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October 14, 2016
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Naked and Unashamed: How to Heal a Broken Heart

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  • - Bil Cornelius: Birth is ugly,
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  • yet beautiful, right?
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  • And how about this?
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  • Think about the baby.
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  • Oh my goodness!
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  • This baby's like,
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  • "I had a perfect little room
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  • just for me,
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  • perfectly acclimated
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  • for my every need.
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  • I'm being forced out of a hole
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  • that is WAY too small
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  • for me to go through."
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  • Why?
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  • Because I have to be forced out
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  • of what I like and know
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  • - Bil: You are the church
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  • - Bil: How's everybody doing?
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  • It's great to see you guys.
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  • Thanks for being a part
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  • of our services today.
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  • I'm very excited
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  • about today's message.
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  • We're talking about how
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  • to heal a broken heart.
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  • Glad you guys are here.
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  • Hey, here's a quote
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  • from Albert Einstein.
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  • Listen what he says.
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  • He says, "Men marry women
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  • with the hope they will
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  • never change.
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  • Women marry men with the hope
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  • that they will change.
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  • Invariably, they are
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  • both disappointed."
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  • Is that not a great quote
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  • or what?
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  • From Albert Einstein
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  • The reality is if you're
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  • gonna be in a relationship
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  • with people, you're gonna have
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  • some disappointments.
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  • You're gonna have some pain.
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  • It's gonna happen.
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  • And maybe you're facing
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  • a major pain today.
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  • Maybe you're like, "No,
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  • my heart is really breaking,
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  • Pastor.
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  • And I'm not making light of it,
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  • but the truth is that I'm living
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  • with a broken heart right now."
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  • Maybe you've just recently gone
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  • through a divorce.
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  • Maybe you're in the middle
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  • of one now.
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  • Maybe you're in the middle
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  • of a bad breakup.
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  • Maybe for you,
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  • it's not a breakup
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  • on those proportions,
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  • but maybe for you, you just lost
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  • a job, and that's heartbreaking.
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  • It can be very painful.
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  • Maybe a business partnership has
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  • split up, and that also can be
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  • very, very painful.
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  • Or maybe just someone you
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  • trusted turned out to be someone
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  • you shouldn't have.
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  • We all deal with heartbreak in
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  • our lives at different levels,
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  • different types of pains.
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  • We all experience it.
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  • in Matthew chapter 5,
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  • verse 4, it says,
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  • "Blessed are those who mourn,
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  • for they will be comforted."
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  • Now, I wanna tell you something
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  • you may not know, and if you've
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  • been walking with God any time
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  • at all, maybe you've dealt
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  • with this already, and that is
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  • that the Bible never tries
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  • And it can be very difficult
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  • sometimes because we just wanna
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  • know, "God, why?
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  • Why did this have to happen?
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  • Why did I go through that?
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  • Why did they leave me?
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  • Why was I betrayed?
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  • Why'd I lose the position?
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  • Why was I gonna go in this
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  • direction, and I thought it was
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  • gonna work out this way,
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  • and it didn't?
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  • Why, Lord, why?"
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  • But God doesn't focus
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  • on the why, he wants us to focus
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  • on the what.
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  • What now?
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  • What do we have now from this
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  • point forward?
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  • In fact, I've gotta tell you
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  • honestly, you need
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  • to have a Why folder
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  • in your mind that you just
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  • put stuff in and know one
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  • day you'll get your answer,
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  • but it's probably not gonna be
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  • And so, oftentimes we have to
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  • discover that it really doesn't
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  • matter whether we're spiritual
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  • or not spiritual, rich or poor,
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  • from this side of the tracks
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  • or that side of the tracks,
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  • this color or that color,
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  • this religion or that religion,
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  • we all get hurt.
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  • I don't care who you are.
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  • There are no exceptions
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  • to heartbreak.
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  • All of us will face it
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  • a time or two in our lives.
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  • There's just no getting
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  • Look at Psalms 34, verse 18.
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  • It says, "The Lord is close to
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  • the brokenhearted and saves
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  • those who are crushed
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  • in spirit."
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  • The first thing I wanna
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  • encourage you with, number one,
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  • please write this down.
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  • Realize that God is closer
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  • to you than ever.
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  • When your heart is broken,
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  • than ever.
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  • Can I tell you something?
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  • God wants you to know
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  • that your pain matters to him.
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  • It does.
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  • Your pain matters to him.
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  • In fact, I wanna tell you
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  • something.
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  • You don't really understand that
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  • you're never alone until you're
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  • finally alone.
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  • It's when you're totally alone,
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  • you feel like,
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  • "Everyone's turned on me.
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  • Everyone's betrayed me.
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  • I feel like I'm the only one
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  • that's going through this.
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  • No one understands
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  • what I'm dealing with."
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  • And when you're completely alone
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  • is when you finally realize,
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  • "Oh, I didn't realize
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  • that I was never alone.
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  • God was with me
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  • the whole time."
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  • You know what's so funny?
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  • We live in the culture that is
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  • the most connected culture
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  • than ever.
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  • We have thousands of "friends"
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  • one that we really can count on.
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  • Please don't confuse friends
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  • with fellowship.
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  • A friend walks in the room when
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  • everyone else is walking out.
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  • And so, when you find one,
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  • love 'em and be good to 'em,
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  • because it's rare to find
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  • someone like that.
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  • I have a few--a few,
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  • not a lot--a few like that,
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  • and they bring stability
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  • to my life.
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  • But I wanna encourage you today
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  • that sometimes God will
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  • let you be lonely.
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  • You know, you can be married
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  • and be lonely.
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  • You can have a spouse
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  • and someone sleeping right
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  • next to you and still be alone.
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  • You can have lots of friends
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  • and feel lonely.
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  • You can love the Lord with all
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  • your heart, feel alone.
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  • Bottom line is that all of us
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  • are gonna face that time.
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  • And when you're totally
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  • alone and broken is when you
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  • finally discover that God
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  • is actually there for you.
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  • He loves you.
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  • He feels your pain.
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  • He's experienced your pain.
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  • He took your pain to the cross,
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  • so he understands.
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  • He really does.
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  • And so, he wants to be there
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  • for you.
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  • That's just the way
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  • that he rolls.
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  • Sorry, God is just giving
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  • me stuff, even as I'm speaking.
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  • Praise God.
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  • The Lord is closer
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  • to brokenhearted.
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  • Look at Hebrews 4:16.
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  • It says, "Let us approach God
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  • with confidence, so that we may
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  • receive mercy and find grace to
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  • help us in our time of need."
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  • Wow, whoo, I just feel
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  • I just have to stop
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  • and honor him.
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  • You okay with that?
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  • I just have to stop
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  • and honor him.
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  • Thank you, God.
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  • Thank you, God.
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  • Thank you, God,
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  • that you're here.
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  • Thank you, God, that you're
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  • healing some broken hearts
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  • right now.
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  • Thank you, God,
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  • that you're that close to us.
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  • Thank you, God,
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  • that you love us.
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  • Thank you, God,
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  • that you're there with us.
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  • Lord, we're not alone.
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  • Thank you that your Spirit
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  • has entered this place.
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  • God, I believe with all my heart
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  • you're entering every one of our
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  • auditoriums as we speak right
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  • now, God, because you want us
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  • to know you love us.
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  • We're not alone.
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  • Thank you for that, God.
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  • Thank you for your breath
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  • of fresh air upon our lives,
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  • leading us, guiding us,
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  • comforting us in our time
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  • of need.
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  • In Jesus' name, amen.
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  • Wow.
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  • Wow.
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  • He says, "Let us approach God
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  • with confidence, so we may
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  • receive mercy and find grace
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  • to help us in our time of need."
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  • He says, "Approach me."
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  • God is the middle
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  • of the dance floor saying,
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  • "If you'll just come out here,
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  • I'm here for you."
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  • He's just waiting for us
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  • to take that step.
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  • He's like, "Please come out."
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  • He loves you like that.
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  • He wants to be there
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  • for you like that.
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  • James 4:7 says, "So give
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  • yourselves humbly to God.
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  • Resist the devil
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  • and he will flee from you.
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  • And when you draw close to God,
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  • God will draw close to you."
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  • He says, "I'm one step away.
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  • If you'll just come towards me,
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  • I'll run towards you."
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  • That's what God says
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  • to you and me.
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  • He wants to be there for you.
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  • He says, "Wash your hands, you
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  • sinners, and let your hearts be
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  • filled with God alone to make
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  • them pure and true to him."
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  • This is important, number two.
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  • We need to go to God
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  • with our hurt and our anger.
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  • Go to God.
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  • You know, I'm not concerned
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  • about the person who says,
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  • "Pastor, I feel bad.
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  • Honestly, I was praying to God
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  • I have to admit, at that moment
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  • when they ask me that--
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  • when they tell me that,
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  • I say, "I have done the same."
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  • I've found myself yelling
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  • at God.
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  • I'm not concerned
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  • about you yelling at God,
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  • because God's a big enough god
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  • to take your anger.
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  • I'm more concerned
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  • about the person who quits
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  • talking to God.
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  • You can go to God in anger.
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  • You can go to God in hurt.
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  • I have been the person saying to
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  • God, "God, why in the world did
  • 00:07:37.010 --> 00:07:38.160
  • this have to happen to me?
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  • Do I have to go through this?
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  • What is the deal?"
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  • You ever been there?
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  • If you haven't prayed like that,
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  • dare I say you may not have
  • 00:07:45.010 --> 00:07:46.010
  • But when you've had that kind
  • 00:07:48.290 --> 00:07:49.280
  • of prayer, then you begin
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  • to understand that God
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  • takes your pain, your hurt,
  • 00:07:52.250 --> 00:07:55.080
  • he turns it into brokenness.
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  • Then he takes your brokenness
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  • and turns it into joy.
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  • That's how God works.
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  • You know, I just want you to
  • 00:08:04.040 --> 00:08:05.030
  • know the Lord loves you and he
  • 00:08:05.030 --> 00:08:06.160
  • wants you to take that hurt and
  • 00:08:06.160 --> 00:08:07.190
  • anger--and let me tell you why
  • 00:08:07.190 --> 00:08:08.170
  • you need to take it to him.
  • 00:08:08.170 --> 00:08:09.130
  • 'Cause if you don't take your
  • 00:08:09.130 --> 00:08:10.090
  • hurt and anger to God,
  • 00:08:10.090 --> 00:08:11.040
  • you'll take your hurt and anger
  • 00:08:11.040 --> 00:08:12.000
  • to the person who hurt you,
  • 00:08:12.000 --> 00:08:13.130
  • and that's not his plan.
  • 00:08:13.130 --> 00:08:14.160
  • God does not want us to be
  • 00:08:14.160 --> 00:08:15.290
  • revenge--or vengeful.
  • 00:08:15.290 --> 00:08:17.180
  • He doesn't want us to get
  • 00:08:17.180 --> 00:08:18.170
  • revenge on someone.
  • 00:08:18.170 --> 00:08:19.160
  • He doesn't want us to,
  • 00:08:19.160 --> 00:08:20.120
  • "Oh, they said that?
  • 00:08:20.120 --> 00:08:21.090
  • Oh, well let me--I'm gonna go
  • 00:08:21.090 --> 00:08:22.060
  • tell them something right now."
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  • That's not his plan.
  • 00:08:23.010 --> 00:08:23.250
  • In fact, I hate to break it
  • 00:08:23.250 --> 00:08:24.220
  • to you, but sometimes the Lord
  • 00:08:24.220 --> 00:08:25.220
  • will lead you to actually pray
  • 00:08:25.220 --> 00:08:27.060
  • for your enemies.
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  • Some of you are like,
  • 00:08:30.060 --> 00:08:31.030
  • "Are you kidding me?
  • 00:08:31.030 --> 00:08:32.200
  • What in the world are you
  • 00:08:32.200 --> 00:08:33.190
  • talking about?"
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  • I've done that.
  • 00:08:34.190 --> 00:08:35.190
  • I've had the Lord put it on my
  • 00:08:35.190 --> 00:08:36.160
  • heart and say, "I want you
  • 00:08:36.160 --> 00:08:37.180
  • to pray for your enemies."
  • 00:08:37.180 --> 00:08:38.180
  • So, I'm like, "No problem, Lord.
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  • Dear God, please break
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  • their legs.
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  • Please cause a Mack truck
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  • to hit them."
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  • You know, I'm praying this,
  • 00:08:42.290 --> 00:08:43.220
  • right?
  • 00:08:43.220 --> 00:08:44.170
  • And God's like, "No,
  • 00:08:44.170 --> 00:08:45.140
  • I didn't ask you that.
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  • Pray that I bless them."
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  • Aww, Lord, are you kidding me?
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  • I'm like, "Okay, bless them,
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  • just a little more than me.
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  • And I'm like, "No, okay, Lord.
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  • Bless them.
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  • Really bless them.
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  • May they know that you're
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  • a God who loves them."
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  • God'll lead you to pray
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  • for your enemies.
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  • Study Job sometime.
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  • I didn't put this in any other
  • 00:09:05.030 --> 00:09:06.030
  • service, by the way.
  • 00:09:06.030 --> 00:09:07.010
  • You know that Job wasn't healed
  • 00:09:07.010 --> 00:09:08.000
  • 'til he began to pray
  • 00:09:08.000 --> 00:09:08.240
  • for his enemies?
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  • Did you know that?
  • 00:09:10.230 --> 00:09:11.250
  • God did not move him forward
  • 00:09:11.250 --> 00:09:13.020
  • in his life until he began
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  • to thank God for his friends
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  • [scoffing]
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  • That's some tough stuff,
  • 00:09:19.020 --> 00:09:19.290
  • isn't it?
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  • Some of you are like,
  • 00:09:20.240 --> 00:09:21.230
  • "I did not sign up for this.
  • 00:09:21.230 --> 00:09:22.180
  • I am out of here."
  • 00:09:22.180 --> 00:09:23.270
  • But God signed you up for it,
  • 00:09:24.080 --> 00:09:27.080
  • because your anger's
  • 00:09:27.080 --> 00:09:28.010
  • not holding them back,
  • 00:09:28.010 --> 00:09:28.270
  • That's who it holds back.
  • 00:09:31.050 --> 00:09:32.060
  • So, God wants us to go
  • 00:09:32.060 --> 00:09:33.020
  • to him with our hurt,
  • 00:09:33.020 --> 00:09:34.070
  • You know, I was looking
  • 00:09:36.260 --> 00:09:37.240
  • at the Scripture the other day,
  • 00:09:37.240 --> 00:09:38.220
  • and I wanted to read a Scripture
  • 00:09:38.220 --> 00:09:39.230
  • to you.
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  • Just Psalms chapter 10.
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  • I don't wanna read the whole
  • 00:09:41.150 --> 00:09:42.020
  • a few of these verses.
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  • Psalms 10 is what I call
  • 00:09:44.160 --> 00:09:45.030
  • "The victim chapter."
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  • You ever been the victim
  • 00:09:46.050 --> 00:09:47.000
  • of someone?
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  • Psalm 10, let me just read
  • 00:09:47.280 --> 00:09:48.250
  • a few verses.
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  • "O Lord, why do you stand
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  • far away?
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  • Why do you hide when I am
  • 00:09:51.210 --> 00:09:52.170
  • in trouble?
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  • The wicked arrogantly
  • 00:09:53.250 --> 00:09:55.010
  • hunt down the poor.
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  • Let them be caught in the evil
  • 00:09:56.070 --> 00:09:57.140
  • they plan for others.
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  • For they brag about their evil
  • 00:09:58.240 --> 00:09:59.190
  • and curse the Lord.
  • 00:10:01.200 --> 00:10:03.000
  • The wicked are too proud to seek
  • 00:10:03.000 --> 00:10:03.270
  • God; they seem to think
  • 00:10:03.270 --> 00:10:04.260
  • that God is dead.
  • 00:10:04.260 --> 00:10:05.260
  • Yet they succeed in everything
  • 00:10:05.260 --> 00:10:07.020
  • that they do."
  • 00:10:07.020 --> 00:10:09.250
  • You ever felt that way?
  • 00:10:09.250 --> 00:10:10.270
  • You're like, "God, why is
  • 00:10:10.270 --> 00:10:12.000
  • that jerk getting the job
  • 00:10:12.000 --> 00:10:13.020
  • and I'm not?
  • 00:10:13.020 --> 00:10:15.080
  • Why is that person who
  • 00:10:15.080 --> 00:10:16.070
  • hurt me and betrayed me,
  • 00:10:16.070 --> 00:10:17.190
  • and actually people believe them
  • 00:10:17.190 --> 00:10:19.070
  • and not me?"
  • 00:10:19.070 --> 00:10:20.110
  • You ever been there?
  • 00:10:20.110 --> 00:10:22.000
  • Like, "Are you kidding me,
  • 00:10:22.000 --> 00:10:22.280
  • God?"
  • 00:10:22.280 --> 00:10:23.260
  • Why do the guilty succeed?
  • 00:10:23.260 --> 00:10:26.240
  • Why does the jerk get the girl
  • 00:10:27.040 --> 00:10:30.040
  • and the nice guy
  • 00:10:30.040 --> 00:10:31.080
  • is left dateless, right?
  • 00:10:31.080 --> 00:10:33.020
  • You know, every football season,
  • 00:10:33.020 --> 00:10:35.070
  • I end with a broken heart.
  • 00:10:35.070 --> 00:10:36.160
  • But the deal is this.
  • 00:10:39.100 --> 00:10:40.170
  • It's frustrating, isn't it, when
  • 00:10:40.170 --> 00:10:41.210
  • someone else seems to get ahead?
  • 00:10:41.210 --> 00:10:44.010
  • When you're thinking, "Lord,
  • 00:10:44.010 --> 00:10:45.100
  • are you kidding me?
  • 00:10:45.100 --> 00:10:46.100
  • I'm trying to do the right
  • 00:10:46.100 --> 00:10:47.070
  • thing, and this happens to me."
  • 00:10:47.070 --> 00:10:48.050
  • Sometimes it happened to you
  • 00:10:48.050 --> 00:10:49.070
  • because you did the right thing.
  • 00:10:49.210 --> 00:10:52.210
  • But look what God goes on to say
  • 00:10:52.210 --> 00:10:54.010
  • in Psalm chapter 10, verse 14.
  • 00:10:54.010 --> 00:10:56.140
  • Check it out.
  • 00:10:56.140 --> 00:10:57.160
  • It says, "But you see the
  • 00:10:57.160 --> 00:10:58.180
  • trouble and grief they cause,
  • 00:10:58.180 --> 00:11:00.080
  • and you take note of it
  • 00:11:00.080 --> 00:11:01.120
  • and punish them.
  • 00:11:01.120 --> 00:11:02.150
  • The helpless put their trust
  • 00:11:02.150 --> 00:11:03.200
  • in you."
  • 00:11:03.200 --> 00:11:04.270
  • God's saying this.
  • 00:11:04.270 --> 00:11:05.250
  • He's saying--he goes,
  • 00:11:05.250 --> 00:11:06.210
  • "Don't worry.
  • 00:11:06.210 --> 00:11:07.190
  • I took note of it."
  • 00:11:07.190 --> 00:11:08.160
  • God's saying, "I'm aware.
  • 00:11:08.160 --> 00:11:09.180
  • I saw it.
  • 00:11:09.180 --> 00:11:11.000
  • Don't worry.
  • 00:11:11.000 --> 00:11:11.280
  • In the end, I'll even up
  • 00:11:11.280 --> 00:11:13.000
  • the score."
  • 00:11:13.000 --> 00:11:15.070
  • So, we need to trust that
  • 00:11:15.070 --> 00:11:16.130
  • in the Lord's hands
  • 00:11:16.130 --> 00:11:18.010
  • rather than our own hands.
  • 00:11:18.010 --> 00:11:19.160
  • It's frustrating, I know.
  • 00:11:19.160 --> 00:11:20.200
  • You think, "Oh, come on, Pastor.
  • 00:11:20.200 --> 00:11:22.060
  • Can't I just say one thing?"
  • 00:11:22.060 --> 00:11:23.070
  • No, uh-uh.
  • 00:11:23.070 --> 00:11:24.160
  • Resist the devil.
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  • Draw close to God,
  • 00:11:27.090 --> 00:11:28.080
  • he'll draw close to you.
  • 00:11:28.080 --> 00:11:29.270
  • It's hard.
  • 00:11:29.270 --> 00:11:30.270
  • We want our revenge,
  • 00:11:30.270 --> 00:11:32.030
  • but that's not God's way.
  • 00:11:32.030 --> 00:11:33.280
  • Go to God with your hurt
  • 00:11:33.280 --> 00:11:34.190
  • Now, this is important.
  • 00:11:36.200 --> 00:11:37.050
  • Number three, we need to also
  • 00:11:37.050 --> 00:11:37.270
  • rely on God's resources.
  • 00:11:37.270 --> 00:11:39.040
  • When you have a broken heart,
  • 00:11:39.040 --> 00:11:40.070
  • you will learn to discover
  • 00:11:40.070 --> 00:11:41.260
  • God's comfort like no other time
  • 00:11:41.260 --> 00:11:44.250
  • in your life.
  • 00:11:44.250 --> 00:11:45.230
  • You see, you really don't
  • 00:11:45.230 --> 00:11:46.200
  • understand the comfort of God,
  • 00:11:46.200 --> 00:11:47.180
  • the three comforters of God,
  • 00:11:47.180 --> 00:11:48.150
  • until you need it.
  • 00:11:48.150 --> 00:11:50.010
  • And here are the three comforts.
  • 00:11:50.010 --> 00:11:51.060
  • The first one is God's Spirit.
  • 00:11:51.150 --> 00:11:54.150
  • God's Spirit.
  • 00:11:54.150 --> 00:11:55.120
  • Romans 15, verse 13 says,
  • 00:11:55.120 --> 00:11:56.160
  • "May the God of hope fill you
  • 00:11:56.160 --> 00:11:57.230
  • with all joy that by the power
  • 00:11:57.230 --> 00:11:59.090
  • of the Holy Spirit,
  • 00:11:59.090 --> 00:12:00.130
  • your whole life and outlook
  • 00:12:00.130 --> 00:12:01.110
  • may be radiant with hope."
  • 00:12:01.110 --> 00:12:03.130
  • See, you really don't understand
  • 00:12:03.130 --> 00:12:04.110
  • the hope that God is until he's
  • 00:12:04.110 --> 00:12:06.120
  • the only hope you have.
  • 00:12:07.050 --> 00:12:10.050
  • And so, the comfort
  • 00:12:10.050 --> 00:12:11.010
  • of the Holy Spirit is very,
  • 00:12:11.010 --> 00:12:12.160
  • very real.
  • 00:12:12.160 --> 00:12:14.170
  • You know, let me tell you one
  • 00:12:14.170 --> 00:12:15.050
  • comforts people.
  • 00:12:17.050 --> 00:12:17.210
  • I happen to have an up close
  • 00:12:17.210 --> 00:12:18.270
  • and personal front row seat
  • 00:12:18.270 --> 00:12:21.000
  • oftentimes to people's pain
  • 00:12:21.000 --> 00:12:22.280
  • because of what I do, you know,
  • 00:12:22.280 --> 00:12:24.180
  • as a pastor.
  • 00:12:24.180 --> 00:12:25.170
  • And so, I oftentimes am that guy
  • 00:12:25.170 --> 00:12:26.250
  • that gets that last phone call
  • 00:12:26.250 --> 00:12:28.100
  • when someone passes
  • 00:12:28.100 --> 00:12:29.090
  • at the hospital
  • 00:12:29.090 --> 00:12:30.160
  • or doing the funeral,
  • 00:12:30.160 --> 00:12:31.150
  • or when someone's saying,
  • 00:12:31.150 --> 00:12:32.230
  • "Why'd this happen to me?"
  • 00:12:32.230 --> 00:12:33.230
  • or tragedy strikes.
  • 00:12:33.230 --> 00:12:34.220
  • I'm kind of that guy oftentimes
  • 00:12:34.220 --> 00:12:35.210
  • that, you know, goes in after
  • 00:12:35.210 --> 00:12:36.210
  • the bomb's sort of gone off in
  • 00:12:36.210 --> 00:12:38.020
  • someone's life, and I'm trying
  • 00:12:38.020 --> 00:12:39.060
  • to help 'em pick up the pieces.
  • 00:12:39.060 --> 00:12:40.200
  • And here's what I hear often
  • 00:12:40.200 --> 00:12:41.210
  • from people.
  • 00:12:41.210 --> 00:12:42.240
  • Later on, months later, they'll
  • 00:12:42.240 --> 00:12:44.010
  • come to me and they'll say,
  • 00:12:44.010 --> 00:12:44.290
  • "You know what was so crazy,
  • 00:12:44.290 --> 00:12:45.190
  • They'll say, "It's like--
  • 00:12:47.200 --> 00:12:48.060
  • at the funeral,
  • 00:12:48.060 --> 00:12:48.290
  • it's like I wasn't even there.
  • 00:12:48.290 --> 00:12:50.290
  • It's so weird.
  • 00:12:50.290 --> 00:12:51.290
  • It was, like, surreal."
  • 00:12:51.290 --> 00:12:53.080
  • You ever had this surreal
  • 00:12:53.080 --> 00:12:54.110
  • experience that you've gone
  • 00:12:54.110 --> 00:12:55.080
  • through that was so painful that
  • 00:12:55.080 --> 00:12:56.160
  • you hardly remembered it?
  • 00:12:56.160 --> 00:12:57.190
  • It was just, like,
  • 00:12:57.190 --> 00:12:58.200
  • it was so crazy.
  • 00:12:58.200 --> 00:12:59.180
  • The accident, when it happened,
  • 00:12:59.180 --> 00:13:00.190
  • as I was walking around, when it
  • 00:13:00.190 --> 00:13:02.020
  • was all said and done, it was
  • 00:13:02.020 --> 00:13:03.040
  • like nothing even happened.
  • 00:13:03.040 --> 00:13:04.070
  • I don't even understand it.
  • 00:13:04.070 --> 00:13:05.050
  • Or my mind went blank.
  • 00:13:05.050 --> 00:13:06.070
  • Or I just--I felt--it was like
  • 00:13:06.070 --> 00:13:07.230
  • an out of body experience.
  • 00:13:07.230 --> 00:13:08.230
  • I don't understand
  • 00:13:08.230 --> 00:13:09.200
  • what's going on.
  • 00:13:09.200 --> 00:13:10.220
  • And I tell them often, I've now
  • 00:13:10.220 --> 00:13:11.200
  • figured out that's God's Spirit
  • 00:13:11.200 --> 00:13:12.240
  • having his way in your life
  • 00:13:12.240 --> 00:13:14.000
  • to numb you.
  • 00:13:14.000 --> 00:13:16.140
  • God is so good, he'll numb you
  • 00:13:16.140 --> 00:13:18.010
  • to where you're sitting,
  • 00:13:18.010 --> 00:13:19.060
  • literally burying your spouse,
  • 00:13:19.060 --> 00:13:21.010
  • burying your child, burying your
  • 00:13:21.010 --> 00:13:22.260
  • best friend, thinking,
  • 00:13:22.260 --> 00:13:23.290
  • "What exactly's happening?
  • 00:13:23.290 --> 00:13:25.000
  • I don't even understand it and
  • 00:13:25.000 --> 00:13:26.030
  • it feels so weird 'cause I feel
  • 00:13:26.030 --> 00:13:27.020
  • like I'm not even really here,
  • 00:13:27.020 --> 00:13:28.010
  • but yet I'm here."
  • 00:13:28.010 --> 00:13:29.000
  • And God is saying, "I love you
  • 00:13:29.000 --> 00:13:30.000
  • enough to numb you."
  • 00:13:30.120 --> 00:13:33.120
  • The Spirit of God's good.
  • 00:13:33.120 --> 00:13:35.280
  • The Spirit of God's there for
  • 00:13:35.280 --> 00:13:36.280
  • you in the middle of your pain
  • 00:13:36.280 --> 00:13:38.000
  • when it just doesn't make sense.
  • 00:13:38.000 --> 00:13:39.210
  • As you're carrying your box
  • 00:13:39.210 --> 00:13:41.080
  • out of the office of the people
  • 00:13:41.080 --> 00:13:42.190
  • that you thought you could trust
  • 00:13:42.190 --> 00:13:44.050
  • and wondering,
  • 00:13:44.050 --> 00:13:45.080
  • "What just happened to me?"
  • 00:13:45.080 --> 00:13:47.140
  • And you go home, and you think,
  • 00:13:47.140 --> 00:13:48.200
  • "I don't even understand
  • 00:13:48.200 --> 00:13:49.210
  • what happened."
  • 00:13:49.210 --> 00:13:50.280
  • And God says,
  • 00:13:50.280 --> 00:13:51.260
  • "I'll tell you what happened.
  • 00:13:51.260 --> 00:13:52.270
  • I numbed you.
  • 00:13:52.270 --> 00:13:53.260
  • I knew it was coming
  • 00:13:53.260 --> 00:13:54.240
  • before you knew it."
  • 00:13:54.240 --> 00:13:56.000
  • He's that good.
  • 00:13:56.000 --> 00:13:58.020
  • He helps you through.
  • 00:13:58.020 --> 00:13:59.120
  • He carries you when you don't
  • 00:13:59.120 --> 00:14:00.250
  • understand why things happen
  • 00:14:00.250 --> 00:14:02.230
  • and things don't make sense.
  • 00:14:02.230 --> 00:14:03.240
  • When they left you and you just
  • 00:14:03.240 --> 00:14:05.150
  • sit there at the kitchen table,
  • 00:14:05.150 --> 00:14:06.230
  • wondering, "God,
  • 00:14:06.230 --> 00:14:07.220
  • where are you?"
  • 00:14:07.220 --> 00:14:08.230
  • God is numbing you
  • 00:14:08.230 --> 00:14:09.260
  • and helping you one step
  • 00:14:09.260 --> 00:14:11.110
  • at a time get through it.
  • 00:14:11.110 --> 00:14:13.150
  • He's good like that.
  • 00:14:13.150 --> 00:14:15.020
  • Psalms 119 says, "I am
  • 00:14:17.090 --> 00:14:19.080
  • completely discouraged.
  • 00:14:19.080 --> 00:14:20.130
  • Revive me by your Word.
  • 00:14:20.130 --> 00:14:21.180
  • Your Word has been my comfort."
  • 00:14:21.180 --> 00:14:24.040
  • You know, when you're going
  • 00:14:24.040 --> 00:14:25.020
  • through a test, the great thing
  • 00:14:25.020 --> 00:14:25.210
  • of his tests are open book.
  • 00:14:27.200 --> 00:14:29.210
  • Isn't that good to know?
  • 00:14:29.210 --> 00:14:31.030
  • His word of God is there for
  • 00:14:31.030 --> 00:14:32.160
  • you, to guide you, to help you
  • 00:14:32.160 --> 00:14:34.090
  • through those difficulties.
  • 00:14:34.090 --> 00:14:35.170
  • And so, God's word will become
  • 00:14:35.170 --> 00:14:37.010
  • more real and alive to you.
  • 00:14:37.010 --> 00:14:38.200
  • How many of you guys would bear
  • 00:14:38.200 --> 00:14:40.010
  • witness right now and say,
  • 00:14:40.010 --> 00:14:41.050
  • "I could remember a time
  • 00:14:41.050 --> 00:14:42.030
  • when I so desperately needed
  • 00:14:42.030 --> 00:14:43.080
  • to hear from God,
  • 00:14:43.080 --> 00:14:44.060
  • and things were falling apart,
  • 00:14:44.060 --> 00:14:45.030
  • and God gave me a specific word
  • 00:14:45.030 --> 00:14:46.060
  • from his Bible,
  • 00:14:46.060 --> 00:14:47.080
  • and it was what I needed
  • 00:14:47.080 --> 00:14:48.190
  • in the moment."
  • 00:14:48.190 --> 00:14:49.200
  • Anybody ever had that,
  • 00:14:49.200 --> 00:14:50.200
  • when it was so specific?
  • 00:14:50.200 --> 00:14:51.290
  • Anybody ever had that, where
  • 00:14:51.290 --> 00:14:53.020
  • you're like, "Oh my goodness,
  • 00:14:53.020 --> 00:14:54.030
  • God just so clearly spoke
  • 00:14:54.030 --> 00:14:55.050
  • to me"?
  • 00:14:55.050 --> 00:14:56.060
  • Some of you are having
  • 00:14:56.060 --> 00:14:57.090
  • that right now.
  • 00:14:58.150 --> 00:15:01.170
  • Some of you are thinking,
  • 00:15:01.170 --> 00:15:02.190
  • "How did he know I was going
  • 00:15:02.190 --> 00:15:03.170
  • through stuff?"
  • 00:15:03.170 --> 00:15:04.180
  • I didn't.
  • 00:15:04.180 --> 00:15:05.160
  • He's that good.
  • 00:15:05.160 --> 00:15:07.220
  • He is.
  • 00:15:10.230 --> 00:15:12.100
  • God's word, very, very powerful.
  • 00:15:12.100 --> 00:15:14.170
  • The third one is God's people.
  • 00:15:14.170 --> 00:15:16.240
  • God's people.
  • 00:15:16.240 --> 00:15:18.200
  • It says in 2 Corinthians 1,
  • 00:15:18.200 --> 00:15:19.250
  • verses 3, "The God
  • 00:15:19.250 --> 00:15:20.260
  • of all comfort comforts us
  • 00:15:20.260 --> 00:15:22.020
  • in all our troubles,
  • 00:15:22.020 --> 00:15:23.070
  • so that we can comfort others
  • 00:15:23.070 --> 00:15:24.130
  • with the comfort we ourselves
  • 00:15:24.130 --> 00:15:25.230
  • have received from God."
  • 00:15:25.230 --> 00:15:26.190
  • People ask me sometimes,
  • 00:15:28.200 --> 00:15:29.060
  • "Where is God in all this?"
  • 00:15:29.060 --> 00:15:30.060
  • Whenever a tragedy happens,
  • 00:15:30.060 --> 00:15:31.070
  • I'll have people say,
  • 00:15:31.070 --> 00:15:32.110
  • "Where is God in all this?"
  • 00:15:32.110 --> 00:15:33.260
  • And I'll always smile and say,
  • 00:15:33.260 --> 00:15:34.260
  • "He's in all the people around
  • 00:15:34.260 --> 00:15:35.280
  • you right now helping you."
  • 00:15:35.280 --> 00:15:38.160
  • That's where God is in all this.
  • 00:15:38.160 --> 00:15:39.280
  • You know, you don't really
  • 00:15:39.280 --> 00:15:40.260
  • understand the power
  • 00:15:40.260 --> 00:15:41.250
  • of the local church
  • 00:15:41.250 --> 00:15:42.270
  • until you need the local church.
  • 00:15:42.270 --> 00:15:44.280
  • And when everything falls apart
  • 00:15:44.280 --> 00:15:46.170
  • in your life, there's people
  • 00:15:46.170 --> 00:15:47.220
  • That's the power
  • 00:15:50.030 --> 00:15:51.070
  • of God's people.
  • 00:15:51.070 --> 00:15:52.080
  • The right people are such
  • 00:15:52.080 --> 00:15:53.110
  • a critical difference-maker
  • 00:15:53.110 --> 00:15:54.240
  • in your life.
  • 00:15:54.240 --> 00:15:57.060
  • When pastors call me and tell me
  • 00:15:57.060 --> 00:15:58.070
  • about all kind of heartache
  • 00:15:58.070 --> 00:15:59.080
  • that happens in their church,
  • 00:15:59.080 --> 00:16:00.200
  • I smile and tell 'em,
  • 00:16:00.200 --> 00:16:01.230
  • "Thanks for calling.
  • 00:16:01.230 --> 00:16:02.240
  • You called the right guy,
  • 00:16:02.240 --> 00:16:03.230
  • 'cause I've had that heartache."
  • 00:16:03.230 --> 00:16:05.270
  • And I tell 'em some
  • 00:16:05.270 --> 00:16:06.270
  • of the stuff we've gone through,
  • 00:16:06.270 --> 00:16:07.290
  • like the second year
  • 00:16:07.290 --> 00:16:09.010
  • of our church when one-fourth
  • 00:16:09.010 --> 00:16:11.030
  • of our church all got together
  • 00:16:11.030 --> 00:16:12.130
  • without me being around,
  • 00:16:12.130 --> 00:16:13.130
  • by the way, and decided
  • 00:16:13.130 --> 00:16:14.200
  • they didn't like me anymore,
  • 00:16:14.200 --> 00:16:16.190
  • and that they didn't think
  • 00:16:16.190 --> 00:16:17.170
  • I was spiritual enough,
  • 00:16:17.170 --> 00:16:18.160
  • and they all left the church
  • 00:16:18.160 --> 00:16:19.140
  • You know, what I didn't know
  • 00:16:21.150 --> 00:16:22.260
  • that I can now tell pastors--
  • 00:16:22.260 --> 00:16:24.230
  • I didn't experience it
  • 00:16:24.230 --> 00:16:25.170
  • at the time.
  • 00:16:25.170 --> 00:16:26.110
  • It didn't feel good at the time.
  • 00:16:26.110 --> 00:16:27.110
  • It really hurt.
  • 00:16:27.110 --> 00:16:28.060
  • I remember going to God saying,
  • 00:16:28.060 --> 00:16:29.010
  • "God, I moved my whole family
  • 00:16:29.010 --> 00:16:30.000
  • down here to try to honor you
  • 00:16:30.000 --> 00:16:31.000
  • and start a church that would
  • 00:16:31.000 --> 00:16:32.040
  • reach lost people,
  • 00:16:32.040 --> 00:16:33.040
  • looked at like I'm some kind
  • 00:16:35.050 --> 00:16:36.030
  • of evil person when I'm just
  • 00:16:36.030 --> 00:16:37.080
  • trying to serve you?
  • 00:16:37.080 --> 00:16:39.150
  • And half the things that they're
  • 00:16:39.150 --> 00:16:40.180
  • saying are not even true.
  • 00:16:40.180 --> 00:16:41.160
  • They're lies."
  • 00:16:41.160 --> 00:16:44.150
  • And I didn't realize that was
  • 00:16:44.150 --> 00:16:45.130
  • actually normal for pastors.
  • 00:16:46.010 --> 00:16:49.010
  • And now I tell those pastors,
  • 00:16:49.010 --> 00:16:49.290
  • when they call me and tell me,
  • 00:16:49.290 --> 00:16:50.270
  • I say, "Just hang on.
  • 00:16:50.270 --> 00:16:51.270
  • Hold on.
  • 00:16:51.270 --> 00:16:52.250
  • Be faithful, because God has
  • 00:16:52.250 --> 00:16:54.070
  • a plan for that."
  • 00:16:54.070 --> 00:16:55.050
  • When people walk out of your
  • 00:16:55.050 --> 00:16:56.020
  • life, don't ever beg 'em
  • 00:16:56.020 --> 00:16:57.000
  • to stay.
  • 00:16:57.000 --> 00:16:57.290
  • Don't ever beg 'em to stay.
  • 00:16:57.290 --> 00:16:59.020
  • You may say, "Well,
  • 00:16:59.020 --> 00:17:00.020
  • that sounds hateful."
  • 00:17:00.020 --> 00:17:00.280
  • No, I'm not hateful,
  • 00:17:00.280 --> 00:17:01.240
  • I'm faithful.
  • 00:17:01.240 --> 00:17:02.230
  • I've just been doing it
  • 00:17:02.230 --> 00:17:03.150
  • for 17 years.
  • 00:17:03.150 --> 00:17:04.150
  • I'm just telling you,
  • 00:17:04.150 --> 00:17:05.130
  • don't beg 'em to stay.
  • 00:17:05.130 --> 00:17:06.100
  • Let 'em go.
  • 00:17:06.100 --> 00:17:07.100
  • Say, "Bye.
  • 00:17:07.100 --> 00:17:10.010
  • I'm gonna stay faithful."
  • 00:17:10.010 --> 00:17:11.090
  • Because here's the reason.
  • 00:17:11.090 --> 00:17:12.090
  • I'm not trying to be hurtful.
  • 00:17:12.090 --> 00:17:13.100
  • I'm really not, but here's
  • 00:17:13.100 --> 00:17:14.120
  • what I've learned.
  • 00:17:14.120 --> 00:17:15.120
  • God has a plan with strategic
  • 00:17:15.120 --> 00:17:16.260
  • exits, because they're required
  • 00:17:16.260 --> 00:17:19.150
  • for strategic entrances.
  • 00:17:19.150 --> 00:17:20.290
  • 'Cause guess what,
  • 00:17:20.290 --> 00:17:22.050
  • after one-fourth of our church
  • 00:17:22.050 --> 00:17:23.040
  • left, within 1 year, our church
  • 00:17:23.040 --> 00:17:24.050
  • Can't explain that.
  • 00:17:27.250 --> 00:17:28.270
  • That's just God.
  • 00:17:28.270 --> 00:17:30.200
  • But see, I can now recycle that
  • 00:17:30.200 --> 00:17:32.080
  • pain and help other pastors when
  • 00:17:32.080 --> 00:17:35.070
  • they tell me, "Someone said this
  • 00:17:35.070 --> 00:17:36.110
  • in the paper."
  • 00:17:36.110 --> 00:17:37.110
  • I'm like, "Oh yeah, yeah.
  • 00:17:37.110 --> 00:17:38.100
  • Been there, done that,
  • 00:17:38.100 --> 00:17:39.020
  • got the T-shirt, man.
  • 00:17:39.020 --> 00:17:39.270
  • I know."
  • 00:17:39.270 --> 00:17:40.240
  • It's just part of it.
  • 00:17:40.240 --> 00:17:42.150
  • You know, I mean,
  • 00:17:42.150 --> 00:17:43.210
  • we used to say, it was like
  • 00:17:43.210 --> 00:17:44.210
  • a common little catchphrase,
  • 00:17:44.210 --> 00:17:45.200
  • "You have to be a fool
  • 00:17:45.200 --> 00:17:46.180
  • for Christ."
  • 00:17:46.180 --> 00:17:47.130
  • It was what God wanted.
  • 00:17:47.130 --> 00:17:48.130
  • I didn't realize that he really
  • 00:17:48.130 --> 00:17:49.230
  • meant that, that some people
  • 00:17:49.230 --> 00:17:51.170
  • will just think you're a fool
  • 00:17:51.170 --> 00:17:53.090
  • for trying to honor God.
  • 00:17:53.090 --> 00:17:55.000
  • You just can't worry about
  • 00:17:55.000 --> 00:17:55.260
  • that stuff.
  • 00:17:55.260 --> 00:17:56.200
  • And so, you just gotta know that
  • 00:17:56.200 --> 00:17:57.150
  • God has a plan and a process,
  • 00:17:57.150 --> 00:17:58.030
  • And here's where it comes down
  • 00:18:00.050 --> 00:18:01.000
  • to the crux of the whole issue.
  • 00:18:01.000 --> 00:18:01.280
  • Isaiah 43, verse 18, it says,
  • 00:18:01.280 --> 00:18:03.190
  • "Do not dwell on the past.
  • 00:18:03.190 --> 00:18:04.270
  • See, I am doing a new thing!"
  • 00:18:04.270 --> 00:18:06.050
  • I wanna tell you something
  • 00:18:06.050 --> 00:18:06.230
  • but this is the truth.
  • 00:18:08.240 --> 00:18:09.090
  • If you want something new
  • 00:18:09.090 --> 00:18:10.160
  • in your life, something old
  • 00:18:10.160 --> 00:18:11.190
  • has to die.
  • 00:18:12.130 --> 00:18:15.130
  • There is no way to get to new
  • 00:18:15.130 --> 00:18:17.020
  • life without death.
  • 00:18:17.070 --> 00:18:20.070
  • It's just true.
  • 00:18:20.070 --> 00:18:21.130
  • How many of you guys think birth
  • 00:18:21.130 --> 00:18:22.110
  • is beautiful?
  • 00:18:22.110 --> 00:18:23.190
  • [laughing]
  • 00:18:23.190 --> 00:18:24.200
  • You've never been there
  • 00:18:24.200 --> 00:18:25.140
  • for it then.
  • 00:18:25.140 --> 00:18:27.090
  • 'Cause if you've really been
  • 00:18:27.090 --> 00:18:28.020
  • in the birthing room,
  • 00:18:28.020 --> 00:18:29.120
  • it ain't pretty.
  • 00:18:29.120 --> 00:18:31.080
  • I love my bride,
  • 00:18:31.080 --> 00:18:32.090
  • And they give you this nice,
  • 00:18:34.200 --> 00:18:35.140
  • little, beautiful baby,
  • 00:18:35.140 --> 00:18:36.110
  • but that's after they
  • 00:18:36.110 --> 00:18:37.080
  • clean it up a little bit.
  • 00:18:37.080 --> 00:18:39.020
  • 'Cause before they clean him up,
  • 00:18:39.020 --> 00:18:40.000
  • you're like, "I don't know what
  • 00:18:40.000 --> 00:18:40.270
  • all that is, but I need you
  • 00:18:40.270 --> 00:18:41.230
  • to do something about that,
  • 00:18:41.230 --> 00:18:43.050
  • 'cause that does not look good."
  • 00:18:43.050 --> 00:18:45.030
  • Birth is ugly,
  • 00:18:45.170 --> 00:18:48.170
  • And how about this?
  • 00:18:50.180 --> 00:18:51.080
  • Think about the baby.
  • 00:18:51.080 --> 00:18:52.080
  • Oh my goodness!
  • 00:18:52.080 --> 00:18:53.040
  • This baby's like,
  • 00:18:53.040 --> 00:18:54.000
  • "I had a perfect little room
  • 00:18:54.000 --> 00:18:55.110
  • just for me,
  • 00:18:55.110 --> 00:18:56.100
  • perfectly acclimated
  • 00:18:56.100 --> 00:18:57.130
  • for my every need.
  • 00:18:57.130 --> 00:18:59.030
  • I needed nothing,
  • 00:18:59.030 --> 00:19:00.020
  • and all of a sudden
  • 00:19:00.020 --> 00:19:01.010
  • you're shoving me
  • 00:19:01.010 --> 00:19:02.070
  • and pushing me violently.
  • 00:19:02.070 --> 00:19:04.130
  • I'm being forced out of a hole
  • 00:19:04.130 --> 00:19:06.060
  • that is WAY too small
  • 00:19:06.060 --> 00:19:07.140
  • for me to go through.
  • 00:19:07.140 --> 00:19:09.250
  • This does not fit,
  • 00:19:09.250 --> 00:19:11.070
  • I'm being twisted."
  • 00:19:13.080 --> 00:19:14.120
  • And then they get these cold,
  • 00:19:14.120 --> 00:19:16.010
  • you know, machinery type
  • 00:19:16.010 --> 00:19:17.170
  • of things that grabs me
  • 00:19:17.170 --> 00:19:18.290
  • and tries to pull me out.
  • 00:19:18.290 --> 00:19:20.050
  • This is not fun.
  • 00:19:20.050 --> 00:19:21.070
  • I'm screaming my guts out,
  • 00:19:21.070 --> 00:19:22.130
  • literally.
  • 00:19:22.130 --> 00:19:23.130
  • This is not a good time."
  • 00:19:23.130 --> 00:19:26.060
  • Why?
  • 00:19:26.060 --> 00:19:27.060
  • Because I have to be forced out
  • 00:19:27.060 --> 00:19:29.000
  • of what I like and know
  • 00:19:29.000 --> 00:19:31.030
  • Here's the thing
  • 00:19:40.120 --> 00:19:41.110
  • I've learned about life:
  • 00:19:41.110 --> 00:19:43.130
  • Either accept the season's over,
  • 00:19:43.130 --> 00:19:46.090
  • or cry about it the rest
  • 00:19:46.090 --> 00:19:47.110
  • of your life.
  • 00:19:47.110 --> 00:19:49.040
  • But when the season's done,
  • 00:19:49.040 --> 00:19:50.080
  • the season's done.
  • 00:19:50.080 --> 00:19:52.270
  • You gotta be okay with it.
  • 00:19:52.270 --> 00:19:54.130
  • You gotta know that God has
  • 00:19:54.130 --> 00:19:55.130
  • a bigger plan.
  • 00:19:55.130 --> 00:19:56.160
  • God knows what he's doing,
  • 00:19:56.160 --> 00:19:57.120
  • even when it doesn't make sense
  • 00:19:57.120 --> 00:19:58.110
  • to us.
  • 00:19:58.110 --> 00:19:59.060
  • "Don't dwell on the past.
  • 00:19:59.060 --> 00:20:00.010
  • See, I'm doing a new thing!"
  • 00:20:00.010 --> 00:20:01.110
  • He goes on to say,
  • 00:20:01.110 --> 00:20:02.100
  • "It's just begun.
  • 00:20:02.100 --> 00:20:03.040
  • I've already done it.
  • 00:20:03.040 --> 00:20:04.000
  • I'm already started.
  • 00:20:04.000 --> 00:20:04.230
  • I'm already in the middle
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  • of a new thing."
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  • God's saying,
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  • "I'm already there.
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  • You might as well join me."
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  • But you're still over here
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  • crying over what's lost.
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  • You know what I've learned to do
  • 00:20:11.200 --> 00:20:12.120
  • in my life, by the way?
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  • Don't focus on who left,
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  • focus on who stayed.
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  • Don't focus on what's lost,
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  • We gotta learn to do that.
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  • Revelation 21 says this,
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  • "He will wipe away every tear
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  • from their eyes.
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  • There will be no more death
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  • or mourning or crying or pain,
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  • for the old order of things
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  • has passed away.
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  • He who was seated
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  • on the throne said,
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  • 'I am making everything new!'"
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  • One of my favorite lines
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  • of Jesus.
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  • He said, "I'm making
  • 00:20:36.180 --> 00:20:37.140
  • everything new!"
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  • There's a reason I'm going
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  • through this.
  • 00:20:39.090 --> 00:20:40.030
  • "I'm making everything new!"
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  • It's one of my
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  • favorite lines from
  • 00:20:42.240 --> 00:20:43.200
  • "The Passion of the Christ,"
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  • 'cause it's really what he said.
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  • "Behold, I make everything new!"
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  • And so what does this mean?
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  • Number four, we need to focus
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  • on future opportunities
  • 00:20:50.090 --> 00:20:51.030
  • rather than present pain.
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  • Focus on future opportunities
  • 00:20:53.200 --> 00:20:55.040
  • rather than present pain.
  • 00:20:55.040 --> 00:20:56.050
  • But you know what pain
  • 00:20:56.050 --> 00:20:57.030
  • really does for you?
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  • Pain introduces you to yourself.
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  • Heartache, heartbreak introduces
  • 00:21:03.000 --> 00:21:04.130
  • You know, if you think about
  • 00:21:07.230 --> 00:21:09.010
  • some of the greats in the Bible,
  • 00:21:09.010 --> 00:21:10.120
  • just pick any of 'em.
  • 00:21:10.120 --> 00:21:11.290
  • Take Joseph for a second.
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  • Just take Joseph.
  • 00:21:13.020 --> 00:21:14.000
  • So, Joseph gets rejected
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  • by his bro, right?
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  • His brothers, they sell him out.
  • 00:21:16.110 --> 00:21:17.290
  • Now he's thrown into slavery.
  • 00:21:17.290 --> 00:21:18.280
  • I mean, can it get worse?
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  • Right, he's like, "Okay,
  • 00:21:19.260 --> 00:21:20.280
  • so my brothers sold me
  • 00:21:20.280 --> 00:21:22.000
  • into slavery."
  • 00:21:22.000 --> 00:21:22.290
  • Then he gets sold into slavery
  • 00:21:22.290 --> 00:21:23.260
  • to a madman, right?
  • 00:21:23.260 --> 00:21:24.270
  • Whose wife was after him.
  • 00:21:24.270 --> 00:21:26.160
  • He's like, "Oh, you gotta
  • 00:21:26.160 --> 00:21:27.140
  • be kidding me, right?
  • 00:21:27.140 --> 00:21:28.110
  • I'm property, and now this woman
  • 00:21:28.110 --> 00:21:29.220
  • is hunting me down
  • 00:21:29.220 --> 00:21:30.220
  • because of their
  • 00:21:30.220 --> 00:21:31.200
  • marital problems.
  • 00:21:31.200 --> 00:21:32.170
  • I'm caught in the middle
  • 00:21:32.170 --> 00:21:33.120
  • of this now,
  • 00:21:33.120 --> 00:21:34.080
  • running from this girl, right?
  • 00:21:34.080 --> 00:21:35.080
  • Who then accuses me falsely
  • 00:21:35.080 --> 00:21:35.290
  • into prison.
  • 00:21:38.000 --> 00:21:38.180
  • So, now I go from being rejected
  • 00:21:38.180 --> 00:21:39.180
  • by my brothers, turning
  • 00:21:39.180 --> 00:21:40.190
  • into slavery, then a slave
  • 00:21:40.190 --> 00:21:41.190
  • that goes to prison.
  • 00:21:41.190 --> 00:21:42.240
  • And then when I'm in prison,
  • 00:21:42.240 --> 00:21:43.260
  • I'm trying to honor God
  • 00:21:43.260 --> 00:21:44.210
  • and then I get forgotten."
  • 00:21:44.210 --> 00:21:46.190
  • There are four layers
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  • of bad things happening,
  • 00:21:47.190 --> 00:21:48.220
  • four different heartbreaks,
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  • four different expectations
  • 00:21:50.050 --> 00:21:51.040
  • not met,
  • 00:21:51.040 --> 00:21:52.040
  • four different bad situations.
  • 00:21:52.040 --> 00:21:53.150
  • Layer on top of layer
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  • on top of layer.
  • 00:21:54.190 --> 00:21:55.250
  • And the only reason God layers
  • 00:21:55.250 --> 00:21:57.000
  • on top of layers
  • 00:21:57.000 --> 00:21:57.290
  • on top of layers difficulty
  • 00:21:57.290 --> 00:21:59.040
  • is so that he can multiply
  • 00:21:59.040 --> 00:22:00.110
  • layers upon layers upon layers
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  • of his goodness
  • 00:22:02.040 --> 00:22:03.070
  • and greatness in your life.
  • 00:22:03.070 --> 00:22:05.040
  • That's why that happens.
  • 00:22:05.040 --> 00:22:07.160
  • God has a plan for that.
  • 00:22:07.160 --> 00:22:09.140
  • So, he will let you go through
  • 00:22:09.140 --> 00:22:10.200
  • multiple difficulties,
  • 00:22:10.200 --> 00:22:12.040
  • one after another,
  • 00:22:12.040 --> 00:22:13.090
  • and you think, "Man, I feel
  • 00:22:13.090 --> 00:22:14.090
  • like it's coming in waves."
  • 00:22:14.090 --> 00:22:15.070
  • It is coming in waves,
  • 00:22:15.070 --> 00:22:16.060
  • 'cause God's trying
  • 00:22:16.060 --> 00:22:17.060
  • to prepare you
  • 00:22:17.060 --> 00:22:18.040
  • for something great.
  • 00:22:18.040 --> 00:22:19.020
  • I could go on and on with this.
  • 00:22:19.020 --> 00:22:20.210
  • The Apostle Paul,
  • 00:22:20.210 --> 00:22:22.120
  • before he was the Apostle Paul,
  • 00:22:22.120 --> 00:22:23.100
  • he was Saul, and his job
  • 00:22:23.100 --> 00:22:24.240
  • was to kill Christians.
  • 00:22:24.240 --> 00:22:25.280
  • That's what he did for a living.
  • 00:22:25.280 --> 00:22:26.280
  • He was very good at what he did.
  • 00:22:26.280 --> 00:22:28.190
  • Business was booming for Saul.
  • 00:22:28.280 --> 00:22:31.280
  • He killed Stephen.
  • 00:22:31.280 --> 00:22:33.020
  • He killed others.
  • 00:22:33.020 --> 00:22:34.030
  • The whole church was scared
  • 00:22:34.030 --> 00:22:35.050
  • of him.
  • 00:22:35.050 --> 00:22:36.030
  • And so, God blinded him.
  • 00:22:36.030 --> 00:22:37.030
  • And the reason why God
  • 00:22:37.030 --> 00:22:38.000
  • would blind someone like that
  • 00:22:38.000 --> 00:22:38.280
  • is 'cause he said earlier
  • 00:22:38.280 --> 00:22:39.270
  • in Scripture, he said,
  • 00:22:39.270 --> 00:22:40.260
  • "I am the Hebrew of Hebrews.
  • 00:22:40.260 --> 00:22:41.250
  • I have not broken one law."
  • 00:22:41.250 --> 00:22:42.230
  • He's basically saying,
  • 00:22:42.230 --> 00:22:43.220
  • "I've got it together.
  • 00:22:43.220 --> 00:22:44.190
  • I've got the pedigree
  • 00:22:44.190 --> 00:22:45.160
  • like no other.
  • 00:22:45.160 --> 00:22:46.120
  • I've been to Harvard.
  • 00:22:46.120 --> 00:22:47.170
  • I've been to the greatest
  • 00:22:47.170 --> 00:22:48.170
  • schools, the greatest education.
  • 00:22:48.170 --> 00:22:50.090
  • I'm good looking.
  • 00:22:50.090 --> 00:22:51.080
  • I'm sharp.
  • 00:22:51.080 --> 00:22:52.080
  • I'm a great orator.
  • 00:22:52.080 --> 00:22:53.050
  • I know what to say.
  • 00:22:53.050 --> 00:22:54.070
  • I can argue into a corner.
  • 00:22:54.070 --> 00:22:55.070
  • I've got it all together.
  • 00:22:55.070 --> 00:22:56.050
  • And not only that,
  • 00:22:56.050 --> 00:22:57.040
  • but I've got the power,
  • 00:22:57.040 --> 00:22:58.030
  • and so I am the man."
  • 00:22:58.030 --> 00:22:59.040
  • And so, Jesus comes along
  • 00:22:59.040 --> 00:23:00.040
  • and blinds him.
  • 00:23:00.040 --> 00:23:01.170
  • And literally,
  • 00:23:01.170 --> 00:23:02.170
  • he's completely blind,
  • 00:23:02.170 --> 00:23:03.140
  • going, "Oh my goodness.
  • 00:23:03.140 --> 00:23:04.160
  • Who are you?
  • 00:23:04.160 --> 00:23:05.120
  • What's going on?
  • 00:23:05.120 --> 00:23:06.140
  • I can't see anything."
  • 00:23:06.140 --> 00:23:07.080
  • Because he has to go
  • 00:23:07.080 --> 00:23:08.070
  • from total independence
  • 00:23:08.070 --> 00:23:09.070
  • to total dependence so that
  • 00:23:09.070 --> 00:23:10.220
  • Jesus can use him greatly.
  • 00:23:10.230 --> 00:23:13.230
  • So, he had to go from everything
  • 00:23:13.230 --> 00:23:14.250
  • being in his control to having
  • 00:23:14.250 --> 00:23:17.070
  • no control over his own life.
  • 00:23:17.070 --> 00:23:19.230
  • Same reason why you and I
  • 00:23:19.230 --> 00:23:20.230
  • go through heartbreak,
  • 00:23:20.230 --> 00:23:23.180
  • because God is trying to wrestle
  • 00:23:23.180 --> 00:23:24.280
  • control out of our hands
  • 00:23:24.280 --> 00:23:26.090
  • to make us depend upon him.
  • 00:23:26.090 --> 00:23:28.250
  • And it's after that that God
  • 00:23:28.250 --> 00:23:30.060
  • used the Apostle Paul greatly.
  • 00:23:31.220 --> 00:23:34.220
  • What's the point?
  • 00:23:34.220 --> 00:23:36.110
  • Please write this down somewhere
  • 00:23:36.110 --> 00:23:37.090
  • in your notes, would you?
  • 00:23:37.090 --> 00:23:38.170
  • It's not a fill in the blank.
  • 00:23:38.170 --> 00:23:39.050
  • Ready?
  • 00:23:41.050 --> 00:23:41.190
  • Here's the point.
  • 00:23:41.190 --> 00:23:42.120
  • A broken heart is God's platform
  • 00:23:42.160 --> 00:23:45.160
  • for greatness.
  • 00:23:45.160 --> 00:23:48.140
  • A broken heart is God's platform
  • 00:23:48.250 --> 00:23:51.250
  • for greatness.
  • 00:23:51.250 --> 00:23:52.290
  • Your pain is for God's
  • 00:23:52.290 --> 00:23:55.000
  • greater glory.
  • 00:23:55.000 --> 00:23:57.180
  • That's what it's for.
  • 00:23:57.200 --> 00:24:00.220
  • You see, according to the Bible,
  • 00:24:00.220 --> 00:24:02.080
  • we are the bread.
  • 00:24:02.080 --> 00:24:05.060
  • Jesus took bread, blessed it,
  • 00:24:05.220 --> 00:24:08.220
  • broke it, and it multiplied to
  • 00:24:08.220 --> 00:24:10.270
  • meet the needs of the world,
  • 00:24:10.270 --> 00:24:12.050
  • right?
  • 00:24:12.050 --> 00:24:13.090
  • That's how he multiplied
  • 00:24:13.090 --> 00:24:14.070
  • and he fed the thousands, right?
  • 00:24:14.070 --> 00:24:14.290
  • The thousands--
  • 00:24:14.290 --> 00:24:15.290
  • the 4.000 and the 5.000,
  • 00:24:15.290 --> 00:24:17.000
  • he fed that.
  • 00:24:17.000 --> 00:24:18.020
  • Theologians tell us that would
  • 00:24:18.020 --> 00:24:18.290
  • be up to feeding 20.000
  • 00:24:18.290 --> 00:24:20.010
  • to 25.000 people at one time,
  • 00:24:20.010 --> 00:24:21.090
  • 'cause when they counted 4.000
  • 00:24:21.090 --> 00:24:22.090
  • or 5.000, they only counted men.
  • 00:24:22.090 --> 00:24:23.200
  • Did you know that,
  • 00:24:23.200 --> 00:24:24.150
  • in their culture?
  • 00:24:24.150 --> 00:24:25.130
  • So, that means all their
  • 00:24:25.130 --> 00:24:26.080
  • families were there,
  • 00:24:26.080 --> 00:24:27.050
  • so he probably fed
  • 00:24:27.050 --> 00:24:28.010
  • about 25.000 people
  • 00:24:28.010 --> 00:24:28.250
  • off of one loaf of bread.
  • 00:24:28.250 --> 00:24:30.010
  • And every time God wants
  • 00:24:30.010 --> 00:24:32.010
  • to use us, he first breaks us.
  • 00:24:34.090 --> 00:24:37.090
  • because if you want
  • 00:24:37.090 --> 00:24:38.080
  • to multiply the bread,
  • 00:24:38.080 --> 00:24:39.070
  • you've gotta break it.
  • 00:24:39.070 --> 00:24:41.040
  • Be careful, though.
  • 00:24:41.040 --> 00:24:42.030
  • Don't get hardened,
  • 00:24:42.030 --> 00:24:43.260
  • because hardened bread
  • 00:24:43.260 --> 00:24:45.030
  • just crumbles and is useless.
  • 00:24:45.200 --> 00:24:48.200
  • But if you'll stay soft,
  • 00:24:48.200 --> 00:24:51.130
  • every time God breaks you,
  • 00:24:51.130 --> 00:24:52.140
  • he multiplies you again.
  • 00:24:52.140 --> 00:24:54.000
  • And he breaks you one more time,
  • 00:24:54.000 --> 00:24:54.230
  • God broke my heart with people
  • 00:24:56.240 --> 00:24:57.130
  • I trusted and loved,
  • 00:24:57.130 --> 00:24:58.040
  • God broke my heart a few years
  • 00:25:00.070 --> 00:25:00.270
  • later, and God began to give us
  • 00:25:00.270 --> 00:25:02.110
  • an opportunity to have
  • 00:25:02.110 --> 00:25:03.140
  • a location like this.
  • 00:25:03.140 --> 00:25:04.140
  • God broke my heart again,
  • 00:25:04.140 --> 00:25:05.180
  • and then we began
  • 00:25:05.180 --> 00:25:06.200
  • to start campuses
  • 00:25:06.200 --> 00:25:07.050
  • all over South Texas.
  • 00:25:07.050 --> 00:25:08.090
  • God's breaking my heart
  • 00:25:08.090 --> 00:25:09.110
  • one more time, and I'm saying,
  • 00:25:09.150 --> 00:25:12.150
  • "Okay, God.
  • 00:25:12.150 --> 00:25:14.180
  • I'll accept it,
  • 00:25:14.180 --> 00:25:16.280
  • 'cause what's more important,
  • 00:25:16.280 --> 00:25:19.210
  • my will or yours?
  • 00:25:21.190 --> 00:25:24.190
  • Your will's more important, God.
  • 00:25:24.190 --> 00:25:26.200
  • You can break my heart."
  • 00:25:26.200 --> 00:25:29.000
  • Because even if I don't know
  • 00:25:29.000 --> 00:25:30.030
  • why, I know the what.
  • 00:25:32.000 --> 00:25:35.000
  • If you will stay broken before
  • 00:25:35.000 --> 00:25:36.020
  • - Bil: Hey, thanks so much for
  • 00:25:45.280 --> 00:25:46.270
  • watching the program today.
  • 00:25:46.270 --> 00:25:48.040
  • I've got a question for you.
  • 00:25:48.040 --> 00:25:49.200
  • Have you asked Jesus Christ to
  • 00:25:49.200 --> 00:25:50.240
  • be your Lord and Savior?
  • 00:25:50.240 --> 00:25:52.190
  • Have you prayed a simple prayer
  • 00:25:52.190 --> 00:25:54.070
  • that guarantees that you will go
  • 00:25:54.070 --> 00:25:56.090
  • to heaven because
  • 00:25:56.090 --> 00:25:57.030
  • you know Jesus?
  • 00:25:57.030 --> 00:25:58.250
  • Would you pray this prayer
  • 00:25:58.250 --> 00:25:59.180
  • with me right now?
  • 00:25:59.180 --> 00:26:00.210
  • You can just say this out loud.
  • 00:26:00.210 --> 00:26:01.280
  • You can say, "Dear Jesus,
  • 00:26:01.280 --> 00:26:03.090
  • I realize I need you.
  • 00:26:03.090 --> 00:26:05.070
  • I believe you died on the cross
  • 00:26:05.070 --> 00:26:06.140
  • for me to pay the price
  • 00:26:06.140 --> 00:26:07.250
  • for my sins
  • 00:26:07.250 --> 00:26:09.010
  • and I believe you rose again.
  • 00:26:09.010 --> 00:26:10.120
  • Please come into my heart,
  • 00:26:10.120 --> 00:26:11.260
  • be my Lord and be my Savior.
  • 00:26:11.260 --> 00:26:14.110
  • Thank you, Jesus, for saving me.
  • 00:26:14.110 --> 00:26:16.220
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  • 00:26:34.040 --> 00:26:34.230
  • "Our marriage would go so much
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  • better if you would just get
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  • with the program
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  • and be like me, I mean."
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  • works but if I'll go in
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  • and meet the needs of my spouse
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  • and loving her
  • 00:26:46.280 --> 00:26:47.240
  • and I'm not talking about just
  • 00:26:47.240 --> 00:26:48.250
  • the bedroom, I'm talking about
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  • way before we ever get to bed.
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