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A New Season Part 2: Shawn Troy and Tasha Diorr

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December 8, 2019
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A New Season Part 2: Shawn Troy and Tasha Diorr

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  • male announcer: Last week on "Your World."
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  • Creflo Dollar: Today's show is dealing with mistakes.
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  • We've all made them.
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  • Maybe you've been in a spot where you've made
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  • a wrong decision, perhaps some bad choices.
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  • Most of the time, we recover.
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  • We pick ourselves up, dust ourselves off, and we move on.
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  • Today's guests are here to share their stories about choices they
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  • made that took them down a path where their confidence
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  • and self-image was utterly ripped apart.
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  • Instead of thinking, "I made a mistake," they now feel that,
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  • "I am a mistake."
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  • Our guests today are living in guilt over something that
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  • happened in their past that continues to live in their
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  • present, and they have found themselves caught in
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  • a neverending cycle of shame and abuse.
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  • The two ladies you will meet today have two very different
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  • stories, but they are coming from the very same place.
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  • What happened?
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  • female: I went with him and he was even more controlling.
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  • I wanted to be away from him so bad, I tried to kill myself.
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  • Creflo: Really?
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  • female: And I landed up in the hospital, and do you know
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  • he came there and laughed at me and told me I was weak?
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  • Creflo: You allowed this man to continue to show up in your
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  • life and devalue you?
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  • female: Yeah, absolutely.
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  • Creflo: And what happens when you are being devalued?
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  • Sometimes, you can get pushed down so low that you have no
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  • other choice but to come up.
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  • announcer: Coming up next.
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  • Creflo: Why do you feel that you're responsible for your
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  • mother's suicide?
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  • Tasha Dior: One of my friends told me that they seen my mom's
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  • boyfriend was actually with another one of my friends,
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  • high school friends.
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  • And when I went back home, my mom, she was cooking.
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  • I told her what happened, and she immediately
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  • ran out the door.
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  • So, she never returned, and I just felt like
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  • that it was my fault.
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  • Creflo: Let me ask you a question.
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  • Tough questions, you ready?
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  • Did you pull the trigger?
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  • They both want to end their cycle of shame, blame,
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  • and low self-worth, and rebuild their lives.
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  • This is all next right here on "Your World."
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  • Changing one life time after time
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  • although we do it all for you.
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  • Through the trials I see
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  • I'll always believe
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  • a new life starts with you.
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  • Change your world today.
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  • Change is gonna come your way.
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  • Change and get an understanding.
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  • His grace will transform you.
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  • Creflo: Our next guest believes that she is the cause
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  • of her mother's suicide, and two of her sisters blame her too and
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  • have vowed to never forgive her.
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  • When she was just 17, she told her mother the news that her
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  • mom's boyfriend was cheating on her.
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  • Later that night, her mother took a shotgun and aimed it at
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  • her own chest and pulled the trigger.
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  • The pain, depression, and heavy guilt
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  • has suffocated her for decades.
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  • Today, she's asking, "Did I kill my mom?"
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  • We're going to help her answer that question today.
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  • Ladies and gentlemen, please welcome Tasha Dior
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  • to "Your World."
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  • Tasha, thank you for joining us today.
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  • Tasha: Thank you for having me.
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  • Creflo: Well, we are going to dig into this because we got to
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  • answer that question for you today.
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  • Talk to us about your memories with your mother and father
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  • together growing up.
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  • Tasha: Oh God, I didn't really have any memories with
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  • my mother and father.
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  • 'Cause at the time when my mom was dating him,
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  • he was a married man.
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  • So, he was actually, you know, cheating at the time, you know,
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  • with my mom. Creflo: Yeah.
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  • Do you feel or have you felt like--do you feel like your mom
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  • loved you?
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  • Tasha: Yes, I do.
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  • I think that she probably didn't know how to love.
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  • Creflo: Yeah. Let's talk about her depression.
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  • As much as you can remember, what was her depression, the
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  • degree of her depression?
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  • I mean, you know, when you saw her, had relationship with her,
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  • was it like an ongoing type of thing that every time you
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  • noticed that she was going through that?
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  • Talk to us about that. Tasha: Yes.
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  • Most of the time, she used to stay closed up in her room.
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  • She never, never went to any family functions whatsoever.
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  • Even when we did the obituary, we actually couldn't find a
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  • family picture because she always stayed closed into
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  • herself.
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  • And actually, we had to use the picture that was on her driver's
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  • license. So, yeah.
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  • Creflo: So, would you agree with me there were a lot of
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  • emotional things that were--that were--that you could see through
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  • your mom?
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  • And that there were probably some childhood trauma that she
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  • had not dealt with? Tasha: Mm-hmm.
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  • Creflo: And as a result of only God knows all of the things
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  • that she had dealt with beforehand, you know, you guys
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  • are born and the family's born and she still has--hasn't
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  • resolved some of those issues.
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  • Are you aware of some of those issues that she struggled with?
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  • Tasha: No.
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  • Creflo: Yeah, so she kept to herself?
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  • Tasha: She actually kept to herself.
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  • Creflo: And really never talked to anybody, just kind
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  • of-- Tasha: No.
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  • Creflo: Do you think she was kind of a prideful woman?
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  • And I say that this way, that she really didn't want anybody
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  • to know her business so she could kind of carry on this
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  • facade a little bit?
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  • Tasha: No, I don't think she was prideful.
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  • I just think that she was just suffering from depression.
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  • Creflo: What happens is a lot of time you have wounds that are
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  • not dealt with, then you normally put a blanket around
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  • those wounds and you get a false identity.
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  • And nobody really knows who this person is because they are who
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  • they are through a blanket.
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  • And I've got to keep it covered so that you won't know who I
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  • really am.
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  • Did you see her doing that?
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  • Tasha: I can say that because she was just so closed off.
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  • Most of the time growing up when I was a little girl, she stayed
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  • in her room with the door closed.
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  • Creflo: I see you struggling to answer because you're like,
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  • "Honestly, I don't--I didn't really get a chance to develop a
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  • relationship with her."
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  • Because she was closed off?
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  • Tasha: Mm-hmm.
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  • Creflo: So, is that a true statement that you didn't get a
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  • chance? Tasha: Yeah, that's true.
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  • Creflo: What about the rest--what about your siblings?
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  • Tasha: I can say that for my oldest sister.
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  • At the time of her passing, my three youngest sisters, they was
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  • little.
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  • They was like one, two, and three, so they never really got
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  • to actually know her either.
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  • Creflo: Now, let's get to this issue of, you know, you
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  • sharing in a responsibility for your mother's death.
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  • I need you to explain that to us.
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  • Why do you feel that you're responsible for your mother's
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  • suicide?
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  • Tasha: Because at that time, I was eight months pregnant, I
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  • was eight or nine months pregnant.
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  • I actually had been in the whole house my whole pregnancy.
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  • But just that day, I don't know, that day, I got dressed and I
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  • went outside.
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  • I was a teenager at the time.
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  • I went outside and basically, you know, to visit friends.
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  • And one of my friends told me that they seen my mom's
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  • boyfriend was actually with another one of my friends, high
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  • school friends.
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  • And when I went back home, my mom, she was cooking.
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  • And I told her what happened, and she immediately ran out the
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  • door because she was so in love with this guy.
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  • So, she never returned, and I just felt like that it was my
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  • fault.
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  • Not only that, it's times that my family has blamed me also.
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  • So, sometimes when you keep hearing things over and over
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  • again, you start to believe them.
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  • But still at the end of the day, yeah, I thought it was my fault.
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  • Creflo: Let me ask you a question.
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  • Tough questions, you ready?
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  • Tasha: Mm-hmm.
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  • Creflo: Did you pull the trigger?
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  • Tasha: No.
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  • Creflo: How are you responsible for her suicide?
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  • Yep, that's my point.
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  • You're not.
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  • You may have been on the other side hearing people blaming you
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  • for that because when hurt people are hurt, they constantly
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  • try to find somebody to take the blame for it.
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  • And in this situation, you--it is not possible for you to take
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  • the blame for it because at the end of the day, every individual
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  • human being is responsible for their own action, bar none.
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  • Every individual is responsible for their own action.
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  • Whether they heard or hear or experience something good and/or
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  • bad, we all have tough, rough days, and we all have the same
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  • opportunity as a free moral agent to make decisions.
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  • We make a decision to live, we make a decision to die.
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  • But if when I make a decision to live, it is my decision.
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  • If I make a decision to die, it is my decision because
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  • ultimately, I'm going to be the one that's responsible for
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  • carrying out that decision.
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  • It is a hurtful, painful event and memory in your life.
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  • And what's probably even more hurtful and painful is to hear
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  • people that you love tell you that it's your fault.
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  • Now, here's what I want you to look at about this.
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  • Imagine what in the world must be going on in the life of an
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  • individual that they can say to somebody else, "It's your
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  • fault."
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  • What kind of issues must be going on in a person's life
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  • where we're constantly looking for someone to blame for
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  • something that they know is not your fault.
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  • But what's the pain and the hurt and the regrets and all of the
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  • things that were going on in their life where they had to
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  • search to try to see if I can blame her, maybe I can feel
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  • better about how I feel. Tasha: Right.
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  • Creflo: Isn't it interesting, even when you go to the funeral
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  • of a family member, the whole family sits in the church and
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  • everybody picks out this one little thing that they felt like
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  • if I would've did this, then I could've stopped that from
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  • happening?
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  • If I hadn't bought them this last bottle of liquor, maybe
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  • they would not have had a car wreck.
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  • Or if I hadn't had done this.
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  • And everybody sits there and, "Oh, if I would've done."
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  • No, if--you know, you remember the saying, "Would've, could've,
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  • should've."
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  • Mm-mm, I have to make sure you understand this today, it's not
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  • your fault.
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  • It is not anybody's fault, it is a decision of a free moral agent
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  • who made a decision to, for a whole lot of reasons, for a
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  • whole lot of unresolved conflict, for a whole lot of
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  • hurt and pain, for a whole lot of childhood trauma that's never
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  • been dealt with, for a whole lot of things that, here you go, for
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  • a whole lot of things that have happened in her life that she
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  • didn't even know was trauma, didn't even know how to work
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  • through those things.
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  • Someone that was looking for love and when it felt like this
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  • may have been the last opportunity, I'm hurt once
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  • again.
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  • Nobody knows how many times that situation happened, how many
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  • times those things hurt.
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  • Because when you're closed in emotionally and physically, we
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  • can't--how can you help somebody who won't let you help them?
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  • And that's mom, you love her, you appreciate her, you're going
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  • to miss her, and all those other things.
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  • But what you cannot do is carry this burden around in your life.
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  • Now, what you've got to do is come out of the situation and be
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  • determined to not make any of those mistakes.
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  • Be willing to open up, to share, to confront issues of trauma in
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  • your own life, abuse in your own life, and say, "What do I need
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  • to do so I can be a better person, better parent, better
  • 00:13:18.050 --> 00:13:21.270
  • companion?
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  • And not to open myself up."
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  • I like to define life like this, it's the sum total who you spend
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  • it with.
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  • And it's the people around in our lives that make our lives.
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  • And she was certainly a part of your life, it was your mom.
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  • And so, when that happens and she's not there, that's a piece
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  • of your life that left as well, but it's not your fault.
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  • You did not kill her, you are not responsible for her suicide.
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  • You are her daughter, and the legacy in you now must be
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  • revealed to others in how you will be a blessing to other
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  • people.
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  • You got to let that go.
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  • How do you feel about yourself?
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  • How do you value yourself since that happened?
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  • Tasha: Since then, I broke a lot of chains.
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  • I broke a lot of generational curses.
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  • I guess the way that we grew up in, because my mom was so
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  • distant, I make sure that I give my daughters, I mean give my
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  • daughter and my sons, my kids the love that they're supposed
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  • to need.
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  • I'm very big on self-love.
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  • I love myself, I love myself to death.
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  • My kids come first, so I kind of live through them and I kind of
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  • live for them.
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  • So, yeah.
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  • Creflo: Why have you chosen to love yourself?
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  • Because this young lady right by you, she suffered with being
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  • devalued.
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  • And when she loves herself and when she doesn't allow other
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  • people to devalue her, she's an extremely successful
  • 00:15:03.170 --> 00:15:07.010
  • businesswoman, she's happy, she's sky's the limit.
  • 00:15:07.020 --> 00:15:11.110
  • We'd like to hear from you, what is it--what decision did you
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  • make and why did you make the decision to on purpose love
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  • yourself?
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  • Because I think that's what you've done, you've made the
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  • decision to on purpose to love you.
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  • Shawn Troy: Absolutely.
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  • Creflo: Yeah.
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  • Tasha: Actually, that's another thing because for the
  • 00:15:28.110 --> 00:15:30.090
  • situation of my mom, I choose to love myself first versus I guess
  • 00:15:30.100 --> 00:15:36.090
  • finding a man to love me.
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  • Because I feel like that's what society teaches us women, to
  • 00:15:37.280 --> 00:15:42.000
  • find another person to love us, or find a man to love us when we
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  • should be taught to love ourselves first.
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  • So, I went through a divorce back in 2012.
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  • So, when I went through my divorce, I made sure I went in
  • 00:15:53.090 --> 00:15:58.080
  • isolation, I kind of went in isolation.
  • 00:15:58.090 --> 00:16:00.270
  • I meditated every day, I prayed every day.
  • 00:16:00.280 --> 00:16:03.060
  • It was basically about self-love because I was in a marriage, a
  • 00:16:03.070 --> 00:16:07.240
  • relationship for 22 years, and I was basically doing some of the
  • 00:16:07.250 --> 00:16:12.150
  • things that my mom was doing.
  • 00:16:12.160 --> 00:16:14.260
  • Basically, you know, catch him with a women, you act out.
  • 00:16:14.270 --> 00:16:18.040
  • So, when you're doing things like that, you don't have any
  • 00:16:18.050 --> 00:16:20.220
  • love for yourself.
  • 00:16:20.230 --> 00:16:22.060
  • So, I had to go back and take a look and unlearn a lot of things
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  • that, you know, I was taught growing up that this is not the
  • 00:16:26.020 --> 00:16:30.000
  • right way.
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  • So, I went back and I taught myself the correct way.
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  • Creflo: What you just said is so good.
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  • When you love yourself, you don't have to go and act a fool
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  • with a man who just showed out on you.
  • 00:16:39.280 --> 00:16:42.110
  • You know, when you love yourself, and you can relate
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  • with this 'cause you called--what do we call him?
  • 00:16:44.260 --> 00:16:48.030
  • Bubba or whatever we--
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  • Creflo: Waldo.
  • 00:16:52.080 --> 00:16:53.100
  • You caught Waldo in a situation a couple of times.
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  • Shawn: Several times. Creflo: Yeah.
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  • And when you really love yourself, it's like I don't have
  • 00:16:58.030 --> 00:17:01.060
  • to go and act a fool.
  • 00:17:01.070 --> 00:17:02.040
  • When I love myself, it's like, "Okay, bye."
  • 00:17:02.050 --> 00:17:04.080
  • You know, I'm not going to get even, I'm going to get paid.
  • 00:17:04.090 --> 00:17:07.120
  • And that's when you have a high esteem of yourself.
  • 00:17:07.130 --> 00:17:12.170
  • But when you don't love yourself, then you may--you may
  • 00:17:12.180 --> 00:17:17.030
  • act like that ghetto chick.
  • 00:17:17.040 --> 00:17:18.110
  • And the only thing you're showing people is, "I don't
  • 00:17:18.120 --> 00:17:21.140
  • really love me."
  • 00:17:21.150 --> 00:17:22.220
  • But when you love yourself, you say, "I love myself too much to
  • 00:17:22.230 --> 00:17:26.210
  • allow you to cause me to act a certain way, carry myself a
  • 00:17:26.220 --> 00:17:29.060
  • certain way, or to--I'm not going to allow you to devalue
  • 00:17:29.070 --> 00:17:31.270
  • yourself."
  • 00:17:31.280 --> 00:17:33.050
  • I told my daughters this and I said, "Listen, you got to make
  • 00:17:33.060 --> 00:17:35.070
  • sure that you're not treated like a bunch of rocks on top of
  • 00:17:35.080 --> 00:17:39.100
  • the ground.
  • 00:17:39.110 --> 00:17:41.000
  • You got to allow yourself to be treated like valuable diamonds
  • 00:17:41.010 --> 00:17:45.160
  • that you have to dig deep for in order to discover."
  • 00:17:45.170 --> 00:17:48.170
  • And that simply means if a person does not want to respect
  • 00:17:48.180 --> 00:17:52.190
  • you and value you, my advice to them when they got--they all
  • 00:17:52.200 --> 00:17:56.280
  • graduated from high school was don't allow anybody, not just
  • 00:17:56.290 --> 00:18:02.080
  • another man, but don't allow anybody to devalue you because
  • 00:18:02.090 --> 00:18:06.110
  • if a person wants to devalue you, then they don't respect
  • 00:18:06.120 --> 00:18:10.090
  • you, and the relationship is going to end up being toxic
  • 00:18:10.100 --> 00:18:13.140
  • anyway.
  • 00:18:13.150 --> 00:18:14.220
  • I also find it interesting that through your own experience, you
  • 00:18:14.230 --> 00:18:18.110
  • may have stumbled on some of the very reasons why your mother
  • 00:18:18.120 --> 00:18:24.090
  • committed suicide, a lack of self-love.
  • 00:18:24.100 --> 00:18:26.200
  • If you would see how she responded when she was betrayed
  • 00:18:26.210 --> 00:18:31.190
  • and hurt, it would give you an understanding of, "Oh my
  • 00:18:31.200 --> 00:18:35.150
  • goodness.
  • 00:18:35.160 --> 00:18:36.220
  • She allowed herself to be devalued until she began to
  • 00:18:36.230 --> 00:18:40.200
  • agree with being devalued."
  • 00:18:40.210 --> 00:18:43.190
  • And when a person gets to that particular point where they find
  • 00:18:43.200 --> 00:18:47.220
  • no value or significance in their own life, it becomes
  • 00:18:47.230 --> 00:18:51.150
  • difficult to exist because she's like, "I just--I don't like me."
  • 00:18:51.160 --> 00:18:55.060
  • So, I want to encourage--I want to encourage everybody who's
  • 00:18:55.070 --> 00:18:58.130
  • watching this broadcast right now is that you've got to
  • 00:18:58.140 --> 00:19:01.260
  • operate in a place where you value who you are.
  • 00:19:01.270 --> 00:19:05.190
  • The Bible says, "Don't think higher of yourself than you
  • 00:19:05.200 --> 00:19:09.240
  • ought to think, but neither should you think lower of
  • 00:19:09.250 --> 00:19:13.030
  • yourself than what you ought to think."
  • 00:19:13.040 --> 00:19:14.210
  • It uses the word, "Be of sober mind."
  • 00:19:14.220 --> 00:19:18.040
  • And it's so important that you value who God made you.
  • 00:19:18.050 --> 00:19:22.060
  • You value who you are, you value and understand you are
  • 00:19:22.070 --> 00:19:26.190
  • significant.
  • 00:19:26.200 --> 00:19:27.270
  • And you bring something to the table, that you are smart, you
  • 00:19:27.280 --> 00:19:32.070
  • are intelligent, you are beautiful.
  • 00:19:32.080 --> 00:19:34.100
  • Sometimes, you got to look in the mirror and say, "Look at
  • 00:19:34.110 --> 00:19:37.100
  • you. Good gracious alive, boy."
  • 00:19:37.110 --> 00:19:39.200
  • You have to do that, it may sound silly, but if you
  • 00:19:39.210 --> 00:19:42.280
  • don't--if you don't accept responsibility for valuing
  • 00:19:42.290 --> 00:19:47.070
  • yourself, why in the world would you expect for somebody else to
  • 00:19:47.080 --> 00:19:52.150
  • do that for you?
  • 00:19:52.160 --> 00:19:54.030
  • As a leader, one of the things I look for, I look for people who
  • 00:19:54.040 --> 00:19:57.240
  • are willing to make investments in their own lives.
  • 00:19:57.250 --> 00:20:01.130
  • 'Cause if you're not really willing to make an investment in
  • 00:20:01.140 --> 00:20:03.070
  • you, why should I be willing to make an investment in you?
  • 00:20:03.080 --> 00:20:05.130
  • And so, this is so important, this is so valuable.
  • 00:20:05.140 --> 00:20:10.120
  • I so appreciate these two ladies being on this couch today
  • 00:20:10.130 --> 00:20:14.240
  • sharing what they share with you.
  • 00:20:14.250 --> 00:20:17.080
  • I hope you heard it, you're responsible for it now.
  • 00:20:17.090 --> 00:20:21.040
  • What will you do?
  • 00:20:21.050 --> 00:20:24.250
  • What will you do?
  • 00:20:25.180 --> 00:20:27.110
  • Don't let any man or woman devalue you, don't let the
  • 00:20:32.270 --> 00:20:37.110
  • relationship devalue you, don't let a job devalue you.
  • 00:20:37.120 --> 00:20:41.090
  • Do not allow yourself to be devalued by anything or anybody
  • 00:20:41.100 --> 00:20:48.030
  • because you are very significant in the plan of God.
  • 00:20:48.040 --> 00:20:51.210
  • You're very valuable to what God wants to do on the planet, and
  • 00:20:51.220 --> 00:20:56.110
  • you bring something to the table.
  • 00:20:56.120 --> 00:20:58.110
  • You have something to offer.
  • 00:20:58.120 --> 00:21:00.070
  • There may be some people that don't appreciate you, but you
  • 00:21:00.080 --> 00:21:04.280
  • are appreciated, you are highly favored, you are the apple of
  • 00:21:04.290 --> 00:21:08.140
  • God's eye.
  • 00:21:08.150 --> 00:21:09.190
  • You are beautifully and wonderfully made, and you have
  • 00:21:09.200 --> 00:21:14.140
  • to tell--you have to tell yourself, you have to tell
  • 00:21:14.150 --> 00:21:17.040
  • yourself. And I'm talking to the guys too.
  • 00:21:17.050 --> 00:21:19.240
  • I mean, maybe you might look like you're about three months
  • 00:21:19.250 --> 00:21:21.200
  • pregnant, suck it in and say, "Somebody like this."
  • 00:21:21.210 --> 00:21:26.100
  • You understand?
  • 00:21:26.110 --> 00:21:28.010
  • Oh, do you appreciate our guests today?
  • 00:21:28.020 --> 00:21:32.060
  • I've got something I would like to share with the both of you
  • 00:21:36.050 --> 00:21:38.190
  • just to remember the time that we spent.
  • 00:21:38.200 --> 00:21:43.180
  • It's to Shawn and Tasha.
  • 00:21:43.190 --> 00:21:46.170
  • It says, "I accept this grace covenant provided to me by
  • 00:21:46.180 --> 00:21:49.050
  • Creflo Dollar and agree with the following statements.
  • 00:21:49.060 --> 00:21:52.230
  • I believe Jesus loves me and nothing will ever change that.
  • 00:21:52.240 --> 00:21:56.060
  • I believe that grace of the person of Jesus Christ has
  • 00:21:56.070 --> 00:21:59.090
  • already provided everything I will ever need to have a healthy
  • 00:21:59.100 --> 00:22:02.170
  • and fulfilling, prosperous life.
  • 00:22:02.180 --> 00:22:04.170
  • I believe everything in my past is in my past.
  • 00:22:04.180 --> 00:22:07.110
  • Jesus has chosen not to remember it, and neither will I.
  • 00:22:07.120 --> 00:22:11.010
  • I will daily proclaim I am the righteousness of God.
  • 00:22:11.020 --> 00:22:14.010
  • I will daily live by the belief of understanding grace
  • 00:22:14.020 --> 00:22:16.110
  • empowering change to better equip myself for success and to
  • 00:22:16.120 --> 00:22:19.140
  • better serve those individuals around me.
  • 00:22:19.150 --> 00:22:21.280
  • I will daily flood my life with the Word of God and the praises
  • 00:22:21.290 --> 00:22:25.210
  • of his saints."
  • 00:22:25.220 --> 00:22:27.070
  • And there's an area here I'm going to sign witnessing this
  • 00:22:27.080 --> 00:22:30.230
  • under pastor and encourager, and then I'm going to give this to
  • 00:22:30.240 --> 00:22:34.170
  • the both of you to sign under the righteousness of God because
  • 00:22:34.180 --> 00:22:38.020
  • that's exactly who you are.
  • 00:22:38.030 --> 00:22:39.120
  • You are the righteousness of God, amen?
  • 00:22:39.130 --> 00:22:44.060
  • Would you give them a big hand clap?
  • 00:22:44.070 --> 00:22:49.240
  • I would like to thank Tasha and Shawn for joining us on our
  • 00:22:49.250 --> 00:22:53.020
  • program today, and I thank you for joining us here each and
  • 00:22:53.030 --> 00:22:57.000
  • every week.
  • 00:22:57.010 --> 00:22:58.070
  • Listen, I want to hear from you too.
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  • Reach out and connect with us online at
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  • yourworldwithcreflo.com and stay connected with me on Facebook,
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  • Twitter, and Instagram.
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  • And know that I would love to hear from you.
  • 00:23:08.010 --> 00:23:10.140
  • We want to hear your story.
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  • I'll see you next time right here on "Your World."
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  • announcer: If you have made a bad mistake or poor choices
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  • you're not proud of, you're not alone.
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  • But you need to forgive yourself in order to break free from your
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  • past and truly move on with your life, and Creflo Dollar wants to
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  • show you how.
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  • In today's episode, you met Shawn Troy and Tasha Dior, who
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  • were taken down a dark path where their confidence and
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  • self-image were torn apart by their own minds, different
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  • situations, but living in that same awful place of shame and
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  • pain from their pasts.
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  • Creflo Dollar has put together a series offered together for the
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  • First, you'll get "From Condemnation to Grace."
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  • In this three-part series, Creflo Dollar will take you step
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  • by step on how to identify the pain and shame of your past.
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  • Understand why you're feeling this way and how to unburden
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  • yourself from the world's condemnation, and instead
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  • experience the fullness of God's grace.
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  • life anew with positive thinking.
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  • You only saw a small part of Creflo Dollar's interview with
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  • Shawn Troy and Tasha Dior.
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  • Now you can see the entire program, yours today as part of
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  • Creflo: You are very significant in the plan of God.
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  • You're very valuable to what God wants to do on the planet, and
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  • you bring something to the table.
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  • You have something to offer.
  • 00:25:29.170 --> 00:25:31.190
  • You are highly favored, you are the apple of God's eye, you're
  • 00:25:31.200 --> 00:25:35.230
  • beautifully and wonderfully made.
  • 00:25:35.240 --> 00:25:38.280
  • I hope you heard it, you're responsible for it now.
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  • What will you do?
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  • announcer: So, now that's eight total messages.
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  • Join us December 31, 2019 with
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  • Pastors Creflo and Taffi Dollar
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  • for the biggest celebration of the year.
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  • We welcome you to bring in the year 2020 with us at World
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  • Changers Church International.
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  • Get ready for a night filled with fun, power-packed praise,
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  • and a lifechanging word from Dr. Creflo Dollar.
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  • Doors will open at 9 p.m.
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  • Service will begin at 10 p.m.
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  • This event is absolutely free.
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  • Visit worldchangers.org for more information.
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  • announcer: When visiting New York and Atlanta, join
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  • Creflo Dollar at World Changers Church International.
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  • For more information, visit us online at
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  • creflodollarministries.org.
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  • Because of you, Creflo Dollar Ministries is providing a new
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  • understanding of grace, and empowering change in the lives
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  • of millions of people every day.
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  • Thank you, partners and friends.
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  • Your love and financial support makes it possible to bring this
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  • message into millions of homes all across the globe.
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