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How to Win Over Depression Part 3

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September 8, 2019
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Creflo Dollar

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  • Creflo Dollar: We must be cautious of what we're exposing
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  • ourselves to on a regular basis.
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  • Now, the abundance of technology available to us today gives us
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  • access to almost anything, but we need to expose
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  • ourselves to the Word of God.
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  • And when we saturate ourselves with God's Word,
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  • we keep negative emotions such as depression at bay.
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  • Now, there's a difference between managing depression
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  • and getting rid of it, and Jesus has given us
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  • the antidote to depression.
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  • Today, we're continuing to talk about how
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  • to win over depression.
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  • Stick around.
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  • This is your world,
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  • so let's vow to make it a better place.
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  • Let every heart that needs to know
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  • your love is here to stay.
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  • Oh, it's time to live a new life.
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  • Oh, let his love shine bright in you.
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  • Oh, we're saved by his grace,
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  • so we embrace your love today.
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  • We are changed.
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  • Creflo: The Bible says there is a path that seems right.
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  • I don't want to go down no path that seem right, why?
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  • 'Cause I went down a path that seemed right,
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  • but at the end it was destruction.
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  • So, what do you do?
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  • When you learn about a path that seems right,
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  • expose that path to some people you love so they don't have
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  • to go down that same path.
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  • And I am telling you, you have to understand that when you are
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  • emotional and you can't control your emotions,
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  • then you're going to start trying to control other people,
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  • and you're going to be miserable and open the door to all type of
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  • emotional things that we'll be talking about.
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  • I'm going to talk about stress after this,
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  • talk about rejection, talk about shame.
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  • Most men suffer shame and don't even know what to call it.
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  • The thing they're going through, they don't
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  • even know what to call it.
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  • What is this thing that makes them act the way that
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  • they define as manhood?
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  • It's shame.
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  • And I can't wait till we get to that because shame, to me,
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  • one of the most--you know, I've gone through the depression
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  • part, but the shame part, somehow depression is mixed in
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  • with shame because shame works real hard to make sure you hide
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  • who you think people think you are.
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  • Shame is all about how you have been convinced that you're
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  • awful, and you want to make sure that others
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  • can't see how awful you are.
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  • And then you start building up this charade and start covering
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  • things up so that people can't see who you really are.
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  • And so, you come to church smiling,
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  • and on the inside you're crying.
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  • You come to service and say, "How are you doing?
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  • This is the day the Lord has made."
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  • Yeah, but you won't tell them that you wish
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  • he hadn't made today.
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  • You see what I'm saying?
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  • And I thought, well, Christian people need to hear this.
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  • "I ain't come to church so I can hear all
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  • of that therapeutic stuff."
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  • That's not what I'm talking about, I'm talking to you
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  • about something that's more spiritual.
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  • And the spiritual part of it is between your spirit and your
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  • body is your soul, and your emotions,
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  • and your mind, and your will.
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  • And between your spirit and your body is that.
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  • And whatever happens here determines what's
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  • gonna happen in your life.
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  • So, your spirit man's trying to get you to go God's way,
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  • but it's got to get your soul on board.
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  • Your flesh man, your body is trying to get you to go this
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  • way, but it's got to get your soul on board.
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  • Whoever captures the soul dominates the system.
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  • That's powerful.
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  • Whoever captures the way of your thinking dominates the system.
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  • They even put the comma in the wrong place, you know.
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  • We've been reading, you know, "As a man
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  • thinketh in his heart."
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  • No, it's not thinking in your heart.
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  • As a man thinketh, comma, in his heart.
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  • You following what I'm saying?
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  • As a man thinking, in his heart he'll--so shall he be.
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  • In his heart, in his heart.
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  • What you are in your heart is going to be
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  • based on your thinking.
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  • That's what he's saying.
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  • We became so religious with it,
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  • we never even broke the Scripture down.
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  • As man thinketh in his heart, ain't nobody thinking in your
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  • heart, what you talking about?
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  • You're thinking up here.
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  • As a man thinketh, comma, in his heart so is he.
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  • So is he what? He is as he thinks.
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  • That happens throughout the Bible,
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  • all you--what's that other Scripture we used to use about
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  • when the thief comes in like a--like a flood.
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  • What's that?
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  • Yeah, God lifts up a standard.
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  • How's that Scripture?
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  • When the enemy comes in.
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  • Okay, when the enemy comes in.
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  • And so, what we did, we put the comma in the wrong place.
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  • When the enemy comes in like a flood, comma.
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  • No, when the enemy comes in, comma,
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  • like a flood God will lift a standard up against him.
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  • The enemy is not the flood, God is the flood.
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  • And he says, "When the enemy comes in,
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  • like a flood God will lift a standard."
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  • Can you see what religion does over the years?
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  • Just by punctuating the thing wrong,
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  • you're going around thinking, "Oh Lord,
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  • I don't want the enemy to come in like a flood."
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  • The enemy's never been referred to as water and a flood.
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  • That's the Holy Ghost.
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  • Out of your belly shall flow rivers of living water.
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  • I don't know how we got into that, but man, you get yourself
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  • stirred up, you get yourself encouraged.
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  • Ain't nothing on flood proportions
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  • coming from the devil.
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  • But when he show up, God will flood his tail
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  • so far out of your life.
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  • And you got to be saturated with that that
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  • I got a flood on my side.
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  • Amen.
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  • Somebody said, "Do you think that's a wise thing
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  • to talk about right now?"
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  • Yeah, baby, 'cause God got you covered.
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  • Okay, so being depressed over an extended period of time will
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  • cause your organs to function improperly.
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  • So, you see something that can affect you physically.
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  • And I am saying it is time to be happy.
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  • I said it's time to be happy.
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  • Well, how do I become joyful?
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  • Well, joy comes from what you know.
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  • And when you know what the Bible has said to you,
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  • the joy of the Lord can come.
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  • Now, number two, guilt.
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  • Guilt is an effect of depression.
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  • It's an effect of depression, the guilt that says I wasn't
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  • good enough to my children, and your child's 60 years old now
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  • and you're still--you're still walking around
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  • with that guilt, you know?
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  • Or I committed adultery, or you know,
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  • I said some terrible things, verbally abused my wife or
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  • husband as we were coming up.
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  • You know, when I was a teenager in college,
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  • you--the first thing you've got to do is you've got to
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  • understand that when you make a choice to not receive
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  • forgiveness, which God has already forgiven you,
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  • you're already forgiven, you are forgiven by the blood of Jesus,
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  • he has forgiven you.
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  • In fact, the Bible says he has forgiven the whole world.
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  • He says salvation, in Titus, "Salvation
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  • has come to the whole world."
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  • All right, well, the whole world won't--haven't received it.
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  • You have, but even sometimes as a Christian,
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  • you don't receive this part of your great salvation.
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  • And it's the fact that he has forgiven you of your past,
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  • present, and future sins.
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  • I mean, there's an entire chapter of that in Hebrews
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  • chapter 10 about how he has forgiven you of your
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  • past, present, and future sins.
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  • And he did it once and for all times.
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  • But what happens is, even though he's forgiven us,
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  • you haven't received it yet, and you keep carrying the weight.
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  • You keep carrying the weight.
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  • You won't let it go.
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  • And what happens is when you don't let the weight go,
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  • you try to walk in life with the weight,
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  • and the weight's gonna affect how you walk.
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  • And I'm not saying that what happened to you wasn't true.
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  • It happened, but ain't nothing you can do
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  • to go back and fix it.
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  • Or you can carry the weight all your life and be one of the most
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  • miserable people ever, or you can just let
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  • it go and go forward.
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  • The people who spend all of their life and they're working
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  • to try to get justice need to be believing God for mercy.
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  • And it's a sad thing when you see somebody in life weighed
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  • down from something in the past.
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  • And it's a difficult thing to do, but what you have to do
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  • is you've got to say, "You know what, God?
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  • I need you to help me.
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  • I'm getting ready to move the weights from my life.
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  • I'm tired of walking like this. I'm tired of walking like this.
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  • I'm tired of being mean to every person that I meet.
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  • I'm tired of being suspicious of every time I meet somebody.
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  • I'm tired of being angry at everybody because the anger I
  • 00:10:07.130 --> 00:10:10.200
  • have towards one or two people, I'm having it towards everybody.
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  • This weight is affecting my life," okay?
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  • And I am saying it's time to start removing
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  • the weights and live.
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  • It's going to be easier to live a life without the weights.
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  • But if you keep justifying why you don't want to let the
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  • weights go, you know, it's going to be your life,
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  • and it's going to be so miserable.
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  • And you know, your life is just going to be miserable.
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  • And God wants you to be happy, but you can't be happy 'cause
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  • you can't let go of the past.
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  • And I know how that feels.
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  • Let it go, like I don't want to let go,
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  • I want revenge, I want confrontation.
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  • I want to hurt you like you hurt me.
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  • I want all those kind of things.
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  • And I'm like, "Dude, Jesus has forgiven me,
  • 00:11:03.040 --> 00:11:05.040
  • I might as well forgive myself.
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  • This is not fun, it's not fun."
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  • You haven't seen the person in 30 years and you
  • 00:11:10.000 --> 00:11:11.190
  • still got the same weight.
  • 00:11:11.200 --> 00:11:13.180
  • And I see this a lot with divorced people.
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  • You divorced that person, y'all been divorced for almost 40
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  • years, and you have not let the weight go.
  • 00:11:17.270 --> 00:11:20.190
  • And you wonder why you never got married again because every time
  • 00:11:20.200 --> 00:11:23.170
  • a dude wanted to approach you, he ran into the demon that
  • 00:11:23.180 --> 00:11:26.110
  • was--you couldn't see it, but it was in your face.
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  • "Hi, how you doing?"
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  • "Grrr."
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  • You were growling and didn't even know it like a dog, "Grrr."
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  • You got to let it go.
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  • You can spend your life most miserably,
  • 00:11:37.080 --> 00:11:40.090
  • or you can take the weight off and say,
  • 00:11:40.100 --> 00:11:43.080
  • "Okay, it's in the past, and it's governed enough of my life.
  • 00:11:43.090 --> 00:11:47.180
  • I'm done with it, I'm done with it."
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  • Everybody in here could probably find some weight that you feel
  • 00:11:51.150 --> 00:11:54.020
  • like you need to hang on to, but trust me,
  • 00:11:54.030 --> 00:11:57.090
  • all that's going to do is weigh you down,
  • 00:11:57.100 --> 00:11:59.100
  • and half of your life is going to be gone.
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  • And you spent half your life carrying a weight that Jesus
  • 00:12:01.240 --> 00:12:04.240
  • made a way for you to get rid of and you just can't
  • 00:12:04.250 --> 00:12:07.210
  • figure out how to do that.
  • 00:12:07.220 --> 00:12:09.280
  • And living a guilt-free life is just so awesome.
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  • But if you keep that guilt long enough and that hurt long
  • 00:12:13.150 --> 00:12:16.220
  • enough, somehow you become the very thing that you're angry
  • 00:12:16.230 --> 00:12:23.050
  • with and that you carried around because if you can't carry
  • 00:12:23.060 --> 00:12:26.220
  • something around you--without it eventually transforming you into
  • 00:12:26.230 --> 00:12:31.260
  • what, you know, what you're carrying around.
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  • So, I don't want to be insensitive,
  • 00:12:33.240 --> 00:12:37.080
  • but somehow you got to figure out how to unpack the luggage
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  • and put the suitcase back where it belongs.
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  • You've been walking around the last five,
  • 00:12:45.120 --> 00:12:47.120
  • ten years of your life with this luggage.
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  • And you're a beautiful person, but nobody knows it because
  • 00:12:50.160 --> 00:12:54.110
  • you're so weighed down.
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  • And God's trying to talk to you, you can't hear him because
  • 00:12:56.160 --> 00:12:58.210
  • you're so weighed down.
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  • There's so much clutter in your mind and
  • 00:13:00.190 --> 00:13:03.050
  • you just won't let it go.
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  • There are beautiful thoughts that God wants to give you,
  • 00:13:04.230 --> 00:13:06.200
  • there's revelation he wants to give you.
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  • He wants to give you witty inventions,
  • 00:13:08.040 --> 00:13:09.140
  • ideas, wants to show you how to walk in your wealthy place,
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  • wants to do all kinds of wonderful things.
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  • He can't do it not because he's not speaking,
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  • but you're so cluttered that you can't enjoy the fellowship
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  • and the presence of God.
  • 00:13:21.130 --> 00:13:22.220
  • What does Scripture say?
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  • In his presence there is fullness of joy.
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  • At his right hand, there are pleasures forevermore.
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  • And a guy who is full of guilt and full
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  • of weights cannot enjoy that.
  • 00:13:32.230 --> 00:13:36.290
  • That feeling, that emotion is designed to keep you away from
  • 00:13:37.000 --> 00:13:40.160
  • those things, and you can't walk in the blessings of God.
  • 00:13:40.170 --> 00:13:44.080
  • And somehow you just have to--you know,
  • 00:13:44.090 --> 00:13:47.170
  • I remember going through something and,
  • 00:13:47.180 --> 00:13:49.130
  • you know, it was public and all that,
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  • and my spiritual Father called me.
  • 00:13:51.060 --> 00:13:53.130
  • And Brother Copeland said, "I got the plane gassed up."
  • 00:13:53.140 --> 00:13:57.030
  • He said, "I'm on my way.
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  • You need me?"
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  • And I said--I was sitting in a corner of the room and I said,
  • 00:14:01.170 --> 00:14:05.050
  • "Well, nah, I can handle this.
  • 00:14:05.060 --> 00:14:09.030
  • It's time for me to be a big boy and grow up."
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  • He says, "I can come."
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  • I said, "I got it."
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  • So, I'm mad, I'm walking around mad,
  • 00:14:13.220 --> 00:14:15.140
  • I'm preaching, screaming mad 'cause I'm just mad.
  • 00:14:15.150 --> 00:14:19.020
  • He's like, "You know, if you don't--"
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  • And I remember he says, "If you don't get rid
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  • of this, I can't use you.
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  • I can't use you because my grace won't flow through
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  • all of this aught and anger.
  • 00:14:29.040 --> 00:14:32.020
  • And more than anything, you are in pride because you
  • 00:14:32.030 --> 00:14:35.160
  • won't humble yourself and walk
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  • guilt-free and condemnation-free.
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  • You won't let it go and you're in pride."
  • 00:14:40.220 --> 00:14:42.270
  • And my pride--that pride that you got is holding up,
  • 00:14:42.280 --> 00:14:47.020
  • it's like electricity trying to flow through wood or trying to
  • 00:14:47.030 --> 00:14:49.260
  • flow through rubber, it won't.
  • 00:14:49.270 --> 00:14:52.080
  • And the grace of God was being hindered right there.
  • 00:14:52.090 --> 00:14:54.150
  • That was an emotional thing that was stopping something spiritual
  • 00:14:54.160 --> 00:14:58.110
  • from happening in my life.
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  • I don't carry no weight.
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  • I ain't going to bed with it, it's a new day the next day.
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  • It's going to be all right.
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  • I might not figure it out that day, go to bed, believe
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  • God for something come up, it's all right.
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  • Made a mistake, said some stupid stuff.
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  • I'm forgiven, it's all right.
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  • And you just keep growing and you keep growing.
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  • And the mistake you'll make is you'll judge me from something
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  • you heard 30 years ago and fail to come to know
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  • a really, really cool guy.
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  • That's your fault, that's not my--it's not
  • 00:15:34.050 --> 00:15:36.090
  • my responsibility to do that.
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  • My responsibility is to figure out how to live and go on.
  • 00:15:38.050 --> 00:15:41.030
  • That's what emotions can do, and that's what
  • 00:15:41.040 --> 00:15:42.170
  • it's doing with Christians.
  • 00:15:42.180 --> 00:15:44.020
  • And I can't stand phoniness, so I don't know--I don't want to be
  • 00:15:44.030 --> 00:15:46.170
  • phony and I'm not going to be phony.
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  • So, I'd rather not preach.
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  • If I don't believe this stuff, I'm done.
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  • I'm not doing this.
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  • But I believe every bit of it because I've
  • 00:15:56.010 --> 00:15:57.180
  • lived it out in my life.
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  • And I'm telling you let the guilt go.
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  • Let the shame go.
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  • Let the weights go.
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  • Wake up and see the world a whole different way through the
  • 00:16:07.020 --> 00:16:09.120
  • lens of the promises of God, and watch how things change.
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  • You don't have to be mastered by your emotions.
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  • You can master your emotions.
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  • Now, watch this, this effect, according to
  • 00:16:21.260 --> 00:16:25.010
  • the book of 1 John 1:9, you know, we're forgiven.
  • 00:16:25.020 --> 00:16:27.190
  • But Romans 8:1, turn there for a moment, Romans 8:1.
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  • See, the thief next to Jesus on the cross was forgiven.
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  • The man Saul, who persecuted Christians,
  • 00:16:39.220 --> 00:16:42.180
  • was forgiven, who later on became the Apostle Paul.
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  • I mean, you got to understand something.
  • 00:16:47.020 --> 00:16:49.090
  • I can give you three murderers that God used and forgave.
  • 00:16:49.100 --> 00:16:53.280
  • Moses, right?
  • 00:16:53.290 --> 00:16:57.290
  • Give me another one, David.
  • 00:16:58.000 --> 00:17:01.260
  • David's murder was like in deep deception.
  • 00:17:01.270 --> 00:17:06.230
  • And then Paul.
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  • Are you kidding me?
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  • Moses, David, and Paul.
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  • All I got to say, you're going to be okay.
  • 00:17:16.250 --> 00:17:22.150
  • If God forgave and could use them, come on guys,
  • 00:17:22.160 --> 00:17:27.050
  • come on, pick yourself up and do what need to be done.
  • 00:17:27.060 --> 00:17:29.170
  • Here's what he says in verse 1, "There is therefore now no
  • 00:17:29.180 --> 00:17:31.200
  • condemnation to them which are in Christ Jesus," period.
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  • Do you know if you'll study this Scripture out,
  • 00:17:37.250 --> 00:17:39.110
  • the last part of that is not even in the original Greek?
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  • It is not, "Who walk not according
  • 00:17:44.280 --> 00:17:46.290
  • to the flesh but after the Spirit."
  • 00:17:47.000 --> 00:17:48.090
  • Some of you may have Bibles that have that part in italicized.
  • 00:17:48.100 --> 00:17:52.140
  • And then some of them tried to change it to
  • 00:17:52.150 --> 00:17:54.190
  • try to make sure it was in there.
  • 00:17:54.200 --> 00:17:55.290
  • It does not--what the original Greek says, "There is therefore
  • 00:17:56.000 --> 00:17:58.230
  • now no condemnation to them which are in Christ Jesus."
  • 00:17:58.240 --> 00:18:01.150
  • What he has said is now that you're in Christ Jesus,
  • 00:18:01.160 --> 00:18:04.030
  • that is enough for there to be no condemnation.
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  • It is not saying that you got to now walk in the spirit and not
  • 00:18:06.130 --> 00:18:10.240
  • in the flesh in order for there to be no condemnation.
  • 00:18:10.250 --> 00:18:13.220
  • What he says is if you'll be in Christ Jesus,
  • 00:18:13.230 --> 00:18:16.060
  • there'll be no condemnation.
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  • And if you'll believe that, you'll walk in the
  • 00:18:17.200 --> 00:18:19.130
  • spirit and not in the flesh.
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  • But it doesn't require you to perform and walk in the spirit
  • 00:18:21.290 --> 00:18:25.280
  • and not in the flesh in order for there to be no condemnation.
  • 00:18:25.290 --> 00:18:28.280
  • There is therefore now no condemnation.
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  • To anybody that's in Christ Jesus,
  • 00:18:31.100 --> 00:18:33.070
  • he gives to you the free gift of no condemnation.
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  • He doesn't wait to see how you're going to live before he
  • 00:18:36.220 --> 00:18:39.260
  • decides that whether or not you can have the
  • 00:18:39.270 --> 00:18:41.270
  • free gift of no condemnation.
  • 00:18:41.280 --> 00:18:43.070
  • And some guy added it because performance-based,
  • 00:18:43.080 --> 00:18:46.290
  • law-based Christianity says there's no way you can get
  • 00:18:47.000 --> 00:18:50.110
  • something like this without doing something.
  • 00:18:50.120 --> 00:18:53.010
  • But that's where the grace of God comes in.
  • 00:18:53.020 --> 00:18:55.050
  • Without you doing anything but believing Jesus and getting in
  • 00:18:55.060 --> 00:18:58.180
  • him, he says, "I'll give you the gift of no condemnation."
  • 00:18:58.190 --> 00:19:02.020
  • And I'm going to show you how I know this is correct.
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  • The woman who was pulled out of the very act of adultery and was
  • 00:19:04.140 --> 00:19:08.160
  • getting ready to be stoned, and according to the law they had a
  • 00:19:08.170 --> 00:19:11.130
  • right to stone her, Jesus just said,
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  • "If there's anybody here that doesn't have sin,
  • 00:19:14.210 --> 00:19:16.120
  • let him cast the first stone."
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  • They all dropped their stones and they went away.
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  • Jesus says, "Anybody here to condemn you?"
  • 00:19:20.210 --> 00:19:23.060
  • He says--she said, "No, they're all gone."
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  • He says, "Neither do I condemn you.
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  • Now go and sin no more."
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  • It wasn't Jesus gave her the free gift of no condemnation
  • 00:19:29.200 --> 00:19:32.270
  • because now she has proved that she's not going to go to bed
  • 00:19:32.280 --> 00:19:35.140
  • with nobody no more.
  • 00:19:35.150 --> 00:19:36.280
  • He says, "Here's the deal, I am giving you the free
  • 00:19:36.290 --> 00:19:39.090
  • gift of no condemnation.
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  • And if you'll receive this, you don't--you're not going to
  • 00:19:40.220 --> 00:19:43.170
  • end up in the same situation 'cause this is going to free you
  • 00:19:43.180 --> 00:19:46.240
  • enough to walk in the spirit and not in the flesh that got you
  • 00:19:46.250 --> 00:19:50.060
  • there in the first place."
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  • That's the gospel of grace, ladies and gentlemen.
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  • Jealousy and hostility is a result of depression.
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  • Think of that, jealousy and hostility.
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  • A depressed person can bring spirits of jealousy and
  • 00:20:04.250 --> 00:20:08.260
  • hostility into the home.
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  • If everybody's not sad like you and they are
  • 00:20:12.030 --> 00:20:17.200
  • happy, you get angry and become jealous of everyone
  • 00:20:17.210 --> 00:20:22.190
  • in the family that's not sad.
  • 00:20:22.200 --> 00:20:25.240
  • Isn't that sad? Isn't that sad?
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  • And so, I got a problem with all y'all 'cause you won't
  • 00:20:29.050 --> 00:20:32.290
  • suffer like me emotionally.
  • 00:20:33.000 --> 00:20:35.190
  • And you know people will have a problem
  • 00:20:35.200 --> 00:20:36.290
  • with your joy and happiness?
  • 00:20:37.000 --> 00:20:39.220
  • "Why are you happy and I'm going through all this
  • 00:20:39.230 --> 00:20:42.020
  • stuff that I'm going through?"
  • 00:20:42.030 --> 00:20:43.200
  • You know that's the issue of self-worth?
  • 00:20:43.210 --> 00:20:46.150
  • You know, you got to decide whether you're going to do the
  • 00:20:46.160 --> 00:20:48.200
  • things that are going to make you acceptable to God,
  • 00:20:48.210 --> 00:20:51.090
  • or are you going to keep doing the things that try
  • 00:20:51.100 --> 00:20:53.010
  • to be acceptable with man?
  • 00:20:53.020 --> 00:20:56.020
  • What does the Scripture say?
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  • If you do the things to try to please men,
  • 00:20:57.130 --> 00:20:59.100
  • you cannot be a servant of God because you've already chosen
  • 00:20:59.110 --> 00:21:03.030
  • what you're going to go after.
  • 00:21:03.040 --> 00:21:05.130
  • But being jealous, coming from depression, the number of
  • 00:21:05.140 --> 00:21:09.230
  • people that get depressed because they are one way and
  • 00:21:09.240 --> 00:21:13.050
  • they see you the way that they really want to be, and then
  • 00:21:13.060 --> 00:21:18.080
  • want to be hostile to you because you're not like them.
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  • Be careful when you go to get your hair fixed or get your toes
  • 00:21:22.110 --> 00:21:24.150
  • and stuff done and something like that,
  • 00:21:24.160 --> 00:21:26.030
  • and somebody ending up talking about,
  • 00:21:26.040 --> 00:21:27.160
  • "Well, you know, I got--I've been married two times,
  • 00:21:27.170 --> 00:21:30.210
  • and I'm telling you you need to leave that man."
  • 00:21:30.220 --> 00:21:33.000
  • Now, wait a minute now, just 'cause you all lonely and sad
  • 00:21:33.010 --> 00:21:35.130
  • and stuff like that, I'mma work mine out.
  • 00:21:35.140 --> 00:21:40.080
  • Work mine out.
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  • The depression that comes over people who couldn't work it out,
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  • should've worked it out, didn't know how to work it out,
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  • and their emotions led them all the way down the road to do
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  • that, their hurt led them, a divorce is all emotionally rude.
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  • Not all, there are some cases, let me--there are some cases
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  • where you need to run away from that joker.
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  • I mean, if you going--if you're going home every night and he
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  • every time, you know, you say, "Hey honey, how you doing?"
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  • he's saying bam, what you trying to work out?
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  • You need to work your way out of that house.
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  • So, in those extreme situations where it's abusive,
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  • we don't advocate abuse in our church.
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  • You will never ever, listen to me on the stream,
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  • I will never ever say to you that when you're being beat up
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  • and abused in a marriage relationship,
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  • well, you just need to trust God and stay there.
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  • I ain't saying that. God got to tell you that.
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  • You ain't never going to hear that from me.
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  • I never thought I would be in a place where I'd so passionately
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  • hate seeing men like they have a right to
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  • dominate any other person.
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  • You do not.
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  • Don't let a man think higher of himself than he ought to think,
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  • but to think soberly as God has given unto
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  • him the measure of faith.
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  • So, a marriage is already doomed if a dude goes in there thinking
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  • he's the one that calls all the shots 'cause
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  • he ain't that smart.
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  • Joker can't--don't know what two plus two is and talking about
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  • he's going to pay the bills.
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  • "I thought I paid the bill."
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  • "It was $2.000, Frank, not $2.
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  • You put the decimal in the wrong place."
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  • And then you get mad, "With your dumb self."
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  • "Don't call me dumb,
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  • don't call me dumb, I'm the man of the house."
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  • Well, you is dumb, dumb enough not to know that you got a
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  • partner there that's got a degree in mathematics and you
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  • won't let her pay the bills, all for the sake
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  • so you can be the man.
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  • You should hear how people are going to court to get--
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  • "Well, what happened?"
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  • "Well, I'm tired of feeling like this,
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  • and I'm tired of feeling like that.
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  • And you never made this and you don't do that.
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  • You know, you never--"
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  • "I never, I never?"
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  • Then they get to arguing for a whole month on never.
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  • Never and always becomes this huge argument.
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  • "You never."
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  • "What you mean never? I did it last week."
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  • "You never, you always."
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  • "Always, always? You're the one to say always?"
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  • Never and always 'cause you don't know how
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  • to control your emotions.
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  • And jealousy has destroyed a lot of relationships.
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  • I'm talking about jealousy within a marriage.
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  • And I was real--to the fact my wife was like,
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  • "Well, you know, so all right, I want to be this first lady.
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  • I'm submitting, I'm going to do everything
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  • that we're being taught.
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  • And so, I'm going to be submitted, I'm going to take
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  • care of the kids, I'mma do that, and I will not
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  • dream or have any type of vision of my life.
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  • It's just I'm your slave."
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  • I thought, "Man, that sucks."
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  • I know God had her put here for a purpose other than me.
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  • "My only purpose in this life is to serve my husband."
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  • Your purpose is more than serving your husband.
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  • Now, that's all of our purpose, not just the woman, it's every
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  • human being, every Christian purpose is servanthood.
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  • Servanthood hadn't just been put just for the woman to serve.
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  • Servanthood is as much for the man as it is for the woman.
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  • But you want to say, "Well, I just been put
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  • here to serve my husband."
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  • Now, it's all right if he turn back around and say,
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  • "And yeah, I've been put here just to serve my wife."
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  • If you all both understand that in equality,
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  • I ain't got no problem with it.
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  • But I got a problem with you shutting down a vision that God
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  • has for you, an anointing that God has for you, a call of God
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  • that God has for you, you shutting it down completely so
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  • you can serve the will of God for his life and not even seek
  • 00:25:47.290 --> 00:25:52.180
  • whether there's a will of God for your life.
  • 00:25:52.190 --> 00:25:55.000
  • And so, the church has been hindered, the body of Christ
  • 00:25:55.010 --> 00:25:56.280
  • has been hindered, the world has been hindered because
  • 00:25:56.290 --> 00:25:59.190
  • the wonderful, amazing ideas and anointing of women sit in
  • 00:25:59.200 --> 00:26:05.190
  • limbo because they don't understand biblical equality.
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