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August 11, 2019
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Your World with Creflo

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  • [audience cheering]
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  • Creflo Dollar: Good morning, good morning.
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  • What do you do when the person who you hold dearest
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  • to your heart suddenly dies?
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  • Our guest today, Kristi, is reeling from the sudden death
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  • of her mother, her rock, her confidant, and her best friend.
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  • Since then, Kristi has been battling thoughts of suicide,
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  • depression, and anxiety, unable to cope with her grief now
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  • for over four years.
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  • Now, you may have heard the saying, "Time heals all wounds,"
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  • but for Kristi, her depression has only gotten worse.
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  • Kristi climbed onto her balcony to jump, believing
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  • no one would ever miss her.
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  • An intervention of grace stopped this from happening, but
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  • what hasn't stopped is Kristi's uncontrollable suicide urges.
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  • She's here today not just for her own sake, but
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  • for the sake of her nine-year-old son she
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  • would be leaving behind and leaving alone.
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  • Now today, we're going to help this woman.
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  • I'm Creflo Dollar, and this is "Your World."
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  • [audience applauding]
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  • Changing one life, time after time,
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  • oh Lord, we do it all for you.
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  • Through the trials I see, I'll always believe
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  • a new life starts with you.
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  • Oh, change your world today,
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  • change is gonna come your way.
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  • Change and get an understanding,
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  • his grace will transform you.
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  • [audience cheering]
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  • Creflo: Our guest today feels lost and alone,
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  • battling thoughts of suicide and depression
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  • since the loss of her mother.
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  • Would you please help me welcome Kristi Buford
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  • to "Your World" today?
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  • [audience applauding]
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  • Kristi, welcome, thank you so much for being here with us.
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  • First of all, I wanna thank you for having the courage
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  • and taking the time to help so many people.
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  • Because, through this show today, you and I are gonna
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  • team up, and we're going to create a tool that's gonna help
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  • a lot of people in a lot of places relate and understand
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  • this issue that you're going through, and how
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  • to deal with it, and what to do.
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  • And we're gonna get some answers today.
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  • We call it "Your World," so we want you to bring all of us into
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  • your world of the relationship that you and your mother had
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  • and all of those special things that makes her special with you.
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  • So, let's begin there.
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  • Kristi Buford: Well, my mother and I was very, very close.
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  • She was actually more than just my mother, she was my friend.
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  • Coming up as a little girl, I just watched my mother
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  • go through so much, just as a single mother.
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  • She was in a relationship with my biological father
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  • at the time, and I just watched her battle
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  • verbal abuse, physical abuse, and it's just--and she was
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  • going to school full-time while working three jobs trying
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  • to provide for me and my older sister.
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  • I will never forget when my mom used to have
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  • to take me to class with her.
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  • She was going to school full-time, so she was
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  • an inspiration to me.
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  • That's why I'm, like, the strong person that I am today,
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  • because I remember every single thing that my mother
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  • went through when I was a little girl.
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  • When she finally got out of that abusive relationship with
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  • my biological father, we was actually able to kind
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  • of see the light, because then she met my stepfather
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  • who was a much better man to her.
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  • So, as the years went by, I finally had my child.
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  • I was 17, in high school, when I had my son.
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  • My mama was still raising me, so she practically helped me
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  • raise my son and bring him up.
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  • And in 2015, I just think she was just tired,
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  • and she had a heart attack in her sleep.
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  • Creflo: So, without a doubt, your mother is your hero.
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  • Kristi: Yes.
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  • Creflo: Yeah, and would you say that she was successful
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  • in imparting into you and your sister all of the
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  • necessary virtues of being a well-rounded, strong woman,
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  • able to take care of yourself and to do the things
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  • that you need to do as an adult?
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  • So, even the night where she passed,
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  • I find it very interesting.
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  • Describe that night when you were asleep, of her passing,
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  • and the things that happened there.
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  • Describe that night.
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  • Kristi: Well, actually, when my mother passed away,
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  • I had my own place, but we were so close, again,
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  • that I happened to be there that night.
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  • I spent the night at her house,
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  • because I was always under my mom.
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  • We were best friends, literally.
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  • I'll never forget, I made it there, my stepdad had called me,
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  • he said, "Your mom hasn't been feeling well today," and
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  • I was like, "Okay, I'll be there later."
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  • So, I went, and, you know, she was asleep when I got there,
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  • and she was in the bed, and I kissed her.
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  • I was always kissing and hugging on my mom anyway,
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  • so that was not out of the norm.
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  • Later that night, I was asleep,
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  • and I don't fully understand this part.
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  • My alarm went off.
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  • One o'clock that morning, my alarm went off on my phone.
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  • I'm like, "Why would I--"
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  • Creflo: At home?
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  • Kristi: Yeah, I'm like, "Why would my alarm go off
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  • at one o'clock?"
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  • So, I just, you know, hit snooze and went back to sleep.
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  • At four o'clock, my stepdad woke up just screaming and yelling,
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  • "Kristi, Jaden," that's my son, "Your mom's not breathing."
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  • So, I just panicked. I knew that, okay, this is it.
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  • I don't know why I felt that, but this was four o'clock
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  • at the time, so they called paramedics.
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  • Paramedics took forever to get there.
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  • They took at least two hours.
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  • Creflo: Two hours?
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  • Kristi: They took at least two hours to show up.
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  • Creflo: Nine-one-one?
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  • Kristi: Literally, and I was just standing there, and
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  • I remember one of the guys from the ambulance walked past me,
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  • and I heard him say, "She's been gone since about one o'clock."
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  • It was just--that just, like, completely destroyed me.
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  • I just couldn't believe it.
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  • Like, to this day, I still can't--it still feels unreal.
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  • But God has been slowly revealing to me, you know, that
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  • he does things, he doesn't make any mistakes, because my mom was
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  • no-doubt ready to, you know, go to heaven or whatever,
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  • because she lived a holy, righteous life.
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  • And she was walking with the Lord, and he--every day
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  • I just asked God, and I feel selfish at times,
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  • because sometimes I'm questioning God, and
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  • I feel like this is selfish, but I can't help it, and
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  • I'm like, you know, "Why my mom?"
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  • Like, why did it have to be my mother to pass away?
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  • And it's like, I don't know.
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  • Creflo: Well, it's not out of the norm, you know.
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  • You would call it selfish, but it's not out of the norm,
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  • it's the cycle of life and how things work.
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  • But I wanna drill in on some things.
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  • Is there any guilt about her dying that you carry
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  • for some reason or another?
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  • Kristi: Kind of, sort of, because when I was coming up
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  • as a young girl, I wasn't as--I didn't have the wisdom
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  • that I have now.
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  • I was naive, and, you know, my mom
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  • was practically my biggest fan.
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  • She wanted the best for me, but, you know, when you're young
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  • and naïve, you can't see clearly, you're blind when
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  • you're out here and you think you got it all together.
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  • And my mom was one of the people in my corner that was trying to
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  • actually lead me down that path that I needed to go.
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  • But instead, I was following, you know, the crowd, and
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  • thinking that, you know, this--I was in a toxic relationship when
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  • I was younger, and my mom was the main one telling me,
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  • "You know, this relationship is not for you.
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  • God has better, you know, things in store for you, and
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  • I feel like the relationship that you're in is toxic,"
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  • and I didn't listen to my mother.
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  • I do feel guilty at times because I feel like
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  • I should have listened to my mother more.
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  • I just feel like we could have--we needed
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  • more time together.
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  • Creflo: More time with her to feel, what?
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  • Better about not being what you think would be a better
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  • daughter, is that what you're talking about dealing with?
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  • And you have to understand that, you know, and you
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  • know this now, because you have a kid, they don't
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  • have to do anything for you to love 'em.
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  • They don't have to really do anything for you
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  • to be proud of 'em or to congratulate.
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  • I mean, they're yours, and there's nothing else
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  • you could have done to probably get her to love you
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  • even more than what she already loved you.
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  • It's just, that's just how it is, and all the things that
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  • you talked about, I mean, that's a normal part of growing up,
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  • and discovering, and making bad decisions, and
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  • learning from those bad decisions.
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  • And as parents, you know, that's just what we do.
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  • There's nothing that you did, or could have done,
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  • that would have ever impacted, I'm talking about a
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  • healthy parent, that will ever impact it.
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  • Because you--this is how the old folks used to say,
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  • "You still my child."
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  • I don't care what you do or nothin', you still my child,
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  • and I'm gonna still love you.
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  • And sometimes it takes a while for us, for children,
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  • to understand how much they're loved by their parents.
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  • So, I want you to understand that.
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  • What I wanna drill down now on is just where you are right now.
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  • Because she's been gone for what, four years?
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  • Kristi: Yes.
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  • Creflo: You know, from a spiritual perspective, for
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  • somebody to try to understand death and not understand what
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  • the Bible and what Jesus has to say about it,
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  • it's almost futile, because, you know,
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  • to try to explain it without Jesus, and to try to
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  • explain it without the Word, it becomes very difficult.
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  • What we do understand from the Word of God is that man
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  • is a spirit, you have a soul, that's your mind, your will,
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  • and your emotions, and you live in a physical body.
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  • So, what happens is, I'll use this pen.
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  • What happens is, this is your spirit, and when you--this
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  • is your soul, and this is your physical body.
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  • Death takes place, your spirit and your soul
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  • depart from your physical body.
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  • Your physical body is there, and there's no life in it.
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  • But to be absent from the body is to be present with the Lord,
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  • if you're a born-again Christian.
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  • The body, which is the house you lived in, remain.
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  • You sold that physical body into the physical earth where
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  • it came from, like a seed.
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  • And when you plant something in the ground as a seed,
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  • there's a harvest that's gonna come, and that would be the
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  • resurrection and the glorification of that body.
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  • But now, right now, today, from God's perspective, your mom is
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  • absent from the physical realm, she's in the spiritual realm,
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  • and she is more alive today than she was when she
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  • was in this physical body.
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  • One day, all of us are gonna go through the same process,
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  • and just like in a moment, in a twinkle of an eye,
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  • we're gonna find ourselves in the spirit world,
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  • we don't even know we died.
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  • You need to understand me when I say this.
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  • She is alive, but she's alive in another realm.
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  • Is it okay for me to cry and to miss her?
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  • Of course, it's relationship.
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  • It's as if she would move to South Africa somewhere and
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  • you didn't have transportation to go see her.
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  • It hurts, it's painful, but the end is not a part of this story.
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  • And so, you cannot allow your grief and your
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  • negative emotions to drive your life.
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  • So, what do I do?
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  • You're gonna have to deal with your thought life.
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  • Every time this thought of grief, "I lost my mother,"
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  • as if it's the end, you gotta think differently.
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  • She's not lost, I know exactly where she is.
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  • She's absent from the body, present with the Lord, greatest
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  • joy she ever has, now be happy for her, because she graduated
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  • that night at one o'clock, and now she is living real life.
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  • You follow me so far?
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  • Now, in this situation, the enemy likes to try to take
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  • advantage of people and destroy them, and he likes to use grief.
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  • Now, grief is associated with loss.
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  • If you continue to see it as a loss instead of a
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  • gain, then it can torment you.
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  • Grief is something that you must not allow place in your life.
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  • That needs to end today, and how does it end?
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  • You are gonna take authority over your thoughts.
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  • You don't control thoughts with thoughts,
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  • you control thoughts with words.
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  • So, every time those negative thoughts of grief come in,
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  • open your mouth up.
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  • "Nope, my mom's not lost, she's with the Lord.
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  • Hallelujah, I'll see her again."
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  • You got to rejoice with those who are rejoicing, man,
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  • and she's rejoicing in heaven.
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  • She's rejoicing in heaven.
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  • Let's take a break, and I hope that those of you who are
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  • watching this, that you're right here with us on this journey,
  • 00:14:02.170 --> 00:14:05.260
  • because grief will not dominate your life.
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  • We'll be right back.
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  • [audience applauding]
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  • Creflo: Amen, welcome back.
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  • Kristi, I believe the enemy tries to take opportunity
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  • to destroy individuals when their loved ones go home
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  • to be with the Lord.
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  • And I can remember reading your testimony where you
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  • felt like your mother was like a crutch in your life.
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  • Tell me about that.
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  • Kristi: So, I've never hardly called on God.
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  • I didn't pray a lot.
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  • I called my mama for everything,
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  • all the way down to the small things.
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  • I can be in traffic, somebody can cut--break out
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  • in front of me, and I'll call my mama,
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  • "Let me tell you what this man did," you know?
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  • And I don't think it was healthy.
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  • I think I used my mom as a crutch.
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  • My mom was basically my God.
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  • Creflo: Yeah, your source, yeah.
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  • Kristi: And I never prayed to God, ever.
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  • If I needed something, I called my mama, and I just feel like
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  • that's one reason--and I'm not saying that this is actually the
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  • reason, I'm not assuming, but I really feel like,
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  • because over the years I was questioning God, like,
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  • "Why did you take my mother, out of all people?
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  • You took my mother," and I'll never forget, I was
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  • just laying in my bed, and I was just crying,
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  • and just--I had so many thoughts.
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  • It even got to the point of suicide, like,
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  • really bad suicidal thoughts.
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  • And I was just praying, like, "Lord, why did you
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  • take my mother, out of all people?
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  • You always saying, like, you won't never leave people,
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  • but you took my mother."
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  • And then, it's like I heard God say, not verbally,
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  • but in a sense, I just heard him say that my
  • 00:16:38.080 --> 00:16:41.190
  • mother was ready to come home.
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  • Like, we all gotta go someday, and because I worshiped,
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  • practically, my mother, I think that God was just showing
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  • me that he is the only God, and that he's the only one
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  • that should be worshiped.
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  • Creflo: To feel the guilt, or to think that somehow God
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  • is gonna take my mother so he can teach me a lesson is just
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  • not true, but it's the enemy that will say, "Now is my
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  • opportunity to try to prove to her that God's mad at her
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  • and that God's gonna get her back, and God's gonna
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  • use death to try to teach her something."
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  • That's not God, God is so full of love, and so full of
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  • kindness, and a lot of people think that--they think, "Well,
  • 00:17:30.050 --> 00:17:34.110
  • you know, God did it," because in moments of great sorrow and
  • 00:17:34.120 --> 00:17:39.080
  • grief, that's when the enemy tries to initiate a plan against
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  • you to disrupt not only your relationship with God,
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  • but the plan and purpose for your life.
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  • He wants you not to enter into the plan and purpose.
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  • He wants you not to use the things that
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  • your mother has imparted into you to help equip you
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  • for the plan and the purpose.
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  • He wants you to stay in grief, and stay mad at God,
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  • and stay upset with this, and get into blame,
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  • and shame, and condemnation, and all these kind of things,
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  • and what does that do?
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  • It paralyzes you, and for four years, paralyzed.
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  • Where would you be?
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  • What is it you're supposed to be doing?
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  • What are the things that are supposed to be taking
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  • place that the enemy constantly tries to stop
  • 00:18:27.160 --> 00:18:32.080
  • and paralyze you from doing?
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  • And I know he's shown you some things, and I know you've taken
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  • some steps to go towards those things, but I believe today that
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  • God wants to remove the burden and destroy the yoke.
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  • And you are one decision away from that burden being removed
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  • and that yoke being destroyed.
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  • It's called the anointing.
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  • You have an anointing on your life.
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  • There's a purpose for your life. There's a plan for your life.
  • 00:19:01.200 --> 00:19:05.040
  • And the enemy says, "What file can I use to slow her, stop her,
  • 00:19:05.050 --> 00:19:10.180
  • paralyze her, and maybe block up the will of God for her life?
  • 00:19:10.190 --> 00:19:15.140
  • Oh, I'll play with her emotions, and I will deceive her into
  • 00:19:15.150 --> 00:19:20.130
  • thinking you don't want to serve God, he took your mother.
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  • You don't want to have anything to do with God, he's responsible
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  • for you almost wanting to commit suicide and to kill yourself.
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  • Why would you serve a God who would take away my mother,
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  • of all the people he could have took."
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  • Now, look at what he's doing, he's now using the very thing
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  • that makes up his personality, selfishness, and I'm telling
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  • you, when you know the truth, when you know that the God
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  • of love, and the God of mercy, and the God of grace not only
  • 00:19:50.270 --> 00:19:56.140
  • accepts full responsibility of welcoming your mother into
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  • a place that's gonna give her life and give it to her more
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  • abundantly, but he's your God, and he's ready to
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  • give you peace that passes all understanding.
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  • You following what I'm saying?
  • 00:20:10.130 --> 00:20:12.020
  • So, now dealing with this practical part,
  • 00:20:12.030 --> 00:20:14.200
  • you're gonna have to take authority over your emotions.
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  • You must not live an emotionally-ruled life.
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  • Emotions are feelings on the inside designed
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  • to move you in directions.
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  • But emotions can move you in a negative direction,
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  • or emotions can move you in a positive direction.
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  • But those emotions are gonna be determined
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  • by what you're thinking.
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  • And what you're thinking is gonna be determined
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  • by what you're hanging around.
  • 00:20:43.020 --> 00:20:44.270
  • And if you'll spend time in that Word, and get the
  • 00:20:44.280 --> 00:20:47.000
  • true impression of who God is, and not an impression
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  • of what you kind of heard he was, then you're gonna
  • 00:20:51.180 --> 00:20:54.230
  • find out that I had no need to grieve.
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  • My mother is not dead, she is yet alive.
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  • She's away from me right now, and I plan
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  • on seeing my mama again.
  • 00:21:04.230 --> 00:21:06.280
  • And you say to other people, "Y'all ain't sending me to hell,
  • 00:21:06.290 --> 00:21:09.010
  • I got to see my mama again," and that becomes a motivation
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  • for you to live a life and to make Jesus your Lord
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  • and personal Savior.
  • 00:21:16.170 --> 00:21:19.140
  • Now, here's where we are.
  • 00:21:19.150 --> 00:21:24.040
  • I wanna give you the opportunity to invite Jesus into your life
  • 00:21:24.050 --> 00:21:29.230
  • as Lord and personal Savior for yourself.
  • 00:21:29.240 --> 00:21:34.040
  • May I pray the prayer of salvation with you?
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  • Kristi: Yes.
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  • Creflo: Repeat these words after me, Kristi.
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  • Heavenly Father--
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  • Kristi: Heavenly Father--
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  • Creflo: I believe-- Kristi: I believe--
  • 00:21:42.230 --> 00:21:44.220
  • Creflo: That Jesus is the Son of God.
  • 00:21:44.230 --> 00:21:46.050
  • Kristi: That Jesus is the Son of God.
  • 00:21:46.060 --> 00:21:48.060
  • Creflo: I believe-- Kristi: I believe--
  • 00:21:48.070 --> 00:21:49.280
  • Creflo: That he's forgiven me of all of my sins.
  • 00:21:49.290 --> 00:21:51.190
  • Kristi: That he's forgiven me for all of my sins.
  • 00:21:51.200 --> 00:21:54.070
  • Creflo: And I believe-- Kristi: And I believe--
  • 00:21:54.080 --> 00:21:56.150
  • Creflo: That in Jesus's name-- Kristi: That in Jesus's name--
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  • Creflo: That all of his finished works--
  • 00:21:59.100 --> 00:22:00.260
  • Kristi: That all of his finished works--
  • 00:22:00.270 --> 00:22:02.200
  • Creflo: Have been made available to me.
  • 00:22:02.210 --> 00:22:04.020
  • Kristi: Have been made available to me.
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  • Creflo: Lord Jesus-- Kristi: Lord Jesus--
  • 00:22:06.020 --> 00:22:08.010
  • Creflo: Come into my life. Kristi: Come into my life.
  • 00:22:08.020 --> 00:22:10.090
  • Creflo: Save me. Kristi: Save me.
  • 00:22:10.100 --> 00:22:12.100
  • Creflo: I make a decision-- Kristi: I make a decision--
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  • Creflo: To receive you-- Kristi: To receive you--
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  • Creflo: As my Lord and my Savior.
  • 00:22:16.280 --> 00:22:18.100
  • Kristi: As my Lord and my Savior.
  • 00:22:18.110 --> 00:22:19.270
  • Creflo: And I thank you now-- Kristi: And I thank you now--
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  • Creflo: That today-- Kristi: That today--
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  • Creflo: I-- Kristi: I--
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  • Creflo: Am-- Kristi: Am--
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  • Creflo: Saved. Kristi: Saved.
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  • Creflo: Amen. Kristi: Amen.
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  • Creflo: Welcome to the family of God.
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  • Welcome to the family of God.
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  • [audience applauding]
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  • I wanna give you something to mark this day,
  • 00:22:37.290 --> 00:22:39.100
  • I call it a Grace Covenant.
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  • It's given and presented to Kristi Buford.
  • 00:22:41.030 --> 00:22:43.270
  • "I, Kristi Buford, accept the Grace Covenant provided to me
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  • by Creflo Dollar, and agree with the following statements.
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  • I believe Jesus loves me and nothing will ever change that.
  • 00:22:52.080 --> 00:22:55.210
  • I believe that grace in the person of Jesus Christ has
  • 00:22:55.220 --> 00:22:58.060
  • already provided everything I will ever need to have
  • 00:22:58.070 --> 00:23:00.240
  • a healthy, fulfilling, and prosperous life.
  • 00:23:00.250 --> 00:23:04.010
  • I believe everything in my past is in my past.
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  • Jesus has chosen not to remember it, neither will I.
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  • I will daily proclaim I am the righteousness of God.
  • 00:23:10.070 --> 00:23:13.060
  • I will daily live by the belief of understanding grace,
  • 00:23:13.070 --> 00:23:15.250
  • empowering to change, to better equip myself for success,
  • 00:23:15.260 --> 00:23:19.110
  • and to better serve those individuals around me.
  • 00:23:19.120 --> 00:23:22.120
  • I will daily flood my life with the Word of God and the praises
  • 00:23:22.130 --> 00:23:25.290
  • of his saints," and there's a place in here that I'm gonna
  • 00:23:26.000 --> 00:23:29.220
  • sign the top of it, right under pastor and encouragement,
  • 00:23:29.230 --> 00:23:34.280
  • and then I wanna give it to you, so you can sign right above
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  • the righteousness of God, because that's who you are.
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  • You are the righteousness of God.
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  • [audience applauding]
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  • So, what do you think, you got a plan together now?
  • 00:23:48.270 --> 00:23:50.280
  • Kristi: Yes, I'm just gonna try to--well, I am gonna move
  • 00:23:50.290 --> 00:23:54.090
  • forward and just continue to have faith that God will
  • 00:23:54.100 --> 00:23:58.140
  • remove the grief completely, and just everything
  • 00:23:58.150 --> 00:24:04.240
  • will eventually get better for me.
  • 00:24:04.250 --> 00:24:07.030
  • Creflo: Well, you got your pretty smile back on your face,
  • 00:24:07.040 --> 00:24:08.290
  • so that's good news.
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  • Don't y'all appreciate her today?
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  • God bless you, sweetheart.
  • 00:24:12.250 --> 00:24:14.060
  • It takes a little time, you'll think about her every day, and
  • 00:24:14.070 --> 00:24:16.250
  • the thoughts will become more fun, and you'll start telling
  • 00:24:16.260 --> 00:24:19.140
  • people, "Boy, if my mama was here," and all that kinda stuff.
  • 00:24:19.150 --> 00:24:22.260
  • But they're a part of you, and will always be,
  • 00:24:22.270 --> 00:24:25.090
  • and that was indented to be that way.
  • 00:24:25.100 --> 00:24:27.130
  • You know, coming to terms with the sense of shock of
  • 00:24:27.140 --> 00:24:30.200
  • losing a loved one is a process, and can make you feel lost
  • 00:24:30.210 --> 00:24:34.220
  • and unable to cope, but listen, God has not left you.
  • 00:24:34.230 --> 00:24:39.030
  • He has never, never left you.
  • 00:24:39.040 --> 00:24:42.090
  • God has healing on every level already set aside for you,
  • 00:24:42.100 --> 00:24:47.030
  • and he's just waiting for you to accept it.
  • 00:24:47.040 --> 00:24:50.110
  • Now listen, if you or someone you know needs help, reach out
  • 00:24:50.120 --> 00:24:54.080
  • and connect with us online at YourWorldWithCreflo.com.
  • 00:24:54.090 --> 00:24:58.170
  • This program is dedicated to helping real people
  • 00:24:58.180 --> 00:25:01.070
  • with real issues find real solutions.
  • 00:25:01.080 --> 00:25:03.250
  • Now, watch this, and I'll see you right back here
  • 00:25:04.110 --> 00:25:07.180
  • next week on "Your World."
  • 00:25:07.190 --> 00:25:10.010
  • [audience applauding]
  • 00:25:10.190 --> 00:25:17.000
  • male announcer: Today, you met Kristi, a woman still struggling
  • 00:25:19.040 --> 00:25:21.210
  • with the depression, anxiety, and suicidal thoughts
  • 00:25:21.220 --> 00:25:25.010
  • over the loss of her mother.
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