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Better Together LIVE | Episode 40

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  • - Laurie: RAISING AWARENESS
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  • - Laurie: RAISING AWARENESSABOUT MENTAL HEALTH SHOULD NOT
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  • ABOUT MENTAL HEALTH SHOULD NOTSTOP AT THE END OF THIS WEEK OR
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  • STOP AT THE END OF THIS WEEK OREVEN THIS MONTH.
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  • EVEN THIS MONTH.WE NEED TO HAVE THIS
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  • WE NEED TO HAVE THISCONVERSATION IN OUR HOMES, OUR
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  • CONVERSATION IN OUR HOMES, OURCOMMUNITIES AND OUR CHURCHES.
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  • COMMUNITIES AND OUR CHURCHES.BEING "BETTER TOGETHER" MEANS
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  • BEING "BETTER TOGETHER" MEANSLINKING ARMS TO OFFER SUPPORT,
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  • LINKING ARMS TO OFFER SUPPORT,FIND HOPE AND CREATE POSITIVE
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  • FIND HOPE AND CREATE POSITIVECHANGE.
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  • CHANGE.COME ON, LET'S TALK ABOUT THIS.
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  • - Sheila: IT WAS ABOUT 6:30 IN
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  • - Sheila: IT WAS ABOUT 6:30 INTHE EVENING AND I DECIDED THAT I
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  • THE EVENING AND I DECIDED THAT IWOULD GO DOWN TO THE NURSES'
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  • WOULD GO DOWN TO THE NURSES'STATION AND ASK IF SHE WOULD GET
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  • STATION AND ASK IF SHE WOULD GETTHE SHARPS BOX OUT.
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  • THE SHARPS BOX OUT.FOR THOSE OF YOU WHO HAVE NEVER
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  • FOR THOSE OF YOU WHO HAVE NEVERBEEN A PATIENT IN A PSYCHIATRIC
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  • BEEN A PATIENT IN A PSYCHIATRICWARD, THAT'S PROBABLY KIND OF
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  • WARD, THAT'S PROBABLY KIND OFCONFUSING LANGUAGE.
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  • CONFUSING LANGUAGE.I WAS IN PROBABLY MY THIRD WEEK
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  • I WAS IN PROBABLY MY THIRD WEEKOF BEING AN INPATIENT IN A PSYCH
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  • OF BEING AN INPATIENT IN A PSYCHHOSPITAL AND WHEN YOU'RE A
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  • HOSPITAL AND WHEN YOU'RE APATIENT THERE THEY WILL TAKE
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  • PATIENT THERE THEY WILL TAKEAWAY THINGS LIKE YOUR HAIR
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  • AWAY THINGS LIKE YOUR HAIRDRYER, ANYTHING YOU COULD
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  • DRYER, ANYTHING YOU COULDPOTENTIALLY HURT YOURSELF OR
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  • POTENTIALLY HURT YOURSELF ORSOMEONE ELSE WITH.
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  • SOMEONE ELSE WITH.SO I DECIDED I WAS GOING TO BLOW
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  • SO I DECIDED I WAS GOING TO BLOWDRY MY HAIR.
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  • DRY MY HAIR.SO I STARTED DOWN THE CORRIDOR
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  • SO I STARTED DOWN THE CORRIDORTOWARDS THE NURSES' STATION AND
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  • TOWARDS THE NURSES' STATION ANDI PAUSED.
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  • I PAUSED.BECAUSE IT WAS A SCENE THAT WAS
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  • BECAUSE IT WAS A SCENE THAT WASFAMILIAR TO ME.
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  • FAMILIAR TO ME.THERE WERE TWO GIRLS, I ASSUME
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  • THERE WERE TWO GIRLS, I ASSUMETO BE DAUGHTERS, HELPING,
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  • TO BE DAUGHTERS, HELPING,STANDING EITHER SIDE OF THIS
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  • STANDING EITHER SIDE OF THISWOMAN WHO WAS PROBABLY IN HER
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  • WOMAN WHO WAS PROBABLY IN HERLATE 60'S, EARLY 70'S AND SHE
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  • LATE 60'S, EARLY 70'S AND SHEWAS SOBBING.
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  • WAS SOBBING.ABSOLUTELY SOBBING.
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  • ABSOLUTELY SOBBING.THEY WERE LITERALLY HOLDING HER
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  • THEY WERE LITERALLY HOLDING HERUP.
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  • UP.AND I RECOGNIZED, SHE WAS
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  • AND I RECOGNIZED, SHE WASPROBABLY A NEW PATIENT COMING IN
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  • PROBABLY A NEW PATIENT COMING INTO THE PSYCH HOSPITAL.
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  • TO THE PSYCH HOSPITAL.I REMEMBER MY FIRST NIGHT AND
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  • I REMEMBER MY FIRST NIGHT ANDHOW OVERWHELMING THAT WAS.
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  • HOW OVERWHELMING THAT WAS.SO I WANTED TO RESPECT THEIR
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  • SO I WANTED TO RESPECT THEIRPRIVACY.
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  • PRIVACY.I PAUSED.
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  • I PAUSED.AND I TURNED AROUND INTENDING TO
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  • AND I TURNED AROUND INTENDING TOGO BACK TO MY ROOM UNTIL THEY
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  • GO BACK TO MY ROOM UNTIL THEYHAD FINISHED THE ADMISSION'S
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  • HAD FINISHED THE ADMISSION'SPROCESS, AND ONE OF THE
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  • PROCESS, AND ONE OF THEDAUGHTERS CAUGHT SIGHT OF ME AND
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  • DAUGHTERS CAUGHT SIGHT OF ME ANDSHE CRIED OUT, MOM, MOM, LOOK.
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  • SHE CRIED OUT, MOM, MOM, LOOK.I STOPPED BECAUSE-- AND THEY ALL
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  • I STOPPED BECAUSE-- AND THEY ALLLOOKED AT ME AND THE TWO
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  • LOOKED AT ME AND THE TWODAUGHTERS STARTED TO CRY.
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  • DAUGHTERS STARTED TO CRY.AND ONE OF THEM SIGNALED TO ME
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  • AND ONE OF THEM SIGNALED TO METO COME DOWN.
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  • TO COME DOWN.SO I WALKED TOWARD THEM.
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  • SO I WALKED TOWARD THEM.I HAD NO IDEA WHAT WAS GOING ON.
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  • I HAD NO IDEA WHAT WAS GOING ON.BUT THEY BEGAN TO EXPLAIN.
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  • BUT THEY BEGAN TO EXPLAIN.THEY SAID THIS IS OUR MOM.
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  • THEY SAID THIS IS OUR MOM.AND SHE HAS LIVED IN A VERY
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  • AND SHE HAS LIVED IN A VERYABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP FOR SO MANY
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  • ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP FOR SO MANYYEARS, WE HAVE BEGGED HER TO GET
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  • YEARS, WE HAVE BEGGED HER TO GETHELP.
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  • HELP.MY FATHER HAS BROKEN HER JAW,
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  • MY FATHER HAS BROKEN HER JAW,HE'S BROKEN HER ARM.
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  • HE'S BROKEN HER ARM.HER THING WAS, NO, I MADE A
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  • HER THING WAS, NO, I MADE ACOMMITMENT TO THAT MARRIAGE AND
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  • COMMITMENT TO THAT MARRIAGE ANDI NEED TO STICK IT OUT AND I
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  • I NEED TO STICK IT OUT AND ICAN'T GO AND GET HELP.
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  • CAN'T GO AND GET HELP.BUT THEY FINALLY PERSUADED HER,
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  • BUT THEY FINALLY PERSUADED HER,THEY GOT HER IN THE CAR AND THEY
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  • THEY GOT HER IN THE CAR AND THEYWERE DRIVING TO THE PSYCH
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  • WERE DRIVING TO THE PSYCHHOSPITAL.
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  • HOSPITAL.BUT IN THE PARKING LOT THEY
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  • BUT IN THE PARKING LOT THEYPAUSED AND THEY PRAYED.
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  • PAUSED AND THEY PRAYED.THEY SAID, LORD, JESUS, WOULD
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  • THEY SAID, LORD, JESUS, WOULDYOU PLEASE GIVE MY MOM A SIGN
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  • YOU PLEASE GIVE MY MOM A SIGNTHAT SHE'S IN A GOOD PLACE?
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  • THAT SHE'S IN A GOOD PLACE?WHAT I DIDN'T KNOW WAS, THAT WAS
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  • WHAT I DIDN'T KNOW WAS, THAT WASDURING THE TIME WHEN I HAD
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  • DURING THE TIME WHEN I HADCO-HOSTED THE 700 CLUB FOR FIVE
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  • CO-HOSTED THE 700 CLUB FOR FIVEYEARS.
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  • YEARS.AND THE BIG JOKE IN THE FAMILY
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  • AND THE BIG JOKE IN THE FAMILYWAS, I WAS THE THIRD DAUGHTER
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  • WAS, I WAS THE THIRD DAUGHTERBECAUSE THE MOM LOVED ME SO
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  • BECAUSE THE MOM LOVED ME SOMUCH.
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  • MUCH.AND THE FACT THAT GOD IN HIS
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  • AND THE FACT THAT GOD IN HISGRACE AND MERCY PUT ME IN A
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  • GRACE AND MERCY PUT ME IN APSYCH HOSPITAL AT THE SAME TIME
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  • PSYCH HOSPITAL AT THE SAME TIMEAT THIS SWEET MOM WHO LOOKED ON
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  • AT THIS SWEET MOM WHO LOOKED ONME AS A DAUGHTER, SHE AND I WERE
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  • ME AS A DAUGHTER, SHE AND I WERESO CLOSE DURING THE REMAINING
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  • SO CLOSE DURING THE REMAININGTWO WEEKS I HAD, BUT IT WAS THE
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  • TWO WEEKS I HAD, BUT IT WAS THEFIRST THING I SAW THAT HELPED ME
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  • FIRST THING I SAW THAT HELPED MEUNDERSTAND THAT WE NEED TO BE
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  • UNDERSTAND THAT WE NEED TO BETHERE FOR EACH OTHER WITHIN THIS
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  • THERE FOR EACH OTHER WITHIN THISCOMMUNITY.
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  • COMMUNITY.WE NEED TO ENCOURAGE ONE
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  • WE NEED TO ENCOURAGE ONEANOTHER.
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  • ANOTHER.THAT FOR THOSE OF US WHO PERHAPS
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  • THAT FOR THOSE OF US WHO PERHAPSDON'T UNDERSTAND THE PROCESS OF
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  • DON'T UNDERSTAND THE PROCESS OFMENTAL ILLNESS, THAT WE CAN
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  • MENTAL ILLNESS, THAT WE CANSHARE WITH ONE ANOTHER.
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  • SHARE WITH ONE ANOTHER.WE CAN SPEAK TO ONE ANOTHER.
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  • WE CAN SPEAK TO ONE ANOTHER.AND THE OTHER THING I'VE
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  • AND THE OTHER THING I'VEREALIZED IN MY OWN LIFE NOW,
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  • REALIZED IN MY OWN LIFE NOW,WHERE YOUR SCARS ARE, THERE LIES
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  • WHERE YOUR SCARS ARE, THERE LIESYOUR AUTHORITY.
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  • YOUR AUTHORITY.FOR SOMEBODY, YOU, KAYLA, WHO
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  • FOR SOMEBODY, YOU, KAYLA, WHOLOST A HUSBAND.
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  • LOST A HUSBAND.I CAN'T IMAGINE WHAT THAT IS
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  • I CAN'T IMAGINE WHAT THAT ISLIKE.
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  • LIKE.I CAN'T SPEAK TO THAT.
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  • I CAN'T SPEAK TO THAT.BUT THERE'S SOMETHING ABOUT WHEN
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  • BUT THERE'S SOMETHING ABOUT WHENYOU HAVE WALKED THROUGH
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  • YOU HAVE WALKED THROUGHSOMETHING THAT HAS BEEN A REAL
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  • SOMETHING THAT HAS BEEN A REALTRAUMA AND GOD BROUGHT A LEVEL
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  • TRAUMA AND GOD BROUGHT A LEVELOF HEALING, YOU ARE ABLE THEN TO
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  • OF HEALING, YOU ARE ABLE THEN TOMINISTER TO OTHER PEOPLE OR
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  • MINISTER TO OTHER PEOPLE ORPERHAPS JUST COMING A LITTLE
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  • PERHAPS JUST COMING A LITTLEBIRTH FURTHER BEHIND AND LET
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  • BIRTH FURTHER BEHIND AND LETTHEM KNOW, NOW WHAT?
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  • THEM KNOW, NOW WHAT?I WANT YOU TO KNOW GOD IS HERE
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  • I WANT YOU TO KNOW GOD IS HEREIN THIS MOMENT.
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  • IN THIS MOMENT.AND SO, LESLIE, YOU MUST SEE
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  • AND SO, LESLIE, YOU MUST SEETHAT IN YOUR PRACTICE.
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  • THAT IN YOUR PRACTICE.THE WAY THAT GOD REDEEMS OUR
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  • THE WAY THAT GOD REDEEMS OURPAIN AND BREAKS OPEN THE
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  • PAIN AND BREAKS OPEN THECONVERSATION SO OTHER PEOPLE
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  • CONVERSATION SO OTHER PEOPLEKNOW THEY ARE NOT ALONE.
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  • KNOW THEY ARE NOT ALONE.- Leslie: I ABSOLUTELY DO.
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  • - Leslie: I ABSOLUTELY DO.SHEILA, YOU JUST GAVE ME
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  • SHEILA, YOU JUST GAVE MEGOOSEBUMPS ON MY SOUL.
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  • GOOSEBUMPS ON MY SOUL.AND I BET EVERY OTHER PERSON,
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  • AND I BET EVERY OTHER PERSON,BECAUSE ALLOWING US TO GET THAT
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  • BECAUSE ALLOWING US TO GET THATGLIMPSE OF WHEN YOUR PAIN TURNED
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  • GLIMPSE OF WHEN YOUR PAIN TURNEDINTO A BRIDGE OF CONNECTION, A
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  • INTO A BRIDGE OF CONNECTION, ASIGN OF GRACE, AMAZING.
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  • SIGN OF GRACE, AMAZING.IT'S NOT NEARLY AS DRAMATIC BUT
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  • IT'S NOT NEARLY AS DRAMATIC BUTIT WAS MY STORY.
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  • IT WAS MY STORY.LES AND I, MY HUSBAND, WE'VE
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  • LES AND I, MY HUSBAND, WE'VEBEEN MARRIED FOR 35 YEARS NOW.
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  • BEEN MARRIED FOR 35 YEARS NOW.BUT AFTER SEVEN YEARS OF DATING,
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  • BUT AFTER SEVEN YEARS OF DATING,WE GOT MARRIED.
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  • WE GOT MARRIED.WE WERE IN SHOCK.
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  • WE WERE IN SHOCK.WE THOUGHT WE LOVED EACH OTHER.
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  • WE THOUGHT WE LOVED EACH OTHER.WE KNEW HOW TO DO THIS MARRIAGE
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  • WE KNEW HOW TO DO THIS MARRIAGETHING.
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  • THING.WE HAD IT ROPED.
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  • WE HAD IT ROPED.WE WERE CONFIDENT.
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  • WE WERE CONFIDENT.AND WE GOT TAKEN TO OUR KNEES
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  • AND WE GOT TAKEN TO OUR KNEESAND LITERALLY, OUT OF THAT PAIN
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  • AND LITERALLY, OUT OF THAT PAINOF THAT FIRST YEAR OF OUR
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  • OF THAT FIRST YEAR OF OURMARRIAGE WE WROTE A BOOK CALLED
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  • MARRIAGE WE WROTE A BOOK CALLED"SAVING YOUR MARRIAGE BEFORE IT
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  • "SAVING YOUR MARRIAGE BEFORE ITSTARTS," AND THE VERY FIRST
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  • STARTS," AND THE VERY FIRSTSENTENCE IN THAT BOOK IS WE
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  • SENTENCE IN THAT BOOK IS WENEVER HAD PREMARRIAGE COUNSELING
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  • NEVER HAD PREMARRIAGE COUNSELINGBUT WE SPENT THE FIRST YEAR OF
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  • BUT WE SPENT THE FIRST YEAR OFOUR MARRIAGE IN THERAPY.
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  • OUR MARRIAGE IN THERAPY.AND IT'S THE SAME THING.
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  • AND IT'S THE SAME THING.IT'S WHAT YOU TALKED ABOUT.
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  • IT'S WHAT YOU TALKED ABOUT.I WOULD NEVER HAVE CHOSEN TO GO
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  • I WOULD NEVER HAVE CHOSEN TO GOTHROUGH A HARD FIRST YEAR OF
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  • THROUGH A HARD FIRST YEAR OFMARRIAGE.
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  • MARRIAGE.I KNOW LES WOULDN'T HAVE EITHER.
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  • I KNOW LES WOULDN'T HAVE EITHER.BUT, THAT'S THE AUTHORITY GOD
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  • BUT, THAT'S THE AUTHORITY GODGAVE US TO BE A HEALING AGENTS
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  • GAVE US TO BE A HEALING AGENTSIN THE WORLD.
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  • IN THE WORLD.IT SHAPED WHO WE ARE.
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  • IT SHAPED WHO WE ARE.AND IT'S JUST BEAUTIFUL YOU SAY
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  • AND IT'S JUST BEAUTIFUL YOU SAYTHAT.
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  • THAT.THAT IS SO IMPORTANT.
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  • THAT IS SO IMPORTANT.WHEREVER WE ARE, ONE OF THE
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  • WHEREVER WE ARE, ONE OF THEPRIVILEGES OF MY LIFE, I GET TO
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  • PRIVILEGES OF MY LIFE, I GET TOBE A MENTOR MOM IN A PROGRAM FOR
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  • BE A MENTOR MOM IN A PROGRAM FORYOUNG MAMAS CALLED "MOPS."
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  • YOUNG MAMAS CALLED "MOPS."MOTHERS OF PRESCHOOLERS.
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  • MOTHERS OF PRESCHOOLERS.I JUST LOVE MY GIRLS.
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  • I JUST LOVE MY GIRLS.MY MOMS, THEY ARE SO CAPABLE.
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  • MY MOMS, THEY ARE SO CAPABLE.I FEEL LIKE THEY ACTUALLY TEACH
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  • I FEEL LIKE THEY ACTUALLY TEACHME WHAT IT MEANS TO BE A MOM.
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  • ME WHAT IT MEANS TO BE A MOM.IT IS OUT OF OUR STORY THAT WE
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  • IT IS OUT OF OUR STORY THAT WEHAVE THE AUTHORITY TO JUST BE
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  • HAVE THE AUTHORITY TO JUST BEPRESENT IN PEOPLE'S STORIES.
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  • PRESENT IN PEOPLE'S STORIES.I GOT TO TELL YOU, EVEN THOUGH
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  • I GOT TO TELL YOU, EVEN THOUGHI'M A MOPS MENTOR MOM, I STILL
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  • I'M A MOPS MENTOR MOM, I STILLHAVE MENTORS.
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  • HAVE MENTORS.IN FACT, I WAS JUST MEETING WITH
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  • IN FACT, I WAS JUST MEETING WITHMY MENTOR OVER DINNER, RIGHT
  • 00:06:18.695 --> 00:06:20.096
  • MY MENTOR OVER DINNER, RIGHTBEFORE THIS WHOLE PANDEMIC HIT.
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  • BEFORE THIS WHOLE PANDEMIC HIT.AND I LOVE HER.
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  • AND I LOVE HER.WE DON'T LIVE IN THE SAME CITY
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  • WE DON'T LIVE IN THE SAME CITYANYMORE.
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  • ANYMORE.I GOT TO TELL YOU, WHEN IT COMES
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  • I GOT TO TELL YOU, WHEN IT COMESTO MENTAL HEALTH, SHE IS MY
  • 00:06:27.137 --> 00:06:29.339
  • TO MENTAL HEALTH, SHE IS MYMODEL.
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  • MODEL.HERE SHE IS, NOW, AT THE SEASON
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  • HERE SHE IS, NOW, AT THE SEASONOF LIFE WHERE SHE AND HER
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  • OF LIFE WHERE SHE AND HERHUSBAND ARE THINKING ABOUT, HOW
  • 00:06:33.743 --> 00:06:36.312
  • HUSBAND ARE THINKING ABOUT, HOWARE WE GOING TO TRANSITION TO
  • 00:06:36.312 --> 00:06:38.348
  • ARE WE GOING TO TRANSITION TORETIREMENT?
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  • RETIREMENT?AND HER FIRST THING SHE SAID TO
  • 00:06:39.682 --> 00:06:40.350
  • AND HER FIRST THING SHE SAID TOME WHEN WE SAT DOWN OVER THE
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  • ME WHEN WE SAT DOWN OVER THEDINNER TABLE WAS, WE'VE BEEN IN
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  • DINNER TABLE WAS, WE'VE BEEN INTHERAPY BECAUSE I WANT TO DO
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  • THERAPY BECAUSE I WANT TO DORETIREMENT RIGHT AND I'M GOING
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  • RETIREMENT RIGHT AND I'M GOINGTO BE PROACTIVE.
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  • TO BE PROACTIVE.SO MY MENTOR WAS MENTORING ME
  • 00:06:49.125 --> 00:06:53.263
  • SO MY MENTOR WAS MENTORING MEABOUT THAT TRANSITION.
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  • ABOUT THAT TRANSITION.SO EVERY STAGE, I THINK WE HELP
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  • SO EVERY STAGE, I THINK WE HELPONE ANOTHER TO BE HEALTHY WHEN
  • 00:06:57.767 --> 00:06:59.068
  • ONE ANOTHER TO BE HEALTHY WHENWE OPENLY SHARE, OKAY, THIS IS
  • 00:06:59.068 --> 00:07:02.105
  • WE OPENLY SHARE, OKAY, THIS ISMY TRANSITION.
  • 00:07:02.105 --> 00:07:03.506
  • MY TRANSITION.THIS IS MY PAIN, THIS IS MY
  • 00:07:03.506 --> 00:07:08.111
  • THIS IS MY PAIN, THIS IS MYWHATEVER MY WOUND IS NOW AND
  • 00:07:08.111 --> 00:07:09.979
  • WHATEVER MY WOUND IS NOW ANDALLOW OUR HONESTY ABOUT THAT TO
  • 00:07:09.979 --> 00:07:10.980
  • ALLOW OUR HONESTY ABOUT THAT TOLEAD SOMEONE AND CONNECT THEM TO
  • 00:07:10.980 --> 00:07:13.249
  • LEAD SOMEONE AND CONNECT THEM TOTHAT NEXT STAGE.
  • 00:07:13.249 --> 00:07:15.251
  • THAT NEXT STAGE.WHAT A GIFT OF GRACE THAT IS.
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  • WHAT A GIFT OF GRACE THAT IS.- Sheila: ABSOLUTELY.
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  • - Sheila: ABSOLUTELY.- Kayla: SO GOOD.
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  • - Kayla: SO GOOD.I'VE SEEN THAT IN MY STORY TOO.
  • 00:07:22.725 --> 00:07:25.428
  • I'VE SEEN THAT IN MY STORY TOO.I REMEMBER SOMEBODY TELLING ME
  • 00:07:25.428 --> 00:07:26.830
  • I REMEMBER SOMEBODY TELLING METHAT, IT MIGHT HAVE BEEN MY
  • 00:07:26.830 --> 00:07:27.897
  • THAT, IT MIGHT HAVE BEEN MYMOTHER-IN-LAW, RIGHT AT THE VERY
  • 00:07:27.897 --> 00:07:30.133
  • MOTHER-IN-LAW, RIGHT AT THE VERYBEGINNING, SHE LEANED IN CLOSE
  • 00:07:30.133 --> 00:07:31.768
  • BEGINNING, SHE LEANED IN CLOSEAND SAID, YOU'RE GONNA BE ABLE
  • 00:07:31.768 --> 00:07:33.169
  • AND SAID, YOU'RE GONNA BE ABLETO HELP SO MANY PEOPLE.
  • 00:07:33.169 --> 00:07:35.071
  • TO HELP SO MANY PEOPLE.WHAT PEOPLE ARE DOING WITH YOU.
  • 00:07:35.071 --> 00:07:36.339
  • WHAT PEOPLE ARE DOING WITH YOU.BECAUSE I HAD CONNECTED WITH
  • 00:07:36.339 --> 00:07:37.440
  • BECAUSE I HAD CONNECTED WITHWIDOWS RIGHT AWAY TOO.
  • 00:07:37.440 --> 00:07:39.809
  • WIDOWS RIGHT AWAY TOO.IT WAS SO HELPFUL JUST TO GET ON
  • 00:07:39.809 --> 00:07:40.877
  • IT WAS SO HELPFUL JUST TO GET ONTHE PHONE WITH SOMEONE.
  • 00:07:40.877 --> 00:07:42.245
  • THE PHONE WITH SOMEONE.I TALKED TO ANOTHER WIDOW.
  • 00:07:42.245 --> 00:07:43.680
  • I TALKED TO ANOTHER WIDOW.HER NAME'S BRITTNEY.
  • 00:07:43.680 --> 00:07:44.447
  • HER NAME'S BRITTNEY.SHE'S BEEN ON THE SHOW BEFORE AS
  • 00:07:44.447 --> 00:07:46.549
  • SHE'S BEEN ON THE SHOW BEFORE ASWELL.
  • 00:07:46.549 --> 00:07:47.317
  • WELL.I TALKED TO HER RIGHT AWAY AND
  • 00:07:47.317 --> 00:07:49.152
  • I TALKED TO HER RIGHT AWAY ANDSHE HAD LOST HER HUSBAND AT THE
  • 00:07:49.152 --> 00:07:50.153
  • SHE HAD LOST HER HUSBAND AT THESAME AGE AND SHE ALSO HAD THREE
  • 00:07:50.153 --> 00:07:52.889
  • SAME AGE AND SHE ALSO HAD THREELITTLE BOYS.
  • 00:07:52.889 --> 00:07:54.090
  • LITTLE BOYS.IT WAS SO COMFORTING FOR ME TO
  • 00:07:54.090 --> 00:07:55.492
  • IT WAS SO COMFORTING FOR ME TOKNOW THAT THERE ARE PEOPLE THAT
  • 00:07:55.492 --> 00:07:57.360
  • KNOW THAT THERE ARE PEOPLE THATWENT BEFORE ME.
  • 00:07:57.360 --> 00:07:58.728
  • WENT BEFORE ME.THAT I WASN'T THE FIRST ONE.
  • 00:07:58.728 --> 00:08:00.363
  • THAT I WASN'T THE FIRST ONE.THAT I WASN'T THE ONLY ONE THAT
  • 00:08:00.363 --> 00:08:02.265
  • THAT I WASN'T THE ONLY ONE THATWAS WALKING THIS NEW LIFE.
  • 00:08:02.265 --> 00:08:04.334
  • WAS WALKING THIS NEW LIFE.BECAUSE IT CAN FEEL SO LONELY
  • 00:08:04.334 --> 00:08:06.503
  • BECAUSE IT CAN FEEL SO LONELYAND IT CAN FEEL SO ISOLATING
  • 00:08:06.503 --> 00:08:08.705
  • AND IT CAN FEEL SO ISOLATINGWHEN YOUR PAIN FEELS SO UNIQUE.
  • 00:08:08.705 --> 00:08:10.073
  • WHEN YOUR PAIN FEELS SO UNIQUE.NONE OF MY CLOSE FRIENDS HERE
  • 00:08:10.073 --> 00:08:12.809
  • NONE OF MY CLOSE FRIENDS HEREHAVE LOST A SPOUSE.
  • 00:08:12.809 --> 00:08:14.177
  • HAVE LOST A SPOUSE.AND SO BEING ABLE TO CONNECT
  • 00:08:14.177 --> 00:08:16.813
  • AND SO BEING ABLE TO CONNECTTHROUGH SOCIAL MEDIA AND THROUGH
  • 00:08:16.813 --> 00:08:17.814
  • THROUGH SOCIAL MEDIA AND THROUGHJUST THE INTERNET AND GOOGLE.
  • 00:08:17.814 --> 00:08:20.216
  • JUST THE INTERNET AND GOOGLE.IT'S AN INCREDIBLE RESOURCE WE
  • 00:08:20.216 --> 00:08:21.551
  • IT'S AN INCREDIBLE RESOURCE WEHAVE TO CONNECT WITH OTHER
  • 00:08:21.551 --> 00:08:23.386
  • HAVE TO CONNECT WITH OTHERPEOPLE THAT ARE SITTING IN THE
  • 00:08:23.386 --> 00:08:25.188
  • PEOPLE THAT ARE SITTING IN THESAME PAIN OR THAT HAVE GONE
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  • SAME PAIN OR THAT HAVE GONEBEFORE US IN THE SAME KIND OF
  • 00:08:26.422 --> 00:08:28.424
  • BEFORE US IN THE SAME KIND OFPAIN AND IT'S SUCH A GIFT THAT
  • 00:08:28.424 --> 00:08:29.726
  • PAIN AND IT'S SUCH A GIFT THATWE CAN GIVE TO OTHER PEOPLE.
  • 00:08:29.726 --> 00:08:32.095
  • WE CAN GIVE TO OTHER PEOPLE.AND IT'S NOT COMPLICATED.
  • 00:08:32.095 --> 00:08:32.929
  • AND IT'S NOT COMPLICATED.MY FRIEND BRITTNEY DOES NOT HAVE
  • 00:08:32.929 --> 00:08:34.631
  • MY FRIEND BRITTNEY DOES NOT HAVEIT ALL FIGURED OUT.
  • 00:08:34.631 --> 00:08:35.865
  • IT ALL FIGURED OUT.SHE DOESN'T HAVE ALL THE ANSWERS
  • 00:08:35.865 --> 00:08:37.333
  • SHE DOESN'T HAVE ALL THE ANSWERSFOR ME.
  • 00:08:37.333 --> 00:08:38.401
  • FOR ME.BUT SITTING TOGETHER ON THE
  • 00:08:38.401 --> 00:08:41.771
  • BUT SITTING TOGETHER ON THEPHONE AND SAYING, HEY, WHAT WAS
  • 00:08:41.771 --> 00:08:43.206
  • PHONE AND SAYING, HEY, WHAT WASIT LIKE FOR YOU AND YOUR KIDS
  • 00:08:43.206 --> 00:08:45.542
  • IT LIKE FOR YOU AND YOUR KIDSWHEN YOU DID THIS?
  • 00:08:45.542 --> 00:08:47.277
  • WHEN YOU DID THIS?OR HOW DID IT FEEL A YEAR OUT
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  • OR HOW DID IT FEEL A YEAR OUTFROM LOSING YOUR HUSBAND?
  • 00:08:50.914 --> 00:08:51.614
  • FROM LOSING YOUR HUSBAND?WERE YOU EXPERIENCING THIS?
  • 00:08:51.614 --> 00:08:52.815
  • WERE YOU EXPERIENCING THIS?JUST TO HAVE A FRIEND TO BE ABLE
  • 00:08:52.815 --> 00:08:53.716
  • JUST TO HAVE A FRIEND TO BE ABLETO HAVE THOSE CONVERSATIONS WITH
  • 00:08:53.716 --> 00:08:54.784
  • TO HAVE THOSE CONVERSATIONS WITHAND KNOW LIKE, WHAT I'M FEELING
  • 00:08:54.784 --> 00:08:56.886
  • AND KNOW LIKE, WHAT I'M FEELINGIS NORMAL AND WHAT I'M FEELING
  • 00:08:56.886 --> 00:09:00.757
  • IS NORMAL AND WHAT I'M FEELINGIS EXPECTED.
  • 00:09:00.757 --> 00:09:02.091
  • IS EXPECTED.IT'S BEEN SO COOL NOW FOR THE
  • 00:09:02.091 --> 00:09:03.126
  • IT'S BEEN SO COOL NOW FOR THEROLES TO BE REVERSED.
  • 00:09:03.126 --> 00:09:03.826
  • ROLES TO BE REVERSED.NOW I'M THE PERSON THAT'S GONE
  • 00:09:03.826 --> 00:09:05.528
  • NOW I'M THE PERSON THAT'S GONEBEFORE OTHERS, AND I HAVE PEOPLE
  • 00:09:05.528 --> 00:09:06.296
  • BEFORE OTHERS, AND I HAVE PEOPLEMESSAGING ME.
  • 00:09:06.296 --> 00:09:07.497
  • MESSAGING ME.AT LEAST ONCE A WEEK I GET A
  • 00:09:07.497 --> 00:09:09.132
  • AT LEAST ONCE A WEEK I GET AMESSAGE FROM THE BRAND NEW WIDOW
  • 00:09:09.132 --> 00:09:11.034
  • MESSAGE FROM THE BRAND NEW WIDOWTHAT RECENTLY LOST THEIR
  • 00:09:11.034 --> 00:09:11.968
  • THAT RECENTLY LOST THEIRHUSBAND.
  • 00:09:11.968 --> 00:09:14.003
  • HUSBAND.WHAT DO I DO?
  • 00:09:14.003 --> 00:09:15.305
  • WHAT DO I DO?AND HOW DID YOU SURVIVE?
  • 00:09:15.305 --> 00:09:16.472
  • AND HOW DID YOU SURVIVE?AND HOW ARE YOU DOING WHAT
  • 00:09:16.472 --> 00:09:20.009
  • AND HOW ARE YOU DOING WHATYOU'RE DOING TODAY?
  • 00:09:20.009 --> 00:09:20.643
  • YOU'RE DOING TODAY?AND I DON'T HAVE ALL THE
  • 00:09:20.643 --> 00:09:21.277
  • AND I DON'T HAVE ALL THEANSWERS.
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  • ANSWERS.I REALLY DON'T.
  • 00:09:22.045 --> 00:09:23.112
  • I REALLY DON'T.MY RESPONSE TO THEM IS, ONE DAY
  • 00:09:23.112 --> 00:09:25.148
  • MY RESPONSE TO THEM IS, ONE DAYAT A TIME WITH GOD.
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  • AT A TIME WITH GOD.THAT'S ALL WE CAN DO SOMETIMES
  • 00:09:27.216 --> 00:09:31.020
  • THAT'S ALL WE CAN DO SOMETIMESIS ONE DAY AT A TIME.
  • 00:09:31.020 --> 00:09:32.221
  • IS ONE DAY AT A TIME.AND LEANING INTO GOD FOR EVERY
  • 00:09:32.221 --> 00:09:33.890
  • AND LEANING INTO GOD FOR EVERYSINGLE BREATH AND LEANING INTO
  • 00:09:33.890 --> 00:09:36.793
  • SINGLE BREATH AND LEANING INTOHIS PATH HE HAS BEFORE US.
  • 00:09:36.793 --> 00:09:39.462
  • HIS PATH HE HAS BEFORE US.HE HAS A PATH AND HE HAS A WAY
  • 00:09:39.462 --> 00:09:41.598
  • HE HAS A PATH AND HE HAS A WAYAND HE KNOWS WHAT LIES AHEAD.
  • 00:09:41.598 --> 00:09:44.334
  • AND HE KNOWS WHAT LIES AHEAD.EVEN WHEN WE'RE SITTING PLACE
  • 00:09:44.334 --> 00:09:45.602
  • EVEN WHEN WE'RE SITTING PLACEWHERE WE DON'T KNOW.
  • 00:09:45.602 --> 00:09:46.369
  • WHERE WE DON'T KNOW.WE DON'T KNOW WHAT'S AROUND THE
  • 00:09:46.369 --> 00:09:47.370
  • WE DON'T KNOW WHAT'S AROUND THECORNER.
  • 00:09:47.370 --> 00:09:48.037
  • CORNER.WE MIGHT NOT BE ABLE TO SEE
  • 00:09:48.037 --> 00:09:48.771
  • WE MIGHT NOT BE ABLE TO SEEWHAT'S ACROSS THE HORIZON, AND
  • 00:09:48.771 --> 00:09:49.505
  • WHAT'S ACROSS THE HORIZON, ANDWE MIGHT NOT KNOW WHAT'S COMING
  • 00:09:49.505 --> 00:09:50.173
  • WE MIGHT NOT KNOW WHAT'S COMINGOUR WAY.
  • 00:09:50.173 --> 00:09:51.708
  • OUR WAY.BUT GOD DOES.
  • 00:09:51.708 --> 00:09:53.276
  • BUT GOD DOES.AND HE IS WITH US AND BESIDE US
  • 00:09:53.276 --> 00:09:54.978
  • AND HE IS WITH US AND BESIDE USAND HE'S GOING TO LEAD US EACH
  • 00:09:54.978 --> 00:09:56.813
  • AND HE'S GOING TO LEAD US EACHSTEP OF THE WAY.
  • 00:09:56.813 --> 00:09:59.148
  • STEP OF THE WAY.AND WHAT'S BEEN SO COOL FOR ME
  • 00:09:59.148 --> 00:10:00.650
  • AND WHAT'S BEEN SO COOL FOR MEIN THE SEAT I'VE BEEN SITTING IN
  • 00:10:00.650 --> 00:10:02.619
  • IN THE SEAT I'VE BEEN SITTING ININ THIS BRAND NEW LIFE THAT I'M
  • 00:10:02.619 --> 00:10:04.354
  • IN THIS BRAND NEW LIFE THAT I'MLIVING, IN THE SEAT OF PAIN AND
  • 00:10:04.354 --> 00:10:07.090
  • LIVING, IN THE SEAT OF PAIN ANDTHE SEAT OF NEW PURPOSE IS
  • 00:10:07.090 --> 00:10:07.924
  • THE SEAT OF NEW PURPOSE ISSEEING HOW GOD HAS CONTINUALLY
  • 00:10:07.924 --> 00:10:09.359
  • SEEING HOW GOD HAS CONTINUALLYOPENED DOORS.
  • 00:10:09.359 --> 00:10:11.260
  • OPENED DOORS.I HAVEN'T HAD TO GO PUSH ANY
  • 00:10:11.260 --> 00:10:12.562
  • I HAVEN'T HAD TO GO PUSH ANYDOORS DOWN, BUT HE IS LIKE,
  • 00:10:12.562 --> 00:10:13.663
  • DOORS DOWN, BUT HE IS LIKE,HERE, COME THIS WAY.
  • 00:10:13.663 --> 00:10:14.397
  • HERE, COME THIS WAY.I'M GOING TO LEAD YOU THIS WAY,
  • 00:10:14.397 --> 00:10:15.365
  • I'M GOING TO LEAD YOU THIS WAY,NOW WE'RE GONNA GO THIS WAY.
  • 00:10:15.365 --> 00:10:17.734
  • NOW WE'RE GONNA GO THIS WAY.IT'S BEEN THIS BEAUTIFUL
  • 00:10:17.734 --> 00:10:19.802
  • IT'S BEEN THIS BEAUTIFULINCREDIBLE NEW ADVENTURE WITH
  • 00:10:19.802 --> 00:10:21.137
  • INCREDIBLE NEW ADVENTURE WITHHIM AND WITH BRAND NEW FRIENDS,
  • 00:10:21.137 --> 00:10:22.572
  • HIM AND WITH BRAND NEW FRIENDS,TOO.
  • 00:10:22.572 --> 00:10:25.074
  • TOO.WE NEED GRIEF FRIENDS.
  • 00:10:25.074 --> 00:10:26.676
  • WE NEED GRIEF FRIENDS.WE NEED FRIENDS THAT UNDERSTAND
  • 00:10:26.676 --> 00:10:28.544
  • WE NEED FRIENDS THAT UNDERSTANDWHAT WE'RE GOING THROUGH.
  • 00:10:28.544 --> 00:10:30.113
  • WHAT WE'RE GOING THROUGH.IT'S BEEN SO HELPFUL TO HAVE
  • 00:10:30.113 --> 00:10:31.381
  • IT'S BEEN SO HELPFUL TO HAVETHAT WHOLE NEW GROUP OF GRIEF
  • 00:10:31.381 --> 00:10:32.882
  • THAT WHOLE NEW GROUP OF GRIEFFRIENDS THAT JUST GET IT.
  • 00:10:32.882 --> 00:10:34.350
  • FRIENDS THAT JUST GET IT.WITHOUT ME EVEN SAYING ANYTHING.
  • 00:10:34.350 --> 00:10:38.354
  • WITHOUT ME EVEN SAYING ANYTHING.THEY JUST GET IT.
  • 00:10:38.354 --> 00:10:41.424
  • THEY JUST GET IT.THAT'S BEEN REALLY SPECIAL.
  • 00:10:41.424 --> 00:10:42.558
  • THAT'S BEEN REALLY SPECIAL.- Chrystal: YEAH, THE THING IS,
  • 00:10:42.558 --> 00:10:45.028
  • - Chrystal: YEAH, THE THING IS,WE HAVE TO SHOW THAT WE'VE MADE
  • 00:10:45.028 --> 00:10:49.265
  • WE HAVE TO SHOW THAT WE'VE MADEIT THROUGH.
  • 00:10:49.265 --> 00:10:49.999
  • IT THROUGH.EVEN IF WE'RE STILL WALKING THE
  • 00:10:49.999 --> 00:10:51.300
  • EVEN IF WE'RE STILL WALKING THEROAD.
  • 00:10:51.300 --> 00:10:52.535
  • ROAD.EVEN IF WE'RE STILL FIGURING
  • 00:10:52.535 --> 00:10:56.773
  • EVEN IF WE'RE STILL FIGURINGSOME THINGS OUT.
  • 00:10:56.773 --> 00:10:58.408
  • SOME THINGS OUT.IT'S KIND OF WHAT YOU WERE
  • 00:10:58.408 --> 00:11:00.076
  • IT'S KIND OF WHAT YOU WERESAYING WHEN YOUR MOTHER-IN-LAW
  • 00:11:00.076 --> 00:11:01.511
  • SAYING WHEN YOUR MOTHER-IN-LAWSAID TO YOU, KAYLA, THAT YOU ARE
  • 00:11:01.511 --> 00:11:02.945
  • SAID TO YOU, KAYLA, THAT YOU AREGOING TO HELP SO MANY PEOPLE.
  • 00:11:02.945 --> 00:11:03.846
  • GOING TO HELP SO MANY PEOPLE.I HAVE TO BE HONEST AND TELL
  • 00:11:03.846 --> 00:11:05.615
  • I HAVE TO BE HONEST AND TELLYOU, THAT THAT'S THE FURTHEST
  • 00:11:05.615 --> 00:11:08.284
  • YOU, THAT THAT'S THE FURTHESTTHING FROM MY MIND WHEN-- I
  • 00:11:08.284 --> 00:11:10.420
  • THING FROM MY MIND WHEN-- IREMEMBER RIGHT AFTER MY MOM'S
  • 00:11:10.420 --> 00:11:12.822
  • REMEMBER RIGHT AFTER MY MOM'SFUNERAL AND PEOPLE SAID IT WAS
  • 00:11:12.822 --> 00:11:16.392
  • FUNERAL AND PEOPLE SAID IT WASSO ENCOURAGING FOR ME TO WATCH
  • 00:11:16.392 --> 00:11:19.962
  • SO ENCOURAGING FOR ME TO WATCHYOU ALL CELEBRATE HER LIFE WITH
  • 00:11:19.962 --> 00:11:22.198
  • YOU ALL CELEBRATE HER LIFE WITHSUCH STRENGTH AND BELIEF AND
  • 00:11:22.198 --> 00:11:22.965
  • SUCH STRENGTH AND BELIEF ANDCONFIDENCE ABOUT WHO SHE WAS AND
  • 00:11:22.965 --> 00:11:24.500
  • CONFIDENCE ABOUT WHO SHE WAS ANDWHERE SHE IS.
  • 00:11:24.500 --> 00:11:26.135
  • WHERE SHE IS.I WASN'T THINKING ABOUT THAT.
  • 00:11:26.135 --> 00:11:27.036
  • I WASN'T THINKING ABOUT THAT.I WAS JUST THINKING, I'M JUST
  • 00:11:27.036 --> 00:11:28.771
  • I WAS JUST THINKING, I'M JUSTTRYING TO MAKE SURE THAT WE DO A
  • 00:11:28.771 --> 00:11:30.306
  • TRYING TO MAKE SURE THAT WE DO AGOOD JOB BY MY MOM, JUST
  • 00:11:30.306 --> 00:11:33.076
  • GOOD JOB BY MY MOM, JUSTHONORING HER AND HONORING HER
  • 00:11:33.076 --> 00:11:35.578
  • HONORING HER AND HONORING HERLIFE.
  • 00:11:35.578 --> 00:11:36.479
  • LIFE.THAT THAT HAS BECOME AN ECHO.
  • 00:11:36.479 --> 00:11:37.580
  • THAT THAT HAS BECOME AN ECHO.SO MANY PEOPLE HAVE SAID THAT.
  • 00:11:37.580 --> 00:11:39.882
  • SO MANY PEOPLE HAVE SAID THAT.WATCHING YOU ALL GIVES ME
  • 00:11:39.882 --> 00:11:40.583
  • WATCHING YOU ALL GIVES MESTRENGTH TO KNOW THAT I CAN DO
  • 00:11:40.583 --> 00:11:41.284
  • STRENGTH TO KNOW THAT I CAN DOIT TOO.
  • 00:11:41.284 --> 00:11:44.253
  • IT TOO.THE THING ABOUT JESUS, HE WAS
  • 00:11:44.253 --> 00:11:47.156
  • THE THING ABOUT JESUS, HE WASCRUCIFIED AND THE PROCESS OF
  • 00:11:47.156 --> 00:11:52.195
  • CRUCIFIED AND THE PROCESS OFTHAT DEATH WAS SO HORRIFIC.
  • 00:11:52.195 --> 00:11:53.196
  • THAT DEATH WAS SO HORRIFIC.SO ALL OF HIS FRIENDS, HIS
  • 00:11:53.196 --> 00:11:55.064
  • SO ALL OF HIS FRIENDS, HISDISCIPLES WATCHED HIM BE
  • 00:11:55.064 --> 00:11:56.032
  • DISCIPLES WATCHED HIM BEWHIPPED.
  • 00:11:56.032 --> 00:11:58.434
  • WHIPPED.WATCHED HIM BE HUMILIATED.
  • 00:11:58.434 --> 00:12:01.504
  • WATCHED HIM BE HUMILIATED.HE DIDN'T JUST DIE, THIS WAS A
  • 00:12:01.504 --> 00:12:02.371
  • HE DIDN'T JUST DIE, THIS WAS ALONG, DRAWN OUT HORRIFIC PROCESS
  • 00:12:02.371 --> 00:12:03.539
  • LONG, DRAWN OUT HORRIFIC PROCESSTO DEATH.
  • 00:12:03.539 --> 00:12:05.508
  • TO DEATH.THEY WATCHED THAT.
  • 00:12:05.508 --> 00:12:07.076
  • THEY WATCHED THAT.SO, THEN, HE IS BURIED.
  • 00:12:07.076 --> 00:12:09.846
  • SO, THEN, HE IS BURIED.THREE DAYS LATER, HE COULD HAVE
  • 00:12:09.846 --> 00:12:12.749
  • THREE DAYS LATER, HE COULD HAVEJUST SAID, HI, I'M BACK.
  • 00:12:12.749 --> 00:12:13.449
  • JUST SAID, HI, I'M BACK.I JUST WANT YOU ALL TO KNOW I
  • 00:12:13.449 --> 00:12:14.317
  • I JUST WANT YOU ALL TO KNOW IMADE IT.
  • 00:12:14.317 --> 00:12:15.885
  • MADE IT.SEE YOU LATER, I'M GONE.
  • 00:12:15.885 --> 00:12:21.090
  • SEE YOU LATER, I'M GONE.BUT HE SPENT SOME TIME.
  • 00:12:21.090 --> 00:12:22.692
  • BUT HE SPENT SOME TIME.AND WHEN HE LEFT, AND AS THEY
  • 00:12:22.692 --> 00:12:24.093
  • AND WHEN HE LEFT, AND AS THEYWATCHED HIM ASCEND INTO HEAVEN,
  • 00:12:24.093 --> 00:12:27.029
  • WATCHED HIM ASCEND INTO HEAVEN,IT'S ALMOST THE SAME PROCESS.
  • 00:12:27.029 --> 00:12:29.165
  • IT'S ALMOST THE SAME PROCESS.THERE'S GONNA BE SOME THINGS
  • 00:12:29.165 --> 00:12:31.000
  • THERE'S GONNA BE SOME THINGSTHAT HAPPEN IN YOUR LIFE THAT
  • 00:12:31.000 --> 00:12:31.701
  • THAT HAPPEN IN YOUR LIFE THATARE REALLY HARD.
  • 00:12:31.701 --> 00:12:34.504
  • ARE REALLY HARD.THEY MAY EVEN BE HORRIFIC, AND
  • 00:12:34.504 --> 00:12:36.506
  • THEY MAY EVEN BE HORRIFIC, ANDWHAT I WANT YOU TO KNOW IS THAT
  • 00:12:36.506 --> 00:12:38.841
  • WHAT I WANT YOU TO KNOW IS THATYOU CAN STILL LIVE.
  • 00:12:38.841 --> 00:12:40.943
  • YOU CAN STILL LIVE.AND THEN, EVEN WHEN YOU'RE
  • 00:12:40.943 --> 00:12:42.378
  • AND THEN, EVEN WHEN YOU'RELIVING ON THIS EARTH, THAT
  • 00:12:42.378 --> 00:12:43.212
  • LIVING ON THIS EARTH, THATLIVING WITH THE SCARS IS NOT ALL
  • 00:12:43.212 --> 00:12:44.881
  • LIVING WITH THE SCARS IS NOT ALLTHERE IS.
  • 00:12:44.881 --> 00:12:46.082
  • THERE IS.YOU DON'T JUST LIVE FOR NOW IN
  • 00:12:46.082 --> 00:12:47.784
  • YOU DON'T JUST LIVE FOR NOW INTIME.
  • 00:12:47.784 --> 00:12:48.751
  • TIME.WHILE YOU DO LIVE AND YOU CAN
  • 00:12:48.751 --> 00:12:51.287
  • WHILE YOU DO LIVE AND YOU CANLIVE POST SCAR, POST TRAUMA,
  • 00:12:51.287 --> 00:12:53.422
  • LIVE POST SCAR, POST TRAUMA,POST HORRIFIC CIRCUMSTANCE, EVEN
  • 00:12:53.422 --> 00:12:56.759
  • POST HORRIFIC CIRCUMSTANCE, EVENAFTER YOU LIVE HERE ON EARTH,
  • 00:12:56.759 --> 00:12:59.228
  • AFTER YOU LIVE HERE ON EARTH,THERE IS ANOTHER LIFE TO COME.
  • 00:12:59.228 --> 00:13:01.898
  • THERE IS ANOTHER LIFE TO COME.AND HE GAVE THEM THOSE 3-PIECES.
  • 00:13:01.898 --> 00:13:05.501
  • AND HE GAVE THEM THOSE 3-PIECES.HARD THINGS, STILL LIVE ON EARTH
  • 00:13:05.501 --> 00:13:08.304
  • HARD THINGS, STILL LIVE ON EARTHEVEN WITH THE SCARS, ASCEND.
  • 00:13:08.304 --> 00:13:11.240
  • EVEN WITH THE SCARS, ASCEND.THERE'S LIFE AFTER THIS.
  • 00:13:11.240 --> 00:13:11.974
  • THERE'S LIFE AFTER THIS.AND HE SHOWED THEM, THIS IS THE
  • 00:13:11.974 --> 00:13:13.643
  • AND HE SHOWED THEM, THIS IS THEWAY THIS GOES.
  • 00:13:13.643 --> 00:13:15.678
  • WAY THIS GOES.SO, I THINK WHILE NONE OF US
  • 00:13:15.678 --> 00:13:17.280
  • SO, I THINK WHILE NONE OF USWANT THE HARD STUFF.
  • 00:13:17.280 --> 00:13:20.116
  • WANT THE HARD STUFF.NONE OF US WANT THE HARD STUFF.
  • 00:13:20.116 --> 00:13:21.751
  • NONE OF US WANT THE HARD STUFF.THAT'S WHY WE SAY WHEN HARD
  • 00:13:21.751 --> 00:13:23.186
  • THAT'S WHY WE SAY WHEN HARDTHINGS HAPPEN, HOW DID THIS
  • 00:13:23.186 --> 00:13:24.153
  • THINGS HAPPEN, HOW DID THISHAPPEN?
  • 00:13:24.153 --> 00:13:24.787
  • HAPPEN?HOW DID THIS HAPPEN TO ME?
  • 00:13:24.787 --> 00:13:26.255
  • HOW DID THIS HAPPEN TO ME?WHY DID THIS HAPPEN TO ME?
  • 00:13:26.255 --> 00:13:27.056
  • WHY DID THIS HAPPEN TO ME?BECAUSE WE DON'T EXPECT IT.
  • 00:13:27.056 --> 00:13:28.391
  • BECAUSE WE DON'T EXPECT IT.WE'RE NOT LOOKING FOR IT AND WE
  • 00:13:28.391 --> 00:13:29.792
  • WE'RE NOT LOOKING FOR IT AND WEDON'T WANT IT.
  • 00:13:29.792 --> 00:13:32.728
  • DON'T WANT IT.BUT WHEN HARD THINGS COME AND
  • 00:13:32.728 --> 00:13:36.833
  • BUT WHEN HARD THINGS COME ANDTHEY WILL, BECAUSE LIFE HAS THE
  • 00:13:36.833 --> 00:13:38.568
  • THEY WILL, BECAUSE LIFE HAS THEPOTENTIAL FOR A LOT OF GOOD
  • 00:13:38.568 --> 00:13:39.902
  • POTENTIAL FOR A LOT OF GOODTHINGS, BUT BECAUSE IT'S LIFE
  • 00:13:39.902 --> 00:13:41.237
  • THINGS, BUT BECAUSE IT'S LIFEAND BECAUSE WE'RE NOT DESIGNED
  • 00:13:41.237 --> 00:13:42.271
  • AND BECAUSE WE'RE NOT DESIGNEDTO BE HERE FOREVER, AND BECAUSE
  • 00:13:42.271 --> 00:13:43.806
  • TO BE HERE FOREVER, AND BECAUSETHERE ARE SO MANY THINGS WE
  • 00:13:43.806 --> 00:13:44.740
  • THERE ARE SO MANY THINGS WECAN'T CONTROL, LIFE WILL BRING
  • 00:13:44.740 --> 00:13:47.009
  • CAN'T CONTROL, LIFE WILL BRINGHARD THINGS OUR WAY.
  • 00:13:47.009 --> 00:13:48.945
  • HARD THINGS OUR WAY.WHEN THE HARD COMES, THAT'S THE
  • 00:13:48.945 --> 00:13:50.346
  • WHEN THE HARD COMES, THAT'S THESAME POSTURE WE CAN HAVE.
  • 00:13:50.346 --> 00:13:51.848
  • SAME POSTURE WE CAN HAVE.HARD THINGS WILL COME, I CAN
  • 00:13:51.848 --> 00:13:54.217
  • HARD THINGS WILL COME, I CANSTILL LIVE.
  • 00:13:54.217 --> 00:13:55.618
  • STILL LIVE.I MAY GET KNOCKED DOWN FOR A FEW
  • 00:13:55.618 --> 00:13:57.253
  • I MAY GET KNOCKED DOWN FOR A FEWDAYS, BUT I CAN COME BACK.
  • 00:13:57.253 --> 00:13:59.689
  • DAYS, BUT I CAN COME BACK.I CAN JOIN THE PARTY AGAIN, AND
  • 00:13:59.689 --> 00:14:00.890
  • I CAN JOIN THE PARTY AGAIN, ANDEVEN WITH MY SCARS, I'M NOT JUST
  • 00:14:00.890 --> 00:14:02.792
  • EVEN WITH MY SCARS, I'M NOT JUSTLIVING FOR THIS.
  • 00:14:02.792 --> 00:14:04.694
  • LIVING FOR THIS.I'M NOT JUST LIVING FOR THIS.
  • 00:14:04.694 --> 00:14:06.229
  • I'M NOT JUST LIVING FOR THIS.AND JESUS SHOWED HIS DISCIPLES,
  • 00:14:06.229 --> 00:14:07.530
  • AND JESUS SHOWED HIS DISCIPLES,THIS IS HOW THIS GOES, WHEN WE
  • 00:14:07.530 --> 00:14:09.298
  • THIS IS HOW THIS GOES, WHEN WELIVE, THAT'S WHAT WE SHOW OTHER
  • 00:14:09.298 --> 00:14:10.666
  • LIVE, THAT'S WHAT WE SHOW OTHERPEOPLE.
  • 00:14:10.666 --> 00:14:12.335
  • PEOPLE.THIS IS HOW THIS GOES.
  • 00:14:12.335 --> 00:14:13.970
  • THIS IS HOW THIS GOES.AND WE HAVE TO LEARN THAT
  • 00:14:13.970 --> 00:14:16.172
  • AND WE HAVE TO LEARN THATPROCESS FOR OURSELVES.
  • 00:14:16.172 --> 00:14:16.939
  • PROCESS FOR OURSELVES.BUT I THINK THAT'S THE
  • 00:14:16.939 --> 00:14:18.841
  • BUT I THINK THAT'S THEENCOURAGING PART.
  • 00:14:18.841 --> 00:14:20.142
  • ENCOURAGING PART.I SAID THAT EARLIER THIS WEEK.
  • 00:14:20.142 --> 00:14:20.943
  • I SAID THAT EARLIER THIS WEEK.WE COMFORT PEOPLE WITH THE
  • 00:14:20.943 --> 00:14:22.445
  • WE COMFORT PEOPLE WITH THECOMFORT WE'VE RECEIVED.
  • 00:14:22.445 --> 00:14:23.779
  • COMFORT WE'VE RECEIVED.BECAUSE THAT'S WHERE OUR
  • 00:14:23.779 --> 00:14:25.514
  • BECAUSE THAT'S WHERE OUREXPERTISE LIES.
  • 00:14:25.514 --> 00:14:26.749
  • EXPERTISE LIES.THAT'S WHAT WE KNOW.
  • 00:14:26.749 --> 00:14:28.818
  • THAT'S WHAT WE KNOW.THAT'S WHAT WE KNOW.
  • 00:14:28.818 --> 00:14:29.886
  • THAT'S WHAT WE KNOW.ONE OF THE REASONS WHY I'M
  • 00:14:29.886 --> 00:14:33.055
  • ONE OF THE REASONS WHY I'MALWAYS SO PASSIONATE ABOUT
  • 00:14:33.055 --> 00:14:34.824
  • ALWAYS SO PASSIONATE ABOUTTALKING TO WOMEN ABOUT THEIR
  • 00:14:34.824 --> 00:14:37.827
  • TALKING TO WOMEN ABOUT THEIRVALUE AND ABOUT HOW GOD SEES
  • 00:14:37.827 --> 00:14:39.161
  • VALUE AND ABOUT HOW GOD SEESTHEM AND HOW THEY NEED TO NOT
  • 00:14:39.161 --> 00:14:40.196
  • THEM AND HOW THEY NEED TO NOTJUST REACT TO WHAT HAPPENS IN
  • 00:14:40.196 --> 00:14:41.764
  • JUST REACT TO WHAT HAPPENS INTHEIR LIFE BUT PROACTIVELY AND
  • 00:14:41.764 --> 00:14:43.666
  • THEIR LIFE BUT PROACTIVELY ANDINTENTIONALLY ENGAGE WITH THEIR
  • 00:14:43.666 --> 00:14:46.102
  • INTENTIONALLY ENGAGE WITH THEIRLIFE, IS BECAUSE SO MANY WOMEN
  • 00:14:46.102 --> 00:14:47.403
  • LIFE, IS BECAUSE SO MANY WOMENLIVE REACTIVELY.
  • 00:14:47.403 --> 00:14:48.738
  • LIVE REACTIVELY.AND I WAS ONE OF THEM.
  • 00:14:48.738 --> 00:14:49.438
  • AND I WAS ONE OF THEM.IF IT COMES TO ME, I HAVE TO
  • 00:14:49.438 --> 00:14:50.373
  • IF IT COMES TO ME, I HAVE TOENGAGE WITH IT.
  • 00:14:50.373 --> 00:14:51.874
  • ENGAGE WITH IT.AND THAT'S NOT WHAT HAS TO
  • 00:14:51.874 --> 00:14:53.175
  • AND THAT'S NOT WHAT HAS TOHAPPEN.
  • 00:14:53.175 --> 00:14:54.110
  • HAPPEN.BUT BECAUSE I'VE LEARNED THAT
  • 00:14:54.110 --> 00:14:56.145
  • BUT BECAUSE I'VE LEARNED THATLESSON AND HONESTLY CONTINUE TO
  • 00:14:56.145 --> 00:14:57.680
  • LESSON AND HONESTLY CONTINUE TOLEARN THAT LESSONS NOT JUST IN
  • 00:14:57.680 --> 00:14:59.248
  • LEARN THAT LESSONS NOT JUST INMY HARD STUFF, IN MY GRIEF, BUT
  • 00:14:59.248 --> 00:15:00.850
  • MY HARD STUFF, IN MY GRIEF, BUTALL OF MY LIFE, THAT'S THE
  • 00:15:00.850 --> 00:15:02.618
  • ALL OF MY LIFE, THAT'S THEMESSAGE.
  • 00:15:02.618 --> 00:15:03.519
  • MESSAGE.PEOPLE SAY, CHRYSTAL, AS I
  • 00:15:03.519 --> 00:15:05.554
  • PEOPLE SAY, CHRYSTAL, AS ILISTEN TO YOU, YOU JUST MAKE IT
  • 00:15:05.554 --> 00:15:06.889
  • LISTEN TO YOU, YOU JUST MAKE ITSOUND SO EASY OR THERE'S SO MUCH
  • 00:15:06.889 --> 00:15:08.758
  • SOUND SO EASY OR THERE'S SO MUCHGRACE AND YOU'RE NOT JUDGMENTAL,
  • 00:15:08.758 --> 00:15:10.092
  • GRACE AND YOU'RE NOT JUDGMENTAL,BECAUSE I'VE BEEN THERE.
  • 00:15:10.092 --> 00:15:11.827
  • BECAUSE I'VE BEEN THERE.I'VE THE PERSON WHO HAD THE
  • 00:15:11.827 --> 00:15:13.930
  • I'VE THE PERSON WHO HAD THEJUDGMENT WHO HAD TO LEARN TO
  • 00:15:13.930 --> 00:15:16.065
  • JUDGMENT WHO HAD TO LEARN TOCOME OUT OF LIVING WITH SHAME,
  • 00:15:16.065 --> 00:15:17.767
  • COME OUT OF LIVING WITH SHAME,HAD TO LEARN TO TELL THE TRUTH
  • 00:15:17.767 --> 00:15:18.434
  • HAD TO LEARN TO TELL THE TRUTHAND SAY THIS IS A PART OF MY
  • 00:15:18.434 --> 00:15:18.935
  • AND SAY THIS IS A PART OF MYSTORY.
  • 00:15:18.935 --> 00:15:19.735
  • STORY.SEE MY SCARS?
  • 00:15:19.735 --> 00:15:21.337
  • SEE MY SCARS?SEE MY SCARS?
  • 00:15:21.337 --> 00:15:22.471
  • SEE MY SCARS?AND THERE IS A BEAUTY IN US
  • 00:15:22.471 --> 00:15:24.006
  • AND THERE IS A BEAUTY IN USSAYING TO PEOPLE, I HAVE SCARS.
  • 00:15:24.006 --> 00:15:26.709
  • SAYING TO PEOPLE, I HAVE SCARS.AND THERE IS MORE VALUE IN ME
  • 00:15:26.709 --> 00:15:29.111
  • AND THERE IS MORE VALUE IN MESHOWING MY SCARS TO YOU THAN IN
  • 00:15:29.111 --> 00:15:31.781
  • SHOWING MY SCARS TO YOU THAN INME HIDING THEM BECAUSE THEY
  • 00:15:31.781 --> 00:15:33.249
  • ME HIDING THEM BECAUSE THEYDON'T LOOK PRETTY.
  • 00:15:33.249 --> 00:15:34.951
  • DON'T LOOK PRETTY.AND I THINK THAT'S THE BEAUTY OF
  • 00:15:34.951 --> 00:15:36.085
  • AND I THINK THAT'S THE BEAUTY OFTHE BODY OF CHRIST WHEN WE SAY,
  • 00:15:36.085 --> 00:15:38.421
  • THE BODY OF CHRIST WHEN WE SAY,HEY, LISTEN, EVERY REDEEMING
  • 00:15:38.421 --> 00:15:40.189
  • HEY, LISTEN, EVERY REDEEMINGTHING GOD HAS DONE IN MY LIFE,
  • 00:15:40.189 --> 00:15:42.391
  • THING GOD HAS DONE IN MY LIFE,EVERY LESSON I'VE LEARNED.
  • 00:15:42.391 --> 00:15:43.960
  • EVERY LESSON I'VE LEARNED.EVERY HARD THING THAT GOD HAS
  • 00:15:43.960 --> 00:15:45.528
  • EVERY HARD THING THAT GOD HASBROUGHT ME OVER OR BROUGHT ME
  • 00:15:45.528 --> 00:15:47.296
  • BROUGHT ME OVER OR BROUGHT METHROUGH, I LEARNED SOMETHING.
  • 00:15:47.296 --> 00:15:49.665
  • THROUGH, I LEARNED SOMETHING.LET ME SHARE THE LOVE.
  • 00:15:49.665 --> 00:15:51.100
  • LET ME SHARE THE LOVE.LET ME BE A CONDUIT OF THE LOVE
  • 00:15:51.100 --> 00:15:52.101
  • LET ME BE A CONDUIT OF THE LOVETHAT I RECEIVED.
  • 00:15:52.101 --> 00:15:54.036
  • THAT I RECEIVED.LET ME BE A CONDUIT OF THE GRACE
  • 00:15:54.036 --> 00:15:55.371
  • LET ME BE A CONDUIT OF THE GRACETHAT I RECEIVED.
  • 00:15:55.371 --> 00:15:56.806
  • THAT I RECEIVED.LET ME BE A CONDUIT OF THE POWER
  • 00:15:56.806 --> 00:15:58.007
  • LET ME BE A CONDUIT OF THE POWERTHAT I LEARNED TO WALK IN.
  • 00:15:58.007 --> 00:16:00.543
  • THAT I LEARNED TO WALK IN.LET ALL OF THAT GOOD STUFF THAT
  • 00:16:00.543 --> 00:16:01.777
  • LET ALL OF THAT GOOD STUFF THATCAME THROUGH MY BAD STUFF THAT
  • 00:16:01.777 --> 00:16:03.412
  • CAME THROUGH MY BAD STUFF THATCAN FIND ITS WAY THROUGH ME BE A
  • 00:16:03.412 --> 00:16:05.348
  • CAN FIND ITS WAY THROUGH ME BE AGIFT TO YOU.
  • 00:16:05.348 --> 00:16:06.749
  • GIFT TO YOU.AND OUR WILLINGNESS TO DO THAT
  • 00:16:06.749 --> 00:16:08.050
  • AND OUR WILLINGNESS TO DO THATAS WE HEAL OR WHEN WE HEAL IS A
  • 00:16:08.050 --> 00:16:09.518
  • AS WE HEAL OR WHEN WE HEAL IS APART OF OUR ROLE.
  • 00:16:09.518 --> 00:16:11.921
  • PART OF OUR ROLE.IT'S A PART OF OUR JOB
  • 00:16:11.921 --> 00:16:13.990
  • IT'S A PART OF OUR JOBIN COMING TOGETHER AS A BODY OF
  • 00:16:13.990 --> 00:16:15.191
  • IN COMING TOGETHER AS A BODY OFBELIEVERS AND SUPPORTING EACH
  • 00:16:15.191 --> 00:16:16.025
  • BELIEVERS AND SUPPORTING EACHOTHER TO SAY, THIS IS HOW GOD
  • 00:16:16.025 --> 00:16:18.227
  • OTHER TO SAY, THIS IS HOW GODSHOWED ME HOW DO IT.
  • 00:16:18.227 --> 00:16:20.396
  • SHOWED ME HOW DO IT.AND OUR PRESENCE IN OUR
  • 00:16:20.396 --> 00:16:24.100
  • AND OUR PRESENCE IN OURSITUATIONS, LIVING THEM OUT AS
  • 00:16:24.100 --> 00:16:25.568
  • SITUATIONS, LIVING THEM OUT ASBEST WE CAN, AND REALIZING THAT
  • 00:16:25.568 --> 00:16:27.703
  • BEST WE CAN, AND REALIZING THATTHIS IS A PART OF MY STORY.
  • 00:16:27.703 --> 00:16:28.537
  • THIS IS A PART OF MY STORY.I DIDN'T KNOW IT WAS GOING TO
  • 00:16:28.537 --> 00:16:29.605
  • I DIDN'T KNOW IT WAS GOING TOBE.
  • 00:16:29.605 --> 00:16:30.673
  • BE.I DIDN'T WANT IT TO BE.
  • 00:16:30.673 --> 00:16:32.641
  • I DIDN'T WANT IT TO BE.I DIDN'T INVITE IT TO BE.
  • 00:16:32.641 --> 00:16:34.543
  • I DIDN'T INVITE IT TO BE.BUT IT IS WHAT IT IS.
  • 00:16:34.543 --> 00:16:35.544
  • BUT IT IS WHAT IT IS.CAN I SHOW YOU HOW GOD SHINES
  • 00:16:35.544 --> 00:16:38.814
  • CAN I SHOW YOU HOW GOD SHINESBRIGHT IN ME THROUGH THIS?
  • 00:16:38.814 --> 00:16:41.951
  • BRIGHT IN ME THROUGH THIS?AND OUR WILLINGNESS TO DO THAT
  • 00:16:41.951 --> 00:16:43.486
  • AND OUR WILLINGNESS TO DO THATNOT ONLY IS PROOF OF OUR
  • 00:16:43.486 --> 00:16:45.121
  • NOT ONLY IS PROOF OF OURHEALING, TO ME, IT COMPOUNDS OUR
  • 00:16:45.121 --> 00:16:46.822
  • HEALING, TO ME, IT COMPOUNDS OURHEALING BECAUSE THEN WE'RE ABLE
  • 00:16:46.822 --> 00:16:47.556
  • HEALING BECAUSE THEN WE'RE ABLETO SEE WHAT ROMANS 8:28 MAKES SO
  • 00:16:47.556 --> 00:16:49.058
  • TO SEE WHAT ROMANS 8:28 MAKES SOPLAIN.
  • 00:16:49.058 --> 00:16:50.493
  • PLAIN.THAT GOD CAUSES ALL THINGS TO
  • 00:16:50.493 --> 00:16:51.427
  • THAT GOD CAUSES ALL THINGS TOWORK TOGETHER, THAT HE WASTES
  • 00:16:51.427 --> 00:16:53.629
  • WORK TOGETHER, THAT HE WASTESNOTHING.
  • 00:16:53.629 --> 00:16:55.531
  • NOTHING.AND WHEN YOU SEE, YOU ARE
  • 00:16:55.531 --> 00:16:56.665
  • AND WHEN YOU SEE, YOU AREREFERRING TO, KAYLA, THE PURPOSE
  • 00:16:56.665 --> 00:17:00.102
  • REFERRING TO, KAYLA, THE PURPOSEIN YOUR PAIN, THAT BRINGS A
  • 00:17:00.102 --> 00:17:00.770
  • IN YOUR PAIN, THAT BRINGS ALEVEL OF CONTENTMENT,
  • 00:17:00.770 --> 00:17:01.504
  • LEVEL OF CONTENTMENT,SATISFACTION.
  • 00:17:01.504 --> 00:17:02.338
  • SATISFACTION.NO, WE DON'T LIKE IT, BUT WE
  • 00:17:02.338 --> 00:17:03.773
  • NO, WE DON'T LIKE IT, BUT WESURE DO SEE THE GOOD THAT'S COME
  • 00:17:03.773 --> 00:17:04.740
  • SURE DO SEE THE GOOD THAT'S COMEOUT OF IT AND THAT'S A BLESSING
  • 00:17:04.740 --> 00:17:08.010
  • OUT OF IT AND THAT'S A BLESSINGIN RETURN TO US.
  • 00:17:08.010 --> 00:17:08.744
  • IN RETURN TO US.- Sheila: THAT'S POWERFUL,
  • 00:17:08.744 --> 00:17:10.279
  • - Sheila: THAT'S POWERFUL,CHRYSTAL.
  • 00:17:10.279 --> 00:17:11.147
  • CHRYSTAL.AND LAURIE, I JUST WANT TO SAY
  • 00:17:11.147 --> 00:17:12.681
  • AND LAURIE, I JUST WANT TO SAYTHANK YOU TO YOU FOR DEVOTING A
  • 00:17:12.681 --> 00:17:14.150
  • THANK YOU TO YOU FOR DEVOTING AWHOLE WEEK OF "BETTER TOGETHER"
  • 00:17:14.150 --> 00:17:16.752
  • WHOLE WEEK OF "BETTER TOGETHER"TO LOOK AT OUR MENTAL HEALTH.
  • 00:17:16.752 --> 00:17:17.987
  • TO LOOK AT OUR MENTAL HEALTH.BECAUSE FOR SO MANY YEARS IT
  • 00:17:17.987 --> 00:17:18.954
  • BECAUSE FOR SO MANY YEARS ITWASN'T SOMETHING WE TALKED ABOUT
  • 00:17:18.954 --> 00:17:20.289
  • WASN'T SOMETHING WE TALKED ABOUTIN THE CHURCH.
  • 00:17:20.289 --> 00:17:22.158
  • IN THE CHURCH.WE JUST KIND OF KEPT IT IN A
  • 00:17:22.158 --> 00:17:24.427
  • WE JUST KIND OF KEPT IT IN ADARK CORNER.
  • 00:17:24.427 --> 00:17:26.395
  • DARK CORNER.BUT I LOVE THE FACT THAT WE AS
  • 00:17:26.395 --> 00:17:27.663
  • BUT I LOVE THE FACT THAT WE ASTHE BODY OF CHRIST ARE BEGINNING
  • 00:17:27.663 --> 00:17:28.664
  • THE BODY OF CHRIST ARE BEGINNINGTO SHINE THE BRIGHTEST LIGHT
  • 00:17:28.664 --> 00:17:29.398
  • TO SHINE THE BRIGHTEST LIGHTINTO THE DARKEST CORNERS OF THE
  • 00:17:29.398 --> 00:17:31.000
  • INTO THE DARKEST CORNERS OF THECHURCH.
  • 00:17:31.000 --> 00:17:31.934
  • CHURCH.AND I THINK YOU TOUCHED ON THIS
  • 00:17:31.934 --> 00:17:32.701
  • AND I THINK YOU TOUCHED ON THISVERSE AT THE BEGINNING.
  • 00:17:32.701 --> 00:17:34.670
  • VERSE AT THE BEGINNING.I JUST WANT TO READ THIS FROM
  • 00:17:34.670 --> 00:17:35.805
  • I JUST WANT TO READ THIS FROMGALATIANS SIX.
  • 00:17:35.805 --> 00:17:37.773
  • GALATIANS SIX.IT SAYS, GALATIANS 6:2 SAYS,
  • 00:17:37.773 --> 00:17:38.941
  • IT SAYS, GALATIANS 6:2 SAYS,BEAR ONE ANOTHER'S BURDENS AND
  • 00:17:38.941 --> 00:17:41.610
  • BEAR ONE ANOTHER'S BURDENS ANDSO FULFILL THE LAW OF CHRIST.
  • 00:17:41.610 --> 00:17:43.145
  • SO FULFILL THE LAW OF CHRIST.BUT YOU GO TWO VERSES DOWN AND
  • 00:17:43.145 --> 00:17:44.680
  • BUT YOU GO TWO VERSES DOWN ANDIT SAYS, PAY CAREFUL ATTENTION
  • 00:17:44.680 --> 00:17:46.449
  • IT SAYS, PAY CAREFUL ATTENTIONTO YOUR OWN WORK, FOR THEN YOU
  • 00:17:46.449 --> 00:17:47.183
  • TO YOUR OWN WORK, FOR THEN YOUWILL GET THE SATISFACTION OF A
  • 00:17:47.183 --> 00:17:49.285
  • WILL GET THE SATISFACTION OF AJOB WELL DONE.
  • 00:17:49.285 --> 00:17:49.952
  • JOB WELL DONE.THAT WAS CONFUSING TO ME
  • 00:17:49.952 --> 00:17:51.020
  • THAT WAS CONFUSING TO MEINITIALLY.
  • 00:17:51.020 --> 00:17:51.954
  • INITIALLY.BECAUSE I'M LIKE, ARE WE
  • 00:17:51.954 --> 00:17:52.955
  • BECAUSE I'M LIKE, ARE WESHARING?
  • 00:17:52.955 --> 00:17:54.890
  • SHARING?ARE WE DOING OUR OWN THING?
  • 00:17:54.890 --> 00:17:56.492
  • ARE WE DOING OUR OWN THING?IF YOU LOOK AT THE ORIGINAL
  • 00:17:56.492 --> 00:17:57.693
  • IF YOU LOOK AT THE ORIGINALGREEK WORD THERE FOR BURDEN,
  • 00:17:57.693 --> 00:17:59.061
  • GREEK WORD THERE FOR BURDEN,IT'S THE WORD THAT WOULD BE USED
  • 00:17:59.061 --> 00:18:00.729
  • IT'S THE WORD THAT WOULD BE USEDFOR A SHIP'S LOAD.
  • 00:18:00.729 --> 00:18:04.567
  • FOR A SHIP'S LOAD.IT'S TOO MUCH.
  • 00:18:04.567 --> 00:18:05.301
  • IT'S TOO MUCH.THERE ARE THINGS WE WALK THROUGH
  • 00:18:05.301 --> 00:18:06.435
  • THERE ARE THINGS WE WALK THROUGHIN LIFE, LIKE KAYLA, WHAT YOU
  • 00:18:06.435 --> 00:18:07.870
  • IN LIFE, LIKE KAYLA, WHAT YOUWALKED THROUGH, THAT'S A SHIP'S
  • 00:18:07.870 --> 00:18:09.738
  • WALKED THROUGH, THAT'S A SHIP'SLOAD.
  • 00:18:09.738 --> 00:18:11.240
  • LOAD.NO ONE WOMAN CAN CARRY THAT
  • 00:18:11.240 --> 00:18:12.274
  • NO ONE WOMAN CAN CARRY THATALONE.
  • 00:18:12.274 --> 00:18:13.809
  • ALONE.SO I THINK WHAT SCRIPTURE IS
  • 00:18:13.809 --> 00:18:15.778
  • SO I THINK WHAT SCRIPTURE ISENCOURAGING US TO DO IN THESE
  • 00:18:15.778 --> 00:18:17.613
  • ENCOURAGING US TO DO IN THESETIMES WHERE THE WEIGHT IS SO
  • 00:18:17.613 --> 00:18:20.382
  • TIMES WHERE THE WEIGHT IS SOHEAVY, IS THAT THAT'S WHEN
  • 00:18:20.382 --> 00:18:22.384
  • HEAVY, IS THAT THAT'S WHENOTHERS MOVE IN AND HELP US.
  • 00:18:22.384 --> 00:18:23.819
  • OTHERS MOVE IN AND HELP US.AND THEN IT GOES ON, THE WORD IS
  • 00:18:23.819 --> 00:18:25.087
  • AND THEN IT GOES ON, THE WORD ISVERY DIFFERENT WHEN IT MOVES ON
  • 00:18:25.087 --> 00:18:26.255
  • VERY DIFFERENT WHEN IT MOVES ONA COUPLE OF VERSES LATER.
  • 00:18:26.255 --> 00:18:27.256
  • A COUPLE OF VERSES LATER.IT'S TALKING ABOUT, EACH ONE OF
  • 00:18:27.256 --> 00:18:30.092
  • IT'S TALKING ABOUT, EACH ONE OFUS, ONCE WE'VE GAINED STRENGTH
  • 00:18:30.092 --> 00:18:30.826
  • US, ONCE WE'VE GAINED STRENGTHARE ABLE TO DO WHAT GOD'S
  • 00:18:30.826 --> 00:18:32.728
  • ARE ABLE TO DO WHAT GOD'SASSIGNED US SPECIFICALLY TO DO.
  • 00:18:32.728 --> 00:18:36.632
  • ASSIGNED US SPECIFICALLY TO DO.I'M VERY GRATEFUL THAT WE'VE
  • 00:18:36.632 --> 00:18:37.633
  • I'M VERY GRATEFUL THAT WE'VETAKEN THIS WHOLE WEEK TO TALK
  • 00:18:37.633 --> 00:18:39.135
  • TAKEN THIS WHOLE WEEK TO TALKABOUT THESE ISSUES.
  • 00:18:39.135 --> 00:18:40.369
  • ABOUT THESE ISSUES.AND FOR THOSE OF YOU WHO FEEL
  • 00:18:40.369 --> 00:18:42.638
  • AND FOR THOSE OF YOU WHO FEELLIKE, MAYBE EVEN AS YOUR
  • 00:18:42.638 --> 00:18:43.339
  • LIKE, MAYBE EVEN AS YOURLISTENING TO THE PROGRAM, IT'S
  • 00:18:43.339 --> 00:18:44.907
  • LISTENING TO THE PROGRAM, IT'SLIKE THERE ARE WARNING BELLS
  • 00:18:44.907 --> 00:18:45.808
  • LIKE THERE ARE WARNING BELLSGOING OFF IN YOUR MIND AND YOUR
  • 00:18:45.808 --> 00:18:47.109
  • GOING OFF IN YOUR MIND AND YOURTHINKING, YEAH, THIS IS WHAT'S
  • 00:18:47.109 --> 00:18:48.811
  • THINKING, YEAH, THIS IS WHAT'SWRONG WITH ME.
  • 00:18:48.811 --> 00:18:50.813
  • WRONG WITH ME.DON'T BE AFRAID TO GET HELP.
  • 00:18:50.813 --> 00:18:53.649
  • DON'T BE AFRAID TO GET HELP.IN FACT, THERE IS A NUMBER ON
  • 00:18:53.649 --> 00:18:54.750
  • IN FACT, THERE IS A NUMBER ONYOUR SCREEN.
  • 00:18:54.750 --> 00:18:56.018
  • YOUR SCREEN.IF YOU'VE EVER BEEN TEMPTED TO
  • 00:18:56.018 --> 00:18:59.221
  • IF YOU'VE EVER BEEN TEMPTED TOEND YOUR OWN LIFE AND I HAVE
  • 00:18:59.221 --> 00:19:00.589
  • END YOUR OWN LIFE AND I HAVEBEEN THERE.
  • 00:19:00.589 --> 00:19:02.057
  • BEEN THERE.I HAVE BEEN THERE TWICE.
  • 00:19:02.057 --> 00:19:03.392
  • I HAVE BEEN THERE TWICE.AND I JUST WANT YOU TO KNOW
  • 00:19:03.392 --> 00:19:04.994
  • AND I JUST WANT YOU TO KNOWTHERE IS HELP AVAILABLE.
  • 00:19:04.994 --> 00:19:06.095
  • THERE IS HELP AVAILABLE.THERE IS A NUMBER ON YOUR
  • 00:19:06.095 --> 00:19:06.962
  • THERE IS A NUMBER ON YOURSCREEN.
  • 00:19:06.962 --> 00:19:08.831
  • SCREEN.AND ONE OF THE THINGS THEY SAY
  • 00:19:08.831 --> 00:19:10.266
  • AND ONE OF THE THINGS THEY SAYHERE, THE SOCIETY OF THE
  • 00:19:10.266 --> 00:19:12.067
  • HERE, THE SOCIETY OF THEPROTECTION OF MENTAL HEALTH IS,
  • 00:19:12.067 --> 00:19:14.236
  • PROTECTION OF MENTAL HEALTH IS,TALK SAVES LIVES.
  • 00:19:14.236 --> 00:19:16.739
  • TALK SAVES LIVES.SO YOU'RE NOT ALONE.
  • 00:19:16.739 --> 00:19:18.874
  • SO YOU'RE NOT ALONE.AND THERE ARE SOME PHENOMENAL
  • 00:19:18.874 --> 00:19:20.142
  • AND THERE ARE SOME PHENOMENALRESOURCES OUT THERE.
  • 00:19:20.142 --> 00:19:21.477
  • RESOURCES OUT THERE.THE FIVE OF US, WE'RE NOT GOING
  • 00:19:21.477 --> 00:19:22.344
  • THE FIVE OF US, WE'RE NOT GOINGANYWHERE.
  • 00:19:22.344 --> 00:19:23.279
  • ANYWHERE.WE'RE ALL AROUND ON SOCIAL MEDIA
  • 00:19:23.279 --> 00:19:24.079
  • WE'RE ALL AROUND ON SOCIAL MEDIASOMEWHERE.
  • 00:19:24.079 --> 00:19:25.247
  • SOMEWHERE.YOU CAN CONNECT WITH US.
  • 00:19:25.247 --> 00:19:27.283
  • YOU CAN CONNECT WITH US.DON'T FEEL LIKE YOU HAVE TO WALK
  • 00:19:27.283 --> 00:19:28.918
  • DON'T FEEL LIKE YOU HAVE TO WALKTHROUGH THIS BY YOURSELF.
  • 00:19:28.918 --> 00:19:31.387
  • THROUGH THIS BY YOURSELF.AND NOT ONLY THAT, WE MENTIONED
  • 00:19:31.387 --> 00:19:33.155
  • AND NOT ONLY THAT, WE MENTIONEDROMANS-- CHRYSTAL JUST MENTIONED
  • 00:19:33.155 --> 00:19:34.924
  • ROMANS-- CHRYSTAL JUST MENTIONEDROMANS 8:28.
  • 00:19:34.924 --> 00:19:36.458
  • ROMANS 8:28.BUT GO TWO VERSES BEFORE THAT.
  • 00:19:36.458 --> 00:19:37.993
  • BUT GO TWO VERSES BEFORE THAT.AND WHAT YOU'LL FIND OUT, THE
  • 00:19:37.993 --> 00:19:39.728
  • AND WHAT YOU'LL FIND OUT, THETIMES WHEN YOU CANNOT HAVE THE
  • 00:19:39.728 --> 00:19:40.896
  • TIMES WHEN YOU CANNOT HAVE THESTRENGTH TO EVEN PRAY FOR
  • 00:19:40.896 --> 00:19:43.199
  • STRENGTH TO EVEN PRAY FORYOURSELF, THE HOLY SPIRIT
  • 00:19:43.199 --> 00:19:46.335
  • YOURSELF, THE HOLY SPIRITINTERCEDES FOR YOU.
  • 00:19:46.335 --> 00:19:47.303
  • INTERCEDES FOR YOU.SO IF YOU'RE IN A DARK PLACE
  • 00:19:47.303 --> 00:19:49.004
  • SO IF YOU'RE IN A DARK PLACERIGHT NOW, CAN I TELL YOU, THE
  • 00:19:49.004 --> 00:19:50.406
  • RIGHT NOW, CAN I TELL YOU, THEHOLY SPIRIT IS CALLING OUT YOUR
  • 00:19:50.406 --> 00:19:52.675
  • HOLY SPIRIT IS CALLING OUT YOURNAME RIGHT BY THE FATHER SAYING,
  • 00:19:52.675 --> 00:19:55.611
  • NAME RIGHT BY THE FATHER SAYING,LORD, SAMANTHA, MARK, MARY,
  • 00:19:55.611 --> 00:19:58.847
  • LORD, SAMANTHA, MARK, MARY,THEY'RE NOT DOING WELL.
  • 00:19:58.847 --> 00:20:01.217
  • THEY'RE NOT DOING WELL.AND HE IS INTERCEDING FOR YOU
  • 00:20:01.217 --> 00:20:04.119
  • AND HE IS INTERCEDING FOR YOUBECAUSE HE KNOWS GOD'S WILL FOR
  • 00:20:04.119 --> 00:20:04.954
  • BECAUSE HE KNOWS GOD'S WILL FORYOU.
  • 00:20:04.954 --> 00:20:05.788
  • YOU.IF YOU'RE IN A PLACE LIKE THAT
  • 00:20:05.788 --> 00:20:06.622
  • IF YOU'RE IN A PLACE LIKE THATRIGHT NOW AND YOU ARE JUST LIKE,
  • 00:20:06.622 --> 00:20:09.625
  • RIGHT NOW AND YOU ARE JUST LIKE,I'M DONE.
  • 00:20:09.625 --> 00:20:10.326
  • I'M DONE.I CAN'T MAKE IT ONE MORE STEP.
  • 00:20:10.326 --> 00:20:12.328
  • I CAN'T MAKE IT ONE MORE STEP.I CAN'T SEE ANY HOPE ON THE
  • 00:20:12.328 --> 00:20:14.730
  • I CAN'T SEE ANY HOPE ON THEHORIZON, CAN I REMIND YOU OF ONE
  • 00:20:14.730 --> 00:20:17.066
  • HORIZON, CAN I REMIND YOU OF ONESIMPLE THING?
  • 00:20:17.066 --> 00:20:20.402
  • SIMPLE THING?HOPE HAS A NAME.
  • 00:20:20.402 --> 00:20:22.738
  • HOPE HAS A NAME.HIS NAME IS JESUS.
  • 00:20:22.738 --> 00:20:24.974
  • HIS NAME IS JESUS.HOPE HAS A NAME.
  • 00:20:24.974 --> 00:20:26.942
  • HOPE HAS A NAME.AND YOU ARE NOT FORGOTTEN AND
  • 00:20:26.942 --> 00:20:27.876
  • AND YOU ARE NOT FORGOTTEN ANDYOU ARE NOT OVERLOOKED.
  • 00:20:27.876 --> 00:20:29.478
  • YOU ARE NOT OVERLOOKED.TRUST ME, I'VE BEEN THERE.
  • 00:20:29.478 --> 00:20:30.112
  • TRUST ME, I'VE BEEN THERE.ONE NIGHT WHEN I ACTUALLY
  • 00:20:30.112 --> 00:20:32.047
  • ONE NIGHT WHEN I ACTUALLYPRAYED, LORD, IF YOU HAVE ONE
  • 00:20:32.047 --> 00:20:33.716
  • PRAYED, LORD, IF YOU HAVE ONEOUNCE OF MERCY LEFT IN YOUR
  • 00:20:33.716 --> 00:20:35.651
  • OUNCE OF MERCY LEFT IN YOURHEART, PLEASE TAKE ME HOME.
  • 00:20:35.651 --> 00:20:37.653
  • HEART, PLEASE TAKE ME HOME.I CAN'T DO THIS.
  • 00:20:37.653 --> 00:20:40.489
  • I CAN'T DO THIS.IT'S TOO HARD.
  • 00:20:40.489 --> 00:20:42.524
  • IT'S TOO HARD.BUT INSTEAD, HE PRESENCED
  • 00:20:42.524 --> 00:20:44.026
  • BUT INSTEAD, HE PRESENCEDHIMSELF WITH ME.
  • 00:20:44.026 --> 00:20:45.060
  • HIMSELF WITH ME.I REMEMBER I WROTE IN THE BACK
  • 00:20:45.060 --> 00:20:48.163
  • I REMEMBER I WROTE IN THE BACKOF MY BIBLE IN A PSYCH HOSPITAL.
  • 00:20:48.163 --> 00:20:49.064
  • OF MY BIBLE IN A PSYCH HOSPITAL.I NEVER KNEW YOU LIVED SO CLOSE
  • 00:20:49.064 --> 00:20:52.034
  • I NEVER KNEW YOU LIVED SO CLOSETO THE FLOOR.
  • 00:20:52.034 --> 00:20:54.203
  • TO THE FLOOR.I'M SO USED TO WORSHIPING YOU IN
  • 00:20:54.203 --> 00:20:55.838
  • I'M SO USED TO WORSHIPING YOU INYOUR MAJESTY AS WE SHOULD.
  • 00:20:55.838 --> 00:20:57.406
  • YOUR MAJESTY AS WE SHOULD.BUT, LORD, WHEN I'M LYING HERE
  • 00:20:57.406 --> 00:21:00.276
  • BUT, LORD, WHEN I'M LYING HEREAND THE ONLY TWO WORDS I CAN GET
  • 00:21:00.276 --> 00:21:04.113
  • AND THE ONLY TWO WORDS I CAN GETOUT ARE, HELP ME.
  • 00:21:04.113 --> 00:21:06.181
  • OUT ARE, HELP ME.CHRIST WAS RIGHT THERE.
  • 00:21:06.181 --> 00:21:08.984
  • CHRIST WAS RIGHT THERE.CAN I PRAY FOR YOU?
  • 00:21:08.984 --> 00:21:10.452
  • CAN I PRAY FOR YOU?FATHER, I WANT TO PRAY RIGHT NOW
  • 00:21:10.452 --> 00:21:14.123
  • FATHER, I WANT TO PRAY RIGHT NOWFOR EVERYONE WHO IS LISTENING
  • 00:21:14.123 --> 00:21:15.824
  • FOR EVERYONE WHO IS LISTENINGAND FOR EVERYONE WHO'S WATCHING,
  • 00:21:15.824 --> 00:21:17.626
  • AND FOR EVERYONE WHO'S WATCHING,WHO'S JUST STRUGGLING.
  • 00:21:17.626 --> 00:21:18.961
  • WHO'S JUST STRUGGLING.STRUGGLING AND FEELING
  • 00:21:18.961 --> 00:21:21.130
  • STRUGGLING AND FEELINGOVERWHELMED.
  • 00:21:21.130 --> 00:21:22.431
  • OVERWHELMED.THEY CAN'T SEE WHY THEY CAN FIND
  • 00:21:22.431 --> 00:21:25.000
  • THEY CAN'T SEE WHY THEY CAN FINDTHEIR WAY OUT OF THIS PLACE.
  • 00:21:25.000 --> 00:21:27.036
  • THEIR WAY OUT OF THIS PLACE.BUT, LORD, YOU TOLD US, I'M NOT
  • 00:21:27.036 --> 00:21:31.140
  • BUT, LORD, YOU TOLD US, I'M NOTJUST A WAY, I AM THE WAY.
  • 00:21:31.140 --> 00:21:32.574
  • JUST A WAY, I AM THE WAY.I DON'T JUST HAVE SOME TRUTH, I
  • 00:21:32.574 --> 00:21:34.910
  • I DON'T JUST HAVE SOME TRUTH, IAM TRUTH.
  • 00:21:34.910 --> 00:21:36.178
  • AM TRUTH.I DON'T JUST COME TO MAKE YOUR
  • 00:21:36.178 --> 00:21:38.147
  • I DON'T JUST COME TO MAKE YOURLIFE A LITTLE BIT BETTER, I AM
  • 00:21:38.147 --> 00:21:42.518
  • LIFE A LITTLE BIT BETTER, I AMLIFE.
  • 00:21:42.518 --> 00:21:44.153
  • LIFE.LORD, I PRAY RIGHT NOW FOR MY
  • 00:21:44.153 --> 00:21:49.625
  • LORD, I PRAY RIGHT NOW FOR MYSISTER, LORD, WILL YOU JUST POUR
  • 00:21:49.625 --> 00:21:52.561
  • SISTER, LORD, WILL YOU JUST POURYOUR HOLY SPIRIT, YOUR ANOINTING
  • 00:21:52.561 --> 00:21:53.629
  • YOUR HOLY SPIRIT, YOUR ANOINTINGOVER HER FROM THE TOP OF HER
  • 00:21:53.629 --> 00:21:56.865
  • OVER HER FROM THE TOP OF HERHEAD TO THE BOTTOM OF HER FEET?
  • 00:21:56.865 --> 00:21:58.367
  • HEAD TO THE BOTTOM OF HER FEET?LORD, WOULD YOU JUST BRING SUCH
  • 00:21:58.367 --> 00:22:01.804
  • LORD, WOULD YOU JUST BRING SUCHCOMFORT, HOLY SPIRIT, THANK YOU
  • 00:22:01.804 --> 00:22:02.971
  • COMFORT, HOLY SPIRIT, THANK YOUTHAT YOU PRAY FOR US WHEN WE
  • 00:22:02.971 --> 00:22:06.575
  • THAT YOU PRAY FOR US WHEN WEDON'T HAVE WORDS.
  • 00:22:06.575 --> 00:22:07.276
  • DON'T HAVE WORDS.WE LIFT OUR SISTERS UP TO YOU
  • 00:22:07.276 --> 00:22:09.311
  • WE LIFT OUR SISTERS UP TO YOURIGHT NOW.
  • 00:22:09.311 --> 00:22:10.813
  • RIGHT NOW.THANK YOU, LORD, THAT WE HAVE
  • 00:22:10.813 --> 00:22:11.814
  • THANK YOU, LORD, THAT WE HAVETHE PRIVILEGE OF BEARING ONE
  • 00:22:11.814 --> 00:22:13.882
  • THE PRIVILEGE OF BEARING ONEANOTHER'S LOADS WHEN IT'S TOO
  • 00:22:13.882 --> 00:22:16.985
  • ANOTHER'S LOADS WHEN IT'S TOOMUCH AND YOU HAVE GIVEN US SUCH
  • 00:22:16.985 --> 00:22:19.321
  • MUCH AND YOU HAVE GIVEN US SUCHCOMFORT IN KNOWING THAT YOU PRAY
  • 00:22:19.321 --> 00:22:22.691
  • COMFORT IN KNOWING THAT YOU PRAYFOR US.
  • 00:22:22.691 --> 00:22:24.126
  • FOR US.THAT YOU ARE A SHEPHERD WHO GOES
  • 00:22:24.126 --> 00:22:26.295
  • THAT YOU ARE A SHEPHERD WHO GOESAHEAD OF US, WHO IS COMMITTED TO
  • 00:22:26.295 --> 00:22:31.367
  • AHEAD OF US, WHO IS COMMITTED TOWALKING US ALL THE WAY HOME.
  • 00:22:31.367 --> 00:22:33.135
  • WALKING US ALL THE WAY HOME.MAY YOUR GRACE, MAY YOUR PEACE,
  • 00:22:33.135 --> 00:22:36.438
  • MAY YOUR GRACE, MAY YOUR PEACE,MAY YOUR REST BE UPON EACH ONE,
  • 00:22:36.438 --> 00:22:43.278
  • MAY YOUR REST BE UPON EACH ONE,IN JESUS' NAME.
  • 00:22:43.278 --> 00:22:44.813
  • IN JESUS' NAME.- Laurie: AMEN.
  • 00:22:44.813 --> 00:22:48.217
  • - Laurie: AMEN.YOU KNOW, TALKING ABOUT THE
  • 00:22:48.217 --> 00:22:52.654
  • YOU KNOW, TALKING ABOUT THESCARS, I REMEMBER DAVE ROEVER
  • 00:22:52.654 --> 00:22:54.089
  • SCARS, I REMEMBER DAVE ROEVERWHO IS A DEAR FRIEND OF OUR
  • 00:22:54.089 --> 00:22:56.959
  • WHO IS A DEAR FRIEND OF OURFAMILY AND THE TBN FAMILY, WAS
  • 00:22:56.959 --> 00:22:58.660
  • FAMILY AND THE TBN FAMILY, WASIN VIETNAM.
  • 00:22:58.660 --> 00:22:59.595
  • IN VIETNAM.HE HAD A GRENADE EXPLODE NEAR
  • 00:22:59.595 --> 00:23:01.263
  • HE HAD A GRENADE EXPLODE NEARHIS FACE.
  • 00:23:01.263 --> 00:23:06.168
  • HIS FACE.BLEW MOST OF HIS BODY OFF.
  • 00:23:06.168 --> 00:23:07.803
  • BLEW MOST OF HIS BODY OFF.IT'S A MIRACLE THAT HE'S ALIVE.
  • 00:23:07.803 --> 00:23:11.407
  • IT'S A MIRACLE THAT HE'S ALIVE.AND HE THOUGHT ABOUT COMMITTING
  • 00:23:11.407 --> 00:23:13.809
  • AND HE THOUGHT ABOUT COMMITTINGSUICIDE EVERY SINGLE DAY.
  • 00:23:13.809 --> 00:23:15.244
  • SUICIDE EVERY SINGLE DAY.AND HE TELLS THIS STORY THAT
  • 00:23:15.244 --> 00:23:17.312
  • AND HE TELLS THIS STORY THATI'VE HEARD FOR YEARS ON TBN.
  • 00:23:17.312 --> 00:23:19.181
  • I'VE HEARD FOR YEARS ON TBN.HE WOULD COME ON WITH PAUL AND
  • 00:23:19.181 --> 00:23:22.184
  • HE WOULD COME ON WITH PAUL ANDJAN, MY IN-LAWS, STARTING YEARS
  • 00:23:22.184 --> 00:23:27.356
  • JAN, MY IN-LAWS, STARTING YEARSAND YEARS AND YEARS AGO.
  • 00:23:27.356 --> 00:23:28.824
  • AND YEARS AND YEARS AGO.AND HE WOULD THINK ABOUT
  • 00:23:28.824 --> 00:23:30.025
  • AND HE WOULD THINK ABOUTCOMMITTING SUICIDE BECAUSE HE
  • 00:23:30.025 --> 00:23:33.028
  • COMMITTING SUICIDE BECAUSE HEFELT LIKE HE LOOKED SO HORRIBLE.
  • 00:23:33.028 --> 00:23:34.863
  • FELT LIKE HE LOOKED SO HORRIBLE.AND MY MOTHER-IN-LAW SAID TO HIM
  • 00:23:34.863 --> 00:23:36.532
  • AND MY MOTHER-IN-LAW SAID TO HIMON THE PROGRAM ONE NIGHT.
  • 00:23:36.532 --> 00:23:39.501
  • ON THE PROGRAM ONE NIGHT.SHE SAID, DAVEY, SHE SAID, DO
  • 00:23:39.501 --> 00:23:40.402
  • SHE SAID, DAVEY, SHE SAID, DOYOU KNOW WHY YOU HAVE THOSE
  • 00:23:40.402 --> 00:23:42.805
  • YOU KNOW WHY YOU HAVE THOSESCARS?
  • 00:23:42.805 --> 00:23:43.972
  • SCARS?AND AT FIRST IT KIND OF TICKED
  • 00:23:43.972 --> 00:23:47.109
  • AND AT FIRST IT KIND OF TICKEDHIM OFF THAT SHE ASKED HIM THAT.
  • 00:23:47.109 --> 00:23:48.577
  • HIM OFF THAT SHE ASKED HIM THAT.HE'S LIKE, ARE YOU GONNA TELL ME
  • 00:23:48.577 --> 00:23:51.246
  • HE'S LIKE, ARE YOU GONNA TELL MENOW AFTER ALL THESE YEARS AND
  • 00:23:51.246 --> 00:23:52.681
  • NOW AFTER ALL THESE YEARS ANDWANTING TO DIE EVERY DAY?
  • 00:23:52.681 --> 00:23:55.050
  • WANTING TO DIE EVERY DAY?SHE SAID, BECAUSE GOD COULD
  • 00:23:55.050 --> 00:23:57.152
  • SHE SAID, BECAUSE GOD COULDTRUST YOU WITH THEM.
  • 00:23:57.152 --> 00:23:58.253
  • TRUST YOU WITH THEM.AND GOD KNEW HE WAS GOING TO BE
  • 00:23:58.253 --> 00:24:00.689
  • AND GOD KNEW HE WAS GOING TO BEABLE TO TRUST YOU WITH THEM.
  • 00:24:00.689 --> 00:24:02.925
  • ABLE TO TRUST YOU WITH THEM.KAYLA, GOD KNEW HE WAS GOING TO
  • 00:24:02.925 --> 00:24:04.560
  • KAYLA, GOD KNEW HE WAS GOING TOBE ABLE TO TRUST YOU WITH THIS.
  • 00:24:04.560 --> 00:24:07.196
  • BE ABLE TO TRUST YOU WITH THIS.SHEILA, CHRYSTAL, LESLIE, WHAT
  • 00:24:07.196 --> 00:24:09.832
  • SHEILA, CHRYSTAL, LESLIE, WHATWE GO THROUGH.
  • 00:24:09.832 --> 00:24:11.667
  • WE GO THROUGH.THE BIBLE SAYS THAT IN THE HANDS
  • 00:24:11.667 --> 00:24:13.035
  • THE BIBLE SAYS THAT IN THE HANDSOF THE POTTER THE CLAY WAS
  • 00:24:13.035 --> 00:24:16.738
  • OF THE POTTER THE CLAY WASMARRED TO MAKE AND MOLD US THE
  • 00:24:16.738 --> 00:24:18.407
  • MARRED TO MAKE AND MOLD US THEWAY HE WANTS US TO BE.
  • 00:24:18.407 --> 00:24:19.374
  • WAY HE WANTS US TO BE.THERE'S GONNA BE PAIN, THERE
  • 00:24:19.374 --> 00:24:20.476
  • THERE'S GONNA BE PAIN, THEREGONNA BE TRIALS, THERE'S GONNA
  • 00:24:20.476 --> 00:24:22.211
  • GONNA BE TRIALS, THERE'S GONNABE TRIBULATIONS.
  • 00:24:22.211 --> 00:24:25.781
  • BE TRIBULATIONS.YOU ARE NOT ALONE.
  • 00:24:25.781 --> 00:24:26.548
  • YOU ARE NOT ALONE.IF NO ONE HAS EVER TOLD YOU
  • 00:24:26.548 --> 00:24:30.018
  • IF NO ONE HAS EVER TOLD YOUTODAY, MEN AND WOMEN, GOD LOVES
  • 00:24:30.018 --> 00:24:32.921
  • TODAY, MEN AND WOMEN, GOD LOVESYOU, JESUS LOVES YOU.
  • 00:24:32.921 --> 00:24:34.523
  • YOU, JESUS LOVES YOU.HE LOVES US SO MUCH THAT HE DIED
  • 00:24:34.523 --> 00:24:39.061
  • HE LOVES US SO MUCH THAT HE DIEDON A CROSS FOR YOU.
  • 00:24:39.061 --> 00:24:40.162
  • ON A CROSS FOR YOU.AND THIS TEAM, THIS BEAUTIFUL
  • 00:24:40.162 --> 00:24:41.530
  • AND THIS TEAM, THIS BEAUTIFULGROUP OF WOMEN, THE WOMEN ON
  • 00:24:41.530 --> 00:24:44.099
  • GROUP OF WOMEN, THE WOMEN ONTHIS "BETTER TOGETHER"
  • 00:24:44.099 --> 00:24:45.167
  • THIS "BETTER TOGETHER"COMMUNITY, WE'RE ALWAYS HERE FOR
  • 00:24:45.167 --> 00:24:47.769
  • COMMUNITY, WE'RE ALWAYS HERE FORYOU.
  • 00:24:47.769 --> 00:24:49.571
  • YOU.YOU CAN FOLLOW EACH ONE OF THEM.
  • 00:24:49.571 --> 00:24:51.807
  • YOU CAN FOLLOW EACH ONE OF THEM.YOU CAN GET SUCH GREAT GOOD
  • 00:24:51.807 --> 00:24:54.076
  • YOU CAN GET SUCH GREAT GOODSTUFF OUT OF ALL THE WOMEN HERE.
  • 00:24:54.076 --> 00:24:57.079
  • STUFF OUT OF ALL THE WOMEN HERE.BUT YOU CAN GO ONLINE AND TELL
  • 00:24:57.079 --> 00:24:58.313
  • BUT YOU CAN GO ONLINE AND TELLUS HOW WE CAN PRAY FOR YOU.
  • 00:24:58.313 --> 00:24:59.615
  • US HOW WE CAN PRAY FOR YOU.WE THANK YOU FOR JOINING US THIS
  • 00:24:59.615 --> 00:25:02.451
  • WE THANK YOU FOR JOINING US THISWHOLE WEEK.
  • 00:25:02.451 --> 00:25:03.752
  • WHOLE WEEK.THIS CONVERSATION AGAIN SHOULD
  • 00:25:03.752 --> 00:25:06.088
  • THIS CONVERSATION AGAIN SHOULDNOT STOP RIGHT HERE.
  • 00:25:06.088 --> 00:25:10.158
  • NOT STOP RIGHT HERE.IT SHOULD CONTINUE AND WE NEED
  • 00:25:10.158 --> 00:25:11.627
  • IT SHOULD CONTINUE AND WE NEEDTO GET INVOLVED MAYBE IN OUR
  • 00:25:11.627 --> 00:25:13.495
  • TO GET INVOLVED MAYBE IN OURCHURCHES, LESLIE AND HELP A
  • 00:25:13.495 --> 00:25:16.832
  • CHURCHES, LESLIE AND HELP ALITTLE MORE, BRING AWARENESS.
  • 00:25:16.832 --> 00:25:18.934
  • LITTLE MORE, BRING AWARENESS.SO MANY THINGS WE CAN LEARN AND
  • 00:25:18.934 --> 00:25:22.704
  • SO MANY THINGS WE CAN LEARN ANDWE NEED TO LEARN TO JUST GRAB A
  • 00:25:22.704 --> 00:25:24.139
  • WE NEED TO LEARN TO JUST GRAB AHAND OF SOMEBODY AND SAY, COME
  • 00:25:24.139 --> 00:25:25.807
  • HAND OF SOMEBODY AND SAY, COMEON, I'M GONNA HELP YOU GET TO
  • 00:25:25.807 --> 00:25:27.976
  • ON, I'M GONNA HELP YOU GET TOTHE OTHER SIDE.
  • 00:25:27.976 --> 00:25:29.978
  • THE OTHER SIDE.IF YOU'VE MISSED ANY OF THE
  • 00:25:29.978 --> 00:25:31.313
  • IF YOU'VE MISSED ANY OF THEEPISODES THIS WEEK, YOU CAN
  • 00:25:31.313 --> 00:25:34.483
  • EPISODES THIS WEEK, YOU CANWATCH THEM AT BETTERTOGETHER.TV
  • 00:25:34.483 --> 00:25:36.184
  • WATCH THEM AT BETTERTOGETHER.TVOR ON THE TBN APP.
  • 00:25:36.184 --> 00:25:37.853
  • OR ON THE TBN APP.WHEN WE FACE CHALLENGING TIMES
  • 00:25:37.853 --> 00:25:38.720
  • WHEN WE FACE CHALLENGING TIMESWE HAVE A CHOICE TO MAKE.
  • 00:25:38.720 --> 00:25:41.657
  • WE HAVE A CHOICE TO MAKE.WE CAN BE ANGRY, BITTER OR SAD
  • 00:25:41.657 --> 00:25:44.526
  • WE CAN BE ANGRY, BITTER OR SADOR WE CAN CHOOSE TO COUNT IT ALL
  • 00:25:44.526 --> 00:25:46.662
  • OR WE CAN CHOOSE TO COUNT IT ALLA JOY.
  • 00:25:46.662 --> 00:25:47.896
  • A JOY.NEXT WEEK WE WILL BE TALKING
  • 00:25:47.896 --> 00:25:49.131
  • NEXT WEEK WE WILL BE TALKINGABOUT WHAT IT MEANS TO LIVE
  • 00:25:49.131 --> 00:25:50.232
  • ABOUT WHAT IT MEANS TO LIVEFULLY AND JOYFULLY IN ALL
  • 00:25:50.232 --> 00:25:52.067
  • FULLY AND JOYFULLY IN ALLSEASONS.
  • 00:25:52.067 --> 00:25:53.235
  • SEASONS.Y'ALL HAVE A GREAT WEEKEND.
  • 00:25:53.235 --> 00:25:54.670
  • Y'ALL HAVE A GREAT WEEKEND.WE WILL SEE YOU ON MONDAY.
  • 00:25:54.670 --> 00:25:55.270
  • WE WILL SEE YOU ON MONDAY.I LOVE YOU GIRLS.
  • 00:25:55.270 --> 00:25:56.371
  • I LOVE YOU GIRLS.YOU'RE AMAZING.
  • 00:25:56.371 --> 00:25:58.106
  • YOU'RE AMAZING.BYE BYE.
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