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Gary Chapman: The 5 Love Languages

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February 1, 2021
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Making the New York times best-seller list since 2007, the Five Love Languages is a best-seller over, and over. Dr. Gary Chapman explains how he came to discover the 5 love languages and dives into each one in-depth, with practical and encouraging lessons for us all, to transform the way we love one another.

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  • - TONIGHT ON PRAISE FROMDALLAS, NUMBER ONE NEW
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  • YORK TIMES BEST-SELLINGAUTHOR, SPEAKER AND
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  • COUNSELOR DOCTORGARY CHAPMAN.
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  • ♪♪
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  • - AND NOW, MATTAND LAURIE CROUCH.
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  • - MATT CROUCH: WEWELCOME YOU TO PRAISE
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  • RIGHT HERE INDALLAS, TEXAS.
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  • AND TODAY IS A BUCKETLIST EVENT FOR LAURIE
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  • AND ME.
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  • THE FIVE LOVE LANGUAGES.
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  • DOCTOR GARY CHAPMAN,KIND OF UNPACK WHAT YOU
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  • WROTE NOW SOMEALMOST 30 YEARS AGO.
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  • - DR. CHAPMAN: WE'RE GOING TOTALK ABOUT THE MOST IMPORTANT
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  • WORD IN THE ENGLISHLANGUAGE OR ANY LANGUAGE.
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  • - LAURIE: YEP.
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  • - AND THE MOSTCONFUSING WORD.
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  • [LAUGHTER]
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  • I SAY THAT LOVE IS THEMOST IMPORTANT WORD
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  • BECAUSE JESUS ONCE SAID,THIS IS THE WAY THAT THEY
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  • CAN TELL THAT YOUARE MY DISCIPLES.
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  • HE GAVE THE NON-CHRISTIANWORLD THE RIGHT TO JUDGE
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  • WHETHER OR NOT WE'REFOLLOWING HIM BY THE WAY
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  • WE LOVE EACH OTHER.
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  • - WOW.
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  • - BUT I SAY IT'S THEMOST CONFUSING WORD
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  • BECAUSE WE USE THE WORDLOVE IN A THOUSAND WAYS.
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  • WE SAY, FOR EXAMPLE,I LOVE HOT DOGS.
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  • [LAUGHTER]
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  • OR IN NORTH CAROLINA WHERE ILIVE WE SAY I LOVE BARBECUE.
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  • PEOPLE SAY I LOVE THEMOUNTAINS, I LOVE THE
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  • BEACH, YOU KNOW.
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  • WE'RE NOT GOING TO TALKABOUT A THOUSAND WAYS WE
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  • USE THE WORD LOVE.
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  • WE'RE GOING TO TALK ONLYABOUT ONE WAY AND IT'S
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  • ONE WE DON'T TALK ABOUTMUCH IN CHURCH, AND THAT
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  • IS MEETING THE DEEPEMOTIONAL NEED FOR LOVE.
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  • ALMOST EVERYONE AGREESTHAT ONE OF OUR DEEPEST
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  • EMOTIONAL NEEDS AS HUMANSIS TO FEEL LOVED BY THE
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  • SIGNIFICANT PEOPLEIN YOUR LIFE.
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  • IF YOU'RE MARRIED ANDYOU FEEL LOVED BY YOUR
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  • SPOUSE, LIFEIS BEAUTIFUL.
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  • IF YOU DON'T FEEL LOVED ANDYOU'RE THINKING THEY
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  • DON'T LOVE ME, THEY WISHTHEY WEREN'T MARRIED TO
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  • ME, LIFE BEGINS TOLOOK PRETTY DARK.
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  • BUT HAD YOU TO MEET THATNEED IS WHAT WE'RE GOING
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  • TO TALK ABOUT BECAUSEWHAT MAKES ONE PERSON
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  • FEEL LOVED DOESN'T MAKEANOTHER PERSON
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  • FEEL LOVED.
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  • SO WE'RE TRYING TO HELPMARRIED COUPLES, BUT IT
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  • APPLIES ALSO INSINGLE RELATIONSHIPS.
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  • IT APPLIES IN THE PARENTCHILD RELATIONSHIP.
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  • FOR EXAMPLE, TO PARENTS ISAY, THE QUESTION IS NOT
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  • DO YOU LOVEYOUR CHILDREN.
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  • THE QUESTION IS, DO YOURCHILDREN FEEL LOVED?
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  • IT'S ALL THE DIFFERENCEIN THE WORLD.
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  • SO WE'RE GOING TO TALKABOUT HOW TO EFFECTIVELY
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  • COMMUNICATE LOVE IN AFAMILY SETTING OR IN ANY
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  • CLOSE RELATIONSHIP.
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  • - MY GOODNESS.
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  • THE FIVE LOVE LANGUAGESIS SOMETHING THAT
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  • EVERYONE KNOWS AND HASSEEN, AND MORE THAN
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  • 12 MILLION COPIESARE NOW --
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  • - AMAZING.
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  • - BEEN SOLD.
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  • THIS BOOK SELLS MORECOPIES YEAR AFTER YEAR,
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  • AND OUR GUEST, DOCTORGARY CHAPMAN, YOU KNOW WHAT?
  • 00:02:38.915 --> 00:02:42.318
  • I DON'T NORMALLY DOSOMETHING SO SIMPLE, BUT
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  • WHAT WAS THE GENESISOF THIS BOOK?
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  • WHAT MADE YOU WRITE IT?
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  • 30 YEARS LATER YOU WOULDHAVE NEVER UNDERSTOOD
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  • THAT IT WOULD BE THETOP SELLING BOOKS IN THE
  • 00:02:53.096 --> 00:02:55.898
  • HISTORY OF CHRISTIANLITERATURE, BUT IT IS.
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  • SO WHAT'S DAY ONE OFFIVE LOVE LANGUAGES?
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  • - IT ACTUALLY GREWOUT OF MY COUNSELING.
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  • I'LL NEVER FORGET THEFIRST TIME IT DAWNED ON
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  • ME THAT WHAT MAKES PERSONFEEL LOVED DOESN'T MAKE
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  • ANOTHER PERSONFEEL LOVED.
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  • - OKAY.
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  • - COUPLE CAMEIN TO SEE ME.
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  • I DIDN'T KNOW THEM.
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  • NEVER HAD MET THEM.
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  • FOUND OUT THEY'D BEENMARRIED TO EACH OTHER FOR
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  • 30 YEARS.
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  • THE WIFE SAT DOWN ANDSAID, DOCTOR CHAPMAN,
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  • WE'LL JUST TELL YOU ALITTLE BIT ABOUT US
  • 00:03:22.258 --> 00:03:24.460
  • BEFORE WE START.
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  • SHE SAID, WEDON'T ARGUE YOU.
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  • WE DON'T HAVE ANY MONEYPROBLEMS, AND SHE WENT
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  • ONTO TWO OR THREE MOREPOSITIVE THINGS, AND I
  • 00:03:30.533 --> 00:03:32.635
  • WAS BEGINNING TO ASKMYSELF, DID THEY COME IN
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  • TO TELL ME WHAT A GOODMARRIAGE THEY HAVE?
  • 00:03:35.071 --> 00:03:37.273
  • AND THEN SHESTARTED CRYING.
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  • AND THEN IS HE SAID, BUTTHE PROBLEM IS I JUST
  • 00:03:39.175 --> 00:03:41.944
  • DON'T FEEL ANY LOVECOMING FROM HIM.
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  • SHE SAID, WE'RE LIKE TWOROOMMATES LIVING IN THE
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  • SAME HOUSE.
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  • HE DOES HIS THING AND IDO MY THING, AND I FEEL
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  • SO EMPTY, AND I DON'TKNOW HOW LONG I CAN GO ON
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  • LIKE THIS.
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  • I LOOKED AT HER HUSBAND,AND HE SAID, I DON'T
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  • UNDERSTAND HER.
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  • I DO EVERYTHING I CAN TOSHOW HER THAT I LOVE HER,
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  • AND SHE SITS THERE ANDTELLS YOU WHAT SHE'S BEEN
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  • TELLING ME, SHEDOESN'T FEEL LOVED.
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  • HE SAID, I DON'T KNOWWHAT ELSE TO DO.
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  • I SAID, WELL, WHAT DO YOUDO TO SHOW YOUR LOVE TO HER?
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  • HE SAID, WELL, I GET HOMEFROM WORK BEFORE SHE
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  • DOES, SO I STARTTHE EVENING MEAL.
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  • SOMETIMES I HAVE IT READYWHEN SHE GETS HOME.
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  • IF NOT, SHE'LL HELP ME,AND THEN WE EAT, AND
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  • AFTER WE EAT, HE SAIDI WASH THE DISHES.
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  • AND EVERY THURSDAY NIGHTI VACUUM THE FLOORS, AND
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  • EVERY SATURDAY I WASH THECAR AND HELP HER WITH THE
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  • LAUNDRY ANDHE WENT ON.
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  • AND WAS BEGINNING TOWONDER, WHAT DOES THIS
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  • WOMAN DO?
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  • [LAUGHTER] IT SOUNDEDTO ME LIKE HE WAS
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  • DOING EVERYTHING.
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  • AND I LOOKED BACK AT HER,AND SHE SAID, DOCTOR
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  • CHAPMAN, HE'S RIGHT.
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  • HE IS A HARD WORKING MAN,AND THEN SHE STARTED
  • 00:04:45.708 --> 00:04:48.811
  • CRYING AGAIN, AND SHESAID, BUT WE DON'T EVER TALK.
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  • WE HAVEN'T TALKEDIN 20 YEARS.
  • 00:04:53.516 --> 00:04:55.952
  • SHE SAID, HE'S ALWAYSMOWING THE GRASS, WASHING
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  • THE DISHES, ALWAYSDOING SOMETHING.
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  • - WOW.
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  • - AND I REALIZED HERE WASA SINCERE HUSBAND, HE WAS
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  • EXPRESSING LOVE THE BESTWAY HE KNEW HOW AND HIS
  • 00:05:03.960 --> 00:05:07.330
  • WIFE WASN'T GETTING IT.
  • 00:05:07.330 --> 00:05:09.198
  • AND AFTER THATEXPERIENCE, I HEARD THAT
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  • STORY OVER AND OVER ANDOVER IN MY OFFICE WITH
  • 00:05:11.601 --> 00:05:14.504
  • OTHER COUPLES.
  • 00:05:14.504 --> 00:05:15.805
  • AND I KNEW THERE HAD TOBE A PATTERN TO IT, BUT I
  • 00:05:15.805 --> 00:05:18.374
  • HAD NO IDEA WHAT IT WAS.
  • 00:05:18.374 --> 00:05:20.443
  • SO EVENTUALLY I TOOK TIMETO SIT DOWN AND READ
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  • SEVERAL YEARS OF NOTESTHAT I MADE --
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  • - MY GOODNESS.
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  • - WHEN I WAS COUNSELING,AND ASKED MYSELF, WHEN
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  • SOMEONE SAID I FEEL LIKEMY SPOUSE DOESN'T LOVE
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  • ME, WHAT DID THEY WANT?
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  • WHAT WERE THEYCOMPLAINING ABOUT?
  • 00:05:33.856 --> 00:05:35.825
  • AND THEIR ANSWERS FELLINTO FIVE CATEGORIES.
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  • - MY GOODNESS.
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  • - I LATER CALLED THEMTHE FIVE LOVE LANGUAGES,
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  • STARTED USING ITIN MY COUNSELING.
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  • IF YOU WANT HER TO FEELLOVED, YOU GOTTA SPEAK
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  • LOVE IN HER LANGUAGE.
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  • IF YOU WANT HIM TO FEELLOVED, YOU GOTTA SPEAK
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  • HIS LOVE LANGUAGE.
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  • I WOULD HELP THEMDISCOVER EACH OTHER'S
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  • LOVE LANGUAGE, CHALLENGETHEM TO GO HOME AND TRY IT.
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  • SOMETIMES THEY'D COMEBACK IN THREE WEEKS AND
  • 00:05:53.509 --> 00:05:56.012
  • SAY GARY, THIS ISCHANGING EVERYTHING.
  • 00:05:56.012 --> 00:05:57.747
  • - WOW.
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  • - THE WHOLE CLIMATEIS DIFFERENT NOW.
  • 00:05:58.681 --> 00:05:59.982
  • THEN I STARTED USINGIT IN SMALL GROUPS
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  • OF COUPLES.
  • 00:06:01.117 --> 00:06:02.185
  • THE SAME THING HAPPENED.
  • 00:06:02.185 --> 00:06:03.453
  • PROBABLY FIVE YEARSLATER, I THOUGHT, YOU
  • 00:06:03.453 --> 00:06:05.388
  • KNOW, IF I COULD PUT THISCONCEPT IN A BOOK, WRITE
  • 00:06:05.388 --> 00:06:07.757
  • IT IN THE LANGUAGE OF THECOMMON PERSON SO THAT
  • 00:06:07.757 --> 00:06:11.060
  • PEOPLE COULD EASYUNDERSTAND IT, MAYBE I
  • 00:06:11.060 --> 00:06:13.796
  • COULD HELP A LOT OFCOUPLES I WOULD NEVER
  • 00:06:13.796 --> 00:06:15.798
  • HAVE TIME TO SEEIN MY OFFICE.
  • 00:06:15.798 --> 00:06:17.667
  • THAT'S WHAT MOTIVATEDME TO WRITE THE BOOK.
  • 00:06:17.667 --> 00:06:19.969
  • - THE TBN SPECIALEDITION IS AVAILABLE.
  • 00:06:19.969 --> 00:06:22.872
  • THIS BOOK HASBEEN UPDATED.
  • 00:06:22.872 --> 00:06:25.675
  • IT IS AVAILABLE BY GOINGTO ALL THE INFORMATION ON
  • 00:06:25.675 --> 00:06:27.610
  • THE SCREEN.
  • 00:06:27.610 --> 00:06:28.444
  • THERE'S AN 800 NUMBER,
  • 00:06:28.444 --> 00:06:30.079
  • AND WE WANT YOUTO GET THIS BOOK.
  • 00:06:30.079 --> 00:06:32.081
  • THIS IS JUST ANAMAZING THING.
  • 00:06:32.081 --> 00:06:34.684
  • - HELLO, FRIENDS.
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  • A WHILE BACK I FOUNDMYSELF IN MOSCOW WITH
  • 00:06:36.352 --> 00:06:38.287
  • MATT AND LAURIE CROUCH.
  • 00:06:38.287 --> 00:06:39.989
  • IT WAS A SCENE THATI WILL NEVER FORGET.
  • 00:06:39.989 --> 00:06:42.425
  • THERE I WAS WITH MATTINTERVIEWING THE FORMER
  • 00:06:42.425 --> 00:06:45.194
  • HEAD OF THE SOVIETUNION HIMSELF,
  • 00:06:45.194 --> 00:06:47.430
  • MIKHAIL GORBACHEV.
  • 00:06:47.430 --> 00:06:49.031
  • WE SAT TOGETHER TALKINGFOR OVER TWO AND A HALF
  • 00:06:49.031 --> 00:06:51.434
  • DAYS ABOUT THE HISTORYOF THE COLD WAR, THE
  • 00:06:51.434 --> 00:06:54.136
  • RELATIONSHIP OF OUR TWOCOUNTRIES, AND FAITH.
  • 00:06:54.136 --> 00:06:58.074
  • AND AT ONE POINT, MATTASKED PRESIDENT GORBACHEV
  • 00:06:58.074 --> 00:07:00.810
  • POINT BLANK, "SIR,DO YOU BELIEVE IT WAS
  • 00:07:00.810 --> 00:07:03.045
  • GOD'S WILL THAT YOU ANDPRESIDENT REAGAN CAME TO
  • 00:07:03.045 --> 00:07:05.815
  • POWER AT THE SAME TIME?"
  • 00:07:05.815 --> 00:07:07.850
  • HIS ANSWER, "DA,"WHICH MEANS YES.
  • 00:07:07.850 --> 00:07:11.921
  • AND WITH THAT, HE BOLDLYPROCLAIMED HIS BELIEF IN
  • 00:07:11.921 --> 00:07:15.525
  • GOD'S SOVEREIGNTY.
  • 00:07:15.525 --> 00:07:16.926
  • THAT HISTORIC EXPERIENCEREMINDED ME JUST HOW
  • 00:07:16.926 --> 00:07:19.795
  • POWERFUL TBN'SMISSION IS.
  • 00:07:19.795 --> 00:07:22.465
  • WE'RE BROADCASTING THEMESSAGE OF THE GOSPEL
  • 00:07:22.465 --> 00:07:25.368
  • ACROSS THE WORLD SOEVERYONE WILL HEAR EVEN
  • 00:07:25.368 --> 00:07:27.737
  • IN NATIONS WHERE THEGOOD NEWS CANNOT BE
  • 00:07:27.737 --> 00:07:30.506
  • OPENLY PROCLAIMED.
  • 00:07:30.506 --> 00:07:32.174
  • FRIENDS, WHEN YOU SUPPORTTBN, YOU ARE LITERALLY
  • 00:07:32.174 --> 00:07:35.678
  • HELPING CHANGE THE ENTIREWORLD WITH THE LOVE OF
  • 00:07:35.678 --> 00:07:38.047
  • CHRIST, AND WE'D LIKE TOINVITE YOU TO PARTNER
  • 00:07:38.047 --> 00:07:40.983
  • WITH OUR MISSION.
  • 00:07:40.983 --> 00:07:42.718
  • AS OUR WAY OF SAYINGTHANK YOU FOR YOUR GIFT
  • 00:07:42.718 --> 00:07:44.787
  • OF ANY AMOUNT THIS MONTH,WE'LL SEND YOU LOVE LIKE
  • 00:07:44.787 --> 00:07:47.456
  • THAT, RELATIONSHIPSECRETS FROM JESUS BY
  • 00:07:47.456 --> 00:07:50.293
  • LES PARROTT.
  • 00:07:50.293 --> 00:07:51.994
  • - IF YOU WANT TO LOVELIKE JESUS, YOU'VE GOT TO
  • 00:07:51.994 --> 00:07:53.563
  • SEE WHAT OTHERPEOPLE DON'T SEE.
  • 00:07:53.563 --> 00:07:56.065
  • - THERE YOU GO.
  • 00:07:56.065 --> 00:07:57.099
  • - THAT KIND OFMINDFULNESS IS KIND OF
  • 00:07:57.099 --> 00:07:59.068
  • THE FIRST ONRAMP TOLOVING LIKE JESUS.
  • 00:07:59.068 --> 00:08:02.038
  • - WE'LL ALSO ENCLOSE THEICONIC BOOK, THE FIVE
  • 00:08:02.038 --> 00:08:05.341
  • LOVE LANGUAGES BY GARYCHAPMAN THAT TEACHES
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  • COUPLES HOW TO FALL INLOVE AND TO STAY IN LOVE.
  • 00:08:08.010 --> 00:08:11.547
  • - BECAUSE IT'S MYRELATIONSHIP WITH CHRIST
  • 00:08:11.547 --> 00:08:13.883
  • THAT GAVE ME THE DESIRETO LOVE MY WIFE AND NOT
  • 00:08:13.883 --> 00:08:16.786
  • TO ASSUME THAT I KNOWWHAT MAKES HER FEEL LOVED.
  • 00:08:16.786 --> 00:08:20.222
  • - BOTH RUNAWAY BESTSELLERS ARE YOURS WITH
  • 00:08:20.222 --> 00:08:22.692
  • OUR APPRECIATION FOR AGIFT OF $35 OR MORE, SO
  • 00:08:22.692 --> 00:08:26.495
  • FRIENDS, WE'RE GRATEFULFOR YOUR PARTNERSHIP.
  • 00:08:26.495 --> 00:08:28.364
  • OPERATORS ARESTANDING BY RIGHT NOW.
  • 00:08:28.364 --> 00:08:30.866
  • PLEASE DON'TDELAY BUT CALL US.
  • 00:08:30.866 --> 00:08:32.868
  • THANK YOU.
  • 00:08:32.868 --> 00:08:35.137
  • - DR. CHAPMAN LITERALLYHAS FIGURED OUT THE CODE.
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  • I MEAN, THIS IS LITERALLYCHANGING RELATIONSHIPS.
  • 00:08:39.842 --> 00:08:44.714
  • SO YOU WROTE THISBASICALLY, DR. GARY CHAPMAN
  • 00:08:44.714 --> 00:08:49.785
  • WROTE THIS BOOK BASEDUPON THE NOTES THAT
  • 00:08:49.785 --> 00:08:52.788
  • YOU WERE TAKING AS YOUWERE COUNSELING PEOPLE.
  • 00:08:52.788 --> 00:08:57.226
  • OKAY. THEN THAT KIND OFMORPHED INTO IDENTIFYING
  • 00:08:57.226 --> 00:09:02.665
  • THESE FIVE CATEGORIES,AND THE FIVE CATEGORIES,
  • 00:09:02.665 --> 00:09:05.968
  • I'LL READ THEM OFF THEBACK OF THE BOOK HERE.
  • 00:09:05.968 --> 00:09:08.037
  • WORDS OF AFFIRMATION,ACTS OF SERVICE,
  • 00:09:08.037 --> 00:09:12.875
  • RECEIVING GIFTS, QUALITYTIME AND PHYSICAL TOUCH.
  • 00:09:12.875 --> 00:09:17.413
  • SO EVERYBODY HAS APRIMARY LOVE LANGUAGE,
  • 00:09:17.413 --> 00:09:22.118
  • AND SO YOU COULD BE DOINGALL SORTS OF ACTS OF
  • 00:09:22.118 --> 00:09:26.856
  • SERVICE FOR YOUR SPOUSE,BUT IF HER LOVE LANGUAGE
  • 00:09:26.856 --> 00:09:30.793
  • IS QUALITY TIME, YOU'REACTUALLY NOT HELPING THE
  • 00:09:30.793 --> 00:09:33.963
  • SITUATION, YOU'REALMOST MAKING IT WORSE.
  • 00:09:33.963 --> 00:09:35.965
  • - YOU'RE SINCERE.
  • 00:09:35.965 --> 00:09:38.000
  • YOU'RE SINCERE, BUTYOU'RE MISSING THE MARK
  • 00:09:38.000 --> 00:09:40.236
  • WHICH IS TO MEET THATNEED FOR LOVE, BECAUSE IF
  • 00:09:40.236 --> 00:09:42.938
  • YOU FEEL LOVED IN AMARRIAGE RELATIONSHIP,
  • 00:09:42.938 --> 00:09:45.975
  • EVERYTHING ELSE ISEASIER TO PROCESS.
  • 00:09:45.975 --> 00:09:48.377
  • LISTEN, ALL OF USFACE DIFFERENCES, AND
  • 00:09:48.377 --> 00:09:50.079
  • CONFLICTS, AND STRUGGLES,AND GRIEF, AND ALL KINDS
  • 00:09:50.079 --> 00:09:52.314
  • OF THINGS IN LIFE.
  • 00:09:52.314 --> 00:09:53.716
  • ALL OF THAT'S EASIERTO PROCESS IF YOU FEEL
  • 00:09:53.716 --> 00:09:56.719
  • SECURE IN THE LOVEOF YOUR SPOUSE.
  • 00:09:56.719 --> 00:09:58.821
  • - SO I HAVE A LOVE TANK.
  • 00:09:58.821 --> 00:10:01.257
  • I'M USING YOURTERMINOLOGY.
  • 00:10:01.257 --> 00:10:03.159
  • LAURIE HAS A LOVE TANK.
  • 00:10:03.159 --> 00:10:05.194
  • AND BY IDENTIFYING HERPRIMARY LOVE LANGUAGE,
  • 00:10:05.194 --> 00:10:09.065
  • AND IN DOING THAT, I AMIN ESSENCE PUTTING GAS
  • 00:10:09.065 --> 00:10:13.469
  • IN THE TANK AS IT WERE.
  • 00:10:13.469 --> 00:10:15.304
  • - AND MONEY IN THE BANK.
  • 00:10:15.304 --> 00:10:16.906
  • - PUTTING MONEY IN THEBANK THAT I CAN WITHDRAW
  • 00:10:16.906 --> 00:10:20.009
  • WHENEVER I WANT,AND SO BASICALLY.
  • 00:10:20.009 --> 00:10:24.113
  • - YOU NEED TO DEAL WITHTHAT PART. [LAUGHS]
  • 00:10:24.113 --> 00:10:25.815
  • - BASICALLY, THAT'S THESUBJECT MATTER IN WHICH
  • 00:10:25.815 --> 00:10:28.984
  • WE'RE TALKING ABOUT.THIS BOOK IS BASICALLY,
  • 00:10:28.984 --> 00:10:32.588
  • I AT LEAST HAVETHE CONCEPT DOWN.
  • 00:10:32.588 --> 00:10:34.256
  • - THAT IS THE BASICCONCEPT TO THE BOOK.
  • 00:10:34.256 --> 00:10:36.792
  • - SO THE BOOKIS AVAILABLE.
  • 00:10:36.792 --> 00:10:38.794
  • WHY DON'T YOU NOW JUSTTAKE THEM ONE BY ONE,
  • 00:10:38.794 --> 00:10:42.331
  • BREAK THEM DOWN THE WAY YOUWANT US TO HEAR ABOUT IT,
  • 00:10:42.331 --> 00:10:45.868
  • AND LET'S GET DEEPER IN TOTHE FIVE LOVE LANGUAGES.
  • 00:10:45.868 --> 00:10:49.238
  • - OKAY, THERE'S NO PARTICULARORDER OF THE FIVE.
  • 00:10:49.238 --> 00:10:52.708
  • ONE IS NOT MORESIGNIFICANT THAN THE OTHER.
  • 00:10:52.708 --> 00:10:55.044
  • ONE IS WORDS OFAFFIRMATION.
  • 00:10:55.044 --> 00:10:56.645
  • - MATT: GOT IT.
  • 00:10:56.645 --> 00:10:57.780
  • - USING WORDS TO AFFIRMTHE OTHER PERSON.
  • 00:10:57.780 --> 00:11:00.449
  • "YOU LOOK NICEIN THAT OUTFIT."
  • 00:11:00.449 --> 00:11:02.251
  • - LAURIE: THANK YOU.
  • 00:11:02.251 --> 00:11:03.419
  • - "I REALLY APPRECIATEWHAT YOU DID."
  • 00:11:03.419 --> 00:11:06.021
  • "ONE OF THE THINGSI LIKE ABOUT YOU..."
  • 00:11:06.021 --> 00:11:08.057
  • IT'S JUST AFFIRMINGTHEM WITH WORDS.
  • 00:11:08.057 --> 00:11:10.392
  • YOU KNOW, THERE'S ANANCIENT HEBREW PROVERB
  • 00:11:10.392 --> 00:11:12.862
  • THAT SAYS LIFE AND DEATH ISIN THE POWER OF THE TONGUE.
  • 00:11:12.862 --> 00:11:16.632
  • WE CAN KILL PEOPLE,WE CAN GIVE THEM LIFE
  • 00:11:16.632 --> 00:11:18.968
  • BY THE WAY WE TALK TO THEM.
  • 00:11:18.968 --> 00:11:20.569
  • FOR SOME PEOPLE, THIS ISTHEIR PRIMARY LOVE LANGUAGE.
  • 00:11:20.569 --> 00:11:23.506
  • THIS IS WHAT REALLYMAKES THEM FEEL LOVED.
  • 00:11:23.506 --> 00:11:25.941
  • AND IF THEY DON'T RECEIVEWORDS OF AFFIRMATION
  • 00:11:25.941 --> 00:11:28.077
  • FROM YOU, THEIR LOVETANK WILL GET EMPTY.
  • 00:11:28.077 --> 00:11:31.046
  • THEY WILL NOT FEEL LOVED,EVEN THOUGH MAYBE YOU'RE
  • 00:11:31.046 --> 00:11:32.982
  • WASHING THE DISHES AND DOINGALL THESE OTHER THINGS.
  • 00:11:32.982 --> 00:11:35.417
  • SO WORDS OF AFFIRMATION.
  • 00:11:35.417 --> 00:11:37.920
  • THE WORDS ARE IMPORTANT.
  • 00:11:37.920 --> 00:11:39.555
  • IF YOU GENUINELY LOVE THEOTHER PERSON, WHAT YOU'RE
  • 00:11:39.555 --> 00:11:42.458
  • TRYING TO DO IS FIND AWAY TO COMMUNICATE THAT.
  • 00:11:42.458 --> 00:11:45.327
  • JUST LIKE GOD FINDS WAYSTO COMMUNICATE TO US.
  • 00:11:45.327 --> 00:11:47.530
  • LOOK AT THE BIBLE.
  • 00:11:47.530 --> 00:11:48.731
  • HE'S COMMUNICATEDDIFFERENT WAYS TO
  • 00:11:48.731 --> 00:11:50.199
  • DIFFERENT PEOPLE.
  • 00:11:50.199 --> 00:11:51.801
  • SO WE'RE TRYING TO LEARNHOW TO EXPRESS IN A WAY
  • 00:11:51.801 --> 00:11:54.170
  • THAT'S MEANINGFUL TOTHEM WHAT I REALLY FEEL.
  • 00:11:54.170 --> 00:11:57.273
  • I DO LOVE YOU.
  • 00:11:57.273 --> 00:11:58.374
  • I MEAN, DON'T TELLTHEM YOU LOVE THEM
  • 00:11:58.374 --> 00:12:00.309
  • IF YOU DON'T LOVE THEM.
  • 00:12:00.309 --> 00:12:01.844
  • BUT I LOVE YOU, BUT YOUWANT THEM TO KNOW THAT,
  • 00:12:01.844 --> 00:12:03.579
  • SO IF WORDS IS THEIRLANGUAGE, YOU HAVE TO
  • 00:12:03.579 --> 00:12:05.147
  • LEARN HOW TO SAY IT.
  • 00:12:05.147 --> 00:12:06.649
  • LOVE IS AN ATTITUDE WITHAPPROPRIATE BEHAVIOR.
  • 00:12:06.649 --> 00:12:11.353
  • IT DOESN'T BEGINWITH A FEELING.
  • 00:12:11.353 --> 00:12:13.856
  • "FALLING IN LOVE"BEGINS WITH A FEELING.
  • 00:12:13.856 --> 00:12:17.726
  • YOU DON'T SAY ONE DAYIF YOU'RE SINGLE, YOU
  • 00:12:17.726 --> 00:12:20.296
  • DON'T SAY I THINK I'LLFALL IN LOVE TODAY.
  • 00:12:20.296 --> 00:12:23.499
  • NO. YOU MEET SOMEBODY,THERE'S SOMETHING ABOUT
  • 00:12:23.499 --> 00:12:25.000
  • THE WAY THEY LOOK, THEWAY THEY TALK, THE WAY
  • 00:12:25.000 --> 00:12:27.036
  • THEY EMOTE THAT GIVESYOU AN EMOTIONAL TINGLE.
  • 00:12:27.036 --> 00:12:30.272
  • I CALL IT A TINGLE, ANDTHE MORE YOU'RE TOGETHER,
  • 00:12:30.272 --> 00:12:32.842
  • THE MORE YOU WANTTO BE TOGETHER.
  • 00:12:32.842 --> 00:12:34.844
  • WE CALL IT FALLING INLOVE OR BEING IN LOVE.
  • 00:12:34.844 --> 00:12:37.379
  • IT TAKES NO WORK AT ALL.
  • 00:12:37.379 --> 00:12:39.014
  • IT JUST IS JUST APHENOMENON, BUT IT HAS
  • 00:12:39.014 --> 00:12:41.717
  • AN AVERAGE LIFESPANOF TWO YEARS AND
  • 00:12:41.717 --> 00:12:44.420
  • WE COME DOWN OFF THE HIGH.
  • 00:12:44.420 --> 00:12:46.155
  • AND THIS IS WHERE KNOWINGTHE PERSON'S LOVE
  • 00:12:46.155 --> 00:12:48.424
  • LANGUAGE BECOMESEXTREMELY IMPORTANT
  • 00:12:48.424 --> 00:12:50.626
  • BECAUSE NOW ITDOESN'T JUST HAPPEN.
  • 00:12:50.626 --> 00:12:52.461
  • NOW WE'VE GOT TOINTENTIONALLY LEARN HOW
  • 00:12:52.461 --> 00:12:54.363
  • TO COMMUNICATE LOVETO THE OTHER PERSON.
  • 00:12:54.363 --> 00:12:56.632
  • AND SO THAT'S WHY I SAYIN THE BIBLE LOVE IS NOT
  • 00:12:56.632 --> 00:12:59.969
  • BASICALLY A FEELING.
  • 00:12:59.969 --> 00:13:01.604
  • IT'S BASICALLY ANATTITUDE, AND THE
  • 00:13:01.604 --> 00:13:03.672
  • ATTITUDE IS I'M HERETO ENRICH YOUR LIFE.
  • 00:13:03.672 --> 00:13:07.009
  • HOW CAN I ENRICHYOUR LIFE?
  • 00:13:07.009 --> 00:13:09.812
  • AND THEN IT HASAPPROPRIATE BEHAVIOR.
  • 00:13:09.812 --> 00:13:12.615
  • SEE, GOD LOVED USAND HE SENT CHRIST.
  • 00:13:12.615 --> 00:13:15.651
  • HE HAD AN ATTITUDEOF LOVE,
  • 00:13:15.651 --> 00:13:16.919
  • HE CARES ABOUT OUR WELLBEING.
  • 00:13:16.919 --> 00:13:18.320
  • HE SENT CHRIST TO DIE FORUS SO HE COULD FORGIVE US
  • 00:13:18.320 --> 00:13:20.656
  • AND STILL BE AJUST AND HOLY GOD.
  • 00:13:20.656 --> 00:13:24.026
  • HE EXPRESSED HIS LOVE.
  • 00:13:24.026 --> 00:13:25.494
  • I DON'T THINK GOD WASSITTING AROUND HAVING
  • 00:13:25.494 --> 00:13:27.296
  • TINGLY FEELINGS.HE LOVES US.
  • 00:13:27.296 --> 00:13:30.366
  • HE WANTS THE BEST FOR US.
  • 00:13:30.366 --> 00:13:32.134
  • SO IF WE UNDERSTAND THAT,LOVE BEGINS WITH AN
  • 00:13:32.134 --> 00:13:34.403
  • ATTITUDE, AND SO WE DON'TWAIT UNTIL WE HAVE WARM
  • 00:13:34.403 --> 00:13:38.474
  • FEELINGS AGAIN FORTHE OTHER PERSON.
  • 00:13:38.474 --> 00:13:40.910
  • WE SAY TO GOD, LORD,I KNOW YOU LOVE THEM,
  • 00:13:40.910 --> 00:13:45.347
  • I DON'T HAVE LOVE FEELINGSFOR THEM, BUT I'M MARRIED
  • 00:13:45.347 --> 00:13:48.350
  • TO THEM, OR I'M THEIRCLOSE FRIEND, OR THEY'RE
  • 00:13:48.350 --> 00:13:50.619
  • MY GROWN SON OR DAUGHTER,AND I WANT TO BE YOUR
  • 00:13:50.619 --> 00:13:54.356
  • CHANNEL FOR LOVING THEM.
  • 00:13:54.356 --> 00:13:56.025
  • NOW, SHOW ME HOW TO MOSTEFFECTIVELY LOVE THEM.
  • 00:13:56.025 --> 00:13:59.328
  • AND YOU MOVE OUTWITH BEHAVIOR BASED
  • 00:13:59.328 --> 00:14:01.330
  • ON YOUR ATTITUDE.
  • 00:14:01.330 --> 00:14:03.232
  • THEN WHEN YOU CONNECTWITH THEM AND THEY FEEL
  • 00:14:03.232 --> 00:14:05.601
  • LOVED BY YOU, THEY'RE FARMORE LIKELY TO BEGIN TO
  • 00:14:05.601 --> 00:14:08.904
  • RECIPROCATE AND THEFEELINGS COME BACK.
  • 00:14:08.904 --> 00:14:10.973
  • THE FEELINGSARE IMPORTANT.
  • 00:14:10.973 --> 00:14:12.241
  • WE ARE EMOTIONALCREATURES, OKAY?
  • 00:14:12.241 --> 00:14:14.443
  • GOD IS EMOTIONAL AS WELL.YOU READ ABOUT GOD,
  • 00:14:14.443 --> 00:14:17.179
  • YOU SEE ALL THEEMOTIONS IN GOD.
  • 00:14:17.179 --> 00:14:19.281
  • WE'RE EMOTIONALCREATURES, BUT LOVE
  • 00:14:19.281 --> 00:14:21.583
  • ITSELF DOESN'T BEGINWITH THE EMOTION.
  • 00:14:21.583 --> 00:14:23.886
  • THE ATTITUDE AND THEBEHAVIOR STIMULATES THE
  • 00:14:23.886 --> 00:14:26.522
  • EMOTION, AND THEEMOTION COMES BACK.
  • 00:14:26.522 --> 00:14:29.258
  • MAYBE DOWN THE ROAD.
  • 00:14:29.258 --> 00:14:30.359
  • IT MIGHT BE THREE WEEKS,IT MIGHT BE THREE MONTHS,
  • 00:14:30.359 --> 00:14:32.294
  • BUT EMOTIONS COME BACKAFTER WE'VE CHOSEN TO
  • 00:14:32.294 --> 00:14:34.964
  • COMMUNICATE LOVE.
  • 00:14:34.964 --> 00:14:36.498
  • - OKAY, LET'S MOVETO ACTS OF SERVICE.
  • 00:14:36.498 --> 00:14:39.001
  • - ACTS OF SERVICE ISDOING SOMETHING FOR THE
  • 00:14:39.001 --> 00:14:41.203
  • OTHER PERSON THATYOU KNOW THEY WOULD
  • 00:14:41.203 --> 00:14:42.938
  • LIKE FOR YOU TO DO.
  • 00:14:42.938 --> 00:14:44.907
  • - TAKING OUT THE TRASH.
  • 00:14:44.907 --> 00:14:46.275
  • - HE DOES THAT SO WELL.
  • 00:14:46.275 --> 00:14:47.710
  • - ANY ONE OF THESE FIVECAN BE MEANINGFUL TO
  • 00:14:47.710 --> 00:14:50.179
  • ANYONE. I MEAN WHO'SGONNA TURN AWAY A GIFT?
  • 00:14:50.179 --> 00:14:53.248
  • GIFT IS NUMBER FIVE FORME, BUT SOMEBODY GETS ME
  • 00:14:53.248 --> 00:14:56.385
  • A GIFT, I APPRECIATETHAT, YOU KNOW.
  • 00:14:56.385 --> 00:14:58.587
  • SO WE CAN RECEIVE LOVE INALL FIVE OF THESE, IT'S
  • 00:14:58.587 --> 00:15:00.522
  • JUST THAT ONE OF THEM ISGONNA BE PREDOMINANT.
  • 00:15:00.522 --> 00:15:02.791
  • TYPICALLY ONE OF THEM ISGONNA BE PREDOMINANT.
  • 00:15:02.791 --> 00:15:04.927
  • AND I DON'T KNOW WHETHERWHEN YOU WERE GROWING UP
  • 00:15:04.927 --> 00:15:08.764
  • DID YOU LEARN TO DO ACTSOF SERVICE, DID YOUR
  • 00:15:08.764 --> 00:15:10.733
  • PARENTS TEACH YOU HOW TODO THOSE KIND OF THINGS
  • 00:15:10.733 --> 00:15:12.801
  • AND YOU SAW THATAS A WAY OF LIFE?
  • 00:15:12.801 --> 00:15:15.004
  • THEN IT'S KIND OF NATURALFOR YOU IF THAT'S THE
  • 00:15:15.004 --> 00:15:16.905
  • CASE, YOU KNOW?
  • 00:15:16.905 --> 00:15:18.607
  • AND SO SOME OF THESEARE MORE NATURAL FOR US
  • 00:15:18.607 --> 00:15:20.342
  • BECAUSE WE'VE EXPERIENCEDSOME KIND OF IN THE
  • 00:15:20.342 --> 00:15:22.611
  • PROCESS OF GROWING UP.
  • 00:15:22.611 --> 00:15:24.513
  • OTHERS ARE NOT NATURALFOR US SO WE HAVE TO LEARN.
  • 00:15:24.513 --> 00:15:26.782
  • IT TAKES A LITTLEMORE EFFORT.
  • 00:15:26.782 --> 00:15:28.017
  • - RECEIVING GIFTSIS NUMBER THREE.
  • 00:15:28.017 --> 00:15:30.185
  • - IT'S UNIVERSAL TO GIVEGIFTS AS AN EXPRESSION OF
  • 00:15:30.185 --> 00:15:33.555
  • LOVE. THE GIFT SAYS THEYWERE THINKING ABOUT ME.
  • 00:15:33.555 --> 00:15:37.793
  • LOOK WHAT THEYGOT FOR ME.
  • 00:15:37.793 --> 00:15:40.262
  • THE GIFT DOESN'THAVE TO BE EXPENSIVE.
  • 00:15:40.262 --> 00:15:42.498
  • WE'VE ALWAYS SAID "IT'STHE THOUGHT THAT COUNTS,"
  • 00:15:42.498 --> 00:15:45.868
  • BUT I LIKE TO REMINDPEOPLE IT'S NOT THE
  • 00:15:45.868 --> 00:15:47.803
  • THOUGHT LEFT IN YOUR HEADTHAT COUNTS, IT'S THE
  • 00:15:47.803 --> 00:15:50.039
  • GIFT THAT CAME OUT OF THETHOUGHT IN YOUR HEAD.
  • 00:15:50.039 --> 00:15:53.108
  • I SAY TO GUYS YOU CANGET FLOWERS FREE IN THE
  • 00:15:53.108 --> 00:15:56.845
  • SPRING AND SUMMER, JUSTGO OUT IN YOUR BACKYARD
  • 00:15:56.845 --> 00:15:59.448
  • AND PICK ONE. THAT'SWHAT YOUR KIDS DO.
  • 00:15:59.448 --> 00:16:01.884
  • MOST MOTHERS HAVERECEIVED A DANDELION FROM
  • 00:16:01.884 --> 00:16:04.486
  • THEIR KIDS. JUST GOOUT IN YOUR BACKYARD.
  • 00:16:04.486 --> 00:16:07.890
  • YOU DON'T HAVE ANYFLOWERS IN YOUR BACKYARD,
  • 00:16:07.890 --> 00:16:10.259
  • CHECK OUT YOURNEIGHBOR'S YARD.
  • 00:16:10.259 --> 00:16:12.161
  • ASK! DON'T STEALTHEM, ASK THEM.
  • 00:16:12.161 --> 00:16:15.898
  • BUT I THINK IT'S NOTGIVING GIFTS TO
  • 00:16:15.898 --> 00:16:18.834
  • APPEASE THE OTHER PERSON.
  • 00:16:18.834 --> 00:16:20.969
  • IT'S GIVING GIFTS BECAUSEYOU LOVE THE OTHER PERSON
  • 00:16:20.969 --> 00:16:22.871
  • AND YOU KNOW THAT THISIS MEANINGFUL TO THEM.
  • 00:16:22.871 --> 00:16:25.174
  • AND IT HELPS OBVIOUSLYIF YOU KNOW WHAT
  • 00:16:25.174 --> 00:16:27.076
  • THEY'RE INTERESTED IN.
  • 00:16:27.076 --> 00:16:28.844
  • IF THEY HAVE A SPECIALCANDY BAR AND YOU GO TO
  • 00:16:28.844 --> 00:16:31.213
  • THE GROCERY STORE ANDYOU JUST BRING HOME THAT
  • 00:16:31.213 --> 00:16:32.881
  • CANDY BAR, SAY HONEY, IWAS THINKING ABOUT YOU,
  • 00:16:32.881 --> 00:16:34.716
  • THAT MEANS A LOT TO THEM.
  • 00:16:34.716 --> 00:16:37.686
  • IF YOU KNOW THEY COLLECTCERTAIN THINGS, AND YOU'RE
  • 00:16:37.686 --> 00:16:40.389
  • TRAVELING, AND YOUFIND SOMETHING THEY'RE
  • 00:16:40.389 --> 00:16:42.191
  • COLLECTING, AND YOU --SO MEANINGFUL GIFTS.
  • 00:16:42.191 --> 00:16:44.760
  • YOU HAVE TO KNOW THE PERSONTO KNOW WHAT WOULD BE
  • 00:16:44.760 --> 00:16:47.563
  • MEANINGFUL TO THEM.
  • 00:16:47.563 --> 00:16:49.031
  • IF THIS IS THE PERSON'SPRIMARY LOVE LANGUAGE, WHAT
  • 00:16:49.031 --> 00:16:52.167
  • IT SAYS TO THEM IS THATYOU'VE GOT THEM ON YOUR HEART.
  • 00:16:52.167 --> 00:16:56.738
  • YOU'VE GOT THEMIN YOUR MIND.
  • 00:16:56.738 --> 00:16:58.307
  • YOU HAD TO BE THINKING ABOUTTHEM TO GET ANYTHING AND
  • 00:16:58.307 --> 00:17:01.610
  • BRING AND GIVE IT TO THEM.
  • 00:17:01.610 --> 00:17:03.078
  • IT MAKES THEM FEELLOVED JUST LIKE WORDS OF
  • 00:17:03.078 --> 00:17:05.881
  • AFFIRMATION MAKES ANOTHERPERSON FEEL LOVED.
  • 00:17:05.881 --> 00:17:08.283
  • - GOT IT, OKAY. QUALITY TIME,WHAT IS IT?
  • 00:17:08.283 --> 00:17:13.088
  • HOW DO YOU DEFINE IT FOR USSO THAT WE KIND OF
  • 00:17:13.088 --> 00:17:17.092
  • HAVE SOME RULES HERE?
  • 00:17:17.092 --> 00:17:18.961
  • - IT'S GIVING THE OTHERPERSON YOUR
  • 00:17:18.961 --> 00:17:21.630
  • UNDIVIDED ATTENTION.
  • 00:17:21.630 --> 00:17:23.632
  • - THERE YOU GO.- OH, MY GOSH.
  • 00:17:23.632 --> 00:17:26.635
  • - IT IS NOT SITTING ONTHE COUCH WATCHING
  • 00:17:26.635 --> 00:17:28.704
  • THIS TV PROGRAM. BECAUSE WEHAVE THEIR ATTENTION.
  • 00:17:28.704 --> 00:17:30.939
  • - GOT IT.
  • 00:17:30.939 --> 00:17:32.808
  • - THE TV IS OFF. THECOMPUTER IS DOWN.
  • 00:17:32.808 --> 00:17:35.644
  • WE'RE NOT ANSWERINGOUR PHONE.
  • 00:17:35.644 --> 00:17:37.479
  • WE'RE SITTING ON THE COUCHLOOKING AT EACH OTHER AND
  • 00:17:37.479 --> 00:17:39.581
  • TALKING TO EACH OTHER.
  • 00:17:39.581 --> 00:17:41.583
  • OR WE CAN BE TAKING A WALKTOGETHER DOWN THE ROAD AND
  • 00:17:41.583 --> 00:17:44.553
  • TALKING OR GOING OUT TOEAT ASSUMING THAT WE TALK.
  • 00:17:44.553 --> 00:17:50.125
  • WE'VE ALL SEEN COUPLES INRESTAURANTS ACROSS THE TABLE
  • 00:17:50.125 --> 00:17:53.328
  • FROM EACH OTHER, BOTH GOTTHEIR PHONES LOOKING
  • 00:17:53.328 --> 00:17:55.264
  • DOWN AT THE SCREEN.
  • 00:17:55.264 --> 00:17:57.166
  • NOW, MAYBE THEY'RE FINDINGSOMETHING THEY WANT TO SHARE
  • 00:17:57.166 --> 00:17:59.968
  • WITH THE OTHER PERSON.
  • 00:17:59.968 --> 00:18:01.670
  • THAT'S LEGITIMATE.
  • 00:18:01.670 --> 00:18:03.038
  • BUT MAYBE THEY'RE READING ATEXT THAT SOMEBODY
  • 00:18:03.038 --> 00:18:04.907
  • JUST SENT THEM.
  • 00:18:04.907 --> 00:18:06.341
  • THE PHONE VIBRATED,OH, I GOTTA --
  • 00:18:06.341 --> 00:18:08.210
  • THAT'S NOT QUALITY TIME.
  • 00:18:08.210 --> 00:18:09.878
  • AND INCIDENTALLY, WHEN YOUAPPLY THIS TO CHILDREN,
  • 00:18:09.878 --> 00:18:12.548
  • THE CHILDWHO HAS QUALITY TIME AS
  • 00:18:12.548 --> 00:18:14.149
  • THEIR LANGUAGE, AND THEPARENT IS TALKING WITH THEM
  • 00:18:14.149 --> 00:18:16.952
  • LISTENING TO THEM, THEPARENT'S TELEPHONE RINGS,
  • 00:18:16.952 --> 00:18:20.923
  • AND THEY ANSWER THE PHONE,THEY'VE JUST COMMUNICATED TO
  • 00:18:20.923 --> 00:18:23.892
  • THAT CHILD SOMEONE OUTTHERE IS MORE
  • 00:18:23.892 --> 00:18:26.562
  • IMPORTANT THAN YOU ARE.
  • 00:18:26.562 --> 00:18:28.964
  • IF THE CHILD'S LANGUAGE ISQUALITY TIME, YOU DON'T
  • 00:18:28.964 --> 00:18:30.699
  • ANSWER THE PHONE.
  • 00:18:30.699 --> 00:18:32.167
  • THAT'S WHAT VOICEMAIL IS FOR.
  • 00:18:32.167 --> 00:18:34.136
  • YOU GIVE THEM YOURUNDIVIDED ATTENTION.
  • 00:18:34.136 --> 00:18:36.838
  • THAT IS MY DAUGHTER'S LOVELANGUAGE, QUALITY TIME.
  • 00:18:36.838 --> 00:18:40.375
  • AND INCIDENTALLY, ONCHILDREN, YOU CAN FIGURE OUT
  • 00:18:40.375 --> 00:18:42.277
  • THE LOVE LANGUAGE PRETTY EARLYBY OBSERVING THEIR BEHAVIOR.
  • 00:18:42.277 --> 00:18:45.280
  • MY SON'S LOVE LANGUAGEIS PHYSICAL TOUCH.
  • 00:18:45.280 --> 00:18:47.649
  • WHEN HE WAS ABOUT FOUR YEARSOLD, I'D COME HOME FROM WORK.
  • 00:18:47.649 --> 00:18:50.852
  • HE'D RUN TO THE DOOR ANDGRAB MY LEGS AND CLIMB ON ME.
  • 00:18:50.852 --> 00:18:53.455
  • HE'S TOUCHING ME BECAUSEHE WANTS TO BE TOUCHED.
  • 00:18:53.455 --> 00:18:56.191
  • OUR DAUGHTER NEVER IT THAT.
  • 00:18:56.191 --> 00:18:57.859
  • SHE WOULD SAY, DADDY, COMEIN MY ROOM, I WANT TO SHOW
  • 00:18:57.859 --> 00:18:59.361
  • YOU SOMETHING. SHE WANTEDQUALITY TIME.
  • 00:18:59.361 --> 00:19:02.164
  • SO WHETHER IT'S CHILDREN,THE PARENT CHILD, OR WHETHER
  • 00:19:02.164 --> 00:19:05.367
  • IT'S HUSBAND AND WIFE, ORWHETHER IT'S A FRIENDSHIP, A
  • 00:19:05.367 --> 00:19:07.269
  • CLOSE FRIENDSHIP, SINGLEADULTS IN THEIR DATING
  • 00:19:07.269 --> 00:19:09.771
  • RELATIONSHIPS, THISBE VERY, VERY HELPFUL.
  • 00:19:09.771 --> 00:19:12.708
  • BEING IN THE SAME HOUSE,BEING IN THE SAME ROOM IS
  • 00:19:12.708 --> 00:19:15.677
  • NOT QUALITY TIME.
  • 00:19:15.677 --> 00:19:17.346
  • I THINK YOU NEED TO HAVE ADAILY SIT DOWN
  • 00:19:17.346 --> 00:19:19.448
  • AND LISTEN TIME. IT MIGHTBE 15 MINUTES.
  • 00:19:19.448 --> 00:19:21.817
  • HONEY, TELL ME WHAT'S GOINGON IN YOUR MIND TODAY.
  • 00:19:21.817 --> 00:19:24.786
  • WHAT'S HAPPENED IN YOURWORK, IF THEY'RE WORKING,
  • 00:19:24.786 --> 00:19:27.055
  • OR WHAT HAVE YOU BEENTHINKING TODAY?
  • 00:19:27.055 --> 00:19:29.424
  • WHAT HAVE YOU BEENFEELING TODAY?
  • 00:19:29.424 --> 00:19:30.759
  • WHAT'S GOING ONIN YOUR MIND?
  • 00:19:30.759 --> 00:19:32.461
  • AND LISTEN TO THEM, ANDLET THEM LISTEN TO YOU.
  • 00:19:32.461 --> 00:19:35.597
  • EVEN IF IT'SJUST 15 MINUTES.
  • 00:19:35.597 --> 00:19:38.333
  • MAN, THATCOMMUNICATES TO THEM.
  • 00:19:38.333 --> 00:19:40.168
  • YOU CARE ABOUT THEM.
  • 00:19:40.168 --> 00:19:41.670
  • YOU WANT TO HEAR HASGOING ON INSIDE OF THEM.
  • 00:19:41.670 --> 00:19:44.573
  • THE WHOLE PURPOSE OF QUALITYTIME IS THAT YOU'RE SHOWING
  • 00:19:44.573 --> 00:19:48.877
  • INTEREST IN THE OTHER PERSONTHAT YOU CARE ABOUT THEM.
  • 00:19:48.877 --> 00:19:52.481
  • - SITTING WITHDOCTOR GARY CHAPMAN.
  • 00:19:52.481 --> 00:19:54.950
  • WE'VE BEEN UNPACKING THE TBNSPECIAL EDITION, AND THE 800
  • 00:19:54.950 --> 00:20:00.455
  • NUMBER IS ON THESCREEN OR THE WEB SITE.
  • 00:20:00.455 --> 00:20:03.325
  • GO AND GET THIS BOOK. THIS BOOKIS A PHENOMENON.
  • 00:20:03.325 --> 00:20:08.363
  • - HELLO, FRIENDS.
  • 00:20:08.830 --> 00:20:10.265
  • NOT LONG AGO, I WAS INMOSCOW SITTING IN MICKAIL
  • 00:20:10.265 --> 00:20:12.401
  • GORBACHEV'S OFFICE WHILEMATT CROUCH INTERVIEWED THE
  • 00:20:12.401 --> 00:20:15.304
  • FORMER SOVIET LEADER ABOUTWORLD EVENTS AND HIS FAITH.
  • 00:20:15.304 --> 00:20:19.441
  • AND WHEN YOU SUPPORT TBN,KNOW THAT ARE LITERALLY
  • 00:20:19.441 --> 00:20:22.444
  • HELPING CHANGE THE ENTIREWORLD WITH THE POWER
  • 00:20:22.444 --> 00:20:24.579
  • OF THE GOSPEL MESSAGE.
  • 00:20:24.579 --> 00:20:26.481
  • AS OUR THANK YOU FOR YOURGIFTS OF SUPPORT IN ANY
  • 00:20:26.481 --> 00:20:28.617
  • AMOUNT THIS MONTH, WE'REGOING TO SEND YOU "LOVE LIKE
  • 00:20:28.617 --> 00:20:31.420
  • THAT, RELATIONSHIP SECRETSFROM JESUS" BY LES PARROTT.
  • 00:20:31.420 --> 00:20:35.123
  • - THIS IS ONE OF THEULTIMATE CHALLENGES WE HAVE
  • 00:20:35.123 --> 00:20:37.492
  • AS HUMAN BEINGS, TO SEE THEWORLD FROM SOMEBODY ELSE'S
  • 00:20:37.492 --> 00:20:40.295
  • PERSPECTIVE, BUT THAT'S WHENTHIS STARTS TO GET REAL.
  • 00:20:40.295 --> 00:20:43.665
  • - FOR A GIFT OF $35 ORMORE, WE'LL ALSO INCLUDE THE
  • 00:20:43.665 --> 00:20:46.902
  • ICONIC BOOK "THE FIVE LOVELANGUAGES" BY GARY CHAPMAN
  • 00:20:46.902 --> 00:20:50.539
  • THAT TEACHES COUPLES HOW TOFALL IN LOVE AND TO
  • 00:20:50.539 --> 00:20:52.674
  • STAY IN LOVE.
  • 00:20:52.674 --> 00:20:54.676
  • - WE'RE EMOTIONALCREATURES, BUT LOVE ITSELF
  • 00:20:54.676 --> 00:20:57.012
  • DOESN'T BEGIN WITH EMOTION.
  • 00:20:57.012 --> 00:20:58.780
  • THE ATTITUDE AND THEBEHAVIOR STIMULATES
  • 00:20:58.780 --> 00:21:01.016
  • THE EMOTION.
  • 00:21:01.016 --> 00:21:02.684
  • - SO FRIENDS, THANK YOUFOR PARTNERING WITH TBN.
  • 00:21:02.684 --> 00:21:04.653
  • OPERATORS ARE STANDING BY.
  • 00:21:04.653 --> 00:21:06.388
  • PLEASE CALL US RIGHT NOW.
  • 00:21:06.388 --> 00:21:09.057
  • - IT'S VERY IMPORTANT.
  • 00:21:09.057 --> 00:21:11.093
  • THIS IS A VERY IMPORTANTTHING THAT YOU HAVE DONE,
  • 00:21:11.093 --> 00:21:13.695
  • AND I KNOW THERE ARE PEOPLESITTING OUT THERE -- YOU
  • 00:21:13.695 --> 00:21:17.132
  • MIGHT HAVE BEEN MARRIED AYEAR, YOU MIGHT HAVE BEEN
  • 00:21:17.132 --> 00:21:19.167
  • MARRIED 50 -- THAT ARESITTING ON THE COUCH SAYING,
  • 00:21:19.167 --> 00:21:22.504
  • MAN, I NEED THIS.
  • 00:21:22.504 --> 00:21:25.707
  • I NEED TO -- BECAUSE I DON'TFEEL ANYTHING ANYMORE.
  • 00:21:25.707 --> 00:21:29.478
  • IT'S BEEN 50 YEARS, ANDNEITHER ONE OF US ARE GOING
  • 00:21:29.478 --> 00:21:31.513
  • ANYWHERE, BUT I WOULDLOVE TO FEEL THAT AGAIN.
  • 00:21:31.513 --> 00:21:36.385
  • CAN YOU JUST MINISTER?
  • 00:21:36.385 --> 00:21:37.886
  • CAN YOU JUST LOOK AT THECAMERAS AND JUST MINISTER TO
  • 00:21:37.886 --> 00:21:39.488
  • OUR PEOPLE, MAYBE PRAY?
  • 00:21:39.488 --> 00:21:41.089
  • - SURE.- PRAY FOR EVERYBODY.
  • 00:21:41.089 --> 00:21:42.657
  • - SURE, I'D BE HAPPY TO.
  • 00:21:42.657 --> 00:21:44.226
  • YOU KNOW, I THINK WHAT ALLOF US DESIRE IS TO HAVE
  • 00:21:44.226 --> 00:21:49.331
  • WARM, LOVING, CARINGRELATIONSHIPS, WHETHER IT'S
  • 00:21:49.331 --> 00:21:52.601
  • OUR MARRIAGE, OR WITH OURCHILDREN, WITH OUR YOUNG
  • 00:21:52.601 --> 00:21:55.404
  • CHILDREN, OURGROWN CHILDREN.
  • 00:21:55.404 --> 00:21:57.339
  • NONE OF US ENJOY FRACTUREDRELATIONSHIPS, AND SO YOU
  • 00:21:57.339 --> 00:22:01.109
  • KNOW WE CAN APOLOGIZE FOROUR FAILURES AND
  • 00:22:01.109 --> 00:22:04.279
  • THEN START LOVING.
  • 00:22:04.279 --> 00:22:07.048
  • SEEKING TO LEARN AND SPEAK EACHOTHER'S LOVE LANGUAGE, AND
  • 00:22:07.048 --> 00:22:10.719
  • WE DO. WE REBUILD THEMARRIAGE RELATIONSHIP
  • 00:22:10.719 --> 00:22:14.189
  • OR THE FRIENDSHIP, ANDTHAT'S MY DESIRE.
  • 00:22:14.189 --> 00:22:17.125
  • THAT'S MY HEART, ANDIT'S ON GOD'S HEART.
  • 00:22:17.125 --> 00:22:19.628
  • GOD WANTS TO BRINGPEOPLE TOGETHER.
  • 00:22:19.628 --> 00:22:22.063
  • SO LET'S PRAY TOGETHER.
  • 00:22:22.063 --> 00:22:23.432
  • FATHER, THANK YOU THAT YOUCARE ABOUT US MORE THAN WE
  • 00:22:23.432 --> 00:22:28.437
  • CARE ABOUT EACH OTHER,AND THAT YOU TO USE US AS
  • 00:22:28.437 --> 00:22:32.641
  • INSTRUMENTS OF ENRICHING THELIVES OF THE PEOPLE IN OUR
  • 00:22:32.641 --> 00:22:35.944
  • FAMILY THE PEOPLE BEYOND OURFAMILY THAT WE ENCOUNTER
  • 00:22:35.944 --> 00:22:39.281
  • THROUGHOUT THE DAY.
  • 00:22:39.281 --> 00:22:41.383
  • I DO PRAY, FATHER, FOR THOSEWHO ARE STRUGGLING WHETHER
  • 00:22:41.383 --> 00:22:44.286
  • IT'S A MARRIAGERELATIONSHIP OR A
  • 00:22:44.286 --> 00:22:46.588
  • PARENT-CHILD RELATIONSHIP.
  • 00:22:46.588 --> 00:22:48.690
  • I PRAY THAT YOUR SPIRITWOULD TOUCH THEIR SPIRIT AND
  • 00:22:48.690 --> 00:22:52.360
  • GIVE THEM A DEEP DESIRETO ACKNOWLEDGE THEIR OWN
  • 00:22:52.360 --> 00:22:54.763
  • FAILURES IN THE PAST, TOAPOLOGIZE TO YOU, APOLOGIZE
  • 00:22:54.763 --> 00:22:58.066
  • TO THE OTHER PERSON, ANDREQUEST FORGIVENESS.
  • 00:22:58.066 --> 00:23:01.069
  • AND I PRAY THAT YOU'D GIVEA SPIRIT OF FOREGIVENESS TO
  • 00:23:01.069 --> 00:23:04.206
  • THOSE WHO HEAR AN APOLOGY.
  • 00:23:04.206 --> 00:23:06.408
  • AND THEN, FATHER, GIVE THEMA DEEP DESIRE TO EXPERIENCE
  • 00:23:06.408 --> 00:23:10.378
  • WHAT WE'VE BEEN TALKINGABOUT, TO HAVE THE KIND OF
  • 00:23:10.378 --> 00:23:13.081
  • MARRIAGE THEY THOUGHTTHEY WANTED WHEN THEY GOT
  • 00:23:13.081 --> 00:23:15.817
  • MARRIED, TO HAVE THE KINDOF RELATIONSHIP WITH THEIR
  • 00:23:15.817 --> 00:23:18.487
  • ADULT CHILDREN THAT THEYWANTED TO HAVE ALL ALONG
  • 00:23:18.487 --> 00:23:20.455
  • THROUGH THOSE YEARS.
  • 00:23:20.455 --> 00:23:22.791
  • I PRAY, FATHER, YOU'D BRINGHEALING TO RELATIONSHIPS
  • 00:23:22.791 --> 00:23:26.161
  • BECAUSE WE TALKED TODAYABOUT THIS TOPIC, AND WE
  • 00:23:26.161 --> 00:23:28.897
  • KNOW THAT YOU ARE ALWAYSTHERE TO HELP US DO EXACTLY
  • 00:23:28.897 --> 00:23:33.368
  • WHAT YOU ASK US TO DO, ANDTHAT IS TO LOVE THOSE EVEN
  • 00:23:33.368 --> 00:23:37.606
  • WHO ARE UNLOVELY JUST ASYOU LOVED US
  • 00:23:37.606 --> 00:23:39.674
  • WHEN WE WERE UNLOVELY.
  • 00:23:39.674 --> 00:23:42.143
  • IN THE NAME OFCHRIST I PRAY, AMEN.
  • 00:23:42.143 --> 00:23:44.546
  • - AMEN, BEAUTIFUL.- GOOD.
  • 00:23:44.546 --> 00:23:46.882
  • - THE IDEA THAT IT ISAN ACT OF WILL, NOT AN
  • 00:23:46.882 --> 00:23:52.320
  • EMOTIONAL FEELING.
  • 00:23:52.320 --> 00:23:54.689
  • YOU'RE GIVING US PERMISSIONTO STEP OUT, TO JOURNEY DOWN
  • 00:23:54.689 --> 00:23:59.995
  • THIS ROAD WITH YOU, BUTIT'S NOT GOING TO FEEL
  • 00:23:59.995 --> 00:24:03.765
  • LIKE ANYTHING AT FIRST.
  • 00:24:03.765 --> 00:24:05.467
  • - ABSOLUTELY.
  • 00:24:05.467 --> 00:24:07.135
  • - IT'S LIKE WHEN THE LORDSAYS, "IN EVERYTHING YOU DO,
  • 00:24:07.135 --> 00:24:10.338
  • DO IT AS UNTO THE LORD."SOMETIMES WE JUST HAVE TO
  • 00:24:10.338 --> 00:24:12.874
  • GET TO THAT PLACE WHEREWE'RE JUST GOING TO BE
  • 00:24:12.874 --> 00:24:15.310
  • OBEDIENT TO WHAT GODCOMMANDS US TO DO IN LOVING
  • 00:24:15.310 --> 00:24:18.346
  • AND SERVING OTHERS.
  • 00:24:18.346 --> 00:24:20.482
  • - THAT'S THECHRISTIAN PERSPECTIVE.
  • 00:24:20.482 --> 00:24:22.317
  • JESUS SAID, "AS OFTEN AS YOUDO IT TO THE LEAST OF THESE,
  • 00:24:22.317 --> 00:24:25.720
  • YOU DO IT TO ME." SO IFYOU'RE AT THAT PLACE, YOU
  • 00:24:25.720 --> 00:24:28.757
  • JUST SAY, LORD, I WANTTO DO THIS IN YOUR POWER.
  • 00:24:28.757 --> 00:24:32.460
  • I'M DOING IT TO JESUS.
  • 00:24:32.460 --> 00:24:35.263
  • - MY GOODNESS.
  • 00:24:35.263 --> 00:24:37.465
  • - NOTHING LIKE OLD LOVE. HANG INTHERE. YOU CAN TO IT.
  • 00:24:37.465 --> 00:24:42.003
  • - WHOO, THE FIVELOVE LANGUAGES.
  • 00:24:42.003 --> 00:24:45.307
  • THE TBN SPECIAL EDITION ISAVAILABLE, DR. GARY CHAPMAN.
  • 00:24:45.307 --> 00:24:49.578
  • IT'S BEEN UPDATED, AND IT'SAVAILABLE NOW, DR. GARY
  • 00:24:49.578 --> 00:24:54.950
  • CHAPMAN, THANK YOU FORSITTING WITH US TODAY HERE,
  • 00:24:54.950 --> 00:24:58.987
  • BUT THE GREATEST COMMANDMENTTHAT JESUS GAVE WAS TO LOVE.
  • 00:24:58.987 --> 00:25:03.925
  • YOU'VE HELPED US IDENTIFYCATEGORIES, AND THIS BOOK,
  • 00:25:03.925 --> 00:25:08.763
  • THE FIVE LOVE LANGUAGES --THE SECRET TO LOVE THAT
  • 00:25:08.763 --> 00:25:12.167
  • LASTS, APPLIES TO YOURRELATIONSHIPS WITH ANYBODY,
  • 00:25:12.167 --> 00:25:15.770
  • OKAY? AND IT IS AVAILABLE BYGOING TO THAT NUMBER.
  • 00:25:15.770 --> 00:25:20.241
  • WE'D LOVE TO GIVE YOU THEFINAL WORD AND THANKS FOR
  • 00:25:20.241 --> 00:25:24.579
  • BEING WITH US. FINALWORD IS YOURS.
  • 00:25:24.579 --> 00:25:26.815
  • - WELL, LET MEJUST THANK YOU.
  • 00:25:26.815 --> 00:25:28.817
  • IT'S BEEN GREAT CHATTINGWITH YOU, AND I APPRECIATE
  • 00:25:28.817 --> 00:25:30.218
  • YOU LETTING ME IN ONYOUR PERSONAL LIVES.
  • 00:25:30.218 --> 00:25:31.453
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:25:31.453 --> 00:25:33.488
  • - CHECK'S IN THE MAIL.- OH, THERE'S MORE.
  • 00:25:33.488 --> 00:25:35.223
  • [LAUGHTER]
  • 00:25:35.223 --> 00:25:37.258
  • - WE'LL SEE YOU NEXT TIME.
  • 00:25:37.258 --> 00:25:38.460
  • - GOD BLESS YOU.- BYE BYE.
  • 00:25:38.460 --> 00:25:40.195
  • [MUSIC]
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