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September 19, 2019
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  • - Today, we are looking for love on "Better Together."
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  • Whether you're single or married,
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  • this conversation is definitely for you.
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  • (gentle upbeat music)
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  • - The number one question that we're getting
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  • in churches across the nation, in North America,
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  • and specifically, the globe,
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  • is where are all the Christian men?
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  • - Yes!
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  • - So we can ideate about the things that we want,
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  • but there's a huge X factor.
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  • And important to note that especially for
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  • this next generation of Christian women
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  • being raised and following the ways of the Lord,
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  • there is a huge missing statistic in the church.
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  • And this is males between the age of 18 to 37.
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  • - Okay.
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  • - And so we're seeing a huge amount of single women.
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  • In fact, the Christian church is comprised
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  • of 62% females, who are more inclined to give,
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  • more inclined to serve, more inclined to tithe,
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  • and are desperately seeking healthy relationships.
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  • And so, the question is, well where are these men?
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  • Sometimes I think a conversation to bring in is,
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  • what does it look like to find these men
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  • who have walked away from church, or don't know the Lord,
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  • to bring them in to get into a relationship with the Lord,
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  • invite them to the local church?
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  • Here is one thing that statistics are saying.
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  • If men are invited, they're more prone to come.
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  • - [Nicole] Really?
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  • - They're less inclined to come on their own volition.
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  • - Wow!
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  • - Women don't need an invitation.
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  • Men need an invitation.
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  • - [Nicole] Wow. - They want to feel
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  • as if they are wanted in this space.
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  • - Wow. - And I think that we
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  • have done, we, as in, not around here,
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  • but I think a lot of the narrative
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  • that I've heard coming out of the churches,
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  • there's no more Christian men, they're all gone,
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  • da, da, da, and I think--
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  • - [Dianna] We're speaking that in too.
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  • - We're speaking that in, and we're not honoring them
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  • when they are there. - That's right.
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  • - Who are they serving, who are they giving,
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  • who are the single men and what would it look like
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  • to give these men an opportunity and the chance to date?
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  • Where have all the good guys gone?
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  • There's no longer good guys at church,
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  • there's no longer Christian guys,
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  • those guys are looking for 16-year-olds,
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  • they wanna rock the cradle.
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  • I think there's a lot of lies going on.
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  • I wanna come in with some truth.
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  • There are amazing men of God out there
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  • who are looking for an amazing woman
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  • and my fear is that we are
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  • painting a lot of men in a negative light.
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  • It's almost like we're speaking that in.
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  • So I want us to be very careful with our narrative
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  • for our brothers, for our cousins,
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  • for our coworkers, for our sons,
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  • and even our future husbands,
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  • what would it look like to speak life to them,
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  • over them and for them, raise up to be the man of God.
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  • And you'll be surprised at the relationships
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  • that are formed and fostered, even through a friendship,
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  • that might turn into something more.
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  • But don't speak negatively about it,
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  • cut through the lies with a sense of truth.
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  • These are men anointed and called by God
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  • and we're gonna pray them in.
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  • - So for me, I lived in New York City
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  • when I met my husband, and mind you,
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  • there's how many billions,
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  • six, seven billion people in New York City, right?
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  • Or a million people.
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  • There's a bunch of people there. (laughter)
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  • And so I remember telling the Lord, "My husband's not here".
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  • The word submission, means sub mission,
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  • get under the mission.
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  • Every man doesn't have the same mission.
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  • - That's good.
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  • - [Heather] So when you accept a ring from a man,
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  • you're accepting the mission of -
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  • - That man. - What God has
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  • called them to do and so I would meet a lot of
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  • different guys with a lot of different missions.
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  • And I said, I can't get under that.
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  • You're great, you look great on Christian paper,
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  • but you're not who I'm supposed to do life with, right?
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  • And I said, Lord, you have to import my husband,
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  • you have to drop him from the sky.
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  • He's not here in New York City.
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  • I read the stats, and I understood those different things,
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  • but I knew that God had somebody for me
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  • that we're supposed to, together,
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  • go on and do the work of the ministry together.
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  • And my husband, I met him at church, and literally he--
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  • - In New York?
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  • - [Heather] In New York-- - [Nicole] Wow!
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  • - But listen, he would do Atlanta,
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  • he would fly out for work, he worked at the church,
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  • so he would drop in every week,
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  • so I think it's so funny that the Lord imported my husband.
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  • - Wow.
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  • - Literally dropped him in!
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  • - On our very first date, he said,
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  • and this is why I love him, he's 22 years old,
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  • Cornelius said this to me.
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  • He said, "Are you willing to move to Atlanta?
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  • "Because I'm not gonna move up here to New York City."
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  • - Oh.
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  • - I'm not trying to be here,
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  • I wanna raise my family down there.
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  • And I said absolutely, I can go down to the South,
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  • on our very first date. - Wow.
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  • - We knew right away.
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  • And the thing is, I knew that I didn't need
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  • to go find my spouse, I felt like if I get busy
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  • about doing what God wants me to do--
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  • - Absolutely.
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  • - He was serving at the church, I was serving at the church.
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  • We walk by each other for three years straight, you guys.
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  • And then literally when we connected, it was so amazing,
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  • and I'm like, you've been here for three,
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  • but I wasn't ready, and neither was he,
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  • and not only that, he was 19,
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  • and I probably wouldn't have dated a teenager.
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  • (laughter)
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  • - A baby. - Four years old.
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  • And I wouldn't have dated, if I was 23.
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  • I feel like our issue is we're trying to find him.
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  • We're trying to search.
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  • When Adam went to Eve, he said,
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  • he looked at her and he said, you're my wife.
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  • He was awakened and saw her,
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  • and I feel like we're trying to go
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  • to Jimmy, John, and So-and-So, and wake him up,
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  • look at me, look at me, and we're getting frustrated.
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  • Get busy, I believe, doing the work
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  • of what God wants you to do, and I believe that--
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  • - Okay, okay, I wanna open up the can of online dating.
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  • Because we wanna be busy about God's business,
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  • which I totally was, but I was in my search,
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  • in my field serving, I was in grad school serving,
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  • I was fully independent, but I had, like a gecko,
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  • I had one eye on Jesus, one eye looking around
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  • (laughing)
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  • Are you running a race, okay!
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  • - Eye on the prize. - And there wasn't anyone.
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  • And it was my twin sister who said,
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  • I think you should try online dating.
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  • And I said, I think I need to rebuke the devil.
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  • - Wow, yes.
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  • - No, no it's not from. - Right.
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  • And so, she had set up on online profile for me,
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  • and I wept and I said, if God parted the Red Sea,
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  • if God brought Rebekah to Isaac, he can find someone for me.
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  • And Rebekah was in the field, and Ruth was in the field,
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  • and I'm gonna be in my field.
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  • And what I told my sister was, he could drop someone
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  • to my doorstep, and she said,
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  • well I hope you like the UPS man.
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  • - Wow.
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  • - 'Cause that's the only people
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  • that are coming to your door! (laughter)
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  • I was like, oh gosh, oh goodness, okay!
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  • So I actually--
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  • - You still had to be open to that.
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  • - I did, and so--
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  • - You were busy serving, and God led you to that.
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  • - But what does it look like,
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  • 'cause that's not the conversation we're having.
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  • It's like, hey, go to online dating
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  • and you're gonna find someone.
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  • No, don't lose yourself.
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  • Set up a boundary, don't lose your identity,
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  • don't put all your hope that you're gonna find
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  • your kismet match online.
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  • But what does it look like to, maybe put yourself out there.
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  • The analogy is, is your taxi light on?
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  • Because if you're not sparkling,
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  • if you're not letting someone know you're available,
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  • how is someone supposed to know that you're available?
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  • What does it look like to sparkle?
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  • What does it look like to date?
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  • What's our boundaries on dating, y'all jump in.
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  • (laughter)
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  • What do you think about dating?
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  • What do you think about online dating?
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  • What do you think about matchmaking?
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  • - I feel like each person's specific.
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  • For me, I said, Lord,
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  • I didn't want to meet my spouse online.
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  • That was my thing.
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  • I didn't want people with kids.
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  • I had boundaries, I had a list that I wanted.
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  • Was I willing to adjust it?
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  • I was, but I feel like, my girlfriend met her spouse online.
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  • Didn't want to do it, that was the very first person
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  • and the only person she went on a date with--
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  • - That was me!
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  • - And yet she got married. - Wow.
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  • I feel like God will use online dating,
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  • you know what I mean?
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  • But some people, you've gone on 55 dates.
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  • - Yep, on every app.
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  • - On every app.
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  • - Swiping left, swiping left, swiping right, (laughter)
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  • you don't even know what you're doing anymore.
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  • - I'm just available.
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  • (laughter)
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  • - Are we really led by the Lord, let's just be honest.
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  • Or are you trying to fill a void of emptiness in your life?
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  • - When Heather had said, are you being led to date online,
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  • or are you filling a void,
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  • I think she hit the nail right on the head.
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  • I am a proponent for putting yourself out there
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  • and being available.
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  • Like I mentioned, is your taxi light on?
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  • But at the same time, I want to just hone in
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  • on what she said, because it is so powerful and so true.
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  • If you have a God check that you are released
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  • in this season to pursue relationships,
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  • by all means, do that.
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  • But if you are being driven,
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  • if you wake up and you check your Tinder,
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  • if you wake up and you're swiping right on Bumble,
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  • if you wake up and you're waiting for the ding ding ding
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  • of a new match on eHarmony, it might be a level of unhealth.
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  • You might be desperate.
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  • And you know what is just so sad,
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  • is when we allow our desires to be taken hold of,
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  • and our identity changed.
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  • I think we can find fullness and wholeness
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  • not in the arms of someone else,
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  • but in understanding of who God has created us to be.
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  • And this is where I will add my green light
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  • for online dating,
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  • you might be able to discover something about yourself,
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  • and the things that you want,
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  • when you're willingly to put yourself out there
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  • and meet new people.
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  • - Okay, so, when I was getting married,
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  • there was no online dating. (laughter)
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  • So I come from a totally, so this is my generation talking.
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  • My grandmother prayed that I would meet Matthew Crouch.
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  • - [Dianna] I love that.
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  • - What? - She said him by name?
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  • - I was at her house.
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  • TBN had gotten Channel 21 in Phoenix,
  • 00:08:52.250 --> 00:08:56.220
  • it was TBN's second channel
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  • in the whole family of networks around the world,
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  • was Channel 51 in Phoenix.
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  • And I was was 19 years old,
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  • and I went to go visit my grandparents.
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  • And when Paul and Jan Crouch hosted the program,
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  • you took your TV tray into the living room
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  • and you watched Paul and Jan host
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  • the Praise The Lord program.
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  • And we're just sitting there one night,
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  • and I'm dating somebody else,
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  • and my grandma sits there and she goes,
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  • "I'm praying that you meet their son."
  • 00:09:27.050 --> 00:09:30.000
  • She said, "One of their sons is married already,"
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  • but said, "she's got a younger boy,"
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  • and she said, "His name is Matthew, and I'm praying
  • 00:09:34.290 --> 00:09:36.260
  • "that you meet that boy."
  • 00:09:36.260 --> 00:09:38.030
  • - What.
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  • - And at the time, my parents had moved from Arizona
  • 00:09:39.150 --> 00:09:41.260
  • where I was raised and took a church in Iowa
  • 00:09:41.260 --> 00:09:45.020
  • - Whoa.
  • 00:09:45.020 --> 00:09:46.160
  • - For about four years, so I was living in Iowa at the time,
  • 00:09:46.160 --> 00:09:50.000
  • and we went down to Tulsa to Papa Hagin's Campmeeting.
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  • - Wow!
  • 00:09:54.040 --> 00:09:55.080
  • - Gotten in the elevator with Jan Crouch,
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  • and she turned and looked at me and she said,
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  • "Can I ask you how old you are?
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  • "I'd like for you to meet my son."
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  • - Stop it.
  • 00:10:04.120 --> 00:10:05.290
  • - I have goosebumps.
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  • - Matchmaker, yes.
  • 00:10:07.110 --> 00:10:09.140
  • - So here now, I can talk
  • 00:10:09.140 --> 00:10:13.170
  • about my grandmother's prayers,
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  • and how powerful a grandmother's prayers are.
  • 00:10:16.050 --> 00:10:20.010
  • - And the anointing.
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  • - Right, and to call in the people
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  • that our children and our grandchildren meet,
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  • because how is that ever gonna happen, you know?
  • 00:10:28.290 --> 00:10:32.090
  • And by the way, I wasn't staying in the hotel
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  • that I was at when I saw Jan get in the elevator.
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  • Something pushed me in the back
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  • and I followed her to the elevator.
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  • Would have never done that on my own.
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  • I saw what floor she pushed and I was just mortified,
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  • I pushed the next floor up, I got to the floor going,
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  • why am I in this elevator?
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  • And it was totally against my character,
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  • I was totally embarrassed.
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  • - You were like, I'm 19, I'm single.
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  • - And I looked at my mom,
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  • 'cause I was coming up in the elevator,
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  • and Jan walked in front of us, and we got to the top,
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  • and we were going over here to the mall to the restaurant,
  • 00:11:07.090 --> 00:11:10.290
  • and she was going to the elevators of this hotel
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  • that I was not staying on,
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  • and I looked at my mom and I go, "I'll be right back."
  • 00:11:14.180 --> 00:11:17.280
  • And my mom says, "I've never seen that look
  • 00:11:17.280 --> 00:11:20.080
  • "on your face before or since."
  • 00:11:20.080 --> 00:11:22.220
  • - Wow.
  • 00:11:22.220 --> 00:11:23.290
  • - "When you told me you'd be right back,"
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  • and something pushed me and I got in the elevator with Jan,
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  • and I met Matthew that night, and we got married.
  • 00:11:27.280 --> 00:11:31.060
  • - When Laurie was talking about how she was paired together,
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  • her grandmother saw, and she was the one saying,
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  • hey, Matt would be great for you.
  • 00:11:39.180 --> 00:11:42.070
  • And then, Matt's mother, Mrs. Jan, was like,
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  • hey, you'd be great for my son.
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  • That whole model, it was like neon lights again.
  • 00:11:47.110 --> 00:11:51.260
  • And it was so biblical,
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  • and I believe that is the missing ingredient
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  • for a lot of us.
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  • I believe that was a huge missing ingredient
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  • for me and my failed relationships, honestly.
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  • Is that I did not have the foresight,
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  • I didn't have the oversight of someone who knew me
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  • and who could see what I couldn't see.
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  • - Ladies, we are stronger when we stand together.
  • 00:12:13.010 --> 00:12:15.250
  • - That's right.
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  • - That's why this is so much more than just a TV show.
  • 00:12:17.100 --> 00:12:18.260
  • Better Together is a community built
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  • on love and encouragement.
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  • - If you want to link arms with women
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  • who are passionately following Jesus,
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  • follow us at @bettertogethertv.
  • 00:12:25.140 --> 00:12:27.170
  • - We pray for each other, talk about the latest episodes,
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  • and, of course, make new friends.
  • 00:12:30.020 --> 00:12:32.050
  • - And we can't wait to see you there.
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  • - But it shows the power of the Holy Spirit.
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  • It's like we can't eliminate the God factor
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  • within matchmaking and finding the person
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  • that you're supposed to meet up with
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  • and God is going to use you,
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  • because there is a purpose to the match.
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  • You know, if you're a makeup artist
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  • and you're wanting to find that other significant person,
  • 00:12:53.190 --> 00:12:56.270
  • there's a purpose to the match.
  • 00:12:56.270 --> 00:12:58.110
  • If you're an educator, there's a purpose to the match.
  • 00:12:58.110 --> 00:13:00.170
  • If you're someone who's a university student,
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  • there's a purpose to the match.
  • 00:13:02.150 --> 00:13:04.010
  • It's not just for you so you can have sex unlimited
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  • and then go on this hiatus of being an Instagram couple,
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  • that is not the purpose.
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  • The purpose is that God has a purpose
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  • for you that's significant,
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  • that's prominent in the kingdom of God,
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  • and this is what God did over your life.
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  • It's because of your grandmother's prayer.
  • 00:13:20.100 --> 00:13:22.000
  • - I love what you said, though, about submitting.
  • 00:13:22.000 --> 00:13:24.080
  • - Submission, if you look at the word, let's separate it.
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  • Sub means under, mission, mission.
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  • So God has called all of us to a certain mission
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  • here on this earth.
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  • And ladies, when you sub, get under the mission,
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  • submit to your husband, you're getting under the mission
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  • of what God has called your family to do,
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  • your legacy to do, generations after you to do.
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  • So when a man gets down on his knees,
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  • he's saying, will you accept my mission?
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  • And then you say, and you say yes, or you say no.
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  • - And that's what we need more of, I mean it's biblical,
  • 00:13:51.150 --> 00:13:53.290
  • like you're saying, you see it with the Naomi and the Ruth.
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  • You had your grandmother speaking into your life,
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  • you had older people saying this is a good match,
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  • this is a good pair.
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  • We need that.
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  • Because I think in our culture,
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  • we feel like we can find them ourselves.
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  • We can say yes to those to say that they have found us.
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  • And that's not always, we don't always make wise choices.
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  • So I'm in a position now, I'm like, Lord you choose him.
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  • And then confirm it among your people.
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  • Wise counsel, the sisterhood, the brotherhood,
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  • let them say, yay, we believe this is a good match.
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  • It took me a while to wake up,
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  • and I am in a place right now where I'm like,
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  • Lord, I want your godly counsel.
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  • There's safety there, as the scripture says.
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  • So I'm not trying to pick anybody,
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  • I'm letting God do the picking,
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  • saying okay, this is who I have for you.
  • 00:14:39.190 --> 00:14:42.000
  • And I want it to be confirmed with godly counsel.
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  • And I pray that God would do the same for you.
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  • Especially as singles,
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  • so I'm speaking to my singles right now.
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  • I pray that you would yield your life,
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  • your, I wanna say sex life,
  • 00:14:52.240 --> 00:14:55.230
  • but I pray that it's a non-sex life
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  • until you got a ring on it, you know what I'm talking about?
  • 00:14:57.240 --> 00:15:00.200
  • So we as believers in Christ, especially as singles,
  • 00:15:00.200 --> 00:15:03.280
  • we're called to shut it down until the Lord says,
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  • okay, now it's time, until death do you part,
  • 00:15:06.190 --> 00:15:09.010
  • then that part is opened up.
  • 00:15:09.010 --> 00:15:10.210
  • But that again, those things should be yielded,
  • 00:15:10.210 --> 00:15:13.180
  • the accountability of it, to those who are there
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  • to give you wise counsel.
  • 00:15:17.260 --> 00:15:19.040
  • Those who have had success.
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  • Those who know what the word of God says.
  • 00:15:20.130 --> 00:15:22.110
  • And those who are looking out for you.
  • 00:15:22.110 --> 00:15:23.260
  • So wise counsel, at this stage of my life, is everything.
  • 00:15:23.260 --> 00:15:27.260
  • - You've made me think of a story,
  • 00:15:29.010 --> 00:15:30.170
  • the way that you got introduced with your husband.
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  • I thought of a story.
  • 00:15:33.120 --> 00:15:34.250
  • And I think if you're married, even if you are single,
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  • especially in ministry,
  • 00:15:37.200 --> 00:15:39.040
  • to be open to the leading of the Holy Spirit
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  • when you're on the road.
  • 00:15:41.150 --> 00:15:42.260
  • So I was preaching in South Carolina,
  • 00:15:42.260 --> 00:15:45.090
  • and a young woman came to my speaking engagement.
  • 00:15:45.090 --> 00:15:48.070
  • And I remember I did an altar call, and she came up.
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  • And I'm praying over different people,
  • 00:15:51.150 --> 00:15:53.100
  • but I was being led by the Lord who to pray for
  • 00:15:53.100 --> 00:15:56.030
  • and to hear what was going on in their life.
  • 00:15:56.030 --> 00:15:58.010
  • And the Lord said just don't pray for her.
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  • She's kinda up here just for me.
  • 00:16:00.200 --> 00:16:02.050
  • So I said, all right, I'm gonna leave that alone.
  • 00:16:02.050 --> 00:16:03.200
  • So I go to my book signing, and she comes in the line,
  • 00:16:03.200 --> 00:16:06.000
  • and the Lord says, ask her if she's single.
  • 00:16:06.000 --> 00:16:08.030
  • What?
  • 00:16:08.030 --> 00:16:09.090
  • And He's like, I have somebody for her,
  • 00:16:09.090 --> 00:16:10.210
  • and He showed me my husband's friend.
  • 00:16:10.210 --> 00:16:12.120
  • - Aww! - Wow!
  • 00:16:12.120 --> 00:16:13.260
  • - And so I said to her, I have the perfect man for you.
  • 00:16:13.260 --> 00:16:15.190
  • She was like, what?
  • 00:16:15.190 --> 00:16:16.260
  • Did not know me, I did not know her whatsoever.
  • 00:16:16.260 --> 00:16:18.200
  • - That's hysterical.
  • 00:16:18.200 --> 00:16:19.270
  • - And so I said, yeah, I know your husband.
  • 00:16:19.270 --> 00:16:21.190
  • And she was like, what?
  • 00:16:21.190 --> 00:16:23.030
  • And I was like, wait, I'm sorry, are you single?
  • 00:16:23.030 --> 00:16:25.100
  • (laughter)
  • 00:16:25.100 --> 00:16:27.280
  • And she said, yes?
  • 00:16:27.280 --> 00:16:29.160
  • I said, I'm signing her book, the book that she,
  • 00:16:29.160 --> 00:16:33.070
  • one of my books.
  • 00:16:33.070 --> 00:16:34.210
  • So I said, I'm putting my email address on here.
  • 00:16:34.210 --> 00:16:36.240
  • Email me your information.
  • 00:16:36.240 --> 00:16:38.030
  • - Wow.
  • 00:16:38.030 --> 00:16:39.010
  • - And so she's like, okay.
  • 00:16:39.010 --> 00:16:40.150
  • I said, no, really, I know who your husband is.
  • 00:16:40.150 --> 00:16:41.240
  • And she was like, okay.
  • 00:16:41.240 --> 00:16:43.200
  • And so she leaves, and then I leave, and I saw my husband
  • 00:16:43.200 --> 00:16:47.030
  • who was with one of his friends, and I said,
  • 00:16:47.030 --> 00:16:48.210
  • I met your wife today.
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  • He's like, no you didn't.
  • 00:16:49.290 --> 00:16:51.050
  • I said, no, the Lord made it so clear to me.
  • 00:16:51.050 --> 00:16:53.080
  • Do you know four months later, they got married.
  • 00:16:53.080 --> 00:16:54.240
  • - Ah!
  • 00:16:54.240 --> 00:16:56.060
  • - I'm sorry, four months later they got engaged,
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  • six months later they got married.
  • 00:16:57.130 --> 00:16:58.080
  • - Wow! - [Bianca] Wow!
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  • (laughter)
  • 00:16:59.150 --> 00:17:01.020
  • - People, you don't need people you can trust?
  • 00:17:01.020 --> 00:17:03.100
  • That's what I'm saying!
  • 00:17:03.100 --> 00:17:04.170
  • - And now I have like seven,
  • 00:17:04.170 --> 00:17:06.000
  • at least seven or eight couples, have gotten married.
  • 00:17:06.000 --> 00:17:07.150
  • Godly couples. - I did not have that.
  • 00:17:07.150 --> 00:17:08.290
  • I did not do that, but I will. - Be open to your friends
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  • that are wanting to get married.
  • 00:17:12.010 --> 00:17:14.080
  • Being led by the Holy Spirit to say,
  • 00:17:14.080 --> 00:17:15.290
  • I was not thinking, let me hook him up.
  • 00:17:15.290 --> 00:17:18.030
  • I was there to preach.
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  • I'm at the altar, laying hands.
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  • That wasn't on my mind.
  • 00:17:21.150 --> 00:17:23.240
  • It sounded crazy to ask her in my book signing,
  • 00:17:23.240 --> 00:17:27.020
  • if, hey, are you single?
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  • Do you have a man?
  • 00:17:29.000 --> 00:17:29.280
  • But, just being led by the Lord.
  • 00:17:29.280 --> 00:17:32.100
  • I think when you meet a person, you don't know yet
  • 00:17:32.100 --> 00:17:34.220
  • if you can do life with them.
  • 00:17:34.220 --> 00:17:36.060
  • I think we should be led by the Holy Spirit.
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  • So when I would meet guys, I would shake their hands,
  • 00:17:37.260 --> 00:17:39.290
  • and the Holy Spirit would be like, nope that's not it.
  • 00:17:39.290 --> 00:17:42.140
  • First of all, why are you in my thoughts?
  • 00:17:42.140 --> 00:17:44.140
  • You know what I mean?
  • 00:17:44.140 --> 00:17:45.210
  • But as ladies, we're just ready to go.
  • 00:17:45.210 --> 00:17:47.060
  • We're at the altar, around the corner,
  • 00:17:47.060 --> 00:17:48.210
  • right after we just met him, so I had to slow down
  • 00:17:48.210 --> 00:17:51.000
  • with each person that I met to make sure.
  • 00:17:51.000 --> 00:17:53.150
  • But it took me time to see, with my husband,
  • 00:17:53.150 --> 00:17:56.030
  • so when I knew he was God's best for me,
  • 00:17:56.030 --> 00:17:58.140
  • it still took time to see if I could do life with him.
  • 00:17:58.140 --> 00:18:00.220
  • Because I didn't know him, it took time and energy.
  • 00:18:00.220 --> 00:18:03.170
  • So after about six months, I was sure.
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  • Like when he proposes, I'm saying yeah, you know?
  • 00:18:05.290 --> 00:18:08.150
  • I knew he was God's best, but I need some fruit
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  • to back it up.
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  • And that comes with time to see
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  • if you can do life with that person.
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  • Does that mean you date around to see?
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  • No, I think, you know what you don't like.
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  • You don't like dysfunction, you don't like drama.
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  • You don't like craziness.
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  • You want somebody that you can enjoy.
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  • But the reality is that nobody's perfect,
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  • so it's just taking life one day at a time.
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  • - Let me tell you what I'm looking for.
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  • Like, not just like the description of the man,
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  • but the type of relationship.
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  • Like I really want what my mom and dad had, I really do.
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  • I remember my parents got remarried,
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  • or they renewed their vows at their 50th at our little farm.
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  • And then for their 54th anniversary,
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  • my mom said to my dad,
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  • so have you planned anything for us to do?
  • 00:18:53.050 --> 00:18:55.090
  • And he said, well, yeah, well, I really would love,
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  • and she's thinking like a cruise
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  • or to the beach or something.
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  • He's like, I would really like for us to back to Cincinnati,
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  • where we all grew up, and just the two of us,
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  • and I would love to go to a Red's game,
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  • and to King's Island amusement park, I'd love to go,
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  • you know, just he's sorta naming all these things
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  • that he wanted to do that were kinda like,
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  • you would do as a teenager.
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  • And my mom was kinda like, well, okay,
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  • this is not really what I thought.
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  • But the Lord put on her heart,
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  • and He said, go, agree, and to take a good attitude.
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  • And so she thought, okay,
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  • this is the man I've loved for 54 years,
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  • I'm gonna go hang out with him, and so she decided to do it.
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  • They didn't tell anybody where they went.
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  • And they made all these little stops.
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  • My dad was walking, he said,
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  • I was at the amusement park with your mom
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  • and I got a little winded,
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  • and she would stop and she would sit on the bench with me.
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  • And we didn't ride any rides,
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  • we just got popcorn and we got our favorite things,
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  • and we just hung out and saw the shows.
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  • And he came back and he bragged
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  • about how he loved that date, that time with her.
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  • And it wasn't exactly what she wanted,
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  • but because she loved him so, she did what he wanted,
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  • and it became something special for the both of them.
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  • Six months later, my dad went to heaven to be with the Lord.
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  • And that's one of my mom's favorite dates now,
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  • and she said, you know what,
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  • I'm so glad that I did not complain.
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  • I'm so glad that I didn't insist on doing what I wanted,
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  • or what would have been super special to me.
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  • But that because I cared for him enough,
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  • I went to the amusement park and got turkey legs,
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  • and all the things like that.
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  • And so for me, I want somebody that I can do life with.
  • 00:20:34.280 --> 00:20:39.270
  • Not just highlights, not just the,
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  • I want, of course, the cruises, and I travel anyway.
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  • But somebody to do life, to do the mundane,
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  • and to do the special.
  • 00:20:50.250 --> 00:20:53.050
  • And so for me, the other things are secondary.
  • 00:20:53.050 --> 00:20:57.110
  • But I want to date,
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  • and I want to be dated,
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  • but I don't want to date multiple people.
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  • When it comes to the men and the women,
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  • the men are supposed to chase,
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  • they're supposed to be the pursuers.
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  • And I believe that's how it's supposed to be,
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  • with us, especially as single women too,
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  • we're not supposed to spend our energy--
  • 00:21:12.220 --> 00:21:14.160
  • - Trying to get attention from them.
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  • - [Dianna] There's millions of them too.
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  • - [Nicole] Exactly!
  • 00:21:16.000 --> 00:21:16.100
  • No, exactly!
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  • If they find us worthy, then let them run.
  • 00:21:17.250 --> 00:21:21.010
  • - I think every girl wants to be pursued by the man,
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  • I just think that's just normal.
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  • I think about God and His love pursuing us.
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  • So we all want to be chosen.
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  • There's some deepened desire down inside us
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  • that we want to be chose every single day.
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  • I wake up to Matt and go, choose me today! (laughing)
  • 00:21:44.210 --> 00:21:47.280
  • But yeah, I think that's a very real thing to be pursued.
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  • - I'm saying yes and amen to the pursuit,
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  • I'm saying yes and amen to the chase.
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  • For those that don't know the biblical narrative
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  • between Ruth and Naomi, she kinda played a Yenta.
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  • And she sent her daughter-in-law down
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  • to the threshing floor, hey, go make yourself available.
  • 00:22:03.080 --> 00:22:05.170
  • But it's that wisdom of a friend,
  • 00:22:05.170 --> 00:22:07.060
  • and sometimes we wonder, why are we single?
  • 00:22:07.060 --> 00:22:09.230
  • What does it look like to ask a friend,
  • 00:22:09.230 --> 00:22:11.260
  • are there some areas in my life that I can improve?
  • 00:22:11.260 --> 00:22:14.220
  • Because the wisdom that Naomi gave Ruth was,
  • 00:22:14.220 --> 00:22:17.210
  • I mean, this was the Bianca international version, BIV,
  • 00:22:17.210 --> 00:22:20.210
  • but she said, go wash yourself.
  • 00:22:20.210 --> 00:22:22.240
  • - Clean up, smell good.
  • 00:22:22.240 --> 00:22:24.030
  • - Go change your clothes and put on perfume.
  • 00:22:24.030 --> 00:22:25.040
  • - Absolutely.
  • 00:22:25.040 --> 00:22:26.120
  • - But what I love is, she put it out there,
  • 00:22:26.120 --> 00:22:28.130
  • and it was his to pursue.
  • 00:22:28.130 --> 00:22:30.050
  • The next day, the very next day, he is at that corner
  • 00:22:30.050 --> 00:22:33.070
  • at the city gate, he wants to make a deal.
  • 00:22:33.070 --> 00:22:35.110
  • He became shrewd Boaz.
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  • There's a decision, I want this woman.
  • 00:22:36.230 --> 00:22:38.030
  • Do you want her?
  • 00:22:38.030 --> 00:22:39.020
  • Say yes, say no, but she's mine,
  • 00:22:39.020 --> 00:22:40.160
  • and I'll inherit her bitter mother-in-law as well.
  • 00:22:40.160 --> 00:22:41.290
  • So I do want the pursuit, I do want the chase.
  • 00:22:41.290 --> 00:22:44.270
  • - Absolutely.
  • 00:22:44.270 --> 00:22:46.110
  • - I also want women to feel empowered to be like,
  • 00:22:46.110 --> 00:22:47.240
  • hey, I'm sensing you might be attracted to me--
  • 00:22:47.240 --> 00:22:49.250
  • - He showed interest first,
  • 00:22:49.250 --> 00:22:50.290
  • but he showed interest in her first,
  • 00:22:50.290 --> 00:22:52.060
  • she came and laid at his feet, you're right.
  • 00:22:52.060 --> 00:22:54.100
  • But it wasn't that she found somebody and said I like him--
  • 00:22:54.100 --> 00:22:56.010
  • - He noticed her out in the field.
  • 00:22:56.010 --> 00:22:57.150
  • - 'Cause a lot of women are like, I like him, he looks good,
  • 00:22:57.150 --> 00:22:59.290
  • he's on TV, let me go after him.
  • 00:22:59.290 --> 00:23:02.070
  • You didn't do that with Matt, your grandmother saw that.
  • 00:23:02.070 --> 00:23:04.260
  • You didn't say, oh I want Matt.
  • 00:23:04.260 --> 00:23:06.130
  • You know what I'm saying, you didn't just pick somebody
  • 00:23:06.130 --> 00:23:08.070
  • and say you're gonna be mine,
  • 00:23:08.070 --> 00:23:09.180
  • Boaz showed favor toward her first,
  • 00:23:09.180 --> 00:23:11.200
  • then she felt comfortable to say, all right Naomi,
  • 00:23:11.200 --> 00:23:13.260
  • I'm gonna do what you said.
  • 00:23:13.260 --> 00:23:15.020
  • - I think that there's an active waiting,
  • 00:23:15.020 --> 00:23:16.250
  • where we say, God, it's your will above my will.
  • 00:23:16.250 --> 00:23:19.210
  • It's in your time, not my time.
  • 00:23:19.210 --> 00:23:21.180
  • But I'm ready, and I'm willing, and I'm open.
  • 00:23:21.180 --> 00:23:24.060
  • So when you find that perfect person for me,
  • 00:23:24.060 --> 00:23:26.250
  • I'm gonna be waiting, I'm gonna be right here.
  • 00:23:26.250 --> 00:23:28.160
  • I'm gonna do the work on me,
  • 00:23:28.160 --> 00:23:29.230
  • so that if you so bring some amazing Boaz
  • 00:23:29.230 --> 00:23:32.270
  • to come and swoop me up, I will say yes and amen.
  • 00:23:32.270 --> 00:23:36.170
  • - Really at the end of the day,
  • 00:23:36.170 --> 00:23:37.280
  • he has us and he has new life for us,
  • 00:23:37.280 --> 00:23:39.190
  • and that's what I'm believing because God is good.
  • 00:23:39.190 --> 00:23:41.240
  • I'm not who I was in my twenties.
  • 00:23:41.240 --> 00:23:43.070
  • My dumb mistakes were all made in my twenties.
  • 00:23:43.070 --> 00:23:45.210
  • I didn't make the same mistakes in my thirties,
  • 00:23:45.210 --> 00:23:47.120
  • and I didn't make the same mistakes in my forties.
  • 00:23:47.120 --> 00:23:49.040
  • I'm 52 now--
  • 00:23:49.040 --> 00:23:50.080
  • - You look good, honey. - [Bianca] Yes.
  • 00:23:50.080 --> 00:23:51.240
  • - Thank you, thank you.
  • 00:23:51.240 --> 00:23:53.090
  • So it's been decades since I made those dumb mistakes,
  • 00:23:53.090 --> 00:23:54.290
  • and I pray I never make them again.
  • 00:23:54.290 --> 00:23:56.110
  • - Amen.
  • 00:23:56.110 --> 00:23:57.240
  • - So I'm in a place right now where I'm like,
  • 00:23:57.240 --> 00:23:58.290
  • Lord, then you do it.
  • 00:23:58.290 --> 00:24:01.120
  • I'm submitted to you, I'm yielded to you,
  • 00:24:01.120 --> 00:24:04.030
  • and I trust the wisdom of the sisterhood
  • 00:24:04.030 --> 00:24:07.100
  • and the brotherhood,
  • 00:24:07.100 --> 00:24:08.240
  • to say yay, nay, red flags, I've known this one for a while,
  • 00:24:08.240 --> 00:24:12.120
  • they're good to go.
  • 00:24:12.120 --> 00:24:13.190
  • I'd love to pray for you who feel like,
  • 00:24:13.190 --> 00:24:16.180
  • you know, I've just messed up,
  • 00:24:16.180 --> 00:24:18.190
  • and I've messed up again, and again and again.
  • 00:24:18.190 --> 00:24:22.030
  • And is there any hope?
  • 00:24:22.030 --> 00:24:24.060
  • Can God forgive me, can he redeem me?
  • 00:24:24.060 --> 00:24:26.020
  • Does he have anything good left for me?
  • 00:24:26.020 --> 00:24:27.270
  • I'd love to pray over you because the answer is yes,
  • 00:24:27.270 --> 00:24:31.040
  • he does have something great for you.
  • 00:24:31.040 --> 00:24:32.260
  • He can redeem, he can heal, he does forgive.
  • 00:24:32.260 --> 00:24:36.140
  • And so, Father, in the name of Jesus,
  • 00:24:36.140 --> 00:24:37.270
  • I thank you so much for my sisters,
  • 00:24:37.270 --> 00:24:39.260
  • and even for my brothers who might be looking in, Lord.
  • 00:24:39.260 --> 00:24:42.130
  • I thank you for those who may feel
  • 00:24:42.130 --> 00:24:44.220
  • like they've just missed it,
  • 00:24:44.220 --> 00:24:46.240
  • that they've just blown it again,
  • 00:24:46.240 --> 00:24:49.050
  • and that they've made too many mistakes for you
  • 00:24:49.050 --> 00:24:51.020
  • to have something good for them
  • 00:24:51.020 --> 00:24:52.090
  • in the area of a love relationship.
  • 00:24:52.090 --> 00:24:54.230
  • Lord I pray that even in this moment
  • 00:24:54.230 --> 00:24:56.070
  • that they would feel your forgiveness
  • 00:24:56.070 --> 00:24:57.190
  • and they would receive it for their lives.
  • 00:24:57.190 --> 00:25:00.060
  • I pray that they would experience redemption,
  • 00:25:00.060 --> 00:25:02.050
  • where you make the exchange with them for their failures
  • 00:25:02.050 --> 00:25:05.210
  • and you give them something good,
  • 00:25:05.210 --> 00:25:06.280
  • because you're strong enough to buy them back.
  • 00:25:06.280 --> 00:25:09.160
  • You're strong enough to buy back our failures, Lord.
  • 00:25:09.160 --> 00:25:11.220
  • And so, Lord, I pray for them.
  • 00:25:11.220 --> 00:25:13.120
  • I pray that they would be encouraged,
  • 00:25:13.120 --> 00:25:14.270
  • I pray that they would strengthen what remains.
  • 00:25:14.270 --> 00:25:18.040
  • I pray that they would begin to consume your word, Lord.
  • 00:25:18.040 --> 00:25:20.280
  • I pray that they would be thirsty for you.
  • 00:25:20.280 --> 00:25:23.270
  • Thirty for you, and that they would see
  • 00:25:23.270 --> 00:25:25.180
  • that you are satisfying,
  • 00:25:25.180 --> 00:25:27.090
  • that you give us exactly what we need, Lord.
  • 00:25:27.090 --> 00:25:29.230
  • So, Lord, I pray for them.
  • 00:25:29.230 --> 00:25:31.070
  • I pray that even in this time that you would bring them
  • 00:25:31.070 --> 00:25:33.060
  • the right friend circle, Lord.
  • 00:25:33.060 --> 00:25:34.210
  • That they would have the right brothers and sisters
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  • to fortify them, to help them walk upright.
  • 00:25:36.150 --> 00:25:39.070
  • I pray that they would guard their hearts,
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  • and that they would yield it only to you,
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  • and allow you to tell them what to do with that,
  • 00:25:42.250 --> 00:25:45.150
  • and when to do.
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  • So again, Lord, I thank you because you love them.
  • 00:25:47.000 --> 00:25:48.230
  • You have a great plan for them.
  • 00:25:48.230 --> 00:25:50.080
  • You're not mad at them.
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  • You still have a great plan A for them
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  • even though they feel like they've shattered it.
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  • Lord, show them that they have not even touched,
  • 00:25:55.240 --> 00:25:57.210
  • they have not even scratched the surface
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  • on what you want to do and what you're gonna do.
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  • So Lord, may we be yielded to you in this moment.
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  • May we be yielded to you even in our future
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  • because we commit it all to you.
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  • In the name of Jesus.
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  • Amen.
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