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Created for Relationship | Better Together

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September 16, 2019
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You were not created to be alone! Let's talk about the necessity of healthy relationships, love languages, and more! | TBN Prayer Line: 1-888-731-1000

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  • - We are hardwired for relationship.
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    • - We are hardwired for relationship.
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    • So what does intimacy mean to you?
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    • So what does intimacy mean to you?
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    • C'mon, let's talk about it.
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    • C'mon, let's talk about it.
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    • (light cheery music)
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    • - So friends the conversation
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    • - So friends the conversation
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    • we want to address today is relationship.
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    • we want to address today is relationship.
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    • Why do we crave relationship? - [Woman] Ooh, yeah.
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    • Why do we crave relationship? - [Woman] Ooh, yeah.
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    • - And I think just as like a foundation
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    • - And I think just as like a foundation
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    • for our conversation this morning
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    • for our conversation this morning
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    • is this is a God-given need.
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    • is this is a God-given need.
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    • (women agreeing)
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    • (women agreeing)
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    • A God-given desire.
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    • A God-given desire.
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    • So if we want to be in a relationship
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    • So if we want to be in a relationship
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    • but it doesn't feel like we're like,
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    • but it doesn't feel like we're like,
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    • thirsty or needy.
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    • thirsty or needy.
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    • - Right.
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    • - Right.
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    • - We really do, we need God.
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    • - We really do, we need God.
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    • And we see this in the Book of Genesis
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    • And we see this in the Book of Genesis
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    • when God says, "Let us make man in our image."
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    • when God says, "Let us make man in our image."
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    • - So we know that God was in the beginning
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    • - So we know that God was in the beginning
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    • of the foundation of the earth.
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    • of the foundation of the earth.
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    • And the first thing that God said wasn't good
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    • And the first thing that God said wasn't good
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    • was that man was alone.
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    • was that man was alone.
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    • - [Women] Yeah.
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    • - [Women] Yeah.
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    • - And so he made someone for him
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    • - And so he made someone for him
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    • and I want to pull the conversation up
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    • and I want to pull the conversation up
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    • that's not just dating relationship
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    • that's not just dating relationship
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    • but even just friendships.
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    • but even just friendships.
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    • Why do we crave friendships
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    • Why do we crave friendships
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    • and foster friendships in our lives?
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    • and foster friendships in our lives?
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    • - Well I'll be honest, when I first got saved
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    • - Well I'll be honest, when I first got saved
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    • I had the wrong understanding with my godly friends.
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    • I had the wrong understanding with my godly friends.
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    • I would glean onto them and I would grab onto them.
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    • I would glean onto them and I would grab onto them.
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    • (woman singing) Right.
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    • (woman singing) Right.
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    • (laughing)
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    • And I would depend on them more than I depended on the Lord.
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    • And I would depend on them more than I depended on the Lord.
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    • So I learned that I had to get my foundation
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    • So I learned that I had to get my foundation
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    • right with God first.
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    • right with God first.
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    • Like I had to learn to seek Him.
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    • Like I had to learn to seek Him.
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    • He would make it so my friends didn't answer.
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    • He would make it so my friends didn't answer.
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    • And I would run to them every time I had an issue.
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    • And I would run to them every time I had an issue.
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    • Every time I had a problem I'd pick up the phone
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    • Every time I had a problem I'd pick up the phone
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    • and I'd call a friend, "what do you think?"
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    • and I'd call a friend, "what do you think?"
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    • Instead I didn't acknowledge the Lord in all my ways.
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    • Instead I didn't acknowledge the Lord in all my ways.
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    • So I learned that you know what?
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    • So I learned that you know what?
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    • My friends are great but I need to make sure
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    • My friends are great but I need to make sure
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    • my foundation is right and that is that I know the Lord.
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    • my foundation is right and that is that I know the Lord.
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    • Every time I was lonely, I found the Lord
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    • Every time I was lonely, I found the Lord
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    • drawing me back to Him.
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    • drawing me back to Him.
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    • So after I feel like I got my foundation
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    • So after I feel like I got my foundation
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    • right with the Lord, then I started
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    • right with the Lord, then I started
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    • getting godly friends.
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    • getting godly friends.
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    • 'Cause I wasn't scaring 'em away.
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    • 'Cause I wasn't scaring 'em away.
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    • - [Woman] Yeah. - By being needy.
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    • - [Woman] Yeah. - By being needy.
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    • And thinkin' they could solve all my problems and issues.
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    • And thinkin' they could solve all my problems and issues.
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    • "You didn't call me."
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    • "You didn't call me."
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    • You know what I'm sayin'?
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    • You know what I'm sayin'?
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    • Like, "you were about to hang out with me."
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    • Like, "you were about to hang out with me."
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    • - Exactly, "did I do something? Did I say something?"
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    • - Exactly, "did I do something? Did I say something?"
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    • - Exactly.
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    • - Exactly.
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    • If you don't get your butt up and serve.
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    • If you don't get your butt up and serve.
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    • (laughing)
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    • (laughing)
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    • Like get busy about doing the work and the history.
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    • Like get busy about doing the work and the history.
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    • And so I found in godly friends is that I learned
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    • And so I found in godly friends is that I learned
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    • to the point where I was mature, you know what I mean?
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    • to the point where I was mature, you know what I mean?
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    • That I could bring something
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    • That I could bring something
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    • to the table of the friendship, you know what I mean?
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    • to the table of the friendship, you know what I mean?
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    • Like how can I be a better friend, you know so.
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    • Like how can I be a better friend, you know so.
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    • - Yeah.
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    • - Yeah.
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    • - I think it's just a journey of learn in Christ.
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    • - I think it's just a journey of learn in Christ.
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    • Depending on him for everything
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    • Depending on him for everything
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    • and then beginning to foster healthy godly relationships.
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    • and then beginning to foster healthy godly relationships.
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    • I first got saved in 2003 and I had really one friend
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    • I first got saved in 2003 and I had really one friend
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    • that was saved and I called my friend about
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    • that was saved and I called my friend about
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    • all my issues and all my problems.
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    • all my issues and all my problems.
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    • I probably was super needy.
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    • I probably was super needy.
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    • And I was looking to them as my only example
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    • And I was looking to them as my only example
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    • of you know, what a Christian was
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    • of you know, what a Christian was
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    • and I was really being hard on them
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    • and I was really being hard on them
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    • about their lifestyle because I felt like
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    • about their lifestyle because I felt like
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    • they were my God.
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    • they were my God.
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    • Friends make terrible gods all right?
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    • Friends make terrible gods all right?
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    • So I had to learn in that moment
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    • So I had to learn in that moment
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    • that my friend is human too.
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    • that my friend is human too.
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    • She's not perfect and Jesus died for her
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    • She's not perfect and Jesus died for her
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    • sins like he died for mine.
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    • sins like he died for mine.
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    • that's just after my man right?
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    • Friends are you know, they've been my life-line.
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    • - Yeah I think you're love language matters.
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    • Like I found out my love language is for my friends.
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    • - What's your love language?
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    • - What's your love language?
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    • - My love language is touch an quality time.
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    • - My love language is touch an quality time.
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    • - Okay. - All right so,
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    • - Okay. - All right so,
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    • with my friends I feel most loved when we're spending
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    • time together and also acts of service.
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    • Like you come help me hold my kid.
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    • [Women] Yes! Yeah!
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    • So my best friends come over to my house
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    • and I can't get out as much and they'll hold my kid
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    • while I make vegan spreads for them.
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    • It's a great exchange because they love
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    • quality time and acts of service so,
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    • finding out your friends love languages
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    • And that's what I've done and it's worked for me.
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    • - So for those that aren't familiar with Dr. Gary Chapman
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    • wrote a book Five Love Languages
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    • wrote a book Five Love Languages
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    • and I think that one he did not list was
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    • number six which is food.
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    • number six which is food.
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    • (laughing) Shared meals together.
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    • Acts of service, quality time altogether
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    • but if you can't cook, I don't want to spend
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    • my time with you.
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    • - So we talked about Five Love Languages.
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    • - So we talked about Five Love Languages.
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    • It's acts of service, quality time, physical touch,
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    • words of affirmation and gifts.
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    • And I feel like I'm love-lingual.
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    • Just give me it all.
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    • - [All] Yes! Love-lingual!
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    • - [All] Yes! Love-lingual!
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    • - When my husband Matt and I were engaged,
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    • - When my husband Matt and I were engaged,
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    • we had to take this test through
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    • we had to take this test through
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    • our pre-marital counseling.
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    • our pre-marital counseling.
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    • And it was to discover what language
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    • of the five love languages we each possessed.
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    • of the five love languages we each possessed.
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    • I kid you not, I know I sound dramatic.
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    • I ranked super high on four of the five gifts.
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    • I ranked super high on four of the five gifts.
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    • My lowest gift was quality time.
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    • My lowest gift was quality time.
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    • And guess which one was my husband's highest?
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    • And guess which one was my husband's highest?
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    • Quality time.
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    • We could not be further than opposite.
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    • But at the very very top, I think physical touch
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    • and words of affirmation are my top two languages.
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    • and words of affirmation are my top two languages.
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    • - It's so funny 'cause Matt and I just read that book.
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    • - It's so funny 'cause Matt and I just read that book.
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    • It's always been around the house for what?
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    • It's always been around the house for what?
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    • 30 some years and we finally read
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    • 30 some years and we finally read
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    • through the whole thing together not too long ago
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    • through the whole thing together not too long ago
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    • and we just we're dyin' laughing
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    • because you know, being married 35 years
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    • and then reading the book is pretty humorous
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    • and it's like, "oh you were supposed to do that?"
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    • - Well there's the question.
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    • - Well there's the question.
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    • - Well I was tellin' him going, "look I don't know
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    • "which one." 'cause I do love all five
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    • "which one." 'cause I do love all five
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    • "so do not stop all five."
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    • I was afraid he'd quit one you know it's like, mm-mm.
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    • I was afraid he'd quit one you know it's like, mm-mm.
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    • - Certain seasons pull on different love languages.
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    • - Certain seasons pull on different love languages.
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    • - [Woman] That's true.
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    • - [Woman] That's true.
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    • - Like acts of service, but maybe in the future
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    • - Like acts of service, but maybe in the future
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    • we're out of the diapers and you know,
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    • they've gotten a little bit older.
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    • Believe me that season will pass
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    • Believe me that season will pass
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    • and you're gonna enjoy it even more.
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    • It's gonna be fun.
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    • But for me like right now, it's I'm a gift giver,
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    • I love giving gifts. - [All] Yes you are.
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    • - And so I like to lavish my friends with gifts.
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    • - So I'll give you my dress. - [Woman] Right?
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    • - So I'll give you my dress. - [Woman] Right?
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    • - Go ahead girl.
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    • - Go ahead girl.
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    • - Size eight shoes.
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    • - [All] Yeah!
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    • - But that's how I love my friends.
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    • - I love that. - I have one close friend.
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    • Kelly Murdock, I love you love you love you.
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    • We've been best friend since high school.
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    • - Oh I love that. - We were in choir together.
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    • We were ministered by the same music teacher together.
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    • So I've had a life-long friend through
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    • the journey and the course of my life.
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    • - Still love you.
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    • And for me, she has been such a blessing
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    • - [Woman] Oh amazing.
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    • - [Woman] Oh amazing.
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    • I'm in the people business.
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    • I'm a pastor, I'm a pastor's wife,
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    • a pastor leading a whole congregation alongside my husband.
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    • There are, for a female psyche just to give you a glimspse
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    • you know, you pour out, you pour out, you pour out
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    • So words of affirmation really does fill the love tank
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    • in my world and the next add girl's art, you know.
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    • - For me, I think it's words of affirmation
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    • which is probably one of my love languages.
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    • So I love to encourage people.
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    • I love to see the good and say you can become, you can do.
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    • Also acts of service.
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    • So how can I serve?
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    • Extremely well, they really do.
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    • And I love that but it's also something
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    • that I love to do for them too so.
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    • Gifts, I like gifts I really do
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    • but I'm just you know, like I'm not
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    • for me to like you.
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    • But if you were to help me with something
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    • now you have my affections.
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    • But I love yours too, so size eight.
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    • But I love yours too, so size eight.
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    • (laughing)
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    • - [Woman] Let's see some products rolling.
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    • - [Woman] Let's see some products rolling.
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    • - I'm not saying it doesn't speak to me.
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    • And I like spending time but for me time
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    • is one of those commodities honestly
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    • that I feel like I have such a shortage of.
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    • - That's real.
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    • - That's real.
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    • "You spell love T-I-M-E."
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    • You know but for me that's not.
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    • You can give me a little bit of your time
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    • and I would feel loved.
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    • You don't have to give me a lot of it,
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    • just a little matters to me.
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    • you know what I'm saying?
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    • I mean honestly, will it not suffice?
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    • But everybody's languages are different.
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    • - Ladies we are stronger when we stand together.
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    • - Ladies we are stronger when we stand together.
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    • - That's right.
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    • - That's right.
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    • - That's why this is so much more than just a TV show.
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    • - That's why this is so much more than just a TV show.
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    • Better Together is a community built on love
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    • Better Together is a community built on love
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    • and encouragement.
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    • - If you wanna link arms with women who are passionately
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    • - If you wanna link arms with women who are passionately
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    • following Jesus, follow us @bettertogethertv.
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    • following Jesus, follow us @bettertogethertv.
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    • - [Woman] We pray for each other, talk about the latest
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    • - [Woman] We pray for each other, talk about the latest
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    • episodes, and of course, make new friends.
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    • episodes, and of course, make new friends.
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    • - And we can't wait to see you there.
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    • - And we can't wait to see you there.
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    • - If I could describe my personality in one word,
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    • I'd have to say, fiery.
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    • My husband likes to say that we're like chips and salsa.
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    • He's white and salty and I bring the heat.
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    • I'm gonna go with fiery.
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    • - This is one of our viewers on Instagram, she wrote
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    • - This is one of our viewers on Instagram, she wrote
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    • "why do I want to be loved by someone,
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    • "should I open up my heart to that feeling?"
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    • Yes!
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    • - Well we kicked off the show with this concept
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    • - Well we kicked off the show with this concept
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    • of God creating us for community.
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    • And so that feeling is very natural.
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    • Don't negate or squash that feeling.
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    • I think open yourself up, not to someone or anyone.
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    • Exactly.
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    • Be careful.
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    • But I think this a great way to kind of dove tail
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    • the conversation but our lack of intimacy,
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    • our of lack of relationship, our desire for community
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    • is fostered by God who fashioned us
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    • and designed us for that.
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    • So be in intimate relationship with your creator,
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    • the only person who's gonna fully know you.
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    • I love my husband, he doesn't know all my crazy.
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    • But God does.
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    • And so being in a relationship with God first
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    • and it removes anyone from trying to complete you
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    • or understand you 'cause they won't
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    • in the way that God can.
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    • - Going back to what you said Bianca,
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    • That's not good, so he brought about
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    • and looked all over the place.
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    • He's not matched up with animals.
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    • He's not matched up with anybody else
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    • so God created a woman.
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    • Took a rib out of Adam's side and fashioned a woman
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    • and brought the woman to him.
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    • And so there's this ache in every person to be known.
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    • To be known.
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    • Just like God in his triune being he was known.
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    • And with Adam, he wanted to be known.
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    • And just like Eve, she wanted to be known as well
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    • but then she went off-kilter at the end.
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    • - A little bit, a little bit. (laughing)
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    • - A little bit, a little bit. (laughing)
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    • - But all of that to say I think it goes back
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    • - But all of that to say I think it goes back
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    • to when you have evolved.
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    • You've grown, no longer you know, for some of us
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    • like myself no longer J-Lo.
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    • J-Lo grew up and became Jennifer, right?
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    • J-Lo grew up and became Jennifer, right?
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    • And so it's growing up in ourselves.
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    • Learning who we are and wanting to be known
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    • by someone else and I think the constant ache
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    • is for us as individuals, being young.
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    • is for us as individuals, being young.
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    • You know, it's the immature love or immature wanting
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    • to be in a relationship where 10 years later
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    • you don't even recognize yourself.
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    • You're not the same person.
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    • You're not the young you know, Heather or Bianca.
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    • You're not the young you know, Heather or Bianca.
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    • You're not the young Nicole.
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    • I'm so grateful I'm not the young Diana.
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    • I'm glad social media wasn't back then, okay?
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    • Please don't archive all right?
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    • And so, it's so helpful to understand
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    • the crave, the constant crave of humanity
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    • is we want someone to testify to our life.
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    • Someone that won't run away after knowing
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    • all the good, bad and the ugly.
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    • It's that crave.
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    • You know, I think across the board, male and female
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    • it's wanting someone to be close to you is so normal.
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    • than just, "oh you know my name is."
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    • And then you fill in the blank.
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    • I think for most of us it's wanting
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    • to come home to someone that they get to celebrate you.
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    • They smile, you know, it's not just your dog.
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    • It's an actual person.
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    • Wanting to be there and to connect
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    • They don't take off and so to have someone
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    • actually invested in your life wanting to stay there.
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    • Like don't say that like it's a bad thing.
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    • Like if you're single it's okay to say it.
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    • I want godly friends and be that, your own self.
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    • You know what I mean?
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    • - However I'm at a place right now honestly
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    • where I have found a certain contentment
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    • where I have found a certain contentment
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    • in my you know, fifth year of being single, you know.
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    • I'm lovin' it.
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    • Do I still desire to be married at the right time?
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    • Absolutely I do.
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    • But if God doesn't give it to me will I die unfulfilled?
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    • No because I do have community with sisters.
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    • I have great brothers.
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    • I have great couples that are my friends and singles.
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    • are good right now.
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    • You know it has room to improve but it's not
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    • a bad situation to where I feel thirsty.
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    • Like you said earlier.
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    • At first honestly when I became single,
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    • I was disgruntled not just because I was single
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    • but because I was like, "how do you do this?"
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    • You know it's been decades and I'm like
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    • I'm thrown into a pool and there are no rules
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    • except you have Scripture that tells you
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    • except you have Scripture that tells you
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    • the do's and the don'ts.
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    • But as far as the everyday-ness of it
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    • like what do you do?
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    • like what do you do?
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    • So that was, it was kind of a mystery to me
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    • and then I wound up having relationship you know,
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    • just a couple years later.
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    • And so just that whole thing of you know,
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    • how do you make this work
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    • how do you make this work
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    • and how do you find contentment?
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    • and how do you find contentment?
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    • And just starting to see that really,
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    • And just starting to see that really,
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    • contentment is not based on who you're with
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    • or who you're not with.
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    • It's who you belong to.
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    • And that's Jesus Christ.
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    • And that's Jesus Christ.
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    • year two to three I started just relaxing
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    • And so for me that began, like my journey of contentment.
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    • And so for me that began, like my journey of contentment.
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    • The Bible says "whatever state
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    • you know find happiness, find joy there.
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    • And I can honestly say right now,
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    • I am more content you know than I was even a year
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    • "a sense of peace."
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    • What does it look like in developing
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    • a new sense of community?
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    • How did you find your way through that?
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    • - Well the Lord definitely.
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    • - Well the Lord definitely.
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    • But I didn't always feel this way.
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    • I didn't always feel the contentment that I have now.
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    • but the Lord began to heal me through
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    • but the Lord began to heal me through
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    • Me opening up my desire again
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    • to say, you know what?
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    • No.
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    • You know what I'm saying?
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    • For a reason.
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    • And so I have a healthy desire now
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    • And so I have a healthy desire now
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    • and it came from the Lord healing me.
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    • and it came from the Lord healing me.
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    • And so in the meantime, I've been busy in the field.
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    • - And if Boaz wakes up and says "hey who is that?"
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    • - But you know what?
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    • - But you know what?
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    • was during a time when I really wasn't
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    • because he does do that.
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    • what is God gonna do?
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    • What am I gonna do?
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    • We can rest in Him knowing that He has it.
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    • and it's still teaching me to be patient
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    • and to relax in Christ and know that
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    • He has it all taken care of.
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    • I have found a new contentment
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    • It's like you're being aware of
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    • and now I can maximize the season that I'm in
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    • I can do that.
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    • "Hey Karen. What are you doin'?"
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    • and you're walking in your purpose
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    • - I love the concept that you brought up
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    • of like maximizing your seasons
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    • because everyone here is in a different season of life.
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    • You know, you're marrying off your kids
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    • in the name of Jesus you're gonna be a great grandma.
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    • And you have two outta the house?
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    • Or two graduated high school? - No four.
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    • - Four done with high school already?
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    • and I just have a pre-teen and a teen.
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    • What does it look like to maximize the season
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    • What does it look like to maximize the season
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    • that God has put in front of us?
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    • that God has put in front of us?
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    • In a room of healthy community.
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    • - So today you might be doin' just great.
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    • - So today you might be doin' just great.
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    • You might have all the friends you need.
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    • You might have the husband that you think
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    • is just amazing and everything fine.
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    • is just amazing and everything fine.
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    • Some of you might find yourself feelin'
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    • a little deficit today in the area of relationship
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    • and friendships and maybe you're in a hard spot today.
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    • and friendships and maybe you're in a hard spot today.
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    • something in all of us that we need God
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    • something in all of us that we need God
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    • in the lonely places of our hearts.
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    • There are places that only God can fill.
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    • There are places that only God can fill.
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    • So today I pray for you.
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    • And I pray that God fills the longing of your heart.
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    • And I pray that God fills the longing of your heart.
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    • The depths of your soul where you feel lonely.
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    • You might feel afraid.
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    • I pray that God blesses you today.
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    • I pray that God blesses you today.
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    • I pray that he fills you up with his Holy Spirit.
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    • I pray that he fills you up with his Holy Spirit.
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    • You know that's just an asking of Him
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    • You know that's just an asking of Him
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    • to say Jesus come.
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    • Come and help me fill up those places in my life
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    • where I've tried to fill it all with all this other stuff.
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    • where I've tried to fill it all with all this other stuff.
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    • God only you can satisfy my soul.
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    • God only you can satisfy my soul.
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    • So today I pray that for you in Jesus' name.
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    • So today I pray that for you in Jesus' name.
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    • And I pray that good relationships come your way.
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    • And I pray that good relationships come your way.
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    • I pray that the people of your dreams that you've
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    • I pray that the people of your dreams that you've
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    • prayed for, hold on to those.
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    • prayed for, hold on to those.
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    • Hold on to those dreams.
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    • Hold on to those dreams.
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    • It's amazing what God can bring into your life
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    • It's amazing what God can bring into your life
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    • and fill you up with.
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    • He's got good plans in store for you today.
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    • He's got good plans in store for you today.
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    • You can call the number on your screen right now
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    • You can call the number on your screen right now
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    • to talk a partner.
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    • We're here for you 24 hours a day.
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    • We're here for you 24 hours a day.
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    • seven days a week.
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    • We love you and most important God loves you.
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    • We love you and most important God loves you.
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    • - My favorite part of today's talk was the vulnerability.
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    • - My favorite part of today's talk was the vulnerability.
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    • I think you know with the right chemistry
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    • and the right people that are in the room.
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    • You have the ability to feel safe
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    • and not a lot of environments for women like myself
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    • feel safe and so when you have a safe group
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    • of friends you tend to open up your heart
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    • and I think a lot of connection, a lot of chemistry
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    • and so you have people that are seasoned
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    • We kind of learn from one another.
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    • We kind of learn from one another.
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    • - Friendship is so important with women
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    • - Friendship is so important with women
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    • because studies show that women having girl trips
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    • and even just going for cofee actually refreshes them.
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    • You need women to come alongside you
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    • You need women to come alongside you
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    • to help you to do what God has called you to do.
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    • to help you to do what God has called you to do.
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    • We don't know everything.
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    • We're not an island.
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    • We're not an island.
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    • So getting together with other women
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    • So getting together with other women
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    • to encourage and edify.
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    • to encourage and edify.
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    • It refreshes you so you can continue on the
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    • It refreshes you so you can continue on the
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    • course of what God has called you to do.
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    • course of what God has called you to do.
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    • of our latest conversations.
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    • - [Woman] Here's what's coming up next on Better Together.
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    • - [Woman] Here's what's coming up next on Better Together.
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    • - Had it not been for the saving grace of Jesus Christ
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    • - Had it not been for the saving grace of Jesus Christ
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    • in our marriage and a phenomenal counselor,
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    • in our marriage and a phenomenal counselor,
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    • that we still see for tune-ups and check-ins.
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    • that we still see for tune-ups and check-ins.
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    • I really wonder, I wonder if we would be here today married.
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    • I really wonder, I wonder if we would be here today married.
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    • - [Woman] Watch Better Together only on TBN.
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    • - [Woman] Watch Better Together only on TBN.
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