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My Fulfillment - My Happiness

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  • - Brian Houston: I want to talk
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  • to you about men, but I want to
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  • talk in particular about
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  • Men's Happiness.
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  • The Apostle Paul said, Acts 26,
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  • verse 2, "I think myself happy."
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  • I'm sure that men, women as
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  • well, can think themselves happy
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  • or can think themselves unhappy,
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  • but I do know that fundamentally
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  • a lot of men are just not happy.
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  • Now, that's obviously
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  • not all men.
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  • Many men are happy too and
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  • contented, but there may be men
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  • in people's lives here
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  • who are just not happy.
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  • And, of course, as a wife or
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  • somebody who loves a guy, that's
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  • hard for you to carry because
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  • you can feel helpless, you can
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  • feel like there's not a whole
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  • lot you can do about it.
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  • Listen to what Job said,
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  • it's Job chapter 7, verse 7,
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  • Job said, "O God, remember that
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  • my life is but a breath,
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  • and I will never again
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  • feel happiness."
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  • In Job chapter 9, verse 25,
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  • Job said, "My life passes away
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  • more swiftly than a runner.
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  • It flees away without a glimpse
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  • of happiness."
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  • Job got to the point where he
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  • believed he could never be happy
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  • again.
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  • I don't think a lot of people
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  • understand just how many men
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  • are not completely fulfilled,
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  • are empty, or just not happy
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  • because men, for a start, can be
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  • emotional closed books, and then
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  • secondly, can try to portray
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  • an outward persona of being
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  • a happy-go-lucky guy.
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  • But I've learned over the years
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  • as someone who's basically
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  • worked close to people for
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  • a long, long time that, in fact,
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  • many men, including Christian
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  • men, deal with that sense of
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  • emptiness and unhappiness
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  • on the inside.
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  • So, I've learned never
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  • to underestimate the potential
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  • for...for men to be unhappy.
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  • A friend of mine, their son
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  • committed suicide in his 20s.
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  • He was a boy who from the time
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  • he was a tiny little boy,
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  • his dad told me,
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  • he was just unhappy.
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  • He had come home from school
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  • and his mom and dad, they'd say,
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  • "How are you, son?"
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  • He says, "I'm not happy."
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  • And they'd say, "Why?
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  • Were the kids mean to you
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  • at school?"
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  • "No."
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  • "Was the teacher mean to you?"
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  • "No."
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  • He was just unhappy.
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  • I'm sure there was chemical
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  • imbalance or maybe other things
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  • I don't understand that led to
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  • that, and that's not always
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  • the case with all men
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  • but some men just they're
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  • their own disappointment,
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  • perhaps, their inability
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  • to fill whatever it is within.
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  • So, I look at my own life.
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  • I was the kind of guy when I
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  • grew up, I was full of vision,
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  • full of life.
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  • I thought that things like
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  • burnout were for other people.
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  • It certainly wasn't my world
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  • and not something that I thought
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  • would ever happen to me
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  • or could ever happen to me.
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  • I just believed that life was
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  • kind of a breeze in many ways
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  • and that's where I was at.
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  • And then it's well documented,
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  • it's clearly known that in some
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  • ways my life changed in 1999
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  • when I first out that my father,
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  • many years before, had abused
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  • young people, children,
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  • was basically a pedophile.
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  • And I always say that was
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  • the worst day of my life when I
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  • found that out, but it kind of,
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  • obviously for people who
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  • were abused and who are victims
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  • and survivors, a whole lot
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  • worse for them than for me.
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  • But it did have a fallout for me
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  • and at a time when my own world
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  • was exploding externally,
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  • I think I started to implode
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  • internally at the time.
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  • Not only was I leading
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  • a denomination, but I was pastor
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  • of a church, a well-known,
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  • prominent church.
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  • So, having to lead people
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  • through all of this and then
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  • obviously being a father of
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  • my father's grandchildren.
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  • So, I think I was dealing
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  • on every other level.
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  • I never forget when I talked
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  • to my kids.
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  • I've told this story so many
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  • times but I'll never forget
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  • talking to Ben 'cause I remember
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  • saying to Ben, who was 17 maybe,
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  • "Ben, I hope this doesn't
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  • affect your faith."
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  • He said, "Dad,
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  • that's not gonna happen.
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  • I've had my own revelation
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  • of Jesus."
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  • As a father,
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  • those were unbelievable words,
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  • incredible words to hear.
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  • So, like I say, I think
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  • I dealt with it on
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  • a whole lot of levels.
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  • I went into leadership mode
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  • when it came to other people.
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  • So, what I found was on
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  • the inside, my life was just
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  • starting to implode.
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  • I was traveling a lot,
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  • as a result of that, I started
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  • taking a sleeping tablet on
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  • the airplane to help me sleep,
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  • get over jetlag.
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  • That part was fine, but soon it
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  • wasn't long before one sleeping
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  • tablet maybe on a plane would
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  • give me 2 hours, 3 hours sleep,
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  • other people it was giving like
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  • 9 hours sleep so going on long
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  • flights, I started taking
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  • 2 sleeping tablets.
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  • Then I got to the point where
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  • not only could I not sleep in my
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  • bed, I actually got diagnosed as
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  • having like a permanent jetlag
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  • but, again, my happiness
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  • was being eroded.
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  • And basically became dependent
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  • on sleeping tablets.
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  • And it was all something that
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  • again you would never imagine
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  • would happen to you.
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  • That was for other people.
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  • Well, maybe 3, 4 years ago,
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  • we had these Hillsong 1 days so
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  • in these Hillsong 1 days, it was
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  • 25 years of Hillsong conference
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  • that we went to the bigger
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  • major cities in Australia and
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  • held 2-night, 1-day conferences
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  • and by that stage,
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  • I had reached crisis point.
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  • I remember coming into those
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  • nights and trying to lead
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  • the conference,
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  • the little 1-day conferences.
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  • My mind had become so scattered.
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  • I was in such a mess internally
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  • that I literally was having
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  • to ask people every 2 seconds,
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  • what do we do next?
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  • What do we do next?
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  • What's the thing that's
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  • coming next?
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  • And I'm certain a lot of people
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  • could see what was going on
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  • though the people around me
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  • tried to assure me that
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  • they couldn't.
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  • We got through those nights and
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  • straight after I was up in Noosa
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  • where I was going to be speaking
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  • and was totally prepared, but
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  • I knew I was in trouble because
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  • when I went to walk up on to
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  • the platform, I literally
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  • almost collapsed just getting up
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  • on the platform.
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  • It was the worst feeling because
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  • like I say, I'd prepared but
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  • I never felt more unprepared
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  • to the point where at the end, I
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  • did what I've done so many times
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  • over 40 years plus and that is
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  • invite people to come to Jesus.
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  • And it was like I was
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  • talking like a baby.
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  • I couldn't even do
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  • a simple altar call.
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  • So later that night, I literally
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  • had a full-blown panic attack.
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  • I didn't know what
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  • was happening.
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  • I literally thought I was dying.
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  • I couldn't breathe.
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  • I'm going, "Bobbie,
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  • I can't breathe.
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  • I can't breathe.
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  • Call an ambulance.
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  • I can't breathe."
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  • She knew what it was.
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  • We tried to contact my doctor
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  • and it was midnight so we
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  • couldn't find a doctor,
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  • but there's another incredible
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  • doctor in our church and he was
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  • able to talk me through it.
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  • So as a result of that,
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  • the other doctors told me I'd
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  • probably have panic attacks
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  • for the rest of my life.
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  • And, you know, I had one slight
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  • incident around that same time
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  • in New York.
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  • There was a little bit of
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  • the same thing but I've never
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  • ever had another panic attack
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  • in my life,
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  • and I'm believing I never will
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  • have another panic attack
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  • in my life.
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  • Once was a enough in terms of
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  • how that felt.
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  • And as you can imagine, I was
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  • more or less told I'm gonna have
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  • to take 12 months off otherwise
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  • this is just gonna stay.
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  • "This will be your future."
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  • Well, God was
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  • incredibly gracious.
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  • Honestly, after a few days,
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  • I bounced right out of it, made
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  • some adjustments in my life,
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  • started doing some things
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  • differently, changed in
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  • some ways the way that I do life
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  • in terms of travel, and allowed
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  • other people to carry more of
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  • what Bobbie and I were carrying.
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  • And I can tell ya honestly
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  • 4 years on that I'm whole, and
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  • I'm healed and on the inside.
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  • I feel strong, and--the other
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  • good news is for well over
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  • 2 years, 2-1/2 years, I've
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  • never taken even 1 single
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  • sleeping tablet and have been
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  • sleeping like a baby.
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  • So, I told you all of that
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  • not just because I can have you
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  • think poor me but because I want
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  • you to know that nobody escapes
  • 00:08:55.150 --> 00:08:58.040
  • the realities of sometimes
  • 00:08:58.040 --> 00:08:59.280
  • having to address things on
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  • the inside and living our lives
  • 00:09:01.130 --> 00:09:03.020
  • in a way where we can address
  • 00:09:03.020 --> 00:09:05.020
  • what's really going on,
  • 00:09:05.020 --> 00:09:07.070
  • sometimes where we can mask it
  • 00:09:07.130 --> 00:09:10.130
  • to a level of some point
  • 00:09:10.130 --> 00:09:12.010
  • but everything suffered
  • 00:09:12.010 --> 00:09:13.070
  • during that time.
  • 00:09:13.070 --> 00:09:14.110
  • Bobbie was carrying me so
  • 00:09:14.110 --> 00:09:16.080
  • it had to have an impact
  • 00:09:16.080 --> 00:09:17.120
  • on our marriage.
  • 00:09:17.120 --> 00:09:18.240
  • My kids, they knew things
  • 00:09:18.240 --> 00:09:20.020
  • weren't well so it had to have
  • 00:09:20.020 --> 00:09:21.080
  • an impact on them.
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  • Children fundamentally
  • 00:09:23.050 --> 00:09:25.010
  • love their parents and if their
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  • parents are struggling, they're
  • 00:09:27.040 --> 00:09:28.140
  • gonna be struggling as well.
  • 00:09:28.140 --> 00:09:30.240
  • And I think living with
  • 00:09:30.240 --> 00:09:32.270
  • an unhappy person,
  • 00:09:32.270 --> 00:09:33.290
  • you can feel so helpless.
  • 00:09:33.290 --> 00:09:35.290
  • We've got the greatest of
  • 00:09:35.290 --> 00:09:37.040
  • all power in prayer.
  • 00:09:37.040 --> 00:09:39.000
  • I know that much of the reason
  • 00:09:39.000 --> 00:09:40.200
  • that today I feel stronger than
  • 00:09:40.200 --> 00:09:42.080
  • probably I've felt for a long,
  • 00:09:42.080 --> 00:09:43.180
  • long time is because of Bobbie
  • 00:09:43.180 --> 00:09:45.200
  • and people who love me's prayer.
  • 00:09:45.200 --> 00:09:48.100
  • But you can wonder really
  • 00:09:48.100 --> 00:09:49.130
  • what to do.
  • 00:09:49.130 --> 00:09:50.290
  • So, the advice I give men
  • 00:09:50.290 --> 00:09:53.050
  • when it comes to happiness is,
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  • number one, live outwardly,
  • 00:09:56.030 --> 00:09:59.030
  • living outwardly.
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  • Live from the inside out rather
  • 00:10:00.260 --> 00:10:02.240
  • than from the outside in 'cause
  • 00:10:02.240 --> 00:10:04.280
  • I think a lot of men,
  • 00:10:04.280 --> 00:10:05.240
  • because of some those pressures
  • 00:10:05.240 --> 00:10:07.090
  • I've mentioned, they live
  • 00:10:07.090 --> 00:10:08.080
  • from the outside in.
  • 00:10:08.080 --> 00:10:09.180
  • In other words, the pressures of
  • 00:10:09.180 --> 00:10:10.200
  • their work, or things that are
  • 00:10:10.200 --> 00:10:12.020
  • going on there, or some of
  • 00:10:12.020 --> 00:10:13.030
  • the things around and about them
  • 00:10:13.030 --> 00:10:15.070
  • are what comes from the outside
  • 00:10:15.070 --> 00:10:16.280
  • and starts affecting them
  • 00:10:16.280 --> 00:10:18.030
  • on the inside.
  • 00:10:18.030 --> 00:10:19.210
  • One of the songs that my son
  • 00:10:19.210 --> 00:10:21.030
  • Joel was "From The Inside Out,"
  • 00:10:21.030 --> 00:10:24.020
  • and the words of that song
  • 00:10:24.020 --> 00:10:25.130
  • are beautiful words.
  • 00:10:25.130 --> 00:10:26.270
  • "I love you from the inside out,
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  • Lord.
  • 00:10:28.080 --> 00:10:29.130
  • My heart and my soul,
  • 00:10:29.130 --> 00:10:30.250
  • I give you control to love you
  • 00:10:30.260 --> 00:10:33.260
  • from the inside out, Lord."
  • 00:10:34.030 --> 00:10:37.030
  • To me, living outwardly,
  • 00:10:37.030 --> 00:10:40.010
  • it means living generously.
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  • It's so easy for us to start
  • 00:10:45.030 --> 00:10:46.160
  • living our lives,
  • 00:10:46.160 --> 00:10:47.290
  • "What about me?"
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  • If inside a marriage, if inside
  • 00:10:49.200 --> 00:10:51.150
  • any part of life our starting
  • 00:10:51.150 --> 00:10:53.230
  • point is, "What about me?"
  • 00:10:53.230 --> 00:10:55.220
  • There is gonna be tension in
  • 00:10:55.220 --> 00:10:56.230
  • the home, there is gonna be
  • 00:10:56.230 --> 00:10:57.230
  • unhappiness in the home.
  • 00:10:57.230 --> 00:10:59.280
  • When you live from the inside
  • 00:10:59.280 --> 00:11:01.110
  • out, you don't let somebody
  • 00:11:01.110 --> 00:11:03.130
  • else frame your happiness,
  • 00:11:03.130 --> 00:11:04.290
  • necessarily.
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  • You learn to build solidly
  • 00:11:06.120 --> 00:11:08.130
  • on the inside.
  • 00:11:08.130 --> 00:11:09.070
  • God's Word is the perfect help
  • 00:11:09.070 --> 00:11:10.220
  • for us to do that.
  • 00:11:10.220 --> 00:11:12.140
  • It's incredible though how you
  • 00:11:12.140 --> 00:11:13.140
  • can preach the Word of God to
  • 00:11:13.140 --> 00:11:14.250
  • others and help other people
  • 00:11:14.250 --> 00:11:16.160
  • for decades but stop listening
  • 00:11:16.160 --> 00:11:19.090
  • to your own preaching when it
  • 00:11:19.090 --> 00:11:21.010
  • comes what's going on inside
  • 00:11:21.010 --> 00:11:23.120
  • your own heart and what's
  • 00:11:23.120 --> 00:11:24.100
  • going on inside your own soul.
  • 00:11:25.150 --> 00:11:28.150
  • Living from the outside in,
  • 00:11:28.150 --> 00:11:31.000
  • remember Rick Warren's book,
  • 00:11:31.000 --> 00:11:33.110
  • "The Purpose Driven Life,"
  • 00:11:33.110 --> 00:11:34.260
  • the line that stands out to me,
  • 00:11:34.260 --> 00:11:36.130
  • in fact, I probably struggle to
  • 00:11:36.130 --> 00:11:37.160
  • tell you much else about
  • 00:11:37.160 --> 00:11:38.220
  • what's in that book
  • 00:11:38.220 --> 00:11:40.100
  • except for the first words,
  • 00:11:40.100 --> 00:11:41.220
  • "It's not about you."
  • 00:11:41.220 --> 00:11:44.000
  • If our starting point, of
  • 00:11:44.000 --> 00:11:45.190
  • course, everyone needs loving,
  • 00:11:45.190 --> 00:11:46.270
  • everyone needs support, everyone
  • 00:11:46.270 --> 00:11:48.040
  • needs input but if the starting
  • 00:11:48.040 --> 00:11:51.010
  • point is, "What about me?"
  • 00:11:51.010 --> 00:11:53.090
  • There will be unhappiness
  • 00:11:53.090 --> 00:11:55.230
  • in your life.
  • 00:11:55.230 --> 00:11:56.200
  • There will be unhappiness
  • 00:11:56.200 --> 00:11:58.060
  • in your world.
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  • Living our lives generously,
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  • it affects our words,
  • 00:12:03.040 --> 00:12:04.240
  • it affects our outlook,
  • 00:12:04.240 --> 00:12:06.090
  • it affects everything
  • 00:12:06.090 --> 00:12:07.270
  • when you start living
  • 00:12:07.270 --> 00:12:09.020
  • from the inside out.
  • 00:12:09.020 --> 00:12:11.240
  • To me, generosity has no strings
  • 00:12:11.240 --> 00:12:13.240
  • attached 'cause it's not
  • 00:12:13.240 --> 00:12:15.220
  • about me.
  • 00:12:15.220 --> 00:12:17.060
  • To me, generosity is
  • 00:12:17.110 --> 00:12:20.110
  • others-focused and when someone
  • 00:12:20.280 --> 00:12:23.280
  • lives their life not generous,
  • 00:12:23.280 --> 00:12:26.050
  • including when it comes to our
  • 00:12:26.050 --> 00:12:28.050
  • outlook toward money,
  • 00:12:28.050 --> 00:12:29.160
  • if we live tight,
  • 00:12:29.160 --> 00:12:30.270
  • you know what Proverbs says.
  • 00:12:30.270 --> 00:12:32.150
  • The Message puts it this way,
  • 00:12:32.150 --> 00:12:33.270
  • Proverbs 11,
  • 00:12:33.270 --> 00:12:35.120
  • "The world of the generous
  • 00:12:35.120 --> 00:12:36.280
  • gets larger and larger;
  • 00:12:36.280 --> 00:12:38.260
  • the world of the stingy
  • 00:12:38.260 --> 00:12:39.260
  • gets smaller and smaller."
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  • I would put that right down
  • 00:12:42.040 --> 00:12:43.040
  • to someone's emotional world.
  • 00:12:43.040 --> 00:12:44.200
  • If we live generously, we start
  • 00:12:44.200 --> 00:12:46.190
  • living enlarged, we live larger.
  • 00:12:46.190 --> 00:12:49.180
  • If we live stingily, if a man
  • 00:12:49.180 --> 00:12:52.090
  • is stingy when it comes to
  • 00:12:52.090 --> 00:12:53.110
  • his encouragement, if a man
  • 00:12:53.110 --> 00:12:54.190
  • is stingy when it comes to
  • 00:12:54.190 --> 00:12:56.030
  • the input he's putting into his
  • 00:12:56.030 --> 00:12:57.180
  • own children, if a man becomes
  • 00:12:57.180 --> 00:12:59.180
  • stingy in his ability to simply
  • 00:12:59.180 --> 00:13:01.070
  • say, "I love you,"
  • 00:13:01.070 --> 00:13:03.080
  • then it's gonna have
  • 00:13:03.080 --> 00:13:05.130
  • an affect on his own life.
  • 00:13:05.130 --> 00:13:07.190
  • Unhappy people are mean
  • 00:13:08.150 --> 00:13:11.150
  • to people but it's about them,
  • 00:13:11.150 --> 00:13:14.000
  • it's not about you.
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  • Listen to this Scripture
  • 00:13:15.250 --> 00:13:16.220
  • talking about generosity.
  • 00:13:16.220 --> 00:13:17.290
  • It's subtitled,
  • 00:13:17.290 --> 00:13:19.020
  • Pursuit of Money.
  • 00:13:19.020 --> 00:13:20.130
  • It's Ecclesiastes chapter 5,
  • 00:13:20.130 --> 00:13:22.130
  • verse 10 and 11.
  • 00:13:22.130 --> 00:13:24.120
  • It says, "Those who love money
  • 00:13:24.120 --> 00:13:25.290
  • will never have enough.
  • 00:13:25.290 --> 00:13:27.190
  • How meaningless to think that
  • 00:13:27.190 --> 00:13:29.210
  • wealth brings true happiness!
  • 00:13:30.090 --> 00:13:33.090
  • The more you have," this is my
  • 00:13:33.090 --> 00:13:35.080
  • favorite part, "the more people
  • 00:13:35.080 --> 00:13:37.140
  • come to help you spend it.
  • 00:13:37.140 --> 00:13:40.060
  • So what good is wealth--
  • 00:13:40.060 --> 00:13:43.020
  • except perhaps to watch it
  • 00:13:43.020 --> 00:13:45.110
  • slip through your fingers!"
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  • 1 Timothy chapter 6, verse 17
  • 00:13:49.240 --> 00:13:52.240
  • it says this, it says, "Command
  • 00:13:53.090 --> 00:13:56.090
  • those who are rich in this
  • 00:13:56.090 --> 00:13:58.000
  • present age not to be haughty,
  • 00:13:58.000 --> 00:14:00.180
  • nor to trust in uncertain riches
  • 00:14:00.180 --> 00:14:03.130
  • but in the living God, who gives
  • 00:14:03.130 --> 00:14:05.030
  • us richly all things to enjoy."
  • 00:14:05.030 --> 00:14:07.240
  • What's all things mean?
  • 00:14:07.240 --> 00:14:09.100
  • All things means all things.
  • 00:14:09.100 --> 00:14:11.150
  • God gives us all things,
  • 00:14:11.150 --> 00:14:13.260
  • spiritual things, physical
  • 00:14:13.260 --> 00:14:14.250
  • things, all things to enjoy.
  • 00:14:15.280 --> 00:14:18.280
  • Sometimes it's not the man's
  • 00:14:18.280 --> 00:14:20.090
  • riches that are a problem,
  • 00:14:20.090 --> 00:14:21.200
  • it's the man's pursuits
  • 00:14:21.200 --> 00:14:23.130
  • and if we make our lives,
  • 00:14:23.130 --> 00:14:25.070
  • if we make our marriage
  • 00:14:25.070 --> 00:14:26.180
  • about the pursuit of money,
  • 00:14:26.180 --> 00:14:28.180
  • it will lead to unhappiness.
  • 00:14:28.180 --> 00:14:30.200
  • It will never lead to happiness.
  • 00:14:32.000 --> 00:14:35.000
  • I love when I see people who God
  • 00:14:35.000 --> 00:14:37.170
  • is blessing and blessing them
  • 00:14:37.170 --> 00:14:38.290
  • abundantly,
  • 00:14:38.290 --> 00:14:40.060
  • but it's not about them.
  • 00:14:40.060 --> 00:14:42.040
  • They're blessed.
  • 00:14:42.040 --> 00:14:43.130
  • They live blessed
  • 00:14:43.130 --> 00:14:44.180
  • but they're outward focused.
  • 00:14:44.180 --> 00:14:46.220
  • They live their life
  • 00:14:46.220 --> 00:14:47.230
  • in a generous way.
  • 00:14:47.230 --> 00:14:49.190
  • Their body language is not like
  • 00:14:49.190 --> 00:14:51.060
  • that, it's much more like this.
  • 00:14:51.060 --> 00:14:53.260
  • They're generous.
  • 00:14:53.260 --> 00:14:56.140
  • And again I think it's a funny
  • 00:14:56.140 --> 00:14:58.200
  • line when it says, "The more
  • 00:14:58.200 --> 00:14:59.280
  • you have, the more people
  • 00:14:59.280 --> 00:15:01.040
  • will come to help you spend it."
  • 00:15:01.040 --> 00:15:03.280
  • Living generously, it does mean
  • 00:15:04.120 --> 00:15:07.120
  • that we live thinking about
  • 00:15:07.120 --> 00:15:09.150
  • other people before ourselves.
  • 00:15:09.150 --> 00:15:11.230
  • Someone once asked
  • 00:15:11.230 --> 00:15:12.220
  • a psychologist, famous
  • 00:15:12.220 --> 00:15:14.070
  • psychologist or a famous,
  • 00:15:14.070 --> 00:15:15.260
  • perhaps, psychiatrist but he
  • 00:15:15.260 --> 00:15:17.150
  • was in a lecturing situation
  • 00:15:17.150 --> 00:15:18.160
  • and answering questions.
  • 00:15:18.210 --> 00:15:21.210
  • Someone asked him, "What was
  • 00:15:21.210 --> 00:15:23.210
  • the first piece of advice
  • 00:15:23.210 --> 00:15:26.080
  • you would give to a person
  • 00:15:26.080 --> 00:15:28.140
  • struggling with depression?"
  • 00:15:28.140 --> 00:15:30.070
  • He said, "I'd tell them this."
  • 00:15:30.070 --> 00:15:32.180
  • I guess they were expecting
  • 00:15:32.180 --> 00:15:33.240
  • some incredible clinical answer,
  • 00:15:33.240 --> 00:15:36.210
  • but his answer was, to get up
  • 00:15:36.240 --> 00:15:39.240
  • off the lounge, get out of
  • 00:15:39.240 --> 00:15:41.270
  • the house, cross the tracks,
  • 00:15:42.060 --> 00:15:45.060
  • find somebody worse off than you
  • 00:15:45.120 --> 00:15:48.120
  • and start to help them.
  • 00:15:48.120 --> 00:15:50.240
  • That's living your life
  • 00:15:50.240 --> 00:15:51.200
  • outwardly.
  • 00:15:53.270 --> 00:15:56.270
  • And I think for every one of us
  • 00:15:56.270 --> 00:15:58.070
  • in life, and in marriages, and
  • 00:15:58.070 --> 00:16:00.090
  • in relationships, and younger
  • 00:16:00.090 --> 00:16:01.200
  • people who are not yet married
  • 00:16:01.200 --> 00:16:03.050
  • but hope to be and plan to be,
  • 00:16:03.050 --> 00:16:05.260
  • if we build relationships
  • 00:16:05.260 --> 00:16:07.110
  • about ourselves,
  • 00:16:07.110 --> 00:16:08.230
  • there will be unhappiness
  • 00:16:08.230 --> 00:16:09.190
  • in that relationship.
  • 00:16:09.190 --> 00:16:11.010
  • If we live our lives outwardly,
  • 00:16:11.010 --> 00:16:12.230
  • we know how to live our lives
  • 00:16:12.230 --> 00:16:14.080
  • generosity, then I believe it
  • 00:16:14.080 --> 00:16:16.120
  • will make all the difference.
  • 00:16:16.120 --> 00:16:18.110
  • And I know as women, it could be
  • 00:16:18.110 --> 00:16:20.290
  • helpless because you can't make
  • 00:16:20.290 --> 00:16:22.110
  • your man do this but people say,
  • 00:16:22.110 --> 00:16:24.230
  • happy wife, happy life.
  • 00:16:24.230 --> 00:16:27.130
  • There's a whole lot of truth to
  • 00:16:27.130 --> 00:16:29.110
  • that but I also think it's true
  • 00:16:29.110 --> 00:16:31.030
  • happy man, happy wife.
  • 00:16:32.180 --> 00:16:35.180
  • But again, if you're the source
  • 00:16:35.180 --> 00:16:38.130
  • of unhappiness in
  • 00:16:38.130 --> 00:16:39.110
  • the relationship, you can't
  • 00:16:39.110 --> 00:16:41.110
  • help it if you're unhappy.
  • 00:16:41.110 --> 00:16:43.090
  • You can't tell a depressed
  • 00:16:43.090 --> 00:16:44.190
  • person, "Oh, just get over it."
  • 00:16:44.190 --> 00:16:45.290
  • You can't help it,
  • 00:16:45.290 --> 00:16:47.100
  • if only you could.
  • 00:16:47.100 --> 00:16:49.250
  • But I do think if we just
  • 00:16:49.250 --> 00:16:51.200
  • decide, "I'm not gonna live my
  • 00:16:51.200 --> 00:16:53.040
  • life where it's just about me,
  • 00:16:53.040 --> 00:16:55.250
  • I'm gonna live my life,
  • 00:16:55.250 --> 00:16:57.080
  • even though it can be hurtful at
  • 00:16:57.080 --> 00:16:58.120
  • times and it can be rejection,
  • 00:16:58.120 --> 00:17:00.290
  • where it's not about me
  • 00:17:00.290 --> 00:17:02.250
  • and my happiness.
  • 00:17:02.250 --> 00:17:04.180
  • I'm gonna live when I make it
  • 00:17:04.180 --> 00:17:06.110
  • about his happiness, or
  • 00:17:06.110 --> 00:17:09.100
  • their happiness, little ones."
  • 00:17:09.100 --> 00:17:12.040
  • And I think it is at least
  • 00:17:12.040 --> 00:17:14.020
  • a starting point for overcoming
  • 00:17:14.020 --> 00:17:16.160
  • basic unhappiness in your life.
  • 00:17:16.210 --> 00:17:19.210
  • I think everyone here is mature
  • 00:17:19.210 --> 00:17:21.140
  • enough, well possibly not,
  • 00:17:21.140 --> 00:17:23.000
  • to know that just becoming
  • 00:17:23.000 --> 00:17:25.040
  • a Christian doesn't make
  • 00:17:25.040 --> 00:17:26.070
  • unhappiness go away,
  • 00:17:26.160 --> 00:17:29.160
  • we wish it could.
  • 00:17:29.160 --> 00:17:31.220
  • The Word of God, it can redeem
  • 00:17:31.220 --> 00:17:33.240
  • people and over a period of
  • 00:17:33.240 --> 00:17:35.130
  • time, I believe God's Word
  • 00:17:35.130 --> 00:17:36.170
  • working in people's lives gives
  • 00:17:36.170 --> 00:17:38.010
  • you a foundation so that
  • 00:17:38.010 --> 00:17:39.240
  • the footing and foundation
  • 00:17:39.240 --> 00:17:40.180
  • for your life
  • 00:17:40.180 --> 00:17:41.170
  • is totally transformed.
  • 00:17:41.170 --> 00:17:43.030
  • And suddenly, you're coming from
  • 00:17:43.030 --> 00:17:44.020
  • the right foundation to build
  • 00:17:44.020 --> 00:17:45.280
  • happiness into your life
  • 00:17:45.280 --> 00:17:47.200
  • so there's no doubt
  • 00:17:47.200 --> 00:17:48.220
  • about the redeeming quality
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  • and the power of God's Word and
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  • that God can bring deliverance,
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  • and that God can lift
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  • depression off people,
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  • and lift unhappiness off people.
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  • But inside our relationships,
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  • let's just learn to live
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  • outwardly.
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  • If I could help a man to live
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  • happily, not only would I tell
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  • him to live his life outwardly,
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  • but I'd tell him to live
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  • his life worshipfully.
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  • There is something about a man
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  • who knows how to lead his family
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  • as a worshiper, who knows
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  • how to truly, again, live from
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  • the inside out by honoring God
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  • and putting the glory
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  • where the glory needs to be.
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  • And even when we feel like hell,
  • 00:18:28.060 --> 00:18:30.000
  • knowing how to lift up holy
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  • hands and worship God, even when
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  • the fig tree's not blossoming
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  • and there is no fruit
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  • on the vine, and
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  • the produce of the olive fails,
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  • but whatever it is
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  • if I related it to you in 2015
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  • everyday world, Psalm 89,
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  • verse 15, "Happy are those who
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  • hear the joyful call to worship,
  • 00:18:53.170 --> 00:18:56.170
  • for they will walk in the light
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  • of your presence, Lord."
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  • Live outwardly, live
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  • worshipfully, live peaceably.
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  • Some people are always in
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  • a fight and if it's not on one
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  • level, it's on another level.
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  • I don't want to spend my life
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  • fighting the neighbors,
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  • fighting my partners at work.
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  • Do you know something?
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  • Too many homes
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  • are just filled with tension.
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  • What can you do to take
  • 00:19:23.180 --> 00:19:24.280
  • the tension out of your home?
  • 00:19:24.280 --> 00:19:26.210
  • Maybe you've been dying to
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  • yourself for a long time and in
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  • that you just feel like you're
  • 00:19:29.100 --> 00:19:30.090
  • getting more and more hurt.
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  • And I can understand
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  • those feelings.
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  • I can understand
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  • having to live with that.
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  • But again, if as partners, we
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  • want the best for our marriage,
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  • we want the best for our
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  • children, children feel that
  • 00:19:42.250 --> 00:19:44.030
  • tension in the home more than
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  • perhaps we've ever known,
  • 00:19:45.090 --> 00:19:46.230
  • we ever realize.
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  • And when again we bring it back
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  • to ourselves, and there's always
  • 00:19:49.290 --> 00:19:51.170
  • fighting and tension in our
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  • homes, there's gonna be
  • 00:19:52.240 --> 00:19:54.240
  • fundamental unhappiness
  • 00:19:54.240 --> 00:19:56.030
  • in the home,
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  • it's just the way it is.
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  • The more unselfish you can be,
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  • and I'm not accusing anyone of
  • 00:20:03.200 --> 00:20:04.290
  • being selfish, but the less
  • 00:20:04.290 --> 00:20:07.070
  • you make it about yourself,
  • 00:20:07.070 --> 00:20:09.090
  • or perhaps your own unhappiness,
  • 00:20:09.090 --> 00:20:11.010
  • or your own insecurities
  • 00:20:11.010 --> 00:20:12.100
  • and lack of trust, and fear, it
  • 00:20:13.020 --> 00:20:16.020
  • might come out of your own past
  • 00:20:16.020 --> 00:20:18.010
  • experiences that you're gonna be
  • 00:20:18.010 --> 00:20:20.050
  • left behind or someone's
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  • gonna abandon you.
  • 00:20:21.130 --> 00:20:23.070
  • And all of those things, they're
  • 00:20:23.070 --> 00:20:24.080
  • not helping happiness in your
  • 00:20:24.080 --> 00:20:25.290
  • own life, they're not gonna help
  • 00:20:25.290 --> 00:20:27.070
  • happiness in the lives of
  • 00:20:27.070 --> 00:20:28.150
  • your people you love as well.
  • 00:20:28.150 --> 00:20:31.030
  • Let us, God, have the grace
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  • to live our lives where
  • 00:20:33.060 --> 00:20:35.100
  • it's not about me.
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  • It's not about me.
  • 00:20:37.210 --> 00:20:39.190
  • And it's incredible how
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  • the things that you
  • 00:20:40.270 --> 00:20:42.110
  • so desperately need filling
  • 00:20:42.110 --> 00:20:43.150
  • in your own soul,
  • 00:20:43.150 --> 00:20:45.070
  • you start seeing those things,
  • 00:20:45.070 --> 00:20:47.180
  • that fulfillment come,
  • 00:20:47.200 --> 00:20:50.200
  • when you learn how to live
  • 00:20:50.200 --> 00:20:52.040
  • in a releasing way.
  • 00:20:52.040 --> 00:20:54.070
  • Release your man into
  • 00:20:54.070 --> 00:20:55.170
  • the call of God on his life.
  • 00:20:55.170 --> 00:20:57.180
  • Don't hold him.
  • 00:20:57.180 --> 00:20:59.080
  • Release him.
  • 00:20:59.080 --> 00:21:02.010
  • Release them and understanding
  • 00:21:02.010 --> 00:21:04.020
  • that sometimes we're little
  • 00:21:04.020 --> 00:21:05.070
  • children and so everyone's
  • 00:21:05.070 --> 00:21:06.060
  • gotta take their part.
  • 00:21:06.060 --> 00:21:07.240
  • Let's live our lives peaceably.
  • 00:21:08.200 --> 00:21:11.200
  • 1 Peter 3, verse 10 and 11, "For
  • 00:21:11.200 --> 00:21:13.160
  • the Scriptures say, If you want
  • 00:21:13.160 --> 00:21:14.210
  • to enjoy life and see many
  • 00:21:14.210 --> 00:21:16.000
  • happy days, keep your tongue
  • 00:21:16.000 --> 00:21:18.000
  • from speaking evil and your lips
  • 00:21:18.000 --> 00:21:19.110
  • from telling lies.
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  • Turn away from envy
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  • and do good.
  • 00:21:23.050 --> 00:21:24.070
  • Search for peace,
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  • and work to maintain it."
  • 00:21:26.020 --> 00:21:28.140
  • So, to me, in life and
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  • in leadership, but in particular
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  • in our home, seek for peace.
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  • The way it's put in Hebrews
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  • chapter 12, verse 14, verse 15,
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  • "Pursue peace with all people,
  • 00:21:38.180 --> 00:21:41.180
  • and holiness, without which no
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  • one will see the Lord:
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  • Looking carefully lest anyone
  • 00:21:45.250 --> 00:21:48.020
  • fall short of the grace of God;
  • 00:21:48.020 --> 00:21:50.290
  • lest any root of bitterness
  • 00:21:50.290 --> 00:21:52.160
  • springing up cause trouble, and
  • 00:21:52.160 --> 00:21:54.240
  • by this many become defiled."
  • 00:21:54.240 --> 00:21:57.180
  • Roots of bitterness often start
  • 00:21:57.180 --> 00:22:00.200
  • because we never learn the power
  • 00:22:00.200 --> 00:22:03.060
  • of pursuing peace,
  • 00:22:03.060 --> 00:22:04.210
  • and the power of keeping tension
  • 00:22:04.210 --> 00:22:07.000
  • out of our home.
  • 00:22:07.000 --> 00:22:08.250
  • I'm never ever judgmental
  • 00:22:08.250 --> 00:22:10.220
  • of anyone else when it comes to
  • 00:22:10.220 --> 00:22:12.220
  • whether or not their children
  • 00:22:12.220 --> 00:22:14.010
  • grow up serving God or whether
  • 00:22:14.010 --> 00:22:16.030
  • they go their own way because
  • 00:22:16.030 --> 00:22:17.190
  • when I grew up in the same
  • 00:22:17.190 --> 00:22:19.140
  • bedroom as my brother and when
  • 00:22:19.140 --> 00:22:21.110
  • we were 14, we made different
  • 00:22:21.110 --> 00:22:22.180
  • choices in life and I don't
  • 00:22:22.220 --> 00:22:25.220
  • think there's anything different
  • 00:22:25.220 --> 00:22:26.280
  • at all about the way my parents
  • 00:22:26.280 --> 00:22:29.040
  • parented either of us.
  • 00:22:29.040 --> 00:22:31.070
  • So, I never, ever judge anyone
  • 00:22:31.070 --> 00:22:33.170
  • but I do know this, I do know
  • 00:22:33.170 --> 00:22:35.240
  • that if we live our lives
  • 00:22:36.000 --> 00:22:39.000
  • where just even church life, for
  • 00:22:39.020 --> 00:22:42.020
  • those that are heavily involved
  • 00:22:42.020 --> 00:22:43.000
  • in church, and some of
  • 00:22:43.000 --> 00:22:44.240
  • the politicking
  • 00:22:44.240 --> 00:22:45.090
  • that goes with that,
  • 00:22:45.090 --> 00:22:46.090
  • and some of the fights that can
  • 00:22:46.090 --> 00:22:47.050
  • be happening behind closed
  • 00:22:47.050 --> 00:22:48.200
  • doors, or some of the stuff,
  • 00:22:48.200 --> 00:22:50.020
  • if you let that infiltrate your
  • 00:22:50.020 --> 00:22:51.230
  • home, then those who love you
  • 00:22:52.010 --> 00:22:55.010
  • more than you ever, you never
  • 00:22:55.010 --> 00:22:56.140
  • want to build a scenario ever
  • 00:22:56.140 --> 00:22:58.210
  • where you talk about church time
  • 00:22:58.210 --> 00:23:01.070
  • and family time
  • 00:23:01.070 --> 00:23:02.280
  • and make the two almost enemies.
  • 00:23:02.280 --> 00:23:05.210
  • Love God's house,
  • 00:23:05.210 --> 00:23:06.290
  • love the people in your world,
  • 00:23:06.290 --> 00:23:08.180
  • just keep loving them
  • 00:23:08.180 --> 00:23:09.250
  • but whatever you do,
  • 00:23:09.250 --> 00:23:11.020
  • avoid allowing a root of
  • 00:23:11.020 --> 00:23:12.190
  • bitterness, by not pursuing
  • 00:23:12.190 --> 00:23:14.200
  • peace, to come into your family
  • 00:23:14.220 --> 00:23:17.220
  • and into your home because
  • 00:23:17.220 --> 00:23:20.170
  • children's eternity
  • 00:23:20.170 --> 00:23:22.120
  • can depend on it.
  • 00:23:22.120 --> 00:23:24.070
  • I don't want to be overdramatic
  • 00:23:24.070 --> 00:23:25.130
  • but that root of bitterness,
  • 00:23:25.130 --> 00:23:26.250
  • the Bible tells us
  • 00:23:26.250 --> 00:23:27.230
  • it's going to happen.
  • 00:23:27.230 --> 00:23:29.000
  • Like any root, it can take some
  • 00:23:29.000 --> 00:23:30.070
  • time, but when it springs up,
  • 00:23:30.070 --> 00:23:31.200
  • it will cause trouble and it
  • 00:23:31.200 --> 00:23:33.000
  • will bring trouble to marriages
  • 00:23:33.000 --> 00:23:34.010
  • and trouble to home.
  • 00:23:34.010 --> 00:23:35.180
  • And many people, they, out
  • 00:23:35.180 --> 00:23:37.110
  • a root of bitterness, have made
  • 00:23:37.110 --> 00:23:38.160
  • decisions they thought was gonna
  • 00:23:38.160 --> 00:23:39.280
  • hurt a pastor or hurt somebody
  • 00:23:39.280 --> 00:23:41.230
  • who hurt them, but it ends up
  • 00:23:41.230 --> 00:23:43.200
  • hurting their own life, and
  • 00:23:43.200 --> 00:23:45.090
  • their own family, and ultimately
  • 00:23:45.090 --> 00:23:46.160
  • it ends up hurting their own
  • 00:23:46.160 --> 00:23:47.210
  • children and sometimes their own
  • 00:23:47.210 --> 00:23:49.210
  • marriage because that thing
  • 00:23:49.210 --> 00:23:52.060
  • became a root which bore fruit.
  • 00:23:52.110 --> 00:23:55.110
  • I want everyone to stand
  • 00:23:55.110 --> 00:23:56.190
  • right now for one moment.
  • 00:23:56.190 --> 00:23:58.180
  • I do pray for happiness
  • 00:23:58.180 --> 00:23:59.240
  • in your own soul.
  • 00:23:59.240 --> 00:24:02.060
  • I do pray that God will give you
  • 00:24:02.060 --> 00:24:03.240
  • the capacity, I do pray God
  • 00:24:05.090 --> 00:24:08.090
  • will give you the capacity
  • 00:24:08.090 --> 00:24:09.050
  • to find keys.
  • 00:24:11.060 --> 00:24:14.060
  • Nagging obviously will never do
  • 00:24:14.060 --> 00:24:15.180
  • it, and trying to make it happen
  • 00:24:15.180 --> 00:24:16.250
  • in your own strength will never
  • 00:24:16.250 --> 00:24:17.250
  • do it, but find keys to seeing
  • 00:24:17.250 --> 00:24:20.170
  • your husband happy and fulfilled
  • 00:24:20.170 --> 00:24:23.140
  • because if he is happy
  • 00:24:23.140 --> 00:24:25.090
  • and fulfilled, then you will see
  • 00:24:25.090 --> 00:24:27.250
  • the fruit of that happiness and
  • 00:24:27.250 --> 00:24:29.290
  • the way it affects your world.
  • 00:24:29.290 --> 00:24:32.200
  • So Lord, I just pray for
  • 00:24:32.200 --> 00:24:34.040
  • every one of these people.
  • 00:24:34.040 --> 00:24:35.170
  • Lord, wherever they're at, I
  • 00:24:35.170 --> 00:24:36.220
  • just pray that you'll give them
  • 00:24:36.220 --> 00:24:37.230
  • grace, I pray that you'll
  • 00:24:37.230 --> 00:24:39.170
  • give them strength.
  • 00:24:39.170 --> 00:24:41.040
  • I pray you'll give them little
  • 00:24:41.040 --> 00:24:42.110
  • keys to unlock the happiness
  • 00:24:42.110 --> 00:24:44.170
  • in the people
  • 00:24:44.170 --> 00:24:45.240
  • around and about them.
  • 00:24:45.240 --> 00:24:47.150
  • Lord, I pray that each and every
  • 00:24:47.150 --> 00:24:49.180
  • one of us can live our lives
  • 00:24:49.180 --> 00:24:50.290
  • from the inside out, Lord,
  • 00:24:50.290 --> 00:24:53.290
  • rather than allowing
  • 00:24:53.290 --> 00:24:55.140
  • the outside,
  • 00:24:55.140 --> 00:24:56.160
  • people's attitudes and
  • 00:24:56.160 --> 00:24:57.120
  • people's thinking, and people's
  • 00:24:57.120 --> 00:24:58.180
  • meanness to frame our inside.
  • 00:24:58.180 --> 00:25:01.020
  • Lord, I just ask right now
  • 00:25:01.020 --> 00:25:02.130
  • for happiness
  • 00:25:02.130 --> 00:25:03.150
  • to settle into marriages.
  • 00:25:03.150 --> 00:25:04.260
  • I pray there'll be miracles and
  • 00:25:04.260 --> 00:25:06.090
  • testimonies in relationship.
  • 00:25:06.090 --> 00:25:08.170
  • I pray for the miracle inside
  • 00:25:08.170 --> 00:25:10.070
  • the hearts and souls of men
  • 00:25:10.070 --> 00:25:11.270
  • that you will bring them a point
  • 00:25:11.270 --> 00:25:13.110
  • of great happiness, Father,
  • 00:25:13.110 --> 00:25:15.070
  • where they truly can worship you
  • 00:25:15.070 --> 00:25:17.000
  • in spirit and truth, where they
  • 00:25:17.000 --> 00:25:18.210
  • do know how to live their lives
  • 00:25:18.210 --> 00:25:20.030
  • peaceably, where they do become
  • 00:25:20.030 --> 00:25:21.250
  • men of God and men of prayer.
  • 00:25:21.250 --> 00:25:23.270
  • Father, help us to support
  • 00:25:23.270 --> 00:25:25.160
  • the men in our world, I pray.
  • 00:25:25.160 --> 00:25:27.200
  • We give you the praise, we give
  • 00:25:27.200 --> 00:25:28.260
  • you the glory, we thank you
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  • - Brian: Thanks so much
  • 00:25:34.220 --> 00:25:35.140
  • for joining us, Brian Houston
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  • on "Hillsong Television."
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  • We're so grateful for
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  • all of the reception we get,
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  • letters, e-mails and,
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  • of course, phone calls.
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  • You're always welcome to contact
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  • us and if ever you need anything
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  • from our ministry, we are happy
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  • to send it to you to bless you.
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  • Don't ever forget
  • 00:25:51.260 --> 00:25:52.290
  • that "Live, Love, Lead"
  • 00:25:52.290 --> 00:25:54.120
  • was written with you in mind.
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  • So, have a great, great week.
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  • God bless.
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  • His body bound
  • 00:26:05.110 --> 00:26:08.110
  • and drenched in tears
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  • They laid Him down
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  • in Joseph's tomb
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  • The entrance sealed
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  • by heavy stone
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  • O praise the name
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  • of the Lord our God
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  • O praise His name
  • 00:26:42.010 --> 00:26:45.010
  • forever more
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  • For endless days
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  • We will sing Your praise
  • 00:26:52.030 --> 00:26:55.030
  • O Lord
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  • Then on the third
  • 00:27:04.250 --> 00:27:07.250
  • at break of dawn
  • 00:27:07.250 --> 00:27:10.230
  • The Son of heaven
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  • rose again
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  • O trampled death
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  • where is your sting
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  • The angels roar
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  • O praise the name
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  • of the Lord our God
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  • O praise His name
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  • forevermore
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  • For endless days
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  • we will sing Your praise
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  • O Lord, o Lord, our God
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  • He shall return
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  • in robes of white
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  • The blazing Son
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  • Shall pierce the night
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  • And I will rise
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  • among the saints
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  • My gaze transfixed
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