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February 15, 2021
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Today we are going to discover both how and why we should choose forgiveness over bitterness.

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  • ♪ MUSIC
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  • [ANNOUNCER] FROM THE PULPITOF THE FIRST BAPTIST CHURCH
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  • OF DALLAS, TEXAS, THISIS "PATHWAY TO VICTORY"
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  • WITH DR. ROBERT JEFFRESS.
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  • HI, I'M ROBERT JEFFRESS,AND WELCOME AGAIN
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  • TO "PATHWAY TO VICTORY."
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  • MANY PEOPLE BELIEVETHAT FORGIVENESS DEPENDS
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  • ON WHETHER OR NOT THEOFFENDER COMES ASKING FOR IT.
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  • BUT IN REALITY,FORGIVENESS IS AN ATTITUDE,
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  • A CHOICE, THAT BEGINS WITH YOU.
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  • TODAY, I'M GOING TOEXPLAIN WHY IT'S BETTER
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  • TO LET GO OF PAST OFFENSESTHAN TO BURDEN OURSELVES
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  • WITH THE WEIGHTOF UNFORGIVENESS.
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  • MY MESSAGE IS TITLED "CHOOSINGFORGIVENESS OVER BITTERNESS"
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  • ON TODAY'S EDITION OF"PATHWAY TO VICTORY."
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  • ♪ MUSIC
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  • [ANNOUNCER] WE CANNOT CHOOSETHE CIRCUMSTANCES WE FACE,
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  • BUT WE CAN CHOOSEOUR RESPONSE TO THEM.
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  • LEARN HOW TO MAKEYOUR CIRCUMSTANCES
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  • WORK FOR YOU, NOT AGAINST YOU,
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  • WITH A BRAND-NEW BOOKFROM DR. ROBERT JEFFRESS,
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  • "CHOOSE YOUR ATTITUDES,CHANGE YOUR LIFE."
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  • WHEN IT COMES TOFACING OBSTACLES,
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  • ATTITUDE IS EVERYTHING.
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  • THE PRACTICAL BIBLICALPRINCIPLES IN THIS BOOK
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  • WILL HELP YOU EXPERIENCETHE JOY GOD INTENDS FOR YOU,
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  • REGARDLESS OF WHAT'SHAPPENING AROUND YOU.
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  • REQUEST "CHOOSE YOURATTITUDES, CHANGE YOUR LIFE"
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  • WHEN YOU GIVE A GENEROUSGIFT TO "PATHWAY TO VICTORY."
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  • ♪ MUSIC
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  • WHILE I WAS PASTORIN A PREVIOUS CHURCH,
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  • I USED TO HAVE AWEEKLY NEWSPAPER COLUMN
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  • IN OUR LOCAL NEWSPAPERCALLED "ASK THE DOCTOR,"
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  • AND PEOPLE WOULD WRITEIN VARIOUS QUESTIONS
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  • ABOUT THE BIBLE, THEOLOGY,THE CHRISTIAN LIFE.
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  • AND ONE OF THE MOST FREQUENTLYASKED QUESTIONS WAS THIS ONE.
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  • WHAT IS THE WORST SINA PERSON CAN COMMIT?
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  • WHAT IS THE WORST SIN?
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  • AND PEOPLE WERE ALWAYSSURPRISED BY MY ANSWER.
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  • THEY WOULD EXPECTTHAT I WOULD MENTION
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  • ONE OF THE BIG THREE, MURDER,ADULTERY, HOMOSEXUALITY.
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  • THEY WOULD SAY, "SURELY THATWOULD BE THE WORST SIN."
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  • BUT THAT WASN'T THE WORSTSIN THAT I WOULD MENTION.
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  • NOW, WE KNOW THAT GODDOESN'T GRADE SIN.
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  • ALL SIN IS SIN INGOD'S EYES, AND ANY SIN
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  • IS ENOUGH TO DISQUALIFYUS FROM GOD'S KINGDOM.
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  • WE KNOW THAT GODDOESN'T GRADE SIN,
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  • BUT THE FACT IS,THERE ARE SOME SINS
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  • THAT HAVE A GREATER CONSEQUENCE,
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  • IN THIS LIFE, ATLEAST, THAN OTHER SINS.
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  • AND THAT'S WHY I CHOSETHE SIN OF BITTERNESS
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  • AS THE WORST SIN THATSOMEBODY CAN COMMIT.
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  • BITTERNESS, REFUSING TO LETGO OF HURTS IN YOUR LIFE,
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  • REFUSING TO FORGIVETHE OFFENSES OF OTHERS,
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  • HAS DEVASTATING RESULTS,NOT ONLY IN OUR LIFE,
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  • BUT IN THE LIVESOF THOSE AROUND US.
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  • YOU KNOW, IN HEBREWS12:15, THE WRITER SAYS,
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  • "SEE TO IT THAT NOONE OF YOU COMES SHORT
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  • OF THE GRACE OF GOD, THATNO ROOT OF BITTERNESS
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  • SPRINGING UP CAUSES TROUBLE,AND MANY BE DEFILED."
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  • YOU KNOW, IN OUR SERIES"CHOOSE YOUR ATTITUDES,
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  • CHANGE YOUR LIFE," WE'RESAYING THAT WE DON'T GET
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  • TO CHOOSE OURCIRCUMSTANCES IN LIFE,
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  • WE DON'T GET TO CHANGE OURCIRCUMSTANCES IN OUR LIFE.
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  • BUT WE CAN CHOOSE OUR RESPONSETO THE CIRCUMSTANCES OF LIFE.
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  • YOU KNOW, ONE COMMONCIRCUMSTANCE EVERY ONE OF US
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  • IN THIS ROOM OR WATCHINGTHIS BROADCAST HAVE IS THIS.
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  • AT SOME POINT IN YOUR LIFE,YOU'RE GOING TO BE HURT,
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  • AND HURT DEEPLYBY ANOTHER PERSON.
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  • HAVE YOU DISCOVEREDTHAT YOU CAN'T CONTROL
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  • WHAT OTHER PEOPLE DO TO YOU?
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  • SOMEBODY'S GOINGTO HURT YOU DEEPLY.
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  • IT MAY BE A FRIENDWHO BETRAYS YOU,
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  • A MATE WHO DESERTS YOU,A PARENT WHO ABUSES YOU,
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  • A BUSINESS ASSOCIATEWHO CHEATS YOU.
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  • BUT THE FACT IS, WE'REALL GOING TO BE HURT.
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  • THAT'S A COMMON EXPERIENCE.
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  • BUT WE DO HAVE CONTROLOVER HOW WE RESPOND
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  • TO THOSE HURTS IN LIFE.
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  • WE CAN HOLD ON TO THEM, ANDTHAT'S WHAT BITTERNESS IS,
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  • UNTIL THAT BITTERNESSMETASTASIZES INTO A TUMOR
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  • AND DESTROYS OUR LIFEAND THOSE AROUND US.
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  • THE OTHER CHOICE WE HAVE ISTO FORGIVE THOSE OFFENSES.
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  • THE WORD FORGIVE LITERALLYMEANS TO LET GO OF.
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  • FORGIVENESS IS ACTUALLYAN ATTITUDE CHOICE
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  • THAT HONESTLY ACKNOWLEDGES ANOFFENSE AND THEN RELEASES IT
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  • ON THE BASIS OF GOD'SFORGIVENESS OF US.
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  • LET ME SAY IT AGAIN.
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  • FORGIVENESS IS ACTUALLYAN ATTITUDE CHOICE
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  • THAT HONESTLY ACKNOWLEDGES ANOFFENSE AND THEN RELEASES IT
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  • ON THE BASIS OF GOD'SFORGIVENESS OF US.
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  • TODAY, WE'RE GOINGTO TALK ABOUT WHY
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  • WE OUGHT TO CHOOSEFORGIVENESS OVER BITTERNESS.
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  • HOW CAN I LET GO OF THATDEEP WOUND IN MY LIFE?
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  • HOW CAN I LET GO OF IT, ANDWHY SHOULD I LET GO OF IT?
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  • PROBABLY THE PASSAGETO ME IN THE BIBLE
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  • THAT BEST ANSWERS THOSEQUESTIONS IS FOUND
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  • IN A FAMILIAR STORYTHAT JESUS TOLD
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  • AND IS RECORDED IN MATTHEW 18.
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  • TURN TO MATTHEW 18 AS WELOOK AT, FIRST OF ALL,
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  • FORGIVENESS ILLUSTRATED.
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  • NOW, JESUS TOLD A LOT OFSTORIES, A LOT OF PARABLES,
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  • BUT TO UNDERSTANDTHOSE PARABLES,
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  • YOU HAVE TO FIRST OF ALL
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  • UNDERSTAND THE CONTEXTOF THE PARABLE.
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  • WHAT IS IT THAT LEDUP TO JESUS TELLING
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  • WHATEVER PARTICULARSTORY IT IS HE TOLD?
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  • IT'S TRUE HERE AS WELL.
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  • EARLIER IN MATTHEW 18,
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  • JESUS HAS BEEN TALKINGABOUT CHURCH DISCIPLINE.
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  • HOW SHOULD A CONGREGATIONDEAL WITH MEMBERS
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  • WHO'VE SINNED ANDHURT THAT CONGREGATION
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  • OR HURT THEREPUTATION OF CHRIST?
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  • AND REMEMBER, JESUS GAVEUS A FOUR-STEP PROCESS.
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  • YOU'RE TO GO TO THATPERSON IN PRIVATE.
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  • IF HE REPENTS,YOU'VE WON A BROTHER.
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  • IF HE DOESN'T REPENT, THENTAKE TWO OR THREE WITH YOU.
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  • IF HE DOESN'T REPENT,THEN TELL IT TO THE CHURCH
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  • AND HAVE THE CHURCHPRAY FOR THE PERSON.
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  • IF HE STILL DOESN'TREPENT, THEN YOU'RE
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  • TO TURN HIM OUT OF THECHURCH SO THAT HE DOESN'T
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  • BECOME A CANCER IN THE CHURCH.
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  • THAT'S HOW YOU DEAL WITHPEOPLE WHO ARE SINNING
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  • AGAINST THE CHURCH OR HURTINGTHE REPUTATION OF CHRIST.
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  • BUT THEN, BEGINNING IN VERSE21, PETER CHANGES TOPICS.
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  • HE SAYS, "PETER CAMETO HIM AND SAID,
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  • 'LORD, HOW OFTEN SHALLMY BROTHER SIN AGAINST ME
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  • AND I FORGIVE HIM?UP TO SEVEN TIMES?'"
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  • YOU SEE, PETER ISNO LONGER TALKING
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  • ABOUT SINS AGAINSTTHE BODY OF CHRIST.
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  • HE'S TALKING ABOUTPERSONAL SINS.
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  • "WHAT AM I TO DO ABOUTPEOPLE WHO HURT ME, LORD?"
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  • AND PETER HAD BEEN AROUNDTHE LORD LONG ENOUGH
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  • TO KNOW HE WASSUPPOSED TO FORGIVE.
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  • "SHOULD I FORGIVEUP TO SEVEN TIMES?"
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  • WHY DID HE CHOOSE SEVEN?
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  • WELL, THERE WAS A POPULARRABBI IN JESUS' DAY WHO SAID,
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  • "IF SOMEBODY WRONGSYOU, FORGIVE.
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  • IF HE WRONGS YOU AGAIN, FORGIVE.
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  • IF HE WRONGS YOU ATHIRD TIME, FORGIVE.
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  • IF HE WRONGS YOU A FOURTHTIME, DON'T FORGIVE."
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  • THREE WAS THE LIMIT INJESUS' DAY FOR FORGIVENESS.
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  • AND SO, WHEN PETERSAID, "SHOULD I FORGIVE
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  • UP TO SEVEN TIMES?" HE WASBEING EXCEEDINGLY GENEROUS.
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  • BUT HOW DID JESUS RESPOND?
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  • VERSE 22, "'I DO NOT SAYTO YOU, UP TO SEVEN TIMES,
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  • BUT UP TO SEVENTY TIMES SEVEN.'"
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  • THAT WAS A WAY OF SAYINGYOU'RE TO FORGIVE,
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  • AND FORGIVE, AND FORGIVE,AND TO KEEP ON FORGIVING.
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  • "WELL, WHY SHOULD I DO THAT?
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  • WHY SHOULD I KEEP ON FORGIVINGSOMEBODY WHO HURTS ME?"
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  • THAT IS THE QUESTIONTHAT RESULTED
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  • IN THIS STORY THAT JESUS TOLD.
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  • LOOK AT VERSE 23.
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  • FOR THIS REASON, BECAUSEYOU'RE SUPPOSED TO FORGIVE
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  • AN UNLIMITED NUMBER OF TIMES.
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  • "LET ME TELL YOU ASTORY," JESUS SAID.
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  • "THE KINGDOM OF HEAVEN CANBE COMPARED TO A CERTAIN KING
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  • WHO WISHED TO SETTLEACCOUNTS WITH HIS SLAVES.
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  • AND WHEN HE HADBEGAN TO SETTLE THEM,
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  • THERE WAS BROUGHT TO HIM ONEWHO OWED HIM 10.000 TALENTS.
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  • NOW, HERE WAS A KINGWHO NEEDED SOME MONEY
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  • AND HE NEEDED IT QUICKLY.
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  • HE WAS RUNNING SHORT ON CASH.
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  • SO HE CALLS IN ALL OFHIS ACCOUNTS RECEIVABLE,
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  • PEOPLE WHO OWED HIMMONEY, AND HE STARTED,
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  • OBVIOUSLY, WITH THE PERSONWHO OWED HIM THE MOST MONEY.
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  • IT WAS A SLAVE WHO OWEDHIM 10.000 TALENTS.
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  • NOW, IN JESUS' DAY, A TALENTWAS A UNIT OF MEASUREMENT.
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  • IT WAS ABOUT 80 POUNDS OF GOLD.
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  • THAT WAS ONE TALENT.
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  • THIS SLAVE OWED THEKING 10.000 TALENTS.
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  • YOU WANT TO COMPUTE HOWMUCH GOLD THAT THAT IS?
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  • I DID IT ONE TIME,AND THEN I DID IT
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  • ACCORDING TO THE CURRENTPRICE OF GOLD TODAY.
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  • YOU KNOW HOW MUCH MONEYTHAT WOULD BE TODAY?
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  • THAT WOULD BE $16 BILLION.
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  • HERE IS A SLAVE WHOOWED A KING $16 BILLION.
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  • YOU SAY, "HOW COULDA MEASLY SLAVE
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  • END UP OWING THAT MUCH MONEY?"
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  • REMEMBER, THIS IS A PARABLE.IT'S A STORY JESUS TOLD.
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  • HE WAS USINGEXAGGERATION TO SAY,
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  • "HERE IS SOMEBODYWHO OWED A DEBT
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  • HE COULDN'T REPAY IN 10.000LIFETIMES IF HE WANTED TO.
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  • BUT THE KING SAID, 'YOUOWE ME THIS MONEY. REPAY.'"
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  • IN VERSE 25, "SINCETHE SLAVE DID NOT HAVE
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  • THE MEANS TO REPAY, THE KINGCOMMANDED HIM TO BE SOLD,
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  • ALONG WITH HIS WIFE ANDCHILDREN AND ALL THAT HE HAD,
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  • AND REPAYMENT TO BE MADE.
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  • THE SLAVE, THEREFORE,FALLING DOWN,
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  • PROSTRATED HIMSELFBEFORE THE KING,
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  • SAYING, 'HAVE PATIENCE WITH ME
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  • AND I WILL REPAYYOU EVERYTHING.'"
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  • NOW, HOW WAS HEGOING TO DO THAT?
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  • TAKE A LITTLE BIT OUTOF HIS CHECK EVERY WEEK
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  • UNTIL IT WASREPAID, $16 BILLION?
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  • I DON'T THINK SO.
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  • IT WAS IMPOSSIBLE FORHIM TO REPAY THE DEBT.
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  • BUT THE LORD, VERSE 27,"THE KING OF THAT SLAVE
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  • FELT COMPASSION,AND HE RELEASED HIM
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  • AND HE FORGAVE HIM THE DEBT."
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  • THERE IS THE MEANINGOF FORGIVENESS.
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  • IT'S A FINANCIAL TERM.
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  • IT MEANS TO RELEASESOMEONE OF A DEBT.
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  • THE KING CHOSE TOFORGIVE THE DEBT,
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  • TO ABSORB THE LOSS HIMSELF.
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  • THEN, THIS IS WHERE THESTORY TAKES A TWIST.
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  • "BUT THE SLAVE, THE ONEWHO HAD JUST BEEN FORGIVEN
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  • THE $16 BILLION,WENT OUT AND FOUND
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  • HIS FELLOW SLAVE WHOOWED HIM 100 DENARII."
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  • NOW, A DENARIUS IN ROMAN CULTUREWAS 16 CENTS, ONE DENARIUS.
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  • THAT WAS A DAY'S WAGE.
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  • THIS SLAVE FOUND A FELLOWSLAVE WHO OWED HIM 100 DENARII.
  • 00:10:56.846 --> 00:11:01.517
  • THAT WOULD BE ABOUT $16.
  • 00:11:01.517 --> 00:11:04.987
  • "AND HE SEIZED HIM ANDHE BEGAN TO CHOKE HIM,
  • 00:11:04.987 --> 00:11:08.324
  • SAYING, 'PAY BACK WHAT YOU OWE!'
  • 00:11:08.324 --> 00:11:11.127
  • SO HIS FELLOW SLAVE FELL DOWNAND BEGAN TO ENTREAT HIM,
  • 00:11:11.127 --> 00:11:13.863
  • SAYING, 'HAVE PATIENCE WITHME. I WILL REPAY YOU.'"
  • 00:11:13.863 --> 00:11:17.500
  • SOUND FAMILIAR?
  • 00:11:17.500 --> 00:11:19.268
  • IT'S EXACTLY WHAT THE FIRSTSLAVE HAD SAID TO THE KING,
  • 00:11:19.268 --> 00:11:22.238
  • "HAVE PATIENCE WITH MEAND I WILL REPAY YOU."
  • 00:11:22.238 --> 00:11:24.774
  • "BUT UNLIKE THE KING, THISFIRST SLAVE WAS UNWILLING,"
  • 00:11:24.774 --> 00:11:28.611
  • VERSE 30 SAYS, "AND HE WENTAND HE THREW HIS FELLOW SLAVE
  • 00:11:28.611 --> 00:11:32.181
  • INTO PRISON UNTIL HE SHOULDPAY BACK WHAT WAS OWED.
  • 00:11:32.181 --> 00:11:36.152
  • SO WHEN HIS FELLOW SLAVESSAW WHAT HAD HAPPENED,
  • 00:11:36.152 --> 00:11:39.889
  • THEY WERE DEEPLYGRIEVED, AND CAME
  • 00:11:39.889 --> 00:11:42.291
  • AND REPORTED TO THEIR LORDALL THAT HAD HAPPENED.
  • 00:11:42.291 --> 00:11:45.161
  • THEN SUMMONING HIM,THE KING SAID TO HIM,
  • 00:11:45.161 --> 00:11:47.363
  • 'YOU WICKED SLAVE, IFORGAVE YOU ALL THAT DEBT
  • 00:11:47.363 --> 00:11:51.934
  • BECAUSE YOU ENTREATED ME.
  • 00:11:51.934 --> 00:11:53.736
  • SHOULD YOU NOTHAVE ALSO HAD MERCY
  • 00:11:53.736 --> 00:11:55.638
  • ON YOUR FELLOW SLAVE, EVENAS I HAD MERCY ON YOU?'
  • 00:11:55.638 --> 00:12:01.911
  • AND THE KING, MOVED WITH ANGER,
  • 00:12:01.911 --> 00:12:04.013
  • HANDED HIM OVER TO THE TORTURERS
  • 00:12:04.013 --> 00:12:06.782
  • UNTIL HE SHOULD REPAYALL THAT WAS OWED HIM."
  • 00:12:06.782 --> 00:12:11.487
  • AND THEN JESUS ADDSTHE ZINGER IN VERSE 35.
  • 00:12:11.487 --> 00:12:14.857
  • "'SO SHALL MY HEAVENLYFATHER ALSO DO TO YOU,
  • 00:12:14.857 --> 00:12:19.795
  • IF EACH OF YOU DOES NOT FORGIVE
  • 00:12:19.795 --> 00:12:22.331
  • HIS BROTHER FROM YOUR HEART.'"
  • 00:12:22.331 --> 00:12:27.803
  • MAKE NO MISTAKE ABOUT IT.
  • 00:12:27.803 --> 00:12:30.873
  • THIS SECOND SLAVE WHO OWED A$16 DEBT OWED A VERY REAL DEBT.
  • 00:12:30.873 --> 00:12:36.745
  • THIS WAS NOT AN IMAGINARY DEBT.
  • 00:12:36.745 --> 00:12:39.148
  • JUST LIKE THE FIRST SLAVE OWED
  • 00:12:39.148 --> 00:12:40.683
  • A VERY REAL $16 BILLIONDEBT TO THE KING.
  • 00:12:40.683 --> 00:12:44.119
  • THAT WAS REAL AS WELL.
  • 00:12:44.119 --> 00:12:47.356
  • THIS SLAVE HAD EVERY LEGALRIGHT TO COLLECT HIS $16,
  • 00:12:47.356 --> 00:12:53.762
  • BUT HE HAD NO MORALRIGHT TO COLLECT IT
  • 00:12:53.762 --> 00:12:58.434
  • BECAUSE OF THE GREAT DEBTHE HAD JUST BEEN FORGIVEN.
  • 00:12:58.434 --> 00:13:02.905
  • LISTEN TO WHAT JESUS IS SAYINGTO US ABOUT FORGIVENESS.
  • 00:13:02.905 --> 00:13:07.076
  • HE'S NOT ASKING YOU TO DENY
  • 00:13:07.076 --> 00:13:09.311
  • THAT YOU'VE BEENHURT OR WRONGED.
  • 00:13:09.311 --> 00:13:11.580
  • HE'S NOT ASKING YOUTO SWEEP THAT HURT
  • 00:13:11.580 --> 00:13:13.849
  • UNDER THE RUG AND PLAYLIKE IT'S NEVER HAPPENED.
  • 00:13:13.849 --> 00:13:16.986
  • HE'S NOT DENYING THEPAIN YOU HAVE SUFFERED
  • 00:13:16.986 --> 00:13:19.555
  • BECAUSE OF THAT WRONG.
  • 00:13:19.555 --> 00:13:21.357
  • ALL HE'S ASKING YOUTO DO IS TO KEEP
  • 00:13:21.357 --> 00:13:23.192
  • YOUR HURT IN PERSPECTIVE.
  • 00:13:23.192 --> 00:13:27.129
  • YOU SEE, THE DIFFERENCEBETWEEN HOW MUCH
  • 00:13:27.129 --> 00:13:30.499
  • SOMEBODY HAS WRONGEDYOU, THE WORST THING
  • 00:13:30.499 --> 00:13:32.668
  • THEY'VE EVER DONE TOYOU, THE DIFFERENCE
  • 00:13:32.668 --> 00:13:34.470
  • BETWEEN HOW MUCHSOMEBODY HAS WRONGED YOU
  • 00:13:34.470 --> 00:13:37.940
  • AND HOW MUCH YOUHAVE WRONGED GOD,
  • 00:13:37.940 --> 00:13:41.977
  • IS THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN$16 AND $16 BILLION.
  • 00:13:41.977 --> 00:13:49.084
  • FORGIVENESS IS THEOBLIGATION OF THOSE
  • 00:13:49.084 --> 00:13:53.255
  • WHO HAVE TRULY BEEN FORGIVEN.
  • 00:13:53.255 --> 00:13:55.724
  • THAT'S WHAT JESUS ISSAYING IN THIS PARABLE.
  • 00:13:55.724 --> 00:14:00.296
  • YOU KNOW, IN THE BIBLE,THERE IS AN INSEPARABLE LINK
  • 00:14:00.296 --> 00:14:04.667
  • BETWEEN OUR RECEIVINGGOD'S FORGIVENESS
  • 00:14:04.667 --> 00:14:07.436
  • AND OUR WILLINGNESS TO GRANTTHAT FORGIVENESS TO OTHERS.
  • 00:14:07.436 --> 00:14:11.073
  • WE READ IT JUST A FEW MOMENTSAGO IN EPHESIANS 4:32.
  • 00:14:11.073 --> 00:14:15.544
  • PAUL SAID, "AND BEKIND TO ONE ANOTHER,
  • 00:14:15.544 --> 00:14:18.447
  • TENDERHEARTED,FORGIVING EACH OTHER,
  • 00:14:18.447 --> 00:14:20.883
  • JUST AS GOD IN CHRISTALSO HAS FORGIVEN YOU."
  • 00:14:20.883 --> 00:14:26.221
  • WE ARE TO FORGIVE JUSTAS GOD HAS FORGIVEN US,
  • 00:14:26.221 --> 00:14:32.194
  • IN THE SAME WAY THATGOD HAS FORGIVEN US.
  • 00:14:32.194 --> 00:14:33.128
  • WELL, HOW HAS GOD FORGIVEN US?
  • 00:14:33.128 --> 00:14:35.297
  • I WANT YOU TO TURNOVER TO ROMANS 5.
  • 00:14:35.297 --> 00:14:39.001
  • THIS CHAPTER, PERHAPSMORE THAN ANY OTHER,
  • 00:14:39.001 --> 00:14:41.537
  • CLEARLY EXPLAINS TWO PRINCIPLESABOUT HOW GOD FORGIVES
  • 00:14:41.537 --> 00:14:45.574
  • YOU AND ME, AND THEREFORE,HOW WE SHOULD FORGIVE OTHERS.
  • 00:14:45.574 --> 00:14:49.478
  • LOOK AT ROMANS 5:1.
  • 00:14:49.478 --> 00:14:51.647
  • "THEREFORE, HAVINGBEEN JUSTIFIED,"
  • 00:14:51.647 --> 00:14:53.816
  • THAT IS, DECLARED NOTGUILTY, "BY FAITH,
  • 00:14:53.816 --> 00:14:56.652
  • WE HAVE PEACE WITH GOD THROUGHOUR LORD JESUS CHRIST."
  • 00:14:56.652 --> 00:14:59.488
  • VERSE 6, "FOR WHY WEWERE STILL HELPLESS,
  • 00:14:59.488 --> 00:15:01.991
  • AT THE RIGHT TIME CHRISTDIED FOR THE UNGODLY."
  • 00:15:01.991 --> 00:15:06.328
  • VERSE 8, "BUT GOD DEMONSTRATESHIS OWN LOVE TOWARD US,
  • 00:15:06.328 --> 00:15:09.164
  • IN THAT WHILE WE WERE YETSINNERS, CHRIST DIED FOR US."
  • 00:15:09.164 --> 00:15:13.369
  • I POINT OUT TO YOU JUSTTWO SIMPLE PRINCIPLES
  • 00:15:13.369 --> 00:15:16.205
  • ABOUT HOW GOD FORGIVES US.
  • 00:15:16.205 --> 00:15:17.940
  • FIRST OF ALL, GOD FORGAVE US
  • 00:15:17.940 --> 00:15:19.742
  • WHEN WE DIDN'TDESERVE FORGIVENESS.
  • 00:15:19.742 --> 00:15:23.779
  • GOD FORGAVE US WHEN WEDIDN'T DESERVE FORGIVENESS.
  • 00:15:23.779 --> 00:15:27.249
  • WE HAVE THIS FUNNYIDEA THAT SOMEHOW GOD
  • 00:15:27.249 --> 00:15:29.685
  • ONLY FORGIVES THOSE WHODESERVE TO BE FORGIVEN,
  • 00:15:29.685 --> 00:15:33.022
  • GOD CAME TO FORGIVETHE RIGHTEOUS,
  • 00:15:33.022 --> 00:15:37.092
  • NOT THE UNRIGHTEOUS.
  • 00:15:37.092 --> 00:15:39.161
  • BUT NO, "IT'S NOT THEHEALTHY WHO NEED A DOCTOR,
  • 00:15:39.161 --> 00:15:45.367
  • IT'S THE SICK WHO NEEDA DOCTOR," MATTHEW 9:12.
  • 00:15:45.367 --> 00:15:47.803
  • IN THE SAME WAY, IT'S NOT THERIGHTEOUS WHO NEED A SAVIOR,
  • 00:15:47.803 --> 00:15:50.506
  • IT IS THE UNRIGHTEOUS.
  • 00:15:50.506 --> 00:15:52.808
  • GOD DIDN'T JUST FORGIVE THOSEWHO DESERVE TO BE FORGIVEN,
  • 00:15:52.808 --> 00:15:55.844
  • HE CAME TO FORGIVE SINNERS,ALL OF THE UNRIGHTEOUS,
  • 00:15:55.844 --> 00:16:00.149
  • AND THAT WOULD BE YOU AND I.
  • 00:16:00.149 --> 00:16:02.484
  • IN ROMANS 3:10, PAULSAYS, "'FOR THERE IS NONE
  • 00:16:02.484 --> 00:16:05.020
  • RIGHTEOUS AMONG US,NO, NOT EVEN ONE.'"
  • 00:16:05.020 --> 00:16:07.656
  • "THERE IS NO ONE WHO DOES GOOD,"
  • 00:16:07.656 --> 00:16:09.358
  • PSALM 14:3, "NO, NOT EVEN ONE."
  • 00:16:09.358 --> 00:16:13.562
  • ROMANS 5:6 SAYS, "GOD FORGAVEUS WHEN WE WERE HELPLESS,
  • 00:16:13.562 --> 00:16:17.966
  • WHEN WE WERE APART FROM CHRIST."
  • 00:16:17.966 --> 00:16:20.569
  • HE DIDN'T FORGIVE US WHENWE DESERVED TO BE FORGIVEN.
  • 00:16:20.569 --> 00:16:24.706
  • SECONDLY, GOD FORGAVE US ONTHE BASIS OF GRACE, NOT WORKS.
  • 00:16:24.706 --> 00:16:31.346
  • GOD FORGAVE US ON THEBASIS OF GRACE, NOT WORKS.
  • 00:16:31.346 --> 00:16:34.783
  • IN OTHER WORDS,HE DIDN'T MAKE US
  • 00:16:34.783 --> 00:16:36.218
  • TO DO ANYTHING TOEARN HIS FORGIVENESS.
  • 00:16:36.218 --> 00:16:40.656
  • HE GRANTED IT TO US.
  • 00:16:40.656 --> 00:16:43.092
  • WHY DID HE DO THAT?
  • 00:16:43.092 --> 00:16:44.793
  • REMEMBER OUR VERSESIN ROMANS 4:4-5?
  • 00:16:44.793 --> 00:16:48.597
  • PAUL EXPLAINS, "TOTHE ONE WHO WORKS,
  • 00:16:48.597 --> 00:16:50.732
  • HIS WAGE IS NOT RECKONED ASA FAVOR, BUT WHAT IS DUE."
  • 00:16:50.732 --> 00:16:55.337
  • WHEN YOU GO TO WORKAND RECEIVE A PAYCHECK,
  • 00:16:55.337 --> 00:16:57.539
  • YOUR EMPLOYER IS NOTDOING YOU A FAVOR.
  • 00:16:57.539 --> 00:17:00.676
  • YOU EARNED THAT. YOUDESERVE THAT MONEY.
  • 00:17:00.676 --> 00:17:03.812
  • IF GOD ALLOWS US TOWORK FOR OUR SALVATION,
  • 00:17:03.812 --> 00:17:06.348
  • THEN WE DESERVE SALVATION.
  • 00:17:06.348 --> 00:17:09.618
  • HE REFUSES TO OWE ANYMAN OR WOMAN SALVATION.
  • 00:17:09.618 --> 00:17:13.055
  • AND THAT'S WHY VERSE 5 SAYS,
  • 00:17:13.055 --> 00:17:14.990
  • "BUT TO THE ONEWHO DOES NOT WORK,
  • 00:17:14.990 --> 00:17:17.893
  • BUT BELIEVES IN HIM WHOJUSTIFIES THE UNGODLY,
  • 00:17:17.893 --> 00:17:21.163
  • HIS FAITH IS COUNTEDAS RIGHTEOUSNESS."
  • 00:17:21.163 --> 00:17:25.467
  • GOD FORGAVE US NOTBASED ON OUR WORKS,
  • 00:17:25.467 --> 00:17:30.205
  • BUT BASED ON HIS GRACE.
  • 00:17:30.205 --> 00:17:31.840
  • NOW, LET'S REVIEWWHAT WE'VE SEEN.
  • 00:17:31.840 --> 00:17:34.543
  • GOD FORGIVES THOSE WHO DON'TDESERVE TO BE FORGIVEN.
  • 00:17:34.543 --> 00:17:37.746
  • GOD FORGIVES ON THE BASISOF GRACE, NOT WORKS.
  • 00:17:37.746 --> 00:17:41.617
  • ISN'T THAT EXACTLY WHATYOU SAW IN THAT PARABLE
  • 00:17:41.617 --> 00:17:44.219
  • ABOUT THE KING ANDTHE TWO DEBTORS?
  • 00:17:44.219 --> 00:17:46.922
  • THE KING FORGAVE THAT FIRSTSLAVE OF HIS $16 BILLION DEBT
  • 00:17:46.922 --> 00:17:51.193
  • NOT BECAUSE HE DESERVEDTO BE FORGIVEN.
  • 00:17:51.193 --> 00:17:54.396
  • HE DESERVED TO GO TO PRISONIF HE COULDN'T PAY BACK
  • 00:17:54.396 --> 00:17:56.732
  • THE DEBT, THAT'SWHAT HE DESERVED.
  • 00:17:56.732 --> 00:17:58.433
  • BUT THE KING FORGAVE HIM ANYWAY.
  • 00:17:58.433 --> 00:18:01.236
  • AND SECONDLY, THE KINGFORGAVE THE FIRST SLAVE
  • 00:18:01.236 --> 00:18:03.672
  • ON THE BASIS OFGRACE, NOT WORKS.
  • 00:18:03.672 --> 00:18:06.875
  • HE REFUSED TO ALLOWTHE SLAVE TO TRY
  • 00:18:06.875 --> 00:18:09.444
  • TO EARN THE FORGIVENESSOF THE DEBT.
  • 00:18:09.444 --> 00:18:11.914
  • WHY? 'CAUSE HE WAS TOTALLYINCAPABLE OF EARNING IT.
  • 00:18:11.914 --> 00:18:15.083
  • THE KING REALIZEDHE HAD TO GRANT
  • 00:18:15.083 --> 00:18:17.553
  • THE FORGIVENESS OF THAT DEBT.
  • 00:18:17.553 --> 00:18:20.689
  • NOW, PAUL IS SAYING YOU ANDI ARE TO FORGIVE OTHERS,
  • 00:18:20.689 --> 00:18:23.859
  • JUST AS GOD HAS FORGIVEN US.
  • 00:18:23.859 --> 00:18:26.094
  • LISTEN TO THIS.
  • 00:18:26.094 --> 00:18:28.030
  • FIRST OF ALL, WE'RETO FORGIVE THOSE
  • 00:18:28.030 --> 00:18:29.631
  • WHO DON'T DESERVETO BE FORGIVEN.
  • 00:18:29.631 --> 00:18:33.435
  • IN OUR MINDS, MOST OF USHAVE PEOPLE WE ARE WILLING
  • 00:18:33.435 --> 00:18:37.573
  • TO FORGIVE AND PEOPLE WEARE UNWILLING TO FORGIVE.
  • 00:18:37.573 --> 00:18:40.108
  • IN OUR MIND, THERE ARE WHATWE CALL UNFORGIVABLE SINS.
  • 00:18:40.108 --> 00:18:44.680
  • THANK GOD THAT'S NOTIN HIS MIND.
  • 00:18:44.680 --> 00:18:48.283
  • WE'RE TO FORGIVE THOSE WHODON'T DESERVE TO BE FORGIVEN.
  • 00:18:48.283 --> 00:18:52.754
  • AND SECONDLY, WE FORGIVE ONTHE BASIS OF GRACE, NOT WORKS.
  • 00:18:52.754 --> 00:18:59.127
  • WE REFUSE TO REQUIRE SOMEBODYTO EARN OUR FORGIVENESS.
  • 00:18:59.127 --> 00:19:02.664
  • WE GRANT IT AS A GIFT, JUSTAS IT WAS GRANTED TO US.
  • 00:19:02.664 --> 00:19:07.603
  • AND YET, IN SPITE OF THATCLEAR TEACHING OF SCRIPTURE,
  • 00:19:07.603 --> 00:19:11.240
  • THERE ARE MANY, EVENIN CHRISTIAN CIRCLES,
  • 00:19:11.240 --> 00:19:13.208
  • WHO TEACH WHAT I CALLCONDITIONAL FORGIVENESS.
  • 00:19:13.208 --> 00:19:16.612
  • THEY TEACH THAT THERE ARESOME CATEGORIES OF SIN
  • 00:19:16.612 --> 00:19:20.215
  • THAT JUST CAN'T BE FORGIVEN,AND WE CAN'T EXPECT
  • 00:19:20.215 --> 00:19:23.018
  • A WRONGED PERSON TOFORGIVE THOSE SINS.
  • 00:19:23.018 --> 00:19:26.121
  • OR THEY TEACH THATSOMEBODY HAS TO EARN
  • 00:19:26.121 --> 00:19:29.124
  • YOUR FORGIVENESS BEFOREYOU CAN GRANT IT.
  • 00:19:29.124 --> 00:19:32.127
  • AND THE RESULT IS PEOPLE STAYIN A PRISON OF BITTERNESS
  • 00:19:32.127 --> 00:19:35.631
  • ALL THEIR LIVES BECAUSE OFTHOSE TWO MISUNDERSTANDINGS.
  • 00:19:35.631 --> 00:19:40.035
  • YOU KNOW, A GOODILLUSTRATION OF THAT
  • 00:19:40.035 --> 00:19:41.536
  • WAS IN A LETTER I SAW,AGAIN, IN ANN LANDERS,
  • 00:19:41.536 --> 00:19:45.641
  • THE ADVICE COLUMNIST YEARS AGO,
  • 00:19:45.641 --> 00:19:48.243
  • AND I CLIPPED IT OUT AND PUTIT IN MY FILE ON FORGIVENESS,
  • 00:19:48.243 --> 00:19:52.214
  • BECAUSE IT REALLYDEMONSTRATES THE PROBLEM
  • 00:19:52.214 --> 00:19:56.318
  • WITH MAKING YOURFORGIVENESS CONDITIONAL.
  • 00:19:56.318 --> 00:20:00.989
  • THIS LADY WROTE,"DEAR ANN LANDERS,
  • 00:20:00.989 --> 00:20:03.025
  • THANK YOU FOR EDUCATINGMILLIONS OF PEOPLE ABOUT INCEST.
  • 00:20:03.025 --> 00:20:07.596
  • I AM 42 AND STILL RECOVERINGFROM MY NIGHTMARISH CHILDHOOD.
  • 00:20:07.596 --> 00:20:12.501
  • THE MOLESTER WAS MY FATHER,AND IT STARTED AT AGE 7,
  • 00:20:12.501 --> 00:20:16.071
  • AND CONTINUED UNTIL I WAS 12.
  • 00:20:16.071 --> 00:20:19.041
  • I WAS THE VICTIM OF MY PARENTS'SADOMASOCHISTIC MARRIAGE.
  • 00:20:19.041 --> 00:20:23.145
  • MY FATHER WAS A SEXADDICT AND AN ALCOHOLIC.
  • 00:20:23.145 --> 00:20:26.315
  • MY MOTHER WAS A CODEPENDENTAND A SEX ADDICT
  • 00:20:26.315 --> 00:20:29.117
  • AND AN ALCOHOLIC ENABLER.
  • 00:20:29.117 --> 00:20:31.386
  • IN THE EYES OF THE COMMUNITY,WE WERE THE PERFECT FAMILY.
  • 00:20:31.386 --> 00:20:34.790
  • NO ONE WOULD HAVEBELIEVED WHAT WENT ON
  • 00:20:34.790 --> 00:20:36.658
  • BEHIND THOSE CLOSED DOORS.
  • 00:20:36.658 --> 00:20:38.927
  • THE CHILDHOOD SEXUALABUSE CAUSED ME TO HAVE
  • 00:20:38.927 --> 00:20:41.663
  • SEVERE HEALTH PROBLEMS,AS WELL AS TROUBLES
  • 00:20:41.663 --> 00:20:44.299
  • IN MY SCHOOL AND EMPLOYMENTAND SOCIAL RELATIONSHIPS.
  • 00:20:44.299 --> 00:20:48.437
  • I FELT CRAZY ANDCOULDN'T UNDERSTAND WHY.
  • 00:20:48.437 --> 00:20:52.007
  • STRANGE AS IT SEEMS, INEVER MADE THE CONNECTION.
  • 00:20:52.007 --> 00:20:56.111
  • MY FATHER DIED IN 1972,AND I DIDN'T SHED A TEAR.
  • 00:20:56.111 --> 00:21:02.351
  • HIS TOMBSTONE SHOULD HAVESAID 'CHILD MOLESTER.'
  • 00:21:02.351 --> 00:21:05.821
  • THANK YOU, ANN.
  • 00:21:05.821 --> 00:21:07.456
  • WRITING THIS LETTERHAS HELPED ME
  • 00:21:07.456 --> 00:21:09.391
  • TO DISSIPATE SOME OF MY ANGER."
  • 00:21:09.391 --> 00:21:15.330
  • NOW, WE ALL SYMPATHIZE WITHTHE WOMAN IN THAT SITUATION.
  • 00:21:15.330 --> 00:21:21.503
  • BUT JUST IMAGINE WHATHER LIFE IS SENTENCED TO
  • 00:21:21.503 --> 00:21:27.576
  • IF SHE IS TAUGHTCONDITIONAL FORGIVENESS.
  • 00:21:27.576 --> 00:21:30.812
  • THERE WOULD BE SOMEONE WHOWOULD SAY TO THIS WOMAN,
  • 00:21:30.812 --> 00:21:33.315
  • "WELL, YOU COULD NEVERFORGIVE YOUR DAD OF THAT.
  • 00:21:33.315 --> 00:21:36.017
  • YOU CAN'T EVER FORGIVE.
  • 00:21:36.017 --> 00:21:37.285
  • NOBODY DESERVES TO BEFORGIVEN OF THAT SIN."
  • 00:21:37.285 --> 00:21:41.857
  • OR SUPPOSE SOMEBODY SAID TO HER,
  • 00:21:41.857 --> 00:21:43.225
  • "WELL, YOU CANNOTFORGIVE YOUR DAD
  • 00:21:43.225 --> 00:21:45.827
  • UNTIL HE ASKS FORYOUR FORGIVENESS."
  • 00:21:45.827 --> 00:21:49.131
  • THAT'D BE A LITTLE DIFFICULT,
  • 00:21:49.131 --> 00:21:50.399
  • SINCE HE'S IN THECEMETERY RIGHT NOW.
  • 00:21:50.399 --> 00:21:53.568
  • IF THAT WOMAN BUYS INTOCONDITIONAL FORGIVENESS,
  • 00:21:53.568 --> 00:21:56.271
  • SHE IS A PRISONER OF BITTERNESSTHE REST OF HER LIFE.
  • 00:21:56.271 --> 00:22:01.576
  • THERE ARE TWOPROBLEMS WITH TEACHING
  • 00:22:01.576 --> 00:22:03.812
  • CONDITIONAL FORGIVENESS.
  • 00:22:03.812 --> 00:22:06.381
  • FIRST OF ALL,CONDITIONAL FORGIVENESS
  • 00:22:06.381 --> 00:22:08.850
  • MISINTERPRETS THE BIBLE ITSELF.
  • 00:22:08.850 --> 00:22:11.720
  • ONE OF THE FAVORITE PASSAGESPEOPLE TURN TO TO SAY
  • 00:22:11.720 --> 00:22:14.556
  • YOU CAN'T FORGIVE THOSE WHODON'T ASK FOR IT IS LUKE 17:3-4.
  • 00:22:14.556 --> 00:22:20.562
  • "JESUS SAID, 'BE ON YOUR GUARD!'
  • 00:22:20.562 --> 00:22:23.365
  • IF YOUR BROTHERSINS, REBUKE HIM,
  • 00:22:23.365 --> 00:22:25.834
  • AND IF HE REPENTS, FORGIVE HIM.
  • 00:22:25.834 --> 00:22:28.503
  • AND IF HE SINS AGAINSTYOU SEVEN TIMES A DAY,
  • 00:22:28.503 --> 00:22:31.640
  • AND RETURNS TO YOU SEVENTIMES SAYING, "I REPENT,"
  • 00:22:31.640 --> 00:22:35.343
  • FORGIVE HIM.'"
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  • PEOPLE SAY, "WELL, SEE,PASTOR? THERE IT IS.
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  • JESUS SAID, 'IF HEREPENTS, FORGIVE HIM.'
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  • ISN'T THAT CONDITIONALFORGIVENESS?"
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  • NOTICE WHAT JESUS DIDN'T SAY.
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  • YES, JESUS SAID, "IF HEREPENTS, FORGIVE HIM."
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  • JESUS DIDN'T SAY, "IF HE DOESN'TREPENT, DON'T FORGIVE HIM."
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  • HE WASN'T ADDRESSINGTHAT SITUATION.
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  • HE WAS SAYING IFSOMEBODY COMES TO YOU
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  • AND ASKS FORGIVENESS,YOU ARE TO GRANT IT.
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  • MAYBE YOU FEEL LIKE YOU'VE BEENRUNNING A THREE-LEGGED RACE
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  • WITH SOMEONE YOUCAN'T SEEM TO FORGIVE.
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  • I HOPE TODAY'S MESSAGE INSPIRESYOU TO GIVE UP THAT FIGHT
  • 00:23:12.848 --> 00:23:16.518
  • AND MOVE ON WITH YOUR LIFE.
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  • AND BE SURE TO TUNE INNEXT TIME FOR THE REMAINDER
  • 00:23:18.787 --> 00:23:21.089
  • OF THIS MESSAGE, BECAUSE I'LLCONCLUDE WITH PRACTICAL WAYS
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  • TO APPLY WHAT WE'VELEARNED ABOUT CHOOSING
  • 00:23:24.826 --> 00:23:27.295
  • FORGIVENESS OVER BITTERNESS.
  • 00:23:27.295 --> 00:23:30.365
  • WELL, YOU MIGHT BESURPRISED TO HEAR ME SAY
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  • THAT EVEN DURINGA GLOBAL PANDEMIC,
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  • MORE PEOPLE ARE RESPONDINGTO CHRISTIAN RADIO
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  • AND TELEVISION THAN EVER BEFORE.AND THAT'S GREAT NEWS,
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  • BECAUSE THERE'S NEVERBEEN A BETTER TIME
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  • FOR "PATHWAY TO VICTORY"TO BE SHARING THE LOVE
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  • OF JESUS CHRIST THAN RIGHT NOW.
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  • SO, THANK YOU FORGIVING GENEROUSLY,
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  • SO THAT WE CAN EXPANDOUR DAILY CONNECTION
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  • WITH PEOPLE HERE IN AMERICAAND ALL OVER THIS WORLD.
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  • NOW, STAY RIGHT THERE.
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  • I'LL BE BACK WITH MORE"PATHWAY TO VICTORY"
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  • IN JUST A MOMENT.
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  • -(TYPEWRITER KEYS CLICK)-AN ATTITUDE
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  • IS OUR MENTAL ANDEMOTIONAL RESPONSE
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  • TO THE CIRCUMSTANCES OF LIFE.
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  • THE TITLE OF THIS SERIES IS NOT"CHOOSE YOUR CIRCUMSTANCES."
  • 00:24:11.773 --> 00:24:14.776
  • THERE ARE TERRIBLE THINGSTHAT HAPPEN TO CHRISTIANS.
  • 00:24:14.776 --> 00:24:18.046
  • WE CAN EITHER ALLOW LIFE'SDIFFICULT CIRCUMSTANCES
  • 00:24:18.046 --> 00:24:21.216
  • TO STRENGTHEN US,OR TO DESTROY US.
  • 00:24:21.216 --> 00:24:25.153
  • IF YOU CAN CHANGE YOUR ATTITUDE,YOU CAN CHANGE YOUR LIFE.
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  • [ANNOUNCER] SOMEONE HASSAID, "THE GREATEST DISCOVERY
  • 00:24:31.026 --> 00:24:33.061
  • OF MY GENERATION ISTHAT HUMAN BEINGS
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  • CAN ALTER THEIR LIVESBY ALTERING THEIR
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  • ATTITUDES OF MIND."
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  • IN HIS BRAND-NEW BOOK"CHOOSE YOUR ATTITUDES,
  • 00:24:38.867 --> 00:24:41.169
  • CHANGE YOUR LIFE."DR. ROBERT JEFFRESS
  • 00:24:41.169 --> 00:24:43.305
  • EXAMINES 11 ATTITUDECHOICES THAT DELIVER
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  • THE ABUNDANT LIFEGOD INTENDS FOR YOU.
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  • PROVERBS 23:7 SAYS,"AS A PERSON THINKS
  • 00:24:48.677 --> 00:24:52.247
  • WITHIN HIMSELF, SO IS HE."
  • 00:24:52.247 --> 00:24:54.482
  • AND IN MY BRAND-NEWBOOK, I WANT TO SHOW YOU
  • 00:24:54.482 --> 00:24:56.952
  • HOW TO CHOOSE FAITH OVER WORRY,FORGIVENESS OVER BITTERNESS,
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  • RELAXATION OVER STRESS,AND SO MUCH MORE.
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  • CHANGE YOUR LIFE" WHENYOU GIVE A GENEROUS GIFT
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  • WE'RE LOOKING AT 11BIBLICAL ATTITUDE CHOICES
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  • THAT ARE NECESSARY TO EXPERIENCE
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  • THE ABUNDANT LIFEJESUS PROMISED.
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  • CONDITIONAL FORGIVENESSIS A COMMON PRACTICE
  • 00:25:37.092 --> 00:25:40.028
  • AMONG SOME CHRISTIANS.
  • 00:25:40.028 --> 00:25:41.830
  • BUT CONDITIONAL FORGIVENESSIS NOT ONLY IMPRACTICAL,
  • 00:25:41.830 --> 00:25:45.233
  • IT'S WRONG.
  • 00:25:45.233 --> 00:25:46.735
  • SO NEXT TIME, WE'LL CONTINUETO EXPLORE THE DYSFUNCTION
  • 00:25:46.735 --> 00:25:50.372
  • OF GIVING SOMEONE FORGIVENESSWITH STRINGS ATTACHED.
  • 00:25:50.372 --> 00:25:54.242
  • AND THEN, WE'LL LOOK ATA BIBLICAL CASE STUDY
  • 00:25:54.242 --> 00:25:57.212
  • THAT REVEALS HOW TOEXTEND PROPER FORGIVENESS,
  • 00:25:57.212 --> 00:26:00.715
  • AND HOW FORGIVENESS ISPERSONALLY BENEFICIAL.
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  • STAY TUNED FOR A PREVIEWOF WHAT'S COMING UP NEXT
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  • ON "PATHWAY TO VICTORY."
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  • ALONG WITH A PERSONALAND GROUP STUDY GUIDE.
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  • THESE PROGRAMS ARE MADE POSSIBLE
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  • BECAUSE OF YOUR GENEROUSSUPPORT, SO THANKS
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  • NOW, COMING UP NEXT TIMEON "PATHWAY TO VICTORY."
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  • I FOUND THAT THOSE PEOPLEWHO HAVE A HARD TIME
  • 00:26:53.835 --> 00:26:56.271
  • FORGIVING REALLYHAVE AN INFLATED VIEW
  • 00:26:56.271 --> 00:26:59.107
  • OF THEIR OWN RIGHTEOUSNESS.
  • 00:26:59.107 --> 00:27:01.376
  • THEY REALLY DON'TUNDERSTAND, IN GOD'S EYES,
  • 00:27:01.376 --> 00:27:05.313
  • WHAT SINNERS THEY ARE,AND HOW MUCH THEY NEED
  • 00:27:05.313 --> 00:27:07.882
  • HIS GRACE AND HIS MERCY.
  • 00:27:07.882 --> 00:27:10.485
  • WE FORGIVE BECAUSE WEHAVE BEEN FORGIVEN.
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  • [ANNOUNCER] SETYOUR DVR AND JOIN US
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  • NEXT TIME FOR PARTTWO OF THE MESSAGE
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  • "CHOOSING FORGIVENESSOVER BITTERNESS,"
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  • HERE ON "PATHWAY TO VICTORY."
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  • ♪ MUSIC
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