LIKE ABOUT THAT PERSON.
  • 00:15:49.050 --> 00:15:51.000
  • FOCUS ON THEIR GOOD QUALITIES.
  • 00:15:51.000 --> 00:15:53.030
  • I'VE HEARD IT SAID, "MEN, WHEN
  • 00:15:53.030 --> 00:15:54.250
  • YOU'RE TEMPTED TO COMPLAIN ABOUT
  • 00:15:54.250 --> 00:15:56.050
  • YOUR WIFE'S FAULTS REMEMBER IT
  • 00:15:56.050 --> 00:15:57.250
  • WAS THOSE FAULTS THAT KEPT HER
  • 00:15:57.250 --> 00:15:59.220
  • FROM GETTING A BETTER HUSBAND."
  • 00:15:59.220 --> 00:16:01.240
  • (LAUGHTER/APPLAUSE)
  • 00:16:01.240 --> 00:16:03.180
  • FOCUS ON THE GOOD QUALITIES.
  • 00:16:03.180 --> 00:16:05.000
  • REMEMBER THE REASONS THAT YOU
  • 00:16:05.000 --> 00:16:06.000
  • FELL IN LOVE.
  • 00:16:06.000 --> 00:16:08.060
  • PROVERBS 18:22 SAYS, "HE WHO
  • 00:16:08.060 --> 00:16:09.210
  • FINDS A WIFE FINDS A GOOD THING
  • 00:16:09.210 --> 00:16:11.150
  • AND FINDS FAVOR FROM THE LORD."
  • 00:16:11.230 --> 00:16:14.230
  • (APPLAUSE)
  • 00:16:14.230 --> 00:16:16.120
  • HUSBANDS, YOU'VE GOT TO REMIND
  • 00:16:16.120 --> 00:16:17.030
  • YOURSELF YOUR WIFE IS BRINGING
  • 00:16:17.030 --> 00:16:18.080
  • YOU FAVOR.
  • 00:16:18.080 --> 00:16:20.060
  • VICTORIA DOEST LET ME FORGET
  • 00:16:20.060 --> 00:16:21.080
  • IT. SHLL GO THROUGH THE HOUSE
  • 00:16:21.080 --> 00:16:22.030
  • SAYING, "JOEL, WHEN YOU GOT ME
  • 00:16:22.030 --> 00:16:23.130
  • YOU GOT FAVOR."
  • 00:16:23.130 --> 00:16:25.040
  • I SAY, "YEAH, AND I GOT A LOT OF
  • 00:16:25.040 --> 00:16:26.100
  • OTHER THINGS TOO."
  • 00:16:26.100 --> 00:16:27.080
  • (LAUGHTER)
  • 00:16:27.080 --> 00:16:29.210
  • BUT HERE'S A KEY: GIVE PEOPLE
  • 00:16:29.210 --> 00:16:30.190
  • ROOM TO NOT BE PERFECT.
  • 00:16:30.190 --> 00:16:33.160
  • YOUR WIFE MAY NOT BE THE
  • 00:16:33.160 --> 00:16:34.220
  • GREATEST COOK IN THE WORLD BUT
  • 00:16:34.220 --> 00:16:36.160
  • SHE IS A FANTASTIC MOTHER.
  • 00:16:36.160 --> 00:16:38.090
  • YOU AND YOUR CHILDREN ARE
  • 00:16:38.090 --> 00:16:39.240
  • BLESSED TO HAVE THAT WOMAN IN
  • 00:16:41.010 --> 00:16:44.010
  • YOUR LIFE.
  • 00:16:44.010 --> 00:16:44.240
  • SEE THE GOOD.
  • 00:16:44.240 --> 00:16:45.190
  • YOUR HUSBAND MAY NOT BE THE
  • 00:16:45.190 --> 00:16:46.140
  • GREATEST COMMUNICATOR BUT HE IS
  • 00:16:46.140 --> 00:16:47.090
  • A HARD WORKER.
  • 00:16:47.090 --> 00:16:48.060
  • YOU NEVER HAVE TO WORRY ABOUT
  • 00:16:48.060 --> 00:16:49.060
  • THE BILLS BEING PAID.
  • 00:16:49.060 --> 00:16:50.010
  • FOCUS ON THOSE GOOD QUALITIES.
  • 00:16:50.010 --> 00:16:52.050
  • THE SCRIPTURE SAYS, "A WIFE IS
  • 00:16:52.050 --> 00:16:53.110
  • TO ENJOY HER HUSBAND."
  • 00:16:53.250 --> 00:16:56.250
  • NOTICE IT DOESN'T SAY, "YOU ARE
  • 00:16:56.250 --> 00:16:57.270
  • TO REMODEL YOUR HUSBAND."
  • 00:16:57.270 --> 00:16:58.290
  • (LAUGHTER)
  • 00:16:58.290 --> 00:17:00.220
  • TAKE THAT MAN OFF YOUR POTTER'S
  • 00:17:00.220 --> 00:17:01.180
  • WHEEL.
  • 00:17:01.180 --> 00:17:02.240
  • SOMETIMES WE ARE NOT ENJOYING
  • 00:17:02.240 --> 00:17:04.160
  • THE PEOPLE GOD HAS PUT IN OUR
  • 00:17:04.160 --> 00:17:05.290
  • LIFE BECAUSE WE'RE TOO BUSY
  • 00:17:05.290 --> 00:17:07.120
  • TRYING TO CHANGE THEM.
  • 00:17:07.120 --> 00:17:09.280
  • "WELL, JOEL. MY HUSBAND DOESN'T
  • 00:17:09.280 --> 00:17:11.020
  • BRING ME FLOWERS LIKE SUSIE'S
  • 00:17:11.020 --> 00:17:12.040
  • HUSBAND EVERY WEEK. THEY HAVE A
  • 00:17:12.040 --> 00:17:14.110
  • CANDLELIGHT DINNER EVERY FRIDAY
  • 00:17:14.110 --> 00:17:15.210
  • NIGHT. HE WRITES HER THIS
  • 00:17:15.210 --> 00:17:17.250
  • BEAUTIFUL, ROMANTIC, POETRY."
  • 00:17:17.250 --> 00:17:20.080
  • NO, QUIT COMPARING YOUR SPOUSE
  • 00:17:20.080 --> 00:17:21.140
  • TO ROMEO OVER THERE.
  • 00:17:21.140 --> 00:17:23.140
  • AND JUST ACCEPT THE PERSON GOD
  • 00:17:23.140 --> 00:17:25.060
  • HAS GIVEN YOU.
  • 00:17:25.060 --> 00:17:26.260
  • THAT OTHER MAN MAY BE ROMEO BUT
  • 00:17:26.260 --> 00:17:29.070
  • I CAN ASSURE YOU HE HAS SOME
  • 00:17:29.070 --> 00:17:31.050
  • WEAKNESSES. THERE'S SOMETHING
  • 00:17:31.050 --> 00:17:32.250
  • THAT LADY HAS TO OVERLOOK.
  • 00:17:32.250 --> 00:17:35.000
  • I'LL ADMIT I'M NOT THE MOST
  • 00:17:35.000 --> 00:17:35.250
  • ROMANTIC PERSON BUT I REMIND
  • 00:17:35.250 --> 00:17:37.220
  • VICTORIA ALL THE TIME, "I MAY
  • 00:17:37.220 --> 00:17:38.280
  • NOT BE ROMEO BUT AT LEAST I'M
  • 00:17:38.280 --> 00:17:40.210
  • JOEL-EO."
  • 00:17:40.210 --> 00:17:42.110
  • (LAUGHTER/APPLAUSE)
  • 00:17:42.110 --> 00:17:43.250
  • THAT'S REALLY CORNY. (LAUGHTER)
  • 00:17:44.200 --> 00:17:47.200
  • I DIDN'T COME UP WITH IT.
  • 00:17:47.200 --> 00:17:48.070
  • SOMEBODY GAVE IT TO ME THOUGH.
  • 00:17:48.070 --> 00:17:49.080
  • (LAUGHTER.)
  • 00:17:49.080 --> 00:17:51.060
  • INSTEAD OF COMPLAINING ABOUT
  • 00:17:51.060 --> 00:17:52.060
  • WHAT YOU DON'T LIKE ABOUT A
  • 00:17:52.060 --> 00:17:54.040
  • PERSON, "WELL, YOU NEVER BRING
  • 00:17:54.040 --> 00:17:55.140
  • ME FLOWERS. WELL, YOU NEVER
  • 00:17:55.140 --> 00:17:56.160
  • TALK TO ME. WELL, YOU'RE ALWAYS
  • 00:17:56.160 --> 00:17:58.050
  • TOO BUSY. YOU'RE NEVER
  • 00:17:58.050 --> 00:17:59.020
  • AVAILABLE."
  • 00:17:59.020 --> 00:17:59.240
  • NO, TRY A DIFFERENT APPROACH.
  • 00:17:59.240 --> 00:18:01.080
  • START TELLING THAT PERSON WHAT
  • 00:18:01.080 --> 00:18:03.040
  • YOU DO LIKE ABOUT THEM.
  • 00:18:03.040 --> 00:18:04.170
  • "I REALLY APPRECIATE YOU BEING
  • 00:18:04.170 --> 00:18:05.250
  • SUCH A GREAT MOTHER. YOU ARE SO
  • 00:18:05.250 --> 00:18:07.160
  • GOOD WITH OUR CHILDREN."
  • 00:18:07.160 --> 00:18:09.090
  • "I REALLY APPRECIATE YOU BEING
  • 00:18:09.090 --> 00:18:10.270
  • SUCH A HARD WORKER. YOU'RE
  • 00:18:10.270 --> 00:18:11.200
  • SOMEBODY I CAN ALWAYS COUNT
  • 00:18:11.200 --> 00:18:12.250
  • ON."
  • 00:18:12.250 --> 00:18:14.110
  • LISTEN, PEOPLE RESPOND TO PRAISE
  • 00:18:14.110 --> 00:18:15.170
  • A LOT BETTER THAN THEY DO
  • 00:18:15.170 --> 00:18:16.210
  • CRITICISM. INSTEAD OF NAGGING
  • 00:18:16.210 --> 00:18:19.130
  • THAT HUSBAND, "YOU'RE SO LAZY.
  • 00:18:19.130 --> 00:18:20.250
  • YOU NEVER MOW THE LAWN.
  • 00:18:20.250 --> 00:18:22.110
  • WHY DON'T YOU GET UP OFF THIS
  • 00:18:22.110 --> 00:18:23.170
  • COUCH?" (LAUGHTER)
  • 00:18:23.170 --> 00:18:24.190
  • NO, JUST SAY, "HAVE I EVER TOLD
  • 00:18:24.190 --> 00:18:25.250
  • YOU WHEN I SEE YOU OUT THERE
  • 00:18:25.250 --> 00:18:27.090
  • MOWING THE LAWN AND THOSE
  • 00:18:27.090 --> 00:18:28.240
  • MUSCLES BULGING AND THAT SWEAT
  • 00:18:28.240 --> 00:18:31.220
  • DRIPPING DOWN YOUR FACE, THE
  • 00:18:31.220 --> 00:18:34.020
  • WIND BLOWING THROUGH YOUR
  • 00:18:34.020 --> 00:18:35.140
  • TOUPEE, HOW INCREDIBLY HANDSOME
  • 00:18:35.140 --> 00:18:38.110
  • YOU ARE?" (LAUGHTER/APPLAUSE)
  • 00:18:38.110 --> 00:18:41.060
  • YOU PRAISE HIM LIKE THAT AND
  • 00:18:41.060 --> 00:18:42.140
  • HE'LL MOW THE LAWN EVERY DAY.
  • 00:18:42.140 --> 00:18:44.080
  • (LAUGHTER)
  • 00:18:44.120 --> 00:18:47.120
  • IT'S AMAZING WHAT PEOPLE WILL
  • 00:18:47.120 --> 00:18:48.200
  • DO WHEN YOU SEE THE BEST IN
  • 00:18:48.200 --> 00:18:49.280
  • THEM, WHEN YOU HONOR THEM, WHEN
  • 00:18:49.280 --> 00:18:52.140
  • YOU RESPECT THEM.
  • 00:18:52.140 --> 00:18:54.070
  • IT NOT ONLY STRENGTHENS THE
  • 00:18:54.070 --> 00:18:55.080
  • RELATIONSHIP BUT IT WILL HELP
  • 00:18:55.080 --> 00:18:56.160
  • THAT OTHER PERSON RISE HIGHER.
  • 00:18:56.160 --> 00:18:58.170
  • IT'S LIKE A CORK THAT'S INSIDE A
  • 00:18:58.170 --> 00:18:59.280
  • LARGE BOTTLE.
  • 00:18:59.280 --> 00:19:02.100
  • AS LONG AS THERE'S NO WATER IN
  • 00:19:02.100 --> 00:19:04.120
  • THE BOTTLE THE CORK WILL BE AT
  • 00:19:04.120 --> 00:19:05.190
  • THE BOTTOM. BUT WHEN YOU POUR
  • 00:19:05.190 --> 00:19:07.040
  • WATER IN, THE CORK WILL ALWAYS
  • 00:19:07.040 --> 00:19:08.260
  • RISE TO THE TOP OF THE WATER.
  • 00:19:08.260 --> 00:19:11.190
  • WELL, THE PERSON YOU'RE IN
  • 00:19:11.190 --> 00:19:12.120
  • RELATIONSHIP WITH IS LIKE THE
  • 00:19:12.120 --> 00:19:13.080
  • CORK.
  • 00:19:13.080 --> 00:19:14.270
  • THEY MAY BE ON THE BOTTOM RIGHT
  • 00:19:14.270 --> 00:19:15.290
  • NOW BUT AS YOU GIVE ENCOURAGE
  • 00:19:15.290 --> 00:19:17.250
  • -MENT, SHOW HONOR, SHOW
  • 00:19:17.250 --> 00:19:19.080
  • RESPECT, YOU'RE POURING WATER
  • 00:19:19.080 --> 00:19:20.180
  • INTO THAT BOTTLE. THEY WON'T
  • 00:19:20.180 --> 00:19:22.150
  • STAY WHERE THEY ARE. THEY'LL
  • 00:19:22.150 --> 00:19:24.150
  • CONTINUE TO RISE TO THE LEVEL
  • 00:19:24.150 --> 00:19:26.080
  • THAT YOU POUR INTO THEM.
  • 00:19:26.080 --> 00:19:28.110
  • YOU WANT TO MAKE YOUR SPOUSE,
  • 00:19:28.110 --> 00:19:29.150
  • YOUR CHILDREN, YOUR LOVED ONE A
  • 00:19:29.150 --> 00:19:30.190
  • BETTER PERSON?
  • 00:19:30.190 --> 00:19:32.040
  • HONOR THEM IN A GREATER WAY.
  • 00:19:32.040 --> 00:19:33.270
  • ACCEPT THEM FOR WHO THEY ARE.
  • 00:19:33.270 --> 00:19:36.060
  • GIVE THEM YOUR APPROVAL EVEN IF
  • 00:19:36.060 --> 00:19:37.280
  • THEY DON'T FIT INTO YOUR MOLD.
  • 00:19:37.280 --> 00:19:40.130
  • YOU HAVE TREMENDOUS POWER AND
  • 00:19:40.130 --> 00:19:42.020
  • INFLUENCE INTO THEIR LIVES.
  • 00:19:42.020 --> 00:19:44.100
  • YOU CAN PUSH THEM FURTHER WITH
  • 00:19:44.100 --> 00:19:46.080
  • YOUR HONOR, YOUR ACCEPTANCE,
  • 00:19:46.080 --> 00:19:48.110
  • YOUR APPROVAL, OR YOU CAN
  • 00:19:48.110 --> 00:19:49.250
  • WITHHOLD IT AND KEEP THEM BACK.
  • 00:19:49.250 --> 00:19:52.100
  • I KNOW THIS YOUNG COUPLE THAT
  • 00:19:52.100 --> 00:19:53.230
  • WERE NEWLY MARRIED.
  • 00:19:53.230 --> 00:19:55.220
  • THE HUSBAND WAS A GRAPHIC
  • 00:19:55.220 --> 00:19:56.210
  • DESIGNER, VERY TALENTED, VERY
  • 00:19:56.210 --> 00:19:58.090
  • CREATIVE. HIS WIFE WAS SO PROUD
  • 00:19:58.090 --> 00:20:00.220
  • OF HIM. SHE WAS ALWAYS BRAGGING
  • 00:20:00.220 --> 00:20:02.060
  • ON HIM, SAYING, "YOU ARE SO
  • 00:20:02.060 --> 00:20:04.060
  • GIFTED. YOU'RE GOING TO DO
  • 00:20:04.060 --> 00:20:05.180
  • GREAT THINGS."
  • 00:20:05.180 --> 00:20:07.100
  • THE FIRST FEW YEARS OF THE
  • 00:20:07.100 --> 00:20:08.170
  • MARRIAGE THIS HUSBAND GOT
  • 00:20:08.170 --> 00:20:10.100
  • SEVERAL MAJOR PROMOTIONS.
  • 00:20:10.100 --> 00:20:12.180
  • HIS CAREER JUST TOOK OFF AND
  • 00:20:12.180 --> 00:20:13.290
  • EXCELLED. HIS WIFE WAS SO HAPPY
  • 00:20:13.290 --> 00:20:15.090
  • AND SHE CONTINUED TO ENCOURAGE
  • 00:20:15.090 --> 00:20:17.180
  • HIM. BUT THE NEXT FOUR OR FIVE
  • 00:20:17.180 --> 00:20:19.080
  • YEAR SPAN, THINGS HAD SLOWED
  • 00:20:19.080 --> 00:20:21.070
  • DOWN. HE DIDN'T GET ANY
  • 00:20:21.070 --> 00:20:23.010
  • PROMOTIONS. HE WAS AT THE SAME
  • 00:20:23.010 --> 00:20:24.070
  • LEVEL DOING THE SAME TYPE OF
  • 00:20:24.070 --> 00:20:25.240
  • WORK. HE WAS STILL VERY
  • 00:20:25.240 --> 00:20:27.140
  • SUCCESSFUL, STILL PROUD OF
  • 00:20:27.140 --> 00:20:28.190
  • HIMSELF. THE PROBLEM IS HE HAD
  • 00:20:28.190 --> 00:20:30.050
  • NOT MET HIS WIFE'S
  • 00:20:30.050 --> 00:20:32.020
  • EXPECTATIONS.
  • 00:20:32.020 --> 00:20:34.250
  • SHE THOUGHT HE SHOULD BE FURTHER
  • 00:20:34.250 --> 00:20:36.080
  • AND THAT HE WASN'T NEARLY AS
  • 00:20:36.080 --> 00:20:38.030
  • AGGRESSIVE ENOUGH.
  • 00:20:38.030 --> 00:20:39.240
  • SHE DIDN'T SAY ANYTHING OUT LOUD
  • 00:20:39.240 --> 00:20:41.160
  • BUT BY HER ACTIONS YOU COULD
  • 00:20:41.160 --> 00:20:43.140
  • TELL SHE WAS DISAPPOINTED. SHE
  • 00:20:43.140 --> 00:20:45.110
  • QUIT POURING IN THE HONOR. SHE
  • 00:20:45.110 --> 00:20:47.070
  • QUIT ENCOURAGING. SHE DIDN'T
  • 00:20:47.070 --> 00:20:49.090
  • BRAG ON HIM ANYMORE. WHY?
  • 00:20:49.090 --> 00:20:51.150
  • HE WASN'T FITTING INTO HER MOLD.
  • 00:20:51.150 --> 00:20:54.080
  • HE WASN'T MEETING HER STANDARDS.
  • 00:20:54.080 --> 00:20:56.120
  • AND THEY HAD ALWAYS HAD A GREAT
  • 00:20:56.120 --> 00:20:57.030
  • MARRIAGE, AS HAPPY AS CAN BE.
  • 00:20:57.030 --> 00:20:59.150
  • BUT NOW THE SEEDS OF DISCONTENT
  • 00:20:59.150 --> 00:21:01.200
  • STARTED TO TAKE ROOT.
  • 00:21:01.200 --> 00:21:03.140
  • LONG STORY SHORT, A FEW YEARS
  • 00:21:03.140 --> 00:21:05.000
  • LATER, THEY SPLIT UP AND WENT
  • 00:21:05.000 --> 00:21:06.070
  • THEIR SEPARATE WAYS.
  • 00:21:06.070 --> 00:21:07.250
  • THAT'S WHAT CAN HAPPEN WHEN WE
  • 00:21:07.250 --> 00:21:09.050
  • TRY TO MAKE PEOPLE FIT INTO OUR
  • 00:21:09.050 --> 00:21:11.100
  • MOLD.
  • 00:21:11.100 --> 00:21:12.280
  • WE QUIT POURING THE HONOR IN.
  • 00:21:12.280 --> 00:21:14.150
  • WE QUIT RESPECTING.
  • 00:21:14.150 --> 00:21:16.100
  • WE MAY NOT SAY IT OUT LOUD BUT
  • 00:21:16.100 --> 00:21:18.130
  • BY OUR ACTIONS THEY CAN FEEL
  • 00:21:18.130 --> 00:21:20.130
  • THAT WE'RE DISAPPOINTED, THAT
  • 00:21:20.130 --> 00:21:21.260
  • WE'RE NOT PROUD OF THEM. WE'RE
  • 00:21:21.260 --> 00:21:23.240
  • FOCUSED ON THEIR FAULTS AND ALL
  • 00:21:23.240 --> 00:21:25.150
  • THE QUALITIES THAT WE DON'T
  • 00:21:25.150 --> 00:21:26.140
  • LIKE ABOUT THEM.
  • 00:21:26.140 --> 00:21:28.130
  • NO, TAKE PEOPLE OFF OF YOUR
  • 00:21:28.130 --> 00:21:29.090
  • POTTER'S WHEEL.
  • 00:21:29.090 --> 00:21:31.250
  • YOUR SPOUSE, YOUR CHILDREN, THE
  • 00:21:31.250 --> 00:21:33.020
  • PEOPLE YOU LOVE, THEY MAY NOT
  • 00:21:33.020 --> 00:21:34.260
  • HAVE MET YOUR GOALS, THEY MAY
  • 00:21:34.260 --> 00:21:36.290
  • NOT BE AS AGGRESSIVE AS YOU
  • 00:21:36.290 --> 00:21:38.230
  • WOULD LIKE THEM TO BE BUT YOU
  • 00:21:38.230 --> 00:21:39.260
  • HAVE TO ACCEPT THEM FOR WHO THEY
  • 00:21:39.260 --> 00:21:41.180
  • ARE TODAY.
  • 00:21:41.180 --> 00:21:44.120
  • THEY MAY NOT BE WHERE YOU WANT
  • 00:21:44.120 --> 00:21:45.110
  • THEM TO BE BUT GOD IS THE ONE
  • 00:21:45.110 --> 00:21:47.010
  • THAT IS DIRECTING THEIR STEPS.
  • 00:21:47.010 --> 00:21:49.190
  • GOD IS THE ONE THAT IS MAKING
  • 00:21:49.190 --> 00:21:50.200
  • THEM AND MOLD THEM.
  • 00:21:50.200 --> 00:21:52.210
  • LOVE THEM FOR WHO THEY ARE RIGHT
  • 00:21:52.210 --> 00:21:53.180
  • NOW.
  • 00:21:53.180 --> 00:21:55.290
  • DON'T HAVE THE ATTITUDE, "I'LL
  • 00:21:55.290 --> 00:21:56.290
  • LOVE YOU AS LONG AS YOU SUCCEED
  • 00:21:57.040 --> 00:22:00.060
  • ON MY TIMETABLE, AS LONG AS YOU
  • 00:22:00.060 --> 00:22:01.130
  • MEET MY STANDARDS, AS LONG AS
  • 00:22:01.130 --> 00:22:03.270
  • YOU CHANGE THE WAY I WANT YOU TO
  • 00:22:03.270 --> 00:22:05.040
  • CHANGE."
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  • NO, GIVE PEOPLE ROOM TO BE WHO
  • 00:22:06.230 --> 00:22:08.040
  • GOD CREATED THEM TO BE.
  • 00:22:08.040 --> 00:22:10.260
  • GOD'S PLAN FOR THEIR LIFE MAY
  • 00:22:10.260 --> 00:22:12.130
  • NOT BE THE SAME PLAN THAT YOU
  • 00:22:12.130 --> 00:22:14.160
  • HAVE FOR THEIR LIFE.
  • 00:22:14.160 --> 00:22:16.070
  • HIS TIMETABLE MAY BE DIFFERENT
  • 00:22:16.070 --> 00:22:17.120
  • THAN YOUR TIMETABLE.
  • 00:22:17.220 --> 00:22:20.220
  • BUT I CAN ASSURE YOU GOD KNOWS
  • 00:22:20.220 --> 00:22:21.240
  • WHAT HE IS DOING.
  • 00:22:21.240 --> 00:22:23.220
  • HIS PLAN WILL BE BIGGER, BETTER,
  • 00:22:23.220 --> 00:22:25.230
  • MORE REWARDING, MORE FULFILLING.
  • 00:22:25.230 --> 00:22:28.060
  • NOW DON'T WITHHOLD YOUR
  • 00:22:28.060 --> 00:22:29.100
  • BLESSING. KEEP POURING IN THE
  • 00:22:29.100 --> 00:22:31.140
  • HONOR. KEEP ENCOURAGING.
  • 00:22:31.140 --> 00:22:33.280
  • KEEP RESPECTING. AND GOD WILL
  • 00:22:33.280 --> 00:22:35.040
  • GET THEM TO WHERE HE WANTS THEM
  • 00:22:35.040 --> 00:22:36.240
  • TO BE. (APPLAUSE)
  • 00:22:36.240 --> 00:22:38.250
  • BUT TOO MANY PEOPLE, LIKE THIS
  • 00:22:38.250 --> 00:22:39.270
  • WOMAN, THEY END A RELATIONSHIP
  • 00:22:39.270 --> 00:22:41.160
  • BECAUSE THERE IS ONE MAIN THING
  • 00:22:41.160 --> 00:22:44.020
  • THEY DON'T LIKE ABOUT THE
  • 00:22:44.020 --> 00:22:45.180
  • PERSON. THEY FOCUS ON WHAT
  • 00:22:45.180 --> 00:22:47.050
  • ANNOYS THEM AND MAGNIFY HOW
  • 00:22:47.050 --> 00:22:49.200
  • THEY'VE GOT TOO MUCH OF THIS OR
  • 00:22:49.200 --> 00:22:52.100
  • NOT ENOUGH OF THAT.
  • 00:22:52.100 --> 00:22:53.280
  • THEY'LL GO FIND SOMEBODY ELSE
  • 00:22:53.280 --> 00:22:55.210
  • THAT HAS A STRENGTH WHERE THAT
  • 00:22:55.210 --> 00:22:57.080
  • OTHER PERSON HAS A WEAKNESS.
  • 00:22:57.080 --> 00:23:00.020
  • THE PROBLEM IS THIS NEW PERSON
  • 00:23:00.020 --> 00:23:01.150
  • WILL HAVE A WEAKNESS WHERE THE
  • 00:23:01.150 --> 00:23:03.110
  • OTHER PERSON HAD A STRENGTH.
  • 00:23:03.110 --> 00:23:05.170
  • WE'RE JUST MOVING THINGS AROUND.
  • 00:23:05.170 --> 00:23:06.220
  • SO IT'S ALWAYS GOING TO COME
  • 00:23:06.220 --> 00:23:08.000
  • DOWN TO OVERLOOKING THE
  • 00:23:08.000 --> 00:23:09.110
  • WEAKNESSES, SEEING THE BEST IN
  • 00:23:09.110 --> 00:23:10.270
  • THEM, ACCEPTING PEOPLE FOR WHO
  • 00:23:10.270 --> 00:23:12.210
  • THEY ARE.
  • 00:23:12.210 --> 00:23:15.020
  • I'VE HEARD IT SAID, "SOMEONE
  • 00:23:15.020 --> 00:23:16.070
  • WILL LEAVE A PERSON THAT HAS 80%
  • 00:23:16.070 --> 00:23:17.160
  • OF WHAT THEY NEED BECAUSE THEY
  • 00:23:17.190 --> 00:23:20.190
  • FIND THE OTHER 20% IN SOMEBODY
  • 00:23:20.190 --> 00:23:21.210
  • ELSE."
  • 00:23:22.060 --> 00:23:25.060
  • WHAT THEY DON'T REALIZE IS NO
  • 00:23:25.060 --> 00:23:25.240
  • PERSON HAS 100%.
  • 00:23:26.160 --> 00:23:29.160
  • IF YOU LEAVE THE 80 BECAUSE YOU
  • 00:23:29.160 --> 00:23:30.260
  • FIND THE 20 IN SOMEONE ELSE,
  • 00:23:30.260 --> 00:23:32.260
  • WELL SOONER THAN LATER, YOU WILL
  • 00:23:32.260 --> 00:23:34.290
  • REALIZE THAT THERE IS 20% THAT
  • 00:23:34.290 --> 00:23:37.190
  • THAT NEW PERSON DOESN'T HAVE AS
  • 00:23:37.190 --> 00:23:39.190
  • WELL.
  • 00:23:39.190 --> 00:23:40.050
  • IT'S MUCH BETTER TO RECOGNIZE NO
  • 00:23:40.050 --> 00:23:41.090
  • ONE PERSON CAN GIVE YOU
  • 00:23:41.090 --> 00:23:43.150
  • EVERYTHING THAT YOU NEED.
  • 00:23:43.150 --> 00:23:45.190
  • YOU'VE GOT TO FOCUS ON THEIR
  • 00:23:45.190 --> 00:23:47.000
  • GOOD QUALITIES AND DON'T BE
  • 00:23:47.000 --> 00:23:48.190
  • FRUSTRATED BY WHAT THEY DON'T
  • 00:23:48.190 --> 00:23:50.120
  • HAVE OR WHAT THEY CAN'T GIVE
  • 00:23:50.120 --> 00:23:51.220
  • YOU.
  • 00:23:51.220 --> 00:23:52.290
  • IT'S LIKE THAT OLD SAYING, "THE
  • 00:23:52.290 --> 00:23:53.230
  • GRASS MAY LOOK GREENER ON THE
  • 00:23:53.230 --> 00:23:55.010
  • OTHER SIDE BUT IT STILL HAS TO
  • 00:23:55.010 --> 00:23:56.280
  • BE MOWED."
  • 00:23:56.280 --> 00:23:58.030
  • THAT'S BASICALLY SAYING,
  • 00:23:58.030 --> 00:23:59.160
  • "THERE'S STILL 20% THAT THAT
  • 00:23:59.160 --> 00:24:00.160
  • OTHER PERSON IS NOT GOING TO
  • 00:24:00.160 --> 00:24:01.150
  • HAVE."
  • 00:24:01.150 --> 00:24:02.220
  • SOME OF YOU WOULD SEE YOUR
  • 00:24:02.220 --> 00:24:04.020
  • RELATIONSHIPS GO TO A NEW LEVEL
  • 00:24:04.020 --> 00:24:05.280
  • IF YOU WOULD START ACCEPTING
  • 00:24:05.280 --> 00:24:07.040
  • PEOPLE FOR WHO THEY ARE.
  • 00:24:07.040 --> 00:24:09.130
  • LIKE THAT PLANT, YOU MAY BE A
  • 00:24:09.130 --> 00:24:11.040
  • DARK GREEN LEAF. THEY'RE A
  • 00:24:11.040 --> 00:24:12.120
  • LIGHT GREEN LEAF.
  • 00:24:12.120 --> 00:24:14.240
  • BUT YOU'RE DOING EVERYTHING YOU
  • 00:24:14.240 --> 00:24:15.130
  • CAN TO TRY TO MAKE THEM JUST
  • 00:24:15.130 --> 00:24:16.260
  • LIKE YOU. THE PROBLEM IS THAT'S
  • 00:24:16.260 --> 00:24:18.290
  • NOT WHO GOD DESIGNED THEM TO
  • 00:24:18.290 --> 00:24:21.040
  • BE. WHY DON'T YOU LET THEM OFF
  • 00:24:21.040 --> 00:24:22.080
  • OF YOUR POTTER'S WHEEL?
  • 00:24:22.080 --> 00:24:24.010
  • DON'T TRY TO FIX THEM.
  • 00:24:24.010 --> 00:24:25.040
  • DON'T TRY TO MAKE THEM FIT INTO
  • 00:24:25.040 --> 00:24:27.040
  • YOUR MOLD.
  • 00:24:27.040 --> 00:24:27.220
  • GOD IS THE POTTER.
  • 00:24:27.220 --> 00:24:29.030
  • HE KNOWS WHAT HE'S DOING.
  • 00:24:29.030 --> 00:24:31.060
  • NOW DO YOUR PART AND START
  • 00:24:31.060 --> 00:24:32.160
  • POURING THE HONOR IN.
  • 00:24:32.160 --> 00:24:34.080
  • START RESPECTING THEM IN A
  • 00:24:34.080 --> 00:24:35.230
  • GREATER WAY. DON'T LOVE THEM IF
  • 00:24:35.230 --> 00:24:37.140
  • THEY MEET YOUR STANDARDS.
  • 00:24:37.140 --> 00:24:39.230
  • LOVE THEM FOR WHO THEY ARE RIGHT
  • 00:24:39.230 --> 00:24:41.040
  • NOW.
  • 00:24:41.040 --> 00:24:42.090
  • IF YOU WILL START ACCEPTING AND
  • 00:24:42.090 --> 00:24:43.280
  • APPROVING THE PEOPLE GOD HAS PUT
  • 00:24:43.280 --> 00:24:46.200
  • IN YOUR LIFE YOU WILL NOT ONLY
  • 00:24:46.200 --> 00:24:47.080
  • HELP THEM RISE HIGHER AND THEN
  • 00:24:47.080 --> 00:24:48.070
  • FULFILL THEIR DESTINY BUT I
  • 00:24:48.070 --> 00:24:49.290
  • BELIEVE AND DECLARE YOU WILL
  • 00:24:49.290 --> 00:24:51.100
  • RISE HIGHER. YOU WILL HAVE
  • 00:24:51.100 --> 00:24:52.240
  • BETTER RELATIONSHIPS.
  • 00:24:52.240 --> 00:24:54.260
  • AND YOU WILL BECOME EVERYTHING
  • 00:24:54.260 --> 00:24:56.180
  • GOD HAS CREATED YOU TO BE.
  • 00:24:56.180 --> 00:24:58.110
  • AMEN? DO YOU RECEIVE IT TODAY?
  • 00:24:58.110 --> 00:24:59.140
  • (APPLAUSE)
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  • WE NEVER LIKE TO CLOSE OUR
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  • BROADCAST WITHOUT GIVING YOU
  • 00:25:02.210 --> 00:25:03.220
  • AN OPPORTUNITY TO MAKE JESUS THE
  • 00:25:03.220 --> 00:25:04.270
  • LORD OF YOUR LIFE.
  • 00:25:04.270 --> 00:25:06.220
  • WOULD YOU PRAY WITH ME?
  • 00:25:06.220 --> 00:25:08.120
  • JUST SAY, "LORD JESUS,
  • 00:25:08.120 --> 00:25:10.010
  • I REPENT OF MY SINS.
  • 00:25:10.010 --> 00:25:12.090
  • COME IN TO MY HEART.
  • 00:25:12.090 --> 00:25:14.120
  • I MAKE YOU MY LORD AND SAVIOR."
  • 00:25:14.130 --> 00:25:17.130
  • FRIENDS, IF YOU PRAYED THAT
  • 00:25:17.130 --> 00:25:18.180
  • SIMPLE PRAYER WE BELIEVE YOU
  • 00:25:18.180 --> 00:25:20.010
  • GOT BORN AGAIN.
  • 00:25:20.010 --> 00:25:21.190
  • GET IN A GOOD BIBLE-BASED
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  • CHURCH.
  • 00:25:22.130 --> 00:25:23.190
  • KEEP GOD FIRST PLACE.
  • 00:25:23.190 --> 00:25:24.240
  • HE IS GOING TO TAKE YOU PLACES
  • 00:25:24.240 --> 00:25:25.150
  • YOU'VE NEVER DREAMED OF.
  • 00:25:25.150 --> 00:25:27.040
  • > ANNCR: AS A THANK YOU FOR
  • 00:25:28.050 --> 00:25:29.130
  • YOUR SUPPORT OF OUR MINISTRY
  • 00:25:29.130 --> 00:25:30.090
  • THIS MONTH, JOEL AND VICTORIA
  • 00:25:30.090 --> 00:25:32.100
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  • "SUCCESS IN EVERY SEASON".
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  • IN THIS INSPIRATIONAL 4-PART
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  • SERIES, JOEL OSTEEN SHOWS
  • 00:25:39.180 --> 00:25:41.070
  • YOU HOW TO RELEASE YOUR
  • 00:25:41.070 --> 00:25:42.100
  • FAITH AND STAND ON GOD'S
  • 00:25:42.100 --> 00:25:43.290
  • PROMISES. GOD'S TIMING IS
  • 00:25:43.290 --> 00:25:46.130
  • PERFECT. HE DOESN'T HAVE TO
  • 00:25:46.130 --> 00:25:47.270
  • WAIT FOR PERFECT CONDITIONS.
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  • YOU CAN HAVE SUCCESS IN
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  • EVERY SEASON. GET READY
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  • TO RECEIVE POWERFUL
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  • ENCOURAGEMENT.
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  • > VICTORIA: GOD DOESN'T
  • 00:25:55.270 --> 00:25:56.190
  • WASTE ANYTHING WE GO
  • 00:25:56.190 --> 00:25:57.120
  • THROUGH. WE ALL EXPERIENCE
  • 00:25:57.120 --> 00:25:58.200
  • HARDSHIPS, THINGS WE DON'T
  • 00:25:58.200 --> 00:26:00.080
  • UNDERSTAND. BUT GOD KNOWS
  • 00:26:00.080 --> 00:26:02.050
  • HOW TO USE THEM TO OUR
  • 00:26:02.050 --> 00:26:03.160
  • ADVANTAGE. STIR UP YOUR
  • 00:26:03.160 --> 00:26:05.010
  • FAITH. GOD IS USING EVERY
  • 00:26:05.010 --> 00:26:07.010
  • SEASON TO POSITION YOU FOR
  • 00:26:07.010 --> 00:26:08.150
  • SUCCESS.
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  • > JOEL: YOUR BEST DAYS ARE
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  • STILL IN FRONT OF YOU. GOD
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  • KNOWS HOW TO GIVE YOU BEAUTY
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  • FOR ASHES. REQUEST THIS
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  • RESOURCE. IT WILL STRENGTHEN
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  • YOUR FAITH FOR EVERY SEASON.
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  • FORCES OF DARKNESS. YOUR
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