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The Fear Virus: Rejection

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July 19, 2020
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  • Ed Young: The church should bethe most creative entity
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  • in the world.
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  • The church is where it happens.
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  • The church is where we findpurpose and meaning and power.
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  • The church is the living,breathing body of Christ.
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  • Wisdom, though, is seeing lifethrough the perspective of God.
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  • You've never locked eyeswith someone that Jesus
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  • did not die for.
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  • Ed Young: Thanks so much forwatching Ed Young Television.
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  • You know, the next 30 minutes Ibelieve can change the course of
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  • your life.
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  • So sit back and lean in, becauseI believe God is going to do
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  • some amazing things in your lifeand in mine.
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  • Ed Young: I want you to thinkabout something in your life
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  • that is a little bit depressing,but we're gonna talk
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  • about it today.
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  • It'll end good, but it's gonnabe tough to think about it.
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  • When was the first time that youever felt rejected?
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  • The first time you ever feltsomeone turn their back on you.
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  • Maybe someone ridiculed youbecause of your heritage,
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  • because of your skin color,because of jealousy,
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  • I don't know.
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  • Maybe it was a parent, maybeit was a friend, maybe it was
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  • a group of people, you know,that in-crowd in high school.
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  • You got rejected.
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  • Maybe you're like Ed,recently I was laid off.
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  • Rejection.
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  • And there's probably some of youhere and at all of our ten
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  • campuses and those who arewatching online and those who
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  • will watch this on television,there's probably some of you who
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  • are going through the ultimaterejection right now, divorce.
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  • It's painful, isn't it, to thinkabout that?
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  • It is for me.
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  • If I think about it too much, Ican even get a little teary,
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  • and I'm not a crier.
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  • I definitely will get angry.
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  • Hurt.
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  • I think back even to some thingsthat happened in my teenage
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  • years that gets to me.
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  • What do we do with this fear?
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  • What do we do when we'rerejected?
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  • Because if we live in the fearof rejection, it can keep us
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  • from the kind of faith and thekind of journey and the kind of
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  • pilgrimage that God desires.
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  • I truly believe the enemy--andyes, I believe in the devil.
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  • I don't think it takes anyonewho's brilliant to take the
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  • leap, and it's not a leap toknow that there's an evil force
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  • in the world that's wreakinghavoc upon our lives and our
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  • culture today.
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  • This is an opportunity, the fearof rejection, for faith.
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  • So it's almost like when fearblows up your phone,
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  • just simply say, "Hey, Siri,text fear: 'Faith.'"
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  • Faith.
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  • Sometimes, as I've said before,we say, well, I just don't have
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  • enough faith to become afollower of Christ.
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  • And I always respond when I talkto someone like that, I believe
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  • you do, because everyone hasfaith in someone or something.
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  • It's where youdirect your faith.
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  • The Bible says, from coverto cover, that fear is
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  • a God-given emotion.
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  • That's right, fear is anemotion.
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  • We're carriers of it.
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  • Our world today, wehave a fear out there.
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  • We fear so many things.
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  • We fear death, we fear viruses,we fear when races are treated
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  • unjustly, we have this fear,this fear that our economy will
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  • never come back.
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  • We just have so many fears.
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  • One of the major fears I wannajust talk with today about is
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  • the fear of rejection.
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  • And I want to do this in a in adifferent way.
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  • I want to talk about fear in aunique way.
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  • I started thinkin' about mylife, and I started thinkin'
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  • about the struggle that I've hadwith the fear of rejection.
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  • So then I thought, what if Ijust flip the script and what if
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  • I taught you how to live in thefear of rejection?
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  • I mean, I know how to do it, andalso I've seen people live in
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  • this sphere a lot, so doesn'tthat sound fun?
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  • I'll teach you.
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  • It's gonna end good, though,I promise.
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  • I wanna teach you how to livein the fear of rejection.
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  • This is especially important forthe young people.
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  • Because I think from ages 14until about 18, we probably deal
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  • with the fear of rejection moreduring that span of time than
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  • any other time.
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  • Wouldn't you agree?
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  • And then that fear sort of stayswith us for the rest of
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  • our lives.
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  • This kind of shocked me as Ibegan to study more and more in
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  • an in-depth fashionthe life of Moses.
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  • We always talk about Moses beingso magnificent, so awesome.
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  • Moses was an illustration ofJesus, which is true.
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  • Obviously, Moses was notsinless, but the whole vibe of
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  • Moses delivering the children ofIsrael from 430 years of
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  • Egyptian slavery, I've got it,Moses a difference-maker, Moses
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  • the man, but I'm gonna argue,Moses's thorn in his flesh,
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  • Moses's major weakness wasthe fear of rejection.
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  • You might be saying, Ed,get out of town.
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  • Somebody call somebody.
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  • There's no way Moses--Moses?
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  • Dealt with the fearof rejection.
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  • Yes, he did.Yes, he did.
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  • Every time we deal with fear,it's an opportunity for faith.
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  • Every single time.
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  • Moses obviously wasa difference-maker.
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  • He was great.
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  • God did someamazing things in his life.
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  • But he dealt time and time againwith the fear of rejection.
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  • So I'm going to go through somequick segments in his life, an
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  • overview, and I want you to seehow he responded.
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  • Because he's gonna teach us notonly the positive, but also
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  • today the negative.
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  • Don't be gloomy,it's gonna get good.
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  • But has anyone ever taught youhow to fear rejection?
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  • Well, I am.
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  • Number one, the first way tolive in the fear of rejection is
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  • make sure to make emotionaldecisions.
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  • It's very important.
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  • Make those emotional decisions.
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  • I've made so many emotionaldecisions that were out of the
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  • will of God.
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  • I have.
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  • Moses made one.
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  • And who is Moses, anyway?
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  • The first 40 years,he was a somebody.
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  • Grew up in Egyptian royalty.
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  • He was gonna bethe next Pharaoh of Egypt.
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  • A Hebrew!
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  • Born a Hebrew, born a slave,adopted into this palatial life.
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  • For the first 40 years you canwrite somebody.
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  • Then because of what I want totalk about in about 90 seconds,
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  • he made a major mistake.
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  • And because of that, the next 40years he lived in the desert.
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  • He moved from asomebody to a nobody.
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  • And then because of the graceand the power and the mercy of
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  • God, the last 40 years as he ledGod's people to the brink of the
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  • Promised Land, he discoveredthat God can use anybody.
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  • Somebody, nobody, anybody.
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  • That's the Gospel.
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  • We think we're somebody,we're running the show,
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  • and the Bible calls thatattitude and behavior sin.
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  • We think we're somebody.
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  • We realize we're a nobody,we don't deserve jack.
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  • And we receive Jesus Christ,we know his grace is available
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  • to everybody, anybody,no matter who you are,
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  • no matter what you've done,no matter where you are,
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  • and that's whenthe lights come on.
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  • That's when we're born again,that's when we're saved, that's
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  • when we've been ambushed by thegrace of God.
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  • Moses, though, made an emotionaldecision.
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  • He's living in Egypt, and hetries to referee two fights.
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  • Did you know that?
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  • Two fights.
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  • He tried to referee.
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  • Moses thought he wasthe referee.
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  • Come on, Moses.
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  • And these were muchmore rigorous and rough
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  • than some MMA thing,that's just lightweight stuff.
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  • Moses is walking around, and hesees one of his countrymen, one
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  • of his Hebrews, being takenadvantage of by an Egyptian.
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  • So the Bible says in Exoduschapter 3 verse 12, Moses looked
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  • around, didn't see anybody,killed the Egyptian.
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  • And then he buried him in thesand, the Bible says.
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  • He thought he had gotten awaywith murder.
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  • As I've been saying, Netflixshould do a documentary on this.
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  • But as the sands begin to shift,those toes began to to stick out
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  • of the sand.
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  • The next day Moses saw two ofhis Hebrews goin' at it in the
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  • squared circle.
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  • And one of them said, "Hey,Moses, are you gonna kill me
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  • like you killed the Egyptianyesterday?"
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  • They didn't even have socialmedia back then, and it was
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  • already trending.
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  • Somebody was a--I love thisphrase, whistleblower.
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  • Ed Young: I just want to say,again, a huge thanks for your
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  • generosity and for youpartnering with us.
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  • No matter where you are, nomatter what age or stage you
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  • find yourself in life, we havetools, we have books, we have
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  • resources to help you in thisendeavor.
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  • So if you're not a part of ourfamily here, we'll love for you
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  • to become a part.
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  • You can see what to doon the screen.
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  • So, again, thanksfor your generosity,
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  • and let's go backto the message.
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  • Ed Young: So Moses made thisdecision, this emotional
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  • decision, to kill the Egyptian,and it cost him dearly.
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  • Moses, are you ready for this,committed murder.
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  • Murder.
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  • Murder.
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  • Isn't it true the enemy lovesfor us to revel in fear?
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  • He loves us to have fear,misplaced fear, to move our fear
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  • away from God and towardanything and everything else.
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  • Because when we do that, we'regoing to make--follow this
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  • now--emotional decisions.
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  • When I make emotional decisions,I'm at the center of
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  • the universe.
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  • And suddenly everything issubjective and everything
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  • is relative.
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  • If you look at what's happeningin our culture, in the
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  • universities, in the highschools, junior high schools,
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  • even elementary schools, you seethis relativistic mentality
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  • that's everywhere.
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  • You see it in the media, you seeit in culture, you see it around
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  • the world.
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  • It sounds--listen to me,especially if you're young--
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  • it sounds so sexy.
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  • If you feel it, it's real.
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  • Thus, those are your feelings,so they're true, base your life
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  • on that.
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  • All right, we have to validatethe feelings of others.
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  • Try getting married and notvalidating the feelings
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  • of others.
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  • Love your wife,are you kidding me?
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  • Feelings matter.
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  • We have to validate the feelingsof everyone, every group.
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  • Okay, I feel you.
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  • I like that phrase, I feel you,but it's like my friend, Dr.
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  • Tony Evans said--anAfrican-American pastor here in
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  • Dallas and one of the most notedtheologians in the world.
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  • I've known Dr. Evans since I'vebeen 17 years old.
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  • Tony Evans said feelings aregreat, feelings are cool, but
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  • you've got to put the feelingsthrough the funnel of faith
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  • and the Word of God.
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  • Feel the feelings,because we got to.
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  • Then though, you have to funnelthem through the Word of God
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  • to see if they line up, if theysquare with Scripture.
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  • If they do, great, move on downthe road, make decisions.
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  • If they don't, just say, wow,those were emotions.
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  • And Moses, because he didn'thear from God first, Moses,
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  • 'cause he didn't say, God,what do you think, said, oh,
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  • I can do it myself.
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  • And he made thisemotional decision.
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  • And we see time and time againin Moses's life how these
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  • emotional decisionsmessed him up.
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  • And basically this wasa fear of rejection.
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  • There were all sorts of thingsgoin' on in Moses's life,
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  • all sorts of things.
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  • But that is one way to live inthe fear of rejection, to make
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  • emotional decisions, you are theruler, and when I'm the ruler of
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  • my life, when I think it's aboutme, that's when I make these
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  • subjective decisions, and theresult of relativism is chaos.
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  • Our world is moving more andmore toward chaos.
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  • The reason is no one believesanymore in absolute truth.
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  • Yet the relativist, who's gonnabe your professor in college one
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  • day and I'm sure your highschool teacher or your junior
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  • high teacher will say, wow,everything is relative!
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  • That's a self-refutingworldview.
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  • You just made an absolutestatement about relativism, so
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  • your argument makes zero sense.
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  • Are you feeling me?
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  • Nod your head.
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  • Did you understand that?
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  • Okay, okay.
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  • Number two, here's another way,it's gonna be a quick one today,
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  • talk bad about yourself.
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  • You gotta talk badabout yourself.
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  • You wanna live in the fearof rejection, just talk
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  • yourself down.
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  • Man, so easy to do that.
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  • I love to do that.
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  • First time I began to talk badabout myself, I was on the
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  • monkey bars, and there were acouple of girls--I was seven
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  • years old--who didn't like me,and I tried so hard to get these
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  • girls to like me, but theydidn't like me.
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  • Most people liked me in thefirst grade, but those girls
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  • didn't like me.
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  • And I remember thinking, wow,I'm trying so hard to get them
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  • to like me, but theydon't like me.
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  • I've struggled with thatmy whole life.
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  • I've spent too much time tryingto get those who don't like me
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  • to like me.
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  • Like me, like me, like me, likeme, like me, like me, like me,
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  • and now we have this wholeplatform where we have likes.
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  • I don't look at the likes.
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  • I'm like they don't like me?
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  • They're criticizing me?
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  • And maybe I'll go backand forth, please like me,
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  • please like me,please like me.
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  • That's what Mo wasdealing with, rejection.
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  • God called him, first 40 years,oh, I'm somebody.
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  • Then he murders a cat.
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  • Now he is on the run.
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  • I mean, he's out there.
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  • Have you ever thought I've donesomething so bad in my past that
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  • God cannot use me today?
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  • Have you everthought about that?
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  • We all have.
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  • That's the enemy himself.
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  • Moses murdered somebody.
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  • Hello!
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  • Does anyone knowhe murdered somebody,
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  • and look at how God used him.
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  • Well, one day God calls himthrough a burning bush,
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  • and he's like, "Hey, Moses,you're the man.
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  • I mean, I prepared you now, youthought you were somebody.
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  • Sorry, now you're nobody."
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  • God got Moses right wherehe needed to be to be used
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  • in a great way.
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  • And then we have Moses givingall of these excuses to God.
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  • Let me just go through themright quick.
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  • Exodus 3:11, who am I? Exodus4:1, what if they don't believe
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  • me or listen to me?
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  • He's arguing with God.
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  • Look at verse 10, Exodus 4,I'm slow of speech
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  • and slow of tongue.
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  • Exodus 4:13, "O my Lord, pleasesend by the hand of whomever
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  • else you may send."
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  • Moses is struggling with hisidentity here?
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  • This is Moses now.
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  • His security here?
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  • The future here?
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  • He's dealing with the fearof rejection.
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  • I know you see it, don't you?
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  • I can't do this, God, there's noway, I mean, that's
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  • an impossibility.
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  • He was having these self-doubts,he was having these
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  • conversations in his head.
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  • What if we could hear theconversations going on in our
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  • heads right now?
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  • Ed Young voiceover:Wow, the lights on the stage
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  • are blinding.
  • 00:19:59.745 --> 00:20:02.314
  • But then again, it's probablygood due to the fact that with
  • 00:20:02.347 --> 00:20:06.451
  • this pandemic going on there'snot a lot of people going
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  • to church.
  • 00:20:11.423 --> 00:20:12.758
  • There's so many mixed messages,and there's so much fear out
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  • there, surely peoplewill come back.
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  • I love these white jeansI have on.
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  • White jeans have got to bemy favorite thing to wear.
  • 00:20:23.735 --> 00:20:28.974
  • Lisa didn't really like for meto wear the jeans today, but
  • 00:20:29.007 --> 00:20:34.146
  • what does she know aboutfashion?
  • 00:20:34.179 --> 00:20:36.948
  • I sure hope people understandthis message about the fear
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  • of rejection.
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  • I think it might shock peoplethat I deal with it regularly.
  • 00:20:42.988 --> 00:20:48.327
  • I gained some weight during thequarantine, and I decided to go
  • 00:20:51.797 --> 00:20:55.500
  • on keto, but I don't know ifanyone can tell I've lost
  • 00:20:55.534 --> 00:20:59.338
  • a couple of pounds, who knows?
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  • Man, one of the things thatreally frightens me is this
  • 00:21:02.007 --> 00:21:05.510
  • whole offering thing.
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  • Everything's online.
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  • If people knew how much we needtheir participation in
  • 00:21:10.415 --> 00:21:15.120
  • this endeavor.
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  • Well, doesn't look like too manypeople are asleep.
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  • I'll continue on withthe message.
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  • Ed Young: The third way to livein the fear of rejection is to
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  • overly react to your critics.
  • 00:21:33.505 --> 00:21:36.942
  • Just overly react to them.
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  • How many times did Moses dealwith critics?
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  • This phrase is repeated, it's onrepeat on Moses's playlist as he
  • 00:21:42.681 --> 00:21:47.152
  • led the children of Israel intothe Promised Land, and they
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  • grumbled against Moses.
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  • And they grumbledagainst Moses.
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  • And they grumbledagainst Moses.
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  • Criticism hurts.
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  • We have to listen to it and runit through the grid of
  • 00:22:02.134 --> 00:22:08.140
  • Scripture, run it through thegrid of our personal board
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  • of directors.
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  • Is there any truth here, God?
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  • We, though, can waste timetrying to chase down
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  • the critics.
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  • I had heart surgery in 2017.
  • 00:22:21.586 --> 00:22:26.158
  • They split me open from stem tostern just to repair a tiny
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  • valve that I was born with.
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  • It wasn't working just right.
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  • It was painful.
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  • I can't really describe to youthe pain.
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  • I've forgotten it.
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  • But I can easily describe to yousome pain I incurred in high
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  • school when someone betrayed me.
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  • Do you realize that behavioralexperts tell us that we can
  • 00:22:56.888 --> 00:23:02.894
  • easily recreate relational painmore than physical pain?
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  • Hey, you want to sign upfor rejection?
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  • Just try to chase downyour critics.
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  • You're wasting your time.
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  • The fourth and final one, becomeself-centered.
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  • That's a real good one.
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  • Do you mean Moses wasself-centered?
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  • Yeah, he struggled with it.
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  • You remember when he got mad?
  • 00:23:26.284 --> 00:23:27.853
  • Again, he put his emotionsabove facts.
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  • He made an emotional decision.
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  • The children of Israel weregrumbling.
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  • He whacked the rock twice out ofanger to give them water.
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  • And check out this self-centeredstatement.
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  • Numbers 20:10, "He and Aarongathered the assembly together
  • 00:23:47.572 --> 00:23:51.443
  • in front of the rock,and Moses said to them,
  • 00:23:51.476 --> 00:23:53.979
  • 'Listen, you rebels.'"
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  • Read, they're idiots.
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  • Must we, Aaron and I, we,we, me, us,
  • 00:24:01.219 --> 00:24:07.225
  • bring you waterout of this rock?
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  • Moses, it's not about you!
  • 00:24:12.998 --> 00:24:19.004
  • He started out as a somebody,oh, it's about me.
  • 00:24:22.007 --> 00:24:26.077
  • God took him to a nobody, wow,it's not about me, it's
  • 00:24:26.111 --> 00:24:30.949
  • about God.
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  • Then he realized that God coulduse anybody.
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  • Even through the fear ofrejection, God used Moses in a
  • 00:24:38.356 --> 00:24:44.362
  • powerful, powerful way.
  • 00:24:46.464 --> 00:24:50.835
  • He wants to use you in apowerful way as well.
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  • Isn't it time that you said,God, I'm a nobody before you.
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  • I receive you, Jesus, because,man, you can use anybody, and
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  • I'm ready to fear God, only you.
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