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January 13, 2021
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When we speak the truth God's way, even the gentlest answer can be powerful! | TBN Prayer Line: 714-731-1000

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Better Together LIVE | Episode 173

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  • - LAURIE: THE BIBLE TELLS
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  • - LAURIE: THE BIBLE TELLSUS THAT A GENTLE ANSWER
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  • US THAT A GENTLE ANSWERTURNS AWAY WRATH.
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  • TURNS AWAY WRATH.OUR WORDS HAVE POWER.
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  • OUR WORDS HAVE POWER.AND TODAY, WE'RE LEARNING
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  • AND TODAY, WE'RE LEARNINGHOW TO WALK IN GENTLENESS
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  • HOW TO WALK IN GENTLENESSWHILE STILL SPEAKING TRUTH
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  • WHILE STILL SPEAKING TRUTHGOD'S WAY.
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  • GOD'S WAY.COME ON, JOIN US.
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  • COME ON, JOIN US.♪ MUSIC ♪
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  • ♪ MUSIC ♪♪ MUSIC ♪
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  • ♪ MUSIC ♪- CHRIS: I'LL NEVER FORGET,
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  • - CHRIS: I'LL NEVER FORGET,THERE WAS THIS SEASON WHEN
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  • THERE WAS THIS SEASON WHENSOPHIA WAS BACK IN
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  • SOPHIA WAS BACK INMIDDLE SCHOOL.
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  • MIDDLE SCHOOL.AND, WE ALL KNOW JUST HOW
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  • AND, WE ALL KNOW JUST HOWLOVING MIDDLE SCHOOL GIRLS
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  • LOVING MIDDLE SCHOOL GIRLSARE WITH ONE ANOTHER.
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  • ARE WITH ONE ANOTHER.JUST HOW KIND AND GENTLE
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  • JUST HOW KIND AND GENTLEAND GRACIOUS.
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  • AND GRACIOUS.I MEAN, IF YOU'RE EVER
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  • I MEAN, IF YOU'RE EVERGONNA GET TRAUMATIZED,
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  • GONNA GET TRAUMATIZED,I'VE REALIZED IT'S GOING
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  • I'VE REALIZED IT'S GOINGTO BE IN MIDDLE SCHOOL.
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  • TO BE IN MIDDLE SCHOOL.BUT, DURING ALL OF THIS,
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  • BUT, DURING ALL OF THIS,THERE WAS A SEASON, SOPHIA
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  • THERE WAS A SEASON, SOPHIAWAS JUST CONSTANTLY COMING
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  • WAS JUST CONSTANTLY COMINGHOME AND FEELING REALLY
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  • HOME AND FEELING REALLYDOWNTRODDEN, REALLY
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  • DOWNTRODDEN, REALLYDOWNCAST.
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  • DOWNCAST.IF YOU KNOW MY PERSONALITY--
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  • IF YOU KNOW MY PERSONALITY--THIS IS WHERE WE ARE GOING
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  • THIS IS WHERE WE ARE GOINGTO SEE A BIT OF A CHANGE
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  • TO SEE A BIT OF A CHANGEWHERE--
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  • WHERE--THE FRUIT OF THE SPIRIT
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  • THE FRUIT OF THE SPIRITDOESN'T CORRESPOND WITH
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  • DOESN'T CORRESPOND WITHOUR NATURAL PERSONALITY.
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  • OUR NATURAL PERSONALITY.MY NATURAL PERSONALITY
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  • MY NATURAL PERSONALITYTENDS TO BE, I'M GONNA GO
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  • TENDS TO BE, I'M GONNA GOWITH YOU FOR AWHILE AND
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  • WITH YOU FOR AWHILE ANDTHEN I'M GONNA SPEAK TO
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  • THEN I'M GONNA SPEAK TOTHAT POTENTIAL ON THE
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  • THAT POTENTIAL ON THEINSIDE OF YOU, I'M GONNA
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  • INSIDE OF YOU, I'M GONNAHELP YOU TO RISE UP.
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  • HELP YOU TO RISE UP.I'M GONNA REMIND YOU WHO
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  • I'M GONNA REMIND YOU WHOGOD TELLS YOU YOU ARE.
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  • GOD TELLS YOU YOU ARE.AND SOMETIMES, IF YOU
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  • AND SOMETIMES, IF YOUDON'T QUITE GET IT AS
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  • DON'T QUITE GET IT ASQUICK AS I THINK YOU
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  • QUICK AS I THINK YOUSHOULD GET IT, AND I COME
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  • SHOULD GET IT, AND I COMEFROM A GREEK BACKGROUND
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  • FROM A GREEK BACKGROUNDAND I'M AUSTRALIAN.
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  • AND I'M AUSTRALIAN.SO THERE'S TWO THINGS THERE.
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  • SO THERE'S TWO THINGS THERE.GREEKS ARE HIGHLY
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  • GREEKS ARE HIGHLYPASSIONATE.
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  • PASSIONATE.I COULD BE FEELING-- IN MY
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  • I COULD BE FEELING-- IN MYHEART I'M FEELING GENTLE.
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  • HEART I'M FEELING GENTLE.BUT WITH THE SOUND AND THE
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  • BUT WITH THE SOUND AND THETONE OF MY WORDS, IT IS
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  • TONE OF MY WORDS, IT ISANYTHING BUT GENTLE.
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  • ANYTHING BUT GENTLE.IN FACT, WHEN NICK FIRST
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  • IN FACT, WHEN NICK FIRSTSTARTED DATING ME,
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  • STARTED DATING ME,HE WOULD COME TO MY HOUSE.
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  • HE WOULD COME TO MY HOUSE.HE LITERALLY THOUGHT THAT
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  • HE LITERALLY THOUGHT THATWE WERE FIGHTING.
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  • WE WERE FIGHTING.MY MOTHER, MY BROTHERS AND I.
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  • MY MOTHER, MY BROTHERS AND I.AND I PROMISE YOU, WE WERE
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  • AND I PROMISE YOU, WE WEREON OUR BEST BEHAVIOR.
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  • ON OUR BEST BEHAVIOR.MY MOTHER WAS TRYING TO
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  • MY MOTHER WAS TRYING TOMARRY ME OFF BECAUSE I WAS
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  • MARRY ME OFF BECAUSE I WASLIKE NEARLY 30.
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  • LIKE NEARLY 30.AND SHE'S LIKE, I'LL GIVE
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  • AND SHE'S LIKE, I'LL GIVEYOU EVERYTHING.
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  • YOU EVERYTHING.THE COW, THE CUCUMBERS,
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  • THE COW, THE CUCUMBERS,JUST TAKE MY DAUGHTER.
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  • JUST TAKE MY DAUGHTER.SO EVERYONE WAS ON THEIR
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  • SO EVERYONE WAS ON THEIRBEST BEHAVIOR.
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  • BEST BEHAVIOR.AND NICK WOULD BE
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  • AND NICK WOULD BETERRIFIED THINKING, LIKE,
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  • TERRIFIED THINKING, LIKE,WORLD WAR III IS HAPPENING.
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  • WORLD WAR III IS HAPPENING.HE GOES, DO YOU GUYS
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  • HE GOES, DO YOU GUYSSCREAM LIKE THAT ALL THE
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  • SCREAM LIKE THAT ALL THETIME?
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  • TIME?BECAUSE MY HUSBAND IS LIKE
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  • BECAUSE MY HUSBAND IS LIKEFROM A BRITISH BACKGROUND
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  • FROM A BRITISH BACKGROUNDWHERE THEY'RE LIKE, PASS
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  • WHERE THEY'RE LIKE, PASSTHE SUGAR FOR THE TEA.
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  • THE SUGAR FOR THE TEA.SO WE'RE LIKE, WE THROW
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  • SO WE'RE LIKE, WE THROWTHE SUGAR AT EACH OTHER.
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  • THE SUGAR AT EACH OTHER.THAT IS A SIGN OF LOVE.
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  • THAT IS A SIGN OF LOVE.ANYWAY, SO I'VE GOT ALL OF
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  • ANYWAY, SO I'VE GOT ALL OFTHAT AND THEN AUSTRALIANS
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  • THAT AND THEN AUSTRALIANSARE ALSO A LITTLE BIT
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  • ARE ALSO A LITTLE BITSARCASTIC.
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  • SARCASTIC.I'M NOT SAYING IT IS A
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  • I'M NOT SAYING IT IS AGODLY ATTRIBUTE.
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  • GODLY ATTRIBUTE.BUT WE LOVE YOU, IF WE
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  • BUT WE LOVE YOU, IF WESORT OF-- WE'RE GONNA KIND
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  • SORT OF-- WE'RE GONNA KINDOF BRING YOU DOWN TO SIZE.
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  • OF BRING YOU DOWN TO SIZE.IT'S JUST KIND OF THE WAY
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  • IT'S JUST KIND OF THE WAYWE JOKE WITH ONE ANOTHER.
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  • WE JOKE WITH ONE ANOTHER.ANYWAY, SO YOU PUT THOSE
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  • ANYWAY, SO YOU PUT THOSETWO THINGS TOGETHER.
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  • TWO THINGS TOGETHER.YOU'VE GOT THIS GREAT
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  • YOU'VE GOT THIS GREATVOLATILE MOTHER WHO IS
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  • VOLATILE MOTHER WHO ISALSO AN EVANGELIST, LORD
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  • ALSO AN EVANGELIST, LORDHAVE MERCY, AND THEN YOU
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  • HAVE MERCY, AND THEN YOUHAVE SORT OF THE
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  • HAVE SORT OF THEAUSTRALIAN SARCASM.
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  • AUSTRALIAN SARCASM.AND THEN YOU HAVE THIS
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  • AND THEN YOU HAVE THISMOTHER THAT WANTS TO HELP
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  • MOTHER THAT WANTS TO HELPDRAW THE BEST OUT OF YOU.
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  • DRAW THE BEST OUT OF YOU.AND YOU'RE JUST LIKE
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  • AND YOU'RE JUST LIKEHAVING BASIC ANXIETY
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  • HAVING BASIC ANXIETYBECAUSE YOU'RE GOING TO
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  • BECAUSE YOU'RE GOING TOMIDDLE SCHOOL AND THEY'RE
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  • MIDDLE SCHOOL AND THEY'RETRAUMATIZING YOU EVERYDAY.
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  • TRAUMATIZING YOU EVERYDAY.AND THEN THE LAST THING
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  • AND THEN THE LAST THINGYOU NEED IS YOUR MOTHER,
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  • YOU NEED IS YOUR MOTHER,WHO THINKS SHE'S BEING
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  • WHO THINKS SHE'S BEINGGENTLE, GOING, COME ON, SOPH.
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  • GENTLE, GOING, COME ON, SOPH.YOU CAN DO THIS.
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  • YOU CAN DO THIS.GREATER IS HE THAT IS IN
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  • GREATER IS HE THAT IS INYOU THAN HE THAT IS IN THE
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  • YOU THAN HE THAT IS IN THEWORLD!
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  • WORLD!DON'T WORRY, SOPH, CALL
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  • DON'T WORRY, SOPH, CALLDOWN TWO BEARS ON THOSE
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  • DOWN TWO BEARS ON THOSEMIDDLE SCHOOL GIRLS.
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  • MIDDLE SCHOOL GIRLS.AND CALL DOWN FIRE FROM
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  • AND CALL DOWN FIRE FROMHEAVEN.
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  • HEAVEN.AND MY HUSBAND, MY HUSBAND
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  • AND MY HUSBAND, MY HUSBANDIS LIKE, LOOKING AT ME.
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  • IS LIKE, LOOKING AT ME.THIS IS WHERE I HAVE
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  • THIS IS WHERE I HAVELEARNED GENTLENESS THE MOST.
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  • LEARNED GENTLENESS THE MOST.THIS IS WHY THE FRUIT OF
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  • THIS IS WHY THE FRUIT OFTHE SPIRIT IS NOT GENDER
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  • THE SPIRIT IS NOT GENDERSPECIFIC.
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  • SPECIFIC.IT IS NOT A CHICK THING.
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  • IT IS NOT A CHICK THING.CUZ FROM MY VERY ALPHA
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  • CUZ FROM MY VERY ALPHAMALE HUSBAND, I HAVE
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  • MALE HUSBAND, I HAVELEARNED GENTLENESS MORE
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  • LEARNED GENTLENESS MORETHAN ANYTHING ELSE.
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  • THAN ANYTHING ELSE.HE'S LIKE, YOU KNOW WHAT,
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  • HE'S LIKE, YOU KNOW WHAT,CHRIS.
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  • CHRIS.YOUR APPROACH REALLY ISN'T
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  • YOUR APPROACH REALLY ISN'TWORKING.
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  • WORKING.YOU ARE CAUSING MORE
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  • YOU ARE CAUSING MOREANXIETY, YOU ARE CAUSING
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  • ANXIETY, YOU ARE CAUSINGSOPH TO FREAK OUT.
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  • SOPH TO FREAK OUT.I'M GOING, WHAT DO YOU MEAN?
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  • I'M GOING, WHAT DO YOU MEAN?I'M SO FOR HER.
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  • I'M SO FOR HER.I JUST WANT TO DESTROY
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  • I JUST WANT TO DESTROYEVERYONE ELSE IN
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  • EVERYONE ELSE INMIDDLE SCHOOL.
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  • MIDDLE SCHOOL.I WANT HER TO KNOW WHO SHE
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  • I WANT HER TO KNOW WHO SHEIS, MAN, AND HE'S LIKE,
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  • IS, MAN, AND HE'S LIKE,YOU KNOW WHAT?
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  • YOU KNOW WHAT?THAT'S NOT GONNA WORK.
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  • THAT'S NOT GONNA WORK.AND I WOULD WATCH NICK
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  • AND I WOULD WATCH NICKDURING THIS SEASON.
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  • DURING THIS SEASON.IT LASTED A COUPLE OF MONTHS.
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  • IT LASTED A COUPLE OF MONTHS.HE WOULD GO INTO HER EVERY
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  • HE WOULD GO INTO HER EVERYDAY AFTER SCHOOL AND EVERY
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  • DAY AFTER SCHOOL AND EVERYDAY AT NIGHT AND BE SO
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  • DAY AT NIGHT AND BE SOGENTLE.
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  • GENTLE.AND WHEN I SAY GENTLE, I'M
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  • AND WHEN I SAY GENTLE, I'MNOT TALKING LIKE IN A
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  • NOT TALKING LIKE IN ASICKLY WAY, BUT I'M
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  • SICKLY WAY, BUT I'MTALKING ABOUT HIS WORDS
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  • TALKING ABOUT HIS WORDSWERE SO GRACIOUS.
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  • WERE SO GRACIOUS.HIS WORDS WERE SO KIND.
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  • HIS WORDS WERE SO KIND.HIS TONE.
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  • HIS TONE.THIS IS EVERYTHING.
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  • THIS IS EVERYTHING.YOUR POSTURE.
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  • YOUR POSTURE.YOUR TONE.
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  • YOUR TONE.YOU WORK IT ALL TOGETHER.
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  • YOU WORK IT ALL TOGETHER.I WAS GETTING LIKE AN
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  • I WAS GETTING LIKE ANOBJECT LESSON.
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  • OBJECT LESSON.I WOULD NEVER TELL MY
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  • I WOULD NEVER TELL MYHUSBAND THIS, BECAUSE HE
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  • HUSBAND THIS, BECAUSE HEWILL PROBABLY WATCH THIS
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  • WILL PROBABLY WATCH THISSHOW AND HE CAN HEAR THIS.
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  • SHOW AND HE CAN HEAR THIS.BECAUSE I DON'T WANT HIM
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  • BECAUSE I DON'T WANT HIMTO THINK HE IS THE
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  • TO THINK HE IS THEHOLY SPIRIT IN MY LIFE.
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  • HOLY SPIRIT IN MY LIFE.BUT, THE HOLY SPIRIT WAS
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  • BUT, THE HOLY SPIRIT WASUSING HIM TO SHOW ME THE
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  • USING HIM TO SHOW ME THEPOWER OF GENTLENESS
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  • POWER OF GENTLENESSBECAUSE I SAW NICK, BOTH
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  • BECAUSE I SAW NICK, BOTHHIS GENTLE TONGUE AND HIS
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  • HIS GENTLE TONGUE AND HISGENTLE TONE,
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  • GENTLE TONE,HIS GENTLE MANNERISMS,
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  • HIS GENTLE MANNERISMS,HIS GENTLE POSTURE.
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  • HIS GENTLE POSTURE.THE HOLY SPIRIT USED THAT
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  • THE HOLY SPIRIT USED THATTO TURN THIS LITTLE GIRL
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  • TO TURN THIS LITTLE GIRLAROUND.
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  • AROUND.AND WHAT COULD HAVE
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  • AND WHAT COULD HAVEACTUALLY-- LIKE FOR SO
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  • ACTUALLY-- LIKE FOR SOMANY LITTLE MIDDLE SCHOOL
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  • MANY LITTLE MIDDLE SCHOOLGIRLS WHAT COULD HAVE
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  • GIRLS WHAT COULD HAVEACTUALLY BEEN A WHOLE LOT
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  • ACTUALLY BEEN A WHOLE LOTWORSE, THE WHOLE SITUATION
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  • WORSE, THE WHOLE SITUATIONTURNED AROUND.
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  • TURNED AROUND.AND MY WAY, WHICH WAS
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  • AND MY WAY, WHICH WASKIND OF LIKE A REACTIONARY,
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  • KIND OF LIKE A REACTIONARY,KIND OF GREEK CULTURAL,
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  • KIND OF GREEK CULTURAL,IT WAS NOT GOING TO WORK.
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  • IT WAS NOT GOING TO WORK.AND THEN I WATCHED HIM
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  • AND THEN I WATCHED HIMEVEN TEACH HER, THIS IS
  • 00:05:09.998 --> 00:05:12.567
  • EVEN TEACH HER, THIS ISHOW YOU CAN BE GENTLE WITH
  • 00:05:12.567 --> 00:05:13.201
  • HOW YOU CAN BE GENTLE WITHTHE GIRLS AT SCHOOL THAT
  • 00:05:13.201 --> 00:05:15.203
  • THE GIRLS AT SCHOOL THATARE DOING THIS.
  • 00:05:15.203 --> 00:05:17.572
  • ARE DOING THIS.AND WHAT COULD HAVE BEEN
  • 00:05:17.572 --> 00:05:18.473
  • AND WHAT COULD HAVE BEENONE OF THE MOST HORRIFIC
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  • ONE OF THE MOST HORRIFICVOLATILE TIMES IN HER LIFE,
  • 00:05:20.575 --> 00:05:21.777
  • VOLATILE TIMES IN HER LIFE,WHICH PROBABLY COULD
  • 00:05:21.777 --> 00:05:22.911
  • WHICH PROBABLY COULDHAVE SCARRED HER, TRULY,
  • 00:05:22.911 --> 00:05:24.045
  • HAVE SCARRED HER, TRULY,SOME OF YOU WATCHING THIS,
  • 00:05:24.045 --> 00:05:25.547
  • SOME OF YOU WATCHING THIS,YOU KNOW WHAT IT'S LIKE
  • 00:05:25.547 --> 00:05:26.114
  • YOU KNOW WHAT IT'S LIKEWITH YOUR OWN KIDS, SOME
  • 00:05:26.114 --> 00:05:27.916
  • WITH YOUR OWN KIDS, SOMEOF YOU ARE STILL-- YOU'VE
  • 00:05:27.916 --> 00:05:28.550
  • OF YOU ARE STILL-- YOU'VEGOT THE TRAUMA OF THAT IN
  • 00:05:28.550 --> 00:05:29.251
  • GOT THE TRAUMA OF THAT INYOUR OWN LIFE BECAUSE OF
  • 00:05:29.251 --> 00:05:31.286
  • YOUR OWN LIFE BECAUSE OFWHAT YOU WENT THROUGH.
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  • WHAT YOU WENT THROUGH.BUT, THE BIBLE SAYS A
  • 00:05:33.722 --> 00:05:35.323
  • BUT, THE BIBLE SAYS AGENTLE WORD CAN TURN AWAY
  • 00:05:35.323 --> 00:05:36.992
  • GENTLE WORD CAN TURN AWAYROUGH AND IT CAN TURN AWAY
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  • ROUGH AND IT CAN TURN AWAYA WHOLE LOT OF NEGATIVE
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  • A WHOLE LOT OF NEGATIVECONSEQUENCES.
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  • CONSEQUENCES.I HAD TO REALLY LEARN THAT
  • 00:05:40.328 --> 00:05:41.663
  • I HAD TO REALLY LEARN THATALL OVER AGAIN IN THIS
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  • ALL OVER AGAIN IN THISSEASON FROM MY HUSBAND.
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  • SEASON FROM MY HUSBAND.AND WHEN YOU ARE SOMEONE
  • 00:05:44.032 --> 00:05:44.966
  • AND WHEN YOU ARE SOMEONETHAT USES WORDS A LOT LIKE
  • 00:05:44.966 --> 00:05:45.867
  • THAT USES WORDS A LOT LIKEI DO, OUR WORDS CAN CUT
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  • I DO, OUR WORDS CAN CUTPEOPLE DOWN, OUR WORDS CAN
  • 00:05:46.435 --> 00:05:48.270
  • PEOPLE DOWN, OUR WORDS CANACTUALLY CAUSE MORE
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  • ACTUALLY CAUSE MOREANXIETY.
  • 00:05:49.004 --> 00:05:53.375
  • ANXIETY.MORE STRESS, AND SO, I
  • 00:05:53.375 --> 00:05:54.242
  • MORE STRESS, AND SO, ITHINK WHERE PEOPLE GO,
  • 00:05:54.242 --> 00:05:55.944
  • THINK WHERE PEOPLE GO,YOU'RE JUST A WEAKLING.
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  • YOU'RE JUST A WEAKLING.THIS CULTURE IS ALL ABOUT
  • 00:05:56.511 --> 00:05:58.914
  • THIS CULTURE IS ALL ABOUTYOU YOU TELL THEM WHAT YOU
  • 00:05:58.914 --> 00:05:59.347
  • YOU YOU TELL THEM WHAT YOUREALLY FEEL.
  • 00:05:59.347 --> 00:06:02.217
  • REALLY FEEL.YOU TELL THEM HOW-- MAN,
  • 00:06:02.217 --> 00:06:03.051
  • YOU TELL THEM HOW-- MAN,YOU JUST STAND UP FOR
  • 00:06:03.051 --> 00:06:03.618
  • YOU JUST STAND UP FORYOURSELF AND THEN YOU'RE
  • 00:06:03.618 --> 00:06:04.186
  • YOURSELF AND THEN YOU'RELIKE, WOW!
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  • LIKE, WOW!NO, NO, GENTLENESS.
  • 00:06:05.353 --> 00:06:06.488
  • NO, NO, GENTLENESS.IT'S A SIGN.
  • 00:06:06.488 --> 00:06:07.189
  • IT'S A SIGN.THAT MEEKNESS THAT JESUS
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  • THAT MEEKNESS THAT JESUSHAS, IT'S NOT WEAKNESS,
  • 00:06:07.722 --> 00:06:08.623
  • HAS, IT'S NOT WEAKNESS,IT'S ACTUALLY STRENGTH.
  • 00:06:08.623 --> 00:06:10.325
  • IT'S ACTUALLY STRENGTH.IT DISARMS POWERS AND
  • 00:06:10.325 --> 00:06:12.127
  • IT DISARMS POWERS ANDPRINCIPALITIES.
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  • PRINCIPALITIES.THE DEVIL DOESN'T KNOW
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  • THE DEVIL DOESN'T KNOWWHAT TO DO WITH A GENTLE
  • 00:06:14.529 --> 00:06:16.665
  • WHAT TO DO WITH A GENTLEPERSON.
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  • PERSON.I THINK IN THIS DAY,
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  • I THINK IN THIS DAY,GENTLENESS IS SOMETHING WE
  • 00:06:19.234 --> 00:06:20.235
  • GENTLENESS IS SOMETHING WENEED TO WORK ON.
  • 00:06:20.235 --> 00:06:21.203
  • NEED TO WORK ON.I'M LAUGHING THAT I OPENED
  • 00:06:21.203 --> 00:06:22.237
  • I'M LAUGHING THAT I OPENEDTHIS CONVERSATION.
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  • THIS CONVERSATION.BECAUSE BIANCA, THE ONLY
  • 00:06:25.173 --> 00:06:26.241
  • BECAUSE BIANCA, THE ONLYPERSON THAT I WOULD THINK
  • 00:06:26.241 --> 00:06:27.108
  • PERSON THAT I WOULD THINKIS MORE GENTLE THAN ME
  • 00:06:27.108 --> 00:06:28.276
  • IS MORE GENTLE THAN MEWOULD BE YOU.
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  • WOULD BE YOU.SO FROM A GREEK TO A
  • 00:06:29.110 --> 00:06:33.148
  • SO FROM A GREEK TO APUERTO RICAN.
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  • PUERTO RICAN.- BIANCA: I'M LISTENING
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  • - BIANCA: I'M LISTENINGTO YOU AND I'M LIKE, I
  • 00:06:36.518 --> 00:06:37.619
  • TO YOU AND I'M LIKE, ICO-SIGN ON ALL OF YOUR BAD
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  • CO-SIGN ON ALL OF YOUR BADBEHAVIOR.
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  • BEHAVIOR.HERE IS SOMETHING I THINK
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  • HERE IS SOMETHING I THINKIS SUPER IMPORTANT TO
  • 00:06:40.388 --> 00:06:40.822
  • IS SUPER IMPORTANT TORECOGNIZE IN THIS
  • 00:06:40.822 --> 00:06:42.891
  • RECOGNIZE IN THISCONVERSATION IS CONTEXT.
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  • CONVERSATION IS CONTEXT.SO YOU GAVE AN ETHNIC
  • 00:06:44.125 --> 00:06:44.926
  • SO YOU GAVE AN ETHNICBACKGROUND AND YOU GAVE A
  • 00:06:44.926 --> 00:06:45.560
  • BACKGROUND AND YOU GAVE ACULTURAL BACKGROUND.
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  • CULTURAL BACKGROUND.WELL, I GREW UP IN
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  • WELL, I GREW UP INLOS ANGELES, SPECIFICALLY
  • 00:06:50.165 --> 00:06:51.967
  • LOS ANGELES, SPECIFICALLYEAST LOS ANGELES,
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  • EAST LOS ANGELES,AKA THE HOOD, RIGHT?
  • 00:06:54.436 --> 00:06:55.504
  • AKA THE HOOD, RIGHT?SO WHEN YOU HEAR THIS WORD
  • 00:06:55.504 --> 00:06:56.338
  • SO WHEN YOU HEAR THIS WORDGENTLENESS, SYNONYMS ARE
  • 00:06:56.338 --> 00:06:57.272
  • GENTLENESS, SYNONYMS AREALSO MEEKNESS, SOME
  • 00:06:57.272 --> 00:06:57.806
  • ALSO MEEKNESS, SOMETRANSLATIONS OF BIBLES
  • 00:06:57.806 --> 00:06:58.673
  • TRANSLATIONS OF BIBLESWILL SAY MEEKNESS INSTEAD
  • 00:06:58.673 --> 00:07:00.809
  • WILL SAY MEEKNESS INSTEADOF GENTILITY OR
  • 00:07:00.809 --> 00:07:01.910
  • OF GENTILITY ORGENTLENESS.
  • 00:07:01.910 --> 00:07:02.511
  • GENTLENESS.I ALWAYS READ MEEKNESS AS
  • 00:07:02.511 --> 00:07:05.213
  • I ALWAYS READ MEEKNESS ASWEAKNESS.
  • 00:07:05.213 --> 00:07:07.482
  • WEAKNESS.LIKE, IF YOU'RE WHERE I'M
  • 00:07:07.482 --> 00:07:08.783
  • LIKE, IF YOU'RE WHERE I'MFROM, YOU CAN'T BE NO
  • 00:07:08.783 --> 00:07:09.417
  • FROM, YOU CAN'T BE NOCHUMP, BECAUSE SOMEONE'S
  • 00:07:09.417 --> 00:07:10.352
  • CHUMP, BECAUSE SOMEONE'SGOING TO TAKE ADVANTAGE OF
  • 00:07:10.352 --> 00:07:11.253
  • GOING TO TAKE ADVANTAGE OFYOU.
  • 00:07:11.253 --> 00:07:11.786
  • YOU.SO IF YOU WERE LIKE MEEK
  • 00:07:11.786 --> 00:07:13.555
  • SO IF YOU WERE LIKE MEEKAND DOCILE AND OH, JUST GO
  • 00:07:13.555 --> 00:07:15.056
  • AND DOCILE AND OH, JUST GOAHEAD AND TAKE MY JACKET.
  • 00:07:15.056 --> 00:07:15.957
  • AHEAD AND TAKE MY JACKET.HUH-UH.
  • 00:07:15.957 --> 00:07:16.758
  • HUH-UH.LIKE, YOU MESSED WITH THE
  • 00:07:16.758 --> 00:07:17.492
  • LIKE, YOU MESSED WITH THEWRONG CHICK.
  • 00:07:17.492 --> 00:07:18.593
  • WRONG CHICK.THEN, AS I STARTED TO GROW
  • 00:07:18.593 --> 00:07:20.095
  • THEN, AS I STARTED TO GROWAND MATURE IN MY FAITH,
  • 00:07:20.095 --> 00:07:21.162
  • AND MATURE IN MY FAITH,Y'ALL CAN LAUGH AT ME, BUT
  • 00:07:21.162 --> 00:07:21.830
  • Y'ALL CAN LAUGH AT ME, BUTI'M JUST CONFESSING MY
  • 00:07:21.830 --> 00:07:23.932
  • I'M JUST CONFESSING MYTRESPASSES RIGHT NOW.
  • 00:07:23.932 --> 00:07:25.166
  • TRESPASSES RIGHT NOW.BUT, WHEN THERE IS A SENSE
  • 00:07:25.166 --> 00:07:26.701
  • BUT, WHEN THERE IS A SENSEOF SPIRITUAL MATURITY.
  • 00:07:26.701 --> 00:07:27.702
  • OF SPIRITUAL MATURITY.WHEN WE BEGIN TO
  • 00:07:27.702 --> 00:07:29.204
  • WHEN WE BEGIN TOUNDERSTAND THAT MEEKNESS
  • 00:07:29.204 --> 00:07:30.238
  • UNDERSTAND THAT MEEKNESSISN'T WEAKNESS, MEEKNESS
  • 00:07:30.238 --> 00:07:32.541
  • ISN'T WEAKNESS, MEEKNESSIS STRENGTH.
  • 00:07:32.541 --> 00:07:33.408
  • IS STRENGTH.MEEKNESS IS STRENGTH
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  • MEEKNESS IS STRENGTHRESTRAINED.
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  • RESTRAINED.WE GET TO SEE OUR LORD AND
  • 00:07:36.144 --> 00:07:37.312
  • WE GET TO SEE OUR LORD ANDSAVIOR JESUS CHRIST USE SO
  • 00:07:37.312 --> 00:07:38.780
  • SAVIOR JESUS CHRIST USE SOMUCH RESTRAINT AND
  • 00:07:38.780 --> 00:07:41.616
  • MUCH RESTRAINT ANDGENTILITY AND MEEKNESS
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  • GENTILITY AND MEEKNESSTHAT IS BEGAN TO BE ALMOST--
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  • THAT IS BEGAN TO BE ALMOST--IF I CAN SAY THIS WORD,
  • 00:07:43.785 --> 00:07:46.121
  • IF I CAN SAY THIS WORD,THERE IS A SEXINESS
  • 00:07:46.121 --> 00:07:47.689
  • THERE IS A SEXINESSABOUT IT.
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  • ABOUT IT.THERE IS SUCH A CONTROL
  • 00:07:48.690 --> 00:07:49.558
  • THERE IS SUCH A CONTROLAND A STRENGTH.
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  • AND A STRENGTH.I WANTED TO START
  • 00:07:50.625 --> 00:07:52.027
  • I WANTED TO STARTDEMONSTRATING THIS SENSE
  • 00:07:52.027 --> 00:07:53.662
  • DEMONSTRATING THIS SENSEOF STRENGTH.
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  • OF STRENGTH.SO AS CHRIS WAS TALKING
  • 00:07:55.063 --> 00:07:56.164
  • SO AS CHRIS WAS TALKINGABOUT WANTING TO SPEAK TO
  • 00:07:56.164 --> 00:07:56.698
  • ABOUT WANTING TO SPEAK TOTHE GOD OF POTENTIAL AND
  • 00:07:56.698 --> 00:07:57.232
  • THE GOD OF POTENTIAL ANDSOMETIMES WE'RE A LITTLE
  • 00:07:57.232 --> 00:07:57.832
  • SOMETIMES WE'RE A LITTLEROUGH AROUND THE EDGES,
  • 00:07:57.832 --> 00:07:58.700
  • ROUGH AROUND THE EDGES,THAT'S WHY I LOVE ME SOME
  • 00:07:58.700 --> 00:07:59.401
  • THAT'S WHY I LOVE ME SOMECHRIS.
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  • CHRIS.YOU GUYS, I SERVED UNDER
  • 00:08:00.201 --> 00:08:01.670
  • YOU GUYS, I SERVED UNDERCHRIS FOR ALMOST SEVEN
  • 00:08:01.670 --> 00:08:02.804
  • CHRIS FOR ALMOST SEVENYEARS.
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  • YEARS.AND CLEARLY, BIRDS OF A
  • 00:08:04.239 --> 00:08:05.206
  • AND CLEARLY, BIRDS OF AFEATHER FLOCK TOGETHER.
  • 00:08:05.206 --> 00:08:05.774
  • FEATHER FLOCK TOGETHER.I WAS LIKE, YOU WERE MEAN?
  • 00:08:05.774 --> 00:08:06.942
  • I WAS LIKE, YOU WERE MEAN?I DIDN'T THINK YOU WERE.
  • 00:08:06.942 --> 00:08:07.676
  • I DIDN'T THINK YOU WERE.PEOPLE WOULD LISTEN TO US
  • 00:08:07.676 --> 00:08:08.577
  • PEOPLE WOULD LISTEN TO USTALK.
  • 00:08:08.577 --> 00:08:09.344
  • TALK.THEY'RE LIKE, WHY ARE YOU
  • 00:08:09.344 --> 00:08:09.778
  • THEY'RE LIKE, WHY ARE YOUYELLING?
  • 00:08:09.778 --> 00:08:10.312
  • YELLING?WE'RE NOT YELLING.
  • 00:08:10.312 --> 00:08:11.212
  • WE'RE NOT YELLING.WE JUST TALK LIKE THIS.
  • 00:08:11.212 --> 00:08:13.915
  • WE JUST TALK LIKE THIS.SO, AS I'M GETTING OLDER,
  • 00:08:13.915 --> 00:08:15.784
  • SO, AS I'M GETTING OLDER,I'M A MOM NOW OF TWO STEP-KIDS,
  • 00:08:15.784 --> 00:08:17.052
  • I'M A MOM NOW OF TWO STEP-KIDS,I HAD THEM AS
  • 00:08:17.052 --> 00:08:18.086
  • I HAD THEM ASTODDLERS AND NOW THEY'RE
  • 00:08:18.086 --> 00:08:18.753
  • TODDLERS AND NOW THEY'RETEENAGERS, I'M REALIZING
  • 00:08:18.753 --> 00:08:20.522
  • TEENAGERS, I'M REALIZINGMY WORDS CAN BE WEAPONS.
  • 00:08:20.522 --> 00:08:22.290
  • MY WORDS CAN BE WEAPONS.I WANT TO BE VERY CAREFUL.
  • 00:08:22.290 --> 00:08:23.325
  • I WANT TO BE VERY CAREFUL.I WANT TO EXEMPLIFY JESUS
  • 00:08:23.325 --> 00:08:25.226
  • I WANT TO EXEMPLIFY JESUSCHRIST IN MY SPEECH AND I
  • 00:08:25.226 --> 00:08:26.261
  • CHRIST IN MY SPEECH AND ICAN DO THAT FIRST AND
  • 00:08:26.261 --> 00:08:28.063
  • CAN DO THAT FIRST ANDFOREMOST THROUGH GENTILITY.
  • 00:08:28.063 --> 00:08:29.698
  • FOREMOST THROUGH GENTILITY.MY WORDS BE LIKE SEASONED
  • 00:08:29.698 --> 00:08:31.933
  • MY WORDS BE LIKE SEASONEDWITH KINDNESS AND LOVE
  • 00:08:31.933 --> 00:08:33.635
  • WITH KINDNESS AND LOVEGENTLENESS AS PART OF THE
  • 00:08:33.635 --> 00:08:34.369
  • GENTLENESS AS PART OF THEFRUIT OF THE SPIRIT.
  • 00:08:34.369 --> 00:08:35.303
  • FRUIT OF THE SPIRIT.ONEKA, YOU HAVE TWO BOYS
  • 00:08:35.303 --> 00:08:36.871
  • ONEKA, YOU HAVE TWO BOYSAND A GIRL.
  • 00:08:36.871 --> 00:08:37.739
  • AND A GIRL.TELL ME WHAT THAT'S LIKE
  • 00:08:37.739 --> 00:08:38.873
  • TELL ME WHAT THAT'S LIKEIN YOUR HOUSEHOLD WITH--
  • 00:08:38.873 --> 00:08:39.374
  • IN YOUR HOUSEHOLD WITH--HOW ARE YOU NOT JUST
  • 00:08:39.374 --> 00:08:40.609
  • HOW ARE YOU NOT JUSTEXHIBITING THIS BUT ALSO
  • 00:08:40.609 --> 00:08:42.010
  • EXHIBITING THIS BUT ALSOTEACHING THIS?
  • 00:08:42.010 --> 00:08:43.778
  • TEACHING THIS?- ONEKA: IT'S HILARIOUS.
  • 00:08:43.778 --> 00:08:45.046
  • - ONEKA: IT'S HILARIOUS.ACTUALLY, MY HUSBAND AND I
  • 00:08:45.046 --> 00:08:45.880
  • ACTUALLY, MY HUSBAND AND IDECIDED AT THE VERY
  • 00:08:45.880 --> 00:08:46.448
  • DECIDED AT THE VERYBEGINNING OF OUR MARRIAGE
  • 00:08:46.448 --> 00:08:49.451
  • BEGINNING OF OUR MARRIAGEBECAUSE WE WERE BOTH
  • 00:08:49.451 --> 00:08:49.985
  • BECAUSE WE WERE BOTHRAISED BY AMAZING FIERCE,
  • 00:08:49.985 --> 00:08:50.952
  • RAISED BY AMAZING FIERCE,JUST STRONG SINGLE MOMS.
  • 00:08:50.952 --> 00:08:52.187
  • JUST STRONG SINGLE MOMS.BOTH OF OUR MOMS WERE
  • 00:08:52.187 --> 00:08:52.621
  • BOTH OF OUR MOMS WEREAMAZING WARRIOR AND
  • 00:08:52.621 --> 00:08:55.023
  • AMAZING WARRIOR ANDFIGHTERS.
  • 00:08:55.023 --> 00:08:56.858
  • FIGHTERS.BUT SOMETHING THAT WAS
  • 00:08:56.858 --> 00:08:58.026
  • BUT SOMETHING THAT WASPREVALENT IN BOTH OF OUR
  • 00:08:58.026 --> 00:08:59.661
  • PREVALENT IN BOTH OF OURHOMES WAS LOTS OF YELLING,
  • 00:08:59.661 --> 00:09:01.396
  • HOMES WAS LOTS OF YELLING,BUT NOT LIKE YELLING OVER
  • 00:09:01.396 --> 00:09:02.430
  • BUT NOT LIKE YELLING OVERA FOOTBALL GAME YELLING,
  • 00:09:02.430 --> 00:09:03.398
  • A FOOTBALL GAME YELLING,BUT JUST YELLING IN ALL
  • 00:09:03.398 --> 00:09:05.266
  • BUT JUST YELLING IN ALLFORMS OF COMMUNICATION.
  • 00:09:05.266 --> 00:09:08.036
  • FORMS OF COMMUNICATION.YELLING ALMOST TO AN EXCESS.
  • 00:09:08.036 --> 00:09:10.205
  • YELLING ALMOST TO AN EXCESS.I THINK IT WAS BECAUSE OF
  • 00:09:10.205 --> 00:09:11.106
  • I THINK IT WAS BECAUSE OFTHE SITUATIONS THEY WERE IN.
  • 00:09:11.106 --> 00:09:12.173
  • THE SITUATIONS THEY WERE IN.THEY JUST WEREN'T GRACEFUL
  • 00:09:12.173 --> 00:09:15.543
  • THEY JUST WEREN'T GRACEFULWITH THEIR WORDS.
  • 00:09:15.543 --> 00:09:16.311
  • WITH THEIR WORDS.SO WE DECIDED THAT WHEN WE
  • 00:09:16.311 --> 00:09:17.712
  • SO WE DECIDED THAT WHEN WECAME TOGETHER.
  • 00:09:17.712 --> 00:09:18.446
  • CAME TOGETHER.WE HAD THE OPPORTUNITY TO
  • 00:09:18.446 --> 00:09:20.181
  • WE HAD THE OPPORTUNITY TOEITHER BE THE VOLCANIC
  • 00:09:20.181 --> 00:09:21.650
  • EITHER BE THE VOLCANICFAMILY THAT JUST YELLED
  • 00:09:21.650 --> 00:09:23.618
  • FAMILY THAT JUST YELLEDAND ALMOST TALKED DOWN TO
  • 00:09:23.618 --> 00:09:25.186
  • AND ALMOST TALKED DOWN TOOUR KIDS.
  • 00:09:25.186 --> 00:09:26.221
  • OUR KIDS.WE HAD TO MAKE A DECISION
  • 00:09:26.221 --> 00:09:27.889
  • WE HAD TO MAKE A DECISIONTHAT WE WERE NOT GOING TO
  • 00:09:27.889 --> 00:09:29.057
  • THAT WE WERE NOT GOING TODO THAT IN OUR HOME
  • 00:09:29.057 --> 00:09:29.624
  • DO THAT IN OUR HOMEBECAUSE WE DIDN'T WANT OUR
  • 00:09:29.624 --> 00:09:30.992
  • BECAUSE WE DIDN'T WANT OURKIDS TO BE FILLED WITH FEAR.
  • 00:09:30.992 --> 00:09:32.694
  • KIDS TO BE FILLED WITH FEAR.AND SO, IT'S ACTUALLY BEEN
  • 00:09:32.694 --> 00:09:34.129
  • AND SO, IT'S ACTUALLY BEENSOMETHING THAT WE'VE HAD
  • 00:09:34.129 --> 00:09:36.331
  • SOMETHING THAT WE'VE HADTO GIVE TO GOD AND DECIDE
  • 00:09:36.331 --> 00:09:38.099
  • TO GIVE TO GOD AND DECIDEWE'RE NOT GOING TO-- EVEN
  • 00:09:38.099 --> 00:09:38.933
  • WE'RE NOT GOING TO-- EVENWHEN WE GET INTO A
  • 00:09:38.933 --> 00:09:40.869
  • WHEN WE GET INTO ADISAGREEMENT OR ARGUMENT,
  • 00:09:40.869 --> 00:09:42.570
  • DISAGREEMENT OR ARGUMENT,IT SOUNDS CRAZY, I KNOW,
  • 00:09:42.570 --> 00:09:43.805
  • IT SOUNDS CRAZY, I KNOW,BUT WE JUST DECIDED AT THE
  • 00:09:43.805 --> 00:09:44.372
  • BUT WE JUST DECIDED AT THEVERY BEGINNING WE'RE NOT
  • 00:09:44.372 --> 00:09:45.240
  • VERY BEGINNING WE'RE NOTGONNA YELL AT EACH OTHER.
  • 00:09:45.240 --> 00:09:47.042
  • GONNA YELL AT EACH OTHER.SO IT'S VERY RARE THAT OUR
  • 00:09:47.042 --> 00:09:48.777
  • SO IT'S VERY RARE THAT OURKIDS WALK PAST OUR BEDROOM
  • 00:09:48.777 --> 00:09:50.445
  • KIDS WALK PAST OUR BEDROOMAND HEAR US LIKE SCREAMING
  • 00:09:50.445 --> 00:09:51.513
  • AND HEAR US LIKE SCREAMINGTO THE POINT OF THEM BEING
  • 00:09:51.513 --> 00:09:52.480
  • TO THE POINT OF THEM BEINGCONCERNED ABOUT THE FUTURE
  • 00:09:52.480 --> 00:09:53.882
  • CONCERNED ABOUT THE FUTUREOF THEIR FAMILY.
  • 00:09:53.882 --> 00:09:54.916
  • OF THEIR FAMILY.BUT I KNOW SOME OF MY
  • 00:09:54.916 --> 00:09:56.618
  • BUT I KNOW SOME OF MYFRIENDS THINK THAT'S CRAZY.
  • 00:09:56.618 --> 00:09:57.752
  • FRIENDS THINK THAT'S CRAZY.HOW DO YOU NOT YET AT YOUR
  • 00:09:57.752 --> 00:09:59.254
  • HOW DO YOU NOT YET AT YOURHUSBAND AND HOW DOES YOUR
  • 00:09:59.254 --> 00:10:00.255
  • HUSBAND AND HOW DOES YOURHUSBAND NOT YELL AT YOU?
  • 00:10:00.255 --> 00:10:02.157
  • HUSBAND NOT YELL AT YOU?BUT IT CAN BE DONE WHEN
  • 00:10:02.157 --> 00:10:03.458
  • BUT IT CAN BE DONE WHENYOU PUT YOUR HOPE AND
  • 00:10:03.458 --> 00:10:05.293
  • YOU PUT YOUR HOPE ANDTRUST IN JESUS AND YOU
  • 00:10:05.293 --> 00:10:07.195
  • TRUST IN JESUS AND YOUHOLD EACH OTHER ACCOUNTABLE.
  • 00:10:07.195 --> 00:10:07.762
  • HOLD EACH OTHER ACCOUNTABLE.I SAY ALL THAT TO SAY THAT
  • 00:10:07.762 --> 00:10:09.464
  • I SAY ALL THAT TO SAY THATWE DO GET OUR POINT ACROSS
  • 00:10:09.464 --> 00:10:10.832
  • WE DO GET OUR POINT ACROSSSTILL AND WE ARE VERY
  • 00:10:10.832 --> 00:10:12.434
  • STILL AND WE ARE VERYPASSIONATE.
  • 00:10:12.434 --> 00:10:13.802
  • PASSIONATE.AND NEITHER ONE OF US WALK
  • 00:10:13.802 --> 00:10:14.936
  • AND NEITHER ONE OF US WALKALL OVER THE OTHER ONE.
  • 00:10:14.936 --> 00:10:15.770
  • ALL OVER THE OTHER ONE.BUT WE JUST DECIDED THAT
  • 00:10:15.770 --> 00:10:16.805
  • BUT WE JUST DECIDED THATIN OUR HOME.
  • 00:10:16.805 --> 00:10:18.339
  • IN OUR HOME.AND SO, EVEN WITH OUR
  • 00:10:18.339 --> 00:10:19.641
  • AND SO, EVEN WITH OURYOUNGEST.
  • 00:10:19.641 --> 00:10:20.875
  • YOUNGEST.WE HAVE A FIVE-YEAR-OLD, A
  • 00:10:20.875 --> 00:10:21.476
  • WE HAVE A FIVE-YEAR-OLD, ATEN YEAR OLD AND A
  • 00:10:21.476 --> 00:10:22.844
  • TEN YEAR OLD AND A15-YEAR-OLD.
  • 00:10:22.844 --> 00:10:24.379
  • 15-YEAR-OLD.AND OUR KIDS ARE WILD.
  • 00:10:24.379 --> 00:10:26.715
  • AND OUR KIDS ARE WILD.OUR HOUSE IS VERY LOUD.
  • 00:10:26.715 --> 00:10:27.649
  • OUR HOUSE IS VERY LOUD.BUT THERE IS A DIFFERENCE
  • 00:10:27.649 --> 00:10:29.250
  • BUT THERE IS A DIFFERENCEBETWEEN BEING UPSET AND
  • 00:10:29.250 --> 00:10:30.118
  • BETWEEN BEING UPSET ANDTHEN DEMEANING SOMEONE
  • 00:10:30.118 --> 00:10:31.219
  • THEN DEMEANING SOMEONEWITH YOUR WORDS.
  • 00:10:31.219 --> 00:10:32.320
  • WITH YOUR WORDS.SO WE JUST HAVE SOME
  • 00:10:32.320 --> 00:10:33.521
  • SO WE JUST HAVE SOMEFAMILY RULES.
  • 00:10:33.521 --> 00:10:34.856
  • FAMILY RULES.AND WHEN OUR KIDS RAISE
  • 00:10:34.856 --> 00:10:35.890
  • AND WHEN OUR KIDS RAISETHEIR VOICE AT ONE
  • 00:10:35.890 --> 00:10:36.891
  • THEIR VOICE AT ONEANOTHER, WE REMIND THEM.
  • 00:10:36.891 --> 00:10:38.259
  • ANOTHER, WE REMIND THEM.YES, YOU CAN BE UPSET
  • 00:10:38.259 --> 00:10:39.294
  • YES, YOU CAN BE UPSETABOUT WHAT HAPPENED.
  • 00:10:39.294 --> 00:10:41.496
  • ABOUT WHAT HAPPENED.BUT WE'RE NOT GOING ALLOW
  • 00:10:41.496 --> 00:10:42.030
  • BUT WE'RE NOT GOING ALLOWYOUR WORDS TO SHAME YOUR
  • 00:10:42.030 --> 00:10:44.566
  • YOUR WORDS TO SHAME YOURSIBLINGS.
  • 00:10:44.566 --> 00:10:46.034
  • SIBLINGS.IT IS SOMETHING WE HAVE TO
  • 00:10:46.034 --> 00:10:47.969
  • IT IS SOMETHING WE HAVE TOCONSTANTLY DO REFRESHERS
  • 00:10:47.969 --> 00:10:49.003
  • CONSTANTLY DO REFRESHERSON BECAUSE EVEN THOUGH WE
  • 00:10:49.003 --> 00:10:49.938
  • ON BECAUSE EVEN THOUGH WELOVE GOD AND WE LOVE EACH
  • 00:10:49.938 --> 00:10:51.039
  • LOVE GOD AND WE LOVE EACHOTHER, WE'RE NOT WALKING
  • 00:10:51.039 --> 00:10:51.973
  • OTHER, WE'RE NOT WALKINGAROUND SINGING PSALMS OVER
  • 00:10:51.973 --> 00:10:54.375
  • AROUND SINGING PSALMS OVERONE ANOTHER AND SINGING
  • 00:10:54.375 --> 00:10:56.311
  • ONE ANOTHER AND SINGINGNEW SONGS UNTO THE LORD.
  • 00:10:56.311 --> 00:10:58.780
  • NEW SONGS UNTO THE LORD.IT'S A VERY NORMAL HOME.
  • 00:10:58.780 --> 00:10:59.347
  • IT'S A VERY NORMAL HOME.A VERY NORMAL CRAZY LOVE
  • 00:10:59.347 --> 00:11:00.682
  • A VERY NORMAL CRAZY LOVEFAMILY AND WE HAVE TO REIN
  • 00:11:00.682 --> 00:11:01.382
  • FAMILY AND WE HAVE TO REINIT IN.
  • 00:11:01.382 --> 00:11:03.318
  • IT IN.BUT WE JUST DECIDED AT THE
  • 00:11:03.318 --> 00:11:03.985
  • BUT WE JUST DECIDED AT THEVERY BEGINNING AND
  • 00:11:03.985 --> 00:11:05.153
  • VERY BEGINNING ANDSOMETIMES YOU HAVE TO HIT
  • 00:11:05.153 --> 00:11:06.121
  • SOMETIMES YOU HAVE TO HITTHE RESTART BUTTON AND SAY,
  • 00:11:06.121 --> 00:11:08.323
  • THE RESTART BUTTON AND SAY,YOU KNOW WHAT?
  • 00:11:08.323 --> 00:11:08.890
  • YOU KNOW WHAT?IT'S GETTING A LITTLE TOO
  • 00:11:08.890 --> 00:11:09.390
  • IT'S GETTING A LITTLE TOOSPICY IN HERE WITH MY
  • 00:11:09.390 --> 00:11:09.824
  • SPICY IN HERE WITH MYLANGUAGE.
  • 00:11:09.824 --> 00:11:10.592
  • LANGUAGE.I'M TALKING DOWN TO YOU.
  • 00:11:10.592 --> 00:11:11.993
  • I'M TALKING DOWN TO YOU.I'M NOT BUILDING YOU UP.
  • 00:11:11.993 --> 00:11:13.361
  • I'M NOT BUILDING YOU UP.LET'S HOLD EACH OTHER
  • 00:11:13.361 --> 00:11:14.996
  • LET'S HOLD EACH OTHERACCOUNTABLE TO SPEAK WORDS
  • 00:11:14.996 --> 00:11:16.097
  • ACCOUNTABLE TO SPEAK WORDSOF LIFE TO ONE ANOTHER
  • 00:11:16.097 --> 00:11:17.265
  • OF LIFE TO ONE ANOTHERBECAUSE PEOPLE ARE
  • 00:11:17.265 --> 00:11:18.466
  • BECAUSE PEOPLE AREWATCHING AND PEOPLE ARE
  • 00:11:18.466 --> 00:11:19.701
  • WATCHING AND PEOPLE ARELISTENING AND THE BOTTOM
  • 00:11:19.701 --> 00:11:20.568
  • LISTENING AND THE BOTTOMLINE IS, WHEN WE KIND OF
  • 00:11:20.568 --> 00:11:22.937
  • LINE IS, WHEN WE KIND OFGO OFF, SOMETIMES YOU SAY
  • 00:11:22.937 --> 00:11:24.172
  • GO OFF, SOMETIMES YOU SAYTHINGS YOU DON'T EVEN
  • 00:11:24.172 --> 00:11:25.840
  • THINGS YOU DON'T EVENREALLY MEAN.
  • 00:11:25.840 --> 00:11:27.375
  • REALLY MEAN.THAT CAN SCAR SOMEONE FOR
  • 00:11:27.375 --> 00:11:28.810
  • THAT CAN SCAR SOMEONE FORA REALLY LONG TIME.
  • 00:11:28.810 --> 00:11:30.311
  • A REALLY LONG TIME.SO IT'S IMPORTANT FOR US
  • 00:11:30.311 --> 00:11:31.746
  • SO IT'S IMPORTANT FOR USTO ASK THE PEOPLE IN OUR
  • 00:11:31.746 --> 00:11:32.447
  • TO ASK THE PEOPLE IN OURWORLD, YOU KNOW WHAT, WHEN
  • 00:11:32.447 --> 00:11:34.182
  • WORLD, YOU KNOW WHAT, WHENI GET LOUD DOES THAT MAKE
  • 00:11:34.182 --> 00:11:36.918
  • I GET LOUD DOES THAT MAKEYOU FEEL LITTLE?
  • 00:11:36.918 --> 00:11:37.685
  • YOU FEEL LITTLE?OR ARE YOU COOL WITH THE
  • 00:11:37.685 --> 00:11:38.219
  • OR ARE YOU COOL WITH THELEVEL AND TONE OF MY VOICE
  • 00:11:38.219 --> 00:11:39.187
  • LEVEL AND TONE OF MY VOICERIGHT NOW?
  • 00:11:39.187 --> 00:11:40.321
  • RIGHT NOW?MY MOM, I'M FROM
  • 00:11:40.321 --> 00:11:41.156
  • MY MOM, I'M FROMCALIFORNIA, MY
  • 00:11:41.156 --> 00:11:42.390
  • CALIFORNIA, MYMOTHER-IN-LAW IS FROM THE
  • 00:11:42.390 --> 00:11:43.858
  • MOTHER-IN-LAW IS FROM THEEAST COAST.
  • 00:11:43.858 --> 00:11:45.460
  • EAST COAST.AND SHE IS NOT ABOUT SUGAR
  • 00:11:45.460 --> 00:11:46.261
  • AND SHE IS NOT ABOUT SUGARCOATING ANYTHING.
  • 00:11:46.261 --> 00:11:48.630
  • COATING ANYTHING.SHE WILL JUST SAY IT LIKE
  • 00:11:48.630 --> 00:11:50.165
  • SHE WILL JUST SAY IT LIKESHE MEANS IT AND SO, EVEN
  • 00:11:50.165 --> 00:11:52.300
  • SHE MEANS IT AND SO, EVENWHEN SHE COMES TO OUR HOME,
  • 00:11:52.300 --> 00:11:53.268
  • WHEN SHE COMES TO OUR HOME,WE HAVE TO REMIND HER.
  • 00:11:53.268 --> 00:11:54.869
  • WE HAVE TO REMIND HER.SHE IS A LITTLE GANGSTER.
  • 00:11:54.869 --> 00:11:55.770
  • SHE IS A LITTLE GANGSTER.SHE IS A CHRISTIAN THAT
  • 00:11:55.770 --> 00:11:56.671
  • SHE IS A CHRISTIAN THATCUSSES A LITTLE AND SHE'LL
  • 00:11:56.671 --> 00:11:57.605
  • CUSSES A LITTLE AND SHE'LLTONGUE THAT AND SHE JUST
  • 00:11:57.605 --> 00:12:02.777
  • TONGUE THAT AND SHE JUSTHAS THAT LITTLE EXTRA EDGE.
  • 00:12:02.777 --> 00:12:03.678
  • HAS THAT LITTLE EXTRA EDGE.AND SHE'S NOT TRYING TO
  • 00:12:03.678 --> 00:12:04.279
  • AND SHE'S NOT TRYING TOCHANGE ANYTHING FOR ANYONE.
  • 00:12:04.279 --> 00:12:05.446
  • CHANGE ANYTHING FOR ANYONE.BUT AT THE END OF THE DAY,
  • 00:12:05.446 --> 00:12:06.514
  • BUT AT THE END OF THE DAY,SHE DOES SAY, YOU KNOW WHAT?
  • 00:12:06.514 --> 00:12:07.415
  • SHE DOES SAY, YOU KNOW WHAT?SHE'LL SAY, DAUGHTER, I
  • 00:12:07.415 --> 00:12:08.183
  • SHE'LL SAY, DAUGHTER, ICOULD HAVE SAID THAT
  • 00:12:08.183 --> 00:12:09.350
  • COULD HAVE SAID THATBETTER TO YOU.
  • 00:12:09.350 --> 00:12:10.685
  • BETTER TO YOU.SO SOMETIMES YOU JUST HAVE
  • 00:12:10.685 --> 00:12:11.686
  • SO SOMETIMES YOU JUST HAVETO REMIND THE PEOPLE
  • 00:12:11.686 --> 00:12:12.921
  • TO REMIND THE PEOPLEAROUND YOU, THIS IS HOW I
  • 00:12:12.921 --> 00:12:13.421
  • AROUND YOU, THIS IS HOW IWANT YOU TO SPEAK TO ME.
  • 00:12:13.421 --> 00:12:14.422
  • WANT YOU TO SPEAK TO ME.THIS IS HOW I'M BEST
  • 00:12:14.422 --> 00:12:14.989
  • THIS IS HOW I'M BESTCHALLENGED.
  • 00:12:14.989 --> 00:12:16.191
  • CHALLENGED.BUT AT THE END OF THE DAY,
  • 00:12:16.191 --> 00:12:17.625
  • BUT AT THE END OF THE DAY,CAUSING SOMEONE TO STAND
  • 00:12:17.625 --> 00:12:19.093
  • CAUSING SOMEONE TO STANDTALLER AND NOT TO BE
  • 00:12:19.093 --> 00:12:19.661
  • TALLER AND NOT TO BEDIMINISHED WITH OUR
  • 00:12:19.661 --> 00:12:21.229
  • DIMINISHED WITH OURLANGUAGE AND OUR POSTURE
  • 00:12:21.229 --> 00:12:22.697
  • LANGUAGE AND OUR POSTUREAND EVEN IN OUR GENTLENESS
  • 00:12:22.697 --> 00:12:23.965
  • AND EVEN IN OUR GENTLENESSYOU CAN STILL BE STRONG
  • 00:12:23.965 --> 00:12:25.233
  • YOU CAN STILL BE STRONGAND YOU CAN STILL GET YOUR
  • 00:12:25.233 --> 00:12:26.367
  • AND YOU CAN STILL GET YOURPOINT ACROSS AND BE GENTLE
  • 00:12:26.367 --> 00:12:28.670
  • POINT ACROSS AND BE GENTLEWHILE ALSO CARRYING GREAT
  • 00:12:28.670 --> 00:12:29.637
  • WHILE ALSO CARRYING GREATSTRENGTH.
  • 00:12:29.637 --> 00:12:30.672
  • STRENGTH.BUT THAT'S SOMETHING WE
  • 00:12:30.672 --> 00:12:31.940
  • BUT THAT'S SOMETHING WEFIGHT FOR IN OUR FAMILY.
  • 00:12:31.940 --> 00:12:34.943
  • FIGHT FOR IN OUR FAMILY.- STEPHANIE: I LOVE IT.
  • 00:12:34.943 --> 00:12:35.443
  • - STEPHANIE: I LOVE IT.EVEN JUST TALKING ABOUT
  • 00:12:35.443 --> 00:12:35.977
  • EVEN JUST TALKING ABOUTCULTURAL BACKGROUNDS AND
  • 00:12:35.977 --> 00:12:37.078
  • CULTURAL BACKGROUNDS ANDEVERYTHING.
  • 00:12:37.078 --> 00:12:37.612
  • EVERYTHING.BECAUSE I'M NIGERIAN.
  • 00:12:37.612 --> 00:12:39.080
  • BECAUSE I'M NIGERIAN.AND SO, THE TRIBE I COME
  • 00:12:39.080 --> 00:12:40.048
  • AND SO, THE TRIBE I COMEFROM IS IGBOS.
  • 00:12:40.048 --> 00:12:44.953
  • FROM IS IGBOS.SO THEY YELL.
  • 00:12:44.953 --> 00:12:45.453
  • SO THEY YELL.AND YELLING IS NORMAL.
  • 00:12:45.453 --> 00:12:46.020
  • AND YELLING IS NORMAL.IT IS JUST A CONVERSATION.
  • 00:12:46.020 --> 00:12:47.589
  • IT IS JUST A CONVERSATION.SOMEHOW GROWING UP I
  • 00:12:47.589 --> 00:12:48.857
  • SOMEHOW GROWING UP IMISSED THE MEMO.
  • 00:12:48.857 --> 00:12:50.158
  • MISSED THE MEMO.BECAUSE NORMALLY MY TONE
  • 00:12:50.158 --> 00:12:52.060
  • BECAUSE NORMALLY MY TONEIS VERY LOW, IT IS VERY CHILL.
  • 00:12:52.060 --> 00:12:53.494
  • IS VERY LOW, IT IS VERY CHILL.SO WHEN I'LL HAVE A
  • 00:12:53.494 --> 00:12:54.696
  • SO WHEN I'LL HAVE ACONVERSATION WITH MY
  • 00:12:54.696 --> 00:12:55.830
  • CONVERSATION WITH MYMOTHER, WITH MY AUNT,
  • 00:12:55.830 --> 00:12:57.198
  • MOTHER, WITH MY AUNT,IN MY MIND IT'S LIKE,
  • 00:12:57.198 --> 00:12:58.333
  • IN MY MIND IT'S LIKE,ARE YOU MAD AT ME?
  • 00:12:58.333 --> 00:13:00.134
  • ARE YOU MAD AT ME?(LAUGHTER)
  • 00:13:00.134 --> 00:13:00.735
  • (LAUGHTER)THEY'RE LIKE, NO,
  • 00:13:00.735 --> 00:13:01.669
  • THEY'RE LIKE, NO,STEPHANIE, WE ARE JUST--
  • 00:13:01.669 --> 00:13:02.403
  • STEPHANIE, WE ARE JUST--THIS IS JUST US.
  • 00:13:02.403 --> 00:13:03.605
  • THIS IS JUST US.YOU SHOULD KNOW THIS.
  • 00:13:03.605 --> 00:13:04.572
  • YOU SHOULD KNOW THIS.BUT THE THING WAS,
  • 00:13:04.572 --> 00:13:06.341
  • BUT THE THING WAS,I DIDN'T RECEIVE IT THE WAY
  • 00:13:06.341 --> 00:13:07.475
  • I DIDN'T RECEIVE IT THE WAYTHEY INTENDED IT TO.
  • 00:13:07.475 --> 00:13:08.276
  • THEY INTENDED IT TO.SO THE SAME WAY YOU
  • 00:13:08.276 --> 00:13:09.310
  • SO THE SAME WAY YOUMENTIONED ONEKA, MY MOM IS
  • 00:13:09.310 --> 00:13:11.579
  • MENTIONED ONEKA, MY MOM ISSOMEONE WHO IS VERY BLUNT.
  • 00:13:11.579 --> 00:13:12.914
  • SOMEONE WHO IS VERY BLUNT.SHE TELLS YOU LIKE IT IS.
  • 00:13:12.914 --> 00:13:14.816
  • SHE TELLS YOU LIKE IT IS.AND SHE'S LIKE I'M NOT
  • 00:13:14.816 --> 00:13:15.950
  • AND SHE'S LIKE I'M NOTSUGAR COATING FOR NO ONE.
  • 00:13:15.950 --> 00:13:17.352
  • SUGAR COATING FOR NO ONE.THIS IS AN ACT OF LOVE AND
  • 00:13:17.352 --> 00:13:18.052
  • THIS IS AN ACT OF LOVE ANDALL THAT.
  • 00:13:18.052 --> 00:13:19.454
  • ALL THAT.BUT WHEN WE WOULD HAVE
  • 00:13:19.454 --> 00:13:20.421
  • BUT WHEN WE WOULD HAVECONVERSATIONS AND I'M
  • 00:13:20.421 --> 00:13:21.589
  • CONVERSATIONS AND I'MLIKE, OKAY, BUT SOMETIMES
  • 00:13:21.589 --> 00:13:22.590
  • LIKE, OKAY, BUT SOMETIMESIF YOU SAY IT THIS WAY,
  • 00:13:22.590 --> 00:13:23.992
  • IF YOU SAY IT THIS WAY,I'M NOT RECEIVING IT THE
  • 00:13:23.992 --> 00:13:25.059
  • I'M NOT RECEIVING IT THEWAY YOU INTENDED FOR ME TO
  • 00:13:25.059 --> 00:13:27.662
  • WAY YOU INTENDED FOR ME TORECEIVE IT.
  • 00:13:27.662 --> 00:13:28.196
  • RECEIVE IT.AND SO ONE OF THE THINGS I
  • 00:13:28.196 --> 00:13:28.796
  • AND SO ONE OF THE THINGS ILEARNED ABOUT GENTLENESS,
  • 00:13:28.796 --> 00:13:32.367
  • LEARNED ABOUT GENTLENESS,IT IS POWER UNDER CONTROL.
  • 00:13:32.367 --> 00:13:33.268
  • IT IS POWER UNDER CONTROL.IT IS POWER WITHIN
  • 00:13:33.268 --> 00:13:34.068
  • IT IS POWER WITHINBOUNDARIES TO BURST UP
  • 00:13:34.068 --> 00:13:36.304
  • BOUNDARIES TO BURST UPANOTHER PERSON.
  • 00:13:36.304 --> 00:13:37.505
  • ANOTHER PERSON.SO YES, I HAVE THE ABILITY
  • 00:13:37.505 --> 00:13:38.539
  • SO YES, I HAVE THE ABILITYTO JUST BE MYSELF.
  • 00:13:38.539 --> 00:13:41.109
  • TO JUST BE MYSELF.BUT IN KNOWING WHAT WILL
  • 00:13:41.109 --> 00:13:41.910
  • BUT IN KNOWING WHAT WILLBEST SERVE YOU, HOW YOU
  • 00:13:41.910 --> 00:13:43.544
  • BEST SERVE YOU, HOW YOUWILL BEST RECEIVE WHAT I'M
  • 00:13:43.544 --> 00:13:44.345
  • WILL BEST RECEIVE WHAT I'MSAYING TO YOU, THEN I HAVE
  • 00:13:44.345 --> 00:13:46.180
  • SAYING TO YOU, THEN I HAVETO HAVE BOUNDARIES, EVEN
  • 00:13:46.180 --> 00:13:47.282
  • TO HAVE BOUNDARIES, EVENIN WHAT MAY BE MY PERSONALITY.
  • 00:13:47.282 --> 00:13:49.517
  • IN WHAT MAY BE MY PERSONALITY.BECAUSE IF IT DOESN'T
  • 00:13:49.517 --> 00:13:50.919
  • BECAUSE IF IT DOESN'TSERVE YOUR BEST, IT'S NOT
  • 00:13:50.919 --> 00:13:53.054
  • SERVE YOUR BEST, IT'S NOTGOING ANYWHERE.
  • 00:13:53.054 --> 00:13:54.856
  • GOING ANYWHERE.IN THAT MOMENT IF IT IS
  • 00:13:54.856 --> 00:13:55.690
  • IN THAT MOMENT IF IT ISJUST TO HEAR THE SOUND OF
  • 00:13:55.690 --> 00:13:56.891
  • JUST TO HEAR THE SOUND OFMY VOICE, WHATEVER, BUT I
  • 00:13:56.891 --> 00:13:59.027
  • MY VOICE, WHATEVER, BUT ITHINK ABOUT JESUS ALSO.
  • 00:13:59.027 --> 00:14:01.696
  • THINK ABOUT JESUS ALSO.I THINK ABOUT EVEN HOW HE
  • 00:14:01.696 --> 00:14:03.264
  • I THINK ABOUT EVEN HOW HEMOVED IN SUCH GENTLENESS.
  • 00:14:03.264 --> 00:14:04.632
  • MOVED IN SUCH GENTLENESS.I THINK ABOUT THE MOMENT
  • 00:14:04.632 --> 00:14:06.034
  • I THINK ABOUT THE MOMENTTHEY WERE GOING TO ARREST
  • 00:14:06.034 --> 00:14:07.302
  • THEY WERE GOING TO ARRESTHIM AND PETER IS LIKE,
  • 00:14:07.302 --> 00:14:08.169
  • HIM AND PETER IS LIKE,HEY, I'M GONNA CUT OFF
  • 00:14:08.169 --> 00:14:09.504
  • HEY, I'M GONNA CUT OFFSOMEBODY'S EAR TODAY.
  • 00:14:09.504 --> 00:14:11.606
  • SOMEBODY'S EAR TODAY.AND JESUS-- I DON'T KNOW
  • 00:14:11.606 --> 00:14:12.874
  • AND JESUS-- I DON'T KNOWIF YOU TRY TO PICTURE HOW
  • 00:14:12.874 --> 00:14:15.310
  • IF YOU TRY TO PICTURE HOWHE LOOKED.
  • 00:14:15.310 --> 00:14:15.843
  • HE LOOKED.OR WHAT HE DID AND HOW HE
  • 00:14:15.843 --> 00:14:16.377
  • OR WHAT HE DID AND HOW HEWOULD JUST PICK UP AN EAR
  • 00:14:16.377 --> 00:14:17.378
  • WOULD JUST PICK UP AN EARAND JUST PUT IT BACK VERY
  • 00:14:17.378 --> 00:14:20.648
  • AND JUST PUT IT BACK VERYSUAVE,
  • 00:14:20.648 --> 00:14:21.883
  • SUAVE,BUT, JESUS REMINDS THEM.
  • 00:14:21.883 --> 00:14:23.818
  • BUT, JESUS REMINDS THEM.HE SAYS, LOOK, I HAVE
  • 00:14:23.818 --> 00:14:25.753
  • HE SAYS, LOOK, I HAVELEGIONS OF ANGELS.
  • 00:14:25.753 --> 00:14:28.890
  • LEGIONS OF ANGELS.I CAN ACCESS 12 LEGIONS OF
  • 00:14:28.890 --> 00:14:29.724
  • I CAN ACCESS 12 LEGIONS OFANGELS.
  • 00:14:29.724 --> 00:14:30.692
  • ANGELS.I DON'T NEED ANYONE TO
  • 00:14:30.692 --> 00:14:31.759
  • I DON'T NEED ANYONE TOFIGHT FOR ME.
  • 00:14:31.759 --> 00:14:34.128
  • FIGHT FOR ME.BUT MY POWER HAS BOUNDARIES.
  • 00:14:34.128 --> 00:14:35.229
  • BUT MY POWER HAS BOUNDARIES.BECAUSE AT THE END OF THE
  • 00:14:35.229 --> 00:14:36.197
  • BECAUSE AT THE END OF THEDAY I'M HERE TO SERVE A
  • 00:14:36.197 --> 00:14:36.864
  • DAY I'M HERE TO SERVE AMISSION.
  • 00:14:36.864 --> 00:14:38.866
  • MISSION.SO I REALLY JUST LOVE THIS
  • 00:14:38.866 --> 00:14:39.968
  • SO I REALLY JUST LOVE THISBECAUSE EVEN WITH
  • 00:14:39.968 --> 00:14:40.835
  • BECAUSE EVEN WITHCONVERSATIONS WITH MY
  • 00:14:40.835 --> 00:14:42.036
  • CONVERSATIONS WITH MYMOTHER, WE'RE LIKE, OKAY,
  • 00:14:42.036 --> 00:14:43.338
  • MOTHER, WE'RE LIKE, OKAY,THIS IS HOW IT BEST WORKS
  • 00:14:43.338 --> 00:14:44.639
  • THIS IS HOW IT BEST WORKSAND NOW WE GET ALONG.
  • 00:14:44.639 --> 00:14:45.406
  • AND NOW WE GET ALONG.SHE MAY BE SHOUTING, SHE
  • 00:14:45.406 --> 00:14:48.643
  • SHE MAY BE SHOUTING, SHEMAYBE NOT, BUT IT'S LIKE
  • 00:14:48.643 --> 00:14:49.544
  • MAYBE NOT, BUT IT'S LIKEUNDERSTANDING, HEY, LET'S
  • 00:14:49.544 --> 00:14:50.378
  • UNDERSTANDING, HEY, LET'SHAVE BOUNDARIES HERE SO WE
  • 00:14:50.378 --> 00:14:51.512
  • HAVE BOUNDARIES HERE SO WECAN BEST SERVE EACH OTHER.
  • 00:14:51.512 --> 00:14:52.146
  • CAN BEST SERVE EACH OTHER.- LAURIE: YEAH, JUST LIKE
  • 00:14:52.146 --> 00:14:53.281
  • - LAURIE: YEAH, JUST LIKEWHEN THE BIBLE SAYS, TAKE
  • 00:14:53.281 --> 00:14:55.216
  • WHEN THE BIBLE SAYS, TAKEMY YOKE UPON YOU AND LEARN
  • 00:14:55.216 --> 00:14:56.017
  • MY YOKE UPON YOU AND LEARNOF ME FOR I AM GENTLE AND
  • 00:14:56.017 --> 00:14:58.920
  • OF ME FOR I AM GENTLE ANDLOWLY OF HEART.
  • 00:14:58.920 --> 00:14:59.721
  • LOWLY OF HEART.THAT IS WHO JESUS IS.
  • 00:14:59.721 --> 00:15:01.756
  • THAT IS WHO JESUS IS.SO WE SEE HIM AS THE
  • 00:15:01.756 --> 00:15:04.125
  • SO WE SEE HIM AS THEROARING LION OF JUDAH AND
  • 00:15:04.125 --> 00:15:06.160
  • ROARING LION OF JUDAH ANDWE SEE HIM THE LAMB WHO
  • 00:15:06.160 --> 00:15:07.328
  • WE SEE HIM THE LAMB WHOWAS SLAIN BEFORE THE
  • 00:15:07.328 --> 00:15:08.763
  • WAS SLAIN BEFORE THEFOUNDATIONS OF THE EARTH.
  • 00:15:08.763 --> 00:15:12.066
  • FOUNDATIONS OF THE EARTH.THAT IS THAT CONTROLLED
  • 00:15:12.066 --> 00:15:13.034
  • THAT IS THAT CONTROLLEDPOWER, THAT GENTLENESS OF
  • 00:15:13.034 --> 00:15:16.838
  • POWER, THAT GENTLENESS OFSOUL.
  • 00:15:16.838 --> 00:15:17.472
  • SOUL.WE CALL IT THE GRACE OF
  • 00:15:17.472 --> 00:15:20.341
  • WE CALL IT THE GRACE OFTHE SOUL.
  • 00:15:20.341 --> 00:15:20.908
  • THE SOUL.AND GENTLENESS IS PROBABLY
  • 00:15:20.908 --> 00:15:22.076
  • AND GENTLENESS IS PROBABLYONE OF THE SWEETEST GIFTS
  • 00:15:22.076 --> 00:15:24.245
  • ONE OF THE SWEETEST GIFTSOF THE SPIRIT, CHRIS,
  • 00:15:24.245 --> 00:15:25.747
  • OF THE SPIRIT, CHRIS,BECAUSE I KNOW THAT
  • 00:15:25.747 --> 00:15:27.048
  • BECAUSE I KNOW THATSOMETIMES WE FIND
  • 00:15:27.048 --> 00:15:28.316
  • SOMETIMES WE FINDOURSELVES IN A SITUATION
  • 00:15:28.316 --> 00:15:30.051
  • OURSELVES IN A SITUATIONWHERE IT CAN GO FROM ZERO
  • 00:15:30.051 --> 00:15:31.586
  • WHERE IT CAN GO FROM ZEROTO A HUNDRED IN A
  • 00:15:31.586 --> 00:15:32.820
  • TO A HUNDRED IN ANANOSECOND AND THAT
  • 00:15:32.820 --> 00:15:35.523
  • NANOSECOND AND THATGENTLENESS CAN KICK IN AND
  • 00:15:35.523 --> 00:15:37.825
  • GENTLENESS CAN KICK IN ANDCALM THAT SITUATION.
  • 00:15:37.825 --> 00:15:39.794
  • CALM THAT SITUATION.JUST LIKE NOTHING ELSE
  • 00:15:39.794 --> 00:15:43.331
  • JUST LIKE NOTHING ELSECAN, I BELIEVE.
  • 00:15:43.331 --> 00:15:45.666
  • CAN, I BELIEVE.IN THE WORLD WE LIVE IN.
  • 00:15:45.666 --> 00:15:47.301
  • IN THE WORLD WE LIVE IN.IT SEEMS LIKE OUTRAGE.
  • 00:15:47.301 --> 00:15:48.803
  • IT SEEMS LIKE OUTRAGE.IF YOU'RE NOT OUTRAGED AT
  • 00:15:48.803 --> 00:15:49.370
  • IF YOU'RE NOT OUTRAGED ATSOMETHING THEN SOMETHING'S
  • 00:15:49.370 --> 00:15:51.005
  • SOMETHING THEN SOMETHING'SWRONG WITH YOU.
  • 00:15:51.005 --> 00:15:51.539
  • WRONG WITH YOU.IT SEEMS TO ALMOST TONE
  • 00:15:51.539 --> 00:15:53.975
  • IT SEEMS TO ALMOST TONEOUT ALL THE GOOD PEOPLE,
  • 00:15:53.975 --> 00:15:55.176
  • OUT ALL THE GOOD PEOPLE,ALL THE GOODNESS AND ALL
  • 00:15:55.176 --> 00:15:56.411
  • ALL THE GOODNESS AND ALLTHE KINDNESS AND ALL THE
  • 00:15:56.411 --> 00:15:57.812
  • THE KINDNESS AND ALL THEGENTLENESS BUT IT'S NOT.
  • 00:15:57.812 --> 00:15:59.947
  • GENTLENESS BUT IT'S NOT.I THINK THOSE VOICES
  • 00:15:59.947 --> 00:16:01.516
  • I THINK THOSE VOICESTOGETHER, THOSE PEOPLE
  • 00:16:01.516 --> 00:16:04.085
  • TOGETHER, THOSE PEOPLETHAT ARE JOINING IN TO THE
  • 00:16:04.085 --> 00:16:04.852
  • THAT ARE JOINING IN TO THELOVING AND THE KINDNESS
  • 00:16:04.852 --> 00:16:06.754
  • LOVING AND THE KINDNESSAND THE FRUIT OF THE
  • 00:16:06.754 --> 00:16:08.022
  • AND THE FRUIT OF THESPIRIT IS CAUSING
  • 00:16:08.022 --> 00:16:09.791
  • SPIRIT IS CAUSINGSOMETHING TO HAPPEN ON THE
  • 00:16:09.791 --> 00:16:10.558
  • SOMETHING TO HAPPEN ON THEEARTH RIGHT NOW.
  • 00:16:10.558 --> 00:16:11.793
  • EARTH RIGHT NOW.THAT IS A SEED SOWN INTO
  • 00:16:11.793 --> 00:16:13.428
  • THAT IS A SEED SOWN INTOTHIS GENERATION THAT IS
  • 00:16:13.428 --> 00:16:14.729
  • THIS GENERATION THAT ISGOING TO SPRING FORTH,
  • 00:16:14.729 --> 00:16:15.797
  • GOING TO SPRING FORTH,I BELIEVE, CHRIS, HERE IN
  • 00:16:15.797 --> 00:16:18.499
  • I BELIEVE, CHRIS, HERE INTHE NEXT 2021 IS GOING TO
  • 00:16:18.499 --> 00:16:20.068
  • THE NEXT 2021 IS GOING TOBE A HARVEST OF WHAT IS
  • 00:16:20.068 --> 00:16:23.004
  • BE A HARVEST OF WHAT ISCOMING OUT OF PEOPLE THAT
  • 00:16:23.004 --> 00:16:24.205
  • COMING OUT OF PEOPLE THATARE BEING CONCERNED ABOUT
  • 00:16:24.205 --> 00:16:25.606
  • ARE BEING CONCERNED ABOUTWHAT'S GROWING ON IN THE
  • 00:16:25.606 --> 00:16:26.574
  • WHAT'S GROWING ON IN THEINSIDE OF THEM, WHAT'S
  • 00:16:26.574 --> 00:16:28.876
  • INSIDE OF THEM, WHAT'SGROWING ON.
  • 00:16:28.876 --> 00:16:29.410
  • GROWING ON.- CHRIS: 100%.
  • 00:16:29.410 --> 00:16:30.445
  • - CHRIS: 100%.BECAUSE THE FACT IS, THIS
  • 00:16:30.445 --> 00:16:32.046
  • BECAUSE THE FACT IS, THISWORLD IS SO HARSH.
  • 00:16:32.046 --> 00:16:33.748
  • WORLD IS SO HARSH.PEOPLE ARE NOT ABLE TO
  • 00:16:33.748 --> 00:16:35.416
  • PEOPLE ARE NOT ABLE TOBEAR IT ANYMORE.
  • 00:16:35.416 --> 00:16:36.818
  • BEAR IT ANYMORE.WHEN YOU LOOK AT IT EVEN
  • 00:16:36.818 --> 00:16:38.986
  • WHEN YOU LOOK AT IT EVENIN NATURAL STATISTICS, IN
  • 00:16:38.986 --> 00:16:39.921
  • IN NATURAL STATISTICS, INTERMS OF SUBSTANCE ABUSE
  • 00:16:39.921 --> 00:16:40.822
  • TERMS OF SUBSTANCE ABUSEOF BEING UP.
  • 00:16:40.822 --> 00:16:42.590
  • OF BEING UP.IN TERMS OF SUICIDE RATES.
  • 00:16:42.590 --> 00:16:44.559
  • IN TERMS OF SUICIDE RATES.IT IS SO HARSH.
  • 00:16:44.559 --> 00:16:46.027
  • IT IS SO HARSH.PEOPLE ARE NOT COPING.
  • 00:16:46.027 --> 00:16:48.429
  • PEOPLE ARE NOT COPING.GENTLENESS-- WE KEEP
  • 00:16:48.429 --> 00:16:49.697
  • GENTLENESS-- WE KEEPSAYING THE SAME THING
  • 00:16:49.697 --> 00:16:50.398
  • SAYING THE SAME THINGEVERY DAY.
  • 00:16:50.398 --> 00:16:51.732
  • EVERY DAY.BECAUSE IT NEEDS SOMEONE
  • 00:16:51.732 --> 00:16:52.433
  • BECAUSE IT NEEDS SOMEONEON THE OTHER SIDE OF THE
  • 00:16:52.433 --> 00:16:53.668
  • ON THE OTHER SIDE OF THESCREEN TO HEAR THIS.
  • 00:16:53.668 --> 00:16:55.336
  • SCREEN TO HEAR THIS.THE DAY OF THE BIG MEGA
  • 00:16:55.336 --> 00:16:57.472
  • THE DAY OF THE BIG MEGAPREACHER BEING THE ONE
  • 00:16:57.472 --> 00:16:58.039
  • PREACHER BEING THE ONETHAT WILL SAVE THE DAY FOR
  • 00:16:58.039 --> 00:16:59.207
  • THAT WILL SAVE THE DAY FORYOU, THAT'S GONE.
  • 00:16:59.207 --> 00:17:00.141
  • YOU, THAT'S GONE.ALL OF US BEING CHRISTIANS
  • 00:17:00.141 --> 00:17:02.410
  • ALL OF US BEING CHRISTIANSEXHIBITING THE FRUIT OF
  • 00:17:02.410 --> 00:17:04.178
  • EXHIBITING THE FRUIT OFTHE SPIRIT IN OUR SPHERE
  • 00:17:04.178 --> 00:17:05.880
  • THE SPIRIT IN OUR SPHEREOF INFLUENCE, WHICH IS HOW
  • 00:17:05.880 --> 00:17:07.048
  • OF INFLUENCE, WHICH IS HOWJESUS MEANT IT FROM THE
  • 00:17:07.048 --> 00:17:08.082
  • JESUS MEANT IT FROM THEBEGINNING, IS WHAT'S GONNA
  • 00:17:08.082 --> 00:17:10.118
  • BEGINNING, IS WHAT'S GONNAMAKE A DIFFERENCE IN OUR
  • 00:17:10.118 --> 00:17:11.853
  • MAKE A DIFFERENCE IN OURWORLD AND OUR WORLD--
  • 00:17:11.853 --> 00:17:13.287
  • WORLD AND OUR WORLD--PEOPLE ARE WEARY OF THE
  • 00:17:13.287 --> 00:17:14.355
  • PEOPLE ARE WEARY OF THEHARSHNESS.
  • 00:17:14.355 --> 00:17:15.056
  • HARSHNESS.PEOPLE'S SOULS ARE TIRED.
  • 00:17:15.056 --> 00:17:19.227
  • PEOPLE'S SOULS ARE TIRED.PEOPLE HAVE BEEN CANCELED.
  • 00:17:19.227 --> 00:17:21.062
  • PEOPLE HAVE BEEN CANCELED.IN 2020 IT WAS THE YEAR OF
  • 00:17:21.062 --> 00:17:22.230
  • IN 2020 IT WAS THE YEAR OFHOW TO CANCEL PEOPLE.
  • 00:17:22.230 --> 00:17:23.264
  • HOW TO CANCEL PEOPLE.HOW TO GHOST PEOPLE.
  • 00:17:23.264 --> 00:17:26.200
  • HOW TO GHOST PEOPLE.HOW TO ERASE PEOPLE.
  • 00:17:26.200 --> 00:17:27.401
  • HOW TO ERASE PEOPLE.PEOPLE, ALL THE THINGS
  • 00:17:27.401 --> 00:17:29.303
  • PEOPLE, ALL THE THINGSTHAT JESUS NEVER DOES.
  • 00:17:29.303 --> 00:17:30.605
  • THAT JESUS NEVER DOES.JESUS NEVER CANCELS.
  • 00:17:30.605 --> 00:17:31.839
  • JESUS NEVER CANCELS.HE CANCELED SIN.
  • 00:17:31.839 --> 00:17:33.007
  • HE CANCELED SIN.HE DOESN'T CANCEL PEOPLE.
  • 00:17:33.007 --> 00:17:34.041
  • HE DOESN'T CANCEL PEOPLE.JESUS NEVER CANCELED
  • 00:17:34.041 --> 00:17:35.343
  • JESUS NEVER CANCELEDANYONE.
  • 00:17:35.343 --> 00:17:37.311
  • ANYONE.JESUS NEVER ERASED ANYONE.
  • 00:17:37.311 --> 00:17:38.112
  • JESUS NEVER ERASED ANYONE.I MEAN THE WHOLE SCRIPTURE
  • 00:17:38.112 --> 00:17:39.380
  • I MEAN THE WHOLE SCRIPTUREIS THE FACT THAT JESUS SAW
  • 00:17:39.380 --> 00:17:40.414
  • IS THE FACT THAT JESUS SAWEVERYBODY AND LOVED
  • 00:17:40.414 --> 00:17:41.983
  • EVERYBODY AND LOVEDEVERYBODY AND WHOSOEVER
  • 00:17:41.983 --> 00:17:42.884
  • EVERYBODY AND WHOSOEVERWILL COULD COME.
  • 00:17:42.884 --> 00:17:45.386
  • WILL COULD COME.SO IF WE JUST BUY INTO THE
  • 00:17:45.386 --> 00:17:46.554
  • SO IF WE JUST BUY INTO THENARRATIVE OF THIS WORLD OF
  • 00:17:46.554 --> 00:17:48.623
  • NARRATIVE OF THIS WORLD OFJUST BEING FULL OF GREED
  • 00:17:48.623 --> 00:17:49.557
  • JUST BEING FULL OF GREEDAND SELFISHNESS AND
  • 00:17:49.557 --> 00:17:51.859
  • AND SELFISHNESS ANDHARSHNESS, ARE WE READING
  • 00:17:51.859 --> 00:17:52.493
  • HARSHNESS, ARE WE READINGTHE SAME BIBLE?
  • 00:17:52.493 --> 00:17:54.095
  • THE SAME BIBLE?THE BIBLE SAYS THIS IS
  • 00:17:54.095 --> 00:17:55.496
  • THE BIBLE SAYS THIS ISWHAT A SOFT ANSWER DOES.
  • 00:17:55.496 --> 00:17:56.297
  • WHAT A SOFT ANSWER DOES.THIS IS WHAT I GENTLE
  • 00:17:56.297 --> 00:17:57.632
  • THIS IS WHAT I GENTLERESPONSE DOES.
  • 00:17:57.632 --> 00:17:59.634
  • RESPONSE DOES.AND I THINK WE HAVE
  • 00:17:59.634 --> 00:18:00.301
  • AND I THINK WE HAVECONFUSED CERTAIN TYPES OF
  • 00:18:00.301 --> 00:18:05.173
  • CONFUSED CERTAIN TYPES OFALPHA MALE ARROGANT, MAN,
  • 00:18:05.173 --> 00:18:06.340
  • ALPHA MALE ARROGANT, MAN,THEY ARE JUST STRONG.
  • 00:18:06.340 --> 00:18:06.974
  • THEY ARE JUST STRONG.THEY ARE JUST ROUGH AROUND
  • 00:18:06.974 --> 00:18:07.808
  • THEY ARE JUST ROUGH AROUNDTHE EDGES.
  • 00:18:07.808 --> 00:18:09.310
  • THE EDGES.YOU KNOW, YOU MAY BE ROUGH
  • 00:18:09.310 --> 00:18:09.877
  • YOU KNOW, YOU MAY BE ROUGHAROUND THE EDGES BUT OUR
  • 00:18:09.877 --> 00:18:12.480
  • AROUND THE EDGES BUT OURJOB IS TO BE BEING
  • 00:18:12.480 --> 00:18:13.714
  • JOB IS TO BE BEINGCONFORMED AND TRANSFORMED
  • 00:18:13.714 --> 00:18:14.415
  • CONFORMED AND TRANSFORMEDTO THE IMAGE OF CHRIST.
  • 00:18:14.415 --> 00:18:15.550
  • TO THE IMAGE OF CHRIST.AND GIRLS ON THE OTHER
  • 00:18:15.550 --> 00:18:16.083
  • AND GIRLS ON THE OTHERSIDE OF THE SCREEN, I'M
  • 00:18:16.083 --> 00:18:17.185
  • SIDE OF THE SCREEN, I'MSPEAKING TO EXHIBIT A.,
  • 00:18:17.185 --> 00:18:18.386
  • SPEAKING TO EXHIBIT A.,MYSELF, MORE THAN ANYBODY
  • 00:18:18.386 --> 00:18:19.220
  • MYSELF, MORE THAN ANYBODYELSE HERE.
  • 00:18:19.220 --> 00:18:19.687
  • ELSE HERE.BECAUSE YOU HAVE TO
  • 00:18:19.687 --> 00:18:20.688
  • BECAUSE YOU HAVE TOCRUCIFY YOUR FLESH TO PUT
  • 00:18:20.688 --> 00:18:22.290
  • CRUCIFY YOUR FLESH TO PUTON THE FRUIT OF THE SPIRIT
  • 00:18:22.290 --> 00:18:23.391
  • ON THE FRUIT OF THE SPIRITAND TO EXHIBIT IT.
  • 00:18:23.391 --> 00:18:24.825
  • AND TO EXHIBIT IT.SO MY FLESH, MY GREEK
  • 00:18:24.825 --> 00:18:26.060
  • SO MY FLESH, MY GREEKFLESH, MY AUSTRALIAN
  • 00:18:26.060 --> 00:18:29.997
  • FLESH, MY AUSTRALIANFLESH, JUST MY ENNEAGRAM
  • 00:18:29.997 --> 00:18:30.631
  • FLESH, JUST MY ENNEAGRAMPERSONALITY, IT CAN BE AN
  • 00:18:30.631 --> 00:18:33.267
  • PERSONALITY, IT CAN BE ANEXCUSE.
  • 00:18:33.267 --> 00:18:34.869
  • EXCUSE.WE HAVE TO BE CAREFUL WE
  • 00:18:34.869 --> 00:18:36.237
  • WE HAVE TO BE CAREFUL WEDON'T PUT LABELS, THIS IS
  • 00:18:36.237 --> 00:18:37.171
  • DON'T PUT LABELS, THIS ISYOUR PERSONALITY TYPE.
  • 00:18:37.171 --> 00:18:38.839
  • YOUR PERSONALITY TYPE.THIS IS YOUR ENNEAGRAM TYPE.
  • 00:18:38.839 --> 00:18:40.441
  • THIS IS YOUR ENNEAGRAM TYPE.THIS IS YOUR STRENGTH
  • 00:18:40.441 --> 00:18:41.776
  • THIS IS YOUR STRENGTHFINDER.
  • 00:18:41.776 --> 00:18:42.310
  • FINDER.THEREFORE, YOU CAN JUST BE
  • 00:18:42.310 --> 00:18:43.211
  • THEREFORE, YOU CAN JUST BEEXCUSED TO OPERATE IN YOUR
  • 00:18:43.211 --> 00:18:43.945
  • EXCUSED TO OPERATE IN YOURFLESH.
  • 00:18:43.945 --> 00:18:45.379
  • FLESH.IT'S LIKE, NO, NO, NO, I'M
  • 00:18:45.379 --> 00:18:46.180
  • IT'S LIKE, NO, NO, NO, I'MACTUALLY SUPPOSED TO DIE
  • 00:18:46.180 --> 00:18:47.081
  • ACTUALLY SUPPOSED TO DIEDAILY.
  • 00:18:47.081 --> 00:18:47.982
  • DAILY.I'M SUPPOSED TO CRUCIFY MY
  • 00:18:47.982 --> 00:18:48.849
  • I'M SUPPOSED TO CRUCIFY MYFLESH.
  • 00:18:48.849 --> 00:18:49.784
  • FLESH.I'M SUPPOSED TO TAKE UP MY
  • 00:18:49.784 --> 00:18:51.152
  • I'M SUPPOSED TO TAKE UP MYCROSS AND FOLLOW HIM.
  • 00:18:51.152 --> 00:18:52.653
  • CROSS AND FOLLOW HIM.AND I'M SUPPOSED TO BE
  • 00:18:52.653 --> 00:18:53.487
  • AND I'M SUPPOSED TO BEPRODUCING THE FRUIT OF THE
  • 00:18:53.487 --> 00:18:54.055
  • PRODUCING THE FRUIT OF THESPIRIT.
  • 00:18:54.055 --> 00:18:55.623
  • SPIRIT.THAT MEANS I'M GOING TO
  • 00:18:55.623 --> 00:18:57.458
  • THAT MEANS I'M GOING TORUB UP AGAINST THINGS
  • 00:18:57.458 --> 00:18:58.659
  • RUB UP AGAINST THINGSWHERE PEOPLE ARE GONNA GO,
  • 00:18:58.659 --> 00:19:00.194
  • WHERE PEOPLE ARE GONNA GO,MAN, YOU ARE AWESOME FOR
  • 00:19:00.194 --> 00:19:02.930
  • MAN, YOU ARE AWESOME FORSAYING THAT AND YET THE
  • 00:19:02.930 --> 00:19:04.131
  • SAYING THAT AND YET THEHOLY SPIRIT IS SAYING, YOU
  • 00:19:04.131 --> 00:19:04.699
  • HOLY SPIRIT IS SAYING, YOUKNOW WHAT, CHRISTINE,
  • 00:19:04.699 --> 00:19:06.100
  • KNOW WHAT, CHRISTINE,YOU'RE NOT AWESOME FOR
  • 00:19:06.100 --> 00:19:06.601
  • YOU'RE NOT AWESOME FORSAYING THAT.
  • 00:19:06.601 --> 00:19:07.501
  • SAYING THAT.JUST BECAUSE TEN THOUSAND
  • 00:19:07.501 --> 00:19:08.269
  • JUST BECAUSE TEN THOUSANDOF YOUR FOLLOWERS THOUGHTS
  • 00:19:08.269 --> 00:19:10.037
  • OF YOUR FOLLOWERS THOUGHTSYOU WERE AWESOME, I'M NOT
  • 00:19:10.037 --> 00:19:11.038
  • YOU WERE AWESOME, I'M NOTHAPPY WITH YOU, CHRISTINE.
  • 00:19:11.038 --> 00:19:11.939
  • HAPPY WITH YOU, CHRISTINE.BECAUSE THAT WASN'T A
  • 00:19:11.939 --> 00:19:12.607
  • BECAUSE THAT WASN'T AGENTLE ANSWER.
  • 00:19:12.607 --> 00:19:14.108
  • GENTLE ANSWER.THAT WASN'T A KIND ANSWER.
  • 00:19:14.108 --> 00:19:15.676
  • THAT WASN'T A KIND ANSWER.AND YOU'RE GONNA HAVE TO--
  • 00:19:15.676 --> 00:19:18.246
  • AND YOU'RE GONNA HAVE TO--BECAUSE THE MOB ON SOCIAL
  • 00:19:18.246 --> 00:19:19.113
  • BECAUSE THE MOB ON SOCIALMEDIA IS GOING TO AFFIRM
  • 00:19:19.113 --> 00:19:22.216
  • MEDIA IS GOING TO AFFIRMYOUR FLESH.
  • 00:19:22.216 --> 00:19:22.683
  • YOUR FLESH.YOU'RE AWESOME, MAN,
  • 00:19:22.683 --> 00:19:23.651
  • YOU'RE AWESOME, MAN,YOU JUST SHOULD HAVE
  • 00:19:23.651 --> 00:19:24.885
  • YOU JUST SHOULD HAVESAID IT, YOU'RE FANTASTIC.
  • 00:19:24.885 --> 00:19:25.953
  • SAID IT, YOU'RE FANTASTIC.BUT THE HOLY SPIRIT IS NOT
  • 00:19:25.953 --> 00:19:27.855
  • BUT THE HOLY SPIRIT IS NOTGONNA AFFIRM YOUR FLESH.
  • 00:19:27.855 --> 00:19:28.556
  • GONNA AFFIRM YOUR FLESH.THE HOLY SPIRIT IS GONNA
  • 00:19:28.556 --> 00:19:30.224
  • THE HOLY SPIRIT IS GONNACONVICT YOU FROM THE
  • 00:19:30.224 --> 00:19:31.058
  • CONVICT YOU FROM THEINSIDE OUT AND SAY, WELL,
  • 00:19:31.058 --> 00:19:31.892
  • INSIDE OUT AND SAY, WELL,CHRIS, DO YOU WANT TO BE
  • 00:19:31.892 --> 00:19:32.526
  • CHRIS, DO YOU WANT TO BEMORE LIKE ME?
  • 00:19:32.526 --> 00:19:33.728
  • MORE LIKE ME?THIS DOES NOT COME
  • 00:19:33.728 --> 00:19:35.196
  • THIS DOES NOT COMENATURALLY TO ME.
  • 00:19:35.196 --> 00:19:35.896
  • NATURALLY TO ME.NOT AT ALL.
  • 00:19:35.896 --> 00:19:36.397
  • NOT AT ALL.NOT CULTURALLY OR
  • 00:19:36.397 --> 00:19:37.665
  • NOT CULTURALLY ORPERSONALITY WISE.
  • 00:19:37.665 --> 00:19:41.168
  • PERSONALITY WISE.I'M NOT HERE TO LIVE MY
  • 00:19:41.168 --> 00:19:42.436
  • I'M NOT HERE TO LIVE MYBEST LIFE AND MAXIMIZE MY
  • 00:19:42.436 --> 00:19:44.038
  • BEST LIFE AND MAXIMIZE MYPERSONALITY POTENTIAL.
  • 00:19:44.038 --> 00:19:45.072
  • PERSONALITY POTENTIAL.I'M HERE TO CRUCIFY MY
  • 00:19:45.072 --> 00:19:46.440
  • I'M HERE TO CRUCIFY MYFLESH, TAKE UP MY CROSS
  • 00:19:46.440 --> 00:19:48.676
  • FLESH, TAKE UP MY CROSSAND FOLLOW JESUS.
  • 00:19:48.676 --> 00:19:49.277
  • AND FOLLOW JESUS.I THINK THAT'S WHAT THE
  • 00:19:49.277 --> 00:19:50.544
  • I THINK THAT'S WHAT THEFRUIT OF THE SPIRIT DOES
  • 00:19:50.544 --> 00:19:51.412
  • FRUIT OF THE SPIRIT DOESFOR ALL OF US.
  • 00:19:51.412 --> 00:19:52.947
  • FOR ALL OF US.I DON'T KNOW, B, WHAT ARE
  • 00:19:52.947 --> 00:19:54.081
  • I DON'T KNOW, B, WHAT AREYOU THINKING?
  • 00:19:54.081 --> 00:19:54.949
  • YOU THINKING?- BIANCA: I'M A SYNTHESIZER
  • 00:19:54.949 --> 00:19:56.117
  • - BIANCA: I'M A SYNTHESIZERBY NATURE.
  • 00:19:56.117 --> 00:19:58.085
  • BY NATURE.I JUST TAKE PIECES AND PUT
  • 00:19:58.085 --> 00:19:59.153
  • I JUST TAKE PIECES AND PUTIT TOGETHER TO MAKE SENSE.
  • 00:19:59.153 --> 00:20:00.454
  • IT TOGETHER TO MAKE SENSE.LISTENING TO YOU, EVERYONE
  • 00:20:00.454 --> 00:20:01.989
  • LISTENING TO YOU, EVERYONEFROM STEPHANIE TO ONEKA TO
  • 00:20:01.989 --> 00:20:03.224
  • FROM STEPHANIE TO ONEKA TOMISS LAURIE TO YOU,
  • 00:20:03.224 --> 00:20:04.425
  • MISS LAURIE TO YOU,I'M HEARING THIS
  • 00:20:04.425 --> 00:20:06.227
  • I'M HEARING THISUNDERCURRENT OF OUR
  • 00:20:06.227 --> 00:20:08.496
  • UNDERCURRENT OF OURLANGUAGE AND OUR WORDS.
  • 00:20:08.496 --> 00:20:09.030
  • LANGUAGE AND OUR WORDS.SO FOR THOSE, I WANT TO
  • 00:20:09.030 --> 00:20:09.463
  • SO FOR THOSE, I WANT TODRILL THOSE DOWN.
  • 00:20:09.463 --> 00:20:10.965
  • DRILL THOSE DOWN.THIS TERM GENTLENESS OR
  • 00:20:10.965 --> 00:20:12.366
  • THIS TERM GENTLENESS ORMEEKNESS IS NOT REALLY
  • 00:20:12.366 --> 00:20:13.934
  • MEEKNESS IS NOT REALLYUSED A WHOLE LOT IN OUR
  • 00:20:13.934 --> 00:20:15.069
  • USED A WHOLE LOT IN OURENGLISH VOCABULARY ON THE
  • 00:20:15.069 --> 00:20:16.470
  • ENGLISH VOCABULARY ON THEREGULAR.
  • 00:20:16.470 --> 00:20:18.239
  • REGULAR.I WANT US TO HAVE A DEEP
  • 00:20:18.239 --> 00:20:19.674
  • I WANT US TO HAVE A DEEPUNDERSTANDING ROOTED IN
  • 00:20:19.674 --> 00:20:22.877
  • UNDERSTANDING ROOTED INTHE LIFE AND TIMES OF JESUS.
  • 00:20:22.877 --> 00:20:23.477
  • THE LIFE AND TIMES OF JESUS.I THINK ONE OF THE MOST
  • 00:20:23.477 --> 00:20:25.346
  • I THINK ONE OF THE MOSTGENTLE MOMENTS HE HAS IN
  • 00:20:25.346 --> 00:20:26.380
  • GENTLE MOMENTS HE HAS INSCRIPTURE IS WHEN THE
  • 00:20:26.380 --> 00:20:29.183
  • SCRIPTURE IS WHEN THEIMMORAL WOMAN WAS PULLED
  • 00:20:29.183 --> 00:20:31.686
  • IMMORAL WOMAN WAS PULLEDFROM THE ACT OF ADULTERY
  • 00:20:31.686 --> 00:20:32.887
  • FROM THE ACT OF ADULTERYAND THROWN AT THE FEET OF
  • 00:20:32.887 --> 00:20:33.387
  • AND THROWN AT THE FEET OFJESUS.
  • 00:20:33.387 --> 00:20:35.523
  • JESUS.AND JESUS DOESN'T LAMBASTE
  • 00:20:35.523 --> 00:20:36.324
  • AND JESUS DOESN'T LAMBASTEHER.
  • 00:20:36.324 --> 00:20:37.725
  • HER.HE DOESN'T CASTIGATE HER.
  • 00:20:37.725 --> 00:20:38.826
  • HE DOESN'T CASTIGATE HER.HE DOESN'T PUT HER ON
  • 00:20:38.826 --> 00:20:40.294
  • HE DOESN'T PUT HER ONDISPLAY IN FRONT OF
  • 00:20:40.294 --> 00:20:41.829
  • DISPLAY IN FRONT OFPEOPLE.
  • 00:20:41.829 --> 00:20:43.831
  • PEOPLE.PEOPLE WERE READY TO PICK
  • 00:20:43.831 --> 00:20:46.367
  • PEOPLE WERE READY TO PICKUP STONES AND THROW AT HER.
  • 00:20:46.367 --> 00:20:46.934
  • UP STONES AND THROW AT HER.AND I THINK IN OUR CULTURE
  • 00:20:46.934 --> 00:20:47.201
  • AND I THINK IN OUR CULTURERIGHT NOW.
  • 00:20:47.201 --> 00:20:48.336
  • RIGHT NOW.THAT IS WHAT YOU WERE
  • 00:20:48.336 --> 00:20:49.203
  • THAT IS WHAT YOU WERETALKING ABOUT, CHRIS, THAT
  • 00:20:49.203 --> 00:20:49.737
  • TALKING ABOUT, CHRIS, THATCANCEL CULTURE.
  • 00:20:49.737 --> 00:20:50.237
  • CANCEL CULTURE.LET'S JUST BE DONE WITH
  • 00:20:50.237 --> 00:20:50.738
  • LET'S JUST BE DONE WITHPEOPLE.
  • 00:20:50.738 --> 00:20:51.172
  • PEOPLE.WRITE THEM OFF.
  • 00:20:51.172 --> 00:20:51.906
  • WRITE THEM OFF.ERASE THEIR NAME AND BLOCK
  • 00:20:51.906 --> 00:20:52.406
  • ERASE THEIR NAME AND BLOCKTHEM.
  • 00:20:52.406 --> 00:20:54.308
  • THEM.JESUS GENTLY STOOPS DOWN
  • 00:20:54.308 --> 00:20:55.309
  • JESUS GENTLY STOOPS DOWNAND BEGINS WRITING
  • 00:20:55.309 --> 00:20:56.210
  • AND BEGINS WRITINGSOMETHING ON THE GROUND
  • 00:20:56.210 --> 00:20:57.244
  • SOMETHING ON THE GROUNDWITH HIS FINGER.
  • 00:20:57.244 --> 00:20:58.312
  • WITH HIS FINGER.WE DON'T KNOW WHAT IT IS.
  • 00:20:58.312 --> 00:20:59.280
  • WE DON'T KNOW WHAT IT IS.THEOLOGIANS SUGGESTED IT
  • 00:20:59.280 --> 00:21:01.482
  • THEOLOGIANS SUGGESTED ITWAS TEN COMMANDMENTS MAYBE
  • 00:21:01.482 --> 00:21:02.850
  • WAS TEN COMMANDMENTS MAYBEIT IS OTHER PEOPLE'S SINS.
  • 00:21:02.850 --> 00:21:04.852
  • IT IS OTHER PEOPLE'S SINS.BUT AFTER EVERYONE THAT
  • 00:21:04.852 --> 00:21:06.020
  • BUT AFTER EVERYONE THATWAS READY TO STONE THIS
  • 00:21:06.020 --> 00:21:07.521
  • WAS READY TO STONE THISWOMAN WALKS AWAY, HE TURNS
  • 00:21:07.521 --> 00:21:08.589
  • WOMAN WALKS AWAY, HE TURNSTO HER GENTLY AND SAYS,
  • 00:21:08.589 --> 00:21:09.390
  • TO HER GENTLY AND SAYS,WOMAN, WHERE ARE YOUR
  • 00:21:09.390 --> 00:21:10.958
  • WOMAN, WHERE ARE YOURACCUSERS?
  • 00:21:10.958 --> 00:21:13.194
  • ACCUSERS?I FEEL LIKE IF JESUS HAD
  • 00:21:13.194 --> 00:21:15.062
  • I FEEL LIKE IF JESUS HADTHE INNATE ABILITY TO
  • 00:21:15.062 --> 00:21:16.831
  • THE INNATE ABILITY TOCONVICT PEOPLE, I DON'T
  • 00:21:16.831 --> 00:21:18.232
  • CONVICT PEOPLE, I DON'TKNOW WHAT HE WROTE IN THE
  • 00:21:18.232 --> 00:21:19.734
  • KNOW WHAT HE WROTE IN THEGROUND, IT WAS SO
  • 00:21:19.734 --> 00:21:20.768
  • GROUND, IT WAS SOCONVICTING THAT EVERYBODY
  • 00:21:20.768 --> 00:21:21.469
  • CONVICTING THAT EVERYBODYTHAT WAS READY TO STONE
  • 00:21:21.469 --> 00:21:22.570
  • THAT WAS READY TO STONETHIS WOMAN WALKED AWAY.
  • 00:21:22.570 --> 00:21:24.372
  • THIS WOMAN WALKED AWAY.AND THEN, HE TURNS TO HER
  • 00:21:24.372 --> 00:21:25.339
  • AND THEN, HE TURNS TO HERAND SAYS, NEITHER DO I
  • 00:21:25.339 --> 00:21:27.074
  • AND SAYS, NEITHER DO IACCUSE YOU.
  • 00:21:27.074 --> 00:21:29.243
  • ACCUSE YOU.I WONDER IF WE CAN GET AN
  • 00:21:29.243 --> 00:21:29.810
  • I WONDER IF WE CAN GET ANUNDERSTANDING OF WHAT
  • 00:21:29.810 --> 00:21:31.078
  • UNDERSTANDING OF WHATGENTLENESS LOOKS LIKE.
  • 00:21:31.078 --> 00:21:32.713
  • GENTLENESS LOOKS LIKE.IT IS TO TURN TO THOSE WE
  • 00:21:32.713 --> 00:21:33.781
  • IT IS TO TURN TO THOSE WEARE HAVING CONVERSATIONS
  • 00:21:33.781 --> 00:21:35.950
  • ARE HAVING CONVERSATIONSWITH, WHETHER OUR CULTURAL
  • 00:21:35.950 --> 00:21:37.218
  • WITH, WHETHER OUR CULTURALBACKGROUND, OUR ETHNIC
  • 00:21:37.218 --> 00:21:38.586
  • BACKGROUND, OUR ETHNICBACKGROUND, GEO LOCATION,
  • 00:21:38.586 --> 00:21:39.754
  • BACKGROUND, GEO LOCATION,EAST COAST, HOOD, WHATEVER
  • 00:21:39.754 --> 00:21:40.988
  • EAST COAST, HOOD, WHATEVERIT IS, IF WE JUST PAUSE
  • 00:21:40.988 --> 00:21:41.989
  • IT IS, IF WE JUST PAUSEAND SAY, HOW IS MY
  • 00:21:41.989 --> 00:21:44.358
  • AND SAY, HOW IS MYLANGUAGE TOWARDS YOU?
  • 00:21:44.358 --> 00:21:45.326
  • LANGUAGE TOWARDS YOU?WHAT DO YOU NEED FROM ME?
  • 00:21:45.326 --> 00:21:47.061
  • WHAT DO YOU NEED FROM ME?DO YOU FEEL LOVE WHEN I
  • 00:21:47.061 --> 00:21:47.795
  • DO YOU FEEL LOVE WHEN ISPEAK TO YOU?
  • 00:21:47.795 --> 00:21:49.029
  • SPEAK TO YOU?WE MAY NOT UNDERSTAND
  • 00:21:49.029 --> 00:21:49.697
  • WE MAY NOT UNDERSTANDGENTILITY.
  • 00:21:49.697 --> 00:21:50.664
  • GENTILITY.ME WAY NOT UNDERSTAND
  • 00:21:50.664 --> 00:21:52.099
  • ME WAY NOT UNDERSTANDMEEKNESS, BUT WHAT IF WE
  • 00:21:52.099 --> 00:21:53.000
  • MEEKNESS, BUT WHAT IF WEWERE TO ASK CLARIFYING
  • 00:21:53.000 --> 00:21:53.601
  • WERE TO ASK CLARIFYINGQUESTIONS?
  • 00:21:53.601 --> 00:21:55.302
  • QUESTIONS?DO YOU FEEL HEARD BY ME?
  • 00:21:55.302 --> 00:21:56.404
  • DO YOU FEEL HEARD BY ME?DO YOU KNOW THAT I LOVE
  • 00:21:56.404 --> 00:21:57.605
  • DO YOU KNOW THAT I LOVEYOU IN MY WORDS?
  • 00:21:57.605 --> 00:21:59.440
  • YOU IN MY WORDS?IF WE WERE TO HAVE THOSE
  • 00:21:59.440 --> 00:22:00.074
  • IF WE WERE TO HAVE THOSECONVERSATIONS, I THINK
  • 00:22:00.074 --> 00:22:01.409
  • CONVERSATIONS, I THINKTHIS MIGHT BE THE KEY TO
  • 00:22:01.409 --> 00:22:02.676
  • THIS MIGHT BE THE KEY TOHELP US UNDERSTAND THIS
  • 00:22:02.676 --> 00:22:03.978
  • HELP US UNDERSTAND THISFRUIT OF THE SPIRIT IN
  • 00:22:03.978 --> 00:22:04.945
  • FRUIT OF THE SPIRIT INUNDERSTANDING WHO WE ARE
  • 00:22:04.945 --> 00:22:05.713
  • UNDERSTANDING WHO WE ARETALKING TO AND HOW THEY
  • 00:22:05.713 --> 00:22:06.881
  • TALKING TO AND HOW THEYARE RECEIVING IT.
  • 00:22:06.881 --> 00:22:08.082
  • ARE RECEIVING IT.ONEKA, IN ALL MY
  • 00:22:08.082 --> 00:22:09.483
  • ONEKA, IN ALL MYCONVERSATIONS WITH YOU, I
  • 00:22:09.483 --> 00:22:11.051
  • CONVERSATIONS WITH YOU, IFEEL LIKE, NOT EVEN YOUR
  • 00:22:11.051 --> 00:22:13.020
  • FEEL LIKE, NOT EVEN YOURTONALITY, NOT EVEN YOUR
  • 00:22:13.020 --> 00:22:14.021
  • TONALITY, NOT EVEN YOURCADENCE, BUT HOW YOU LIVE
  • 00:22:14.021 --> 00:22:14.955
  • CADENCE, BUT HOW YOU LIVEYOUR LIFE.
  • 00:22:14.955 --> 00:22:15.890
  • YOUR LIFE.YOU ARE A WOMAN OF GREAT
  • 00:22:15.890 --> 00:22:17.458
  • YOU ARE A WOMAN OF GREATSTRENGTH.
  • 00:22:17.458 --> 00:22:19.527
  • STRENGTH.AND IT IS THIS RESTRAINED
  • 00:22:19.527 --> 00:22:20.661
  • AND IT IS THIS RESTRAINEDSTRENGTH MUCH LIKE THIS WORD.
  • 00:22:20.661 --> 00:22:21.996
  • STRENGTH MUCH LIKE THIS WORD.CAN YOU SPEAK A WORD OF
  • 00:22:21.996 --> 00:22:23.731
  • CAN YOU SPEAK A WORD OFENCOURAGEMENT IN THIS
  • 00:22:23.731 --> 00:22:24.298
  • ENCOURAGEMENT IN THISCONCEPT OF GENTLENESS AND
  • 00:22:24.298 --> 00:22:25.232
  • CONCEPT OF GENTLENESS ANDGENTILITY OVER THOSE MEN,
  • 00:22:25.232 --> 00:22:27.368
  • GENTILITY OVER THOSE MEN,WOMEN, YOUNG AND OLD WHO
  • 00:22:27.368 --> 00:22:29.737
  • WOMEN, YOUNG AND OLD WHOARE WATCHING RIGHT NOW?
  • 00:22:29.737 --> 00:22:31.238
  • ARE WATCHING RIGHT NOW?- ONEKA: YES, BEAUTIFUL.
  • 00:22:31.238 --> 00:22:32.473
  • - ONEKA: YES, BEAUTIFUL.AND AS WE PREPARE TO CLOSE
  • 00:22:32.473 --> 00:22:33.474
  • AND AS WE PREPARE TO CLOSEAND CHRIS GETS READY TO
  • 00:22:33.474 --> 00:22:34.475
  • AND CHRIS GETS READY TOPRAY FOR US, SOMETHING I
  • 00:22:34.475 --> 00:22:36.644
  • PRAY FOR US, SOMETHING IWANT TO WRAP AROUND THIS
  • 00:22:36.644 --> 00:22:38.679
  • WANT TO WRAP AROUND THISCONVERSATION IS TO REMIND
  • 00:22:38.679 --> 00:22:39.180
  • CONVERSATION IS TO REMINDUS THAT JUST BECAUSE
  • 00:22:39.180 --> 00:22:40.748
  • US THAT JUST BECAUSEYOU'RE GENTLE DOES NOT
  • 00:22:40.748 --> 00:22:42.583
  • YOU'RE GENTLE DOES NOTMEAN YOU ARE NOT PASSIONATE.
  • 00:22:42.583 --> 00:22:43.651
  • MEAN YOU ARE NOT PASSIONATE.DOESN'T MEAN YOU ARE NOT
  • 00:22:43.651 --> 00:22:44.819
  • DOESN'T MEAN YOU ARE NOTGONNA SPEAK UP.
  • 00:22:44.819 --> 00:22:45.653
  • GONNA SPEAK UP.DOESN'T MEAN YOU ARE NOT
  • 00:22:45.653 --> 00:22:46.487
  • DOESN'T MEAN YOU ARE NOTGONNA MAKE THE WORLD A
  • 00:22:46.487 --> 00:22:46.954
  • GONNA MAKE THE WORLD ABETTER PLACE.
  • 00:22:46.954 --> 00:22:48.155
  • BETTER PLACE.DOESN'T MEAN YOU'RE GONNA
  • 00:22:48.155 --> 00:22:49.623
  • DOESN'T MEAN YOU'RE GONNASIT DOWN AND WATCH THINGS
  • 00:22:49.623 --> 00:22:51.325
  • SIT DOWN AND WATCH THINGSTHAT ARE WRONG STAY WRONG.
  • 00:22:51.325 --> 00:22:52.426
  • THAT ARE WRONG STAY WRONG.YOU CAN STILL BE GENTLE
  • 00:22:52.426 --> 00:22:54.562
  • YOU CAN STILL BE GENTLEAND BE PASSIONATE ABOUT
  • 00:22:54.562 --> 00:22:55.796
  • AND BE PASSIONATE ABOUTMOVING THINGS FORWARD.
  • 00:22:55.796 --> 00:22:56.864
  • MOVING THINGS FORWARD.YOU CAN STILL BE GENTLE
  • 00:22:56.864 --> 00:22:58.265
  • YOU CAN STILL BE GENTLEAND MAKE YOUR VOICE HEARD.
  • 00:22:58.265 --> 00:22:59.567
  • AND MAKE YOUR VOICE HEARD.YOU CAN STILL BE GENTLE
  • 00:22:59.567 --> 00:23:01.268
  • YOU CAN STILL BE GENTLEAND MAKE THIS WORLD A
  • 00:23:01.268 --> 00:23:01.769
  • AND MAKE THIS WORLD ABETTER, STRONGER, MORE
  • 00:23:01.769 --> 00:23:04.271
  • BETTER, STRONGER, MORESECURE PLACE.
  • 00:23:04.271 --> 00:23:04.772
  • SECURE PLACE.I JUST WANNA MAKE SURE
  • 00:23:04.772 --> 00:23:05.606
  • I JUST WANNA MAKE SURETHAT THE GIRLS THAT ARE
  • 00:23:05.606 --> 00:23:06.807
  • THAT THE GIRLS THAT AREWATCHING DON'T DISCOUNT
  • 00:23:06.807 --> 00:23:07.741
  • WATCHING DON'T DISCOUNTWHAT WE'RE SAYING TO
  • 00:23:07.741 --> 00:23:08.609
  • WHAT WE'RE SAYING TOTHINK, I WANT TO MAKE A
  • 00:23:08.609 --> 00:23:09.710
  • THINK, I WANT TO MAKE ADIFFERENCE IN THIS WORLD
  • 00:23:09.710 --> 00:23:10.744
  • DIFFERENCE IN THIS WORLDAND THERE ARE THINGS THAT
  • 00:23:10.744 --> 00:23:12.012
  • AND THERE ARE THINGS THATARE WRONG I WANT TO MAKE
  • 00:23:12.012 --> 00:23:12.446
  • ARE WRONG I WANT TO MAKERIGHT.
  • 00:23:12.446 --> 00:23:13.681
  • RIGHT.ARE YOU SAYING I HAVE TO
  • 00:23:13.681 --> 00:23:14.215
  • ARE YOU SAYING I HAVE TOBE GENTLE WITH THAT?
  • 00:23:14.215 --> 00:23:15.549
  • BE GENTLE WITH THAT?WE ARE NOT SAYING BEING
  • 00:23:15.549 --> 00:23:18.452
  • WE ARE NOT SAYING BEINGGENTLE MEANS TURN A BLIND EYE.
  • 00:23:18.452 --> 00:23:19.353
  • GENTLE MEANS TURN A BLIND EYE.WHAT WE ARE SAYING BEING
  • 00:23:19.353 --> 00:23:21.322
  • WHAT WE ARE SAYING BEINGGENTLE IS SETTING THINGS
  • 00:23:21.322 --> 00:23:22.590
  • GENTLE IS SETTING THINGSRIGHT-- HOW CHRIST WOULD
  • 00:23:22.590 --> 00:23:23.691
  • RIGHT-- HOW CHRIST WOULDDO IT AND CHRIST WOULD
  • 00:23:23.691 --> 00:23:24.992
  • DO IT AND CHRIST WOULDBRING IT FORTH WITH
  • 00:23:24.992 --> 00:23:25.759
  • BRING IT FORTH WITHSTRENGTH BUT HE ALSO WOULD
  • 00:23:25.759 --> 00:23:27.328
  • STRENGTH BUT HE ALSO WOULDBE GENTLE AND WITH LOVE.
  • 00:23:27.328 --> 00:23:28.295
  • BE GENTLE AND WITH LOVE.- LAURIE: AMEN.
  • 00:23:28.295 --> 00:23:28.796
  • - LAURIE: AMEN.- CHRIS: SO POWERFUL.
  • 00:23:28.796 --> 00:23:30.331
  • - CHRIS: SO POWERFUL.LET'S PRAY.
  • 00:23:30.331 --> 00:23:31.332
  • LET'S PRAY.BECAUSE YOU MIGHT BE LIKE
  • 00:23:31.332 --> 00:23:32.700
  • BECAUSE YOU MIGHT BE LIKEME ON THE OTHER SIDE OF
  • 00:23:32.700 --> 00:23:33.701
  • ME ON THE OTHER SIDE OFTHE SCREEN AND GENTLENESS
  • 00:23:33.701 --> 00:23:34.602
  • THE SCREEN AND GENTLENESSIS NOT YOUR NATURAL
  • 00:23:34.602 --> 00:23:36.604
  • IS NOT YOUR NATURALCHARACTER TRAIT.
  • 00:23:36.604 --> 00:23:37.805
  • CHARACTER TRAIT.BUT I'M GONNA BELIEVE GOD
  • 00:23:37.805 --> 00:23:38.839
  • BUT I'M GONNA BELIEVE GODTHAT IN YOUR HOME AND IN
  • 00:23:38.839 --> 00:23:40.074
  • THAT IN YOUR HOME AND INYOUR COMMUNITY, IN YOUR
  • 00:23:40.074 --> 00:23:41.775
  • YOUR COMMUNITY, IN YOURWORKPLACE, IT WILL BE WHAT
  • 00:23:41.775 --> 00:23:43.177
  • WORKPLACE, IT WILL BE WHATYOU'RE KNOWN FOR.
  • 00:23:43.177 --> 00:23:44.211
  • YOU'RE KNOWN FOR.SO FATHER, I THANK YOU.
  • 00:23:44.211 --> 00:23:45.246
  • SO FATHER, I THANK YOU.LORD, WE HAVE A WORLD THAT
  • 00:23:45.246 --> 00:23:46.514
  • LORD, WE HAVE A WORLD THATIS SO FULL OF HARSHNESS
  • 00:23:46.514 --> 00:23:48.349
  • IS SO FULL OF HARSHNESSAND ANGER AND DIVISION.
  • 00:23:48.349 --> 00:23:50.251
  • AND ANGER AND DIVISION.MY PRAYER, LORD, IS THAT
  • 00:23:50.251 --> 00:23:51.619
  • MY PRAYER, LORD, IS THATYOU WOULD CHANGE US.
  • 00:23:51.619 --> 00:23:52.786
  • YOU WOULD CHANGE US.THAT WE WOULD BE GENTLE.
  • 00:23:52.786 --> 00:23:54.021
  • THAT WE WOULD BE GENTLE.LIKE YOU ARE, JESUS, WE
  • 00:23:54.021 --> 00:23:55.122
  • LIKE YOU ARE, JESUS, WEWANT TO BE LIKE YOU.
  • 00:23:55.122 --> 00:23:56.490
  • WANT TO BE LIKE YOU.YOU SAY OF YOURSELF,
  • 00:23:56.490 --> 00:23:57.725
  • YOU SAY OF YOURSELF,THAT YOU ARE GENTLE AND LOWLY
  • 00:23:57.725 --> 00:23:59.126
  • THAT YOU ARE GENTLE AND LOWLYOF HEARTS.
  • 00:23:59.126 --> 00:23:59.793
  • OF HEARTS.FATHER, I PRAY THAT
  • 00:23:59.793 --> 00:24:01.595
  • FATHER, I PRAY THATMARRIAGES AND FAMILIES AND
  • 00:24:01.595 --> 00:24:03.364
  • MARRIAGES AND FAMILIES ANDWORKPLACES ARE TRANSFORMED
  • 00:24:03.364 --> 00:24:05.466
  • WORKPLACES ARE TRANSFORMEDSIMPLY BY THE POWER OF
  • 00:24:05.466 --> 00:24:07.935
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  • THROUGH OUR LIVES INJESUS' NAME.
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  • POSSIBLE THROUGH GOD'SGRACE AND HIS MERCY.
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