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October 11, 2020
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Crossroads Church with Brian Tome is Gut-punch preaching for the adventure of faith.

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  • Adventure and church aren't
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  • normally two words that go
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  • together. But at Crossroads, we
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  • don't believe in doing church as
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  • usual. In fact, we believe that
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  • a life with God can be a pulse
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  • pumping heart, pounding life, a
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  • purpose. And our job is to guide
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  • you there. Crossroads Church,
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  • your guide to the adventurous
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  • life. Welcome to Crossroads
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  • Church with Brian Tome. I'm
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  • Kyle, and we're here to help you
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  • on your spiritual adventure.
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  • Today. We're talking about our
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  • mindset, mastering our thoughts
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  • and emotions. It's a big topic
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  • this year. We're all
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  • experiencing a lot of stress
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  • uncertainty about the future and
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  • shorter fuses with our friends
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  • and family. You know, emotions
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  • are a good thing, but they can
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  • also get out of control. How can
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  • we control our emotions? Let's
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  • catch up with Brian. Who's going
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  • to unpack the key to a healthy
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  • mindset.
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  • If you control your thoughts,
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  • you will control your future. If
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  • you can control your emotions,
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  • you will control your future.
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  • Your future is dictated by what
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  • happens between these ears right
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  • here. The Bible says as a man or
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  • woman thinketh; so is he. What
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  • we think, what we feel will tell
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  • us who we are and you control
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  • your life. You control your
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  • life, not the government
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  • controlling your life, not
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  • corona virus controlling your
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  • life, not the economy
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  • controlling your life. You
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  • control it. Some people don't
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  • think this is possible believe
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  • it or not. You can actually
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  • control your emotions. Emotions
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  • are like fire. Fire can be
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  • incredibly redemptive. It can
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  • fire a steam fired locomotive
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  • and take your life someplace, or
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  • it can destroy and devastate
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  • your life. Proverbs 25:28, a man
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  • without self control is like a
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  • city broken into and left
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  • without walls. We just got done
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  • with a series on Jesus, the
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  • myths surrounding Jesus. And we
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  • saw some of his classic places
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  • where he went in Israel during
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  • the last series. But if we're
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  • not careful, we might forget
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  • that Jesus was actually human.
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  • He was fully God, fully man at
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  • the same time. And as human, he
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  • had emotions. And he controlled
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  • them. One of the things that I
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  • hate. I hate eight Bible trivia.
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  • Can't stand. It can't stand. I
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  • don't like Bible trivia. If you
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  • ever get in Bible trivia, I'll
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  • tell you one of the questions is
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  • going to be: what's the shortest
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  • verse in the Bible? And he say,
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  • it's Jesus wept. Two words.
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  • Yeah, he wept. She just had the
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  • emotions. He wept. He went to a
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  • friend's house who was dead. And
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  • he wept. The Bible says that
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  • Jesus was distressed. It says in
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  • the book of Isaiah prophesizing
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  • about him, that he was a man of
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  • sorrows. Two different times. We
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  • see intensive anger with Jesus.
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  • He comes into the temple and
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  • there are money changers who
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  • have these tables. And as people
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  • bring their foreign currency in,
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  • they trade it for the temple's
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  • currency so they can make
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  • an offering. No problem there,
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  • except they're doing it to make
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  • a profit. And Jesus sees this
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  • house of prayer being turned
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  • into a profit center and he
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  • overturns the tables. He takes
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  • off his sash from around his
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  • waist. He starts swirling around
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  • like a, like a madman, but he
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  • was in control. He knew what he
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  • was doing. I have three kids.
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  • Every birth of my children was
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  • incredibly emotional for me
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  • because I am adopted. And when I
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  • saw my kids, I saw the first
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  • person who shared my DNA. I
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  • would get emotional. I get
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  • emotional still, when my wife
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  • does things that I don't like.
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  • When I do things that she
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  • doesn't like, we can make the
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  • choice; do I get emotional? And
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  • do I just lash out? Or maybe I
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  • do get emotional, but I control
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  • my emotions and I try to harness
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  • them. I try to let her see my
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  • intensity and my concern instead
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  • of just brushing under the rug.
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  • I can, I can have my emotions
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  • explode our marriage, or I can
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  • have my emotions be funneled to
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  • drive some things or this one
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  • saying friends here. Can I see
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  • person after person? Who's
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  • tanking their life? Who thinks
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  • that it's not possible; that I
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  • feel it, therefore I am. Whereas
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  • Descartes said, "I think,
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  • therefore I am." I think he put
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  • des cart before des horse,
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  • because I think you are first
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  • before you think. But we think
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  • that
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  • if I'm feeling it's that it's
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  • truth that I have to do it. No,
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  • you're if I'm feeling it and
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  • it's emotion, I now have to
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  • figure out how will I allow that
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  • emotion to come out? And how
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  • will I allow to drive my light?
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  • You do that friends and you
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  • control your mind. You start
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  • controlling your emotions.
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  • You're gonna start controlling
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  • your life. And you're going to
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  • someplace that other normal
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  • people will not go under the
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  • direction of God. So the last
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  • time I did this, I used straight
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  • gasoline. I'll tell you what.
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  • I've been lighting fires for
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  • decades, decades. Everone's
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  • always going; Oh, don't lay with
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  • gasoline. Never had any problem.
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  • Then again, I never used four
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  • gallons of gasoline before. I
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  • won't be doing that again yet.
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  • He's not kidding about that. You
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  • see that fire behind him. This
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  • is the second time we lit it.
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  • You want to see what happened
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  • the first time? You ever doing
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  • this boys and girls. But you
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  • should not do this boys and
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  • girls. But if you ever do
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  • something like this, when you're
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  • older, mature in your fifties,
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  • you want to use diesel fuel.
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  • December, 1993, I had a house
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  • fire. I woke up, took the kids
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  • next door and watched my house
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  • being engulfed and flames from
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  • room to room. I slept in my
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  • inlaws that night. I woke up in
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  • the morning, utterly devastated,
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  • feeling, every emotion I could
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  • possibly imagine. And it only
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  • got worse from there. I had to
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  • go back over the charred remains
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  • of my house. To see what was
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  • left. And what was left was my
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  • dog. Who woke us up. Dead from
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  • smoke inhalation inside of the
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  • remains. I still remember
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  • pulling them outside and burying
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  • him. I can still taste the salt
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  • and the tears as they came down
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  • my cheeks and hit my mouth. I
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  • can still remember not being
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  • able to focus and see, as I
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  • furiously, tried to dig a grave
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  • and place him in it. I knew then
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  • that my emotions were raging and
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  • it wasn't a bad thing for them
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  • to be raging, but I still wanted
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  • to take them captive and get
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  • ready to build a new life. Your
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  • emotions are like kids in a car.
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  • You can't have him driving. You
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  • don't want him to trunk either.
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  • Tell you something, man,
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  • emotions will define your
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  • future. We see, as the person,
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  • after person in the Bible. First
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  • King of Israel, his name was
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  • Saul. His emotions ruled him. If
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  • he felt it, he did it in a
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  • caused him to be disqualified
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  • from being a King. The second
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  • guy in line David was being
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  • chased around by this guy, ruled
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  • with his emotions and he just
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  • waited until it was his time. He
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  • had got his emotions in control.
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  • He didn't even kill him when he
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  • couldn't kill them. And as a
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  • result, he becomes a King and a
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  • great King.
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  • But even as a great King, David
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  • allowed his emotions to get the
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  • best of him. Sometimes it caused
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  • him to have an adulterous
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  • affair. Friends. I'm telling you
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  • what, there is a fire that wants
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  • to rage and ravage your life. As
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  • a pastor, I've interacted with
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  • hundreds, thousands of people
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  • who have burnt lives, charred to
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  • the bone. When we don't control
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  • our emotions, we have kids or we
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  • shouldn't be having kids. We
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  • make bad marriage choices. We
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  • get ourselves in massive credit
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  • card debt. We have bankruptcy.
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  • We have torched friendships. We
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  • have divorces. We have the wrong
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  • profession that we've chosen.
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  • Thing after thing, after thing.
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  • And one of the things to look
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  • at, to know whether or not your
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  • emotions are ruling you are, "Do
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  • you think that your emotion is
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  • the lead indicator for the very
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  • words of God?" Emotions are not
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  • a word of God. I know many
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  • people who think that I'm
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  • feeling a God must be speaking.
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  • No, he's not. You're just
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  • getting emotional. I know some
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  • people who, they're not feeling
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  • any emotions at all. And they
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  • think, well, God doesn't talk to
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  • me. No, you just don't have
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  • emotions right now. Our emotions
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  • could be, but they are not
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  • necessarily the voice of God.
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  • How do you know when your
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  • emotions are getting the best of
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  • you? As soon as you
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  • instinctually, do whatever
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  • you're feeling. You may not be
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  • hearing from God. As soon as you
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  • can
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  • look back and you see a history
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  • of you doing something
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  • emotionally and you finding out
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  • later that that was not the best
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  • thing for your life and other
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  • people's lives. You know that
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  • your emotions have the best of
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  • you. As soon as your, your joy
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  • indicators, how you feel about
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  • how well your life is going is
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  • based on purely how you feel.
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  • You know, you're putting way too
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  • much stock in your emotions. And
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  • as soon as you start
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  • disqualifying your emotions, as
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  • soon as you start trying to tamp
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  • it down, and I don't want to
  • 00:09:05.853 --> 00:09:06.988
  • cry. As soon as you start doing
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  • that, you know, you're not
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  • valuing the gift of emotions
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  • that God has given you. Your
  • 00:09:11.959 --> 00:09:13.828
  • emotions aren't God, but your
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  • emotions are good and you've got
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  • to control it. This thing wants
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  • to rage and take over your life.
  • 00:09:19.533 --> 00:09:21.736
  • You got to control the fire
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  • instead of allowing the fire and
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  • the heat to incinerate your
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  • life. God wants your entire
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  • life. He doesn't want your
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  • emotions to have your entire
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  • life. You want your emotions to
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  • be healthy and to be in check.
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  • You do that, you learn how to
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  • harness this power. You're going
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  • to have a full life like you
  • 00:09:41.355 --> 00:09:42.523
  • can't imagine. The key to
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  • controlling your mind and your
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  • emotions is what the Bible
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  • calls, taking every thought
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  • captive. I want to teach you how
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  • to do that right now. So when we
  • 00:10:04.812 --> 00:10:07.481
  • have an emotion that comes
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  • out, it's because we're feeling
  • 00:10:08.783 --> 00:10:10.785
  • something. It's coming into our
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  • brain, it's causing us to have
  • 00:10:13.087 --> 00:10:15.122
  • an emotional reaction. What we
  • 00:10:15.122 --> 00:10:16.090
  • do is I grab it. I grab it. I
  • 00:10:16.090 --> 00:10:17.792
  • take that thought captive. I
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  • say, why am I feeling this way?
  • 00:10:18.893 --> 00:10:19.894
  • Can I grab it? And I pull it
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  • away. And I look at it and I
  • 00:10:22.229 --> 00:10:24.265
  • say, why am I feeling this way?
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  • Am I feeling the way that I want
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  • to feel? What is the thought?
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  • What is the stimuli that's
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  • causing this reaction? And do I
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  • like this reaction? Or do I want
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  • to manage this reaction? How do
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  • you, how do you actually do, how
  • 00:10:39.613 --> 00:10:41.148
  • do you take thoughts, captive
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  • and control your thoughts
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  • instead of them controlling you
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  • and then controlling your
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  • emotions? One thing you do is
  • 00:10:47.521 --> 00:10:50.558
  • you, you monitor what's coming
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  • into your mind. That's giving
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  • you thoughts and emotions to
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  • begin with. You monitor your
  • 00:10:56.731 --> 00:10:59.100
  • newsfeed. You monitor your
  • 00:10:59.100 --> 00:11:00.868
  • social media feeds. You monitor
  • 00:11:00.868 --> 00:11:02.536
  • who it is that's giving you
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  • information. Because if someone
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  • is always firing us up, pun
  • 00:11:05.673 --> 00:11:07.508
  • intended, if someone is always
  • 00:11:07.508 --> 00:11:09.110
  • firing us up, we have to say,
  • 00:11:09.110 --> 00:11:10.511
  • hold on, do I want to constantly
  • 00:11:10.511 --> 00:11:12.279
  • be fired up? Do I want to
  • 00:11:12.279 --> 00:11:13.881
  • constantly feel indignation
  • 00:11:13.881 --> 00:11:15.516
  • towards other people? Don't want
  • 00:11:15.683 --> 00:11:17.184
  • to constantly be on edge. If I
  • 00:11:17.184 --> 00:11:18.419
  • don't like that, I have to
  • 00:11:18.419 --> 00:11:19.286
  • change my stimuli. Change it.
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  • The second thing you do is you
  • 00:11:24.225 --> 00:11:26.293
  • choose to think about something
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  • other than yourself. Some of the
  • 00:11:29.396 --> 00:11:32.533
  • most depressed
  • 00:11:32.533 --> 00:11:33.100
  • people you ever know are those
  • 00:11:33.200 --> 00:11:34.769
  • who think about themselves. You
  • 00:11:34.769 --> 00:11:36.771
  • want to be more depressed. Think
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  • about yourself. I'm not talking
  • 00:11:38.272 --> 00:11:41.742
  • about a kind of clinical
  • 00:11:41.742 --> 00:11:42.910
  • depression where you need
  • 00:11:42.910 --> 00:11:44.478
  • medication. I'm just saying I'm
  • 00:11:44.645 --> 00:11:46.247
  • down. Whoa is me. Um, the more
  • 00:11:46.247 --> 00:11:49.150
  • we think about ourselves and
  • 00:11:49.150 --> 00:11:50.451
  • about our situation, the more
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  • our emotions are gonna feed with
  • 00:11:52.286 --> 00:11:53.788
  • the audience. It's going to be a
  • 00:11:53.788 --> 00:11:55.022
  • fire. It's like, as we think of
  • 00:11:55.022 --> 00:11:56.624
  • ourselves, we keep putting more
  • 00:11:56.624 --> 00:11:57.858
  • wood on the fire. We put more,
  • 00:11:57.858 --> 00:12:00.294
  • more emotion that keeps bubbling
  • 00:12:00.494 --> 00:12:02.730
  • us up. I have a friend of mine,
  • 00:12:02.730 --> 00:12:04.365
  • a pastor friend in another
  • 00:12:04.365 --> 00:12:06.200
  • country. His son got hit by a
  • 00:12:06.200 --> 00:12:09.537
  • car. The doctor said we're going
  • 00:12:09.537 --> 00:12:11.205
  • to operate, but it looks like
  • 00:12:11.205 --> 00:12:12.807
  • your son's going to have
  • 00:12:12.807 --> 00:12:13.374
  • permanent brain damage. As they
  • 00:12:13.507 --> 00:12:15.709
  • sat in that hospital room, as
  • 00:12:15.709 --> 00:12:19.146
  • any parent would; being
  • 00:12:19.213 --> 00:12:21.015
  • devastated, as they felt
  • 00:12:21.015 --> 00:12:22.917
  • themselves getting lower and
  • 00:12:22.917 --> 00:12:24.285
  • lower and lower. They said to
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  • each other, "Hey, we need to
  • 00:12:26.987 --> 00:12:28.522
  • stop thinking about ourselves
  • 00:12:28.522 --> 00:12:29.757
  • for a moment. We need to go
  • 00:12:29.757 --> 00:12:30.925
  • around in this hospital and see
  • 00:12:30.925 --> 00:12:32.726
  • other people who are hurting and
  • 00:12:32.726 --> 00:12:34.028
  • pray for them." So that's what
  • 00:12:34.028 --> 00:12:34.662
  • they did. What do you know; was
  • 00:12:34.728 --> 00:12:37.898
  • that the reason or there's some
  • 00:12:37.898 --> 00:12:38.966
  • other reason, but their child is
  • 00:12:38.966 --> 00:12:41.168
  • a hundred percent fine today.
  • 00:12:41.168 --> 00:12:42.670
  • And you can see the scar that
  • 00:12:42.670 --> 00:12:43.671
  • comes all the way around him.
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  • You control what you think
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  • about, and you can think about
  • 00:12:49.510 --> 00:12:50.811
  • something else other than your
  • 00:12:50.811 --> 00:12:52.346
  • problems. Some of the problems
  • 00:12:52.346 --> 00:12:53.414
  • that we
  • 00:12:53.414 --> 00:12:53.647
  • have are problems that may never
  • 00:12:54.114 --> 00:12:55.983
  • come true. And if we give our
  • 00:12:55.983 --> 00:12:58.319
  • emotions over to them, we're
  • 00:12:58.319 --> 00:13:00.054
  • putting fuel on a fire. That's
  • 00:13:00.054 --> 00:13:01.622
  • never going to cook any meats.
  • 00:13:01.622 --> 00:13:02.990
  • Don't prepay interest on a debt
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  • you may likely never have. And
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  • if Jesus doesn't want my
  • 00:13:08.062 --> 00:13:09.563
  • emotions getting out of control,
  • 00:13:09.563 --> 00:13:11.465
  • and right now I can choose my
  • 00:13:12.233 --> 00:13:13.567
  • emotions are not going to get
  • 00:13:13.567 --> 00:13:15.369
  • out of control. Third thing we
  • 00:13:15.369 --> 00:13:19.773
  • do is we pray. We invite God
  • 00:13:19.773 --> 00:13:22.309
  • into it. If I'm just staying
  • 00:13:22.309 --> 00:13:24.545
  • with my own mental resources, my
  • 00:13:24.645 --> 00:13:26.480
  • own spiritual power, I'm going
  • 00:13:26.480 --> 00:13:28.515
  • to get more and more stressed
  • 00:13:28.515 --> 00:13:29.717
  • because I don't have the power
  • 00:13:29.717 --> 00:13:31.452
  • to overcome my problems. There's
  • 00:13:31.852 --> 00:13:34.588
  • a power that's outside of me. A
  • 00:13:34.588 --> 00:13:36.657
  • power that can come inside of me
  • 00:13:36.657 --> 00:13:38.659
  • when God fills me with his Holy
  • 00:13:38.659 --> 00:13:40.427
  • Spirit. That gives me something
  • 00:13:40.427 --> 00:13:42.396
  • that I couldn't have. So what I
  • 00:13:42.396 --> 00:13:43.163
  • do is I pray about that. I say,
  • 00:13:43.163 --> 00:13:45.666
  • "God, I'm feeling this way. How
  • 00:13:45.699 --> 00:13:48.535
  • do you feel about that God? God,
  • 00:13:48.535 --> 00:13:50.738
  • I am stressed. I am hurting.
  • 00:13:50.738 --> 00:13:52.706
  • Would you please comfort me?"
  • 00:13:53.173 --> 00:13:54.642
  • There's entire Psalms. In fact,
  • 00:13:55.142 --> 00:13:57.011
  • there's a whole book the Bible
  • 00:13:57.011 --> 00:13:57.845
  • called Lamentations, where
  • 00:13:57.845 --> 00:13:59.246
  • people are just allowing their
  • 00:13:59.246 --> 00:14:01.348
  • emotions to be processed. And
  • 00:14:01.348 --> 00:14:02.950
  • they're saying how they feel to
  • 00:14:02.950 --> 00:14:04.418
  • God. It's okay. You can tell God
  • 00:14:04.418 --> 00:14:06.820
  • that you are afraid. You can
  • 00:14:06.854 --> 00:14:08.923
  • tell God that you're stressed.
  • 00:14:08.923 --> 00:14:10.624
  • You can tell God the things are
  • 00:14:10.791 --> 00:14:12.559
  • not going well. Tell Him. Talk
  • 00:14:12.559 --> 00:14:14.895
  • to Him about that. Be silent
  • 00:14:14.895 --> 00:14:16.897
  • before Him. You might just find
  • 00:14:16.897 --> 00:14:19.199
  • that He comforts you. He gives
  • 00:14:19.600 --> 00:14:21.268
  • you as the Bible says a peace
  • 00:14:21.268 --> 00:14:23.804
  • that passes all understanding. I
  • 00:14:24.271 --> 00:14:27.775
  • want to make sure you hear me
  • 00:14:27.775 --> 00:14:28.542
  • really clearly. Emotions are
  • 00:14:28.542 --> 00:14:30.444
  • really good. Emotions are great.
  • 00:14:30.444 --> 00:14:32.479
  • They, they make us feel alive.
  • 00:14:32.479 --> 00:14:34.214
  • They bring spice to our life.
  • 00:14:34.381 --> 00:14:36.450
  • It's just that we have to
  • 00:14:36.550 --> 00:14:37.551
  • channel them. We have to take
  • 00:14:37.551 --> 00:14:39.320
  • control of them and you can take
  • 00:14:39.320 --> 00:14:41.021
  • control of them. So many times,
  • 00:14:41.021 --> 00:14:42.189
  • there's things in the physical
  • 00:14:42.389 --> 00:14:43.557
  • world, the represent the
  • 00:14:43.557 --> 00:14:44.959
  • spiritual world. Right here, I
  • 00:14:44.959 --> 00:14:47.127
  • have a fire that represents
  • 00:14:47.127 --> 00:14:49.063
  • emotions and I've been managing
  • 00:14:49.129 --> 00:14:51.799
  • this fire. I've been controlling
  • 00:14:51.799 --> 00:14:54.535
  • this fire to do something really
  • 00:14:54.535 --> 00:14:56.403
  • good. I placed my wood in the
  • 00:14:56.403 --> 00:14:57.471
  • right place. I want to get a
  • 00:14:57.471 --> 00:14:59.139
  • little going a little bit more.
  • 00:14:59.139 --> 00:15:00.207
  • What I'm doing here is I'm
  • 00:15:07.147 --> 00:15:08.916
  • taking the energy that I am
  • 00:15:08.916 --> 00:15:10.784
  • controlling, that I am bringing
  • 00:15:10.784 --> 00:15:13.053
  • it around to do something
  • 00:15:13.053 --> 00:15:14.455
  • really, really good. Like what
  • 00:15:14.655 --> 00:15:16.290
  • would that be? Good. That would
  • 00:15:16.290 --> 00:15:19.026
  • be a venison backstrap. That's
  • 00:15:19.026 --> 00:15:22.363
  • what that would be. That would
  • 00:15:22.363 --> 00:15:24.298
  • be a backstrap that I have
  • 00:15:24.298 --> 00:15:26.433
  • prepared to have an amazing
  • 00:15:26.433 --> 00:15:29.169
  • meal. Had I had no fire. Were I
  • 00:15:29.236 --> 00:15:34.975
  • not controlling this fire, I
  • 00:15:34.975 --> 00:15:40.614
  • would not be able to eat. You
  • 00:15:40.614 --> 00:15:42.916
  • got to get all that. I got all
  • 00:15:42.916 --> 00:15:45.285
  • that goo out there. My dad used
  • 00:15:45.285 --> 00:15:48.389
  • to call it. All the goo. Get
  • 00:15:48.389 --> 00:15:51.425
  • that goo out of there. Yeah.
  • 00:15:51.425 --> 00:15:53.360
  • Right there. See how I just
  • 00:15:53.394 --> 00:16:00.167
  • controlled that? Now, because I
  • 00:16:00.167 --> 00:16:04.772
  • have been taking this energy and
  • 00:16:04.772 --> 00:16:07.775
  • I've been controlling it. I'm
  • 00:16:07.775 --> 00:16:10.844
  • going to
  • 00:16:10.844 --> 00:16:11.045
  • have great meal. And had I not
  • 00:16:11.512 --> 00:16:13.714
  • had this energy, I would have an
  • 00:16:13.714 --> 00:16:14.782
  • awful meal. You need the energy
  • 00:16:14.782 --> 00:16:16.517
  • of emotions in your life. You
  • 00:16:16.517 --> 00:16:18.085
  • don't have the energy emotion,
  • 00:16:18.085 --> 00:16:19.019
  • your life. You're not going to
  • 00:16:19.019 --> 00:16:19.753
  • have good meals. But you have to
  • 00:16:19.753 --> 00:16:21.321
  • control it. Because you don't
  • 00:16:21.321 --> 00:16:23.123
  • want to burn your life. You
  • 00:16:23.123 --> 00:16:24.892
  • don't want to crush your life.
  • 00:16:24.892 --> 00:16:26.627
  • You can control your life. You
  • 00:16:27.061 --> 00:16:28.996
  • can control your mind. You can
  • 00:16:28.996 --> 00:16:30.931
  • control your emotions. Your
  • 00:16:30.931 --> 00:16:32.933
  • emotions are a blessing from
  • 00:16:32.933 --> 00:16:34.101
  • God. Use your emotions. Don't
  • 00:16:34.101 --> 00:16:37.471
  • let them use you. That's good. I
  • 00:16:37.471 --> 00:16:47.714
  • have the emotion of happiness
  • 00:16:47.714 --> 00:16:48.916
  • right now. And I get to have
  • 00:16:48.916 --> 00:16:51.151
  • this because, I controlled that
  • 00:16:51.151 --> 00:16:53.687
  • fire.
  • 00:16:53.687 --> 00:16:54.054
  • God is able to overcome our
  • 00:17:00.561 --> 00:17:01.962
  • emotions. He cares about our
  • 00:17:01.962 --> 00:17:03.931
  • feelings and he can turn them
  • 00:17:03.931 --> 00:17:05.566
  • into something to be used for.
  • 00:17:05.566 --> 00:17:07.034
  • Good. We're going to sing a song
  • 00:17:07.034 --> 00:17:09.336
  • that helps me remember that God
  • 00:17:09.336 --> 00:17:11.171
  • is an overcomer and he can
  • 00:17:11.171 --> 00:17:13.140
  • handle all my thoughts and
  • 00:17:13.140 --> 00:17:14.374
  • feelings, even when they seem
  • 00:17:14.374 --> 00:17:16.443
  • overwhelming. While we see
  • 00:17:16.543 --> 00:17:18.946
  • thoughts from real people in our
  • 00:17:18.946 --> 00:17:20.981
  • community. This is a moment to
  • 00:17:20.981 --> 00:17:23.917
  • turn over our feelings and
  • 00:17:23.917 --> 00:17:26.120
  • emotions to our God.
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  • Real Encounters with God, all
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  • new on location in Israel. New
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  • places, new people, new
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  • encounters. Real Encounters with
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  • God, the Jesus myth.
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  • Adventure and church. Aren't
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  • normally two words that go
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  • together. But at Crossroads, we
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  • don't believe in doing church as
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  • usual. In fact, we believe that
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  • a life God can be a pulse
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  • pumping, heart pounding, life of
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  • purpose. And our job is to guide
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  • you there. Crossroads Church.
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