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February 12, 2021
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Better Together LIVE | Episode 195

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  • - LAURIE CROUCH: DINNER AND A
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  • - LAURIE CROUCH: DINNER AND AMOVIE, A CHAT OVER COFFEE.
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  • MOVIE, A CHAT OVER COFFEE.WHETHER YOU HAVE BEEN MARRIED A
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  • WHETHER YOU HAVE BEEN MARRIED AFEW MONTHS OR 50 YEARS, LOVE
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  • FEW MONTHS OR 50 YEARS, LOVEAND AFFECTION ARE STILL JUST AS
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  • AND AFFECTION ARE STILL JUST ASIMPORTANT AS WHEN YOU FIRST
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  • IMPORTANT AS WHEN YOU FIRSTSAID, "I DO."
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  • SAID, "I DO."WE'RE TALKING ABOUT HOW TO DATE
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  • WE'RE TALKING ABOUT HOW TO DATEYOUR MATE.
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  • YOUR MATE.COME ON -- JOIN US.
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  • ♪ [MUSIC] ♪
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  • ♪ [MUSIC] ♪♪ [MUSIC] ♪
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  • ♪ [MUSIC] ♪- DR. LESLIE PARROTT: IT IS
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  • - DR. LESLIE PARROTT: IT ISALWAYS SO MUCH FUN, AS A WOMAN,
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  • ALWAYS SO MUCH FUN, AS A WOMAN,WHEN WE GET TO FOCUS ON THE
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  • WHEN WE GET TO FOCUS ON THETHING I TRY NOT TO FOCUS TOO
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  • THING I TRY NOT TO FOCUS TOOMUCH ON -- AND THAT'S ROMANCE!
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  • MUCH ON -- AND THAT'S ROMANCE!BECAUSE IT'S FINALLY LIKE:
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  • BECAUSE IT'S FINALLY LIKE:OKAY, THERE'S A CERTAIN TIME OF
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  • OKAY, THERE'S A CERTAIN TIME OFYEAR WHERE IT'S ALL IN STYLE TO
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  • YEAR WHERE IT'S ALL IN STYLE TOREALLY JUST FOCUS ON IT.
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  • REALLY JUST FOCUS ON IT.AND, YOU KNOW, LOVE AND ROMANCE
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  • AND, YOU KNOW, LOVE AND ROMANCE-- THERE'S SOMETHING JUST SO--
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  • -- THERE'S SOMETHING JUST SO--IT'S THE FROSTING ON THE CAKE
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  • IT'S THE FROSTING ON THE CAKEOF LIFE, RIGHT?
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  • OF LIFE, RIGHT?AND YET, I CAN BE KIND OF
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  • AND YET, I CAN BE KIND OFCAUGHT OFF GUARD BY WHAT MY
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  • CAUGHT OFF GUARD BY WHAT MYSENSE AND SCRIPT FOR ROMANCE
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  • SENSE AND SCRIPT FOR ROMANCEIS.
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  • IS.BECAUSE, FOR ME -- AND I KNOW
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  • BECAUSE, FOR ME -- AND I KNOWFOR A LOT OF WOMEN -- I'LL BE
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  • FOR A LOT OF WOMEN -- I'LL BESO CURIOUS IF THESE WISE
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  • SO CURIOUS IF THESE WISEGIRLFRIENDS -- DO THEY FEEL THE
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  • GIRLFRIENDS -- DO THEY FEEL THESAME WAY? -- ROMANCE IS REALLY
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  • SAME WAY? -- ROMANCE IS REALLYJUST ABOUT FEELING DEEPLY
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  • JUST ABOUT FEELING DEEPLYCONNECTED TO MY SPOUSE -- TO
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  • CONNECTED TO MY SPOUSE -- TOLES, MY HUSBAND.
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  • LES, MY HUSBAND.AND SO, FOR ME, EVERY ROMANTIC
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  • AND SO, FOR ME, EVERY ROMANTICFEELING I HAVE COMES OUT.
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  • FEELING I HAVE COMES OUT.I JUST PICTURE US IN A COZY
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  • I JUST PICTURE US IN A COZYCOFFEE SHOP, JUST GAZING IN
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  • COFFEE SHOP, JUST GAZING INEACH OTHER'S EYES AND SHARING
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  • EACH OTHER'S EYES AND SHARINGOUR DREAMS OF EACH OTHER,
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  • OUR DREAMS OF EACH OTHER,REVEALING THINGS TO ONE
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  • REVEALING THINGS TO ONEANOTHER.
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  • ANOTHER.[LAUGHTER]
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  • [LAUGHTER]OR, YOU KNOW, IT COULD BE AT A
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  • OR, YOU KNOW, IT COULD BE AT ACHICHI RESTAURANT, BUT IT
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  • CHICHI RESTAURANT, BUT ITREALLY DOESN'T EVEN TAKE THAT.
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  • REALLY DOESN'T EVEN TAKE THAT.THE POINT IS IT'S US AND WE'RE
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  • THE POINT IS IT'S US AND WE'REGAZING IN EACH OTHER'S EYES.
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  • GAZING IN EACH OTHER'S EYES.AND WE'RE TALKING DEEP.
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  • AND WE'RE TALKING DEEP.AND THERE'S, YOU KNOW, THIS
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  • AND THERE'S, YOU KNOW, THISSHARING.
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  • SHARING.WE'RE LIKE IN A BUBBLE, YOU
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  • WE'RE LIKE IN A BUBBLE, YOUKNOW.
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  • KNOW.[LAUGHTER]
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  • [LAUGHTER]AND, HERE'S THE THING -- YOU
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  • AND, HERE'S THE THING -- YOUKNOW, I WANT THIS SO MUCH.
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  • KNOW, I WANT THIS SO MUCH.AND I WAS STUNNED TO DISCOVER
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  • AND I WAS STUNNED TO DISCOVERMY HUSBAND DOESN'T CRAVE IT IN
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  • MY HUSBAND DOESN'T CRAVE IT INTHE WAY I DO.
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  • THE WAY I DO.AND I WAS JUST SHOCKED ABOUT
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  • AND I WAS JUST SHOCKED ABOUTTHAT.
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  • THAT.SHOCKED!
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  • SHOCKED![LAUGHTER]
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  • [LAUGHTER]AND KIND OF BROKENHEARTED.
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  • AND KIND OF BROKENHEARTED.AND, FINALLY, ONE DAY, I WAS
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  • AND, FINALLY, ONE DAY, I WASREADING IN THIS CUTE LITTLE
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  • READING IN THIS CUTE LITTLECHILDREN'S BOOK -- MAYBE YOU
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  • CHILDREN'S BOOK -- MAYBE YOUGUYS LOVE THE CHARACTERS IN THE
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  • GUYS LOVE THE CHARACTERS IN THEHUNDRED ACRE WOOD AS MUCH AS I
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  • HUNDRED ACRE WOOD AS MUCH AS IDO -- OR, AT LEAST, AT A
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  • DO -- OR, AT LEAST, AT ACERTAIN PHASE OF YOUR KIDS'
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  • CERTAIN PHASE OF YOUR KIDS'LIVES.
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  • LIVES.BUT WINNIE-THE-POOH AND PIGLET
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  • BUT WINNIE-THE-POOH AND PIGLETWERE HAVING A CONVERSATION.
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  • WERE HAVING A CONVERSATION.AND THEY CAPTURED EVERYTHING I
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  • AND THEY CAPTURED EVERYTHING IALWAYS WANTED AND LOVE IN
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  • ALWAYS WANTED AND LOVE INROMANCE-- NOT BECAUSE THEY'RE A
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  • ROMANCE-- NOT BECAUSE THEY'RE ACOUPLE.
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  • COUPLE.IT WAS JUST THE ESSENCE OF WHAT
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  • IT WAS JUST THE ESSENCE OF WHATTHEY SAID.
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  • THEY SAID.PIGLET SAYS, "POOH?"
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  • PIGLET SAYS, "POOH?"AND POOH SAYS, "WHAT, PIGLET?"
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  • AND POOH SAYS, "WHAT, PIGLET?"AND HE SAYS: "OH, NOTHING.
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  • AND HE SAYS: "OH, NOTHING.I JUST WANTED TO BE SURE OF
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  • I JUST WANTED TO BE SURE OFYOU."
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  • YOU."- CECE WINANS: AWWW...
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  • - CECE WINANS: AWWW...- DR. LESLIE: AND EVERYTHING
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  • - DR. LESLIE: AND EVERYTHINGIN ME JUST MELTS WHEN I HEAR
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  • IN ME JUST MELTS WHEN I HEARTHAT.
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  • THAT.THAT'S ALL I WANT.
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  • THAT'S ALL I WANT.THAT'S ROMANCE FOR ME, IN THAT
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  • THAT'S ROMANCE FOR ME, IN THATLITTLE COMMENT.
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  • LITTLE COMMENT.I JUST WANNA BE SURE OF YOU AND
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  • I JUST WANNA BE SURE OF YOU ANDKNOW THAT I'M SEEN AND I'M FELT
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  • KNOW THAT I'M SEEN AND I'M FELTAND I'M HEARD.
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  • AND I'M HEARD.WELL, I WAS KIND OF
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  • WELL, I WAS KIND OFDISAPPOINTED THAT MY HUSBAND--
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  • DISAPPOINTED THAT MY HUSBAND--YOU KNOW, WE'D GO TO THE COZY
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  • YOU KNOW, WE'D GO TO THE COZYCOFFEE SHOP AND IT WOULD BE
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  • COFFEE SHOP AND IT WOULD BEHARD FOR HIM NOT TO LOOK AT HIS
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  • HARD FOR HIM NOT TO LOOK AT HISSCREEN.
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  • SCREEN.BECAUSE IT DIDN'T PULL OUT THE
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  • BECAUSE IT DIDN'T PULL OUT THEGAZING CONVERSATIONS, FOR HIM.
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  • GAZING CONVERSATIONS, FOR HIM.I FINALLY GOT A HOLD OF SOME
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  • I FINALLY GOT A HOLD OF SOMERESEARCH -- BECAUSE THIS IS
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  • RESEARCH -- BECAUSE THIS ISWHAT I DO -- I'M A MARRIAGE AND
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  • WHAT I DO -- I'M A MARRIAGE ANDFAMILY THERAPIST -- AND IT SAID
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  • FAMILY THERAPIST -- AND IT SAIDTHIS TRUTH ABOUT MEN.
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  • THIS TRUTH ABOUT MEN.I WISH I'D KNOWN A MILLION
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  • I WISH I'D KNOWN A MILLIONYEARS AGO THAT WHEN MEN WANNA
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  • YEARS AGO THAT WHEN MEN WANNACONNECT, THEY DO IT THROUGH
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  • CONNECT, THEY DO IT THROUGHSHARED ACTIVITY, NOT THROUGH...
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  • SHARED ACTIVITY, NOT THROUGH...EYE-TO-EYE CONVERSATION.
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  • EYE-TO-EYE CONVERSATION.SO, I GO: WELL, I'M JUST GONNA
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  • SO, I GO: WELL, I'M JUST GONNAQUIETLY TEST THAT.
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  • QUIETLY TEST THAT.AND SO, I STARTED PULLING OUT
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  • AND SO, I STARTED PULLING OUTTHE CONVERSATIONS, WHEN LES AND
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  • THE CONVERSATIONS, WHEN LES ANDI TAKE A 5-MILE WALK TOGETHER
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  • I TAKE A 5-MILE WALK TOGETHERAROUND THE LAKE NEAR OUR HOUSE.
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  • AROUND THE LAKE NEAR OUR HOUSE.AND, I'M GONNA TELL YOU -- HE
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  • AND, I'M GONNA TELL YOU -- HESTARTED TALKING.
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  • STARTED TALKING.UNBELIEVABLE!
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  • UNBELIEVABLE!LIKE, WE'D GET BACK TO THE
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  • LIKE, WE'D GET BACK TO THEHOUSE AND HE WOULD WANNA NOT
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  • HOUSE AND HE WOULD WANNA NOTEVEN GO IN THE HOUSE, 'CAUSE HE
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  • EVEN GO IN THE HOUSE, 'CAUSE HEWAS STILL FINISHING HIS
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  • WAS STILL FINISHING HISTHOUGHTS.
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  • THOUGHTS.AND I JUST COULDN'T BELIEVE
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  • AND I JUST COULDN'T BELIEVETHAT I HAVE NEVER KNOWN THIS
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  • THAT I HAVE NEVER KNOWN THISMAGICAL KEY.
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  • MAGICAL KEY.SHARED ACTIVITY UNLOCKS THE
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  • SHARED ACTIVITY UNLOCKS THEHEART OF THOSE DEEP
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  • HEART OF THOSE DEEPCONVERSATIONS THAT I CONSIDER
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  • CONVERSATIONS THAT I CONSIDERROMANCE.
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  • ROMANCE.SO, LET ME JUST TELL YA -- THAT
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  • SO, LET ME JUST TELL YA -- THATWAS A NEW ONE FOR ME.
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  • WAS A NEW ONE FOR ME.AND I AGREE TO A LOT OF THINGS
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  • AND I AGREE TO A LOT OF THINGSI NEVER AGREED TO BEFORE.
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  • I NEVER AGREED TO BEFORE.AND, WHEN YOU'RE TALKING
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  • AND, WHEN YOU'RE TALKINGROMANCE, THE MORE NOVEL THE
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  • ROMANCE, THE MORE NOVEL THEACTIVITY THAT YOU SHARE, THE
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  • ACTIVITY THAT YOU SHARE, THEMORE, SORT OF, IT IGNITES THOSE
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  • MORE, SORT OF, IT IGNITES THOSEBRAIN CHEMICALS YOU GET WHEN
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  • BRAIN CHEMICALS YOU GET WHENYOU'RE FALLING IN LOVE.
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  • YOU'RE FALLING IN LOVE.I MADE THE MISTAKE OF SHARING
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  • I MADE THE MISTAKE OF SHARINGTHAT THOUGHT WITH MY HUSBAND.
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  • THAT THOUGHT WITH MY HUSBAND.AND HE ACTUALLY, WITHOUT
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  • AND HE ACTUALLY, WITHOUTTELLING ME, BOUGHT A GROUPON
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  • TELLING ME, BOUGHT A GROUPONAND SAID, "I'VE GOT A SURPRISE
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  • AND SAID, "I'VE GOT A SURPRISEFOR US -- WE'RE GONNA SHARE
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  • FOR US -- WE'RE GONNA SHARETHIS FUN ACTIVITY."
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  • THIS FUN ACTIVITY."AND IT WAS FOR TRAPEZE LESSONS
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  • AND IT WAS FOR TRAPEZE LESSONS-- THE FLYING TRAPEZE!
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  • -- THE FLYING TRAPEZE!SO, THE TWO OF US.
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  • SO, THE TWO OF US.AND I SAID, "NO -- THERE'S A
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  • AND I SAID, "NO -- THERE'S ALIMIT TO HOW NOVEL THE ACTIVITY
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  • LIMIT TO HOW NOVEL THE ACTIVITYCAN BE AND STILL BE ROMANCE.
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  • CAN BE AND STILL BE ROMANCE.- LAURIE: (LAUGHING) A
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  • - LAURIE: (LAUGHING) ABOUNDARY.
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  • BOUNDARY.[LAUGHTER]
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  • [LAUGHTER]- DR. LESLIE: I'M...
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  • - DR. LESLIE: I'M...TERRORIZED!
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  • TERRORIZED![LAUGHTER]
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  • [LAUGHTER]BUT...BUT...
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  • BUT...BUT...- LAURIE: I LOVE IT.
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  • - LAURIE: I LOVE IT.- DR. LESLIE: ...THE WHOLE
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  • - DR. LESLIE: ...THE WHOLEPOINT FOR ME ABOUT ROMANCE --
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  • POINT FOR ME ABOUT ROMANCE --THE KEY THAT UNLOCKED IT FOR US
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  • THE KEY THAT UNLOCKED IT FOR US-- AND IT WASN'T UNTIL TWO
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  • -- AND IT WASN'T UNTIL TWODECADES INTO MARRIED LIFE THAT
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  • DECADES INTO MARRIED LIFE THATI GOT IT -- THAT I THOUGHT THE
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  • I GOT IT -- THAT I THOUGHT THECONVERSATION WAS THE ROMANTIC
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  • CONVERSATION WAS THE ROMANTICACTIVITY; FOR HIM, THE ROMANTIC
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  • ACTIVITY; FOR HIM, THE ROMANTICACTIVITY IS SHARING SOMETHING
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  • ACTIVITY IS SHARING SOMETHINGCOOL TOGETHER.
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  • COOL TOGETHER.AND THE CONVERSATION DOES
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  • AND THE CONVERSATION DOESHAPPEN IN THAT CONTEXT.
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  • HAPPEN IN THAT CONTEXT.MAN, I WOULD HAVE-- I WISH I
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  • MAN, I WOULD HAVE-- I WISH ICOULD GO BACK AND REDO A COUPLE
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  • COULD GO BACK AND REDO A COUPLEDECADES, IF I'D KNOWN THAT
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  • DECADES, IF I'D KNOWN THATTRUTH.
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  • TRUTH.AND I JUST-- I DON'T KNOW ABOUT
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  • AND I JUST-- I DON'T KNOW ABOUTYOU GUYS.
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  • YOU GUYS.BUT WHAT ABOUT YOU?
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  • BUT WHAT ABOUT YOU?WHAT IS IT THAT REALLY TURNS
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  • WHAT IS IT THAT REALLY TURNSOUT TO BE TRULY ROMANTIC FOR
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  • OUT TO BE TRULY ROMANTIC FORYOU?
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  • YOU?- CECE: [CHUCKLING]
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  • - CECE: [CHUCKLING]WOW...MY HUSBAND AND I, WE BOTH
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  • WOW...MY HUSBAND AND I, WE BOTHLOVE TO LAUGH.
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  • LOVE TO LAUGH.I LOVE TO LAUGH.
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  • I LOVE TO LAUGH.- HOSANNA WONG: UHHH!
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  • - HOSANNA WONG: UHHH!ABSOLUTELY.
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  • ABSOLUTELY.- CECE: I LOVE TO LAUGH.
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  • - CECE: I LOVE TO LAUGH.AND MY HUSBAND LOVES TO LAUGH.
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  • AND MY HUSBAND LOVES TO LAUGH.AND SO, WHENEVER WE LAUGH, IT
  • 00:05:27.039 --> 00:05:28.374
  • AND SO, WHENEVER WE LAUGH, ITIS JUST SO ROMANTIC TO ME, AS
  • 00:05:28.441 --> 00:05:30.042
  • IS JUST SO ROMANTIC TO ME, ASWELL AS TO HIM.
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  • WELL AS TO HIM.YOU KNOW, WE JUST HAVE A GOOD
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  • YOU KNOW, WE JUST HAVE A GOODTIME THROUGH LAUGHTER.
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  • TIME THROUGH LAUGHTER.AND I THINK SOMETIMES WE-- THE
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  • AND I THINK SOMETIMES WE-- THEBIBLE SAYS LAUGHTER IS LIKE A
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  • BIBLE SAYS LAUGHTER IS LIKE AMEDICINE, YOU KNOW?
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  • MEDICINE, YOU KNOW?BUT, IT JUST-- I DON'T KNOW.
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  • BUT, IT JUST-- I DON'T KNOW.IT JUST PULLS OUT THE BEST IN
  • 00:05:43.055 --> 00:05:44.424
  • IT JUST PULLS OUT THE BEST INBOTH OF US AND WE CAN TALK AND
  • 00:05:44.490 --> 00:05:46.159
  • BOTH OF US AND WE CAN TALK ANDWE CAN-- YOU KNOW, IT'LL LEAD
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  • WE CAN-- YOU KNOW, IT'LL LEADTO MORE ROMANCE, YOU KNOW.
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  • TO MORE ROMANCE, YOU KNOW.BUT, JUST LAUGHTER.
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  • BUT, JUST LAUGHTER.IT'S JUST SO GOOD TO SPEND TIME
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  • IT'S JUST SO GOOD TO SPEND TIMEWITH YOUR SPOUSE AND NOT TO
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  • WITH YOUR SPOUSE AND NOT TOTAKE LIFE SO SERIOUSLY...YOU
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  • TAKE LIFE SO SERIOUSLY...YOUKNOW.
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  • KNOW.BECAUSE, IT'S FUNNY, WHEN YOU
  • 00:06:00.573 --> 00:06:02.008
  • BECAUSE, IT'S FUNNY, WHEN YOUTRY TO-- I KNOW, FOR MY HUSBAND
  • 00:06:02.074 --> 00:06:03.576
  • TRY TO-- I KNOW, FOR MY HUSBANDAND I, WHEN HE TRIES TO BE
  • 00:06:03.643 --> 00:06:06.012
  • AND I, WHEN HE TRIES TO BEROMANTIC IS WHEN THAT IS NOT
  • 00:06:06.078 --> 00:06:07.079
  • ROMANTIC IS WHEN THAT IS NOTTHE ANSWER.
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  • THE ANSWER.[LAUGHTER]
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  • [LAUGHTER]WHEN WE WORK AT IT, LIKE,
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  • WHEN WE WORK AT IT, LIKE,"OH...I GOTTA TRY TO DO
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  • "OH...I GOTTA TRY TO DOIT" -- NO.
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  • IT" -- NO.WHEN YOU JUST--
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  • WHEN YOU JUST--WHEN YOU'RE ABLE, LIKE YOU
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  • WHEN YOU'RE ABLE, LIKE YOUSAID-- I THINK THAT WAS SO
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  • SAID-- I THINK THAT WAS SOAWESOME.
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  • AWESOME.JUST KNOWING THAT YOU'RE WITH
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  • JUST KNOWING THAT YOU'RE WITHME -- YOU KNOW? -- AND THAT
  • 00:06:20.326 --> 00:06:21.494
  • ME -- YOU KNOW? -- AND THATWE'RE SHARING THAT TIME.
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  • WE'RE SHARING THAT TIME.AND, WHEN WE'RE LAUGHING, YOU
  • 00:06:23.963 --> 00:06:24.997
  • AND, WHEN WE'RE LAUGHING, YOUKNOW, IT'S LIKE NOBODY ELSE IS
  • 00:06:25.064 --> 00:06:25.965
  • KNOW, IT'S LIKE NOBODY ELSE ISIN THE ROOM.
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  • IN THE ROOM.IT'S BETWEEN US, YOU KNOW.
  • 00:06:26.866 --> 00:06:28.167
  • IT'S BETWEEN US, YOU KNOW.AND WE COULD BE ANYWHERE.
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  • AND WE COULD BE ANYWHERE.AND IT'S JUST SO ROMANTIC.
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  • AND IT'S JUST SO ROMANTIC.SO, FOR ME, IT'S LAUGHTER.
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  • SO, FOR ME, IT'S LAUGHTER.- HOSANNA: MY HUSBAND AND I
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  • - HOSANNA: MY HUSBAND AND IHAVE BONDED -- EARLY DATING --
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  • HAVE BONDED -- EARLY DATING --THROUGH SPORTS.
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  • THROUGH SPORTS.SO, WE BOTH GREW UP IN FAMILIES
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  • SO, WE BOTH GREW UP IN FAMILIESTHAT LOVE SPORTS.
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  • THAT LOVE SPORTS.MT FAMILY LOVED BASEBALL AND
  • 00:06:42.882 --> 00:06:44.450
  • MT FAMILY LOVED BASEBALL ANDBASKETBALL AND HIS FAMILY LOVED
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  • BASKETBALL AND HIS FAMILY LOVEDFOOTBALL AND BASKETBALL.
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  • FOOTBALL AND BASKETBALL.AND SO, ALREADY, LIKE: OKAY, WE
  • 00:06:46.552 --> 00:06:47.820
  • AND SO, ALREADY, LIKE: OKAY, WEHAVE A COMMON INTEREST -- WE
  • 00:06:47.887 --> 00:06:48.888
  • HAVE A COMMON INTEREST -- WELOVE BASKETBALL!
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  • LOVE BASKETBALL!AND, OVER TIME, I'VE LEARNED TO
  • 00:06:50.189 --> 00:06:52.058
  • AND, OVER TIME, I'VE LEARNED TOLOVE SOME OF HIS SPORTS TEAMS.
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  • LOVE SOME OF HIS SPORTS TEAMS.LIKE, I DIDN'T GROW UP IN AN
  • 00:06:54.026 --> 00:06:55.728
  • LIKE, I DIDN'T GROW UP IN ANAREA THAT HAD A LOT OF COLLEGE
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  • AREA THAT HAD A LOT OF COLLEGETEAMS, BUT HE DID.
  • 00:06:56.696 --> 00:06:58.197
  • TEAMS, BUT HE DID.SO, NOW, HIS COLLEGE TEAMS -- I
  • 00:06:58.264 --> 00:06:59.899
  • SO, NOW, HIS COLLEGE TEAMS -- ICALL THEM MY TEAM-IN-LAWS.
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  • CALL THEM MY TEAM-IN-LAWS.IT'S LIKE: THESE ARE MY
  • 00:07:01.901 --> 00:07:02.869
  • IT'S LIKE: THESE ARE MYTEAM-IN-LAWS.
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  • TEAM-IN-LAWS.NOW, I'M A PART OF THESE TEAMS.
  • 00:07:04.136 --> 00:07:05.238
  • NOW, I'M A PART OF THESE TEAMS.THEY'RE A PART OF ME.
  • 00:07:05.304 --> 00:07:06.239
  • THEY'RE A PART OF ME.MY MUGS ARE OF THESE TEAMS.
  • 00:07:06.305 --> 00:07:08.374
  • MY MUGS ARE OF THESE TEAMS.BUT IT'S SOMETHING THAT WE BOTH
  • 00:07:08.441 --> 00:07:09.308
  • BUT IT'S SOMETHING THAT WE BOTHENJOYED.
  • 00:07:09.375 --> 00:07:10.142
  • ENJOYED.NOW, MAYBE WE DIDN'T LOVE THE
  • 00:07:10.209 --> 00:07:11.444
  • NOW, MAYBE WE DIDN'T LOVE THESAME TEAMS, BUT WE REALIZED
  • 00:07:11.511 --> 00:07:12.612
  • SAME TEAMS, BUT WE REALIZEDTHAT WE BOTH ENJOYED WATCHING
  • 00:07:12.678 --> 00:07:13.246
  • THAT WE BOTH ENJOYED WATCHINGGAMES OR GOING TO GAMES.
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  • GAMES OR GOING TO GAMES.AND, SO, NOW, IN COVID, WHEN
  • 00:07:16.983 --> 00:07:18.384
  • AND, SO, NOW, IN COVID, WHENWE'RE NOT GOING TO GAMES, WE
  • 00:07:18.451 --> 00:07:19.585
  • WE'RE NOT GOING TO GAMES, WEMAKE GAMES AN EVENT AT OUR
  • 00:07:19.652 --> 00:07:20.152
  • MAKE GAMES AN EVENT AT OURHOUSE!
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  • HOUSE!"WHAT WINGS ARE WE GRILLING,
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  • "WHAT WINGS ARE WE GRILLING,TONIGHT?"
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  • TONIGHT?""WHAT STEAKS ARE WE GRILLING,
  • 00:07:23.523 --> 00:07:24.490
  • "WHAT STEAKS ARE WE GRILLING,TONIGHT?"
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  • TONIGHT?""YOU GET THE CHIPS!"
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  • "YOU GET THE CHIPS!""YOU GET THE SALSA!"
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  • "YOU GET THE SALSA!"IT'S A WHOLE EVENT.
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  • IT'S A WHOLE EVENT.WE'RE MAKING IT A PARTY.
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  • WE'RE MAKING IT A PARTY.IT'S A STADIUM AT OUR HOUSE.
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  • IT'S A STADIUM AT OUR HOUSE.AND SO, WE'VE ALWAYS BONDED
  • 00:07:31.163 --> 00:07:32.398
  • AND SO, WE'VE ALWAYS BONDEDTHROUGH SPORTS.
  • 00:07:32.465 --> 00:07:33.299
  • THROUGH SPORTS.AND THROUGH DIFFERENT SEASONS,
  • 00:07:33.366 --> 00:07:33.933
  • AND THROUGH DIFFERENT SEASONS,DEPENDING ON WHERE WE LIVE,
  • 00:07:34.000 --> 00:07:34.800
  • DEPENDING ON WHERE WE LIVE,OR...THE SEASON THE WORLD IS
  • 00:07:34.867 --> 00:07:35.401
  • OR...THE SEASON THE WORLD ISIN, WE HAVE CONSISTENTLY BONDED
  • 00:07:35.468 --> 00:07:37.503
  • IN, WE HAVE CONSISTENTLY BONDEDTHROUGH OUR SHARED LOVE OF
  • 00:07:37.570 --> 00:07:38.571
  • THROUGH OUR SHARED LOVE OFBASKETBALL, AND THEN A LITTLE
  • 00:07:38.638 --> 00:07:39.839
  • BASKETBALL, AND THEN A LITTLEBIT OF MY TEAM-IN-LAW'S AND HIS
  • 00:07:39.906 --> 00:07:41.507
  • BIT OF MY TEAM-IN-LAW'S AND HISCOLLEGE FOOTBALL TEAMS.
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  • COLLEGE FOOTBALL TEAMS.AND, IN THAT-- SO, THAT'S
  • 00:07:42.708 --> 00:07:44.610
  • AND, IN THAT-- SO, THAT'SSOMETHING THAT WE SHARE
  • 00:07:44.677 --> 00:07:45.778
  • SOMETHING THAT WE SHARETOGETHER, AND THEN, AS WELL, MY
  • 00:07:45.845 --> 00:07:46.913
  • TOGETHER, AND THEN, AS WELL, MYHUSBAND LOVES TO GRILL.
  • 00:07:46.979 --> 00:07:48.281
  • HUSBAND LOVES TO GRILL.AND I LOVE TO EAT WHAT HE
  • 00:07:48.347 --> 00:07:49.448
  • AND I LOVE TO EAT WHAT HEGRILLS.
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  • GRILLS.AND SO, THAT'S ALSO A GREAT
  • 00:07:49.982 --> 00:07:50.850
  • AND SO, THAT'S ALSO A GREATPARTNERSHIP THAT WE HAVE
  • 00:07:50.917 --> 00:07:51.684
  • PARTNERSHIP THAT WE HAVETOGETHER.
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  • TOGETHER.SO, WHEN IT'S GAME DAY, YOU
  • 00:07:52.318 --> 00:07:54.921
  • SO, WHEN IT'S GAME DAY, YOUKNOW, MY HUSBAND WILL GRILL AND
  • 00:07:54.987 --> 00:07:56.022
  • KNOW, MY HUSBAND WILL GRILL ANDI'LL GARDEN.
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  • I'LL GARDEN.YOU KNOW, HE GRILLS IN THE
  • 00:07:57.823 --> 00:07:58.791
  • YOU KNOW, HE GRILLS IN THEMIDDLE OF OUR BACKYARD.
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  • MIDDLE OF OUR BACKYARD.AND I'LL GARDEN AND HE'LL
  • 00:07:59.825 --> 00:08:00.326
  • AND I'LL GARDEN AND HE'LLGRILL.
  • 00:08:00.393 --> 00:08:00.993
  • GRILL.AND WE'RE NOT MAYBE SPEAKING TO
  • 00:08:01.060 --> 00:08:01.928
  • AND WE'RE NOT MAYBE SPEAKING TOEACH OTHER.
  • 00:08:01.994 --> 00:08:02.528
  • EACH OTHER.MAYBE WE'RE JUST LISTENING TO
  • 00:08:02.595 --> 00:08:03.396
  • MAYBE WE'RE JUST LISTENING TOMUSIC.
  • 00:08:03.462 --> 00:08:03.863
  • MUSIC.BUT WE'RE DOING SOMETHING
  • 00:08:03.930 --> 00:08:04.797
  • BUT WE'RE DOING SOMETHINGTOGETHER.
  • 00:08:04.864 --> 00:08:05.364
  • TOGETHER.SO, HE'S COOKING AND I'M
  • 00:08:05.431 --> 00:08:06.933
  • SO, HE'S COOKING AND I'MGARDENING.
  • 00:08:06.999 --> 00:08:07.833
  • GARDENING.AND THEN, WE COME AND WE WATCH
  • 00:08:07.900 --> 00:08:08.968
  • AND THEN, WE COME AND WE WATCHTHE SPORT.
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  • THE SPORT.IT'S LIKE: IT SOUNDS SO
  • 00:08:10.136 --> 00:08:13.339
  • IT'S LIKE: IT SOUNDS SOPRACTICAL, BUT ME AND MY
  • 00:08:13.406 --> 00:08:14.707
  • PRACTICAL, BUT ME AND MYHUSBAND LOVE THIS.
  • 00:08:14.774 --> 00:08:15.641
  • HUSBAND LOVE THIS.AND IT BRINGS US SO MUCH JOY.
  • 00:08:15.708 --> 00:08:16.742
  • AND IT BRINGS US SO MUCH JOY.AND, WE CAN THINK OF INTIMACY,
  • 00:08:16.809 --> 00:08:20.179
  • AND, WE CAN THINK OF INTIMACY,SOMETIMES, AS SOMETHING THAT
  • 00:08:20.246 --> 00:08:21.847
  • SOMETIMES, AS SOMETHING THATHAS TO BE EMOTIONALLY VERY
  • 00:08:21.914 --> 00:08:22.848
  • HAS TO BE EMOTIONALLY VERYDEEP.
  • 00:08:22.915 --> 00:08:23.583
  • DEEP.BUT I THINK IT'S ALSO JOY.
  • 00:08:23.649 --> 00:08:24.984
  • BUT I THINK IT'S ALSO JOY.AND IT'S ALSO FUN.
  • 00:08:25.051 --> 00:08:26.852
  • AND IT'S ALSO FUN.AND IT'S ALSO LIKE: WELL, I'M
  • 00:08:26.919 --> 00:08:29.188
  • AND IT'S ALSO LIKE: WELL, I'MSTUCK WITH YOU MY WHOLE LIFE,
  • 00:08:29.255 --> 00:08:30.590
  • STUCK WITH YOU MY WHOLE LIFE,SO LET'S HAVE SOME FUN.
  • 00:08:30.656 --> 00:08:31.557
  • SO LET'S HAVE SOME FUN.LET'S HAVE SOME LAUGHS.
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  • LET'S HAVE SOME LAUGHS.LET'S WATCH SOME BASKETBALL
  • 00:08:32.224 --> 00:08:33.225
  • LET'S WATCH SOME BASKETBALLGAMES.
  • 00:08:33.292 --> 00:08:34.293
  • GAMES.LET'S WIN SOME CHAMPIONSHIPS!
  • 00:08:34.360 --> 00:08:38.798
  • LET'S WIN SOME CHAMPIONSHIPS!AND, THAT'S JUST SOMETHING
  • 00:08:38.864 --> 00:08:39.599
  • AND, THAT'S JUST SOMETHINGTHAT'S BONDED US.
  • 00:08:39.665 --> 00:08:40.666
  • THAT'S BONDED US.AND SO, EVEN IN EVERY SEASON OF
  • 00:08:40.733 --> 00:08:42.168
  • AND SO, EVEN IN EVERY SEASON OFLIFE, WE JUST TRY TO FIGURE OUT
  • 00:08:42.234 --> 00:08:42.835
  • LIFE, WE JUST TRY TO FIGURE OUTHOW TO KEEP BONDING THROUGH
  • 00:08:42.902 --> 00:08:44.036
  • HOW TO KEEP BONDING THROUGHTHAT.
  • 00:08:44.103 --> 00:08:44.837
  • THAT.IT'S SIMPLE BUT IT'S SIMPLY
  • 00:08:44.904 --> 00:08:46.572
  • IT'S SIMPLE BUT IT'S SIMPLYWORKED VERY WELL FOR US.
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  • WORKED VERY WELL FOR US.- CECE: AWESOME.
  • 00:08:47.373 --> 00:08:49.342
  • - CECE: AWESOME.- DR. LESLIE: I LOVE THAT.
  • 00:08:49.408 --> 00:08:49.942
  • - DR. LESLIE: I LOVE THAT.I LOVE IT.
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  • I LOVE IT.- LAURIE: I DO, TOO.
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  • - LAURIE: I DO, TOO.- JAMIE: YOU KNOW, SOMETHING
  • 00:08:51.811 --> 00:08:52.345
  • - JAMIE: YOU KNOW, SOMETHINGTHAT AARON AND I DISCOVERED
  • 00:08:52.411 --> 00:08:53.613
  • THAT AARON AND I DISCOVEREDREALLY EARLY ON IN OUR MARRIAGE
  • 00:08:53.679 --> 00:08:54.280
  • REALLY EARLY ON IN OUR MARRIAGEIS THAT WE REALLY NEEDED TO
  • 00:08:54.347 --> 00:08:56.048
  • IS THAT WE REALLY NEEDED TODEDICATE, LIKE, A TIME WHEN IT
  • 00:08:56.115 --> 00:08:57.216
  • DEDICATE, LIKE, A TIME WHEN ITWAS JUST HIM AND I, TOGETHER.
  • 00:08:57.283 --> 00:08:58.217
  • WAS JUST HIM AND I, TOGETHER.AND, EARLY, THAT WAS A LITTLE
  • 00:08:58.284 --> 00:08:59.852
  • AND, EARLY, THAT WAS A LITTLEBIT EASIER, YOU KNOW?
  • 00:08:59.919 --> 00:09:01.554
  • BIT EASIER, YOU KNOW?WHEN WE DIDN'T HAVE CHILDREN,
  • 00:09:01.621 --> 00:09:02.655
  • WHEN WE DIDN'T HAVE CHILDREN,IT WAS REALLY EASY.
  • 00:09:02.722 --> 00:09:03.155
  • IT WAS REALLY EASY.WE WERE ALWAYS TOGETHER.
  • 00:09:03.222 --> 00:09:04.090
  • WE WERE ALWAYS TOGETHER.AND THEN, WE GOT KIDS, AND WE
  • 00:09:04.156 --> 00:09:05.124
  • AND THEN, WE GOT KIDS, AND WEREALIZED THAT WE NEEDED A LINE
  • 00:09:05.191 --> 00:09:06.692
  • REALIZED THAT WE NEEDED A LINEITEM IN OUR BUDGET FOR
  • 00:09:06.759 --> 00:09:07.994
  • ITEM IN OUR BUDGET FORBABYSITTERS.
  • 00:09:08.060 --> 00:09:08.561
  • BABYSITTERS.AND SO, EVERY SINGLE MONTH,
  • 00:09:08.628 --> 00:09:10.429
  • AND SO, EVERY SINGLE MONTH,EVEN WHEN WE WERE DOING, LIKE,
  • 00:09:10.496 --> 00:09:11.364
  • EVEN WHEN WE WERE DOING, LIKE,CASH-ENVELOPE SYSTEM TO GET
  • 00:09:11.430 --> 00:09:13.366
  • CASH-ENVELOPE SYSTEM TO GETOUR FEET UNDERNEATH US, WE
  • 00:09:13.432 --> 00:09:14.700
  • OUR FEET UNDERNEATH US, WEDEDICATED A NIGHT TO GO OUT ON
  • 00:09:14.767 --> 00:09:16.535
  • DEDICATED A NIGHT TO GO OUT ONA DATE.
  • 00:09:16.602 --> 00:09:17.303
  • A DATE.AND, WE STILL DO THAT, RIGHT
  • 00:09:17.370 --> 00:09:18.871
  • AND, WE STILL DO THAT, RIGHTNOW, IN OUR MARRIAGE, 20 YEARS
  • 00:09:18.938 --> 00:09:20.573
  • NOW, IN OUR MARRIAGE, 20 YEARSLATER.
  • 00:09:20.640 --> 00:09:21.340
  • LATER.WE TRY TO HAVE A WEEKLY DATE
  • 00:09:21.407 --> 00:09:22.441
  • WE TRY TO HAVE A WEEKLY DATENIGHT, EVERY SINGLE WEEK.
  • 00:09:22.508 --> 00:09:24.076
  • NIGHT, EVERY SINGLE WEEK.IT'S INCONVENIENT, SOMETIMES.
  • 00:09:24.143 --> 00:09:26.212
  • IT'S INCONVENIENT, SOMETIMES.AND, YOU KNOW WHAT?
  • 00:09:26.278 --> 00:09:26.846
  • AND, YOU KNOW WHAT?SOMETIMES OUR KIDS DON'T
  • 00:09:26.912 --> 00:09:27.380
  • SOMETIMES OUR KIDS DON'TSEE US FOR THREE NIGHT,
  • 00:09:27.446 --> 00:09:28.214
  • SEE US FOR THREE NIGHT,BECAUSE MAYBE THEY HAD
  • 00:09:28.280 --> 00:09:29.115
  • BECAUSE MAYBE THEY HADSOMETHING, AND THEN WE HAD
  • 00:09:29.181 --> 00:09:29.682
  • SOMETHING, AND THEN WE HADSOMETHING.
  • 00:09:29.749 --> 00:09:30.116
  • SOMETHING.BUT WE KNOW THAT IT IS SUCH A
  • 00:09:30.182 --> 00:09:31.851
  • BUT WE KNOW THAT IT IS SUCH AVALUE TO OUR MARRIAGE.
  • 00:09:31.917 --> 00:09:32.885
  • VALUE TO OUR MARRIAGE.AND SO, WE HAVE A DATE NIGHT,
  • 00:09:32.952 --> 00:09:33.719
  • AND SO, WE HAVE A DATE NIGHT,EVERY WEEK.
  • 00:09:33.786 --> 00:09:34.920
  • EVERY WEEK.I THINK THERE'S...THREE THINGS
  • 00:09:34.987 --> 00:09:36.322
  • I THINK THERE'S...THREE THINGSTHAT WE EACH NEED: WE NEED TIME
  • 00:09:36.389 --> 00:09:37.289
  • THAT WE EACH NEED: WE NEED TIMEWITH EACH OTHER, WE NEED WORDS
  • 00:09:37.356 --> 00:09:38.991
  • WITH EACH OTHER, WE NEED WORDSWITH EACH OTHER, AND WE NEED
  • 00:09:39.058 --> 00:09:39.592
  • WITH EACH OTHER, AND WE NEEDAFFECTION FROM EACH OTHER.
  • 00:09:39.659 --> 00:09:41.861
  • AFFECTION FROM EACH OTHER.AND THAT ALWAYS-- A DATE NIGHT
  • 00:09:41.927 --> 00:09:42.728
  • AND THAT ALWAYS-- A DATE NIGHTALWAYS BRINGS THAT TOGETHER.
  • 00:09:42.795 --> 00:09:43.963
  • ALWAYS BRINGS THAT TOGETHER.WE GET OUT TIME TOGETHER.
  • 00:09:44.030 --> 00:09:45.131
  • WE GET OUT TIME TOGETHER.HE GETS TO HEAR ALL MY WORDS
  • 00:09:45.197 --> 00:09:46.732
  • HE GETS TO HEAR ALL MY WORDSTHAT I HAVE TO SAY.
  • 00:09:46.799 --> 00:09:47.867
  • THAT I HAVE TO SAY.AND I GET TO HEAR HIM TALK TO
  • 00:09:47.933 --> 00:09:49.168
  • AND I GET TO HEAR HIM TALK TOME, AS WELL.
  • 00:09:49.235 --> 00:09:50.102
  • ME, AS WELL.AND THERE'S AFFECTION, AS WELL.
  • 00:09:50.169 --> 00:09:51.904
  • AND THERE'S AFFECTION, AS WELL.AND THAT'S IMPORTANT TO US.
  • 00:09:51.971 --> 00:09:53.072
  • AND THAT'S IMPORTANT TO US.SO, THAT'S SOMETHING THAT WE'VE
  • 00:09:53.139 --> 00:09:54.607
  • SO, THAT'S SOMETHING THAT WE'VEALWAYS DONE TO DEVELOP THAT
  • 00:09:54.674 --> 00:09:56.442
  • ALWAYS DONE TO DEVELOP THATROMANCE AND INTIMACY.
  • 00:09:56.509 --> 00:09:57.009
  • ROMANCE AND INTIMACY.BUT ANOTHER THING WE DO IS WE
  • 00:09:57.076 --> 00:09:58.444
  • BUT ANOTHER THING WE DO IS WEGET AWAY AT LEAST ONE TIME A
  • 00:09:58.511 --> 00:10:00.279
  • GET AWAY AT LEAST ONE TIME AYEAR, JUST BY OURSELVES.
  • 00:10:00.346 --> 00:10:01.847
  • YEAR, JUST BY OURSELVES.AND THERE'VE BEEN SEASONS IN
  • 00:10:01.914 --> 00:10:03.215
  • AND THERE'VE BEEN SEASONS INOUR LIFE WHEN MONEY WAS TIGHT,
  • 00:10:03.282 --> 00:10:04.684
  • OUR LIFE WHEN MONEY WAS TIGHT,AND IT LOOKED LIKE IN OUR SAME
  • 00:10:04.750 --> 00:10:05.751
  • AND IT LOOKED LIKE IN OUR SAMECITY, FOR ONE NIGHT AT A HOTEL.
  • 00:10:05.818 --> 00:10:07.053
  • CITY, FOR ONE NIGHT AT A HOTEL.BUT WE'VE BEEN VERY INTENTIONAL
  • 00:10:07.119 --> 00:10:09.655
  • BUT WE'VE BEEN VERY INTENTIONALTO SAY: WE NEED TO KIND OF
  • 00:10:09.722 --> 00:10:11.290
  • TO SAY: WE NEED TO KIND OFREBOOT A LITTLE BIT AND
  • 00:10:11.357 --> 00:10:12.925
  • REBOOT A LITTLE BIT ANDREMEMBER WHAT IT FEELS LIKE TO
  • 00:10:12.992 --> 00:10:14.060
  • REMEMBER WHAT IT FEELS LIKE TONOT HAVE TO GET UP IN THE
  • 00:10:14.126 --> 00:10:15.227
  • NOT HAVE TO GET UP IN THEMIDDLE OF THE NIGHT AND FEED A
  • 00:10:15.294 --> 00:10:16.862
  • MIDDLE OF THE NIGHT AND FEED ABABY.
  • 00:10:16.929 --> 00:10:17.697
  • BABY.OR REMEMBER THAT WHEN WE WAKE
  • 00:10:17.763 --> 00:10:18.664
  • OR REMEMBER THAT WHEN WE WAKEUP IN THE MORNING, WE DON'T
  • 00:10:18.731 --> 00:10:19.265
  • UP IN THE MORNING, WE DON'THAVE TO FIX BREAKFAST FOR FOUR
  • 00:10:19.331 --> 00:10:20.433
  • HAVE TO FIX BREAKFAST FOR FOURKIDS.
  • 00:10:20.499 --> 00:10:21.067
  • KIDS.AND WE CAN ENJOY OURSELVES FOR
  • 00:10:21.133 --> 00:10:22.168
  • AND WE CAN ENJOY OURSELVES FORTHAT NIGHT, OR FOR THAT
  • 00:10:22.234 --> 00:10:23.235
  • THAT NIGHT, OR FOR THATWEEKEND.
  • 00:10:23.302 --> 00:10:24.437
  • WEEKEND.OR, FOR NOW, WE HAVE THE
  • 00:10:24.503 --> 00:10:25.871
  • OR, FOR NOW, WE HAVE THEOPPORTUNITY, FOR MAYBE FOR A
  • 00:10:25.938 --> 00:10:26.806
  • OPPORTUNITY, FOR MAYBE FOR AWHOLE WEEK, WE GET TO ENJOY
  • 00:10:26.872 --> 00:10:28.207
  • WHOLE WEEK, WE GET TO ENJOYOURSELVES TOGETHER.
  • 00:10:28.274 --> 00:10:28.941
  • OURSELVES TOGETHER.AND SO, FOR ME, IT'S LIKE: WE
  • 00:10:29.008 --> 00:10:30.342
  • AND SO, FOR ME, IT'S LIKE: WEHAVE TO BE INTENTIONAL WITH THE
  • 00:10:30.409 --> 00:10:31.911
  • HAVE TO BE INTENTIONAL WITH THETIME.
  • 00:10:31.977 --> 00:10:32.611
  • TIME.AND I HAVE TO REMEMBER -- AND I
  • 00:10:32.678 --> 00:10:34.146
  • AND I HAVE TO REMEMBER -- AND IDON'T THINK I KNEW THIS WHEN I
  • 00:10:34.213 --> 00:10:35.748
  • DON'T THINK I KNEW THIS WHEN IFIRST GOT MARRIED, YOU GUYS --
  • 00:10:35.815 --> 00:10:36.916
  • FIRST GOT MARRIED, YOU GUYS --IS WHAT KIND OF SACRIFICES IT
  • 00:10:36.982 --> 00:10:38.417
  • IS WHAT KIND OF SACRIFICES ITWOULD TAKE TO BE INTENTIONAL IN
  • 00:10:38.484 --> 00:10:39.618
  • WOULD TAKE TO BE INTENTIONAL INYOUR MARRIAGE.
  • 00:10:39.685 --> 00:10:40.786
  • YOUR MARRIAGE.I JUST ASSUMED IT WOULD JUST BE
  • 00:10:40.853 --> 00:10:42.588
  • I JUST ASSUMED IT WOULD JUST BEEASY AND IT WOULD JUST BE LIKE:
  • 00:10:42.655 --> 00:10:45.091
  • EASY AND IT WOULD JUST BE LIKE:THIS IS WHAT WE DO.
  • 00:10:45.157 --> 00:10:45.591
  • THIS IS WHAT WE DO.WE'RE MARRIED.
  • 00:10:45.658 --> 00:10:46.325
  • WE'RE MARRIED.WE LOVE EACH OTHER.
  • 00:10:46.392 --> 00:10:46.992
  • WE LOVE EACH OTHER.AND WE WANNA BE TOGETHER.
  • 00:10:47.059 --> 00:10:47.760
  • AND WE WANNA BE TOGETHER.AND I'VE LEARNED SO MUCH, THAT
  • 00:10:47.827 --> 00:10:49.195
  • AND I'VE LEARNED SO MUCH, THATIT IS SACRIFICIAL LOVE TO BE
  • 00:10:49.261 --> 00:10:50.830
  • IT IS SACRIFICIAL LOVE TO BEABLE TO DO THOSE THINGS.
  • 00:10:50.896 --> 00:10:52.732
  • ABLE TO DO THOSE THINGS.BUT IT MATTERS FOR OUR
  • 00:10:52.798 --> 00:10:54.533
  • BUT IT MATTERS FOR OURMARRIAGE.
  • 00:10:54.600 --> 00:10:55.267
  • MARRIAGE.AND SO, THAT'S WHY WE PUT A
  • 00:10:55.334 --> 00:10:56.602
  • AND SO, THAT'S WHY WE PUT AVALUE ON IT.
  • 00:10:56.669 --> 00:10:57.036
  • VALUE ON IT.BECAUSE WE SEE...WE SEE THE
  • 00:10:57.103 --> 00:10:58.471
  • BECAUSE WE SEE...WE SEE THERETURN ON OUR INVESTMENT, AND
  • 00:10:58.537 --> 00:11:00.072
  • RETURN ON OUR INVESTMENT, ANDIT'S GONNA BE A GOOD ONE.
  • 00:11:00.139 --> 00:11:00.906
  • IT'S GONNA BE A GOOD ONE.- CECE: YEAH.
  • 00:11:00.973 --> 00:11:01.941
  • - CECE: YEAH.- DR. LESLIE: I LOVE HEARING
  • 00:11:02.007 --> 00:11:02.575
  • - DR. LESLIE: I LOVE HEARINGYOUR ADVICE ON JUST LOVE AND
  • 00:11:02.641 --> 00:11:03.509
  • YOUR ADVICE ON JUST LOVE ANDROMANCE.
  • 00:11:03.576 --> 00:11:04.210
  • ROMANCE.YOU KNOW, IT SO STRIKES ME --
  • 00:11:04.276 --> 00:11:06.912
  • YOU KNOW, IT SO STRIKES ME --LES AND I WERE INVITED A FEW
  • 00:11:06.979 --> 00:11:08.447
  • LES AND I WERE INVITED A FEWYEARS AGO TO GO GIVE A TALK TO
  • 00:11:08.514 --> 00:11:09.682
  • YEARS AGO TO GO GIVE A TALK TOAN NFL TEAM.
  • 00:11:09.749 --> 00:11:10.783
  • AN NFL TEAM.AND THE COACH CALLED LES UP,
  • 00:11:10.850 --> 00:11:12.985
  • AND THE COACH CALLED LES UP,BEFOREHAND, AND HE SAID,
  • 00:11:13.052 --> 00:11:14.120
  • BEFOREHAND, AND HE SAID,"LISTEN, I WANT YOU TO COME AND
  • 00:11:14.186 --> 00:11:15.387
  • "LISTEN, I WANT YOU TO COME ANDI WANT YOU TO, YOU KNOW, TALK
  • 00:11:15.454 --> 00:11:16.756
  • I WANT YOU TO, YOU KNOW, TALKTO THESE PLAYERS ABOUT THEIR
  • 00:11:16.822 --> 00:11:17.957
  • TO THESE PLAYERS ABOUT THEIRMARRIAGES."
  • 00:11:18.023 --> 00:11:18.791
  • MARRIAGES."AND HE SAID, "I DON'T WANT YOU
  • 00:11:18.858 --> 00:11:19.825
  • AND HE SAID, "I DON'T WANT YOUTO GIVE 'EM ANY OF YOUR
  • 00:11:19.892 --> 00:11:21.227
  • TO GIVE 'EM ANY OF YOURRELATIONSHIP MUMBO JUMBO;
  • 00:11:21.293 --> 00:11:22.428
  • RELATIONSHIP MUMBO JUMBO;I WANT YOU TO GIVE THEM A TO-DO
  • 00:11:22.495 --> 00:11:24.130
  • I WANT YOU TO GIVE THEM A TO-DOLIST; TELL THEM WHAT TO DO TO
  • 00:11:24.196 --> 00:11:25.498
  • LIST; TELL THEM WHAT TO DO TOHAVE A GOOD MARRIAGE," YOU
  • 00:11:25.564 --> 00:11:26.699
  • HAVE A GOOD MARRIAGE," YOUKNOW, WHICH SOUNDS LIKE A
  • 00:11:26.766 --> 00:11:28.367
  • KNOW, WHICH SOUNDS LIKE ACOACH.
  • 00:11:28.434 --> 00:11:29.635
  • COACH.[LAUGHTER]
  • 00:11:29.702 --> 00:11:30.369
  • [LAUGHTER]AND, HE HUNG UP FROM THAT PHONE
  • 00:11:30.436 --> 00:11:31.036
  • AND, HE HUNG UP FROM THAT PHONECALL AND SAID TO ME, YOU KNOW,
  • 00:11:31.103 --> 00:11:32.204
  • CALL AND SAID TO ME, YOU KNOW,"WE GOTTA DO THIS AND HE WANTS
  • 00:11:32.271 --> 00:11:33.639
  • "WE GOTTA DO THIS AND HE WANTSA TO-DO LIST."
  • 00:11:33.706 --> 00:11:34.406
  • A TO-DO LIST."AND I SAID: "YUCK!
  • 00:11:34.473 --> 00:11:35.708
  • AND I SAID: "YUCK!WHO WANTS A TO-DO LIST FOR
  • 00:11:35.775 --> 00:11:36.675
  • WHO WANTS A TO-DO LIST FORMARRIAGE?"
  • 00:11:36.742 --> 00:11:37.510
  • MARRIAGE?"YOU KNOW?
  • 00:11:37.576 --> 00:11:38.544
  • YOU KNOW?BUT WE STARTED THINKING ABOUT
  • 00:11:38.611 --> 00:11:39.845
  • BUT WE STARTED THINKING ABOUTIT, AND, BASED ON ALL THE
  • 00:11:39.912 --> 00:11:41.480
  • IT, AND, BASED ON ALL THEWISDOM YOU GUYS HAVE SHARED--
  • 00:11:41.547 --> 00:11:43.415
  • WISDOM YOU GUYS HAVE SHARED--AND, ACTUALLY RESEARCH BACKS IT
  • 00:11:43.482 --> 00:11:45.084
  • AND, ACTUALLY RESEARCH BACKS ITUP AND THE WORD OF GOD BACKS IT
  • 00:11:45.151 --> 00:11:46.285
  • UP AND THE WORD OF GOD BACKS ITUP.
  • 00:11:46.352 --> 00:11:46.852
  • UP.ISN'T IT BRILLIANT HOW ALL THAT
  • 00:11:46.919 --> 00:11:47.820
  • ISN'T IT BRILLIANT HOW ALL THATALIGNS SO OFTEN?
  • 00:11:47.887 --> 00:11:50.322
  • ALIGNS SO OFTEN?SO, WE FINALLY CAME UP WITH
  • 00:11:50.389 --> 00:11:54.093
  • SO, WE FINALLY CAME UP WITHTHIS LIST.
  • 00:11:54.160 --> 00:11:54.960
  • THIS LIST.ONCE A DAY, WE SAID, MAKE
  • 00:11:55.027 --> 00:11:55.528
  • ONCE A DAY, WE SAID, MAKEEACH OTHER LAUGH.
  • 00:11:55.594 --> 00:11:58.397
  • EACH OTHER LAUGH.AND THAT'S WHAT YOU GUYS TALKED
  • 00:11:58.464 --> 00:11:59.565
  • AND THAT'S WHAT YOU GUYS TALKEDABOUT -- THE POWER OF LAUGHTER.
  • 00:11:59.632 --> 00:12:01.834
  • ABOUT -- THE POWER OF LAUGHTER.BECAUSE THERE'S NOTHING MORE
  • 00:12:01.901 --> 00:12:02.535
  • BECAUSE THERE'S NOTHING MOREBONDING.
  • 00:12:02.601 --> 00:12:03.102
  • BONDING.AND, YOU KNOW, YOU COULD EVEN--
  • 00:12:03.169 --> 00:12:04.236
  • AND, YOU KNOW, YOU COULD EVEN--WE HAVE THAT POWER.
  • 00:12:04.303 --> 00:12:06.005
  • WE HAVE THAT POWER.WE CAN STUDY OUR SPOUSES LIKE
  • 00:12:06.071 --> 00:12:07.406
  • WE CAN STUDY OUR SPOUSES LIKENOBODY ELSE CAN.
  • 00:12:07.473 --> 00:12:10.409
  • NOBODY ELSE CAN.WE CAN BRING THAT INSIDE JOKE,
  • 00:12:10.476 --> 00:12:11.644
  • WE CAN BRING THAT INSIDE JOKE,THAT QUOTE FROM A SITCOM WE
  • 00:12:11.710 --> 00:12:12.478
  • THAT QUOTE FROM A SITCOM WEREMEMBER AND BOTH LOVE.
  • 00:12:12.545 --> 00:12:13.879
  • REMEMBER AND BOTH LOVE.WE KNOW WHAT TO-- YOU KNOW, IF
  • 00:12:13.946 --> 00:12:15.681
  • WE KNOW WHAT TO-- YOU KNOW, IFWE BRING HOME OUR EMBARRASSING
  • 00:12:15.748 --> 00:12:18.350
  • WE BRING HOME OUR EMBARRASSINGMOMENT, THAT MAKES 'EM LAUGH.
  • 00:12:18.417 --> 00:12:19.552
  • MOMENT, THAT MAKES 'EM LAUGH.AND THEN, ONCE A WEEK, SHARE AN
  • 00:12:19.618 --> 00:12:22.054
  • AND THEN, ONCE A WEEK, SHARE ANACTIVITY, WHICH IS WHAT YOU'RE
  • 00:12:22.121 --> 00:12:23.322
  • ACTIVITY, WHICH IS WHAT YOU'RETALKING ABOUT -- PUTTING ASIDE
  • 00:12:23.389 --> 00:12:24.089
  • TALKING ABOUT -- PUTTING ASIDETHAT DATE NIGHT.
  • 00:12:24.156 --> 00:12:25.191
  • THAT DATE NIGHT.AND, DON'T DO THE FLYING
  • 00:12:25.257 --> 00:12:26.625
  • AND, DON'T DO THE FLYINGTRAPEZE.
  • 00:12:26.692 --> 00:12:27.193
  • TRAPEZE.I DON'T RECOMMEND THAT.
  • 00:12:27.259 --> 00:12:27.993
  • I DON'T RECOMMEND THAT.[LAUGHTER]
  • 00:12:28.060 --> 00:12:28.627
  • [LAUGHTER]BUT, SHARE SOME KIND OF
  • 00:12:28.694 --> 00:12:31.697
  • BUT, SHARE SOME KIND OFACTIVITY THAT DOES THOSE THINGS
  • 00:12:31.764 --> 00:12:33.365
  • ACTIVITY THAT DOES THOSE THINGS-- IT BRINGS IN THE WORDS AND
  • 00:12:33.432 --> 00:12:34.633
  • -- IT BRINGS IN THE WORDS ANDTHE AFFECTION AND ALL THAT.
  • 00:12:34.700 --> 00:12:36.202
  • THE AFFECTION AND ALL THAT.AND THEN, ONCE A YEAR, WE SAY
  • 00:12:36.268 --> 00:12:38.070
  • AND THEN, ONCE A YEAR, WE SAYGET AWAY TOGETHER AND DO
  • 00:12:38.137 --> 00:12:38.971
  • GET AWAY TOGETHER AND DOSOMETHING THAT SETS-- YOU KNOW,
  • 00:12:39.038 --> 00:12:41.574
  • SOMETHING THAT SETS-- YOU KNOW,RESETS YOUR COURSE FOR THE
  • 00:12:41.640 --> 00:12:43.175
  • RESETS YOUR COURSE FOR THECOMING YEAR.
  • 00:12:43.242 --> 00:12:45.144
  • COMING YEAR.SO, YOU GUYS ARE JUST NAILING
  • 00:12:45.211 --> 00:12:46.846
  • SO, YOU GUYS ARE JUST NAILINGIT, THE THINGS THAT YOU TALKED
  • 00:12:46.912 --> 00:12:47.880
  • IT, THE THINGS THAT YOU TALKEDABOUT.
  • 00:12:47.947 --> 00:12:49.748
  • ABOUT.AND, I'M GONNA TELL YOU -- WHEN
  • 00:12:49.815 --> 00:12:51.250
  • AND, I'M GONNA TELL YOU -- WHENYOU HAVE A PASSIONATE SHARED
  • 00:12:51.317 --> 00:12:52.384
  • YOU HAVE A PASSIONATE SHAREDINTEREST, WHEN YOU'RE FANATICS
  • 00:12:52.451 --> 00:12:54.220
  • INTEREST, WHEN YOU'RE FANATICSABOUT SOMETHING TOGETHER, LIKE
  • 00:12:54.286 --> 00:12:55.354
  • ABOUT SOMETHING TOGETHER, LIKESHARING TEAM SPORTS OR WHATEVER
  • 00:12:55.421 --> 00:12:57.056
  • SHARING TEAM SPORTS OR WHATEVERIT IS, THAT ADDS ANOTHER
  • 00:12:57.122 --> 00:12:58.357
  • IT IS, THAT ADDS ANOTHERELEMENT.
  • 00:12:58.424 --> 00:13:01.327
  • ELEMENT.BECAUSE THERE'S JUST SOME KIND
  • 00:13:01.393 --> 00:13:02.428
  • BECAUSE THERE'S JUST SOME KINDOF AN INSIDER LOYALTY TO THAT.
  • 00:13:02.494 --> 00:13:04.029
  • OF AN INSIDER LOYALTY TO THAT.- HOSANNA: I WAS GONNA SAY, TO
  • 00:13:04.096 --> 00:13:06.298
  • - HOSANNA: I WAS GONNA SAY, TOENCOURAGE ANYBODY WHO'S
  • 00:13:06.365 --> 00:13:08.434
  • ENCOURAGE ANYBODY WHO'SWATCHING WHO MIGHT BE YOUNG IN
  • 00:13:08.500 --> 00:13:09.969
  • WATCHING WHO MIGHT BE YOUNG INTHEIR MARRIAGE, LIKE I AM: I'VE
  • 00:13:10.035 --> 00:13:11.303
  • THEIR MARRIAGE, LIKE I AM: I'VEBEEN MARRIED FOR SIX YEARS, AND
  • 00:13:11.370 --> 00:13:12.404
  • BEEN MARRIED FOR SIX YEARS, ANDSO, I AM NO EXPERT.
  • 00:13:12.471 --> 00:13:14.240
  • SO, I AM NO EXPERT.I HAVE NO ADVICE FOR MARRIED
  • 00:13:14.306 --> 00:13:15.174
  • I HAVE NO ADVICE FOR MARRIEDCOUPLES, EXCEPT I HAD THE
  • 00:13:15.241 --> 00:13:16.508
  • COUPLES, EXCEPT I HAD THELUXURY AT LEARNING PRETTY EARLY
  • 00:13:16.575 --> 00:13:18.010
  • LUXURY AT LEARNING PRETTY EARLYTHAT I WASN'T AN EXPERT.
  • 00:13:18.077 --> 00:13:19.645
  • THAT I WASN'T AN EXPERT.LIKE, PRETTY EARLY, I HAD
  • 00:13:19.712 --> 00:13:21.280
  • LIKE, PRETTY EARLY, I HADPEOPLE IN MY LIFE THAT WERE
  • 00:13:21.347 --> 00:13:22.081
  • PEOPLE IN MY LIFE THAT WERELIKE: "JUST SO YOU KNOW...YOU
  • 00:13:22.147 --> 00:13:22.882
  • LIKE: "JUST SO YOU KNOW...YOUDON'T KNOW."
  • 00:13:22.948 --> 00:13:24.316
  • DON'T KNOW."AND I THINK THAT WAS AN
  • 00:13:24.383 --> 00:13:25.551
  • AND I THINK THAT WAS ANADVANTAGE I HAD WAS THAT, EARLY
  • 00:13:25.618 --> 00:13:26.986
  • ADVANTAGE I HAD WAS THAT, EARLYON I REALIZED THAT I DON'T KNOW
  • 00:13:27.052 --> 00:13:29.255
  • ON I REALIZED THAT I DON'T KNOWEVERYTHING, I'M NOT GONNA BE
  • 00:13:29.321 --> 00:13:30.222
  • EVERYTHING, I'M NOT GONNA BEPERFECT AT THIS, AND I DON'T
  • 00:13:30.289 --> 00:13:31.357
  • PERFECT AT THIS, AND I DON'THAVE ADVICE FOR PEOPLE, EXCEPT
  • 00:13:31.423 --> 00:13:33.826
  • HAVE ADVICE FOR PEOPLE, EXCEPTTHAT I HAVE LEARNED THAT I AM
  • 00:13:33.893 --> 00:13:35.728
  • THAT I HAVE LEARNED THAT I AMNOT AN EXPERT.
  • 00:13:35.794 --> 00:13:37.730
  • NOT AN EXPERT.AND SO, I'VE SURROUNDED MYSELF
  • 00:13:37.796 --> 00:13:38.797
  • AND SO, I'VE SURROUNDED MYSELFACCORDINGLY.
  • 00:13:38.864 --> 00:13:40.432
  • ACCORDINGLY.AND I THINK THAT'S THE BIGGEST
  • 00:13:40.499 --> 00:13:41.367
  • AND I THINK THAT'S THE BIGGESTENCOURAGEMENT -- MAYBE THE ONLY
  • 00:13:41.433 --> 00:13:42.167
  • ENCOURAGEMENT -- MAYBE THE ONLYENCOURAGEMENT -- I CAN GIVE TO
  • 00:13:42.234 --> 00:13:43.202
  • ENCOURAGEMENT -- I CAN GIVE TOYOUNG COUPLES IS THAT: YOU KNOW
  • 00:13:43.269 --> 00:13:44.270
  • YOUNG COUPLES IS THAT: YOU KNOWWHAT?
  • 00:13:44.336 --> 00:13:45.104
  • WHAT?YOU MIGHT FEEL YOU LACK IN
  • 00:13:45.170 --> 00:13:47.306
  • YOU MIGHT FEEL YOU LACK INWISDOM, SOMEONE AROUND YOU
  • 00:13:47.373 --> 00:13:48.707
  • WISDOM, SOMEONE AROUND YOUMIGHT HAVE.
  • 00:13:48.774 --> 00:13:49.675
  • MIGHT HAVE.AND WE'VE SURROUNDED OURSELVES
  • 00:13:49.742 --> 00:13:51.944
  • AND WE'VE SURROUNDED OURSELVESWITH PEOPLE THAT ARE FAMILIAR
  • 00:13:52.011 --> 00:13:53.145
  • WITH PEOPLE THAT ARE FAMILIARWITH OUR FIELDS, OR OUR
  • 00:13:53.212 --> 00:13:53.879
  • WITH OUR FIELDS, OR OURCALLINGS, OR OUR PERSONALITIES,
  • 00:13:53.946 --> 00:13:54.747
  • CALLINGS, OR OUR PERSONALITIES,WHO WE'VE ASKED A LOT OF ADVICE
  • 00:13:54.813 --> 00:13:58.117
  • WHO WE'VE ASKED A LOT OF ADVICEFROM AND WE HAVE BEEN VERY
  • 00:13:58.183 --> 00:13:59.418
  • FROM AND WE HAVE BEEN VERYHONEST ABOUT OUR FLAWS AND OUR
  • 00:13:59.485 --> 00:14:01.153
  • HONEST ABOUT OUR FLAWS AND OURINEFFICIENCIES.
  • 00:14:01.220 --> 00:14:02.922
  • INEFFICIENCIES.AND, THEY'VE GIVEN US LOTS OF
  • 00:14:02.988 --> 00:14:03.856
  • AND, THEY'VE GIVEN US LOTS OFADVICE.
  • 00:14:03.923 --> 00:14:04.790
  • ADVICE.ONE OF THE FIRST THINGS MANY
  • 00:14:04.857 --> 00:14:05.391
  • ONE OF THE FIRST THINGS MANYMARRIED COUPLES TOLD US FROM
  • 00:14:05.457 --> 00:14:07.393
  • MARRIED COUPLES TOLD US FROMTHE BEGINNING IS THAT, YOU
  • 00:14:07.459 --> 00:14:09.194
  • THE BEGINNING IS THAT, YOUKNOW, YOU HAVE YOUR JOB
  • 00:14:09.261 --> 00:14:10.262
  • KNOW, YOU HAVE YOUR JOBRELATIONSHIP, YOUR FRIENDSHIPS,
  • 00:14:10.329 --> 00:14:12.264
  • RELATIONSHIP, YOUR FRIENDSHIPS,YOUR MINISTRY RELATIONSHIP --
  • 00:14:12.331 --> 00:14:13.365
  • YOUR MINISTRY RELATIONSHIP --YOU HAVE ALL THESE VERY
  • 00:14:13.432 --> 00:14:13.999
  • YOU HAVE ALL THESE VERYIMPORTANT ROLES, BUT, YOUR
  • 00:14:14.066 --> 00:14:15.768
  • IMPORTANT ROLES, BUT, YOURSPOUSE IS THE MOST IMPORTANT
  • 00:14:15.834 --> 00:14:16.936
  • SPOUSE IS THE MOST IMPORTANTEARTHLY RELATIONSHIP YOU HAVE,
  • 00:14:17.002 --> 00:14:17.836
  • EARTHLY RELATIONSHIP YOU HAVE,AND FIGHT FOR THAT.
  • 00:14:17.903 --> 00:14:21.106
  • AND FIGHT FOR THAT.AND THAT GOES AGAINST EVERY
  • 00:14:21.173 --> 00:14:22.341
  • AND THAT GOES AGAINST EVERYINSTINCT I HAD COMING INTO MY
  • 00:14:22.408 --> 00:14:23.809
  • INSTINCT I HAD COMING INTO MYMARRIAGE.
  • 00:14:23.876 --> 00:14:24.410
  • MARRIAGE.- CECE: MM...
  • 00:14:24.476 --> 00:14:25.411
  • - CECE: MM...- HOSANNA: AND, ME AND HIM HAD
  • 00:14:25.477 --> 00:14:27.479
  • - HOSANNA: AND, ME AND HIM HADTHE LUXURY OF HAVING PEOPLE
  • 00:14:27.546 --> 00:14:28.981
  • THE LUXURY OF HAVING PEOPLESPEAK INTO OUR LIVES, BUT I
  • 00:14:29.048 --> 00:14:30.649
  • SPEAK INTO OUR LIVES, BUT IPRAISE THE LORD THAT WE HAD THE
  • 00:14:30.716 --> 00:14:33.452
  • PRAISE THE LORD THAT WE HAD THEDISCERNMENT TO LISTEN.
  • 00:14:33.519 --> 00:14:36.689
  • DISCERNMENT TO LISTEN.AND I JUST WANNA ENCOURAGE
  • 00:14:36.755 --> 00:14:37.723
  • AND I JUST WANNA ENCOURAGEANYONE WHO'S A YOUNG MARRIED
  • 00:14:37.790 --> 00:14:39.325
  • ANYONE WHO'S A YOUNG MARRIEDCOUPLE -- PEOPLE ARE SPEAKING
  • 00:14:39.391 --> 00:14:40.426
  • COUPLE -- PEOPLE ARE SPEAKINGTRUTH INTO YOUR LIFE.
  • 00:14:40.492 --> 00:14:41.527
  • TRUTH INTO YOUR LIFE.YOU KNOW, LISTEN -- NOT
  • 00:14:41.593 --> 00:14:43.095
  • YOU KNOW, LISTEN -- NOTEVERYONE'S AN EXPERT AT WHAT
  • 00:14:43.162 --> 00:14:44.229
  • EVERYONE'S AN EXPERT AT WHATYOU'RE CALLED TO DO, NOT
  • 00:14:44.296 --> 00:14:45.030
  • YOU'RE CALLED TO DO, NOTEVERYONE'S AN EXPERT AT YOUR
  • 00:14:45.097 --> 00:14:45.931
  • EVERYONE'S AN EXPERT AT YOURMARRIAGE.
  • 00:14:45.998 --> 00:14:47.333
  • MARRIAGE.BUT TAKE IT WITH GRATITUDE AND
  • 00:14:47.399 --> 00:14:48.067
  • BUT TAKE IT WITH GRATITUDE ANDA GRAIN OF SALT.
  • 00:14:48.133 --> 00:14:48.968
  • A GRAIN OF SALT.SEE IF IT LINES UP WITH THE
  • 00:14:49.034 --> 00:14:49.835
  • SEE IF IT LINES UP WITH THEWORD OF GOD AND WITH WHAT
  • 00:14:49.902 --> 00:14:51.170
  • WORD OF GOD AND WITH WHATYOU'RE REALLY GOING THROUGH.
  • 00:14:51.236 --> 00:14:52.204
  • YOU'RE REALLY GOING THROUGH.BUT YOU CAN BYPASS SO MUCH PAIN
  • 00:14:52.271 --> 00:14:54.707
  • BUT YOU CAN BYPASS SO MUCH PAININ YOUR MARRIAGE IF YOU HAVE
  • 00:14:54.773 --> 00:14:56.141
  • IN YOUR MARRIAGE IF YOU HAVETHE HUMILITY JUST TO LISTEN TO
  • 00:14:56.208 --> 00:14:57.676
  • THE HUMILITY JUST TO LISTEN TOPEOPLE WHO SO BADLY WANT TO
  • 00:14:57.743 --> 00:14:59.144
  • PEOPLE WHO SO BADLY WANT TOHELP YOU THRIVE IN YOUR
  • 00:14:59.211 --> 00:15:00.546
  • HELP YOU THRIVE IN YOURMARRIAGE.
  • 00:15:00.612 --> 00:15:02.614
  • MARRIAGE.AND I KNOW THAT'S TRUE.
  • 00:15:02.681 --> 00:15:03.749
  • AND I KNOW THAT'S TRUE.AND SO, I'M LEARNING SO MUCH
  • 00:15:03.816 --> 00:15:04.883
  • AND SO, I'M LEARNING SO MUCHFROM ALL OF YOU.
  • 00:15:04.950 --> 00:15:05.451
  • FROM ALL OF YOU.AND I CAN'T WAIT TO QUOTE ALL
  • 00:15:05.517 --> 00:15:06.785
  • AND I CAN'T WAIT TO QUOTE ALLOF YOU AND NOT CITE YOU.
  • 00:15:06.852 --> 00:15:08.387
  • OF YOU AND NOT CITE YOU.[LAUGHTER]
  • 00:15:08.454 --> 00:15:09.421
  • [LAUGHTER]IT'S GONNA BE GREAT.
  • 00:15:09.488 --> 00:15:10.456
  • IT'S GONNA BE GREAT.- LAURIE: WELL, YOU KNOW WHAT?
  • 00:15:10.522 --> 00:15:11.290
  • - LAURIE: WELL, YOU KNOW WHAT?I THINK SO MANY OF US ARE SO
  • 00:15:11.357 --> 00:15:12.257
  • I THINK SO MANY OF US ARE SOQUICK TO THROW IN THE TOWEL.
  • 00:15:12.324 --> 00:15:14.660
  • QUICK TO THROW IN THE TOWEL.YOU KNOW?
  • 00:15:14.727 --> 00:15:16.261
  • YOU KNOW?AND SO QUICK TO LOOK INWARDLY
  • 00:15:16.328 --> 00:15:19.298
  • AND SO QUICK TO LOOK INWARDLYAND YOU GO: YOU KNOW WHAT?
  • 00:15:19.365 --> 00:15:20.699
  • AND YOU GO: YOU KNOW WHAT?I'M JUST NOT BEING SERVED
  • 00:15:20.766 --> 00:15:21.433
  • I'M JUST NOT BEING SERVEDPROPERLY.
  • 00:15:21.500 --> 00:15:22.568
  • PROPERLY.I'M NOT BEING SATISFIED.
  • 00:15:22.634 --> 00:15:25.838
  • I'M NOT BEING SATISFIED.AND, WE JUST HAVE TO BEFORE THE
  • 00:15:25.904 --> 00:15:27.306
  • AND, WE JUST HAVE TO BEFORE THELORD.
  • 00:15:27.373 --> 00:15:28.574
  • LORD.AND I ENCOURAGE YOU: THERE IS
  • 00:15:28.640 --> 00:15:30.009
  • AND I ENCOURAGE YOU: THERE ISNOTHING BETTER THAN OLD LOVE.
  • 00:15:30.075 --> 00:15:31.877
  • NOTHING BETTER THAN OLD LOVE.THERE IS NOTHING LIKE STICKING
  • 00:15:31.944 --> 00:15:34.513
  • THERE IS NOTHING LIKE STICKINGOUT THE YEARS.
  • 00:15:34.580 --> 00:15:36.749
  • OUT THE YEARS.I'M NOT EVEN SAYING IT'S EVEN
  • 00:15:36.815 --> 00:15:37.983
  • I'M NOT EVEN SAYING IT'S EVENNICE TO SAY, "OH, IT WOULD BE
  • 00:15:38.050 --> 00:15:39.451
  • NICE TO SAY, "OH, IT WOULD BEEASY BEING MARRIED TO HER."
  • 00:15:39.518 --> 00:15:40.686
  • EASY BEING MARRIED TO HER."NO MARRIAGE IS EASY.
  • 00:15:40.753 --> 00:15:43.956
  • NO MARRIAGE IS EASY.AND I KNOW SOME PEOPLE GET
  • 00:15:44.023 --> 00:15:45.724
  • AND I KNOW SOME PEOPLE GETALONG, THEIR PERSONALITIES ARE
  • 00:15:45.791 --> 00:15:46.492
  • ALONG, THEIR PERSONALITIES AREDIFFERENT, BUT IT'S NEVER JUST
  • 00:15:46.558 --> 00:15:47.860
  • DIFFERENT, BUT IT'S NEVER JUSTA SIMPLE THING.
  • 00:15:47.926 --> 00:15:50.896
  • A SIMPLE THING.IT IS SOMETHING THAT YOU COMMIT
  • 00:15:50.963 --> 00:15:51.997
  • IT IS SOMETHING THAT YOU COMMITTO.
  • 00:15:52.064 --> 00:15:52.965
  • TO.IT'S A COVENANT BETWEEN YOU AND
  • 00:15:53.032 --> 00:15:53.632
  • IT'S A COVENANT BETWEEN YOU ANDYOUR SPOUSE AND GOD.
  • 00:15:53.699 --> 00:15:55.134
  • YOUR SPOUSE AND GOD.AND I THINK HE TAKES IT VERY
  • 00:15:55.200 --> 00:15:56.335
  • AND I THINK HE TAKES IT VERYSERIOUSLY.
  • 00:15:56.402 --> 00:15:57.436
  • SERIOUSLY.BECAUSE THAT'S THE WAY HE SEES
  • 00:15:57.503 --> 00:15:59.071
  • BECAUSE THAT'S THE WAY HE SEESHIS CHURCH -- HE SEES HIS
  • 00:15:59.138 --> 00:16:00.239
  • HIS CHURCH -- HE SEES HISCHURCH AS HIS BRIDE.
  • 00:16:00.305 --> 00:16:02.007
  • CHURCH AS HIS BRIDE.AND SO, NOW, HE'S PUT THAT ON
  • 00:16:02.074 --> 00:16:05.244
  • AND SO, NOW, HE'S PUT THAT ONUS, AS A BRIDE AND A GROOM, AND
  • 00:16:05.310 --> 00:16:07.846
  • US, AS A BRIDE AND A GROOM, ANDTO LOVE EACH OTHER LIKE HE
  • 00:16:07.913 --> 00:16:09.481
  • TO LOVE EACH OTHER LIKE HELOVES THE CHURCH.
  • 00:16:09.548 --> 00:16:10.783
  • LOVES THE CHURCH.SO, IT'S A VERY SERIOUS THING,
  • 00:16:10.849 --> 00:16:12.317
  • SO, IT'S A VERY SERIOUS THING,I BELIEVE, TO GOD.
  • 00:16:12.384 --> 00:16:13.752
  • I BELIEVE, TO GOD.AND, JUST TAKING THE MOMENT,
  • 00:16:13.819 --> 00:16:16.388
  • AND, JUST TAKING THE MOMENT,JUST TAKING YOUR CHOICES, YOUR
  • 00:16:16.455 --> 00:16:18.857
  • JUST TAKING YOUR CHOICES, YOURDECISIONS, THAT QUICK TEMPER,
  • 00:16:18.924 --> 00:16:20.726
  • DECISIONS, THAT QUICK TEMPER,YOUR MOUTH, HOLDING YOUR
  • 00:16:20.793 --> 00:16:23.128
  • YOUR MOUTH, HOLDING YOURTONGUE, THAT CRITICISM, THAT
  • 00:16:23.195 --> 00:16:24.430
  • TONGUE, THAT CRITICISM, THATBITE -- TAKE THAT OUT.
  • 00:16:24.496 --> 00:16:26.532
  • BITE -- TAKE THAT OUT.ASK GOD TO HELP YOU HOW TO
  • 00:16:26.598 --> 00:16:29.168
  • ASK GOD TO HELP YOU HOW TOSPEAK TO, HOW TO SERVE, HOW TO
  • 00:16:29.234 --> 00:16:31.003
  • SPEAK TO, HOW TO SERVE, HOW TOLOVE.
  • 00:16:31.070 --> 00:16:33.138
  • LOVE.YOU KNOW, I REMEMBER MY LITTLE
  • 00:16:33.205 --> 00:16:34.807
  • YOU KNOW, I REMEMBER MY LITTLEGRANDMA.
  • 00:16:34.873 --> 00:16:35.841
  • GRANDMA.SHE WAS MARRIED TO MY
  • 00:16:35.908 --> 00:16:37.076
  • SHE WAS MARRIED TO MYGRANDFATHER.
  • 00:16:37.142 --> 00:16:37.943
  • GRANDFATHER.I COME FROM A BEAUTIFUL FAMILY.
  • 00:16:38.010 --> 00:16:39.578
  • I COME FROM A BEAUTIFUL FAMILY.THERE'S BEEN DIVORCE, BUT THEN,
  • 00:16:39.645 --> 00:16:42.614
  • THERE'S BEEN DIVORCE, BUT THEN,THERE'S BEEN LONG-LASTING
  • 00:16:42.681 --> 00:16:43.882
  • THERE'S BEEN LONG-LASTINGMARRIAGES IN MY FAMILY.
  • 00:16:43.949 --> 00:16:48.954
  • MARRIAGES IN MY FAMILY.AND...I KNOW THAT THE ONES THAT
  • 00:16:49.021 --> 00:16:50.089
  • AND...I KNOW THAT THE ONES THATHAVE BEEN DIVORCED -- THERE'S
  • 00:16:50.155 --> 00:16:51.957
  • HAVE BEEN DIVORCED -- THERE'SSO MUCH REGRET.
  • 00:16:52.024 --> 00:16:54.293
  • SO MUCH REGRET.THERE'S SO MUCH..."MAN, IF I
  • 00:16:54.359 --> 00:16:56.495
  • THERE'S SO MUCH..."MAN, IF IWOULD HAVE JUST TAKEN A
  • 00:16:56.562 --> 00:16:58.764
  • WOULD HAVE JUST TAKEN AMOMENT...AND JUST...TOOK A
  • 00:16:58.831 --> 00:17:01.066
  • MOMENT...AND JUST...TOOK ABREATH AND THOUGHT ABOUT MY
  • 00:17:01.133 --> 00:17:04.670
  • BREATH AND THOUGHT ABOUT MYLEGACY, THOUGHT ABOUT MY SEED
  • 00:17:04.736 --> 00:17:07.473
  • LEGACY, THOUGHT ABOUT MY SEEDBEING A DEED THAT WAS GOING TO
  • 00:17:07.539 --> 00:17:09.174
  • BEING A DEED THAT WAS GOING TOPLAY OUT IN FAMILY..."
  • 00:17:09.241 --> 00:17:11.477
  • PLAY OUT IN FAMILY..."BECAUSE YOU NEVER MAKE
  • 00:17:11.543 --> 00:17:12.344
  • BECAUSE YOU NEVER MAKEA DECISION THAT DOESN'T...
  • 00:17:12.411 --> 00:17:14.246
  • A DECISION THAT DOESN'T...YEAH, AFFECT OTHERS.
  • 00:17:14.313 --> 00:17:15.814
  • YEAH, AFFECT OTHERS.AND, I THINK IF WE CAN JUST
  • 00:17:15.881 --> 00:17:17.916
  • AND, I THINK IF WE CAN JUSTTAKE THAT MOMENT OF BLINK, JUST
  • 00:17:17.983 --> 00:17:19.852
  • TAKE THAT MOMENT OF BLINK, JUSTA BLINK, TO JUST RETHINK AND
  • 00:17:19.918 --> 00:17:21.753
  • A BLINK, TO JUST RETHINK ANDSAY, "HOLY SPIRIT, JUST HELP ME
  • 00:17:21.820 --> 00:17:23.455
  • SAY, "HOLY SPIRIT, JUST HELP MEIN THIS MOMENT, QUICKEN MY
  • 00:17:23.522 --> 00:17:24.990
  • IN THIS MOMENT, QUICKEN MYSPIRIT, HELP ME TO EITHER SAY
  • 00:17:25.057 --> 00:17:28.193
  • SPIRIT, HELP ME TO EITHER SAYIT, OR NOT, HOLD IT, OR YOU
  • 00:17:28.260 --> 00:17:31.163
  • IT, OR NOT, HOLD IT, OR YOUJUST TAKE CARE OF IT -- YOU
  • 00:17:31.230 --> 00:17:32.131
  • JUST TAKE CARE OF IT -- YOUMINISTER TO THE SITUATION...."
  • 00:17:32.197 --> 00:17:36.135
  • MINISTER TO THE SITUATION...."AND DON'T THROW IN THE TOWEL SO
  • 00:17:36.201 --> 00:17:37.603
  • AND DON'T THROW IN THE TOWEL SOEASILY.
  • 00:17:37.669 --> 00:17:38.804
  • EASILY.HANG IN THERE.
  • 00:17:38.871 --> 00:17:39.972
  • HANG IN THERE.IT'S WORTH FIGHTING FOR.
  • 00:17:40.038 --> 00:17:41.006
  • IT'S WORTH FIGHTING FOR.EVERY DAY.
  • 00:17:41.073 --> 00:17:42.674
  • EVERY DAY.EVERY DAY, IT'S WORTH FIGHTING
  • 00:17:42.741 --> 00:17:43.342
  • EVERY DAY, IT'S WORTH FIGHTINGFOR.
  • 00:17:43.408 --> 00:17:43.909
  • FOR.- JAMIE: THAT'S SO GOOD.
  • 00:17:43.976 --> 00:17:44.476
  • - JAMIE: THAT'S SO GOOD.THAT'S SO GOOD, LAURIE.
  • 00:17:44.543 --> 00:17:45.477
  • THAT'S SO GOOD, LAURIE.AND I THINK THAT'S SO TRUE.
  • 00:17:45.544 --> 00:17:46.678
  • AND I THINK THAT'S SO TRUE.AND I WISH THAT I COULD SPEAK
  • 00:17:46.745 --> 00:17:47.880
  • AND I WISH THAT I COULD SPEAKTO THOSE WOMEN WHO ARE WATCHING
  • 00:17:47.946 --> 00:17:49.448
  • TO THOSE WOMEN WHO ARE WATCHINGWITH YOUNG CHILDREN.
  • 00:17:49.515 --> 00:17:50.516
  • WITH YOUNG CHILDREN.YOU KNOW, WE'RE TALKING ABOUT
  • 00:17:50.582 --> 00:17:52.584
  • YOU KNOW, WE'RE TALKING ABOUTROMANCE AND STAYING IN YOUR
  • 00:17:52.651 --> 00:17:54.253
  • ROMANCE AND STAYING IN YOURMARRIAGE AND REALLY FIGHTING
  • 00:17:54.319 --> 00:17:54.853
  • MARRIAGE AND REALLY FIGHTINGFOR IT.
  • 00:17:54.920 --> 00:17:55.387
  • FOR IT.AND I REMEMBER THE SEASON OF
  • 00:17:55.454 --> 00:17:56.421
  • AND I REMEMBER THE SEASON OFHAVING FOUR YOUNG KIDS AND
  • 00:17:56.488 --> 00:17:58.257
  • HAVING FOUR YOUNG KIDS ANDFEELING LIKE: I'M JUST FIGHTING
  • 00:17:58.323 --> 00:17:59.658
  • FEELING LIKE: I'M JUST FIGHTINGTO GET TO 7:30.
  • 00:17:59.725 --> 00:18:00.826
  • TO GET TO 7:30.THAT'S ALL I CAN FIGHT TO GET
  • 00:18:00.893 --> 00:18:02.327
  • THAT'S ALL I CAN FIGHT TO GETTO.
  • 00:18:02.394 --> 00:18:03.095
  • TO.I'M NOT FIGHTING TO FIND
  • 00:18:03.162 --> 00:18:03.996
  • I'M NOT FIGHTING TO FINDROMANCE.
  • 00:18:04.062 --> 00:18:05.430
  • ROMANCE.BECAUSE THERE'S NO ROMANCE,
  • 00:18:05.497 --> 00:18:06.331
  • BECAUSE THERE'S NO ROMANCE,BECAUSE I'M TIRED.
  • 00:18:06.398 --> 00:18:07.299
  • BECAUSE I'M TIRED.AND I REMEMBER I HAD TO MAKE A
  • 00:18:07.366 --> 00:18:08.367
  • AND I REMEMBER I HAD TO MAKE ADECISION.
  • 00:18:08.433 --> 00:18:08.901
  • DECISION.AND BOTH AARON AND I HAD TO
  • 00:18:08.967 --> 00:18:10.335
  • AND BOTH AARON AND I HAD TOMAKE A DECISION AS WE REALIZED
  • 00:18:10.402 --> 00:18:11.603
  • MAKE A DECISION AS WE REALIZEDTHAT THAT SEASON OF PARENTING
  • 00:18:11.670 --> 00:18:13.205
  • THAT THAT SEASON OF PARENTINGYOUNG CHILDREN, IN THE
  • 00:18:13.272 --> 00:18:13.805
  • YOUNG CHILDREN, IN THELONGEVITY OF OUR MARRIAGE, IF
  • 00:18:13.872 --> 00:18:16.275
  • LONGEVITY OF OUR MARRIAGE, IFWE LIVE TO BE 80, IF THAT'S
  • 00:18:16.341 --> 00:18:18.410
  • WE LIVE TO BE 80, IF THAT'SWHAT GOD WILLS FOR US AND WE'RE
  • 00:18:18.477 --> 00:18:20.279
  • WHAT GOD WILLS FOR US AND WE'REMARRIED, YOU KNOW, FOR 50
  • 00:18:20.345 --> 00:18:23.515
  • MARRIED, YOU KNOW, FOR 50YEARS, OR 40-- HOWEVER LONG WE
  • 00:18:23.582 --> 00:18:24.249
  • YEARS, OR 40-- HOWEVER LONG WEGET TO BE, THAT SEASON OF
  • 00:18:24.316 --> 00:18:26.251
  • GET TO BE, THAT SEASON OFPARENTING YOUNG KIDS IS GONNA
  • 00:18:26.318 --> 00:18:27.586
  • PARENTING YOUNG KIDS IS GONNABE A BLINK.
  • 00:18:27.653 --> 00:18:28.687
  • BE A BLINK.AND SO, WHAT WE HAD TO DO --
  • 00:18:28.754 --> 00:18:30.088
  • AND SO, WHAT WE HAD TO DO --AND WE MADE A COMMITMENT --
  • 00:18:30.155 --> 00:18:31.223
  • AND WE MADE A COMMITMENT --WHEN WE TALK ABOUT ROMANCE AND
  • 00:18:31.290 --> 00:18:32.691
  • WHEN WE TALK ABOUT ROMANCE ANDSTICKING IT OUT IS WE HAD TO
  • 00:18:32.758 --> 00:18:33.458
  • STICKING IT OUT IS WE HAD TOHAVE A LONG GAME.
  • 00:18:33.525 --> 00:18:34.593
  • HAVE A LONG GAME.SO, I COULDN'T JUST THINK ABOUT
  • 00:18:34.660 --> 00:18:35.794
  • SO, I COULDN'T JUST THINK ABOUTWHAT IT WAS LIKE TO PARENT, YOU
  • 00:18:35.861 --> 00:18:37.930
  • WHAT IT WAS LIKE TO PARENT, YOUKNOW, A 7-, AND A 6-YEAR-OLD,
  • 00:18:37.996 --> 00:18:39.298
  • KNOW, A 7-, AND A 6-YEAR-OLD,AND A 5-YEAR-OLD AND
  • 00:18:39.364 --> 00:18:41.800
  • AND A 5-YEAR-OLD ANDA 4-YEAR OLD.
  • 00:18:41.867 --> 00:18:42.801
  • A 4-YEAR OLD.I HAD TO THINK ABOUT: WHAT IS
  • 00:18:42.868 --> 00:18:43.435
  • I HAD TO THINK ABOUT: WHAT ISIT GONNA BE LIKE FOR ME AND MY
  • 00:18:43.502 --> 00:18:44.069
  • IT GONNA BE LIKE FOR ME AND MYSPOUSE WHEN ALL OF OUR CHILDREN
  • 00:18:44.136 --> 00:18:45.370
  • SPOUSE WHEN ALL OF OUR CHILDRENHAVE LEFT THE HOUSE.
  • 00:18:45.437 --> 00:18:46.104
  • HAVE LEFT THE HOUSE.AND, WE HAD A REALLY BIG
  • 00:18:46.171 --> 00:18:48.640
  • AND, WE HAD A REALLY BIGWAKE-UP CALL, OUR FIRST YEAR OF
  • 00:18:48.707 --> 00:18:49.541
  • WAKE-UP CALL, OUR FIRST YEAR OFMARRIAGE, WHEN AARON GOT A
  • 00:18:49.608 --> 00:18:50.776
  • MARRIAGE, WHEN AARON GOT APHONE CALL FROM ONE OF HIS
  • 00:18:50.842 --> 00:18:51.343
  • PHONE CALL FROM ONE OF HISFRIENDS.
  • 00:18:51.410 --> 00:18:52.644
  • FRIENDS.AND HE SAID HIS PARENTS WERE
  • 00:18:52.711 --> 00:18:53.245
  • AND HE SAID HIS PARENTS WEREGETTING DIVORCED AFTER 25
  • 00:18:53.312 --> 00:18:54.046
  • GETTING DIVORCED AFTER 25YEARS.
  • 00:18:54.112 --> 00:18:54.580
  • YEARS.AND AS A YOUNG NEWLYWED, MY
  • 00:18:54.646 --> 00:18:56.348
  • AND AS A YOUNG NEWLYWED, MYBRAIN COULD NOT COMPREHEND
  • 00:18:56.415 --> 00:18:58.350
  • BRAIN COULD NOT COMPREHENDSPENDING 25 YEARS WITH SOMEONE
  • 00:18:58.417 --> 00:19:00.219
  • SPENDING 25 YEARS WITH SOMEONEAND THEN GETTING A DIVORCE.
  • 00:19:00.285 --> 00:19:01.486
  • AND THEN GETTING A DIVORCE.NOW THAT I'M 20 YEARS MARRIED,
  • 00:19:01.553 --> 00:19:03.989
  • NOW THAT I'M 20 YEARS MARRIED,I SEE HOW THAT HAPPENS.
  • 00:19:04.056 --> 00:19:05.424
  • I SEE HOW THAT HAPPENS.THAT IS NO LONGER A MYSTERY TO
  • 00:19:05.490 --> 00:19:06.525
  • THAT IS NO LONGER A MYSTERY TOME.
  • 00:19:06.592 --> 00:19:07.025
  • ME.I KNOW EXACTLY HOW THAT
  • 00:19:07.092 --> 00:19:07.759
  • I KNOW EXACTLY HOW THATHAPPENS.
  • 00:19:07.826 --> 00:19:08.827
  • HAPPENS.AND SO, WE MADE A DECISION,
  • 00:19:08.894 --> 00:19:10.395
  • AND SO, WE MADE A DECISION,EARLY ON, THAT WE WERE GONNA
  • 00:19:10.462 --> 00:19:11.530
  • EARLY ON, THAT WE WERE GONNAFIGHT FOR ROMANCE AND INTIMACY
  • 00:19:11.597 --> 00:19:12.731
  • FIGHT FOR ROMANCE AND INTIMACYFOR 10 YEARS DOWN THE ROAD WHEN
  • 00:19:12.798 --> 00:19:15.267
  • FOR 10 YEARS DOWN THE ROAD WHENWE NEEDED IT MORE THAN EVER.
  • 00:19:15.334 --> 00:19:18.337
  • WE NEEDED IT MORE THAN EVER.AND SO, I JUST WANNA ENCOURAGE,
  • 00:19:18.403 --> 00:19:19.905
  • AND SO, I JUST WANNA ENCOURAGE,IF YOU'RE A WOMAN, AND YOU'VE
  • 00:19:19.972 --> 00:19:20.539
  • IF YOU'RE A WOMAN, AND YOU'VEGOT YOUNG KIDS, AND YOU FEEL
  • 00:19:20.606 --> 00:19:21.373
  • GOT YOUNG KIDS, AND YOU FEELEXHAUSTED, AND YOU FEEL LIKE
  • 00:19:21.440 --> 00:19:22.641
  • EXHAUSTED, AND YOU FEEL LIKEROMANCE IS NOT EVEN ON THE
  • 00:19:22.708 --> 00:19:23.709
  • ROMANCE IS NOT EVEN ON THETABLE, I WOULD ENCOURAGE YOU,
  • 00:19:23.775 --> 00:19:25.310
  • TABLE, I WOULD ENCOURAGE YOU,AS MUCH AS YOU'RE FIGHTING FOR
  • 00:19:25.377 --> 00:19:26.278
  • AS MUCH AS YOU'RE FIGHTING FORYOUR MARRIAGE, AND YOU'RE
  • 00:19:26.345 --> 00:19:27.446
  • YOUR MARRIAGE, AND YOU'REFIGHTING YOUR TONGUE, AND
  • 00:19:27.512 --> 00:19:28.513
  • FIGHTING YOUR TONGUE, ANDYOU'RE FIGHTING YOUR HEART, TO
  • 00:19:28.580 --> 00:19:29.448
  • YOU'RE FIGHTING YOUR HEART, TOFIGHT TO FIND THAT INTIMACY.
  • 00:19:29.514 --> 00:19:30.782
  • FIGHT TO FIND THAT INTIMACY.AND I DON'T JUST MEAN SEX.
  • 00:19:30.849 --> 00:19:32.284
  • AND I DON'T JUST MEAN SEX.YES, THAT'S A PART OF IT.
  • 00:19:32.351 --> 00:19:33.418
  • YES, THAT'S A PART OF IT.BUT I MEAN FIGHT FOR THAT
  • 00:19:33.485 --> 00:19:34.319
  • BUT I MEAN FIGHT FOR THATINTIMACY WITH YOUR HUSBAND
  • 00:19:34.386 --> 00:19:35.554
  • INTIMACY WITH YOUR HUSBANDTHAT'S GOING TO SUSTAIN YOU
  • 00:19:35.621 --> 00:19:36.588
  • THAT'S GOING TO SUSTAIN YOUTHROUGH THOSE YEARS.
  • 00:19:36.655 --> 00:19:40.225
  • THROUGH THOSE YEARS.WHEN YOU WAKE UP AFTER THAT
  • 00:19:40.292 --> 00:19:40.826
  • WHEN YOU WAKE UP AFTER THATLAST KID GOES OFF TO
  • 00:19:40.892 --> 00:19:41.927
  • LAST KID GOES OFF TOCOLLEGE...YOU WAKE UP AND YOU
  • 00:19:41.994 --> 00:19:43.428
  • COLLEGE...YOU WAKE UP AND YOULOOK AT YOUR HUSBAND AND YOU
  • 00:19:43.495 --> 00:19:44.162
  • LOOK AT YOUR HUSBAND AND YOUGO, "I KNOW YOU, AND WE'RE
  • 00:19:44.229 --> 00:19:45.631
  • GO, "I KNOW YOU, AND WE'REGONNA BE OKAY, 'CAUSE WE HAVE
  • 00:19:45.697 --> 00:19:47.733
  • GONNA BE OKAY, 'CAUSE WE HAVEEACH OTHER AND WE HAVE BUILT AN
  • 00:19:47.799 --> 00:19:49.334
  • EACH OTHER AND WE HAVE BUILT ANINTIMACY THAT DOES NOT DEPEND
  • 00:19:49.401 --> 00:19:50.502
  • INTIMACY THAT DOES NOT DEPENDON THESE CHILDREN LIVING IN OUR
  • 00:19:50.569 --> 00:19:51.403
  • ON THESE CHILDREN LIVING IN OURHOUSE."
  • 00:19:51.470 --> 00:19:53.839
  • HOUSE."- DR. LESLIE: YOU KNOW, IF
  • 00:19:53.905 --> 00:19:54.773
  • - DR. LESLIE: YOU KNOW, IFTHERE'S ANYONE LISTENING WHO
  • 00:19:54.840 --> 00:19:56.608
  • THERE'S ANYONE LISTENING WHOSAYS, "YOU KNOW, YEAH, I
  • 00:19:56.675 --> 00:19:57.509
  • SAYS, "YOU KNOW, YEAH, IBELIEVE ALL THAT, BUT I JUST
  • 00:19:57.576 --> 00:19:59.845
  • BELIEVE ALL THAT, BUT I JUSTNEED A TAKEAWAY -- WHAT'S ONE
  • 00:19:59.911 --> 00:20:00.846
  • NEED A TAKEAWAY -- WHAT'S ONETHING I CAN DO IN THIS MOMENT,
  • 00:20:00.912 --> 00:20:01.780
  • THING I CAN DO IN THIS MOMENT,IN THE MOMENT WHEN I'M FRAZZLED
  • 00:20:01.847 --> 00:20:04.049
  • IN THE MOMENT WHEN I'M FRAZZLEDAND I'M, YOU KNOW, EXHAUSTED
  • 00:20:04.116 --> 00:20:05.317
  • AND I'M, YOU KNOW, EXHAUSTEDFROM PARENTING, TO RECONNECT?"
  • 00:20:05.384 --> 00:20:07.986
  • FROM PARENTING, TO RECONNECT?"THERE ARE JUST THE SMALLEST
  • 00:20:08.053 --> 00:20:09.588
  • THERE ARE JUST THE SMALLESTTHINGS WE CAN DO THAT HAVE A
  • 00:20:09.655 --> 00:20:10.322
  • THINGS WE CAN DO THAT HAVE APROFOUND IMPACT.
  • 00:20:10.389 --> 00:20:12.190
  • PROFOUND IMPACT.ONE OF THOSE IS JUST SIMPLY THE
  • 00:20:12.257 --> 00:20:14.226
  • ONE OF THOSE IS JUST SIMPLY THEMINUTE WE RECONNECT, AFTER
  • 00:20:14.293 --> 00:20:16.028
  • MINUTE WE RECONNECT, AFTERWE'VE BEEN APART-- YOU KNOW,
  • 00:20:16.094 --> 00:20:17.663
  • WE'VE BEEN APART-- YOU KNOW,SOMETIMES, IN THE FRAY OF
  • 00:20:17.729 --> 00:20:19.464
  • SOMETIMES, IN THE FRAY OFEVERYTHING, WE'RE SO RUSHED,
  • 00:20:19.531 --> 00:20:21.099
  • EVERYTHING, WE'RE SO RUSHED,WE'RE EXHAUSTED, WE'RE COMING
  • 00:20:21.166 --> 00:20:22.134
  • WE'RE EXHAUSTED, WE'RE COMINGBACK TOGETHER, THE KIDS WANT
  • 00:20:22.200 --> 00:20:23.135
  • BACK TOGETHER, THE KIDS WANTOUR ATTENTION.
  • 00:20:23.201 --> 00:20:24.903
  • OUR ATTENTION.BUT IF WE JUST TAKE THAT ONE
  • 00:20:24.970 --> 00:20:27.973
  • BUT IF WE JUST TAKE THAT ONEMINUTE TO LOOK IN EACH OTHER'S
  • 00:20:28.040 --> 00:20:28.840
  • MINUTE TO LOOK IN EACH OTHER'SEYES AND MAKE A CONNECTION...
  • 00:20:28.907 --> 00:20:30.442
  • EYES AND MAKE A CONNECTION...YOU KNOW?
  • 00:20:30.509 --> 00:20:33.478
  • YOU KNOW?AND, WE KNOW IT'S SO
  • 00:20:33.545 --> 00:20:34.313
  • AND, WE KNOW IT'S SOPOWERFUL -- YOU KNOW, THE
  • 00:20:34.379 --> 00:20:35.280
  • POWERFUL -- YOU KNOW, THEMINUTE THAT MATTERS MOST IN
  • 00:20:35.347 --> 00:20:36.248
  • MINUTE THAT MATTERS MOST INYOUR MARRIAGE.
  • 00:20:36.315 --> 00:20:36.982
  • YOUR MARRIAGE.IT CHANGES EVERYTHING.
  • 00:20:37.049 --> 00:20:38.717
  • IT CHANGES EVERYTHING.BECAUSE-- NOT BECAUSE THAT
  • 00:20:38.784 --> 00:20:39.751
  • BECAUSE-- NOT BECAUSE THATMINUTE IS EVERYTHING, BUT IT
  • 00:20:39.818 --> 00:20:41.753
  • MINUTE IS EVERYTHING, BUT ITSETS THE EMOTIONAL TONE FOR THE
  • 00:20:41.820 --> 00:20:43.288
  • SETS THE EMOTIONAL TONE FOR THETIME YOU'RE GONNA SHARE AFTER
  • 00:20:43.355 --> 00:20:45.057
  • TIME YOU'RE GONNA SHARE AFTERTHE MINUTE.
  • 00:20:45.123 --> 00:20:45.691
  • THE MINUTE.- JAMIE: THAT'S GOOD.
  • 00:20:45.757 --> 00:20:47.225
  • - JAMIE: THAT'S GOOD.- DR. LESLIE: AND, IF YOU'RE
  • 00:20:47.292 --> 00:20:48.260
  • - DR. LESLIE: AND, IF YOU'REFEELING DISTANCE FROM EACH
  • 00:20:48.327 --> 00:20:49.027
  • FEELING DISTANCE FROM EACHOTHER AND DISCONNECTED, EVEN
  • 00:20:49.094 --> 00:20:50.095
  • OTHER AND DISCONNECTED, EVENJUST A HUG -- A HUG THAT
  • 00:20:50.162 --> 00:20:51.196
  • JUST A HUG -- A HUG THATLASTS--
  • 00:20:51.263 --> 00:20:52.764
  • LASTS--WE KNOW THAT ALL IT TAKES A HUG
  • 00:20:52.831 --> 00:20:56.168
  • WE KNOW THAT ALL IT TAKES A HUGTHAT LASTS FOR, YOU KNOW, 80
  • 00:20:56.234 --> 00:20:57.369
  • THAT LASTS FOR, YOU KNOW, 80SECONDS OR SO.
  • 00:20:57.436 --> 00:21:00.172
  • SECONDS OR SO.I MEAN-- AND THAT'S KIND OF A
  • 00:21:00.238 --> 00:21:01.139
  • I MEAN-- AND THAT'S KIND OF ALONG HUG.
  • 00:21:01.206 --> 00:21:02.040
  • LONG HUG.TRY IT, YOU KNOW.
  • 00:21:02.107 --> 00:21:03.608
  • TRY IT, YOU KNOW.BUT IT'S A WONDERFUL THING.
  • 00:21:03.675 --> 00:21:04.609
  • BUT IT'S A WONDERFUL THING.JUST A SIMPLE, LONG HUG CHANGES
  • 00:21:04.676 --> 00:21:06.445
  • JUST A SIMPLE, LONG HUG CHANGESOUR BRAIN CHEMISTRY AND IT
  • 00:21:06.511 --> 00:21:07.679
  • OUR BRAIN CHEMISTRY AND ITRELEASES THE CHEMICALS THAT
  • 00:21:07.746 --> 00:21:08.880
  • RELEASES THE CHEMICALS THATMAKE YOU FEEL ATTACHED TO EACH
  • 00:21:08.947 --> 00:21:10.482
  • MAKE YOU FEEL ATTACHED TO EACHOTHER.
  • 00:21:10.549 --> 00:21:12.084
  • OTHER.SO, GOD HAS WOVEN IT INTO OUR
  • 00:21:12.150 --> 00:21:13.852
  • SO, GOD HAS WOVEN IT INTO OURDNA -- RIGHT? -- THAT WHEN WE
  • 00:21:13.919 --> 00:21:14.753
  • DNA -- RIGHT? -- THAT WHEN WEDO THESE KIND OF CONNECTING
  • 00:21:14.820 --> 00:21:17.789
  • DO THESE KIND OF CONNECTINGTHINGS, IT DOES CREATE LOVE AND
  • 00:21:17.856 --> 00:21:19.725
  • THINGS, IT DOES CREATE LOVE ANDROMANCE.
  • 00:21:19.791 --> 00:21:22.361
  • ROMANCE.AND ALL IT MIGHT TAKE IS A HUG,
  • 00:21:22.427 --> 00:21:24.496
  • AND ALL IT MIGHT TAKE IS A HUG,OR JUST LOOK EACH OTHER IN THE
  • 00:21:24.563 --> 00:21:25.731
  • OR JUST LOOK EACH OTHER IN THEEYES.
  • 00:21:25.797 --> 00:21:27.199
  • EYES.DON'T BE OVERWHELMED.
  • 00:21:27.265 --> 00:21:29.000
  • DON'T BE OVERWHELMED.THOSE SIMPLE, SIMPLE THINGS
  • 00:21:29.067 --> 00:21:31.002
  • THOSE SIMPLE, SIMPLE THINGSMAKE A DIFFERENCE.
  • 00:21:31.069 --> 00:21:31.603
  • MAKE A DIFFERENCE.AND YOU CAN PUT THOSE INTO
  • 00:21:31.670 --> 00:21:32.738
  • AND YOU CAN PUT THOSE INTOPRACTICE, STARTING TODAY, FOR A
  • 00:21:32.804 --> 00:21:34.506
  • PRACTICE, STARTING TODAY, FOR ALITTLE LOVE AND ROMANCE --
  • 00:21:34.573 --> 00:21:36.375
  • LITTLE LOVE AND ROMANCE --EVEN, YOU KNOW, AT THE SPEED OF
  • 00:21:36.441 --> 00:21:38.343
  • EVEN, YOU KNOW, AT THE SPEED OFLIFE, YOU KNOW.
  • 00:21:38.410 --> 00:21:39.811
  • LIFE, YOU KNOW.- LAURIE: AND, SOMETIMES, THAT
  • 00:21:39.878 --> 00:21:40.946
  • - LAURIE: AND, SOMETIMES, THATTAKES A LOT OF HUMILITY,
  • 00:21:41.012 --> 00:21:42.214
  • TAKES A LOT OF HUMILITY,ESPECIALLY IF YOU'RE MAD AND
  • 00:21:42.280 --> 00:21:43.682
  • ESPECIALLY IF YOU'RE MAD ANDYOU'RE NOT OVER IT YET, YOU
  • 00:21:43.749 --> 00:21:45.817
  • YOU'RE NOT OVER IT YET, YOUKNOW, TO ACTUALLY HUMBLE
  • 00:21:45.884 --> 00:21:47.953
  • KNOW, TO ACTUALLY HUMBLEYOURSELF AND DO SOMETHING KIND
  • 00:21:48.019 --> 00:21:50.055
  • YOURSELF AND DO SOMETHING KINDOR DO SOMETHING NICE.
  • 00:21:50.122 --> 00:21:52.891
  • OR DO SOMETHING NICE.OR TAKE THAT MOMENT, SAY YOU'RE
  • 00:21:52.958 --> 00:21:53.658
  • OR TAKE THAT MOMENT, SAY YOU'RESORRY, GET IT OVER WITH.
  • 00:21:53.725 --> 00:21:56.928
  • SORRY, GET IT OVER WITH.DON'T LET THE SUN GO DOWN ON
  • 00:21:56.995 --> 00:21:57.929
  • DON'T LET THE SUN GO DOWN ONYOUR WRATH.
  • 00:21:57.996 --> 00:21:59.464
  • YOUR WRATH.I HAVE-- I HAVE LET THE SUN GO
  • 00:21:59.531 --> 00:22:01.333
  • I HAVE-- I HAVE LET THE SUN GODOWN ON MY WRATH, MANY TIMES.
  • 00:22:01.400 --> 00:22:04.136
  • DOWN ON MY WRATH, MANY TIMES.AND I HATE THAT I'M LIKE THAT.
  • 00:22:04.202 --> 00:22:06.738
  • AND I HATE THAT I'M LIKE THAT.BUT, WE CAN'T DO THAT.
  • 00:22:06.805 --> 00:22:09.274
  • BUT, WE CAN'T DO THAT.WE'VE GOT TO LET THAT GO.
  • 00:22:09.341 --> 00:22:11.576
  • WE'VE GOT TO LET THAT GO.WE'VE GOT TO LET OUR SPIRITS BE
  • 00:22:11.643 --> 00:22:13.111
  • WE'VE GOT TO LET OUR SPIRITS BEHEALED -- BE HEALED, IN JESUS'
  • 00:22:13.178 --> 00:22:16.515
  • HEALED -- BE HEALED, IN JESUS'NAME.
  • 00:22:16.581 --> 00:22:17.549
  • NAME.- DR. LESLIE: YEAH...YEAH!
  • 00:22:17.616 --> 00:22:18.383
  • - DR. LESLIE: YEAH...YEAH!- LAURIE: THERE'S SO MUCH, YOU
  • 00:22:18.450 --> 00:22:19.084
  • - LAURIE: THERE'S SO MUCH, YOUKNOW.
  • 00:22:19.151 --> 00:22:19.851
  • KNOW.THERE'S SO MUCH.
  • 00:22:19.918 --> 00:22:20.819
  • THERE'S SO MUCH.PEOPLE HAVE GONE THROUGH SO
  • 00:22:20.886 --> 00:22:21.620
  • PEOPLE HAVE GONE THROUGH SOMUCH IN THEIR MARRIAGES.
  • 00:22:21.686 --> 00:22:22.621
  • MUCH IN THEIR MARRIAGES.THERE IS PAIN, THERE IS
  • 00:22:22.687 --> 00:22:23.789
  • THERE IS PAIN, THERE ISREJECTION, THERE IS INFIDELITY
  • 00:22:23.855 --> 00:22:26.591
  • REJECTION, THERE IS INFIDELITY-- THERE ARE SO MANY THINGS
  • 00:22:26.658 --> 00:22:29.828
  • -- THERE ARE SO MANY THINGSTHAT PEOPLE GO THROUGH AND LIVE
  • 00:22:29.895 --> 00:22:31.797
  • THAT PEOPLE GO THROUGH AND LIVETHROUGH, PROBABLY THINGS THAT I
  • 00:22:31.863 --> 00:22:33.165
  • THROUGH, PROBABLY THINGS THAT ICOULDN'T DO...YOU KNOW?
  • 00:22:33.231 --> 00:22:35.834
  • COULDN'T DO...YOU KNOW?[CLEARS THROAT]
  • 00:22:35.901 --> 00:22:36.601
  • [CLEARS THROAT]SO, LET'S JUST PRAY.
  • 00:22:36.668 --> 00:22:37.869
  • SO, LET'S JUST PRAY.LET'S JUST TAKE THIS WEEK OUT
  • 00:22:37.936 --> 00:22:38.503
  • LET'S JUST TAKE THIS WEEK OUTIN A BLAZE OF GLORY FOR THOSE
  • 00:22:38.570 --> 00:22:41.907
  • IN A BLAZE OF GLORY FOR THOSEOF YOU WHO ARE MARRIED.
  • 00:22:41.973 --> 00:22:44.743
  • OF YOU WHO ARE MARRIED.THERE'S ALWAYS HOPE.
  • 00:22:44.810 --> 00:22:45.644
  • THERE'S ALWAYS HOPE.YOU ARE NEVER LEFT WITHOUT
  • 00:22:45.710 --> 00:22:48.146
  • YOU ARE NEVER LEFT WITHOUTHOPE.
  • 00:22:48.213 --> 00:22:50.782
  • HOPE.THOSE OF YOU WHO AREN'T MARRIED
  • 00:22:50.849 --> 00:22:51.850
  • THOSE OF YOU WHO AREN'T MARRIEDWHO MAYBE WANT TO BE MARRIED, I
  • 00:22:51.917 --> 00:22:53.051
  • WHO MAYBE WANT TO BE MARRIED, IPRAY, TODAY, THAT GOD FILLS YOU
  • 00:22:53.118 --> 00:22:55.754
  • PRAY, TODAY, THAT GOD FILLS YOUWITH SUCH PEACE AND SUCH
  • 00:22:55.821 --> 00:22:57.355
  • WITH SUCH PEACE AND SUCHCOMFORT AND SUCH COMPANY.
  • 00:22:57.422 --> 00:23:01.593
  • COMFORT AND SUCH COMPANY.HE IS THE ONE WHO STANDS
  • 00:23:01.660 --> 00:23:03.728
  • HE IS THE ONE WHO STANDSBESIDE.
  • 00:23:03.795 --> 00:23:05.397
  • BESIDE.HE IS THE ONE WHO SITS BESIDE.
  • 00:23:05.464 --> 00:23:07.499
  • HE IS THE ONE WHO SITS BESIDE.HE IS THE ONE WHO IS THERE, ALL
  • 00:23:07.566 --> 00:23:09.601
  • HE IS THE ONE WHO IS THERE, ALLTHE TIME.
  • 00:23:09.668 --> 00:23:10.702
  • THE TIME.HE NEVER LEAVES US.
  • 00:23:10.769 --> 00:23:11.937
  • HE NEVER LEAVES US.HE NEVER FORSAKES US.
  • 00:23:12.003 --> 00:23:14.773
  • HE NEVER FORSAKES US.HE IS ALWAYS RIGHT THERE WITH
  • 00:23:14.840 --> 00:23:15.574
  • HE IS ALWAYS RIGHT THERE WITHUS.
  • 00:23:15.640 --> 00:23:17.175
  • US.SO, I WANNA PRAY FOR EACH ONE
  • 00:23:17.242 --> 00:23:18.710
  • SO, I WANNA PRAY FOR EACH ONEOF YOU, TODAY.
  • 00:23:18.777 --> 00:23:19.678
  • OF YOU, TODAY.FATHER, I THANK YOU FOR YOUR
  • 00:23:19.744 --> 00:23:20.745
  • FATHER, I THANK YOU FOR YOURLOVE.
  • 00:23:20.812 --> 00:23:22.314
  • LOVE.I THANK YOU FOR YOUR PEACE THAT
  • 00:23:22.380 --> 00:23:24.015
  • I THANK YOU FOR YOUR PEACE THATPASSES ALL UNDERSTANDING.
  • 00:23:24.082 --> 00:23:26.318
  • PASSES ALL UNDERSTANDING.I THANK YOU FOR THE GREAT HOPE
  • 00:23:26.384 --> 00:23:27.953
  • I THANK YOU FOR THE GREAT HOPETHAT WE HAVE IN YOU, GOD, THAT,
  • 00:23:28.019 --> 00:23:31.356
  • THAT WE HAVE IN YOU, GOD, THAT,ONE DAY, WE'LL SEE YOU FACE TO
  • 00:23:31.423 --> 00:23:32.724
  • ONE DAY, WE'LL SEE YOU FACE TOFACE.
  • 00:23:32.791 --> 00:23:34.326
  • FACE.GOD, I THANK YOU FOR YOUR BEING
  • 00:23:34.392 --> 00:23:36.628
  • GOD, I THANK YOU FOR YOUR BEINGSTRONG IN OUR LIVES, OUR ROCK,
  • 00:23:36.695 --> 00:23:40.065
  • STRONG IN OUR LIVES, OUR ROCK,OUR SUSTAINING TOWER, THE ONE
  • 00:23:40.131 --> 00:23:42.968
  • OUR SUSTAINING TOWER, THE ONEWHO HOLDS US UP WHEN WE THINK
  • 00:23:43.034 --> 00:23:45.637
  • WHO HOLDS US UP WHEN WE THINKWE CAN'T MAKE IT.
  • 00:23:45.704 --> 00:23:47.038
  • WE CAN'T MAKE IT.GOD, I THANK YOU THAT YOU ARE
  • 00:23:47.105 --> 00:23:48.440
  • GOD, I THANK YOU THAT YOU AREOUR JOY.
  • 00:23:48.507 --> 00:23:50.609
  • OUR JOY.YOU'RE THE LAUGHTER OF OUR
  • 00:23:50.675 --> 00:23:52.277
  • YOU'RE THE LAUGHTER OF OURLIVES.
  • 00:23:52.344 --> 00:23:53.345
  • LIVES.YOU GIVE US PEACE IN THE STORM.
  • 00:23:53.411 --> 00:23:54.613
  • YOU GIVE US PEACE IN THE STORM.YOU GIVE US JOY, FATHER, WHEN
  • 00:23:54.679 --> 00:23:56.114
  • YOU GIVE US JOY, FATHER, WHENEVERYTHING LOOKS AWRY.
  • 00:23:56.181 --> 00:23:59.117
  • EVERYTHING LOOKS AWRY.GOD, I THANK YOU THAT YOU'RE
  • 00:23:59.184 --> 00:24:00.552
  • GOD, I THANK YOU THAT YOU'REOUR HEALER, YOU'RE OUR
  • 00:24:00.619 --> 00:24:01.753
  • OUR HEALER, YOU'RE OURPROVISION.
  • 00:24:01.820 --> 00:24:04.189
  • PROVISION.GOD, EVERYTHING THAT WE NEED,
  • 00:24:04.256 --> 00:24:05.891
  • GOD, EVERYTHING THAT WE NEED,WE CAN RUN TO YOU AND WE CAN
  • 00:24:05.957 --> 00:24:08.193
  • WE CAN RUN TO YOU AND WE CANFIND IT IN YOU.
  • 00:24:08.260 --> 00:24:09.895
  • FIND IT IN YOU.GOD, YOU ARE THE EVER-PRESENT
  • 00:24:09.961 --> 00:24:12.063
  • GOD, YOU ARE THE EVER-PRESENTHELP, THE HOLY SPIRIT, OUR
  • 00:24:12.130 --> 00:24:13.899
  • HELP, THE HOLY SPIRIT, OURCOMFORTER THAT LEADS US, AND IT
  • 00:24:13.965 --> 00:24:16.735
  • COMFORTER THAT LEADS US, AND ITGUIDES US, AND IT HOLDS OUR
  • 00:24:16.801 --> 00:24:19.137
  • GUIDES US, AND IT HOLDS OURTONGUE, AND IT HELPS US, GOD,
  • 00:24:19.204 --> 00:24:21.306
  • TONGUE, AND IT HELPS US, GOD,TO STAY THE COURSE, GOD, AND TO
  • 00:24:21.373 --> 00:24:24.709
  • TO STAY THE COURSE, GOD, AND TOBE FAITHFUL TO YOU, FATHER.
  • 00:24:24.776 --> 00:24:26.378
  • BE FAITHFUL TO YOU, FATHER.SO, I PRAY THAT WE'RE FAITHFUL
  • 00:24:26.444 --> 00:24:28.213
  • SO, I PRAY THAT WE'RE FAITHFULTO YOU, FIRST AND FOREMOST,
  • 00:24:28.280 --> 00:24:29.748
  • TO YOU, FIRST AND FOREMOST,AND, GOD, FAITHFUL TO THE HOLY
  • 00:24:29.814 --> 00:24:32.984
  • AND, GOD, FAITHFUL TO THE HOLYSPIRIT MOVING IN OUR LIVES,
  • 00:24:33.051 --> 00:24:34.386
  • SPIRIT MOVING IN OUR LIVES,GOD.
  • 00:24:34.452 --> 00:24:35.287
  • GOD.FATHER, I PRAY THAT EVERYONE
  • 00:24:35.353 --> 00:24:36.755
  • FATHER, I PRAY THAT EVERYONEJUST...IF THEY HAVEN'T ASKED
  • 00:24:36.821 --> 00:24:38.423
  • JUST...IF THEY HAVEN'T ASKEDCHRIST INTO THEIR HEART,
  • 00:24:38.490 --> 00:24:39.791
  • CHRIST INTO THEIR HEART,FATHER, I PRAY THAT YOU MOVE
  • 00:24:39.858 --> 00:24:41.192
  • FATHER, I PRAY THAT YOU MOVETHEM, GOD, JUST TO SAY: COME
  • 00:24:41.259 --> 00:24:42.794
  • THEM, GOD, JUST TO SAY: COMEIN, LORD JESUS.
  • 00:24:42.861 --> 00:24:44.062
  • IN, LORD JESUS.TAKE CONTROL.
  • 00:24:44.129 --> 00:24:47.399
  • TAKE CONTROL.HAVE ACCESS TO EVERYTHING IN MY
  • 00:24:47.465 --> 00:24:49.134
  • HAVE ACCESS TO EVERYTHING IN MYLIFE.
  • 00:24:49.200 --> 00:24:50.335
  • LIFE.GOD, AND I PRAY THAT THE PEACE
  • 00:24:50.402 --> 00:24:51.603
  • GOD, AND I PRAY THAT THE PEACETHAT PASSES ALL UNDERSTANDINGS,
  • 00:24:51.670 --> 00:24:52.671
  • THAT PASSES ALL UNDERSTANDINGS,GOD, JUST COVER OUR MINDS AND
  • 00:24:52.737 --> 00:24:55.006
  • GOD, JUST COVER OUR MINDS ANDOUR HEARTS AND FILLS US WITH
  • 00:24:55.073 --> 00:24:56.541
  • OUR HEARTS AND FILLS US WITHYOUR SPIRIT.
  • 00:24:56.608 --> 00:24:58.443
  • YOUR SPIRIT.FATHER, LET US LOVE LIKE YOU.
  • 00:24:58.510 --> 00:25:00.078
  • FATHER, LET US LOVE LIKE YOU.AND I PRAY THAT IN JESUS' NAME.
  • 00:25:00.145 --> 00:25:02.914
  • AND I PRAY THAT IN JESUS' NAME.I PRAY YOU HAVE A BEAUTIFUL
  • 00:25:02.981 --> 00:25:04.149
  • I PRAY YOU HAVE A BEAUTIFULWEEKEND.
  • 00:25:04.215 --> 00:25:06.718
  • WEEKEND.HAPPY VALENTINE'S DAY, WHETHER
  • 00:25:06.785 --> 00:25:08.053
  • HAPPY VALENTINE'S DAY, WHETHERYOU'RE MARRIED OR NOT -- JUST
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  • YOU'RE MARRIED OR NOT -- JUSTFROM ME.
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  • FROM ME.A BIG HUG.
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  • A BIG HUG.[LAUGHS]
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  • [LAUGHS]A BIG HUG FROM ME.
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  • A BIG HUG FROM ME.A BIG HUG FROM US.
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  • A BIG HUG FROM US.A BIG FAMILY HUG IS WHAT WE
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  • A BIG FAMILY HUG IS WHAT WECALL IT IN OUR HOUSE.
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  • CALL IT IN OUR HOUSE.YOU KNOW, OUR BETTER TOGETHER
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  • YOU KNOW, OUR BETTER TOGETHERTEAM WANTS TO PRAY FOR YOU.
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  • TEAM WANTS TO PRAY FOR YOU.PLEASE CONNECT WITH US ON
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  • PLEASE CONNECT WITH US ONSOCIAL MEDIA AND TELL US WHAT'S
  • 00:25:21.299 --> 00:25:22.534
  • SOCIAL MEDIA AND TELL US WHAT'SON YOUR HEART.
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  • ON YOUR HEART.IT'S OUR HONOR TO AGREE WITH
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  • IT'S OUR HONOR TO AGREE WITHYOU IN PRAYER.
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  • YOU IN PRAYER.AND WE HOPE YOU'VE ENJOYED
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  • AND WE HOPE YOU'VE ENJOYEDTHESE CONVERSATIONS ON LOVE AND
  • 00:25:27.639 --> 00:25:28.573
  • THESE CONVERSATIONS ON LOVE ANDMARRIAGE.
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  • MARRIAGE.IF YOU'VE MISSED ANY OF THE
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  • IF YOU'VE MISSED ANY OF THEWEEK'S EPISODES, YOU CAN WATCH
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  • WEEK'S EPISODES, YOU CAN WATCHTHEM @BETTERTOGETHER.TV OR ON
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  • THEM @BETTERTOGETHER.TV OR ONTHE TBN APP.
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  • THE TBN APP.NEXT WEEK, WE'RE TALKING ABOUT
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  • NEXT WEEK, WE'RE TALKING ABOUTA LOVE THAT FIGHTS FOR US.
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  • A LOVE THAT FIGHTS FOR US.I WANNA SAY: FIGHT LIKE A GIRL.
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  • I WANNA SAY: FIGHT LIKE A GIRL.[LAUGHS]
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  • [LAUGHS]IT'S GOD'S GOODNESS AND HIS
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  • IT'S GOD'S GOODNESS AND HISFAITHFULNESS.
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  • FAITHFULNESS.IT'S UNCONDITIONAL AND IT'S
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  • IT'S UNCONDITIONAL AND IT'SWITHOUT LIMITS.
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  • WITHOUT LIMITS.AND YOU WON'T WANNA MISS IT.
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  • AND YOU WON'T WANNA MISS IT.WE'LL SEE YOU ON MONDAY.
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  • WE'LL SEE YOU ON MONDAY.WE LOVE YOU.
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  • WE LOVE YOU.GOD BLESS YOU.
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  • GOD BLESS YOU.[SMOOCH]
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  • [SMOOCH]HAPPY VALENTINE'S DAY TO
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  • HAPPY VALENTINE'S DAY TOEVERYBODY.
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  • EVERYBODY.I LOVE YOU.
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  • I LOVE YOU.BYE-BYE.
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  • BYE-BYE.[SHOW THEME CLOSING OUT]
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