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  • Scott Dooley: This is "Connectwith Skip Heitzig," and on our
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  • program today, we continue inour "Smart Home" series.
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  • This is a timely and practicalset of messages that give solid
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  • advice about buildinga spiritually smart home.
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  • Stand by for the teaching,"Get Prequalified:
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  • The Minimalist Home."
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  • Should the top priority of asingle person be to get married?
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  • Can a smart home also be aminimalist home with
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  • just one occupant?
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  • Why is it that singleness issometimes considered less
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  • acceptable than marriage?
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  • Can the single life be a full,enriching, and
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  • positive experience?
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  • Perhaps you've lost your mate oryou're still waiting to find
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  • one, or maybe you're happyto stay single.
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  • Today, let's consider singlenessand celibacy in light
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  • of Scripture.
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  • Now, let's join Skip Heitzig.
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  • Skip Heitzig: We're doing aseries called "Smart Home,"
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  • as you probably know, and it'sbuilding your home of the future
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  • by looking at God's blueprint inthe Scriptures in the Bible.
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  • When people think about theirhome, their dream home, they
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  • usually think about a house,a physical place.
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  • And if you were to ask a youngcouple, "What's your dream home
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  • if you could have any home?"
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  • they would probably describe atwo or three bedroom, or four
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  • bedroom, depending on how bigtheir family is, home with
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  • a two-car garage or a three-cargarage, or a 35-car garage,
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  • depending on what'sgoing on there.
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  • Maybe a man cave, or a she shed,or a big yard for the kids.
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  • There's some idea of what thedream house would look like.
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  • But lately over the last fewyears, I've discovered there's
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  • a new movement in our countrytoward a much smaller home,
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  • called a tiny home.
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  • I don't know if you've everseen those shows on TV.
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  • I'm fascinated by thesethings, by the way.
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  • I mean, these are people who aredeliberately downsizing their
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  • square footage to live in homesthat are like 100 square feet,
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  • or 400 square feet.
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  • That's like the biggestone, you know?
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  • That's like the massive one.
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  • It's the size of a room,basically.
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  • It's called the tiny house.
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  • And these are people who arerejecting the idea that bigger
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  • is better they would ratherspend less and have more time
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  • and freedom to go places and dothings with their family.
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  • I would say tiny families,'cause that's about all that
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  • can fit in it.
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  • But today, I'd like to considerthe tiny home in terms of the
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  • single person, theminimalist home.
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  • I want to speak about nota trend, but a reality,
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  • and that is the reality ofsingleness in our culture.
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  • According to the "WashingtonPost," there are 109 million
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  • unmarried Americans over 18.
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  • A hundred and nine millionsingles in our country.
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  • According to the article, neverbefore in US history have so
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  • many adults been unmarried.
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  • They said 47% of all householdsare this way, 47%.
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  • According to the "Wall StreetJournal," there are now more
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  • single adult households thantwo-parent households.
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  • Now, with this reality, and itis a reality, comes pressure,
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  • and the pressure is from peers,and from parents, and from
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  • friends, and from society,and also from the church.
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  • The pressure is on thosesingle adults.
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  • It's almost like,"What's wrong with you?"
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  • How come you're not married?
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  • Or how come you'renot married yet?
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  • Is it bad breath?
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  • Is it bad habits?
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  • Skeletons in your closet?
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  • Nobody wants tohang out with you.
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  • It's as if if you're single,you're less than somebody who is
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  • married, which creates the kindof pressure that makes a single
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  • person think, "Yeah,what is wrong with me?
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  • How come I'm not married?
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  • Should I be married?"
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  • Now, some people arecontent to be single.
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  • Some people are obviously notcontent to be single.
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  • In fact, they may even be angryand they may even be bitter.
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  • I heard about an elderly womanwho died.
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  • She never married in herlifetime and she made a special
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  • request that at her funeral shewould have no male pallbearers
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  • to carry her casket.
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  • Those were her instructions.
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  • They were written down,handwritten instructions.
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  • She said, "They wouldn't take meout while I was alive, I don't
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  • want them to take me outwhen I'm dead."
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  • So there.
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  • What I'd like us to do isconsider singleness in the light
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  • of Scripture, and by doing soto sort of clear the air.
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  • In clear the air, I hope thatyou'll end up leaving in
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  • the very least seeingthat singleness is okay,
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  • that it's normal.
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  • And since all of us livedfor a time as singles,
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  • it must be normal.
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  • I made a discovery as well, buthappily married people were at
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  • one time happily single people;and that if you're not happy as
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  • a single person, you're notgoing to be so happy as
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  • a married person; that marriageitself isn't what changes and
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  • makes you a happy person.
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  • You may be fulfilled to acertain degree, but it won't
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  • change everything.
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  • One girl named Sue Kalinski, onewoman said this, "I'm 33 years
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  • old and I'm single.
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  • Don't you think it's ageneralization that you should
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  • be married by 33 years old?
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  • That's like looking at somebodywho's 70 and saying, 'Hey, when
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  • are you going tobreak your hip?'
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  • All your friends arebreaking their hips.
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  • What are you waiting for?"
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  • I thought that was just classic.
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  • When we look at the Scripture,we discover there's lots of
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  • biblical heroes that were singlepeople while being used by God.
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  • A lot of 'em.
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  • We'll look at a couplein a moment.
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  • Author Fred Hartley said,"Jesus was never married
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  • and he was normal.
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  • Paul was not marriedand he was normal.
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  • John the Baptist was singleand he was normal.
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  • History is full of normal menand women who were
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  • never married.
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  • We need to understand thatone is a whole number."
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  • I like that.
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  • One is a whole number.
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  • So we're gonna look at threecategories today in these two
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  • texts of Scripture: the singlelife, the celibate life,
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  • and the sensible life.
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  • And what we're going to discoveris the single life can be good,
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  • the celibate life needs a gift,and the sensible life is
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  • or should be your goal.
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  • Let's begin withthe single life.
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  • 1 Corinthians chapter 7, verse1, he says, "Now concerning
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  • the things of whichyou wrote to me, it is
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  • good for a man notto touch a woman.
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  • Nevertheless, because of sexualimmorality, let each man have
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  • his own wife and each womanher--have her own husband.
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  • Let the husband render to hiswife the affection due her, and
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  • likewise the wifeto her husband.
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  • The wife does not have authorityover her own body, but the
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  • husband does.
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  • And likewise the husband doesnot have authority over his own
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  • body, but the wife does.
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  • Do not deprive one anotherexcept with consent for a time,
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  • that you may give yourselves tofasting and prayer; and come
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  • together again so that Satandoes not tempt you because of
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  • your lack of self-control.
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  • But I say this as a concession,not as a commandment.
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  • For I wish that all men wereeven as I myself.
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  • But each one has his own giftfrom God, one in this manner
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  • and the other in that.
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  • But I say to the unmarried andto the widows, it is good for
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  • them if they remain even as Iam; but if they cannot exercise
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  • self-control, let them marry.
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  • For it is better to marry thanto burn with passion."
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  • You need a littlebackground here.
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  • The Corinthian Christians hadwritten Paul some questions that
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  • they had, questions that wereabout marriage, about divorce,
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  • about celibacy.
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  • The reason they wrote him thesequestions is because of the
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  • culture that theyfound themselves in.
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  • Do you know anything aboutCorinth, Ancient Corinth?
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  • It was a pretty loose,morally loose, and debauched,
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  • corrupt society.
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  • They were morally tolerant ofso many different kinds
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  • of behavior.
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  • For example, therewas rampant adultery.
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  • Fornication was normal.
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  • That is sex before marriage.
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  • Homosexuality wasbecoming normal.
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  • Polygamy, having many husbandsor wives, and concubinage.
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  • That is, you're married to awife, but you have mistresses
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  • on the side.
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  • Many of them would see wives asthey're the people who cook your
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  • food, and watch the kids, and dothe normal stuff around the
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  • house, but after all, I'm a man,so I have to have my flings, and
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  • so that was sort of normalbehavior to have mistresses
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  • or concubines.
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  • That was going on inCorinth in spades.
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  • Along with that, I don't know ifyou know this or not, but in
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  • Ancient Greco-Roman times andespecially in Corinth, there was
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  • a growing women'sliberation movement.
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  • Solomon is right, there'snothing new under the sun.
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  • One Roman poet named Juvenalsaid things were so loose
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  • morally that he wrote of womenwho rejected their own sex, wore
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  • helmets--that is, worehelmets--delighted in feats
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  • of strength, and with exposedbreasts, hunted pigs for sport.
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  • Now, I know you can't unseethat, right, but I just wanted
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  • you to know what was goingon back then in Corinth.
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  • Not only that, but the same poetJuvenal says that women wore out
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  • their bridal veils because theyhad so many marriages.
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  • So marriage, divorce,remarriage, divorce, remarriage.
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  • Just kept doing that.
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  • That was common.
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  • So you're living in Corinth andyou get saved in that culture,
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  • well, you've gota lot of questions.
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  • And one of the big questions is,"I'm a Christian now, married
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  • to an unbeliever whohas not converted.
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  • What do I do?
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  • Do I dump him?
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  • Do I divorce him?
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  • Do I have intimate sexualrelations in that marriage?
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  • Do I stay celibate?
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  • Do I never get married?"
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  • There was all this chaos thatbrought a lot of questions,
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  • so Paul begins to answer them.
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  • And he says in verse 1,"It is good."
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  • You may want to underline thatword if you're so disposed
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  • to doing that.
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  • "It is good for a man notto touch a woman."
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  • Now, let me unravel that.
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  • "To touch a woman" wasa Greek way of saying
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  • sexual intercourse.
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  • It meant to touch sexually.
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  • If you were to look back, forinstance, at Genesis when
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  • Abraham meets the King of Egyptnamed Abimelech, and Abimelech
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  • sees Sarah, his wife, butAbraham says, "Well, she's
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  • my sister."
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  • Remember that story?
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  • Well, he thinks, "Well, if she'syour sister, then I want her
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  • to be in my harem."
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  • So he takes Sarah to his haremand it says that God prevented
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  • Abimelech from touching Sarah,meaning having sexual relations
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  • with her.
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  • That's how the word was used.
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  • Also in the book of Ruth, Boaztold his young men who were
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  • keeping the fields and gleaningnot to touch Ruth, not to make
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  • any kind of sexualadvance toward her.
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  • So it's used in Genesis, Ruth,and Proverbs in a way that means
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  • to touch somebody sexually.
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  • Now, in 1 Corinthians 7, Paulis speaking and referring
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  • to singles, peoplewho are single.
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  • He says, "It's good notto touch a woman."
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  • Now, I'm going to make a guess.
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  • I'm guessing just from readingthis chapter through and the
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  • context, I'm guessing that therewere some Jewish Christians who
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  • are pressuring Gentile singlesto hurry up and get married.
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  • So Paul begins by saying, "It isgood for a man not to touch
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  • a woman."
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  • It is good, in other words, forChristian singles not to
  • 00:13:25.296 --> 00:13:28.266
  • have sexual intercourse.
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  • That's good.
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  • But he could simply be referringto being single as good.
  • 00:13:31.102 --> 00:13:37.408
  • In fact, some translationsrender it this way.
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  • Here's one from the 20th CenturyNew Testament that renders verse
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  • 1 this way: "It would be wellfor a man to remain single."
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  • That's what Paul seemsto be saying.
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  • Basically, it's okay.
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  • It's good.
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  • If you add to that verse 8,I think you get the picture.
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  • "But I say to the unmarriedand to the widows."
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  • Now, I think you can see that ifyou're unmarried, you're single,
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  • and if you're a widow, you'resingle, so he's speaking to
  • 00:14:05.069 --> 00:14:07.338
  • single people in Corinth,saying, "It's good for them
  • 00:14:07.338 --> 00:14:13.144
  • if they remain even as I am."
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  • Paul was single and he'ssaying it's good.
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  • So Paul is saying it's good.
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  • It's okay.
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  • In fact, it's more than okay.
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  • He uses the word "kalos."
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  • It's a good status to haveto be a single person.
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  • So if you're single,you're not weird.
  • 00:14:35.366 --> 00:14:38.937
  • You're not inferior.
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  • You're not a second-classChristian citizen because
  • 00:14:40.271 --> 00:14:44.042
  • you're 33 and unmarried,or whatever age.
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  • It's good.
  • 00:14:46.844 --> 00:14:48.313
  • So singleness, as long as itinvolves celibacy, can be
  • 00:14:48.313 --> 00:14:52.417
  • a good thing.
  • 00:14:52.417 --> 00:14:56.054
  • Now, some of you in hearing thatmight say, "Now, wait a minute.
  • 00:14:56.054 --> 00:15:00.925
  • Genesis chapter 2, verse 18says, 'It is not good that man
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  • should be alone.'"
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  • That's true.
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  • That's the norm.
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  • People get married.
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  • God said, "I'm gonna make youa helper suitable for you."
  • 00:15:10.535 --> 00:15:12.203
  • But you know what?
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  • Just because you're singledoesn't mean you're alone.
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  • Psalm 68:6 says, "God setsthe solitary in families."
  • 00:15:16.407 --> 00:15:19.877
  • And you can have a church familythat surrounds you and
  • 00:15:19.877 --> 00:15:22.814
  • brings you health.
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  • You don't have to live a lonely,alone life just because you're
  • 00:15:24.148 --> 00:15:27.085
  • a single person.
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  • And because it's not good thatman should be alone, I'm going
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  • to make a helper, andthey got married.
  • 00:15:32.090 --> 00:15:34.559
  • They came together.
  • 00:15:34.559 --> 00:15:35.893
  • That's not the only good,because here Paul says twice,
  • 00:15:35.893 --> 00:15:39.931
  • "It's good to bea single person."
  • 00:15:39.931 --> 00:15:44.435
  • It's good, but immediately inverse 2, Paul says it's hard.
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  • It's good, but it's difficult.
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  • It's good, but when you'resingle, you face certain
  • 00:15:50.842 --> 00:15:54.145
  • pressures from society,especially in Corinth.
  • 00:15:54.145 --> 00:15:57.615
  • And I would add to that,especially in America, because
  • 00:15:57.615 --> 00:16:00.785
  • what I just described aboutloose morals in Corinth,
  • 00:16:00.785 --> 00:16:04.522
  • pretty much Corinth is Americain terms of that.
  • 00:16:04.522 --> 00:16:08.493
  • So the pressure to live asingle, celibate life in America
  • 00:16:08.493 --> 00:16:13.631
  • in this new Corinthis pretty daunting.
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  • And not everybody can do thatand Paul recognizes that.
  • 00:16:16.734 --> 00:16:20.171
  • Paul says it's hard and thereare temptations, and most
  • 00:16:20.171 --> 00:16:23.941
  • can't do that.
  • 00:16:23.941 --> 00:16:25.743
  • Now, we read it, but Paul says,"Look, I'm gifted at this.
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  • I'm cut out for this.
  • 00:16:28.413 --> 00:16:29.747
  • I'm called to this, but Irealize not everybody is."
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  • Now, I want to touch onsomething before I move on,
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  • and not that it's really germaneto the application here,
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  • but I think it's importantbecause I get asked enough
  • 00:16:40.124 --> 00:16:42.126
  • questions about this, and thatis Paul's own singleness.
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  • There's a lot of debateover this.
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  • And some will say, "Well, youknow, since Paul the Apostle was
  • 00:16:48.533 --> 00:16:51.536
  • at one time a voting member ofthe Jewish Sanhedrin," that
  • 00:16:51.536 --> 00:16:55.973
  • ruling counsel in Jerusalem thatoversaw Judaism, and we know
  • 00:16:55.973 --> 00:17:01.512
  • that from Acts 26, because hewas a voting member of the
  • 00:17:01.512 --> 00:17:04.482
  • Sanhedrin, the Sanhedrin rulesrequired that if you're going to
  • 00:17:04.482 --> 00:17:08.986
  • be a voting member, you have tobe a Jewish male, you have to be
  • 00:17:08.986 --> 00:17:12.657
  • married, and you haveto have a child.
  • 00:17:12.657 --> 00:17:16.260
  • And so the question is, "Where'sPaul's wife and where's
  • 00:17:16.260 --> 00:17:19.430
  • Paul's child?"
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  • Because if he was a votingmember of the Sanhedrin,
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  • those would be requirements.
  • 00:17:24.202 --> 00:17:25.636
  • Now, others will answer that andsay those were requirements, but
  • 00:17:25.636 --> 00:17:29.140
  • they were not put in place tillthe late 1st century and
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  • 2nd century AD, so thatwould post-date Paul.
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  • So let me answer that byjust saying I don't know.
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  • You're saying, "Why did youspend all that time just to say,
  • 00:17:42.153 --> 00:17:44.355
  • 'I don't know'?"
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  • Because it could be that Paulwas at one time married, but
  • 00:17:45.690 --> 00:17:49.026
  • when he came to Christ--now,just picture this.
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  • He's a Jewish rabbi who believesin Jesus as the Messiah.
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  • His Jewish wife, because of thepressure of Judaism at the time,
  • 00:17:57.034 --> 00:18:00.771
  • may have said,"I'm out of here."
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  • May have divorced him, may haveleft him, or she may have died.
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  • We just don't know.
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  • What we do know is Paul at thispoint is single, and he is
  • 00:18:07.678 --> 00:18:12.717
  • living a celibate lifestyle,and he's okay with that.
  • 00:18:12.717 --> 00:18:16.087
  • And he just wants to know that--wants the Corinthian Christians
  • 00:18:16.087 --> 00:18:20.024
  • to know that if you're single,it's okay.
  • 00:18:20.024 --> 00:18:24.061
  • In fact, it is good.
  • 00:18:24.061 --> 00:18:26.063
  • So if you're married, startlooking at single people
  • 00:18:26.063 --> 00:18:31.469
  • a little differently, not assome alien species that are
  • 00:18:31.469 --> 00:18:37.074
  • living sub-normal lives.
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  • Nor should you try to play HolySpirit in finding them a mate.
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  • I know people who are just like,"Oh, you're not married," and
  • 00:18:46.017 --> 00:18:49.687
  • they become like a heat-seekingmissile and they try to play
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  • Holy Ghost and find 'em a mate.
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  • Look, you can be a helper, justdon't try to be the Helper.
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  • You know, God canmanage without you.
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  • He might use you,but he might not.
  • 00:19:03.834 --> 00:19:08.773
  • So that's if you're married.
  • 00:19:08.773 --> 00:19:10.107
  • Now, if you're single, in thevery least I want you to see
  • 00:19:10.107 --> 00:19:13.077
  • your position as okay, but Ihope you go beyond that and see
  • 00:19:13.077 --> 00:19:16.948
  • your single status as notjust okay, but important.
  • 00:19:16.948 --> 00:19:21.919
  • In fact, as valuable.
  • 00:19:21.919 --> 00:19:23.921
  • And your single status mayor may not be permanent.
  • 00:19:23.921 --> 00:19:28.993
  • Now, you say, "Now, whywould it be so important?
  • 00:19:28.993 --> 00:19:31.095
  • Why would Paul make a big dealout of saying, 'I want you
  • 00:19:31.095 --> 00:19:35.299
  • to know it's goodand it's okay'?"
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  • And he does so throughout thewhole chapter, by the way.
  • 00:19:36.867 --> 00:19:40.404
  • Because, and I want you to seethis, there are many practical
  • 00:19:40.404 --> 00:19:45.376
  • advantages to beinga single person.
  • 00:19:45.376 --> 00:19:49.180
  • Paul says so.
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  • Look down at verse 32.
  • 00:19:50.548 --> 00:19:53.017
  • Look what he says in the nexttwo verses, 32 and 33: "He who
  • 00:19:53.017 --> 00:19:56.721
  • is unmarried," that's single,"cares for the things of the
  • 00:19:56.721 --> 00:20:01.192
  • Lord, how he mayplease the Lord.
  • 00:20:01.192 --> 00:20:04.362
  • But he who is married caresabout the things of the world,
  • 00:20:04.362 --> 00:20:09.033
  • how he may please his wife."
  • 00:20:09.033 --> 00:20:12.303
  • Now, please don't misunderstand.
  • 00:20:12.303 --> 00:20:13.938
  • He's not saying ifyou're unmarried,
  • 00:20:13.938 --> 00:20:15.306
  • you're more spiritual.
  • 00:20:15.306 --> 00:20:16.674
  • If you're married,you're worldly.
  • 00:20:16.674 --> 00:20:19.143
  • When he says, "Cares for thethings of the world,"
  • 00:20:19.143 --> 00:20:21.712
  • he's making a valid point.
  • 00:20:21.712 --> 00:20:23.314
  • When you're single, you havegreater flexibility.
  • 00:20:23.314 --> 00:20:27.418
  • You have greater freedom.
  • 00:20:27.418 --> 00:20:28.819
  • You can move around and dowhatever you want.
  • 00:20:28.819 --> 00:20:30.554
  • You can follow the Lord's callto any country in the world,
  • 00:20:30.554 --> 00:20:34.358
  • any activity, at any time.
  • 00:20:34.358 --> 00:20:36.193
  • You can go somewhere at the dropof a hat, and it's your hat.
  • 00:20:36.193 --> 00:20:41.899
  • But when you're married, thatbrings a certain preoccupation
  • 00:20:41.899 --> 00:20:45.770
  • with it, concerns for yourspouse, as it should.
  • 00:20:45.770 --> 00:20:50.107
  • You're divided.
  • 00:20:50.107 --> 00:20:51.442
  • You can serve the Lord,certainly, but it's not
  • 00:20:51.442 --> 00:20:54.178
  • unfettered, unrestricted.
  • 00:20:54.178 --> 00:20:58.249
  • It brings with it acertain responsibility.
  • 00:20:58.249 --> 00:21:01.118
  • So he says it's not only good,it's very valuable, and you can
  • 00:21:01.118 --> 00:21:06.424
  • be wholeheartedly focused onthe things of the Lord.
  • 00:21:06.424 --> 00:21:09.927
  • Now, for just a moment, considerall the people in Scripture
  • 00:21:09.927 --> 00:21:14.098
  • who God used.
  • 00:21:14.098 --> 00:21:15.966
  • Well, not all of 'em, justconsider a few of them.
  • 00:21:15.966 --> 00:21:19.003
  • Joseph, Prime Minister of Egypt,saved the world from a famine.
  • 00:21:19.003 --> 00:21:23.641
  • And when he did so,he was single.
  • 00:21:23.641 --> 00:21:26.310
  • He was not married at the time.
  • 00:21:26.310 --> 00:21:27.678
  • He got married later, but hisgreatest feat of activity
  • 00:21:27.678 --> 00:21:31.482
  • was while he was single.
  • 00:21:31.482 --> 00:21:33.284
  • Think of Daniel the prophet inBabylon, third ruler of the
  • 00:21:33.284 --> 00:21:38.222
  • kingdom, the one who gave adviceto the ruler of the world,
  • 00:21:38.222 --> 00:21:42.626
  • Nebuchadnezzar, as a single.
  • 00:21:42.626 --> 00:21:44.962
  • Think of Amos the prophet, 8thcentury BC, impacted, influenced
  • 00:21:44.962 --> 00:21:48.733
  • Israel as a single person.
  • 00:21:48.733 --> 00:21:50.501
  • Think of Elijah the prophet whostood singlehandedly for the
  • 00:21:50.501 --> 00:21:53.938
  • Lord in a corrupt nationas a single person.
  • 00:21:53.938 --> 00:21:57.308
  • Think of John the Baptist whowas single, and Jesus said
  • 00:21:57.308 --> 00:22:01.212
  • of him, "He's the greatest manwho's ever been born,"
  • 00:22:01.212 --> 00:22:05.082
  • and he was single.
  • 00:22:05.082 --> 00:22:06.450
  • Paul the apostle, 1st centurymissionary, church planter,
  • 00:22:06.450 --> 00:22:09.487
  • Bible writer, single.
  • 00:22:09.487 --> 00:22:12.723
  • Jesus our Savior, whoaccomplished salvation
  • 00:22:12.723 --> 00:22:16.660
  • for the world as a single.
  • 00:22:16.660 --> 00:22:19.964
  • In fact, one journalist,H.L. Mencken, wrote,
  • 00:22:19.964 --> 00:22:22.500
  • "It is impossibleto believe that the
  • 00:22:22.500 --> 00:22:24.502
  • same God who permitted his ownSon to die a bachelor regards
  • 00:22:24.502 --> 00:22:29.907
  • celibacy as an actual sin."
  • 00:22:29.907 --> 00:22:33.711
  • And we as the church look backand are thankful for people like
  • 00:22:33.711 --> 00:22:37.381
  • Origen, one of the early churchfathers; David Brainerd,
  • 00:22:37.381 --> 00:22:41.185
  • missionary to the AmericanIndians; Robert Murray M'Cheyne,
  • 00:22:41.185 --> 00:22:44.688
  • great influential author andchurchman of England; Corrie ten
  • 00:22:44.688 --> 00:22:48.759
  • Boom, who've I've often quoted,survived the Nazi concentration
  • 00:22:48.759 --> 00:22:52.730
  • camps; Dietrich Bonhoeffer,German pastor; Rachel Saint,
  • 00:22:52.730 --> 00:22:57.735
  • minister to the Auca Indians foryears after her husband died;
  • 00:22:57.735 --> 00:23:02.373
  • John Stott, one of my heroes inthe faith; all contributing to
  • 00:23:02.373 --> 00:23:06.811
  • God's work as singles.
  • 00:23:06.811 --> 00:23:11.215
  • So I think we can agree withPaul and say the single life
  • 00:23:11.215 --> 00:23:14.351
  • can be, what?
  • 00:23:14.351 --> 00:23:16.053
  • Good.
  • 00:23:16.053 --> 00:23:17.655
  • Can be good.
  • 00:23:17.655 --> 00:23:19.790
  • Let's consider thesecond category.
  • 00:23:19.790 --> 00:23:21.792
  • We'll go a little deeperwith this now.
  • 00:23:21.792 --> 00:23:23.160
  • The celibate life.
  • 00:23:23.160 --> 00:23:25.229
  • You go, "Uh-oh."
  • 00:23:25.229 --> 00:23:26.764
  • The celibate liferequires a gift.
  • 00:23:26.764 --> 00:23:29.967
  • Go go now to Matthew 19.
  • 00:23:29.967 --> 00:23:33.370
  • You marked that in advance.
  • 00:23:33.370 --> 00:23:34.705
  • Matthew Chapter 19, verse 1:"Now it came to pass,
  • 00:23:34.705 --> 00:23:41.278
  • when Jesus had finished thesesayings, that he departed from
  • 00:23:41.278 --> 00:23:46.116
  • Galilee and came to the regionof Judea beyond the Jordan.
  • 00:23:46.116 --> 00:23:50.821
  • A great multitude followed himand he healed them there.
  • 00:23:50.821 --> 00:23:54.225
  • The Pharisees also came to him,testing him, and saying to him,
  • 00:23:54.225 --> 00:23:59.530
  • 'Is it lawful for a man todivorce his wife for just
  • 00:23:59.530 --> 00:24:03.868
  • any reason?'"
  • 00:24:03.868 --> 00:24:06.437
  • Now, stop there for a moment.
  • 00:24:06.437 --> 00:24:08.005
  • You know why theyasked this question?
  • 00:24:08.005 --> 00:24:10.875
  • Because they actually believedit was permissible for a man
  • 00:24:10.875 --> 00:24:13.978
  • to divorce his wife forjust any reason.
  • 00:24:13.978 --> 00:24:17.848
  • You see, there was a passage--there still is--in the
  • 00:24:17.848 --> 00:24:22.253
  • Old Testament, Deuteronomy 24.
  • 00:24:22.253 --> 00:24:23.821
  • It's the only passagethat regulates divorce.
  • 00:24:23.821 --> 00:24:27.258
  • And in that passage, Moses saidif a man finds a case of
  • 00:24:27.258 --> 00:24:31.829
  • uncleanness in his wife, it'spermissible for him to give her
  • 00:24:31.829 --> 00:24:35.933
  • a writing of divorce andto send her away.
  • 00:24:35.933 --> 00:24:39.403
  • So the debate was, what is thecause of uncleanness that
  • 00:24:39.403 --> 00:24:42.540
  • a man finds in his wife?
  • 00:24:42.540 --> 00:24:43.908
  • Well, it was divided.
  • 00:24:43.908 --> 00:24:45.376
  • There were the conservative wingof the Jewish party under Rabbi
  • 00:24:45.376 --> 00:24:49.847
  • Shammai, who said uncleannessmust mean sexual infidelity.
  • 00:24:49.847 --> 00:24:55.352
  • If she goes out and commitsadultery, that's the uncleanness
  • 00:24:55.352 --> 00:24:58.722
  • that permits a manto divorce his wife.
  • 00:24:58.722 --> 00:25:00.524
  • However, there was the moreliberal wing under Rabbi Hillel
  • 00:25:00.524 --> 00:25:06.530
  • who said, "Well, you can divorceyour wife for anything you think
  • 00:25:06.530 --> 00:25:10.067
  • is an uncleanness."
  • 00:25:10.067 --> 00:25:11.669
  • Now, I'm kidding you not when Igive you some of these examples.
  • 00:25:11.669 --> 00:25:15.105
  • If she puts too much saltin his food, uncleanness.
  • 00:25:15.105 --> 00:25:21.278
  • If she greets another manpublicly, uncleanness.
  • 00:25:21.278 --> 00:25:27.117
  • If she wears her bound hairunbound, that is loose and down,
  • 00:25:27.117 --> 00:25:31.322
  • flowing down, in public.
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  • ♪♪♪
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  • Scott Dooley: You have beenwatching Skip Heitzig in the
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  • message, "Get Prequalified:The Minimalist Home."
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  • We will present the conclusionof this teaching next week on
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  • "Connect with Skip."
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  • Now, here's Lenya Heitzigwith our current special
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  • resource offer.
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  • Lenya Heitzig: Hello, everyone.
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  • Think about this.
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  • Jesus loves all the people.
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  • Prostitutes, drug addicts,abusers, and you.
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  • This profound truth is at thevery heart of the gospel.
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  • Jesus loves the unlovable andtouches the untouchable.
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  • And during his time on earth, hewas compassionate and merciful
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  • toward people fromall walks of life.
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  • What would it be like if youpersonally encountered him?
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  • This week on "Connect withSkip," we're offering a special
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  • package of four booklets fromour "Jesus Loves People" series.
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  • They are "Jesus Loves Addicts,""Homosexuals," "Terrorists,"
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  • and "The Broken."
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  • Yes, they are controversialtopics that Skip takes head-on
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  • and illuminates withBiblical truth and grace.
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  • Jesus has a special messagefor all of these people
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  • and a special plan to help them.
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  • As the body of Christ to ourgeneration, shouldn't the church
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  • be part of that plan?
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  • I hope you'll order packages ofthese booklets and share them
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  • with friends and family.
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  • Here's how to orderthese four booklets.
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  • Scott Dooley: Get your copy ofthe set of booklets by calling
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  • 1-800-922-1888 or online atconnectwithskip.com.
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  • That's 1-800-922-1888 or onlineat connectwithskip.com.
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  • ♪♪♪
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  • Scott Dooley: Thanks forjoining us on "Connect with
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  • Skip Heitzig."
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  • We're connecting you to God'snever-changing truth in
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  • ever-changing times.
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