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Being Around People-While Still Being Sane Part 2

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June 15, 2019
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The Connection with Skip Heitzig

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  • Looking for a ray of light
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  • Looking for something better than this
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  • Oh, so tired of the black and white
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  • longing for prism light
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  • Oh, the bliss
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  • Flowing at the speed of light
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  • Was a color in the night
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  • Moving at the speed of light
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  • Was a color in the night
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  • Joy unspeakable and full of colors
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  • Found a hope so bright and clear
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  • Living in the realm of grace so vivid
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  • Our Savior's radiance so very near to me
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  • - male announcer: We're all flawed people and that means
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  • our relationships won't ever be perfect, but if you live by
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  • God's Word you can build bonds that are rooted in love,
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  • redemption, and forgiveness.
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  • Today on "Connect with Skip Heitzig," Skip
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  • explores some biblical truths that can help you maintain
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  • truly healthy relationships.
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  • - Skip Heitzig: One translation says,
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  • "With low thoughts of yourself."
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  • I don't like that translation, 'cause I don't think humility
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  • is having low thoughts of yourself.
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  • I think humility is having no thoughts of yourself.
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  • You see, humility isn't thinking badly about yourself or thinking
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  • poorly about yourself or thinking meanly about yourself.
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  • Humility is not thinking about yourself.
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  • You come humbly, so the secret to having joy in spite of people
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  • who are problems around us is humility.
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  • So, he talks about unity, but he talks about humility.
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  • You know why?
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  • Because unity is always born out of humility.
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  • That's the secret.
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  • Do be humble.
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  • You wanna know something?
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  • Pride will make God your enemy.
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  • I want you to think about that statement.
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  • The quickest way to get God against you is to go, puff
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  • yourself up with pride.
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  • You will have God set against you quicker than any other way
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  • and if you wanna get God on your side, quickest way to do that,
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  • humility.
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  • You say, "Preacher, can you prove that?"
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  • Yes, twice in the New Testament.
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  • Once in the book of James, once in the book of Peter they write
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  • this, "God resists the proud but gives grace to the humble," so
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  • if you want the resistance of God in your life be prideful.
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  • If you want the favor of God in your life, grace of God in your
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  • life, be humble.
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  • Lowliness of mind.
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  • Lowliness of mind.
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  • Now, here is an interesting little addendum to that.
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  • Two thousand years ago, when this was written, there was the
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  • Roman culture, but then there was the Greek culture.
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  • They had been around a little longer.
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  • In the Greek culture lowliness of mind, or humility, was not a
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  • virtue to be desired.
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  • It was a bad quality to be dispensed with, pushed away.
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  • The Greeks really thought they were superior to everybody else
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  • in the world.
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  • Everybody who wasn't a Greek was called by them a barbarian and
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  • slaves, the ones who grovel in the dirt and grovel on the
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  • ground, those were the ones they said were humble-minded.
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  • So, when the Greeks would take over somebody in a battle, they
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  • would turn those into humble-minded people, make them
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  • into slaves.
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  • Isn't it interesting the very quality that the Greeks thought
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  • was so bad the Bible says is so good?
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  • And the Bible pushes up and extols and says you ought
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  • to do that.
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  • You wanna know why?
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  • Because that's what Jesus did.
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  • Jesus was humble.
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  • Jesus was lowly-minded. I want you to see it.
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  • If you're to go to verse 5--and I'm taking a little thunder away
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  • from next week.
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  • That's where we'll be, but look at it.
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  • "Let this mind be in you which was also in Christ Jesus, who,
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  • being in the form of God, did not consider it robbery to be
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  • equal with God, but he made himself of no reputation, taking
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  • the form of a bondservant, and coming in the likeness of men.
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  • And being found in appearance as a man, he humbled himself
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  • and became obedient to the point of death, even the death
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  • on the cross."
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  • So, let me sum this little point up by saying this: humility is
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  • the grace that becomes the grease so that the gears of
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  • relationship can turn smoothly.
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  • Humility is the grace that becomes the grease so that the
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  • gears of relationships can turn smoothly.
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  • Do be humble.
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  • Second on the do list: do be respectful.
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  • You'll notice that Paul says, "Let nothing be done through
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  • selfish ambition or conceit, but in lowliness of mind let each
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  • esteem others better than himself."
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  • Now, he qualifies that in the next verse.
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  • "Let each of you look out," be on the lookout, "not only for
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  • his own interests, but also for the interests of others."
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  • I like the way The Message translation renders this.
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  • "Forget yourselves long enough to lend a helping hand."
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  • Here is how it works.
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  • Let's say we're together.
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  • If when we're together I always put myself first and you always
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  • put yourself first, we're gonna collide.
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  • We're gonna have problems.
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  • But if when we're together I put you first and you put me first,
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  • we're gonna get along just fine.
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  • We're gonna be preferring one another.
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  • We're gonna be esteeming one another.
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  • Our relationship is gonna flourish.
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  • I heard about a youth pastor who went to a Special Olympics for
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  • children and these handicapped kids will compete
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  • in different events.
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  • Well, it was the 220-yard dash and the race began and a boy
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  • named Andrew took the lead.
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  • He was 50 yards out in front of everybody else in the pack and
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  • kept gaining more and more as he went, until he turned the final
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  • round for that last little leg of his lap.
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  • As he was making the final turn, little Andrew, ahead of
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  • everybody else, looked down on the track and noticed his good
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  • friend had fallen in the race and was hurt on the ground.
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  • At that point Andrew stopped, and he looked at the finish
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  • line, and he looked down at his friend, and everybody in the
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  • crowd said, "Run, Andrew, run."
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  • But Andrew didn't run.
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  • Andrew walked over to his friend hurt on the ground while people
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  • passed him by, lifted up his friend, more people passed him
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  • by, and took his hand, took his arm, and walked with his friend
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  • and came in dead last.
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  • Now, everybody in the stands, they understood what was going
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  • on, and they applauded for him, but he came in last walking his
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  • friend just so he could finish at all.
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  • What Andrew discovered is what a lot of us so often forget,
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  • and that is that sometimes finishing first isn't the most
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  • important thing.
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  • Helping somebody finish at all is.
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  • I bet you've heard the name Leonard Bernstein.
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  • You've heard of him because he was really the first American
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  • conductor and musician that achieved worldwide acclaim on
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  • his level. He was a conductor.
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  • He was a director of an orchestra.
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  • In fact, he was the conductor of
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  • the New York Philharmonic Orchestra.
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  • He wrote the musical score for many Broadway plays.
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  • If I mentioned them all you'd be familiar with them, but Leonard
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  • Bernstein was once asked one day, "What is the hardest
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  • instrument to play?"
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  • To which he said, "The second fiddle," the second fiddle, and
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  • he explained.
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  • He said, "I can get plenty of first violinists, but to find
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  • somebody who can play the second fiddle with enthusiasm, that is
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  • a problem."
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  • That is a problem, so let us--let each esteem others.
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  • Let's look out for others' interests.
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  • Now, as I say these words and as I studied this
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  • I thought of something.
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  • I thought, "This is a good point, and this preaches well,
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  • but it doesn't practice easy."
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  • I mean, you and I are gonna go out in a few minutes, go out and
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  • get busy with our lives and do other stuff, and chances are
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  • we're all gonna forget this, even if we take a few notes,
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  • because esteeming other people greater than ourselves is so
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  • against our human nature.
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  • How are we even gonna pull that off?
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  • I mean, who does that?
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  • Who lives that way, where we esteem others better?
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  • We're always looking out for other people.
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  • I mean, it's good, it's what we're commanded to do,
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  • but how do we do that?
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  • It's awfully difficult to do.
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  • It's extremely difficult. How do we do it?
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  • Let me give you a little help, a little hint of what
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  • might be helpful.
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  • The one person in all the world that you know better than any
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  • other person is whom?
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  • Who do you know better?
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  • Yourself. You know you better.
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  • You know how you think.
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  • You know what you're tempted by.
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  • You know what you like and what you hate.
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  • You know what you really feel like.
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  • Even though you might look good on the outside, you know who you
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  • are on the inside, so I'm looking at you all.
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  • You're all beautiful. You look good.
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  • You have Bibles.
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  • Your hair is done nicely, most of you.
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  • Just kidding.
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  • You all look good, but I don't really know you.
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  • Now, I know me.
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  • I know me, and I know what I'm made of, and I know my failures,
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  • and I know my temptations, and I know my own crud and my own
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  • junk, so if I approach people while I'm cognizant of my own
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  • shortcomings, failures, and sin I'm going to approach
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  • people differently.
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  • I'm going to approach people humbly, because here is why.
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  • Based on firsthand experience only, who's the worst person
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  • you know? You.
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  • You are the worst person in the world that you know of, and I am
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  • the worst person in the world that I know of.
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  • I'm the worst, and so when I approach people cognizant of my
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  • own baggage, my own sin I'll approach them differently and
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  • that is exactly what Paul did.
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  • In the New Testament he writes things like this, "I am the
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  • least of all the apostles, and I am not even worthy to be called
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  • an apostle."
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  • Now, I think, "Paul, you're, like, the greatest dude ever.
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  • You're, like, the greatest Christian I know of."
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  • He goes, "I'm the least of the apostles, not even worthy to be
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  • called an apostle."
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  • And then, he writes in another place, "I am the least of all
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  • the saints because I persecuted the church of God."
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  • He is approaching them carrying what he knows about himself and
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  • as he does that deflated him.
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  • That's how you can help esteem others better than yourself, so
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  • don't be selfish.
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  • Don't be prideful.
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  • Do be humble.
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  • Do be respectful.
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  • Those are the basics of great relationships.
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  • Those are the dos and don'ts.
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  • Now, let's look at the first two verses and consider
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  • the basis of it.
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  • It's the why for all the what that we just covered and here
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  • is the first reason.
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  • The reason that we should be humble and not prideful, the
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  • reason we should esteem others better is here is the reason,
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  • number one, because the world won't provide that.
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  • What's the first word in verse 1 of chapter 2?
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  • What's the first word? Shout it out.
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  • What is it?
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  • Therefore.
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  • Now, who begins a chapter with that word?
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  • I mean, the first conversation you had this morning with your
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  • spouse or your child or parent or whatever, the first thing did
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  • you say, "Therefore"?
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  • You don't begin the day that way.
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  • "Therefore" connects a previous statement and brings it into the
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  • present tense.
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  • You say "therefore" when you're talking about something and you
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  • want to use that as a reference for why you should do something
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  • now.
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  • So, he begins with the "therefore," and we need to find
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  • out what it's there for, so we go back to verse 27 where we
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  • were last time.
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  • Chapter 1, verse 27, "Only let your conduct be worthy of the
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  • gospel of Christ, so that whether I come and see you or am
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  • absent, I may hear of your affairs, that you stand fast in
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  • one spirit, with one mind striving together for the faith
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  • of the gospel, and not in any way terrified by your enemies,"
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  • your adversaries, " which is to them a proof of perdition, but
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  • to you of salvation, and that from God.
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  • For to you it has been granted on behalf of Christ, not only to
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  • believe in him, but also to suffer for his sake, having the
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  • same conflict which you saw in me and now hear is in me.
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  • Therefore--" In other words, here is what Paul is saying,
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  • "You in Philippi are already suffering because of all of the
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  • selfishness of the unbelieving world around you who hate the
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  • gospel message, and they are attacking you, and they are
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  • persecuting you, and you are experiencing that conflict."
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  • So, the people of this world are consumed with their own agendas,
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  • their own desires.
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  • Paul is saying, "Don't add to that.
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  • Don't add to that."
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  • Since the world is persecuting the church, the church shouldn't
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  • persecute the church.
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  • You see, Jesus said this, "In this world you will have
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  • tribulation, but be of good cheer.
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  • I have overcome the world."
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  • This is the reason it is so awkward when Christians fight
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  • each other, because we're copying the world.
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  • It's the world that persecutes us.
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  • Let's not add to that.
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  • Paul's whole point in the "therefore" is, "Since
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  • selfishness is all around you, it certainly shouldn't
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  • be among you."
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  • Therefore.
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  • So, reason number one: the basis of these great relationships is
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  • because the world will not provide it and the church
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  • should.
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  • Number two, because you belong to Christ.
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  • You should be humble with other people because you are
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  • a Christian, and so he says, "If therefore there is any
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  • consolation in Christ."
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  • Now, you see the little word "if."
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  • It could be better translated "since," because the idea is if
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  • and it's true or since it is true, since you are consoled
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  • by belonging to Christ, right?
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  • You belong to Christ.
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  • Philippians 1:1 says the Philippians are in Christ Jesus.
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  • You're in Christ Jesus. He loves you.
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  • He forgave you.
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  • He washed your sins away.
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  • He promised you heaven.
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  • One translation puts it this way.
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  • If you've gotten anything at all out of following Christ,
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  • then you ought to be humble.
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  • Then you ought to esteem others better than yourself,
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  • so here is the deal.
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  • I can get along with you, even though you're imperfect.
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  • You can get along with me, even though I know I am so imperfect.
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  • You know why?
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  • 'Cause Jesus can get along with all of us, and we're all
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  • imperfect.
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  • That's the idea, this thought, so because the world won't
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  • provide it because you belong to Christ.
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  • Here is the third reason: because his love
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  • is the catalyst.
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  • Because his love is the catalyst.
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  • Please notice it.
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  • "If there is any consolation in Christ, if there is any comfort
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  • of love," whose love?
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  • Well, we spoke about Christ a few words back, so this is
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  • Christ's love for us.
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  • In other words, if Jesus loving you has made any difference at
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  • all in your life, then it will show up in your humility, which,
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  • by the way, brings up a good question.
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  • What difference has Jesus loving you made in your life?
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  • It's a good question to think about.
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  • What difference has all the love that Jesus has given your way,
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  • what difference has it made in your life?
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  • Has it made you more loving?
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  • John 3:16, "For God so loved the world that he gave--" Has his
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  • love for you made you more giving, more loving?
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  • So, that's the basis of our relationship.
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  • I can accept you because Jesus has accepted us.
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  • I heard about a lady.
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  • She works in a nursing home, and she has made it her mission to
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  • sit with people who are dying if there is no family member
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  • present.
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  • She feels that life is sacred, a gift from God, and she believes
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  • that nobody should die alone, and she wants to demonstrate
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  • that love for the dying so that they leave the world in the
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  • presence of somebody who cares and loves them.
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  • That's powerful, so if Jesus is in me, then his love will come
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  • through me.
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  • And there is a fourth and a final reason: because
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  • we're a spiritual family.
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  • Verse 1 again, "If there is any consolation in Christ, if there
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  • is any comfort of love," here it is, "if there is any fellowship
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  • of the Spirit," and then he amplifies that, "if any
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  • affection and mercy--" Now, in Philippi
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  • I mentioned that things were not perfect.
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  • They weren't.
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  • There were problems that they were experiencing.
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  • There were two dividing forces in Philippi that are true of
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  • every single church.
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  • First of all, there were false teachers on the outside.
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  • Second, there were fighting members on the inside.
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  • The false teachers will be discussed in chapter 3,
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  • verses 1 and 2.
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  • Paul calls them dogs and evil workers.
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  • It's gonna be a lotta fun when we get to chapter 3.
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  • Paul is just gonna kinda come unglued.
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  • Then we get to chapter 4 and we discuss--we discover the
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  • fighting members.
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  • There is two girls, one named Euodia, the other named
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  • Syntyche.
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  • These two girls in the church at Philippi have got a lot at
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  • people on their side, and they're creating a division, a
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  • party spirit, so the fellowship is being hurt.
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  • It's always being hurt when that happens.
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  • Now, here is the deal.
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  • There is always pressure from the outside for the church,
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  • always, every church, every place in the world, every
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  • generation.
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  • For the last 2.000 years, the world has always been against
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  • the church.
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  • Unbelievers will always mock Christians' belief, unbelievers
  • 00:20:37.010 --> 00:20:40.240
  • will always challenge our faith, but if that is compounded when
  • 00:20:40.250 --> 00:20:45.290
  • our own spiritual family is dysfunctional, it makes matters
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  • much worse.
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  • So, here is Paul's point: we are a fellowship of the Spirit.
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  • We're in Christ, so we're related by blood.
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  • His blood has washed all of us.
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  • We're a fellowship in the Spirit, so the same Holy Spirit
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  • that lives in me is the same Holy Spirit that lives in you.
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  • As Paul said in 1 Corinthians 12, "By one Spirit we are all
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  • baptized into one body."
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  • You know, we have all heard of reports of families who quarrel
  • 00:21:17.280 --> 00:21:21.200
  • amongst themselves, until somebody from the outside
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  • attacks the family.
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  • Then they all somehow galvanize together because, "Don't you say
  • 00:21:27.200 --> 00:21:31.170
  • that about my mom or my brother," and they'll resolve
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  • the conflict to fight the greater conflict.
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  • I just want you to know that everybody needs a family.
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  • Everybody needs a group where they can be loved and accepted
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  • and taught and held accountable, so to sum it all up: be humble,
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  • be helpful, be noble for the sake of the church of
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  • Jesus Christ, which he purchased with his own blood.
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  • He did it.
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  • It's his. It's not ours.
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  • It's his.
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  • Now, if that were to happen in Philippi, that would just push
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  • Paul's joy over the top.
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  • Look what he says in verse 2, "Fulfill my joy by being
  • 00:22:15.280 --> 00:22:20.250
  • like-minded, having the same love, being of one accord,
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  • of one mind."
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  • That's interesting.
  • 00:22:26.170 --> 00:22:28.220
  • Paul already said he was joyful no matter what.
  • 00:22:28.230 --> 00:22:32.080
  • Paul already said, "You can lock me in prison.
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  • I'm joyful.
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  • You can beat me up.
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  • I'm joyful, 'cause my joy is in the Lord.
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  • You can have people talk smack about me and try to slur my
  • 00:22:38.060 --> 00:22:42.130
  • reputation around town.
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  • I'm joyful anyway."
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  • But now he says, "But here is the way I could actually
  • 00:22:46.130 --> 00:22:48.220
  • be more joyful.
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  • Fulfill my joy," or complete my joy.
  • 00:22:50.200 --> 00:22:55.140
  • So, Paul is saying, "Man, if you guys were humble with each
  • 00:22:55.150 --> 00:22:59.040
  • other, and you esteemed others better than you esteemed
  • 00:22:59.050 --> 00:23:02.080
  • yourself, that would be the icing on the cake for me.
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  • Man, that would be the cherry in the Coke.
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  • That would be the whipped cream on the apple pie.
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  • That would fulfill, that would complete my joy.
  • 00:23:12.200 --> 00:23:16.270
  • And, by the way, if we were to live that way you know who else
  • 00:23:16.280 --> 00:23:20.080
  • would be really, really, really, really joyful?
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  • You would be.
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  • We all would be.
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  • All of us would be.
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  • You've heard me say it before that the more you do as you
  • 00:23:28.290 --> 00:23:32.080
  • please, the less you are pleased with what you do.
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  • Think about that statement.
  • 00:23:37.170 --> 00:23:38.230
  • The more you live as you please, the less you will be pleased
  • 00:23:38.240 --> 00:23:43.160
  • with what you-- if you live for self, if it's all about you and
  • 00:23:43.170 --> 00:23:47.050
  • your agenda and your comfort and you being happy, you getting
  • 00:23:47.060 --> 00:23:51.050
  • your way, you will become a miserable person.
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  • I'm gonna close with an illustration of that,
  • 00:23:55.030 --> 00:23:57.080
  • and I will close.
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  • It's by Bernard Rimland.
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  • Bernie was the director of the Institute for Child Behavior
  • 00:24:02.230 --> 00:24:05.100
  • Research.
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  • He conducted a study and at the end of the study he concluded
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  • the happiest people in the world are the humblest people in the
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  • world, so he did a study. I'll read it to you.
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  • Each person in the study involved was asked to list ten
  • 00:24:16.010 --> 00:24:19.120
  • people that he knew best and label them happy or unhappy,
  • 00:24:19.130 --> 00:24:27.090
  • so you think of ten people you know and label which one happy,
  • 00:24:27.100 --> 00:24:30.220
  • unhappy, unhappy, unhappy, happy, happy.
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  • You do that with ten people.
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  • Then you go through the list again and label each one as
  • 00:24:36.020 --> 00:24:38.170
  • selfish or unselfish, using the following definition of
  • 00:24:38.180 --> 00:24:42.220
  • selfishness.
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  • Here is his definition, and I'm quoting: "A stable tendency to
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  • devote one's time and resources to one's own interests and
  • 00:24:47.240 --> 00:24:52.050
  • welfare and unwillingness to inconvenience oneself for
  • 00:24:52.060 --> 00:24:56.010
  • others," close quote.
  • 00:24:56.020 --> 00:25:00.030
  • In categorizing the results, Rimland found that all of the
  • 00:25:00.190 --> 00:25:04.220
  • people labeled happy were also labeled unselfish, and he wrote,
  • 00:25:04.230 --> 00:25:11.130
  • and I'm quoting, "Those whose activities are devoted to
  • 00:25:11.140 --> 00:25:14.290
  • bringing themselves happiness are far less likely to be happy
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  • than those whose efforts are devoted to making others happy."
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  • And then, he concluded with a remark that I thought you would
  • 00:25:24.160 --> 00:25:27.220
  • find interesting.
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  • He said, "Do unto others as you would have others do unto you."
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  • Now, who said those words?
  • 00:25:37.050 --> 00:25:38.290
  • Jesus said those words in the Sermon on the Mount.
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  • He had to go through a whole study to figure that out, and he
  • 00:25:41.180 --> 00:25:44.230
  • found it out, and he said, "Do unto others as you would have
  • 00:25:44.240 --> 00:25:47.060
  • others do unto you," so listen.
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  • The quickest road to joy is Humility Boulevard.
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  • The quickest road to unhappiness is the Freeway of Self and if
  • 00:25:54.100 --> 00:25:59.170
  • you get on that Freeway of Self you know what
  • 00:25:59.180 --> 00:26:01.120
  • you're gonna discover?
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  • It's packed.
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  • It's bumper to bumper.
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  • There is people who are nasty.
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  • They'll give you gestures, they'll cuss you out, and there
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  • is a lotta people on it.
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  • You get on Humble Boulevard, it's pretty lonely out there.
  • 00:26:09.260 --> 00:26:15.280
  • It's the quickest road to joy.
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