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February 19, 2021
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The Difference: Jeremy and Audrey Roloff | Living Life Intentionally

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  • ♪ MUSIC ♪
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  • MATT HAGEE: WELCOME TO
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  • MATT HAGEE: WELCOME TO"THE DIFFERENCE."
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  • "THE DIFFERENCE."ON TODAY'S PROGRAM,
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  • ON TODAY'S PROGRAM,WE'RE TALKING ABOUT
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  • WE'RE TALKING ABOUT"LIVING LIFE INTENTIONALLY."
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  • "LIVING LIFE INTENTIONALLY."KENDAL HAGEE: YOU MAY RECOGNIZE
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  • KENDAL HAGEE: YOU MAY RECOGNIZETODAY'S GUEST FROM THE HIT
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  • TODAY'S GUEST FROM THE HITTLC SHOW,
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  • TLC SHOW,"LITTLE PEOPLE; BIG WORLD"
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  • "LITTLE PEOPLE; BIG WORLD"WHERE MORE THAN TWO MILLION
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  • WHERE MORE THAN TWO MILLIONPEOPLE WATCHED AS THEY
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  • PEOPLE WATCHED AS THEYCOMMITTED THEIR LIVES
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  • COMMITTED THEIR LIVESTO ONE ANOTHER.
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  • TO ONE ANOTHER.MATT HAGEE: FROM HEALTH
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  • MATT HAGEE: FROM HEALTHPROBLEMS TO EMOTIONAL WALLS,
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  • PROBLEMS TO EMOTIONAL WALLS,TO BEING SEPARATED BY HUNDREDS
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  • TO BEING SEPARATED BY HUNDREDSOF MILES,
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  • OF MILES,JEREMY AND AUDREY ROLOFF
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  • JEREMY AND AUDREY ROLOFFFACED QUITE A FEW OBSTACLES
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  • FACED QUITE A FEW OBSTACLESBEFORE SAYING, "I DO."
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  • BEFORE SAYING, "I DO."AND THEY ARE HERE TO SHARE
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  • AND THEY ARE HERE TO SHARETHEIR STORY WITH US TODAY.
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  • THEIR STORY WITH US TODAY.KENDAL HAGEE: BUT BEFORE WE SIT
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  • KENDAL HAGEE: BUT BEFORE WE SITDOWN WITH OUR GUESTS FOR TODAY,
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  • DOWN WITH OUR GUESTS FOR TODAY,THE DIFFERENCE MAKER,
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  • THE DIFFERENCE MAKER,DR. EMERSON EGGERICHS,
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  • DR. EMERSON EGGERICHS,WILL SHARE WITH US ABOUT LOVE
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  • WILL SHARE WITH US ABOUT LOVEAND RESPECT.
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  • AND RESPECT.STAY TUNED.
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  • STAY TUNED.♪ MUSIC ♪
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  • ♪ MUSIC ♪DR. EMERSON EGGERICHS: I
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  • DR. EMERSON EGGERICHS: IDISCOVERED SOMETHING
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  • DISCOVERED SOMETHINGIN EPHESIANS 5:33,
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  • IN EPHESIANS 5:33,WHICH SOME SAY IS THE SUMMARY
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  • WHICH SOME SAY IS THE SUMMARYTO THE GREATEST TREATISE
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  • TO THE GREATEST TREATISEIN THE NEW TESTAMENT
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  • IN THE NEW TESTAMENTON MARRIAGE.
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  • ON MARRIAGE.AND IT SAYS,
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  • AND IT SAYS,"HUSBANDS, LOVE YOUR WIVES;
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  • "HUSBANDS, LOVE YOUR WIVES;AND WIVES,
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  • AND WIVES,RESPECT YOUR HUSBANDS."
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  • RESPECT YOUR HUSBANDS."NOW THERE'S CONTROVERSY
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  • NOW THERE'S CONTROVERSYTO THAT SECOND PART.
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  • TO THAT SECOND PART.BUT WHAT I DID NOTICE
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  • BUT WHAT I DID NOTICEONE DAY THAT'S REALLY HELPED
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  • ONE DAY THAT'S REALLY HELPEDMY WIFE, SARAH, AND ME
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  • MY WIFE, SARAH, AND MEFOR MANY YEARS --
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  • FOR MANY YEARS --WE'VE BEEN MARRIED 45 YEARS.
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  • WE'VE BEEN MARRIED 45 YEARS.-- THAT WHEN SARAH FEELS
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  • -- THAT WHEN SARAH FEELSUNLOVED, SHE TENDS TO REACT
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  • UNLOVED, SHE TENDS TO REACTIN A WAY THAT FEELS
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  • IN A WAY THAT FEELSDISRESPECTFUL TO ME.
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  • DISRESPECTFUL TO ME.THAT'S NOT HER INTENT.
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  • THAT'S NOT HER INTENT.BUT WHEN I FAIL TO LOVE HER,
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  • BUT WHEN I FAIL TO LOVE HER,THERE IS A REACTION THAT
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  • THERE IS A REACTION THATAPPEARS KIND OF DISRESPECTFUL.
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  • APPEARS KIND OF DISRESPECTFUL.AND I KNOW THAT WHEN I FEEL
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  • AND I KNOW THAT WHEN I FEELDISRESPECTED,
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  • DISRESPECTED,AND I PROBABLY SHOULDN'T
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  • AND I PROBABLY SHOULDN'TNEED TO BE RESPECTED,
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  • NEED TO BE RESPECTED,BUT SOMETIMES I FEEL THAT WAY,
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  • BUT SOMETIMES I FEEL THAT WAY,BECAUSE I KNOW SHE LOVES ME
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  • BECAUSE I KNOW SHE LOVES MEBUT I DON'T THINK SHE
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  • BUT I DON'T THINK SHENECESSARILY LIKES ME
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  • NECESSARILY LIKES MEAT THE MOMENT.
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  • AT THE MOMENT.I TEND TO REACT IN A WAY
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  • I TEND TO REACT IN A WAYTHAT FEELS UNLOVING TO HER.
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  • THAT FEELS UNLOVING TO HER.AND THOUGH SHE NEEDS RESPECT
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  • AND THOUGH SHE NEEDS RESPECTAND IN NEED LOVE.
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  • AND IN NEED LOVE.WE'VE ASKED 7.000 PEOPLE
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  • WE'VE ASKED 7.000 PEOPLETHIS QUESTION; WHEN YOU'RE
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  • THIS QUESTION; WHEN YOU'REIN A CONFLICT WITH YOUR SPOUSE,
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  • IN A CONFLICT WITH YOUR SPOUSE,DO YOU FEEL UNLOVED
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  • DO YOU FEEL UNLOVEDAT THAT MOMENT OR DISRESPECTED?
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  • AT THAT MOMENT OR DISRESPECTED?EIGHTY-THREE PERCENT OF THE MEN
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  • EIGHTY-THREE PERCENT OF THE MENSAID THEY FEEL DISRESPECTED,
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  • SAID THEY FEEL DISRESPECTED,AND 72% OF THE WOMEN SAY
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  • AND 72% OF THE WOMEN SAYTHEY FEEL UNLOVED, SO --
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  • THEY FEEL UNLOVED, SO --THOUGH WE ALL NEED LOVE
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  • THOUGH WE ALL NEED LOVEAND RESPECT EQUALLY.
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  • AND RESPECT EQUALLY.AND IT'S VERY IMPORTANT
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  • AND IT'S VERY IMPORTANTTHAT YOU HEAR ME SAY THAT.
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  • THAT YOU HEAR ME SAY THAT.THE FELT NEED DURING CONFLICT
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  • THE FELT NEED DURING CONFLICTDIFFERS.
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  • DIFFERS.BUT WHAT HAPPENS IS IT GIVES
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  • BUT WHAT HAPPENS IS IT GIVESBIRTH TO WHAT I CALL,
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  • BIRTH TO WHAT I CALL,"THE CRAZY CYCLE."
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  • "THE CRAZY CYCLE."WITHOUT LOVE,
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  • WITHOUT LOVE,SHE REACTS WITHOUT RESPECT.
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  • SHE REACTS WITHOUT RESPECT.WITHOUT RESPECT,
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  • WITHOUT RESPECT,HE REACTS WITHOUT LOVE.
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  • HE REACTS WITHOUT LOVE.AND THEN WITHOUT LOVE,
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  • AND THEN WITHOUT LOVE,SHE REACTS WITHOUT RESPECT.
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  • SHE REACTS WITHOUT RESPECT.AND WITHOUT RESPECT...
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  • AND WITHOUT RESPECT...AND YOU CAN SEE IT SPINS
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  • AND YOU CAN SEE IT SPINSAND IT GETS CRAZY.
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  • AND IT GETS CRAZY.AND THIS HAPPENS WITH PEOPLE
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  • AND THIS HAPPENS WITH PEOPLEOF GOOD WILL.
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  • OF GOOD WILL.IT'S NOT EVIL INTENT.
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  • IT'S NOT EVIL INTENT.SHE'S NOT TRYING TO BE
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  • SHE'S NOT TRYING TO BEDISRESPECTFUL.
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  • DISRESPECTFUL.HE'S NOT TRYING TO BE UNLOVING.
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  • HE'S NOT TRYING TO BE UNLOVING.HE WOULD DIE FOR HER
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  • HE WOULD DIE FOR HERIF SHE DOESN'T KILL HIM FIRST.
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  • IF SHE DOESN'T KILL HIM FIRST.THE TRUTH IS BOTH ARE
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  • THE TRUTH IS BOTH AREGOOD-WILLED PEOPLE.
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  • GOOD-WILLED PEOPLE.BUT OUR DEFENSIVE REACTION
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  • BUT OUR DEFENSIVE REACTIONIS SUCH THAT WE REACT
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  • IS SUCH THAT WE REACTON THE CRAZY CYCLE.
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  • ON THE CRAZY CYCLE.WELL, I WROTE A BOOK CALLED
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  • WELL, I WROTE A BOOK CALLED"LOVE AND RESPECT."
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  • "LOVE AND RESPECT."AND IN THAT,
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  • AND IN THAT,I ANSWER THE QUESTION,
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  • I ANSWER THE QUESTION,"HOW DO YOU GET OFF
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  • "HOW DO YOU GET OFFTHE CRAZY CYCLE?"
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  • THE CRAZY CYCLE?"AND THERE, I EXPLAIN
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  • AND THERE, I EXPLAINHOW TO DO THAT.
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  • HOW TO DO THAT.BUT I HOPE THIS HAS ENCOURAGED
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  • BUT I HOPE THIS HAS ENCOURAGEDYOU.
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  • YOU.GOD BLESS YOU.
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  • GOD BLESS YOU.♪ MUSIC ♪
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  • ♪ MUSIC ♪♪ MUSIC
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  • ♪ MUSIC"AND YOU SHALL REMEMBER
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  • "AND YOU SHALL REMEMBERTHE LORD YOUR GOD;
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  • THE LORD YOUR GOD;FOR IT IS HE
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  • FOR IT IS HEWHO GIVES YOU THE POWER
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  • WHO GIVES YOU THE POWERTO GET WEALTH."
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  • TO GET WEALTH."PASTOR MATT HAGEE: SCRIPTURE
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  • PASTOR MATT HAGEE: SCRIPTURESTATES THAT GOD IS THE SOURCE
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  • STATES THAT GOD IS THE SOURCEOF ALL OF OUR RESOURCES.
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  • OF ALL OF OUR RESOURCES.WHAT FEW REALIZE IS THAT
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  • WHAT FEW REALIZE IS THATYOUR PERSONAL PROSPERITY
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  • YOUR PERSONAL PROSPERITYIS A MATTER OF YOUR CHOICE.
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  • IS A MATTER OF YOUR CHOICE.YOU DETERMINE THE SIZE
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  • YOU DETERMINE THE SIZEOF YOUR HARVEST BY THE SEED
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  • OF YOUR HARVEST BY THE SEEDTHAT YOU CHOOSE TO SOW.
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  • THAT YOU CHOOSE TO SOW.FOR YOUR GIFT OF ANY AMOUNT,
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  • FOR YOUR GIFT OF ANY AMOUNT,HAGEE MINISTRIES WOULD LIKE
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  • HAGEE MINISTRIES WOULD LIKETO SEND YOU RESOURCES
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  • TO SEND YOU RESOURCESTHAT WILL HELP YOU MASTER
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  • THAT WILL HELP YOU MASTERYOUR WEALTH,
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  • YOUR WEALTH,"THE POWER TO GET WEALTH"
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  • "THE POWER TO GET WEALTH"SERMON,
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  • SERMON,AND "THE POWER TO PROSPER"
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  • AND "THE POWER TO PROSPER"BOOKLET.
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  • BOOKLET.FOR YOUR GIFT OF $150 OR MORE,
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  • FOR YOUR GIFT OF $150 OR MORE,YOU WILL ALSO RECEIVE
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  • YOU WILL ALSO RECEIVE"THE POWER TO GET WEALTH"
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  • "THE POWER TO GET WEALTH"SERIES,
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  • SERIES,THE HAGEE MINISTRIES'
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  • THE HAGEE MINISTRIES'PRAYER JOURNAL,
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  • PRAYER JOURNAL,A HAGEE MINISTRIES' PEN,
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  • A HAGEE MINISTRIES' PEN,A POWER MUG,
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  • A POWER MUG,AND THE "MASTER YOUR MONEY"
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  • AND THE "MASTER YOUR MONEY"EXCLUSIVE INTERVIEW.
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  • EXCLUSIVE INTERVIEW.PASTOR MATT HAGEE: YOUR
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  • PASTOR MATT HAGEE: YOURFAITHFUL OBEDIENCE
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  • FAITHFUL OBEDIENCETO THE WORD OF GOD
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  • TO THE WORD OF GODDETERMINES YOUR ABILITY
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  • DETERMINES YOUR ABILITYTO PROSPER.
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  • TO PROSPER.I KNOW THESE RESOURCES
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  • I KNOW THESE RESOURCESWILL BE A BLESSING
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  • WILL BE A BLESSINGIN YOUR LIFE.
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  • IN YOUR LIFE.SEND YOUR GIFT TODAY.
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  • SEND YOUR GIFT TODAY.CALL THE NUMBER ON YOUR SCREEN
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  • CALL THE NUMBER ON YOUR SCREENOR VISIT JHM.ORG/PROSPER.
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  • OR VISIT JHM.ORG/PROSPER.
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  • GET READY, LADIES.
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  • GET READY, LADIES.IT'S TIME TO HAVE
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  • IT'S TIME TO HAVEA GIRL'S NIGHT OUT
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  • A GIRL'S NIGHT OUTHOSTED BY KENDAL HAGEE.
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  • HOSTED BY KENDAL HAGEE.COME EXPERIENCE AN EXCITING
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  • COME EXPERIENCE AN EXCITINGNIGHT FULL OF SISTERHOOD,
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  • NIGHT FULL OF SISTERHOOD,POWERFUL WORSHIP;
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  • POWERFUL WORSHIP;AND INSPIRING MESSAGE
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  • AND INSPIRING MESSAGEFROM A SPECIAL GUEST,
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  • FROM A SPECIAL GUEST,HAVILAH CUNNINGTON,
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  • HAVILAH CUNNINGTON,SPEAKER,
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  • SPEAKER,AUTHOR,
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  • AUTHOR,AND FOUNDER OF
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  • AND FOUNDER OFTRUTH TO TABLE.
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  • TRUTH TO TABLE.PURCHASE YOUR EXCLUSIVE
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  • PURCHASE YOUR EXCLUSIVEVIP TICKET AND UPGRADE
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  • VIP TICKET AND UPGRADEYOUR GIRL'S NIGHT OUT
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  • YOUR GIRL'S NIGHT OUTEXPERIENCE TODAY.
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  • EXPERIENCE TODAY.GIRL'S NIGHT OUT,
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  • GIRL'S NIGHT OUT,MARCH 19 AT 7:00 P.M.
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  • MARCH 19 AT 7:00 P.M.AT CORNERSTONE CHURCH.
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  • AT CORNERSTONE CHURCH.PURCHASE YOUR TICKET TODAY
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  • PURCHASE YOUR TICKET TODAYAT EmbraceWomen.com.
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  • AT EmbraceWomen.com.♪ MUSIC ♪HELLO.
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  • ♪ MUSIC ♪HELLO.KENDAL AND I ARE HERE TODAY
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  • KENDAL AND I ARE HERE TODAYWITH JEREMY AND AUDREY ROLOFF,
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  • WITH JEREMY AND AUDREY ROLOFF,AUTHORS OF THE BOOK
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  • AUTHORS OF THE BOOK"A LOVE LETTER LIFE;
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  • "A LOVE LETTER LIFE;PURSUE CREATIVELY.
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  • PURSUE CREATIVELY.DATE INTENTIONALLY,
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  • DATE INTENTIONALLY,AND LOVE FAITHFULLY."
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  • AND LOVE FAITHFULLY."JEREMY, WELCOME TO
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  • JEREMY, WELCOME TO"THE DIFFERENCE."
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  • "THE DIFFERENCE."AUDREY,
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  • AUDREY,IT'S SO GOOD TO HAVE YOU.
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  • IT'S SO GOOD TO HAVE YOU.KENDAL HAGEE: YES.
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  • KENDAL HAGEE: YES.THANK YOU SO MUCH.
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  • THANK YOU SO MUCH.AUDREY ROLOFF: THANK YOU
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  • AUDREY ROLOFF: THANK YOUSO MUCH FOR HAVING US.
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  • SO MUCH FOR HAVING US.MATT HAGEE: SO
  • 00:04:55.589 --> 00:04:56.090
  • MATT HAGEE: SO"A LOVE LETTER LIFE,"
  • 00:04:56.156 --> 00:04:56.623
  • "A LOVE LETTER LIFE,"WHAT EXACTLY DOES THAT MEAN,
  • 00:04:56.690 --> 00:04:57.758
  • WHAT EXACTLY DOES THAT MEAN,BECAUSE I THINK PEOPLE,
  • 00:04:57.825 --> 00:04:59.126
  • BECAUSE I THINK PEOPLE,YOU KNOW,
  • 00:04:59.193 --> 00:04:59.660
  • YOU KNOW,THEY HEAR WORDS LIKE THAT
  • 00:04:59.727 --> 00:05:00.694
  • THEY HEAR WORDS LIKE THATAND THEY ALL DEFINE THEM
  • 00:05:00.761 --> 00:05:02.062
  • AND THEY ALL DEFINE THEMDIFFERENTLY?
  • 00:05:02.129 --> 00:05:02.863
  • DIFFERENTLY?JEREMY ROLOFF: YEAH, TOTALLY.
  • 00:05:02.930 --> 00:05:04.198
  • JEREMY ROLOFF: YEAH, TOTALLY.SO "A LOVE LETTER LIFE,"
  • 00:05:04.264 --> 00:05:05.399
  • SO "A LOVE LETTER LIFE,"WE JUST WANT TO BE REALLY
  • 00:05:05.466 --> 00:05:06.667
  • WE JUST WANT TO BE REALLYINTENTIONAL WITH KIND
  • 00:05:06.734 --> 00:05:07.801
  • INTENTIONAL WITH KINDOF OUR LOVE STORY.
  • 00:05:07.868 --> 00:05:08.569
  • OF OUR LOVE STORY.AND WE FEEL LIKE EVERYONE
  • 00:05:08.635 --> 00:05:09.303
  • AND WE FEEL LIKE EVERYONEHAS A LOVE STORY.
  • 00:05:09.370 --> 00:05:10.170
  • HAS A LOVE STORY.WHETHER YOU'RE SINGLE, DATING,
  • 00:05:10.237 --> 00:05:11.538
  • WHETHER YOU'RE SINGLE, DATING,OR MARRIED,
  • 00:05:11.605 --> 00:05:12.206
  • OR MARRIED,YOU'RE CRAFTING AND BUILDING
  • 00:05:12.272 --> 00:05:13.240
  • YOU'RE CRAFTING AND BUILDINGYOUR LOVE STORY.
  • 00:05:13.307 --> 00:05:14.241
  • YOUR LOVE STORY.AND ULTIMATELY, IT'S YOUR LIFE.
  • 00:05:14.308 --> 00:05:15.743
  • AND ULTIMATELY, IT'S YOUR LIFE.IT'S WHAT YOU --
  • 00:05:15.809 --> 00:05:16.877
  • IT'S WHAT YOU --WHEN WE GET TO THE END,
  • 00:05:16.944 --> 00:05:17.845
  • WHEN WE GET TO THE END,WE WANT PEOPLE TO LOOK BACK
  • 00:05:17.911 --> 00:05:19.146
  • WE WANT PEOPLE TO LOOK BACKAND LIKE WHAT THEY READ,
  • 00:05:19.213 --> 00:05:20.414
  • AND LIKE WHAT THEY READ,THE STORY OF THEIR LIFE.
  • 00:05:20.481 --> 00:05:21.782
  • THE STORY OF THEIR LIFE.AND SO THAT'S KIND
  • 00:05:21.849 --> 00:05:22.282
  • AND SO THAT'S KINDOF THE TITLE THERE.
  • 00:05:22.349 --> 00:05:24.451
  • OF THE TITLE THERE.MATT HAGEE: AND REALLY
  • 00:05:24.518 --> 00:05:25.152
  • MATT HAGEE: AND REALLYIF YOU LOOK AT IT,
  • 00:05:25.219 --> 00:05:25.853
  • IF YOU LOOK AT IT,EACH INDIVIDUAL LIFE
  • 00:05:25.919 --> 00:05:26.487
  • EACH INDIVIDUAL LIFEIS SOMETHING THAT YOU SHOULD
  • 00:05:26.553 --> 00:05:27.187
  • IS SOMETHING THAT YOU SHOULDCONSIDER A GIFT IN A WAY THAT
  • 00:05:27.254 --> 00:05:29.189
  • CONSIDER A GIFT IN A WAY THATYOU SHARE WITH SOMEONE ELSE,
  • 00:05:29.256 --> 00:05:30.391
  • YOU SHARE WITH SOMEONE ELSE,WHETHER IT'S YOUR SPOUSE,
  • 00:05:30.457 --> 00:05:31.258
  • WHETHER IT'S YOUR SPOUSE,OR YOUR FAMILY,
  • 00:05:31.325 --> 00:05:31.859
  • OR YOUR FAMILY,OR THE REST OF THE WORLD;
  • 00:05:31.925 --> 00:05:32.493
  • OR THE REST OF THE WORLD;YOU KNOW?
  • 00:05:32.559 --> 00:05:33.160
  • YOU KNOW?I MEAN YOU KIND OF HAVE A LOT
  • 00:05:33.227 --> 00:05:33.861
  • I MEAN YOU KIND OF HAVE A LOTOF EXPERIENCE IN SHARING YOUR
  • 00:05:33.927 --> 00:05:35.028
  • OF EXPERIENCE IN SHARING YOURLIFE WITH OTHER PEOPLE IN WAYS
  • 00:05:35.095 --> 00:05:37.297
  • LIFE WITH OTHER PEOPLE IN WAYSTHAT MIGHT HAVE BEEN A LITTLE
  • 00:05:37.364 --> 00:05:38.198
  • THAT MIGHT HAVE BEEN A LITTLEBIT MORE INTENSE THAN MOST
  • 00:05:38.265 --> 00:05:39.466
  • BIT MORE INTENSE THAN MOSTARE ACCUSTOM TO,
  • 00:05:39.533 --> 00:05:40.934
  • ARE ACCUSTOM TO,BUT THAT REQUIRES THAT,
  • 00:05:41.001 --> 00:05:41.702
  • BUT THAT REQUIRES THAT,EVEN BEFORE YOU GET
  • 00:05:41.769 --> 00:05:42.569
  • EVEN BEFORE YOU GETIN A RELATIONSHIP,
  • 00:05:42.636 --> 00:05:44.071
  • IN A RELATIONSHIP,THAT YOU ARE WORKING ON THE
  • 00:05:44.138 --> 00:05:45.205
  • THAT YOU ARE WORKING ON THEPERSON THAT YOU ARE SO THAT YOU
  • 00:05:45.272 --> 00:05:46.840
  • PERSON THAT YOU ARE SO THAT YOUBECOME A GIFT TO SOMEONE ELSE;
  • 00:05:46.907 --> 00:05:49.443
  • BECOME A GIFT TO SOMEONE ELSE;YOU KNOW?
  • 00:05:49.510 --> 00:05:50.043
  • YOU KNOW?HOW DO YOU SEE THAT PLAYING OUT
  • 00:05:50.110 --> 00:05:51.545
  • HOW DO YOU SEE THAT PLAYING OUTIN TERMS OF, YOU KNOW,
  • 00:05:51.612 --> 00:05:52.513
  • IN TERMS OF, YOU KNOW,HOW PEOPLE PURSUE CREATIVELY
  • 00:05:52.579 --> 00:05:54.548
  • HOW PEOPLE PURSUE CREATIVELYOR DATE INTENTIONALLY,
  • 00:05:54.615 --> 00:05:55.682
  • OR DATE INTENTIONALLY,AND THOSE KINDS OF THINGS?
  • 00:05:55.749 --> 00:05:56.850
  • AND THOSE KINDS OF THINGS?JEREMY ROLOFF: YEAH, FOR SURE.
  • 00:05:56.917 --> 00:05:57.584
  • JEREMY ROLOFF: YEAH, FOR SURE.WELL I THINK LIKE FOR US,
  • 00:05:57.651 --> 00:05:59.052
  • WELL I THINK LIKE FOR US,A BIG SHIFT,
  • 00:05:59.119 --> 00:06:00.187
  • A BIG SHIFT,WE FOUND EACH OTHER WHEN WE
  • 00:06:00.254 --> 00:06:01.555
  • WE FOUND EACH OTHER WHEN WESTOPPED LOOKING FOR EACH OTHER.
  • 00:06:01.622 --> 00:06:03.357
  • STOPPED LOOKING FOR EACH OTHER.AND SO FOR US,
  • 00:06:03.424 --> 00:06:04.024
  • AND SO FOR US,LIKE YOU KNOW BEFORE WE WERE
  • 00:06:04.091 --> 00:06:05.826
  • LIKE YOU KNOW BEFORE WE WEREDATING, BEFORE THE WHOLE THING,
  • 00:06:05.893 --> 00:06:07.027
  • DATING, BEFORE THE WHOLE THING,BEFORE WE EVEN GOT INTRODUCED,
  • 00:06:07.094 --> 00:06:08.695
  • BEFORE WE EVEN GOT INTRODUCED,WE BOTH HAD PERSONAL DECISIONS
  • 00:06:08.762 --> 00:06:10.898
  • WE BOTH HAD PERSONAL DECISIONSOF WHO AM I BECOMING IN CHRIST,
  • 00:06:10.964 --> 00:06:13.400
  • OF WHO AM I BECOMING IN CHRIST,NOT JUST IN CHRIST,
  • 00:06:13.467 --> 00:06:13.934
  • NOT JUST IN CHRIST,BUT AS A PERSON, LIKE WHO AM I?
  • 00:06:14.001 --> 00:06:15.269
  • BUT AS A PERSON, LIKE WHO AM I?WHO AM I BECOMING?
  • 00:06:15.335 --> 00:06:15.869
  • WHO AM I BECOMING?I'M GOING TO STOP WORRYING
  • 00:06:15.936 --> 00:06:16.603
  • I'M GOING TO STOP WORRYINGABOUT THIS PERSON IN THE FUTURE
  • 00:06:16.670 --> 00:06:18.439
  • ABOUT THIS PERSON IN THE FUTUREAND START FOCUSING ON MYSELF
  • 00:06:18.505 --> 00:06:19.706
  • AND START FOCUSING ON MYSELFAND WHAT I CAN BRING
  • 00:06:19.773 --> 00:06:20.374
  • AND WHAT I CAN BRINGTO THE WORLD.
  • 00:06:20.441 --> 00:06:20.974
  • TO THE WORLD.AND THEN WE FOUND EACH OTHER.
  • 00:06:21.041 --> 00:06:22.443
  • AND THEN WE FOUND EACH OTHER.KENDAL HAGEE: OKAY.
  • 00:06:22.509 --> 00:06:23.076
  • KENDAL HAGEE: OKAY.I HAVE TO KNOW;
  • 00:06:23.143 --> 00:06:23.610
  • I HAVE TO KNOW;HOW DID YOU MEET
  • 00:06:23.677 --> 00:06:24.511
  • HOW DID YOU MEETAND HOW DID YOU START DATING?
  • 00:06:24.578 --> 00:06:25.946
  • AND HOW DID YOU START DATING?BECAUSE THAT A FEMALE THING.
  • 00:06:26.013 --> 00:06:27.314
  • BECAUSE THAT A FEMALE THING.YOU CAN READ THE BOOK,
  • 00:06:27.381 --> 00:06:28.115
  • YOU CAN READ THE BOOK,BUT GIVE US A SHORT --
  • 00:06:28.182 --> 00:06:29.216
  • BUT GIVE US A SHORT --MATT HAGEE: TEASE US
  • 00:06:29.283 --> 00:06:29.983
  • MATT HAGEE: TEASE USSO THAT WE'LL READ THE BOOK.
  • 00:06:30.050 --> 00:06:30.818
  • SO THAT WE'LL READ THE BOOK.KENDAL HAGEE: YEAH.
  • 00:06:30.884 --> 00:06:31.485
  • KENDAL HAGEE: YEAH.EVERY FEMALE THEY'RE WATCHING
  • 00:06:31.552 --> 00:06:32.319
  • EVERY FEMALE THEY'RE WATCHINGRIGHT NOW, IT'S LIKE,
  • 00:06:32.386 --> 00:06:32.820
  • RIGHT NOW, IT'S LIKE,WELL HOW DID THEY MEET?
  • 00:06:32.886 --> 00:06:33.487
  • WELL HOW DID THEY MEET?WHAT IS THE LOVE STORY?
  • 00:06:33.554 --> 00:06:34.855
  • WHAT IS THE LOVE STORY?WHAT IS IT?
  • 00:06:34.922 --> 00:06:35.389
  • WHAT IS IT?JEREMY ROLOFF: IT'S KIND OF
  • 00:06:35.456 --> 00:06:36.056
  • JEREMY ROLOFF: IT'S KIND OFFUNNY.
  • 00:06:36.123 --> 00:06:36.790
  • FUNNY.I'LL LET AUDREY SHARE
  • 00:06:36.857 --> 00:06:37.357
  • I'LL LET AUDREY SHARETHIS TIME.
  • 00:06:37.424 --> 00:06:37.958
  • THIS TIME.KENDAL HAGEE: COME ON, AUDREY.
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  • KENDAL HAGEE: COME ON, AUDREY.AUDREY ROLOFF: OKAY.
  • 00:06:38.692 --> 00:06:39.159
  • AUDREY ROLOFF: OKAY.SO WE BASICALLY WERE SET UP.
  • 00:06:39.226 --> 00:06:39.827
  • SO WE BASICALLY WERE SET UP.THE SHORT VERSION IS WE WERE
  • 00:06:39.893 --> 00:06:40.594
  • THE SHORT VERSION IS WE WERESET UP ON A BLIND DATE
  • 00:06:40.661 --> 00:06:41.195
  • SET UP ON A BLIND DATEBEFORE CHURCH.
  • 00:06:41.261 --> 00:06:41.895
  • BEFORE CHURCH.SO WE HAD MUTUAL FRIENDS
  • 00:06:41.962 --> 00:06:42.529
  • SO WE HAD MUTUAL FRIENDSTHAT WERE DATING AT THE TIME.
  • 00:06:42.596 --> 00:06:43.363
  • THAT WERE DATING AT THE TIME.AND NEITHER OF US HAD EVER --
  • 00:06:43.430 --> 00:06:44.531
  • AND NEITHER OF US HAD EVER --MATT HAGEE: BEFORE CHURCH?
  • 00:06:44.598 --> 00:06:45.265
  • MATT HAGEE: BEFORE CHURCH?LIKE YOUR DATE WAS AT CHURCH?
  • 00:06:45.332 --> 00:06:46.300
  • LIKE YOUR DATE WAS AT CHURCH?AUDREY ROLOFF: SO OUR DATE WAS
  • 00:06:46.366 --> 00:06:47.234
  • AUDREY ROLOFF: SO OUR DATE WASTHE MACARONI GRILL BEFORE
  • 00:06:47.301 --> 00:06:47.868
  • THE MACARONI GRILL BEFORECHURCH.
  • 00:06:47.935 --> 00:06:48.635
  • CHURCH.KENDAL HAGEE: BEFORE CHURCH?
  • 00:06:48.702 --> 00:06:49.403
  • KENDAL HAGEE: BEFORE CHURCH?(CHUCKLES)
  • 00:06:49.470 --> 00:06:50.237
  • (CHUCKLES)AUDREY ROLOFF: SO OUR FRIENDS
  • 00:06:50.304 --> 00:06:50.904
  • AUDREY ROLOFF: SO OUR FRIENDSAT THE TIME --
  • 00:06:50.971 --> 00:06:51.605
  • AT THE TIME --MATT HAGEE: IF YOU'RE DATING
  • 00:06:51.672 --> 00:06:52.272
  • MATT HAGEE: IF YOU'RE DATINGAT CHURCH,
  • 00:06:52.339 --> 00:06:52.940
  • AT CHURCH,YOU'RE NOT THINKING ABOUT IT.
  • 00:06:53.006 --> 00:06:53.674
  • YOU'RE NOT THINKING ABOUT IT.KENDAL HAGEE: THAT'S THE
  • 00:06:53.740 --> 00:06:54.341
  • KENDAL HAGEE: THAT'S THEPERFECT PLACE TO MEET.
  • 00:06:54.408 --> 00:06:54.942
  • PERFECT PLACE TO MEET.MATT HAGEE: JUST AS A PASTOR,
  • 00:06:55.008 --> 00:06:55.542
  • MATT HAGEE: JUST AS A PASTOR,I WANT Y'ALL TO KNOW;
  • 00:06:55.609 --> 00:06:56.343
  • I WANT Y'ALL TO KNOW;DON'T DATE AT CHURCH.
  • 00:06:56.410 --> 00:06:57.644
  • DON'T DATE AT CHURCH.BEFORE OR AFTER, FINE;
  • 00:06:57.711 --> 00:06:58.579
  • BEFORE OR AFTER, FINE;NOT AT.
  • 00:06:58.645 --> 00:06:59.446
  • NOT AT.KENDAL HAGEE: DON'T GET
  • 00:06:59.513 --> 00:07:00.047
  • KENDAL HAGEE: DON'T GETDISTRACTED.
  • 00:07:00.113 --> 00:07:00.547
  • DISTRACTED.JEREMY ROLOFF: IT WAS HOW OUR
  • 00:07:00.614 --> 00:07:01.582
  • JEREMY ROLOFF: IT WAS HOW OURFRIENDS CONVINCED TO LIKE MEET,
  • 00:07:01.648 --> 00:07:02.916
  • FRIENDS CONVINCED TO LIKE MEET,BECAUSE OUR CHURCH WAS OPENING
  • 00:07:02.983 --> 00:07:04.518
  • BECAUSE OUR CHURCH WAS OPENINGANOTHER CAMPUS.
  • 00:07:04.585 --> 00:07:05.352
  • ANOTHER CAMPUS.AND THEY SAID, "HEY,
  • 00:07:05.419 --> 00:07:05.819
  • AND THEY SAID, "HEY,WANT TO GO ON A BLIND DATE?
  • 00:07:05.886 --> 00:07:06.653
  • WANT TO GO ON A BLIND DATE?IT'LL BE AWESOME.
  • 00:07:06.720 --> 00:07:07.354
  • IT'LL BE AWESOME.YOU'LL MEET EACH OTHER.
  • 00:07:07.421 --> 00:07:08.155
  • YOU'LL MEET EACH OTHER.IT'LL BE COOL.
  • 00:07:08.222 --> 00:07:08.655
  • IT'LL BE COOL.WE'LL GO TO CHURCH AFTERWARDS.
  • 00:07:08.722 --> 00:07:10.057
  • WE'LL GO TO CHURCH AFTERWARDS.IT'S THE OPENING OF THE CAMPUS.
  • 00:07:10.123 --> 00:07:11.592
  • IT'S THE OPENING OF THE CAMPUS.AUDREY ROLOFF: WE WERE GOING
  • 00:07:11.658 --> 00:07:12.726
  • AUDREY ROLOFF: WE WERE GOINGTO THE SAME CHURCH ANYWAY.
  • 00:07:12.793 --> 00:07:13.727
  • TO THE SAME CHURCH ANYWAY.JEREMY ROLOFF: YEAH.
  • 00:07:13.794 --> 00:07:14.495
  • JEREMY ROLOFF: YEAH.AUDREY ROLOFF: YEAH,
  • 00:07:14.561 --> 00:07:15.028
  • AUDREY ROLOFF: YEAH,SO WE WENT AND --
  • 00:07:15.095 --> 00:07:15.929
  • SO WE WENT AND --JEREMY ROLOFF: BOTH OF US,
  • 00:07:15.996 --> 00:07:16.630
  • JEREMY ROLOFF: BOTH OF US,IT WAS OUR FIRST BLIND DATE.
  • 00:07:16.697 --> 00:07:18.599
  • IT WAS OUR FIRST BLIND DATE.AUDREY ROLOFF: AND WE WERE LIKE
  • 00:07:18.665 --> 00:07:19.399
  • AUDREY ROLOFF: AND WE WERE LIKEHE ALMOST BAILED LAST MINUTE.
  • 00:07:19.466 --> 00:07:21.335
  • HE ALMOST BAILED LAST MINUTE.JEREMY ROLOFF: YEAH,
  • 00:07:21.401 --> 00:07:21.835
  • JEREMY ROLOFF: YEAH,IT WAS THE WHOLE THING.
  • 00:07:21.902 --> 00:07:22.503
  • IT WAS THE WHOLE THING.AUDREY ROLOFF: THE OPENING
  • 00:07:22.569 --> 00:07:23.036
  • AUDREY ROLOFF: THE OPENINGCHAPTER OF THE BOOK HAS
  • 00:07:23.103 --> 00:07:23.604
  • CHAPTER OF THE BOOK HASA REALLY FUNNY STORY
  • 00:07:23.670 --> 00:07:24.505
  • A REALLY FUNNY STORYABOUT HOW I ANSWERED THE DOOR.
  • 00:07:24.571 --> 00:07:26.573
  • ABOUT HOW I ANSWERED THE DOOR.MATT HAGEE: SO YOU WENT
  • 00:07:26.640 --> 00:07:27.374
  • MATT HAGEE: SO YOU WENTTO THIS BLIND DATE.
  • 00:07:27.441 --> 00:07:27.908
  • TO THIS BLIND DATE.WAS IT LOVE AT FIRST SIGHT
  • 00:07:27.975 --> 00:07:28.642
  • WAS IT LOVE AT FIRST SIGHTOR WAS IT LIKE, UH?
  • 00:07:28.709 --> 00:07:29.610
  • OR WAS IT LIKE, UH?JEREMY ROLOFF: YEAH.
  • 00:07:29.676 --> 00:07:30.344
  • JEREMY ROLOFF: YEAH.I MEAN I WAS PRETTY SMITTEN
  • 00:07:30.410 --> 00:07:32.412
  • I MEAN I WAS PRETTY SMITTENWITH CURIOSITY,
  • 00:07:32.479 --> 00:07:34.181
  • WITH CURIOSITY,LIKE WHO IS THIS GIRL;
  • 00:07:34.248 --> 00:07:35.782
  • LIKE WHO IS THIS GIRL;YOU KNOW?
  • 00:07:35.849 --> 00:07:36.250
  • YOU KNOW?BUT I WOULDN'T SAY --
  • 00:07:36.316 --> 00:07:37.484
  • BUT I WOULDN'T SAY --WE DON'T SAY,
  • 00:07:37.551 --> 00:07:38.085
  • WE DON'T SAY,"IT'S A SPARKS FLYING
  • 00:07:38.151 --> 00:07:39.586
  • "IT'S A SPARKS FLYINGFIRST MEET."
  • 00:07:39.653 --> 00:07:40.454
  • FIRST MEET."MATT HAGEE: BUT THERE WAS
  • 00:07:40.521 --> 00:07:41.154
  • MATT HAGEE: BUT THERE WASENOUGH MAGNETIC ENERGY
  • 00:07:41.221 --> 00:07:42.723
  • ENOUGH MAGNETIC ENERGYTHAT YOU'RE LIKE, ALL RIGHT.
  • 00:07:42.789 --> 00:07:43.423
  • THAT YOU'RE LIKE, ALL RIGHT.I'LL PULLED BACK TO
  • 00:07:43.490 --> 00:07:44.091
  • I'LL PULLED BACK TOTHIS CONVERSATION.
  • 00:07:44.157 --> 00:07:44.858
  • THIS CONVERSATION.JEREMY ROLOFF: I'M GOING
  • 00:07:44.925 --> 00:07:45.459
  • JEREMY ROLOFF: I'M GOINGTO PRESS IN.
  • 00:07:45.526 --> 00:07:46.093
  • TO PRESS IN.MATT HAGEE: YEAH, EXACTLY.
  • 00:07:46.159 --> 00:07:46.660
  • MATT HAGEE: YEAH, EXACTLY.I WANT TO FIND OUT WHAT ELSE
  • 00:07:46.727 --> 00:07:47.227
  • I WANT TO FIND OUT WHAT ELSEIS HERE.
  • 00:07:47.294 --> 00:07:47.628
  • IS HERE.JEREMY ROLOFF: YEAH,
  • 00:07:47.694 --> 00:07:48.161
  • JEREMY ROLOFF: YEAH,DEFINITELY.
  • 00:07:48.228 --> 00:07:48.662
  • DEFINITELY.MATT HAGEE: AND THEN THE STORY
  • 00:07:48.729 --> 00:07:49.263
  • MATT HAGEE: AND THEN THE STORYUNFOLDS.
  • 00:07:49.329 --> 00:07:49.730
  • UNFOLDS.JEREMY ROLOFF: YEP.
  • 00:07:49.796 --> 00:07:50.330
  • JEREMY ROLOFF: YEP.MATT HAGEE: BUT I THINK GOING
  • 00:07:50.397 --> 00:07:51.064
  • MATT HAGEE: BUT I THINK GOINGBACK TO SOMETHING YOU SAID
  • 00:07:51.131 --> 00:07:51.865
  • BACK TO SOMETHING YOU SAIDEARLIER ABOUT,
  • 00:07:51.932 --> 00:07:52.733
  • EARLIER ABOUT,YOU KNOW YOU FOUND EACH OTHER
  • 00:07:52.799 --> 00:07:53.634
  • YOU KNOW YOU FOUND EACH OTHERWHEN YOU WEREN'T LOOKING
  • 00:07:53.700 --> 00:07:54.201
  • WHEN YOU WEREN'T LOOKINGFOR EACH OTHER.
  • 00:07:54.268 --> 00:07:54.801
  • FOR EACH OTHER.AS PARENTS,
  • 00:07:54.868 --> 00:07:56.270
  • AS PARENTS,YOU KNOW WE'VE GOT
  • 00:07:56.336 --> 00:07:57.437
  • YOU KNOW WE'VE GOTONE TEENAGER,
  • 00:07:57.504 --> 00:07:58.472
  • ONE TEENAGER,AND ANOTHER ONE JUST STARTING
  • 00:07:58.539 --> 00:07:59.406
  • AND ANOTHER ONE JUST STARTINGTHAT WHOLE ADOLESCENT PROCESS.
  • 00:07:59.473 --> 00:08:01.074
  • THAT WHOLE ADOLESCENT PROCESS.AND PROBABLY NOW MORE THAN
  • 00:08:01.141 --> 00:08:03.143
  • AND PROBABLY NOW MORE THANEVER, THERE'S THAT PRESSURE TO,
  • 00:08:03.210 --> 00:08:06.013
  • EVER, THERE'S THAT PRESSURE TO,YOU KNOW, BE IN A RELATIONSHIP.
  • 00:08:06.079 --> 00:08:07.681
  • YOU KNOW, BE IN A RELATIONSHIP.OR YOU KNOW I MEAN KIDS NOW
  • 00:08:07.748 --> 00:08:09.650
  • OR YOU KNOW I MEAN KIDS NOWMORE THAN EVER -- AND I SAY,
  • 00:08:09.716 --> 00:08:10.951
  • MORE THAN EVER -- AND I SAY,KIDS, YOU KNOW TEENAGERS,
  • 00:08:11.018 --> 00:08:12.319
  • KIDS, YOU KNOW TEENAGERS,YOU KNOW,
  • 00:08:12.386 --> 00:08:12.886
  • YOU KNOW,"OH, I NEED A BOYFRIEND,"
  • 00:08:12.953 --> 00:08:13.453
  • "OH, I NEED A BOYFRIEND,""OH, I NEED A GIRLFRIEND."
  • 00:08:13.520 --> 00:08:14.321
  • "OH, I NEED A GIRLFRIEND."WE CONSTANTLY ENCOURAGE
  • 00:08:14.388 --> 00:08:15.656
  • WE CONSTANTLY ENCOURAGEOUR KIDS;
  • 00:08:15.722 --> 00:08:16.523
  • OUR KIDS;YOU NEED TO BE THE BEST ██ YOU
  • 00:08:16.590 --> 00:08:19.359
  • YOU NEED TO BE THE BEST ██ YOUALL BY YOURSELF.
  • 00:08:19.426 --> 00:08:20.727
  • ALL BY YOURSELF.AND LET YOU BE SOMEBODY THAT
  • 00:08:20.794 --> 00:08:22.596
  • AND LET YOU BE SOMEBODY THATOTHERS WANT TO ASSOCIATE WITH
  • 00:08:22.663 --> 00:08:24.264
  • OTHERS WANT TO ASSOCIATE WITHBEFORE YOU TRY TO FIND
  • 00:08:24.331 --> 00:08:25.098
  • BEFORE YOU TRY TO FINDAN ASSOCIATION THAT MAKES YOU
  • 00:08:25.165 --> 00:08:26.533
  • AN ASSOCIATION THAT MAKES YOUBETTER.
  • 00:08:26.600 --> 00:08:27.134
  • BETTER.JEREMY ROLOFF: TOTALLY.
  • 00:08:27.200 --> 00:08:27.801
  • JEREMY ROLOFF: TOTALLY.MATT HAGEE: HOW MUCH DO YOU SEE
  • 00:08:27.868 --> 00:08:28.535
  • MATT HAGEE: HOW MUCH DO YOU SEETHAT PLAYING OUT
  • 00:08:28.602 --> 00:08:29.636
  • THAT PLAYING OUTIN RELATIONSHIPS,
  • 00:08:29.703 --> 00:08:30.637
  • IN RELATIONSHIPS,AS YOU KIND OF GET THE CHANCE
  • 00:08:30.704 --> 00:08:31.605
  • AS YOU KIND OF GET THE CHANCETO MEET AND SHARE
  • 00:08:31.672 --> 00:08:32.139
  • TO MEET AND SHAREWITH OTHER PEOPLE?
  • 00:08:32.205 --> 00:08:33.040
  • WITH OTHER PEOPLE?AUDREY ROLOFF: YES.
  • 00:08:33.106 --> 00:08:33.907
  • AUDREY ROLOFF: YES.UM, WELL I DID SOME MINISTRY
  • 00:08:33.974 --> 00:08:35.509
  • UM, WELL I DID SOME MINISTRYSTUFF WITH AN ORGANIZATION
  • 00:08:35.576 --> 00:08:37.010
  • STUFF WITH AN ORGANIZATIONCALLED █ YOUNG LIFE.
  • 00:08:37.077 --> 00:08:38.245
  • CALLED █ YOUNG LIFE.AND SO I LIKE ALWAYS TRY
  • 00:08:38.312 --> 00:08:39.980
  • AND SO I LIKE ALWAYS TRYTO TELL MY GIRLS,
  • 00:08:40.047 --> 00:08:40.981
  • TO TELL MY GIRLS,YOU KNOW LIKE I USED TO HAVE
  • 00:08:41.048 --> 00:08:42.883
  • YOU KNOW LIKE I USED TO HAVEA BET WITH THEM.
  • 00:08:42.950 --> 00:08:43.383
  • A BET WITH THEM.I'D BE LIKE, DON'T DATE.
  • 00:08:43.450 --> 00:08:44.284
  • I'D BE LIKE, DON'T DATE.IF YOU DON'T DATE FOR A MONTH,
  • 00:08:44.351 --> 00:08:45.452
  • IF YOU DON'T DATE FOR A MONTH,I'LL GIVE YOU A DOLLAR SUNDAE
  • 00:08:45.519 --> 00:08:46.987
  • I'LL GIVE YOU A DOLLAR SUNDAEFROM DAIRY QUEEN OR WHATEVER.
  • 00:08:47.054 --> 00:08:48.889
  • FROM DAIRY QUEEN OR WHATEVER.MATT HAGEE: NOW,
  • 00:08:48.956 --> 00:08:49.623
  • MATT HAGEE: NOW,THAT'S WAY TOO CHEAP.
  • 00:08:49.690 --> 00:08:50.657
  • THAT'S WAY TOO CHEAP.KENDAL HAGEE: I KNOW; RIGHT?
  • 00:08:50.724 --> 00:08:51.525
  • KENDAL HAGEE: I KNOW; RIGHT?THAT WAS BIG.
  • 00:08:51.592 --> 00:08:52.159
  • THAT WAS BIG.JEREMY ROLOFF:: NOBODY
  • 00:08:52.225 --> 00:08:52.726
  • JEREMY ROLOFF:: NOBODYWILL BUY IT.
  • 00:08:52.793 --> 00:08:53.460
  • WILL BUY IT.AUDREY ROLOFF: BACK THEN,
  • 00:08:53.527 --> 00:08:54.161
  • AUDREY ROLOFF: BACK THEN,IT WAS REALLY COOL.
  • 00:08:54.227 --> 00:08:54.795
  • IT WAS REALLY COOL.MATT HAGEE: THINGS YOU USED TO
  • 00:08:54.861 --> 00:08:55.462
  • MATT HAGEE: THINGS YOU USED TOGET FOR A BLIZZARD; YOU KNOW?
  • 00:08:55.529 --> 00:08:56.296
  • GET FOR A BLIZZARD; YOU KNOW?AUDREY ROLOFF: UH, BUT YEAH,
  • 00:08:56.363 --> 00:08:56.997
  • AUDREY ROLOFF: UH, BUT YEAH,I THINK JUST LIKE FOR US,
  • 00:08:57.064 --> 00:08:58.432
  • I THINK JUST LIKE FOR US,A HUGE PART OF OUR STORY WAS
  • 00:08:58.498 --> 00:08:59.399
  • A HUGE PART OF OUR STORY WASJUST WHEN WE WERE -- WHEN WE
  • 00:08:59.466 --> 00:09:02.135
  • JUST WHEN WE WERE -- WHEN WEWERE IN THE BEGINNING STAGES
  • 00:09:02.202 --> 00:09:03.036
  • WERE IN THE BEGINNING STAGESOF OUR RELATIONSHIP
  • 00:09:03.103 --> 00:09:03.937
  • OF OUR RELATIONSHIPAND FRIENDSHIP.
  • 00:09:04.004 --> 00:09:05.005
  • AND FRIENDSHIP.YOU KNOW I WAS REALLY ADAMANT
  • 00:09:05.072 --> 00:09:05.839
  • YOU KNOW I WAS REALLY ADAMANTABOUT THE NEXT PERSON
  • 00:09:05.906 --> 00:09:06.540
  • ABOUT THE NEXT PERSONTHAT I DATED.
  • 00:09:06.607 --> 00:09:07.040
  • THAT I DATED.I WANTED IT TO BE MY HUSBAND.
  • 00:09:07.107 --> 00:09:08.408
  • I WANTED IT TO BE MY HUSBAND.I WASN'T LOOKING TO LIKE
  • 00:09:08.475 --> 00:09:09.409
  • I WASN'T LOOKING TO LIKEDATE AROUND.
  • 00:09:09.476 --> 00:09:10.310
  • DATE AROUND.UM, BECAUSE WHAT'S THE POINT
  • 00:09:10.377 --> 00:09:12.279
  • UM, BECAUSE WHAT'S THE POINTOF DATING IF YOU'RE NOT LOOKING
  • 00:09:12.346 --> 00:09:13.113
  • OF DATING IF YOU'RE NOT LOOKINGFOR YOUR SPOUSE, IN MY OPINION?
  • 00:09:13.180 --> 00:09:14.915
  • FOR YOUR SPOUSE, IN MY OPINION?MATT HAGEE: IT'S EXPENSIVE.
  • 00:09:14.982 --> 00:09:15.983
  • MATT HAGEE: IT'S EXPENSIVE.AUDREY ROLOFF: YEAH,
  • 00:09:16.049 --> 00:09:16.617
  • AUDREY ROLOFF: YEAH,THERE'S THAT PART TOO.
  • 00:09:16.683 --> 00:09:17.584
  • THERE'S THAT PART TOO.UM, AND SO YEAH,
  • 00:09:17.651 --> 00:09:18.552
  • UM, AND SO YEAH,I THINK THAT'S WHY WE WERE
  • 00:09:18.619 --> 00:09:19.653
  • I THINK THAT'S WHY WE WERESO INTENTIONAL.
  • 00:09:19.720 --> 00:09:20.454
  • SO INTENTIONAL.AND THAT'S WHY THAT WAS SUCH
  • 00:09:20.520 --> 00:09:21.722
  • AND THAT'S WHY THAT WAS SUCHA HUGE PIECE TO OUR STORY.
  • 00:09:21.788 --> 00:09:23.857
  • A HUGE PIECE TO OUR STORY.THAT'S ALSO WHY IT TOOK US
  • 00:09:23.924 --> 00:09:24.691
  • THAT'S ALSO WHY IT TOOK USSO LONG TO DATE.
  • 00:09:24.758 --> 00:09:26.026
  • SO LONG TO DATE.(LAUGHTER)
  • 00:09:26.093 --> 00:09:26.893
  • (LAUGHTER)UH, WHICH THAT WORD CAN BE
  • 00:09:26.960 --> 00:09:28.028
  • UH, WHICH THAT WORD CAN BESO THROWN AROUND,
  • 00:09:28.095 --> 00:09:28.829
  • SO THROWN AROUND,LIKE WHAT DOES DATING
  • 00:09:28.895 --> 00:09:29.596
  • LIKE WHAT DOES DATINGREALLY EVEN MEAN?
  • 00:09:29.663 --> 00:09:30.464
  • REALLY EVEN MEAN?KENDAL HAGEE: WAS IT A
  • 00:09:30.530 --> 00:09:31.064
  • KENDAL HAGEE: WAS IT ALONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP?
  • 00:09:31.131 --> 00:09:31.832
  • LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP?IN YOUR BOOK YOUR TALKED ABOUT
  • 00:09:31.898 --> 00:09:32.799
  • IN YOUR BOOK YOUR TALKED ABOUTSOME HEALTH ISSUES
  • 00:09:32.866 --> 00:09:33.634
  • SOME HEALTH ISSUESAND THE LONG DISTANCE.
  • 00:09:33.700 --> 00:09:35.435
  • AND THE LONG DISTANCE.AUDREY ROLOFF: YES.
  • 00:09:35.502 --> 00:09:36.036
  • AUDREY ROLOFF: YES.JEREMY ROLOFF: WELL,
  • 00:09:36.103 --> 00:09:36.637
  • JEREMY ROLOFF: WELL,WE WERE FRIENDS FOR A GOOD
  • 00:09:36.703 --> 00:09:37.170
  • WE WERE FRIENDS FOR A GOODLONG TIME,
  • 00:09:37.237 --> 00:09:37.437
  • LONG TIME,BECAUSE WE WANTED TO BE.
  • 00:09:37.504 --> 00:09:38.105
  • BECAUSE WE WANTED TO BE.WE WANTED TO MARRY OUR FRIEND.
  • 00:09:38.171 --> 00:09:39.306
  • WE WANTED TO MARRY OUR FRIEND.WE DIDN'T WANT TO START DATING,
  • 00:09:39.373 --> 00:09:41.375
  • WE DIDN'T WANT TO START DATING,KISS,
  • 00:09:41.441 --> 00:09:41.875
  • KISS,THE NEXT THING YOU KNOW WE'RE
  • 00:09:41.942 --> 00:09:42.609
  • THE NEXT THING YOU KNOW WE'REWRAPPED UP IN THIS THING.
  • 00:09:42.676 --> 00:09:44.378
  • WRAPPED UP IN THIS THING.AND IT GETS DOWN THE ROAD
  • 00:09:44.444 --> 00:09:45.212
  • AND IT GETS DOWN THE ROADAND WE'RE WONDERING;
  • 00:09:45.278 --> 00:09:45.846
  • AND WE'RE WONDERING;WELL WHAT'S THIS KIND
  • 00:09:45.912 --> 00:09:46.813
  • WELL WHAT'S THIS KINDOF FOUNDED ON?
  • 00:09:46.880 --> 00:09:47.347
  • OF FOUNDED ON?SO FOR US,
  • 00:09:47.414 --> 00:09:47.948
  • SO FOR US,FRIENDSHIP WAS HUGE.
  • 00:09:48.015 --> 00:09:48.982
  • FRIENDSHIP WAS HUGE.PURSUED FRIENDSHIP FOR YEARS.
  • 00:09:49.049 --> 00:09:51.685
  • PURSUED FRIENDSHIP FOR YEARS.AND THEN WE STARTED DATING,
  • 00:09:51.752 --> 00:09:52.586
  • AND THEN WE STARTED DATING,AND THEN WE DID LONG DISTANCE.
  • 00:09:52.653 --> 00:09:54.121
  • AND THEN WE DID LONG DISTANCE.AND HONESTLY, LONG DISTANCE,
  • 00:09:54.187 --> 00:09:55.389
  • AND HONESTLY, LONG DISTANCE,IT JUST PROLONGED US GETTING
  • 00:09:55.455 --> 00:09:56.289
  • IT JUST PROLONGED US GETTINGMARRIED AT THAT POINT BUT --
  • 00:09:56.356 --> 00:09:57.824
  • MARRIED AT THAT POINT BUT --AUDREY ROLOFF: YEAH.
  • 00:09:57.891 --> 00:09:58.592
  • AUDREY ROLOFF: YEAH.MATT HAGEE: PROLONGED
  • 00:09:58.659 --> 00:09:59.359
  • MATT HAGEE: PROLONGEDOR SPED UP?
  • 00:09:59.426 --> 00:09:59.860
  • OR SPED UP?AUDREY ROLOFF: WE WANTED
  • 00:09:59.926 --> 00:10:00.494
  • AUDREY ROLOFF: WE WANTEDTO GRADUATE FROM COLLEGE.
  • 00:10:00.560 --> 00:10:01.194
  • TO GRADUATE FROM COLLEGE.JEREMY ROLOFF: PROLONGED,
  • 00:10:01.261 --> 00:10:01.795
  • JEREMY ROLOFF: PROLONGED,BECAUSE WE WOULD HAVE BEEN
  • 00:10:01.862 --> 00:10:02.596
  • BECAUSE WE WOULD HAVE BEENMARRIED.
  • 00:10:02.663 --> 00:10:03.163
  • MARRIED.AUDREY ROLOFF: THEN ONE MONTH
  • 00:10:03.230 --> 00:10:03.797
  • AUDREY ROLOFF: THEN ONE MONTHLATER, WE GOT MARRIED.
  • 00:10:03.864 --> 00:10:04.431
  • LATER, WE GOT MARRIED.JEREMY ROLOFF: WE WOULD HAVE
  • 00:10:04.498 --> 00:10:05.098
  • JEREMY ROLOFF: WE WOULD HAVEBEEN MARRIED THREE YEARS
  • 00:10:05.165 --> 00:10:05.799
  • BEEN MARRIED THREE YEARSEARLIER IF IT WASN'T
  • 00:10:05.866 --> 00:10:06.466
  • EARLIER IF IT WASN'TFOR COLLEGE, AND LONG DISTANCE,
  • 00:10:06.533 --> 00:10:07.100
  • FOR COLLEGE, AND LONG DISTANCE,AND WANTING TO FINISH THAT.
  • 00:10:07.167 --> 00:10:08.068
  • AND WANTING TO FINISH THAT.MATT HAGEE: SO, AND THAT WAS
  • 00:10:08.135 --> 00:10:08.769
  • MATT HAGEE: SO, AND THAT WASJUST SOMETHING THAT YOU
  • 00:10:08.835 --> 00:10:09.536
  • JUST SOMETHING THAT YOUINTERNALLY PRIORITIZED.
  • 00:10:09.603 --> 00:10:10.404
  • INTERNALLY PRIORITIZED.WOULD YOU RECOMMEND THAT
  • 00:10:10.470 --> 00:10:11.171
  • WOULD YOU RECOMMEND THATTO OTHERS?
  • 00:10:11.238 --> 00:10:11.938
  • TO OTHERS?JEREMY ROLOFF: YEAH,
  • 00:10:12.005 --> 00:10:12.372
  • JEREMY ROLOFF: YEAH,THAT'S A GREAT QUESTION, MAN.
  • 00:10:12.439 --> 00:10:13.273
  • THAT'S A GREAT QUESTION, MAN.AUDREY ROLOFF: GRADUATING?
  • 00:10:13.340 --> 00:10:13.840
  • AUDREY ROLOFF: GRADUATING?MATT HAGEE: NO, NO, NO,
  • 00:10:13.907 --> 00:10:14.708
  • MATT HAGEE: NO, NO, NO,NOT GRADUATING,
  • 00:10:14.775 --> 00:10:15.275
  • NOT GRADUATING,BECAUSE I MEAN THERE WAS
  • 00:10:15.342 --> 00:10:15.976
  • BECAUSE I MEAN THERE WASSOME --
  • 00:10:16.043 --> 00:10:16.576
  • SOME --JEREMY ROLOFF: LONG DISTANCE.
  • 00:10:16.643 --> 00:10:17.210
  • JEREMY ROLOFF: LONG DISTANCE.AUDREY ROLOFF: OH,
  • 00:10:17.277 --> 00:10:17.744
  • AUDREY ROLOFF: OH,LONG DISTANCE, TOTALLY.
  • 00:10:17.811 --> 00:10:18.345
  • LONG DISTANCE, TOTALLY.YES.
  • 00:10:18.412 --> 00:10:18.779
  • YES.MATT HAGEE: THERE ARE SO MANY
  • 00:10:18.845 --> 00:10:19.379
  • MATT HAGEE: THERE ARE SO MANYPEOPLE.
  • 00:10:19.446 --> 00:10:19.946
  • PEOPLE.BECAUSE I GET TO HAVE
  • 00:10:20.013 --> 00:10:20.514
  • BECAUSE I GET TO HAVECONVERSATIONS ALL THE TIME
  • 00:10:20.580 --> 00:10:21.481
  • CONVERSATIONS ALL THE TIMEWITH DIFFERENT DATING DYNAMICS.
  • 00:10:21.548 --> 00:10:23.550
  • WITH DIFFERENT DATING DYNAMICS.YOU KNOW WHAT I MEAN?
  • 00:10:23.617 --> 00:10:24.017
  • YOU KNOW WHAT I MEAN?THERE ARE SO MANY PEOPLE
  • 00:10:24.084 --> 00:10:24.885
  • THERE ARE SO MANY PEOPLETHAT YOU LOOK AT THEM.
  • 00:10:24.951 --> 00:10:25.552
  • THAT YOU LOOK AT THEM.AND YOU'RE LIKE,
  • 00:10:25.619 --> 00:10:26.186
  • AND YOU'RE LIKE,Y'ALL PROBABLY NEED TO GET
  • 00:10:26.253 --> 00:10:26.987
  • Y'ALL PROBABLY NEED TO GETMARRIED PRETTY QUICK,
  • 00:10:27.054 --> 00:10:27.888
  • MARRIED PRETTY QUICK,BECAUSE YOU'RE GOING TO KILL
  • 00:10:27.954 --> 00:10:28.889
  • BECAUSE YOU'RE GOING TO KILLEACH OTHER IF YOU DON'T;
  • 00:10:28.955 --> 00:10:29.790
  • EACH OTHER IF YOU DON'T;YOU KNOW?
  • 00:10:29.856 --> 00:10:30.524
  • YOU KNOW?JEREMY ROLOFF: YEAH.
  • 00:10:30.590 --> 00:10:31.258
  • JEREMY ROLOFF: YEAH.MATT HAGEE: AND THEN THERE'S
  • 00:10:31.324 --> 00:10:31.925
  • MATT HAGEE: AND THEN THERE'SOTHER PEOPLE, YOU'RE LIKE,
  • 00:10:31.992 --> 00:10:32.726
  • OTHER PEOPLE, YOU'RE LIKE,Y'ALL NEED TO TAKE AS MUCH TIME
  • 00:10:32.793 --> 00:10:33.427
  • Y'ALL NEED TO TAKE AS MUCH TIMEAS YOU POSSIBLY CAN.
  • 00:10:33.493 --> 00:10:34.194
  • AS YOU POSSIBLY CAN.SO I MEAN IN TERMS OF
  • 00:10:34.261 --> 00:10:35.562
  • SO I MEAN IN TERMS OFYOUR STORY, YOU KNOW,
  • 00:10:35.629 --> 00:10:38.331
  • YOUR STORY, YOU KNOW,I THINK THAT EACH CHAPTER HAS
  • 00:10:38.398 --> 00:10:40.333
  • I THINK THAT EACH CHAPTER HASTO BE WRITTEN BY THE AUTHOR.
  • 00:10:40.400 --> 00:10:41.568
  • TO BE WRITTEN BY THE AUTHOR.YOU KNOW WHAT I'M SAYING?
  • 00:10:41.635 --> 00:10:42.102
  • YOU KNOW WHAT I'M SAYING?JEREMY ROLOFF: SURE.
  • 00:10:42.169 --> 00:10:42.836
  • JEREMY ROLOFF: SURE.MATT HAGEE: IT CAN'T BE THAT,
  • 00:10:42.903 --> 00:10:43.537
  • MATT HAGEE: IT CAN'T BE THAT,HEY, I'M GOING TO READ
  • 00:10:43.603 --> 00:10:44.204
  • HEY, I'M GOING TO READJEREMY AND AUDREY'S STORY,
  • 00:10:44.271 --> 00:10:44.971
  • JEREMY AND AUDREY'S STORY,AND I'VE GOT TO GO DO EXACTLY
  • 00:10:45.038 --> 00:10:46.039
  • AND I'VE GOT TO GO DO EXACTLYWHAT THEY DID.
  • 00:10:46.106 --> 00:10:46.773
  • WHAT THEY DID.JEREMY ROLOFF: TOTALLY.
  • 00:10:46.840 --> 00:10:47.340
  • JEREMY ROLOFF: TOTALLY.YEAH.
  • 00:10:47.407 --> 00:10:47.874
  • YEAH.MATT HAGEE: SO HOW DID YOU GUYS
  • 00:10:47.941 --> 00:10:48.608
  • MATT HAGEE: SO HOW DID YOU GUYSFIND OUT WHAT WAS RIGHT
  • 00:10:48.675 --> 00:10:49.109
  • FIND OUT WHAT WAS RIGHTFOR YOU?
  • 00:10:49.176 --> 00:10:50.644
  • FOR YOU?JEREMY ROLOFF: YEAH.
  • 00:10:50.711 --> 00:10:51.178
  • JEREMY ROLOFF: YEAH.SO THAT'S A GREAT POINT,
  • 00:10:51.244 --> 00:10:52.913
  • SO THAT'S A GREAT POINT,BECAUSE WE -- A LOT OF PEOPLE
  • 00:10:52.979 --> 00:10:54.581
  • BECAUSE WE -- A LOT OF PEOPLELIKE ON SOCIAL MEDIA WILL SAY
  • 00:10:54.648 --> 00:10:55.749
  • LIKE ON SOCIAL MEDIA WILL SAYLIKE, "OH, GOALS" OR WHATEVER.
  • 00:10:55.816 --> 00:10:57.017
  • LIKE, "OH, GOALS" OR WHATEVER.AND THEY'LL TRY TO LIKE --
  • 00:10:57.084 --> 00:10:57.984
  • AND THEY'LL TRY TO LIKE --AUDREY ROLOFF: RELATIONSHIP
  • 00:10:58.051 --> 00:10:58.819
  • AUDREY ROLOFF: RELATIONSHIPGOALS, AND I'M LIKE NO, NO, NO.
  • 00:10:58.885 --> 00:10:59.453
  • GOALS, AND I'M LIKE NO, NO, NO.JEREMY ROLOFF: THEY WILL TRY.
  • 00:10:59.519 --> 00:11:00.353
  • JEREMY ROLOFF: THEY WILL TRY.GOING BACK TO KIND OF BECOMING
  • 00:11:00.420 --> 00:11:00.987
  • GOING BACK TO KIND OF BECOMINGTHE RIGHT PERSON,
  • 00:11:01.054 --> 00:11:01.455
  • THE RIGHT PERSON,LIKE THEY'LL TRY TO BECOME
  • 00:11:01.521 --> 00:11:02.289
  • LIKE THEY'LL TRY TO BECOMESOMEONE ELSE TO FIND SOMEONE,
  • 00:11:02.355 --> 00:11:05.258
  • SOMEONE ELSE TO FIND SOMEONE,WHEN THEY NEED TO PRESS INTO
  • 00:11:05.325 --> 00:11:06.026
  • WHEN THEY NEED TO PRESS INTOWHO THEY ARE; RIGHT?
  • 00:11:06.093 --> 00:11:07.294
  • WHO THEY ARE; RIGHT?AND WHO THEY WERE MADE TO BE,
  • 00:11:07.360 --> 00:11:08.195
  • AND WHO THEY WERE MADE TO BE,AND SO I JUST LOVE THAT POINT.
  • 00:11:08.261 --> 00:11:10.630
  • AND SO I JUST LOVE THAT POINT.IT'S A REALLY GOOD POINT.
  • 00:11:10.697 --> 00:11:11.565
  • IT'S A REALLY GOOD POINT.BUT FOR US,
  • 00:11:11.631 --> 00:11:12.733
  • BUT FOR US,IT'S JUST LIKE WE HOPE THIS
  • 00:11:12.799 --> 00:11:13.800
  • IT'S JUST LIKE WE HOPE THISBOOK AND KIND OF OUR STORY IN
  • 00:11:13.867 --> 00:11:15.235
  • BOOK AND KIND OF OUR STORY INIT GETS PEOPLE THINKING REALLY
  • 00:11:15.302 --> 00:11:17.237
  • IT GETS PEOPLE THINKING REALLYABOUT ONE WORD;
  • 00:11:17.304 --> 00:11:18.138
  • ABOUT ONE WORD;AM I BEING INTENTIONAL OR AM I
  • 00:11:18.205 --> 00:11:19.973
  • AM I BEING INTENTIONAL OR AM ITHROWING THIS AROUND OVER HERE,
  • 00:11:20.040 --> 00:11:21.942
  • THROWING THIS AROUND OVER HERE,OR AM I NOT REALLY PAYING
  • 00:11:22.008 --> 00:11:22.909
  • OR AM I NOT REALLY PAYINGATTENTION OVER HERE,
  • 00:11:22.976 --> 00:11:23.877
  • ATTENTION OVER HERE,OR AM I -- WHY DO I WANT
  • 00:11:23.944 --> 00:11:25.345
  • OR AM I -- WHY DO I WANTA BOYFRIEND OR A GIRLFRIEND,
  • 00:11:25.412 --> 00:11:26.313
  • A BOYFRIEND OR A GIRLFRIEND,LIKE AM I READY FOR THAT.
  • 00:11:26.379 --> 00:11:27.280
  • LIKE AM I READY FOR THAT.AND SO THAT'S REALLY
  • 00:11:27.347 --> 00:11:28.415
  • AND SO THAT'S REALLYKIND OF THE WORD,
  • 00:11:28.482 --> 00:11:29.516
  • KIND OF THE WORD,"INTENTION" OR BEING
  • 00:11:29.583 --> 00:11:30.717
  • "INTENTION" OR BEINGINTENTIONAL REALLY IS KIND OF
  • 00:11:30.784 --> 00:11:31.651
  • INTENTIONAL REALLY IS KIND OFTHE CONCEPT WE HOPE TO CONVEY
  • 00:11:31.718 --> 00:11:33.553
  • THE CONCEPT WE HOPE TO CONVEYTHROUGH OUR STORY; YOU KNOW?
  • 00:11:33.620 --> 00:11:35.422
  • THROUGH OUR STORY; YOU KNOW?MATT HAGEE: ABSOLUTELY.
  • 00:11:35.489 --> 00:11:36.022
  • MATT HAGEE: ABSOLUTELY.WELL AND YOU KNOW THERE'S A LOT
  • 00:11:36.089 --> 00:11:37.457
  • WELL AND YOU KNOW THERE'S A LOTOF PEOPLE WHO ENGAGE IN
  • 00:11:37.524 --> 00:11:38.825
  • OF PEOPLE WHO ENGAGE INRELATIONSHIPS AS AN ATTEMPT TO
  • 00:11:38.892 --> 00:11:40.894
  • RELATIONSHIPS AS AN ATTEMPT TOFIND WHAT THEY'RE LOOKING FOR.
  • 00:11:40.961 --> 00:11:42.162
  • FIND WHAT THEY'RE LOOKING FOR.WITH INTENT,
  • 00:11:42.229 --> 00:11:43.029
  • WITH INTENT,YOU CAN ACCOMPLISH GOD'S PLAN
  • 00:11:43.096 --> 00:11:44.598
  • YOU CAN ACCOMPLISH GOD'S PLANAND PURPOSE FOR YOUR LIFE.
  • 00:11:44.664 --> 00:11:45.632
  • AND PURPOSE FOR YOUR LIFE.AND KENDAL AND I ARE GOING TO
  • 00:11:45.699 --> 00:11:46.366
  • AND KENDAL AND I ARE GOING TOBE BACK TO TALK WITH JEREMY AND
  • 00:11:46.433 --> 00:11:47.300
  • BE BACK TO TALK WITH JEREMY ANDAUDREY MORE ABOUT THAT WHEN WE
  • 00:11:47.367 --> 00:11:48.635
  • AUDREY MORE ABOUT THAT WHEN WERETURN FROM THIS SHORT BREAK.
  • 00:11:48.702 --> 00:11:50.270
  • RETURN FROM THIS SHORT BREAK.YOU'RE WATCHING
  • 00:11:50.337 --> 00:11:50.971
  • YOU'RE WATCHING"THE DIFFERENCE."
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  • "THE DIFFERENCE."♪ MUSIC ♪
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  • ♪ MUSIC ♪♪ MUSIC ♪
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  • ♪ MUSIC ♪GO.
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  • GO.THE LIFE OF A CHILD IS PRECIOUS
  • 00:11:57.978 --> 00:11:59.446
  • THE LIFE OF A CHILD IS PRECIOUSIN GOD'S EYES.
  • 00:11:59.513 --> 00:12:00.480
  • IN GOD'S EYES.AND THE GIFT OF LIFE
  • 00:12:00.547 --> 00:12:01.248
  • AND THE GIFT OF LIFEIS SOMETHING YOU CAN BECOME
  • 00:12:01.314 --> 00:12:02.449
  • IS SOMETHING YOU CAN BECOMEA PART OF TODAY.
  • 00:12:02.516 --> 00:12:03.850
  • A PART OF TODAY.WE AT HAGEE MINISTRIES
  • 00:12:03.917 --> 00:12:04.951
  • WE AT HAGEE MINISTRIESARE OFFERING YOU
  • 00:12:05.018 --> 00:12:05.685
  • ARE OFFERING YOUTHE OPPORTUNITY TO CHANGE
  • 00:12:05.752 --> 00:12:06.987
  • THE OPPORTUNITY TO CHANGETHE LIFE OF A CHILD
  • 00:12:07.053 --> 00:12:08.054
  • THE LIFE OF A CHILDAND MOTHER
  • 00:12:08.121 --> 00:12:08.688
  • AND MOTHERBY BECOMING A LEGACY PARTNER.
  • 00:12:08.755 --> 00:12:10.457
  • BY BECOMING A LEGACY PARTNER.AS A LEGACY PARTNER,
  • 00:12:10.524 --> 00:12:11.658
  • AS A LEGACY PARTNER,YOUR MONTHLY GIFT SUPPORTS
  • 00:12:11.725 --> 00:12:12.959
  • YOUR MONTHLY GIFT SUPPORTSTHE SANCTUARY OF HOPE
  • 00:12:13.026 --> 00:12:14.194
  • THE SANCTUARY OF HOPETHAT IS A ONE-OF-A-KIND
  • 00:12:14.261 --> 00:12:15.128
  • THAT IS A ONE-OF-A-KINDSAFE HAVEN THAT PROVIDES
  • 00:12:15.195 --> 00:12:16.396
  • SAFE HAVEN THAT PROVIDESA HOME TO SINGLE,
  • 00:12:16.463 --> 00:12:17.297
  • A HOME TO SINGLE,EXPECTANT MOTHERS
  • 00:12:17.364 --> 00:12:18.398
  • EXPECTANT MOTHERSAND OFFERS RESOURCES
  • 00:12:18.465 --> 00:12:19.399
  • AND OFFERS RESOURCESTHAT WILL ENABLE THEM TO FIND
  • 00:12:19.466 --> 00:12:20.634
  • THAT WILL ENABLE THEM TO FINDSUCCESS IN THEIR COMMUNITIES.
  • 00:12:20.700 --> 00:12:22.469
  • SUCCESS IN THEIR COMMUNITIES.THE SANCTUARY OF HOPE
  • 00:12:22.536 --> 00:12:23.470
  • THE SANCTUARY OF HOPEEXISTS TO PROVIDE A LOVING,
  • 00:12:23.537 --> 00:12:24.805
  • EXISTS TO PROVIDE A LOVING,SAFE ENVIRONMENT
  • 00:12:24.871 --> 00:12:25.839
  • SAFE ENVIRONMENTWHERE BOTH BABY AND MOTHER
  • 00:12:25.906 --> 00:12:27.140
  • WHERE BOTH BABY AND MOTHERCAN RECEIVE THE EDUCATION,
  • 00:12:27.207 --> 00:12:28.642
  • CAN RECEIVE THE EDUCATION,CARE AND HOPE
  • 00:12:28.708 --> 00:12:29.409
  • CARE AND HOPETHEY SO DESPERATELY NEED.
  • 00:12:29.476 --> 00:12:31.111
  • THEY SO DESPERATELY NEED.WHEN YOU PARTNER WITH US,
  • 00:12:31.178 --> 00:12:32.245
  • WHEN YOU PARTNER WITH US,OUR LEGACY BECOMES YOUR LEGACY.
  • 00:12:32.312 --> 00:12:34.381
  • OUR LEGACY BECOMES YOUR LEGACY.AND TOGETHER,
  • 00:12:34.447 --> 00:12:34.981
  • AND TOGETHER,WE ARE IMPACTING LIVES
  • 00:12:35.048 --> 00:12:36.183
  • WE ARE IMPACTING LIVESAND TRANSFORMING NATIONS
  • 00:12:36.249 --> 00:12:37.484
  • AND TRANSFORMING NATIONSFOR JESUS CHRIST.
  • 00:12:37.551 --> 00:12:39.019
  • FOR JESUS CHRIST.THERE HAS NEVER BEEN
  • 00:12:39.085 --> 00:12:39.686
  • THERE HAS NEVER BEENA BETTER TIME TO SHARE
  • 00:12:39.753 --> 00:12:40.787
  • A BETTER TIME TO SHARETHE LOVE OF CHRIST
  • 00:12:40.854 --> 00:12:41.521
  • THE LOVE OF CHRISTWITH A MOTHER AND A CHILD
  • 00:12:41.588 --> 00:12:42.656
  • WITH A MOTHER AND A CHILDTHAN RIGHT NOW.
  • 00:12:42.722 --> 00:12:43.723
  • THAN RIGHT NOW.BECOME A LEGACY PARTNER TODAY.
  • 00:12:43.790 --> 00:12:46.092
  • BECOME A LEGACY PARTNER TODAY.CALL THE NUMBER ON THE SCREEN
  • 00:12:46.159 --> 00:12:47.360
  • CALL THE NUMBER ON THE SCREENOR GO TO JHM.ORG/PARTNER.HM.ORG.
  • 00:12:47.427 --> 00:12:56.002
  • OR GO TO JHM.ORG/PARTNER.HM.ORG.YOU AND YOUR FAMILY CAN JOIN
  • 00:12:56.069 --> 00:12:57.237
  • YOU AND YOUR FAMILY CAN JOINPASTOR MATT, KENDAL,
  • 00:12:57.304 --> 00:12:58.572
  • PASTOR MATT, KENDAL,AND THEIR CHILDREN
  • 00:12:58.638 --> 00:12:59.306
  • AND THEIR CHILDRENON THE 2021 ISRAEL FAMILY TRIP,
  • 00:12:59.372 --> 00:13:02.075
  • ON THE 2021 ISRAEL FAMILY TRIP,A FUN AND EXCITING TRIP
  • 00:13:02.142 --> 00:13:03.610
  • A FUN AND EXCITING TRIPDESIGNED FOR THE ENTIRE FAMILY.
  • 00:13:03.677 --> 00:13:05.612
  • DESIGNED FOR THE ENTIRE FAMILY.PAST WILL MEET PRESENT,
  • 00:13:05.679 --> 00:13:06.813
  • PAST WILL MEET PRESENT,AS YOU VISIT A GALILEAN
  • 00:13:06.880 --> 00:13:08.181
  • AS YOU VISIT A GALILEANVILLAGE,
  • 00:13:08.248 --> 00:13:08.949
  • VILLAGE,RIDE ATV'S ACROSS THE DESERT,
  • 00:13:09.015 --> 00:13:11.084
  • RIDE ATV'S ACROSS THE DESERT,AND SWIM IN
  • 00:13:11.151 --> 00:13:11.785
  • AND SWIM INTHE MEDITERRANEAN SEA.
  • 00:13:11.852 --> 00:13:13.320
  • THE MEDITERRANEAN SEA.SPACE IS LIMITED,
  • 00:13:13.386 --> 00:13:14.554
  • SPACE IS LIMITED,SO CALL OR GO TO JHM.ORG
  • 00:13:14.621 --> 00:13:17.324
  • SO CALL OR GO TO JHM.ORGFOR MORE INFORMATION
  • 00:13:17.390 --> 00:13:18.625
  • FOR MORE INFORMATIONAND RESERVE YOUR SPOT
  • 00:13:18.692 --> 00:13:20.060
  • AND RESERVE YOUR SPOTON THIS ONE-OF-A-KIND TOUR.
  • 00:13:20.126 --> 00:13:27.200
  • ON THIS ONE-OF-A-KIND TOUR.MATT HAGEE: WELCOME BACK TO
  • 00:13:27.267 --> 00:13:27.968
  • MATT HAGEE: WELCOME BACK TO"THE DIFFERENCE."
  • 00:13:28.034 --> 00:13:28.535
  • "THE DIFFERENCE."JEREMY ROLOFF IS JOINING ME
  • 00:13:28.602 --> 00:13:30.003
  • JEREMY ROLOFF IS JOINING MEFOR ██ A MOMENT WITH MATT.
  • 00:13:30.070 --> 00:13:30.837
  • FOR ██ A MOMENT WITH MATT.AND WE'RE TALKING ABOUT
  • 00:13:30.904 --> 00:13:31.471
  • AND WE'RE TALKING ABOUTSOMETHING THAT HAPPENS IN EVERY
  • 00:13:31.538 --> 00:13:33.139
  • SOMETHING THAT HAPPENS IN EVERYRELATIONSHIP.
  • 00:13:33.206 --> 00:13:34.107
  • RELATIONSHIP.IF YOU'RE GOING THROUGH ONE
  • 00:13:34.174 --> 00:13:35.041
  • IF YOU'RE GOING THROUGH ONEOF THESE, DON'T WORRY.
  • 00:13:35.108 --> 00:13:36.042
  • OF THESE, DON'T WORRY.IT MEANS YOU'RE PERFECTLY
  • 00:13:36.109 --> 00:13:36.977
  • IT MEANS YOU'RE PERFECTLYNORMAL.
  • 00:13:37.043 --> 00:13:37.377
  • NORMAL.JEREMY, THAT ISSUE IS CONFLICT.
  • 00:13:37.444 --> 00:13:39.246
  • JEREMY, THAT ISSUE IS CONFLICT.JEREMY ROLOFF: YEAH.
  • 00:13:39.312 --> 00:13:39.813
  • JEREMY ROLOFF: YEAH.MATT HAGEE: YOU KNOW YOU'RE
  • 00:13:39.880 --> 00:13:40.513
  • MATT HAGEE: YOU KNOW YOU'RETALKING ABOUT WRITING A LOVE
  • 00:13:40.580 --> 00:13:41.181
  • TALKING ABOUT WRITING A LOVELETTER WITH YOUR LIFE
  • 00:13:41.248 --> 00:13:42.282
  • LETTER WITH YOUR LIFEAND HOW YOU WANT TO SHARE THAT
  • 00:13:42.349 --> 00:13:43.884
  • AND HOW YOU WANT TO SHARE THATWITH SOMEONE ELSE.
  • 00:13:43.950 --> 00:13:45.051
  • WITH SOMEONE ELSE.BUT IN EVERY RELATIONSHIP,
  • 00:13:45.118 --> 00:13:46.486
  • BUT IN EVERY RELATIONSHIP,THERE'S STRUGGLE.
  • 00:13:46.553 --> 00:13:47.254
  • THERE'S STRUGGLE.IT'S JUST PART OF LIFE.
  • 00:13:47.320 --> 00:13:48.355
  • IT'S JUST PART OF LIFE.JEREMY ROLOFF: YEAH.
  • 00:13:48.421 --> 00:13:48.989
  • JEREMY ROLOFF: YEAH.MATT HAGEE: AND YOU CAN
  • 00:13:49.055 --> 00:13:49.656
  • MATT HAGEE: AND YOU CANACTUALLY GAIN STRENGTH THROUGH
  • 00:13:49.723 --> 00:13:50.891
  • ACTUALLY GAIN STRENGTH THROUGHSTRUGGLE IF YOU UNDERSTAND HOW
  • 00:13:50.957 --> 00:13:53.460
  • STRUGGLE IF YOU UNDERSTAND HOWIT WAS CREATED AND WHAT TO DO
  • 00:13:53.526 --> 00:13:55.095
  • IT WAS CREATED AND WHAT TO DOIN THE FUTURE ABOUT IT.
  • 00:13:55.161 --> 00:13:56.129
  • IN THE FUTURE ABOUT IT.HOW HAVE YOU MANAGED THAT IN
  • 00:13:56.196 --> 00:13:57.330
  • HOW HAVE YOU MANAGED THAT INYOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH AUDREY?
  • 00:13:57.397 --> 00:13:58.765
  • YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH AUDREY?JEREMY ROLOFF: YEAH, MATT;
  • 00:13:58.832 --> 00:13:59.399
  • JEREMY ROLOFF: YEAH, MATT;THAT'S EXACTLY RIGHT.
  • 00:13:59.466 --> 00:14:00.834
  • THAT'S EXACTLY RIGHT.AND CONFLICT'S GOING TO HAPPEN;
  • 00:14:00.901 --> 00:14:02.302
  • AND CONFLICT'S GOING TO HAPPEN;RIGHT.
  • 00:14:02.369 --> 00:14:02.736
  • RIGHT.BUT WE THINK,
  • 00:14:02.802 --> 00:14:03.637
  • BUT WE THINK,WE BELIEVE THERE'S A DIFFERENCE
  • 00:14:03.703 --> 00:14:04.471
  • WE BELIEVE THERE'S A DIFFERENCEBETWEEN CONFLICT AND FIGHTING;
  • 00:14:04.537 --> 00:14:05.839
  • BETWEEN CONFLICT AND FIGHTING;RIGHT?
  • 00:14:05.906 --> 00:14:06.273
  • RIGHT?CONFLICT CAN ALMOST ACT AS IF
  • 00:14:06.339 --> 00:14:07.874
  • CONFLICT CAN ALMOST ACT AS IFLIKE ASSIGN POSTS TO THINGS
  • 00:14:07.941 --> 00:14:10.343
  • LIKE ASSIGN POSTS TO THINGSTHAT MIGHT BE WRONG.
  • 00:14:10.410 --> 00:14:11.578
  • THAT MIGHT BE WRONG.SO FOR US, YOU KNOW,
  • 00:14:11.645 --> 00:14:13.179
  • SO FOR US, YOU KNOW,MENTORSHIP IS A HUGE PART
  • 00:14:13.246 --> 00:14:14.481
  • MENTORSHIP IS A HUGE PARTOF IT.
  • 00:14:14.547 --> 00:14:14.915
  • OF IT.LIKE WE'LL HAVE CONFLICT,
  • 00:14:14.981 --> 00:14:15.982
  • LIKE WE'LL HAVE CONFLICT,AND IF SOMETHING'S COMING UP
  • 00:14:16.049 --> 00:14:16.917
  • AND IF SOMETHING'S COMING UPMORE THAN TWICE,
  • 00:14:16.983 --> 00:14:18.551
  • MORE THAN TWICE,THAT'S A SIGN THAT THERE'S
  • 00:14:18.618 --> 00:14:19.819
  • THAT'S A SIGN THAT THERE'SSOMETHING REVOLVING AROUND
  • 00:14:19.886 --> 00:14:20.921
  • SOMETHING REVOLVING AROUNDTHAT.
  • 00:14:20.987 --> 00:14:21.388
  • THAT.THAT'S LIKE A PROBLEM
  • 00:14:21.454 --> 00:14:22.222
  • THAT'S LIKE A PROBLEMTHAT CAN BE ADDRESSED.
  • 00:14:22.289 --> 00:14:23.223
  • THAT CAN BE ADDRESSED.AND I THINK AGAIN,
  • 00:14:23.290 --> 00:14:23.990
  • AND I THINK AGAIN,IT JUST GOES BACK TO BEING
  • 00:14:24.057 --> 00:14:24.791
  • IT JUST GOES BACK TO BEINGINTENTIONAL, LIKE RECOGNIZING,
  • 00:14:24.858 --> 00:14:26.293
  • INTENTIONAL, LIKE RECOGNIZING,OH WOW,
  • 00:14:26.359 --> 00:14:26.760
  • OH WOW,WE FOUGHT ABOUT THIS
  • 00:14:26.826 --> 00:14:27.460
  • WE FOUGHT ABOUT THISTHREE DIFFERENT TIMES.
  • 00:14:27.527 --> 00:14:28.962
  • THREE DIFFERENT TIMES.WHAT'S THE ROOT BEHIND THIS?
  • 00:14:29.029 --> 00:14:30.363
  • WHAT'S THE ROOT BEHIND THIS?MATT HAGEE: WHAT'S THE CAUSE?
  • 00:14:30.430 --> 00:14:31.164
  • MATT HAGEE: WHAT'S THE CAUSE?JEREMY ROLOFF: WHAT'S
  • 00:14:31.231 --> 00:14:31.798
  • JEREMY ROLOFF: WHAT'STHE CAUSE?
  • 00:14:31.865 --> 00:14:32.299
  • THE CAUSE?MATT HAGEE: WHAT'S CREATING IT?
  • 00:14:32.365 --> 00:14:32.966
  • MATT HAGEE: WHAT'S CREATING IT?JEREMY ROLOFF: TOTALLY,
  • 00:14:33.033 --> 00:14:33.600
  • JEREMY ROLOFF: TOTALLY,BECAUSE WE'RE ALWAYS --
  • 00:14:33.667 --> 00:14:34.267
  • BECAUSE WE'RE ALWAYS --EVERYONE'S ALWAYS GOING --
  • 00:14:34.334 --> 00:14:34.868
  • EVERYONE'S ALWAYS GOING --OF THE CONFLICT.
  • 00:14:34.935 --> 00:14:35.502
  • OF THE CONFLICT.THAT'S JUST NORMAL.
  • 00:14:35.568 --> 00:14:36.202
  • THAT'S JUST NORMAL.BUT I THINK THERE'S A WAY
  • 00:14:36.269 --> 00:14:37.070
  • BUT I THINK THERE'S A WAYTO USE CONFLICT.
  • 00:14:37.137 --> 00:14:38.204
  • TO USE CONFLICT.MATT HAGEE: WELL,
  • 00:14:38.271 --> 00:14:38.705
  • MATT HAGEE: WELL,AND I THINK THAT CONFLICT CAN
  • 00:14:38.772 --> 00:14:39.472
  • AND I THINK THAT CONFLICT CANBE CREATED SOMETIMES BY JUST A,
  • 00:14:39.539 --> 00:14:42.742
  • BE CREATED SOMETIMES BY JUST A,EITHER LACK OF COMMUNICATION;
  • 00:14:42.809 --> 00:14:44.577
  • EITHER LACK OF COMMUNICATION;YOU KNOW?
  • 00:14:44.644 --> 00:14:45.278
  • YOU KNOW?JEREMY ROLOFF: FOR SURE, YEAH.
  • 00:14:45.345 --> 00:14:45.946
  • JEREMY ROLOFF: FOR SURE, YEAH.MATT HAGEE: WHEN KENDAL
  • 00:14:46.012 --> 00:14:46.613
  • MATT HAGEE: WHEN KENDALAND I GOT MARRIED,
  • 00:14:46.680 --> 00:14:47.314
  • AND I GOT MARRIED,WE BOTH HAD EXPECTATIONS THAT
  • 00:14:47.380 --> 00:14:48.048
  • WE BOTH HAD EXPECTATIONS THATWERE BASED ON OUR CHILDHOOD,
  • 00:14:48.114 --> 00:14:49.416
  • WERE BASED ON OUR CHILDHOOD,HOW WE WERE RAISED,
  • 00:14:49.482 --> 00:14:50.250
  • HOW WE WERE RAISED,THE HOME ENVIRONMENT
  • 00:14:50.317 --> 00:14:50.984
  • THE HOME ENVIRONMENTTHAT WE HAD.
  • 00:14:51.051 --> 00:14:51.584
  • THAT WE HAD.WE HAD SEEN MARRIAGE DONE
  • 00:14:51.651 --> 00:14:52.886
  • WE HAD SEEN MARRIAGE DONEBY OUR PARENTS.
  • 00:14:52.953 --> 00:14:54.054
  • BY OUR PARENTS.AND NOW WE WERE BRINGING
  • 00:14:54.120 --> 00:14:54.888
  • AND NOW WE WERE BRINGINGOUR PERSPECTIVE OF MARRIAGE
  • 00:14:54.955 --> 00:14:56.189
  • OUR PERSPECTIVE OF MARRIAGETO OUR RELATIONSHIP.
  • 00:14:56.256 --> 00:14:57.991
  • TO OUR RELATIONSHIP.AND WE HAD TO HAVE
  • 00:14:58.058 --> 00:14:58.558
  • AND WE HAD TO HAVESOME CONVERSATIONS TO SAY,
  • 00:14:58.625 --> 00:14:59.559
  • SOME CONVERSATIONS TO SAY,"WELL HERE'S HOW I SEE
  • 00:14:59.626 --> 00:15:00.961
  • "WELL HERE'S HOW I SEETHIS RELATIONSHIP."
  • 00:15:01.027 --> 00:15:01.828
  • THIS RELATIONSHIP."AND THEN SHE'D SAY,
  • 00:15:01.895 --> 00:15:02.862
  • AND THEN SHE'D SAY,"WELL, HERE'S HOW I SEE
  • 00:15:02.929 --> 00:15:03.396
  • "WELL, HERE'S HOW I SEETHE RELATIONSHIP."
  • 00:15:03.463 --> 00:15:04.264
  • THE RELATIONSHIP."AND IT COULD HAVE BEEN A FIGHT.
  • 00:15:04.331 --> 00:15:06.333
  • AND IT COULD HAVE BEEN A FIGHT.SOMETIMES IT DID TURN
  • 00:15:06.399 --> 00:15:07.367
  • SOMETIMES IT DID TURNTO A FIGHT.
  • 00:15:07.434 --> 00:15:08.034
  • TO A FIGHT.BUT MOST OF THE TIME,
  • 00:15:08.101 --> 00:15:08.668
  • BUT MOST OF THE TIME,IT WAS JUST A DIFFERENCE
  • 00:15:08.735 --> 00:15:09.402
  • IT WAS JUST A DIFFERENCEOF PERSPECTIVE THAT NEEDED
  • 00:15:09.469 --> 00:15:10.437
  • OF PERSPECTIVE THAT NEEDEDTO BE DISCUSSED.
  • 00:15:10.503 --> 00:15:11.538
  • TO BE DISCUSSED.WHAT RECOMMENDATIONS DO YOU
  • 00:15:11.604 --> 00:15:12.405
  • WHAT RECOMMENDATIONS DO YOUHAVE TO PEOPLE WHO, YOU KNOW,
  • 00:15:12.472 --> 00:15:14.274
  • HAVE TO PEOPLE WHO, YOU KNOW,WHEN THEY HAVE A DIFFERENCE
  • 00:15:14.341 --> 00:15:15.141
  • WHEN THEY HAVE A DIFFERENCEOF OPINION,
  • 00:15:15.208 --> 00:15:15.675
  • OF OPINION,THEY DON'T HAVE TO GO STRAIGHT
  • 00:15:15.742 --> 00:15:17.110
  • THEY DON'T HAVE TO GO STRAIGHTTO, YOU KNOW, FIST CITY,
  • 00:15:17.177 --> 00:15:19.112
  • TO, YOU KNOW, FIST CITY,SO TO SPEAK?
  • 00:15:19.179 --> 00:15:19.980
  • SO TO SPEAK?JEREMY ROLOFF: SO CONFLICT
  • 00:15:20.046 --> 00:15:20.647
  • JEREMY ROLOFF: SO CONFLICTIS KIND OF LIKE,
  • 00:15:20.714 --> 00:15:21.247
  • IS KIND OF LIKE,IT'S THE WRESTLING OF ONENESS;
  • 00:15:21.314 --> 00:15:22.916
  • IT'S THE WRESTLING OF ONENESS;RIGHT?
  • 00:15:22.983 --> 00:15:23.416
  • RIGHT?AND IT'S REALLY JUST
  • 00:15:23.483 --> 00:15:24.050
  • AND IT'S REALLY JUSTTHE WRESTLING OF MOVING.
  • 00:15:24.117 --> 00:15:24.751
  • THE WRESTLING OF MOVING.LIKE YOU GET MARRIED
  • 00:15:24.818 --> 00:15:25.585
  • LIKE YOU GET MARRIEDAND YOU ARE NOW ONE FLESH.
  • 00:15:25.652 --> 00:15:26.920
  • AND YOU ARE NOW ONE FLESH.THAT'S YOUR REALITY.
  • 00:15:26.987 --> 00:15:27.887
  • THAT'S YOUR REALITY.AND THEN YOU GET TO CHOOSE
  • 00:15:27.954 --> 00:15:28.555
  • AND THEN YOU GET TO CHOOSETO LIVE INTO THAT REALITY
  • 00:15:28.621 --> 00:15:30.523
  • TO LIVE INTO THAT REALITYEVERY DAY.
  • 00:15:30.590 --> 00:15:30.991
  • EVERY DAY.AND CONFLICT IS JUST
  • 00:15:31.057 --> 00:15:31.958
  • AND CONFLICT IS JUSTTHE WRESTLING OF BRINGING
  • 00:15:32.025 --> 00:15:33.293
  • THE WRESTLING OF BRINGINGTWO INDIVIDUAL PEOPLE,
  • 00:15:33.360 --> 00:15:34.961
  • TWO INDIVIDUAL PEOPLE,BRINGING THEM,
  • 00:15:35.028 --> 00:15:35.462
  • BRINGING THEM,MAKING THEM ONE; RIGHT?
  • 00:15:35.528 --> 00:15:36.429
  • MAKING THEM ONE; RIGHT?AND SO FOR US, THERE'S --
  • 00:15:36.496 --> 00:15:37.831
  • AND SO FOR US, THERE'S --YOU KNOW WE HAVE SOMETHING
  • 00:15:37.897 --> 00:15:38.865
  • YOU KNOW WE HAVE SOMETHINGLIKE WE CALL
  • 00:15:38.932 --> 00:15:39.432
  • LIKE WE CALL"OUR CODE OF CONFLICT."
  • 00:15:39.499 --> 00:15:40.700
  • "OUR CODE OF CONFLICT."AND THAT IS SOMETHING
  • 00:15:40.767 --> 00:15:41.601
  • AND THAT IS SOMETHINGWE'VE LITERALLY --
  • 00:15:41.668 --> 00:15:42.535
  • WE'VE LITERALLY --MATT HAGEE: RULES
  • 00:15:42.602 --> 00:15:43.103
  • MATT HAGEE: RULESOF ENGAGEMENT.
  • 00:15:43.169 --> 00:15:43.636
  • OF ENGAGEMENT.JEREMY ROLOFF: RULES
  • 00:15:43.703 --> 00:15:44.337
  • JEREMY ROLOFF: RULESOF ENGAGEMENT,
  • 00:15:44.404 --> 00:15:44.871
  • OF ENGAGEMENT,BECAUSE IT'S GOING TO HAPPEN.
  • 00:15:44.938 --> 00:15:45.472
  • BECAUSE IT'S GOING TO HAPPEN.SO IF IT'S GOING TO HAPPEN,
  • 00:15:45.538 --> 00:15:46.039
  • SO IF IT'S GOING TO HAPPEN,HOW DO WE ENGAGE WITH IT
  • 00:15:46.106 --> 00:15:47.240
  • HOW DO WE ENGAGE WITH ITIN A HEALTHY WAY
  • 00:15:47.307 --> 00:15:48.241
  • IN A HEALTHY WAYOR DO OUR BEST TO DO SO?
  • 00:15:48.308 --> 00:15:49.309
  • OR DO OUR BEST TO DO SO?BECAUSE WE FIGHT TOO.
  • 00:15:49.376 --> 00:15:50.143
  • BECAUSE WE FIGHT TOO.BUT FIGHTING,
  • 00:15:50.210 --> 00:15:51.578
  • BUT FIGHTING,YOU KNOW IT'S KIND OF LIKE
  • 00:15:51.644 --> 00:15:52.379
  • YOU KNOW IT'S KIND OF LIKEWHEN CONFLICT TURNS IMMATURE
  • 00:15:52.445 --> 00:15:53.346
  • WHEN CONFLICT TURNS IMMATUREAND YOU START TO LIKE,
  • 00:15:53.413 --> 00:15:54.447
  • AND YOU START TO LIKE,YOUR EMOTIONS --
  • 00:15:54.514 --> 00:15:55.315
  • YOUR EMOTIONS --YOU JUST START TO --
  • 00:15:55.382 --> 00:15:56.182
  • YOU JUST START TO --MATT HAGEE: YOU HAVE LIKE
  • 00:15:56.249 --> 00:15:56.850
  • MATT HAGEE: YOU HAVE LIKEPENALTY FLAGS YOU THROW
  • 00:15:56.916 --> 00:15:57.417
  • PENALTY FLAGS YOU THROWON EACH OTHER.
  • 00:15:57.484 --> 00:15:58.018
  • ON EACH OTHER.JEREMY ROLOFF: YEAH, RIGHT.
  • 00:15:58.084 --> 00:15:58.651
  • JEREMY ROLOFF: YEAH, RIGHT.MATT HAGEE: OFF SIDES,
  • 00:15:58.718 --> 00:15:59.285
  • MATT HAGEE: OFF SIDES,PERSONAL FOUL, 15 YARDS.
  • 00:15:59.352 --> 00:15:59.786
  • PERSONAL FOUL, 15 YARDS.JEREMY ROLOFF: WE HAVE SOME
  • 00:15:59.853 --> 00:16:00.420
  • JEREMY ROLOFF: WE HAVE SOMETHINGS THAT WE DO
  • 00:16:00.487 --> 00:16:01.021
  • THINGS THAT WE DOLIKE WE'VE WRITTEN OUT.
  • 00:16:01.087 --> 00:16:01.721
  • LIKE WE'VE WRITTEN OUT.AND LIKE BEFORE IT GETS
  • 00:16:01.788 --> 00:16:02.956
  • AND LIKE BEFORE IT GETSTOO HEATED,
  • 00:16:03.023 --> 00:16:03.623
  • TOO HEATED,LIKE WE REALLY TRY TO USE
  • 00:16:03.690 --> 00:16:05.058
  • LIKE WE REALLY TRY TO USEPHYSICAL TOUCH AS ONE.
  • 00:16:05.125 --> 00:16:06.292
  • PHYSICAL TOUCH AS ONE.SO LIKE WE'LL REACH OTHER
  • 00:16:06.359 --> 00:16:07.160
  • SO LIKE WE'LL REACH OTHERAND GRAB EACH OTHER'S HAND.
  • 00:16:07.227 --> 00:16:08.528
  • AND GRAB EACH OTHER'S HAND.AND WHOEVER DOES THAT IS ALMOST
  • 00:16:08.595 --> 00:16:09.763
  • AND WHOEVER DOES THAT IS ALMOSTLIKE THE HERO IN THE MOMENT,
  • 00:16:09.829 --> 00:16:10.964
  • LIKE THE HERO IN THE MOMENT,BECAUSE IN THAT ONE ACTION,
  • 00:16:11.031 --> 00:16:12.799
  • BECAUSE IN THAT ONE ACTION,I'VE NOW SAID,
  • 00:16:12.866 --> 00:16:14.567
  • I'VE NOW SAID,"WHAT'S MORE IMPORTANT IS
  • 00:16:14.634 --> 00:16:15.568
  • "WHAT'S MORE IMPORTANT ISWE ARE A TEAM.
  • 00:16:15.635 --> 00:16:16.603
  • WE ARE A TEAM.I TOTALLY DISAGREE WITH YOU,
  • 00:16:16.669 --> 00:16:18.304
  • I TOTALLY DISAGREE WITH YOU,BUT WE'RE ON A TEAM AND WE'RE
  • 00:16:18.371 --> 00:16:19.239
  • BUT WE'RE ON A TEAM AND WE'REGOING TO -- MY MISSION
  • 00:16:19.305 --> 00:16:20.407
  • GOING TO -- MY MISSIONIS TO FIGURE THIS OUT,
  • 00:16:20.473 --> 00:16:21.341
  • IS TO FIGURE THIS OUT,NOT TO BE RIGHT."
  • 00:16:21.408 --> 00:16:22.842
  • NOT TO BE RIGHT."JUST BY PUTTING MY HAND ON HER,
  • 00:16:22.909 --> 00:16:24.411
  • JUST BY PUTTING MY HAND ON HER,LIKE THAT'S WHAT I'M
  • 00:16:24.477 --> 00:16:25.111
  • LIKE THAT'S WHAT I'MCOMMUNICATING AT THAT MOMENT.
  • 00:16:25.178 --> 00:16:26.613
  • COMMUNICATING AT THAT MOMENT.AND THAT IS SOMETHING OUR
  • 00:16:26.679 --> 00:16:27.547
  • AND THAT IS SOMETHING OURMENTORS TOLD US TO DO AS
  • 00:16:27.614 --> 00:16:28.581
  • MENTORS TOLD US TO DO ASLIKE A TOOL TO HEDGE AGAINST A
  • 00:16:28.648 --> 00:16:29.949
  • LIKE A TOOL TO HEDGE AGAINST ACONFLICT TURNING INTO A FIGHT.
  • 00:16:30.016 --> 00:16:31.284
  • CONFLICT TURNING INTO A FIGHT.AND IT'S WORKED.
  • 00:16:31.351 --> 00:16:31.918
  • AND IT'S WORKED.THAT'S JUST ONE THING, MATT.
  • 00:16:31.985 --> 00:16:32.952
  • THAT'S JUST ONE THING, MATT.MATT HAGEE: YOU KNOW PHYSICAL
  • 00:16:33.019 --> 00:16:33.887
  • MATT HAGEE: YOU KNOW PHYSICALTOUCH IS A VERY IMPORTANT
  • 00:16:33.953 --> 00:16:34.621
  • TOUCH IS A VERY IMPORTANTASPECT OF RELATIONSHIP.
  • 00:16:34.687 --> 00:16:35.789
  • ASPECT OF RELATIONSHIP.JEREMY ROLOFF: FOR SURE.
  • 00:16:35.855 --> 00:16:36.489
  • JEREMY ROLOFF: FOR SURE.MATT HAGEE: NOW ONE OF THE
  • 00:16:36.556 --> 00:16:37.223
  • MATT HAGEE: NOW ONE OF THECHALLENGES THAT I THINK HAPPENS
  • 00:16:37.290 --> 00:16:38.625
  • CHALLENGES THAT I THINK HAPPENSIN RELATIONSHIPS,
  • 00:16:38.691 --> 00:16:39.325
  • IN RELATIONSHIPS,AND I THINK IT'S IMPORTANT
  • 00:16:39.392 --> 00:16:40.260
  • AND I THINK IT'S IMPORTANTFOR PEOPLE TO UNDERSTAND;
  • 00:16:40.326 --> 00:16:41.961
  • FOR PEOPLE TO UNDERSTAND;YOUR MOTIVE IN THAT PHYSICAL
  • 00:16:42.028 --> 00:16:43.296
  • YOUR MOTIVE IN THAT PHYSICALTOUCH IS TO RESOLVE --
  • 00:16:43.363 --> 00:16:45.665
  • TOUCH IS TO RESOLVE --JEREMY ROLOFF: YES.
  • 00:16:45.732 --> 00:16:46.299
  • JEREMY ROLOFF: YES.MATT HAGEE: -- NOT MANIPULATE,
  • 00:16:46.366 --> 00:16:47.200
  • MATT HAGEE: -- NOT MANIPULATE,NOT CONTROL,
  • 00:16:47.267 --> 00:16:48.368
  • NOT CONTROL,BECAUSE SOMETIMES IT CAN BE
  • 00:16:48.435 --> 00:16:49.569
  • BECAUSE SOMETIMES IT CAN BEUTILIZED AS A WEAPON; YOU KNOW?
  • 00:16:49.636 --> 00:16:51.171
  • UTILIZED AS A WEAPON; YOU KNOW?JEREMY ROLOFF: YEAH.
  • 00:16:51.237 --> 00:16:51.805
  • JEREMY ROLOFF: YEAH.MATT HAGEE: OH, IF I'M
  • 00:16:51.871 --> 00:16:52.539
  • MATT HAGEE: OH, IF I'MTHE FIRST ONE TO TOUCH
  • 00:16:52.605 --> 00:16:53.273
  • THE FIRST ONE TO TOUCHTHE HAND,
  • 00:16:53.339 --> 00:16:53.873
  • THE HAND,THEN I GET THE UPPER HAND.
  • 00:16:53.940 --> 00:16:54.607
  • THEN I GET THE UPPER HAND.AND NOW YOU'RE GOING TO HAVE
  • 00:16:54.674 --> 00:16:55.341
  • AND NOW YOU'RE GOING TO HAVETO LISTEN TO ALL MY POINTS.
  • 00:16:55.408 --> 00:16:56.109
  • TO LISTEN TO ALL MY POINTS.I MEAN THERE'S WAYS THAT EVERY
  • 00:16:56.176 --> 00:16:58.745
  • I MEAN THERE'S WAYS THAT EVERYGOOD RULE AND APPLICATION
  • 00:16:58.812 --> 00:17:00.547
  • GOOD RULE AND APPLICATIONCAN BE BENT AND TWISTED.
  • 00:17:00.613 --> 00:17:01.714
  • CAN BE BENT AND TWISTED.JEREMY ROLOFF: THAT IS SO TRUE.
  • 00:17:01.781 --> 00:17:02.482
  • JEREMY ROLOFF: THAT IS SO TRUE.MATT HAGEE: AND YOU HAVE
  • 00:17:02.549 --> 00:17:03.283
  • MATT HAGEE: AND YOU HAVETO GUARD YOURSELF AGAINST THAT,
  • 00:17:03.349 --> 00:17:03.983
  • TO GUARD YOURSELF AGAINST THAT,RECOGNIZING WHAT'S MORE
  • 00:17:04.050 --> 00:17:04.884
  • RECOGNIZING WHAT'S MOREIMPORTANT TO ME.
  • 00:17:04.951 --> 00:17:06.052
  • IMPORTANT TO ME.YOU KNOW ONE OF THE THINGS
  • 00:17:06.119 --> 00:17:06.853
  • YOU KNOW ONE OF THE THINGSTHAT I HAD TO ASK MYSELF EARLY
  • 00:17:06.920 --> 00:17:07.720
  • THAT I HAD TO ASK MYSELF EARLYON IN MARRIAGE IS,
  • 00:17:07.787 --> 00:17:08.421
  • ON IN MARRIAGE IS,DO I ALWAYS WANT TO BE RIGHT
  • 00:17:08.488 --> 00:17:10.023
  • DO I ALWAYS WANT TO BE RIGHTOR DO I WANT TO BE RECONCILED?
  • 00:17:10.090 --> 00:17:11.291
  • OR DO I WANT TO BE RECONCILED?JEREMY ROLOFF: YES.
  • 00:17:11.357 --> 00:17:11.825
  • JEREMY ROLOFF: YES.MATT HAGEE: BECAUSE
  • 00:17:11.891 --> 00:17:12.492
  • MATT HAGEE: BECAUSEIF I'M RECONCILED,
  • 00:17:12.559 --> 00:17:13.193
  • IF I'M RECONCILED,I CAN HAVE A RELATIONSHIP.
  • 00:17:13.259 --> 00:17:14.527
  • I CAN HAVE A RELATIONSHIP.IF I'M RIGHT,
  • 00:17:14.594 --> 00:17:15.161
  • IF I'M RIGHT,I MIGHT SPEND A WHOLE LOT
  • 00:17:15.228 --> 00:17:15.962
  • I MIGHT SPEND A WHOLE LOTOF TIME ALONE.
  • 00:17:16.029 --> 00:17:17.063
  • OF TIME ALONE.JEREMY ROLOFF: YEP, YEP.
  • 00:17:17.130 --> 00:17:17.997
  • JEREMY ROLOFF: YEP, YEP.AMEN TO THAT.
  • 00:17:18.064 --> 00:17:18.565
  • AMEN TO THAT.AND THAT'S REALLY THE GOAL
  • 00:17:18.631 --> 00:17:19.599
  • AND THAT'S REALLY THE GOALBEHIND "THE CODE OF CONFLICT"
  • 00:17:19.666 --> 00:17:20.900
  • BEHIND "THE CODE OF CONFLICT"IS WE'VE FOUND SOME THINGS
  • 00:17:20.967 --> 00:17:22.368
  • IS WE'VE FOUND SOME THINGSTHAT WORK.
  • 00:17:22.435 --> 00:17:23.403
  • THAT WORK.EVERYONE WILL FIND
  • 00:17:23.470 --> 00:17:23.970
  • EVERYONE WILL FINDTHEIR OWN THING, YOU KNOW,
  • 00:17:24.037 --> 00:17:25.105
  • THEIR OWN THING, YOU KNOW,THAT WORKS FOR THEM.
  • 00:17:25.171 --> 00:17:25.738
  • THAT WORKS FOR THEM.MATT HAGEE: WELL,
  • 00:17:25.805 --> 00:17:26.473
  • MATT HAGEE: WELL,AND I RECOMMEND THAT, YOU KNOW,
  • 00:17:26.539 --> 00:17:27.307
  • AND I RECOMMEND THAT, YOU KNOW,THE EASIEST WAY FOR YOU TO WORK
  • 00:17:27.373 --> 00:17:28.908
  • THE EASIEST WAY FOR YOU TO WORKTHROUGH CONFLICT IN YOUR
  • 00:17:28.975 --> 00:17:29.709
  • THROUGH CONFLICT IN YOURRELATIONSHIP IS FIRST
  • 00:17:29.776 --> 00:17:30.677
  • RELATIONSHIP IS FIRSTAND FOREMOST,
  • 00:17:30.743 --> 00:17:31.211
  • AND FOREMOST,RECOGNIZE THAT IT'S NORMAL.
  • 00:17:31.277 --> 00:17:32.946
  • RECOGNIZE THAT IT'S NORMAL.JEREMY ROLOFF: YEAH.
  • 00:17:33.012 --> 00:17:33.379
  • JEREMY ROLOFF: YEAH.MATT HAGEE: TWO,
  • 00:17:33.446 --> 00:17:33.847
  • MATT HAGEE: TWO,COMMUNICATE CLEARLY ABOUT
  • 00:17:33.913 --> 00:17:35.048
  • COMMUNICATE CLEARLY ABOUTWHAT YOUR EXPECTATIONS ARE
  • 00:17:35.115 --> 00:17:37.050
  • WHAT YOUR EXPECTATIONS AREIN A RATIONAL WAY.
  • 00:17:37.117 --> 00:17:38.952
  • IN A RATIONAL WAY.YOU KNOW IF YOU COMMUNICATE
  • 00:17:39.018 --> 00:17:39.886
  • YOU KNOW IF YOU COMMUNICATECALMLY,
  • 00:17:39.953 --> 00:17:40.887
  • CALMLY,IT USUALLY BRINGS
  • 00:17:40.954 --> 00:17:41.855
  • IT USUALLY BRINGSA CALM RESPONSE BACK.
  • 00:17:41.921 --> 00:17:43.356
  • A CALM RESPONSE BACK.JEREMY ROLOFF: YEAH, TOTALLY.
  • 00:17:43.423 --> 00:17:43.957
  • JEREMY ROLOFF: YEAH, TOTALLY.MATT HAGEE: IF YOU COMMUNICATE
  • 00:17:44.023 --> 00:17:44.724
  • MATT HAGEE: IF YOU COMMUNICATEIN AN EXCITED MANNER,
  • 00:17:44.791 --> 00:17:45.959
  • IN AN EXCITED MANNER,YOU'VE ALREADY ESCALATED THE
  • 00:17:46.025 --> 00:17:47.427
  • YOU'VE ALREADY ESCALATED THECONVERSATION TO AN ENERGY LEVEL
  • 00:17:47.494 --> 00:17:50.063
  • CONVERSATION TO AN ENERGY LEVELTHAT IT PROBABLY DOESN'T NEED
  • 00:17:50.130 --> 00:17:50.663
  • THAT IT PROBABLY DOESN'T NEEDTO BE AT.
  • 00:17:50.730 --> 00:17:51.631
  • TO BE AT.AND THEN THREE,
  • 00:17:51.698 --> 00:17:52.966
  • AND THEN THREE,IT'S OKAY IF A CONFLICT DOESN'T
  • 00:17:53.032 --> 00:17:54.434
  • IT'S OKAY IF A CONFLICT DOESN'TGET RESOLVED RIGHT AWAY.
  • 00:17:54.501 --> 00:17:56.236
  • GET RESOLVED RIGHT AWAY.IT MIGHT TAKE SOME TIME.
  • 00:17:56.302 --> 00:17:57.604
  • IT MIGHT TAKE SOME TIME.AND IF YOU'VE GOT TO CALL TIME
  • 00:17:57.670 --> 00:17:58.338
  • AND IF YOU'VE GOT TO CALL TIMEOUT, AND SAY, "HEY,
  • 00:17:58.404 --> 00:17:59.405
  • OUT, AND SAY, "HEY,LET'S TALK ABOUT THIS LATER,"
  • 00:17:59.472 --> 00:18:00.573
  • LET'S TALK ABOUT THIS LATER,"YOU KNOW,
  • 00:18:00.640 --> 00:18:02.275
  • YOU KNOW,COME BACK WHEN COOLER HEADS CAN
  • 00:18:02.342 --> 00:18:03.343
  • COME BACK WHEN COOLER HEADS CANPREVAIL.
  • 00:18:03.409 --> 00:18:03.977
  • PREVAIL.JEREMY ROLOFF: YEAH.
  • 00:18:04.043 --> 00:18:04.611
  • JEREMY ROLOFF: YEAH.MATT HAGEE: AND IF YOU'D LIKE
  • 00:18:04.677 --> 00:18:05.478
  • MATT HAGEE: AND IF YOU'D LIKETO USE JEREMY'S LIST OF THINGS,
  • 00:18:05.545 --> 00:18:07.847
  • TO USE JEREMY'S LIST OF THINGS,INCLUDING A PERSONAL TOUCH,
  • 00:18:07.914 --> 00:18:10.416
  • INCLUDING A PERSONAL TOUCH,MAKE SURE IT'S GENTLE AND KIND.
  • 00:18:10.483 --> 00:18:12.485
  • MAKE SURE IT'S GENTLE AND KIND.JEREMY, THANK YOU AS ALWAYS,
  • 00:18:12.552 --> 00:18:14.187
  • JEREMY, THANK YOU AS ALWAYS,FOR SHARING WITH US HERE ON
  • 00:18:14.254 --> 00:18:14.921
  • FOR SHARING WITH US HERE ONA MOMENT WITH MATT.
  • 00:18:14.988 --> 00:18:15.989
  • A MOMENT WITH MATT.STAY TUNED,
  • 00:18:16.055 --> 00:18:16.289
  • STAY TUNED,BECAUSE WHEN WE COME BACK,
  • 00:18:16.356 --> 00:18:17.357
  • BECAUSE WHEN WE COME BACK,AUDREY AND KENDAL ARE GOING TO
  • 00:18:17.423 --> 00:18:18.625
  • AUDREY AND KENDAL ARE GOING TOHAVE A █ KENDAL'S CORNER █ TO SE
  • 00:18:18.691 --> 00:18:19.826
  • HAVE A █ KENDAL'S CORNER █ TO SEWHAT THEIR CODE OF CONDUCT
  • 00:18:19.893 --> 00:18:20.994
  • WHAT THEIR CODE OF CONDUCTIS IN CONFLICT.
  • 00:18:21.060 --> 00:18:22.195
  • IS IN CONFLICT.♪ MUSIC ♪
  • 00:18:22.262 --> 00:18:36.242
  • ♪ MUSIC ♪KENDAL HAGEE: WELCOME BACK TO
  • 00:18:36.309 --> 00:18:36.976
  • KENDAL HAGEE: WELCOME BACK TO"THE DIFFERENCE."
  • 00:18:37.043 --> 00:18:37.510
  • "THE DIFFERENCE."I'M HERE WITH AUDREY ROLOFF,
  • 00:18:37.577 --> 00:18:38.444
  • I'M HERE WITH AUDREY ROLOFF,AND WE'RE GOING TALK ABOUT
  • 00:18:38.511 --> 00:18:39.345
  • AND WE'RE GOING TALK ABOUTCONFLICT ISSUES ON HOW █ WE
  • 00:18:39.412 --> 00:18:41.614
  • CONFLICT ISSUES ON HOW █ WERESOLVE THEM WITH OUR HUSBANDS;
  • 00:18:41.681 --> 00:18:42.916
  • RESOLVE THEM WITH OUR HUSBANDS;RIGHT?
  • 00:18:42.982 --> 00:18:43.316
  • RIGHT?AUDREY ROLOFF: YES.
  • 00:18:43.383 --> 00:18:43.917
  • AUDREY ROLOFF: YES.KENDAL HAGEE: THE WOMEN'S
  • 00:18:43.983 --> 00:18:44.584
  • KENDAL HAGEE: THE WOMEN'SPERSPECTIVE.
  • 00:18:44.651 --> 00:18:45.051
  • PERSPECTIVE.BUT BEFORE WE DO,
  • 00:18:45.118 --> 00:18:45.652
  • BUT BEFORE WE DO,I WANT TO TOUCH BASE
  • 00:18:45.718 --> 00:18:46.452
  • I WANT TO TOUCH BASEON SOMETHING.
  • 00:18:46.519 --> 00:18:47.353
  • ON SOMETHING."A LOVE LETTER LIFE."
  • 00:18:47.420 --> 00:18:48.521
  • "A LOVE LETTER LIFE."NOW TELL ME.
  • 00:18:48.588 --> 00:18:49.189
  • NOW TELL ME.I DIDN'T GET TO ASK YOU THERE
  • 00:18:49.255 --> 00:18:50.190
  • I DIDN'T GET TO ASK YOU THEREWHEN WE WERE INTERVIEWING,
  • 00:18:50.256 --> 00:18:50.924
  • WHEN WE WERE INTERVIEWING,BECAUSE THE GUYS WERE TALKING
  • 00:18:50.990 --> 00:18:52.225
  • BECAUSE THE GUYS WERE TALKINGMOST OF THE TIME, TAKING OVER.
  • 00:18:52.292 --> 00:18:54.194
  • MOST OF THE TIME, TAKING OVER.BUT I'M GOING TO SPEAK.
  • 00:18:54.260 --> 00:18:55.094
  • BUT I'M GOING TO SPEAK.HOW DID THAT TITLE COME UP?
  • 00:18:55.161 --> 00:18:56.362
  • HOW DID THAT TITLE COME UP?YOU WERE TELLING ME --
  • 00:18:56.429 --> 00:18:57.130
  • YOU WERE TELLING ME --AUDREY ROLOFF: YEAH.
  • 00:18:57.197 --> 00:18:57.664
  • AUDREY ROLOFF: YEAH.SO ONE OF THE THINGS THAT WE
  • 00:18:57.730 --> 00:18:58.364
  • SO ONE OF THE THINGS THAT WEJUST THOUGHT IT WOULD BE FUN
  • 00:18:58.431 --> 00:18:59.132
  • JUST THOUGHT IT WOULD BE FUNTO MENTION IS
  • 00:18:59.199 --> 00:18:59.799
  • TO MENTION ISJEREMY WROTE ME LETTERS
  • 00:18:59.866 --> 00:19:01.234
  • JEREMY WROTE ME LETTERSDURING OUR THREE YEARS
  • 00:19:01.301 --> 00:19:02.135
  • DURING OUR THREE YEARSOF LONG DISTANCE,
  • 00:19:02.202 --> 00:19:03.069
  • OF LONG DISTANCE,ACTUALLY HAND TYPED
  • 00:19:03.136 --> 00:19:03.970
  • ACTUALLY HAND TYPEDON A TYPEWRITER.
  • 00:19:04.037 --> 00:19:05.205
  • ON A TYPEWRITER.AND SO SUPER OLD FASHIONED,
  • 00:19:05.271 --> 00:19:06.806
  • AND SO SUPER OLD FASHIONED,BUT THAT'S ALSO A HUGE PART OF
  • 00:19:06.873 --> 00:19:08.007
  • BUT THAT'S ALSO A HUGE PART OFWHY WE CALLED IT
  • 00:19:08.074 --> 00:19:08.541
  • WHY WE CALLED IT"A LOVE LETTER LIFE,"
  • 00:19:08.608 --> 00:19:09.542
  • "A LOVE LETTER LIFE,"KENDAL HAGEE: AND IT'S HERE
  • 00:19:09.609 --> 00:19:10.276
  • KENDAL HAGEE: AND IT'S HEREIN THE BOOK.
  • 00:19:10.343 --> 00:19:10.710
  • IN THE BOOK.OKAY; CONFLICT.
  • 00:19:10.777 --> 00:19:11.444
  • OKAY; CONFLICT.NOW THAT I GOT THAT OUT OF THE
  • 00:19:11.511 --> 00:19:12.078
  • NOW THAT I GOT THAT OUT OF THEWAY, THE TITLE "LOVE LETTERS,"
  • 00:19:12.145 --> 00:19:13.146
  • WAY, THE TITLE "LOVE LETTERS,"BECAUSE MATT WROTE
  • 00:19:13.213 --> 00:19:13.980
  • BECAUSE MATT WROTELOVE LETTERS TO ME TOO
  • 00:19:14.047 --> 00:19:15.481
  • LOVE LETTERS TO ME TOOAND STILL DOES.
  • 00:19:15.548 --> 00:19:16.182
  • AND STILL DOES.BUT NOW OUR GENERATION,
  • 00:19:16.249 --> 00:19:17.550
  • BUT NOW OUR GENERATION,IT'S LIKE TEXTING OR
  • 00:19:17.617 --> 00:19:19.385
  • IT'S LIKE TEXTING ORHEY, THERE'S NO MORE --
  • 00:19:19.452 --> 00:19:20.653
  • HEY, THERE'S NO MORE --AUDREY ROLOFF: IT'S TAKES
  • 00:19:20.720 --> 00:19:21.354
  • AUDREY ROLOFF: IT'S TAKESSO MUCH MORE INTENTION EFFORT
  • 00:19:21.421 --> 00:19:22.288
  • SO MUCH MORE INTENTION EFFORTTO WRITE A LETTER.
  • 00:19:22.355 --> 00:19:22.855
  • TO WRITE A LETTER.KENDAL HAGEE: TO ACTUALLY WRITE
  • 00:19:22.922 --> 00:19:23.523
  • KENDAL HAGEE: TO ACTUALLY WRITEA LETTER,
  • 00:19:23.590 --> 00:19:24.090
  • A LETTER,BUT I THINK THAT WOULD BE GREAT
  • 00:19:24.157 --> 00:19:24.891
  • BUT I THINK THAT WOULD BE GREATFOR US WIVES TO SEND A LETTER
  • 00:19:24.958 --> 00:19:25.792
  • FOR US WIVES TO SEND A LETTERTO OUR HUSBANDS AT HOME.
  • 00:19:25.858 --> 00:19:27.093
  • TO OUR HUSBANDS AT HOME.OKAY.
  • 00:19:27.160 --> 00:19:27.594
  • OKAY.CONFLICT RESOLUTION,
  • 00:19:27.660 --> 00:19:28.261
  • CONFLICT RESOLUTION,HOW DO YOU --
  • 00:19:28.328 --> 00:19:29.762
  • HOW DO YOU --HERE ABOUT THE TOUCHING,
  • 00:19:29.829 --> 00:19:30.530
  • HERE ABOUT THE TOUCHING,HOW DO YOU LIKE THE TOUCHING?
  • 00:19:30.597 --> 00:19:32.198
  • HOW DO YOU LIKE THE TOUCHING?DOES IT TURN INTO A --
  • 00:19:32.265 --> 00:19:33.199
  • DOES IT TURN INTO A --AUDREY ROLOFF: SO I THINK,
  • 00:19:33.266 --> 00:19:33.967
  • AUDREY ROLOFF: SO I THINK,FOR ME,
  • 00:19:34.033 --> 00:19:34.467
  • FOR ME,IT'S AN ACT OF HUMILITY,
  • 00:19:34.534 --> 00:19:35.735
  • IT'S AN ACT OF HUMILITY,BECAUSE IN THE MOMENT,
  • 00:19:35.802 --> 00:19:36.269
  • BECAUSE IN THE MOMENT,NEITHER OF US ACTUALLY WANT TO
  • 00:19:36.336 --> 00:19:37.937
  • NEITHER OF US ACTUALLY WANT TOBE THE PERSONAL TO REACH OVER
  • 00:19:38.004 --> 00:19:38.938
  • BE THE PERSONAL TO REACH OVERAND GRAB HIS HAND.
  • 00:19:39.005 --> 00:19:39.806
  • AND GRAB HIS HAND.KENDAL HAGEE: NO, NO.
  • 00:19:39.872 --> 00:19:40.573
  • KENDAL HAGEE: NO, NO.THAT'S THE LAST THING.
  • 00:19:40.640 --> 00:19:41.474
  • THAT'S THE LAST THING.AUDREY ROLOFF: BUT IT'S REALLY
  • 00:19:41.541 --> 00:19:42.242
  • AUDREY ROLOFF: BUT IT'S REALLYHARD TO BE MAD AT SOMEONE WHEN
  • 00:19:42.308 --> 00:19:42.875
  • HARD TO BE MAD AT SOMEONE WHENYOU'RE HOLDING HANDS.
  • 00:19:42.942 --> 00:19:43.509
  • YOU'RE HOLDING HANDS.SO I THINK IT JUST KIND OF LIKE
  • 00:19:43.576 --> 00:19:44.377
  • SO I THINK IT JUST KIND OF LIKEDEFUSES THE EMOTIONS
  • 00:19:44.444 --> 00:19:45.478
  • DEFUSES THE EMOTIONSAND IT JUST LETS US HAVE
  • 00:19:45.545 --> 00:19:46.579
  • AND IT JUST LETS US HAVEA CONVERSATION
  • 00:19:46.646 --> 00:19:47.247
  • A CONVERSATIONTHAT'S MORE LOGICAL, UM,
  • 00:19:47.313 --> 00:19:48.948
  • THAT'S MORE LOGICAL, UM,AND REALLY MAKE THAT END GOAL,
  • 00:19:49.015 --> 00:19:50.183
  • AND REALLY MAKE THAT END GOAL,LIKE WHAT MATT WAS SAYING,
  • 00:19:50.250 --> 00:19:51.284
  • LIKE WHAT MATT WAS SAYING,RECONCILIATION,
  • 00:19:51.351 --> 00:19:52.118
  • RECONCILIATION,AND NOT LIKE TRYING TO GET
  • 00:19:52.185 --> 00:19:53.620
  • AND NOT LIKE TRYING TO GETOUR EMOTIONS OUT.
  • 00:19:53.686 --> 00:19:54.520
  • OUR EMOTIONS OUT.KENDAL HAGEE: INTENSE
  • 00:19:54.587 --> 00:19:55.221
  • KENDAL HAGEE: INTENSEFELLOWSHIP.
  • 00:19:55.288 --> 00:19:55.788
  • FELLOWSHIP.AUDREY ROLOFF: RIGHT.
  • 00:19:55.855 --> 00:19:56.456
  • AUDREY ROLOFF: RIGHT.SO IT HAS BEEN HELPFUL.
  • 00:19:56.522 --> 00:19:57.223
  • SO IT HAS BEEN HELPFUL.KENDAL HAGEE: YOU KNOW US TOO.
  • 00:19:57.290 --> 00:19:58.291
  • KENDAL HAGEE: YOU KNOW US TOO.MATT, YOU KNOW, WILL JUST STOP,
  • 00:19:58.358 --> 00:19:59.859
  • MATT, YOU KNOW, WILL JUST STOP,PAUSE, AND PRAY SOMETIMES.
  • 00:19:59.926 --> 00:20:00.927
  • PAUSE, AND PRAY SOMETIMES.WHEN YOU START PRAYING,
  • 00:20:00.994 --> 00:20:01.461
  • WHEN YOU START PRAYING,YOU CAN'T BE LIKE --
  • 00:20:01.527 --> 00:20:02.795
  • YOU CAN'T BE LIKE --AUDREY ROLOFF: OH, 100%, YES.
  • 00:20:02.862 --> 00:20:03.997
  • AUDREY ROLOFF: OH, 100%, YES.YOU CAN'T BE MAD.
  • 00:20:04.063 --> 00:20:04.931
  • YOU CAN'T BE MAD.KENDAL HAGEE: YOU CAN'T BE MAD
  • 00:20:04.998 --> 00:20:05.598
  • KENDAL HAGEE: YOU CAN'T BE MADBECAUSE YOU'RE PRAYING.
  • 00:20:05.665 --> 00:20:06.466
  • BECAUSE YOU'RE PRAYING.AND YOU'RE LIKE, OKAY,
  • 00:20:06.532 --> 00:20:07.000
  • AND YOU'RE LIKE, OKAY,WE'VE GOT TO AGREE ON THIS
  • 00:20:07.066 --> 00:20:07.900
  • WE'VE GOT TO AGREE ON THISOR FIGHT.
  • 00:20:07.967 --> 00:20:08.601
  • OR FIGHT.ONE THING ALSO YOU MENTION
  • 00:20:08.668 --> 00:20:09.669
  • ONE THING ALSO YOU MENTIONIN YOUR BOOK ABOUT
  • 00:20:09.736 --> 00:20:10.637
  • IN YOUR BOOK ABOUTDON'T FIGHT IN PUBLIC.
  • 00:20:10.703 --> 00:20:12.238
  • DON'T FIGHT IN PUBLIC.AS A MOTHER WITH CHILDREN,
  • 00:20:12.305 --> 00:20:13.606
  • AS A MOTHER WITH CHILDREN,YOUR KIDS WILL PICK UP OFF OF
  • 00:20:13.673 --> 00:20:15.208
  • YOUR KIDS WILL PICK UP OFF OFTHE EMOTIONS OF WHAT'S GOING
  • 00:20:15.275 --> 00:20:17.110
  • THE EMOTIONS OF WHAT'S GOINGON, EVEN YOUR CHILD 16 MONTHS.
  • 00:20:17.176 --> 00:20:19.345
  • ON, EVEN YOUR CHILD 16 MONTHS.I MEAN HOW DO YOU -- DO YOU
  • 00:20:19.412 --> 00:20:20.613
  • I MEAN HOW DO YOU -- DO YOUTAKE IT TO THE OTHER BEDROOM?
  • 00:20:20.680 --> 00:20:21.981
  • TAKE IT TO THE OTHER BEDROOM?DO YOU WAIT UNTIL YOU GET HOME?
  • 00:20:22.048 --> 00:20:23.583
  • DO YOU WAIT UNTIL YOU GET HOME?AUDREY ROLOFF: I THINK IT'S
  • 00:20:23.650 --> 00:20:24.250
  • AUDREY ROLOFF: I THINK IT'SJUST BEEN A THING FOR US,
  • 00:20:24.317 --> 00:20:24.817
  • JUST BEEN A THING FOR US,WE'VE REALIZED FROM DOING THAT
  • 00:20:24.884 --> 00:20:26.085
  • WE'VE REALIZED FROM DOING THATWRONG A FEW TIMES THAT YOU
  • 00:20:26.152 --> 00:20:28.621
  • WRONG A FEW TIMES THAT YOUBECOME MORE CONCERNED ABOUT HOW
  • 00:20:28.688 --> 00:20:29.856
  • BECOME MORE CONCERNED ABOUT HOWOTHER PEOPLE ARE PERCEIVING THE
  • 00:20:29.922 --> 00:20:30.823
  • OTHER PEOPLE ARE PERCEIVING THEFIGHT THAN ACTUALLY RESOLVING
  • 00:20:30.890 --> 00:20:31.858
  • FIGHT THAN ACTUALLY RESOLVINGTHE FIGHT.
  • 00:20:31.924 --> 00:20:32.292
  • THE FIGHT.AND AGAIN,
  • 00:20:32.358 --> 00:20:32.892
  • AND AGAIN,IT MAKES IT NOT ABOUT
  • 00:20:32.959 --> 00:20:33.559
  • IT MAKES IT NOT ABOUTRECONCILIATION.
  • 00:20:33.626 --> 00:20:34.227
  • RECONCILIATION.AND SO I THINK WE'VE JUST
  • 00:20:34.294 --> 00:20:35.295
  • AND SO I THINK WE'VE JUSTLEARNED TO, YOU KNOW,
  • 00:20:35.361 --> 00:20:36.429
  • LEARNED TO, YOU KNOW,IF WE HAVE A CONFLICT THAT WE
  • 00:20:36.496 --> 00:20:37.130
  • IF WE HAVE A CONFLICT THAT WENEED RESOLVED, JUST TO WAIT,
  • 00:20:37.196 --> 00:20:38.364
  • NEED RESOLVED, JUST TO WAIT,JUST TO TABLE IT.
  • 00:20:38.431 --> 00:20:39.432
  • JUST TO TABLE IT.AND SO AN ADDITIONAL THING
  • 00:20:39.499 --> 00:20:41.234
  • AND SO AN ADDITIONAL THINGTHAT WE TRY TO DO
  • 00:20:41.301 --> 00:20:41.934
  • THAT WE TRY TO DOIS ALSO JUST NOT DISAGREEING
  • 00:20:42.001 --> 00:20:43.403
  • IS ALSO JUST NOT DISAGREEINGWITH EACH OTHER IN PUBLIC.
  • 00:20:43.469 --> 00:20:44.871
  • WITH EACH OTHER IN PUBLIC.KENDAL HAGEE: OH, THAT'S GOOD.
  • 00:20:44.937 --> 00:20:45.672
  • KENDAL HAGEE: OH, THAT'S GOOD.AUDREY ROLOFF: I KNOW IT SOUNDS
  • 00:20:45.738 --> 00:20:46.339
  • AUDREY ROLOFF: I KNOW IT SOUNDSWEIRD BUT THAT'S WHAT
  • 00:20:46.406 --> 00:20:47.106
  • WEIRD BUT THAT'S WHATTRIGGERS THE FIGHT, YEAH.
  • 00:20:47.173 --> 00:20:48.308
  • TRIGGERS THE FIGHT, YEAH.KENDAL HAGEE: A LOT OF TIMES
  • 00:20:48.374 --> 00:20:49.309
  • KENDAL HAGEE: A LOT OF TIMESIT'LL HAPPEN AND THEN YOU KIND
  • 00:20:49.375 --> 00:20:50.510
  • IT'LL HAPPEN AND THEN YOU KINDOF LOOK AT THEM LIKE, OH.
  • 00:20:50.576 --> 00:20:52.512
  • OF LOOK AT THEM LIKE, OH.AUDREY ROLOFF: AND YOU'RE LIKE
  • 00:20:52.578 --> 00:20:53.112
  • AUDREY ROLOFF: AND YOU'RE LIKEJUST WAIT TILL WE GET
  • 00:20:53.179 --> 00:20:53.746
  • JUST WAIT TILL WE GETIN THE CAR.
  • 00:20:53.813 --> 00:20:54.314
  • IN THE CAR.HOPEFULLY IT'S NOT LIKE THAT.
  • 00:20:54.380 --> 00:20:55.748
  • HOPEFULLY IT'S NOT LIKE THAT.KENDAL HAGEE: NO,
  • 00:20:55.815 --> 00:20:56.282
  • KENDAL HAGEE: NO,BUT IT DOES HEIGHTEN
  • 00:20:56.349 --> 00:20:57.050
  • BUT IT DOES HEIGHTENTHE EMOTIONS,
  • 00:20:57.116 --> 00:20:57.817
  • THE EMOTIONS,AND THEN YOU KIDS PICK UP,
  • 00:20:57.884 --> 00:20:58.918
  • AND THEN YOU KIDS PICK UP,LIKE I SAID,
  • 00:20:58.985 --> 00:20:59.619
  • LIKE I SAID,THEY WILL READ OFF OF YOU.
  • 00:20:59.686 --> 00:21:01.387
  • THEY WILL READ OFF OF YOU.AND IF THEY KNOW MOM AND DAD
  • 00:21:01.454 --> 00:21:02.388
  • AND IF THEY KNOW MOM AND DADARE SPLIT,
  • 00:21:02.455 --> 00:21:03.256
  • ARE SPLIT,THEN THEY START --
  • 00:21:03.323 --> 00:21:04.090
  • THEN THEY START --AUDREY ROLOFF: WE'RE JUST LIKE
  • 00:21:04.157 --> 00:21:04.924
  • AUDREY ROLOFF: WE'RE JUST LIKESCRATCHING THE SURFACE OF THAT
  • 00:21:04.991 --> 00:21:05.725
  • SCRATCHING THE SURFACE OF THATWITH A 16-MONTH OLD, BUT YEAH.
  • 00:21:05.792 --> 00:21:06.559
  • WITH A 16-MONTH OLD, BUT YEAH.KENDAL HAGEE: WAIT UNTIL THEY
  • 00:21:06.626 --> 00:21:07.327
  • KENDAL HAGEE: WAIT UNTIL THEYBECOME TEENAGERS, AND THE EARS,
  • 00:21:07.393 --> 00:21:08.394
  • BECOME TEENAGERS, AND THE EARS,THEY HEAR EVERYTHING.
  • 00:21:08.461 --> 00:21:09.929
  • THEY HEAR EVERYTHING.WHAT ARE SOME OTHERS TOO,
  • 00:21:09.996 --> 00:21:10.730
  • WHAT ARE SOME OTHERS TOO,A COUPLE OF TIPS,
  • 00:21:10.797 --> 00:21:11.964
  • A COUPLE OF TIPS,BECAUSE THE GUYS TALKED ABOUT
  • 00:21:12.031 --> 00:21:12.932
  • BECAUSE THE GUYS TALKED ABOUTONE.
  • 00:21:12.999 --> 00:21:13.733
  • ONE.BUT CONFLICT TAKES MANY.
  • 00:21:13.800 --> 00:21:15.268
  • BUT CONFLICT TAKES MANY.AUDREY ROLOFF: RIGHT.
  • 00:21:15.335 --> 00:21:16.035
  • AUDREY ROLOFF: RIGHT.YEAH.
  • 00:21:16.102 --> 00:21:16.536
  • YEAH.WELL ONE THING THAT'S BEEN LIKE
  • 00:21:16.602 --> 00:21:17.704
  • WELL ONE THING THAT'S BEEN LIKEHUGE, PIVOTAL, PIVOTAL
  • 00:21:17.770 --> 00:21:18.671
  • HUGE, PIVOTAL, PIVOTALIN OUR MARRIAGE, UM,
  • 00:21:18.738 --> 00:21:20.139
  • IN OUR MARRIAGE, UM,WE'VE BEEN DOING IT ALMOST
  • 00:21:20.206 --> 00:21:21.507
  • WE'VE BEEN DOING IT ALMOSTEVERY SINGLE WEEK SINCE WE'VE
  • 00:21:21.574 --> 00:21:22.475
  • EVERY SINGLE WEEK SINCE WE'VEBEEN MARRIED.
  • 00:21:22.542 --> 00:21:22.875
  • BEEN MARRIED.IT'S THIS -- WE CALL IT
  • 00:21:22.942 --> 00:21:23.743
  • IT'S THIS -- WE CALL IT"OUR MARRIAGE JOURNAL."
  • 00:21:23.810 --> 00:21:25.078
  • "OUR MARRIAGE JOURNAL."BUT WE ASK EACH OTHER THE SAME
  • 00:21:25.144 --> 00:21:26.145
  • BUT WE ASK EACH OTHER THE SAMESIX QUESTIONS EVERY WEEK.
  • 00:21:26.212 --> 00:21:27.714
  • SIX QUESTIONS EVERY WEEK.AND WE WRITE DOWN OUR ANSWERS
  • 00:21:27.780 --> 00:21:28.915
  • AND WE WRITE DOWN OUR ANSWERSIN THIS JOURNAL.
  • 00:21:28.981 --> 00:21:29.382
  • IN THIS JOURNAL.AND ONE OF THE QUESTIONS IS,
  • 00:21:29.449 --> 00:21:30.950
  • AND ONE OF THE QUESTIONS IS,"IS THERE ANY UNCONFESSED SIN,
  • 00:21:31.017 --> 00:21:32.251
  • "IS THERE ANY UNCONFESSED SIN,UNRESOLVED HURT,
  • 00:21:32.318 --> 00:21:32.952
  • UNRESOLVED HURT,OR CONFLICT THAT WE NEED
  • 00:21:33.019 --> 00:21:33.986
  • OR CONFLICT THAT WE NEEDTO WORK THROUGH?"
  • 00:21:34.053 --> 00:21:34.887
  • TO WORK THROUGH?"AND SO IT GIVES US LIKE KIND OF
  • 00:21:34.954 --> 00:21:36.055
  • AND SO IT GIVES US LIKE KIND OFTHAT GOOD OPPORTUNITY
  • 00:21:36.122 --> 00:21:36.856
  • THAT GOOD OPPORTUNITYTO TALK ABOUT IT.
  • 00:21:36.923 --> 00:21:38.057
  • TO TALK ABOUT IT.AND SO YOU KNOW WHEN YOU HAVE
  • 00:21:38.124 --> 00:21:38.958
  • AND SO YOU KNOW WHEN YOU HAVETHOSE THINGS THAT COME UP
  • 00:21:39.025 --> 00:21:39.559
  • THOSE THINGS THAT COME UPTHROUGHOUT THE WEEK WHERE
  • 00:21:39.625 --> 00:21:40.093
  • THROUGHOUT THE WEEK WHEREYOU'RE LIKE,
  • 00:21:40.159 --> 00:21:40.793
  • YOU'RE LIKE,OH, THAT KIND OF BOTHERED ME.
  • 00:21:40.860 --> 00:21:41.394
  • OH, THAT KIND OF BOTHERED ME.BUT WE JUST --
  • 00:21:41.461 --> 00:21:42.028
  • BUT WE JUST --KENDAL HAGEE: YOU'RE SO BUSY
  • 00:21:42.095 --> 00:21:42.962
  • KENDAL HAGEE: YOU'RE SO BUSYIN LIFE THAT YOU FORGET
  • 00:21:43.029 --> 00:21:43.730
  • IN LIFE THAT YOU FORGETTO ASK OR TALK ABOUT IT.
  • 00:21:43.796 --> 00:21:44.764
  • TO ASK OR TALK ABOUT IT.AUDREY ROLOFF: SO THIS IS
  • 00:21:44.831 --> 00:21:45.431
  • AUDREY ROLOFF: SO THIS ISLIKE,
  • 00:21:45.498 --> 00:21:45.965
  • LIKE,IT'S A BITTERNESS PREVENTION
  • 00:21:46.032 --> 00:21:47.133
  • IT'S A BITTERNESS PREVENTIONTOOL.
  • 00:21:47.200 --> 00:21:47.667
  • TOOL.IT'S A -- IT JUST HELPS US HAVE
  • 00:21:47.734 --> 00:21:49.202
  • IT'S A -- IT JUST HELPS US HAVEHONEST CONVERSATIONS AND HAVE
  • 00:21:49.268 --> 00:21:50.870
  • HONEST CONVERSATIONS AND HAVETHAT TIME AND SPACE
  • 00:21:50.937 --> 00:21:51.604
  • THAT TIME AND SPACETHAT'S ALREADY CRAFTED.
  • 00:21:51.671 --> 00:21:52.405
  • THAT'S ALREADY CRAFTED.WE KNOW SUNDAY NIGHT,
  • 00:21:52.472 --> 00:21:53.272
  • WE KNOW SUNDAY NIGHT,WE'RE GOING TO HAVE
  • 00:21:53.339 --> 00:21:54.006
  • WE'RE GOING TO HAVETHE OPPORTUNITY.
  • 00:21:54.073 --> 00:21:54.974
  • THE OPPORTUNITY.KENDAL HAGEE: OH, I LIKE THAT.
  • 00:21:55.041 --> 00:21:55.708
  • KENDAL HAGEE: OH, I LIKE THAT.AUBREY ROLOFF: AND SO THE
  • 00:21:55.775 --> 00:21:56.576
  • AUBREY ROLOFF: AND SO THEQUESTIONS ARE SUPER SIMPLE,
  • 00:21:56.642 --> 00:21:57.310
  • QUESTIONS ARE SUPER SIMPLE,AND THAT'S JUST ONE OF THEM.
  • 00:21:57.377 --> 00:21:58.010
  • AND THAT'S JUST ONE OF THEM.BUT IT'S REALLY HELPED US LIKE
  • 00:21:58.077 --> 00:21:58.945
  • BUT IT'S REALLY HELPED US LIKECOMMUNICATE OUR EXPECTATIONS,
  • 00:21:59.011 --> 00:22:01.147
  • COMMUNICATE OUR EXPECTATIONS,AND THEN JUST WORK THROUGH
  • 00:22:01.214 --> 00:22:02.248
  • AND THEN JUST WORK THROUGHTHINGS THAT WE NEED TO.
  • 00:22:02.315 --> 00:22:03.282
  • THINGS THAT WE NEED TO.SO THAT'S BEEN ONE THING
  • 00:22:03.349 --> 00:22:04.717
  • SO THAT'S BEEN ONE THINGTHAT'S LIKE SUPER,
  • 00:22:04.784 --> 00:22:05.985
  • THAT'S LIKE SUPER,PROBABLY THE MOST HELPFUL THING
  • 00:22:06.052 --> 00:22:07.453
  • PROBABLY THE MOST HELPFUL THINGIN TERMS OF PREVENTING
  • 00:22:07.520 --> 00:22:08.388
  • IN TERMS OF PREVENTINGCONFLICT.
  • 00:22:08.454 --> 00:22:09.822
  • CONFLICT.KENDAL HAGEE: BECAUSE YOU GET
  • 00:22:09.889 --> 00:22:10.690
  • KENDAL HAGEE: BECAUSE YOU GETIT OUT.
  • 00:22:10.757 --> 00:22:11.224
  • IT OUT.AUDREY ROLOFF: RIGHT.
  • 00:22:11.290 --> 00:22:11.891
  • AUDREY ROLOFF: RIGHT.KENDAL HAGEE: AND DISCUSS IT
  • 00:22:11.958 --> 00:22:12.458
  • KENDAL HAGEE: AND DISCUSS ITBEFORE IT BECOMES INTO A HUGE
  • 00:22:12.525 --> 00:22:13.426
  • BEFORE IT BECOMES INTO A HUGEBLOWOUT AND THE HUSBAND
  • 00:22:13.493 --> 00:22:14.394
  • BLOWOUT AND THE HUSBANDGOES TO HIS CAVE,
  • 00:22:14.460 --> 00:22:15.161
  • GOES TO HIS CAVE,AND WOMAN GETS UPSET
  • 00:22:15.228 --> 00:22:16.095
  • AND WOMAN GETS UPSETBECAUSE SHE FEELS UNLOVED,
  • 00:22:16.162 --> 00:22:17.597
  • BECAUSE SHE FEELS UNLOVED,AND HE FEELS DISRESPECTED.
  • 00:22:17.663 --> 00:22:18.931
  • AND HE FEELS DISRESPECTED.AUDREY ROLOFF: YES.
  • 00:22:18.998 --> 00:22:19.699
  • AUDREY ROLOFF: YES.SO THAT'S BEEN REALLY HELPFUL.
  • 00:22:19.766 --> 00:22:21.601
  • SO THAT'S BEEN REALLY HELPFUL.AND THEN OTHER THINGS
  • 00:22:21.667 --> 00:22:22.368
  • AND THEN OTHER THINGSI WOULD JUST SAY, I MEAN
  • 00:22:22.435 --> 00:22:24.003
  • I WOULD JUST SAY, I MEANPROBABLY YOU'RE FAMILIAR WITH,
  • 00:22:24.070 --> 00:22:25.004
  • PROBABLY YOU'RE FAMILIAR WITH,LIKE LOVE LANGUAGES AND STUFF
  • 00:22:25.071 --> 00:22:26.172
  • LIKE LOVE LANGUAGES AND STUFFLIKE THAT.
  • 00:22:26.239 --> 00:22:26.873
  • LIKE THAT.KENDAL HAGEE: YES, YES.
  • 00:22:26.939 --> 00:22:27.473
  • KENDAL HAGEE: YES, YES.AUDREY ROLOFF: BUT JUST KNOWING
  • 00:22:27.540 --> 00:22:28.107
  • AUDREY ROLOFF: BUT JUST KNOWINGLOVE LANGUAGES.
  • 00:22:28.174 --> 00:22:28.775
  • LOVE LANGUAGES.SOMETHING WE'VE ALSO REALLY
  • 00:22:28.841 --> 00:22:29.675
  • SOMETHING WE'VE ALSO REALLYLOVED AS A TOOL LATELY
  • 00:22:29.742 --> 00:22:30.743
  • LOVED AS A TOOL LATELYIS THE ANAGRAM.
  • 00:22:30.810 --> 00:22:31.577
  • IS THE ANAGRAM.AND JUST LEARNING LIKE --
  • 00:22:31.644 --> 00:22:32.478
  • AND JUST LEARNING LIKE --KENDAL HAGEE: I HEARD ABOUT
  • 00:22:32.545 --> 00:22:33.045
  • KENDAL HAGEE: I HEARD ABOUTTHAT BUT I HAVEN'T DONE THAT.
  • 00:22:33.112 --> 00:22:34.847
  • THAT BUT I HAVEN'T DONE THAT.AUDREY ROLOFF: IT'S BEEN
  • 00:22:34.914 --> 00:22:35.381
  • AUDREY ROLOFF: IT'S BEENREALLY HELPFUL.
  • 00:22:35.448 --> 00:22:35.915
  • REALLY HELPFUL.I MEAN YOU CAN GET KIND OF TOO
  • 00:22:35.982 --> 00:22:36.682
  • I MEAN YOU CAN GET KIND OF TOOSUCKED INTO IT SO YOU HAVE
  • 00:22:36.749 --> 00:22:37.750
  • SUCKED INTO IT SO YOU HAVETO BE CAREFUL WITH THAT.
  • 00:22:37.817 --> 00:22:38.384
  • TO BE CAREFUL WITH THAT.BUT IT'S BEEN A REALLY HELPFUL,
  • 00:22:38.451 --> 00:22:40.052
  • BUT IT'S BEEN A REALLY HELPFUL,JUST SELF-DISCOVERY FOR
  • 00:22:40.119 --> 00:22:41.254
  • JUST SELF-DISCOVERY FORSELF-GROW TOOL FOR US.
  • 00:22:41.320 --> 00:22:42.989
  • SELF-GROW TOOL FOR US.AND SO WE'VE JUST LEARNED LIKE,
  • 00:22:43.055 --> 00:22:44.157
  • AND SO WE'VE JUST LEARNED LIKE,OKAY, THIS IS HOW JEREMY
  • 00:22:44.223 --> 00:22:45.191
  • OKAY, THIS IS HOW JEREMYWAS RAISED IN SITUATIONS
  • 00:22:45.258 --> 00:22:47.059
  • WAS RAISED IN SITUATIONSOF CONFLICT.
  • 00:22:47.126 --> 00:22:47.660
  • OF CONFLICT.THIS IS HOW I WAS RAISED
  • 00:22:47.727 --> 00:22:48.494
  • THIS IS HOW I WAS RAISEDIN SITUATIONS OF CONFLICT.
  • 00:22:48.561 --> 00:22:49.862
  • IN SITUATIONS OF CONFLICT.KENDAL HAGEE: SO HOW CAN WE
  • 00:22:49.929 --> 00:22:50.430
  • KENDAL HAGEE: SO HOW CAN WEBLEND?
  • 00:22:50.496 --> 00:22:51.063
  • BLEND?AUDREY ROLOFF: HERE'S HOW
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  • AUDREY ROLOFF: HERE'S HOWOUR PERSONALITY LIKE HANDLE
  • 00:22:51.831 --> 00:22:52.465
  • OUR PERSONALITY LIKE HANDLECONFLICT DIFFERENTLY,
  • 00:22:52.532 --> 00:22:52.999
  • CONFLICT DIFFERENTLY,AND THEN REALIZING THOSE
  • 00:22:53.065 --> 00:22:53.633
  • AND THEN REALIZING THOSEDIFFERENCES HAS REALLY HELPED
  • 00:22:53.699 --> 00:22:54.567
  • DIFFERENCES HAS REALLY HELPEDUS LIKE APPROACH THE ISSUES
  • 00:22:54.634 --> 00:22:56.869
  • US LIKE APPROACH THE ISSUESIN A BETTER WAY.
  • 00:22:56.936 --> 00:22:58.237
  • IN A BETTER WAY.UM, AND SO THOSE THINGS HAVE
  • 00:22:58.304 --> 00:23:00.173
  • UM, AND SO THOSE THINGS HAVEBEEN HELPFUL TOOLS AS WELL.
  • 00:23:00.239 --> 00:23:01.407
  • BEEN HELPFUL TOOLS AS WELL.KENDAL HAGEE: THESE ARE
  • 00:23:01.474 --> 00:23:01.974
  • KENDAL HAGEE: THESE AREAWESOME.
  • 00:23:02.041 --> 00:23:02.742
  • AWESOME.THANK YOU, AUDREY.
  • 00:23:02.809 --> 00:23:03.276
  • THANK YOU, AUDREY.AUDREY ROLOFF: THANK YOU FOR
  • 00:23:03.342 --> 00:23:03.843
  • AUDREY ROLOFF: THANK YOU FORHAVING ME.
  • 00:23:03.910 --> 00:23:04.410
  • HAVING ME.KENDAL HAGEE: THANK YOU FOR
  • 00:23:04.477 --> 00:23:05.111
  • KENDAL HAGEE: THANK YOU FORJOINING ME.
  • 00:23:05.178 --> 00:23:05.611
  • JOINING ME.NOW ON █ THE DIFFERENCE MAKER
  • 00:23:05.678 --> 00:23:06.312
  • NOW ON █ THE DIFFERENCE MAKERIS DR. EMERSON EGGERICHS,
  • 00:23:06.379 --> 00:23:06.979
  • IS DR. EMERSON EGGERICHS,WHO WILL SHARE WITH US
  • 00:23:07.046 --> 00:23:07.747
  • WHO WILL SHARE WITH USON THE TOPIC OF "WHAT TO DO
  • 00:23:07.814 --> 00:23:09.482
  • ON THE TOPIC OF "WHAT TO DOBEFORE YOU HIT SEND."
  • 00:23:09.549 --> 00:23:11.217
  • BEFORE YOU HIT SEND."♪ MUSIC ♪
  • 00:23:11.284 --> 00:23:19.725
  • ♪ MUSIC ♪DR. EGGERICHS: HARPER COLLINS,
  • 00:23:19.792 --> 00:23:20.927
  • DR. EGGERICHS: HARPER COLLINS,MY PUBLISHER,
  • 00:23:20.993 --> 00:23:21.627
  • MY PUBLISHER,ASKED ME TO WRITE A BOOK
  • 00:23:21.694 --> 00:23:22.662
  • ASKED ME TO WRITE A BOOKCALLED "BEFORE YOU HIT SEND."
  • 00:23:22.728 --> 00:23:24.363
  • CALLED "BEFORE YOU HIT SEND.""BEFORE YOU HIT SEND."
  • 00:23:24.430 --> 00:23:26.032
  • "BEFORE YOU HIT SEND."THEY WERE CONCERNED ABOUT THE,
  • 00:23:26.098 --> 00:23:28.234
  • THEY WERE CONCERNED ABOUT THE,YOU KNOW, THE SOCIAL MEDIA
  • 00:23:28.301 --> 00:23:29.368
  • YOU KNOW, THE SOCIAL MEDIAAND HOW PEOPLE ARE SAYING
  • 00:23:29.435 --> 00:23:31.003
  • AND HOW PEOPLE ARE SAYINGTHINGS WITHOUT THINKING;
  • 00:23:31.070 --> 00:23:32.839
  • THINGS WITHOUT THINKING;YOU KNOW?
  • 00:23:32.905 --> 00:23:33.306
  • YOU KNOW?ONE WOMAN SAID,
  • 00:23:33.372 --> 00:23:33.906
  • ONE WOMAN SAID,"YOU KNOW THAT LITTLE THING
  • 00:23:33.973 --> 00:23:34.507
  • "YOU KNOW THAT LITTLE THINGIN THE BACK OF YOUR BRAIN
  • 00:23:34.574 --> 00:23:35.741
  • IN THE BACK OF YOUR BRAINTHAT TELLS YOU NOT TO SAY
  • 00:23:35.808 --> 00:23:36.742
  • THAT TELLS YOU NOT TO SAYSOMETHING BEFORE YOU SAY IT?"
  • 00:23:36.809 --> 00:23:38.544
  • SOMETHING BEFORE YOU SAY IT?"AND I SAID, "YEAH."
  • 00:23:38.611 --> 00:23:39.078
  • AND I SAID, "YEAH."SHE SAID, "WELL I DON'T.
  • 00:23:39.145 --> 00:23:39.812
  • SHE SAID, "WELL I DON'T.I DON'T HAVE
  • 00:23:39.879 --> 00:23:40.446
  • I DON'T HAVETHAT LITTLE THING."
  • 00:23:40.513 --> 00:23:41.147
  • THAT LITTLE THING."(CHUCKLES)
  • 00:23:41.214 --> 00:23:41.948
  • (CHUCKLES)I THOUGHT WELL SHE ACTUALLY
  • 00:23:42.014 --> 00:23:42.949
  • I THOUGHT WELL SHE ACTUALLYDOES AND ALL OF US DO,
  • 00:23:43.015 --> 00:23:44.650
  • DOES AND ALL OF US DO,BUT YOU KNOW WE'VE ALL HEARD
  • 00:23:44.717 --> 00:23:45.985
  • BUT YOU KNOW WE'VE ALL HEARD"YOU NEED TO THINK
  • 00:23:46.052 --> 00:23:47.086
  • "YOU NEED TO THINKBEFORE YOU SPEAK."
  • 00:23:47.153 --> 00:23:48.387
  • BEFORE YOU SPEAK."BUT WE'VE COME TO THIS POINT
  • 00:23:48.454 --> 00:23:49.722
  • BUT WE'VE COME TO THIS POINTWITH SOCIAL MEDIA,
  • 00:23:49.789 --> 00:23:50.790
  • WITH SOCIAL MEDIA,EVEN INTERPERSONALLY,
  • 00:23:50.857 --> 00:23:52.191
  • EVEN INTERPERSONALLY,THAT SOMEHOW WE FEEL THAT
  • 00:23:52.258 --> 00:23:53.793
  • THAT SOMEHOW WE FEEL THATWE HAVE A RIGHT TO SAY
  • 00:23:53.860 --> 00:23:54.961
  • WE HAVE A RIGHT TO SAYWHATEVER IT IS THAT WE'RE
  • 00:23:55.027 --> 00:23:55.895
  • WHATEVER IT IS THAT WE'REFEELING AT THE MOMENT.
  • 00:23:55.962 --> 00:23:57.830
  • FEELING AT THE MOMENT.AND I CERTAINLY, FOR ONE,
  • 00:23:57.897 --> 00:23:59.065
  • AND I CERTAINLY, FOR ONE,DIDN'T WANT TO BE GUILTY
  • 00:23:59.131 --> 00:24:00.299
  • DIDN'T WANT TO BE GUILTYOF THAT,
  • 00:24:00.366 --> 00:24:00.700
  • OF THAT,BECAUSE IT TENDS TO MESS UP
  • 00:24:00.766 --> 00:24:02.201
  • BECAUSE IT TENDS TO MESS UPRELATIONSHIPS QUITE QUICKLY.
  • 00:24:02.268 --> 00:24:04.270
  • RELATIONSHIPS QUITE QUICKLY.BUT I USED TO SAY TO MYSELF,
  • 00:24:04.337 --> 00:24:05.438
  • BUT I USED TO SAY TO MYSELF,IS THERE ANY KIND OF CRITERIA
  • 00:24:05.505 --> 00:24:07.473
  • IS THERE ANY KIND OF CRITERIATHAT I COULD USE THAT WOULD
  • 00:24:07.540 --> 00:24:08.474
  • THAT I COULD USE THAT WOULDHELP ME, YOU KNOW,
  • 00:24:08.541 --> 00:24:10.343
  • HELP ME, YOU KNOW,KIND OF THINK BEFORE I SPEAK?
  • 00:24:10.409 --> 00:24:12.645
  • KIND OF THINK BEFORE I SPEAK?YOU KNOW I DIDN'T WANT TO PUT
  • 00:24:12.712 --> 00:24:14.146
  • YOU KNOW I DIDN'T WANT TO PUTBOTH FEET IN MY MOUTH
  • 00:24:14.213 --> 00:24:15.848
  • BOTH FEET IN MY MOUTHAND THEN WONDER WHY I COULDN'T
  • 00:24:15.915 --> 00:24:16.983
  • AND THEN WONDER WHY I COULDN'TWALK.
  • 00:24:17.049 --> 00:24:17.750
  • WALK.YOU KNOW I MEAN ALL OF US
  • 00:24:17.817 --> 00:24:18.718
  • YOU KNOW I MEAN ALL OF USHAVE COME TO THAT POINT
  • 00:24:18.784 --> 00:24:19.652
  • HAVE COME TO THAT POINTWHERE WISDOM, CREDIBILITY,
  • 00:24:19.719 --> 00:24:21.554
  • WHERE WISDOM, CREDIBILITY,OUR REPUTATION --
  • 00:24:21.621 --> 00:24:22.388
  • OUR REPUTATION --SOME OF US HAVE COME TO
  • 00:24:22.455 --> 00:24:23.089
  • SOME OF US HAVE COME TOA POINT WHERE I DON'T CARE
  • 00:24:23.155 --> 00:24:23.823
  • A POINT WHERE I DON'T CAREWHAT ANYBODY THINKS ABOUT ME
  • 00:24:23.890 --> 00:24:25.224
  • WHAT ANYBODY THINKS ABOUT MEAND I CAN'T REALLY SERVE
  • 00:24:25.291 --> 00:24:26.359
  • AND I CAN'T REALLY SERVETHAT PERSON.
  • 00:24:26.425 --> 00:24:27.159
  • THAT PERSON.BUT MOST OF US WANT TO BE
  • 00:24:27.226 --> 00:24:28.561
  • BUT MOST OF US WANT TO BETHOUGHTFUL ABOUT THIS.
  • 00:24:28.628 --> 00:24:30.129
  • THOUGHTFUL ABOUT THIS.AND INTERESTINGLY,
  • 00:24:30.196 --> 00:24:31.597
  • AND INTERESTINGLY,SOCRATES SAID, "YOU NEED
  • 00:24:31.664 --> 00:24:32.965
  • SOCRATES SAID, "YOU NEEDTO ASK THREE THINGS."
  • 00:24:33.032 --> 00:24:33.833
  • TO ASK THREE THINGS."AND I'VE ADDED A FOURTH.
  • 00:24:33.900 --> 00:24:35.601
  • AND I'VE ADDED A FOURTH.IS IT TRUE?
  • 00:24:35.668 --> 00:24:37.637
  • IS IT TRUE?IS IT KIND?
  • 00:24:37.703 --> 00:24:39.672
  • IS IT KIND?AND IS IT NECESSARY?
  • 00:24:39.739 --> 00:24:41.941
  • AND IS IT NECESSARY?AND I SEE THAT ALL OVER
  • 00:24:42.008 --> 00:24:43.209
  • AND I SEE THAT ALL OVERSCRIPTURE.
  • 00:24:43.276 --> 00:24:44.443
  • SCRIPTURE.AND I'VE ADDED A FOURTH
  • 00:24:44.510 --> 00:24:45.545
  • AND I'VE ADDED A FOURTHBECAUSE I'VE ALSO SEEN THAT
  • 00:24:45.611 --> 00:24:46.412
  • BECAUSE I'VE ALSO SEEN THATIN THE BIBLE.
  • 00:24:46.479 --> 00:24:47.480
  • IN THE BIBLE.IS IT CLEAR?
  • 00:24:47.547 --> 00:24:49.148
  • IS IT CLEAR?AND WE DID RESEARCH ON THIS
  • 00:24:49.215 --> 00:24:50.249
  • AND WE DID RESEARCH ON THISAND THOSE ARE FOUR DISTINCT
  • 00:24:50.316 --> 00:24:51.651
  • AND THOSE ARE FOUR DISTINCTCONCEPTS.
  • 00:24:51.717 --> 00:24:52.184
  • CONCEPTS.THEY DON'T BLEED OVER.
  • 00:24:52.251 --> 00:24:52.985
  • THEY DON'T BLEED OVER.THEY'RE LIKE FOUR LEGS
  • 00:24:53.052 --> 00:24:54.320
  • THEY'RE LIKE FOUR LEGSON A TABLE.
  • 00:24:54.387 --> 00:24:55.788
  • ON A TABLE.LET ME ENCOURAGE YOU;
  • 00:24:55.855 --> 00:24:56.656
  • LET ME ENCOURAGE YOU;THE NEXT TIME YOU'RE ABOUT
  • 00:24:56.722 --> 00:24:57.823
  • THE NEXT TIME YOU'RE ABOUTTO SAY SOMETHING,
  • 00:24:57.890 --> 00:24:58.758
  • TO SAY SOMETHING,AND YOU THINK;
  • 00:24:58.824 --> 00:24:59.292
  • AND YOU THINK;WELL I SAID IT BECAUSE I DON'T
  • 00:24:59.358 --> 00:25:00.159
  • WELL I SAID IT BECAUSE I DON'THAVE THAT LITTLE THING,
  • 00:25:00.226 --> 00:25:01.394
  • HAVE THAT LITTLE THING,ASK YOURSELF THESE FOUR THINGS
  • 00:25:01.460 --> 00:25:02.862
  • ASK YOURSELF THESE FOUR THINGSAND SEE IF YOU'RE GOING TO
  • 00:25:02.929 --> 00:25:03.529
  • AND SEE IF YOU'RE GOING TOPROCEED WITH IT.
  • 00:25:03.596 --> 00:25:04.163
  • PROCEED WITH IT.THEN IF YOU CAN ANSWER THOSE,
  • 00:25:04.230 --> 00:25:05.865
  • THEN IF YOU CAN ANSWER THOSE,THEN PROCEED.
  • 00:25:05.932 --> 00:25:07.133
  • THEN PROCEED.IS IT TRUE?
  • 00:25:07.199 --> 00:25:07.867
  • IS IT TRUE?IS IT KIND?
  • 00:25:07.934 --> 00:25:08.534
  • IS IT KIND?IS IT NECESSARY?
  • 00:25:08.601 --> 00:25:09.402
  • IS IT NECESSARY?IS IT CLEAR?
  • 00:25:09.468 --> 00:25:10.136
  • IS IT CLEAR?IF IT IS, SPEAK IT.
  • 00:25:10.202 --> 00:25:11.871
  • IF IT IS, SPEAK IT.IF IT ISN'T, IT'S NOT TIME.
  • 00:25:11.938 --> 00:25:13.839
  • IF IT ISN'T, IT'S NOT TIME.♪ MUSIC ♪
  • 00:25:13.906 --> 00:25:23.649
  • ♪ MUSIC ♪MATT HAGEE: THANK YOU
  • 00:25:23.716 --> 00:25:24.350
  • MATT HAGEE: THANK YOUFOR JOINING US TODAY ON
  • 00:25:24.417 --> 00:25:25.351
  • FOR JOINING US TODAY ON"THE DIFFERENCE."
  • 00:25:25.418 --> 00:25:26.052
  • "THE DIFFERENCE."YOU KNOW KENDAL,
  • 00:25:26.118 --> 00:25:26.686
  • YOU KNOW KENDAL,ONE OF THE THINGS
  • 00:25:26.752 --> 00:25:27.253
  • ONE OF THE THINGSTHAT I APPRECIATE ABOUT
  • 00:25:27.320 --> 00:25:28.020
  • THAT I APPRECIATE ABOUTWHAT DR. EMERSON WAS SAYING
  • 00:25:28.087 --> 00:25:29.956
  • WHAT DR. EMERSON WAS SAYINGIS THAT YOU SHOULD THINK
  • 00:25:30.022 --> 00:25:31.090
  • IS THAT YOU SHOULD THINKBEFORE YOU HIT "SEND."
  • 00:25:31.157 --> 00:25:32.325
  • BEFORE YOU HIT "SEND."KENDAL HAGEE: THAT'S RIGHT.
  • 00:25:32.391 --> 00:25:33.025
  • KENDAL HAGEE: THAT'S RIGHT.MATT HAGEE: SOMETHING THAT
  • 00:25:33.092 --> 00:25:33.659
  • MATT HAGEE: SOMETHING THATI ENCOURAGE PEOPLE TO DO IS,
  • 00:25:33.726 --> 00:25:35.194
  • I ENCOURAGE PEOPLE TO DO IS,YOU KNOW,
  • 00:25:35.261 --> 00:25:35.695
  • YOU KNOW,IF YOU'RE GOING TO E-MAIL
  • 00:25:35.761 --> 00:25:36.429
  • IF YOU'RE GOING TO E-MAILSOMETHING TO SOMEBODY,
  • 00:25:36.495 --> 00:25:37.797
  • SOMETHING TO SOMEBODY,WHY DON'T YOU JUST PRINT IT
  • 00:25:37.863 --> 00:25:38.464
  • WHY DON'T YOU JUST PRINT ITOUT,
  • 00:25:38.531 --> 00:25:39.131
  • OUT,WALK IT DOWN TO THEIR OFFICE,
  • 00:25:39.198 --> 00:25:40.132
  • WALK IT DOWN TO THEIR OFFICE,AND READ IT TO THEM.
  • 00:25:40.199 --> 00:25:41.267
  • AND READ IT TO THEM.BECAUSE IF YOU CAN SAY IT
  • 00:25:41.334 --> 00:25:42.101
  • BECAUSE IF YOU CAN SAY ITFACE-TO-FACE,
  • 00:25:42.168 --> 00:25:42.969
  • FACE-TO-FACE,THEN YOU PROBABLY REALLY
  • 00:25:43.035 --> 00:25:43.736
  • THEN YOU PROBABLY REALLYMEAN IT.
  • 00:25:43.803 --> 00:25:44.270
  • MEAN IT.IF THE ONLY WAY YOU CAN SAY
  • 00:25:44.337 --> 00:25:45.037
  • IF THE ONLY WAY YOU CAN SAYIT IS IN AN E-MAIL,
  • 00:25:45.104 --> 00:25:46.439
  • IT IS IN AN E-MAIL,THEN IT'S PROBABLY JUST MORE
  • 00:25:46.505 --> 00:25:47.273
  • THEN IT'S PROBABLY JUST MOREEMOTION THAN IT IS REALITY.
  • 00:25:47.340 --> 00:25:49.442
  • EMOTION THAN IT IS REALITY.KENDAL HAGEE: YES.
  • 00:25:49.508 --> 00:25:49.942
  • KENDAL HAGEE: YES.KENDAL HAGEE: YOU KNOW WHEN IT
  • 00:25:50.009 --> 00:25:50.643
  • KENDAL HAGEE: YOU KNOW WHEN ITCAME TO EMOTIONS,
  • 00:25:50.710 --> 00:25:51.177
  • CAME TO EMOTIONS,JEREMY AND AUDREY BROUGHT UP
  • 00:25:51.243 --> 00:25:52.011
  • JEREMY AND AUDREY BROUGHT UPSOME GOOD POINTS ABOUT
  • 00:25:52.078 --> 00:25:52.979
  • SOME GOOD POINTS ABOUTCONFLICT RESOLUTION.
  • 00:25:53.045 --> 00:25:53.913
  • CONFLICT RESOLUTION.KENDAL HAGEE: YEAH,
  • 00:25:53.980 --> 00:25:54.747
  • KENDAL HAGEE: YEAH,TALKED ABOUT HOLDING EACH
  • 00:25:54.814 --> 00:25:55.848
  • TALKED ABOUT HOLDING EACHOTHER'S HAND
  • 00:25:55.915 --> 00:25:56.649
  • OTHER'S HANDIF THEY'RE IN CONFLICT.
  • 00:25:56.716 --> 00:25:58.050
  • IF THEY'RE IN CONFLICT.I DON'T KNOW IF YOU'D PINCH
  • 00:25:58.117 --> 00:25:58.684
  • I DON'T KNOW IF YOU'D PINCHMY THUMB OR ANYTHING,
  • 00:25:58.751 --> 00:25:59.819
  • MY THUMB OR ANYTHING,BUT WE'RE GOING TO TRY THAT.
  • 00:25:59.885 --> 00:26:01.253
  • BUT WE'RE GOING TO TRY THAT.MATT HAGEE: MAYBE.
  • 00:26:01.320 --> 00:26:02.254
  • MATT HAGEE: MAYBE.YOU KNOW IN ANY SITUATION,
  • 00:26:02.321 --> 00:26:04.256
  • YOU KNOW IN ANY SITUATION,I THINK IT'S IMPORTANT THAT YOU
  • 00:26:04.323 --> 00:26:05.791
  • I THINK IT'S IMPORTANT THAT YOUAND YOUR SPOUSE HAVE
  • 00:26:05.858 --> 00:26:06.859
  • AND YOUR SPOUSE HAVECLEAR COMMUNICATION ABOUT
  • 00:26:06.926 --> 00:26:07.994
  • CLEAR COMMUNICATION ABOUTWHAT YOU'RE EXPECTATIONS ARE,
  • 00:26:08.060 --> 00:26:09.662
  • WHAT YOU'RE EXPECTATIONS ARE,BECAUSE A LOT OF FRUSTRATIONS
  • 00:26:09.729 --> 00:26:10.730
  • BECAUSE A LOT OF FRUSTRATIONSARE CREATED WHEN YOU HAVE UNMET
  • 00:26:10.796 --> 00:26:12.865
  • ARE CREATED WHEN YOU HAVE UNMETAND UNREALIZED EXPECTATIONS.
  • 00:26:12.932 --> 00:26:14.700
  • AND UNREALIZED EXPECTATIONS.MOST OF THE TIME WHEN THAT
  • 00:26:14.767 --> 00:26:15.668
  • MOST OF THE TIME WHEN THATHAPPENS BETWEEN KENDAL AND IT,
  • 00:26:15.735 --> 00:26:17.069
  • HAPPENS BETWEEN KENDAL AND IT,IT'S BECAUSE SHE DIDN'T KNOW
  • 00:26:17.136 --> 00:26:18.204
  • IT'S BECAUSE SHE DIDN'T KNOWWHAT I EXPECTED OR I DIDN'T
  • 00:26:18.270 --> 00:26:19.238
  • WHAT I EXPECTED OR I DIDN'TKNOW WHAT SHE EXPECTED.
  • 00:26:19.305 --> 00:26:20.640
  • KNOW WHAT SHE EXPECTED.AND UNTIL BOTH OF US ARE AWARE
  • 00:26:20.706 --> 00:26:22.608
  • AND UNTIL BOTH OF US ARE AWAREOF WHAT'S NEEDED,
  • 00:26:22.675 --> 00:26:23.743
  • OF WHAT'S NEEDED,THEN WE CAN'T KNOW WHAT WE'RE
  • 00:26:23.809 --> 00:26:25.711
  • THEN WE CAN'T KNOW WHAT WE'RETRYING TO ACCOMPLISH
  • 00:26:25.778 --> 00:26:26.712
  • TRYING TO ACCOMPLISHIN THAT MOMENT.
  • 00:26:26.779 --> 00:26:27.947
  • IN THAT MOMENT.I WANT YOU TO GET A COPY
  • 00:26:28.014 --> 00:26:29.448
  • I WANT YOU TO GET A COPYOF JEREMY AND AUDREY'S BOOK.
  • 00:26:29.515 --> 00:26:30.850
  • OF JEREMY AND AUDREY'S BOOK.I WANT YOU TO SHARE IT
  • 00:26:30.916 --> 00:26:31.817
  • I WANT YOU TO SHARE ITWITH PEOPLE THAT ARE EITHER
  • 00:26:31.884 --> 00:26:33.386
  • WITH PEOPLE THAT ARE EITHERGETTING READY TO BE MARRIED,
  • 00:26:33.452 --> 00:26:34.420
  • GETTING READY TO BE MARRIED,OR RECENTLY MARRIED,
  • 00:26:34.487 --> 00:26:35.321
  • OR RECENTLY MARRIED,OR TRYING TO FIGURE OUT WHAT
  • 00:26:35.388 --> 00:26:36.222
  • OR TRYING TO FIGURE OUT WHATTO DO WITH THEIR MARRIAGE.
  • 00:26:36.288 --> 00:26:37.690
  • TO DO WITH THEIR MARRIAGE.BECAUSE I ASSURE YOU,
  • 00:26:37.757 --> 00:26:38.658
  • BECAUSE I ASSURE YOU,A LOVE LETTER OF THEIR LIFE
  • 00:26:38.724 --> 00:26:40.026
  • A LOVE LETTER OF THEIR LIFEAS A GIFT TO SOMEONE ELSE
  • 00:26:40.092 --> 00:26:41.394
  • AS A GIFT TO SOMEONE ELSEIS QUITE A BLESSING.
  • 00:26:41.460 --> 00:26:42.361
  • IS QUITE A BLESSING.KENDAL HAGEE: FOR MORE
  • 00:26:42.428 --> 00:26:43.195
  • KENDAL HAGEE: FOR MOREINFORMATION ON WHAT IS GOING ON
  • 00:26:43.262 --> 00:26:44.030
  • INFORMATION ON WHAT IS GOING ONAT HAGEE MINISTRIES,
  • 00:26:44.096 --> 00:26:45.131
  • AT HAGEE MINISTRIES,CHECK US OUT AT OUR WEBSITE,
  • 00:26:45.197 --> 00:26:46.432
  • CHECK US OUT AT OUR WEBSITE,JHM.ORG.
  • 00:26:46.499 --> 00:26:47.833
  • JHM.ORG.AND BE SURE TO FOLLOW US
  • 00:26:47.900 --> 00:26:49.035
  • AND BE SURE TO FOLLOW USON SOCIAL MEDIA.
  • 00:26:49.101 --> 00:26:50.269
  • ON SOCIAL MEDIA.WE'LL SEE YOU RIGHT HERE NEXT
  • 00:26:50.336 --> 00:26:51.470
  • WE'LL SEE YOU RIGHT HERE NEXTWEEK ON "THE DIFFERENCE."
  • 00:26:51.537 --> 00:26:52.571
  • WEEK ON "THE DIFFERENCE."MATT HAGEE: IT'S ALWAYS A JOY
  • 00:26:52.638 --> 00:26:53.305
  • MATT HAGEE: IT'S ALWAYS A JOYTO HAVE YOU WITH US.
  • 00:26:53.372 --> 00:26:54.273
  • TO HAVE YOU WITH US.WE LOOK FORWARD TO SEEING YOU
  • 00:26:54.340 --> 00:26:55.174
  • WE LOOK FORWARD TO SEEING YOUAGAIN VERY SOON.
  • 00:26:55.241 --> 00:26:56.175
  • AGAIN VERY SOON.IF THERE'S SOMETHING YOU'D
  • 00:26:56.242 --> 00:26:56.942
  • IF THERE'S SOMETHING YOU'DLIKE TO SEE HERE ON
  • 00:26:57.009 --> 00:26:57.710
  • LIKE TO SEE HERE ON"THE DIFFERENCE,"
  • 00:26:57.777 --> 00:26:58.678
  • "THE DIFFERENCE,"GO TO US ON INSTAGRAM,
  • 00:26:58.744 --> 00:26:59.812
  • GO TO US ON INSTAGRAM,FACEBOOK, SOCIAL MEDIA.
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  • FACEBOOK, SOCIAL MEDIA.LET US KNOW HOW WE CAN MAKE
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